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1 in 10 or 1 in 50 may be statistically rare. But the chances of seeing one in a high population area are exceedingly high. Go to a concert, or a club, or some place with more than 100 people. They'll be everywhere, its both rare and common at the same time depending on your interpretation
/r/seduction23/07/26 04:50 PM
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You gotta realize theres plenty of beautiful women who are horribly insecure, or who are outright terrible people. Beauty is cool, dont get me wrong but ive been with women who looked like models who I couldny stand at all and I did not care wether the entered or exited my life. I try to keep that in mind so I dont project perfection on someone just because of how they look. They could be wonderful, they could not. All I know is they are nice on the eyes and thats not everything
/r/seduction23/07/26 04:48 PM
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Reading the right books yes. I had a mental breakdown at 22 and turned to books to get my life in order. At this point ive read 240 books since then. Women find it extremely attractive that im always reading. And ive read a ton on psychology, history, nonofiction so I usually always have something to add to a topic because Ive read up on it and whenever I wanted to improve something in my life i found a book on the topic and added to my knowledge base. Between that and getting in really good sha…
/r/seduction20/07/26 02:43 PM
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Just by doing
/r/seduction20/07/26 12:41 PM
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Ive hooked up with a lot of women and I've had sex with 3 prostitutes and Ill tell you. The prostitutes are hot but its just not the same. It takes all the fun out of it, you didnt seduce them, they dont actually like you. Id maybe do it to get a nut if I had unlimited money but its not much more exciting than jerking to porn. Sex with a chick thats actually into you is wayyyyy better.
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:18 AM
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These 3 things and therapy/ learning to dance got me laid more than anything else.
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:16 AM
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Maybe I’m saying this because I’ve always been pretty good looking but I genuinely have experienced and feel confidence and the mental game is 1000x more important. I know plenty of ugly dudes who can get laid and plenty of attractive men who can’t and in my own personal experience when I’m “on” the world is my oyster with women and when I’m not it’s like the Sahara desert
/r/seduction15/07/26 02:58 PM
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Yes. Ex fling I dated whos very pretty compared our hinge profiles. She had 1000 matches. Im a good looking dude and I actually broke things off with her but I had maybe 90 to her 1000
/r/seduction13/07/26 09:17 PM
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Theres this weird thing called autonomy where women have minds and notions of their own and make their own decisions
/r/seduction13/06/26 06:30 PM
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Yes. Everyone is getting laid except you. Crazy world we live in
/r/seduction06/06/26 09:27 AM
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Nah people will talk to you if you seem chill and no threatening. I talk to strangers all the time
/r/seduction23/05/26 04:44 PM
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Im a pretty good looking dude and Ill tell you the times I felt confident I absolutely killed it with women and the times I did not feel confident I couldnt get a date to save my life. Attractiveness removes barriers, but personality will remain king
/r/seduction22/05/26 01:15 AM
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Genetics and being lean honestly. Ive had a developed six pack since I was 13. And I have friends who get to a lower bf% than me and still dont show. A lot of it is luck of the draw, but most people can have 6 packs if they get lean enough
/r/seduction17/05/26 08:15 PM
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4-6 days a week
/r/seduction17/05/26 08:14 PM
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Heres the neat part, you don't
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:21 AM
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Not my experience. Once ive been on one date we see each other 2-4x a week. At minimum 1x a week but usually more early on
/r/seduction12/05/26 03:24 AM
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Different views how? I mean push pull is the strongest. Show interest and then pull it away. Sometimes I never show direct interest and just engage in witty banter and that does the trick. Depends on the person, Ive gotten pretty good at reading people and communicating in ways that are effective for them
/r/seduction10/05/26 01:11 AM
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Ill say this, the odds are astronomically higher that it would be weird if you didnt show interest in people that youre attracted to because theres underlying motives that are incongruent with your behavior. If you display interest and a woman rejects you, theres at worst a very brief period of embarrassment before you've moved on to other pursuits. The anxiety around the rejection is 1000x longer and more intense than the actual rejection. Women reject me all the time. I asked a girl to go to a…
/r/seduction10/05/26 12:59 AM
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Compliments, ambiguity, telling someone straight up you think they are cute. Shit one time I literally asked a group of girls if they were whores and they laughed and I ended up sleeping with one of them that night. It really doesnt need to be complicated, you just have to give off the impression you are fun, carefree, and interested but you don't care if they reject you. Read models by mark Manson. Thats a good start
/r/seduction10/05/26 12:39 AM
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If youre told you dont come off as sexual or romantic youre probably too timid or not displaying interest. If you dont display sexual interest in someone you wont get them to have sex with you. Its actually really simple. Don't be passive, be active.
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:57 PM
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Have you considered going outside? I havent used the apps since covid and always have someone im talking to
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:49 PM
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Shit ill talk to anyone anywhere. But mostly bars, concerts, run club, gym, co Ed sports
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:09 AM
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I do it all the time. And when im not doing it I see other men do it.
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:41 PM
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What do you mean by not progressing? I do really well with women but I usually dump them between 1-3 months period because they displayed some kind of behavior I didnt want to deal with. I dont mind being single because women are relatively easy to replace unless im highly attached and thats rather rare. Being single is mostly preferred for me unless someone is really impressive to me
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:19 PM
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Im with you, this dude does not know how to talk to people
/r/seduction04/05/26 03:33 PM
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Youre drastically under estimating how much goes into proper social skills. Being social and building relationships is my literal job now, I'm very good at it. I found that way harder to learn than the gym
/r/seduction04/05/26 05:41 AM
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Do both lol
/r/seduction04/05/26 05:23 AM
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Id say I fit this bill. I had a couple girlfriends in highschool but not much experience. Had a dry spell again from 19-21 with not even a kiss. Mostly confidence issues. Around 21 I looked like I was like 16 and I hit the gym everyday for years only to weigh 130 lbs. Got into bodybuilding and with the help of "special supplements" my face changed drastically, I was able to grow a beard. I got absolutely jacked and went from 5'8" 130 to 195lbs with abs. Became a male stripper, fucked a lot of ra…
/r/seduction28/04/26 11:28 PM
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Youre right. 90% of this sub is incels lol
/r/seduction18/04/26 08:33 PM
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Im sorry but no one thinks 88 women in a year is impressive unless they get 0 women a year. If youre banging that many girls you need to seriously check both your mental health and your blood work for stds. And get a hobby.
/r/seduction18/04/26 07:05 PM
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Wait yall talking to 5s?
/r/seduction18/04/26 04:34 PM
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I wouldnt say its useless, but I get what you're saying. Friendship and flirting are two different games. But they can overlap quite a lot. But yes, not fully.
/r/seduction12/04/26 06:00 AM
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Def a skill issue. I have no issues finding women in OPs area that meet solid criteria. He needs a good social network not just approaching women. 99% of my dating is just making friends and then dating their friends. I dont use apps
/r/seduction12/04/26 05:34 AM
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I cold approach sometimes but I usually just do my own thing and situationally talk to as many people as possible. Being highly social in general usually does the work for me
/r/seduction08/04/26 02:26 AM
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I wouldnt say unable to on dating apps. But my in person charisma/looks has always beaten out my app profile attractiveness. So I do much better out in the world that I stopped using the apps altogether about 4 years ago and my dating life has never been better since. I found I wasted way too much time and often settled for girls I would barely consider in person on the apps and it convinced me I was doing something when I really wasnt. Now if I want to get laid I have to go out and I have to pu…
/r/seduction08/04/26 12:18 AM
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Nah im with you, I never brought women home when I lived with my dad. I just went to their place.
/r/seduction07/04/26 01:28 AM
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Is making out on the couch all that different than a room? If youre in a girl's home youre pretty much home free at that point as long as you make them feel comfortable. I cant even think of the last time I went to a girls house or had a girl at mine where we didnt have sex if thats what I wanted to do
/r/seduction06/04/26 10:04 PM
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I fucked girls all the time when I lived with my dad for a year. Affected nothing. Even now I have my own place, but I almost never bring girls back. I go to their place. Only person I brought over was my girlfriend who lived with her parents, so if I had been living at my parents she wouldn't have been able to say much. This may just be me, but I prefer women dont come to my house in general, Id rather go to them.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:13 PM
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You socialize anyways
/r/seduction05/04/26 07:01 PM
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Sex count 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction02/04/26 01:18 AM
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Something around 70, exclusively in person. I think ive hooked up with 3 people off apps before getting rid of them
/r/seduction02/04/26 01:17 AM
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You know what helps more than your body and bank account for talking to girls? Talking to girls.
/r/seduction27/03/26 04:49 AM
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Do you really want to get to 3 digits? I’m closish to that mark and I’ll be honest the idea of hitting triple digits definitely does not seem like something I’d like to aspire towards. At this point I’ve had enough fun and would like to date more intentionally rather than just fucking everything
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:19 PM
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I cant date chubby girls and especially not really chubby. Waist size is the biggest turn on for me.
/r/seduction27/02/26 06:45 PM
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If youre mature you lose interest in 18-24. At 28 my cutoff was 21 and 22. At 31, my cutoff is 25/26. My preference is 26-30 I have no interest in women any younger
/r/seduction26/02/26 11:40 PM
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I remember it becoming increasingly important from 25 on. It wasnt that important at 25, but every year it definitely increased
/r/seduction16/02/26 07:01 PM
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65 girls a year is concerning, not cool. Its only cool if you cant get laid
/r/seduction06/02/26 05:07 PM
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No I dont socialize every single day. Sure maybe instagram messages or texts. I talk to people frequently on my phone. But I usually hangout with people on the weekends and thats it, the only socializing I do during the week is usually the gym because ill be there anyways so I usually bring 1 or 2 people with me But when I go to social functions, I talk to everyone, I always get their contact info and social media, and I never stay in one place for long in social outings. I own a room as best I …
/r/seduction03/02/26 10:03 PM
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Yes. My social network is massive. I dont really have to try to date anymore. I just hangout with friends. I went through a breakup and was not even interested in dating and have had no shortage of women around anyways despite being not putting any effort in
/r/seduction03/02/26 09:38 PM
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Bro you dont want influencer chicks lol. Juice aint worth the squeeze
/r/seduction31/01/26 07:44 PM
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One of my buddies was like 9 years older than me and I was early 20s and he was floored I was fucking girls with my beat up subaru outback and 100 bucks in ny checking account. If you project wealth they expect wealth, be authentic to you. For me at least, Im fun. I take girls dancing and we go to a bar and Im always in the front and center and I'm making sure that Im having the most fun possible. You do that you'll never have an issue
/r/seduction26/01/26 04:03 PM
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Every girl does not want your money. Ive slept with dozens and dozens of women, I think maybe less than 5 of hundreds of dates costed me much and if I did shell cash, its because I wanted to. You attract what you project.
/r/seduction25/01/26 08:27 PM
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I disagree. Having a rotation helps you be more confident if youre insecure. If you have your life together, having or not having a women validating you is neither here nor there. I needed rotations to be on my A game in my early and mid 20s. But I'm 31 and way more established. I dont need external validation from multiple women to feel like I'm confident or capable of attracting women. Enter my life, dont enter my life. Im having a good time either way.
/r/seduction25/01/26 08:25 PM
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Most of it stems from desperation and desire. Like at least for me right now. Im getting over a breakup and for one of the few times in my life I really dont care if I attract women or not. And since Ive been in this mindset Ive had plenty of options for women with no real effort being made on my end.
/r/seduction19/01/26 03:02 PM
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OP desperately needs to watch this
/r/seduction06/01/26 07:57 AM
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If a girl says you can have them. Make it happen. Lol
/r/seduction06/01/26 07:56 AM
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Why spend so much time on women? The only time in my life I did was my early 20s when I was trying to prove to myself I could get girls. Once I knew I could, I cant say I cared much about casual sex to take up so much of my time other than to fulfill my basic needs. I always say with women its the rule of 3. 2 in the lineup and 1 in the batters box. Any more is too much of my time
/r/seduction02/01/26 07:07 PM
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Don't overthink it
/r/seduction20/12/25 10:57 PM
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Usually unreactive unless its disrespectful then I'm probably calling that shit out
/r/seduction06/12/25 05:41 PM
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Ive not had this happen since I was a teenager
/r/seduction02/12/25 05:57 AM
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Damn, hardly ever see good advice in here lol Good work
/r/seduction17/11/25 09:32 PM
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All in your head. Just keep at it
/r/seduction16/11/25 01:14 AM
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Nah I definitely experienced it. I was nice without a backbone, kindness without a strong foundation doesnt earn you respect. It makes you look frail. Im actually nicer and more kind now than I was back then, because I have self respect and boundaries and its clear through my demeanor, it provides me opportunity to be even more kind because theres no need to be liked or seen or respected ect behind the behavior.
/r/seduction10/11/25 04:07 PM
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Ehh Im not against drinking but I hardly drink and when I do I drink extremely lightly. I hang out in bars all the time, never had an issue.
/r/seduction01/10/25 02:36 AM
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As someone who likes participating in this sub and has similar opinions. Im in a LTR, I have no issues dating when I am single at this point in my life. I'm also pretty damn sure I'm gonna marry my girlfriend. That being said I find participating in here entertaining, not necessarily educational. Sometimes theres good advice, but there's a lot of drivel from wanna be's, pretend to be's, and trying to make money-be's. Its still fun to chime in now and then, this is one of my most intriguing subs …
/r/seduction10/09/25 07:39 PM
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Cant hear you over the sound of you gargling balls
/r/seduction09/09/25 03:05 AM
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You get pegged
/r/seduction09/09/25 03:02 AM
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Thats good enough. This dude trying to power bottom
/r/seduction09/09/25 01:06 AM
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I just rinse off a few times a day and use body wash once a day or so
/r/seduction09/09/25 01:06 AM
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Yeahhh this is gay
/r/seduction08/09/25 11:26 PM
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Early 20s and 30. Early 20s because I could work in the nightclubs and had unlimited free time to pull chicks. 30 because I had less time I wanted to spend on girls but was infinitely more skilled. So I spent less total time but got way more results for my time.
/r/seduction05/09/25 01:16 AM
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Up down left right triangle triangle square square L2 R2 does the trick for me
/r/seduction28/08/25 06:27 PM
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I do.
/r/seduction26/08/25 03:23 AM
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Met my future wife cold approaching her at a country show. Def do it
/r/seduction24/08/25 07:39 PM
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Honestly, I just respond with something witty in response to their stories. Id have to go deep digging, I mostly just touch grass and hit bars to meet people but im in a LTR with a girl I met at a country show just doing life shit. Im pretty well connected in the nightlife scene in my city that nowadays I just follow my DJ friends to their shows and do my thing and talk to whoever comes through if I want to find girls to talk to. I'm pretty well known as a dancer/hype man so it gets me lots of i…
/r/seduction12/08/25 03:58 AM
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Depends. Sometimes within a day or two I’m locked in. Sometimes months go by without any real investment
/r/seduction11/08/25 05:32 PM
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Im considered generally good looking but im no giga chad. Im like 5'8", balding, but good face game and im in good shape
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:12 PM
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First it was just to see if we had any mutual people we knew. But one of them I thought was hot so we thought it'd be hilarious and he gave me her snap and I just slid in the dms and told her snapchat reccomended her and name dropped someone we both knew that wasnt him to have an "in" lmao
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:10 PM
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I dont have a playbook. I just reply to shit and be conversational and make connections, if convo is going well ill propose an activity like going out or whatever and thats about it
/r/seduction10/08/25 06:03 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/kenan_hower?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:59 PM
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Honestly just be funny and reply to their story. I think a lot of people, myself included when I was younger on here just wayyy overthought these things.
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:59 PM
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Situational play is the best. I just talk to everyone. So ill respond to stories with jokes. One time I just straight up replied to a girls picture by saying I had a crush on her and it got a conversation going. Another time I got a date with a stranger on Facebook by just sending a gif of forrest Gump waving. I had a long time girlfriend I got from dms on fb and a fitness fb group we were I but honestly I dont remember how we started talking
/r/seduction10/08/25 09:41 AM
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I dont dm strangers asking to hook up. I just make connections and roll with it. I have a good face game and im in good shape but im like 5'8 and balding so I wouldnt say im just insanely handsome but I mean people consider me good looking generally
/r/seduction10/08/25 09:23 AM
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So dependant on the person. Sometimes first night, sometimes a week. I dont force things
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:56 AM
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Usually talk for a while and make jokes. Propose to hangout in whatever way makes sense. Go from there based off vibes
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:54 AM
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Yes. Generally with dating less is more. You dont have to overcomplicate it. The older and more succesful ive gotten the less I do
/r/seduction10/08/25 05:21 AM
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Someone tags a hot friend. Add friend, respond to story. It's not rocket science
/r/seduction10/08/25 03:26 AM
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Sure. I've slid in girls' dms from the gym and stuff on instagram, reddit got me laid once in some weird way where this dude messaged me and turns out we lived 10 mins from each other and he showed me some local girls hes hooked up with and I ended up adding one of them on social media and DM sliding because I thought she was hot
/r/seduction10/08/25 02:23 AM
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Ive gotten laid from Instagram more than tinder/bumble combined. I dont even use dating apps anymore but IG usually works well with sliding in on mutual friends and people I kinda know but dont fully know
/r/seduction10/08/25 01:46 AM
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Yeah im cool off that now. I like my alone time too much. Maybe once or twice a week and im cool. I'm in an LTR at the moment but usually when im freshly single ill go hog wild for a couple months and then ill chill and have 1 or 2 situationships while I find a LTR.
/r/seduction10/08/25 01:44 AM
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At least for me its less about stopping entirely and more about putting so much time towards one thing. I remember having a week where I had sex with a different girl every day for a week at like 22. I couldnt fathom spending that much time now at 30. I want to be alone, or doing hobbies, or spending time on other pursuits than spending time banging chicks
/r/seduction10/08/25 01:29 AM
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Being nice and kind has gotten me a ton in life. Im just not a pushover, I set boundaries, and I demand respect. Ive gotten so many opportunities by being a personality hire, making friends, and just being known as a good dude. Shit my longest relationship of 2 years was gifted to me because I met a girl with a boyfriend and she thought I was so cool respecting her boundaries when she told me that that she hooked me up with her friend.
/r/seduction05/08/25 03:09 AM
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I can. That doesn't mean it's worth it
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:27 PM
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The real answer, tho is why is it necessary? If you need a ton of maturity and care to pull off, why go through the effort. I dont wish them any ill will, but the closest you can ever be if we dated is an acquaintance. I have plenty of friends, I don't need to muddy my own waters and put that on the next person I date. When I was younger I'd convince myself it was necessary or I would deal with for the sake of friends. But as I've gotten older, no. I won't do it, no need, its unnecessary, I can …
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:24 PM
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Why would you though? It puts unnecessary strain on future relationships. I have plenty of exes I'm cool with, but I wouldn't call us friends, I have no interest in being an active participant in their life.
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:55 PM
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Here's the neat part. I don't. I just move on. Wish you well over there, not in my life. Its not fair to any future partners.
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:53 PM
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For sure, but its moved. The park was awesome. Drakes the barn, Low Brau, flamingos, for smaller ish stuff Bigger stuff transitioned to block events at either railyards, capital street, ect
/r/seduction31/07/25 12:57 AM
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I find it way better for my style than southern California. Socal was very transactional, very surface. Norcal is more laid back, easy to connect if you want to talk real shit and enjoy a nice connection. Im friends with most of the main edm nightlife people that put events on. So I have constant access to backstage, afters, new people ect.
/r/seduction31/07/25 12:48 AM
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Talking to people with mutual friends that hangout in similar circles
/r/seduction31/07/25 12:30 AM
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Sometimes it helps sometimes it hurts
/r/seduction30/07/25 07:39 PM
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I dont think so, but nothing I said implies that
/r/seduction30/07/25 01:24 PM
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A hobby is classified as an activity, among other things, for relaxation or pleasure. Sure, metalworking or sports or something is a hobby that is a skill where you're actively trying to get better, etc. But that's not all hobbies. I dont want to get better at all of my hobbies. And even then, theres ways to get better at yoga or dancing that actively involve skills and can be done socially or to improve. Both are hobbies.
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:02 PM
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I lift 3-5x a week, so im pretty fatphobic. lol I pretty much only date girls who are fit. Other than that, no, if I find you attractive, I find you attractive its not like youre gonna get laid if you dont talk to people and take initiative with the ones you find attractive. So you time is a natural filter
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:55 PM
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Id just try to find interesting hobbies where single girls hangout. Yoga, concerts, bars, dance classes. Pretty much anyone of those work. I like dancing and music so I go to raves or concerts a lot and just meet people and dance with them.
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:42 PM
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My counts somewhere in the 60s id say I wouldnt mind showing anyone the least attractive girl I slept with. Who knows if they are or aren't
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:39 PM
1

