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Mark Manson talks about this exact scenario in his book "Models." Like, exactly what you went through; learning game but still having the same level of neediness as you got further into a relationship. I've been working on the same issue. I haven't felt the need to get into a relationship with any girl yet, but I've been more hurt than I would like by two girls in particular not wanting to go on a second or third date. Good for you for getting back on your feet after a tougher blow than I've had…
/r/seduction02/01/13 03:11 AM
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Not necessarily; it all depends on your motivations. The better your appearance, the better people respond to you; especially potential female partners. That's doing work to improve your life, not to impress others. On the other hand, if you're working because you want to look cool in a gym, or you want women to validate you for your appearance you'd be doing it for the wrong reasons.
/r/seduction01/01/13 03:38 AM
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Yes. One of the best ways to meet more people is by simply being in a high-traffic, high-turnover area. You get a lot more chances to interact with more people; plus you're not walking around the whole party inserting yourself into other groups, they're the ones coming to you [indirectly].
/r/seduction23/12/12 04:38 PM
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Check the side bar for the seddit locator. See who's nearby and send out some pm's.
/r/seduction23/12/12 04:29 PM
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I don't think you necessarily did anything wrong. She wanted you but then her feelings probably changed. She invited you over after a date with another guy, was very receptive to touch, and wanted to make out/hook up with you; so there was a good level of attraction at the beginning. You did really well. We can only speculate about why her feelings changed; and it doesn't have to do anything with you. Could have been her friend walking in, maybe she started thinking more about you and Victoria -…
/r/seduction23/12/12 04:14 PM
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This was a major realization on my path to self-improvement. I used to spend hours and hours every week watching the drama of other people's movies and tv shows, and watching people I don't know play sports I don't play. Now, I hardly ever watch a movie/tv show or professional sporting event. I still need to get my excitement/socialization so I go out, meet people, get to know them deeply and play amateur sports; where I am an active participant, and I physically experience the game. It's a much…
/r/seduction18/12/12 02:06 AM
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It's not living life based on trite proverbs. It's judging your success by singular, dramatic instances or by your persistence in the face of failure. One leads to fantasizing about wild success but not acting because you're afraid to come up short; the other leads to constant experiences of and appreciation for less dramatic successes. That's a pretty significant difference.
/r/seduction14/12/12 04:05 PM
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It doesn't matter because they mean nothing. But don't they both mean something profound, each with exactly opposite values? Judging oneself on the greatest single victory or judging oneself on number of attempts after failure. The first implies that one big victory should be the ultimate goal of life, the best way to judge an individual. What about the fortunate ones who score big once and then nothing comes close again? How would that affect your day-to-day existence? Or the person who succeed…
/r/seduction13/12/12 09:18 PM
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The best and simplest route is to improve your self to the point that you're a badass just being yourself; no effort into projecting anything, just being and doing naturally. It's difficult in that you'll have to spend the time and effort to honestly evaluate and improve yourself, easy in that you never have to be anything you're not and women will love you more for it. Going into "game mode" when you're going out and meeting strangers is great in that you're acting in a way that brings you clos…
/r/seduction27/11/12 03:28 AM
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If a girl is "accidentally" bumping into you, or just staying in close proximity to you it's a clear sign that she's attracted to you. Especially because she was blowing off those other guys.
/r/seduction24/11/12 04:07 PM
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Like I had to prove myself, even though I knew I didn't. Very interesting.
/r/seduction21/11/12 04:41 PM
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And you can never really tell why a girl isn't interested in you. It can be for good reasons or no real reason at all. They're human beings with their own unique preferences, moods and flaws. I self-examine and self-critique just like you, but sometimes she wouldn't have been interested even if you did act "better." Nice night, good FR!
/r/seduction17/11/12 08:48 PM
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if you're good looking and they're physically attracted to you There are so many posts about how incorrect this sentiment is. Looks don't matter. Some guys who use this as an excuse simply haven't yet taken the time and effort to really evaluate and improve themselves. Go watch some youtube videos of Owen from RSD and see how well he does completely regardless of the fact that he is not attractive.
/r/seduction02/11/12 01:27 AM
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Bringing in memes to seddit is not a good idea. This post has nothing of value to the community about self-improvement or attracting women, so it does not belong here. And the more positive feedback it gets the more it will encourage other users to post content-less memes here.
/r/seduction26/08/12 05:59 PM
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Nice FR! Awesome that you didn't accept your one friend's behavior and heading out on your own. I really like your insight from hanging out with the girls.
/r/seduction08/08/12 04:46 PM
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I've got the same problem. Supremely confident in myself and in non-intimate situations but in the past I've backed away from situations where I'm vulnerable or can't always present a certain image. (Even if that presentation is 99% accurate to how I view myself.) It's affected me as well, so now I'm determined to thrust myself into those situations so I can fail and succeed spectatularly. If you put out the truest version of yourself and you suck, you'll learn from your failure. If you put out …
/r/seduction29/07/12 08:18 PM
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I disagree with the above sedditor; direct approaches early on build courage/confidence and give you the clearest feedback. Keep it up and you'll get more rejections, which will only teach you more and make you tougher. Keep it up, get some! Also agree with you about not posting pics of your style. I'm not saying you're anything but a fashion genius, but loving your style and dressing mediocre is better than dressing superbly but being unsure of yourself. Good night out, good fr, keep it up brot…
/r/seduction29/07/12 07:57 PM
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Absolutely agree. It's very possible to fear success, which as you said, is lose-lose when you hold yourself back and yell at yourself for not succeeding. For myself, [sub]conscious lack of sexual confidence has certainly held me back. After recognizing it like you said the only option is to get out and push yourself into success and failure; because holding back only leads to failure.
/r/seduction29/07/12 07:40 PM
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Good work. Now what are you going to do with it?
/r/seduction01/07/12 10:25 PM
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It's not a looks thing, it's a comprehensive "man" thing. He's probably doing little things unconsciously that newbies can't do consciously, yet. Like his attitude, personality, gregariousness, confidence, sexuality. Working on those things is a lot more productive than thinking "he's getting better results than me because he's good-looking." Just so you know, Tyler from RSD is a short, balding man with thin hair, and he gets ungodly results. Because he's a badass man.
/r/seduction01/07/12 04:25 PM
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Great job getting out there and executing. I think your post has gone a little underappreciated. If you can give more details next time I think it'll help us and yourself. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction26/06/12 04:39 PM
