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The perfect woman this the perfect woman that mf just transition already
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:25 PM
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There is no age limit on adoption, only on biological children if you really want them it would be around 40 and it becomes more difficult for men post 40 too. Although I do personally know women who've had healthy babies past 40. You can marry at any age. It doesn't seem to be a huge difference to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:55 PM
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I've been thinking as someone who doesn't want to get married and will most likely not have children...what makes it acceptable for men to choose to not do those things and even encouraged like in the case of MGTOW but for women it's viewed as sad? Not that I'm planning on changing but I spent the weekend and half this week exploring the rocky mountains on a whim just because I wanted to. I also have a fulfilling well paid career, hobbies, a clean house, gym several times a week, and I can just …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:26 PM
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Some people don't want to go through the drama and stress of having children and a marriage and enjoy their peace/hobbies. Honestly my friends who are married and have kids seem kind of miserable. I'm in my mid 20s so it might be that they did everything too young, but still. Being alone with a job you enjoy > shitty, miserable marriage with child shackles imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:38 PM
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No, I must've missed those in college lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:56 PM
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Right leaning inkwells are generally more vocal about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:10 PM
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I just think it's a bit off to do it as a thing to make him not far right, etc. at seven years old due to traits that are linked to asd. Socializing for its own sake I for sure understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:08 PM
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Well yeah I am part of a female community because I'm in that demographic but there are others, some of which you have to have a Dx for. Most are on Reddit or discord. I'm not super into anime or 4chan so I can't really speak to that. I'm in comp sci and I will say it is over represented but I think the rate of ASD in comp sci is only like 3% still (although might be higher with undiagnosed). Over 80% of people on the spectrum are actually unemployed or underemployed. Thinking that we're all in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:04 PM
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"Sperg men of a certain temperment" you do realize that autistic traits just look different in men, right? Anyways, you're likely not going to just get rid of his autistic traits since it's a neurological disability. I can't imagine trying would be good for the kids mental health. It almost feels like the shame involved would breed resentment towards his mom and make him more likely to get into those things...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:51 PM
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Not as visibly, but yeah that only further proves my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:38 PM
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Lol what being autstic and having those traits doesn't mean you're going to end up in the manosphere or being an inkwell. In fact a lot (if not most) of the autism communities I'm a part of lean left. If the kid likes sports I understand but maybe try to embrace his natural personality instead of viewing it as inherently harmful and trying to force him to change it? Idk I hope this is a troll post, it's making my autistic eyes bleed a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:33 PM
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Not only scholarships but going against a man who performs the same you're likely to get selected over them for a lot of positions. Not all but it can work in your favor sometimes. I get that it can be off putting to be the only woman though especially in some of the environments in tech. The paycheck is enough for me not to care personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:39 PM
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Idk why more women don't do it but tech is even better to go into as a female imo. It's a great field for everyone though especially development. May be a bit biased there, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:14 PM
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I don't understand how someone could devote years of their lives to a field only to lean on the validation of others to keep them going. My current bf hates programming so I never really talk about it with him. I have online communities, colleagues, professors, etc. to do that with. It feels absolutely ridiculous to get a computer science degree, masters degree, and grind through skill evaluations in hopes of...looking attractive? I could just go to the gym daily and spend an hour on my hair/mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:03 PM
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Twice a week: 30 min run, walk to cool down, bench, sit ups, legs. Then massage chairs 😌 Me and my bf spot each other on bench. Typically takes ~2hrs at the gym. Once a week (going to move to twice next month): 30 min run. I'm also on a ~1500 cal/day eating regime. Don't eat non lean meat, sweets, processed food, white bread, etc. I have a cheat meal once a week which is typically going out to eat with whoever or ordering food when I'm super busy. No more eating out than that. Nothing super inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:01 PM
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Hybrid Edit: I'd like to do full remote in a couple years though so I can travel and buy some land in the sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:39 PM
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There's a difference between being lonely and being alone. Solitude has benefits as far as self improvement, ability to dig into hobbies and peace goes. I think emotional maturity and an ability to practice stoicism has a big influence on whether you need to have other people in your life to be happy or not. Edit: Inability to be happy alone also leads to staying in abusive relationships as well as obviously being aggressive, etc. Not a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 03:45 PM
