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DebateKnife_up_your_butt/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 07:39 PM
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There's another aspect to it: Women expect men to initiate and take the risk. Men are not perfect and will try a bunch of things to see what works. In fact men are heavily incentivized to be bold, confident, risk taking. And women are heavily incentivized to react and be responsive. Sometimes women relent even when they don't want to have sex. This is not a 'men are to blame'. Some if it is nature, some of it is nurture. But to twist it into 'men are evil' is just evil is just plain wrong. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:10 AM
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I stopped reading after "self improvement is about becoming a better person". I always understood it meant become hot and attractive. Nothing more nothing less.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:32 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story! As a fellow high functioning autist I can't relate to your emotions and anger outburst but I can relate to being socially awkward. Sounds like you figured shit out pretty early. I gave up at 18, women were too complicated and I'd figure it out later... Later turned out to be 34 yo (I'm 36 now). I remember being told "It'll happen" "Just be yourself" and other such blue pill BS. I wish you the best of luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:29 PM
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I think the important bit is "are we making progress" . Like is the dating/relationship progressing at the rate both of you are comfortable at . For one side 'just wanting sex' they should just be swiping and dating around while you make up your mind lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:10 PM
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It's 2025, after me too. Don't be weak. Just say no and use that surveillance device in your pocket to gather evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:47 PM
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I was making a funny. Trump is a horrible person but even pure evil is right every now and then 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:45 PM
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Damn, so trump was right when he said that “When you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything.” must be a wise man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:50 PM
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We teach our kids everything except how to deal with the opposite sex... Oh well. I've had a 100% fail rate for being honest so far so I'll stick to what works... I'll take your comment about her kids into consideration, thanks for the kind words! I wish you too good luck in your endeavors!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:47 PM
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I phrased it in an inflammatory way on purpose, but see my other reply for more context if you wish
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:11 AM
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I tried talking to girls as a teenager, but it just left me super confused. Let's just say all the girls my age that were dating, were dating men older than me lol. Now I understand why. Nobody explained anything back then, and sadly I didn't do a good job researching and figuring out why especially with my autism diagnosis. None of the adults who knew about my diagnosis felt it necessary to inform me that I would struggle with relationships and I better start early and figure it out, instead I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:10 AM
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I feel like I'm broken. I just started dating and all I care about is putting all my attention on a single woman 😭 plz fix
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 04:59 PM
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This is all very true but it's easier to get jacked, improve looks and status and hit up OLD than it is to be part of a larger social group and date there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 07:18 PM
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She does not. I have no plans to let her know. She's already trying slowly moving to introducing her children. I mean I love kids but I don't plan to be a stepdad any time soon. I've had sex twice so far earlier this year. I'm good lol. I studied actually and I know how to fuck. We already had sex on second date and she was very satisfied 😉 Luckily the red pill told me to shut the fuck up. Women can't tell if you're a virgin but they can tell if you're insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:38 PM
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I am doing this right now to a single mother. She's hot and she's into me. I like doing relationshippy things! I want to feel loved. But because I was denied experiences until 34yo and I had to do it all myself I feel no obligation to these women. I will say whatever they want to hear. All I want is to feel loved... For a while. Serial monogamy is what I want and what I will get.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:37 PM
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This is exactly what we should teach men! Learn how to lie and deceive! As per OP it clearly works. We should encourage what works. Unfortunately autism can make it hard to fake things so some men are just forced to actually put in the work since that's easier for them than faking it...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:18 AM
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I agree, lines up with my personal experience (I'm the guy here) I used to be incel and self-improved to be attractive. I used to think I'll take anything until women started throwing themselves at me (on dating apps lol, not irl... yet). I entertained this one women because she was there and made it easy but she wasn't too hot. I dumped her when she started putting up resistance and disrespect. Now dating a hotty I actually care about, same deal she's just as into me as the last one but one was…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:33 PM
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From personal experience, I believe you (sample size = 2 lol). I did the same thing. A women pursued me that I wasn't too hot for and when she put up resistance and disrespect to going on a date (and implied fucking afterwards) I dumped her. Currently happening again but now she's actually hot so I'm more interested myself and damn is she into me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:23 PM
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On dating apps I don't even swipe anymore. I just pick and choose from the women swiping on me (this is free on Hinge). Works really great!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:20 PM
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It’s just weird that anyone would need this explained Autism here, we tend to take things literally and struggle to read between the lines. Please explain it anyway. Let's take the parent post: And so one woman will say she likes dad bods, another woman will get a boyfriend with a six pack, and sometimes the same women does that, and sometimes they’ll do the opposite, and blah blah blah so on and so forth. It's not about 'women like dad bods and get a boyfriend with a six pack' and whether or no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:58 PM
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There's a very interesting thing going on here: 'when you get to experience it yourself'... 'when' not 'if'. I'm sure this is meaningful in the discussion about the different experiences of men and women in dating 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 07:32 AM
