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Most fat people know that becoming toned will likely increase their looks, but like.. they don't wanna? They are hoping to be loved for who they are, and who they are is fat. Maybe a little poor, too. They are looking for ways to attract people to whom it doesn't matter that they are fat and poor. I think this depends on the person. A lot of people have unrealistic standards and expect a beautiful partner when they themselves are unattractive physically. There's lots of fat people who won't go o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:16 PM
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I agree with your assessment that the redpill worldview can easily lead to a lack of trust in women. It’s hard to build a life with someone you see only as an egotistical opportunist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:21 PM
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That’s one thing that caused me to question his stuff, is that I don’t see actual studies being mentioned. For example, studies show that married men are happier and healthier than single men, yet he heavily advises against marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:19 PM
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From what I heard of his stuff he seemed to say often that men should improve themselves economically. His advice doesn’t seem super different than mainstream advice just with that redpill layer on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:18 PM
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I think love is an important factor in relationships. It really is real and normal people fall in love all the time. The problem comes with thinking that love can cover everything, that if you become unemployed, overweight, stop having sex and become an asshole then love will magically keep you together. At that point love seems more like codependence. There are plenty of people who do stay together through thick and thin, but it’s clear that becoming unattractive from an economic or other view …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:12 PM
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Different strokes for different folks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:23 PM
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I agree with this. The Redpill community also talks about how women date up significantly for status, when in reality most people date the same class as themselves. Lawyers date other white collar professionals usually, not cashiers and janitors. The rich date the rich, people in trailer parks date other people in trailer parks. Most people date people who are similar to them. It's only in extremely patriarchal cultures where men marry significantly younger women usually, and this is almost enti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:13 PM
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I can only speak for myself, but I was extremely horny all the time as a teenager. Couldn’t wear sweatpants, even masturbated on the bus ride home because I was the last one off the bus. Was horny for every girl in my grade. I think a large segment of guys can barely concentrate on anything but sex as teenagers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:59 AM
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The girl I’m seeing is pretty Type A, she’s a law student and is very ambitious. She tended to talk more and I listened more when we first met, but it’s evened out now. She has said she likes that she can totally be herself with me and that I won’t judge her. Also, she liked that I didn’t get intimidated by her. She likes to switch off of her career mindset when we are alone and be more relaxed. I might be quieter and less ambitious than her, but I can hold my own in a conversation and am confid…
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:39 AM
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Personally I’m 32 and have decided not to have kids. I’m back in school for a new degree and am nowhere near being able to support a family. Plus I think the negatives of kids outweigh the positives. I wouldn’t mind getting married though. Perhaps with the woman I’m seeing if things progress to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:45 PM
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I think women who were more popular tended to also be focused on looking good. I didn’t see a lot of super popular obese girls in high school, for example. Think “Mean Girls” where the popular clique is a extremely superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 09:02 PM
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Really depends on the woman
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:59 PM
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I think if she’s someone you could really see a future with, the conversation should be relatively easy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:57 PM
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I can only speak for the male perspective, but texting and communicating more is usually better. If you play it cool and wait a while she’ll either get bored or think you don’t like her. I used to play it cool with texting and I ended up getting ghosted a lot. I found a lot more success with frequently texting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:56 PM
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Yeah back in the early 2010s when red pill thought was getting popular I remember hearing that women are “the oldest teenager in the house”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:04 AM
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Zuck seems robotic, but Elon acts like an embarrassing 13-year old. I think Zuckerberg is far more mature
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:38 AM
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I’ve never had much success making them wait, I’ve had more success texting frequently
/r/seduction28/04/24 08:04 PM
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That’s not what studies show. Sonja Lyubimirsky’s work shows that extroverted behaviour has the same positive effect even with strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:32 PM
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It depends on what you mean by “feminist”. I doubt believing in women’s suffrage and being pro-choice cripple men’s chances at dating
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:51 AM
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Is it that surprising that people date people of a certain culture or professional attainment? Most male doctors don’t marry female cashiers, most homeless druggies date other homeless druggies, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:49 AM
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I’ve heard that too, and I get why guys say to not seem overly eager. I’m just saying the opposite has worked for me, and anecdotally for my friends as well. Particularly if you want a relationship rather than a one night stand. I think, in hindsight, there’s a few women where I would have had more success if I texted them more.
/r/seduction26/04/24 06:24 PM
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The advice not to text hasn’t worked at all for me, I started texting more and now have been seeing a girl for a couple months. I think generally women want someone who shows a lot of interest. Using text only for setting dates imo makes them think you aren’t interested so they pull away.
