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Just sounds kind of shallow and like you just want A girl and don't care much about who she is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:26 AM
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My fantasies rarely match up with reality in any case, not just men. That's the nature of fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:54 AM
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They're the same principal. Do you honestly just go around basing your morality solely on harm done? It's just okay to be evil if you don't hurt enough people to matter I guess. You're sexist and I hope you realize it one day. Self hate isn't cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:12 AM
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Why does misogyny need to come first? I see misandry and misogyny as equally immoral and think it's sexist to treat one as a lesser evil. And yes, while men need to improve, that need should not distract from what women do wrong. I'm not telling you to control women, I'm just asking that you stop trying to sweep the bad behaviour of women under the rug.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:46 PM
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Okay. And? You're just being dismissive and distracting from women's bad behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:31 AM
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This is just a distraction tactic. "Don't pay attention to the rampant misandry, don't you know men kill more men than woman kill men?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 05:55 PM
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No actually I have this thing called "empathy", and when people take advantage of socio-economically disadvantaged nations to nab a mail-order-bride, I think that's disgusting. But you don't actually want to have your mind changed, so you are just going to say to yourself "yeah she's just scared all the amazing passportbros will never date her"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:35 AM
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There's a difference between looking for a hook up and hoping that something casual becomes more
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:44 PM
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Rampant misandry caused me to stop identifying as a feminist almost a decade ago
/r/PussyPassDenied19/02/25 02:39 AM
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Of course you expect a long term partner to prove their worth. You discard a hook up once you're done with them, you want to actually keep a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:59 PM
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Stop using statistics to project intent on individual women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:12 PM
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I have a range of political beliefs. Some beliefs can have a compromise, some absolutely cannot. Any dehumanizing or murderous beliefs are non negotiable, complete rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:04 PM
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This is objectively false, baseless and ridiculous. That's not how people work. Please go outside and talk to a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:55 PM
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Honestly men and women need to stop being hypocrites, crying while being mistreated, then turning around and doing the same thing. The way feminists and TRP echo each other is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:38 PM
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It entirely depends on the people in the relationship. There's no easy answers, no cheat codes, you might get something different with every person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:18 AM
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It's ridiculous to believe feminism was never about that. Women used to not be able to vote, obviously it didn't start out as griping over microaggressions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 06:01 PM
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You’re Told to Self-Improve, But Success Isn’t Guaranteed. Okay. So? Name anything in life where success is guaranteed. "Do It for Yourself, Not for Women" – But What If You Have No Choice? You entirely miss the point. Do it for yourself, period. Dating isn't even a factor. Do it for you. Even When You Date, The Energy Rarely Matches. This is just point 1 again. End Result? Resentment Towards Women. If improving yourself makes you suddenly hate women, something's wrong with you. Self improvement…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 06:38 AM
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Isolating "hypergamy" as this unique thing is misleading. Most creatures are opportunistic. We want more resources, more fun, and we want it to be the best it can be. Some people are more compromising than others, or aren't as high maintenance, or more easily satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:06 PM
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I don't think I'm exaggerating, because I consider men to be full people with full emotional needs. I think you are selling men very short by implying so many would be satisfied by false companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:36 PM
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It's definitely worse, but I think the source is still the same halo effect. But men don't worry about sexual assault the way women do, so that fear wouldn't usually be projected onto an ugly woman by a man.' I'm not making any statement of it being justified or anything, just how I think it likely works.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:14 PM
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They don't fear them, but they likely project negative personality traits onto them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:05 PM
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Unless the AI becomes actually sentient and capable of feeling emotions, it won't be enough for some people. There was an episode of Star Trek: TNG where Data briefly dates a crewmate. By the end, the crewmate realizes that even though Data could make her happy, she could never make him happy, and that didn't work for her. Some people will be pleased enough with a one way relationship with an object that gives the illusion of true reciprocation, some will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:01 PM
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Teaching a man how to read sounds like a scenario straight out of a romance novel
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:48 PM
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I don't think this is a woman problem, but a human problem: the halo effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:38 PM
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TRP and modern feminism are two sides of the same coin, and that coin is sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:55 AM
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I never said men should just accept it. They should absorb the information and make a decision. They shouldn't immediately assume everything is secretly about their own inadequacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:21 PM
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I would be intrigued at the thought of it, but only as something to keep in the realm of imagination where I can add whatever romance I require into the scenario. In reality, however, I would not find the situation sexy at all. I would have no interest. There is nothing for me to resist because a key component of my desire is totally absent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:18 PM
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Well yeah, I'm just saying that yourself shouldn't be your focus at first. Process what they are saying first at least, just delay the self focus for a moment and it's good. Also don't assume someone else's issue is secretly all about you without due cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:47 AM
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You think when someone tells you about something they're dealing with you should immediately think all about how it personally affects you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:35 AM
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If someone says "hey I have this issue" you shouldn't immediately think to yourself "oooh poor me". That goes for men AND women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:03 AM
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It's a meaningless little disclaimer when you immediately go on to list all the ways the woman might actually be lying or messing around
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:07 PM
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Well that's not what your post was about. Your post was about making assumptions about women's motivations, and invalidating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:58 PM
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Many more people than you think aren't just down to bang. And not everyone uses the label demisexual because honestly the validity of it is dubious. People shouldn't hide their red flags. When my boyfriend asked me out, I literally told him he would have to wait a long time for me to be okay with advancing things. He understood me and reassured me, because he cares more about being a decent human being than he cares about getting off. If he had taken off right then and there, that just tells me …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:47 PM
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You're not sexually attracted to him enough to enjoy a potential no-strings-attached sex, Are you not aware that some people do not enjoy casual sex at all? Like, it doesn't matter who its with, the concept holds no appeal. If a guy doesn't understand that, and instead decides to make it all about his own self consciousness, it's honestly better he takes off. You think his time and body is worth less than yours, i.e. by having sex you're doing him a favor. No, it just means you need extra time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:33 PM
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If someone pretends to want something more than sex from you, then dumps you the moment they get sex, that's being used for sex. Your comment about it being pleasurable or not demonstrates a staggering lack of emotional intelligence on your part.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:14 AM
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They probably just told you to have realistic expectations and you didn't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:59 AM
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So you're not ignorant, you're just an unsympathetic jerk. Even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:39 AM
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Social issues aren't something you can just shed to become a charismatic cool guy out of sheer will. You might as well tell them to pull themselves up by their bootstraps, it's similarly useless and insulting. You have no idea what you're talking about, so you really shouldn't be on your high horse judging people. If you've never suffered from severe social anxiety, or if you've never had a terrible situation happen that made you afraid to reach out, just stop talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:25 PM
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Okay but like I said, that's not all men's experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:38 PM
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It's not wholly self inflicted just because some guys are their worst enemy. It's definitely not that way for every man who feels lonely. There's no single cause or single remedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:38 PM
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She's stealing makeup to make herself look like that
/r/PussyPassDenied15/01/25 02:48 AM
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If they weren't people he actually knew, and they were all thirst posters, then yes I'd have a problem. If he wants to look at some boobs online, fine, but it he can't be actively following specific people like that. There's too much of a parasocial aspect to it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 07:44 PM
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I hoped that was the case. It kind of sounded like you were saying all men have to suppress their murderous urges that they all have
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:05 AM
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Men rape, kill, steal... It's in our hormones, some of us are more animal than human. We know this Did you mean for this to sound extremely horrifying or was that a mistake?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:42 PM
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Women desire to be seen as the trophies of rich men You would think that the goddamn RED PILL of all things would understand what a gold digger is. And yet I routinely see posts here from very confused men who seem to think women are just interested in men who have money because the money makes him sexier somehow. No dude, women throw themselves at wealthy men for a taste of his wealth. They don't love being accessories for the sake of it. They want to get paid, they want to get spoiled. Again y…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:28 PM
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There are women who want that kind of thing, they exist. What I cannot stand though, is that RP men treat it as if all women are like that. They pay lip service to the fact that women are not a monolith, but in all their rhetoric it's clear they don't truly believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:42 AM
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I've never put anything in front of legislators. I was just sharing my opinion on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:10 PM
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I think it's only fair that a man be able to opt out of parenthood if a woman is allowed to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:04 PM
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That's not why they justify it at all. They justify it so they can be as sexist as they please but without acknowledging it for what it is. The same reason people insist racism means something different now. It's all for the effort of being able to fight dirty against a perceived oppressor class.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 09:24 PM
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Sex IS special. Not because it's magical or holy or sinful. But because it matters to us as people a lot. We make things special by feeling a certain way about them. I don't see how that stands in the way of prosecuting the crime either. Obviously the shame surrounding sex is an issue, but that doesn't mean we have to see it on the same level as taking a stroll in the park. It's not just some other human activity. We're wired a bit differently from other animals, we place significance in all sor…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 09:20 PM
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Go ahead and accuse your wife of cheating. Deal with the consequences of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:27 AM
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Self improvement is for the self, not anyone else. Though others may benefit, it's not about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 12:42 AM
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Lol fair point. Well I agree with flerfers that the government is full of liars, so you could say we don't disagree on literally everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:58 PM
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For some women, that's very much the case. It's easily observable throughout history. Status usually means money and power. That means safety and luxury. Humans are often shallow and petty. Humans are often opportunists. That obviously includes women. But I have to stress that not all women are the same. You can't use this information as a cheat code, you cannot apply it to all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:57 PM
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I don't see what that matters at all, other than to discourage people. Self improvement is its own reward. Doing it for another reason just sets you up to want to give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:49 PM
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So half the population of humanity is just intrinsically born not making sense, is that what you're saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:18 PM
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I am not advocating for misogyny, If you advocate for TRP, yes you are. Also its a false equivalency, because Feminism has Systemic backing. It's not a false equivalency. Both are bigotry. Both are wrong. The frequency of a wrong act says nothing about the morality of each individual instance. I would argue that it's viewing men and women from a primatological lens rather than the sociological claims that Feminism relies on Why is this primatological lens valid? Because to me it just looks like …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:16 PM
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Wow that's really cool that you think you get to call any opinion redpill as if it automatically means it is the correct opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 12:07 PM
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Modern Feminism being full of misandrist crap doesn't make the misogynist crap in TRP more valid. Redpillers are so convinced they're being scientific about everything, but all they do is read statistics and try to figure out what that means from their uninformed perspective. Because they entirely reject any input or information from women, they try to guess and theorize about women like looking at an alien in a containment cell.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:42 AM
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You don't need to reference economics to realize self improvement is good. It's literally the word itself, self-improvement. No need to make it so complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:19 AM
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Ah yes, because some advanced philosophy class is the same as normal daily life. You got me Also I wasn't making the comparison to say they are exactly the same. It IS packed full of pseudoscience, but the superficial similarity is not why.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:17 AM
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Yes, and saying "alpha fucks beta bux" sounds as stupid as saying "Nasa LIEntist"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:10 AM
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I see flat earth content too. So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:04 AM
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Saying something like "she's out of your league" is much more vague than talking about high value and low value men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:56 AM
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TRP is the flat earth of sex and dating. Both have been noisier lately, but normal people all think you're nuts. No normal person talks about "SMV" or ask questions like "Can women even feel love?"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:12 AM
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Get offline once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:23 AM
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So you would argue that without this conditioning, women are just heartless and their love for their children is unnaturally induced by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:36 AM
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Everyone should love their family a lot, as long as they aren't shitty or abusive. What are you on about OP? No one should have to give everything, but devoting time and effort to loved ones is good. No human lives without being cared for, we aren't born independent. Also you're wording this like the man implants love into the woman's brain, like she doesn't naturally have that love in herself, by herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:29 AM
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Jean Luc Picard
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:10 AM
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It's fair if both parents have the choice to reject parenthood. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 01:12 AM
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He should get to completely opt out at the fetus stage, to make things fair. Have nothing to do with it even after its born if that's his choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:47 AM
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What child? We're talking about a disposable fetus. If the mom is allowed to kill it, the dad should be allowed to abandon it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 12:12 AM
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Then a woman could simply hide her pregnancy until its no longer legal to kill, to force a man to pay up when he would have opted out had he known.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:56 PM
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They considered the fetus to be that child. THAT's the real difference. It is the first life stages all of us had to go through to be born. It's not some object far removed from us. Basically it's up to the mother's whims whether it's a meaningless clump of cells, or her precious child. The father's opinion doesn't matter at all. For him, he's supposed to always see it as an object for the mother to do with as she pleases. Following this logic, why would it be so wrong for a father to view it as…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:43 PM
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It really depends on whether or not this introduces stress or drama into our lives. Is the Ex chill or is she vindictive? That kinda thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:52 PM
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I agree that some women probably think like that, sure. I don't associate with beauty obsessed 20 year olds so I've never met any woman like this in my life. I certainly don't think like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:34 PM
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Oh big time. Not just sexist but completely brainless too. I thought it was the stupidest thing ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:59 PM
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If legality was all that mattered, you should fully embrace and accept Roe V Wade being overturned. See why harping on legal definitions doesn't work?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:38 AM
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People don't mourn a miscarriage like they do a precious family photo going missing please, get real for a second. We mourn our dogs because we loved them, not as items, but as members of the family. As a living being that we wanted to be around for longer than we got. When someone has a miscarriage, they mourn their child. Pure and simple. If the personhood is not subjective, you think everyone who is sad about a miscarriage is mourning literally nothing like the death of a child. By your logic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:41 AM
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That's simply not true. Why do people mourn their miscarriages if fetus non-personhood is an objective fact? If a fetus is never a person and can always ethically be exterminated, it is not worth mourning, and any sadness is entirely irrational. That alone proves the subjectivity of fetus personhood. It is literally up to the stance of the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:38 AM
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The ethical and moral justification for abortion is rooted in the lack of personhood of a fetus How can you be the parent of a non-person? If the mother can decide it's not a person, the father should be able to as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:02 AM
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It being illogical, basic human behaviour doesn't mean it's not also sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:10 PM
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Experience only affects your own perception, and can contradict objective reality. So just saying people have different experiences is a complete nothing burger of a statement. I've already explained why this reasoning makes no sense, and someone's personal experience doesn't change the reality outside of their own mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 12:51 PM
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Well that's just bullshit, because if that was a genuine safety precaution, literally everyone would have to do it. But since the vast majority of men and women get by without such restrictions, clearly it is not required for safety. So that's just a completely nonsensical and invalid reason. Sexism can be motivated by fear, not just by malice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 12:37 PM
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Yeah, and that's sexist too. Obviously, blatantly, undeniably sexist. How is it not? Tell me, how could it possibly not be sexist to exclude someone from your life based solely on their sex, ignoring all of there personal worth and merit?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:50 AM
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Relationships, sure. Friendship is really weird to me. I do think it's sexist to exclude an entire sex as possibly being friends with them based solely on their sex. That's kind of the definition, isn't it? It gives me the same vibe as someone who refuses to associate with white people as much as possible. They defend it as not being racist with a bunch of history and past wrong doing, but in the end it's still racist as hell. Not saying the guy should be looking for female friends, but he shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 10:43 PM
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If a freedom fighter doesn't want to fight for freedom, I don't know what I could possibly say to them. What makes a woman under Taliban rule less worthy of being freed than any other person facing terrible oppression? Why would the line be drawn at women? What kind of freedom fighters am I even talking to here? Freedom fighters do what they do BECAUSE it's the right thing to do. If that's forbidden as part of my argument, then why would a freedom fighter liberate anybody? If justice is not the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:45 PM
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Why should I turn down someone for being short? You say I should do it and it's good, but why? Why do you think all preferences are worth sticking too? People prefer stupid shit all the time. People pay for overpriced merch because it's name brand, when a non name brand would do just as well or better for less. That's the exact same logic. Why should I live my life like an airheaded twat?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:55 AM
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I like tall, but I'd be a fool to turn down a short king just for that. Not all preferences should be heeded equally. What matters is what will bring the most happiness and quality of life, not something as petty as height. If I'm happy every day with someone, I don't care what they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:59 AM
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It really depends on how it happens or how he expresses it. Example, if a guy told me he loved me and we knew each other for like a week, that would put me off. Not because love is a turn off, but because the speed in which he got to that level sends off alarm bells.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:44 PM
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He clearly thinks that there is something wrong with casual. He thinks it diminishes your worth as a long term partner. He can claim all day long that there's nothing wrong with it, but his real opinion on the matter is clear. So I'd ask why is a filthy casual sex haver worth listening to? He's not worth having a relationship with by his own metric, so he has no place assessing the LTR worth of others. He's all used up and not worth more than a lay, his opinion not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:48 AM
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For real. I bet OP is at a loss at how women can stand to be a turn off to men like him, as if we're foolishly limiting our options. Being single is better than being with someone so blatantly, cartoonishly sexist, it's not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:44 AM
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Because they like her and they want to be with her? I think you know that though. I think you just made this post to be shitty to women you think are inferior to you, and you understand exactly why. You can't be so out of touch to not know some people want love and not just sex. Also, you goddman hypocrite, you're looking for casual. Why aren't you a useless piece of shit for sleeping around?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:20 AM
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There's a plethora of examples of the "nice guy" tm. Just a quick google search will show you the hallmarks of "nice guy" behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:23 AM
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The fact that you think women are out there hunting for "top tier" sperm, and that prostitutes bring you companionship, says a hell of a lot. In reality, having billions doesn't make you not want love and ACTUAL companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:40 AM
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The net good vastly outweighs the bad. It's not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:46 AM
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You're just talking about healthy, true love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:25 AM
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I can see the argument for conscription of both sexes. Also, repopulation is for recovery, not winning a war.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:29 PM
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Forced to fight, sure, I can see the argument for that. Forced to breed? Are you crazy? What are a bunch of babies going to do for the war effort? Even if they had a baby for every war casualty, that's just a bunch of fucking babies, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:40 PM
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So men using his terminology and referencing him as the source of their beliefs just don't exist to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:25 PM
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Only if their opinions are that the person is bad for me or dangerous to be with. If that was the case I'd take their words to heart and do some thinking. If it was about being short or poor, I don't care. The opinions of shallow materialistic people have no worth to me. And I'm not saying this to be all "look at my halo", this is just genuinely my natural feelings about such things. I hate shallowness, and I hate its omnipresence. Unfortunately, there are a lot of shallow people out there. Inst…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:56 PM
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To imply that a relationship is a need that you must fulfill. That's what gets people to stay with abusers, or go with the first person who will have them even if they get treated like dirt. You don't need a romantic relationship to survive. Meaningful friendships are more than fulfilling enough if your only other option is to be with an abuser.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:09 PM
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Nope that's completely wrong. It's better to be happy alone than miserable with a shitty partner. You're spreading harmful, awful things and you really should never say or imply them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:17 AM
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Does this male friend explicitly use these bullshit "value" terms? Or does he just have a girlfriend he wants to "fix". Those are two very different things. I'd never be friends with a man or woman who unironically believes in this value system.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:12 PM
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Before I became an adult, yes. Especially in high school. But now, the company I keep is much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:17 PM
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This is complete nonsense. Negative consequences is just cause and effect. Any time you make a bad choice, there are negative consequences somewhere. That's how we know it's a bad choice. You might as well say "it's beneficial to society if women fall down when they trip".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:33 AM
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Everyone has the luxury to hold out for someone. No one has to be with anyone they don't want to. This is not a uniquely female trait. You're not gonna die without a relationship, so don't enter one that isn't good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 07:01 PM
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Women will never experience this because no man would react this way. I know this because this is scenario is crafted specifically to make women reading it feel a certain way. It doesn't reflect any reality that exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 07:00 PM
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Important question, did he cheat multiple times, or did his ex? If he was the cheater, it would be over for me. I don't deal with people like that. If he was cheated on, I would want to understand his thinking. Why is he responding to his past this way? Can we fix this and move past it or not? I know this is obviously supposed to be a mirror to women who are promiscuous in the past who want to be more chaste in the present. But I can understand the regret of a woman who wants to avoid mistakes o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:57 PM
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So the average woman you see just walking around does it for you? She doesn't have to be particularly sexy? Because I hear guys insult average looking girls as being ugly all the time, so I don't know what to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:01 AM
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How much time and energy do you think I have? I can't go through life finding everyone sexy, trying to date 20 people at once. Do men just spend their lives constantly being turned on by most women they see?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 12:29 AM
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You don't think finding out a threat has been cut down to a sixth makes sense as a concept?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:03 AM
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If you were convinced there are six, finding out there is only one IS a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:25 AM
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There's a difference between a straw man and playful hyperbole. I wasn't trying to pass that off as a quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:16 PM
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Oh no Roe v Wade, that means literally all rights are out the window let's panic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:05 PM
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Sure. But it won't be the death of freedom people are squawking about. America isn't going to become A Handmaiden's Tale
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:02 PM
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Yeah. Why be terrified of incompetent buffoons?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 08:52 PM
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People's rebuttal is always 'BUT PROJECT 2025", Like okay, but judging how his wall plan went, I'm not that worried for America.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 10:00 PM
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Yeah, they don't fit the Chad archetype. The Chad archetype isn't the only type that women find attractive. I mean, I don't need to say much more than that. The fact that you even ssid that just demonstrates how little you understand women. You tell on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:39 AM
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Abortion is not about parenthood, but bodily autonomy Women already have bodily autonomy, it's just women have the unique position of being able to have bodies inside their own body. Equality is desirable, but you have to tell biology first No biological equality required. We can reach equality by allowing a man to freely abandon his child the same way a woman should supposedly be able to freely abort it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:23 AM
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Just because you had one preconcieved notion doesn't mean you can't ever have one again. You are rejecting what I've said because it contradicts the nonsense you've been filling your head with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:55 AM
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What ugly guys do women have posters of?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:54 AM
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So you asked a question, I answered it, and you reply with "Your answer doesn't match my preconceived notions, so I reject it" Not to mention the fact that what you said doesn't even remotely contradict what I said at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:12 PM
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No woman becomes physically attracted to a man because he has money. They want his money and are very willing to sleep with him to get access to it. Women and men both just like money. Our material desires aren't very different from each other. Women and men both like access to resources and comfort, but women are much more able to use sex to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:34 PM
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How is this even a question you're asking? The answer is, some women prioritize money over attraction. Money can give you the life of your dreams. THAT'S what's attractive. Some men in this sub really think women are these incomprehensible alien beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:27 PM
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A lot of Redpill stuff seems to be about how humans are inherently sociopathic and evil and the way to win life is to be the most sociopath of all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 11:58 PM
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If you consider looking out for someone young and inexperienced to be "infantilizing" them, well I'm sorry to tell you I'm gonna be infantilizing people until the day I die. You're either lying or ignorant if you think a 20 year old isn't more impressionable than someone much older than they are. Especially when you want so badly to prove how adult you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:28 AM
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I've never wanted a number of a stranger. Doesn't matter how handsome or sexy they are. I don't get that attracted to a stranger because it's just surface level at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:23 PM
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Awareness and understanding of one's own emotions and the emotions of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:50 AM
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Okay then no one should help anybody because they might be a rapist or a nazi or they might shoot animals with BB guns for fun. It seems stupid to pretend that a misandrist is the worst kind of person you might accidentally help.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:59 AM
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So this is really just a dumb semantics argument
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:42 PM
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You really think that when a woman says she wants a sensitive guy, she truly and knowingly means she wants a simpering, whiney, self-important loser?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:17 PM
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No, not even remotely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:56 AM
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self-absorbed. inhibited, insecure melancholic helpless There are a lot of other words in here besides merely "sensitive". Seems excessively cherry picky to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:06 AM
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I've never heard a woman describe a sensitive man that way. It's usually about being emotionally intelligent and socially skilled, like the examples given.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:56 PM
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My father is not the best guy. Nothing horrific, but he was not a good father. I would definitely consider any of his warnings about bad men because it takes one to know one. I would not trust his advice on good men, because his judgment would be almost entirely based on their salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:47 PM
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Just talk to people. There's your lesson.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:53 AM
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No. Never has been, never will be. People convince themselves they need all sorts of things, but it's not true. Become obsessed with something, or convinced something will give you what you always wanted, you will believe you need it. There's so much more stuff that can fulfill, validate, or relax you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:51 AM
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It would only bother me if he was unreasonably stingy, but that would bother me with any guy. If he literally never did anything nice for me I wouldn't like that. At some point I would feel like he viewed making me happy at all was too much of an expense, never allowing for anything but bare minimum spending even on birthdays or holidays. I'm not a high maintenance girl, I'm happy with ordering a pizza for a date night, or getting a plushy as a gift. So if he deems even that too costly even on a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:00 PM
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Feelings being subjective is something that matters outside the person feeling it. Outside of the person it is subjective. But objectively they are feeling it. It is real to them so it affects them. You can acknowledge the realness of feelings without believing they are accurate to reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:27 PM
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Excitement always takes a bit a drop when the novelty of a new thing has ended. That goes for literally everything, not just sex. Can you name a single thing that you maintained peak excitement for with no dips at all? Can you watch your favourite movie and feel the exact same way? You still love your favourite movie, and you keep coming back to it, but you know it so well that it's a comfy part of your life. It's not a death sentence, it just means things cool down a little. And maybe instead o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:26 AM
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I was a late bloomer, and I've pretty been at the same level since I first became interested in sex. I definitely have strong desires but they never feel overpowering or overwhelming. It's sort of like a favourite food type of thing, I'm very interested but if I don't get it my day isn't ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:50 AM
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Personally I can't see myself being swayed by looks. I'd have to feel something so strong for the guy that it would sway me. A pretty face isn't gonna cut it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:09 AM
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Nothing. I don't know him. If he asked me out without knowing me at all, I find that a little suspicious. No matter who they were, which sex, how they look like, if a complete stranger comes up to me and suddenly wants to spend time with me, I would be suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:17 PM
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I think both are shallow but both are acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:21 AM
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It would be up to her to communicate and be open about her needs. Make your wants and needs known to the woman as well. You'll be able to understand her goals more if there is communication. Basically just talk. If you're worried about something, talk about it. Whether or not you can have these conversations is a good indicator of how well the relationship will work out. When my boyfriend asked to start dating, I told him straight out that he'll have to wait for me. I told him I have a lot of is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 08:29 PM
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What can you gain from talking? Oh I don't know, mutual understanding, newfound respect, improved communication, better relationship, better sex... all these things are possibilities. Not guarantees of course, but possibilities. It's not this lost cause you think it is. So what if her ex was bigger? She's not dating a penis, she's dating a whole human being. Not every man in the world is going to have the best penis, I mean technically only one man can have the best, and yet relationships contin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 06:13 PM
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My empathy ends when someone reacts very poorly to their emotions. If the man in this situation cried his eyes out, I would feel bad for him even with such a strong response. But to just immediately break up without even talking about it first is so dumb I can't feel bad for that guy any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:28 PM
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I'd feel bad, but just how bad I would feel depends on how it got said to me. But yeah, I'd feel negatively either way. I would feel glad that they changed their mind in the end, and it wouldn't ruin the relationship. It would be something I ask them about and feel a little insecure about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 06:22 AM
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I definitely think that this is a huge part of it. A lot of men think their experience of sexuality applies to all men, so they go around saying "all men will pick an 18 year old over a 29 year old" or some variation of how all men want the youngest possible legal woman and that's the defining factor of picking a partner. I do want to say though that there would always be a certain type of woman who would always be down on men. I just want to acknowledge that so it doesn't look like I think men …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 07:17 PM
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Okay what happens when this woman doesn't get choked? Does she crumble into a complete self-hating crisis? That's what's unhealthy, the reaction to not having the desire fulfilled. If you crumble completely when you don't get exactly what you want, you're a dysfunctional human being. And again, if a man was just expressing that he was struggling with his feelings that's one thing. But in this scenario we are talking about immediately breaking and giving up on any possible alternatives. Your feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:10 AM
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I don't find the need to be the best at something to be a healthy or good need. No one is going to be the best all the time, so the sooner they learn to accept that, the better. Not every emotional reaction you have is one you should keep. Being obsessed with being the best lay ever is gross to me because it's just so immature and dysfunctional to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:23 AM
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Obviously it wasn't enough to make her want to break up, so there's no pressing need to communicate. The man in this situation is having a complete crisis, hence he needs to communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:46 AM
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No, it's running away. If you want to do something pathetic you have the right. But don't cry about how it makes you look. Deal with it. Maybe deal with your terrible self esteem too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:45 AM
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Throwing a fit over self esteem issues? It reminds me of a child crying because they haven't won first place. If you're that immature maybe you shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:42 AM
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Well I don't want to be with anyone with that mentality, I think it's gross. Either a guy has to work his way out of that mind set, or I won't see him as a viable partner. You're just making your own lack of confidence everyone else's problem instead of being mature about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:40 AM
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Tell her how it made you feel, ask her why she feels that way, see what can be done to communicate about sex better, become a healthier couple? Is talking like an adult just that foreign a concept?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:38 AM
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I have sympathy for being hurt, but if you react like a pathetic insecure baby I'm not gonna feel bad for you. I'm just going to feel bad for all the people you hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:35 PM
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Talking? Communicating? Admit that you overheard it, tell your SO how much it hurt you and say this is something that needs to be worked through. Then talk about it together, see what can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:28 PM
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Yeah I understood. I think it's completely understandable and valid to have your feelings very deeply hurt by overhearing that. But to break up without even trying to address it like a grown adult? Completely pathetic. I have no sympathy for someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:17 PM
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Understandably? Nothing about that is understandable. Having hurt feelings, sure. But break up? That's pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:07 PM
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Why would he even know how he ranks? If he asked me to rank him, I'd be kind of off put. Who cares where he ranks, we chose to be together. I'd never tell a guy "my exes were better in bed". That's weird and fucked up. He'd never find out he wasn't the best because I wouldn't tell him that. If a man left me for such a pathetic reason, I would be roasting him to anyone willing to listen. I'd try and protect as many women as possible from wasting their time with such a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:06 PM
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I'd want to be the stay at home one, so I'd end up being jealous of a stay at home husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:12 PM
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Because not all women are rational beings who make good choices for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:05 PM
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I agree with your title, but describing revealing clothing as "violating modesty" is a huge red flag as soon as I begin to read the body of your post. And your examples are all about petty social media vanity posts. Not something meaningful or substantial. You got up to give your big speech and that's the example you went with? Just makes it sound like you have nothing to actually complain about. There are actual examples of women supporting women when they ought not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:38 PM
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You don't understand what a "Nice Guy tm" is. The entire point of a "Nice Guy" is that he is not a nice guy. If you were a decent person, you were not a "Nice Guy"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:47 PM
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I'm aware. When I was growing up, it was right wing moral panic that was the source. Purity culture and all that. Save yourself for marriage or you're less than. Jerk off and Satan's watching and Jesus is crying. Now it's left wing moral panic. You look at a woman and think she's hot? You've just committed a thought crime AND a hate crime! You should feel personally responsible for every man who has ever hit a woman. If you live in a more conservative area, you're probably getting a good dose of…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:03 PM
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Wouldn't the opposite be true? If it's all trendy, doesn't that mean it's popular?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 07:40 PM
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The same reason some men think their feelings matter more than the truth. This isn't a female problem, it is a human problem. Just because one woman claims she is empathetic, it isn't disproven when another woman isn't. Also some things aren't worth empathy. Men who baselessly accuse their partners of cheating don't deserve empathy. You will never appeal to a normal person logically or emotionally with that, so just give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:19 PM
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What OP says doesn't define reality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:13 PM
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What is your basis for thinking all men are just latent pedophiles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:51 PM
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You just reiterated my point. This is for men who think being a good person is worthless and getting your dick wet is all that matters. Lol "sacrifice their own son" and people say women are the over emotional dramatic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:09 AM
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So most men want to bond and relate to their partner, but most men also prefer dating someone who could still actively be in high school with the same childlike mentality of their fellow students. Huh something about that don't compute.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:01 AM
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I think there are men who want a partner they can actually bond with and relate to. If you want to like barely legal girls, that's your deal. But you have to stop trying to convince people it's not weird. If you can't handle the social stigma, that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:21 AM
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I'm thinking it's gonna demonstrate how women don't care about sexless men or some bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:03 AM
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Good person, obviously. It's not even a choice, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:02 AM
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I KNOW THAT'S NOT WHAT YOU THINK People who have english as their third language have better reading comprehension than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:49 AM
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So before this you were like "IT WAS BAD FAITH" and now that I explained myself you're like "I THINK it was bad faith." I was just trying to inform you of how bad you sounded because I could honestly tell you didn't mean it that way. Is that kind of not the definition of coming to you in GOOD faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 11:53 PM
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Did I ever say it was anybody's fault but the woman's? Can you point out where I did that? Because I think you're just misreading me. Literally all I'm saying is that not everything a woman does is part of an evil plan. Sometimes women just do bad things because they're stupid and short sighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 11:11 PM
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I told you calling it a given makes it SOUND like it's expected. That means I know what you meant, but I was telling you how it sounded. Goddamn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 11:09 PM
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I was not responding in bad faith at all. Not every time someone doesn't like what you say doesn't make it bad faith, let's get that straight. Your problem is your failure to understand female sexuality. Like many men, you project your own experiences with sexuality and desire onto women. When women don't act or respond the way you do, you just go "oh women must not be sexual at all because they aren't sexual the way I am." Another problem you are having is you are assuming that the women who go…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:18 AM
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If a guy I'm close with but not romantically involved with does that stuff? Well, if I didn't reciprocate, I would be mortified because I have to be honest and tell him that, but I also don't want to hurt someone so badly. If I liked the guy and reciprocated, I would be over the moon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 12:32 AM
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Calling it "a given" makes it sound like it's just expected, and if you don't put out you're doing something bad or wrong. Healthy sexual relationships are about two people who wanna do it. It's not about "well this is just what we are expected to do now". There's a difference between sex in a relationship being a likely and desirable outcome, and sex being "a given".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 12:26 AM
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Stable, job, house, provider, all the greatest hits. Basically gives her everthing she wants and is understanding about how all her trauma prevents her from reciprocation and accepts it. Yeah that sounds like great relationship material to me. Nothing about that will cause cheating to happen. Something else has to be going on, whether it's the woman's fault, the man's fault, or both. I highly doubt you would be as permissive or forgiving about a man blithely cheating and then going "I never want…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 11:54 PM
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what women describe as husband material men is the type of man that facilitates this. And what description is that? Besides, the only thing that facilitates cheating is the will and the opportunity to do so. Why not? She could choose to either cheat or not cheat, You are misunderstanding me. I'm not saying that a woman has no choice in the matter. Women dream about meeting the man they will marry, they don't dream about cheating on him. It's not part of the ideal fantasy. Women cheat because the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:56 PM
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No, but there can be other traits the man has that she would fantasize about. So yeah maybe he has a boring job and an old car. But maybe he's an amazing musician, or he cooks delicious food, or he sets up great date nights. Maybe he knows the perfect things to say, maybe does lots of romantic little things, etc. Not everything has to be this big ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:12 PM
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You're thinking of the warped incel perception of "husband material". No woman dreams about a husk of a man they can cheat on and mooch off of. And I'm not saying that doesn't happen, what I am saying is that it is not what women daydream about or fantasize about. It is not what a woman would write for herself in the story of her ideal life. Not everything a woman does is a part of a perfect plan coming to fruition. If you see a woman doing something, like cheating on her husband, you can't just…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:01 PM
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I have high functioning autism, and I have a hard enough time looking after myself. Having two severely autistic kids sounds like a challenge I would fail at quite spectacularly. If I had those kids, I would love them to death. So it's hard to just say I would rather they didn't exist. But what I will say is my life would be monumentally easier in the single version of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:04 PM
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Be spontaneous, playful, do something new or take a reasonable risk somewhere. I can't really give specifics because it depends on the people involved. You have to really know the person your with to base your plans off of. Some women would hate risk or hate spontaneity so if you just try to pull it off on a woman like that, you're going to mess things up. Like, if someone ordered McDonalds and set it up on the table all fancy with wine glasses, I would find that funny and charming. Another woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:24 PM
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It is never, not ever, worth becoming a worse person for someone. Especially someone who won't love you for who you are. You can be intense and passionate without being toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:02 PM
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There are a few concepts that women get drawn to. They might like the idea that they can tame the bad boy, or fix him. My theory is that this gives the woman a very unique relationship with him, and cements her as a very vital fixture in his life. They might like the idea that the bad boy becomes soft when they're alone together, but he reverts to his tough guy attitude in public. She'd get the best of both worlds this way, she gets the tenderness and the feeling of being protected. They might t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:47 PM
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So if I use a man for money and resources while I cheat on him and bad mouth him behind his back, I'm just "hurting his ego", not manipulating or exploiting him?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:37 PM
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No shit. Everyone has personal motivation to hide and lie about the things that make them seem worse. Men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:06 AM
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If you are capable of detecting toxicity or misogyny, you can detect it in an attractive man. Women who end up with guys like that either don't know, or don't care about those traits. They may think she can fix him, that he's such a catch in other ways that maybe it won't be so bad, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:32 PM
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Most children learn what consent is in kindergarten. This idea that it has to be taught to anyone over a single digit age is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:32 AM
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We teach people the earth is round and we still have flat earthers. Simply teaching people not to be sex pests will not eradicate them from the earth. They still have to be contended with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:55 PM
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I've never experienced or witnessed two women dressed like that having remotely similar experiences whatsoever. It's hard for me to even know what to say because what you are suggesting just seems so obviously ridiculous on its face. They are both going to get unwanted attention, but for completely different reasons that manifest in completely different ways. The first women will get unwanted sexual advances, and the second will have her appearance degraded for how disheveled she looks. The way …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:00 PM
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Leo DiCaprio, and any other dude who is consistently with women who could be their daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:45 AM
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He's not "bad" but it's just skeevy all around
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:43 AM
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I would be extremely put off, and I would question him heavily about it. If his answers weren't satisfactory, I wouldn't look at him the same way ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:04 PM
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Title says "best friend" body of text starts with "you don't need to be into the exact same things' Okay those are two different things. You also seem to be coming from an angle that being best friends is virtually the only trait that is being sought out, and stability and reliability are forgotten about. Your spouse should be your best friend as well as many other things. I mean, you are going to be spending a lot of time with them, why wouldn't you want them to be your friend and companion? Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 04:02 PM
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I got 2 big problems that make me want to say no. I'm very used to being a woman. Changing that would be uncomfortable to say the least What's going to happen to my sexuality? I'm attracted to men and I've only ever been looking at that from a heterosexual angle. Not sure I'd enjoy the sex. Being a woman hasn't given me too much trouble so far, and I'm comfortable with it. If I were in a very oppressive society, or if I had experienced harassment or assault, I might feel different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:54 AM
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It's not really a big direct connection. I'm just assuming that being stunted in general when it comes to expression of affection would affect how you expect your relationship with your wife to be like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 07:19 PM
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But the way male friends interact is often very different from female friends. There's not a lot of overt affection, and more roundabout ways of showing affection. I don't know of too many guys who say "I love you" out loud to each other regularly. A lot of men also grow up without fathers or positive male figures in their lives. If a mom tells her son that it's okay to let their feelings out, the son might think "she's a girl, she doesn't understand what it's like for me" and dismiss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:55 AM
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I think it's because for one reason or another, those men who don't want to marry a best friend wife have some unhealthy expectation of marriage, companionship and intimacy. Not to say that women just naturally have more healthy views, but my guess it has to do with the fact that women aren't discouraged to be affectionate the way men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:21 PM
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In what way does seeing or not seeing some unidentified "something" share any similarities to fabricating this character type of a "nice guy"? No one has ever gone out and thought they saw a "nice guy" out of the corner of their eye. If "nice guys" aren't real, they aren't even a case of false identification. Seeing something in the woods is a base for a mythos and tall tales. There is no incident to spark the mythical "nice guy", it would be purposeful 100% fabrication. Also, do you really thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:06 AM
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Yet they literally do, hence the bear, the poison M&M's, Schrodinger's rapist, etc. Yet again these are hypotheticals or analogies about men being generally dangerous. It doesn't take a conspiracy to just have a bad opinion about something. Do you think that women whose brains are poisoned by culture war brain rot wouldn't spread BS about "Nice Guys"? The "nice guy" archetype had to have been created in the first place. And again, there are men who independently make posts and videos acting exac…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:51 PM
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Because the bear question was just that: a question that was posed and spread around, and it had only 2 options. What answer you picked depended on whether or not your mind was poisoned from culture war brainrot. It's not a conspiracy that a lot of women have said brainrot. On the other hand, a "nice guy" is a very specific combination of behaviours, and gets talked about when people are sharing personal experiences. That is very different from a simple hypothetical with two options to choose fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:50 AM
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It's wrong to tell someone they should have sex, period. It's something you want or you don't. Comparing sex to shopping demonstrates a disturbingly immature and bizarre view of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:41 PM
3