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This is outstanding. As someone who is shifting more and more into mindfulness/Buddhist-esque/Stoic-esque thinking, this is great to tie in with the traditional self-improvement and seduction material I've been reading. Thank you.
/r/seduction22/06/12 04:05 AM
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Good job, man! Looks to me like you're making progress. And congrats on the k-close. From here, just go with it. Assume she wants more of you, assume she wants to progress with you. I can almost guarantee she is very interested in you, and wishes she hadn't gotten spooked away when you guys were making out. It's a good idea in general not to ask about previous sexual encounters, just assume she wants you. As for expanding your friend circle, it all comes down to getting out and doing things you …
/r/seduction10/06/12 09:45 PM
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Good for you for being honest about your shortcomings and your desire to improve. And starting at your age is awesome.
/r/seduction05/06/12 12:12 PM
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Could you adjust the formatting to make it easier to read? Lots of insightful text is great, a literal wall of text isn't.
/r/seduction13/05/12 07:56 PM
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I started using affirmations after reading "Think and Grow Rich," but then I read some Tony Robbins and he advocates asking yourself questions instead, and boosting your confidence with the answers that come to you. Myself for example: "Why would a woman like me?" I'm smart as shit. I'm 6'1" with a great body. I can talk about anything and everything. I get after my goals in life and get shit done. Etc... Those are just personal examples that came to me. Try it for yourself and be amazed at all …
/r/seduction03/05/12 05:35 PM
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I found this blog while reading this article (warning: long but an interesting read) in the Atlantic about the changing gender dynamics in America. That article was actually a link from this article about a worse case of the same problem in China. Basically, women are now achieving greater professional and educational success than ever before, and men are losing their market share of the elite jobs. So, women used to want to marry a man with a better job (read: value) than themselves, but now wi…
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:43 PM
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I meant the guys in the seduction community. Otherwise yes, too many men are betas or have given up completely.
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:35 PM
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It's up to every guy to decide what he wants out of life and his relationship with women. On one end of the spectrum you have the guys that want to marry the best girl they can as soon as they find her; those guys should go full Whole Package. Then there are guys who have no interest in anything beyond same-night lays, and the Player method will get them the results they want. Most guys are somewhere between the two extremes. For myself I go Whole Package all the time, but when I'm going out and…
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:06 PM
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I agree that depression can lead to creativity, i.e. artists. Bob Dylan and David Foster Wallace suffer from depression but they produce incredible art. But, how many people sit in depression for most of their lives and don't produce timeless art? How many go through life unhappy, miss out on all the amazing things life has to offer, simply because they're depressed? Why not feel better about yourself, enjoy and appreciate more of your existence more often? From what you've been writing, it seem…
/r/seduction27/04/12 12:57 PM
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I don't fully understand what you're saying - in part because we think differently - but here is a response to the things I think I'm reading correctly. I think we disagree about the origins of alphas. I see part of it comes from what individuals are willing to tolerate. If you can tolerate low income, low social status, low happiness, you'll level off there; you'll have no internal desire for better things, or the desire to do the work to get you there. The same applies for being average, which…
/r/seduction26/04/12 01:46 AM
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I agree with you that alpha/beta is not so simplistic, but I disagree with you here: Alphas feel threatened when you have something they don't. A true "alpha" wouldn't feel inadequate, he would figure out why you have something he doesn't (assuming it's something he wants) and then go about acquiring it and maybe even ask you for help. I think you and a few other people here are incorrectly associating "socially dominant male" with "alpha." The two are very different; while an "alpha" most likel…
/r/seduction25/04/12 11:34 PM
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This happened to me around this time last year. One of my good friends from high school who I'd been hanging out with regularly for the past five years kept picking at me, trying to knock me down a peg, and eventually we couldn't hang out anymore. On the plus side, the people I hang out with now are way more positive, more supportive and generally more fun than my old friend. I hope my old friend and I can be good, honest friends again but you can't expect that to happen.
/r/seduction25/04/12 11:17 PM
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Then you should explain further. Point out something that you don't understand or think is wrong and it will benefit everybody.
/r/seduction15/04/12 06:58 PM
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Great FR! And great progress! You did a great job of leading, having fun, being outcome-independent, the works. I think your success has more to do with you taking the "do what is fun" route over "textbook game." That said, you did very well in terms of textbook game; leading, blowing off tests, escalating. Just b careful you don't get too attached to any one woman. Good job! Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction11/04/12 03:10 PM
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I'm not one of your "supporters." And considering the community does not get much flak for being misogynistic, the fact that [you feel that] you're being accused of misogyny might be a sign that you are in fact, misogynistic.
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:53 PM
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Right. I didn't disagree with that. I just don't think it needs to be said because only the uninformed or ignorant would think seduction is misogynistic.
/r/seduction06/04/12 06:05 PM
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This is a great fr! Well done! Completely agree with you on stating sexual intent. You're being 100% congruent; you approached her because you were sexually attracted, you want a sexual experience with her. We should all forget the externally-imposed labels like "the creepy loner guy." You just demonstrated that it doesn't matter what others think about you, it only matters what you think of yourself. Awesome job, man. Next level stuff.
/r/seduction06/04/12 03:28 PM
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I only downvoted this because I think anyone with an open mind will see how deeply, intrinsically positive the general seduction/self-improvement community is. The small minority that disagrees is usually biased or narrow-minded; or they stumbled upon the equally-rare misogynistic/negative blogger and stopped there.
/r/seduction06/04/12 03:14 PM
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Great FR! Sounds like you had a really good night, and made some good progress! As for the weird guy on the bus, you could use that as an opportunity to rescue the girls away from him. You could say "We're getting off at X stop." in a way that demonstrates your ability to lead and protect these girls. Best case scenario you escort them safely home, and maybe get invited in, and close. How does that sound?
/r/seduction26/03/12 09:41 AM
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Start with the material on the sidebar, and by reading FR's, any and every FR you find. Reading outer game material like David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating" will give you a good framework of male-female interactions, and inner game material like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" will help your social skills on a holistic level. Read all the material you can find and get out there and do it. Start talking to people, fail, get rejected, whatever. The more action you take and the more you…