/r/seduction26/04/24 05:27 PM
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Studies show that being nostalgic makes people happier, gives them a sense of purpose and even can make you feel physically warmer
/r/seduction24/04/24 10:35 PM
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I’ve found that Hinge is the best dating app for the dating struggles that men go through because you are allowed to message women you don’t match with. I’ve heard mixed things but my current relationship was gotten from a Hinge date. I had to message a lot of women and go on a lot of dates to get here though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:37 AM
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I think most mature women want an equal, at the very least. Not a super fragile soft guy that they have to constantly do everything for. Some women want to totally be dominated and submissive in everything, but I personally find that kind of woman to not be my type. I like someone I can poke fun at and test a bit, somebody who is really an equal. I think that’s what a lot of women want as well. Someone you can banter with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:46 PM
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It depends on her personality, but I think if she likes you she’ll want to hear from you more. If she’s on the fence then it might be annoying for her. I guess if you’re worried about looking too available you could wait a bit before you respond, but honestly I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Once again, if she likes you then she’ll make it easy, if she doesn’t then she won’t
/r/seduction10/04/24 02:21 PM
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I don’t think every relationship needs to last for a really long time, but I do have some fascination with the couples who have been together for decades with a healthy love and sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:23 AM
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I got a lot more success when I took the advice to text more rather than less
/r/seduction07/04/24 08:54 PM
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Ask them out on a date, they’ll know you have romantic intent at that point. Then you can start with a kiss, either at the end of the first or second date. If you’re nervous you can ask them, although it’s better to go for one without asking. It can be hard to know for sure, but if she’s agreed to a second date then you can assume she’s usually pretty okay with a kiss.
/r/seduction07/04/24 04:42 AM
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I mean, if I spent as much time with a friend as my partner I would want there to be more excitement and variety in what we do. If they never wanted to go out for supper, to bars, parties, and concerts I’d probably get a bit bored.
/r/seduction24/03/24 02:40 PM
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This advice IMO has not worked in my experience. I’ve done much better texting more rather than less
/r/seduction21/03/24 04:11 AM
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The girl I’m currently dating is really ambitious and a natural speaker, which I feel meshes well with me because I’m more of a listener.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 10:18 PM
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Yes nuance is important, but personally if she’s not giving me much before the first date then it’s probably not gonna get better. That’s what I’ve experienced.
/r/seduction19/03/24 04:03 AM
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I don’t like good morning texts, but I’ve had a lot more success texting more rather than less
/r/seduction19/03/24 03:48 AM
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Im 32. I’m not into casual dating and just went on a fourth date with a woman. I’m more interested in a long term relationship. I don’t think age itself helped me any, but I think I’m a much better partner now and have gained a lot of skill in dating and talking to women. The biggest thing I’ve learned is to be much more present now. If I like a woman than I will text her a lot instead of playing it cool. I used to follow the advice to only use texting to set up dates but I don’t think most wome…
/r/seduction18/03/24 10:58 PM
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Then maybe your 40s will be better
/r/seduction16/02/24 04:53 AM
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Human beings are the most complicated thing in the universe, it definitely is not simple
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:33 AM
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When you take a look at the last 10k years of human history, being an asshole seems like an effective strategy sometimes. Genghis Khan, Alexander the Great, etc. the history of this world was written quite often by bloodthirsty warlords. Not to mention the ever present threat of rape. Being sexually aggressive probably got passed on very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:25 AM
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Even if 1% of men are attracted to fat women, that’s millions and millions of men. I’m personally not, but they are certainly out there
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:58 PM
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I’ve heard, “if she likes you, you’ll know. If she doesn’t, you’ll be confused”. The last girl I went on 4 dates with ended up being very confusing, so I think she wasn’t that interested.
