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Most definitely! A Dobermann was my jam during those period of time in my life. Not only my Dobbie back there making me forget about wanting romantical relationship, I felt like I did not even need any kind of relationship, platonic or otherwise with other human. But you have to be ready to put on the works, the efforts and of course also the money, to give your Dobbie a great life.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/26 07:20 AM
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This somehow kinda reminds me of parents-children dynamics 😅 I think some people just never grew up. The next step will probably be giving them the time-out and electronics ban for a few days.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/26 08:00 AM
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So...I am a woman but I can probably give you a little bit of insight on what is going through your boyfriend's minds. And I cannot believe I am saying this, but there are some cases where it happened the opposite. As in a man supporting his GF financially for a long time, paying for her University, moving countries or cities for her, etc, etc. Ended up with her cheating on him and even passing an affair child as his own child. So something like what happened to you right now, it is not really g…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/26 07:53 AM
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I can never advocate for equality, because menfolks cannot give birth. My point is that from my Eastern point of view, Western men have it easier in many aspects than Eastern men, but many of these Western men failed to thrive. I don't know how to solve it.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 07:57 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean I mean exactly what I have written. Western men have much less responsibilities than Eastern men. Western women take over a lot of those responsibilities off of their shoulders. And yet, Western men cannot thrive because they are often being left out of social and communal situation. As an example, both Western and Eastern women work. But often in the East, a woman's money is her money and her husband's money is the communal money. The husband is also responsible not o…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 02:20 PM
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As an Eastern woman who moved to the West, I'd say that Western women treat their menfolks too kindly already. A lot of responsibilities that Eastern men have to shoulder, are often absent from Western mens' shoulders. I guess that is just the nature of communal vs individual focused society. -Now-, I would say that from what I have seen, Western boys are often raised with a lot of emotional and social neglects. Little girls are often included in social gathering (whether they want to or not) wh…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 01:01 PM
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I feel like it is not just disrespect towards family, but also disrespect towards hmmm how should I put it, one's dignity? And since we are talking about women here, I will talk about womens' dignity. In the East, my dates were usually chaperoned by my younger brother. My dates always paid (just like how my younger bro always paid for his dates, and his now wife's chaperon back then was her older sis), and there was NEVER an expectation for me to have sex with my dates after. Never, no matter ho…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/26 10:51 AM
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Of course there is that value to men, but I feel like first value is always to family. As in she will always be 'daughter of...', 'granddaughter of...', etc. Maybe because of strong filial piety. There is a -lot- of responsibility related to it, but a lot of protections and support too. Of course not every family is like this, but it does give me a lot of comfort, that my sis in law's 'first family' is her parents and her siblings, her 'second' is her husband (my brother) and their children toge…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/26 11:02 AM
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Well, I am an Asian woman who grew up in Asia and then moved around some parts of Asia as an adult before settling down in the West. This is just my personal opinion. This will sound ironic, but I have come into conclusion that the Western world (where most white people live) seem to treat women very badly compared to the East. I know, I know... You might want to say, "but there are more rapes in [insert some countries in Asia or Africa here]", etc" but rape also happened in the West a lot and m…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/26 10:20 AM
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That is also wise, not everyone has to be paired off, and I think it is better to have that kind of realization than stressing out about partnering like so many misguided people unfortunately do.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 06:28 PM
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Status and appearance are important. Honestly I feel not only in Asia that appearance and status matter. In the West too but it is rather insidious. In Asia we admit it openly. In the West, they only implied it. I mean, as long as one can keep up with it, there should not be a problem.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 04:23 PM
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Perhaps. I am from Asia though and it is deemed important to not only be successful, but also to look good. It is just normal to want to look good and appreciate looking good.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 04:15 PM
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Yes, very much. This is a common and well known thing.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 07:08 AM
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Comments about how attractive most women are and how unattractive most men are, are something I heard from both straight and gay, men and women. So apparently pretty much everyone's opinion. And since I am a person of two cultures (born and raised in Asia, moving to the West as an adult), I can also attest that situation is similar back in Asia. Most women are beautiful, most men are not. I think it is because what is being seen attractive on men are not something one can just get with make up, …
/r/ExRedPill17/12/25 06:52 AM
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no group of people have been brainwashed to be romantic about relationships (and therefore men) as much as white women! As a South Asian Woman living in Western Europe, I 100% agreed with this and sometimes I want to shake my white sisters so hard so that they raise their standards. Like holy shit, sis...some countries do not even have the words/translation for 'gold digger'. Open your eyes!
