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Key-Sundae1909/r/ExRedPill08/04/24 10:30 PM
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This sounds very frustrating for you, especially given there is some genuine attraction between the two of you. Sounds kind of red pilled. His behaviour sounds a bit contrived. A bit like he is been doing loads of the male self help courses about “how to be the man she desires”, “what women really find attractive”, how to keep her keen “etc. Most frustrating is that he doesn’t seem to be listening and responding to you. I might also be a little concerned that he is overly investing (lots of paid…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 10:41 AM
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Most people are pretty bad at hiding strong opinions for very long. Chances are you will start hearing him making sweeping generalisations about women and “why they are the way they are”. Some poorly researched misrepresentations of evolutionary psychology to justify these views might also be quite common. More than anything he will probably have a chip on his shoulder about a few things (women, sex, status, society, money) and this will become quite clear.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 11:02 AM
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You can keep it discreet so don’t need to worry what other people think of you. My only concerns would be more to do with how you (or me in your situation) would feel. A few things to bear in mind. 1) Why are you doing this? Are you sure it’s purely physical experience and gratification? Or are there other things you are hoping to achieve like connectivity, validation and a self esteem boost? Be mindful of this so you can manage your expectations. 2) When you are in the room with the prostitute …
/r/ExRedPill20/07/24 12:36 PM
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Because male virginity can be a source of shame and embarrassment, especially as you get beyond your early 20s. It’s easy to develop a complex from this. Redpill gurus will capitalise on that vulnerability.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/24 09:19 PM
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I think you could be right. It certainly feels that way from what I see. Rollo Tomasi, Andrew Tate and other similar characters seem to be loosing their popularity and sounding a little tedious. More people are also questioning some of the overly simplified absolute claims they make on the basis of questionable evolutionary psychology. No doubt the reasons people seek red pill movements (lack of success with women, frustration, dissolutions from some conventional wisdom) are all still there. I w…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/24 10:20 AM
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If you are looking to read the feminist stuff, maybe go for books more than online. They dig a little deeper, will provide a wider knowledge of the topic and are mostly less bombastic than the online stuff. I think you need to stick with the dates / interactions - even with the self doubt. This should dissipate over time, especially with some success. Maybe don’t bring up the “I am a male feminist” / men are bastards thing when chatting to women. It’s not likely to be successful.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 08:35 AM
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Don’t think it’s an either / or (flings or serious relationship) choice. It seems to depend on where you are in life and what you are looking for. However, if a guy is double handsome he will probably go through phases where he sleeps around a fair bit. Never met a very good looking man who didn’t do that.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 07:52 PM
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Because they are bullshit artists. If you swag around, dressed like a knob and shout your point load enough, some people will believe you. Not just people like Andrew Tate though. There are a lot of people out there who claim to be religious but their behaviour doesn’t match what they preach.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/24 08:05 AM
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Things such as self esteem and inability to see yourself as physically attractive. This can result in doing things such as pushing people away when they try to get close, avoiding environments where you are more likely to meet someone and spending too much time in environments that you feel uncomfortable in so are not optimal for you to meet someone. Different for everyone but I know I ticked a few of these boxes from time to time.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/24 02:57 PM
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I think you hit on something really interesting here. The line below sums it up. “I want to be with someone who finds me attractive for things other than my personality” The feeling of being totally unfuckable is often made worse when people tell you positive things about yourself that you already know. Especially given that they don’t make you any more desirable. These traits (positive, kind, polite etc) are more like base lines that any good person should have. They don’t make you instantly fu…
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 11:02 AM
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Are you there any male figures in his life who he respects? If so, it may be worth seeing if they can speak to them.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 10:19 AM
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Maybe edit the description / context below your post if you can. It sounds like there is some confusion. I think you tap into quite an interesting topic - one I can relate to. A lot of guys get into the red pill stuff without ever realising that their lack of success has something (but not everything) to do with self sabotaging behaviours they are not aware of. This could be shame, body / penis anxiety, feeling unloveable, or struggling to believe anyone can find you attractive. You then develop…
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 08:08 AM
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Really helpful advice. Thanks.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:11 AM
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I have seen this quite a lot (arsehole guy doing well with the ladies). It’s usually because he has other qualities that mean women look over or become blinded to the negative ones. These can be. Very funny Very direct about intentions (hitting on her) Confident Less agreeable Doesn’t act as a verbal dumping ground and walkover Extrovert A high status in that environment (E.G lot of people around them at work and at the party) There may also be other things I am missing but guys like this usuall…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 08:18 AM
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Definitely. I wouldn’t discourage therapy. But I would definitely advise thinking about what you are looking for and doing your homework on the type of therapy you are after. The phrase “therapy might help” is thrown around way too much as a knee jerk response.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/24 01:44 PM
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I took the advice. It was o.k but not a massive help. Just a lot of someone listening and offering their feedback. It would have been comforting if I was paying a load of cash for a professional friend. Not great for sound advice. The therapist I saw also worked from a particular model / school of thought so was pretty dogmatic in their thinking.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/24 10:34 AM
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Definitely. I have met a few women who developed very cynical attitudes towards men for this reason.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/24 11:56 PM
