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What does appointment hipocracy on race exactly mean?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 10:44 AM
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All of these folks are giving great advice. However that only lasts a certain amount of time until you really start feeling lonely when you are unpartnered. I've done the same things worked on myself have my own hobbies been social but guess what... After 5 years it's gotten real lonely going to bed alone every fucking night. And the days I don't go out and I don't have my kids I'm just sitting at home alone. Yes I have friends and when you go out with your friends and they have their partners o…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 12:32 PM
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Wow....makes us all wonder how and why we married them to begin with.... Youll be out soon and never have to deal with that again
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:54 PM
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Ummm yea ..... If that's what life is in that home...c ya
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 12:49 AM
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I know a couple in Toronto where the wife filed for divorce.... They ended up reconciling as a couple and are committed to each other now but they are still going through the divorce they're going to live as living apart together
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 09:48 PM
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I know buddy. You've tried calmly as a spouse and supportive on top of that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 11:34 AM
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Have you had the conversation with her as she had hormones checked..... Look I've been through it and it's not easy it's not fun and it's painful no matter who files or wants it when there is still a connection of some sort.... Gosh you sound just like me back in the day... She saw how unhappy I was and she let me go and then what's funny is when we were separate things changed and all of a sudden she had a libido.. but it still didn't stop the process that she wanted
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 11:25 AM
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No kids ....huge component in your situation. It's going to be bad only because of your connection to her for very long. This is unfortunate but sometimes necessary especially if you are not one to stray. In fact whatever you're living situations are you may find yourselves still relatively close especially since that's the only reason to split. Just understand that it's not easy out there in the dating world either. It's not like you're going to find immediate love and intimacy there was someon…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 11:13 AM
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Save everything as you have seen by us. Tell her you want a divorce....no reason other than she's been off and you can tell she's not into it. She'll go nuts not knowing why...if you're in a fault state you'll need that evidence anyway....in sure shell figure out you know eventually. Sorry bro.....gut wrench
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 10:27 AM
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Oh c'mon....dam bro....we are all like wtf.... When the time is right get some therapy so you can try to figure out a way to trust someone..... I can't fathom you trusting anyone now. All my best bro.....dammm
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 09:55 PM
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It's been 4.5 yrs for me. She and I share a young teen. I have been out and have seen other women which after it ended it opens the emotional box I out my feelings for her in. Making it worse....she in the arms of someone else...and still have to deal with her due to our young teen. Not sure if feelings will ever go. I'm cooked.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 10:31 AM
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Yess...thank you....prayers to you too
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 08:25 AM
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My divorce 4.5 yrs ago ...sharing a young teen....was bad enough ...found out this past July she has been serious and sleeping with someone ...that hit me harder than the actual divorce. Still painful 6 months later ...children will keep you bonded forever but if they are independent it'll get easier with time Time will be your friend but be patient....it's a fkd up journey
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 10:20 PM
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My friend...I'm aittle teary this am for you and all of us men in this situation. I'm 4.5 yr and still love her....this past July she told me she had a relationship...despite us while divorced still being close... travelling and rooming together for our teen son travel athletics...being a family while divorced until we go back to our separate places.... Boom...now relationship that she keeps separate from our teen....went into deep depression...sadness....similar thoughts in why I'm on earth ...…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 12:37 PM
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Amen!!!! 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 05:50 PM
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If you weren't sad.....you'd not be a caring person ....