/r/ExRedPill28/10/25 11:14 AM
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Abundance mentality. Only best thing coming out of RP for me. Unfortunately many Red Pillers do not follow that. Not only many of them get into oneitism, they even get angry if their supposed to be 'Plates' fuck other guys. Yo I thought they are just plates? Abundance mentality aka plenty of fish in the sea, applied fully, will cut down so many violence and femicide. A lot of violence towards women, especially by partners or men around their personal space happened when those men are lazer focus…
/r/ExRedPill05/08/25 07:10 AM
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What about being left for NO ONE? Have you taken that also into account? Will that be worse or better? Many of women I know, when they left their former partner, it was not because another man is already waiting for her. It was because the serenity, peace of mind and happiness she got from that relationship has fallen below the level of serenity, peace of mind and happiness she got from being single. The relationship has become balls and chains for her. A lot of men are worried about being left …
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 10:41 PM
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dating for me just feels like a huge game of luck where you have to hope that a girl likes you and wants to be in a relationship with you and there is nothing huge you can do to improve your standing. You've got it right here, except that somehow you see it as one way street. It is like that for any gender and any sexual orientation. Think of the nicest guy you know. Is he the most succsesful with Woman ? Yes, he is in an ENM relationship. A lot of women want to be with him and he is always open…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/25 09:25 PM
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Stop treating men like an ATM Men who talk like this are often men who have no money themselves. Well off men don't care and even see it as point of pride of being able to provide. Just show them your bank account if you are that afraid to be running into a gold digger. I bet you won't.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/25 05:04 PM
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I originated from a country where divorce rate is low, people stay virgin until marriage, porn are banned and prostitutions are criminalized, men are heads of family. If you are interested, I can elaborate to you how life in those kinds of countries are for both the men and women, and then you can decide which one you can imagine to suit you more and give you more feeling of safety. One thing you must remember though, no life is pain-free. One way or another, every single one of us has to 'pay' …
/r/ExRedPill24/12/24 07:15 AM
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My man, I work in a tech industry (always has been, starting with chem eng, then energy and now semi conductor). I have to work often in a group where there are only one or two other women. If men were not drama seekers, we would have probably colonizing mars for real right now. I came into male heavy spaces through hobbies and works, expecting to see the so called 'less emotional, more logical' half of the population...nah. Bullshit. And the whole thing about men are stoic and less emotional an…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 09:35 AM
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If I can give few pointers, play only with male subs who are not beginners. Get to know how they got into the scene and stay away from the subs who are trying to use submission as a way to work out childhood trauma. Green lights are something like "former partner was a little rough one day and I found out I like it", or better one "self explorations got them there." The self exploration men are the ones usually know exactly what they want, how the want it and most importantly their limits. Safe …
/r/ExRedPill11/03/24 09:15 PM
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Can I offer a point of view from someone who enjoy giving rough sex too? I am a woman who enjoy physically hurting men during sex...but only when these men genuinely enjoy it too. If they do not enjoy it, even a little bit, I'll be instantly as dry as sahara hah. I do have some slight sadistic tendency, and I've always been honest about it. And I used to keep this tendency to myself...exactly because I had the prejudice that masochists must have been someone who were hurt in the past and tried t…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 12:46 AM
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As a indian man in uk university chasing this beautiful white woman I like that you included this because it is honest and there are indeed some stereotypes about it, heard about them when I was still in the University too (in Germany though, but I think that similar stereotypes exists everywhere). I am a brown girl with a handsome white man myself and let me tell you that I am so glad that I did not meet him when I was still studying because all the insecurities related to it would have gotten …
/r/ExRedPill03/02/24 07:03 AM
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The question is, can you handle it? You sounds like you are 'too Western' already if you are talking about 'true love' at all regarding to marriage. I originated from the kind of country where divorce is frowned upon. That did not stop people from just leaving though for one. And back then I grew up being warned away from putting love above money and stability. True, the marriage can work as long as there are money and stability. If that is what you are looking for, go ahead for it. Depends on y…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 05:41 AM
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Dude, my father is like the greatest man ever. Daily lifting, clean eating, family loving (and be loved back). He lives life like a king with people who adore him. Still has Parkinson's at 50s (diagnosed, but the signs were earlier). One thing I want to say to young guys; don't wait and do things that will make you happy, TODAY. And that thing better be something that you can do alone.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 06:00 PM
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I work with a lot of men (semi conductor industry), I can tell you for sure, most of them DO NOT peak at 40. Very few of them, mostly who had done the work (mental & physical) during their youth, but even then sometimes some unavoidable situations (gene related illess, developing auto-immune diseases, etc) just reared their ugly heads. Many men in their 40s are just mentally and physically done from years of mental health and some physical health neglects. There is a reason globaly male 40s - 50…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 04:19 PM
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I will always support literally anyone who want to get super fit. So first and foremost, have fun and enjoy the exercise, the burns, the gains. On the other hand, I feel that seeing a human being as a possible reward is very disturbing. I will compare it with some women who do the whole "vindicta" thing (why even call what essentially self-improvement that sinister?) just because they think they will be rewarded with a 'HV man' someday. Healthier, stronger, clearer minds, (positively) intimidati…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:44 AM