/r/seduction26/03/12 08:59 AM
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Be honest and give him the harsh truth. If he is stuck in his ways, he'll ignore it anyway. If he's actually committed to honest introspection and self-improvement introspection you'll have given him good advice, and he'll be more likely to succeed.
/r/seduction25/03/12 02:28 PM
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"It would be like me doing this to you", and place a firm hand on her right tit. She is aghast, but excited by this. Fucking awesome! I was reading Brad Branson's blog last night and he said if she gives one, to take two; as in when she escalates, to answer by escalating even further yourself. And you just nailed it! But am I back in the game? Hell-fuckin' yeah. I wholeheartedly agree.
/r/seduction24/03/12 07:17 PM
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Great night, man! That's an accomplishment in itself and lot of references to build off. Good job connecting with men and women, especially so many women. Now... this was a great night, and I just went out to have fun, and with the goal of approaching 5 women. I approached more like 100, BUT... I didn't get any phone numbers, other than the AMOG's for the job. Is this having too much outcome independence? Should I start really focusing on closing with these girls? Do you think my nonchalance wil…
/r/seduction24/03/12 07:00 PM
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Nice FR! You really handled the tests well, props for that. And nice job quick-closing the older woman; those are probably my personal favorite. The one thing that I think would have helped you with the twins would be directly pursuing other women when the twins were not around. Tearing up the dance floor got you some good attention - and was probably fun as hell - but if you spent that time working other girls your original targets would be much more attached to you, and you might have successe…
/r/seduction24/03/12 06:28 PM
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As a fellow stutterer, I don't like anyone else's advice here. You can view it as a hindrance or a growth opportunity and strength. You stutter more when you're nervous/anxious/upset right? Learn to better control your emotions. Learn to relax/calm down when you do notice yourself stuttering. If you're always calm, cool and collected your stutter won't affect you nearly as much. It is a never-ending battle, that's one thing for sure. I was doing great for years until I went to boot camp (which i…
/r/seduction19/03/12 07:59 PM
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I'd replace "sexism" with "traditional gender roles." Sexism is forcing people into those roles. Most of the people who follow traditional gender roles do so because it's what they naturally want. And the people who don't follow traditional gender roles do so because it's what they naturally want.
/r/seduction19/03/12 07:32 PM
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Completely agree. Women, by way of picking at our weaknesses, make men better. Men, by not tolerating irrational bullshit, make women better. If a woman picks at man and uncovers a vulnerability, it's a great learning opportunity for the man. Either it's a problem he's known about and he now has incentive to fix it. Or, he didn't know he had that problem, now he does, and he can address it. It's only the weak men who try to ignore it, cover it up, or let it crash the relationship. Btw, you'd pro…
/r/seduction19/03/12 07:19 PM
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Great job! Your confidence and assertiveness definitely rewarded you. I love how you're aware of how others may label you and your interests (as nerdy), but you still love them and yourself. Very cool. Where you go from here is completely up to you. I've had these communication/scheduling issues before but I still don't know how to approach it. There's been times when I thought "This girl's amazing. I would genuinely like to get to know her better," but then I drop it and move on after too many …
/r/seduction06/03/12 03:27 AM
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I think the friendzone/oneitis is a hole you have to dig yourself out of, simply for the fact that you have to want to do it. Most of us were offered advice and opportunities before we started self-improvement, but never took it until we had made the decision ourselves. I think one really has to feel the pain of failure and decide that we're not going to accept that outcome anymore.
/r/seduction28/02/12 01:57 AM
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Awesome job getting out and doing it! I'm getting into new territory with the numbers here. I don't really know how to go about this but hopefully I don't fuck it up. You will make mistakes. You will fuck it up. You will also learn and succeed more because you made those mistakes.
/r/seduction19/02/12 02:37 PM
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Always be escalating. It's been a major sticking point for me, and it's key to success. The "intimacy equilibrium" concept blew my mind, too.
/r/seduction18/02/12 04:45 AM
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Fellow sailor here, currently on a South American port call; went out last night, working today. I agree that there are the locals who simply want you for money, but that's only a small percentage. People in these countries, like every human being on the planet, want to be around people they like and admire. While I was walking back to our ship a local girl got all flustered said something to the effect of "Oh my god, look at the Americans!" I asked her why she was reacting so strongly to us, an…
/r/seduction17/02/12 07:11 PM
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Show her that you're unaffected, and carry on with what you were doing. The same applies to any kind of short-term rejection.
/r/seduction17/02/12 06:08 PM
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From May '10 to this April my major achievement was going from unhappiness/negativity to consistent happiness/positivity. By the time I left for basic training in April I had a consistently positive attitude on life. I also understood outer game as a whole by learning from and imitating others. Since graduating in June I've progressed from consistent positivity and enjoying life to loving life, loving myself and being fucking ecstatic as often as possible. I truly love myself now, fucking love m…
/r/seduction21/12/11 07:40 PM
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"Self-reliance" by Ralph Waldo Emerson. "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. For material directly related to game I'd go with anything by David Wygant (especially his talk at Man Transformations), and Tyler Durden's YouTube channel. Best of luck!
/r/seduction11/12/11 11:56 PM
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I don't think that replying 'Will you?' was a bad reply at all, depending on how you said it. I agree with OP in that it was a bad response. Saying "Not just yet," or simply taking her coat off, or putting your arm around her waist and going to the couch/bed would've been a very dominant, leading move. ...but more of a statement or challenge could be perceived as a playful manner. I've learned from being too passive and not doing as well because of it, that as the man you have to lead. Putting t…
/r/seduction10/12/11 02:56 AM
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Expect less [obvious] signs of attraction from her. Plow on through [what will seem to be] disinterest/lack of interest from her. Expect things to move slower than usual, expect fewer invites from her. But do not assume any less attraction on her part; she likes you just as much as the average girl, she'll just be less expressive of it. You'll have to lead more, and drive the conversation more; it's good experience/practice. I'm working on a workaholic/shy girl right now, and it's a new experien…
/r/seduction07/12/11 05:32 AM
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Completely agree. I grabbed a quick bite to eat with my non-reciparatory girl, we simply talked the whole tim, basically breaking the seal and iniating the relationship; I realized we hadn't hugged, touched, anything, but I still wanted to get a hug as we were leaving; also didn't want to go for the awkward, last-minute hug. So, as we're two feet from the door I said "I'm going to hug you when we get outside." Worked out fine. I did a similar thing after a first date with a girl when we didn't k…