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I don't think it's that rare. I've been told I have some OCD traits although I don't meet the criteria for a formal diagnosis, it has some overlap with autism which I do have. In fact compulsions were in my diagnosis paperwork. I also have a married in family member who has been diagnosed with it. Not everyone who has OCD has the contamination version either that's just the most portrayed thing in the media. There's also doubt/checking, ordering and arranging and intrusive thoughts. Sometimes it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 03:46 PM
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I take edibles for migraines occasionally and it actually does knock out the pain for me, ibuprofen and Tylenol just don't do shit for it sometimes. I do have to take more than a typical 5-25 mg dose for pain. But I do think it depends on the individual, the type of pain and the level of pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:06 PM
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Understandable, if you're in a legal state cannabis is less dangerous/addictive and there's some evidence it can treat nerve pain. Or you could just try CBD which is even less harsh. I don't know how well it would do with more severe pain though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:04 PM
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I've seen drug addicts from high-school talk about gabapentin recreationally online but I never knew what it was actually used for. I'd be careful with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:57 PM
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I have the opposite problem. Technical skill but can't make eye contact lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:33 PM
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It's like saying you went to X school, people don't care past HR or whoever does hiring because it doesn't affect them unless they want your money. You can buy a decent house for like 300k in a LCOL area, if it were me I'd just retire early. You're realistically no where close to being able to retire yet on 250k a year though, maybe if you keep it up into your 40s or 50s. I think you need like a million at least these days to retire comfortably.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:27 PM
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The original thread was about not cooking. If you don't cook your options are like frozen food and going out to eat. If you cook low calorie food that's great for you but I'm not sure how it's relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:30 AM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:05 AM
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This is likely going to cause you a lot of weight gain at some point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:39 AM
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You seem...to be pretty judgemental and also like you don't actually have that high of an opinion of these women or care about them very much. That's easier to sense in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:17 PM
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I got 34.1% with standards being: Unmarried 25-35 Making a livable wage where I live It doesn't seem that bad. No kids is also a requirement for me but wasn't an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:13 PM
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1 - requiring support 2 - requiring substantial support 3 - requiring very substantial support
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 10:49 PM
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It's because they retired aspergers (level 1) AFAIK. Which is a bit sad because I liked ass burgers better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 10:46 PM
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Idk I haven't had issues with dating due to autism, some guys like that I'm shy and care about special interests. I also have a decent group of friends. I personally know autistic men who also have been able to hold multiple relationships. I feel like the major issues pop up when you don't try, are creepy, hateful, etc. Or have level 2+ autism and a co-occuring intellectual disability, but I don't think the majority of people with autism on Reddit are in that category. There are plenty of videos…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 10:23 PM
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I mean, I'm sure that some of them work hard and do their own thing. I'm sure that plenty of wealthy women aren't walking incubators either. This is like a very general trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:57 PM
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You must not be around wealthy people a lot. Men whose parents are CEOs of large companies like that are typically given a mid six figure position that doesn't have much of a purpose and fuck off playing golf/in meetings all day. More of just a kid and wife vacation. They are not generally not contributing a lot of labor. The whole worker vs. means of production thing (not a Marxist lmao but to illustrate my point).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:08 PM
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Ahhh gotcha. I wouldn't assume that it's their money or if it is that they earned it in a way men can't. I'm sure some of the time it's from that but definitely not always. My cousins wife is the daughter of an insurance company CEO and wealthy enough to just have a nanny and then nothing else to do but shop and go to the gym during the day. Not uncommon in some circles but a lot of the time it's more family money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:38 PM
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I don't think that women working at even nice malls are making good money. But, in my line of work and other STEM fields there is probably a bit of an advantage. As far as onlyfans go I know next to nothing but it seems like men don't really want to do that as much, I'm not sure how the ones who do compare monetarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:18 PM