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Can't he just watch Tom Scott, or Kenji Lopez cooking show, those time lapsing gardening thing, home renovations, etc? Those are very interesting stuffs.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/23 04:34 AM
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I'd like to think that when one is leaving a relationship, the choice is not between ex-partner and future new-partner, but ex-partner and freedom/contentment. When one gets into that mindset, it will be much easier to leave. To answer your questions, I was raised, “indoctrinated” really, with a “martyr mentality”. IF they sacrifice themselves….THEN they will get their reward. Ouch...yeah, that kind of upbringing can result in some covert contract mentality kind of thing. Really sucks. I can rel…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 01:54 PM
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Was leaving not an option? I am amazed sometimes at how many (usually end 40s or early 50s) married men who try to cling on their unhappy marriage (to the point of being suicidal) instead of just leaving. Were you financially dependent on her? Were you scared of being alone? Was it laziness to deal with documents? Was it the feeling of being blackmailed by Western style wedding vow (till death do us part, at all costs, eventhough we are both very unhappy haha). In other cultures, they do not hav…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/23 05:54 AM
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how best to deal with this weird feeling after an interaction like this? Anyone of you got advice for me? I hope I do not sound dismissive, but in moments like these, I usually try to let the uncomfortable feeling marinate. So that I will never forget. So that next time, I will do the 'sure, pal' and just grey rock/ghost instead of trying to debate them. Or even interact at all. You will feel similar feelings when some open-minded people you knew suddenly or slowly turned weird. Be it that forme…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/23 02:17 PM
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So this guy who you replied to (check his posting history) is broke, fat, nearly 30, OF addict, Weabo and just wasting his life and he knows it too. If course it is all leftist fault for him. Not his useless parents and weak genes.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/23 08:34 PM
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Look for ride or die supporter from your circle. I have two friends who are currently looking for their forever partner. One is 35 M like you and one is 39 F. They got rejected a lot (before you asked why don't they get together, these two while both are lovely as individuals, are completely poison to each other if they were in romatical relationship) but they still put themselves out there. Both offline and online. With me as their faithful supporter. They can tell me anytime they need to vent,…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/23 05:28 PM
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Yep. Ironically the ones who dislike him the most were his MALE coworkers. His macho acting was too uncanny valley to not creep out female coworkers so they never gave him even chance to talk longer than necessary with them. But the male coworkers just got enough of his posturing and his subtle-not-so-subtle attempt to try to create some kind of hiarchy among the workers with him supposedly on top. I think one of the kindest, most respected older male coworkers nearly clocked him once in anger.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/23 06:19 AM
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Well, you did say that she was very attractive. And I know pretty privilege exists. This is not even gender specific. Some women are simping on literal convivted criminal as long as they are handsome. And it is worse than being with a leech imo. I think moving forward, when you feel like you get financially taken advantage of, think about pretty privilege and decide if you want to be part of or support such things. You might think, if I don't do it, other guys will. So may as well. But those guy…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/23 07:50 AM
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I see this answer too often. Do you think it is the fault of parents on how most of them raised their boys 'wrongly'? Wrongly in quotes because every child is individual. But the notion of going to the gym, be socially skilled, be financially well, be interesting, be charming, etc. Those are basic knowledge that not only help in getting sexual partners but also leadership positions at work. And many former (or still in) Red Pill said that they learned that from the community (instead of their pa…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/23 07:42 AM
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WTF. Look, I loathe the red pill, but you cannot pin this one on Red Pill! A lot guys simp to some degree, but what you did was making it your persona. Cut that shit out. Good that you walk away from RedPill, now walk away from the next jobless leech. Your ex is a leech, but she will not be leech for long if there is no blood to suck on.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/23 04:35 AM
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Hunting license is not being issued for gender specific individuals. If you passed the exam and have financial means to go hunting, hunt away. In most places you cannot make hunting as your main source of income though, money made is often not enough to pay bills. Get and train a labrador while you at it too. They make great hunting companion.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 06:00 PM
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He literally said move away from big city and into a smaller one with 50K people as first step.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 06:20 PM
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Uhhh....you sound like you grew up with a domineering mama and a dad that is not doing his job well. And you are trying to break free from that mold. Red Pill is fine for short term or ONS. It is garbage for long term relationship. Cause familiarity brings comfort. Holding frame 24/7 for multiple years is not something most people can do. And if you are already a neurodivergent person (no hate there, I am autistic too), slim chance.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 04:57 AM
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A lot of teachers thought I wasn't going far in life, or told me individually that I'm not gonna amount to much when I'm older. Damn, I am honestly surprised that your teachers were THAT invested in their students like that. All of teachers I had cared only about doing their job of explaining materials and then go home and get paid. They get paid the same whether their students ended up failing of successful. But maybe that's because I grew up in Asia? Definitely never experienced teachers who c…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/23 03:37 PM