/r/seduction21/01/24 05:43 PM
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I’d like to lose 20 pounds and focus on getting a better job. Relationships aren’t as important to me, but I’ll probably keep going on dates this year and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:04 PM
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I didn’t mind doing it at more social places like a bar. I got a number from a girl at a bar once. I also tried approaching at a mall, and had pretty bad results. I think the success goes up when you choose a more naturally social location like a bar or concert
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:03 PM
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I didn’t do it much, but I didn’t have any success and it felt very sleazy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:36 AM
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From what I’ve read government initiatives don’t seem to do much of anything to help the falling birth rates. Kid-friendly spaces and cheaper daycare is good for parents though, even if it won’t help with increasing the birth rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:37 AM
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There’s no shortage of guys out there who would date an ugly or obese woman…these guys might not be the pick of the litter though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:11 AM
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Older music was less overt than nowadays, you must admit that. They had to kind of hide the language. WAP couldn’t exist in the 70s. You’d have something more like Ring my Bell by Anita Ward
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:05 PM
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You’re right that the fleeting romances don’t need to be seen as some kind of failure. There’s a season to most relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:41 AM
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Have you tried therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:07 PM
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It depends on the person I guess. I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life. I guess I use food as a stress reliever
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:22 PM
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Even as a pretty normie guy, I’ve kind of given up on the idea of meeting my soul mate or something. I think most relationships have an expiry date, unless you end up in a super long marriage like my parents. But I think for a lot of those long marriages they let themselves go and the sex goes out the window. I think I might just try to have girlfriends that last a couple years or something. I think lifelong monogamy is a bit of a stretch, and I don’t want kids anyway so that’s not needed to rai…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:39 PM
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Losing weight is as hard as quitting smoking for most people. Except you don’t need smokes to live and can’t go cold Turkey with quitting food
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:00 AM
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I largely agree with your first two points but differ on #3. A victim complex is not confined only to women, it pops up just as often with men. There’s no shortage of angry, isolated men out there with chips on their shoulder looking to blame others and society. YouTube, Facebook, Reddit, Twitter: throw a rock and you’ll hit an angry young man that thinks he’s been marginalized and that the world is out to get him. I know it’s on this sub, and probably happens in this very thread. People love be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:51 PM
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I do think that society shouldn’t assume women are solely victims either, although it’s complicated and I don’t think society can only focus on one problem at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 12:09 AM
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I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, I just don’t think most women are beating their partners. That’s pretty reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 05:12 PM
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That’s all good info and definitely goes against a mainstream narrative. I just don’t think percentage-wise the majority of people are in violent relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:40 PM
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I doubt a significant percentage of men will opt out of dating. The alternative is no hint of even sex or intimacy and I’d wager most guys will put up with the bullshit if the alternative is being a eunuch monk
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:27 AM
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Most women? How out of touch are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:05 AM
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I don’t think this is much of a real issue in the real world. If you wanted to, you could easily find spaces to relate with other men. Men’s sports leagues for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:37 PM
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Calling someone an incel refers more to assumed misogyny rather than virginity. I don’t think most who use the insult are trying to insult virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:02 AM
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I think out in the real world women aren’t automatically seen as valuable all the time, at least outside of dating. If they have social problems they get shunned or called a bitch. If a woman wants acceptance, she has to bring social value to the people around her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:12 PM
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I’m center-left from a Canadian perspective. I’m more of a blue piller, but generally think that men have to do a lot more heavy lifting when it comes to getting dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:42 AM
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Most social skills require putting yourself in uncomfortable situations so you can adapt and grow and figure out how to act. Even for neurotypical people it requires a lot of time and effort in a wide variety of situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:18 AM
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Check out your local Buddhist center they might have info for you, there are also monk cloisters you can travel and join
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:35 PM
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I’m not sure what his sexual background was, he might have been a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:22 PM
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I think just some people seem to think of you are gay it doesn’t matter what you look like you can have sex constantly, I just don’t think the reality is quite that simple. I’ve also had gay men express interest in me, I don’t think women are generally as upfront about finding guys attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:57 PM
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That’s what I always thought, but my friend said he didn’t have much success possibly because he was a short, overweight Filipino. Gay men can be really superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:15 PM
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I had a gay friend who said he had a lot of trouble dating. I don’t think dating is easier for gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:04 PM
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I think you are mostly right. Almost everyone should have the opportunity to pair up, it’s so hardwired in us. At the same time I don’t think it’s healthy to rely too heavily on biological imperatives for the meaning of a person’s life. I don’t want kids, for instance. There are different paths for different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:31 PM
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I think most people do need it to some extent, although I listen to a Buddhist monk named Ajahn Brahm. Monks are celibate and yet are some of the happiest people on Earth. Not saying everyone can be on the level of a monk, but I think a lot of people can cultivate a sense of happiness and contentment outside of a normal relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:48 AM
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I think the point is that you find happiness outside the struggle of meeting a woman, not that it’s effective for getting them. I haven’t personally found more success with women through my journey of self acceptance, although I am happier
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 03:28 AM