So thousands of women effectively are running a conspiracy together, fabricating stories and hundreds of thousands of texts and messages to create a fake archetype of a man? That's much more significant than many women lying independently, don't take this as me saying that women could never lie. This is not the same as a large amount of women independently accusing men of some type of abuse. This would have to be a collaborative effort with a shared goal. Women would have to either have been com…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 07:00 PM
3

So all the accounts of encountering a "nice guy" is just bullshit? Because your little theory doesn't cover that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:56 PM
2

Yeah, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:10 AM
0

So women who have bad experiences with men are accurate when they say men are all sex pests in waiting? Because that's the logic you just used.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:41 AM
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Nothing of what you said is going to happen because you are living in a misogynist fantasy land. Even if sexual liberation caused all these "problems", do you think no one has ever used their rights to behave poorly? Nah, just women. No one has ever used the right to bear arms poorly ever, only women are so stupid and ignorant that they shouldn't have rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:31 PM
1

Stop trying to compare sex to a resource or commodity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:13 PM
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Depends. Does his past have a chance of harming me? Did he rape or murder anyone? If not, why should I care? If he's changed as a person and is someone I like as he is now, what's the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 07:02 AM
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Not a promiscuous woman, but I expect a good man to appreciate someone who has changed for the better and adopted a healthier lifestyle. If the woman is not promiscuous any longer, who cares? She made the change in her life. Self improvement is the opposite of shameful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:45 AM
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Parasocial superfan shit creeps me out. Even if I was up for being a single mom by my own choice, that whole thing would be weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:45 PM
2

