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| 1 | Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature”Yea. Most people are just shit. Both men and women. And it seems success and privilege makes people more shit. Or at the very least let them show their true nature more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Men need to have higher standards.It's hard for people to have higher standards when they don't really have many options to begin with other than just being alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege.From what ive noticed anecdotally(So not claiming this is a broad trend) men don't just want sex itself at first but desperation from going a long time without getting to experience it makes them lower their standards to "whoever will have it with me that isn't literally repulsive". Nearly all men i know that are able to have sex more often view sex the same as women in regards to not just wanting sex itself. So at least in my community this is caused by an experience gap and men are more likely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege.If there is an thing someone positively benefits from that comes with downsides they are simply unlikely to recognize it as a privilege. Most women aren't going to recognize this is a privilege because they are so jaded by their own negative experiences with sex that they just associate it with negativity. With that being said yes being able to have sex at any time if you want it is a privilege. Regardless of the downsides that come with it the statement is just about the positive side. It is co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.I mean they wouldn't care about being Chad if they actually felt chosen and special. Obviously I can't speak on every single case but all guys I've met like that personally stopped caring about having lots of casual sex the moment they found a partner that made them feel special. Also the argument about not feeling settled for is one of the insecurities these men also feel. It's where the whole level argument stems from in some ways. No guy wants to feel like a girl that actually desires someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/25 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.I can't really speak for red pillers/incels but the desire to be the hot guy that gets a lot of sex is a reaction to experiencing the opposite. It's a mindset formed from being jaded by constant rejection and feeling undesired while you see everyone else being desired. Also being relationship material to these men means being desired due to providing rather than being desired fully which includes sexually. What you value is based on your experiences. Someone who can and has had sex doesn't usual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/25 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.Men's subs on reddit are not a good representation of what men think on average. It is true some of these men are looking JUST for casual sex but oftentimes it's because of believing a relationship is beyond them. That's their way of settling for less. Also these men aren't bashing women for having no sex. It's usually slut shaming and bashing women for HAVING sex it's quite literally the opposite of what men experience. Women get shamed for having sex but men get shamed for not having it. Also … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.I mean I get your point but you're seemingly not getting mine. Your idea of value isn't what most dudes are talking about. Although I do disagree with the statement that women don't date men on their level. Most women have more value than most men because they have more options and that's why women get bashed for not dating "on their level". It's not that women are dating above their level, it's that average women and average men do not have equal value. The reason why that then turns into women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.I mean i didn't make that claim that women only date above their level but im going to assume you said that argue against points others are making that may be reading your comment as well. Now to address your comment. If someone isn't dating you they aren't your partner. They are an individual thats apart of the "market". The "market" is just an aggregation of individuals. The less individuals like you the less value you have. If less people like you then you have a lower chance of getting a par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.I'm actually not telling you its preferred. I'm asking you to empathize with the experience because your experience isn't the same its DIFFERENT, not better DIFFERENT. I never made a claim to which is worse but i DID point out that women have it worse overall. So no i'm.....not telling you that at all. I never made the assertion that you should be thankful because as i pointed out in my last comment your experience is sad. That is to say i believe its NOT a good thing to any capacity. My opinion… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 07:00 AM |
| 0 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.Bro what. If they aren't dating you they AREN'T your partner and they are just another person thats (a part of the general population or "market") determining if you deserve them or not. I put partner in quotes because what your describing isn't a partner. Here is an example. I've just determined you don't deserve a relationship with me. Does that suddenly make me your partner because i decided that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.You feel that way because you are jaded by your negative sexual experiences. Dealing with unwanted sexual advances i actually do get how you feel somewhat. But once again how you feel is not the same as feeling like nobody would even touch you. Like your disgusting because nobody desires to be intimate with you or even trust you. You also don't have people telling you that if you were a good person it would just happen. You're taking what i said an relating it to your own experiences in a way th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:32 AM |