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Because it’s easier to palm responsibility off onto the opposite sex than it is to acknowledge your flaws. Some men also develop unrealistic expectations of dating and women. This causes them to become disillusioned and frustrated when women don’t meet these expectations. This frustration and upset is then projected onto women.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/24 05:06 PM
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Thanks. Always good advice. I don’t currently have anyone who can be a female wingman but will bear this in mind.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 12:02 PM
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Thanks for the advice. It’s not really the initial interaction. It’s more when it gets to a point of whether or not this could be going somewhere. No idea how to test the waters without creeping someone out or making things super awkward.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 12:00 PM
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Thanks. Will check this guy out.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 11:58 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I tend to struggle when it gets to that point of should I escalate / should I not. Is there any interest, or is there not. Initial conversation is easy. It’s just when it gets to that point of whether or not there is something there. No idea how to test the waters or get a better idea of if she is interested.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/24 11:57 AM
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Really appreciate this post. Some of the ex red pill stuff can be an overly critical and condescending to people who bought into the philosophy. Your guidance is sound and thoughtful.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/24 10:08 PM
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I think so but it’s good to be clear about what you want. If you are looking for a partner be clear about this. Be honest about your intentions. Self improvement, doing things for yourself etc is all good advice but I think it’s good to have some direction. How’s it been for you so far? What have you learned from your dating / social experiences? No right or wrong answer. Just curious.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/24 12:42 PM
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Sorry you feel this way. It is, however, good you are aware of it so can catch yourself doing it. Take it for what it is - normal reactions to lust, desperation and loneliness. You probably need to get a girlfriend. When you do, these feelings will subside.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/24 08:10 AM
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My mistake. I read into the comment as being a little more absolute than it was. TBH I would agree that the double handsome type can take more risks and be a little more extroverted with their intentions.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 09:04 AM
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I agree that very handsome men probably can push the boat out a little bit further and be a bit more cocky / forward with their behaviour. But most men are not very handsome. They are ordinary and yet don’t get referred to as creepy. I am going to jump on the comments bandwagon and say that I also think a lot of it is down to behaviour and boundaries rather than looks. I also don’t think people are fine with women making comments about mens looks. As long as it’s respectful, yes. But I would sti…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 08:19 AM
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Thanks for the detailed post. Very helpful and couldn’t agree more.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/24 04:33 PM
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Glad to hear it. What are some of the things you learned “not” to do, or how “not to” approach women who interest you? Any standout takeaways?
/r/ExRedPill03/04/24 09:10 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Some great points. I think the advice is dumb as it offers no real insight. It’s a good general rule of thumb but it won’t give an individual any insight as to why they struggle and where these insecurities come from. I understand the point of being your authentic self but the advice is too generic. You may never have been in this position but rest assured that anyone who has struggled has spent many hours ruminating on how to “just be themselves” - often with little succes…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/24 09:01 PM
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It was a little complex for me. I was not particularly good with women in my teens and twenties. Often going out feeling like I was covered in lady repellent. I had also developed this idealistic view that one day I would meet this perfect woman who would not be like the rest and would just accept me for who I was (no changes needed). Looking back, this was a seriously warped view, heavily influenced by wishful thinking, poor advice from others (mainly women with good intentions), fand film trop…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 11:07 AM
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I would lean more towards that it has negative impacts. I can’t speak for those with a moderate or mild porn consumption. I do, however, think that it’s almost certainly not helpful for the rabid porn consumer. If you enter a relationship with cuck fantasies, low self worth and an inability to see yourself desirable sexually, I don’t think porn will offer any benefit. Best just focusing on you, your partner and keeping a healthy porn free sex life.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/24 10:18 AM
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The girl sounds like a bit of a cow and very immature. If she dumped you that quickly she was probably never that keen on you. Don’t let this sabotage your dating life and view of women in general. See it for what it was - a bad experience with a single person. Sounds like you have now fallen into some self sabotaging behaviours that are not helping your dating life. Your friends don’t sound very helpful if they are mocking you. I have been there and it sucks. My advice would be similar to other…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 01:02 PM
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It can definitely be tough to quit the porn, even when in a relationship. You may well have relapses, but that is normal. I would suggest allowing at least 3 -6 months of no fapping until you feel truly free. I also found that it’s important the relationship is healthy, mutually supportive and you are with someone who has a decent sex drive.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/24 09:36 PM
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Are you sure this is entirely a porn thing? Could it also be a longing for connectivity, for intimacy? It sounds like you feel shame for perfectly normal thoughts. As I said in a previous comment, I think a lot of the lust and sexual thoughts will dissipate when you find a girlfriend. I also think porn often does the opposite. It makes you less sexual (although you may feel different). In reality, it draws you away from women and back to your computer. It demotivates your will to be in a relatio…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/24 12:26 PM
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Sorry to hear you are struggling with your porn addiction. I wouldn’t worry too much about porn making you constantly think about sex when you see women. I suspect this could also be a bit of lust and desperation (no disrespect) if you have not had a relationship in a long while (or ever). It’s partly normal to have these feelings and partly something that will, most likely, subside when you get a girlfriend. I would be more mindful that, when you do have sex, it may take time for your brain to …
/r/ExRedPill07/03/24 10:41 AM
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Tricky one as I don’t really know what real life experiences you are referring to? What are the things you see? Might be worth giving a few examples.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/24 06:22 PM
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