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You want women to suffer from joint problems and general fatigue and exhaustion to…spite men? You want women to have an unnecessarily increased risk of cancer, diabetes, hypertension, kidney disease, and heart disease…to spite men? That’s what I call solidarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:03 PM
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There was a post on r/marriage where the husband was upset because his wife is 260 lbs. Which puts her in the morbidly obese category (or what would’ve been considered morbidly obese 60 years ago but isn’t now because most Americans are fat). There was a comment saying the husband’s lack of attraction is his fault and he should learn to love her “luscious curves.” I’m so fucking sick and tired of people glamorizing obesity as if it’s not a sickness. There are obese patients breaking nurses’ back…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:13 PM
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Yeah. People mistake “a willingness to kill” with “a desire to kill.” If a pitbull attacks me and my child, I don’t want my husband to be the guy who says “but it’s not the dog’s fault I don’t want to hurt it :(“ If a robber comes into my house and beats the fuck out of me, I don’t want my husband to be the guy who says, “Yeah he beat the shit out of my wife but I just can’t imagine myself taking a human life, the robber is still a person after all :(“ I want a man who would be willing to kill s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:48 AM
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I wouldn’t say Karen Straughan fits the redpill ideal. She’s a fantastic speaker and a genuine MRA, but men like Andrew Tate would probably not call her wife material. She smokes. She’s bisexual. She has a short haircut. She’s not particularly feminine. She will call men out on their bullshit (she certainly doesn’t submit to the white knights who try to roast her and fail miserably). Modern redpilled men want a pretty young hot virginal woman to whisper sweet nothings into their ear. That’s why …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:44 AM
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This is the only way. If men truly want to change the dating game, then they need to remove themselves from it and negotiate until it’s more suitable for them. The manosphere claims men have power over commitment and can use that to negotiate…but I see no women struggling from lack of commitment. My mom was a 56-year-old alcoholic with a beer gut living in a filthy trailer and still managed to get a 30-year-old muscular handsome guy (seriously, he was like an 8/10) to commit to her. They dated s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:37 AM
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I’d lose respect because he hid something so mundane from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:21 AM
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Hyperfocus. My husband has ADHD. When he hyperfocuses on a task, he’s great at it. So when he hyperfocused on me and pursuing me, he was able to make me feel incredible. He was charming. Charismatic. Enjoyable to be around. As soon as the hyperfocus dies off, you’re basically dead to them. People with ADHD don’t remember you unless they’re either (A) hyperfocused on you or (B) you’re literally standing directly in front of them. That’s why ADHD lends itself to casual relationships versus long-te…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:17 AM
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My husband has ADHD. It has made our relationship a living hell. It might be easier for you to get women short-term because you can hyperfocus on them and make them feel special/loved. But once they move in with you and see how dysfunctional you are…fucking Christ is it hard. Not just the inability to complete basic tasks, but the false promises, the time blindness, the procrastination, the rejection sensitivity dysphoria. The Adderrage from your stimulant medications. The unstable moods. If I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:14 AM
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But isn’t she also treating men like a piece of meat when she sleeps with them casually?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:08 AM
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I see this argument a lot. Men: here’s what you need to do to fix the fucked up dating power dynamics (caused by simps and white knights and sex work customers). Men: “but women don’t like it!” Of course they don’t. If you elevate someone to the level of a goddess and then tear her down, she won’t like it. But it still needs to happen. Someone still needs to do the dirty work of leveling the playing field. A lot of women think they’re doing a man a favor just by showing up for a date. She expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:44 AM
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The manosphere can be (and usually is) extremely toxic. It’s one thing to call out toxic femininity and hold women accountable. It’s another thing to completely undermine women’s value and treat us as lesser beings and think we should “know our place” as lesser beings. Which we aren’t. Some men want a feminine woman, but they don’t genuinely appreciate or respect femininity. They just think feminine women are hot and easier to deal with (versus respecting the genuine value of femininity).
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 12:58 AM
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I would expect him to communicate. “I’m feeling jealous. I trust you and I don’t think you’d do anything, but I’m worried about this or that and I was wondering if we could talk about it.” In which case I’ll be impressed with his emotional maturity and 100% willing to work with him on the issue. I completely understand jealousy. I know what it feels like to have irrational feelings. I know what it’s like to trust someone while simultaneously dealing with intrusive thoughts that tell you not to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:11 PM
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As I stated in my post, it’s not acceptable to belittle your husband in public even if you have a good reason. That being said, if I knew that woman did have a reason, my attitude would shift from a huffy “hmph, what an evil witch, I’m going to be better than her” and would instead transition over toward, “My goodness, what an awful situation. I hope she and her husband can find grace and love.” Yes, I would cringe in public if someone was behaving that way. But I also try to manage my own judgm…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 08:36 PM
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I try very hard not to judge other women. I have visited a lot of the relationship subreddits (including the infidelity subreddits) and I remember reading one story that stuck out to me: a woman had been cheated on by her husband. She chose to reconcile, but in the early months after discovering the truth, she was quite horrible to him. Even in public. Understandably so. Eventually she recovered from his infidelity and their relationship healed, but in those early months she was a monster toward…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/22 03:04 PM
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You’re thinking of it the wrong way. Sleeping with a lot of people doesn’t make you a different person than you were before. But you are fundamentally the sort of person who would sleep with a lot of different people. And not everyone is attracted to that type of person. The same way I’m not attracted to people who think going to a club and partying is a “good time.” To me that sounds like a nightmare. So I don’t date people who like to party at clubs. The same way I wouldn’t date a man who like…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:53 PM
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For women, our arousal is based on our experiences we’ve had with you. Imagine our horniness as a bar that can be filled. Good experiences with you fill up the bar. Bad experiences clog and gunk up the bar. One good experience can be enough to completely fill the bar if it was previously empty, but if the bar is clogged up with a lot of bad experiences, it takes a lot more effort to turn us on. When I first met my husband, I was aroused almost immediately. He was suave and charismatic. At that p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:51 PM
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Makeup really only works for men like Pete Davidson who have that “hot slim homeless rockstar” look. If your average mechanic at the autobody shop wore makeup, he’d probably look like an awkward oddly-proportioned drag queen and women would avoid him like the plague. A lot of women imagine the “best case scenario” when they give men advice like wearing makeup. They’re imagining guys like Pete Davidson or their favorite rockstars from Pierce the Veil and all those other little emo girl heartthrob…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 11:54 PM
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If you get the house in order in 2-3 hours, you aren’t actually cleaning. If you have a 3-4 bedroom home, keeping it spotless takes a lot longer than that. Also, you didn’t factor in cooking and meal planning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:10 PM
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If my husband abuses me, or cheats on me, or otherwise abandons me, I will have a job to support myself. Or at least a job history that I can put on my resume. So even if I do become a SAHM at one point, I will still have a decent work history. And don’t come at me with, “Well you have to choose a decent man and that won’t happen!” Everyone who got cheated on thought, at some point, “my partner wouldn’t do that to me!” My dad is the smartest man I know and he still ended up with a woman who chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:07 PM
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Probably because women have a much easier time finding NSA casual hookups versus men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:13 PM
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My husband was a virgin when we first had sex. So was I. No oral, no handjobs, no sexual experience besides kissing on the lips prior to this. I finished multiple times when we first had sex. He lied to me and told me he slept with a ton of women when we first dated (like I said, he was actually a virgin). But I didn’t find out he was a virgin until much later after we had already been having sex for a year. It wasn’t his skills that gave it away - it was the fact that he kept telling inconsiste…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:11 PM
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Older women get a much-needed ego boost from the attention of young men. If a young man likes me, that proves I still got it. I’m still sexy. I’m still worthy. Whether we like it or not, women are valued for our looks. And no matter how much we try to undo that internal programming, it’s still there. Societal expectations run deep. The sad thing is men think they’re hot shit when older women pursue them, but the reality is you’re just an ego trophy for an older woman who isn’t mature enough to r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:45 PM
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Redpill men often don’t run into these women because their chosen dating strategy (impress club thots so you can spin plates) tends to repulse good women. No good woman sees a man trying to get as much casual sex as possible and thinks, “Ah yes, he will be a safe partner for me to marry.” So these women actively hide from the PUAs. Which is why they seem so rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:46 PM
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“I’m a perfect goddess and anyone who criticizes me is an evil monster” is a fundamentally unhealthy mindset. And showing your children on social media for all the world to see is both irresponsible and disrespectful to your children (who might one day wish that their privacy was more respected). Children should be seen as individuals, not ornaments for your social media so you can show everyone what a good mommy you are. I wouldn’t call these women role models even if they are genuinely confide…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 02:23 PM
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Wisdom passed on from generation to generation is not based on “analysis and data.” When a village elder sat down with his grandchildren around a fire and gave them life advice, he did not have graphs and data and analysis and peer-reviewed research. He used his life experience to pass wisdom down to younger generations. There’s a reason the STEM fields look down on sociology. It’s extremely hard to take life experiences and turn them into hard data. Every study that relies on self-reporting is …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 02:14 PM
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I think social media has allowed immature young women to form a community and enable each other’s immaturity. Note: when I say “immaturity,” I don’t mean it in an uppity “oh I’m better than them” way. I mean it more in a “I’ve been there and done that” way. For example, I saw a TikTok once where this beautiful girl was ranting about how she’s gorgeous and sexy but she hasn’t had a serious LTR in a long time. No man treats her right. She goes on to look at herself in the mirror and ramble about h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 11:01 AM
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He might be trickle-truthing. A lot of cheaters will tell only a small percentage of the truth. Why? Because it allows them to relieve some of their guilt without telling you the full details. It allows them to control the narrative. And it allows them to gauge your reaction so that they can decide if they want to tell you the full truth or not. So it’s highly likely that he did sleep with her. But he’s telling you they only kissed. Again, this is so he can relieve the guilt without any fear of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 10:33 PM
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I would love to be friends with my husband if I wasn’t attracted to him. But I would stop being his wife if I wasn’t attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:55 PM
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If I go to buy a house, and I find out the house has no heating system installed, and this causes me not to buy the house, does that mean the heating system is the only thing that mattered? No. I also care about the house having windows. And toilets. And more than one bedroom. All of these things matter. But if just one of those things is missing, it’s still a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:54 PM
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Instant gratification. Hearing a man say “wow you’re so sexy!” is addictive. For many young women, especially those with mental health issues, male validation is a social currency. The more “likes” you get on your thirst traps, the higher you are in the female hierarchy. And no, I’m not some braindead incel. I’m a woman and this was my experience when dating. When my husband’s ex decided she had a problem with me, she started posting thirst traps with thinly-veiled captions about how she was hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:42 PM
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If that’s the case, why do men pursue a certain type of woman for hooking up and an entirely different type of woman for marriage? Your argument completely ignores the existence of the Madonna-Whore complex. I guarantee when men are fantasizing about fucking, they aren’t thinking about the virgin good girl who would be a good wife and mother. They’re thinking about the hot stripper or porn star “bad girl” who would get on top of him and bang his brains out. It’s the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:14 PM
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I would never trust a man who claims me in private but not in public. To me that’s the biggest red flag that he sees you as a temporary fling.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 12:06 AM
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The right lost the abortion debate when prominent right-wing politicians made it clear they have no fucking clue what ectopic pregnancies are and would never be able to competently write legislation that makes an exception for the mother’s life. They all say “we would make an exception for the mother’s life” but in order for that to take effect, you have to write legislation that doesn’t force the doctors to interpret it. A woman could be on the verge of sepsis with a dying fetus inside of her a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:53 PM
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If you knowingly and intentionally tempt people to engage in immoral behavior, you are still a bad person even if the responsibility for the bad behavior lies with the person who was tempted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:58 PM
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Because a woman who chooses to stay home with the kids will ultimately end up broke and miserable if her husband ever cheats on her/abuses her/divorces her. It’s a big gamble and it always has been. Being a SAHP is extremely risky, even with alimony and child support. With child support and a minimum wage job (which is all she could get after the divorce due to her lack of work history), my mom was still living in poverty. She deserved it because she was the one who cheated on my dad, but even i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:55 AM