| 3 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.This doesn't really fix anything. Men have already started approaching less and nothings really changed. Being a gatekeeper requires you to actually have options. Like you just don't approach as a man you're very likely to just.....not get a relationship. What gate are you keeping if nobody is approaching you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.While women do experience heartbreak and rejection they generally don't experience self doubt regarding their desirability as a whole. I don't envy women and i do think women have it worse but there is no parody here. You can't compare constant rejection and feeling truly desirable by literally nobody to being used for sex. While being used for sex is NOT a good thing. You at least have the validation of knowing someone at least wanted to have sex with you. Plenty of men don't even get that. Onc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.As far as getting into a relationship goes there is no agency. Whether or not you can be in a relationship is based off whether or not someone chooses you. Its quite literally a choice made ONLY by someone else. You can only do what you can to be either A) Do what you can to be as attractive to as many people as possible or B) Do what you can to be as attractive as you can to the specific person you are interested in. Plenty of people attempt both these things and they don't work so yea they don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.Men eventually doing these things doesn't mean there wasn't a point where they had no options. If you had no options when you were 18-30 finally having options doesn't mean there wasn't a point where you had no options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Telling women that they are the gatekeepers of sex and relationships reinforces women’s need to have high standards.You don't have a partner until you have already proven on the market that you can get one. Your logic doesn't make sense. If nobody wants you then you have no partner. If people want you you're able to get more partners. Your comment doesn't even make sense. If the "partner" decided you're not deserving they wouldn't be your partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 05:53 AM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.Then why did you reply to me saying that? I commented on a part of what you said that had nothing to do with whether its an average experience or not. You made statements about people putting themselves out there and I replied to that part of your statement. Also this is bad logic. Just because a couple exists doesn't mean the man in that couple still didn't have to deal with issues dating. Being alone long term might not be an average experience but the negative experiences that cause some men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/24 06:48 AM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.That statement is in regards to why some men don't put themselves out there. They give up. It's hard not to give up when you fail and struggle over an extended period of time. I'm not sure why your quoting what I said but as it applies to your previous comment. Not struggling with something long term doesn't mean you didn't share a struggle at all nor does it mean it's not luck based. For example I know what it's like to be in poverty. But not be in poverty long term. Someone who has dealt with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/24 05:50 AM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.My statement is in regards to you saying lots of unsuccessful men seem to loathe putting themselves out there. I'm assuming this comment was meant to be a reply to someone else since it doesn't have anything to do with what i said. Also what do you mean by most people aren't having any issues? Everyone relies on luck to some extent. You can't control other people nor can you interact with every person. Who you encounter is mostly up to chance and of those people which ones will like you is then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 10:18 PM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.I'm gonna say something i haven't seen anyone say in the comments so far. Being average isn't just a measurement of looks. Its a measurement of social skills which a lot of men lack. People don't just up and magically develop social skills by trying harder. Generally speaking people need guidance. Guidance from someone who can recognize the REAL reason your failing which no stranger that doesn't know you on the internet will be able to do. Funnily i am in a similar boat as you (Except worse) and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 06:24 PM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.Many men lack the proper socialization needed to "Put themselves out there" They either live in an environment where they cannot easily do so (Which is becoming worse and worse for everyone as alot of places become more and more atomized) or there upbringing has totally beaten any motivation out of them. Also the idea that things will just work out if you put yourself out there is naive. Most people don't know what its like to dig yourself out of a pit of any kind, constantly trying to reach for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 05:43 PM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.Actually. I realize this. However that doesn't prove the point you were trying to make earlier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 05:36 PM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.You can say if you wouldn't cheat even if your not in the position to. No amount of sex is worth having a relationship with someone you care about. I wouldn't even fuck over a FRIEND just to get laid no matter how fine the person in question is. So of course I can say i wouldn't cheat on my girl. This idea of "You can't say for certain if you never had the chance" is stupid. Believe or not some people don't let their sex drives control them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 05:33 PM |
| 1 | How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman?I'm not sure about this. While i haven't had success personally, for most people i know (a large number of which are autistic including myself) finding a girlfriend requires more social skills than simply asking someone your cool with if they are down to have sex. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | When guys claim their only problem is the lack of sex, we should believe them. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be so obsessive about not getting laid.Don't have the money or the means to do that right now. It's just something I have to live with and tolerate for the time being. What matters is that it's not a choice. I didn't choose this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 12:27 AM |
| 1 | When guys claim their only problem is the lack of sex, we should believe them. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be so obsessive about not getting laid.Having a libido isn't really a choice and how strong that libido is isn't a choice either. Personally id prefer mine goes away since it just reminds me that im lonely but i have to deal with that physical reminder anyways. Its not by choice for everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 04:36 AM |
| 1 | When guys claim their only problem is the lack of sex, we should believe them. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be so obsessive about not getting laid.Because for some men getting a hooker isn't really an option or they have a moral objection to it. Or its illegal where they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 04:31 AM |
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