/r/seduction06/12/11 02:27 AM
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Very good read. Well done! I'm in a similar situation with a girl who displays very few signs of interest, so it's great to hear what you've done and your perspective on it. We're similar in that we both assume attraction, and plow on through non-reciprocation. One thing that I've definitely picked up from you is that I need to iniate and drive the sexual discussion; I love that you questioned her about being sexually repressed! I'll definitely keep this FR in mind as I go about working on this …
/r/seduction06/12/11 02:04 AM
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I agree with you on these points. On the first part, you could have exchanged contact information earlier in the trip, but not asking for it at the last minute in front of others was the smart play in that situation. In one you don't even look for signs she's interested, but instead plow onward and assume she's interested. In the other you look for evidence that could be subtle indication of interest - and you assume it is. Yep, nailed it here, too.
/r/seduction06/12/11 01:52 AM
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Right off the bat, great job for opening yourself and being vulnerable. The more I'm around people the more I see people who consciously lie about themselves, or are willfully ignorant. Be proud of yourself for being completely honest about your rollercoaster; especially in a public place like reddit where you're exposed to criticism. She said "do you always do this?" me-"what?" her-"come to the bar and hookup with girls you meet?" I don't remember how I responded, but I'm assuming it wasn't ter…
/r/seduction30/11/11 03:09 AM
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No, this isn't a bragging post. It's more likely your own insecurities making you resent OP's success, therefore disliking him and his post.
/r/seduction29/11/11 06:34 PM
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Good job. About why you were able to make out heavily with her, then not close: I've read FR's where the OP intentionally did not even kiss her until he brought her home to build the tension. By having a heavy makeout session, you satiated her sexual desires for the evening. Whereas you were thinking that was a stepping stone, she was thinking of it as an end. Next time consider not capitalizing on an early opportunity, and teasing and leading her on til you can fully close. About the text: Brin…
/r/seduction16/11/11 07:56 AM
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Great night out, man! Good for you for setting goals and getting after them. I agree with everybody else about the HB6; coming straight on probably wasn't a great idea, but sometimes you lose with girls anyway. Sometimes they simply aren't interested in you, for whatever reason. Great job continuing after a rough start, too. Based on what you did in this FR alone it sounds like this night will be a stepping stone to more great nights out and more successes. Keep it up!
/r/seduction16/11/11 07:26 AM
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I think you could have executed better in this situation, but don't take it negatively; it's one more experience and a good opportunity to learn from the mistakes you made. It sounds like you need to be more assertive with her, lead the conversation, lead the activities. Why not walk somewhere with her after you got some food? Just walking around with a girl is a great seduction opportunity, and a chance for more kino. Again, don't worry about missing out this time, this was a learning experienc…
/r/seduction16/11/11 06:45 AM
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Completely agree. I think lancepants is misattributing "true" alpha behavior for high-testosterone aggressive men. The more one understands [ideal] masculine behavior, the more one can tell the difference between an aggressive brute and an assertive gentleman. Women have an even better eye for it than men, so the high-value women - who are more intelligent, have more experience with male suitors - can really see the difference; so, I agree that focusing on being a "true alpha" over an aggressive…
/r/seduction11/11/11 04:00 PM
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Great article, but could you go with a better title next time? I almost skipped it - because I thought it would be a low-brow attention-seeking article - but I'm very happy I read it.
/r/seduction11/11/11 03:47 PM
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The journalling will also help with self-knowledge. Like _ohms said, the more you know about what's causing your depression the better you'll be able to deal with it. It's also very cathartic (in good and bad moods) to write about your life; it's like telling a story to somebody else and them giving you good feedback in response.
/r/seduction11/11/11 03:22 PM
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I strongly disagree with the others who are saying "well, just get drunk then." This is a bigger issue than kissing this one girl. Making alcohol the solution to a willpower problem is bad because you're not building up your internal strength/willpower, and potentially destructive if alcohol becomes a way to make yourself accomplish your goals. What happens after you get drunk/buzzed just to kiss her, do you have to get drunk to have sex with her, go dancing with her, go on adventures with her? …
/r/seduction29/09/11 04:44 PM
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This is better suited for r/sex. If you wanted to discuss how attracting a transgender woman would/could be different than attracting a normal girl that'd be a post for seddit.
/r/seduction28/09/11 01:05 AM
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This is awesome to read! Good for you brother. Especially enjoyed these: She has admitted that I always seem to be having such a good time no matter what I'm doing she can't help but tag along. ...once I gave up on trying to impress anyone but myself, I felt the click over to constantly being in state. I honestly laugh when I hear her thinking out loud when she is justifying to herself why she likes me. It's rare to see the perspective from someone on top of the [figurative] mountain, so I appre…
/r/seduction28/09/11 12:36 AM
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Not every FR has to.be a night of conquest. The point of FR's is to help the author and the audience learn from the author'a experience. I, for one, really liked the point about keeping a girl just outside your house to keep up the mystery; it's a really good idea that never occurred to me, never saw in material. Good FR! I've learned plenty from interactions that never lead to any kind of close. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction23/09/11 01:04 AM
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Great stuff, man! Sounds like your inner and outer game are both clicking. I've had the same problems with over-texting or losing frame after the initial encounter. You play the game perfectly when you're out together, then lose your focus and make mistakes later in the week when you know better. I have a theory: When you're out, you're talking to girls, you're in the zone - this is different from "state" - so you have the "proper" way to act fresh in your head. Now, when you're sending that tex…
/r/seduction19/08/11 01:51 AM
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Great work, man! Ignore the negativity in the other comments, because it sounds like you made a shitload of progress this night; life of the party, multiple targets, multiple social successes. There are things you could have done better with the HB9 (which has been covered and you seem to understand) and the HB2 but there's nothing wrong with making mistakes if you learn from them. Bottom line, you had success and made progress in the same night and that is all you ever need. Keep up the good wo…
/r/seduction13/06/11 01:33 AM
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Congrats from one king to another. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction06/04/11 06:42 AM
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Good job man! Good job blowing off your friends' negativity, too. I was in the same situation with a bunch of programmers helping one of them with text game. He was open to advice but the rest were hating on me and my seduction-based opinion. ("Well, girls like attention..." "You can't talk to girls that way, that's offensive to her.") Keep on the path you're on and ignore anyone who tries to stop you or hold you back. And keep posting fr's as you go!
/r/seduction05/04/11 03:43 AM
1

