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How-To High ValueKnitter-of-Data/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:21 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Knitter-of-Data/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:06 PM
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How-To High ValueKnitter-of-Data/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:07 AM
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Wow yay! Know what you mean, too, about the bizarre PTSD processing whirlwind following breaking down and crying when someone does something many other people would consider relatively run of the mill nice but I’ve had limited or no direct personal experience seeing done for me... Many many hugs to you❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:46 PM
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Yeeks. I could be totally off base, but having survived a relationship that sounds a little like what you described of your aunt’s, there’s a good chance she didn’t feel like she could do anything in that moment to get the cat back / stand up for herself, for whatever reason, it might not have been or felt safe for her in that moment. If that’s the case, she’s probably survived a lot of trauma and also never since forgiven herself about the dear cat, so might treasure some grace from caring fami…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:06 AM
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Here’s the best and most reliable resource from the clinical organization that CDC and FDA work with on all kinds of teratology (mother to baby transmission) questions. I can neither confirm nor deny contributing to the breastfeeding portions of these fact sheets ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:25 AM
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She’s totally eligible for vaccine right now, especially if she works in health care. Super important and great for babe too! Now have good documentation of direct benefit to babe (but not surprising to us, since we saw same with H1H1 vax and also we’ve known for quite a while that babe always gets a little bonus from any vax mama gets. She needs to make appt ASAP. (Oops sorry - taking my hat back off 😬) And editing to say thank you so much for your sweet words! I really did / do adore working w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:40 AM
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Yes obv that’s already a given - my statement was in the context of the original post and my experience working with so many women who tragically thought having a baby with a problematic man would fix their relationship, and in more than a few cases even said things along the lines of “my best friend was so excited for us, too - why didn’t she tell me?!” One of the hardest things about this kind of work is having to figure out how to proceed upon hearing these kinds of confessionals that technic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:21 AM
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They’re all over - most know better than to admit these feelings to anyone else though because they know it’s no longer socially acceptable to be grossed out by it - it’s a lot like other forms of bigotry in that sense - the vast majority of racists would never outright admit it in public / to others without thinking those others feel the same way they do. Though it is more frequent in the southern US states, the western Canadian provinces, central Italy, and Baltic / former USSR states than els…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:10 AM
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I’ve been a lactation consultant and perinatal educator for 25 years - this scenario is so so so so so tragically not infrequent, and it’s MORE common now than it was when I first started. Even more depressing is how impossible it is to not notice how common this is among men who are white, yet incredibly uncommon among all other men (and I’ve only ever seen non-white men eventually pull their shit together on this issue, with all of the white men I’ve seen like this, their behavior during pregn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:52 AM
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If real, the clip is very old - The Atlanta Journal (and its mega cringy slogan “Covers Dixie like the dew.”) died in 1982. Before then, it was Atlanta’s evening paper (and the Constitution was the morning paper). Atlanta’s current newspaper is the AJC (Atlanta Journal-Constitution).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:34 PM
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And that’s a story for another time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:39 AM
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The art is sooooo reminiscent of one of the best FDS children’s books I’ve ever encountered, The Paper Bag Princess, by Robert Munsch “... but Ronald, you are a bum!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:49 AM
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Deprived of hope for reciprocation to be sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:31 PM
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?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:30 PM
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Outside on the ground! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:23 PM
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Love all of this so much! You made my evening! Obrigado! (And oh how I wish I knew more Portuguese! Someday...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:15 AM