I mean, it's cutting a piece of flesh off of an innocent baby for completely stupid and irrational reasons. Only faith and/or ignorance supports it. I'm definitely against any mutilation of anyone, especially infants and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:34 PM
1

Lots of terrible things have been around for centuries and will continue till the end of time. That's a big nothing statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:08 AM
2

I agree but it's important to say that AMALT is wrong for all of the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:45 PM
1

Plenty of men are doing all three of those things. Plenty of men aren't doing those things either. Plenty of women are excessively picky, plenty of women are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:37 PM
0

This is such a stupid question. Obviously there are men who want to have children. Why is every question posed in this sub so braindead?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 04:03 AM
0

Yeah, all self-improvement gets you is... improvement. Obviously, this is useless and has no benefits whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:12 AM
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To me it seems like OP was implying that the entire "Nice Guy' trope is a complete fabrication by women so they can reject good men who aren't hot enough and not feel guilty about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:16 AM
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No I mean the trope. OP is completely getting it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:56 AM
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Misinformation and fear. It's the same as all bigotry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:45 AM
3

Nothing of what you described is what a "Nice Guy" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:25 AM
2

I don't want to treat all men differently, so I will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:52 PM
5

Like I said at the start, being cautious around people you can't/don't trust completely is normal and proper. I just want to say, you're coming off so defensive as if you've said nothing objectionable. But you literally said "men like you make it hard not to be misandristic". You're in the wrong here. Being not a sexist, not a racist, not a bigot of any kind is easy. If you have to try at it, you're biased at best, a horrible human being at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:51 PM
1

Absolutely. I'll fully admit I have my own past experiences that make me feel nervous about certain things, but I know that I am being illogical and I'm wrong for it. Not that I'm a bad person, but I am just incorrect and I can't use that as a basis for my behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:45 PM
10

It's actually extremely easy not to be a sexist piece of shit. I find it to be just as easy as breathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:40 PM
3

I feel out who I can trust and how much as I go along, I don't have set rules for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:39 PM
28

Yeah, and I very much dislike those women. I can't tell you how many times I've been called a "pick me" for advocating for not being a sexist asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:27 PM
101

Obviously it's sexist. Anyone who doesn't see that is a sexist. Though being cautious around strangers isn't the same as assuming that stranger is a predator.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:08 PM
1

I want kids, so dating someone who already has them is a plus for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:31 AM
1

It does. This hypothetical isn't about "how will you treat the cheating woman" though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:34 PM
2

Obviously friendship has nothing to do with hooking up. That's not what women are telling you. It has to do with maintaining a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:02 PM
2

A kneejerk reaction is one thing. I'm talking about a permanent decision
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:26 PM
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Forcing a person who wants nothing to do with the child, If they have formed and a bond with the child and raised them for years, and the revelation of cheating makes them want to have nothing with the child at all, that's fucked up. Someone with functioning emotions can't discard a love like that. I'm not saying the man has to raise the kid, but to ghost them completely is weak and cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:00 PM
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Yes of course there's damage. But to permanently decide to never speak to the kid again, to not even be their friend as they enter adulthood? That's messed up. I'm not talking about a man being hurt, needing sometime, feeling things are never the same. I'm talking about a man completely ghosting someone for something their mom did, adding to the kid's own trauma they will be experiencing as well. The man and the kid have been hurt by the same woman, they shouldn't be hurting each other as a resu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:54 PM
2

And the world doesn't owe it to you to not see you for the asshole you are if you act like one. You want to act a certain way, then be prepared to reap what you sow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:50 PM
1

No one owes you a life of simping. Grow up. ???? Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:49 PM
1

Leaving the cheating mom, yes. That's strength. Ghosting the kid, no that's pathetic and weak and pitiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:46 PM
1

Of course there's an interview aspect to dating. You gotta check out someone you intend to let into your life and into your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:45 PM
1

When did I say the man shouldn't walk away from the cheater? I'll make it clear, completely ghosting the kid makes the man weak and pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:44 PM
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I just started my first relationship at 32. Being single is no big deal. Instead of obsessing over it, find other things to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:13 AM
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So because they have emotions they just immediately cease loving someone they've watched grow up. Obviously nothing will be the same, but to just stop loving the kid is disturbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:02 AM
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That literally just means you never loved them, you just loved your own sperm. Psycho behaviour dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:31 AM
-3

IKR? The amount of red pill men in this thread displaying absolutely disturbing and emotionally detached behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:26 AM
2

Literally when did I even imply it was his fault? Your brain is fucking fried.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:43 AM
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No one has to do anything. But there are plenty of things they should do if they aren't a massive piece of shit. That's the thing, if you want to act like a huge asshole, you have to be seen and treated as one. I know that's a hard pill to swallow for people who like making excuses for their shitty behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:37 AM
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It should be expected that he still loves that child and wants to be in their life as he always did. That's normal healthy human behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:23 AM
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No actually most men aren't that weak and pathetic that they abandon someone they've loved for nearly 2 decades because their mom's a hoe. Honestly to just drop someone for something that isn't their fault is unhinged behaviour. Maybe you're not as in touch with other men as you think. Either that or you just hang out with crazy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:22 AM
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No one's talking about the cheating mother, dude. This is about the hypothetical 18 year old only.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:13 AM
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Dude, the cucking has happened. No one can shame someone into something that has already occurred within this scenario. The question basically is "would you abandon someone you've loved for 18 years because their mom's a hoe "
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:46 PM
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Vanity and childishness, using female status as a weapon or a defense. I know someone is gonna wanna say "that's all women" so I'm gonna bring that up so you don't get to feel like a smartass.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:21 PM
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Never said it had to be a huge friend group. You have to have at least a couple friends, and have good interactions with the people around you to show you're not an asshole that everyone avoids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:25 PM
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I read those things completely differently. You're just biased and brainrotted. Women: "Are you a respected member of your community?" The answer to this question can tell you about how they are socially. Are they active or are they a shut in? Do they have good relationships? Do they help others, and do they have others willing to help them? The question isn't: "are you a rich asshole with lots of followers on social media?" Women: "Do you have something going for you, have you tried improving y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 09:39 AM
2

Most normal people don't even think about this garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:36 PM
1

Not sure where you're getting that from. Someone can leave a marriage if they feel they need to, which is how it should be. Even if they want to leave for a stupid reason, it's fucked up to force someone to be with you. Honestly if they want to leave for a stupid reason, you should want them gone anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:55 PM
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That's hard. Different people thrive or suffer under different circumstances. Male and female both have their own benefits and downsides. Someone might thrive as a dude, some other person might not be able to handle societal pressure as a dude. Same for women. The only thing that might tip the scale for me is that since I am a female, I might be better at raising a female child and relating to certain female issues. Same sexed parents are very important to a child as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:49 PM
1

So wasting time and money over something that could just be entirely avoided by not having the stupid contract? Not to mention the justice system doesn't always get things right. Why is this contract worth the trouble?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:45 PM
1

How would it be determined that it was forced or coerced? And what if someone later alleges they were coerced but they are lying, how would that be determined?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:02 PM
1

Just ignore all the criticisms I actually made and you brushed off and it sure looks like I'm a jerk, doesn't it? But answer the question though, do you honestly believe that a contract can never be unethical if it is voluntary?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:55 AM
3

Do you honestly believe no contract can be unethical just because it's voluntary? Honestly how naive can you be?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:09 AM
4

Physical separation, meaning they cannot ever remarry and not move on with their lives. Your idea is horrible in just about every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:06 AM
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You have to be incredibly naive to think something that is voluntary can never be forced or coerced or manipulated. Also, sometimes when people change they become abusive. No one should ever sign away their right to cut abusive people out of their lives, period. You're offering up a half-baked idea that would only make sense to a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:20 AM
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You don't think this could be highly exploitable? Not to mention people change over time?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:15 AM
1

Because men want to think the only reason a mom is single is because she's a promiscuous idiot, or she picked the wrong man. Never mind that sometimes you can pick a man who hides his bad side, or changes over time, or DIES.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:14 PM
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I guess because I'm familiar with how those women rationalize expecting men to behave while also being unempathetic and cruel to them at the same time. I've observed it. But that doesn't mean that from now on, any time I see different women having different opinions, I will assume they are in fact all the same women. A lot of how women justify their hate of men is by using their bad experiences to paint all men with the same brush. If I did that to women, I'd have to do it to men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 05:49 PM
7

You're the one claiming a conspiracy is afoot. You prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 05:19 AM
8

I mean, it's very likely there is some cross over, because some people are just hypocrites. I just don't see why the assumption should be they're all like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 12:47 AM
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No. When you see a group of people do one thing, and a group do the other, the logical answer isn't "they are all the same people and they are all hypocrites". People having different opinions is the normal answer. Your bias is making you crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:46 PM
1

I agree with that. Not sure why you're even brining this up though since this has nothing to do with what I said or the topic of the post. So I'm not gaslighting you, you've decided to project one issue onto another.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:32 PM
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I'd argue the proof should come from you, since you seem to be insinuating you think they're all hypocrites. The most simple and likely answer is that different women had different opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:56 PM
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Because the women who want them, and the women who make fun of men are different groups of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:21 PM
29

Averageness has nothing to do with the equation of whether or not a relationship is worth it or not. Not even a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:15 AM
1

Stability, reliability, sense of humour, is a nerd, emotionally intelligent, good at communicating, very huggable Being hot is a plus but it doesn't really matter in any meaningful way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 01:10 AM
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All that matters to me are both fundamentally flawed and immoral ideas. There's no point in arguing which is worse, because at their very core they are the same thing. It's just bigotry, and bigotry is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:22 PM
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They try to act like what they think a scientist is, but are utterly blinded by confirmation bias. They always act like when they interact with a woman, they are interacting with an entire demographic. They are obsessed with data and are adamant that any variations are utterly irrelevant, even when they are dealing with someone 1 on 1. They can never take their big picture goggles off and have human interaction. They wear numbers and percentages like defensive armour so they never get hurt again…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:15 PM
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Women only giving sex to a few men is bad, therefore women giving sex to only one man will fix everything. Perfect sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:36 AM
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Obviously it's not as good, but so what? It's something. If you want to treat this like an essential human need, then you can't turn around and scoff at a solution just because it is less than ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:46 AM
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I can and I will. Take care of yourself like an adult. You can feed yourself can't you? This is the same. It's no one else's job to do it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:23 AM
3

I will if they keep crying about needing sex. It's pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 11:21 PM
7

Beggars can't be choosers. It doesn't matter one little thing what's "good enough". If it's a legit need, you will take what you can get. Imagine being poor and hungry on the street and turning your nose up at anything that isn't fine dining. That's entitlement. You get what you can get and you appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 11:19 PM
-1

Yes it is. Urge gets satisfied when you orgasm. Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 11:17 PM
0

Just masturbate then. Take care of the urge.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:09 PM
4

It's literally only an emotional need. No one needs to have sex to live a healthy life. How do you explain celibacy, voluntary or otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 04:18 PM
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Looks personally don't matter very much to me. They're desirable, but ultimately unimportant. I'd say a 2 for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:21 PM
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women will continue to chase men that are out of their league and get knocked up, Yes, of course. This is the only reason why women become single moms. They chase men "out of their league". It's never once been a man's fault, not even once.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 02:01 AM
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Men don't need sex. There are men who are voluntarily celibate and they aren't all crazy. You just need to get a hold of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:16 AM
1

Most disgusting things are, but for some reason when it comes to prostitution people want to act all enlightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:13 PM
1

Because it's repulsive?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:13 AM
0

It's hard to tell what someone is up for from the outside. Girls who openly want casual sex with randos are probably turn offs to men though. They want a girl that puts out easily, but only for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:30 AM
0

They've been lead to believe this is how it will work. So when a woman doesn't go along with it, they're like "hey I did all the right steps, what gives?" That's what happens when you treat genders as a monolith. You convince yourself you know how to push all the right buttons to get the result you want, so when it doesn't work out you feel like they're the ones in the wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 07:27 PM
1

Wonder if he knew about it already or just googled till he found something so he could do his stupid whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:19 PM
1

You get to keep your dignity with back breaking work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:19 PM
1

Yeah, and most of those people have deep seeded issues. That's just a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:17 PM
1

Well obviously some have, but this is clearly not as well known.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:16 PM
8

Probably because they haven't heard of it. I sure haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:24 AM
0

Yes it's morally neutral. But eating a dog turd is morally neutral. It's not the only metric by which people are attracted or repulsed by a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:24 AM
5

A task is not the same as giving out access to your body to be used like that. Maybe you'd have an argument if a labour job required you to get felt up all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:16 AM
1

Yeah, two consenting adults, one of which is renting out their body for a period of time. Not sure what's not to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:15 AM
4

What job requires you to give use of your body parts in such a way? I'm so tired of this false equivalence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:14 AM
2

Having sex you don't want to have for no pay sounds like a fucked up situation. And I mean beyond just not being fully in the mood and getting talked into it. Not really sure what scenarios you're thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:56 AM
5

There's a difference between getting paid to do a task and getting paid to allow access to your body. It's closer to selling your blood than it is to a legitimate job.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:50 AM
12

Most people think renting out a human being to use is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:30 PM
1

Dude, people are driven to suicide due to mental illness. That's the exact opposite of survival instincts. You have no idea what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:27 PM
1

So according to you, everything everyone does at all times is for evolution, including choices made in the grips of mental illness? Because that's really stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:30 PM
1

Whenever I see someone equating being against self-destructive behaviours with puritanical beliefs, I just have to wonder what kind of grungy life they are living. No, I don't take a pill and relax. The fact that it's so normalized to you should make you stop and self reflect a little. Live your life how you want, but at least don't be so delusional about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:46 PM
1

And you seem to think that because of this, all mating decisions are evolutionarily influenced. You have to support that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:28 PM
1

It simply wasn't possible to go to a store and buy food or drive a car either. That means absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 04:53 PM
1

No, that's not even remotely true about mental illness. Mental illness is disfunction in the brain. For example, I have ADHD. My brain has an objectively defective rewards system, which affects my ability to feel a sense of accomplishment. I suspect this even affects my ability to experience endorphins, since dopamine is also effected. These defects in my brain objectively are a hinderance to me and my ability to live life the way I want to. Mental illness isn't when a crowd of NPC memes points …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:13 PM
1

Okay, what if they did? Mental illness becoming the norm doesn't mean mental illness is the new healthy. It would still be as much of an illness as it ever was. So I'm not sure what your point is. My issue is that men on this sub treat the choices of obviously unstable or unwell women as fully thought out, calculated moves in pursuit of some ultimate goal. They also have a habit of taking women at their word when it paints women in a bad light, but dismissing anything positive as self-serving pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:56 PM
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The unhinged one is the lady you know, and you are just foolish for thinking that someone with obvious problems is representative of the average woman. Men on this sub constantly are doing this. They see a messed up woman make insane choices, and they assume that this is some evolutionarily based, calculated move on the part of the woman. Sometimes women are just fucked up or stupid, or both. Honestly, imagine if I looked at a man with an abusive wife and thought to myself "ah this is part of hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:21 PM
2

Love being chemicals in our brain doesn't mean love isn't real. That's a really naive way of looking at it. Do those chemicals in your brain go of for just anybody? No. The fact that only certain people in our lives will ever make our brains have that reaction is what makes love real and important. Also, in no way is it impossible to not have your ideal love as you describe. I'm not talking about how likely it is to happen or not, but it is not "impossible". It's happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:15 AM
2

Caring. Caring about the people he loves, caring about his hobbies and passions. Someone who doesn't think they're too cool to be genuine and sincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:22 PM
2

I think humans using other humans, taking advantage of them, hurting them, is all despicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 07:10 PM
5

I don't know what the percentage is, but I think women are overall more likely to not be interested in casual than men are. At the very least that's how men and women represent themselves. Men tend to want to act like they're always down for it, women want to act like they're waiting for prince charming, but who's to say how real it all is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:07 AM
2

You might as well be saying that emotions are invalid because they don't do your taxes for you. Or that a coffee machine is invalid because you can't use it as a vehicle. Obviously love doesn't do things it can't do. Why is it invalid. I'd like a real reason please?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:16 PM
1

You have to explain why it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:35 PM
3

Um no, that's not what love is for. You know what love is, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:36 AM
1

Love is a valid answer, but it you don't have to see it as a motivator for you personally. If you don't want to get married, don't. Why bother whining about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 06:09 AM
6

Dudes have the option to not date if all their options suck. No one forces them to make bad choices. No one forces women to make bad choices either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:37 PM
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People with trad brainrot have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:35 PM
1

