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Yeah, I'm beginning to see how the overthinking is futile.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 01:46 AM
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Thanks. Definitely working on it. I really want the marriage to work out, but I want to be equally okay that it doesn't work out, provided I did the things I need to do, on my terms.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:59 AM
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Maybe plate spinning is clumsy language. I'm not ready at all for that, based on the responses I've gotten. I'm just bantering, and trying to improve game, in the event things fall apart.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 11:30 PM
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Got it. Thanks for the distinction.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 03:05 PM
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I hope my personal trainer will let me rock out to the new Pissed Jeans album this a.m. I can't workout to pop. No way.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 02:54 PM
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She likes any opportunity to tell people what I do, however she demonstrates in other ways that she doesn't respect my career/hours/demands. I guess we can call it beta.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 02:38 PM
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Maybe I'm just looking for the RP solution to this dilemma/mental bind. Maybe I'm looking for easy shortcuts. Maybe there are none. Not sure how I let things on the homefront slip so badly. My career is almost as alpha as they come. I have abdicated too often to her over the past 11 years. I have to be done with that. Your final line brings to mind the tenets of CL (Constructive Living): Accept your feelings. Know your purpose. Do what needs to be done. I should revisit that, with respect to thi…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 02:04 PM
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Yep. Pretty much.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 04:37 AM
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Great stuff, and the main thrust of it probably holds true for me, sans a few details. To this day, I can't get her to admit any dissatisfaction/unhappiness with the marriage. Complete denial. I don't ask her anymore. It was probably a beta question to begin with.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:34 AM
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Nope. I'm pretty sure I had an established history of optimistic complacency, and general obliviousness. Not really a jealous bone in my body (for years). It was last March that I started to detect some jealousy in myself. I didn't know exactly where it was coming from, but I initially liked it -I was actually feeling something other than resentment/resignation. When I wised up and found the goods, I didn't like the jealousy as much anymore.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:12 AM
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You really hit on something. I'm still totally in her frame, at least most of the time. In fact, it's probably frame (rather than abundance mentality) that represents my biggest deficit.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 11:22 PM
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I just started recently. My libido problem is either psychogenic, or due to slow rebound from some bad habits. I'm starting to think it's more the former. I get around it with a lot of propping (zinc, ashwagandha, etc).
/r/askMRP22/03/17 11:11 PM
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I don't actually want/need an affair. I need an abundance mentality. I need to outgrow this paranoia mentality.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 10:48 PM
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Thanks. Solid commentary.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 10:43 PM
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Definitely can't unsee it. Blessing, and a curse. Seems to match my experience, however.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 09:59 PM
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I obviously opt for the latter option, though I feel like plate-spinning on the side might help my outlook. Working through some inertia in that area.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 09:56 PM
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That last line. Fantastic.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 09:54 PM
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I seem to be doing pretty well, and I'm not ungrateful, but the lingering insecurity has real effects that have dogged my progress. The worst irony of the situation is that my libido has been hit really hard from the stress/insecurity.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 09:49 PM
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Had I not made the discovery a year ago, I might have never known I suffered from oneitis. Getting over this, and spinning plates, would help me tremendously. However, I question how to effectively do this. Spinning plates seems a lot easier for a single guy. Cop out?
/r/askMRP22/03/17 09:39 PM
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I brought one kid to the marriage. I have three with my present wife. Not enthusiastic about starting over/spinning plates, although I could learn to love it.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 08:22 PM
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Agree completely. MRP/Rational Male really woke me up, although I didn't want to believe it. Another source of anxiety, but one that has prompted numerous improvements on my part. I'm getting everything I want right now, but it still exists in an environment of uncertainty that I haven't been able to come to grips with. That's the rub.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 08:06 PM
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The show is called Way Out. Kind of a Twilight Zone analog, but with the usual skepticism of female characters one would expect from Dahl.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 04:28 PM
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