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Sigh RIGHT?! No joke my sister and I have had this exact convo. Here’s the best guess we could come up with: it was possibly partially BECAUSE he is / was so wonderful in all of the ways that frankly should not be remarkable, that we foolishly just assumed in fact these things weren’t remarkable, because no one ever ever ever talked about it, and no one ever said anything like “if you tell someone you’re upset about something and they react in any way OTHER than to show empathy for you and helpi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:54 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 Oh Megan that was not a date - that was dinner for a hungry homeless tech savvy man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:16 AM
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Wow bom apetite! Sounds delicious - sounds a LOT like what we’d call fudge here (and the story about fudge fits in well here - it was “invented” by students at a women’s college near New York City when they decided it was a lot more fun to hang it in their dorm together and cook over their reading lamps than waste their evenings getting all dressed up to go on dates with LVM!!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:57 AM
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Also yes tangential but what country are you in cuz I’ve never seen such adorable tasty treats at any Starbucks in the US as you showed in pics 2 and 3?!? And YES excellent example!!! Luv it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:26 AM
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Thank you for posting the video! I was already crying before I even saw what was making her gasp! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:09 AM
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And/or further proof he’s emotionally a child - that’s how we used to communicate with paper notes back and forth during and between classes - “if you like her, check here, if not, check here, and slip this note into my locker vent”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:17 PM
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Yah I definitely do!!! And tragically, my sister and I BOTH chose NVM’s despite (or possibly because, as we naively assumed he was typical) growing up with him... Now that our 5 amazing kids are stuck with 3 NVM dads between them (and we appreciate so much more how unusual our dad is) we cherish so much how vested he is in his very very lucky grandkids’ lives. ❤️💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:07 PM
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I’ve been struck over the years by how different the male female dynamic tends to be in my work world (public health) than other fields in the “STEM” bucket (which I’d argue is inadequate / unhelpful as a taxonomy but that’s another story...). I worked in a social science academic research setting before defecting over to public health more than 2 decades ago. Since then I’ve worked in local, state, federal, and international public health agencies and settings, and it’s impossible to not notice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:39 PM
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omg this is the best! I had to google this - if you weren’t crying yet you will be when you check out the backstory details!!! Thank you so much for posting this! My day job is extraordinarily dark and depressing right now and it’s getting really really really hard to have faith in our species, I so so so so needed this sweet video right now. Whew so many lots of feels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:06 PM
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Right?! But it is adorably authentic and I can see it from a dude who brought a unicycle to school 💓 Also I really really really hope someone had the foresight to capture expressions on aunties and other elders’ faces when that part came around, and I can imagine the mamas like me that were in the audience likely thought “aww that’s so adorable of him to think that will continue to be a nightly thing! Bless his little optimistic heart🥰”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:52 PM
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Y’all this is what my dad sent this morning to our group chat ❤️ Note that: A) he set up and named this chat literally the minute he read about the then new group chat feature B) he sends things like this at least once a week (and he sends something genuinely thought provoking or interesting or funny nearly every day), no matter whether anyone replies to him or praises him or thanks him or even acknowledges him C) I know for a fact that my kids and my sister’s kids regularly share these with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 01:31 PM
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Awww man you win! Never got to try the fixing cheating one, but oooh actually wait maybe I win - the ONE THING now ex did do because of me was finish his degree, but dangit not because I actively tried to get him to, so dangit never mind... And oh the irony, because we were soooo young and in hindsight my cluelessness was the most helpful thing - it was summer before I was a college sophomore and I was head over heels googly eyed at him at a party. One of the few things I’d known already about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:28 AM
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Here? (The little girl in me that’s still mad jealous I got shafted in the mom lottery would love to hang out with the little girl in you if you want - I can bring my My Little Ponies!💓)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:00 AM
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Can’t bring myself to upvote this so acknowledging instead 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:56 PM
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Oh yeah he reeeeaaaally is a good one - he fully “showed up” for her and really our entire family throughout all of last year while my mother very very slowly and horrifically died of an ashpole of an illness (of which she’d already been dying of when they first met), which clearly accelerated many important convos for them and also put all kinds of things into perspective, so in a weird way having the surgery was an important turning point for her because of how unfathomable it would’ve been to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:53 PM