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It is overkill to say that not reaching all those before the age of 30 will make one not a real man. That is just fear mongering and downright lies. But there are a lot of comfort to be had being in that position whether one is a man or a woman imo. And while LUCK and birth lottery plays a lot of part in one's life success too, hustling early will raise one's chance to be in that position. Most people want to have great body, utter financial security, choice of partners and some comfort luxury g…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/23 01:42 PM
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Are some parents like failing at teaching their kids to deal with rejection? Yes. Even worse, teaching (consciously or non-consciously) the awful concept of 'Covert Contracts'. The "if you do this, you will be rewarded with this" bullshit. For some people, with time, the part of mutual verbal pre-arrangement will be gone and just skipped into assumed mutual agreement one. Thus the tantrum when they did not get the rewards that they think they should have gotten. A lot of people regardless of gen…
/r/ExRedPill23/07/23 07:04 AM
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I come from third world country where people got punished for having sex without marriage. 'Dating' is chaperoned. The men and women are virgin when they get married and if you stuck with them, you stuck with them. To add, sex is being seen as for procreation only. I saw widows and widowers dancing happily because their hated husband/wife finally died and they are free. I always amazed at Westerner who think that something like this is good.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/23 06:40 AM
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It depends on which situation. If you and the person is already in some kind of relationship with them in the first place when they fell into redpill (like familial, romantical, collegial, etc), you just need time until they slipped up or break frame. They will eventually cause no one can act 24/7 not even professional actors. Watch also for the classic words do not match the acts. When their shared 'ideal' do not match their reality. In a courtship situation, as in first few time meeting, peopl…
/r/ExRedPill23/07/23 06:22 AM
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What do you actually want with women? Maybe you can start from that. Cause since you are in Germany, prostitution is legal. If you want sex. Companionship/friendship? You have AI. I am living in Germany too. I am an immigrant from Asia. Been living in different countries, Germany is least judgy when it gets to living alternate lifestyle in general.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 03:50 PM
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you are easily replaceable in your career but can't be replaced at home Your stepmom literally got replaced by a woman your age. Look, I am South East Asian too. And white feminism is not for me. But damn, we have to be also self-aware that many of us are a bunch of pick-mes who threw other women under the bus just because they act and dress differently than us. We are not all that. We are not more 'enlightened' that we are ex-RP and don't subscribe to Western feminism.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 09:22 AM
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My mom for example loved my dad during his very unattractive phase, and he was so broke and couldnt work at one point. She took care of him and us, worked for the family, and still managed to come home to have quality time with us. Still, my dad cheated on her for "being busy" because he had so much time while he stayed at home. So this is what women who does not wait at finish line get. The idea is that no one should be with a project. With a 'what if'. Men or women.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 09:18 AM
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Man...MGTOW and WGTOW could have been the healthiest movement for everyone, especially for people who genuinely are looking for peace of mind living their lives.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/23 03:27 AM
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You wrote like someone I knew how blew up his (love) life like this. It was not RP but some proto-RP. So Proto-RP made him leave his WoW addiction. Making him more serious about school, career and the benefit of exercise. Proto-RP also made him actually learn to socialize, to network. All of those were good. Now the bad is that Proto-RP equate success with how many women he bedded. And he went to the extreme. To the point of bedding mostly only women who were either in relationship or married (t…
/r/ExRedPill24/05/23 11:18 AM
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I could only do online dating for 2 weeks when I was single. I am not a stranger to get to know people online first, then IRL. Growing up liking various MMORPG will do that. I got to know my partner through Reddit too. But apps that are made for dating/relationship/even just fucking...holy shit, those shits were something else. So many desperate men it was just pitiful and rotten. I know that for men it is numbers game, but I feel that most of the time, behind those 'game' was multiple individua…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 10:26 PM
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I guess in the beginning, yeah. There has to be some kind of physical attraction. But then you knew them better, trusted them, shared special moments with them, so that when their physical attractiveness are gone (via aging, via illness, via fire + accelerant to the face, shotgun, etc), you still are willingly wanting to stay with them.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/23 06:34 PM
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It still works mostly like that in reality. Some people do genuinely try to be more inclusive in their dating lives, but online is not offline. Rather than 'losing out', many just decided to be single/not dating. That's both the men and the women.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/23 02:38 AM
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There are a lot of things I love about the West (immigrant from the East here). But I just wished people are being ok and being more honest that Look, Money and Status are important. Especially in having doors open for possibility of romance in the first place. I feel that a lot of Western spaces are trying to do good by being inclusive and pushing for personality over everything else, but reality is that physically unattractive people have trouble dating, most people still cannot find fat as at…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/23 09:16 PM
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To be fair, I think Red Pill can work in a situation of ONS or short term fuck buddy thing. It is easy to fake personality for a few hours or days. Though ironically, Red Piller often think that it is women who like to bait-and-switch. Not realizing that they are the biggest bait and switchers and shit testers. Now when they got into relationship, this is where it becomes a problem. You often read about "showed her my blue pilled side, she left". Well dude, it is not her fault if you bait her by…