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Has anyone noticed bisexual people (and I am bisexual) whining about how people perceive them to be cheaters and automatically non-monogamous? Yet almost all the bisexual women I know who are in monogamous heterosexual relationships make constant posts on social media about how they’d love to have a little girlfriend on the side. And this behavior is seen as cute and hot and sexy because it’s a woman fantasizing about another woman. I know a bi girl who constantly posts thirst traps and brags ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:53 PM
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Terrible relationship with either parent. I have a great relationship with my dad, but my mom was an alcoholic and promiscuous. She was also extremely passive-aggressive toward me, so I’m now hypersensitive to anything that could be perceived as a veiled insult and I get defensive quickly. I’ve also had to cut off a lot of addict/alcoholic family members, so I tend to go scorched Earth in arguments because I’m better at cutting people off than I am at actually working through problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:47 PM
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“I want a traditional housewife.” But also: “Ugh women will nag you if you walk in the house wish shoes on, they’re so neurotic about cleaning, so annoying.” My grandmother was a traditional housewife and she would murder anyone who tracked dirt on her floors. You can’t want a traditional woman and then get mad when these women want a clean house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:14 PM
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Women can tell when a man is trying to force any given interaction to follow a script. If you’re talking to a woman and your inner monologue sounds like this: “Okay, I don’t want to be a womanizer like my dad…a female is speaking to me, so I have to be nice. I have to be really nice or she will hate me. I want her to think I’m a nice guy.” The woman will pick up on that and she will feel extremely awkward. Because it feels like a forced conversation. It feels like there’s an underlying script. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:00 PM
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Ryan Reynolds is good looking (objectively) but I’m personally not attracted to him. I find him repulsive actually. What is generally considered “good looking” is not the same as “sexually attractive” (to me). I can acknowledge that the men I’m attracted to are 5/6s, but for me they are 10s. If that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:51 PM
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You can’t force yourself to be a perfect traditional smiling wife if you are stressed out. We all like to imagine women in the 1800s who were graceful and sweet and loving even during the worst of times. But the “sweet smiling wife” was typically seen in wealthy homes, with nannies and maids. These women had time for self-care. Nails, hair, makeup. Long baths with lotion. Nice smelling candles. Hobbies. Socializing with friends. Hosting parties. If you pick up any historical fiction novel about …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 12:32 AM
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It depends on how he expresses it. A man looking me up and down and saying, “You look beautiful” with confidence? Great. A man awkwardly laughing and saying, “Haha I love boobies” when a commercial for breast cancer awareness comes on? Immediate ick. Alternatively: a man who looks at me and wiggles his eyebrows and says, “Can’t wait for sexy time later!” Again, immediate ick. If you sound like a twelve-year-old when you express sexual interest, it is repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:09 AM
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Downvoting. You’re not supposed to downvote in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:06 PM
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No one assumed they were all good. If you vet properly and choose a good woman, you’ll be fine. Don’t accuse women of choosing terrible partners and then treat men like sad little victims when they choose terrible partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:46 AM
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I don’t think I’m a unicorn. I think a lot of people are similar to me. The problem is this: The main strategies I see for men in the redpill focus on obtaining casual sex (versus a long-term relationship). So young redpilled men are focused on seeking casual sex with women they would never marry. This does two things: A) it causes men to become jaded, because they spend a lot of their time pursuing women for casual sex, and the women who will actually sleep with them are often extremely hyperga…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:23 PM
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There are so many responses here that are completely silly. “Well if you can’t be completely vulnerable then that’s not true vulnerability!” Yes, you can be vulnerable. But you still need to be emotionally stable and mature. You don’t get to fly off the handle and act like a 12-year-old throwing a tantrum and then blame a woman for losing attraction to you. Men don’t want women who act like that, either. OP showed a mature way to handle emotions and vulnerability and everyone is like “well you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:19 PM
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He’s a man. A high-value man is: intelligent, responsible with his money, and emotionally secure. He should be able to sit down with you and learn how to distinguish cheap art from high-quality art. And he should also be very capable of understanding why you would prefer high-quality art over cheap art. The same way a man would want a high-quality drill over a low-quality drill. Or a high-quality wristwatch over a low-quality wristwatch. You are stepping into the “coddling and mothering” territo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 10:03 PM
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Couldn’t high-status women say the same thing about men who expect a virgin? Why would any virgin risk her future by settling with a man who wastes his time trying to impress club thots?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:35 AM
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To clarify: Do you believe a man should answer honestly when asked the question, “Do you want a long-term relationship with me?” Also, if a man hasn’t decided, do you believe he should say something along the lines of “I haven’t decided yet?”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 12:46 AM
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You mean like how men will let hot women treat them like garbage, but ugly women don’t even exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:43 PM
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Now you know how women feel when we see men wasting their paychecks on strippers or OnlyFans girls. Now you know how women feel when we see men thirsting over the “big titty goth girl” while he has a girlfriend sitting at home. Now you know how women feel when we see men like Adam Levine making fools of themselves over average Instagram thots. Turns out an entire gender can start to feel pathetic when you see enough people degrading themselves purely because they think someone is hot. Yet you ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:31 PM
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I am a woman, so I’m obviously biased in defense of myself and other women. But this is one topic I cannot deny. There was a post on r/bestofredditorupdates where a guy was sleeping with his roommate, he made it explicitly clear that he wasn’t interested in a relationship, but multiple women were claiming that he obviously “led her on.” It’s absurd. Obviously if a man directly lies about wanting a relationship, that’s immoral. We can all agree on that. But if a man is ambiguous, or he states he …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 02:51 PM
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I don’t care how physically attractive a man is. If he’s awkward and cringe, or childish, that bad personality matters. When I saw Adam Levine’s “holy fuck, holy fucking fuck” texts to that Instagram girl…it made me cringe. He sounded like a fourteen year old boy trying to flirt. That “ick” would automatically rule him out for me if I ever had the chance to date him. The way a man talks and carries himself is what makes him attractive. If he’s the sort of guy who does the “you know me, I see boo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:15 AM
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More access to mental healthcare. More women have access to Google, so self-diagnosis is at an all-time high. All you have to do is go to a doctor, answer “yes” to the right questions on a form, and you’re diagnosed with depression. Also, all these little pictograms and cute memes on Facebook like “less common signs that you have depression!” Small, close-knit communities are largely being replaced by large cities where you’re citizen #43327. So on and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:12 AM
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There was a post recently where a man literally claimed, word for word, that women are incapable of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:59 PM
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Probably because, from a historical standpoint, women have usually been dependent on men? From a historical standpoint, men have always been “secondary parents.” It’s why many men still struggle getting custody of their kids in court. And it’s why a lot of male nurses/daycare workers/teachers are looked at with suspicion. And I’ve seen men fighting that stereotype (as they should).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:57 PM
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My mom is a promiscuous drug addict with daddy issues…who also happens to be very charismatic and sociable. But she’s batshit crazy and everyone who spends more than a few years living with her becomes clinically depressed. Yet, my mom had zero problems pulling high-value men. Men who were wealthy. Men who were good-looking. Men who had decent character. My mom was 58 years old with a beer gut and a pill addiction dating a 30-year-old man who looks like Ray Lewis. Handsome face, muscular body. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:33 PM
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I see it from another angle. Redpill men will tell women: “If you want a good man, figure out what kind of woman a good man wants and then become that woman.” Which is solid advice. But redpill men don’t follow this advice. Redpill men will encourage other redpill men to casually sleep with non-marriage-material women (club girls, promiscuous women) so that they can sow their wild oats before they eventually settle down. And redpill men will defend this, saying…well men and women are different, …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/22 01:05 AM
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I saw a quote somewhere…I’m probably going to butcher it, and I don’t remember who said it, but it’s something like: “Women are not attracted to a man’s body, but rather to the way he animates it.” A man can see a photograph of a naked woman and get turned on. For women, it’s more subtle. The way you smile after telling a joke. The way you carry yourself. The chemistry when we have a conversation. The hand gestures and facial expressions. I might be see a muscular man and think “oh he looks good…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:14 AM
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Yeah he is heading in the wrong direction because he doesn’t know what he is doing. Abusing your partner is not “heading in the wrong direction.” Demanding her personal items and trying to punish her if she doesn’t relent is abuse. He’s not “misunderstanding redpill ideals.” He is abusing her. If he can’t interpret and apply redpill advice without becoming abusive, then he is a mindless follower and therefore not a high-value man. A high-value man can observe and analyze information and then mak…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 07:57 PM
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Non-physical: Juvenile jokes. A lot of men like to joke with women the same way they do with other men. Fart jokes. Who can burp the loudest. “Haha I see a booby!” whenever she takes her bra off. Motorboating her breasts. I get it. Intentionally juvenile humor is funny in an ironic way. Being childish is funny because you’re being childish. Trust me, I get it. But it’s hard to let myself get dominated and railed by a grown man who just spent the past ten minutes acting like a little boy. There’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 10:25 PM
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Andrew Tate and other TRP men pursue a certain type of woman (i.e., women who are dishonest, women who are into the club scene, women who cheat, women who post thirst traps on Insta, etc.) Redpill men pursue those women because they are hot and sexy. But they are not good wives. The popular form of male redpill teaches insecure men how to “control” the hot/sexy women they pursue. Redpill men pursue these women and then assume all women must act that way (AWALT) and so they attempt to apply these…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 08:13 PM
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I would date a bi guy who was comfortable with his sexuality. I would not date a bi guy who is suppressing his sexuality because I view that as a recipe for infidelity down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:56 PM
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There’s a vast difference between a hypothetical potential “better” and a better that you have actually experienced. My husband is my only sexual partner. It’s one thing for me to say, “Yeah, there are probably guys out there who are better in bed.” It would be entirely different if I had the actual experience of a guy who was better in bed…because then I have that solid memory and an ability to reminisce over those past experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:23 AM
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If your wife/girlfriend doesn’t want sex with you, there’s probably a reason. Especially if she wanted sex in the beginning and doesn’t now. I’m genuinely shocked by some of the things men do and don’t realize how much it turns off their wives. If you Dutch Oven your wife, and then wonder why she doesn’t want to hop on your dick right afterwards…and then whine about being a “beta bucks,” I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:20 PM
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Heterosexual men see lesbians as hot. But they see gay men as disgusting. Heterosexual women see lesbians as hot. But they see gay men as disgusting. Both men and women are hypocrites in this regard. Doesn’t really make sense to ask why only women see it this way. Women being sexual with each other has always been seen as more acceptable than men being sexual with each other. By everyone (except for gay men).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:04 AM
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You don’t need antibiotics to kill non-harmful bacteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 01:02 AM
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When this happens, I just tell my husband, “I’m feeling agitated and overstimulated right now and I’d like some time to calm down, so I may be withdrawn for a little bit.” Ideally, this is how everyone in the world would handle their anger/irritability. Too many people bottle up their emotions until an explosion happens. Oftentimes we do this with the logic of “I need to calm down, I don’t want to be angry right now, just calm down.” It simply doesn’t work that way. Overstimulation will frustrat…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 03:23 PM
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Agreed. Men whine about hypergamous women and then participate in non-monogamy. Both traits (women’s hypergamy, men’s non-monogamy) contribute to instability in society. I don’t mean this as a knock to OP or other promiscuous people, but promiscuity does tend to lead to instability. Sleeping with lots of different people means there’s more room for jealousy, pregnancy scares, STIs, etc. At the end of the day everyone has the freedom to do what they want. It isn’t immoral to sleep around. But sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:04 AM
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There aren’t a lot of people to look up to for younger people. I have various people in my life who have traits that I appreciate. But as a whole? Not really. My father is a hard worker and he’s brutally honest. I appreciate that about him and look up to him. But he also has a lot of trouble maintaining relationships because he’s stubborn and emotionally closed off. I aspire to be a combination of the respectable traits I notice in others, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 01:55 AM
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Gossiping/catty behavior, and this includes women who claim to “hate drama” and “only hang out with guys because women are catty” yet still manage to create drama wherever they go The overly-confident dumb girl Instagram persona. You know the one. She will make loud clips of herself doing the “you’re a queen babe, don’t settle, go get you a man, get those free drinks at the club” blah blah blah. These are smart women who act dumb on social media because that’s the “in” thing right now. Emotional…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 10:52 PM
10