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Ok so it wasn’t so much a compliment as it was a declarative description of a characteristic over which the woman in fact has little to no agency / control, but instead just IS (like “you have really long eyelashes” or “you have a great ass”) but c’mon don’t be such a bitch I meant it as a compliment so you sex on me now and no more talking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:05 PM
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Oh I really like the tangibility of this one!!! I love to cook and feeding others is a mega love language of mine - a dear mentor friend of mine had noticed long before I did that I’d fallen for a master concealer of NVM traits (AND he turned out also to be a flat earther too wtf?!?). When she mentioned this to me I was initially still in denial, until she said “would you rather cook for both of y’all or eat alone right now?” and I realized gulp yeah no I’d rather eat dry cereal alone sitting on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:56 PM
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Ok that actually gives me hope! (That that’s the top comment) Sigh Baby steps....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:45 PM
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Ugh ugh ugh. I worked in a perinatal support program for teen moms for many years and every time they’d tell me they gave baby the dad’s name my heart would just sink, and when they’d say EXACTLY what she said here “he says we’re getting married eventually so this will be easier” or worse “my friend told me if the baby has his name he’ll take care of it / love it / love me...” 😥 Nope. All lies. You are being used. He is NOT your best friend. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:44 PM
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lol I’m Bat[wo]man! 🤣 Lately our mantra to make it through the day has been to remind ourselves that we (my fiercely intelligent decent human genuine public servant colleagues and I) have been doing our job since long before it ever occurred to him to leave his Manhattan tower, and we will continue long after he finds himself another toxic squirrel to chase, so fear not, all will be well. But damn we’re so effing exhausted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:26 PM
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Yesssssssss!!!!! Oh darling sweet girl with so much ahead of you! I first met my now ex the summer after my first year of college - we were SO in love, fer realz, and / but my utter cluelessness about the male species was such a problem - though I know for damned sure that the scary dangerous terrible things at the end were not my fault, there are so many aspects of those early years that I would’ve navigated sooooooo differently had I understood any of what you’re so so so wise to be working to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:02 PM
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OMG that’s so beyond depressing 😥 Please tell me he at least said thank you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:54 PM
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Ohhhh darling! He needs to leave now. Then yes much therapy, but step 1 is he needs to no longer live in that house with you. Where he fires and how he gets there is neither your job nor responsibility. Before doing anything tho please be sure all of your finances are secure and he can’t get to anything, including your utilities - call each of them and ask them to add a secure password to your account that only you know so he can’t do anything to change your service (and if any of it is in his n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:53 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 You had me at “self-proclaimed biology expert” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:33 PM
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Aww thank you! Yes indeed doing so much better, now on the bright side of lots of a restraining order, a $70k divorce (truly ridiculous as we had NOTHING worth an actual divorce trial - at one point the judge even asked “wait WHY are we here?!”), lots of good therapy, and a bunch more yuck, but ya know... all good... There’s something remarkably powerful about being forced to confront seemingly insurmountable things - you come out the other side a hell of a lot more chill than you went in, that’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:31 PM
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The smart one is particularly problematic and bizarre when your day job implies / requires a relatively reliable level of intelligence / credibility / recognition as a leader in your field... One ex freaked out yelling at me one evening when I got home from work, he’d coincidentally stumbled upon an interview I’d done on NPR they I hadn’t told him about (Ummmm I’d been doing interviews ALL week and after his scoffing disdain response to my excitement at having been interviewed by NYT I’d decided…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:21 PM
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Right?!!! Mine literally growled as he lunged at me and said “I’ll spend the rest of my life making you regret this!” Ofc THAT was the first thing he ever put any substance effort into... Sigh (But he failed at that too, like he did and still does at EVERYTHING)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:16 PM
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Gotta say this makes me want to give extra shout out props to my daughter’s partner who has been incredible throughout her entire journey to having and now recovering from the surgery, I’ve been so grateful for her and also relieved and happy that they’ve found each other, but knowing that’s so uncommon for this surgery in particular makes me extra so❤️💓❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:26 PM