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But do you need a partner to live a socially vibrant life? I don’t think everyone needs one, but you do need relationships to fill that gap
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:52 AM
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Have you ever been overweight? Losing weight is doable, but hard and takes a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:52 AM
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Well put. Women who are overweight and have the “apple” body shape are less attractive. Having a thick butt, hips, and boobs can be very attractive. It really depends on where a woman distributes fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:13 PM
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Most guys wouldn’t be hit on to the degree women are, so it would be a different situation if it was a male cashier. Especially being hit on by a hot young girl. Even when I was at my most attractive I think I only got openly flirted with maybe a handful of times. And when you add in that men are bigger, stronger, and more violent generally I’d get why women would be annoyed. That being said, I have flirted with cashiers before. It’s never worked for me though, I think 99% of the time they are j…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:52 PM
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I don’t know about that. I was in a relationship for 11 years and I’m pretty hesitant to get back into another relationship. Once you’ve been burned by love, it’s hard to do the whole thing again. The first cut is the deepest, an’ all that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:36 AM
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Someone else said “is the juice worth the squeeze?” Which is a good way to put it. Is all of this effort and time worth it for a payoff? I dunno, lately it doesn’t seem like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:06 AM
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I can understand this. At some point it’s easier just being single and all the bs that comes with dating seems like so much work for little payoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:52 PM
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I can see your point. I was with a long term girlfriend during those years and we didn’t work out. People do change, so perhaps what happens later is more real and substantial even if there are less opportunities to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:47 PM
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I’m currently looking for a job that will give me access to a wider network so maybe that will be beneficial for me later. I could also look into joining a class or something, maybe that would help.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:26 AM
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That sounds similar to me, I always could get along with girls rather easily. I think I also had the cajones to actually put myself out there and respectfully ask a girl if she wanted to go on a date. Then again this was back in the late 2000s, it was a different time and maybe Gen Z faces challenges now with the rise of social media and dating apps. We didn’t really have apps until university.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:24 AM
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Have you ever met someone in one of your classes who you find interesting? You can just ask them to hang out or go get a drink or something. I’m sure lots of people are throwing parties, so if you get to know people you can kind of find out where these parties are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:09 AM
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I found it easier to “run game” on a girl in a mutual setting like school. My first girlfriend, I would deliberately plan out ways to talk to her in class, like building up the courage to ask if she had extra paper or something. I feel like the long game works best for getting to know someone and build a relationship rather than dating apps where everything is so pressurized and you have to make a decision immediately. I think I am a good conversationalist and a bit of a charmer but it hasn’t se…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:07 AM
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It’s hard not to be pessimistic after so much failure on the dating market lol I have come to terms with being single potentially permanently, but would like to keep an open mind to the future. Of all the dates I went on, the vast majority I was willing to pursue a relationship with, but they weren’t interested. I’m more or less focused on getting fitter and just living my life. For the most part being single isn’t that bad, I have a lot of friends and family even if relationships don’t work out…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 04:09 AM
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I’ve tried a cold-cold approach like at the mall, but it felt sleazy and I didn’t have any success. I only did it about 5 times though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:51 AM
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I think this is part of it. People in general tend to become more confident with age. Especially in dating, when men in their 30s probably have a lot of experience by that time period
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:11 PM
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You’re extremely young, don’t have such a failure mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:44 PM
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Historically we were most likely to be killed by other humans and yes like you said we lived in tiny tribes. For most of human existence you’d only interact with the 30-40 other people in your band instead of constantly interacting with strangers in modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:06 PM
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I don’t think that’s a charitable interpretation of what they were saying. They were saying that even if young men didn’t exist that they’d still be harassed by older men
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:00 PM
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Cold approaching like that reminds me of door to door sales. I’ve done both and they both have a sleazy vibe to them. You’re bothering 100 people just to maybe get something from 1 of them. It takes a particular type of person to do that, get rejected so often and still see the value in doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:59 PM
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Sex doesn’t magically change a persons value. If you’re religious or something it might be an issue but there’s not really a difference between 10 and 100 partners other than a person probably not wanting monogamy as much or possibly having risky sex. I also don’t think being a virgin magically changes a woman’s dating market value either. This sounds like a personal preference you are trying to make into a universal rule
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:24 AM
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As Phil Collins said “a man’s only as good as his options”. Famous men get hit on a lot, and shockingly they are more likely to leave their spouse and get divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:32 AM
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Life expectancy in the US has actually dropped in the last 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:43 AM
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Work is part of the human condition. An active, normal woman does a lot of stuff that may equate with being a SAHM or she might want to try out other things like hobbies, or a career. Women by and large aren’t as aggressive and single minded as men, doesn’t mean they don’t want autonomy. What’s your line of work?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 07:16 AM
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It makes sense why women want to work, like men they want fulfillment and autonomy that comes with ownership of their lives. You can get that through being a SAHM but only if the woman feels that child rearing gives her total fulfillment. It’s not surprising why many women want to get into jobs and careers if you accept that they are similar to men in wanting a path, status, autonomy, growth, rewards, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 08:29 PM
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The craziness of life really has no end when you start to look at it deeply. Once you get curious about life it’s like a ball of yarn you can’t help but pull on the string. Think about any domain of human existence, music, sports, movies, history, science, philosophy, religion...you could go crazy trying to find all the answers but seek out the truth of everything and you’ll never be satisfied
/r/seduction01/12/20 08:00 AM
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