For almost every product that contains latex, there is an alternative for people with latex allergies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:21 PM
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This is the problem. Men fail to understand how women work. There’s a reason many of us prefer erotic fiction over purely visual porn. If men would actually read and study these novels instead of mocking them, they might get an idea of what really turns women on. It’s not the image of a man that gets us off. It’s the way he makes us feel when he talks to us. When he looks at us. When he interacts with us in any way. The vibe he gives off, the sense of romance and chemistry. It’s hard to make men…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:28 PM
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Then there’s no reason for women to get married unless they maintain their career. My husband wants me to be a SAHM. I agree with that because I don’t want to send our children to daycare. If I give up my career to be a SAHM, and my husband can decide to cheat on me and leave me destitute for some 20-year-old ten years down the line…and now I have to try and get a job making minimum wage with no work history while he enjoys the career he built while I cared for our kids at home. Nah. Not gonna h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:22 PM
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The problem is that the redpill coddles men’s desperation for pussy. And that desperation for pussy is the problem. It’s the reason men become unattractive to women in the first place. If a woman knows you’re desperate for her body, you lose. She knows she has ultimate power over you. And that’s end game. All redpill PUA does is teach men how to pretend they have the upper hand. Play the game better than she does, right? You still desperately want pussy, but here’s how to act a certain way so sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:56 AM
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The idea of casual sex with two men disgusts me. The idea of sex with my husband and a clone husband sounds absolutely amazing. And I have actively fantasized about that (as weird as it sounds).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:17 PM
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I don’t have a monthly allowance. My husband trusts me to spend responsibly. Even when I wasn’t working, he trusted me to spend responsibly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 08:10 PM
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I think a lot men tend to view all women under the lens of “potential wife” and if the woman does not fit the role of “potential wife” (for example, because she’s ugly or she’s slept with a lot of men, etc.) then that gives him the right to degrade her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:11 PM
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“Safe and secure” is a requirement for sexual attraction, not the source of it. That’s like handing someone a handful of flour and saying “doesn’t this look appetizing to you? This is what makes cookies so good!” While ignoring all the other ingredients that are needed to make cookies taste good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:21 PM
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The only thing you can do is show him, repeatedly and consistently, that you are so very happy to be with him. Listen to what he says. If he mentions off-handedly that he really likes…say, carrot cake for example, store that tidbit of information in your head. Then, a few days later, surprise him with carrot cake and say, “I remember you saying you liked carrot cake!” He will probably be surprised because, in general, people don’t usually pay attention to those things you say off-handedly. To me…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 02:41 PM
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You blow up your own life when you choose to have an affair. Your logic is concerning to me. The whistleblower is not the one causing the damage. The people acting immorally are the ones causing damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:22 PM
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I don’t believe in “it’s in the past so it’s none of your business.” I think that’s code for: “I’m embarrassed about it and I know it would change your opinion of me so I don’t want to talk about it and I want to pretend it never happened.” I would 100% view this as relevant information and would expect anyone to share it in good faith. If they didn’t I would view that person as cowardly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:21 PM
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He doesn’t want to marry you right now. That’s the answer. He is trying to communicate that information to you without saying it. His hesitancy, his agitation when you bring up the topic. All of that is him saying, loud and clear, “I do not want to get engaged or marry you anytime soon.” Frankly, I don’t blame him. Marriage is an incredibly risky move for a man, and he’s only been with you for two years. Two years isn’t that long. I know you think it is. But I’m six years into my relationship wi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 03:05 PM
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I would fully expect cheating if I dated anyone in Hollywood because Hollywood is filled with degenerates. Jason Derulo’s wife has probably cheated on him as well. They all snort coke (or whatever party drugs are available) and they all cheat on each other. You’d have to be naive to believe otherwise. To me a HVM is one who doesn’t contribute to degeneracy, so Jason Derulo isn’t a HVM. But if you want to marry a rich man from Hollywood or a high-ranking white-collar executive…yes, expect to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 09:41 AM
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For women: Going to the gym. No, you aren’t going to turn a flat butt into a bubble butt, but you can add some inches to your hip measurement. I don’t have a Kim Kardashian ass, but I have enough of a curve to distinguish my back from my butt and my husband is happy. Learning how to style your hair. Proper hairstyling is essential. A bad hairstyle (for your facial shape) can take you from a 7 to a 4. Be aware of your menstrual cycle. If you’re in your luteal phase, you might feel like crap. Plan…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:36 PM
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Do you want to be the sort of woman who is dishonest? Or do you want to be the sort of woman who has honor and tells the truth - even when it’s hard? Which woman would you feel respect for? Which woman would you want your daughter to look up to?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 08:33 PM
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I 100% agree with this. One thing that gives almost all women the “ick” is desperation. Whenever I see a man comment on Reddit “I’m a man of culture…I see boobs, I upvote” it makes me cringe. I know it’s a joke, but it’s a stupid kiddy joke that a 12-year-old would make. We get it. You like boobs. Some of you seem to think that’s a personality trait. It’s just as awful and unattractive as women who think being an Instagram influencer is a personality trait. These men have the same humor as Amy S…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 07:58 PM
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An attractive woman, regardless of her age, will always have an easier time dating around than an attractive man. Unless your husband is in the top 1% of earners, he’s not going to have the success he thinks he will. At least not compared to the success you can have as a single attractive woman. That’s redpill 101. He’s in the “fog.” A lot of people (both men and women) enter a fog in relationships. Some people call it the 7-year itch. Basically, he’s starting to take his family for granted. He’…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 04:29 PM
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When Dream the Minecraft streamer revealed his face, he was torn to shreds for being “ugly.” Realistically, he’s at least a 5 or a 6 when it comes to his face alone. People’s idea of “average” is wayyyy too high. Based on what I see at Walmart, the average man is between 5’ 7”-5’ 9”, slightly overweight, and an average (5) face.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:16 PM
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My friend has a high N-count and usually sleeps with guys who have a high N-count. Most recently she slept with a guy who is known in our social circle for sleeping around and she told me he was terrible in bed. As in “jackhammer for 3 minutes and then fall asleep” bad. My husband was a virgin and made me finish twice our first time together (I was also a virgin). I think casual sex often means “one and done” situations which leaves no room for improvement. It’s not like people who have ONS are …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 01:49 PM
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I would never disrespect my husband by using the word “husband” to refer to any other man, even in a joking/silly manner. That’s how a lot of affairs start. A lot of “I would never cheat!” types will have poor boundaries and then act shocked in therapy when they have to admit that they had an emotional affair or even a physical affair. “I never would’ve expected myself to cheat!” Not cheating isn’t just about not fucking someone else. It’s about avoiding the “first step” of cheating, which is of…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 01:02 PM
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I find most male celebrities unattractive specifically because of their pristine gelled hair and makeup look. I prefer men who are “weirdly attractive.” Hook noses, slightly crooked teeth, etc. I have never been attracted to a man with that pristine polished male celebrity look.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:55 PM
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I love it when u/gastongang talks sweetly to us
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 09:26 PM
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A lot of men are so attention-starved that they cannot comprehend the idea of ever getting tired of a woman’s attention. It’s like…when I’m starving, I think I can eat three burgers. So I might order three burgers. But after eating one I realize I was waaaayyy overestimating how many burgers I could actually eat. I think if the roles flipped and men got the same attention from women that women currently get from men…they would realize very quickly that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:16 PM
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If a woman with D-cup breasts and a nice ass got a buzzcut, dressed in only cargo shorts and wife beaters, got tattoos, and smoked like a chimney…we’d call her masculine. If a man with abs and big muscles spends hours in the morning styling his hair and wearing pretty dresses, he’s still feminine even if his body isn’t. Masculine/feminine is about presentation, not just your body type. In my mind, all male celebrities are “pretty boys” because all of them have makeup artists and put a lot of eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 10:36 PM
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Andrew Tate looks and acts like the sort of man who would walk into a construction zone or a mechanic shop and get heated the moment someone told him he holds a wrench like a pansy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:17 PM
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See, this is where I have hangups. To me, redpill ideology is about acknowledging hard biological truths but also pursuing societal stability despite those truths. A society that values promiscuity will always be unstable. So for men, promiscuity leads to instability even if it is their natural instinct. Men like Andrew Tate encourage non-monogamy in men because that’s “how men naturally are.” I actually see that as the first (but not final) step to redpill ideology: recognizing natural drives t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:09 PM
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Having a partner who loves you for you is pretty essential for a relationship. I don’t think Spiderman should settle for a woman who loves Spiderman but not Peter Parker. And I’m sure men would feel the same way. If Mary Jane refused to hang out with Peter Parker and demanded he be Spiderman 24/7 when he’s with her, I’m pretty sure male fans would call her all sorts of names and say he deserves better. I think they would say this even if she was a hot blonde with double-D tits and an amazing car…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:05 PM
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I’m really disheartened by the number of female YouTubers cropping up whose entire shtick is “I’m anti-feminist and I am going to validate all RP men’s complaints about women.” As you said, it’s ragebait. They will play a video of some obviously-shallow influencer saying she wants a man who makes 400k/year and then offer like 30 seconds of bland commentary along the lines of: “That’s insane! Most men will never make 400k/year! How can you expect that?” But they will never turn around and say to …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 01:57 PM
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Because, as a wife, I want to have fun with my husband and also have children with him. A person can do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:09 PM
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I think these women are more likely to use men and then whine when they can’t find a legitimate relationship (because their associations with men have been primarily transactional). They will say that they were “used” but in reality they are doing just as much of the using.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 02:21 PM
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I was always fine with masturbating. Plenty of women have an aversion to sex/romance. I was pretty much asexual and aromantic in high school. It’s embarrassing to admit this, but…I was mentally unwell. If you weren’t an anime character I didn’t want you. A lot of guys asked me out. I had one boyfriend and hated every minute of it. Eventually I grew out of my asexuality and got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 12:07 AM
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The problem is that a lot of men who claim to be redpilled still exhibit traits that make them feel “beta.” To me a redpill man is one who stays cool under pressure and has excellent control over his emotions. I always thought stoicism was a redpill philosophy (versus the bluepill obsession with validating emotions, body positivity, “you’re a queen” language, etc.) So when I see Andrew Tate losing his temper and becoming downright belligerent because someone challenged him, I see that as more of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 09:21 PM
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I’m very close with my father. He’s a hardass, so I’m also a hardass in relationships. I have no trouble setting boundaries and sticking to them. I have never cried over a boyfriend until I met my husband. I was relieved when my high school boyfriend broke up with me. I have the opposite problems of girls with “daddy issues.” I am generally stoic and independent and don’t open up easily to men. I also have no tolerance for corny/cheesy stuff. I guess because my dad has a very dry sense of humor,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 09:00 PM
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I don’t know anyone who was rejected for past promiscuity, but I know a lot for whom past promiscuity seems to be part of a behavioral pattern that makes LTRs difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:02 PM
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I also view it as predatory when a 50-year-old woman dates a young man. And don’t tell me “but men don’t care! They enjoy it!” The number of men I’ve seen on TRP complaining about predatory older women trying to baby trap young men…same script. My mom was 50 when she dated a man in his 30s and destroyed him (just as she destroyed every man dumb enough to date her), but it was particularly sad with this guy because he was younger and naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:40 PM
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Since you’re asking about our personal idea of a high value man: A man who has control over his emotions. So he isn’t going to go on a rant raising his voice and puffing his chest because someone disagreed with him in a political debate. For example, Andrew Tate and Byron from Fresh and Fit often accuse women of being “emotional and irrational,” but both of these men will raise their voice and become belligerent whenever people disagree with them. I see “chest beating” behavior as a fundamental …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 09:44 PM
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Compliments. A lot of men grew up seeing romantic movies where the man throws excessive compliments at the woman and she falls in love with him and it’s happily-ever-after. This is a massive disservice to both men and women. First, it’s a disservice to men: it teaches them that they can build a healthy happy relationship with a woman (which includes sex) just by feeding her compliments. So a lot of men have a storage box in their brain filled with empty meaningless compliments ready to throw at …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:11 PM
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Men will complain about single mothers and then engage in behavior that creates single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 12:46 PM
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For men. To women James Bond is just another boring male action hero. Men are the only ones who look at him like he’s some sort of masculine icon. In real life would women want him? Maybe for a quick clout-chasing fuck so she can brag on Instagram, or for his money, but nothing more. Again, you’re looking at this solely from a male perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 12:42 PM
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No. Masturbation is enough for me. I’m a big dumb sappy romantic who tends to put way too much emotion into my interactions with others. I fall in love hard and sleeping with a man who doesn’t love me would scramble my brains. Plus there’s the risk of pregnancy, STIs, and the general drama that comes with those types of arrangements.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:31 PM
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My husband was considered desirable by a lot of women but never had sex with them because he genuinely wanted to wait for a serious girlfriend (and all his previous relationships were flings). I know he isn’t lying because I was friends with several of his flings (same social group) and they all said he refused to have sex. I was more attracted to him because other women desired him. But I would’ve lost attraction if he slept with every woman who offered. I think his self-control is what ended u…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:42 PM
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I would expect him to pursue a woman who is equally good-looking, fit, and successful in her career. If he’s good at vetting, he would also choose a woman with high integrity who shares his same life goals and who shares similar traits as the ones you listed (dresses well, good hygiene, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:23 PM
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This is why I hate it when men bring up the “80% of women initiate divorce” statistic. I think men are more likely to become complacent in marriage. They’re okay with coming home from work, eating dinner, fucking, and then ignoring their wives the rest of the time. Whether men like it or not…women crave romance. We want dates. We want to feel acknowledged. We want to feel important. A lot of times women will bring up a concern and a man will immediately dismiss it and assume the problem is dealt…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:29 PM
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So you chose terrible women and now have a negative opinion of all women. Which is exactly what women do with the terrible men they date…and redpill guys criticize them for it. Men are just as bad at vetting as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:22 PM
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That really doesn’t make sense. There are best friends who beat the shit out of each other in MMA. There are best friends who give each other concussions in football. Kids who are best friends often rough-house with each other. Aggression is heavily linked with affection. We’ve all had an aunt who hugged us so tight she almost killed us when we were kids. What happens with your neighbors sounds like they had a casual relationship that naturally fizzled out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 12:22 PM
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OP, one of the rules in this subreddit is “no downvoting.” I never stated a moral objection to people sleeping around. You’re strawmanning me. I said it’s unattractive. You seem to equate “unattractive” with a moral judgment or a personal insult. “I’m not attracted to you” is not an insult. There are plenty of things men might find unattractive about me. For example, a man might find me less attractive due to my lack of sexual experience. Which is fine. I wouldn’t be mad about it nor would I per…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:14 PM
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I definitely don’t fear promiscuous people. I fear things like breaking both my legs or burning to death or my husband dying. I find that people who immediately launch into personal attacks as a form of defense are generally the ones who suffer from insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 10:33 PM
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No, I’m pretty certain I could find some fuckboy who’s only been with ONS and rock his world hard enough to make him commit. It’s genuinely not hard to get men to commit. I simply find promiscuity unattractive. The same way I find it unattractive when people stuff their face full of food. Or when people blurt out words without thinking. Lack of control over physical urges turns me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 10:26 PM
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I am a female. I had a lot of male attention growing up. I’m pretty sure if I wanted to I could make a Tinder account and sleep with a different man every night. I still don’t want to date a man who sleeps around. This whole “the only people who care about body count are people who can’t get laid” argument is getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 07:35 PM
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Probably the same reason some people are disgusted by feet and other people are turned on by them. All has to do with wiring in the brain. And we understand very little of it. I guarantee if you try to understand the “logic” behind it, you’ll just run yourself around in circles and get frustrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:11 PM
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I think you need to re-examine your “strong feelings.” Ask yourself: Do I love this man? Or am I suddenly interested in him because I feel natural competition with his exes? When my husband interacts with other women in public settings, it does ignite jealous-lust in me. It helps me see him in a different light. Normally my husband is the man at home who talks to me about my day and stinks up the bathroom. In a public setting, especially when women walk up to him and flirt with him…it’s almost a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 11:08 PM
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Go to Walmart. Look at the normal women. And the normal men they’re dating. The women you see on Instagram aren’t “normal” women. Normal women (actual normal women, not redpill guys’ version of normal women) go after a broad range of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:18 PM
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OP, I ask you to consider this: A core component of my personal femininity is my desire to be a positive influence on others. I have found that many redpilled women and “trad” women have this holier-than-thou attitude that reminds me of oldschool grandmothers who look down on their tomboy granddaughters. As in, “You shouldn’t be playing sports…you should be in the kitchen learning to cook with your sisters!” This attitude is fundamentally masculine to me. Forcing others into a box. Coming off as…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 02:22 PM
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OP, the concepts you describe in this post have already been explained ad nauseum by the women here. It’s part of the core literature available in this subreddit. And to be frank, the posts written by the moderators and long-term users in this subreddit are more detailed and useful than yours. I see that you are male. I know that men aren’t banned from commenting or posting on this subreddit…but in the rules it states that advice is considered valuable from older men who are married and have bee…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 12:07 PM
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This is false. If I ever found Adam Levine attractive, all that went down the drain when I saw the simpy “holy fucking fuck your body is absurd” texts he sent to that girl. If a man sent those texts to me, no matter how attractive he was, I would be so turned off I might just turn inside out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:49 PM
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I am a woman and I genuinely enjoy sex. I fantasize about sex. I masturbate. I watch porn. And do you have any idea what a clitoris is?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:52 AM
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Based on what I’ve seen on the infidelity subreddits, it’s a healthy (unhealthy?) mixture of men and women who are betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 11:24 PM
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No child deserves to be raised by a single parent, male or female. This is an extremely selfish position. Children function better when they come from a stable two-parent household. You aren’t thinking of the child’s well-being. You are thinking of your own wants and needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:00 PM
9