There are multiple ways a man can be attractive. If you have a personality I really love, I will come to associate your appearance with the way you make me feel. I would look at you and see someone I love, and that always makes someone look 100 x better. It happens all the time platonically too. If the personality and the appearance sucks, then the guy probably has something material the woman wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:10 PM
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Because I want to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 07:38 PM
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Do you have any fears? If you are afraid of heights, you are only experiencing the fear of you theoretically falling. Just because you don't fall doesn't mean the fear isn't awful to experience. And of course, there is the chance you actually might fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:09 PM
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That's honestly a hard question. Rejection would happen way more often than risk of assault, but the fallout of that is way less. Though, over time it would surely wear me down. What's worse, being ground down or being afraid? Because in all likeliness I will never experience assault and I will only have the fear to deal with. But then again, do I want that risk? I honestly cannot say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:37 AM
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I mean, isn't this the ideal way to start a relationship? If you return his feelings then yes. But if you don't, now you have a horrible situation on your hands. Why would anyone enjoy hurting their friends? Letting someone down hurts them and it hurts you to do it to them. Then there will be this awkwardness after, and the friendship might not even survive afterwards. I feel like this is fairly obvious, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:43 PM
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I'm not talking about rejecting statistics, so why are you asking about my criteria for doing so?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:37 PM
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Everyone can be a rapist, but it is wrong to assume that anybody will be a rapist. Same goes for murder, thievery, etc. It can happen, but it's absolutely 100% wrong to assume anything about anybody like that. All sexism is bad. Misandry is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:01 PM
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Well yeah. It can help you identify red flags. But with that you are actually seeing a person and observing something from them. You are not assuming something based on a number.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:07 PM
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If you think you can use them as a substitute for actual experience or knowledge, or as insight into the minds of individual people, you are just wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:26 PM
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That's what you want to think you're doing, but you still treat any variation as either a complete lie, or entirely negligible. The correct thing to do is use predictions to know what's possible, but still make no assumptions. You are thinking of yourself as being a mind reader until proven otherwise, and that's irrational.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:07 PM
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This is terminal online brain talking. Trends do not matter when you are actually dealing with people right in front of you. Knowing statistics can help you make predictions, but you can't take those predictions as gospel. You still have to do the work of learning about the people in front of you. Stats will not do that for you. You will never be dating a sample size of woman at once. You will always be dealing with individuals. It's like you can't see the trees for the forest. Imagine going aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:04 PM
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Oh my god I never said statistics should be rejected. I'm just saying you are an idiot if you act like statistics are a replacement for understanding the people you interact with in your life. Knowing probabilities doesn't mean you know what people are thinking or how they feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:57 PM
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It's appropriate when you are discussing a large amount of people. It is not appropriate when you are discussing actual individuals. Stats will tell you what might be likely about an individual, but you still have to actually pay attention to the people you meet in your life. You can't treat them like points of data.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:53 PM
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I'm not a sexist or a misandrist, so absolutely not. Not to say that I go around fully trusting every stranger I meet. But I do not make assumptions about men based on statistics. I am aware of things that theoretically COULD occur, but I don't use that against anyone. I judge people based on how they act and what I learn about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:14 AM
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Let me spell this out for you. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN GENERALIZATIONS AND STATISTICS ARE APPROPRIATE. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN THEY ARE NOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:12 AM
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See, if something is attractive to a percentage of people, that just tells you how likely it is. The mistake you and others are making is to go "the majority think this, therefore I will assume this to be positively true about everyone in my life." You now think you are scientifically qualified to act like a mind reader, and you are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:11 AM
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They do hold, actually. See where your generalization got you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:06 AM
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You have to balance studies and stats with analyzing your specific circumstances. It can't be generalizations and data all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:53 AM
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Like I said, there is a time where generalizations are appropriate, and times they are not. People who spend a lot of time talking about red pill stuff never turn off generalization mode. They focus solely on the biggest percentages of people and treat any other experience as an unimportant anomaly, almost like anything less than 50% is utterly negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:51 AM
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Yeah but when it's appropriate to do so. If you went to see a psychiatrist one on one you would expect them to deal with you specifically and not treat you like a point of data on a chart.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:40 AM
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Most of the time people talking about these theories are trying to reduce human beings to patterns and algorithms. They defend themselves by saying they're just dealing in facts and being scientific about it, and anyone who disagrees is emotional and irrational. But really they just want to find an answer that is simple and digestible that will tell them how to be successful in life. But statistics aren't and never will be some kind of map to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:27 AM
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It's only accurate to a specific kind of woman. If you don't like that kind of woman, you don't have to date that kind of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:22 AM
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Obviously they aren't friends in the same way as their guy friends. They aren't in a sexual relationship with their guy friends. Typical guy friendship isn't the only way to have a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:21 AM
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I'm already completely undesirable. Sign me the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:50 AM
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I don't think any age is off-putting if there's an explanation for it. I would see it as a possibility of a red flag, but I wouldn't count it as a bad thing until I knew more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:36 AM
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Yes, obviously. Men should never be with women who don't accept them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:45 PM
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Not the way people describe it. A lot of people are opportunists, and naturally like half of them will be women. It's not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:12 AM
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Because officiating and publicly declaring your love is enjoyable for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:10 AM
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Being feminine has never been that important to me. I definitely want to be perceived as being female, as I was born that way and identify that way. But I don't really care about being seen as feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 07:00 PM
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I think the word might be "nebbish"? Or the kind of guy who got told growing up that bullies pick on him because they're jealous of his good grades.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:11 PM
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I wouldn't say equal, but I can see a man doing that if they had a certain personality type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 09:39 PM
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For the first part, it could be either or. The "perfectly happy being single" part makes me think it's a woman. I've never heard a man say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:04 PM
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Obviously the man. The bear will only have one of two interactions with me: It kill me or it won't. There exists the possibility the man could kill me of course, but It wouldn't be nearly as likely as the bear. There are also a bunch of other interactions we could have. He could know a way out, he could just be company, he could ignore me completely, he could follow me around and be a jerk, etc. The odds that he's a psycho killer are pretty damn low. Most people don't murder, and those who do mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:33 AM
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I'm not a racist so I don't really have any thoughts. They're just men to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 05:19 AM
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Your experience is very similar to mine. I'd love a relationship but I've accepted that I might not ever have one, so I'm focusing on finding joy in other places. When you tell dudes to do the same they often react like you told them to end their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:00 PM
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I think the idea that young women are confusing their SMV and RMV I bet you they are, because no one who isn't terminally online knows what those mean. No normal person even thinks about this crap. You will find most people confuse these made up concepts they've never heard of before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:07 AM
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Receiving love, hugs, affection and sex is really good for your health. Yes, and if you have massive hang-ups and personality flaws, you won't get to keep having those things. So no, getting into a relationship will not fix you, because you also have to be capable of maintaining said relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:58 AM
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This just proves how skewed people's perspectives get here. It's a joke if you think it's easier to get rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:51 PM
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This isn’t shallow, “creepy,” or “predatory” it’s just evolutionary biology. If you want to reduce humans to our base instincts, how far are you going to take that? How much would you dismiss as "evolutionary biology?" Murdering someone for their resources sounds like a pretty basic survival tactic to me. Let me guess though, you only apply this when it has to do with things you don't want to take accountability for. How have they not figured out by now that just because a lot of dudes will fuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:57 AM
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No one said they have no informal study.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 01:05 AM
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If you need to hire someone, would you rather have someone with a bunch of success and experience, or someone who has only studied it extensively?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 01:03 AM
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How are these things in conflict? I agree with the title's premise, but the actual body of text is complete nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 12:31 AM
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Workplace harassment, favouritism towards men. You hear about crazy scandals now and again like at Blizzard for example. If the slate were wiped completely clean from the misogyny of the past, you would think there wouldn't still be stuff like this happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:38 PM
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It's remnants of a system, not a full blown system itself anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:58 PM
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I think we are in a transitional stage. Systemic misogyny was the way in the West for a very, very, very long time. Our societies have been working to fix that, but something that old doesn't disappear over night. Aspects of the system desperately cling on to life and remain.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:51 AM
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I don't really associate with anyone who holds dogmatic or cultish ideologies period. If we can't amicably disagree, I have no desire to even know that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 12:35 PM
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It depends on what you define as settling. If you think anything other than absolute perfection is settling, then you have a problem. If settling to you means compromising some important want or value that you have, then it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 02:06 AM
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Because people like me see other people as humans, not market data. I will never accept such a deranged and unhealthy method of engaging with people. Everything you just said is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:47 PM
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Only men like you think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:36 PM
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The fact that you think prostitution and relationships are connected tells me everything I need to know about your views on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:52 PM
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If you are incapable of being friends with the opposite sex and getting along like a normal pair of adults, you're weak. People like that need to grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:37 PM
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They don't. They've seen a picture of me and they're still around, so obviously they enjoy my company for what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:34 PM
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why are y’all so keen or having friend that you know deep down doesn’t actually want to be friends I don't make friends with weak bitches. My male friends want to be friends with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:08 AM
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What were these "signs"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:25 AM
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Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 06:00 PM
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Everyone gets a base level of trust and respect Bringing respect into this now, even though I've said nothing about that. I do give everyone baseline respect. you all walk around not trusting strange men I walk around not trusting strange people. yet you just expect men to be subservient and understanding... This assumption is bullshit and based on some preexisting hang up that you have. I have not said anything like this or implied it in any fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:51 PM
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Not trusting someone isn't exactly the same as being suspicious. Trust is earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:30 PM
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Every person you don't know has the potential to be a bad person with intent to harm. There's nothing wrong with taking basic precautions. We all have to gain trust first.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:28 AM
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Shallowness is a negative trait. People like to hide or deny negative traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:15 PM
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Nope, it's still not understandable. Be a decent person, have a backbone, and just leave if you want to leave. There's no excuse to be a little snake about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:31 AM
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Plenty of people do not treat the opposite sex like humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:27 PM
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The fact that you don't understand the advice is a little alarming. It means to see yourself in them, treat them as your equal, as your fellow human. Don't treat them like some unknowable other. Men and women are more alike than they are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:52 PM
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I'm not even looking to get into a relationship until I improve myself. I'm a mess, and I'm not inflicting this mess on somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:31 AM
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It's pretty loserish to choose to participate in a misery game when you could make changes to improve your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 12:22 AM
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No, I'm talking about something very specific, not everything being mens faults.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:16 PM
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Don't play the game. Find other people who think the game is bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:34 AM
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It's definitely a weakness. Doesn't necessarily mean that they are weak as a personal defining trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:15 AM
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I thought I was a late bloomer too, but at 16/17 a flip got switched in my brain. If you are 29 and still haven't felt a change, you're probably asexual/aromantic or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:08 AM
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Lie about what? The fact that women can make bad choices and have mental illness? If that lie fooled anyone, they were beyond help. If someone tells you they're perfect, obviously they're lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:05 AM
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In certain cultures certain preferences are pretty ubiquitous, but for all woman I literally cannot answer that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:04 AM
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Definitely. People who are truly secure do not need to brag. Someone who needs to brag is trying to convince themselves and others that they are hot shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:25 PM
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There is none. Men on this sub have to realize that women don't go around doing dating calculus in their heads. Sometimes women are just stupid or mentally ill and make fucking bad decisions based on irrational factors and feelings. Some women want to feel useful and want to "fix" a bad guy. Some women want to feel like they can tame a bad guy so only she gets to experience his softer side. Some women don't think they deserve to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:07 PM
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It seems insinuating the mere possibility that the approacher could potentially make her uncomfortable (even if the approacher is completely sane with good social skills/emotional intelligence ) is a get out of jail free card for women to keep their options open while in a relationship. There are many things that any person can be doing as a "cover" for nefarious intentions. Do you get mad about all of them or what? Like yeah, no shit, lying is a thing. But at the same time, that doesn't mean yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:27 AM
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People who blindly hate 4 billion people aren't rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:28 PM
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Well I'm using it colloquially then, because this is the way people use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:31 AM
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There are fetishes for certain races, for fat people, for trans people, for milfs, but a teen fetish is just ridiculous!.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:18 AM
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So basically your position is based on an all-or-nothing mindset. As long as it's not bad every time, no harm exists period?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:34 AM
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How is not wanting someone who is specifically only 18 or 19 not a fetish? Teens are a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:31 AM
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Okay. Let me ask you this? Do you think it's okay to harm people in an observable and objective way as long as it's legal?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:27 AM
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No, the fact that they have literally just turned 18 is fetishized. Teen porn category, people counting down the days till a pretty girl's 18th birthday, is fetishization. The age is a focus in these cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:24 AM
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If you want to argue against something I've actually said, please do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:07 AM
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Then there's nothing to complain about. Why not? What's your reasoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:06 AM
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If I thought it would do more good than harm, yes. But I think there might be too many downsides.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:42 AM
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No one is disputing that. The problem is men want to date women that could be their daughters and not be called out for it. Freshly 18 girls are fetishized. People make posts about how 16 year olds are breedable and ideal. We are social animals. The instinct to protect the vulnerable among us is a pretty strong one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 08:50 PM
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It has been true for many men, that doesn't mean it will happen to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:12 AM
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Poor people have more kids than rich people, what's your point? That's not an indicator of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:07 AM
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The fact you think that is the problem I'm having with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:48 PM
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We know that paternity fraud has happened, TO OTHER PEOPLE
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:41 PM
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Except for the part where it explicitly implies she's an untrustworthy woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:40 PM
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In your analogy, an incident has confirmed to have happened. But you want to paint the nurse as the stand in for a typical woman in a relationship. In a relationship if a woman has done nothing at all to cause suspicion, then there's no reason to have suspicion. But in your scenario, there IS a confirmed incident that is cause for suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:43 AM
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Okay then, your scenario doesn't work as an analogy if the focus is the nurse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:34 AM
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99% percent of people have to "settle" for just about everything in life. How many times have you gotten something exactly the way you wanted it? That's just life. If you can envision something perfect for yourself, you will have to settle for less than that. Perfection doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:18 AM
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4: But it's still specifically that hospital. There is a legitimate reason to suspect beyond "well it could happen". It has confirmed to have happened, and the only thing that has not been confirmed is if you have been effected. This is more analogous to a couple where the woman has confirmed to have cheated, but circumstances make the chance of the baby being someone else's still low (dates, contraceptive, etc). There's still a reason to want to check, since the woman has proven herself not tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:16 AM
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4: In this scenario, a mix up has been confirmed to have happened. There's legitimate cause to check. This is also not some broad statistic about worldwide mix ups, this is a specific thing that occurred at this specific hospital. 5: Why doubt the friend? Has this person done anything to arouse suspicion, or was the friend not trusted simply because it is not impossible that they lied. Is there some reason you require the report in writing and the friend's word does not suffice? Some details nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:53 AM
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Title of post: Broad sweeping claim about large group of people Body of post: "In my experience..." Just another day here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:36 AM
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Precautionary measures are not an accusation. Barcode scanners when you walk out of a shop are not an accusation of stealing. Airline security is not an accusation that you are a terrorist. Absolutely braindead take I continuously see. Is security my family? Am I in an intimate relationship? Do they know me personally and trust me? It's such an absolute bullshit comparison. I'm a stranger to stores and airports. Of course they don't fucking trust me, but a boyfriend/husband SHOULD.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:27 AM
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So you're all educated on the subject, but you still thought an anecdote about a celebrity was something worth posting about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 10:53 PM
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Most PPD users genuinely get all of their information from celebrities and social media, prove me wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 10:37 PM
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Generalizations like that are for lazy shitheads who can't handle the fact that nuanced thinking requires actual thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:17 PM
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Oooor, maybe we have inborn instincts to protect the vulnerable, and we naturally abhor the freaks among us who prey on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:27 AM
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It's usually irrational and emotionally motivated. Sometimes they want to fix him. This can be for a few reasons. Sometimes it's because they want to feel like they have "rescued" the bad boy from themselves, and thus the bad boy will be indebted to them in a deep and meaningful way. Sometimes they want to feel protected by the bad boy. They want to be that one person they treat well, while they are bad to everyone else. Very few women think about genes. Men on this sub have got to understand th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:44 PM
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I know this woman very well. She's me. I'm kind of goofy, can be stubborn. Someone who likes video games and can make me laugh I've never gotten that far Obese I'm a fat autist who never leaves the house I don't love being alone, but I've accepted it. There's more important things in life. I'd have to get my shit together before I tried to get a boyfriend anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 09:04 PM
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I personally hate wearing make up, but my best friend says she wears it most of the time because she feels like she has to. She enjoys it on special occasions, but day to day is an obligation feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:06 PM
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My male friends are all through the internet. None of them have so much as flirted. They've seen pictures of me so I can't blame them lol. Unless one of them developed feelings for me, I don't have much to entice anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:45 PM
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The people I encountered post-high school are very different. I took college courses where the ages ranged from 18 to 40, and my friend groups have all been comprised of weird nerds like myself. So far, it's been interest based. The only cliques of pretty people I see are strangers on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:12 PM
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An attractive boy just kind of looks attractive already and just dresses nicely. An attractive girl probably does lots of work on her hair and makeup and clothes. A more tomboyish girl is not gonna care for that. For girls, looks and interests often correlate. I dislike make up, and my interests happen to be nerdy, so I fit in with other nerdy awkward women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:26 PM
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I can't tell you what lowers my value because that's subjective. I could tell you what lowers my attractiveness though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:09 PM
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How is the question relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:18 AM
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I didn't make any statements about women, or what I think they behave like. You just assumed a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:31 PM
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So… I’m usually the FWB on the side, so to me it seems like all women do this. Why would you ever think your experience defines 4 billion people? Do you not see how insane that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:08 PM
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The Nice Guy is inherently sexually motivated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:58 PM
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So you are okay with people being nice to you until they get what they want? Would you be fine if you were manipulated into giving away money or possessions?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:57 PM
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Obviously 2
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:54 AM
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Humans place a lot of importance on firsts. I'm sure that's true for many women having sex for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 09:54 PM
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Maybe you're not beneath them. Very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 06:05 AM
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Because people like the symbolism and the ceremony. Why do we celebrate anything? No celebrations or traditions are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 01:01 AM
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It's something I and other people desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 12:10 AM
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Yeah, so fuck men, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:32 PM
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So just fuck men, I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:49 PM
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Learn about red flags, be communicative, be open about your goals for the relationship, know when to jump ship... none of these guarantee anything, but they should help.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:06 PM
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That's subjective. It can be one or the other. If the mom can just erase a kid that the dad wants for any reason, he needs to have some options at his disposal too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:54 PM
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Well at least the kid gets to exist with this option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:20 PM
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Because we are individuals, you need to stop being shocked when we individually have different opinions. Woman 1 saying X and Woman 2 saying Y is not a contradiction, it is not hypocritical, and no stat gives you the position to claim one must be lying. When you are speaking to or about one person, the stats don't matter. People are not an amalgamation of their entire demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:17 PM
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Did I ever say that statistics were never applicable under any circumstances?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:51 AM
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Did I ever say an individual cannot compare themselves to others?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:43 AM
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I don't think you have room to diss incels spouting craziness like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:36 AM
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Most guys in the world? Probably, I hope. Most guys here? Definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:07 AM
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Knowing what you are likely to encounter is good. Acting like anything above 50% is actually 100% is taking it too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:52 AM
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Our observable universe, yes. But notice how the observable universe is a very, very big picture? Well, individual people are individuals. Mathematics will not tell you anything about a single person. It can tell you what they are statistically likely to be, but not what they actually are. Most people have black hair, that is statistically accurate, right? Well maybe one day you will meet a redhead. What relevance does that statistic have when dealing with the individual?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:48 AM
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You really can't see past statistics, can you? You really don't think what you're doing is absurd. I don't think I'm special, I think that I'm normal. You should try it sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:41 AM
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It only seems fair to me that a man should have that option if the women has that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:40 AM
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If he's just against marriage on some ideological level, I'd still want to just go on like we were married just without the legal aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:36 AM
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See again you're making the mistake. It doesn't matter what other women do, it should matter what I do, because I'm the only woman in the equation here. You have to stop looking at individual women and seeing only statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:34 AM
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My description of reality isn't a justification of bad behaviour. As for what men can do, it depends on the situation If you explain yourself rationally and that's rejected, you're dealing with irrational people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:33 AM
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Because we're all different, you are not gonna get an answer that fits everyone. Unfortunately men want that answer. I mean, we have ultra rad fems who think all hetero sex is rape, and we have ultra trads who think women shouldn't vote. If you try to look at us all and figure us all out, you just cannot do it. I guess a good step would be to find women with judgement you trust, and that you can talk to. Not something everyone can do, I know. But listening to individual men is what changed me fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:52 AM
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That is exactly why they fail. Obsession with math. When you deal with people, you are dealing with individuals. Stats don't mean shit one on one, what matters is who is in front of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:39 AM
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It has nothing to do with the reason of divorce. It matters immensely actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:34 AM
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My dude that has nothing to do with different people having different opinions. I mean, I guess you have described a type of person, but that's just one of many.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:31 AM
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It was hyperbole, not a strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:51 PM
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If you see no benefit in marriage don't get married. But you have to accept that will be a deal breaker to some, as is the case with all preferences. I prefer someone who believes in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:44 PM
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If he thinks I'm the type of woman who will just divorce him for fun and profit, he shouldn't even want to date me. There's something wrong with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:40 PM
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Well there's a risk you'll die every time you get into a car. If someone refused to get in without writing their will and saying goodbye to everyone they loved, you'd think they were crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:39 PM
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So why should I be fine if my partner assumes we have no shot?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:31 PM
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I would understand his worries, but if he refused, I would take that as a sign he refuses to trust me. I would find it incredibly difficult to move past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:09 PM
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So many men in this sub cannot grasp this concept, it's crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 07:25 PM
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I think maliciousness is a trait of most intelligent things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 06:51 PM
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I find a man who cooks to be incredibly attractive. If a man made my meals I would be in love. Is he a big hunky chunk of a man? No. But what he is presenting in the video blows that out of the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:42 PM
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I'd be interested if he got sober, but at best I would want to be on a break until that happened. I would not want to be romantically involved with someone doing hard drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 08:54 PM
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So wife is not entitled to your commitment or fidelity either. Uh, if that's what you promised her, then yes she's got a reason to expect that from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 08:40 PM
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Mentally ill women and women with baggage and trauma exist. We're not these perfect little avatars of evolution, going out to acquire the best sperm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:31 AM
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Maybe we'd do better with less humans being born. Look at what we're doing to the planet and to each other. The adjustment period will be rough, but I really don't mind the idea of the population dropping naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:45 AM
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I forgot about it, you remember it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:22 PM
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I have no memory of what this was even about, so good for you for being stuck on it for 3 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 10:04 AM
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You replied to a 3 month old comment I have no idea what you're talking about anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 09:21 AM
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There's a difference between getting turned on by something, and willing to do something in order to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:31 AM
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No one is literally attracted to money. If you are rich, you can basically make someone's dreams come true, and THAT'S what attracts people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:37 PM
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Isn't the logical course of action to withhold judgement until presented further information?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:50 AM
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If you think being lonely is as bad as children dying in deplorable conditions, you might as well be an incel at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:35 AM
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Boo fucking hoo, I'm lonely too. But you're so pathetic you think your first world problems are comparable to slow agonizing child death. The only thing that's been proven here is that you are not worth speaking to and your opinion is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:34 AM
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You know what, never mind. My message isn't for you. If you unironically compare not getting your dick wet to dying starving children, you deserve a little sadness in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 11:16 PM
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Does that mean they should just suffer miserably every day until they achieve that goal? No matter what your ultimate goal is, it benefits you to live well in the meantime.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 09:49 PM
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Maybe this will shock you, but I sometimes think of other people's needs besides my own. Men learning how to be at peace while single is good for them, that's why I would advise them to do it. Life isn't all about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:39 PM
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Not all virgins are Incels™
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:55 PM
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If I find some women saying a thing... I've found some women saying a thing. You really seem to not grasp this individuality thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:59 AM
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It works no matter which way you say it. Do you actually not see the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:12 AM
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Okay here's another analogy. Purchasing trends say women like red dresses, but why do some women say they like blue dresses? It's still dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:06 AM
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If one man says his favourite colour is blue, why does another man say his favourite colour is red? That's what you sound like right now. Different women like different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:52 AM
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Couldn't have said it better. Treating reality like some algorithm and trying to minmax and metagame in real life is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 05:04 AM
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Do you think he's gonna waste a single opportunity to dunk on a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 03:26 AM
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Who said anything about standards? You're talking about some made up bullshit numerical worth system. Standards are reasonable. This is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 03:25 AM
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I don't believe in any of this bullshit, and I have no interest in proving my worth to someone who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 02:47 AM
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When you have a dream, and that dream dies, it's a whole ordeal to get over that. That's true of any dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:03 PM
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Stable women do not want bad boys. Everyone who seeks negativity and toxicity already has something wrong with them. If you get women with this method, that's what you will get. You're not just gonna get hotties without baggage. Think about it. It obviously makes no rational sense to go after a toxic man. Men on this sub, and forums like it, constantly forget that not every action a woman makes is always in her right mind. Men here deny it, but you clearly refuse to look at us as people. To you …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:49 AM
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Some do some don't. Is that really surprising?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:04 AM
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Individually, only a woman with trendsetting power could have any control.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:40 PM
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No. Even if I stole the guy away I'd have to then live with the guilt, and I don't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:48 AM
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Well that's good. You shouldn't bring a child into the world if you are merely in an alliance with their mom from day one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:56 PM
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What's to debate here? You are basically saying you already know everything and any other answers are bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:13 PM
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It turns out psychics are real, they've all just been hiding out on this sub the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:12 PM
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When I watch Breaking Bad, I don't see anything like a power fantasy. I see a rotten man who lets his true self come out. I enjoyed it for the characters, not because I think being a drug dealer is epic. If someone wants to be like Walter I think they have very big problems. When I watch an action scene, I love the action (if it's done well). If I wanted to watch a movie without action, I would do that. When I play videogames I'm usually on the side of peace, but I enjoy achieving that peace thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:54 AM
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Well if that isn't the fattest load of bullshit I've heard in a minute. Yeah, welfare money is so good that it's worth 18 years of all of the struggles of parenthood. Altering the entire course of your life is worth it for the fucking welfare bucks. It must be nice being that delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:04 AM
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Poorer families don't have more kids because that's what they chose to do. It's just when you have less access to condoms and pills, more babies happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:57 AM
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The economy is shit, who can afford a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:04 AM
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I don't. Only people who are obsessed with identity politics and being perma victims think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:34 AM
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Yeah you don't know. That's just your confirmation bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:28 PM
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Should we never celebrate birthdays, then? Any holiday or ceremony should go?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 04:01 PM
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Complete no on drugs. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 06:43 AM
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Marriage is more than just legal stuff, it's culture and tradition. We don't keep traditions around because of effectiveness, we keep them because we find value in old things passed down from older generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 06:29 AM
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A woman's subjective taste is not a statement of the worth of your genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:41 PM
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Autistic people already have a disadvantage, so framing the world in this bullshit, terminally online way will only make things worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:42 PM
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The fact that you are comparing an inanimate thing to access to someone's body is very telling. You clearly don't think it's that big a deal. You're allowed to feel how you feel about lack of sex, you're allowed to voice your desire for it, but you aren't owed someone's body, no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:24 PM
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If the redpill is merely challenging the mainstream narrative, then no, don't abandon it. If the redpill is a bunch of generalizations and cynical and unhealthy beliefs, then yes abandon it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:10 PM
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No preference at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:34 PM
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People shouldn't "give up", but they should learn to be happy as they are. You shouldn't live life suffering until you achieve some goal. You have to live well in the meantime while you chase that goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 07:17 AM
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I have a hard time believing a story that sounds so stereotypical.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 07:15 AM
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31 F 6,7,5,9,1,8,4,2,3 1 only ranks a bit higher because some careers require someone to be away a long time or move around a lot. That could affect a lot of things about daily life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 06:03 AM
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I love kids, so I'd be overjoyed with biological or adopted kids. If he doesn't want kids, that's cool too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:31 AM
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So I want to get married because I get benefits if I get un-married. Brilliant. If I thought divorce was guaranteed, I would not desire marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 08:21 AM
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If you pretend all marriages are hollow failures and the women take everything in the divorce every time, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 08:14 AM
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I do, because I want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 07:37 AM
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Why do men? Bad self esteem, sad and lonely, bad childhood, chronic bad decision making, the partner used to be good, the list goes on. Men and women are not all that different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 06:27 AM
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I'd rather die alone than share, that's why. Monogamy is a part of my sexual preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:12 AM
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This is just an allegory for making men wait for sex, isn't it? It doesn't quite work because giving your money and giving your body are very different things. I would find it very strange if he explained it the way you did, because you're using it as a thinly veiled allegory. If he instead said that he used to be careless with his money and tried to buy love and now he has changed, I could accept that 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:28 PM
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I don't think it's an all or nothing thing. There are definitely people with and without autism that resist self improvement. Then there are those that do the opposite and work hard on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 09:08 AM
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I'm constantly told I can't possibly be lonely simply for the fact that I have a vagina. Any time I try to say I'm lonely here, I'm told that it's my fault, that someone out there will want to fuck me so my feelings are invalid, and that I'm just picky because I don't sleep with the first man who'd have me. Many, many women unfortunately do not sympathize with men, it's true. We're bombarded with the idea that men have it all, and women can do no wrong. So yeah, women generally don't sympathize.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:52 AM
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I'm on the spectrum. It would depend what their deal is more than the fact they were ND at all. I'm not equipped to deal with all the things that can go wrong in the brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:54 PM
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Well lucky for you, you never have to date a sweeping generalization of all women! You can date one at a time, and judge them individually instead of by the worst, and by dubious anecdotes on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:30 PM
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It feels too cold and transactional. It's easy enough to work the questions you want into a natural conversation, so just do that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:05 AM
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I pity anyone who believes in this value system
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:47 AM
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I'm just gonna say, finding stability and general goodness to be "too boring" is such a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 12:46 AM
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Bob Ross?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:27 PM
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I definitely see a lot of men are suffering, that much is clear. There are a bunch of men who have it really good, and the men that are suffering get treated like they are successful by association of being male. Men definitely have a hard time understanding how women experience sexuality. A lot of men assume it works the same for us as it does for them, and that leads to a lot of misunderstandings. Overall, men are just people who are different from me in a few ways, but more like me than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:17 PM
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I would think a lot of feminists do stick to male feminists. I suppose it depends on what brand of feminist the woman is. More hardcore will be more picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:29 PM
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I'm sorry, but the internet isn't the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:24 PM
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You get all your info from... where, again?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:40 AM
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It really isn't
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:44 AM
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You get to insult women with your baseless assertions, I get to call your baseless assertions out for what they are. That being said, your answer has given me the info I needed. It's bullshit you pulled outta your butt. It always is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:37 AM
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Do you have any credible sources besides incel adjacent internet theorizing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:21 AM
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Why can't women emotionally cheat too? What if the woman doesn't have this back up that you imagine she has?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:09 AM
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I only want commitment, so no. Henry Cavil could walk up in my apartment and I'd turn him down if it was just for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:55 PM
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Being a good cook, being good with animals and children, and being handy are all attractive traits to me. So jobs that involve those things are very nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:37 PM
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I've seen an arrest video for a man masturbating in a Wal-Mart. I like watching people who deserve to get arrested being arrested. I don't care what they look like.
/r/PussyPassDenied16/12/23 09:13 AM
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What the fuck are you on about. You think I've "dedicated fury" to "hunting down" people? All I did is say this lady's a freak on the internet. I haven't even gotten off my bed. Here's a question for you, should we accept all public masturbators because they could possibly chose to kill themselves someday?
/r/PussyPassDenied16/12/23 08:57 AM
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pussy pass accepted I guess
/r/PussyPassDenied15/12/23 11:56 PM
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When a man jerks in public, it's disgusting, sometimes even traumatizing. When a woman does it "aww let the poor lady masturbate, I feel so sorry for her"
/r/PussyPassDenied15/12/23 11:51 PM
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Only Karens are against public masturbation where anyone, including children, might see. Those awful Karens.
/r/PussyPassDenied15/12/23 11:48 PM
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I think it's more of a hope. If you enjoy someone's company, you don't want them to just disappear. You don't want to admit that the rejection is the end of all of it. You hope you can go back to how it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:48 PM
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I'm not society though, I'm me. I determine what has value to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:15 PM
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Hey, she can't help her eyes are messed up. That awful nose was completely her choice though lol.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/12/23 06:13 AM
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To me, that's not a chad, and that's not high value. That's a man whore, that is trash, he can go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:37 AM
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#1 Do women feel like dominating their field? If I'm not incorrect, statistically women are less competitive overall. I personally don't desire domination, I prefer peaceful coexistence. Many women are extremely competitive though. #2 Do women get inflated egos based on their abilities and social status? Obviously yes. I'd wager the number of women who do this is pretty equal to men. #3 Do women think of violence as a good way to punish? Some do, some don't. I think it's probably a fairly even s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:06 PM
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That video was mostly harassment. It's calling all the women trash, but that one woman was just sitting at a table and the guy picked on her for existing and took the chair? How is she trash? I do think porn stars in general, men and women, should think a bit more about future consequences, but this isn't pussy pass denied. This is trolling women for being women.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/12/23 06:26 PM
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And plenty of men say "if she won't sleep with me right away, I dump her", so they have pressure put on them to try and keep their partner with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:53 AM
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If I have a relationship with a man for the sole purpose of gold digging, am I not using him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 01:51 AM
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Would I be commenting on the fact that the guy in the video was strong? Or would I be saying to you that you are NOT strong and be putting you down?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:07 AM
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She says in the movie she has a virus and doctors don't really know what it is yet. People didn't understand AIDS right away, and clearly neither did she. She ran to trash men because she thought that's all she deserved. She destroyed herself, led to her own death, and hurt Forrest and her son. But she didn't do it because of some evolutionary desire to seek out "alphas" and "high value men". She wasn't scheming, she wasn't planning. She was a broken person being stupid and hurting people along …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 11:05 PM
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While Jenny was definitely not good for Forrest at all, she is an example of women behaving badly for reasons other than pure maliciousness. A lot of guys in this sub like to characterize women as being purposely cruel and excessively opportunistic. Jenny knew she wasn't good for Forrest. She felt unworthy of his love and kindness, she was scared by it. She didn't run off to chase some Chad Thundercock. She wasn't doing some beta bux bullshit. But when women in real life behave like her, redpill…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 10:36 PM
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There's this, as well as this I don't really go saving comments so I had to dig a little. I was being a little hyperbolic, but I genuinely have regularly seen men here express that even if the only women available to them are awful, it's preferable to being sexless and alone. They often try to reframe toxic behaviour as part of a woman's naturally evolved instincts, turning it into something inevitable that cannot be avoided by holding out for a better partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:41 AM
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Most of the men who post here embody that stereotype. You tell them to avoid toxic women and they act like they have no choice but to get sex wherever they can or they'll die.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:32 PM
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The criminal is a pretty woman and the victim is an animal. Nothing's going to happen to her and I hate being alive sometimes.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/11/23 01:59 AM
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I honestly don't understand how many people on this sub come up with shit like this. This is basically a conspiracy theory you are believing in here, because in order for this to be true, everyone who got married later in life and claims to be happy must by lying. Every single one, lying, without fail. How can you even claim to be reasonable and say something so stupid and absurd?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:00 AM
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Noone has a valid reason for being against mandatory paternity test at birth. Guilty until proven innocent being unjust and immoral isn't good enough for you? Of course not, you're an insecure man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:45 AM
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Oh I'm missing out on a real winner. I'll be kicking myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:08 AM
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I refuse to be with a man who thinks I'm cheating when I've given him no signs. I'm glad it's a red flag for people like you, you aren't wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:59 AM
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How many times is this question going to be asked? I'm a living breathing human, not an automaton. I want LOVE goddamn it. I don't need an ubermensch to give me supreme baby batter. I want a fucking life companion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:46 PM
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I'm not sure how to argue against you, because I'm having a hard time understanding your conclusion based on what you're saying. Is your assertion simply that because men and women have differences, egalitarianism is not the way to go?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 11:24 AM
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"The only empathy that matters for guys is pussy wrapped around their cocks. That’s why. Anything else is discounted as worthless." Because that post described women giving advice as "brushing off" male loneliness. A lot of men here don't want to find happiness, they want sex and they will forgo happiness to get it. That's not all men, obviously. But look at how offended dudes get if you suggest they try and find happiness alone. I can't tell you how many guys on this sub have told me they rathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:34 AM
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According to guys here, I shouldn't have to do anything. I just have to exist and men will flock to me. But as soon as I say that's not my experience, suddenly women DO have to make some effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:24 AM
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You know nothing about my life or my circumstances. I am 31 and have never been kissed. I've been asked out on a date once in my entire life. Women can be fucked up and lonely too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:27 PM
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So I should just be happy to find a random man, even if we're incompatible, don't even like each other, I should just be happy to be a nice warm hole for some random?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:18 PM
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Now people'll brush it off and say you should be happy being single or to seek therapy. That's not brushing it off that's saying "oh you're suffering, these are some things I can think of to help with that". I understand why women can never be empathetic towards men in this aspect. Are you kidding? My loneliness gets brushed aside constantly just because I am a woman, I keep getting told it's my own fault. I can completely be empathetic towards another lonely person, much more than people are to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:36 PM
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I would have to live with myself knowing what an awful person I am for abandoning someone. No amount of hotness could erase my self loathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:23 PM
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For me I think the redpill makes correct observations sometimes, but I have a problem with the way it reacts to these observations. I honestly think it is detrimental to mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:28 AM
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A male virgin is just a male virgin. An incel has a pattern of behaviour and beliefs. You can wag your finger and say "well it means involuntarily celibate" all day long, but "incel" is a term a very specific type of male virgin has come up with as an identifier. It's not shameful to be a virgin, but it is very shameful to be an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:45 AM
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You can be happy single. I'm not telling people to pick their poison. One option is objectively better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:43 PM
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I understand, that's why I find you to be so depressing. You really think a toxic or abusive girlfriend is something you just gotta tough out like a low paying job?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:22 PM
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You really think you did something there. That's incredibly sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:01 PM
1