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 11:27 PM
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Lol....thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 11:34 PM
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Sigh.... We share a young teen.... I kept the marital house. She has a new place 12 minutes away and like you she made the decision for us including our young teen. In fact to this day her entire side of the family can't figure out why..... They would want me back so much.... The point being for this post is that once the d word is brought up somehow it brings bad luck
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:28 PM
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I say no. Then the seed is planted. Wait My ex-wife and I discussed divorce and stated that no matter what happens we will never do it we will always fight through...... Guess what she didn't give us a chance to fight through. Divorce Instead have a conversation about how you will do whatever it takes to make it work and do as much as you can to make it work.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:18 PM
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I buy three to four presents for my ex-wife which would be from our shared young teen. She does the same. Although it's directly not from him who has very little money it's still a known adjuster that it comes from our own finances. The child should be part of the process of course. Your example is with a 3-year-old but just giving you an older perspective since your 3-year-old will in fact grow. There's nothing wrong with that. She doesn't get you a gift she doesn't get you a gift from your 3-y…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 01:42 PM
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What's it like? Rough...maybe you'll have better luck. That's why many times there is a person in waiting
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 08:14 PM
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I've experienced it for about 15 years straight and it's still is something that I can't get used to. I suppose in particular with a wife or husband with a relationship was absolutely terrible it's a little easier but amicable divorces especially when I didn't want it and wasn't given a second chance makes it an extra dagger in the heart. As the kids get older it gets easier and that respect but that's about it. It sux....
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 02:03 PM
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I'm 55m but I still have feelings for her 47f. She has a bf of 1.5 yr. Yes ..we are both replaced and shouldn't feel guilty about those feelings either. We also have kids as u do. It sucks but maybe one day yours will be replaced with someone worthy of you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 08:17 PM
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Oh great..... someone else gets the benefit of her fixing whatever.... lovely. Xw2 didn't commute to me her feelings when the marriage was in crisis....she admitted that once...once....after many conversations about why she's leaving. In your case I'm sure there is internal regre from her and her relationships will be compared to you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 03:58 PM
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You might get that admission through your circle of common people as she may say that one day. Xw1 did that to our close friend....but instead of doing something about it like telling me for maybe a reconciliation she remarried someone else. Xw2;is the one I really want to hear that from. But that'll never happen as she is in a LAT relationship....well...when she doesn't have our young teen
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 03:37 PM
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You try to do something nice.... You got your answer moving forward. Sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 06:59 PM
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55m div x 4 yrs ...still care for the ex who left me and out family...share a teen who's way closer to me....she's going to her family's with the bf and the family reached out saying how much they love me and miss me..... At least I have my immediate family to spend day with my teen..... Hang in there all.....wish you the best
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 03:32 PM
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I know it's going to sound crazy..... We've been divorced for 4 years..... We have been close since with a strong co-parenting bond..... Really looking out for each other....until...... In July she told me she was with somebody else now and it had been going on for a while....... I'm not sure where I lost it more.... At the original divorce conversation or the conversation that she has somebody new or at least newer..... That's when it was really over and had that moment
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 08:19 PM
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Don't know how old the kids are but imo hold off on telling them until after. My wife left me and my son in Sept of our divorce year so it was early enough to adjust our 8 yo at the time. Avt as much as a family as you can until after ...sure...do your prep work for info.....but do this for the kids....imo I know it'll be hard considering what she has done
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 08:49 PM
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Lack of discipline.....f em
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:23 PM
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Another workplace disaster. Sorry man. Happy you sound strong with the final decree today. The workplace is brewing romance both legitimate and unfortunately cheating. My exw had found her latest boyfriend in the workplace Again... All the best to you man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:08 PM
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I think relationships in general are roll of the dice. A couple can cohabitate and breakup.....I feel it's the same thing without the paperwork.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 12:00 PM
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Pretty bleak topic and question....but I understand the comparison. Losing bc of death vs losing bc of divorce. For me bc I have a teen with my ex the former would be better ONLY in concept bc sharing a child means forever connected...likely painfully connected for life....perhaps painful for life for the child...at least for a long time....