I paired up with the first person I had sex with and so did my husband. The sex was never casual between us. We called each other boyfriend/girlfriend before becoming intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:08 PM
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Even parents don’t love their children that way. A mother who chooses to take a shower after two days of not having one, even though her screaming baby doesn’t want to hang out with dad and only wants her, is not loving her child according to your definition. Your definition of love is abuse. And if you’re struggling with women it’s because your definition means demeaning yourself and others and it’s obsessive and unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:30 PM
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Women are only genuinely happy to be single mothers if they are focused 100% on their own needs (i.e., they don’t care if their child is happy). A mother who knows anything about child psychology would never be genuinely happy to raise her children as a single parent. Most women who claim to be “proud single mothers” are only doing so to combat the stigma. In reality they’d prefer an intact family with a good husband and father. But at some point you have to look at your own past and say “yeah I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:05 PM
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I admire the confidence. I will fully admit that I’m abnormal. But as a woman, I would be more attracted to an “ugly” man if he approached me confidently and asked me out. Because I admire any man whose self-confidence is that high. I think it’s sexy when a man abandons the whole “oh she’s out of my league” mentality. That’s why I get so turned off when men do the whole “oh my wife is a goddess don’t know how an ugly guy like me got her.” I don’t find ugly confident men less attractive. I find t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:59 AM
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I think the primary issue here is that a 6’ tall man with 6 pack abs and a massive dick isn’t guaranteed to be a good stable husband. I don’t think anyone would be offended if women said “I want an honest man who will help with house chores and treat me well.” Versus: “I’m a queen and I need a man who can be my king! He needs to be tall. No short guys, no small dick, nobody who makes less than six figures. No ugly dudes. Blah blah blah.” In my opinion “extra cute” will never make up for “can’t f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:11 PM
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I would be mad only if he didn’t make other women wait. I don’t do that “born-again virgin” or “I’m done with my wild years and now I’m going to get serious and make my new partners wait” shit. I don’t expect men to put up with that. So I won’t put up with it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 12:44 AM
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“I don’t want to date you” is not shaming. And that’s all a man needs to say to a promiscuous woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:17 PM
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Why does he have to be a high earner? What do you need him to buy for you to be satisfied? OP, do you have any idea how much money it takes to support two adults and multiple children on a single income even if you live a frugal lifestyle? Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 11:14 PM
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The fact that the redpill centers around getting women to fuck you shows that it’s still about putting pussy on a pedestal. Even if your strategy is “I’m going to be high value and start being worthy of women fucking me,” then your focus is still on women. Redpill is an illusion. A man working hard to become someone women want to fuck still makes him as pathetic as the simp who begs e-thots to pay attention to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 09:19 PM
15