Nice mansformation! You sound really well dressed. You'll do great talking to people as soon as you start doing it. You can practice making observations about people; everyone loves to hear about themselves so you'll almost certainly get a good reaction. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:58 PM
2

These can be very difficult situations until you acclimate yourself to "going out." You might be overwhelmed by the whole experience, and you may still have a lot to learn about social conventions. I think the main objectives in these cases would be to not supplicate yourself, and be unaffected by any negatives. A different bouncer talks to the girls behind me and lets them cut in line in front of me. Can't think of an example, but you want to demonstrate that you have the social knowledge to kn…
/r/seduction30/03/11 11:16 PM
6

I have to admit something, TofuTofu. At first I read about your successes and first and foremost admired your seduction skills. It's impossible to reach your level without years and years of work, failure, and persistence. I always had the upmost respect for you in that instance. But I would get the impression that you were running "old skool" game that somewhat relied on tricks and less-than-complete honesty. (I also thought the same about Brad Branson, my newest seduction idol, until recently.…
/r/seduction26/03/11 06:16 AM
2

No. I was loose but not drunk. And I'm going to write a FR about the following night where I had the same inner game success but was sober and solo. So it wasn't success because of alcohol or me seeing it as success through drunk goggles. But thanks for assuming that about me. :-)
/r/seduction24/03/11 10:37 PM
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Epilogue: The night wasn't a success because I made out with one girl, and passed another's shit test and she grinded on me. It was a MASSIVE FUCKING SUCCESS because I had more fun that night than ever before in my entire life. Being an alpha is wonderful because it leads to romantic success with women, but you can also create positives for everyone you come in contact with. I know for a fact that I didn't just make my night better, I made the night better for Ashley the water polo girl, the fir…
/r/seduction24/03/11 07:00 PM
2

Being sensitive to women is important, but also realize that any woman would love to meet an amazing guy no matter what the situation. They might even prefer a day game event because it's more serendipitous; it was "meant to be." Keep up the awesome work, man; you sound like a great guy. Keep on progressing. The more you think you'll be successful in day game the more successful you'll be when you get out and do it. Keep it up!
/r/seduction22/03/11 06:32 PM
1

Haha, the "King" is to mock my ego and "Narcissus" in reference to my narcissism. :) But I don't think that affects my earlier advice. In "Think and Grow Rich" Napoleon Hill wrote an entire book on the importance of believing in yourself and thinking only in terms of positives.
/r/seduction22/03/11 06:11 PM
2

I agree that we all have flaws, that there are reasons girls will not be attracted to us, that I have plenty of ways I can improve myself; it's your confidence that is most important. If you think about your positives 80% of the time, and your negatives 20% you will be very successful. But if you think only about the reasons why you'll succeed you'll reach a whole new level of happiness and success. Why limit yourself at all? As long as you remain humble and respect your fellow human beings you'…
/r/seduction22/03/11 06:06 PM
5

Sure girls want to be approached by hot guys, but by me? You are a hot guy. Women love you, and for good reason. Believe it, keep telling yourself this and women will respond.
/r/seduction22/03/11 05:17 PM
5

Prepare yourself for the inevitable shitstorm of pissed off masturbators.
/r/seduction22/03/11 02:39 AM
3

I couldn't respond until nearly an hour later because I was at work and that's okay. Building anticipation can be good. Good job here. Keep in mind you want to wait before replying to her texts, even good ones like that. We have an extended goodbye which basically was just 2 long hugs, some hand-holding and making plans to go drunk bowling sometime in the near future. Yeah, I fucked up what should have been an easy K-close. But I'm generally shy, she knows that, and I think I improved in getting…
/r/seduction22/03/11 02:29 AM
2

You make a valid point, but I think the difference is in the way you do it. If you're doing it quickly it definitely makes you look anxious. But if you're doing it slowly and confidently it looks pretty badass. You're just chilling, you're taking good care of yourself, you don't mind doing it in front of other people. And great FR! Keep up the good work and the outcome independence.
/r/seduction19/03/11 02:16 PM
1

It's a matter of conformity. You don't want to be surrounded by people that are too much "better" than you because it makes you feel bad about yourself. And you don't want to be surrounded by people who are too much "worse" than you because they can't keep up with you. This particular instance qualifies as Tall Poppy Syndrome. EDIT: The only solution to losing friends you've outgrown is to make new friends that are equal to your current level. You'll fit with them as well you don't fit with your…
/r/seduction15/03/11 04:22 PM
1

Good job in both instances, man. Sure, you've got room for improvement but we all do. First, don't feel obligated to respond to every text. The "It was for you, cause you left so darn early" is a good example of what you don't have to do. Keep the three-of-hers to two-of-yours ratio in mind. Yes, the HB7 is definitely interested in you. Be more aggressive with your escalation the next time you hang out. If I'm wrong about that and she rejects you, oh well, abundance mentality. Awesome job textin…
/r/seduction14/03/11 05:47 PM
1

Awesome. I might come by tuesday but more likely thursday. Yes, organizing a lair in the gayborhood, at a gay bar would be pretty awesome. Very under the radar.
/r/seduction07/03/11 08:29 PM
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I have fantastic inner game and motivation. There's no independent verification of this, either. :-)
/r/seduction07/03/11 02:59 AM
1

