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| 27 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringIf you can't get first dates, it doesn't matter if you are a good long-term partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:23 PM |
| 5 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringMen who use the term "game" believe that deception and pretense are the key to seducing women. Red Pillers and PUA use it that way yes, in this case I'm talking about the rules that gatekeep men from dating, like asking women out on dates, flirting, physical escalation, etc, essentially the masculine role of being the pro-active party. Whether or not the compatibility is real or a manipulation technique, women hold men to these rules and expect them to play the game. Women don't approach men" tr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 03:17 PM |
| 11 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringWomen crave the most attractive men they are compatible with. This is not a factor in whether she'll date/sleep with him or not, it's a factor in whether she'll continue to date/sleep with him. Women will imagine up who a man is based entirely on how good at flirting he is and how he looks, it then just plays it's course whether or not they last long term. Men with no game or bad at flirting will be filtered out by women, even if those men are what she's looking for longterm. If women truly did … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 02:39 PM |
| 69 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringI've noticed most women seem to come at these discussions assuming men at least have the game down, and know how to play it, then assume where they are failing is in not having other aspects of their life together, but you could be the perfect man for a woman and she'll never even entertain the idea, if you don't approach her and flirt in the exact way she wants at that moment; a guy that gets that part right could be the next Adolf Hitler, he'll get picked first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:15 PM |
| 146 | Fellas, you’re not single because you are unattractive, short, broke, play video games, watch anime, or other generic guy shit your single because you’re boringI've been told I'm fun by women and get invited out to parties, festivals and shit, I know guys who's only activities outside of those "passive hobbies" is tinder, drinking and casual sex. So I think this only really matters for long term compatibility, not in attracting women in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 12:05 PM |
| 3 | 50/50 relationship are one sided benefiting only menI'd probably agree more with this, say, 100 years ago, but you can't really go out having hoe phases and loosely defined relationships then expect a 100/0 man to catch you just before you hit rock bottom. Women aren't exaclty a prize these days either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/24 08:56 PM |
| 2 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Women don’t need to feel like more of a woman based on their partner, they already know that they’re a woman. That's cap, I've heard many women say they want their man to make them feel feminine, it's probably the main reason given for women's preference for men taller than them and no doubt a factor in why they prefer generally larger, more socially dominant men, unless you believe sating men's egos is a major factor in women's dating choices? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 06:31 AM |
| 2 | A thought experiment for menAll those women are attractive, I'd even say more attractive than the woman I mentioned with the filters and cosmetic surgery, add in the weird anime/horse girl personality and 🤌 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 06:26 AM |
| 14 | A thought experiment for menThe only picture I see on your profile is a filtered photo of a woman with a lot of makeup and at least lip fillers, maybe a nosejob. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 09:43 PM |
| 62 | A thought experiment for menhaving a weird anime/ horse girl personality Sounds good to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 09:34 PM |
| 3 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Do you have sympathy for child molesters who get locked up? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 09:23 PM |
| 6 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Introverted passive women manage to date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 08:53 PM |
| 7 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Why? Is good only defined by your perception of the world? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 06:36 PM |
| 9 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?If they perceive women's issues in dating as self-imposed, then their lacking sympathy would be a natural reaction, they may well be sympathetic for something they see as a real hardship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 06:19 PM |
| 9 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?And that's something I'd not argue against. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesThey knew each other and regularly interacted for 2 years before dating? He kept up a total façade for that 2 year period then completely flipped a switch once they'd been dating a while? I'm not defending abusers, I just think a lot of people rush into relationships and don't properly assess the people they date, I've seen it repeated numerous times, women getting swept up with a guy they've known like a week then coming out the other end a few months later saying how awful it was or other wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:43 PM |
| 16 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Can you see though why some of the guys here have little sympathy for women who end up in abusive relationships when this is their selection criteria? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:36 PM |
| -2 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesIf you are in a relationship for a while before learning who someone is, then you got into a relationship too soon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:28 PM |
| 27 | When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about?Isn't the complaint that she'd pick the "outgoing, intuitive, charismatic, socially attuned, perceptive, and playful asshole" over "the thoughtful, considerate, compassionate, kind, and mindful guy who is also high-inhib, diffident, introverted, pedantic, unintuitive, passive, socially awkward, and neurotic" guy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 03:27 PM |
| 6 | How do you vet someone?I'd argue both of those are reason enough to look elsewhere for a husband, unless you think ignoring laziness and listening to pressure from your mother are valid vetting practices? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:27 PM |
| 3 | How do you vet someone?It gives you a significantly better chance of accurwtely judging someone's character and making an informed decision. Who cares what a lot of men say? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | How do you vet someone?Absolutely zero signs for 4 years then the day after the wedding a switch flipped? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:16 PM |
| 3 | How do you vet someone?I mean, you don't have to sleep with and date people you've only known a few weeks 🤷♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 01:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you vet someone?How often does it happen that someone has a fundamental personality change into being abusive, without any previous signs, after moving in together, getting married or having kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 12:49 PM |
| 2 | How do you vet someone?Most people don't wait years, sometimes it's not even weeks, to get tangled up and involved with someone. In those scenarios you are rolling the dice on who you hope a man is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 12:37 PM |
| 11 | Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college?I get the impression ugly virgin women over 25 don't even want virgin men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 05:52 AM |
| 0 | Women constantly use how “dangerous” and high risk dating is for them as an excuse for their pickiness but then consistently select and return to abusive low lifesAbusers are master manipulators that come in all shapes and sizes. I don't believe they are master manipulators now I'm in my 30s and have seen friends go through abusive relationships, women don't listen to their friends warnings and ignore or rationalise away red flags, perhaps out of insecurity or desperation, I'm not sure, but women have a way of creating a fantasy in their head that was never presented by the man. I agree they come in all shapes and sizes, the only thing that matters is how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.who is constantly posting An insignificant minority of men. Even if we said that every follower of PPD was a man who held these views about how hard to date it is, they would barely even account for 1% of the population of New York, let alone allow you to use what they post to say anything meaningful about humanity as a whole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 12:12 PM |
