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Key_Rock4862/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 07:01 AM
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From an asset perspective I’m definitely poorer. From a cash flow perspective definitely richer. So I guess I’ll live in a worse house but have more autonomy about doing things like working less and traveling more
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:24 PM
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I’d agree, all the people who have done the most damage in my life are women. Mother, ex wife and at times my daughter. I realise that a lot of the damage they inflict comes from a place of fear. They lash out when they are scared.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 11:16 AM
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Yeah, I get this with my ex. She broke my heart and treated me like she hated me for 5 years. Now she wants to be friends and have a good co-parent relationship. While I try and ignore her new boyfriend. I just think women can be more transactional in relationships. You’ve got to make sure you getting what you want everyday, and not make the mistake of expecting long term payback
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 12:35 PM
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I don’t agree, my wife left me and the closest I ever got from her as a reason was that it was like death by 1000 cuts. No big thing, just lots of little things that she found intolerable over time. I think it’s important to remember that mental health and neuro diversity play important parts in relationship breakdown on both sides
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:13 AM
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He doesn’t sound like a great match, but I think women do a lot of damage to themselves chasing the me who are great matches. So you’re taking a pragmatic approach. He may do a better job of pulling himself out of this rut by himself? Sex drive is a great motivation. Stay on the periphery if you insist, provide some support if you must, but make sure you are also putting your energy elsewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 03:36 AM
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Liking hot girls on instagram doesn’t mean he can actually get those girls, it just means they are attractive. I honestly think the biggest problem with OLD is it’s led to an environment where people can’t calibrate their own attractiveness properly and don’t understand what a realistic standard is for themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 01:12 AM
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I’ve heard that love occurs when both parties feel like they are getting an equally good deal. Perhaps he is just not ready, but perhaps he is just not that into you. Leave the possibility of connection open if you must, but also move your energy elsewhere. I have an ex from 25 years ago who still likes all my posts on instagram, has on occasion initiated online flirting and has a husband and kids. Don’t be that girl.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 01:08 AM
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I do kind of agree with the other comments. He’s probably not ready for a relationship, but he probably likes your company. I’ve done this, make friends with a girl I’m not attracted to by flirting with her. It’s not just women putting men in the friend zone, the opposite also happens
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 12:29 AM
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I went through a divorce. The divorce process can feel very one sided. My marriage leading up to the divorce also involved me making a lot of accommodations to try and keep my wife. Together this led to me developing a lot of resentment about the way I was treated, or let myself be treated. This also caused me to loose faith in my ability to trust and question what new women who were interested in me actually wanted. If he was a nice guy, he have been treated like a door mat, and find relationsh…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 12:11 AM
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This is an issue for me. My ex was beautiful, and I haven’t had attention from anyone else in the same league. It’s actually turned into a problem where I don’t want to commit to anyone that feels less attractive. Double down on personality, my ex was hard work, all the women I’ve dated have been easier to get along with
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:06 AM
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I’m always tempted to pay for everything, but I know it leaves me resentful. I think if you’re posting on here you are resentful too. Relationships are about flows of energy. If you feel like you’re over paying what ever that means to you the relationship won’t last. Be warned however, I partner that pays may be less interesting in some other way. Pick your compromise because it’s hard to get everything.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:55 PM
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I felt this way also. The only way to solve it is get a therapist, join a men’s circle of some sort they do exist, and remember this lesson to make and prioritise your friends. I think men are too willing to give up their lives to become support for their wives. Some women encourage it others want you out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 07:17 AM
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It is my story, almost perfect.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 07:58 PM
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I’m 45M, I’m newly divorced two young kids. I’ve been in the dating market trying to figure out what I want. I think it is basically 4 things: 1: Intimacy, this is available but I’m not that interested in having a string of one night stands. 2: companionship, I’m increasingly trying to get this more through friends. 3: Family, unless I have another child, most women can’t add meaningfully to my family unless they are helping me with my kids. And I want to raise them, not ask a step mother to. 4:…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 02:27 AM
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Go younger/lower body count
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 05:41 AM
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The age works for peri menopause, my ex wife was 41
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 09:06 AM
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I’m there with you. My ex MIL still buys me Christmas presents. All her family still talk to me. Her friends talk to me and like me. But for some reason she needed to blow up the family. I’d understand it better if there was a new boyfriend, but there isn’t. Two things: social media and peri menopause
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 12:21 AM
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Good description, I think it makes sense, but unfortunately doesn’t give closure. The closest I got was my ex wife saying she doesn’t like me like that anymore. Was there an affair, maybe. Did she ever like me like that, maybe. Why wouldn’t she go to counselling, were her thoughts to scary?