/r/ExRedPill21/04/23 07:31 AM
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Indonesian. Still carry passport and visiting regularly, but mainly living (escaping) to europe. relationships and marriages sound so grim Wanna have it grimmer? https://www.reuters.com/world/asia-pacific/indonesias-parliament-passes-controversial-new-criminal-code-2022-12-06/
/r/ExRedPill12/04/23 01:56 PM
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Still exist in poorer countries (for example where I am from). But it is also logical decision supported by her family and community. Nothing financially gained by staying with a broke husband. Women who traded up financially always got praises as smart. On the other side of coin, men are praised to trade up wives (guys are allowed max 4 wives) too. And since sex is for procreation (your run of the mill conservative/traditional communities ladies and gents!), People see it as logical for trading…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/23 12:57 PM
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Eating, sometimes got something to drink. Then play Tekken. I like Lee Chaolan and Shaheen. Back then when we were younger LAN party. One of my friends found BF from COD.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 08:53 AM
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You sound a little bit like me, just gender flipped. I was raised in a strict/abusive Asian household and being taught that getting together with a single father is a loser/less behavior too. Only one other woman (my aunt) in my family is together (married) to a single father. I love my partner so much and he is a great human being, never burden me at all with his son. Big part of why I like him so much is his love and hands on care for his son after all. But...yeah, that feels of being a loser/…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 04:27 AM
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Nothing wrong with men and women booty calling each other. It just is just disturbing from my point of view that the ability to leave partner whenever for reasons or without reasons from BOTH partners (many guys seem to be missing this part) is not being seen as a plus, but as a minus. Maybe some guys just mistaken co-dependency with love? I stand by my words that no matter the gender, sexual orientation, length of relationship, it is perfectly fine for anyone to leave when they want to. Relatio…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 06:22 AM
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If you really want a relationship where men and women are forced to be together even when they do not love each other anymore. Just because of..."DeY MakE prOwmIse tO eAcH OthErrrr", feel free to well, enjoy being in a relationship without love. I know about it because the third world, religious country where I came from emphasised that shit. Unhappy cause your wife beat you up morally and physically? Stay anyway. You two are married. Unhappy cause your husband got into addiction and refused to …
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 10:08 AM
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That Abundance Mentality is GOOD...for everyone. I see how scarcity mentality instead of making people feel more loyal (out of fear of being alone forever), make them oppressed their partners. To lower their self-esteem. To give them the 'reassurance' of not being abandoned. Scarcity mentality created pathetic people who went on to make more of pathetic people. Abundance mentality is only good thing coming from Red Pill, but seems like one of the most difficult thing for most Red Pillers themsel…
/r/ExRedPill05/03/23 08:22 AM
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Don't flatter yourself. It is not always leaving for 'another guy/better model'. People left because they fell out of love (ever heard "love but not in love anymore"?), they want peace and solitude (being in a relationship can be mentally draining), they just no longer view the world the same as you do (ever heard about "growing into different directions?"). Some guys must have BIG ego if they think that they can only be left cause a better man than them came along. Nah dude. Most of the world a…
/r/ExRedPill05/03/23 08:08 AM
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a man who has lack of experience can have a higher chance of thinking that way. Conclusions for this is unfortunately that it is better for women to date desirable men (top 20%) than the rest, because true to your words, men who lack experience will take one bad experience as baseline, while men who have had multiple partners (and abundance) often understand that there are different type of women out there, will be more chill about it. I see it unfortunately in real life/personal life too. Inexp…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 06:19 AM
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passive little traditional housewives who throw away their friends and turn into sex robots and such that these men wanted. ...until they got this exact wish and realized that they are still unhappy and anxious about life. Rinse, repeat. Seeing it in some guys I know of who were so sure ultimate happiness is to be found in having a gamer girl/nerdy girl as a partner. Only for reality to hit that gamer girls/nerdy girls put so much of time and other resources on their hobbies (duh) and not into a…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 06:08 AM
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Differs from one woman to another for sure. But more than that, the way they response to sexual desire/need matters too. I've only been interested in having intimate time when I am in a relationship. No matter how hormonally horny I felt, I will feel too awkward sharing that part of me with some rando. And orgasm just comes so easy with fingers and toys. One of my friends is the opposite. And she did not even mind to not orgasm during sexual encounter with an ONS person. I never get that. Why bo…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 06:26 AM
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Cats and wine. Isn't that what manosphere often suggested for lonely women? And why not, you know? Cats (or dogs, birds, rodents, etc) are good companionship and wine (luxury goods) can be expanded to treating yourself.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 06:11 AM
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to skip interactions and go straight to sexting or sex. Most human are not all that interesting. There are some women who are also into no talks either. But there are just so few of them. What do you think is worse, chatting them up wanting to get them into bed by feigning interest, or just make your intention clear from the get go (with risks of never run into one that will be ok with it, just because how small of a number they are). Most people complained bo…
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 08:45 AM