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OMG it’s 6 weeks before you can drive on your own! This poor woman needs an intervention😥 My daughter is now 3 mo post reduction surgery and though she does feel much better, she’s still not even wearing fully supportive / structured bras... Edited to add it feels so wrong to upvote this! lol Did the r/reduction ladies run him outta town???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:22 PM
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Is it acceptable to point out how clearly this describes this century’s biggest con man thus far who bragged about grabbing women by their pussy and commented on his then infant daughter’s sexy legs, and who also is the antithesis of bravery, who may or may not very soon have a different job? (Cuz he’s my boss and the toxic work environment he’s created is literally killing people and it’s not ok and I’m ready for him to leave - and I’ve worked for 4 of his predecessors and never felt this stron…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:18 AM
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Amen! Feel like that needs to be on a sticky note on my mirror! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:15 AM
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OMG this is so true it could be pinned at the top for daily review. Don’t do what I did and marry the troll after he was TWO HOURS late to pick me up at the AIRPORT half way across the country in the dark ages before cell phones! (And the only reason I was still there was because it was freaking FARGO ND - I’d flown there to visit him smh and my flight in was the last at the entire airport that day....) ugh ugh ugh So many more examples but seriously ladies - no matter what, big or little, if he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:12 AM
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Nothing to add just commiseration so very much get it - and I’m impressed and proud of you for standing your ground despite all that (made a less wise choice on Friday so have been spending entire rest of the weekend working really edging hard on forgiving myself WHILE chastising reminding myself just how bad a choice it was AND helping myself remember why that’s no good and not to do it again Blech. So yay good for you!!! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:46 AM
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Same! (As Summerisle7 said) I can’t even fathom a group setting I’d be in where that would be asked of me without creating a huge backlash towards the asker. What would I do? Probably I’d get up and leave, tbh. Ewwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:34 AM
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I’m laughing because the other day I got a whole bunch of compliments about my ass (versus half assed.. yes I’m tired!)... Like others said, more lack of effort than anything about you - they copy paste same message to all to see who will bite. Nope. I find these quite handy actually, because they’re a very efficient filtering tool - as soon as any generic or boring thing comes through, I block / unfollow / move on, next?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:32 AM
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He pressured you to try poly, cheated on you, teased you in front of your friends until you asked him to stop, doesn’t initiate sex, the sex is meh when it does happen, you feel like you can’t say anything right... Imagine a girlfriend were telling you about HER boyfriend and asking you what she should do... Also, I was floored when you got to the part about your age - I’m 46, and this relationship sounds like many of the sad depressing marriages my kids’ friends’ parents have because they’re ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:26 AM
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The universe gifted me this song just now in a podcast keeping my company while finishing yucky work, so I hereby pass it on to y’all too! Feminists Don’t Have a Sense of Humor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:02 AM
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Hmmmm.... upon further contemplation.... The discordance of these two population subgroups’ perceived v observed R2 is so robustly reliable as exemplary of true conceptual mutual exclusivity, the absence of key alpha characteristics could likely be used as efficient proxy measures in community-wide screening for current and/or future sigma affiliation risk....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:09 PM
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Imma say YES - being the cowardly NVM that he was, as soon as Daryl realized just how many neighbors had gathered, he’d chucked Theresa into the tall grass and literally flown the coop. Soon only a faint sparkle could be seen in the direction where he’d flown, thanks to the sun reflecting off of the tracking tag that ugly giant featherless flightless bird had forced onto his leg so many years ago. Finally Theresa emerged from the tall grass, her feathers ruffled but not broken. For a second she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:27 AM
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Ha! Sounds like Theresa got it then just in time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:23 PM
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Maybe it’s just me but something there just doesn’t add up... [deep cut math pun gift for the quantitatively inclined among us 🥰]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:54 PM
