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Beyond the advice these guys have given regarding your profile (which btw I have to agree with the comments here), San Diego is kinda hard to tinder game in man.. I used the app when I was going to school up in the bay and it worked when I wanted it to; in SD, it's a whole different story. If you aren't fit, doing cool/active things and demonstrating strong social value in your photos, you're dead in the water. Pictures of me fucking around in the woods or playing music dont have as much mileage…
/r/seduction16/02/19 02:22 AM
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It's gotta be either Salem, OR or NYC. That's a good routine though brother. To add to this, building social momentum before you final destination is really good practice. Being outlandish can garner attention and show you're not afraid of people's reaction, but it sounds like it's spoiling OPs frame/making it harder to create and manage tension with women.. that's what I'm gathering at least when OP mentions "trolling". Try a "one troll" per interaction rule for a bit so you can try more authen…
/r/seduction03/02/19 06:23 PM
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You should talk to people on that public transport now
/r/seduction01/02/19 01:19 AM
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Ive had like a 30% success rate at restoring communications when I take one last stab at it with an intriguing but low effort statement. Maybe OP should give something like that a shot first, and if she's cold then forsure move on
/r/seduction31/01/19 09:13 PM
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"I feel like a complete loser right now." You're not brother. You're just rearranging the pieces of your life now, and you might feel a bit lost at first. I know it hurts right now, but you have an opportunity to get in touch with your own identity again. After a few months time, you will have a stronger sense of self, which is crucial to pick up and social interaction in general. Stay diligent as best as you can. Focus on your studies and health. Sharpen your mind. Revive old hobbies and explor…
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:00 PM
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I dig the channel man. Wish I saw this video a few weeks ago, I spent so much time recently opening sets strong, but then letting it die down and then once the passion is gone I'm like "yea so uh.. let's get in touch sometime gimme your number" thinking number closing was the key and just getting as many as I could was the answer. This month I've got like 40 or 50 numbers, and out of that, a small handful of girls were like "yea let's kick it with my homies" type of stuff. Having female friends …
/r/seduction28/01/19 05:23 AM
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Models my Mark Hanson gave me a motivating perspective on game. Really drives home the seduction-as-self-improvement idea. Whatever you read, make sure you put into practice.. you probably already know that anything you read about seduction isn't useful without supplementing it with action
/r/seduction28/01/19 04:10 AM
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Thanks for the encouragement! I'm about 2 months back into it after 6 months of working on myself/theory building. My next big thing I need to work on is maintaining sexual frame through asking for the number.. I've had a couple K-closes (both when I was travelling unfortunately), but generally I start strong, then let things fizzle out and am like "hey nice talking to you let's get in touch". Ive got nearly a hundred useless numbers and a handful of potential female friends from it. Nice social…
/r/seduction28/01/19 01:09 AM
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My good friend and I invented a game when we were 12 that we called "eye contact chicken". It was exactly this, with everyone we encountered. I only realized recently that it was fundamental to me getting my first gf in middle school and building basic flirting skills through hs and college. RIP Q I've still got a lot to learn; I'm getting back into the game after being in a nearly 4 year relationship. Girls aren't NEARLY as bashful or naive in their early 20s compared to late teens.. my biggest…
/r/seduction28/01/19 12:25 AM
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Specificity is better, complementing an accessory is always a safe bet. If you feelin bold, say you like her smile haha. But dont dwell on the complement, in general they're horseshit and to be used as an icebreaker. Introduce yourself immediately after and build rapport. You will face plant sometimes or get right in the flow of it, but every approach you gain a bit more confidence and reference experience to back up what you see is working and what is not working for you. "I like your handbag, …
/r/seduction27/01/19 12:40 AM
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Hmm, you're on to something about those louder places.. will keep that in mind. But you're right in that if it's working then why overthink it. Good talk brother
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:28 AM
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Look in the mirror and practice your subtle facial gestures. Subtle skepticism, subtle "I'm impressed", subtle "are you serious?". You'll feel nuts while you do it but expressiveness is important brother, and it's important you dont over or under do it. Make sure you got a devilish smile for each of em. Now you'll still have to speak your piece to entice her attention in the first place, but once there's a bit of back and forth, speak more with expression and less with words. "Really?" "No way."…
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:21 AM
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Ah, I'm unfamiliar in the old school stuff, aside from the kino escalation method. But responding with gestures/facial expressions and short simple phrases seems to work better for me. But I bail on disinterested people pretty quickly, maybe I'll try holding the mic a little longer sometimes
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:03 AM
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Assuming you build conversational/energy body language rapport well.. Try this when first few moments of interaction go well, besides the fact that you haven't touched her: On-dance floor: you're dancing when youre facing each other. Act like you just remembered something important for a split second, like oh shit, covering your mouth with a knuckle, and PLACE A HAND ON HER SHOULDER. Stop dancing for like two seconds and look at her in subtle shock/disbelief.. then just be like never mind and st…
