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I believe some redpill advice is good for checking ourselves when we have “lists” for the other person. But we still need to be extremely discerning in dealings with others. Redpill IMO is NOT a complete philosophy and can make women codependent tools if they have nothing higher than this going on. You are a powerful being. Where are you giving your power away to users and abusers, and what is the best decision for you and your kids? Is this person really on board with you or not? Women upliftin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:02 AM
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No. That’s not MY definition. The reality, plenty of successful men in their immature era will dm women on Instagram etc for flings and hookups when they are not serious. Many will “grow up” and be too focused on building with their actually family. Many will never grow up. But if you let an immature man play with you, you must take responsibility.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:09 PM
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I think it really is about balance and health. A woman with low standards on sharing her body should explore deeper and do better for HERSELF first. In general a man inquiring about or commenting or even using the term “body count” in the early stages is already objectifying women and possibly shit testing and trying to find how he can “shame” her or control her or challenge her self-esteem down to whatever his is. All I know is the elite women I met are not obsessive about this at all and usual…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:02 PM
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This is true. But you DONT want to be the DM girl. The girl that men want in PRIVATE but never admit therefore never marry. You never meet their family.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 06:55 PM
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BINGO!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 06:53 PM
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This is how emotional affairs start. With everyone only seeing the best parts the other wants to show. Meanwhile wife knows the real story!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 07:55 PM
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He spent his money on what was important to him but made you pay for both of you. Male behavior says everything…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 01:37 AM
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It also shows how some people still think of service workers as people… You are doing the theatrics for “peers” but don’t care that the waiter or waitress or other staff can tell. Their opinion doesn’t matter? I am a harsh judge of men. Possibly too harsh at times. But in truth. I am protective of women. There are women who deceive themselves into building up men who are using them. This is where the stigma comes from. Because men especially know how other men operate when they don’t have seriou…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 01:35 AM
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I disagree the server will not care. Depending where you go a man giving a waitress a card with a woman’s name could be flagged for fraud by management and lead to an even more embarrassing situation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 10:54 PM
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Lol. Does he think the waitress can’t read the name on the card and the receipt? Or is he just fronting for all the other customers. Men KNOW they are judged for not paying. I remember I was hanging out with a “male friend” back when I believed that that was a thing. He paid for lunch so I offered to pay to go to a Muesem. The lady at the Cash register just shook her head sighed and gave us a promo. You better believe people notice even when they don’t say anything though. Is she going to offer …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 10:51 PM
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People are saying pickme is not a thing. It is. It is a desperate to be noticed woman who bends over backwards, usually puts on an act, usually puts down other women to look special/different Than the others, usually offers all her services such as cleaning and sex before she even is married or atleast engaged. This attracts predators and men who plan to run her ragged for her job money and domestic labor. She puts up with low level men’s manipulation to “keep her on a leash”. The man may marry …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 03:52 PM
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You are not a pickme if you don’t take abuse and maintain high standards on not only yourself but also the man in his own role.* As long as your softness is truthful and not an act and he really feels like an improvement to your soft life then it should be confirmation. But if there is a true hint of manipulation as if he is planning to turn your softness into a doormat, read between the lines. The redpill for women is not just about having high standards for self but also the man or walk.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 03:36 PM
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It’s never an even partnership when women still work a job And bare the kids AND do the house cleaning AND babysit the kids AND majority of cooking. Men routinely outsource their share of the labor to landscapers, mechanics, and plummers. But if a woman wants a maid or babysitter just to have time off suddenly she is being ridiculous, suddenly there is no money for that. No men are being ridiculous expecting women to work AND rear kids. In many countries this is NOT NORMAL. For example since you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:05 PM
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Women enjoy sex if her husband did everything else right. Make her live an overstressed, over worked life? Sorry too tired, not interested. And no woman enjoys childbirth. She might love her child. But few women enjoy being sick for 9 months, labor pains for hours to a day. Healing ripped open wounds for 6weeks or sometimes over a year, dealing with greater risks for uterine prolapse due to childbirth. Having to deal with milk at work. But that NEVER stops men from using men from fufilling their…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 10:06 PM
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Hi, I’m in the west but looking at other cultures where I feel more in alignment. I am only interested in providers. And I don’t want kids either. Period. May I ask what culture you are from or region of the world?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 09:31 PM
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If you have to convince or make someone promise they will have a kid, that is a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 09:26 PM
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Gold star!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 09:23 PM
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Or someone else’s body to “fulfill your needs” “whiteknight”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:59 PM
