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Ket_om/r/seduction25/02/17 02:18 AM
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Ket_om/r/seduction20/02/17 01:06 AM
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Imo you want to keep her then just focus on all the fun aspects. Sex, conversation, interaction, anything fun etc. Get to know her while rocking each others world and forget about tomorrow only focus on the now.
/r/seduction30/07/21 04:52 PM
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As a dude the type of girls I find very likeable or lovable from the start are genuinely nice and sweet girls or bubbly. Appearance matters, you have to take care of yourself and seek to improve in any way you can but it isnt everything. Someone who is attentive and cares for others even on a conversational level is quite attractive.
/r/seduction25/07/21 11:20 PM
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Talk to her and have fun. The moment to kiss imo comes after you talked and got a moment of silence to look at each other. If the vibe feels good just ask, say I'd really like to kiss you or something along those lines. If you're worried about progression towards sex that obviously comes after kissing. If you're kissing, getting close and it feels like youre both into it, well kiss her neck gently and see how she responds. Just gauge the situation and continue from there enjoy it and before you …
/r/seduction07/07/21 06:38 PM
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Step 1: start kissing Step 2: let it get hot and heavy/get your body over her Step 3: kiss down her neck/up to ears and then continue downward Step 4: when you run into a piece of clothing look at her with a smile and ask to take it off or just take it off if shes into it Just continue that until you're naked and bam sex made easy
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:48 PM
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You know how everyone says "just be yourself"? Well I think what you're referring to as dominant may be just that. Instead of that shitty answer of being yourself look at it as doing, saying, and being whatever you want. Who you are is only defined by terms you set yourself.
/r/seduction15/04/21 03:44 PM
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I suggest instead of pondering on what of say, offer up something fun to do. It's safe to say no one really wants continous small talk. Small talk if it goes well is like your foot in the door, challenge her to something fun like shots, drinking games, or even say fuck it lets go for a walk around the block. What you say rarely matters but if shes having fun with you, that matters a lot.
/r/seduction03/04/21 06:19 PM
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Then focus on yourself create the life you're comfortable living and decide if you really like the girls you meet. If not move on and continue doing your thing.
/r/seduction25/12/20 04:15 PM
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It obviously isn't bad being a man and knowing what you want. That mentality is most likely confusing being on your grind and focusing on yourself with not caring in a relationship. You should always put self love first but in a relationship if you decide to get into one it is then your job to treat her right and maintain. If you dont want a relationship or don't care for one then dont get in one. Also if you're a fit attractive man out of a relationship you should NEVER stop being that person.
/r/seduction17/12/20 11:29 PM
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Damn you communicate too much that's just horrible. I love the way you used data to basically show him undeniable proof that hes just an asshole lmao
/r/seduction08/12/20 01:54 PM
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I've talked to my friends a million times about this the worst that can happen is she wont want to kiss but she most likely will. If you're nervous about kissing then ask her! Say it in an affirming way "you know I'd really like to kiss you". If she says no apologize for potentially moving too fast then move on to say you had a great time with her. The best moments and the ones thatll create character in yourself and build a genuine connection with someone else will be those risky moments where …
/r/seduction06/12/20 12:56 PM
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How about try making friends with some girls it's probably a lot easier than you might think. If you see some girls who seem approachable just take the opportunity. Be honest and tell them you dont have many friends or you are looking to make new friends and arent sure how to go about it and if they're okay with chatting for a bit. After that just get to know them.
/r/seduction10/09/20 02:58 PM
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Only time I've ever been in that situation I pretended or actually didnt care and the girl totally went for it as long as you still show interest when they keep chasing you.