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There are men on there who are on there and actually in the top percentages too, just a lot less of them. I should've included that in my original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:58 PM
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Supermodels have a certain level of reach generally, no? I don't disagree with these points.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:53 PM
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Dudes really don't seem to understand that the vast majority of women on onlyfans make like next to no money. You'd have to be top 1% to even make what I make as small company LCOL dev and you have to deal with constant gross men and marketing yourself. It honestly sounds like an awful way to try and support yourself. I do have friends who do it but they have jobs and it's more of a liberation thing than income. Unless you're a supermodel it is not easy cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:30 PM
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I'm in CS, I'm a full stack developer plus getting my masters rn. Currently I am the only female student in the masters program now that the other one dropped, I was also the only female student to take grad classes as an undergrad (our school does a 4+1 if you have a high enough GPA), was the only female member of our research team when I was doing that. There are thank God a couple of other women at my current work. And a couple that made it through undergrad. It's sad firstly because it was o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:27 PM
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I had a similar experience but I don't think it's me bc I don't get hit on a lot IRL (and don't use filters), I think a lot if not most men just swipe right on everyone. My current bf admitted to doing this he didn't even look at my profile at all before swiping because he got like no matches lmao. The way dating apps function is kind of insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:53 PM
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It used to be almost all women, also a women created the first computer program (Ada Lovelace). Obviously greater career choice for women more recently has an influence but I don't think we would see such a drastic shift if that were the only factor. I am autistic though so I do probably lean more towards things than the average woman does. But I don't think that's 100% the issue. There were plenty of female students starting in undergrad and like I said one in my masters they just seem to drop …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:03 PM
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I did VAE neural net research and this kinda hurt lmao. I will say that it's just sophisticated copying even on the cutting edge side. It is not "human like". The PhD student I was working with began the research with measuring ACT results better and we were applying it to psych testing - which I think is a solid application but not very exciting. We were talking about chat GPT in class last night and how it can't write anything other than maybe basic code before it spits out non sense. Can't op…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:11 PM
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I haven't seen the other woman in my masters program this semester at all I am pretty sure she dropped. There have been zero other females in the 4+1 since I started it. So classes of like ten men, male professor and me. And I was the only female undergrad in masters classes for a while, now that I got my bs there are none. Ladies software development/computer science is a great career please join me. Not sure why nobody else wants to do this but I am losing my mind a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:34 PM
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I've never dated someone I didn't earn more than as a female software developer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:48 PM
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I'm autistic and there's a few people I talked to shortly who fizzled out but other than that it's been fine, haven't really had issues with finding a LTR or leaving relationships on super bad terms. I just say I'm shy on the first few dates. I'm female as well so that could be a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:16 PM
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In my experience it's much harder to start off in college, trade schools, etc. in like your 40s with zero skills than re-enter. We had one woman who must've been mid 30s with kids and just starting her degree in my comp sci program and she dropped out, plus wasn't given a research position because she couldn't do that with a family. I'm sure it depends on the individual but like I said there's plenty of research to back the economics of it up against pretty much all of your points. If someone wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 08:22 PM
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Establishing a career, especially for women. If you have kids in your early 20s that is incredibly hard to do. Plus finding a good partner long term usually involves a bit of maturing, marrying your high-school sweetheart rarely plays out as being more advantageous than waiting until later in life, especially because many successful men are also building their careers and themselves in their 20s and also wait. It is pretty objectively correlated to higher achievement if you want to do some resea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:34 PM
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"Most women with ovarian cancer will have surgery to remove: both ovaries and fallopian tubes. the womb, including the cervix." Come on man, five seconds on Google.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:48 PM
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My man my mother would have died according to the doctors plus she wouldn't have been able to have more children anyways. She did not want a historectomy she wanted a big family. You sound like the "ectopic pregnancies cure themselves" crowd. Please educate yourself before speaking on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:43 PM
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Super would have rather my mother died of cancer when I was a child than have a period of hormone adjustment. Also love that foster kids/abuse cases are super cheap for tax payers /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:23 PM