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Depends on the culture. In Muslim countries or Muslim American families from Asia, the Middle East or Africa (a large portion of the world), “the husbands money is for the family and the wife’s money is her own.” Is the standard. Essentially what it actually means is that the men are religiously required to provide the BASICS for their family (home food insurance necessities) and then he has met his duty. His wife’s money is her money for extras (designer clothes if her husband’s budget isn’t de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:57 PM
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As a black woman I agree we do need some of this ideology about bettering OURSELVES in ways that are relevant to dating traditional men who don’t need us out in corporate all day. I don’t agree with everything in the redpill culture but It’s one of the only spaces where traditional relationships are valued. This is how liberals create a false monolith image among minorities. I noticed years ago that black women seemed to be “marketed” as girlfriends on discount to men who are not ready to be pro…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 07:55 PM
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This is where I will say you need to grow SPIRITUALLY. Only from a spiritual balance and sense of Real TRUTH can you assess what perceptions of you are true vs their own projections and issues. You don’t have to be religious but you do need a spiritual practice until the understanding is inside of you. “Behavior Modification” is a lie. People in truth can see straight true that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 05:58 PM
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Pay attention more to what he actually accepts help for. Consistency there may go further.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 07:58 PM
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Assess your situation. Listen to your inner voice. A man with a drug habit especially has already has lost the positioning to be right all the time. Is he leading or is it the addiction? If he improved and you feel it is best to stay, stay. If not, assess what needs to be done. Never listen to someone else over your own inner voice. And that includes redditors like me. You won’t always agree with your spouse. But you should be in sync most of the time. Also, do not assume you are wrong for passi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 01:09 AM
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I’m talking bout qualities. Success with money is just one quality. He showed her many times they were not equally yoked.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 10:39 PM
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I would say nature took it’s course and they broke up as as needed, vows or not. We are supposed to have wedding vows but we are also supposed to be equally yoked. Otherwise the marriage falls apart. It’s not about “needed to win”. That is a different issue I was talking about. The issue I am talking about is the constant training of brilliant women to pretend to be less brilliant, skilled women pretend to be less skilled, great golf players intentionally missing shots so that men feel comfortab…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 04:00 PM
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Why did you not allow him to buy you a home? Perhaps the issue was less you emasculating him and more that you needed a partner who was on your level or higher. It will show eventually when you are with a guy whose judgement you don’t trust… for good reason. Esmasculation is still no excuse to cheat. Now if you were rude and disrespectful that is different. But the culture of women letting men win at games when she’s clearly a better player is toxic and it will lead to toxic relationships at wor…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 03:37 PM
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Looking at every “independent woman” in my mother’s generation and realizing that 80% of “career women” cannot afford to divorce they are STILL dependent but like to think of themselves as independent. Their lives just got harder. They are super stressed and out of shape and short on patience. The house wife is the happiest woman. Even if she wants to start a business at home she can do it her way. A corporation will never give you the space to be Queen, unless you own it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 03:22 PM
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Thank you. You get it!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:39 PM
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This is so true!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:37 PM
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Thank you I like this wording and will be incorporating some of it for my unique profile
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:36 PM
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Thank you and this is my exact issue. Loads of dudes want their women to work AND be traditional. In general I prefer they make the first move because if women do in general I have seen them get a big head over it and take her for granted. But I will consider this!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:36 PM
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Thank you good advice on wording!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:34 PM
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I already know this and this is not my concern. THANKS.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:33 PM
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This is an overlooked part. However it depends. Some families won’t look down on a secretary girlfriend if the family is full of lawyers and doctors in the women and men, some will. But if that is their value then they definitely aren’t interested in someone working retail unless maybe you own the shop. But then you wouldn’t be a SAHW.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 04:59 PM
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California men have this exact mindset. They expect to go 50/50z however, it is also extremely expensive out here. In general I believe there is an agenda to make the country as a whole ridiculously expensive to keep labor productive and earn tax revenue.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 04:57 PM
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The “got a woman pregnant” in 3 months seems like a red flag. Couples routinely put on a face for others. But you know more than I do so your assessment seems fair enough.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 01:38 AM
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Lol okay. Lost in Babylon.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 12:03 AM
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Many women don’t hit menopause until 50’s. And yes, you CAN get pregnant during “menopause” without it being a miracle. Women especially need to know that so that they don’t believe the hype and get pregnant at 50 if that’s not what they want. Also there is ALWAYS risk in child birth. Child birth is dangerous PERIOD.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 11:31 PM