| 5 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.I never said shallow, I think women put too much weight on pointless things (I don't mean looks or height) in the early stages, ignoring red flags and incompatibilities in men who know how to play the game. Who does or doesn't make the cut largely depends on how good you are at dating, not how good you are for her, and the whims of women are what maintain current dating dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 11:15 AM |
| 9 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.What I'd say is that they are not high enough, but the few selection criteria women do focus on are largely superfluous and lead to their dating woes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 09:07 AM |
| 7 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.i hope they will learn from their experience and never make the same mistake twice. I doubt it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:43 AM |
| 14 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.you start picking awful men (neurotic, addicted to porn, insecure, butt ugly, jobless, without motivation, morbidly obese, violent, lacking empathy, not willing to do household chores, not looking after children). Women are already picking those men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 08:36 AM |
| 2 | Men are being wrongly accused of “blaming women” instead of simply “improving,”when the reality is they are rightly sick of having to work for less than they are worthThat's what I mean, I feel that both atrraction and lifestyle compatibility should be there and with those two it should feel effortless, I'd argue most people aren't those things to each other and a lot of the time people see their effort going into "dating", where what they're putting effort into is trying to make something work when it probably shouldn't because they have either box ticked but not both. Like someone staying with and trying to please someone they see as physically attractive o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Men are being wrongly accused of “blaming women” instead of simply “improving,”when the reality is they are rightly sick of having to work for less than they are worthYou can be more discerning without effort, it seems like a lot of the effort people put in is trying to make a square peg fit in a round hole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 02:14 PM |
| 21 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?I often see this framed as being sex-negative, but people in relationships have more sex than those outside of it. It is highly likely someone who has had 1 partner for the entirety of their 20s has had significantly more, and more satisfying, sex than someone who has had 100 one night stands in the same time period. It's not sex negative to not want to date people that sleep around. Framing it as being about sex is a red herring, the real issue is your views on intimacy, risk taking, and so on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?Sure it's odd by the strict definition of the word, however (not to sound r/iamverysmart) I have a high IQ and have felt out of place since I was a child, at first it was struggling to understand why other children couldn't comprehend things that seemed simple to me, then I started to overtake my parents and seeing them struggle with things that felt obvious to me was eye opening. Once the teen years came around and people were making hormone driven dumb decisions I felt more alienated than ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 12:09 PM |
| 9 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?I'm a virgin in my 30s, I do understand, but my own opinion of myself is more important than anyone elses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:55 AM |
| 10 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?Better than being in an unhappy relationship with someone I'm not compatible with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:53 AM |
| 14 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?This is why I lose interest in women who have had casual sex, for me, if I'm at the point I want to date someone, I don't think about anyone else. People can have different values and want people who share them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:39 AM |
| 11 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?That's even worse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:35 AM |
| 28 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?Personally no, but a woman who has casual sex doesn't "check my boxes" anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:14 AM |
| 6 | Non-promiscuous guys that want a non-promiscuous partnerMost replies here seem fairly reasonable, but I know whenever I mention on this sub that I don't want to date women who have had hook ups, FWBs etc, I'll usually get push back. I'd never mention it in real life because every one of my friends have had hook ups, FWBs etc, so it'd be a recipe for disaster even talking about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 08:04 AM |
| – | When did you realize you were unattractive and doomed in the dating world?I can't really point to any conditions or an event; it is something that has seemed true, a priori, as far back as I can remember. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 07:02 AM |
| – | Men are being wrongly accused of “blaming women” instead of simply “improving,”when the reality is they are rightly sick of having to work for less than they are worthIncels are black pill, not red pill; understanding the difference will aid your arguments against red pill people, rather than entrenching their beliefs 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 06:55 AM |
| 10 | Men are being wrongly accused of “blaming women” instead of simply “improving,”when the reality is they are rightly sick of having to work for less than they are worthI feel like dating should be like making friends, effortless as long as you are compatible people. A lot of the "game" in dating is just superfluous and obfuscates incompatibilities in attempt to attract a partner for how well they peacock, rather than who they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 06:51 AM |
| 2 | Is there a female equivalent of "betabuxx"?It's called being the average woman, dating men that are with them because she was one of the few that said yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 07:59 PM |
| – | Why does this sub pretend like obvious things are super overcomplicated?improve their personality Men can be abusers, serial killers, paedophiles, commit genocide, whatever else you can think of, there'll be women defending them, and they'll be able to have multiple romantic and sexual partners, so I think there's probably other things guys could be focusing on which women value more than personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 02:27 PM |
| – | Can guys please get over themselvesDo you have any examples of people who hold both those views simultaneously? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 01:32 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenNo, but most men who don't respect women have plenty of opportunities to manipulate and take advantage of them and women fall for it hook, line and sinker over and over again. Guys who are respectful, keep their distance, respect boundaries and care for women in vulnerable situations rather than take advantage of them very rarely have recurring, no strings attached, sex with a high libido woman 20 years younger than themselves. By any metric this guy hasn't been rejected, he's had an experience … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 11:43 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenThe point is, you slept with him, he was not rejected. I almost died and got my throat slit and he was the first person to pick up the phone. Yes I read that part and it just sounds like from the outset he took advantage of you in a vulnerable situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 11:25 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenYou know, I've spent over 25 years of adult life seeing kind, intelligent and beautiful women end up with the likes of drug dealers, abusers or just unintelligent men not at their level, and seen it play out the same way everytime. A friend recently left an abusive relationship she'd been in for a few years, she was like a shell of herself, we grabbed a coffee together and she seemed to want to get a lot off her chest, talked about how miserable she has been and asked why does she keep ending up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 11:21 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenMen who get laid easily have more options for long term relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 10:59 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenBut you carried on sleeping with him? Like do you not see how ridiculous this all sounds? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 10:57 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenYet you're out there sleeping with these misogynists? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 10:50 PM |