I used to live in LA I live in Sacramento now
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:29 PM
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Not necessarily if you’re just working and using the apps
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:20 PM
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The dating app that’s gotten me laid the most with people I find attractive has always been instagram lol. Otherwise I just live my life and go out with friends and talk to women naturally. It’s way more enjoyable
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:19 PM
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My advice is always touch grass. I’ve never found the apps worth my time
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:16 PM
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34 hookups is more sexual partners than 91% of males already.
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:12 PM
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My best friend is a local dj and I meet women at his gigs because I usually just get guestlist to any of his shows in the local scene in my city, edm and dancing are probably my favorite activities and once you spend enough time you know everyone that goes out regularly, gets tables ect. So ill talk to one girl until it fizzles out and have another one within a week or two. My current girl is a big-time edm basshead so we go to shows together a lot. But we met at a country concert, she was just …
/r/seduction29/07/25 04:13 PM
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It compounds over time as you grow more and more social
/r/seduction29/07/25 03:30 PM
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I dont use dating apps. Im happily in a relationship with someone I didnt have to comprise anything for and between her and my last relationship I had a rotating door of a new girl within a week of things not working out with the last. Do things, talk to people, always say yes. Thats my only secret.
/r/seduction23/07/25 05:41 PM
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Women like men who can get women but choose them and only them.
/r/seduction16/07/25 03:21 PM
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Cool story bro, could have summed this up in a fraction of the time
/r/seduction14/07/25 02:12 AM
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Ive read all of them except how to talk to anyone and id reccomend all listed to anyone
/r/seduction09/07/25 10:23 PM
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Sure but you have limited control over physical attraction. You have a lot of control over the arguably more important aspect of mental attraction. Control the controllables on the physical side, hygiene, gym, style and then focus on the mental.
/r/seduction04/07/25 07:09 PM
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I said less interested but not uninterested and I said exclusively off looks not that looks dont matter at all. I've met many very good-looking men with shit personalities who can't get women to save their lives, and I've met plenty of physically unattractive men who can pull women at a moments notice. Theres plenty of play in the middle of these two things, but sure at the extremes Brad Pitt will always find someone willing to fuck him. Edit: ahhh that edit about his cousin cheating wasn't ther…
/r/seduction04/07/25 05:25 PM
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He didn’t describe anything about his cousins personality. If you determine that girls want to be around guys based off exclusively looks you don’t understand girls very well. Girls are far less interested in looks than guys are
/r/seduction04/07/25 07:02 AM
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Be someone you want to be around.
/r/seduction04/07/25 03:36 AM
9