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I will rephrase that last statement for clarity for you … “HE was ready to start dating HER right away.” Own up where you were not operating in a healthy way, draw the line in the sand, become a new person and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 11:27 PM
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Truth!!!! It takes ALOT for the average man to request a divorce or even “be mutual”.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 11:00 PM
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Exactly on so many points. I would just add, don’t just respect his decision, RESPECT YOURSELF.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:59 PM
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It is less about she is younger. They have the same interests and are probably interpersonally well yoked. Whether that relationship is fully healthy either is now their burden to bear, not the OP’s. She needs to focus on straightening herself out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:51 PM
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He was already wanting to leave. And probably was cheating if he didn’t bother to defend himself. That or this was the last straw in a long line of antagonizations by the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:48 PM
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Fertility rates are low past 35 because historically western women already had 3-14 by then and were either done or aching with problems FROM CHILDBIRTH. Women in developing countries that have not been programmed with the lie that fertility falls off a cliff at 30, have children in their well into their 50s and 60s without special intervention. Do YOU want kids that late is another story though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:24 PM
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I disagree she can’t find another provider, but she needs to work on herself ALOT internally in addition to being able to provide for herself even if just very part time so she is taken care of.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:20 PM
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You dodged a bullet!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:14 PM
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This is true. Many people grew up with toxic parents but assumed since they put up with each other for so long and they have careers that nothing must be wrong with their parents. But we don’t always want to model after our parents.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 09:38 PM
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It sounds like you have blocks against believing that you can be in a truely equal relationship. Therefore you are always looking for men you can fix and men you perceive as weak instead of strong. You either don’t trust strong men or fear your own lack of leverage and there for need to be able to have leverage over him in some otherway. This weaponize the relationship. Hence the controlling ness. I have seen this in men and women and they never get the relationship they want while they operate …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 09:34 PM
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Ask your heart how it really feels and what it REALLY wants.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 08:53 PM
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Isn’t it amazing realizing the difference between “love” and “attachment” and also how clarifying dating for marriage is as opposed to just dating and being together outside of convenience?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 01:49 AM
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Part of it sounds like depression. The other part sounds like you are tapping into your inner fierce feminine, getting shit done, and moving on. We have different seasons in our lives. Women without a partner are forced to look out for themselves and that makes you more martial. So staying in safe spaces where you can relax and be yourself will help you tap into the fun/ receptive side. Your right partner will fit you like a glove regardless. Be who you are supposed to be now and don’t hold back…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:52 AM
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Meditate and focus on becoming balanced and not a stereotype of femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 03:00 AM
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You should put energy into being your own unique good person as best you can. Let those who gravitate towards you do so and visa versa. We are not going to please everyone even if we were to try. Grow yourself. Get to the top of the hierarchy of needs and allow your true relationships to appear. It’s about reciprocity not people pleasing.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 05:31 PM
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Why be combative when walking away paints the point much better. No crazy making.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 02:18 AM
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Is he an Aires by chance? I notice despicable gutter language from too many Aires men. Everything about a woman seems to go down to “butt and boobs” as one unaffectionately said. Anyway, if he is willing to go to counseling maybe consider that. It is NOT okay to talk to you like you are just a cow being used to breed. Otherwise, know where your line is and what you are willing to do about it. Do not backtrack even once once the line is set otherwise he really will not respect you then.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 02:17 AM
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Exactly it IS NOT A RACE. Women don’t have to be sexual candy for men who aren’t serious from 16-marriage. It’s okay to not entertain men who aren’t serious and clearly are not putting in effort. Also imagining him in your space! Oh that one!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 02:08 AM
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You shouldn’t be putting energy into “making people/men like you”. Who are you, what do you like to do? Are you living your life to the fullest? Do you like you? Do you feel at home regardless where you are and who you are around. No one wants a mate who is a ton of work to maintain. Women who get into those relationships end up slaves or divorcing. You put the work in to branch out once you realize what types of people actually attract you and then become match for that. Essentially you should …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 02:05 AM
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I love the idea in investing in excitement to experience together. Kill two birds in ones stone (dopamine and oxytocin). It forces us to ask who are we authentically? What do we want to experience? Who is truly equally yoked to that. Then go explore!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 12:59 AM