Men would have far more power in the sexual and relationship marketplaces. Women would have far less power. OnlyFans girls would no longer become rich selling nudes online. Men would not be the victims of paternity fraud/baby trapping as often. Men overall would be far sexier.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:07 PM
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Respectable to the women they pursue. Women’s respect for men is inversely proportional to how desperate and sex-obsessed he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:05 PM
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No. Primarily because I see this as “beta male” behavior. When a man in a relationship gives attention to other women, it is embarrassing in one of two ways: (A) the other woman doesn’t want his attention, in which case he’s the creepy weirdo that women mock in private (B) the other woman does want his attention, in which case she uses him to boost her own ego which still makes him seem like a “beta male” The classic redpill claims that women are attracted to men who “get around.” I feel the opp…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 03:48 PM
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Okay but if you’re saying things on the first date like “wow your body is so hot I just want to bang your brains out,” that’s going to fail more than it’s going to succeed. Subtlety is an art. Men would do well for themselves to learn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:08 PM
19

Me and my husband were both virgins when we had sex. It was pretty good. We both finished, me multiple times. Sex isn’t that hard. Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 01:09 AM
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So, there’s one possibility here: it’s entirely possible that you were sub-consciously lording over your exes with your success and money. When I first read your post, I got the impression that you were a successful woman with a habit of pursuing abusive men (which is why you got the impression that all men are intimidated by successful women). However, I then read this part of your post: he is the prototype of a beta man, not that great of a catch (my exes were better looking and had a better i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 01:24 PM
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I am still worried about it because I have a husband and I would be devastated if he were forcefully separated from me and I had to live every day knowing he might not come home. Also knowing that he might get injured/killed and I wouldn’t be there to support him. Not sure why you think women are unaffected by war. I’m not denying we are massively privileged by not being subjected to the draft, but what do you think women had to do while their men were at war? They went to work in the factories.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 12:38 PM
3