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Well it doesn't really seem like you're interested in any in-depth dialog nor do you seem to respect her much and she appears to be emotional over the situation so I can't see feedback bringing about anything positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 10:51 PM
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It doesn't seem to be particularly long or odd on her part, but I don't really understand the point of posting it here. If you aren't interested stop replying? Edit: It seems like she may prefer more thought out conversations via text. That's just a communication style difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 10:41 PM
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Waiting until your 30s to settle down is the norm among upper middle, maybe even middle class individuals these days especially in urban areas. It just makes more sense resource wise. Rushing to get married and have kids in your early 20's is not generally associated with a successful life for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 10:35 PM
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Agree, I've seen plenty of very successful men date women who could barely pass high-school and are incredibly stupid because they're hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:39 PM
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Do you have a source for that? Also I didn't say it was more effective, it's more dangerous and harder to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:50 PM
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A lot of the time there's no signs until like several years into the relationship? Also what countries...not in the U.S. Our woman's shelter in town is nowhere near enough to accommodate the homeless you would have to live on the street for a while at least. The U.S. has a homeless problem in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:48 PM
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The difference here is the amount of leverage the other person has. If someone is much stronger than me, and has all of the financial power then it creates a relationship that could easily turn into abuse with little ability to escape. That's a very different situation with more on the line than the other things you listed. Dating a highly aggressive man who body builds when you don't have your own income is not the same thing as, say, an extroverted woman dating a shy man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 03:17 AM
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Eating disorders are in large part social and rooted in shame associated with not being thin enough. Essentially it plays a huge part in girls developing them. I'd really encourage you to read up on it before you continue doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:56 PM
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I'm not saying we should encourage eating disorders. Although there were other factors involved - my mom had an ED on and off, pro-ana tumblr, autism - men/society being brutal about women's weight played no small part. Shaming wasn't what made me want to be healthy either, it was wanting to feel better. You mentioned drug addicts, there's a pretty big chunk of literature that indicates shaming does not work to address that issue either. Like with ED recovery people have to want to improve their…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:48 PM
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The body positivity movement was created because of eating disorders, which I personally suffered from in high school. Shaming women instead of encouraging them to want to feel good in their bodies, have energy, be healthy, etc. has a different set of deadly consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 03:52 PM
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This is what I was about to say. I really don't care what your body preference is and I go to the gym several times a week and calorie count but it's incredibly annoying to hear you bitch about fat women all day. Just don't date fat women, women with high body counts, etc. If they are fat and you hate fat women they probably would not want to date you regardless. The issue is when you're aggressively telling all women they need to be a certain way and shaming them. It really starts to feel like …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:42 PM
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In the lowest COL state the minimum livable wage for two people is quite a bit above that at 24.66$. Livable as in you couldn't afford the basics if you made less than that, the bare minimum to get by. I'm not talking about a luxury lifestyle or six figures but you'd probably need at least a decent tradesman salary or two people working realistically. I'm sure people survive with food and shelter below a living or poverty wage but most have to have assistance to do so, whether from family or gov…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:19 AM
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It's insane to me that anyone could support two people on 20$/hr with a high quality of life. I live in the middle of nowhere in the midwest and livable wage is still 25$/hr for two adults one working. And that's just livable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 01:49 AM
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Have you ever been on kiwifarms back in the day, lolcow, or any sites like that? Even on some subreddits you're not required to black out identifying information. Yes, there are laws against it but they are obviously hardly enforced. Personally, if it were me I would be horrified but wouldn't care to take something like that to court due to monetary concerns, the time and effort involved, accidentally making it more public/increasing backlash, mental health, etc. I'd imagine that's how a good ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 12:34 AM
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I've said this in another comment related to this, but this is literally just how the internet works. If you put yourself out there publicly, sometimes even anonymously, you run the chance of someone making an lolcow of you, posting you elsewhere, judging you, it getting back to friends and family, etc. Tread lightly when using your actual name and photos. I will say though, the people who dox and tear others apart online are pretty pathetic and a lot of them couldn't handle it being thrown back…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 11:38 PM