/r/seduction09/07/20 12:08 AM
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Do things for yourself primarily things that make you feel confident. So I went from unconfident and no chance with women to dating attractive girls. Recently the most attractive girl I ever dated left me after 7 months and she didnt even seem beat up about it meanwhile I was destroyed. So my routine to get myself back to being confident is a whole lot of self care. This means working out, going to the gym, maintaining good hygiene, eating well, wearing clothes that makes you feel good, and gett…
/r/seduction30/06/20 08:43 PM
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Confidence is accepting who you are, what you can control and being confident in your own ability. An understanding that is confident is not every woman will like you, some wont like you no matter what you do, some will like you no matter what you do, so being yourself and understanding that if one particular woman doesnt like you, you'll find another who does. Believing that is self love and it portrays those confident behaviors youre thinking of. Its showing that you are independent of the out…
/r/seduction30/06/20 06:59 PM
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I can tell you you're just sweating it. I'm a bit bigger and I always worried of being creepy or intimidating. All you have to do is be direct in a cool way and ask. You want a kiss? Look her in the eye smile and just say it. The smoother you are asking the hotter that will be. After that it's all escalation into sex, you should be able to tell if shes into kissing. If she is then do one step higher, kiss near her ear or down her neck. Then if she likes that do one step higher again. Rinse and r…
/r/seduction30/06/20 04:38 AM
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Hardest part is beliving in yourself and finding confidence. That can take you turning your life around to achieve. For me I had to drop 50 lbs of fat but once I did that I learned game fast because I felt a whole lot better doing it.
/r/seduction23/06/20 02:05 AM
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RIP how tf do people meet in Korea?
/r/seduction22/06/20 05:42 AM
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I'm guessing that's like china, Japan etc? India isnt a bad for that.
/r/seduction22/06/20 05:41 AM
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Approaching is only considered weird in north america and places in Europe. Go to south america or most foreign places and the guys approach a lot more. If you keep your calm and just go to talk and see if you like them theres nothing weird about it and women love the attention even If they dont like you.
/r/seduction21/06/20 08:39 PM
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You can attract a woman that is fine with who you are as long as you're stable. It sounds like you're just trying to refute biological desire instead of accepting it. A woman can 100% accept you for who you are right now but generally men who workout are more attractive. It also ties in with many other traits like stability, confidence etc. You should probably ask yourself what type of life you want what type of girl you want. See if working out fits that life, if so do it and enjoy it. If you i…
/r/seduction31/05/20 08:05 AM
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That is the hardest thing to deal with for me. The best thing I can say is you have to realize you'll be the same way you were before you met them If they leave. Plus if she leaves you for someone or something like that she ain't worth your time anyway.
/r/seduction24/05/20 12:56 PM
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If you want to lean in that's always fine. I never liked it so stare them in the eye and as smoothly as I can say " you know I'd like to kiss you right now" only failed me once but I was drunk and met the girl 5 minutes before that haha. I think it is the confidence in your actions more so than what you do.
/r/seduction24/05/20 12:42 PM
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Being chill, calm, while confident is the best advice. Just have fun. My go to is have fun for a while talk up a storm the when it slows down if it feels right just ask to kiss her. If she says no that's that just continue talking if not then you're set just go with the flow make out and who knows maybe you'll end up in the bedroom too.
/r/seduction24/05/20 12:37 PM
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You want her to catch feelings? Give her reason to. Hangout with her more and have a great time enjoy your time with her. Continue doing stuff and having sex that's all you can do but that's also the best way to give her reason to catch feelings. The chance is if you're calm cool and fun and seem to not care too much she'll catch feelings back and probably hard too.
/r/seduction16/05/20 01:30 PM
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I struggled too for a while thinking the same as you. My dad was considered quite attractive sleeping with women that were good looking even by today's standards. After much effort to figure it out I did succeed and looks only play part of the role. I've been told im a 7/10 or around that but what really changed everything was my mindset. I decided to let the suave me come through in interactions with women. I like to joke especially with smooth flirty jokes and that has gotten me way further th…
/r/seduction13/05/20 08:04 AM
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If you care about tinder then improve everything you can on it. Get good photos,bio, etc. Its a total numbers game. I use to get only a couple mediocre matches and with a slight picture and bio upgrade I get 25-50 each make now. I'm 185 cm and 210 lbs not super muscular either so almost same build and I dont consider myself much more than average looks. I do much better off tinder but its just so easy to use it.