It’s sad that even men like Adam Levine are simps. The way he talked to that random e-girl was just…sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 01:42 AM
5

This indicates to me that you are a healthy male.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 01:41 AM
29

One, my husband He’s been my only sexual partner. To clarify, since many men tend to assume we aren’t including oral sex partners: my husband is the only man who has seen my breasts or my genitalia. He is the only one who has touched either of those parts of my body. And his is the only penis I’ve ever touched in a non-professional setting (I’m a nurse).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 10:27 PM
1

In order to reconcile after infidelity, you (the betrayed partner) will have to put your foot down and become very assertive. This means demanding honesty and respect. It means demanding transparency. Sometimes it means being cold or distant when you know your wayward (i.e., cheating) partner is being dishonest. It will be incredibly hard to maintain a submissive, feminine role in the relationship while also defending yourself from his actions. I’m not saying you should break up. But if you do w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 12:00 AM
14

No one who got cheated on expected their partner to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:52 PM
5

Has anybody here been terribly wrong about someone before? Because I have. I have friends that I’ve known for decades. Never would’ve pegged them as the sort of person to steal or cheat or commit acts of violence…until they did. There are so many people who have been cheated on and never would’ve expected it. Go to the infidelity subreddit and read stories from betrayed spouses. You’ll see them write things like: “My husband and I have been together for 30 years and I never would’ve expected him…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:49 PM
5

It genuinely depends on the “primary” women in the group. Even in groups of females a hierarchy does etch itself out eventually. If the women with the most permanent positions in the group are kind and loving, then the entire group will be a positive environment. On the other hand, if the women with the most primary positions in the group are snotty, then it creates a hostile environment. Overall I would say: no, women don’t hate each other in general. But I think women are more likely to be aff…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:18 PM
2

It depends on the situation. If you have just told me you cheated on me, or took my cat to the shelter without my permission, or made fun of me for having a miscarriage…I’m probably going to scream and shout. And I won’t apologize for it. But screaming because they left the milk out? Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:41 PM
14

I sympathize with men’s inherent (and powerful) desire to help and provide for women. I find that many men have a “hero” complex that causes them to play white knight for women. Which is one of those double-edged traits. Because obviously it’s a good thing to be a good person and help people. But there are some men who will go to the ends of the Earth to help women who have no intentions of ever getting better. Example: Tom has a friend named Sally. Sally has a lot of trauma and has confided in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:38 PM
12

Having an intense sense of romance and knowing that many men don’t seem to understand the thrill of it because they seem primarily focused on practicality (going to work, doing chores, etc.) and sex with no sense of romance. By romance I’m referring to emotional dynamics. Sexual tension is one of them. I love building sexual tension with my husband. But oftentimes it’s impossible to do so because he either (a) doesn’t understand the subtleties of sexual tension and thinks I’m just being friendly…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:38 AM
13

If you refuse to tell people why you’re upset, then don’t burden them with your bad mood. If you refuse to tell people why you’re upset, do a better job of pretending like nothing is wrong. If you’re stomping around the house making everyone uncomfortable slamming doors and acting moody, you are making it everyone else’s problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:25 PM
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From an evolutionary perspective, men went to war because women were staying at home and getting pregnant. A pregnant woman, or a woman who’s breastfeeding, or a woman raising small children, cannot go to war. She would be useless on the battlefield and if she dies, your kids die. So that was the trade-off. Women endure 9 months of misery and the pain of childbirth and breastfeeding and being the primary caregivers of children while men go to war. Both sexes are risking their lives - women risk …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:13 AM
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Because there’s no pressure to maintain the romance. You can talk without the relationship looming over your heads. At the end of the conversation you can both go separate ways, no harm no foul. In a relationship it’s not that simple. Also in relationships people feel like they have to lie. You can’t tell your partner you’re losing attraction to them because they’re getting fat. You have to sugarcoat it by saying “I think we should eat healthier together” because otherwise you’re a bad partner b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:51 PM
11

Because all “pills” apply to marriage as well as dating. Relationship dynamics between men and women still matter once you’re married and there are tons of married couples who are unhappy because they don’t understand the same dynamics that make dating work. Married couples often stop dating each other once they’re married…which is why their relationships collapse. Be aware: the game continues even after you’re married. Men still need to impress their wives. Women still need to satisfy their hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:32 AM
8

I think porn is fine in the same way that the occasional McDonald’s cheeseburger is fine. But if you eat too many McDonald’s cheeseburgers, you get fat. Watch too much porn and you start having problems with real-life sex and attraction. Also, a lot of men look to porn as a guide for sex. So when you’re having sex with a man you can tell he’s in his head trying to remember porn videos instead of paying attention to you and your body and his body and the sensations you’re both feeling. In regards…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:35 PM
5

Redpillers rarely fit the definition of traditional men. Especially PUAs
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:49 PM
5

The issue is women often find that unattractive in the same way men find it unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:15 PM
6

That’s like saying it doesn’t matter if someone is morbidly obese as long as they ate McDonald’s cheeseburgers instead of filet mignon. The problem here is that you view this as a jealousy issue. The man is jealous of the men the woman slept with, so as long as those men are uglier, it shouldn’t matter…right? That seems to be your viewpoint. The problem is…it’s not a jealousy issue. It’s disgust at the behavior itself. If I see someone gorging themselves until they puke on McDonald’s, that’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:41 PM
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Personally? I think it’s unattractive when men are indecisive. I think it’s especially unattractive when men are indecisive in regards to relationships. I see indecisiveness as a feminine, submissive trait. To be totally harsh, I see indecisiveness as a low-testosterone behavior in men. And yeah, I’m factoring his age into this. Even at 19 he should be able to tell you what he wants (whether it be something casual or something serious). The type of men I pursue are simple: they know what they wa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 11:20 PM
1