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 10:56 AM
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Oh after being divorced for 4 years she seems to be doing well with this new relationship despite her family not wanting much to do with him.... In fact she should probably be posting this about me because I'm the one that's not dating in our home that we built together with constant reminders only because of our teenager not being uprooted.... Not much has changed on my side but she seems to be doing well so that irritates me some lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 10:40 PM
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If its that bad, you need to consider meds to help you, if only temporary...no shame in that
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 12:51 PM
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First I'll address your situation. With regards to your family night and the email not being forwarded.... That requires a conversation.... Or else make sure you're on the mailing list.... My situation is behind yours.... I'm not over my ex-wife and I learned 2 months ago she'd been seeing somebody for at this point now about a year and they are getting more serious. One day she's going to introduce him to our teenager son and I'll have to be probably playing nice and watching them to watch our …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 08:06 PM
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The workplace is always a solid breed for relationships. You get to know and trust someone over time without having to get to know them outside the workplace. I found my XW at the workplace.....and guess what.....she find this newer relationship at the workplace
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 02:01 PM
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The worst conversation to have.....next to death of a family member....but it's close....
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 03:21 AM
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You own this bro.....you are also not alone......upper hand...go with your gut and comfort
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 01:56 AM
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I look at this as a good situation......for now......until there is a new lady in your life. She misses the family....but does she miss you.....something to explore if you want....my ex was like this somewhat...then I kearn d she has a new relationship....then it kind of fizzled.....I'd say go and as long as you comfy it's your own rule....beware of there is a new romance for you from another .....
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 01:40 AM
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X
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 10:53 PM
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She moved on mentally and emotionally long before you realized.... Seems like she obviously knew this person and got to know them and then progressed from there while you were still married
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:27 AM
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Yes...easier to move on clean.....as opposed to having kids.....
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:25 AM
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Kept it. In hopes one day for a reconciliation.....even though we are close bc of our son. But lately since she's in a relationship so not sure what I'll do. She still has hers too. I'll probably just let it get dusty
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:43 PM
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You will feel something...when is the question
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:04 PM
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This is where having a new relationship while having minor kids gets tricky ... I was away 3 weeks....basically she took him an extra week....during that time she didn't see her bf once....she hasn't told him about new bf yet....but since then she's swapping weekends so she can be with the bf...point being that most of us with 50/50 are used to accommoding....however....her 7 days to recover is sketch....if you had plans with someone that will be a challenge for sure
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:57 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 08:57 PM
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My 2nd marriage was better than the first ...felt like it was a first....my bad....I'm still in love with her as we have a child together....well a teenager....it's been 3 years....it may be easier for you if you don't have a child together but it could be a long time Get in therapy for coping....oh and when u hear they are with someone else it stings all over again....yes...I'm in this boat too
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 09:36 PM
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I've read that it's common to have sex with an ex.... familiarity....comfort....less relationship pressure.....just prolongs pain if one still loves the other
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 12:44 PM
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Worst feeling in world bro...I'm divorced x 3.5 yr with an12yo....was doing ok until she stared a relationship....now I have OCD...checking Whatsapp....I even drove to validate she was at his place in the middle of the night ...FML everyone says it'll get better....hope so
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:54 AM
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I am in the same boat it's been 5 weeks for me. I've also prayed to God to find peace but it hasn't happened yet..... Still in love with this woman even after 3 years divorce..... It's difficult because of the child together I wish I could get a sprinkle of what you got in peace finding......
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 02:27 PM
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Wow....what a post..... that is exactly right. My ex of 3 yr ...close to 4....were both marri d previously. She was a poor communicator ...feeling that she can handle everything including things I did to her that we could've worked out (we both admitt d after the fact). Both swore no divorce....we would work it out ...so many things in common....however ..lack of expression and her listening to her other divorced girl friends didn't give me a 2nd chance and we all were blown away with her decisi…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:49 AM
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I'm stuck after 3 years......we have a pre-teen travel athlete that we travel together for out of town games, etc. It effin sucks especially coparenting.....I hate to say it, you will never fully get over it, but somehow maybe it will be compartmentalized and you can live.....mine is a struggle......when they find someone else it might start all over again.........
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:18 AM
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Yep....but I'm in in love with my ex and she's moved on....working thru it....takes time brother....can you go no contact?
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 12:31 PM
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