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:40 AM
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I think your mentality is ok enough, you dont seem to take it tooo personal. Never take it personal! But you may have a similar issue that I once had.. do you end up talking substantially more than them? If so, know that that's over-investing/value-seeking, i.e. needy. If you identify with that, I can give you a tip that's helped me grow
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:20 AM
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Yea, a couple times. Last relationship wasn't really a heart break though.. was over 2 years of physical abuse on me sort of shit, conceded all confidence and self-respect to her.. moved 1000 miles away last summer and have been trying to put the pieces together ever since. Been low key reestablishing Maslows Hierarchy of needs for myself, and things are a lot better now! If you're tripping about your social skills tho, hang out in as many different environments as you can. You learn how to cali…
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:07 AM
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Assuming you dont have too much experience in this department.. First step is mutual acknolowedgement. Approach from 10oclock or 2 o'clock, NOT 12 (I'm talking about positions btw). You can direct approach in that confrontational manner when you ready,idk Stand up right. Eye contact. Hold your frame (i.e. vaguely interested guy). Say "I like your _____". Speak from your chest. Make sure she hears you and your confidence. Smile a bit god dammit, like make sure she knows you have teeth. Do this X …
/r/seduction25/01/19 06:04 PM
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To add to this: proper physical contact interwoven with banter
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:43 PM
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Wish I knew this in college, I blew I by getting serious with 2 "perfect" girls. In took me over a year with each to realize they weren't just flawed, but our dynamic was just plain BAD. Learned my lesson though. Women are 0% perfect for me by default, not the other way around.
/r/seduction25/01/19 03:20 PM
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Off hand advice: use that oneitis to your advantage in pursuit of other women. It gives you an "I don't really care about the outcome" mentality, which is only beneficial to you as long as you dont cross 3 boundaries at once by grabbing ass right away. Respectfully unsafe in escalation is my new personal motto. Approach other cuties and escalate. Get out of your comfort zone and create tension in your interactions. Tension is great for building attraction once you learn how to manage it well. Th…
/r/seduction25/01/19 03:12 PM
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Dont know what OP is working with so I put a lot out there.. but a wall of text, no matter how big, can never substitute for experience
/r/seduction25/01/19 07:19 AM
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Haha no shit, I'm goin to a dubstep concert alone in 2 days myself, also in a dance club setting. Anyways, long comment incoming; This is gonna sound a bit vague, but spend all of tomorrow absorbing as much positive energy as you can and reverberate that back to everyone you encounter, whether it's on the dancefloor or in the slightly quieter bar area. Not to the point where it seems like you're "on one", but bring enough positive, intense energy so that no amount of negativety can take away you…
/r/seduction25/01/19 06:57 AM
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Step away from that mentality for a second, I want to do my best to give specific advice. What genre? And do you expect to thoroughly enjoy the music?
/r/seduction25/01/19 05:46 AM
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To add to this, your downtown area probably has dozens if not hundreds of places that are poppin on the popular nights. If you dont like the vibes of one place, check out the other across the street. World is vast brother, explore it
/r/seduction25/01/19 12:50 AM
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Comfort doesnt lead to tension, and creating sexual tension is fundamental to building attraction. What's the "comfort zone" that you're trying to step out of?
/r/seduction25/01/19 12:48 AM
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This is something strange I do that's actually helped me with approaching. About 6 months ago I imagined the perfect girl for me. Like flawless to a tee, so perfect she literally couldnt exist. Now when I approach, I know for a fact she won't turn into "the one" any time soon because again, "the one" isnt real. My prerogative is to enjoy her company and see in what ways she MIGHT match up to my preferences. When I was younger, I was easily smitten by a cute laugh, as I'm sure most of us were. By…
/r/seduction24/01/19 08:05 PM
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At some point early in the interaction, you should be forthright about your initial attraction to her through body language, tonality, eye contact, etc. A simple, moderate risk way of doing this is to build simple rapport, then while maintaining strong eye contact and smiling, put a hand on her shoulder WITHOUT leaning in, and say anything while speaking from your chest and smiling. You could literally say "you look like a Pepsi kind of girl" or something equally ridiculous, but confidently hold…
/r/seduction23/01/19 03:50 AM
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Cant go full beard, part asian and relatively young (23). My facial hair grows like Dr. Strange haha. You think a little bit of stubble would work, or should I go full Mr. Clean?
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:04 AM
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Not plannin on it. Maybe a cap on my way to work in the morning, but I heard cold air to the scalp is pretty invigorating
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:00 AM
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I was overthinking it I think, and to be completely honest I had a drink or two too many.. alcohol and going out alone isn't a proper combination. I'll be sticking to a one drink at the very beginning of the night rule till I find a proper social circle
/r/seduction22/01/19 12:15 AM
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Thanks for the input. Social calibration is something I'll keep working on
/r/seduction22/01/19 12:10 AM
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Edited, this was more ranting than intended.
/r/seduction20/01/19 12:14 PM
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