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So it is good on a personal level, but can be bad to our survival as species in long term This is a fair assesement. Though...is there a logical reason to have kids apart from to have a caretaker in the future? Where I am from, having kids is like investing in retirement funds. Through brainwashing of filial piety, children is tasked to be caretaker and financial provider for elderly (or sometimes not even elderly yet) parents. One of my bestfriends got married last year at the age of 40 when sh…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 02:36 PM
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So bottom line is today in modern societies women do not need men to survive and men do not need women to survive like everybody did 200 years ago. I absolutely agreed to that! But I wonder why it is not being seen as positive thing? I read a little bit about your other reply about being assaulted by ex. That is horrible, should not have happened and ideally police be called. That kind of wife to husband (or gf to bf) abuse also happened where I am from, but men there often unable to even leave.…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 07:56 AM
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Because feminism teaches women they deserve shit just because they exist. I came from a place where there is no feminism. If you think guys have it easier there, you are wrong. Love marriage is Western/rich people priviledge. The women are often more vicious than women from places with feminism. Can you blame them though? When you live in a place where you are forced to -need- a man for survival, instead being allowed to just -want- a man because you are surviving fine otherwise, you'd turn fera…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 07:26 AM
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You know...I left my shitty third world country and happily living in the West. There are so many sisters in my crappy land that would be so happy to trade place with you. Why aren't more men move to places where men are first class citizen and womens are not even allowed to go out without male guardian? Those places sound like paradise for men. Can married teen aged women too. My mom's uncle married to a 16 year old woman at the age of 63 or something. Remember what I said about transaction? Th…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 03:27 PM
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Not making babies is very good decisions. Single people should be celebrated and not being pushed to create family unit. women only get with men for a transactional value. Western sentimentality (and priviledge?) is looking at relationship as a non-transactional thing. In conservative places like where I am from, trading old wife for younger wife is considered smart. Trading broke husband for richer husband is considered smart. Men and women will praise you in trading up. You guys do not know ho…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 03:20 PM
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I am. Most guys I know of, acquitances, coworkers, friends, family. Both from Indonesia, Hong Kong, Oman and now Germany (places I have lived in). Only very few care about self-care. Most threw themselves into meat ginder (by choice or not by choice) and then smoke, overnight vidya, party, binge beer, etc to prepare for the next grind. Some devout muslims young guys are doing a little better with praying (guess can see it as meditating) in their spare time.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/23 07:37 AM
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Agreed. Most human beings' romantic life is probably too boring and ordinary to put into movies. Ordinary 'looksmatch' (hencewhy the beaut and beast trope is used) and , ordinary difference in income (hence the pauper and the CEO kind of hollywood romance), ordinary age difference.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 05:52 AM
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And it is not only in the West or liberal places too. I spoke often about the more traditional/conservative place where I came from, and there, women over 30s are still desired for serious relationship. Sure there are old lady 'spinsters', but turned out to be many of those are by choice. I don't know where the belief came from. I used to believe it when I was younger too. Actually even causing me some stress because I thought I would ended up with some older men I have no interest in whatsoever…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 05:16 AM
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The reality is that the demographic that person in the original thread was talking about and belonged to (older, over 40 men) are the demographic where completed suicides happened the most. Or at least the beginning/jump of belonging to such high numbers. https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/ Manosphere love to ignore this fact in favor of jeers about cats and wine for older women. Ironically, if they were more open about pet companionship and lone self-enjoyments (let's face it, if cats and wine…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 05:00 AM
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The ones about financial freedom, workouts, how to be a more productive person gets like 12k views. Well this one takes work. The ones that shit on women, with absolutely misogynistic titles has like 300k views. This one involves zero work and validate them to be themselves. Hating women is not a new ideology. Happened long before Red Pill ever came along.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 05:58 AM
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It should be both ways too. That men should be with partners who respect them in return. There are individuals of both genders who seem to think that the only way to keep a happy home, is by way of manipulation. From my personal experience, it was my horrible mother who often showed my father disrespect. Mind you, this is also the same woman who admitted to her children, that she is togehter only with my dad because of his look and his profession. I know that my mom's love for my dad is really s…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 11:16 AM
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I am so very sorry OP, but this is your new reality and the sooner you accepted it, the better. People who do not respect you, can never love you. That's just it. He will always see you as lower than him. Someone he can manipulate, someone he can steer to do what he wants. There is no respect in that. Plenty of relationships, that started very nicely, ended because someone changed. And changed for worse. It is ok OP. Take care of yourself. You are going to be ok.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 11:03 AM
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Oh then that's definitely emotional abuse and should be called out. Saying "no one else will want you" or "no one else will love you" or something similar is very abusive.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 05:52 PM
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Those two go hands in hands together, yes. But you still haven't exactly explained what Jane did wrong by dating James? Is Jane more experienced in relationship compared to James a problem in itself?