I don't think people argue that honesty and a good personality get you tons of casual sex. Those things are for meaningful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:22 PM
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Doing what's best for yourself even when it's hard = naive Going the easiest route and never challenging your own weakness = chad shit I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:39 AM
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Lots of people are single and have fulfilling lives. And it's not like you have to be single forever. If someone rather be unhappy with someone than happy alone, that's their choice to be an idiot. The world isn't forcing them to do anything, they chose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:16 AM
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No. Guys do not have to take anything. Being alone is a valid option.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 06:47 PM
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I guess it's crazy that a statistical anomaly like myself has been able to find so many anomalies in my life. Never met anyone like you talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:55 PM
1

Perhaps it makes thinking less hormonally influenced. Rationally, a man doesn't have to be a hunk to be a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:28 PM
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The women you describe sound like the popular and social girls that I was never associated with. Naturally those are the type you see the most of, but too many guys get the idea that this is the nature of all women deep down. So I believe that you've never once seen a woman do this. There are many things I have never seen because of my lifestyle, because I hang out with the people who don't get seen. None of this has anything to do with the fact that you can walk away from a toxic partner and be…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:25 PM
1

Well I disagree. Being repulsed by vulnerability means you're just a bad person, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:05 PM
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If it is your nature to be a shithead, you're still a shithead
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:02 PM
0