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The problem with this line of thinking is that this assumes women are uniformly random. They are not. And we have ways of dealing with things that are 'random' called probability theory. There are patterns in the things women like. End of story. It is important we learn and teach each other what those patterns are. When this analysis is done it is revealed that women in particular have a mismatch in their stated and revealed preferences. This is only a very broad interpretation, further analysis…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 07:29 AM
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And she has the hots for me, it's a major WTF is happening feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:31 PM
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I don't know what you mean by DBZ but sometimes I go back to lurk mode, developing parasocial relationships with PPD commenters...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:30 PM
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Thx! I'm a western white male, software engineer with an Asian gf now lol. Not beating the allegations with that one 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:27 PM
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PPD! I officially have a hotty asian gf! Inform the men!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:03 PM
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Booking my hair transplant as we speak. Balding is such a cruel and unnecessary evil 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:51 PM
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Idc about the autism but my eyes have been opened. I desire the Chad treatment and I'm willing to work for it. I will get to live my teens and early twenties that I missed out on! (I'm 35). Also, how hot is your face?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:55 AM
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FYI, people on the autism spectrum seem to place a higher emphasis on moral virtue, fairness, honesty and justice. While I don't have any sources, just doing a cursory search my own experience confirm this. Please don't judge us by the standards of NT men. My personal experience is that this is caused by being more rigid in our thinking and makes our lives easier to apply a set of rules to all our interactions. It keeps things tidy and understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:14 PM
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I'm far from Chad. HTN at best. But the autism and lack of experience at my age should be slashing that. Sure I get decent matches, converting those to dates is getting easier but turning that into sex is still a mystery... We'll see how it evolves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:07 PM
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Getting success from dating apps that there's women out there that are genuinely attracted to me is Blue Pilling me in realtime. I have to resist and hold strong to the roots of my success!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:24 PM
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Genuine burning desire. Sex. Intimacy. Feeling like I can be desired just for my physical attractiveness. As a very late bloomer who didn't get to hit the opposite sex milestones I seek to speed run them. After that we'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:29 AM
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So I have mixed feelings on this topic. In my local running club we're doing a 0 to 5km start to run. It's mostly women and their attractiveness... Varies. When I go grocery shopping the attractiveness... Varies. When I go compete in a local running competition holy the women are mostly hot. Really depends on location and occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:46 AM
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Your mental age is 21–25 years old. You’re independent and open-minded with a practical streak. I'm 35m, my mental age sounds about right!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:03 PM
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Finally went on a new date: a tiny 40yo Filipina. We hit up a free festival. Honestly, I’ve never done anything like this before: dancing to hardcore music (which honestly just sounded like noise to me lol). We were surrounded by teenagers, but I didn’t care. I just let go, moved my body, and grinded a lot; honestly felt a lot like dry humping at times haha. After a lot of teasing, we finally shared some kisses and made out. Kissing and making out became a bit of a logistical challenge with our …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:53 PM
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Thanks man, I appreciate it. I've scrubbed most of my real self in favour of traits that I'm told women like. A mix of physical attributes (nice, subtle flex pose so you can tell I work out, a selfie with my grandmother, a pic mid run competition where I look good and some more) the most nerdy looking thing is saying I come home and play my guitar. The thing is I've started using ChatGPT to help me with flirting and it's so much fun! I'm improving myself, but AI assisted me is way better... I sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:40 AM
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That sounds brutal, especially the this part: I'm still autistic and struggle immensely to get comfortable enough around a woman to be able to flirt to the point of getting her to sleep with me. I'm only a year and a half into my journey but I started at 34yo. I'm concerned if I still have time to build a physically good looking physique. Yeah the dating app results have significantly improved but flirting is still insanely hard 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:05 AM
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I'd fix our DNA to make everyone sexually irresistible lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:14 PM
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It's kind of sad/telling that your proposed ideal is "let's fix men so that they're more attractive to women" and women are just fine the way they are. It's the men who should change to suit the whims of women!!1! I mean I agree (hello internalised misandry) but it's sad ...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:49 PM
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I don't think we disagree. To provide more context: rape (and violence) are a tool of the physically strong to subjugate the physically weak. It just so happens that males tend to be physically stronger. But that strength is projected equally onto men and women I don't have sources at hand, but I remember reading about how some Ukrainian POWs had their dick and balls cut off before being returned. I've also read stories about the rape of men in various wars in Africa. I'm sure similar horror sto…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:26 PM
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I agree with your conclusion but not with your shifting the blame on (some) men. When society falls (I mean like war, famine, hopelessness not just dateless lol) life falls back to rule of the strongest. We see this happening in the war against Ukraine and the atrocities committed by russian soldiers. But I refuse to look at it from a 'male bad ' perspective and rather from a 'this is the natural state of nature'. There is no good or bad here, just nature taking its course. This is where all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 02:57 PM
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I've heard this generalization about autistic people (I'm talking about high functioning autism here, rip low functioning autistic people...) supposedly being more likely to be physically ugly but it's not something I've seen. Maybe it's just correlated with other negative traits, not necessarily caused by the autism itself? I threw my dating profile pics at an AI face rater that was posted the other day and it gave my face between a 6.8 and 8.2 (I'm average height for my country, I don't have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:48 PM