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 05:14 PM
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provider, protector, and leader When I was still living in a third world country (that was poor and unsafe), yes, men are needed to be provider and protector. I live in Western Europe now. Earning nice money. Living in a safe country. Besides, I have weapon license myself. You just took away all of the reason I should want a man :/
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 05:07 PM
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I don't think I have ever run into such women. I am sure they exist, cause all kinds of people exist. Though I guess I do not really understand here. So there is this woman, lets call her Jane. Then there is this kind but low self-esteemed and naive man called James. So Jane is dating James to...what? Make fun of his insecurity? Or is it monetary thing? As in asking James to give her gifts and even money? Aren't many women refusing to mommy/nanny their partners? Isn't dating someone with insecur…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 04:50 PM
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It is not stigmatizing to suggest medication against anxiety or obsesive-compulsiveness. Meds really do help. That's why they called meds. And I have always been supporting hormone-affecting meds. Because they do help. I take pills mostly to control my fluctuating hormone levels. My father takes meds to artificially adds dopamine for his brain. Are you really sure that your problem is moral deficiencies? Because you do realize right from wrong. It is the OCD and anxiety to act certain ways that …
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 07:59 AM
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always over analyzing every text message and making sure that she doesn’t have any power over me. You need to be medicated. Like real medication. So much obsessions for sex and relationship. What about trying some hobbies like sky diving or cave diving or something. How many thousands of hours in your life have you invested just for vaginas? Quit putting sex and relationship as center of your life dude. You are not going to get heart attack and die without pussy or relationships.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 12:10 AM
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appreciation for the most simple things in life I wish more guys are like you. I really wish that. There are just a boatloads of things to enjoy (especially if one is living in a safe/non-war torn, not too polluted and medically advanced environment) than just romantical/intimate relationship with women (or with men). Is it because enjoying small things in life can be seen as 'unmanly' behavior?
/r/ExRedPill06/12/22 08:02 AM
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Come on man...she is good enough to be a vessel but not good enough for thing as easy to give as loyalty? A lot of men would have been able to offer her loyalty. As in bare minimum for many of them. I am just saying.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/22 11:15 PM
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If you just do not speak to women (apart from in professional/business settings), do you really need to change anything though? I don't generally speak to men unless in professional setting. Also saying hello or hello back to passing male neighbors or working colleagues. I don't do small talks with guys. That is not something bad, is it?
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 08:39 AM
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You know, if fishing for compliment = cringe! Fishing for attention+jealous display = even more cringe! Just learn from it and everytime you meet a great person (women or men), and you feel insecure and feel like you need to knock them down to make yourself appear more superior, think about the cringe!
/r/ExRedPill17/10/22 10:31 AM
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Would you want to trade place with citizens of those countries who wants to move to your country then? You get to live in their country, they got to live in yours. I traded life in South East Asia with easy life in Europe and never regretted it. If some men in Europe want to trade place with more of my former countrymen, they are not going to say no.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/22 10:24 AM
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Travel to Thailand with a little wealth and have a sexathon I am Indonesian and this kind of thinking is... I don't even know how to describe it. Angry American man who cannot get women in his own land blame feminism for his inability to connect with women from his own culture, suggesting his fellow men to fly into places with more conservative value than his own country...to play out his very much non-conservative (sex outside of marriage) fantasy, without regards of the women from those third …
/r/ExRedPill17/10/22 10:19 AM
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Hmm ..maybe think it like this, I came from a country that allows men to have up to four wives (yeh...yeh...-that- kinda countries). Most of the men there have only one wife. Even when they are local 'Elon Musk' or 'Bezoz' aka have money, social influence and willing mistresses/future 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc wives. People want what they want, I think? Sure I can cheat on my partner or jumping from one relationship to another if I want to. But so can my partner. We are still happily together and it is …
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 06:33 AM
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I can honestly say that I have experienced feeling of freedom after moving away from my third world, conservative-traditional country that treat women badly, to a first world Western country where I am actually allowed to just...exist as a human being. Sure I resented the part where I had to experience shit living and feeling like second class human for multiple years, especially in my tender years, just because of pire chance of being born a woman in those kind of environments, but hey, it make…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 07:31 AM
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And the question is...why do many Western women still look to pair despite not needing to? I came from Indonesia, third world shithole where women are second class citizens. Women are allowed to work but the pressure for marriage and kids are heavy and women who want to be happily WGTOW-ing still being punished with social and financial hardships. Single women got harassed until she could procure a husband. Marriage for women there is for financial and safety reasoning. Western women do not need…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 05:43 AM
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socially engage with them. I am sorry but this bothers me a great deal lately, why do some women (I assumed you are a woman) gave men who prejudiced against women in the first place, often this kind of advice? Are you volunteering to be this particular person his first trial woman friend? Or will it just be one of those where; "eh, other women in his direct social circle will handle him" NIMBY thing? Man who distrustful of women want to keep away from socialization with women, shouldn't we rejoi…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 05:31 AM