If vulnerability turns her off, she is scum. No excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:45 PM
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My mom is one of those women you've never seen. My dad was toxic, we left. I don't have a step dad 20 years later. Is she sad to be alone? Of course. But being with a toxic person is worse. Men have this option. Everyone does. There are worse things than being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:43 PM
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Being alone is an option. There's no such thing as having no option but to be with a toxic person, unless that person is literally holding you hostage somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:41 AM
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Imagine if we had that mentality when we were cavemen. We only have these devices we are typing on because humans overcame their shitty limitations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:41 AM
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All men should cry in front of their lady to weed out the toxic ones. You can tell me not to bring up toxicity but I'm going to ignore that. You shouldn't want to be in a toxic relationship. What's the point of coming online to discuss how to keep awful toxic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:39 AM
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I didn't say it was easy, but it's ridiculous to view dating like competing businessmen trying to hoard clients from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 11:12 PM
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I don't believe in strict gender roles that must be followed. Let people do what's right for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:26 PM
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Get married if you want to, don't if you don't. It's very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:06 PM
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It really isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 03:18 PM
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You're making the mistake of thinking everyone sees it the way you do. Not everyone has an unhealthy, hyper competitive, obsessive view of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:44 AM
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I'm a lonely autistic person with empathy who cannot get a partner. It is better to be alone and happy than unhappy with someone else. Obviously children in the mix changes things. If the parents are amicable, having one household while growing up would benefit the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:07 AM
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I feel like people who think monogamy is unnatural underestimate the strength of sexual preferences. If we could all be so easily nurtured into having mainstream sexual preferences, you would think conversion therapy would actually work. But it doesn't. Think about it. Think about how hard heterosexuality is constantly pushed. If that's all it took, there'd be almost no gay or trans people. Sexual preferences are more than what genitals you want to interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:45 PM
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Men are people, not lovebots. Why should I view a man differently from a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:59 PM
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When I say that women can be lonely too, they say that's our fault for not having sex with the first man that will have us. They call us picky for having any standard at all even if it's a standard against random horny strangers. A lot of men here will go on and on about how awful women are, but if you tell them to ignore such awful women, they say they have to take what they can get. I've had someone on this sub say to me that they would rather be with an abusive girlfriend than be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:35 PM
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Men and alcohol do not mean it's a sex party
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:51 PM
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What's your opinion of a woman not dressing slutty at a halloween party?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:09 AM
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There I go overestimating humanity again
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 09:27 PM
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I feel like guys here jump to extremes, like... why would you think a woman finds it full on disgusting? I wouldn't care, personally, but a woman just looking for a hookup will naturally be more interested in skill level.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:47 PM
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I think women on reddit represent women on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:25 AM
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I love children for what they are, not for how much they can stroke my ego. I would love to get with a guy who already has kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:27 AM
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I'm kind of confused by your terminology here. Penpal/surrogate?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:26 AM
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No, because that isn't being forced. It's not like being forced to steal a loaf of bread because you're starving. Anyone who uses another person and essentially lies to them by omission to get sex is a scumbag. I only feel sorry for the people who get hurt by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:24 AM
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I plan on owning lots of pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:00 PM
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I'm not saying it's explicitly sex tourism in every instance, but it adds to the pressures a woman might be under in such a country.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:41 PM
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Definitely not. This might be the best time to be a woman there has ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 12:01 AM
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No the phrase means that none of us are here on purpose. Our parents made us but no one has control over what person comes out 9 months later.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:42 PM
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It is absolutely fundamentally NOT the same. I have explained why. So, at this point, you are either pretending not to understand, or you are too stunted by your irrational emotional viewpoint to be capable of understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:40 PM
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As the wealthier one, he has more power and could easily end things. He would not be relying on me to save him from his life situation as his situation is already very ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 04:29 PM
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90% of women here do not say that. Predatory men are criticized. If you think that encompasses all men, that's your issue. I don't hate anyone based on the accident of their birth. If I hate someone, they have given me a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:15 AM
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So to you, being ugly and non-rich makes me the same as someone looking to take advantage of strife to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:10 AM
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Dating a rich hot guy is not the same as taking advantage of desperate women. Jesus christ
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 08:09 AM
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Wow in one quick move you were sexist to both men and women. You honestly think men don't get fucked up by things women can do to them because they're such big brain geniuses?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:39 AM
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Why is waiting for sex a red flag for you? You should understand why if you get ghosted all the time. Women looking for LTRs tend to not want to get burned.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:33 AM
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It's because they're going to very specific countries that have socio-economic troubles and sex trafficking issues. How is that hard for you guys to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:31 AM
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No I would not. I feel like as a man I would have pressure on me to be tough or masculine. I would have this new set of expectations put on me that I don't think I can live up to. I honestly think I would have gotten bullied even harder than I have been as a woman. I haven't really faced too many female related hardships. I live in a place where that's not really a concern. Been creeped on a couple of times which certainly wasn't fun. Man it's kind of sad that my reasoning is basically "I'm seen…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:15 AM
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Woman gets hurt by man. Woman thinks "I'm allowed to use and abuse men because they are bad" Man gets hurt by woman. Man thinks "I'm allowed to use and abuse women because they are bad" It goes on and on. Anyone who denies it is blinded by their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:03 PM
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I think I would get tired of that. The enjoyment of not feeling any pressure would wear off. I want at least a little passion, come on now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 10:44 PM
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Women here seem to think that asking for a test = you think she's 100% cheating No, it means that you think the chance is high enough to warrant a test, which is insulting if you are completely innocent. You can trust your partner 100% and it would still be smart to get a test. So where do we draw the line with tests then? How much do I get to do to my partner to satisfy my insecurity? Men want paternity tests because they are afraid of raising somebody else's kid, Why would they have to test a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 12:47 AM
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I can't magically sense it, but there are signs. Lots of misogynistic dudes are really hung up about stuff, so you start noticing what their favourite subject is. You'll notice little reactions, little snide comments, they all add up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:23 PM
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Unironically yes. People need to stop being so shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:25 AM
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Intelligence isn't just knowing facts, it's about being able to figure things out, hold conversations about different subjects, being resourceful and clever. A complete dumbass could list off some facts about coding or history.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:36 PM
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So your argument is "everyone who contradicts me is a liar".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:10 AM
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FYI, people don't live forever. Sometimes the flame lasts longer than the lifespan. It has happened. To claim otherwise you would just have to say everyone who disagrees with you is a liar and that's just a shitty way to make an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:04 AM
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Any ridicule you get is for acting like an edgy teenager. Obviously the people who are blasting their happiness on social media are fake as fuck. There are people who don't live like that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:57 AM
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Exactly, human nature hasn't changed at all. Do you think any of this behaviour is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 11:19 PM
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The internet is proof that human nature has not changed. We just have new toys to play with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 11:17 PM
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Basically you're saying "lots of people are unhappy in marriage, therefore happy marriages don't exist". That's just hyperbolic edge. Misery and happiness both exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 11:16 PM
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I don't see why I shouldn't take advice from the people who have succeeded at my ultimate goal. The things that matter in a long lasting relationship don't update every decade. Anything that does is just superficial details.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 11:14 PM
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You've failed to prove a single concept because this entire idea of yours is based on the presumption that all men are basically like little horny Grima Wormtongues. If men were as small minded and vile as you say, sure you would be right. But you are not. You are that sort of person who's really fucked up inside, and to cope you project that onto everyone around you. You tell yourself everyone is just as fucked up as you are, and they're just hiding it. That's why you're coming at us like you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:57 AM
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Wow you are so close to grasping the idea that women are all individuals with different wants and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:26 PM
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I dislike female specific meet ups and groups and such. Most of my friends all my life have been girls and women, and when we hang out we just be ourselves. When something gets labeled as being female specific, there's this weird sort of expectation hanging over the whole thing. I'd rather just be natural and friendly with no such expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:37 AM
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You need to stop thinking that hybristophiliacs are representative of average women. They are mentally ill women not in their right minds. Unattractiveness can be a factor, but it is not at all what defines creepy. Men also make excuses for attractive women who behave inappropriately. Most people are shallow like that, regardless of their sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:31 AM
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Never. I'd be lucky not to end up in jail for assault after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:34 AM
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Are you really losing out on a "market" if you come away with what you want? Obviously if you only want one partner, you're missing out on others, that's no revelation. Women can easily find another faithful good guy in a week if they want, so it does not apply both ways. Also holy shit dude. You really think men are just little perfect angels? We're all human, we're all complicated and messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:10 PM
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So women are "creating" misogynists by not having sex with sad virgins? Basically, if someone is sexist to me, it's my fault because I didn't use my body to fix incels with sex? Counter theory: misogynists are just ignorant and/or bigoted people and it has nothing to do with being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:24 AM
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I was just stunlocked the entire time because I'm not used to that lifestyle. This changed my view on women completely. Jesus fucking Christ. Well I've witnessed a man being abusive. I guess I should have my entire view of men changed right? I guess you must be a piece of shit too since I've met one man who was an asshole. Honestly why would you admit openly what an idiot you are? Your ignorance is astounding. Have you ever heard of a culture in which a man can have many wives that didn't treat …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 02:11 AM
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How happy is that family going to make you if you are with someone who makes you miserable? If you can't find someone whose nature isn't awful, your family life will be awful. Those kids will suffer, too. So it is best to hold out for a good match instead of taking whatever you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:10 PM
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This is why I think men are less okay with being alone. You think all this stuff about women, but for some reason, you still want to meet them. For me, if I believed men are as awful as manhating feminist types do, pursuing men would be out of the question. It doesn't matter how dispassionately I rationalized the behaviour. A bear isn't evil for just acting according to its nature, but I'm still not looking to invite one into my house.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:18 PM
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If someone hurts you, that's not going to disappear if you withhold judgment. Toxic, harmful behaviours will damage you even if you unemotionally accept the logic behind them. Men get treated unfairly basically all the time. No one is going to be happy just going along with that. We all have to engage with society to some degree, but why subject yourself to a shitty system in circumstances where you can abstain?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:52 PM
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Accepting? No, more like they treat it like women are a murky pool of water in a vast desert that you can't help but drink from. And I'm not saying to just lie back and wait for a woman. I'm saying that if you really think the only way to get a woman is to engage in toxic mind games and then put on an act for the rest of your life, don't bother with women at all. If you pursue a woman, pursue one that doesn't elicit the kind of hate and resentment that gets posted here. Pursue her in a way that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:32 AM
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Well for 100 reasons besides just this, men need some kindness and support. Women get all the positive messaging about going it alone, but men don't. Ideally, in a perfect world, people would all realize that it's better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else. I have no idea how to actually fix the problem though. For some people, going their own way in life is just unthinkable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:11 AM
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I think it's because men seem to be less okay overall with being alone. Look at how redpill men here talk about women. It's obvious they think women are absolutely despicable creatures, but they pursue women anyway because the idea of not doing so is just out of the question. They just tell themselves "hey that's just how it is" and they think that means they have to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:02 AM
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Listen to every Picard speech from TNG, and that basically aligns with whatever my ideology is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:46 AM
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I've never heard of a woman educating herself and getting a good career to attract a man. I've never seen anyone believe it worked that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:07 AM
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Better by who's metric, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:11 PM
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It's so stupid to treat it like it's some unique biological phenomenon. Many people desire the "best" things they can get in life. Opportunists exist in both sexes, so naturally there are women who will use sex to get what they want. But lonely, terminally online dudes are committed to treating women like unknowable aliens, so they interpret marrying up as "oh women only get wet for Chad" "women are literally horny for money" No, some women are just shallow enough to marry a guy to get some fanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:21 AM
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I suppose they don't see all the things I see as dangers or sources of anxiety or shame. It feels good, so the rest must just be background noise to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 12:39 AM
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You really just don't want to engage with this at all. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:54 AM
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But they are women falsely accusing men of harassment. What, anything less than an actual court case is okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:11 AM
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This is about men who think they will get sexual harassment charges not men who think there are women who will be unreceptive to their advance. Good, because that's what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:53 AM
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You are just completely unaware of how shitty stuff is right now. There are absolutely some delusional women out there. Women can be just as awful as any man can be. First thing that comes to my mind is those gym videos on TikTok where girls are at the gym and a guy happens to look at them a second and they act like they're being harassed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:52 AM
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Yes, but it's not really what you consider to be "me". If I lose consciousness there's nothing to interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:58 PM
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I love kids so it would be ideal for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 08:36 AM
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We are absolutely not saying the same thing. So do you think a movie is about the camera and the script? Or is it about the content?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 08:54 PM
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Life is about whatever you make it to be. Do you think a movie is about the movie making process?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 08:18 PM
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That's how life perpetuates. A lot of things happen while you're alive beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 03:44 AM
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Isn't a man's strength what makes him valued for the labour he can provide? To me it sounds like women are valued for what they provide if we're talking about what they can do with their bodies. I do think there are definitely people who value women just because they are women, but they are definitely not the same people who would ever even allude to a woman's worth being tied to fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:54 AM
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I exist in my body but everything that is my personality is in the brain only.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:47 AM
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Women are valued for what they are Do you agree with that phrase? Women are values sexually and for fertility reasons. You've contradicted yourself already. Unless of course you think all women are is vaginas and baby-makers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:36 PM
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You think it takes 15-20 years to realize that you sacrifice for your loved ones? For your children? I'm pretty sure you feel that sacrifice immediately. You say it's "not worth it" to support your family... but what exactly is? For most people, keeping their loved one's happy is the entire point of life. What exactly should they be doing instead? Suffering alone instead of with family? Are you just out of touch or are you pretending to not know there are motivations beyond pure self serving one…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 10:30 AM
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I thought maybe you were going to be talking about some kind of organization that had been for men only in the past suddenly opening up to women. But no, you're bitching because girls enjoy your hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:52 AM
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But you do think I am lying. What's the point of this post if you think everyone who has a contradictory experience is just a liar? I really am not lying. Looks are on my list, but they are exceptionally low priority. If someone makes my world a better place just by being around me, I am not going to turn them away. They would have to be more than just ugly, but actually repulsive in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 03:11 AM
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Accuse me of lying outright then, instead of dancing around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 12:59 AM
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Well personality means more to me, and at least a couple people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 12:48 AM
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To me it's as much a part of my sexual orientation as being straight. I have no sexual attraction to women, and I have no sexual attraction to people I'm not in love with. The idea of it is unappealing and uncomfortable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:20 AM
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Some are, some are not. Most questions about women can be answered this way because we are individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:46 PM
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Guys here swear up and down they know that, but then there are constant posts that treat different opinions of different women as being contradictory or logically inconsistent as if the same woman expressed both views.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:44 PM
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It depends completely on the desires and the values of each woman. Some will absolutely do this. Some might agonize over the choice before going one way or the other. Some will not do this. I mean, it's obvious that there are definitely women who do this. No one marries an 80 year old millionaire out of sheer raw attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:14 PM
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I would not like that at all. It's only superficially equal. 100 bucks to me is not equal to 100 for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 05:48 AM
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This isn't an attack on women, this is an attack on humanity period. This sub is full of misanthropic misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:35 AM
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As is typical for this sub, an incredibly mundane social interaction is being filtered by an insane lens of sex and bogus rhetoric. The fact that you seem to classify any platonic relationship between a man and a woman as the man being an "orbiter" reveals how sexist you are (to both women AND men). You have an inflated sense of the importance of your own experience. You don't see women as good company, so you project that onto other men. They must be orbiters because women are just so lame. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:02 AM
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Many scummy or sleazy things are viable. That's obvious, or else why would anybody do them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 12:52 AM
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To me, "low value" is something I would only attribute to someone way down at the bottom of the barrel. Hard drug users, criminals, bigots, etc. A man who's short or who's balding isn't low value. That's just sexist bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 12:45 AM
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Are you sure you're just not hearing the different opinions of different women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:59 PM
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To me, looks are almost last on my list. If I like someone enough, their personality will change how I look at them enough to give me "tingles".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 08:25 PM
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When you hear enough horror stories, it's hard not to feel wary. I try not to, but it is on my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 06:56 PM
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Some women do objectify themselves, but it's ludicrous to claim that merely adhering to beauty standards = objectification. That just makes it seem like you're saying the hotter you are the less humanity you are projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:58 PM
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I've only rejected one man (aside from odd random internet advances from strangers), and it was harrowing. I was so afraid of hurting his feelings. I knew it must have taken courage to ask me out, and I didn't want him to feel like he was being punished for that. I did as much as I could to reassure him about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 10:42 AM
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That's just not true. A percentage of women are hostile to be sure, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:07 PM
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I consider not being fetishized and objectified as one of the benefits of being fat tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:02 PM
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As a fat woman, I think I have it easier. Even if I am not attractive, I still get treated generally with more kindness because I'm female. I can be emotional without being bullied or humiliated. My looks have also forced me to grow in ways I might not have if I were hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:01 PM
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Since certain social issues have become more talked about, there've been people who take it to extremes. Large age gaps have an uncomfortable power dynamic, but an extreme person will treat almost any difference like it's a huge problem. It's the same kind of thing where people think manspreading is a serious social issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:45 AM
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but don’t expect having friends to help you attract women. YOU ARE PROVING MY POINT AGAIN You think learning about women in the context of having sex with them is the only valuable thing here. This is fucking depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:42 AM
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I literally said I humanize men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:38 AM
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Man redpillers love to just tell on themselves. Yes, you don't need to be a friend with a woman to have sex with her. That was never my point. My point is, if you're a man who is terminally online and ingesting this bullshit, you will forever see women as hostile alien creatures. Befriending women will help demystify a lot of the utter nonsense you people here believe. Being around women will help you understand women. Fucking prove me wrong lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:37 AM
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Really? Because I still humanize men even though misogyny exists. Own up to your shortcomings and stop making excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:32 AM
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You're proving my point. You're acting like understanding women better is pointless if you don't get to have sex with those specific women. It seems to completely elude you that getting to understand women better in general will help you with any female-related endevours you might have elsewhere. You guys are really hung up on the idea of spending time with a woman and not trying to get in her pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:31 AM
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No one said anything about who has it easier. I'm just saying it's fucking stupid to assume that every woman has had two dozen boyfriends by 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 05:20 AM
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It's hard to humanize a group of people who you only view as a goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:01 AM
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It's not common sense to make big assumptions about people based on what bitter, terminally online redpillers tell you. Why should I assume what someone's experience level is? That's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:00 AM
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Me nor any of my female friends are like that. Actually, I'm pretty sure my only non-virgin friends are male. Men who spend their time crying about not getting women aren't the people you should listen to when it comes to what women are like. They only know the women they've been rejected by.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 01:59 AM
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So what? If you want to be with someone who's that judgmental, you're a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 01:57 AM
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"Learning how to be comfortable around women and interact with them will never help me develop if I can't fuck them!!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:46 PM
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Teen years are the only time you can afford to commit mistakes while approaching the opposite gender and flirting with them. False. You can still do that with adult women. You are still awkward, the women aren't. They already dated 30+ men. Find a woman who hasn't dated 30+ men then, stupid. Here's my advice: Stop filling your brain with redpill shit. You are regurgitating the same bullshit I've seen 1000 times. Women are people too. You might say "I never said they weren't!" Yeah, you did indir…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:45 PM
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My relationship with my brother is kind of strained, but I know he's not some kind of heartless poonhound like some people assume all men are. Actually a lot of the relationships with the men in my family are less than ideal in one way or another, but I never once thought to judge all men by that. Well, I did used to say I hated all boys but I stopped when I was like, 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:33 PM
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I think you're right. If someone seems like they perfectly have their shit together, I'm immediately intimidated. I'm a goddamn mess lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:28 AM
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they now make whole online social groups whose members discuss this phenomena on a national level There are large social groups for all sorts of things. There are huge gatherings of Star Trek fans, but does that suddenly mean most people are Trekkies? how would so many women end up 'dating' the same guy if they're picking not looks but values kindness, loyalty, emotional intelligence? Many people, both men and women, are very shallow. I don't think any woman has ever claimed no women make any sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:51 AM
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The difference is just flavouring of the toxicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:26 PM
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When they're happy and their relationship is healthy. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:45 AM
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Do you think equality makes a relationship inherently platonic?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:17 AM
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I'd be surprised if he expected less than 50/50 from me. I guess I'd be surprised if he wanted more than that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:15 AM
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Do you think good people even exist? Because this post makes it seem like you can't imagine someone being good and loyal and loving.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:19 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean. Are you talking about women who get married just so they can immigrate faster?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:13 AM
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I definitely keep that stuff in mind. I still obviously don't love it when I see nasty sexist rhetoric, even when I am aware of men's issues now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:41 PM
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Because it's some of the most misanthropic dehumanizing bullshit out there
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:36 PM
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At first I hated it because I was told second hand about how sexist it is. Then, I had it explained to me as simply being aware that men endure struggles too and women don't always have it the worst. I agreed with that. Then I came here, and now I absolutely despise it again. I wish the old impression I had was correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:12 PM
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So if a guy is standoffish and rude, that would be off-putting to me. I would assume being around him is unpleasant. If he has been selected by a woman who's opinion I don't value highly, I'm not really going to change my mind. If he has been selected by a woman who's opinion I respect and value, I might think "hmm, maybe there's something more to him". I wouldn't suddenly want him or anything, but I would be less harsh right away in my judgement. But this sort of logic goes for many, many thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:09 PM
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So if a guy is standoffish and rude, that would be off-putting to me. I would assume being around him is unpleasant. If he has been selected by a woman who's opinion I don't value highly, I'm not really going to change my mind. If he has been selected by a woman who's opinion I respect and value, I might think "hmm, maybe there's something more to him". I wouldn't suddenly want him or anything, but I would be less harsh right away in my judgement. But this sort of logic goes for many, many thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:09 PM
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Really? Young people are the most trend following in my experience. They all think they are being individual, but they're still figuring themselves out so they haven't quite gotten it yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:05 PM
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Do you have any evidence that this mating strategy is being used to such a degree that bottlenecks will form?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:38 AM
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4, 5, 11, 9 (wants kids), and 3. 10 is actually a negative for me because video games are my biggest hobby lol. I like the idea of wealth and being able to do all the things I want but cannot now, but Elon Musk wealthy brings a lot of downsides I really do not want at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 08:20 PM
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What the hell are you talking about? Do you think immigrants come to America just to get easy sex? Are you crazy? In what world do women who immigrate do the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 09:08 AM
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Of course they do. If they don't, it's not equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:11 PM
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You don't watch them either. You just make up explanations for statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:29 PM
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Any time you try to tell them to get a hobby or self improve, they get mad and say "that won't get me laid!" It's an obsession but they can't see it because they are convinced everyone is also obsessed
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:18 AM
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Some women here often claim that in the future, as men become less valuable for women and women more independent, I call complete bullshit. This entire thing is a theory from terminally online males. Females don't say this at all. A bunch of men here look at the statistics of single males and single females, and came up with this theory that the women are all sharing Chad Thundercock. It's literally just based upon their fantasy fueled guess based on some numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 10:40 PM
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I have an idea why, whether OP did so consciously or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 07:16 PM
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I never even remotely said anything about cheating. I suppose I read it wrong then. I thought you were saying all these women who only marry average men had FWB currently, not in the past. Women give men sex, men give women sex and or other things. That is how transactions work, this does not make it less genuine. It does, if you remove all humanity from it. That's where the genuine stuff comes from. A relationship that has transactional stuff within it isn't solely a transaction in and of itsel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:41 PM
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A relationship entails a man having to compensate for his lack of physical attractiveness with other forms of payment for sex. What? You've already completely lost the plot. I genuinly do not understand how anyone can actually believe that having women give you casual sex is worse than having a relationship with one. Wow. A lot is wrong here. Very revealing. "Having women give you casual sex" lets us know you view sex as this thing that is given and received, cutting out any and all of the human…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 06:37 PM
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Like, do you mean if they become a simpy, doormat serving boy? Because that's the only way I can see women "viewing that man less sexually". What do you mean my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:47 PM
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The implication is I can enjoy ethically sourced porn catered exactly for me forever. Simps who want to buy porn from specific girls will still exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:43 PM
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Brainwashed by social media. There's a whole world out there of different types of people my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:41 AM
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You know what does help you pull them? (notice I didn't use the word turns them on, you're just turning yourself into a betabux). HOW MUCH MONEY YOU SPEND! How is that not money still mattering a lot? Your argument seems to be "money doesn't matter because women don't get wet over the number amount". I think the number of confused people who would actually disagree with that is very, very limited. OBVIOUSLY it's the spending. Women are people, and people like money. The difference is, women are …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:31 AM
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You say he's much older than my preferred range. Depending on whether that makes him up to 20 years older than me, or 40 years older, I might switch to the dude or stay with the lady. The idea of making out with someone who could be my grandfather is a bit much for me. Not that making out with someone who could be my father is ideal, but due to the choice presented I would accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:33 PM
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If a woman decides to sleep with me and regrets it afterwards, that is nobody’s problem That 100% depends on why she regrets it. For example, if the guy was putting on an act to get her into bed and becomes a trash human being the second he gets what he wants... how is that her fault? She's been lied to and decieved. If a woman just wasn't as satisfied with the sex as she thought she would be (and not for lack of trying from the man), that's just how life goes sometimes. She wasn't used. The maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:29 PM
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Okay so basically I have to choose between two people I really would rather not make out with. One is a horrible human being, the other is a good one. I pick the woman then. I'd pick her even if she was ugly too. I don't want to give a kiss to an asshole like the guy you described.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:21 PM
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If what your partner wears bothers you, the correct thing to do is talk it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:17 AM
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It's easy to accept, but that doesn't mean I have to go: "wow, that sure is a reasonable and valid reason for rejecting a person." I'm not a person that thinks all opinions are equally valid. Some people are unreasonable and stupid and I shouldn't be expected to pretend like they aren't. I shouldn't have to pretend their opinion has equal value to an opinion that came from careful and reasonable thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:23 PM
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Literally no one hates a man just because they are lonely and want love. What people hate are certain actions and behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:38 PM
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They are one and the same. One means the other, and vice versa. You don't need to ensure something if it is not in doubt. That doubt is an accusation of being a suspect of something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:24 PM
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There's literally no difference whatsoever. They are exactly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:07 AM
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It really does suck that good men get taken advantage of, and get backstabbed and heartbroken. But it's not like men can't do the same to women, and yet if a woman proposed anything like this they would be called irrational and misandrist. If it's okay to treat all women like suspects, then every date I ever have should have to prove he has no record of DV.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:13 AM
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You're comparing this to something systems of government that deal with millions of people and couldn't possible operate on trust. I would compare this mandatory testing to racial profiling. It paints a massive demographic as suspects until proven innocent. Not because they have to drive a dangerous car, or because they're entering some contract that involves a lot of money, but because they were born. And it usually gets justified with statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:09 AM
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Well if it's okay to do this kind of thing, I'm going to stop talking to you. You haven't proven to me that you aren't a sex pervert.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:04 AM
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My point is it's wrong??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:58 AM
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In what world would women never be capable of lying or cheating, while men can do so? Of fucking course women have been shown to do this. Men have been shown to do some pretty awful things, should I accuse you of a few?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:27 AM
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Being accused of a crime you didn't commit based solely on your sex is fucking abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:25 AM
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No, based on the fact that she is a woman. If it was a gay couple, or a man and a transwoman, this wouldn't be a thing. This is literally an accusation placed on women because they are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:24 AM
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I think people who love to talk about how much they hate children need to be bullied more. Like, oh wow, you're so cool for hating people who are: vulnerable, weaker, and less knowledgeable than you are. You sound like a great person if this is something so integral to your identity. If you don't want kids, fine. But if you make being "child free" part of your identity, you are cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:23 AM
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Okay, so anyone can be alone, and the fact that they don't enjoy sex with literally everyone doesn't negate that. Neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:20 AM
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Any man who believes in this deserves to be alone forever. How's that for another hot take? If you honestly believe that you are justified in demanding your girlfriend or wife is not a cheating slut without any reason to suspect whatsoever, you deserve loneliness. You don't get to treat people you claim to love like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:16 AM
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For ages now I've been told by guys here that as a woman, it is impossible for me to be alone because I can always find some complete rando desperate enough to have me. If that's true, I don't see why one female is different from another.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:09 AM
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It's smart for a man to accuse his partner of being a lying cheater on the sole basis that she is a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:05 AM
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I honestly can't tell if that's a bad take or a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:04 AM
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Well then you're just going to have to buy the cheapest hookers out there. If getting laid really magically fixes so much about your life it shouldn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:05 AM
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Accusing all women of being cheaters is fucking stupid. If you really think that way about women just stay away from them, goddamn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:00 AM
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Not every lonely guy is broke though, so it's not really the same as telling a homeless person to just get a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:50 PM
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Anything less than a perfect ideal is "less desirable," isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:20 AM
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You can say "lower your standards" if someone says they will only accept something that is exceptionally rare and nothing else will satisfy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:12 AM
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Self esteem can absolutely be mended. There's no such thing as a person who can under no circumstances overcome such a thing. Just because something makes you feel like a failure doesn't make it true. I was someone who got pretty badly bullied in school so I know it's not easy to do. What's the point in just giving up? Might as well fight it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:07 AM
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while reprehensible still feels better than being rejected for the 50th time, doesn't it? No, I'm a good person. Being bad makes me feel horrible about being alive. I enjoy doing the right thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:47 AM
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That's so stupid. It's almost as stupid as you following me around. Are you really that butthurt I didn't want to play your game?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:46 AM
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If no one wants me for me, I don't need them. Simple as.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:42 AM
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I've gotten none at all, not even once. I'm not happy about it, and I do angst about it sometimes. But the thing is, it's not ruining my life. In fact, not getting laid is so low on my list of problems it barely registers most of the time. Nothing about my life situation would magically become better if I were having sex. And just in case anyone wants to try it, no I am not swimming in options. No, I am not holding out for Chad and snubbing "betas". That's always the accusation I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:07 AM
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No shit, all that's obvious. What's your point exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:04 AM
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I said what I said as someone who has experienced "scarcity" their entire life. I maintain what I said. You can get love and support platonically. If you can't be true to yourself you'll never be happy no matter how much romance you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:59 AM
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I'd be upset if he didn't explain why.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:22 AM
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I would never be jealous of someone doing that kind of work, I find it distasteful. I also just feel that it's more men's fault for buying into it than women's fault for providing it. If more men had more self worth things would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:00 PM
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I'm not looking for dates now, but I plan to eventually. I've come to see being rejected for my looks as a good thing. It means that shitty shallow people will naturally filter themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:37 PM
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A guy could change how he acts to get some dates, but if he wants a relationship that lasts he's going to have to be himself. Is he going to put on an act his whole life? That sounds like a recipe for misery. If you can't be yourself with somebody, you can't be happy with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:22 PM
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Of course it makes sense. Guys should work on themselves FOR THEMSELVES, not to get laid. They should seek happiness and self improvement because those are good things for them to have. If someone's happiness, such as their 40K collection stops them from getting certain women, those women are not worth it. Why sacrifice your hobby just tp please someone's prejudices? That's absurd. Men deserve to be their best selves. Any woman who disapproves should be kicked aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:15 PM
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Wanting something so bad that it causes disfunction in your life is not normal or healthy. It is not normal or healthy to want sex so bad that you can't function properly. And of course I mean something besides what you need to live. If sex was a true need, then everyone would be suffering without it. Think of anything else a human actually needs from nutrition to basic social needs, you can expect the same reactions from being deprived. The same can't be said for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:12 PM
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I was raised not to value looks, and I took that lesson to heart. But because of studies like this, people feel justified in calling me a lying virtue signaler.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 10:10 PM
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So infertile people are intersex? No, infertile people have a condition. Some injury or defect of some kind is stopping them from being fertile. Being infertile isn't some brand new sex. nobody produces both eggs and sperm. That’s just not relevant. Actually I'd say the thing that proves you wrong and me right is entirely relevant. It's the only thing that's relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:25 AM
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Male and female sexes evolved to reproduce. That's the reason they came into existence. One produces eggs, one produces sperm. There's no spectrum there. If one or the other fails to produce those things, they don't get to reproduce. Every example of a deviation you brought up is a medical condition or and birth defect. I've heard your sort of argument a few times, and I've just never found it compelling at all. It just seems like it ignores really basic facts about evolution and biology. Also e…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:04 AM
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We don't live in the 1800's any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:38 PM
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I think there's more stigma against gay sex than there is lesbian sex. There's no beliefs that a woman having sex with a woman is "degrading" in the same way it exists for two men. Men get taunted with gay themed insults even when homosexuality isn't suspected. Lesbian sex also seems to get dismissed a lot as not counting as real sex. For example when people talk about losing virginity, they usually think of penetration. Girls casually experimenting with each other is fantasized. I could go on. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 07:56 PM
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Thailand, Columbia, Philippines, yeah, nothing shady there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 12:53 AM
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No one goes to Canada for sex tourism. Are you kidding me? People go to places known for their sex industry. Most countries with a well known sex industry aren't very well off, there are only a few exceptions. It's not a strawman, this specific argument you made is entirely about semantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:40 PM
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Just because you've proven that "third-world" is an unhelpfully vague and undefined term, does not mean that you have erased the fact that men go to certain countries that are significantly more troubled than the US. This argument doesn't address the problem, it's just trying to deflect and distract. It's an argument about a word, not the actual problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:11 PM
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It's a huge mess because sometimes this is the case and sometimes it isn't. It becomes difficult to figure out which is which. Everyone has insecurities that are on them, and insecurities that are pushed onto them by others. People tend to outright refuse to examine things carefully, look for nuance, or judge things on a case by case basis. Everyone wants easy answers and sweeping generalizations. Man bad, woman good, that's all some people need.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:07 PM
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She tried it with someone else, she doesn't know how it would be with the new guy. So women should be pressured to try acts that made them uncomfortable on the slim chance that it will be different with this guy? Your unsername really suits you. but doesn't mind if he tries it with somebody else then. So if she does not provide her man with the sex he demands, he should be allowed to cheat? I don't think relationships are right for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:18 PM
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What kind of ridiculous comparison is that? You really think there's a romantic gesture that would impact someone the same way an uncomfortable sexual act would?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:13 PM
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So if she doesn't regret it, why wouldn't she do it? Do you think literally all women just don't like their boyfriends and just see a meal ticket? I don't get why you guys are so obsessed with dating if you just openly hate women so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:35 AM
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I only put in the effort such a post deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:55 AM
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A woman tried something out in her youth that didn't work for her and she doesn't want to do it again, and if she doesn't force herself to do it again it's torture to you. That sounds like a great outcome to me. The torture couldn't happen to a more deserving person than the man in that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:54 AM
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What if the man has a similar high count past? You guys always act like it's some caricature of a lonely virgin who becomes the boyfriend at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:51 AM
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No, I don't think all women should be accused of being unfaithful cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:28 AM
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No, it goes both ways. If you compromise critical thought for short term gains, you're an idiot, no matter what your gender is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:08 AM
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Women attempting to manipulate is indeed bad, but if you act like a fool just for some pussy you're an idiot. We don't have mind control powers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:06 AM
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Same absolutely goes for women, at least in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:55 AM
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Yes. It's gross and pathetic. It's even more pathetic that men want to do this, then want to cry when people call them out for it. Either grow a thicker skin, or give it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:08 AM
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The thing is, you can still get off without actually having sex, you can still have fulfilling relationships with other humans without sex. There is literally no reason to be this pathetically needy. Something is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:12 PM
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I'm autistic lol, this guy has no excuse
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:39 PM
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The difference between what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:38 PM
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I'm only interested in sex if it's in a loving LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:43 AM
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It means their standards are subterranean. The thing is, no one needs sex to live. Something is wrong with you if you need it that badly to the point your life is ruined without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:08 AM
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It's everything to him. It would mean the world. He is the one who values it the most. Actually I'd say he values it the least. If you want sex, just sex, with anyone who will have you, how is that valuable? That's desperation. Buy a fleshlight or a hooker. A normal person doesn't have their entire world fall apart if they don't have sex. The men you are talking about aren't mentally well. I never looked at sex like a token? You do. You talk about sex like it's some hoarded resource. How else co…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:46 AM
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You're still treating it like a fucking token.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:05 AM
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Not even, this is full incel territory, and I'm not saying that to be hyperbolic. "All the women are being mean to me because they won't fuck me"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:50 AM
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You equate having sex with someone with being "nice" to them. I'd laugh if it weren't so demented. This is the problem with a lot of men. They view sex as this infinite resource that women are cruelly hoarding from them as if we're cartoonish villain keeping food away from starving orphans. It's like you think we're all just prostitutes, and our bodies are just bartering tokens. It's revolting. Me not having sex with every man with a pulse isn't me not being nice. It's fucking pathetic to try an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:49 AM
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The people who are only interested in the sensations of sex will be satisfied with VR. Infertile couples will get to have babies easier. Everyone who still wants to fall in love and have a life partner will still act normally. I've seen this exact question so many times, and every time they act like the only reason men and women interact is to fuck. It's kind of sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:46 PM
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So you're just roommates
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 08:45 PM
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So you're just kinda using him for his utility as a long term partner while you go off to have fun with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 07:21 PM
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What's the point of keeping the husband around then? He doesn't make you happy and you're having sex with someone else. Move on lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:59 AM
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My only worry with someone working on issues is that I don't want to become their therapist and feel responsible for their mental wellbeing to the point it takes away from my own. If that's not a problem, I don't see an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:07 PM
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Option A, easily. Option B is red flags and deal breakers at every step, with the only point in his favour being he looks prettier. Option A offers: no drama, someone to talk to, focused, family oriented, romantic... yeah that's a great deal let me sign up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:22 AM
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I think looking is fine as long as you're discreet. I take little glances at attractive people too. Just gotta behave yourself and not make anyone uncomfortable. So if done right, it wouldn't bother me. I'm not used to getting looked at so I'd be pretty flattered as well as flustered.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:51 AM
1