| – | Men don’t understand that women do reject them due to their own hate for womenThis post is a rollercoaster. What are you trying to say, women will sleep with misogynists, but not date them? Doesn't sound like that guy got rejected, you gave him what he wanted it seems, just not for as long as he wanted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 10:49 PM |
| 0 | There are a lot of contradictions between criticism of women onlineThis subreddit might as well just be renamed strawmandebate at this point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 07:51 AM |
| 6 | There are a lot of contradictions between criticism of women onlineI'm not even Red Pill, but it annoys me how many people conflate Red and Black pill along with Tradcon shit to form their arguments and then double down and accuse you of redefining the Red Pill when you point it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/24 07:40 AM |
| 1 | A video of a group of girls dancing during Mardi Gras went viral on social media and provoked a strong reaction from some in manosphere. What are your thoughts on the controversy?I was expecting like them dancing topless or something, these reactions to it are unhinged; I've danced more provocatively than that and I'm a virgin in his 30s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 07:55 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: How would you feel if your SO regularly watched pr0n?If I had no other reason to believe she was unhappy with me, this wouldn't change that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 03:56 PM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?If you disagree with women potraying themselves like that and think it is bad for them For some it's positively life changing, but the majority of the time it's just a bad time investment where working on education or career would pay off more, if they just do it because they get a kick out of exhibitionism, then we're incompatible for different reasons, though thinking about it, friends doing porn wouldn't be something I particularly care about either as long as they were safe. >You have select… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 12:04 PM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?Where is the hypocrisy in not caring about what choices people I don't care about make? Human's have been creating erotic imagery for thousands, if not 10s of thousands of years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 11:09 AM |
| 12 | Q4M: How would you feel if your SO regularly watched pr0n?I genuinely can think of few things I'd care about less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 10:40 AM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?Why do men get upset when women in their lives create porn? (Mother, sister, girlfriend, potential girlfiend, wife). Same principle, don't want women they care about to be reduced to sex objects for the masses and a naturally defensive attitude towards one's mate and loved ones against being viewed or viewing other men and women in a sexual way. I care about the women in my life, I don't care about the women outside of it. If someone wants to make shit life choices, that's their freedom, but I w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 10:39 AM |
| -1 | Men should be able to safely approach women without fear of humiliation or being shamed, and there should be more venues other than bars for meeting womenI always find it interesting how people here often read more into a comment than it actually says. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 08:49 AM |
| -3 | Men should be able to safely approach women without fear of humiliation or being shamed, and there should be more venues other than bars for meeting womenPoliteness is a façade that can rarely hide the visceral disgust shown through people's eyes and body language. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Men should be able to safely approach women without fear of humiliation or being shamed, and there should be more venues other than bars for meeting womenI always find it interesting how women have such strong opinions on how men should just face rejection, ignore their fears and insecurities, to do something women are unwilling to do because of their fears and insecurities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 07:12 AM |
| 6 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?If you can't afford to be yourself around a particular girl, she's not worth being with. Which I haven't denied, hence I am a virgin in my 30s because myself isn't what women want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 03:28 PM |
| 5 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?Yes, yes, good for you, but how does any of this add to and/or refute my original comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:29 PM |
| 2 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?Is anyone arguing against that? It seems people are actually arguing that point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:17 PM |
| 0 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?It's not really virgin hunting, a woman who has been in 3 long relationships throughout her 20s has likely had significantly more (and more satisfying) sex than someone who has had 100 one night stands. I agree people can use their bodies how they like, but how someone treats their body says something about them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:17 PM |
| 12 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?I am myself and don't pander to anyone, I'm also a virgin in my 30s. What you're saying only works if yourself is what women want, ourgoing, flirty, chases women and so on or you are exceptional in something she prioritises. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 01:14 PM |
| -1 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?The one you are excluding is the hardest to find, a woman who hasn't hooked up and managed to reach 30 with 3 or less exes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 10:27 AM |
| 36 | What happened to "if she is like that, she's not really worth being with"?Most men can't afford to just be themselves and hope they come across someone like minded, if they want intimacy and romance in their life, because most women are "like that" in some way. I do find it amusing how you talk about being significantly above average height and then filtering out women who don't date short men, isn't that reducing short men's dating pool? Your post just reads like Donald Trump's "small loan of a million dollars". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 09:08 AM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeMen want it more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 05:59 AM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeObviously it still happens, but it's not something that affects the vast majority of women in the west. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 10:44 PM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeI'd imagine since around the time they stopped getting married off by their families. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 10:21 PM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeMen who don't pursue women end up sexless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 10:20 PM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeBecause women set the rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 09:17 PM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeWomen don't want to pursue and as long as they are the one's setting the rules, I don't see any reason why anything would change or they'd have any appetite to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/24 08:32 PM |