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Honestly...I feel like this is absolutely nothing new with the internet. If you put yourself out there, non-anonymously, there's a chance you could become an lolcow, anything you say can get back to your work and family, or people will judge you. Even if you're anonymous there's a good chance this will happen. I don't agree with it, but everyone really should be careful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:49 PM
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Me and the women I know 1-5 good friends 1-5 close family members After that the quality of relationships diminishes quickly. I don't think anyone can juggle 10+ friends/family members on any kind of non-shallow level. Just my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:39 PM
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Type "does botox age you" into Google please.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:04 AM
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Okay but botox and fillers also both accelerate aging. Stop paying for that. Especially if you're in your 20's it's just sad. Not saying that to be mean I feel for you but faces do tend to look way worse after having work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:57 AM
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You do realize that fillers and botox will likely age you more in the long run, right? Wear sunscreen, eat well and go to the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:49 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:46 AM
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I don't think there's any way to tell that it was BV based on this post. It could really be a number of different infections.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:07 PM
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She could have been seeing other guys or it could he a yeast infection which is still transmissible. Condoms don't garuntee safety 100% of the time either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:54 PM
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Personally I ignore it, they're just people. They're the ones that have to live in their brain, if it's a cesspool then that sounds awful. I feel kind of bad for them and I try to have empathy but it's not living rent free in my mind at all. I don't know if it's the fact that computer science spaces lean right and there were hardly any women in my department, or just lack of social skills and being basically a kid still in college but I've definitely gotten some off comments from dudes who went …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:29 PM
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My dude you would have to go to the gym ONE (1) time to realize that you can't lift anywhere close to the amount of weight the men are. The only people I've heard saying that just don't exercise or play any sports. It's a dunning kurger.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 11:28 PM
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How would anyone in competitive sports be under that impression? There are completely different time and weight brackets for men and women starting at like puberty. I'm not anywhere close to a professional athlete but even in high-school I came in first in the girls for an endurance run and several boys still beat me. I'd assume every other woman who's been involved with sports has had a similar experience. I've never met a women who was actually into athletics who's legitimately thought that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:32 PM
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I'm both autistic and super into programming and haven't had any issues finding someone to date when I want. Maybe a month to find someone to be exclusive and go on dates often with, and thats with me not being attracted to most guys I match with or talk to eventually. A lot of guys actually like that I'm shy and have some common hobbies. But I'm just one person I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:18 PM
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Do you think that maybe submissive women possibly just have lower standards or are a few standard deviations below on average and therefore are easier for you to date? Also I don't really understand how being submissive makes it easier to leave. It is incredibly hard to leave unless you're making like 60-100k+ and can fully support your lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:52 PM
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Not just out of heartbreak but to know what you want out of a relationship/life you should definitely date before marriage and preferably get married later in life to someone you've been dating for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:43 PM
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B I don't need to do all that and it sounds exhausting. If someone doesn't like me without playing games they don't like me. That's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:23 PM
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Not necessarily, skilled trades can be great careers and you don't need a degree. For some positions you need a degree in a specific area. There's a close to zero chance you'd get a dev job with any degree and no projects or knowledge of the field. You also can't work in fields with required qualifications, such as being a nurse, without a degree specific to that area. I was referring specifically to certain office jobs. You guys are really oversimplifying this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:02 AM
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Lib art degrees also open up well paid white collar office positions. There are many careers that don't care what your degree is in but they care that you have it. Project management, insurance (claims, underwriting, etc.), marketing, etc. My brother and his partner both got degrees in art/media and their combined income is near 200k, one works in sales the other is a community manager both in tech. Of course you can go to college for anything and then work a minimum wage job because you can't t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:18 AM