I've decided I'm either gonna be myself or die alone. Not interested in following instructions and being all fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:44 AM
1

Most men don't have bone deformities so that's not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 09:17 PM
1

Well then they should just become hotter. If it's so simple, it won't be that hard to take an extra step or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:26 PM
1

Because it's that easy to become attractive, right? If it's that simple, what are men complaining about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:53 PM
1

No, context matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:03 AM
5

I can't stop you from having a persecution complex, so go ahead and think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:55 AM
6

What pride are you talking about? And it's presumptuous of you to say I have options. I'm not a catch let me tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:41 AM
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You think someone's innate sexual desires are a pride thing? To me, being monogamous is as much a part of my orientation as being straight. It's nothing to do with pride.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:18 AM
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Why would they if they find the idea unpleasant? It's better to abstain from sex if the only option is having sex that makes you unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:12 AM
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People dislike open relationships in general. I'm a woman and it just grosses me out on a basic level. To each their own of course, but it is not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:08 AM
2

Just having sex isn't sleazy. What makes it weird or gross is how you go about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:05 AM
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Your examples aren't merely men having more sex, they are both sleazy practices. People don't like sleaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:46 PM
2

It's wrong to lie or mislead to get sex, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:06 PM
1

I don't give two shits about what any system wants or does not want me to do. I'm gonna do what's right for me. I think spending tons of money on luxury items you could get for cheap is just a signal that you are vain and small brained. Won't catch me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:29 PM
2

I'm a fat kissless virgin with autism. Do you think we're all just born popular and gorgeous?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:53 PM
2

Fleshlight would be fine with me. The sex dolls would be a no for me for the following reasons: huge, heavy and take up space expensive, so that means he wastes money on dumb things they are creepy looking, and if someone can get off to something creepy, that makes them also creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:59 AM
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It's just more insecure people who don't know how to define themselves. Obsession with identity and labels isn't a left only thing, not in the slightest. People think they need to find a tribe to belong to. They want to find a group to assimilate with, and they pick the one they think will give them what they need to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:29 AM
4

Obviously men without Instagram get laid. I don't know how you could make this claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:25 AM
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It can't really count as rape if he consented to the sex in his right mind with a person who is who they say they are. It's certainly a huge violation of course, but I just don't see it fitting under rape. Not sure why it matters if he's a "high earning man" or not. It's kind of fucked up to use how much money someone has as a qualifier for rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:53 PM
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Well men here misinterpret women all the time. I really doubt a bunch of women are telling you, directly or indirectly, that they can't love their boyfriends. I mean, I doubt don't doubt there are plenty of women like that. I just find it hard to believe that's all you've ever experienced. And even if that was all you've experienced, there are the experiences of so many other people. Not just ones you know, but you can learn about other people experiences from documentaries and books and tons of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:44 AM
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Well I challenge this assertion because you have nothing to show of how you've come to this conclusion. How do you claim to know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:03 AM
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Do women really want commitment? Obviously some do. And some don't really want relationships like that. There's no magic answer to give you that covers all women. I have a hard time understanding why questions like this get asked here. Do women realize that men above their league are unlikely to commit to them? Depends. Leagues aren't an objective thing. Plenty of people have overlap in how they categorize leagues but it's not like it's some actual thing that exists that can be measured. Women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:44 AM
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Equality is not the issue, but it is a complaint I have heard. I have heard more than once the idea that the government has "replaced men" by supplying women with "resources" that women used to rely on men for. So while agree with you overall, it's not as if this belief does not exist. It's just wrong to treat every man as if they hold the beliefs of a few fringe weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:35 PM
1

Based on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 12:38 PM
1

You can't choose what your sexual orientation is. You can choose which individual person you want to date. Being straight doesn't mean you want to date and have sex with every single person of the opposite sex. Being gay doesn't mean you want to date and have sex with every single person of the same sex. Being bi doesn't mean you want to date and have sex with every single person of either sex. You can't change your sexuality on a whim. Many people would have done so already to save their lives …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 03:55 AM
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Probably. But I doubt the ones who laugh about their crimes will be among the falsely accused.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:11 PM
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Why would that affect your ability to detect something toxic though, I don't get it? They're not saying "RP sucks because it doesn't get you maximum babes", they're saying it's full of nasty shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 09:21 PM
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What does a fat wife matter? That makes no sense. He doesn't require a supermodel wife to point out toxic shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:40 PM
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Everyone who doesn't see this as one of the cleanest cut, most black and white issues ever, should absolutely be viewed as a danger. If you see an actual confirmed rapist and your first thought is about false rape allegations, you probably don't think rape is as bad as you ought to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:16 PM
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Paying for sex is often much less offputting than Redpill rhetoric. There's a chance they still might view women as being humans. Who gives a shit if a man allegedly has a fat wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:13 PM
2

Figure out who you are. Know yourself. You'll make so many bad decisions if you don't know this. Separate what you want from what society tells you to want. When you know what you want, ask yourself why you want it. Get good at self reflection. Learn who to pay attention to and who to ignore. Not everyone is worth impressing. Learn that you deserve better than mistreatment and abuse. Realize that it's not "just the way it is". Study up on different types of manipulation and manipulative behaviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:55 PM
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I don't dislike men, I'm very careful to judge people individually and not by what they were born as. I am however much less trustful of men overall, because I now know things I did not know about how some men think. I've struggled with my weight my whole life, and honestly I'm kind of scared now to get fit. If I meet a guy when I look nice, I'll always be paranoid that he'd never like me if I looked different.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:46 PM
2

I was fucking right. You are a little baby crying in your pissy diaper because women have options now, and they'll never choose someone as bitter, pathetic, and misogynistic as you. Being with someone like you would be worse than dying alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:32 PM
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men get a lot less to zero affection so they need much less to feel love, Someone who is affection-starved jumping on the first person to give them the time of day isn't love. It's dysfunctional. because women are also weak, adult or not, Physically weaker, yes. This is not the same as a child. A child is much physically weaker, and also naïve and inexperienced. If you see an adult woman out and about, it's a lot different from seeing a child all on their own going around. women can not protect …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:01 PM
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I'm the less attractive friend, and I don't make friends who would ever think like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:05 AM
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I can't broaden anything out to all women. Women, like men, are all individuals and very diverse. I can only tell you what I want, and what the women I know well want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:26 AM
2

If you have to ask that question, LTRs aren't for you. The incentive for an LTR is that you want one. You have free choice. Pick your lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:07 AM
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It's just good qualities of a partner period. Get into specifics and that's just personal taste. Partners should be loyal, honest, willing to compromise, non abusive, non neglectful, that kind of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:15 PM
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I don't know if one of them did, because that grandpa was an abusive piece of shit who brought my dad along as an alibi when he went out to see prostitutes. They weren't even married when my dad was born, and he was the youngest. My other grandpa could be an irritable grump, but he was a good guy. I'm pretty sure my grandma really did love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:00 PM
3

Just to be a good partner, which is also a man's responsibility in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:18 PM
12

My preference is based on the fact that, if a guy has banged 20 girls before me, we clearly have incompatible views/attitudes about sex. Unless one of us changes, there would be a problem there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:55 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with targeting people specifically for their naivety and lack of experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:48 PM
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Telling people to go for young people specifically because they lack experience is insanely creepy dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 04:40 AM
2

I'm not talking 40+. I am saying that young average people get together all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:54 PM
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Have you never in your life seen a wedding picture of an average couple? A prom photo of awkward looking teens? It's not hard to find these people. I really wonder if you guys just have blinders on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:27 AM
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You were very clear on what the post wasn't about. The only response I have is that clearly, the man felt like it was really that much of a need. Probably based on a narrow view or a limited understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:11 PM
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I think I would have the desire to get another guy right away because of the pain I would be feeling. But I would resist that and take some time to myself because that's the smart decision. Edit, I may have misunderstood what this was about. I reread as soon as I posted lol I'm sure that's what some women want, yes. Some women don't want that. It depends. Women are individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 11:25 PM
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Probably because the man was horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 10:49 PM
1

If I was fully in love with him, how could I just walk away from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:18 PM
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Yeah, but some choices are wrong, according to you. I wanna know which.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:25 PM
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No no, you're backing out of it. Tell me what I should be doing as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:57 PM
3

So I should be forced to live the life that you think is best for me? Go ahead and tell me what I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:03 PM
4

Obviously being pressured is bad, but some women like traditional roles. For me, being a SAHM would be an ideal situation. I love kids, I love staying in, it's perfect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:48 AM
3

Are you the paragon of manliness then?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:22 AM
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Women are worse off if they are forced to follow traditional gender roles. It's the lack of freedom and choice that was the problem. With freedom, women who want to be traditional can be, and those who don't also can do what's best for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:13 AM
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The ones I watch are. They aren't mega rich super stars. I watched a 20 part series on Xenosaga lore narrated by a guy who frequently tripped over his own words, and you could hear his girlfriend at one point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:28 AM
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Like... do you guys just all live somewhere where everyone is really hot and only follow insta models online? Just go to a Wal Mart or something. Watch a documentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:17 AM
4

A man's oppression has 0% to do with how much pussy he gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:35 PM
3

When did I say that? Please show me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:32 PM
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I think attraction is important, but I think a lot of people think that people's standards for attraction are a lot more strict uniform than they actually are. Most people share what they view as ideal looks, but that doesn't mean that's all everyone ever accepts. The ideal is the absolute tippy top of the scale, and there's lots of room under that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:56 PM
10

Absolutely correct sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:41 PM
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No, not how it works. You are not entitled to people having positive opinions about you. If you are promiscuous, some people are not going to like you, that's just part of the deal. If it bothers you, you got two choices: deal with it, or change your behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:37 PM
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are they oblivious about how much men's looks play a role in attraction? and do they really believe that average joe can win their hearts impressing them with personality even if they don't find him physically attractive? are not mutually exclusive concepts. Obviously looks matter a lot, because most people care about looks. But not everyone cares as much, or they don't have strict standards. An average Joe absolutely get a girl with personality, because it's happened a million times before. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:33 PM
1

Well of course there are general beauty standards in society. That doesn't equate to some system of value in the way you describe. I don't look at someone and check to see how much hotter or uglier they are than me and weigh that in to how I treat them. That's absurd. Only people with stunted teenager brains do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:25 PM
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Why does it matter if he can't keep them? Clearly, they decide he's no good or he turns them away. Turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:24 PM
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Well I don't know. There are already people who are fine being single. There are people who have had marriage ceremonies to their anime waifus. I don't know what percentage that represents, but I doubt it will be big enough to have a big ripple effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:15 PM
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No, that's just completely incorrect. I don't believe in smv even a little bit, so it never factors into any of my opinions about people. That's not how I make judgement calls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:13 PM
13

That's what makes him such a turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:11 PM
13

Sounds like a failure if he banged 28 women and none of them were good enough to stay with. 100% definite turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:09 PM
12