Break the touch barrier with everyone. Friend or girl. Then it feels far more natural to break it to flirt. Elbow touches are easy and non threatening, so are shoulder taps. Or the easy low back touch to lead through a door ect
/r/seduction01/07/25 05:25 PM
2

Ill give you an easy example. I just say yes to things even if they aren't my thing. I'm not a country music guy, went to a country show because some buddies invited me and I met my girlfriend there. It would have been super easy to not go, I didnt know the artist, it was 50$ for a ticket, and the genre wasn't my go to. But I went anyways and have a great story to share. Thats like 99% of being interesting is being willing to do and see everything
/r/seduction28/06/25 07:55 PM
73

Living an interesting life and being interested in everything. I am interested in nearly everything, so when someone brings up a topic of conversation, I've explored it, usually more than the average person. My boss jokingly called me the most interesting man in the world. Not actually because im that interesting but because every time something had come up, I had experiences with it to some capacity. It's made relating to people very easy over the years.
/r/seduction27/06/25 04:31 PM
1

Pretty few and far between interactions like that. I wouldn’t let one thing throw off a general rule of thumb
/r/seduction26/06/25 06:25 PM
2

I dont cold approach women as much as I cold approach everyone if im out. My focus is always on generating social interactions with literally everyone that it makes my success with women a bit more of a passive income rather than a direct goal. Personally, I've always found it to be the better approach because my goal is to build connections. The romantic ones mostly just happen as a byproduct. I still escalate with women but only after ive begun to see initial interest from them or interesting …
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:55 PM
11

Think the problem is youre attracting the wrong kind of woman. Im 30M and my place is nothing crazy. But its home and ive never had a single issue My buddy is 37 and he's in a complete shit box inlaw setup because its super cheap and he has no reason to move. He has no issues pulling women and he has a good job and has over 100k liquid cash assets. Also. I checked your profile and your gaming choices are wonderful, we should be friends lol.
/r/seduction21/06/25 05:17 PM
1

After a bout 20-30 girls and around 25 I was over empty sex. I switched to casual relationships while looking for serious relationships but maintained relative monogamy.
/r/seduction20/06/25 04:24 PM
1

Spreading BS, you mean sharing information about basic research and information that's been readily available for years?
/r/seduction17/06/25 04:30 PM
6

Tbh I didnt read it after the clear emotional appeals were being made early on about this being a warning like I if I dont read some reddit post my wife is gonna be filled with a ton of cocks by next evening.
/r/seduction11/06/25 01:44 PM
-5

I can already tell you'd make a terrible partner by how much its evident you hate women. Single men tend to engage in far riskier behavior, single men tend to have less emotional support networks than women so those are a lot of key reasons marriage benefits men.
/r/seduction11/06/25 01:42 PM
1

Depends on the girl. Some ill come flying out the gate. Others id wait weeks.
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:24 AM
4

A good amount of research shows men benefit from marriage more than women.
/r/seduction11/06/25 03:01 AM
77

I would never take this subs advice on how to keep a healthy marriage lol
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:16 AM
3

Honestly, this was a great comment. Sometimes, I shit on some of the stupid advice on here, but realistically, I should really be more helpful rather than talking about how dumb some the posts on here are
/r/seduction09/06/25 03:59 AM
2

I say yes to people I like not music I like. I like all music, I just dont listen to the country and didn't even know the artist playing. Found my wife there.
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:55 AM
1

Thats literally empirically false https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/09/150916162912.htm
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:53 AM
1

Nearly every weekend lol
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:47 AM
1

I dont actively try to get girls anymore. I mostly just do things I find as fun and meet girls as I live life normally
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:32 AM
1

Good amount. I like to rave, im a good dancer and a lot of my friends are DJs so its easy. Met my girl at a country show and I dont even like country lol
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:15 AM
1

Novelty wears off and it fizzles out, don't see a future, something happens.
/r/seduction07/06/25 03:15 AM
18

Why are you even looking at it like a competition to begin with? L mindset. Looks are cool but girls care about looks far less than men do.
/r/seduction06/06/25 04:35 PM
1

Easy rule of thumb is only buy girls a drink under the same circumstances you'd buy a guy one. If im at the bar and ive been enjoying our time, sure "what do you want" I wouldnt buy a dude a drink to get him to befriend me, id buy him one because we're hitting it off and it was a nice gesture
/r/seduction06/06/25 03:12 PM
1

Be honest and respectful. You can push boundaries while still being respectful and usually once you start to get an idea of where and how you can push it makes life a lot smoother
/r/seduction06/06/25 03:09 PM
1

It's a lot of front loaded effort that pays off later. Eventually you just incorporate into your day to day life and it sort of handles itself.
/r/seduction06/06/25 02:44 PM
1

Maybe 60-65 girls. Most importantly, I met my future wife using a cold approach at a concert. I've always been a monogamous type. I'd approach a girl and casually date for a month to 3 and then off to the next. I much preferred this method to one night stands
/r/seduction06/06/25 02:34 PM
4

I talk to everyyyyone, and i like dancing so I usually start dance circles which leads to talking. All you have to do is just talk to people, compliment them, dance with them, make eye contact ask how they are doing or where they are from. My personal favorite is the side quest. Me and my best friend usually rave solo as in we show up together and then split off and make friends with strangers and then we regroup later You can literally say and do anything at raves there is no rules on how. Just…
/r/seduction31/05/25 01:35 PM
3

How do you never meet people at raves? Thats like the absolute easiest place to meet people lol
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:22 AM
2

I did steroids for a few years in my early 20s. They were pretty fucking awesome, but then you have to wonder what effects you may have to deal with over time.
/r/seduction28/05/25 02:31 PM
1

It's not worth the time. I'm not going to waste time trying with someone not interested in me.
/r/seduction27/05/25 07:13 PM
1

Women just usually want to be led, and they enjoy not having to think sometimes. Generally, I say its best to just be assertive and propose fun ideas, and they can let you know if they dont want to.
/r/seduction26/05/25 09:07 PM
2

Walk away because I only date fun people.
/r/seduction22/05/25 10:40 PM
-1

Women don't hate nice guys they just don't respect pushovers
/r/seduction21/05/25 06:51 PM
-1

I see this type of post in every sub imaginable. It's too late to start anything if you're dead and only if you're dead. Otherwise, get going. Only thing I'll say, you only feel this way because casual sex and hookups were something not available to you when you were younger. Casual sex and hookups are not all that, they're fun inbetween relationships but having someone who loves you on a deeper level will always beat out banging a random. Being 35 id maybe steer clear of banging 21 year olds bu…
/r/seduction21/05/25 06:43 PM
1

Long story short she can't be alone and he was willing to do a lot of the stupid Codependent crap I was unwilling to do. I didn't consider it a loss.
/r/seduction19/05/25 04:05 PM
13

I didn't care the entire time we dated because he was a scrub. They started dating like weeks after we broke up
/r/seduction15/05/25 08:41 PM
3

I felt like a massive fish in a medium sized city and an absolute 4 in LA when I lived there. Id agree with you
/r/seduction14/05/25 10:44 PM
6

Easier perhaps isn't the right word, but they're more direct so the ones that are interested will absolutely let you know
/r/seduction14/05/25 07:04 PM
5

Especially do things that girls tend to dominate. Youll never have an issue dating again if you can get into one of them. Dance classes Group fitness classes Climbing gyms Co-ed recreational sports Cooking or mixology classes Art classes or workshops Language classes or meetups Volunteering Book clubs Gardening or urban farming groups Board game cafés or meetups Wine tastings or foodie events Acting or improv classes
/r/seduction13/05/25 07:12 PM
1

Zyzz did steroids Ive done this. Women don't care nearly as much as other men do Youll still need to approach so do both
/r/seduction09/05/25 03:51 AM
2

Personally I mix flirting with legitimate connection strategies and trying to have legitimate conversations and getting to know people, I'm also very honest and direct about what I'm looking for.
/r/seduction05/05/25 08:47 AM
2

If you can bang a 10, it's really hard to settle for just 1. The power/ego/validation of banging beautiful women can be intoxicating. Id say it took me 5-7 years to really settle down instead of being a wild man to search for meaningful long term relationships because I totally realized girls viewed me as a fun only type of guy
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:31 AM
22

Maybe don't cheat on your partner and consider therapy....
/r/seduction03/05/25 10:15 PM
1

Ive met plenty of good looking single men who can't get a date and plenty of men with status who look like shit and pull all day
/r/seduction01/05/25 04:42 AM
2

Im 30 brotha, in sales too. Been in the game a long time and did a lot of therapy. Good luck out there
/r/seduction26/04/25 08:03 PM
2

Yeah it will never eliminate. It's kinda like that one quote about dont wish for an easy life but the strength to endure a difficult one. You probably wouldn't enjoy yourself very much and other people likely wouldn't like you if you were incapable of feeling embarrassment. Its a useful emotion, so instead of hoping for it to be nonexistent you lean into it and hope to use it as a tool for self improvement. Because that's literally all it is. Once that sets in it doesn't feel like this world end…
/r/seduction26/04/25 07:59 PM
4

Heres my advice, you can't avoid feeling embarrassed. Embrace it. Wishing for the embarrassment to go away just highlights it. If you get embarrassed and you own it, revel in it as an aspect of growth and learning, and even laugh at yourself is when it stops mattering. Im a pretty confident dude, but I get embarrassed sometimes, it's not a big deal. It's just your emotions teaching you what to do and not to do. if you never felt embarrassed you're likely letting life pass you by by playing it sa…
/r/seduction26/04/25 07:39 PM
1

You don't have to save face. You move on. Saving face is thinking about how other people think about you? Who gives a shit
/r/seduction26/04/25 06:58 PM
1

Personally I don't even remotely try to fight for their attention. I usually show interest, and if they start putting their attention elsewhere it's either a test or they're for the streets but I'm not engaging. They usually come around and chase me if they were actually interested when I dont bite.
/r/seduction25/04/25 07:10 PM
7

His advice still applies
/r/seduction24/04/25 06:40 PM
1

You're asking for a simplified answer to a complex question. Every woman's motives are unique.
/r/seduction20/04/25 11:15 PM
7

Theres tons of girls looking for casual noncommittal things. Non exclusive ect. It's pretty easy to find girls to complement your lifestyle if you're forthcoming about your lifestyle
/r/seduction19/04/25 12:22 AM
1