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I am proud of my degree, I graduated cum laude in comp sci, did neural net research as an undergrad, and I'm making a 4.0 in my masters program while working as a developer. I have some living expense debt but my tution was covered. Of course I don't bring it up randomly or think I come close to knowing everything about the field. I think it's a bit funny that it's apparently considered a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:43 PM
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I'm 25 F not getting married or having children. Dating is ok because I can bounce when I want. I like my disposable income, hobbies, clean house and peace and quiet. I see my friends who are married with kids and they seem to have become more miserable because of it. Also unmarried childless women are the happiest demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:37 PM
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I am going to be honest here, I can't stand some of the inclusive tech spaces online. If you just graduated with a sub 3.0 GPA/from a bootcamp/from a diploma mill with no projects and no internships that is probably why you are being stuck with less technical work, or on front end, or on UX. Some positions are just too sensitive and you need a certain amount of experience and knowledge to function in them. Software development is hard and it takes years to master. I'm not saying that it's never …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 09:29 PM
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It seems to have made everyone I've known more miserable. But that's just my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:07 PM
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Tbh I'm 25 and the older I get the less appealing getting married and having children becomes. Especially after watching my friends go through it. I don't know how bad that will make dating if I'm ever on the market again but oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:53 PM
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Most devs don't make quite that much but yes you're right, it just feels like it should be the "next step" to achieve eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:13 PM
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Yeah, I get that. I'm leading a documentation team now and I'm having trouble getting others to do their tasks and my meetings tend to run exceptionally short as I don't know how to make smalltalk well and don't want to do a monologue about the actual code for hours because that feels worse. I've been doing reading about social indicators, etc. and I've seen a doctor recently. Just kind of exhausting for me to think about all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:45 PM
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A bit neurotic but I'm a developer and more and more I'm thinking my lack of social skills and anxieties due to high functioning autism are going to get in the way of me getting a management position even though I'm good at programming and did well above average in both bachelor's and masters. It seems more like a political thing. Someone who's an "influencer" and can barely write a line of code is always going to surpass me professionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:37 PM
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I think it's most likely low self esteem and an inability to see the world like others do. Self confidence and emotional intelligence are difficult things to have a grasp on (I struggle myself) but are frankly very important to be able to have healthy relationships or even get people to date you at all. It's easier to say that it's because women are rejecting me because of things I cannot change (like height) or things that feel impossible to change that I take to be literally impossible to chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:37 PM
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Honestly city planning (at least in the US) is just atrocious. With the stroads and zoning laws it's inherently automobile centric and dangerous to pedestrians/bikers. You just cannot reasonably get around on a bike for daily activities, you need a car. There's one road near me that's supposedly bike friendly but it really isn't because of the way the city and roads are set up, it's frustrating for both the drivers and bikers. They need better and complety different city planning for future proj…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:36 PM
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I said that as in computer science has a higher drop out and compensation rate, not as in I'm in a superior field. Obviously we need natural scientists and it's important work. It'd be pretty silly to say otherwise. Also I didn't say you never had higher education than a bachelor's, how could I know that? I said it sounded like you weren't getting your bachelor's and masters at the same time. No need to be defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:00 PM
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Honestly it is. Like if you look around at highly successful individuals they are pretty much all unapologetically themselves even if they have issues. You have to leverage it in a smart way to where you play up your strengths and diminish your weaknesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:46 PM
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It doesn't sound like you were also getting a grad degree though. Natural science is also not the same as computer science. But I mean realistically yeah I had some free time at points. Quality of work would've been diminished working every waking minute and you need social interaction at some point. It also just doesn't make a lot of sense for me to do that for a relatively low paying job in school when grinding leetcode, having high enough grades for to do neural net research and having grad c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:08 PM
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Meh I didn't work for a period in college. I had a very high comp sci GPA and was also taking masters classes because I was in a 4+1. Also had technicals and take homes for jobs I was interviewing for. Financially it was worth it. I did work through a lot of college and over breaks though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:38 PM
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Only method that makes me perfectly toasted bagels
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:35 PM
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