| -1 | Manosphere contradictionsWhat double standard? He's not dating men, so why would he have a standard for them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Does it make sense to expect lust if you can’t authentically inspire lust? Does it make sense to expect your partner to fake lust for you if haven’t made explicit what they get in return?For example, I know plenty of women faking interest in sex for their husbands, but they’re also getting the things they want out of the relationship. That’s life. Life sounds depressing. Also, is it not understandable why someone would feel down about never being lusted for, as they are, without having to put on a façade? I think it's something women fundamentally cannot understand because experiencing male lust is the default for them, but imagine never having anyone lust for you? No one showin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Manosphere contradictionsIt’s because men with this belief are operating on the assumption that the woman has had casual sex before. It's a fair assumption to make, I can only think of one woman I've gotten to know who I believe hadn't had casual sex, the rest of them I know they did. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Manosphere contradictionsWhy would that matter to a man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:04 PM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.happy to talk shit about the icky women doing it I can't think of any time I've heard a guy share this sentiment, porn is something that is very rarely even talked about in my experience amd the few times I can think of it coming up in convesation it was along the lines of talking about women they'd want to sleep with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 01:57 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.The nuance here is whether you see recognising the potential negative outcomes of a choice as a reason to be against people being allowed to make the choice. To frame it another way, not wanting the people close to you to take a risk, does not say anything about whether you think people should have the option to take that risk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 01:33 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.The negative life outcomes of the people who do porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 01:17 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.Are you making that statement or putting words in my mouth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 01:16 AM |
| – | If a man wouldn’t want the women in his life being in porn, then his feelings about porn are pretty anti-porn.I care more about the women in my life than I do strangers I have no connection to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Do you think anyone's opinion will change?My views are unlikely to change unless I somehow end up in a relationship, but until then I have 30 years, and counting, of lived experience to base my opinions on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 09:32 PM |
| 17 | As long as men have to face the majority if rejections in dating, most men won’t be able to empathize in a way that women want or expectwomen won't be able to emphasize men's dating rejections As if they do anyway, no woman care's about a man's dating struggles, it just means he's a failure as a man to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 09:14 PM |
| 16 | Would it bother you if you found out your current partner used to send full nudes to fuckboys that she may not have even met up with?I think nudes are just a bad idea in general, the scenario presented here would probably just make me lose interest in her if I'm honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Can men just not be loved for who they actually are?Only if who you are is flirty and enjoys chasing women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 07:41 PM |
| – | What constitutes “SMV” for women is not the same as what constitutes “SMV” for menYou added the word just, he never said it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 07:33 PM |
| 2 | How sexually fluid are men?I don't need to understand the complete ins and outs to know men don't arouse me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 10:03 PM |
| -1 | How sexually fluid are men?I don't need to have sexual experiences with men to know men don't arouse me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Western women and shaming gold-diggersI'll never understand gold diggers. Well maybe to an extent I get wanting to leverage what you have for profit, but it's never been my outlook on life. I want to earn everything in my life, the person whose opionion of me matters most, is myself; if I didn't earn something honestly and through work, it's not worth having and to that end I've learned bushcraft and survival skills. I regularly spend long periods living in the wild and off the land because I believe it's the only honest way to live… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 10:36 PM |
| 5 | Most men are struggling to find their equivalent, which is why TRP has not only spilled over into the mainstream but become common senseJudging by the handsome guys I know who do sleep around, they're not big on commitment and don't have particularly high standards, how easy a woman is to sleep with is a factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a broke woman?Only thing that would give me pause is the debt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Any man that sees women and sex as rewards is automatically an entitled misogynist.Apparently, women’s personalities don’t matter, women’s preferences don’t matter, women’s autonomy doesn’t matter. In my experience the guys who think these things are the fuckboys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 01:50 PM |
| – | What do you honestly think about 22yo male virgins?Fair enough if you don't have a problem with it, but do you still expect men to approach women, to be sexually confident enough to physically escalate and so on? Those are how women select against inexperienced men and virgins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:41 AM |
| – | What do you honestly think about 22yo male virgins?Instant turn off and disgust unless she's very inexperienced. I don't think for the majority of women it is instant disgust, what they expect from a guy would generally require experience and if a guy can act like an experienced man, being a virgin wouldn't be a deal breaker because she'd just assume he could, but chose not to have sex, until he met her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 08:36 AM |
| 2 | Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps?Not in a way that would make people choose it over other apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 01:46 AM |
| – | Hot take: Women would care much less about height if there were widespread awareness about just how little correlation there is between height and penis size (and would also give more short and average guys chance, knowing there might be a pleasant surprise)It's clear in groups of men heirarchy often forms based on height and shorter guys get taken less seriously. Even if, intellectually, it doesn't make sense, my first impression of short men leans infantile. You see it in stats about CEOs being taller than average, among men and women, taller men are perceived as being more powerful; no one is thinking about the size of their dick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/24 06:51 AM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 07:41 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?Do you realise you are doing the exact same thing as the people who cite things like women on tiktok as sources? The reality is that most guys who struggle in dating aren't out there looking for women to exploit, in fact it often appears to be the oppposite, where men willing to exploit women get what they want more often. If we take OP's post at face value, that it is actually adressed at men who struggle to date, but hold more conservative or traditional views, then men who want to lie and che… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:18 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?We've got a case study right here with our comment chain; two people, one who is open to casual sex, one who isn't, both with differing views. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:34 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?What do you gain constructing these strawmen? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:31 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?So, I would disagree. Yes, so you have a different view to me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:11 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?What research? If someone is willing to have casual sex they clearly view intimacy differently to someone who doesn't, even if the former compartmentalises relationship sex and casual sex, they still view things differently to someone who is not open to casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:00 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?Low body count is overvalued and too hyped for no objective reason Objectively, it shows a fundamentally different view on intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:47 PM |