The only people that put dating super hot girls as the only priority are either shitty people or people who have never been with a hot girl. Ive had my fair share and I'll tell you there's super hot women I would never touch with a 10ft pole. Respect, values, charisma, ect mean something. I won't date or hookup with women who are unattractive to me, but at the same time being hot isn't the only thing that should matter. You have to have some level of both.
/r/seduction16/04/25 11:40 PM
4

No, because certainty is not always there. People are complex. Sometimes, girls probably would kiss you but won't show you signs. Sometimes, they seem like they would kiss you but won't for various reasons. Most of the time if they show you signs and you go for it you're good. Life is about reading the room and acting accordingly, odds are if she's on a date with you, she likes you. If you try to kiss them and they don't want to, as long as your respectful it really won't hurt anything.
/r/seduction12/04/25 05:15 PM
80

I never expected such a reasonable, legitimate line of thinking in here. I feel like half this sub is chodes that can't get laid asking questions on basic social skills and the other half is chodes that can't get laid pretending they can and trying to sell courses.
/r/seduction27/03/25 04:32 PM
73

Straight man who worked at a gay bar here, Never got so much pussy in my life as when I worked there
/r/seduction21/03/25 05:39 PM
2

Casual sex in my opinion is kinda like drinking. It's exhilarating and fun, and then when the high leaves you feel a little unfulfilled.
/r/seduction20/02/25 05:08 PM
9

Look you should absolutely set boundaries with women. But if you approach relationships with the mentality of never giving an inch then you'll find yourself sad and alone. Although we'll intentioned for people who always fold. This advice is weak and probably written for 16 year olds
/r/seduction31/01/25 05:10 AM
1

The statement was your own race will always be the most attracted to you. If you haven't travelled you wouldn't understand but a lot of Asian countries are highly western influenced. If you go to the Philippines they have whitening creams and things that stain your skin to make you appear whiter. Im not even kidding if you are white you are highly highly desirable. It's practically a celebrity status because white people are in media and even among their own race the closer you are to European f…
/r/seduction29/01/25 02:51 PM
3

Eurocentricism is a thing. And on the other side of the coin even if you're of a different ethnicity if you have exotic traits that are considered attractive you're going to be more liked by the opposite sex.
/r/seduction29/01/25 03:09 AM
6

That's not even remotely true. As a white man I've never gotten more play than in the Philippines when I visit my grandma. They're so white obsessed over there. And plenty of other countries I've visited white men are looked at in way higher esteem than if I'm in the states. And living in California i could tell you if a girl has a Australian or Irish accent I'm throwing the kitchen sink at them.
/r/seduction29/01/25 02:47 AM
3

It's all good, I thought I was a bonafide Casanova in my early 20s. I cringe at a lot of my behavior then and if you don't cringe you probably haven't grown a whole lot
/r/seduction27/01/25 04:23 PM
34

30 here and I'm lolling at this thread
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:31 AM
2

Bruh I'm 5'8" balding with good physique and face and I still have no issues pulling. Life is 90% how you carry yourself, looks will just amplify by factors how much benefit you get from those efforts
/r/seduction26/01/25 09:40 PM
2

My style is I generally try to see what the most unhinged shit i can get away with saying is and say it all. When it works it's great, but also being unhinged has it's downside haha. I picked some girls up by asking them if they were hoes once. My buddy was completely dumfounded.
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:22 PM
7

Yeah I agree, especially if you’re a direct or literal person. You’ll often end up confused or not enjoying the process.
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:04 PM
8

Well that's a lame attempt at flirting saying that. Flirting is super fun because it's often indirect and ambiguous when good and often times you're switching between pushing intimacy and pulling away to create emotional tension.
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:01 PM
15

Im sure it works but honestly that sounds boring. Flirting is fun, shit I'll flirt with people I don't want to sleep with because it's fun.
/r/seduction23/01/25 06:56 PM
5

I tease women a lot, maybe a bit too much sometimes so I have to tone it down
/r/seduction23/01/25 06:50 PM
15

Personally, that's waayyyy too much bullshit to get caught up in for me. Plus if she cheated with you she'll cheat on you
/r/seduction19/01/25 02:45 AM
1

I was a psych major, nothing but baddies with daddy issues
/r/seduction23/12/24 07:24 PM
1

I call chicks dude all the time, this is no different
/r/seduction19/12/24 04:59 PM
28

Ive fucked my fair share of nurses
/r/seduction09/12/24 06:26 PM
1

Cute girl but thick, I got drunk and told myself I could totally do it but then I had so much regret. I'm fatphobic as fuck and can't do chubby girls
/r/seduction06/12/24 02:48 AM
1

You also have to realize early on people filter. I don’t know how many women who I’ve been interested in that said one word or phrase etc and it instantly put me off but you wouldn’t know because nothing progressed. I’d bet kindness is more of a thing for attraction for women looking for partners. It’s just that if you’re kind and physically not attractive it won’t matter
/r/seduction29/11/24 04:03 PM
2

Definitely, I very rarely even think about my height. It’s not bothered me for close to 10 plus years. I will say I’m sure if I was 6’4 I’d probably have more advantages. But I don’t think height is stopping me from achieving anything.
/r/seduction11/10/24 04:10 PM
9

I'm not much taller than you and I'll say two things help me. Being in really good shape all the time and having great posture due to being in really good shape. People constantly mistake me for 5'10 5'11 and I'm only 5'8" Also confidence. Because I have a large personality people taller than me perceive me as taller than them due to my presence
/r/seduction11/10/24 03:32 PM
18

I wasn't trying to sleep with her though, she just rolled up on me
/r/seduction28/09/24 11:32 PM
172

It didn't help with the girl but I hate those girls. One time this girl rolled up to me and said "how about you buy me a drink?" Me: "what for?" Her: "so you can see my pretty face?" Me: "I'm already looking at it" She huffed and walked off.
/r/seduction28/09/24 09:59 PM
2

I don't think so if you communicate clearly. Having sex with someone you don't have a connection with isn't very enjoyable anyways.
/r/seduction24/09/24 02:26 PM
16

Just expanding this idea here. There's quite a few women I've slept with that were very conservative (low body count, hadn't had sex in a year or more) that were more than willing to sleep with me within a week or two time frame because I treated them like a human and because I was interested in building a connection and not just looking at them as a hole. Women pick up on the idea that they are being used. Some want casual shit and that's fine but others don't and you'll find more opportunities…
/r/seduction23/09/24 05:10 PM
32

I never set expectations. So the top comment like a quib about holding hands ect is acceptable. I personally don't get overly sexual. Women want to feel safe and like they aren't judged before they sleep with you so it's best to play more innocently at this point and always be willing to take sex off the table if they aren't comfortable. Personally I've found the more willing I am to pull sex off the table the more comfortable the person feels and the more willing they are to have sex. It's quit…
/r/seduction23/09/24 03:38 PM
7

Hard agree. Women use men for free drinks. Don't let them.
/r/seduction19/09/24 02:43 PM
4

Lol this is some weeb shit. No one will disrespect me I'm a grown ass man. I'll leave and talk to someone else
/r/seduction19/09/24 02:38 PM
4

I'm with you. No one really talks to me in the examples he mentioned. But I allow no disrespect in my life. I nip that shit before it starts
/r/seduction19/09/24 02:36 PM
0

I'll be honest I don't feel like I experience outright disrespect in the way you've listed but if someone banters with me I usually hit them back firmer and harder so people tend not to test my wit
/r/seduction19/09/24 02:34 PM
4

I pretty much only socialized in sports and was super introverted. Ended up becoming a stripper and now my career job is basically being a professional extrovert
/r/seduction15/09/24 07:02 AM
1

Sure but I'm choosing to not engage with them. I'm not matching their energy. I'm exiting because they won't match mine. That's a very different perspective than what OP just proposed
/r/seduction13/09/24 04:33 PM
8

Yeah fuck this. I'm a leader, I set the tone
/r/seduction12/09/24 07:24 PM
2

Personally I'm fatphobic as shit so I love my niche 🤣 but as I've become a bit more moderate in my gym life it's definitely enhanced my dating
/r/seduction09/09/24 06:05 PM
3

Solid points. I also like that as a seasoned gym goer myself your physique and training footage is of someone I’d consider a beginner which goes to show that lifestyle of lifting weights and achievable moderate results like the ones you had are all you need. You don’t need to be a bodybuilder to get girls like many in here often think. I’d say at times my bodybuilding life held me back more than it helped when I was younger because I fell into a niche of attraction to only avid fitness people an…
/r/seduction09/09/24 05:48 PM
2

When you smell good women definitely notice. I usually leave the house with cologne on just for myself and people remark quite often
/r/seduction08/09/24 08:52 PM
78

I think I would have been average without intervention. I'm 5'8, balding, but I'm in better shape than 99% of the population and therefore having a leaner face and muscles puts me in the attractive range Make your own fate bro
/r/seduction06/09/24 10:43 PM
3

You can always shoot your shot but just know odds are they just want tips
/r/seduction06/09/24 03:35 AM
5

That’s interesting because in small towns and areas I feel like a big fish in a small pond. Women constantly approach me and try to talk to me and are much more assertive because good looking guys aren’t common versus a city I have to actually game
/r/seduction05/09/24 02:09 PM
1

I’m not gonna read all of that but what I took from the part I did read is what I fully buy into. Dating is part of self improvement, you should be working on everything all the time. It’s asanine to go to the gym, be more positive, get better income etc and put dating on the back burner until you feel you’ve made it because you never will feel that way and the gap will widen for your dating problems
/r/seduction03/09/24 02:23 PM
1

The only time you should ever involve yourself is if your girlfriend has rejected someone and they refuse to leave
/r/seduction02/09/24 06:38 PM
3

If you're having issues with second dates you really need to look in the mirror and see what the issue is. Maybe ask some of these girls to give you feedback. I will say not all but about 90-95% of my first dates end up with second dates
/r/seduction28/08/24 11:44 PM
1

I do and say things that are conversational and don't lay it on thick immediately off the rip. Sometimes people react poorly but it allows me to squarely look at them as the problem because who reacts poorly to a compliment or a conversational opener? Someone I don't want to know.
/r/seduction27/08/24 10:33 PM
1

Looks is something to keep you focused and help get you confident. You will never get and keep a relationship based on looks.
/r/seduction26/08/24 02:43 PM
102

I have a rule of no direct competition. If a dude starts trying to compete and she is receptive. I completely exit the scenario and do my own thing. 9/10 times they will then pursue me because I didn't play into the bullshit games dynamic and the other 1/10 aren't worth my time.
/r/seduction12/08/24 07:01 PM
17

I literally leave, I refuse to compete and the girl usually ends up trying to get with me
/r/seduction02/08/24 09:20 PM
10

Ok I'm American and have a 6 pack. Now where do I go?
/r/seduction31/07/24 11:21 PM
2

Tree fitty
/r/seduction30/07/24 03:37 PM
2

This shit gives me elliot rodger vibes
/r/seduction29/07/24 01:07 AM
-1

Oh you're one of those types... Best of luck to you my friend
/r/BlackPillScience10/07/24 12:04 AM
-2

My man, I was a stripper most of my 20s, access to women wasnt an issue. After a while, it gets old and you realize there's more important things
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 11:57 PM
2