You’re just factually wrong. My mom was a 50-year-old alcoholic high school dropout who smoked cigarettes and had four kids with two men. Divorced twice. She landed a 30-year-old muscular intelligent man who looks like Ray Lewis. He stayed with her for four or five years. Moved in with her. Spent money on her. Took her on dates. Loved the fuck out of her. “The wall” is men coping. Sorry, I didn’t want to believe it either, but it is. I grew up white trash in a trailer park. I’ve seen more women …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:24 PM
4

Because buying flowers, showering her in compliments, constantly texting her…all of those things are low effort. Women aren’t like men. Men will take a low-effort woman. All she has to do is be hot and get naked for you. But it’s not women’s faults that your standards are so low. Women want an emotional connection. We want you to like us for who we are. A lot of men struggle with that. You like us for how we look and how you’ve idealized us in your heads. Once I went on a date with a guy and he …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:34 PM
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The problem here is that both men and women have conflated simping with being a nice guy. Bringing flowers on the first date, to me, is simping. Because why would you bring flowers to a woman before she’s had the chance to show you her character? For all you know, she could be a piece of trash. Bringing her flowers signals that you’re willing to do nice things for her despite the fact that you barely know her. That is simping. Of course, women will be turned off by this. But it’s often unconscio…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:15 PM
51

I’m not going to lie, OP. This entire post makes you sound suspicious to me. There’s a dubiousness to your writing that I think is intentional. It sounds like you’re trying to passive-aggressively convince us to side with you and agree that his boundaries are unfair without outright coming forward and saying “I think my boyfriend is being unfair.” He and I clicked instantly and liked each other. he is a wonderful friend - I’d really prefer to keep him. This is an odd way to describe a casual fri…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 08:32 PM
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This whole idea that women are the ones who get “used” during sex. More and more often I am seeing the opposite: men having sex with a woman, assuming there will be a relationship, and then getting his heart broken when he realizes she was just using him. Maybe she was horny, maybe she was trying to make her ex jealous, maybe she just wanted the single-use validation. Either way, I can no longer see men spinning plates and think “oh that guy is a real alpha, he’s a player, he’s on top of the gam…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:54 PM
11

We failed an entire generation with how normalized drinking has become. The answer is pretty simple: stop drinking so much in one sitting. You should never drink enough to get drunk. At most you should drink until you feel a light buzz. And you should always wait 30+ minutes between drinks so that you have time to truly gauge whether or not you’re ready to have another drink. There’s no way to control yourself while drunk because being drunk means you have lost your inhibitions. Even if you tell…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:04 PM
1

Men are extremely virile and horny when they’re young. This doesn’t really support your theory that older men are the ones meant to reproduce. If anything you’d want the genes of a young, healthy, athletic and horny male. This is the male who can impregnate the most women and is most biologically fit for producing healthy offspring. He’s also the male who would have the most success defending your village from attackers back in the day. At the end of the day, I’ve never met an older man or woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:41 PM
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Society used to address this by allowing young men to form a brotherhood and engage in aggressive but ultimately harmless activities (hunting, wrestling, sports, hard labor on the farm, etc.) Nowadays a lot of young men have no way to release their physical aggression and not enough good male friends to empathize with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:35 PM
22

Men have been having premarital sex since forever. Kings would start fucking around 14 or 15 but they still married for the sake of creating political ties to other families. For the vast majority of human history, and in all societies, marriage was simply a matter of business. It had nothing to do with procuring sex. In every society where women are expected to remain virginal until marriage…men aren’t. As long as they don’t have any bastard children, no one cares. Even after they marry, no one…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:58 AM
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It probably still is. Women have voices in our head that tell us we aren’t good enough. Boobs not big enough, butt not big enough. Those voices certainly aren’t our own. They are the voices of men (and perhaps some women) we’ve heard over our formative years. By the time we do get older and secure a stable boyfriend, we no longer believe what he says. My husband could call me the hottest woman in the world. That still doesn’t silence the internal voice that developed after years of hearing jokes…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:44 PM
11

I suppose that only works if you are the one who broke up with your ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:40 PM
7

As a group men need to stop simping for women. It’s the reason women have so much power in the sexual marketplace. The incels on TRP learning pick-up artistry to try and avoid becoming a “beta bucks” are just as bad as simps. Women still hold power over them. I think 10 years of all unmarried men going MGTOW and refusing to settle for thots would do wonders to improve the dating game. It would give men time to become respectable desirable high-value partners again. And it would also force women …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:51 PM
12

Women will sleep with a man solely for the ego boost. Men think women hook up with them because they’re handsome, wealthy, etc. Women know the truth. A lot of women will sleep with you because they’re horny, they’re trying to make their ex jealous, they want the ego boost or the attention, etc. None of those things make you look good as a man. I wouldn’t date a man who allows himself to be used by women in that manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 11:42 AM
10

If a man had approached me at Barnes and Noble and started a conversation about the books I was reading, then asked me on a date, I would’ve said yes. Also the gym. I’m a woman who wouldn’t mind being asked out at the gym. I respect the confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 11:41 AM
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I see you posting hard truths today and I appreciate it. I wish men understood this. The more attention you give to women, the more you devalue your attention. Men should understand this logic since they apply it to sex with women. “The more men she has sex with, the more she devalues sex.” Okay, so if you’re a man and I know any woman can approach you and sit in your lap and get your attention…why should I compete for your attention? It’s too easy. All any woman has to do is post a thirst trap …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:18 AM
7

Pursuing every woman with a pulse makes you unattractive to 99% of women. At that point you’ll be stuck with a woman who’s also so desperate she’s willing to accept any man who will take her. Women don’t want the guy who’s desperate. We don’t want the guy who’s going to say “yeah I asked out 1,000 women and she’s the one who said yes” on our wedding day. It’s embarrassing. There’s a reason MGTOW men always notice women showing them more attention once they stop trying to date women. Men who aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:06 AM
7

And yet, not every young person has a hoe phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:44 PM
4

It’s not about whether or not you’re allowed to do it. It’s about whether or not your partner wants to tolerate being made to wait when you already held others to much lower standards. No one wants to wait knowing you’re a “born-again” type.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 05:53 PM
13

I find it strange how so many men are so obviously intimidated by women. Even PUAs are intimidated by women…which is why they spend hours, weeks, and months developing their skills to become better at spinning plates. As if women are the final boss of a man’s life. I think the world operates better when men are more focused on earning the respect of other men. A man who has climbed up the male social hierarchy will naturally be more attractive to women. I think that’s where the redpill gets it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:35 AM
3

I would agree that women tend to form expectations based on their exes’ best traits. It she dates John (who’s super funny) and Tim (with the massive dick) and Jared (who was so romantic), she will want her current partner to be as funny as John, as well-endowed as Tim, and as romantic as Jared…with none of the flaws those exes had. And even if she settles with a guy who doesn’t measure up to her exes, she’ll secretly compare them and develop minute resentment because of it. But…the same thing is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:30 AM
14

Jesus Christ. A woman abuses her child and the first thing you do is find a way to blame the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 10:06 PM
2

Ugly women don’t even have to approach men to get rejected. Men will look at them with open disgust in public. The same way women look at ugly men with open disgust in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:01 PM
3

Children who actively engage in sexual behavior at a young age are oftentimes the victims of sexual assault. I know more people who were sexually abused as children than not. My guess is the girls who initiated those acts with you were sexually abused. The same is true of boys. Boys in a daycare who run around shoving their hands down girls’ pants…someone needs to investigate further because that boy has most likely been assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:00 PM
5

I get it. I think women get pissed off by the same thing. You go on a date with a guy. He acts like he cares about you. Then it turns out he only wanted to fuck you. Men go to comic-con and are surrounded by women who only want to take monetary advantage of horny lonely nerdy guys. I hate how women see players as evil monsters but they see sex workers as hustlers. Let’s be real: not all sex workers are ethical. A lot of them will pretend to be genuinely interested in a guy just to get into his w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:51 PM
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I want a man whose life doesn’t revolve around women. A lot of redpill men (especially the ones who are interested in spinning plates) revolve their lives around women. They have long discussions about strategies to impress women so they can have lots of casual sex. They go to the gym to build confidence in impressing women (versus going to the gym to improve their health). They dress and groom themselves because women like men who do those things. So on and so forth. A lot of PUAs and redpill m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 12:38 PM
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The problem I have with redpill ideology (or, at least, the concept of spinning plates) is that it still requires a man’s life to revolve around women. Pick-up artists continue to place women on a pedestal. They go to the gym to build muscle to impress women. They get on the internet to write long paragraphs about impressing women. They dress in a way that’s meant to impress women. Even when they’re practicing strategies like “negging”…their entire lives still revolve around women. And here’s th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 02:10 AM
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I was a virgin when I started dating my husband. I don’t feel like I missed out. My husband satisfies me. There is no man good enough for me to threaten my relationship with my husband. Even if my husband isn’t the best guy for me (assuming my god-appointed soul-mate is out there somewhere), I’m happy with my husband. Oh, we have our problems. I come to Reddit to vent about some of those problems. But even with those problems I wouldn’t cheat. Sometimes I want to tear his head off but I would di…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:37 PM
7