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ESPECIALLY given the very real risk of ending up literally completely numb or worse - the only variation on surgery on the most intimate magical part of a body that can come even close to being worth potentially losing all sensation is gender reassignment bottom surgery. A “pretty” but numb set of labia though would be the cruelest and saddest outcome of all. Like a torturous life long reminder of a horribly misguided decision. 😳😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:09 PM
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“On the contrary Mr. Darcy; the mode of your declaration merely spared me any concern I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanly manner...” Mmmhmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:44 PM
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Love her transparency!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:31 PM
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It seems so freaking simple but because one of my lifelong struggles is figuring out balance because the majority of my energy in and outside of work is dedicated to helping, caring for, and serving others, it took a LOT of time and real work peeling back and repurposing so many onion layers to finally prioritize demonstrating to myself and others that I value myself and my body enough to actually do things that are good for me, like.... I’m finally now running outside at least every other day (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:29 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words! And yes indeed, my daughter(s and son) and I are alllllll good now - bizarrely amazing at this point, honestly, to remember how terrifying and dark those times were, and be even more grateful that’s long past these many years later. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:29 PM
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Totally agree!!! Just to clarify, I was meaning to say that the use of “boy” as a derogation of a grown man helps no one, as it implies that BEING a boy (ie a juvenile male human) is inherently bad, which is unhelpful. I’m a mama of two girls and a boy, thankfully, all 3 of my kids have made it close to or into adulthood as kind functional compassionate non-predatory humans. In raising my son in particular, though, I was unnerved by how incredibly hard it is to help teeny tiny boy babies make it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:40 PM
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And double extra layer of toxicity here is the subconscious perpetuation of “boy” = “lame/weak/pitiful/bad” which undermines the honor and value and development of actual boys who have the very tough task of growing up to be contributing adult members of society, which in turn ultimately harms all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:39 PM
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Literally the only time I notice any man while exercising is involuntarily and lowkey against my will, like gahhhh his everything is RIGHT THERE no thank you go away or goddamnit how come he gets to take off his shirt and force us to see his nasty sweaty hairy fleshy moobs but if I take off mine it’s literally a punishable crime?! Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:33 PM
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Gaaaaaaah! Their comments gaaaaah! There are now several women-only gyms in my city - I’m so conflicted about the proliferation of them - on the one hand yay glad women who want to go to a gym have a safe space but on the other good grief in the big picture this really doesn’t help move the needle, so to speak.... And yes I’m extra super duper conflicted in part because of having grappled with this solution all the way back to before I became a fellow alumna to Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, Jul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:30 PM
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I’ve been really struck over the years by the mutual exclusivity of courage/bravery/integrity and cowardice/manipulation/abusiveness - in other words, it really seems to be dichotomous - people (men and women) only fall into one or the other of those clusters and have a really really really hard time wrapping their heads around the other. For example, my dad very very very much is the former (courage/bravery/integrity). We’re very very close, and when I finally had to break it to my parents that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:51 PM
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And really, if a guy says “don’t post pics of ____ online.” dump him immediately.🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 It is neither normal nor healthy nor ok for a guy to expect to be able to tell you what to do and/or make decisions about your social media presence or activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:15 PM
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An lest you forget, you’re all good, he’s likely to tell you in excruciating detail how very crazy psychotic terrible [he says] she was and then recount to you every single [supposedly] irrational and terrible thing she did to him [which he will Aldi claim he played no role whatsoever in bringing about]...poor thing.... Dated one who had so freaking much potential (ugh was so frustrating!) that was perpetually overshadowed by his inability to get over the [ironically likely true] fact that his e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:24 PM
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Ugh that’s exactly what I was wondering and suspecting was the case (commenters effectively agreeing with her husband). Also her poor son! I was married to this for far too long (in large part because I rationalized away flags like these, telling myself “I’m a very intelligent outspoken hard-core feminist who built her entire career on empowering women and tearing down misogyny in health care systems! I went to a name brand WOMEN’S COLLEGE for Pete’s sake! Only stupid weak fragile vapid uninform…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:48 PM
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