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In the West we have programs to help these people. Free food and housing and I'm 100% for using my tax dollars to help anyone (men and women) to meet basic demand of food and housing. trafficking that goes on in sex work. I live in the west, leave and contact authorities. There are government programs to help yourself. I'm 100% in favor of my tax dollars being used to help. The life expectancy of a sex worker is 34. Ok? Then STOP DOING SEX WORK. It's that fucking easy. I was told that my lifesty…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:30 PM
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Maybe in poor third world countries, I'm not saying it doesn't exist in the west but the average guy who pays for sex workers isn't gonna find these girls lol. I imagine you'd need to be elite (like Donald Trump and the rest of Epstein Island) or be in some backwater town. Interestingly I've watched enough hot guys who make compilation videos of Omegele and their clones who show off their physique and good looks. These underage girls are throwing themselves at these guys, just literally begging …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:54 PM
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For the record I do not partake in paying for sex (which is why Ill probably die alone, autism is repulsive to women) But we're in the age of equality. It's not on men to abstain. Women are perfectly capable of not accepting such offers. 'you need two to tango' and all. We need to stop blaming men and equally share the blame on these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:15 PM
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These women have agency. They can live in poverty just like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:05 PM
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I should have been more clear, I was referring to this: If men can't organically get women to agree to have sex with them, then I don't think they should be having sex. This is utter bs coming from a woman who more than likely has/had boyfriends, has no problems getting casual sex if you desired it. It comes over as "Let them eat cake" completely and utterly devoid of empathy. As for 'most sex workers' I'm calling bs on that. You can just be homeless without doing sex work lol. You can just like…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:51 PM
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Brutal, spoken from a true position of privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:30 PM
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Imagine wanting to look good to your partner....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:04 AM
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Time to progressively overload!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:10 PM
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The filters are strong in this one
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:40 PM
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Truth. Sadly in order to fit in we gotta practice this thoughtless emotional masturbation. I believe it's called 'connecting' with another human...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:01 PM
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Exactly, they are creating bad times. This will create strong men which is perfect for your hypergamous nature 🥰 Sry I'm taking the piss here. Trump is literally the anti-Christ
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:24 PM
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Strong men create good times, good times create weak men and weak men create bad times but don’t worry - eventually strong men will rebuild it all again. It's just how the cycle goes!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:15 PM
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Men built this world, and they can take it away at their whim!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:09 PM
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That would be rude, she can never learn about my existence!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:05 PM
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That is the correct logical response, but most people just respond with their most basic emotions leading to the pile of shit that is the internet. Social media optimizing for engagement over all other metrics doesn't help...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:02 PM
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Life is meaningless 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:37 PM
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My gym crush is deadlifting in front of me 🥰 leg day truly is the best day!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:36 PM
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We're both 35, so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:08 PM
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It's odd right, surely she gets the idea now that she needs to shut the hell up and not mention this for her own selfish benefits!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:48 PM
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Telling me what I need to hear, thx coach!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:48 PM
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Oh I mean, the woman I went on a few dates with said she had a crush on another man (not on me). That's a huge turn off tbh...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:31 PM
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The woman I was dating told me things were starting to feel serious for her, and she felt she had to be honest. She admitted she had a crush on another guy (not me) who doesn't like her back. Apparently, when she told yet another guy she went on dates with this same thing, he blocked her immediately. I didn’t block her but all the feelings I was developing just disappeared. Is that what it's like to get the ick? We were getting along really well too...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:27 PM
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Is he tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:48 PM
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Better get at finding out then, running season has started!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:28 PM
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That's insane lol, one does not just roll out of their bed and run fast 😄 what's your pace for 5km?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:20 PM
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Thinking of people as either believing you or not doesn’t fully capture the complexity. A more accurate model is that people not only judge whether they believe you, but also independently assess whether they think you're lying. This allows for the possibility that someone may neither believe you nor think you're lying, which I think happens quite often. In such cases, they may simply not care either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:15 PM
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Today I ran in a local running competition, I'm very happy with my 5km in 26 minutes. Good for 65th position out of 90 runners lol. So many people running insane paces...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:09 PM
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Getting a single woman to simp for me like that is a life goal of mine. Congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 11:07 PM
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Yeah, I can see how that might come across that way. Honestly, it was just a small part of a 6-hour date. I did play around with our height difference a bit more throughout the day, like when she was walking on raised steps and we were at eye level for a moment. Just fun little moments!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 10:48 PM
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I can understand how it might come across as weird, but I appreciate the contrast between the male and female. It’s just something I find appealing and playful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 10:20 PM