Just a reminder, I posted this to share my own personal experience from my own personal perspective. I did not judge people for their masturbatory habits, I didn't order anyone to stop; I suggested people try it to see what results they get. If you disagree good for you, write a constructive comment like you would in a normal FR. Or just get on with the rest of your day. Which probably involves masturbating alone in a room by yourself. :-) On a serious note, it's disappointing to see some people…
/r/seduction07/03/11 02:58 AM
4

The first basically states that testosterone increases while actively watching porn, but says nothing about long-term, or even an hour after the experiment. It also includes nothing about orgasm. The second is also very short-term. From what I can tell the measurements were taken almost immediately after the orgasms. There's no data on what happened physiologically or psychologically in the minutes, hours or days afterward. I don't have an account so I can't read the third, but it probably is si…
/r/seduction07/03/11 01:19 AM
7

Let's not criticize or assume negative things about the people we disagree with, let's just hope they give it a shot and it works for them. :-)
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:48 AM
5

I completely agree. I remember the exact day when my pot- and fap-abstinence kicked in. I felt like a fucking god. Very happy I've taken both out of my daily life.
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:47 AM
1

I know myself pretty well. I know when I'm scared, or when I'm bullshitting myself. Neither was the case. What would fear have to do with me apathetically walking out of a set I already hooked, where I had an attracted target?
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:37 AM
1

I think after seven days it has less of a negative effect on you, cause your reserves have built up enough to replenish you. From my personal experience if I go for more than a week I either won't notice a difference or I'll be back pretty quickly.
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:33 AM
2

There's a whole chapter in "The Way of the Superior Man" about it. (I remember either TofuTofu or FredFlintstone of r/mansformations recommending the book.) The author says even sexual orgasm depletes a man; that it's best to really hold back or not even climax at all. He suggests that sex for men be less orgasm-centric and more about connection and mutual pleasure. I recommend reading it because I'm not doing it justice.
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:29 AM
1

Start now. You don't watch porn or jerk off til March 20th. :-)
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:27 AM
7

I don't have hard scientific evidence to prove excessive masturbation depletes testosterone, I only have anecdotes and personal experience. You don't have hard scientific evidence, either. Also realize jerking off is a temporary hollow dopamine spike to your brain. You feel very good for maybe, thirty seconds. Then, what goes up must come down. You feel worse because you're not feeling as good as you did when you orgasmed. Even if masturbation has zero effect on your testosterone levels, subsequ…
/r/seduction07/03/11 12:23 AM
1

Definitely. You work tuesday or thursday nights, right? I can come by either one on my way back from the gym. I'm totally down for building a lair. Bad news is I'm going to Coast Guard boot camp the 29th, and I'm staying at my parents' house in Bel Air til then, but I'll still do everything I can for the lair. I'm writing another FR right now, after that I'll post about starting a baltimore lair.
/r/seduction06/03/11 06:41 PM
2

I think you're over-analyzing and seeing too many negatives. Yes, that text was a mistake, but only a small one. At worst, she read it and rolled her eyes, and went back to whatever she was doing. ekeno's got it right, pretend like it never happened. You're too strong a man to worry about one little slip-up. Learn from it, and keep being successful.
/r/seduction03/03/11 03:09 AM
4

There were at least a few dozen people standing around within earshot in near complete silence. In a normal scenario, I probably would have quieted down when I realized that I was standing out and doing something different from the rest of the crowd, but I knew the runners needed the knowledge and encouragement that I was giving them so I didn’t care. Awesome!
/r/seduction01/03/11 07:14 PM
1

I've realized the grand irony of Romantic Comedies: they're almost universally written by AFCs. Yes! It seems to me that every piece of drama is written by an AFC. Whenever I see one of these shows I shake my head at the character's behavior or get mad at the writer for having the girl fall in love with the AFC for being an AFC. And congrats on getting out and being a better you! Keep it up!
/r/seduction27/02/11 11:42 PM
2

Totally worth the guy taking her away. So ballsy.
/r/seduction27/02/11 10:52 PM
1

Great job going out and approaching like that. There is a whole chapter in Magic Bullets about transitioning from opener to building attraction. (There's a download link in the sidebar.) To put it into basics, you're talking a single conversation topic and turning it into a wide open conversation that can be about anything. You can drop the opener completely and ask her about something. David Wygant is great for transitioning, too. Great work!
/r/seduction24/02/11 12:25 AM
12

The friend comes back and starts giving me a few shit tests. She puts her hand on my stomach, I flex as a reflex; "Do you have a six-pack?" I say yes. I should have grabbed her stomach and asked her the same. “How old are you?” “Twenty-four.” Should have said something ridiculous like seventy-three. Again, I was a little thrown off by the hotness so I wasn't on top of my game. “What's my friend's name?” “Amber.” That one answered correctly. I sense things going stale, getting boring, so it's tim…
/r/seduction23/02/11 08:26 PM
3

I was just going through Magic Bullets yesterday and in the section about LMR Savoy says to take off underpants at the same time you take off pants. That saves you another state break, and a big one at that. Try that next time.
/r/seduction23/02/11 07:03 PM
3

Sometimes plain honesty is the best answer. Tell her you need to slow down a bit, and take a few days off with little to no contact. From there you could transition into a normal FWB relationship. Worse comes to worse you can cut it off completely, or until she cools off. (Abundance mentality!)
/r/seduction22/02/11 03:04 AM
3

Much of seduction will seem mean-spirited to you at first, but as you experience it more you'll realize you're just being a strong, alpha male. Girls are barraged with supplicating men all the time so they'll enjoy alpha (not dick-ish) behavior. In the same vein, women have plenty of potential mates who will be gentle, but not strong. Strength/alpha-ness is more rare and thus more valuable provided you can also be gentle when it's called for. Never try to win a women's affection primarily by bei…
/r/seduction21/02/11 08:21 PM
1