| – | Why don't more struggling men join conservative religions?It would be disingenuous and unfair on the women that attend these places of worship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:15 PM |
| 3 | If a guy truly wants a healthy, romantic relationship, he wouldn’t be jealous of assholes that pumps and dumps and/or stay in toxic relationships.I can only speak for myself, but I'm not jealous, I just lament how rare it is to come across women who haven't had casual sex, been pumped and dumped or in toxic relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Ever gotten the ick from a woman being too into you?I imagine this is a purely hypothetical scenario for most guys, but 1 and 2 aren't an issue, 3 maybe depending on how abstract they were being, if it was that she wanted to marry me and have my kids right away, I'd question her sanity, but if she said she dated hoping for the end goal of children and marriage then I'd consider that a green flag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 3 | The advice women give to men here is devised to limit their chancesIt's not even about trying to date too high, you can have a woman super into you and if you don't get the rules of the game, you'll just end up alone and dating is just going to be an exercise in futility slowly sapping your mental health. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 08:20 PM |
| 3 | The advice women give to men here is devised to limit their chancesHe's got a point though, we have to play by women's rules and if we don't, or can't, you'll fail, regardless of how a woman feels about you. For some guys it just feeds negative mental health and learning to live at peace alone can be a positive thing, maybe not becoming a hermit, but surely abstaining from trying to date is better than failing to date, no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 08:05 PM |
| 1 | women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where?Very few men are asking women they're not attracted to out on dates and actually going on the date, genuinely why would they waste their time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 07:53 PM |
| – | Because of high inflation in the U.S, is that the reason as to why women (not all) in the U.S are running towards high earning men and leaving low earners at a rapid rate?I feel like the trend I see more than anything else is women selling themselves short in dating and relationships, I'm yet to meet any woman chasing high status men outside of one who used to joke about how she'll have to just marry a rich guy to own a house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 10:50 AM |
| – | How to tell if she is witholding or really not interested?I think that would be more fair if women were more upfront and open and didn't mask their feelings while trying to maintain plausible deniability in the early stages, I think there's a grey area between hot and cold where a lot of people operate. It's not always so clear cut between disinterest and game playing and I don't think it's always malicious or some sort of mind trick either, sometimes it can be insecurity and uncertainty. As a side note I do also feel like these discussions fall apart,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 10:44 AM |
| 3 | women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where?Do man date girl that he always find attractive 100% Maybe in the rare event a woman asks him out, but considering men are the ones that have to take initiative and risk rejection, why would they do it for a woman they're not attracted to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 10:05 AM |
| 1 | the ultimate force that is shaping womens' frustration with dating is the engine of hypergamy raising her standards without her concious awarenessTbf I don't know if you can really draw many conclusions from this clearly bitter man getting bizarrely offended over a guy some woman online said was attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 09:41 AM |
| – | Women make different men they date play by different rulesBased and black pilled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 06:45 PM |
| 2 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”In this metaphor are you the mirror? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 07:11 AM |
| 3 | The Blue Pill didn't lie to youIs it much use looking at the life outcomes of Gen X and Boomers when discussing current day dating, considering how much has changed over the last couple decades? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 06:59 AM |
| 3 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”Birds of a feather. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 05:59 AM |
| 3 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”What a depressing way to view your relationships with people. I don't even mind paying for people's dinner and have paid for friends and women I'm interested in alike, but if someone is coming at it with this perspective, I'd rather have nothing to do with them. Edit: I've also had women cook for me, pay for a meal or buy tickets to a band for us to go see, I think "who pays" is a pretty useless metric to gauge anything and it's just a way to avoid clear communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Why should men believe you? Where are the bluepill success stories?I'm not redpill, but I often notice this framing, bluepill=positive traits, redpill=negative traits and see it conflated with the black pill regularly (i.e only looks matter). This is a strawman, as redpill doesn't tell men to be bitter and resentful, the point seems to be to accept the redpill understanding of women (AF/BB and so on, which, dishearteningly, is often corroborated by women here) and use what strengths you have to appeal to it, to have abundance and not pedestalise women. They eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 09:49 AM |
| 9 | Why should men believe you? Where are the bluepill success stories?I was reading his comment thinking this just sounds like a redpill success story the whole time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?For me it's 1, but I wouldn't have an issue dating a divorced single mother who had had sex with 3 boyfriends before getting married. Saying it's just about wanting a virgin woman is disingenuous, being open to casual sex and hookups says something about how someone views intimacy and romance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?I'm not the guy you asked, but feel like I could add something. The halo effect is obviously a studied phenomenon, but I think as humans we can intellectually choose to act against what comes to us instinctually, especially when it comes to our interactions with other humans. I know plenty of people don't, but the people that do are the people I want as friends and it's the sort of woman I would want to date, the idea of approaching sex and romance from this perspective, of giving everything to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:27 AM |
| 8 | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?Yes I care, I would see her different, but I wouldn't think less of her, I just would not be attracted to her. It wouldn't matter if she still did hookups and wanted to hookup with me either, I don't want to date someone who has engaged in casual sex, as we have different views on intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 07:56 AM |
| 9 | "just treat them like humans"Yes In what ways do you treat women you are friends with vs men you are friends with? In what way do you see women as different, warranting different treatment in this regard? I fundamentally dissagree with what you are saying as well, in my view you treat people depending on your relationship with them, not whether they are a man, woman or somewhere inbetween. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 07:06 PM |
| 12 | "just treat them like humans"Yes, and? Why not come to the conclusion I treat men like women and disregard men's reality? How should women be treated differently to men do you think? Should I treat women I'm friends with differently to how I treat my male friends? How about female vs male subordinates? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 06:49 PM |
| 14 | "just treat them like humans"What are you even talking about at this point and why not take it to mean I treat men like women? How are you imagining I treat women that "disregards her reality as a woman"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 06:35 PM |
| 13 | "just treat them like humans"Where did I mention treating them like a man? I am friends with men and women and approach my interactions with them the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 06:14 PM |