You can be selective without being hyper successful or great. I’m not saying I’m some hyper attractive chad that can get anyone. It’s that I tend to reach above my pay grade rather than settle for someone that I could attract easily. I’d argue being that selective makes me less successful in dating
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 09:07 PM
3

Definitely I'm a 29 year old male and I turn down sex more than I have it. I only like the top end of my league so to speak
/r/BlackPillScience09/07/24 04:15 PM
2

Damn does this mean I’ll get laid? -not aqua
/r/seduction25/06/24 10:36 PM
2

I've been bodybuilding on and off for over 10 years. I stay in good shape year round
/r/seduction19/06/24 07:23 AM
7

Oh she ate that shit up, ended up telling me she was into bondage and shit and we made out while at the bar but I had to bring my buddy home so haven’t smashed yet
/r/seduction11/06/24 02:10 PM
8

One time walking into a rave I was telling my friends that I wanted to hangout with them because everytime I go to a rave I end up with a hoe. These girls heard me and started laughing at me and I just immediately said "are yall hoes?" Ended up smashing one of em. Last weekend I had a good one where I was talking to this girl at the bar and she started walking away and I said "woah woah where you going daddy isnt done with you yet" and she spun around and walked right back.
/r/seduction11/06/24 04:43 AM
5

Fuck yeah
/r/seduction05/06/24 01:35 AM
19

Never give them the validation. My ex dumped me a few months ago only to see my flourish on my stories going on interesting trips and hanging out with new women all the time. She unfriended me after seeing a story of me dancing with new friends and new women and it felt like the ultimate victory knowing for months she was the first person to look at my story and I didnt watch a single thing she posted. She probably watches my reddit so if she reads this I hope she knows she doesn't deserve me an…
/r/seduction05/06/24 01:11 AM
10

Bodybuilding got me laid more than anything else in my life, glad I started around 16 because it took years before it really started paying off
/r/seduction04/06/24 03:49 PM
3

6-8s tend to reject nap times and time outs much more than 9-10s
/r/seduction01/06/24 02:39 AM
8

Horrifically low standards, money, and fame and plenty of antibiotics
/r/seduction24/05/24 07:23 PM
1

To make a long story short-ish, she had a rather codependent relationship with her mother and then her mother got brain cancer and died. I met her when her mom had 2 months to live. So our relationship really broke down when we moved in together about 14 months after her mom died and I just couldn't be superman for her all the time anymore. Slowly I lost empathy due to her crying, anxiety, and just being on her own for the first time. I paid for 3/4 of everything and even though she inherited 30…
/r/seduction16/05/24 07:45 AM
1

I was very tempted to cheat and never did, but I have some insight. Personally I never cheated on any partner but I was very tempted to cheat on my ex because I didn't respect her and I didn't realize that I had completely lost respect for her because shes a wonderful person and very kind. So sex with her felt like a chore because I was no longer having sex with someone I valued or respected as a partner and an equal. But everyone does it for different reasons but for me there was serious relati…
/r/seduction16/05/24 06:56 AM
1

If a woman ticked every other box for me then she would have self awareness and would have moved on from that behavior so I wouldn’t mind
/r/seduction07/05/24 06:00 PM
2

You develop yourself enough as a person that youre evaluating others instead of worrying about their evaluation of you
/r/seduction05/05/24 02:42 AM
34

The same way you get with a girl shorter than you. You get out of your head
/r/seduction04/05/24 06:19 PM
1

"I am a chad" Yeah you lost me right there bro.
/r/seduction30/04/24 05:31 PM
1

Me and my ex used to go on there for drama. Ended up finding out that one of our mutual friends was cheating on his wife lolol
/r/seduction25/04/24 03:12 AM
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When you said you want to build wealth rather than be a charity I felt that to my core
/r/seduction25/04/24 02:20 AM
3

This works all the time.
/r/seduction24/04/24 04:41 AM
1

just play this while having sex the whole time
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:11 AM
1

The simplest version is the tone, pacing, and subject matter are all controlled by you. The person who holds the frame is acting and the other person is reacting
/r/seduction20/04/24 03:15 AM
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I don't really see an issue with this if shes not super serious with her boyfriend and possibly a younger age. Would I want my girlfriend doing this? Probably not but if she did It's whatever so long as she wasnt entertaining the dude while were together.
/r/seduction05/04/24 09:39 PM
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Generally if your life is going in the correct direction as a man you will be more attractive in time. At 29 Im drastically more attractive to women than at 19 despite being worse looking in many ways. Competence, resources, maturity, tact all work in your favor. At 19 I was desperate to find a girlfriend at 28 I didnt even have to do anything, her friends did all the leg work of setting us up for me
/r/seduction15/03/24 05:13 PM
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Introvert with hot girlfriend here. Introversion is basically just if you recharge your batteries by yourself or around people. Im extremely social because its beneficial for me. I am very socially adept and I can say that my girlfriend has more social anxiety and tends to date men who can own a room. If it helps I wasnt very socially adept or good with girls as a teenager and young adult but really turned it on in my early to mid 20s. Good luck out there!
/r/seduction05/09/23 07:08 PM
1

Then I wouldn't worry too much, just keep putting yourself out there and doing the work and everything else will fall in place in time
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:14 PM
3

Women don't make it that hard. They're standards are actually fairly low. Make them laugh, take care of yourself and have some ambition and be able to make a connection and you'll find yourself with plenty of women. It's just all that work is internal and most people won't do that work
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:42 AM
4

Absolutely and I've gone for extremes. At 5'8 I was everywhere from 116 lbs to 195lbs lean and now maintain a comfortable 175 with a bombshell girlfriend and a nice sense of balance. Internal is everything
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:29 PM
8

I'm with you here. I was a scrawny dude and I got made fun of for it in early middle school and high school. I gained 80 lbs of muscle and got jacked and started having sex with everything in sight and what I noticed when I chilled out and lost being jacked for a more active and fit physique that at first I couldn't get laid but after a while it really didn't matter. The difference between all three and my ability to get laid was based on how I felt about myself much more than anything else
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:12 PM
2

I had this issue for years, I finally could get girls consistently and I sat single for 5 years churning through short term flings before meeting my person. Here's my best piece of advice: your relationship with others is a reflection of your relationship with yourself. If you're finding yourself in the position where you're unable to build a connection with someone. First build a connection with yourself and get a true idea of what you want in a partner. Then you will have an idea of who you ne…
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:53 AM
1

Have fun not getting laid dude. For real
/r/seduction21/07/22 06:05 AM
1

Dude I'm a nearly 30 year old professional. You do not require any of those things to have fun. Sure they are fun activities. But being a fun personality makes people want to be around you. Even through a keyboard you clearly miss the mark with your immediate jump to insults and telling people how the world works when that's how it works for you... maybe build yourself a personality and you'll get laid more often by some better looking women.
/r/seduction21/07/22 06:01 AM
1

You clearly don't know how to have fun without buying things and that's sad
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:53 AM
1

You clearly don't get laid and use these as excuses.
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:52 AM
1

If you were fun you'd realize being fun is free and you'd probably get laid more but who's counting. Money has never had a bearing on how much I got laid when I had none and now that I make a decent living
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:50 AM
3

Lmao there's tons of hot girls who aren't even remotely interested in fame or money. Be relatively attractive and know how to have fun and you will never run out of baddies
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:51 AM
2

I lived with my dad for an entire year and I never brought a girl home but it never stopped me much
/r/seduction16/07/22 10:14 PM
1

I'm not alone, I have an extremely attractive girlfriend who loves me and before when I was single I had no problems with women
/r/seduction08/07/22 01:50 AM
1

There's better more ethical ways to attract women
/r/seduction08/07/22 01:37 AM
1

Lmao any girl I would care to sleep with is too busy and has too much good shit going on to even remotely care about this
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:40 PM
3

I think because you hear Russian accent on a woman you think smoking hot blonde soviet spy from james bond or somethjng versus if you think Russian male accent you think killing machine
/r/seduction06/07/22 03:32 AM
1

I would bet so. Attraction is very subconscious. Sometimes you think you would be physically attracted to someone but you aren't. There's quite a lot going on under the surface
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:34 PM
1

I mean a lot of different environments set attraction. If you're on a 6 month dry spell a 6 is gonna look real nice versus if you're getting laid all the time you'll not care as much about someone. Also your personal feelings can make someone seem much more attractive based on feelings
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:22 PM
1

I've had this happen many times and sometimes it's simply that you're not sexually attracted to them so if they have this awesome personality but they aren't your type sexually. The last girl I dated was pretty attractive but I only wanted to have sex once or twice a week versus my girlfriend it can be sometimes 3 or 4 times a day but almost always 2
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:16 PM
1

Attraction can definitely change over time. I've dated people I wasn't initially super attracted towards and it built over time but I wouldn't bank on that happening I'd rather just appreciate it when it does
/r/seduction05/07/22 04:43 PM
1

My current girlfriend? She's a bit easier in the sense that her personality is the best I've ever dated and her looks is top 2 if not the most attractive also. So that makes just about everything easier. I'm pretty convinced I'm gonna marry her eventually
/r/seduction05/07/22 04:40 PM
1

I mean I think you have three things to consider. Chemistry and sexual chemistry and also attraction. I have had chemistry with a number of women I have not had sexual chemistry with or just wasn't physically attracted to. I simply wasn't super attracted to them or the bedroom experience just fell a little flat. My current girlfriend is pretty vanilla but she's also very enthusiastic and I'm extremely attracted to her. There's rarely a time where I'm not eyeing her up like a piece of meat when i…
/r/seduction05/07/22 02:57 PM
9

This^ my body count is in the 40s and I'm now in a consistent relationship for the first time in 5 years and I can say the sex is 1000000x better And even when I was being a hoe I found having sex with one woman for a few months and moving on to the next far more ideal than hookups
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:53 PM
3

I've usually left it on and told girls if I forget to reply then feel free to double text me because I often read a text and reply in my head
/r/seduction28/06/22 01:35 AM
1

Go where you feel most comfortable or want to feel most comfortable and then own that environment
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:42 AM
2

I go to bars frequently and don't drink. If I do I sip one drink over a long period of time but often I invite them to the gym, to coffee, on a hike, to dinner. Ect
/r/seduction23/06/22 11:44 PM
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I switched from daily to once a week at most when single and found it useful mentally to push myself to meet more women rather than be lazy. Now I'm in a relationship and I don't masturbate at all even though we only hang out once or twice a week I get my fix enough to be fine
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:54 AM
2

Your chances are whatever you think they are. If you believe in yourself and start working on your life the next 6 months could be vastly different. If you let your fear dictate your life your chances are 0
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:31 PM
3

Besides if people who were successful weren't in here then it would be an even worse case of the blind leading the blind. The point of forums is for people of varying levels of success in fields to interact with each other
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:49 AM
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This dude has a massive point. This sub takes dudes who have a massive overthrowing problem and gives them tons of things to stimulate their overthinking. When I've been the most successful with women I've not even remotely been concerned about the outer tactics and when I've been the least successful I'm always fretting about tactics and strategy.... keep it loose, keep it simple. Have fun, be fun and you'll be just fine
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:22 PM
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I'm successful with women and I'm in a committed relationship and dont even need to worry about seduction. Doesn't mean you can't find the content entertaining or enjoy reading stuff and I also enjoy giving advice from time to time
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:19 PM
1