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I am literally average height in my country according to some stats I found online. My personal lived experience being present at company meetings I feel like 80% of men are taller than me and I'm eye height to half the women I meet irl. I'm just happy to experience tall guy life even for a short time...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 10:13 PM
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My cousin did this. She's now in a lesbian relationship. Her mother works in social services and says that she recognizes the people who come to the government for help in her daughter. But hey the kid is fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:08 PM
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Nice! Are you lean and muscular with broad shoulders, and is she on the petite/lean side too? Those are ingredients that really make those kinds of clips pop. There's just something about a small, seemingly vulnerable person being surrounded by a hulking guardian that really sells the effect!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:07 PM
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Go for it, I don't really understand why the comments would be unhinged though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:07 PM
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🤣 I'm not even that tall, avg height for my country
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:08 PM
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Based, someone has to show the heavyweight girls some love!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:51 PM
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I’m a big fan of those clips where a tiny woman has a massive guy standing behind her, and when he stands up, he just dwarfs her. I (1.80m) recently went on a date with a tiny Asian woman (1.60m), and when we stood in front of a mirror, I stood behind her and the size difference was so hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:28 PM
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All this is true if you don't account for personality and connection. A great connection is worth so much more than raw looks. As long as you share a special connection with your partner aging is not a concern. If you find yourself back in the dating pool after 35 however... Best not to think about it ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 12:45 PM
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That's horrible, how could anyone do that to another human?!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 11:43 PM
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Hmm ok what about this: She says: "I only like you because you're a tall white guy" it's meh She says: "I really like tall white men (and then initiates physical contact to reinforce the point)" hot Is that the difference you're talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:46 PM
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I go to the gym just to develop said physical attributes. I want to attract women and I'll develop the features necessary (gym, style, skincare, ...) I KNOW they are attracted to the features. That is the entire point of acquiring them! If I already have said features (eg. white tall male) that's great! less work for me. But like I said this is the basic requirement, for LTR she has to actually not be totally put off by my personality on top of that I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:37 PM
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Would she still love me if I wasn't tall? Bruh this is women talk. Women says this dumb shit. Attraction is physical first
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:43 PM
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I see what you mean, if it comes with the explicit rejection my personality like "shush babe, you're just here cuz you're a tall white man, don't open your mouth and ruin my fantasy" that would be off putting. But just being really into my physical attributes? I see that as a basic requirement for what I'm looking in a woman. The woman has to find me HOT first and foremost, we'll discuss the rest later.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:40 PM
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That last point hit the nail on the head. The woman MUST be sexually attracted to me FROM THE START. She must think I'm HOT. None of this 'oh she grew attraction after getting to know him' BULLSHIT. I believe this is probably the hardest requirement to fill. Well perhaps it's just behind actually liking my autism ass but oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:30 PM
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You need that delusional self confidence! If you convince yourself something is impossible, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sure, real limits exist, but I guarantee they’re way higher than whatever you think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 10:44 PM
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Your beliefs are limiting your potential! 🦉
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:06 PM
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You are a good person. May you find success in your future journey. Don't forget!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:41 PM
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Based, you've improved on my prestigious rankings of PPD women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:21 PM
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Did you vote for trump 2024? And back in 2016?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:08 PM
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I've been told this is because the pan isn't hot enough yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:57 PM
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The worst part is being told you have it easy while silently struggling the hardest
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:56 PM
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I apologize, I was very brutal in my response. There is no gotcha to be had here, you live your life exactly how you wish to live it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:50 PM
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If you're that afraid of being lied to… then don’t date men. Problem solved. I never said “most men,” and my quote was just one of those internet sayings that plays on broad stereotypes for effect. Nobody is entitled to anything. Men aren’t entitled to sex. They aren’t entitled to relationships. They aren’t even entitled to attention. You could drop dead tomorrow, and the universe wouldn’t blink. Life isn’t fair, never has been, never will be. There’s no justice, no magical court making sure you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:09 PM
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Women lie with makeup, men lie with words. It's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:16 PM
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It's sex where you invite the NSA to watch over you, this makes the woman feel comfortable and safe!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:55 PM
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This is why we live in a matriarchy. Female view on sexual relationships are set as the standard correct way and the male view is demonized. But the expectation is still on the man to lead and escalate. This is stupid, but it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:59 AM
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I made cupcakes, that is all https://postimg.cc/rD27QjP0
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:21 PM
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As a man who's never kissed a woman until age 34 (35m now) I was legit stunned when the woman I went on a date with called me beautiful. Like that has never before happened in my life I didn't know what to say. It happened a few more times on dates since then, I still don't really know how to respond? What does it means? Idk maybe that we all want that what we don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:39 PM