| 45 | "just treat them like humans"I'd argue it's harmful advice. I treat everyone equally and I think that's a big part of why I failed in dating. Unless you are just a flirty person, you have to treat your romantic prospects different to how you approach the rest of humanity, especially if you are a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 04:24 PM |
| 2 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?I know how you feel, I experience the same thing. No matter how much I like a woman, finding out she's had casual sex, threesomes or whatever instantly shuts down any romantic or sexual interest I have. But it doesn't feel very common to meet people like this. Especially given that I'm not religious and quite left leaning. I often feel like I would need to be in a religious community or around conservative/traditional people to have any hope, but I have no interest in either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 10:58 AM |
| – | Women aren't happier single.Birds of a feather | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:44 PM |
| – | Independence: Why the Obsession With it?I am specifically using it to refer to those who use xenophobia and who scapegoat other races (i.e The Great Replacement), which is very much the MO of the far right/fascists. I think there's also something to be said about how we live in a plutarchy and politics is just a power struggle between different flavours of "elite" trying to divide and conquer the working class in order to advance their own interests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 09:07 AM |
| – | Independence: Why the Obsession With it?i read about people talking about "the great replacement" as the conspiracy theory of elites against the people The dumbest thing about that conspiracy theory is that it is exactly how fascist elites have divided the working class throughout history and pushed the common man to work against his own interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 08:16 AM |
| 1 | How should men protect themselves from paternity fraud?What does holding these men accountable look like to you? Like what actions do you expect? I warned my friends and highlighted what type of man the guys they were getting involved with were, they had the choice to take the advice or abandon sense, either way it was them who payed for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 07:40 AM |
| 0 | How should men protect themselves from paternity fraud?as if abusive men swing on the first date and the woman thinks it’s fine I don't think any man here believes that, what I'm sure of though is I'm not the only one who has warned a woman about a guy, had her ignore the warning, only to go on and get abused by him. They constantly whinge we need to “pick better” Isn't "pick better" what the original comment of this chain was telling men to do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 07:24 AM |
| 5 | Is there dating advice for Men that all (Blue/Red/Black/Purple) pills agree on?Yeah I think people who give this sort of be yourself/don't pretend to be what your not advice, don't realise that the advice entirely hinges on whether yourself is naturally inclined to chase women, if it isn't, you have to overthink and put on an act to even date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 07:08 AM |
| 9 | Is there dating advice for Men that all (Blue/Red/Black/Purple) pills agree on?Only women have the luxury of thinking like this and still being able to date, if a man isn't active in pursuing relationships with women he will be alone, regardless of what else in his life he has squared away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 06:50 AM |
| 10 | Women on this sub really need to stop calling men who struggle in dating "socially inept"The men of this forum leaning red/black pill want other men to crane their necks and question their own choices in mate with the girl on their arm. What are you basing this on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Is passport sis a real thing or just a meme?I have spoken to a few women online who wanted to come meet me or a couple of them even offered to house and feed me if I flew out to see them, most were in first world countries and all had jobs, one even owned a house she rented out. I got the feeling they were just fed up of the men they were meeting locally. I don't think it was about hooking up either as they knew I was a virgin, unless they liked the idea of being someones first, they seemed fairly relationship/family orientated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 08:16 AM |
| – | Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stopThis hasn't been my experience, I don't use social media, but what I have seen, of the people I know, I wouldn't even describe their social media as a reflection of them, let alone describe social media as a reflection of society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:31 PM |
| – | Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stopSome examples of this behavior can be seen in the various social media platforms, with girls saying things like “bruh” and “dude” in every sentence or rapping along to trashy, vulgar lyrics. The short hair cuts are not new but the way they wear them paired with their androgynous style of dress has gone overboard. On top of all of this, their brash, aggressive and cocky behavior has far exceeded the “boss bitch” or empowered woman schtick and is now a very boorish, masculine persona. Have you see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Do you ever want to feel sexy just for yourself?I'd understand the rationale if we were talking about what I can do, like I know my own abilities and regardless of what people think, I have those abilities, but being sexy is an external thing entirely defined by the opinion of others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Do you ever want to feel sexy just for yourself?I could think I am the sexiest man alive, but if no one else does, what use is what I think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Do you ever want to feel sexy just for yourself?No. I don't think I could properly articulate the thought, but I feel like this difference in men and women says something about objectification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 03:58 PM |
| – | Do you think people that can’t be alone are weak?From my perspective most people seem desperste for validation and are needy when it comes to fitting in and being liked, but I realise I'm the outlier and I don't think me being as comfortable alone as I am is a strength. I’m very much a loner & have been single for pretty much my whole life, I feel like I’m at the point where I’m so used to it that a man will REALLY need to knock off my socks in order for me to consider dating him. I can very much tend to be a loner and have been single my whol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 10:46 AM |
| 11 | Women punching too high in datingThis post could be read as telling women to have higher standards for what they expect from men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 03:49 PM |
| 2 | do you feel as a man that you struggle with communication more in general due to being raised to talk less about your feelings?You can say a lot with few words and nothing with a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 10:13 AM |
| 4 | Women face no significant penalty when dating in their 30sA neighbor of mine started dating a guy at 38 after she ignored him for years. Really sounds like she's winning at life and things are on the up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 07:28 AM |
| 3 | You don’t have to be top-tier, just not bottom-tier. (Reposted)They don't sleep with any more than they did ten or twenty years ago but if anything less And what are you hoping I take away from this? It's also true of women, a promiscuous minority have most of the sexual encounters (even if there's more of a choice to enter it in their case), so it doesn't necessarily constitute any kind of 'monopoly' either. I think stats are largely worthless when it comes to dating and socialising, annecdotes are obviously shaped by your environment, but your environment… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/24 07:09 AM |
| 12 | You don’t have to be top-tier, just not bottom-tier. (Reposted)50 years would be past the libido drop of menopause and onward to pushing 90. the man that had extremely limited access To one woman, chances are a guy who slept around isn't going to struggle to find a woman to commit to him and get the same 50 years of "sexual access" from a woman without going into his 30s a virgin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 06:07 PM |