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Honestly it’s just pornhub and robots It is also ok if it is pornhub and robots forever imo. Not everyone has to have a 3D. Also ignore advice about making friends with women. Well meaning advice, but it again, puts the burden on random/other people to solve one's problems/prejudice. I am PoC person (Asian to be exact) and the amount of people who were like 'befriend that prejudiced individual so that they know that your folks don't bring the covid. Change their minds.' is off the charts.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 05:22 AM
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I know that in the East where I am from, where women often don't get anything in a divorce, that well...unhappy wives (and husbands) still leave. Many often without the divorce because divorce is not granted easily in a traditional/conservative and theocratic society. "Send me back to my parents" is the calling call alternate for "we get a divorce". So many who left are still officially married, but they are living back in parents' house and back to become daughters instead of wives. In the end,…
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 04:57 AM
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Well...as much as Blackpill can be very aggresive, some of the points made there are just realities (some, mind you) and can help people to accept their situation and look for happiness the other way (and now this is where Blackpill usually become rotten with their 'CopE!!!' They think there is just one path in life to be happy. Be Chad.) Are there biased against more physically attractive people? The hallo effect? Yes, yes there are. I am from Asia and the beauty standards here are super high t…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/22 07:49 AM
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I guess must have been similar to how some guys ended with abusive partners. These kind of abusers get off on the 'hunt' phase and they are very very good at it. They are doing it so well because they feel genuine thrill out of it. I regret I did not save the comment, but there was a reply in a thread that was asking about formerly abusive people who had been reformed (by ways of meds and therapy). And one woman actually explained how she was obsessively stalking her ex-partner's social media, w…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 08:32 AM
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All of these problems are legit. I am not saying they do not exist. But how is moving to countries I mentioned will not help? Changing locations is a big situatuation change. Didn't some red pill gurus moved to East Europe or South America in order to get better play of the dating dynamics? There are places where women need 4 male witnesses if she reported rape. Why aren't more RP men move to those kind of places? Just seem logical to me.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 03:46 AM
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I am helping. Telling them to move where they get insta-win. Are you white? Even better, even the lowest white can get women in such places.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 03:37 AM
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There are other countries/cultures where men get to be first class citizens. Saudi Arabia, Oman, South East Asia, etc. I would suggest for Western born and raised men who dislike Western society, to move there. No joke. It will work well for them. You know why? Because I am a woman doing the opposite. I came from a Third World Country that treats women like second class citizens (for example this newshttps://www.hrw.org/news/2022/04/20/indonesia-military-finally-ends-abusive-virginity-test#:~:te…
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 09:43 PM
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You're welcome! I am curious though, was there also the kind of hypocricy where 'upgrading' is treated more kindly or even with certain admiration than 'downgrading'? (Putting it in quote because what tradcon society and individual sees as upgrade/downgrade is often different). Or perhaps divorce/remarriage is completely not allowed? In Islam divorce is allowed and men can have multiple wives. My paternal grandfather had two wives. But he got admiration because second wife is not only younger, b…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 03:04 PM
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Would you like a perspective of a woman who came from and grew up in a third world, conservative culture, who had now escaped to the West (and seriously very happy about it too and would rather die than coming back to the conservative culture/country?) As you might have already noticed, conservatism/traditionalism makes everything simple in theory. There are men and there are women. Men have mens' social-jobs, women have womens' social-jobs. Stick to that and reproduce early. Trained older sons …
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 08:37 PM
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That is very true! More people should take advantage of it.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 07:50 PM
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work better together then against each other The best would be separately from each other should they wished to, but I know that it often does not work that way. I feel that when hearing teenager talk about "men need women!" Or "women need men!" The best thing to say is that no one should need anyone. Young people should never grow up feeling like they are being blackmailed to act a certain way. For example, I dislike the societal expectation for a man to jump between a woman and possible danger…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/22 07:08 PM
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Yes we need each other As someone who originated a traditional/conservative/religious third world country and then was lucky enough to 'escape' to the West, I'd say it depends on the culture. My third world shitty country and culture definitely have some bullshit about men and women needing each other, but in the West, an adult woman and an adult man can live happily and perfectly fine without NEED-ing each other. Men and women needing each other is like adults from shitty countries needing to c…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/22 08:38 AM
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Bung, I see your posting history and turned out to be you are from Indonesia like me. You can see my posting history too and take note on how often I called our country third world shit hole haha. I've escaped to Europe though and life got exponentially easier after. Many Indonesian (and let's us just call it traditional/conservative) women shit-tests because that is just the part of trad/con toxicity when it gets to relationship. "Jinak-jinak merpati" is one of the earlier thing a mother taught…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 03:16 PM
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