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This is such a strange concept to me. I've been working out for 1.5 years and in the process of a significant glowup (35m). I went on a 2nd date the other day and the woman squeezed my pecs and ran off giggling! Oh my god I love being objectified!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:36 PM
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NGL, hot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:15 PM
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Unironically love leg day! There's something about hammering my quads and glutes that just feels so satisfying. Also, shoutout to my dad for blessing me with some great ass genetics 🍑 Honestly, the only people I see with a bigger ass than mine are verweight women!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:09 PM
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Thank you, wish you all the best too!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:57 PM
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I have heard from RP I should oversell my abilities but I just cannot do that, I find it easier to actually become competent than to pretend I am. I don't know where women of your quality hang out, but I'm not meeting them on dating apps. The ones I meet on dating apps respond really well to highlighting my competence in leadership positions (no matter how small).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:06 PM
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Thank you, I've been invited by my local running club to lead the next official 0 to 5km running program and I agreed to this. Not going to lie I agreed to this because RP told me this is an attractive quality, I am sacrificing some of my own training to do this. Thanks for confirming this and I'll make sure to accept future invitations to leadership-like positions, especially if they're very visible to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:04 PM
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A bit off topic but I've been wondering about this because I think there's some miscommunication in the definition of competence here. I think men and women have a different idea of what competence really means. I as a man interpret it literally: "Properly or sufficiently qualified; capable. ". However in my personal (somewhat limited experience, like 5 women?) do not respond at all to me telling then about my growth as a person and neither do they respond positive to my growth in physical fitne…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:51 PM
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Can confirm. I suck at conversations so often I just stop responding because I can't figure out a good way to continue the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 09:26 PM
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35yo man, western europe, Hinge, Bumble, when I first joined Hinge I got like 3-4 likes per week. Now that I've been lifting for a little over a year, got lean and got professional photos when I joined Bumble (+ paid for 1 week) I got 70 likes in 4 days. The women weren't bad, over half of them were physically appealing. But I'm autistic so I got zero dates out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:56 PM
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You're god damn right. Us romantically handicapped men need to start being selfish. Think about what we want and then work to achieve that I'm a 35yo who recently had sex for the first time. It's not that difficult. I'm sure you've read about what women like from posts on Reddit. I'm sure you've watched porn and seen the mechanics. _just be confident _ but unironnically. Something I haven't seen talked about much is erectile disfunction as your body is not used to the sensations. Talk about it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 09:53 PM
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Have you met Windmill_Flowers? She does exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 02:39 PM
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Chad strikes again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 12:32 AM
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Anytime and thx ! My Latina cutie has confirmed she's staying for the weekend ! She hasn't let me down so all should go well 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:26 PM
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That sucks I don't have much else to say other than may your weekend be filled with sexual deviance and cuddles!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:06 PM
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Not everybody gets the happy ending they wanted. At least she's still Stacy and will be able to find a betabux husband as a backup plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:48 PM
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Unreliable people are the worst. I know because I used to be one... I've cleaned up my act but it doesn't come easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:39 PM
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Hmm, thx for the ideas. I was thinking a blindfold would be a good idea to start with. Perhaps I can take multiple props and have her make a choice of which ones to use. I'm not really into pain or causing pain, but I like the idea of having the woman feel safe to surrender herself completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:28 PM
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Good idea, I'll keep it simple
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:22 PM
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That's exactly your problem, it may feel pointless now but I promise you it won't be like that forever. You lack vision for your future now, but you'll find your lust for your passions again and with that comes a sense of purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:10 PM
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Religious extremism is funny 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:57 PM
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You reap what you sow. The best I can offer you is to be happy with the results you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:51 PM
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Wtf did you do, also apologising isn't very masculine of you. Do what you want to do with confidence and she'll fall in line
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:48 PM
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It only gets as good as you make it. Nobody's stopping you. But nobody's helping you either. Go out there and write your own story!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:46 PM
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Brutal honesty, he'll probably get rejected and will need to hit the gym first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:36 PM
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My Latina sex doll admitted that she likes to be dominated (I've been on 4 dates, 2of them were sex dates), now I've got plans to hit the sex shop tomorrow. Any advice on what toys to get for baby's first BDSM session?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:35 PM
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Fair enough. Since you asked in public you'll also get my unsolicited forearm workout: I just add cable wrist curls 3x sets in my upper body day. Only been doing that for 4 months and the forearms are exploding in size. Gl bro, I wish you success and many bitches feeling you up in the future!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:26 PM
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What are you looking for? Gym advice or diet advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:18 PM
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Thx for the motivation, I'm gonna try to see if I can get laid this weekend by being more forward!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:39 PM
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Good for you. My problem is that improving my looks is easier than improving my game. Autism be like that :(
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:38 PM