Absolutely. If you just send it without much thought or care I usually do the best
/r/seduction15/06/22 06:28 PM
1

Why limit yourself to one when you can do both depending on your mood
/r/seduction11/06/22 03:17 PM
3

With my girlfriend she literally made it very clear she was interested and we just flowed with mutual commitment naturally. There was zero games going on
/r/seduction08/06/22 02:32 AM
1

In my opinion. Girls love a guy that will defend them appropriately(key word appropriately). A guy that will take charge of a situation and handle it effectively is attractive. That may be fighting someone but most of the time it's not. You meet force with appropriate level of force and you fight if need be for defense only. For example the other day this cashier started lecturing my 22 year old girlfriend for buying alcohol because she was confused by her ID and thought she was under age. I tol…
/r/seduction07/06/22 03:44 PM
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Not being able to out think a crush is one thing. But everything I pointed out were actions by OP. You are not always in control of your thoughts but you absolutely can control your behavior and this is an obvious move on scenario
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:36 PM
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Bro you're 27 and saying you've made out with 200-300 girls and you're posting a sob story about triple texting a girl who ghosted you... there's clearly some maturity issues at play here or this post wouldn't exist
/r/seduction07/06/22 04:44 AM
6

You my friend, are acting quite shitty
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:17 AM
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I really wanted to get a career going and in the last year and a half I doubled my income and am with a good company. I moved back to my hometown and was back at my parents house for a minute and moving out again was super nice on my confidence despite me living at home was totally by choice. I built out a more robust social network, I've always been a very outgoing guy for the last 5 years but covid made video games and not answering the phone very enticing. I got off dating apps which forced m…
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:30 AM
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My dating life has exploded the last year but I've also done a lot of work and gotten a lot of shit sorted for that to be a thing. I definitely hit a covid drought tho
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:17 AM
2

I do sales for a living. Seduction is essentially sales and I do well. Outer game is obviously important but a lot of the old school RSD and pick up style is kind of trash material. I discovered very quickly that although if you're a complete Incel that pickup will help you that you're bound to attract the wrong type of individual by following a lot of the advice on there. I've done fairly well for myself in the women department. I have a body count I'm not particularly proud of but most importa…
/r/seduction03/06/22 12:21 PM
12

A month ago I would say she was the most attractive and best sex I ever had. But recently she's been bumped to number two
/r/seduction31/05/22 04:21 AM
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I think smoothest ever was I was a go go dancer at a bar and I finger wagged a girl over and she waddled over to me. I started grinding on her and she was holding her phone in her hand. I snatched her phone out of her hand and put my number into it and her cheek was right next to mine while I was doing it. So as I finished putting my number in I turned and kissed her cheek and walked away without ever saying a word to her and I didn't text her back for probably a month simply because I didn't ca…
/r/seduction31/05/22 02:26 AM
1

Being too flexible with your time
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:02 PM
4

Shit you breath. Older women are upfront and generally speaking very aggressive if they want you. Younger girls require tact, older women less so. Less games being played is a big plus
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:44 PM
4

That book is great. Read it a long time ago but it was a good one
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:41 PM
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I'm off the market now, I spent 5 years single by choice and had plenty of fun along the way. I think the current girl is getting a ring in a year or two. But she's everything I could have asked for and I chose her rather than entering through desperation or necessity and that's a powerful position to be in.
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:38 PM
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I was a very socially anxious kid growing up. I went to maybe two high school dances lol. I started working in clubs, lifting weights, and once I became a stripper for about a year I really stopped giving a fuck haha. Just put yourself in uncomfortable positions to grow and it will come.
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:34 PM
10

This is my honest opinion... if your dates aren't fun it's because you aren't fun. I go on hikes, gym dates, bar hopping, coffee, dinner the most. But I don't think date locations are the issue. My personality is fun in a bottle, I could make a retirement home a blast. My current girlfriend I met her on a double date and it was very spontaneous. We went to a brewery for food. After food we convinced the girls to jump on our motorcycles and we took them to a club I worked at where we got in for f…
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:23 PM
8

Shit you don't even need to put your needs first to nor be a simp. I love putting others before myself but I treat myself like I would treat others. We are often so uncompassionate about our own needs and place priorities over others but if we just level the playing field to "equally as important" we'll be killing it
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:32 PM
8

My dude nailed it
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:30 PM
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Don't be a simp of course. But if being that guy means I'm respectful and take girls out on dates I'm good lol. I get laid plenty by being authentic and not a try hard who's lost sight of themselves. Dates are fun, being respectful is the right way to live. You can be a good dude and still get plenty of women
/r/seduction29/05/22 04:03 PM
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OP you're spewing a sob story for yourself. A truly confident man is 1/1000. All those good looking guys in her dms aren't what you think they are and until you realize everyone else is insecure, struggling, and unsure of themselves too then you'll never realize the way out of your situation
/r/seduction28/05/22 05:26 PM
1

Girls really do care about personality as much or more as looks on average. Psychological studies prove it, if you think the opposite you probably don't have the personality you think you do and it doesn't translate well to dating Sure looks make hooking up easier, but for finding a partner... girls won't take the good looking chump seriously. There's comfort in telling yourself something outside of your control is why you aren't getting anywhere in dating but that's the easy way out. Do the rea…
/r/seduction28/05/22 05:22 PM
1

My now girlfriend found out her mother had 2 months to live 20 mins before going out on our second date and she went anyways. Find someone who gives you that energy and dont waste your time with flakes. It's worth it
/r/seduction27/05/22 11:50 PM
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People are very capable of change, if they want to. That being said most people don't change
/r/seduction27/05/22 10:47 PM
1

Sometimes there’s some things I want to improve in my mindset or life decisions. And then I read shit like this and instantly feel better about where I am in life
/r/seduction20/05/22 05:33 PM
1

Okay oedipus
/r/seduction19/05/22 01:04 AM
1

I still disagree. I find more attractive and compatible women with less time invested in person than I do on apps and I’ve found using apps makes me a little more complacent with doing social things because I can find girls that fit the bottom of my standards on there
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:27 PM
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The apps are cool and all but I’ve found the time exchange just better suits IRL interactions. I’ve interacted with plenty of people on apps and it just feels like an inefficient use of time compared to just building a social life and meeting new people and just letting dating work for you. And I’m a good looking dude with a fun personality and a lot of depth, I’m not even sure how shittier the apps would be if I didn’t have those things going for me but deleting them stopped me from being lazy …
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:56 PM
1

Fair play
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:28 AM
0

Yeah totally. I don’t see a big reason to wait a ton of time personally but like it is nice to develop a connection and genuine care before having sex if they’re someone you see something serious with
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:20 AM
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For real, I’ve been dating someone for about a month and we just had sex for the first time. I could have earlier on but I had a conversation about how I took her seriously as someone I could have a relationship with and wanted to wait versus other girls I’ve had sex on the first date and not given a fuck about. Every connection is different depending on what’s going on and how you’re feeling.
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:09 AM
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Honestly one of the best things I’ve learned is that most of the advice on this subreddit is the blind leading the blind
/r/seduction16/05/22 12:43 AM
2

A) too analytical B) dating apps are trash, if you have a vibrant social life you don’t need dating apps. C) you’re probably looking too much on paper and not making connections with people instead
/r/seduction13/05/22 10:54 PM
1

Are you a high value man? Because with your take on relationships and looking at dating as so linear I would guess you’re relatively inexperienced People have preferences that are completely irrational and even unpredictable. A “high value man” can still get rejected and not see a different person as “2nd place or settling for less”. And that mindset shows me that you struggle to understand every individual is different and has different wants and needs and it’s not some binary process of 1s and…
/r/seduction13/05/22 10:35 PM
1

Calling men low value for detailing experiences is pretty low value in itself lol. In my personal story my only job was to be a wingman for my bro and to entertain her friend for him. If you don’t do shit like that for your friends you should probably re assess your friendships
/r/seduction13/05/22 06:27 PM
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Don’t care about wether or not you sleep with her. Have a fun time, physically escalate a tad. See what happens. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. If not another one will come around, there’s always another one
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:31 PM
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Nearly every girl can be that type of girl for someone they feel comfortable with. They key word is comfortable. If she know its just a fun time and it’s stress free to hangout and be something casual with you then she will be more open to that idea
/r/seduction13/05/22 03:58 PM
3

There is no maybe. It’s entirely personal. I could bring a girl to a boring ass place with boring ass people and have a killer time
/r/seduction13/05/22 08:37 AM
10

You can literally make a date out of anything. You’re overthinking it dude. gym dates hiking dates Restaurant dates Dancing dates Go to a museum Picnic in the park Amusement park Sports event Concert Netflix and chill Ice skating I’ve thrown girls on the back of my motorcycle and ripped to a club or grab coffee at a cool venue. It really doesn’t matter what you’re doing. What matters is you and your partner
/r/seduction13/05/22 02:11 AM
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It was just to be more casual you invite some friends I invite some friends because the two trying to date didn’t know each other other than a number exchange. I was talking to someone but non exclusive and she had a boyfriend so our job was more just to entertain each other rather than trying to date at all
/r/seduction12/05/22 08:56 PM
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You just have to flow. I’ve driven many girls away by lack of communication and I’ve driven girls away by being over communicative. Just learn the nice balance and let conversations die and restart and allow yourself to be away from your phone when you’re busy
/r/seduction12/05/22 07:14 PM
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Yup my current budding relationship was created because I went on a double date and found out my date had a boyfriend. So I was just respectful and had a great time. She hooked me up with her gorgeous and very cool friend shortly after
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:19 PM
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I get plenty of matches but not a lot of responses if I initiate. I’m a good looking dude. But I effortlessly pull women in person with my personality. I’ve just found I’d rather have my large social network and meeting strangers organically for dating.
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:38 PM
1

It adds value but you can easily be sad and getting laid a lot. Like any pleasure experience it can be abused as an escape
/r/seduction10/05/22 01:23 AM
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I’m described as a really nice guy and I do get a lot of girls. But I think the difference here being I’m nice because I’m nice. Not because I’m expecting anything. It’s the letting go of expectations that will allow you the freedom to both be yourself and make the connections you want. Your issue and many guys issue is they are nice because they think it will get them something, and there’s a sense of expectation that women will pick up on. Being nice does not get you laid, you should be nice b…
/r/seduction04/05/22 02:09 PM
1

Well and the other issue is I feel it presents an uneven power dynamic where you are purchasing another persons time so you’re communicating that you value their time more than your own
/r/seduction05/03/22 07:31 AM
1

It can be fun, that’s my take on it for myself. I understand others enjoy it but it doesn’t scratch that itch for me
/r/seduction05/03/22 01:11 AM
1

I don’t drink but I just love to go out and dance. I used to be a stripper so the moves usually do the talking hahaha Honesty drinking sucks and it’s for people who need a substance to feel comfortable in crowds
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:42 PM
4