/r/seduction08/05/20 06:43 AM
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I started out with dating apps. All you need is to do it right, invest in decent pictures, a good bio and then learn from there. You can remake every week or two if you want a fresh start, you can test things out but it's a great way to get dates and once you get it down it can be useful for hook ups or finding a gf. The online chatting and dates will help a lot in getting use to talking to girls. So I think it can be useful. Dont take it too seriously, there are way more men on dating apps than…
/r/seduction10/03/20 11:34 AM
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Discipline or find something to replace it. A good alternative if you dont rely on it too much is using online dating apps. I had a similar issue and used dating apps when I wanted to jerk it and funneled that effort into finding a girl. It worked and now I have some fwb. I think it worked for me because dating apps sink so much of your time and it really takes your mind off jerking it. Obviously real hobbies are better but at least this way you can still talk to girls and possibly find an fwb o…
/r/seduction09/03/20 11:15 PM
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I had the same issue and I solved it without trying. I happened to masturbate excessively and that led to cumming fast becoming much harder. I cant for at least 10 minutes now. I'd suggest doing that but dont go crazy like I did just take your time and get use to masturbating for like 10 minutes or so.
/r/seduction07/03/20 03:06 AM
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I do the same thing. Only when I'm uber horny do I go for widespread general looks. My goal is to find a girl I really like and that means someone who hits the spots with my type of look for a girl. You're probably just more particular in that sense. If it causes issues with sex then it might be a porn problem.
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:17 PM
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I am the same way and no amount of alcohol or drugs will change it unless I black out. How do you overcome it? The answer isn't what you want but it's to do it. You can practice at home or in front of friends you trust before dancing in front of others. But the only way you'll become comfortable dancing like that is just doing it and dancing. A common fear is that you'll look funny or obvious that you dont dance. Well people dont really care unless you go nuts dancing and even if you go a bit cr…
/r/seduction04/03/20 11:26 PM
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As with everything in life own up to it and itll work and be attractive. That's the best and worst advice but it's TRUE. Literally just come to terms with it accept it and control the things you can like confidence, other physical traits like gymming or eating well. Baldness wont hold you back.
/r/seduction03/03/20 06:50 PM
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Find any excuse to get out of there and go to your place. Hell you can even just say "wanna get out of here?" With a cheeky smile. If you're having fun and whatnot she'd probably be interested in continuing that at your place too. If she is clinging to her friends give her a fun ultimatum like "I'm leaving to grab food I'd like to take you with me". I'd say just go for it some girls have no intention of going home with anyone so filtering them out will get you to one that will go home quicker. Y…
/r/seduction20/02/20 10:11 PM
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I'm not fluent with reddit so I would never notice this haha.
/r/seduction18/02/20 02:10 AM
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The easiest way is to always talk to other girls it keeps you away from tunnel visioning one girl. However if you're not into that I suggest taking time to truly evaluate your own feelings and managing it. Dont allow yourself to jump in over your head and keep your emotions stable but with that said it is okay to fall in love as long as it's TRUE. Now if were talking game where you dont push one girl away by tunnel visioning her then I suggest talking to other girls. The best way to evaluate you…
/r/seduction16/02/20 07:44 PM
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Body language is more often than not your way of getting her in the mood. Words generally come after the mood is already established. Appropriate eye contact, cheeky smiles, closeness and a cool demeanor will get you far. I've been told by many that my eye contact is intense and my co-workers flirt and joke about them not being able to stare me in the eye because they have boyfriends (obviously a flirty joke). This is just eye contact I dont do a lot else with them because I'm not that intereste…
/r/seduction16/02/20 06:37 PM
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I wouldn't worry just dont care about it and you'll be fine. Just dont plan your whole day around meeting her. If she doesnt show then have back up plans. Also some girls are weird I've had girls beg to come over then flake consistently a couple times just because they're lazy I guess and they still ask after I give up.