Me: too late, sorry toots. you're on my shit list now. 10:05 PM Honey Bunny: you serious? 10:06 PM Me: i'm not there anymore, yes. maybe another time, if you're lucky. :P 10:10 PM Honey Bunny: No no no no no its only been 30 min fuck that 10:11 PM Honey Bunny: Fine your loss 10:12 PM Honey Bunny: no need to be a dick about it 10:29 PM Honey Bunny: We're at venue f u wanna join. btw my friend.says she knows ur sister. and im drunk ha 10:51 PM Awesome work! Way to let her cave on you not the other…
/r/seduction21/02/11 05:53 PM
5

"What? Speak up./I can't hear you." You can make it as playful/serious as you like. Making her fix the problem displays confidence and leadership, and will lead to success. You leaning in or making extra efforts to hear her is beta and will lead to non-success.
/r/seduction21/02/11 05:38 PM
2

Yeah, I think you're underestimating yourself here. I doubt many guys have gotten through that many shit tests from her without cracking. I bet it's a lot easier getting day 2.
/r/seduction08/02/11 04:58 PM
8

She mentioned something about not wanting to get too drunk around me, so I said something like, "have what you like, doesn't matter to me" This is a telegraphed IOI. When you're talking with guys, everything we say is honest and straightforward, there's no subtext or hidden meaning. With women you have to get through the literal meaning of what they're saying to get to the subtext, what they're really saying. After a while you'll hear the subtext more than you hear the literal meaning. In this c…
/r/seduction03/02/11 03:22 PM
2

Good work getting out there. It'll get easier the more you do it. As for dancing, all you have to do is get on the dance floor and have a good time; girls will start to open you from there. In situations like FR #2 when you have girls you want to invite out to the dance floor: walk straight to the center of the dance floor and as you pass them nod for them to follow or say "Hey, let's dance" without stopping for them. It might be easier to get yourself to do that than grabbing her hand. And if s…
/r/seduction02/02/11 06:11 PM
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Yes, Dean did not execute like that all the time. And yes, we cannot expect to execute like that all the time. But we can use that as a model for posture and that will help, even if only a little bit. So it is a good post.
/r/seduction31/01/11 06:16 PM
5

Great work, man. Confidence on the dance floor definitely leads to results. When she said "wait for me" as I was in front of the door, I just said "No." and left. Abundance mentality bitchies. Haha! Awesome. As for A, I think you could have been more assertive/alpha at the apartment, and that would have led to better results with her. If you're not having a good time there, do something about it or say something; you don't have time to hang around negative people. You kicked serious ass at the c…
/r/seduction31/01/11 05:57 PM
1

Interesting. Never thought befriending men would go the same way as seducing women. Great tip.
/r/seduction31/01/11 01:46 AM
3

This is seriously one of the best FR's on seddit. Some background... I've been flying solo for a month or so, traveling lots, learning tons, and working on inner game. I'm back in my home town where my old friends are, and I get to see how much I've improved. I had a mild falling out with these aforementioned friends, and it's what inspired me to become more serious about PU. I was tired of relying on them to have fun, and I had absolutely no luck with the ladies with them around. I've spent thi…
/r/seduction30/01/11 10:46 PM
1

That's such a simple, strong way to deal with that question. Most beta answers are long and excuse-y, whereas most alpha's are direct and succint; so it follows that your way is more alpha than the other answers here. Really great stuff.
/r/seduction30/01/11 02:34 AM
2

Completely agree. Planning out what you're going to say, what she's going to say is bad for this reason, and you shouldn't begin the interaction with a plan anyway; you can make one observation about her and work from there. Check out David Wygant's Man Transformation talk if you haven't already. It'll help you with this AA and your entire game. P.S. Don't beat yourself up too much. Failures don't mean anything if you learn and do better next time.
/r/seduction28/01/11 08:19 PM
2

I'm eager to learn, and eager to share my mistakes for people to learn from. Perfect mindset. Just awesome. One more tip: If the same situation happens where you have to leave her room as you're about to close, act like she's missing out, but you're fine with it. After all, you're an incredible guy who women throw themselves at. And she's missing an opportunity to be with an incredible guy like yourself. This will make her want that situation to happen again. You can even text her now saying she…
/r/seduction26/01/11 11:44 PM
2

Great job, man. Very good for a first time out; dancing, having a good time, not too attached to your target. Here's some things to work on next time: If she's in the bathroom for more than five minutes get on the dance floor and make some new female friends. If you're going to text her about taking too long say something like "My new friends are way better dancers than you. :-)" She'll come running out after you. And you're right about your afc response to "you left me!" Good that you recognize…
/r/seduction26/01/11 10:47 PM
2

Good job opening more people than you normally would; that's progress and that's more important than results.
/r/seduction26/01/11 02:51 PM
6

You can also think of frame in terms of who is dictating the situation, you or her. If you play by her rules, you lose. If she plays by yours, you (both) win. Here's the subtext as I saw it: When she called she was in charge of the interaction, setting the rules. You balked and offered your own terms. She tried you again. You balk and take control again. She says no. (And no only applies to this moment.) She is impressed by your confidence, persistence and non-neediness and fun is had. Awesome j…
/r/seduction25/01/11 07:23 PM
1

You can't judge an entire subreddit by one post, especially a post that had a 57% upvote percentage. A post with such a low ratio obviously was not supported by the entire community. You can be negative all you want. I'm not a genius, I'm not the world's biggest casanova, but I'm happy where I am and happy with the direction I'm going in. You don't seem to be as happy, so why not do something about it? Go make your life better. P.S. I've never been on digg. I've been on reddit for more than six …
/r/seduction24/01/11 01:00 AM
1

I completely disagree with you. Maybe you're just reading the super-upvoted links; and not the FR's, the heart of seddit. It's really just a giant circle jerk repeating tired old AMA memes, as well as all the other stupid over used memes on this site. I never see meme's here. Maybe in the links with the big upvotes, but not FR's. This sub reddit is so big now, plus me using different usernames to post on, that I shouldn't feel bad but I remember a year ago pushing really hard for field reports. …
/r/seduction23/01/11 07:36 PM
3

Tease and denial, tease and denial. Tell this girl she blew her chance to kiss you and it'll never happen again, playfully. See her again, tell her you won't let her kiss you. The more you tell her she can't do something, the more she will want to do it. Build that tension up til she's about to burst, then be the one to break it; make her "earn" it. You should be able to carry that momentum towards an f-close. Remember, you're in control of the interaction.
/r/seduction22/01/11 06:14 PM
2