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You're right, I've been reading woman's complaints about men bringing up sex in the first few messages on a dating app to mean "don't do that". Instead I should read those as "you're not hot enough, try to be more suave instead".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:33 PM
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If you're not willing to have sex on the first date it just means the guy wasn't hot enough. The answer isn't more dates, the answer is to get hotter as a guy. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:30 PM
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So what you're saying is, always go for the kiss and sex to see if she is actually attracted to you as a way of filtering women. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:28 PM
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he will have to take note of all the unspoken rules of social interaction This is part of the problem, autism (I speak only for myself) means that this is the broken part. I struggle to learn these cues from observation but I can implement them when explicitly pointed out. Getting dates is more likely to happen through warm approaching This is difficult... I went to work parties and talk to people from the fitness and running club. None of the women I know about in my age range were single. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:52 AM
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While the example given is a bit extreme it is not unrealistic. Make the guy have high functioning autism. They require some amount of people skills, but they require zero romantic skills and no interaction with women is required.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:09 PM
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I agree, it's a bit much. Let's make it realistic: 34yo virgin man. High functioning autism. He has a solid software engineer job. Lived his life eating, sleeping, working, playing video games for the last 16years. Never interacted with a woman in a romantic setting. He stopped cold turkey playing video games. Focussed entirely on physical fitness. Runs 5k 3days a week, gym 4 days a week. It's a year later. He's in great shape. Visible muscle definition and abs. Owns a house, car and is debt fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:17 PM
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Interesting, that would never work for me. I suck at this social thing so I must learn from practical experience. What are the kinds of qualities you're looking for/avoiding?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:29 AM
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It's alright, I left out some context. She's an immigrant living with her sister's family. She went with them on holiday in order to not be left behind in a foreign country. I only met her 3 weeks before she left, so it's not like she left me behind or smth.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:22 AM
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Thx, my glow up is the stuff of legends and my confidence through the roof!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:13 AM
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But without experience how can you know who you see a future with?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:08 AM
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Hey man, I just want to tell you that steroids are not the answer. Get some muscles legit and then just get lean. Just like men women find lean-ness very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:06 AM
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Why's that a problem? We're not exclusive and I bet I can do better than whatever she can find.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:04 AM
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+-10 I'm 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:56 AM
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Me, I had my first ever date early last year. That was also my first kiss. At the ripe age of 34. Now I'm seeing someone but she's currently on holiday in Spain. I told her I'm going to tie her up so she can't leave me like that again 😁 I'm going to buy some entry level BDSM stuff next week for when she gets back. I've had sex with her twice so far, only woman I've had sex with... So far.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 12:53 AM
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I personally do not satisfy 7, 10 and untill recently 12. I learned very quickly to just straight up lie about being a virgin. Just be delusionally self confident and wing it, women cannot tell if you're inexperienced that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 09:25 AM
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How do you ask for a hookup,( asking as an inexperienced guy)? Also don't you agree that most women don't want hookups? I want some temporary emotional intimacy to go with the sex. I currently have a woman who's really into me and all I did was take her out for 2dates then 3rd was just 'come over for sex' (phrased in woman speak). 4th date we went out and did more fucking afterwards. Now she tells me I'm "the most beautiful coincidence of 2024". I rarely text first. This is the 2nd woman I've ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 12:39 PM
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This tracks. I've come to terms with it and this is motivating me to maximizing all my other potential (gymmaxing, makeupmaxing, hairmaxing, moneymaxing, statusmaxing).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:26 AM
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Preach!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:06 PM
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Not Reddit but I've found tremendous value in these YouTube channels: psychacks, Todd V Dating, coach Kyle, hoe_math and my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:56 PM
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Yup I paid for all the dates except her public transport costs. I behaved almost exactly like the red pill taught me . When I strayed from the path (I showed the tiniest bit of insecurity)I was punished for it with shit tests. But I corrected the course and made it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:34 PM
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The actual sex act? That came instinctively. all the rest leading up to it? 1.5years in the making 😛 but it was worth all the effort
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:29 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:27 PM
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Shout out to my best buddy helping me communicating in womanese! I have a lot more work to do but I know I can do it 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:19 PM
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Turns out that unlike Reddit had me believe, women actually like men(*)! (*)Men that are in shape, confident in leading the courtship, know how to communicate in womanese, ... 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:18 PM
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PurplePillDebate, I have mated with a woman, inform the men!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:06 PM
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It's sad to see him being so toxic to himself, poisoning his own mind with these feelings of hatred. I hope he finds s way to let go of that mindset. That said you say "Treat people as you want to be treated" This is wrong, if it were true women would enjoy receiving dick picks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:29 AM
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Neither of which you'll get SA'd. Most abuses happen by someone the woman knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 10:12 PM
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Brother
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 09:13 PM
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Nobody's forcing you to interact with men. If you don't want to risk getting SA'd, just live a celibate life, it's just as fulfilling right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:21 PM