/r/seduction06/02/20 04:38 AM
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I think the best way is wait for them to post a snap story that you can comment on then use that as an opening and continue it into conversation. Like "Damn your dogs cute af makes me miss my pit back home!" After that's over just "so how have you been?" Etc. This is safer and works with most girls as it shows you're paying attention to their stories it's kind of a compliment in and of itself. Other than that any topic that you can very easily bring up and you both connect on will work. Honestly…
/r/seduction04/02/20 10:00 PM
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Tinder setup: I've had a good amount of success and its pretty simple. You need decent pictures. Mine are not good only decent they're from 2017 on a shitty phone camera but they show me on good angles and that's mostly all that matters but better quality is much better. Keep the bio short and sweet, if you're a funny guy put a pun or something a lot of girls like that but you can also list your job and school and end it there. If you're tall add it, it helps especially if you're 6ft plus, a lot…
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:12 PM
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Work on yourself like you are doing and take every opportunity where you feel comfortable or where you can slightly push your comfort zone to talk to guys. Doing this will slowly ease you into feeling more comfortable socially and will allow you to progress into more daring situations. Guys at work or in easily approachable situations are great to just chat even if you have no intention of grabbing numbers or dates. As far as the insecurity and all that, it'll likely be solved through your worki…
/r/seduction20/12/19 11:57 AM
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This. He said it better than i did.
/r/seduction03/04/17 11:06 PM
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The problem is there is no answer or correct method, there is only opinions and they may not work for you. My advice? Go out and experiment, have fun doing it too. I did this and didn't take it seriously at all, i literally tried random shit every time i talked to a girl. This eventually led me to being able to flirt and be funny without too much awkwardness and even if there is some i can own it now. My mindset was the worst case scenario is that i have a funny story to tell. EDIT: In short, tr…
/r/seduction03/04/17 10:33 PM
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This. For future reference i would follow that as well, don't ask her, tell her. Let her know you will be there and enjoy yourself even if she doesn't drop by.
/r/seduction03/04/17 10:00 PM
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This could be terrible advice and completely ruin any chance you have but my mentality with women like that is once you realize the situation you have three options: 1. Move on 2. Stay persistent and hope to god it works out 3. Become aggressive, push her to go on the date or ignore you. Number 3 probably only works if you do it in a funny/flirty way but that is generally what i do because i usually don't care. EDIT: I pretty much only date/interact with random girls at bars and on tinder so a g…
/r/seduction03/04/17 09:30 PM
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You are over thinking it. I have been told by every girl i have went on date with that i am interesting and outgoing but i literally just talk. I don't think about what we talk about i just keep it going. The only thing i can suggest is try to keep it personal but still flirty and funny that always ends with a good time. An example of this that i use is something like "Okay this is boring, tell me about your family you must have some crazy relatives(insert cheeky smile/laugh or phrase here)". My…
/r/seduction03/04/17 09:08 PM
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I completely agree direct flirting like that unless you are already quite acquainted is a turn off. I suggest very vague funny/flirtatious behavior, i found that to be very successful for me. If you get matches then i suggest just experimenting you'll eventually get it down, so have fun with it. I did this experimenting with bio and chats eventually getting 100+ matches in around a month. Also i found that behavior funny/vague flirting to be very good at finding FWB chicks.
/r/seduction03/04/17 08:42 PM
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Alright, i will give it a shot. I will be doing another attempt tomorrow. I think that mindset would of helped a lot.
/r/seduction25/02/17 07:02 AM
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Yes, i am definitely lacking in escalating the conversation. I do basically nothing from that video and i get stuck chatting like friends. So i'll have to work on that. I am definitely beginner level game, so that'll help a lot.
/r/seduction20/02/17 10:24 PM
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I completely agree with your mentality on this topic. I am currently in college trying to gain confidence as you did. I have started working on myself: going back to school, losing 68 kg of weight, improving my appearance from 4/10 face and obese to probably a 6.5-7/10 overall, working on hobbies, and meeting women. Although i do not currently have disposable income, i still pursue the experience. After reading what you have written, what would you recommend, if anything to gain the confidence a…
/r/seduction19/02/17 03:21 AM
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