I agree that I could have pushed, then dealt with LMR as it came. I played it safe because I didn't think I had built enough attraction during the date; mind you, we didn't kiss until I was at her place. Because of this I thought if I got one "no" it would be the end. Maybe I'm wrong about this. I also - because I'm still new to success - didn't expect things to go so well. As time-consuming as RLGL was, it was effective. I don't think she would have been ready or willing if not for the slow bui…
/r/seduction21/01/11 03:50 AM
14

Also, I got over a huge mental block with this date. My only two f-closes before this were a f-buddy in college (who initiated) and a girlfriend; I never made it happen like this before yesterday. And to do it on a first date, wow. This is a massive change from believing I have potential to believing in my abilities. Thank you all again. P.S. I know that FR is way too long. Any tips for cutting them down in the future, or writing them better? Thanks.
/r/seduction20/01/11 07:54 PM
2

David Wygant talks about it in his Man Transformation speech. The link is in the intro to seddit post. He explains it better than I could.
/r/seduction17/01/11 08:14 PM
6

From what I could tell the second wing is a really great guy, but not too versed in game. Too nice. I'll sarge with him again. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/seduction17/01/11 08:10 PM
2

There is no easy way, no one source. Read DYD, watch David Wygant's "Man Transformation" speech, read all the material you can find. Read FR's and take notes about everything new you learn from the mistakes/successes of others. It will take some time before you can really see the whole picture, and even longer before you can execute. Take it one step at a time and you'll be on your way.
/r/seduction17/01/11 05:28 PM
1

"I am going to fuck the daylights out of one of these hot girls" Awesome!
/r/seduction05/01/11 05:14 PM
1

One of the guys at my bjj gym is 5'2" and he's got an awesome life. He's a bjj purple belt, which takes about five years of hard work and commitment, and commands instant respect. His wife is smoking hot and cool as hell, about the same height. He works as a lawyer and probably makes upwards of 80k a year. And he's only twenty-nine. I respect him more than anyone else I've ever met, and I look to him as a model for the way I should live, and I'm 6'1". So yes, you can work past a height issue jus…
/r/seduction30/12/10 04:24 PM
22

Yes! Abundance mentality, no emotional attachment, good job and good advice, man.
/r/seduction28/12/10 05:54 PM
6

Good job getting out there and breaking new ground. Don't be too hard on yourself. Nobody succeeds their first try, anyway; all that matters is that you try, learn from your failures, and do better next time. Keep absorbing material and expanding your boundaries and you'll get there in no time. Kino was very hard for me at first, too. You might think it'll scare girls off when you touch them, but you'll see how much it works. Start small and work your way up.
/r/seduction27/12/10 10:30 PM
4

Yes, you don't care if this one nosedives because you can always get more. Thinking this way will lead to a natural abundance mentality, where you won't care about individual losses because you will always have others.
/r/seduction27/12/10 02:24 AM
2

Not directly pick-up, but inner game/happiness related. The sailor didn't get a girl, but he created happiness for a bunch of strangers. Living like the sailor requires deep confidence, and in return makes you happier, those around you happier and will inevitably lead to pick-up success.
/r/seduction25/12/10 11:44 PM
5

In my defense, psyroptus said he still couldn't figure it out and asked again how to do it. He then edited his original comment to take that out after I replied. Just putting the information out there, don't want people thinking I'm a complete asshole.
/r/seduction21/12/10 02:58 AM
1

The full process is written out in three different comments. Try a little harder before giving up and asking for help.
/r/seduction20/12/10 10:11 PM
1

Zoom out.
/r/seduction20/12/10 09:54 PM
1

Did you log in? That's probably it.
/r/seduction20/12/10 08:23 PM
6

Click on "Add Marker" at the top left, then put it on your address/city and title it your username. If you see someone near you and would like to go sarging with him/her send them a PM via reddit. Sorry for not explaining it.
/r/seduction20/12/10 07:06 PM
3

Two more things you know now, which will help you succeed the next time. Keep up the good work.
/r/seduction05/12/10 04:03 PM
12

This same phenomenon happens when someone actively loses weight loses weight in a circle of fat friends. Even though you're making positive change you get negative feedback because you're not conforming to the group; and you may be making them feel bad about themselves because they're not making any positive change. I lost my best friend about a year ago because I wanted to improve myself, get out of afc mode, and he didn't; he wasn't willing to go through the hard work to lose weight (he's very…
/r/seduction05/12/10 03:34 PM
1

Reading and re-reading Emerson's "Self-Reliance" has had a huge impact on me; confidence, courage, self-determination, so many things. Obviously he doesn't talk much about seduction but it'll do wonders for your happiness and inner game.
/r/seduction27/11/10 04:53 PM
6

This article is great example of how intertwined seduction is with self-improvement, psychology, even buddhism. Since I've started following seddit I'm significantly happier, more productive, lots of positive things. I actually think seduction/success with women is the part of my life that isn't keeping up with the other improvements, but that'll come.
/r/seduction22/11/10 06:24 PM
4

Great advice; start small and focus primarily on one thing at a time. I also think it's true that many people underestimate the time it takes for changes to occur and then "stick." From my own experience the process goes: conscious effort to change, early failure, improving success, consistent success with conscious effort, then lasting success without conscious effort. That whole process can take months, not days or weeks, and it's certainly not instantaneous. It's easier to successfully change…
/r/seduction13/10/10 07:22 PM
6

Solution: Tease her and act like you don't want to, bargain for something in return, make the page together and use that time to further game. Thoughts/improvements?
/r/seduction11/10/10 08:33 PM
11

Game explained.
/r/seduction07/09/10 03:46 PM
4

Everybody is flawed. Everybody has something that holds them back. You can address and improve some of them, others you can't. I've found most of the time insecurity about a flaw is worse than the flaw itself; for yourself and for other people. Most mature people accept that you're not perfect, but insecurity can really turn people off; in seduction and everyday life. And there's no need to burden yourself with stress or anxiety about issues you may have; fix it if you can, let it go if you can'…
/r/seduction21/08/10 04:39 AM
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