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Not the person you replied to but, my mom and my sister. Hi, I'm on the autism spectrum. Being told to be a good buy and 'be myself' and things just happen and I believed them. I gave up after I turned 18, all the rejection and confusion was too much. Now I'm a 35yo virgin. Thanks! In the meantime I got in the best shape of my life so even if I still fail to attract women at least I'll look god damn good doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:38 AM
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Oh yeah I think it's perfectly fine to build some competency in all areas. Just don't get sucked into doing front-end only work. Put your foot down if you must, keep your backend skills sharp!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:16 AM
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Do not go into front-end dev. You couldn't pay me enough to ever go there. Backend is where all the good stuff is :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:39 AM
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Become Chad or die trying
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:43 PM
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I fear that may be my solution, I'm not ready for that yet but I'm seriously considering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:18 PM
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I can fix her
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:10 PM
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Sometimes I wasn't feeling it Thanks. This is an amazing rationalisation. I'll use this one for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:22 PM
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You're either attracted to someone or you aren't and if they were already attracted to each other enough to date that's what they would be doing to begin with. Sigh I am not arguing people should date someone that is unattractive. I am arguing against degenerate behavior where you will only date the very best option you can find. There might be many potential dating candidates but why go with average joe (let's pretend he's not perfect but well within your dating standards if he were the only op…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:25 PM
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False choice. I will never claim the choice is either 1. dating with zero restrictions and everything is allowed and 2. forced dating with arranged marriages. There's room for nuance and middle ground. My claim is that both 1. and 2. are bad. Too much individual freedom is known to cause societal breakdowns.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:03 PM
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I did not intend to imply you were the problem specifically. Do you think there are no men who abuse their social status to pump and dump? That there are no man who lie to get into a woman's pants? That pretend they want an LTR to get her guard down? Of the men that are most desirable and accessible through dating apps, how many percentage wise do you think act immorally? Is it large enough to cause a real impact to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:58 PM
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Women get pumped and dumped by Chads, they get jaded and become less likeable. Average man suffers because of this and becomes jaded and less likeable. Society as a whole suffers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:00 PM
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That is the entire point yes, you do not want your options reduced. Your desires don't exist in a vacuum. If you have many options (that you seriously consider) means that you can get away with degenerate behavior. Why be on your best behavior when you can just use and discard women knowing there's more where that came from and there are no social repercussions for you? This is selfish of you and impacts other people/women in a very negative way (same the other way around with women using and di…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 12:58 PM
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Attraction is relative to your options. If you have fewer options you'll take the most attractive (or be single I guess). The problem is when there are too many options, there's always someone more attractive around the corner. Reducing the options you are exposed to reduces your expectations of what it means to be attractive (you can't long for something you've never known).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:58 AM
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Any reason is indeed fine but I disagree that it's a good thing. Think of it as a balance between individual freedom and what is necessary for a healthy society. The current western dating is way too much focused on individual freedom at the expense of society. This doesn't mean we should switch to 100% forced political marriages organized by your family. There exists a middle ground. Sadly this will never happen. I personally don't care about being able to point fingers at a group of people and…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:43 AM
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Option 2. I was told to find happiness within myself and not to derive it from others. So I did. Only thing I haven't yet achieved is greek god status, so that would be an upgrade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:21 PM
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35yo autistic virgin here, idk why I come here just to feel depressed. Getting pretty swole from the gym though, got a decent haircut and looking pretty good. 5'11 cuz that matters :) I've got shitty pictures in my dating profile and still get matches. One woman just said "hi, how are you?" to me, wtf do I do :( I've put together some outfits, practice some posing and made an apt with a professional photographer so at least I've got that going.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:08 PM
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Lots of men and women who aren’t on the spectrum also weren’t guided by their parents specifically about that. This is the impact autism has on me. I do not learn social cues via osmosis. I need to be taught, explained the underlying social structures and then I can work with that and be 'normal' (hence the red pill tag). Simple things like how to hold a conversation outside of my topics of interest? I learned that earlier this year after I had an epiphany. Over time I've build up a repertoire o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:00 PM
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I'm on the autism spectrum. I was helped by my mom and by professionals during my schooling. 'Helped' just to be normal. Nobody ever talked to me about girls/women and how to approach them as an autistic man. I tried of course, got rejected a bunch and just gave up as I just did not understand it at all. So here I am trying again and realizing giving up was a massive mistake 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 06:59 PM
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The answer is very simple, to improve society it means we must reduce inequality. This means reducing the range of 'value' men have. Less super successful men but also less super unsuccessful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:19 PM
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No. I am a min-maxed person. Intelligent, focussed on hobbies, projects, work. I work out like my life depends on it. I enjoy learning new things. I'm just autistic so my EQ is low. My ideal partner is not the same as me, but has her own high highs and low lows in a way that complement my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:15 PM