Yeah I personally don’t cold approach very much, I go to places where I can dance and let my dance moves be the bait for girls. To each their own
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:08 PM
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Oh no hate to the dude. We chatted a bit afterwards but I think a lot of the guys on here tend to think of getting girls as a cheat code sequence or a math problem rather than a dynamic art and it can really backfire rather than going with a more natural on the fly approach
/r/seduction04/03/22 09:35 PM
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Unattractive people can often fuck a lot more because they’re available dating pool is usually a ton larger lol. I say 9/10 girls in a room I’m not interested in so I really gotta have my shit straight if I’m gonna connect with someone
/r/seduction30/01/22 04:17 AM
1

All the time. My friend has a running joke where he holds a clock up and sees how long it takes for me to get a number. It usually less than two hours. On New Years I went to an EDM festival and fucked a girl on the ground of a cramped hotel bathroom while my buddy was asleep on the bed lol. And I’m not into game or seduction or racking up numbers. That shit is dumb, I’m just here to have a good time until I want to settle down with someone I find really special and I think that’s where I find m…
/r/seduction30/01/22 04:11 AM
2

Generally speaking out of all the girls I’ve had over to my house in a one on one situation I’ve slept with the majority of them. Start with closeness. Move to a light cuddle and then move in to kiss and if they aren’t comfortable they’ll let you know and just respect that
/r/seduction13/12/21 10:48 PM
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Bro, if you get a girl over to your place you’re good. Just make a move. A girl is not willing to come to your place if she’s not down to do something and the few times they aren’t they’ll tell yoy
/r/seduction13/12/21 10:35 PM
1

Bro, if you get a girl over to your place you’re good. Just make a move
/r/seduction13/12/21 10:35 PM
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For real. I’m very introverted. I’m also very socially skilled and people thinking I’m an extrovert and I have a vibrant social life. Some people turn on their social switch when it benefits them and then prefer to be alone when they can be.
/r/seduction04/11/21 02:52 PM
1

A hooker
/r/seduction04/11/21 02:50 PM
2

I lift weights, ride motorcycles, play sports, hiking and will sink my teeth into any hobby really
/r/seduction01/07/21 04:01 AM
5

this book is recommended in here quite often
/r/seduction02/04/20 08:30 PM
2

Down. This place is a cesspool of the blind leading the blind anyways
/r/seduction09/11/19 10:38 PM
2

I’m not even gonna watch this video because the title is so wrong on so many levels.
/r/seduction09/11/19 09:20 PM
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I feel the exact opposite about cold approach now. Just don’t feel like sleeping around is really something that’s worth my time anymore. I have almost no motivation to fuck around with a chick if I’m not trying to date her. Went out with a girl tonight, she moved in for a kiss and I just slapped her with a friend side hug and sent her on her way. I’m gonna die soon and fucking randoms is just not worth it anymore
/r/seduction05/11/19 10:50 AM
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absofuckinglootely. I bromance hard with my guy friends and it just comes from a place of love and compassion and wanting your fellow bros to all win. I know a lot of people see the bromances as gay, but those people are also probably way too concerned about their sexual identity and masculinity
/r/seduction04/11/19 01:11 AM
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I agree. My experience as a late bloomer was a dude who was a bit socially inept when it came to women. I thought that sleeping with women was the answer to prove my worth or so.... and honestly after developing late physically and getting some charisma I started chasing women in terms of numbers as if I was behind my peers and the one thing I noticed after my body count was about 20 people that it really didn't mean a whole lot anymore. I thought I was so cool because I had slept with a lot of …
/r/seduction04/11/19 12:48 AM
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This seems like one of the fundamental issues with a lot of people in this sub. Y’all over complicate it. Like if you are already playing a game then sure but i wouldn’t come up with a drinking game just to get a kiss. Just ride the vibe and go for it when it’s right. EDIT: saw OP is a beginner, good for you OP. Once you build some more confidence in your game work less on games and tactics and more on just building tension and going for it
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:46 PM
1

Not particularly a good example. Besides Donald doesn’t have a good career going. His approval is sub 50% and he’s had to fire half his cabinet multiple times and face the threat of impeachment
/r/seduction04/10/19 12:06 PM
1

Fair enough, we all look for different things. For me if you have a well defined career and your life is in order on paper I’m going to assume your internal is pretty good.
/r/seduction04/10/19 03:13 AM
1

Things that improve your self esteem or confidence and overall feelings of self worth. Pick up a hobby, work extra hard at work, hit the gym more seriously, focus on your communication skills. Improve your appearance, read books, acquire a new skill. Try and go out and make friends, go on a run, go on a hike, try something new to work on finding new interests. If you do even a fraction of those things your value will improve. It’s best to put all your focus into one for a month or so and then mo…
/r/seduction03/10/19 07:46 PM
1

Oh most likely because Long term relationships require mutual investment. If you get into a relationship with someone who’s iffy about you it just creates a mismatch in investment where one person is always reaching and the other one feels like they’re settling
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:32 PM
1

Sometimes you don’t want an LTR. I’m a relationship guy myself and I’ve had times were I left a long term relationship and went on a wild binge of casual sex. As long as you limit the amount of times you do that and you’re honest with yourself it can be valuable to have a hoe phase or two. Especially as a guy where there’s less social stigma around being promiscuous. Man summer of 2016 is a summer I’ll never forget. That shit was wild, and it’s something I can look back on fondly. Now I’m in a b…
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:24 PM
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Yeah and it all goes into that supply and demand concept. When you’re confident another girl is around the corner you don’t have to pursue much. Sure I’ll over pursue on occasion if someone seems worth the effort but that’s an exception to a rule not a norm
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:15 PM
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The point was she looks good on paper. Career oriented, pretty, seemed like a social butterfly. That’s enough value to look into further. From my perspective I think you’re acting bitter if I’m being honest. Dating life not going well for you?
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:13 PM
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guy friends are different, but if it’s a common theme I would work on improving your value. When people see value you in you they’re pretty active in trying to be around you
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:11 PM
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Agreed. This girl I met 6 months earlier and we hadn’t seen each other since. Had thrown around getting drinks a couple times but never done it. I was dating someone for a minute I was thinking serious with and I just texted her joking about a mutual friend who got pregnant and really shouldn’t be having a kid and honesty I only texted her about it as an excuse to set up drinks because it had been so long. I did use the occasional group event as an invite to stay in contact and even though we ne…
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:08 PM
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Generally the more value a guy has, the more girls will try to date you. The fact you think this is terrible advice could mean more about you and less about the advice itself. Food for thought
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:08 PM
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Agreed. This girl I met 6 months earlier and we hadn’t seen each other since. Had thrown around getting drinks a couple times but never done it. I was dating someone for a minute I was thinking serious with and I just texted her joking about a mutual friend who got pregnant and really shouldn’t be having a kid and honesty I only texted her about it as an excuse to set up drinks because it had been so long
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:07 PM
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Anytime brother, if you ever need any advice anywhere just hit me up in the PM I’d be happy to throw you my number and give you the resources I have
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:48 AM
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Just keep at it. I started weighing 116lbs and dropped the bar on my face. At one point I got up to 195lbs and shredded but now I chill at about 170 and play sports and such. Just find things that give you confidence. For me, I’m confident when I’m reading books about life shit, getting good grades, have fulfilling friendships, and staying active. If you have nothing that makes you feel confident, start in one spot and work your way up there and then move onto the next thing. Find confidence in …
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:46 AM
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Bro gonna be real with you that sounds like excuses. My last long term girlfriend I pulled driving a 97 Subaru Outback with the back punched in, my car and room looked like borders filth, was living at my dads, worked like 6 hours a week and was a failing student, had zero career ambition and overall didn’t give a shit about anything important. The literal only thing I had going for me at the time was I was pretty swole and I had decent confidence because at 21 that was the only thing I thought …
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:40 AM
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Like what? There’s really no reason to not start building relationships with people. Male or female, friend or significant other
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:31 AM
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I was raised in a single parent household by a mom and had a sister. Something about old school chivalry I fuck with. But if a girl doesn’t try to match me she can get lost
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:30 AM
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You can move on and also leave the lines open. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. I met this particular girl 6 months ago and didn’t really put any effort into her until recently.
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:28 AM
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It happens. But when it happens consistently you need to check the mirror lol. There’s a few times I haven’t tried to sleep with a girl to prove a point(I ended up getting laid the next time because of it) or simply because I didn’t think the person was ready, or respected their more conservative nature and let it up to them. But this difference between 19 year old me and 25 year old me is 25 year old me is intentional about why he does what he does. If I’m not making a move it’s for a reason.
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:26 AM
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If I go out with a girl I pay, but if she doesn’t try to pay I’m not seeing her again
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:23 AM
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Interesting. I’ve had things like that happen before but never have I planned for them to happen or tried to make them happen. Did you go to the date as a friend trying to escalate or did you just go into it as a friend with an open mind?
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:22 AM
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Lol I’m the kinda texter who hits you back immediately. 12 hours later or never. And it’s usually 12 hours lol
/r/seduction03/10/19 04:19 AM
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yeah, most girls if they text you and are putting themselves out there like that will only do it once. Because they'll either A) take it personally like you aren't into them like that or B) They'll assume you don't have the balls and put you in the friendzone. It's usually B but don't worry man we've all been there. I let a girl I had hooked up with before come over and sleep in my bed for like 3 nights in a row and didn't have the balls to make a move when I was like 19. Shit happens. learn and…
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:30 AM
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Like I said earlier. Value recognizes value. She's easily a 9 and I live in beach city near Los Angeles. Has a master's degree, works with kids was the best looking girl at the rec sports league function I was at, and we have barely spoken and haven't seen each other in 6 months. If you have value, they'll spot it
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:09 AM
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Not true. This girl is easily a 9. I was at a co-ed sports function in Huntington Beach, CA about 6 months ago when I met her and she was easily the best looking girl out of the hundred or so active and decent looking people there, she has a masters degree and is about to start working with special needs kids herself. I've experience many situation's where good looking girls put themselves out there. This girl gave me options for a date and I haven't really spoken to her since we met in July. ​ …
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:05 AM
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Going into less detail I think the dominance thing has a point. I'm a pretty direct and straight to the point dude. I don't encounter flakes much and when I do I call that shit out.
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:01 AM
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I think there's a small amount of truth to this. For example she gave me two dates to choose from so I chose the latter, simply to convey I'm not chomping at the bit to see her I could have easily chosen today, then also picked a time so the schedule was more firm.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:58 AM
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They probably weren't interested then. move on.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:57 AM
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I feel it, that stuff happens. For example the girl I set up a date with in this text convo I had met in July. We barely spoke to each other at the time in person and I just rotated my way back to her when a situation gave me an excuse to text her.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:56 AM
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She's probably just not that committed or she's just passive by nature. Or a mixture of both. That's up to you to decide
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:54 AM
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Good point, I think we sometimes tend to say things in black and white to help clarity of our points.
/r/seduction02/10/19 10:03 PM
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Yeah Inner game is way more important that techniques and tricks and outer game shit. When I’ve truly been feeling it, it’s been game over for these hoes and I don’t think about strategies or body language at all versus when you’re not feeling your inner game I find myself trying every trick and tactic in the book. The feeling of being in a flow state in the dating world is so nice when you’re just flooded with availability and options
/r/seduction02/10/19 06:46 PM
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That I don’t agree with. Things happen naturally at different paces. Sometimes I close first day, sometimes it takes a couple weeks. Don’t really think too much on it and let it play out based on how I’m feeling the vibe. Just think every experience is different and if you’re in this just for the sex then you got some shit to work out.
/r/seduction29/09/19 12:13 AM
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It’s 2019, a significant portion of women will fuck on the first date. I’m not sure that’s news
/r/seduction28/09/19 06:59 AM
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Yeah there's a lot of push and pull with escalating.... if you're always escalating you're pursuing her and not the other way around. I like to get her to chase a little and then reward her
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:27 PM
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Yo OP get a decent amount of it done that way she can come over and you’re like “oh I already got a move on with it and then just have her help finish it for a sense of accomplishment and bust out the wine to celebrate. Boom. Y’all won’t spend too much time building it and she gets to feel like you both accomplished something
/r/seduction23/08/19 12:41 AM
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not really true, I told a girl interested in me I friendzone girls a lot.... she got friendzoned... sometimes we're just honest
/r/seduction31/07/19 09:43 PM
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People change, you should give her a chance but if you can’t let go of the past I wouldn’t try to force it
/r/seduction15/04/19 03:39 AM
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Nah you’re not an asshole at all. You said what you feel and I commend you for that. Those scars burn deep man
/r/seduction15/04/19 03:39 AM
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Exist and look approachable.
/r/seduction08/04/19 11:32 PM
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Tell her she’ll never have to worry about you walking all over her in the relationship
/r/seduction14/03/19 01:33 AM
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Invest in yourself. If you’re reading books, working hard on your school or career. Pushing yourself on the daily. Eventually You’re not going to have the mental capacity to give a fuck if a woman rejects you. It’s really hard to give a fuck when you’re reading self help/philosophy books everyday, working on your job and overall just getting shit done. You have so much else in your world that’s more important Keep pushing. The more you get rejected the more you’ll realize it’s not a big deal Don…
/r/seduction18/01/19 11:17 PM
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When I was living an unhealthy life I often tried to do drastic changes like this. They never worked. It wasn’t untill i made a conscious decision to attack each unhealthy habit one by one. Unearth the hidden meaning behind why my brain copes in such a manner and to create new healthy habits in exchange. Noble effort OP and I wish you the best luck with it. But i fear youre overestimating your effort and willpower. Read the book switch:How to change when change is hard Hopefully that will give y…
/r/seduction28/12/18 04:49 AM
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That’s not true at all. What they’re more turned off by is insecurity and low self esteem.
/r/seduction28/12/18 12:15 AM
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I’m surprised at the amount of good advice on here.
/r/seduction25/12/18 05:42 PM
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Make your words still about building attraction but your actions reflect your value in her. Take her out, open the door, do nice things, be vulnerable. Occasionally let her know how much you value and appreciate her. But also keep up the banter to keep things interesting. Seduction is about getting the girl, not keeping her. You’re onto a new level my friend, time to adapt. Don’t be afraid to seduce her now and again to make her feel important and such. But now is about building a fulfilling rel…
/r/seduction25/12/18 05:29 PM
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This is terrible advice
/r/seduction25/12/18 03:17 AM
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There’s always someone doing it better and some way you can be better. Maybe they’re getting more girls, higher quality women. Or they simply have better, stronger relationships and connection. Trust me I’ve felt that way too OP and it’s just using tips to keep your head in the game and not being complacent with yourself. Inside game and out
/r/seduction29/10/18 06:55 PM
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Just for you own benefit op, I don’t live near there but when you said “decent looking and built” my initial reaction was I thought you felt like you needed to qualify. I woulda left that out.
/r/seduction29/10/18 06:51 PM
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So there’s two fundamental problems with this statement 1.some of the worlds most intelligent people in the fitness industry don’t have good physiques.... Looks=\= content of knowledge.... Secondly I won podium on bodybuilding shows under 140lbs. OThe number on the scale doesn’t mean much in comparison to conditioning I was outweighed by 30+ lbs by some guys I beat.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/18 03:06 AM
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Gear is just another animal man. It amplifies everything you are, hard to explain it but gear is not the same as natty and there’s looks that just aren’t achievable without gear. I trained 5 years naturally, spent my all my free time learning about kinesiology and nutrition. Poured my heart into it and barely cracked 140 lbs at 5’8. 8 months after doing. Gear i was pushing 190. It’s just another animal especially for the people with poverty genetics
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:42 AM
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It’s not that expensive if you’re smart. Brew your own gear(super easy to do) and it costs about 4$ a vial and you can run 500mg test indefinitely for pennies on the dollar
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:08 AM
2