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Mental diet. Stop watching tv, dramatic romances , and pop music while learning about healthy relationships and only focus on images of that. Look up content by LMFT’s and couples counselors. At first it will seem boring. But you can undo your family bullshit programing. Then peace will elevate you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 12:55 AM
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Thank you for this suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 09:20 PM
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Now there’s an idea I didn’t look into!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 09:20 PM
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I don’t really know much about Orange County. The areas I have been to don’t seem laid back at all. Very status hungry. Granted this area has some of the highest incomes in the nation. I would love to know more about the moderate, artistic, and alternatively spiritual parts of Orange County though.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 09:20 PM
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The New Age movement became synonymous with far-right groups and forums. The new age was actually started by privileged (wealthy and elitist) white Americans and Europeans who mixed Asian traditions with their own and simplified it for the masses. All which were inherently conservative. Liberals came in and distorted the New Age for their agendas just like they distorted Christianity and Bible to support their worldly politics. There’s some good things in the New Age but I do tap out at a certai…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 05:23 AM
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Women’s idea of top male are very subjective and often completely different from what men think. Men automatically think Billionaire, muscular, six pack, aged like wine, and then lastly maybe a nice person. Women’s lists may not even include billionaires but the top qualities and ability to provide how she herself was raised. What she finds physically attractive will be after personality and income. But all things are subjective. Women’s priorities are usually staunchly different from men’s in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:36 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 12:28 AM
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I’m not sure why you were down voted. I do agree with some points. Conservatives don’t get into the “high vibe” stuff but many redpill women and men are Christian which in the truth of it ABSOLUTELY IS high vibe. But most would not describe it that way and I can understand how that would be off putting to staunch conservatives, lol. I want a moderate with some conservative leanings. I do not care who my neighbor marries or what they do in their house if they are consenting adults. How I live my …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 12:14 AM
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She only wants to marry one. It’s men who like to fantasize about being with a bunch of people, so the thought sounds way more stressful to men because if you want to nail 50 women before marriage you need an even wider net than 50 just to nail 50. The nail for women is marriage. We only really want to nail one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:05 AM
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Thank you for your suggestion. I know nothing about Minneapolis, but I will add it to my list to research!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 06:33 PM
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Notice the women they bring on these “manosphere” shows. Always trashy, nearly no clothes on, nothing great to say about themselves, low intellectual ability, easy targets to decimate to make their low esteem audience feel better about not even being able to get them in real life for a hit and quit, lol. Let alone wife material.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:57 PM
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He will say he didn’t traffic anyone. It’s likely he did with the boyfriend scam which is a thing in human trafficking. But even if he didn’t. Pimping women for x-rated chats and Christianity do not mix.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:55 PM
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I agree I liked Shera back in the day. But today…. Watch out. She does not teach how to be a comfortable valued house wife. She teaches how to sugar and abuse the self-esteem of a man to gain leverage. Dangerous and unecessary game to play.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:53 PM
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Lol Andrew Tate, the guy who sold women into prostitution and x-rated chats who treats women like trash and only can get trashy women… then blames his sins on demons other than his own. Wants to be Christian when it’s convenient and he’s already wealthy off the backs of women… tread carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:51 PM
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I don’t keep a wide circle of close friends. The three friends you do have are your bridesmaids. Remember a wedding is one day. Your relationships should be for a lifetime. Part of the expectation of large weddings is to support capitalism not the family and certainly not women. Especially not women or couples if they are taking debt for it. Small and intimate and true is beautiful. I was a bridesmaid for my uncle’s wife before we knew each other well but I love her to death and am so greatful s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:41 PM
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Do you enjoy doing those girly things? Are the facials really making a difference? If not, sometime the most feminine thing is to just relax and be. It is sweet to do nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:27 PM
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What can you take off of your plate that isn’t serving you?
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 05:08 PM
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This gives me hope.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 04:47 PM
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I believe the pair bonding thing is BS just as was “the million cock stare” quote parroted around by some chauvinist (who repented after his sister died). In my observation, women who are used to dating and having kids with low quality men eventually stop all together because that is their expectation of all men. Wealthy women have no issues getting married or re-marrying provided she is meeting men in her desired tax bracket. It’s mainly working and middle class women who are worked to the bone…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 04:44 PM
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Men who take pride in being providers never struggle. You might be focused on the wrong metrics.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:38 PM
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A male dating coach said something profound. Women want the top 20% of men. And 80% of the men she met had no serious intention anyway. Can you blame her?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:36 PM
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