| 9 | You don’t have to be top-tier, just not bottom-tier. (Reposted)The guys I know who sleep around the most are also the most outgoing, flirty and best looking, they sleep with a wide variety of women, from overweight 50 year old single mothers to college aged virgins, the one universal is that most women entertain their advances and they're generally liked by most people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 05:04 PM |
| 28 | You don’t have to be top-tier, just not bottom-tier. (Reposted)I don't agree with 80/20 or that things are as bad as people make out, though I do believe there are a minority group of men who sleep with significantly more women than the majority. Your argument falls apart when you consider that you can have sex once and bear a child. I believe the thrust of the 80/20 rhetoric is that 20% of men are having 80% of the sex or sleeping with 80% of women, if one guy sleeps with 20 women then those 20 women go on to find a virgin man in their 30s to impregnate th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Women, what’s been your experience with using Hinge (mostly your popularity)?1-3 likes, other days as many as 5-7+ per day just one of the few women that in fact aren’t getting much attention? 🥺 you poor thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.They boast about such experiences. I know one of those guys, he looks like he could have been in a 90s boyband and is a super flirty sex addict, he has pictures and videos to prove his stories as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 07:05 AM |
| 3 | i feel like half of this subreddit is chronically online and it's concerningMy opinions on women come from having sisters and being friends with women in real life; seeing the stupid decisions they make when it comes to sex and relationships is enough to make anyone wonder what actually goes through women's heads. I attribute most of it to low self-esteem and desperation, it's the only faintly reasonable explanation I can come to as to why so many women sell themselves so short. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Are women who date online "exploitative"?My original comment was meant to be flippant quite flippant, but it is quite self evident that more than one man has success on OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Are women who date online "exploitative"?Have I given the impression that I believe there are 5 women on dating apps or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Are women who date online "exploitative"?I honestly didn't think I'd need to explain such a transparent, throwaway comment. The implication is that those 5 women are dating the same man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Are women who date online "exploitative"?Sometimes for evey 5 women gettings dates there's 1 man getting 5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Do you think men can be completely loyal, in your opinion?frequently men will lament they cannot find a woman like this (because they only want the hot manipulative exciting ones) I lament it because those women barely exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:25 PM |
| 2 | If women started approaching men, they would still end up approaching a minority of themDo you think how it forms plays a signifcant role in the dynamic of the relationship through it's lifetime? A large proportion of women experience some form of abuse from an intimate partner, in fact, statistically, the most dangerous people to women are men she knows, what part of how women are forming relationships creates this dynamic do you think? Are women not regularly getting used for sex as it is? Wouldn't the guys most willing to use women for sex be the ones most driven to pursue it? D… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 08:16 AM |
| 2 | If women started approaching men, they would still end up approaching a minority of themTbf women would do themselves a service if they did chase and pursue relationships with men they are attracted to rather than waiting passively for someone to chase and pursue them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Opinions on single parents by choice?I considered it, I have quite a big family and there's been babies about for years until it got to my turn to be the one having them. I think my older sisters and mother would be onboard with helping as well, I can financially provide a good life for a child by myself and am paternal by nature, but I think back to my own childhood and how absent my father was (due to work and eventually alcoholism) and knowing the child would only really see me at evenings and weekends, I started to think, what … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 07:30 AM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulCongrats. You do realize this doesn’t happen to 99.99% of men, right? How many times have you been to a party, bar, club, festival, whatever and outwardly enjoyed yourself, danced and chatted to people? Most men have had this but only learn years after the fact because the women in question won’t approach. I have no interest in sex with strangers, so I'm a mid 30s virgin who has never even knowingly been on a date, I know the pain because some of the few women I have gotten to know and been inte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 06:16 AM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI'll clear up that it's not something that is happening everytime I walk into a club, I've also not been to one for a few years. Some of the scenarios where these happened as well were like one woman I carried between bars when her feet were hurting with her high heels or another example was friends with a woman my friend was chatting to and maybe felt like she was missing out? I am definitely not a handsome man or ever been shredded, I guess you could say I had a dad bod with a good bit of musc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 06:07 AM |
| 6 | Stop the Gaslight 1: BluepillWhat use is considering the life outcomes of a Boomer when looking at Gen Z? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 11:06 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI'm like a fat cave man, the only positive thing you could say is I look masculine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:50 PM |
| – | One of the most insanely frustrating things is how women very rarely make it entirely clear when they are interested, making approaching them unnecessarily stressfulI've had women I didn't know kiss me or grope me in clubs and I'm not particularly attractive, I've also found out friends had secret crushes on me, so I don't think it's always so clear cut with women. I definitely understand the frustration, I get why people are latching onto the whole "fuck me eyes" thing OP said, but women really can be very secretive with their attraction and it can be hard to know where you stand with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:01 PM |
| 1 | What the "Pills" Get Wrong . . .I know what I want and it's not perfection, but I don't want anything to do with a woman who has had one night stands or casual sex and it's not about my inexperience either, I'd be happy trying to date a widowed single mother, for example, who had dated her highschool sweetheart, I'd be happy to try and live up to that and make her happy over say a woman who had had a single one night stand that was an experience she disliked, with a man that was less than me by every single metric. What's more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 06:55 AM |
| 2 | What the "Pills" Get Wrong . . .You're not too old to vibe with a fairly recent college graduate My lifestyle in college and right after graduating feels like a lifetime from where I am now. I'm established in my career and a homeowner, most of my friends are getting married, have kids or at the very least have long established relationships; I have nothing to relate to with a recent graduate. rare for someone to go through college staying away from hookup culture The majority of people have had a one night stand or some other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 09:38 AM |
| – | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingThat first link has the majority of men never married? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:59 PM |
| – | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingWhat age range did the stats you talk about take into account? Members of the silent generation, boomers, x, y and millenials are living and covered by "above the age of 30". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:03 PM |
| 1 | What the "Pills" Get Wrong . . .Mid 30s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 07:56 PM |
| – | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingThe majority of American men marry by 32, which means they meet a woman they'll marry in their late 20s or earlier I don't think stats like this are particularly useful when you consider, for example, the guys who are turning 32 now were 20 when Tinder launched. So much has changed in the last decade that you can't really say what it's going to be like for current and upcoming generations of young people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 05:16 PM |
| 2 | What the "Pills" Get Wrong . . .There's of course no guarantee, but if you don't look, of course, your chances of finding it are lower. What I'm looking for doesn't exist at my age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:15 AM |
| 0 | Men need to be less emotional and touch their masculine side.Young women cheat more than young men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:05 AM |
| 3 | What the "Pills" Get Wrong . . .Where are the women worth marrying? Where are the women who haven't engaged in casual sex? I'm saying this as someone with no interest in casual sex, but how can you expect men to feel any sort of enthusiasm for this when who you are asking them to dedicate their time and effort to courting has likely had one night stands, friends with benefits or fallen for and been used by fuckboys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 07:30 AM |
| 7 | The number of women having casual sex is highly exaggeratedI know a guy who is a complete sex addict, but is also a stereotypical "chad", super flirty as well and he has had threesomes and more, managed to convince 3 random women he met to sleep with him and his friend, but his friend chickened out so he just slept with the 3 women himself. I know how ludicrous his stories sound, but man he takes videos and photos of his exploits and shows them to people. I also saw how he was with women and I've yet to meet a "type" of woman that didn't at least entert… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Are women not getting approached anymore?I want to be wooed and pursued like my grandma was by my grandpa. To be fair, why would a man be inspired to woo and pursue knowing how many women have casual sex, one night stands, friends with benefits, booty calls, etc, etc? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 01:35 PM |
| 9 | Are women not getting approached anymore?Bump into me at a grocery store, help me pickup my oranges and overly expensive avocados, tell me I have pretty eyes with a cheeky smile while you're done putting them back in my basket. You sound like the sort of woman I wish I'd met 10 or 15 years ago, but do you ever think about how a man would get into a scenario like this? He'd be doing it based on zero knowledge about you, how many times would he have to go through it with women who are in relationships or just not interested in him? How m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/24 01:30 PM |
| – | All women are heightistsI enjoy his height but I certainly didn’t choose them because of it https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Men of PPD: Do you really find casual sex appealing?I've been lurking and commenting here on and off for years, he used to talk about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 05:13 PM |
| 9 | Men of PPD: Do you really find casual sex appealing?Pretty sure he's F to M trans, who was an escort before transitioning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?Your attitude kind of feeds the whole "starter girlfriend" thing. I'd fall into the category of men this thread is talking about, but I've had women (that I found attractive) come on to me in clubs and so on since like my teens, though I have no interest in casual sex and only really cared about finding one woman to commit to. As I got older and found out how much women care about experience, I started to wish I'd just bit the bullet and went through with it with those women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Why do men not tell other men to be vulnerable, AND, why do women tell men to be more vulnerable, en masse?I don't think talking it out with their wife would've saved those cities and nations to be fair | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 02:29 PM |
| 2 | “Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].”From what he listed, "take a risk" and "reconsider what you're doing or trying a different avenue". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 08:52 AM |
| 1 | Which do you feel a woman values more?I knew a woman that was a virgin until her late 20s then managed to get used by a guy who dumped her pretty quick. You can act all morally superior, but most women will fall for an attractive guy if he gave her attention, the one's who haven't had casual sex (a minority of women anyway) just haven't had an attractive enough man attempt to seduce them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Which do you feel a woman values more?I don't know what a thot is, but even the homebody types that I know, who have been in relationships most of the time I've known them, have had a hookup or two when single or have a friends with benefits type situation. I think the vast majority of women, especially outside of religious communities have had some form of casual sex and I have a few attractive friends who have slept with women of all varieties, even women in relationships and married women, really I can't even fathom where I'd mee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Which do you feel a woman values more?I know quite a few women like that who have never participated in casual sex, had ONS or FWB I've yet to meet any. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 08:33 PM |
| 8 | Why I believe Men are unsympathetic towards Women's grievances in dating.Y’all constantly say women have way more options than men, but you have nothing to base this on I think it's an easy conclusion to come to when you consider how passive women are in dating and the fact it is significantly rarer for them to ask men out; most men aren't even presented with options to anywhere near the same degree most women are. You even reinforce this later in your comment: what about the average woman who aren’t falling for that guy or even on his radar? Are you approaching them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Which do you feel a woman values more?Those women barely exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Why is categorical thinking so prominent in these spaces?I think anyone who actually spends time paying attention to people realises there's some fairly rigid rules people stick to, particularly in dating. Maybe there is some nuance in the minutiae, but you can only see the same patterns repeat themself so many times across multiple generations to realise the nuance doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Women who complain about dating, is it incorrect to say they are at fault?People rail on simps or desperste men, but I actually think if I was one I probably wouldn't be a virgin in my mid 30s. I'm probably the other extreme and believe my stoic demenour makes women I am interested in think I'm not, there probably is a middle ground, but from my perspective the vast majority of guys look desperate and seem to date and have sex fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 10:20 AM |
| 0 | Women who complain about dating, is it incorrect to say they are at fault?I've met like 7 women in my life I wanted to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:43 AM |
| 6 | If a man is a late bloomer wouldn’t it be more natural for him to date down in age to where he would be more likely to find someone closer to him experience wise?a woman who had no sex Those women are exceptionally rare, I can think of one woman I've ever known that hasn't at least hooked up with one or two guys and she was a virgin until 28, then she lost it to a guy that strung along for a few months. or who has had 1-2 partners. My friend would put herself in this category, in fact she would've put herself in the 0 partners category a couple of years ago despite not even knowing how many men she's slept with. Even then, a woman that has had 1 or 2 par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 06:37 PM |
| 4 | If a man is a late bloomer wouldn’t it be more natural for him to date down in age to where he would be more likely to find someone closer to him experience wise?How many late bloomer women are also sexually inexperienced though? A friend of mine I've known for nearly a decade described the guy she's just broken up with after a couple years together as her "first boyfriend" and used to mope a lot before that about how she'd never had a boyfriend at 30. I've met at least 3 guys she dated for like 3 - 9 moths each, I imagine there's been more, I also know she has hooked up with so many guys she's lost count and had multiple friends with benefits. I think l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 05:52 PM |
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