Gear made me start balding prematurely, pretty shitty but it was fun for a couple years just running through hoes and guys treating you like you’re better than they are
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:06 AM
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Nah you lose some nut size but nothing drastic in my experience. Like enough for you to notice but not someone else
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:06 AM
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Agreed with the just lift and gain muscle not cut when skinny fat. Impossible to be skinny fat when you got gains
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 06:04 AM
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Sounds like you’re just trying to brag to be honest, as a former competitive bodybuilder being buff isn’t a be all end all. It’s the confidence that’s getting you what you’re talking about, not the gains. Most women don’t give much of a shit about gains tbh. Although hoes definitely do, but they’re not worth the time
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 05:58 AM
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I’m curious what your thoughts are on this. It may have been intentional but if it wasn’t I’d like to hear what your opinion was to make it intentional
/r/seduction07/09/18 02:02 AM
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I’ve been told to go there a few times. I’m 24 so definitely will check it out
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:12 PM
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I live in Long Beach. Just moved here If you wanna go out sometime I’m down
/r/seduction06/09/18 07:17 AM
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I mean I wouldn’t say I was a total zero compared to other people but I sure felt like one. In high school the first girl i ever had sex with was a really trashy trailer park style girl. Her parents were tweakers and I lived in a upper middle class neighborhood. I basically started dating her because I knew she was slutty and I was almost 17 and still hadn’t kissed a girl yet and felt like I was drastically behind all my peers. Long story short like 2 weeks after i lost my virginity to her I fel…
/r/seduction13/06/18 05:08 PM
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You avoid feeling guilty by not lying. That sense of guilt is your own personal moral compass. What would you rather do? Betray your values and your sense of self or fuck some random That you’ll never connect with on a legitimate level with since your relationship is based off lies and deceit. I’m not judging you OP. I understand the mindset of trying to get laid.... but I don’t think destroying your sense of integrity is worth an easy lay.
/r/seduction09/05/18 08:07 AM
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No thanks I’ll just have women fuck me instead
/r/seduction04/05/18 07:12 AM
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Honestly I rely on my looks a bit too much, I don’t try all that hard and just kind of take the girls that throw themselves my way and make it easy. Nowadays I’m looking for more stable relationships and not random hoes so I’m working on being more of a risk taker. I’m very good at talking to people, genuine, I’m a comms major and have become very good at reading people but with women I’ve been conditioned to not really try at all so I’m trying to break that habit. The biggest things that help m…
/r/seduction04/05/18 06:23 AM
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One of my favorite moments was the first time I got a perfect 10. I did some shit I’m not normally used to. I was working at a gay bar(literally the best way to get women) and I finger wagged her over to me, spun her around. Danced on her then grabbed her phone out of her hand and put my number in it and kissed her on the cheek while she had her cheek next to mine when i was done with putting my number in her phone. I ignored her for about a month because I thought she was stupid(she was really …
/r/seduction04/05/18 01:11 AM
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This suit is black not
/r/seduction04/05/18 01:06 AM
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Wrong
/r/seduction12/04/18 02:05 PM
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Just ragging on you, i love short girls too. Just wanna throw them around and destroy their lower intestines
/r/seduction28/02/18 05:53 AM
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Yeah when you can squat 500 lbs a girl being your height doesn’t really matter
/r/seduction28/02/18 02:37 AM
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To piggy back on that People actually think I’m taller than i am now. Just because of my personality. It’s kind of humorous when people go “how tall are you 5’10-5’11?”
/r/seduction28/02/18 02:36 AM
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Was about to drop this aswell lol
/r/seduction27/02/18 09:39 PM
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I’m 5’8 and constantly was told i was too short for girls. I’m now 5’8 running through chicks at an alarming rate that i had to forcefully slow down because i was worried about my health. The moral of the story. You’re only as short as you think you are and it only limits you as much as you think it will
/r/seduction27/02/18 09:38 PM
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Yup, best place to meet women
/r/seduction08/08/17 03:50 AM
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I generally don't have sex when first meeting someone. Personally I just need to have some form of connection with a woman to merit fucking her. So I'm in the same boat as you. Ironically the first time I had sex on the first date I ended up dating that girl for over a year and it was my first serious relationship
/r/seduction05/08/17 06:15 PM
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Honestly at dance clubs or raves it's fairly easy to get quite a bit of pull without saying a word and then working that in afterwards. Most women in these environments are easier
/r/seduction05/08/17 10:10 AM
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Yup. The chances of her saying no is relatively very low if you've spoken for a few minutes enough to merit asking for it. They'll just give it to you and then not respond if they aren't interested
/r/seduction05/08/17 10:07 AM
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Honestly you can get almost any girls number if you've spoken for more than a few minutes. Even f they aren't interested they'll just not respond once they've given it out. You'll rarely find yourself rejected so I'm usually just pretty straight up about it. I'll either ask in conversation or if one of us trying to disengage from the interaction ill simply ask for it pretty straight up. Out of the hundreds of numbers I've gotten I've only been denied getting a number once
/r/seduction05/08/17 10:06 AM
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I work at a club and have gotten laid a lot since being in the scene. And in my experience I have not met a single woman I slept with that lasted more than a few weeks. The quality isn't there. I got bored of it fairly quickly. My advice for finding women to meet is to find some hobbies you like and then find organizations or online groups ect where you can meet people who have similar interests and you'll find it's easier to make those genuine connections you're looking for. I bodybuild so my g…
/r/seduction05/08/17 10:00 AM
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I hardly get denied flat out, but I'm not a cold approacher and usually if the person isn't into me it's mutual. Personally I think I would fair better if I did cold approach but for the most part I'm a very sociable person and I work at a club so meeting people is fairly easy
/r/seduction05/08/17 09:58 AM
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I'm 23 in a couple weeks and I was drastically different at 20. 20 is really young. Not that my age isn't but the rate at which you develop as a person in your early 20s is pretty staggering, I'm unrecognizable to people who knew me at 19/20 physically and act completely different with different values/goals/mindsets. Just stick to the process OP wether you're getting the results you want or not. They'll come around eventually. Also get in the gym. Gaining 70lbs of muscle over the past 6 years o…
/r/seduction05/08/17 09:52 AM
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I think it may be a little bit of a bigger deal to be a male virgin. Since culturally many women wait to have sex. But I'm a 22 year old male and I wouldn't engage with a woman who has little to no sexual experience. After experiencing what it's like to date older women ( my last girlfriend was 26 and I generally date women in the 24-28 range I have to say it's just better when you're around someone with more experience and it's a hassle trying to bring someone inexperienced up to speed if you'r…
/r/seduction01/08/17 01:31 AM
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I feel like if you've entered your early 20s and still haven't figured it out and are still a virgin. It's cause for concern. Personally(22 m) I haven't slept with a virgin since I was 17 and wouldn't consider dating one
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:31 PM
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get your heart stomped on enough you become a cold calculated fucking machine
/r/seduction18/07/15 04:27 PM
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