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 12:17 AM
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Absolutely leave, it doesn’t need to be permanent. Just takes the heat out of the situation. When things cool off a bit you can make a plan. If your wife needs things, maybe someone else can step up for a while
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 06:08 AM
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Well, I’m not all the way out, however, there were a few turning points: Therapy helped, in particular EMDR, so i could recognise the detail that’s actually upsetting me: Pride, ego, rejection? For me, I was raised be a single mum and spent a lot of time alone as a child. I’m scared of my kids experiencing the same thing, so I try and be a better dad, more present more connected. I’m also resigned to the fact that future partners won’t be as physically beautiful as my ex, however, she was no lon…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 02:36 AM
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I’m interesting perspective. I suspect you’re right. At the start of my journey I blamed many things on feminism because I still loved my ex and didn’t feel like I could blame her for her behaviour. With the passage of time I realise I didn’t hold boundaries, communicate expectation and I was travelling through life believing my role was to support others and not to fulfill myself. Predictably, this left me burnt out and bitter. I’ve never listened to Andrew Tate, however, I think I needed some …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 10:31 AM
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This is a good perspective. We get annoyed for being loved for our utility (protect and provide). But we also love for their utility, boobs, hips, youth and femininity are all strong markers of fertility which I guess is their utility.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 11:23 AM
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Exactly, I don’t look at the lives of many married friends with any envy. I get sad that my kids are missing out, but that’s all. And my relationships with them are much better now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 11:18 AM
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Maybe she is, maybe she is lying to herself. I think women can treat men as interchangeable. But this reflects her not you. I had a similar situation with my ex wife. I was also triggered by it. After a period of consideration, I realised what I really cared about was my kids. If her new partner helps her to be more functional and a better mother, then my kids benefit. What I’d be more worried about is her struggling by herself for a long period, or for a string quartet of men coming and going f…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 11:14 AM
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I M45 have no problems getting dates and I’m sure that I could have more sex. However, mostly I don’t want to go on second dates. In general I’ve found women are broke, broken and bearing children that aren’t my own. If you have kids and are family inclined, your family will be difficult to let go of. If you want to be single and have casual sex, this is easy to do.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 07:30 PM
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On a side note, and possibly related, my ex wife was always happiest with me when someone else was interested in me. When we had kids, I cut off all contact with other women, this I suspect may have been the end of my marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 11:49 AM
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My experience is they can do that even when your bringing in 70% of the money. So perhaps that happens when they sense weakness regardless of the flavour.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 11:44 AM
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I think there are a lot of women who are successful, who really want the emotional connection and will overlook your finances for non financial status. Your job, your personality, fitness health, attitude. Try learning from the way women date. They don’t lead with finances
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 07:05 AM
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Yeah, I definitely find the female perspective is omnipresent in this space. I’m not even sure we are allowed a male perspective. I’ll look up YT and Larry
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 11:04 PM
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Thanks ok-guidance. She is 42 and the trouble started at 36-37. I agree that there are impacts from peri menopause, mid life crisis, and divorce. Her main father figure was her step father and he was held in high regard. However, her biological father no doubt had impacts, and I know far less about him, but none speaks well of him. I will look for your mid life crisis script
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 10:09 PM
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I think your first paragraph is bang on. There is a lot of reputation control going on and this is why I’m getting pissed off. Anything that paints her in a bad light is buried. When the kids ask why we don’t live together she just paints a picture of it all being positive, meanwhile the kids are devastated and want to understand it. In regard to jealousy goes, I’ve done a pretty good job of letting go, so I’m not driving myself insane, I just want to have a relationship with her that is transpa…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 11:15 PM
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Yes, this is the thing. Obviously I want my kids to have a positive relationship with and between their parents. I’m open to working on this so that we can be in a room together in a positive mood. Because the alternative is crap. However the ex won’t even discuss what she does and doesn’t want to know, and claims to be keeping the peace by not discussing anything. To me this feels like a highway to hell, because it sets up the expectation to lie about anything that could possibly hurt someone. …
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 12:08 PM
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