Maybe this is weird, but I'm thinking of an episode of Star Trek TNG. There was a woman character on the ship who kept striking out with men, and ended up going out with Data on a rebound. I'll skip the plot but at the end of the episode, the woman realized that maybe he could make her happy, but she would never, ever be able to make him happy in return since he has no emotions. Getting pampered by a robot man could be really nice for a while, but you'll never have the experience of making them …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:04 PM
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Well obviously the men who just want to get off will be satisfied. I just don't think that makes up most of men. I mean, why would being lonely bother men so much if they completely didn't care about meaningful companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:57 PM
1

There are things I find attractive and not attractive. It has nothing to do with the value of a person at all. Everyone has things that they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:54 PM
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So, obviously; most of us understand why women friendzone low-value men and nobody is blaming them for doing so, No, most of you pretend to have the dating algorithm figured out and you've invented these value systems and theoretical behaviour patterns. If you go out in the real world and try to ask a woman what she thinks a low value man is, the answers would probably be about very basic things like being unemployed, maladjusted, etc. The average woman living her life isn't gonna be "well he's …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:06 PM
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I don't think that a large number of people would be completely satisfied only with the robot. More people desire genuine human connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:44 PM
1

Men are told to never express their emotions, that's exactly why so many people have male family members just like this. My father thought the idea that his childhood could affect him in adulthood was preposterous, and yet he clearly was not in mourning when his own abusive father died.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:40 PM
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The top quotes you've posted aren't objectifying. It doesn't give any hint as to how the women are picking partners. The bottom quotes seem to be responding to men who see women as tools for achieving orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:21 AM
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I don't believe in leagues, so no I do not believe it is creepy. Creepiness comes from how he acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:15 AM
2

To me "too nice" is when someone is full on sucking up. Like, if you make the most basic observation ever and they are like "wow that's so wise". It's off putting because it feels so fake, and you become uneasy wondering what they are playing at.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:17 AM
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I like all people on a case by case basis. A stranger is a stranger. Men are just people like me. I don't just get excited over men just for existing, there has to be something about an individual man to make me like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:13 AM
1

My honest opinion is these people are stupid, and I wish all stupid people would be this obvious because it makes them so much easier to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:10 AM
1

It's like we want what the other one has. I hate the idea of being lusted over by randos (luckily I don't have to face this problem but the thought of it is still unpleasant). I wouldn't mind being seen as pretty at all, but full on lusted after? To be desired that way is to be viewed as a means to have an orgasm. To me that would feel horrible and demeaning, and yet men are sad they don't get to be subjected to that. I desire men the way I want to be desired myself. Many men are sexy and attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:06 AM
1

I play video games all the time, so a guy to game with is a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:43 AM
1

Definitely, I think. I've never seen women near unanimously declaring the find sex to be so terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:38 PM
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Ah, a fellow wizard. Greetings!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:35 PM
3

I only know a few guys, all online. Some I know have had relationships, some I have no knowledge of their romantic life. All of them are nerdy or awkward in some way, which is why we hang out in the first place, lol. I wouldn't have much to talk about with guys if it's not a nerdy subject. No, I am not grossed out by chronically single men. It would be hypocritical of me as a chronically single woman. Any grossness comes from personal traits or actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:25 PM
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No one who unironically calls themselves an alpha lives in reality, that's just a fact. You thought you were already amazing so when stuff doesn't go your way, it's going to be the entire world's fault before it's yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:01 AM
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You're for some reason mixing up not being desperate with being sex repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:58 AM
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I think I'd need to be some kind of doctor to change your view. This is unhinged. If any of this was true, people probably turned on you because you were insufferable. You and the skirt-chasing douchebags got in trouble for being douchebags, while normal people had a normal experience. So yeah, in a way they engineered the situation by studying hard and not being insane like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:24 AM
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You're not bothering me, I'm just trying to make you see that being a late bloomer isn't the problem. There's something else missing that you need to be working on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:33 AM
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So nothing is enjoyable, not eating a good meal, watching a good movie, taking a hot bath, nothing. But having sex is gonna turn all that around?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:29 AM
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Well I'm a 30-year-old virgin. Do you just not have anything you enjoy in life? Like even a little bit? Why does the reason we exist come down to getting dick? That sounds pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:05 AM
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A pre-nup will always be uncomfortable because a break up plan is just anti-romantic for a newlywed couple. Maybe if the focus was more on who owns what in the marriage it wouldn't feel like such a slap in the face? I'm sure even while still married a couple could try and screw each other over with ownership, so maybe framing it as a way to keep the marriage itself running smooth would be good, and it would just happen to have the benefit of being useful if a divorce happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 09:36 AM
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Lots of people aren't creeps, actually. It's very easy not to be a gross, dehumanizing weirdo... and yet somehow you fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:45 PM
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Another weirdo thing: projecting a life story onto people you've never met. Also, every time you guys talk about human beings like they're best enjoyed "fresh" like they're some kind of mindless, consumable produce, it's mega creepy. The fact that no one can defend a preference for barely adult women without sounding like a pervert kind of tells you everything you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 02:20 PM
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less dicks inside them, etc. Guys want to get in early while a woman’s in her prime. Yeah not fucked up or creepy to say at all. Thanks for continuing to prove my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:40 AM
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Yeah people have less baggage when they're barely legal. Haven't been alive for that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 06:58 AM
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There are many sexy and attractive women in their thirties. The only reason a man would exclusively want very young women is because he either knowingly or subconsciously likes the power advantage he has. He likes them naïve and inexperienced and dependent. I'm gonna keep hating on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 06:26 AM
1

What you eat is a little different from sexual behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:34 AM
3

Everyone's desires and actions come from somewhere. It's actually kinda neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:22 AM
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I mean, if the number is really big that probably means something. People don't do things for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:10 AM
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Because you added "weirdly prudish". I don't go around saying I don't relate to people having casual sex because they're oddly slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:59 PM
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Zero, and no one irl asks me. Just online.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:05 PM
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I doubt I'll ever be in this scenario lol but I can imagine what I might do. I think I'd feel the way I'd feel with any man, chad or no. I'd feel incredibly anxious and stressed out, second guessing myself if I'm reading his hints right, and what to do. I'd probably start trying to bring up my boyfriend in conversation to drop the hints. If he still persists after knowing I'm already taken, then I won't be anxious any more, I'll be pissed. I will tell him straight out that I'm not interested, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:26 AM
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People still crave it regardless. Most people would not consider having sex with a roster of fwb to fill that need. You can have a great life without romance, but people want what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 03:52 PM
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People uninterested in romance don't like those stories. We are only interested in stories that appeal to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 03:47 PM
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People haven't been fascinated with love stories for millennia for no reason. Most people want romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 05:47 AM
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Maybe guys on this subreddit should get better at not generalizing so broadly. If you say "women do this" it's valid for a woman to come in and say "I don't do that."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:24 AM
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1 Everyone has their own personal tastes. Body count might relate to compatibility regarding attitudes or feelings about sex. I'd say vetting over that ranks much lower than something like height. Height is not a choice someone made, it doesn't tell you anything about the person themselves. I'm probably in a minority, but I think vetting for things that don't relate to the health of the relationship are shallow. 2 I'd just prefer people start assessing what matters instead of being so hung up on…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:34 AM
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But the fact remains that most women are only seeking sexual encounters with the same small pool of men. These are the guys that women want the most. Well yes, if all you want is casual sex with no significant meaning or depth to it, why not pick your partner through shallow means? Someone's personality won't matter in a one night stand. When you pick your spouse, your criteria changes. You want someone you are attracted to in several different areas. This is where personality becomes a huge att…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:43 PM
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I assume they watch it for the same reason women do. It makes you tingly in your dingly. It's a nice feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 05:49 AM
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If most women typically want to have sex with the same few guys, but then many are dating guys that aren’t within that small percentage of desirable men, are many women settling for men they find unattractive? Just because a guy doesn't look like a movie star or super model doesn't make him unattractive. Also, you would only ever consider this "settling" if you valued looks above almost anything else. If a guy doesn't look like a super star, but he makes you happy to be alive, is that really "se…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 05:47 AM
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a woman might love a child unconditionally just because, but not a man. that would require an extensive history of feelings being provided that can not be easily replaced. Yeah... that's how that works. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, but people generally need to have a bunch of experiences with someone before they feel love. It's ingrained in us as a species to value children. They are the next generation, and they are vulnerable. Also most people naturally feel a need to protect th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 03:44 AM
2

He might be turning girls down left and right
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 01:10 AM
2

If they're equal in every way except sexual experience, I go with Tom. I also have no experience so that would be a lot less intimidating for me. Figuring stuff out together and having awkward moments seems kinda cute in a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 01:10 AM
6

Withstanding abuse and having an emotion are not the same things. Not to mention that suddenly being exposed to abuse that you aren't used to will make you fold way quicker than anyone who has become used to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 06:50 PM
22

Whatever emotion a man is capable of, a woman is capable of. The capacity to feel isn't divided by sex, though the way it is expressed might change. The Redpill is basically one big unhealthy coping mechanism men use to deal with their fears and their pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:34 PM
1

Fair? I don't think that's the issue here. Honestly Sarah dodged a bullet. Jake sucks. Also the idea that "husband material gets less than other men" is really telling about the people who believe in it. When you get married, you promise to love someone, and only have sex with one person exclusively with the hopes it will be for the rest of your lives. You'll be together every day, sharing a deep connection, being each other's best friends. How is that less? With those other guys, they fucked, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:26 PM
1

I hate obesity, but obesity is merely a medical condition I have. Do you tell someone with a cold they must love their sickness or else they hate themselves? Also, notice how you're attacking me and not arguing against any of my points? People who don't have a leg to stand on always do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 12:52 PM
3

The reason men will never have a body positivity movement is because other men Of course! When women are suffering, it's men's fault. When men are suffering, it's also men's fault. Do you know why there really will never be a body positive movement for men? Because sexist women will bitch and moan and say "men already have everything in the world, they don't need help!" Look at the backlash support shelters for men get. Admitting that men need help goes against the current narrative. Admitting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:40 AM
3

If he's gonna be a piece of shit and cheat, what makes you think I care if he loses in court?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:09 AM
4

So it will be complicated, so what? He should still divorce her if he's unhappy. Or if he cheats, she should divorce him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 07:53 AM
6

Why can't he just divorce her? What is this nonsense?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 07:39 AM
2

If they were so shallow that they'd discriminate on a few inches, I'd think they'd notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:12 AM
1

I just think it's sad for them that they feel the need. Obviously the illusion disappears when they're off, so if they succeed in attracting a woman the cat will be out of the bag anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:21 AM
4

When I see an attractive man, I admire his looks. There are no thoughts of "obtaining" whatsoever, unless they have a personality I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:11 PM
2

For me, it's a requirement. I want to know the man I'm with, weaknesses and flaws and struggles included. As long as he doesn't demand I be his personal therapist and damage my own mental health, it's cool. I doubt merely opening up would be the cause, aside from a few cases of the women they were with being just awful, horrible people. They might have traumadumped too hard, or the woman might have been overwhelmed, some additional factor like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:11 AM
1

If you just suddenly break up and give absolutely no explanation, that's cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:37 PM
1

Well, what don't you understand? Do you think it's acceptable to be unnecessarily cruel to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:53 PM
1

I'm quite sure you understand why it's fucked up. If you understand, please stop pretending you don't get it and just ask me straight out what your question is. This is just some basic concept of decency and I think you know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:38 PM
1

Because that's a horrible fucking thing to do, obviously. I mean, it's not like he's actually forbidden to do it by some magical force. If he does it though, he's a piece of shit and should get judged for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:34 PM
3

I said that obviously if you have begun a relationship, you are not bound to some eternal vow. You just have to be reasonable when you're breaking it off. You owe that communication to the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:12 PM
2

You can make it make sense by reading the rest of my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:08 PM
3

Everyone owes what they promise to give. A man doesn't by default owe a woman a relationship, but that doesn't mean he can start one and just end it randomly one day and say "I owe you nothing". Obviously if you promise someone sex or a relationship, you aren't bound to do it forever even if you change your mind. But if you have promised it, you at least owe it to be reasonable about it. For example if a man wants to initiate sex with his girlfriend, and she doesn't want to, her go to right off …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:00 PM
19

Being single is infinitely more fun than being in a bad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:59 PM
1

Ideally, I'd pick neither of them. Absolute gun to my head, I'd have to pick Steve. The suffering I'd experience with Sam would be too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:12 AM
1

I'll be honest, even though some of what I say might be insulting. If someone who claims to love me can also enjoy sex with another person, it genuinely feels like they don't love me enough. Or that they don't love me the way I need to be loved. It also means they can enjoy sex without love. That kind of detachment has always felt icky to me. I don't think I could be compatible with someone who views love and sex so differently from me. Something to me feels inherently passionless and emotionall…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 10:28 PM
1

If you purposely "befriend" a girl just in hopes of getting with her, you're not really in it for friendship. If you befriend a girl and genuinely want to be her friend, that's different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 09:23 PM
2

Actually you do have to ask her about it. How does she feel about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 07:33 PM
2

The fact that you even asked this makes me think you might just accuse every woman who gives a non psycho answer of lying. Obviously I'm picking Don. I also don't have to imagine that I'm single. Contrary to the shit people say here, plenty of women are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:11 AM
10

You could talk to her about how her life is, not specifically about childlessness. Have you even tried to discover if she's actually as miserable as you're assuming she is?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:10 AM
1

I would wonder why, so I would ask him about it. It wouldn't be something that immediately upset me, I would need to know the reason. If he just changed the way he handles his finances, that's totally fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:26 AM
2

I think having self-esteem be woman or man based is an issue. Tying self worth to anything natural trait at all is a bad move in my view. Self-esteem should come from the things that make someone uniquely them. People need to stop valuing empty symbols of wealth and success. Being able to make someone laugh is infinitely more valuable than owning the fanciest car.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:37 PM
2

I'm single. Prove me wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:21 PM
1

women would rather share a guy or be a side piece than date a guy in their own league. Literally how do you come to that conclusion at all Recent statistics prove this, Are the statistics specifically about women expressing this opinion, or are you just looking at the numbers of single men and single women and diving head first into confirmation bias? women preferred to be part of a harem, and be treated as property, than to date a guy in their level. Based on fucking what? All those historical …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:20 PM
1

Is it common for men to fear being assaulted? Because if not, that's one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 08:31 PM
2

Playing games like baseball and soccer are fun. Skiing and swimming are fun. I just see no entertainment at all in watching other people play sports. And I also don't understand why people get so crazy about what team wins what.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:40 AM
4

Don't know why you're getting downvoted. It's true.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/02/23 12:52 AM
1

Yeah, stuff like that. Obviously there are women who are down for casual sex and don't need that much more. But I think generally women tend to want or hope for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:00 AM
1

Well it is sexual based, but without other requirements it doesn't go beyond just visual enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:05 AM
1

I'll answer your question if you answer mine. If my hormonal response makes me slap you, should I be held accountable, or is it not my fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 06:23 PM
13

For me when I see an attractive man, I think "wow he's hot" and that's basically it. Other things have to come in before I think of actually wanting to have sex. Will he make me feel safe? Loved? Is there a future for us? Until those things are answered for me, hot guys are just some nice eye candy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:55 AM
3

So lets say my lady hormones are making me really angry at this post. Am I allowed to slap you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:31 AM
2

Not single fathers, I mean the asshole men who create single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:39 AM
1

It's always the woman's fault, never the man's. Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:01 AM
1

when they also include morbidly obese single mothers in their definition of "women" They are women you absolute dingbat. What, we're supposed to be giving advice on how to get models?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:00 AM
2

Who I consider to be a role model has absolutely nothing to do with sex or SMV whatsoever. So no one I could suggest would be about SMV, just about being a good person in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:57 PM
1

Yeah he says some whacky stuff sometimes but he's not going around telling people women are inferior and you should take advantage of them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:54 PM
1

I know what agreeable means as a word in the dictionary, but I know it could mean different to different people. For example, how do I know that for this guy it doesn't mean "door mat"? I'm not going to assume that's what he means, but I have no way of confirming that it isn't what he means either. So now I have to worry about that until it's resolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:13 PM
8

Never said anything about race lol
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/23 01:44 AM
-1

Literally never seen it used in any other context but blackpill pseudo science.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/23 01:33 AM
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No I mean as if it is biologically in women to be hypergamous, as if we're just instinctually golddigging and disloyal as part of our nature.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/23 01:02 AM
-36

It at least describes a behaviour more than it does some innate sexual trait.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/02/23 11:26 PM
1

Well if you take into account that not all men are unified in complete desperation and having no standards, then all the things you've listed can be detrimental.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:58 PM
-52

Hypergamous? Go back to your hole
/r/PussyPassDenied05/02/23 10:49 PM
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It's something Redpillers and incels like to talk about. To them all women just want the best alpha chad high status man all the time and will always ditch their current man if they find better.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/02/23 10:49 PM
1

1 million isn't enough. I'd need enough for me and my family to live comfortably for the rest of our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 04:37 AM
5

If it looks real, people can think it's real. That means you could end up facing all the social stigma for doing porn without even doing porn. Even without that, it's disturbing and creepy. I would feel the same way about it as if I found someone with a shrine to me with hair clippings and chewed gum.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:20 PM
1

Are the women who are purposefully extorting money and favours out of men through sex appeal really the same women who are complaining about this? I don't think so. Lots of women don't want this attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:36 AM
9

I sort of temper my smile back into a more mild one. I do this because honestly I'm just afraid of giving someone the wrong idea. I don't know what mental condition a stranger is in. So I definitely don't just go bitch face, because I also know how horrible that would look and I don't wanna just hurt random people's feelings. I try to keep a middle ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 07:53 AM
1

That's absurd. You don't think poor ugly people ever fall in love with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 07:42 AM
7

Men aren't upset that women are being realistic. Men are upset that women are spending the better part of a decade being super picky and when the party's over and it starts to come falling down they try and go with a man they did everything in their power to not end up with. So all men are just innately aware of the personal lives of a substantial amount of women? I keep seeing posts like this. Guys here just assume so much about a woman's entire life and present it as fact. It's like it doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:35 AM
1

It probably got that way because a rich man could get out of a lot of the bullshit, but women didn't have equal legal footing to do the same. Everyone likes to forget the poor people who all had a shit life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 04:10 AM
2

Just because men were oppressed doesn't mean women weren't also.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 02:54 AM
-1

I think it is a few things. Some people are grossly overcorrecting for past oppression of women. Some women want symbolic revenge. Some believe that men oppressed women because they are just genetically evil. Some people are just opportunists who see the current political climate as a way to get an edge over half the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:42 AM
3

Honestly if it's early in the relationship and she's doing something that's really off putting or weird, just openly ask her what's up. It's already a bit of a red flag for her to be acting like this so why not just be up front?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:51 AM
5

I'll agree with you on comparing makeup to height shoes. But when you put it in a list of actual serious lies it just sounds weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:54 AM
10

Lying to get a meal is bad, but make up as a deception? That's a really pathetic take. It's not a deception anymore than wearing clothes is. The fact that you would lump these in together is baffling. Obviously being lying and manipulative is bad, but why bring up make up? It just ruins any point you might have had. Sounds crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:48 AM
1

I wouldn't. I'd just jerk off since it's so much easier to do now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:26 PM
4

Unfortunately no amount of education can trump biology. What's this supposed to mean? Women should be able to read men's DNA to tell that they won't change and become terrible people in the future?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:15 PM
1

Maybe start off as friends "men will literally feign friendship to get in your pants" Why not actually genuinely try to be friends without it being a tactic?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:57 PM
2

All sex is based on reproduction. Maybe you don't know this... but gay people exist. Same sex pairs cannot sexually reproduce with each other. Want to try again or are you just really into this persecution complex right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:16 AM
14

I think a lot of women have been sold the idea that being a man is easy street. Why would a person who has the world on a platter be insecure? Of course that's not how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:38 AM
3

Yes as the study says it cannt be generalized Okay then don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:46 AM
8

How can you possibly assert this? What are you basing this on?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 05:48 AM
4

You genuinely believe that it is a genuine rule that a woman always has access to perfect husband material throughout her adult life? She will just always know a guy who also knows her, who has an interest in her, who is completely available when she decides to pick him? You think that's a rule? That's RP fiction, my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 03:18 AM
-3

So because there's a chance he was, you're just going to assume he was so you can hate the woman? Because that's what it seems like. You've imagined this scenario and you've decided you can just apply it to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:55 AM
20

You assume that he was there the whole time, always perfect husband material, just waiting and completely available to her for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:13 AM
1

I have a weekly tabletop game with a bunch of dudes. It's incredibly easy to just chill with other human beings and not be obsessed with gender all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:32 AM
2

I've never liked the idea of having a big moneymaking career. To me a job is something I have to do so I can keep enjoying what actually matters in life. So being some powerful girlboss career woman is just ick to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:29 AM
1

I've only been asked out once, and I turned him down. I was direct and careful about it. I didn't lie, but I didn't mention to him that the fact that he was 18 years older than me (I was 23 at the time) was too intimidating. Honestly, I'm a terrible liar. Light omissions are all I am capable of. But hey, it keeps me honest lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 08:12 AM
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