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I apologise, my initial response was unnecessarily dismissive. Each person has requirements they desire from a partner. This includes willingness to negotiate the terms. Dating is the negotiation process. In the end it is still a transaction but it is more complicated than I expressed. I really like your idea of asking how someone expresses their love so you can appreciate it, I will include it in my toolbelt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:17 PM
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Relationships are fundamentally a transaction. The man provides what the woman desires and the woman provides what the man desires. Nothing more, nothing less. If the man wants sex you provide it and you'll be happy to make your SO happy. If the woman wants compliments, safety, comfort, ... Then the man must provide it and be happy it'll make their SO happy. This isn't complicated...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:34 PM
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You think "Chad" has no reason to sleep with average looking women? There's a good reason to do that: they're less effort. Yes Chad will put in the effort for a better looking woman but if you're just horny and the woman passes their looks threshold and she gives up the kitty for no effort on his side then why not? Your definition of Chad seems counter to the common assumtion that man have very low standards when it comes having sex with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:01 PM
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Her dating pool may be limited if she wants an exclusive relationship but she'll still be able to be Chad's toy for a night. If a man wants only 18 year old virgins he is unlikely to get it at all. These are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:39 AM
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Realistic sex bots sound like a dream come true. But it's not good for you to live in dream land. Take the deal you got and make the best of it now is the best approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:01 AM
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"The market can stay irrational longer than you can stay solvent" - comes to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:58 AM
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Same here. Growing up neurodivergent there's help for dealing with regular social situations, getting a job, etc but I didn't hear a word of warning about women and relationships. Well my mom told me to be a good boy and so didn't put much emphasis on physical fitness.... All I can say it's not too late to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:57 AM
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What about tomorrow and the day after that? I don't think we've hit the ceiling yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:32 AM
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Thanks for the empathy, what's your OF?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:21 AM
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Fair enough. I sat inside playing video avoiding the sun, never drank alcohol, did drugs or smoked. That gives me a serious head start in the skin game.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:39 PM
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The people at my local uh... woman's beauty store thing? seem to have some knowledge of what they're doing so that worked for me shrug I do agree that once you get more comfortable you should take your skincare (or any skill really) to the next level and get professional help.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:29 PM
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Learning a new thing every day is quite a bit of pressure. Personally I prefer mastery over a few topics over a jack of all trades. The important part here is what you choose to learn. Choose those topics that correlate positively with success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:27 PM
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Precisely. I have fully accepted this worldview and I am committed to give it my all, with the cards I've been dealt.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:24 PM
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Thank you! You make a good point about finding that one person you can trust. I have such a person I can shit talk about women with, who I can be vulnerable with. He has his own challenges, but getting sex isn't one of them. It's like I found another imperfect being and we're perfectly comfortable being imperfect with each other!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:21 PM
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Exactly! I started out in the adversial worldview. Eventually I realized that all I did was harm myself with these thoughts. That's when I pulled myself out of the cycle and start getting results from the productive advice the red pill taught me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:56 PM
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Don't get me wrong, I am still very red pill minded. But like the OP, I use that to motivate myself to work on myself. Perhaps the real feedback for /u/Top-Long97 is to focus on the process, not the result.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:51 PM
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For context, I am 34m, ASD introvert and risk averse. First time made out with a woman earlier this year. As long as you are making progress you are good. If you keep going in circles you have a problem that needs to be addressed. Go to the gym. Doesn't matter if you are feeling blue pill or red pill. While doomscrolling PPD at least you're getting jacked. I'm almost 1 year into my fitness journey and I stop and flex before every mirror I see :) Practice social skills on everyone. At work, with …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 01:47 PM
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Yes 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:25 AM
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The real message is to understand that by feeling this way you give women power over your emotional state. This kind of thinking worked for me to let go of the anger and just focus on myself and my own problems. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:00 AM
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I never claimed all approaches are bad. I want to draw attention to the way the approach is done matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 11:00 PM
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Open to be approached does not mean open to be approached by just about anyone so these numbers are not relevant here. I want to draw attention to the kind of approaching that is a turn off
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:53 PM
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The OP is intended to spark some empathy in a world filled with rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:39 PM
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I am a man, perhaps I misunderstood the meaning of red pilled. Idgaf about what society thinks, I want the truth and I will accept it. Sitting here talking shit all day is not going to improve my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:33 PM
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This is one of those times where "Do unto others as you would like them to do to you" completely breaks down and has the opposite effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:30 PM
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This is about the experience of women being cold approached or being approached under false pretenses. The man and woman could have met under other circumstances which don't apply in this framework. It does not invalidate their point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:18 PM
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Agreed, this post does not invalidate our own experiences. This analogy is part of my own growth in accepting dating as it is. Whining and being upset aren't going to help me and I'll take the deal I've been given (autism, introvert, risk averse).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 09:54 PM
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