The amount of both men and women with a long history of abusive partners says otherwise. There are so many people out there who genuinely have no clue how to spot very obvious red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:33 PM
2

Why not just pursue an open relationship? Why pretend to be monogamous and cheat? Why intentionally hurt people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 09:02 PM
4

Because it is a chore and a burden. That’s why therapists get paid good money to do it. It’s exhausting being unable to take care of your own needs because you’re constantly comforting someone else and walking on eggshells to avoid triggering them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 05:22 PM
51

I don’t play court games in relationships. I don’t do that “well technically I wasn’t in the wrong because technically…” bullshit. If we’re dating and you talk to me like you’re into me and happy with me and want to be with me…but you’re sleeping with other people, I can only assume you’re fake. When I’m first dating a man, I lose interest in all others. That’s just how my brain works. If your brain isn’t similar to mine, I don’t want to date you. Is Abby technically wrong? No. But if I was Jack…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:08 PM
39

I can handle a man who won’t initiate. What I can’t handle is a “huh” man. You know the type. You bring up a problem and they act dumb and say “huh…huh what. Dunno what you’re talking about. Yeah sure…huh, guess so…yeah I’ll try harder…huh” Then you explain the problem and they give you vague answers. Nah. I like a man who is self-aware. Tell me why you won’t initiate. Either make an effort to initiate more or at least find a way to compromise with me. Or tell me there is no compromise. Either w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:52 AM
1

Because women often create their own insecurities. I had a friend who constantly told me that I need to lose my virginity because the man I marry “will want a girl with experience.” Ironically, me and this friend both dated the same guy (my now husband) and they both admit that my friend couldn’t get him to finish from a blowjob. Me, the virgin? No problems in that department. This same friend later admitted that she was insecure about the number of guys she slept with and she felt like a slut b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:28 PM
4

If you showed sexual interest in a male upon first meeting him, how many times do you think they would treat you like a creep or even become physically violent with you? How many of them would be disgusted? Your response might be “yeah but I don’t see guys as potential sexual partners.” There you go. That’s it exactly. You don’t walk up to him and treat him like “potential hole to fuck #2556.” When a man shows sexual interest in me despite not knowing me, I’m already looking down on him because …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:48 PM
15

To me this indicates a lack of intelligence (and I mean as little offense as that statement can carry). Humans are complex. We often have emotions that don’t fit with black-and-white ideology. I can hate abuse and murder and rape and still enjoy songs that are aggressive with those subject matters. Those two things can be true at the same time. If your brain can’t comprehend that, then…like I said, I see it as a lack of intelligence. It’s like saying MMA fighters must hate each other because the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:07 PM
3

This is what men don’t understand: The harder you have to work to get pussy, the more pathetic you seem. The more you chase pussy, the more pathetic you seem. Women who are smart enough to see through PUA’s facades are immediately less attracted to them. “Oh I have to work harder to get pussy and you don’t!” That doesn’t make it any less off-putting. I don’t want a soda that’s been in 50 women’s vaginas, know what I mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:36 AM
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If you’re a man who’s going to reject a woman because she has a high body count, then you had better be graceful about it if a woman rejects you for having a high body count. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:34 AM
3

Where did OP blame all men for the individuals mentioned in her post? Where does OP mention going out of her way to be cruel to men or treating men badly because of the things some men have done to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:52 PM
2

How do you plan on vetting a woman’s character when you can barely communicate with her, don’t understand her culture or customs, don’t know her family and can barely communicate with them, and hardly understand the daily realities of life in her country? Lmao. Vet her character. Men can barely vet women who grew up in the same city as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:00 AM
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Okay but when a woman claims to be a virgin, redpill men immediately assume she’s lying because “take her stated n-count and add three.” Let’s be real: most redpill men don’t believe women when they claim to be virgins. I was legitimately a virgin (no oral, no handjobs, never even saw a man’s genitals in real life) at 19 when I started dating my husband. But if he were redpilled the community would’ve told him I was lying. It creates a catch-22 for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:38 AM
23

So you think you will be damaging your future wife by having sex with her? That sounds like it will be an unpleasant experience for both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:40 PM
12

Feminism is a lot more than believing men and women should be treated equally. Some self-proclaimed feminists believe that trans women are women and should have full access to women’s spaces. Some self-proclaimed feminists believe that trans women are men and should have zero access to women’s spaces. Both groups argue that the others aren’t “true feminists.” Stop acting like you can boil feminism down to a belief in equality. It’s a small-brain argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 08:35 PM
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Men who can’t recognize when their jokes aren’t landing. I had a guy who was trying to be cute with me (I’m not into cutesy stuff to begin with). He was trying to get me to arm wrestle him and bantering with me about “oh you’re scared, you’re scared.” I wasn’t interested in arm wrestling with him, nor did I have the energy to banter with him about it. But he took my lack of interest as…well, banter. I told him I didn’t want to arm wrestle. He thought I was playing along with him. In reality I ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:50 PM
6

I’m 25. I can’t imagine dating an 18-year-old boy. When I see boys that age walking around, I see them as boys. I see them as children. And even if I met a guy who looked older and seemed really smart and mature…if he told me he was 18, I’d feel weird dating him. Why? Because he would undoubtedly be less mature than me. He would undoubtedly be at a disadvantage in the relationship because he simply doesn’t have as much life experience as I do. If I were to date a 40-year-old, there’s only one of…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:26 AM
11

I am a woman and I prefer a man who hasn’t slept with a lot of women. The more women he’s slept with, the more likely it is he’s slept with women who are trashy, obnoxious, classless, rude, etc. and I look down on men who will sleep with otherwise undesirable women solely so they can get some pussy. To me that’s pathetic. I’m more interested in men who have high standards. And “I’ll sleep with any willing woman” doesn’t count as high standards to me. I also don’t consider it an accomplishment to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:14 AM
13

“Only when necessary” So every single time you go to work? Lol Also, owning your own business means you’ll be busier than the average person working 9-5.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:47 PM
11

Single mothers who use sperm donors don’t have a two-parent household, do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:45 PM
1

These traits are personally unattractive to me. I would be worried that you’ll be unreliable especially when it comes to fidelity. “Hyperactive and excitable around people” sounds like it would lead to “sorry babe I just got caught up in the moment and kissed her.” Then again, I’ve spent my entire life around hyperactive and excitable people (my mom, my husband) and so I’m biased. Both of the people I listed have done incredibly stupid, impulsive things that damaged our relationship because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:22 PM
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You are not responsible for the shift in dynamic. He is exhibiting a “beta” mentality (I don’t normally use beta/alpha language, but it’s the most appropriate word I can think of here). If men want to be leaders and captains, then they need to have inner motivation. It’s not a woman’s job to “inspire” a man to lead. It’s not a woman’s job to force a man to lead. If a man becomes depressed and starts neglecting his duties, it’s the wife’s responsibility to make sure her children are cared for fir…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:29 AM
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Women can tell when you’re putting on an act. The thing about abusive assholes is…they don’t put on an act. A lot of them are genuinely charismatic and women blatantly ignore the red flags because of it. They don’t pretend to be nice. Every woman who dated an abusive asshole had multiple people telling her he was a POS (because it was obvious) and she ignored them. When awkward shy nerdy guys try to act like Andrew Tate…you become even more awkward. You know the kid in school who decides he’s th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 02:43 AM
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So once your friends get into relationships or married, you must immediately stop being friends with them? If that’s your mentality, then no wonder you’re socially isolated. My husband still hangs out with his single friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:47 PM
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It doesn’t bother me. The men I’ve historically been interested in (and the one I married) are the types who don’t sleep with any woman that offers. They’re the types who will only have sex with a woman they love. Every other man is a non-sexual person to me. I can’t feel attraction to a man who will have casual sex with any willing woman - it feels pathetic to me. But that might be because I’m a woman and in general we have higher standards for ourselves so I also expect men to have higher stan…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:49 AM
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I know very few men my age who know how to fix a screen door or change their oil. My dad does know how to do all that (and so much more) and he has complained about every young apprentice he’s had because none of them know how to do the basic repair work that he was doing at 14 years old. Women aren’t the only ones failing to learn their traditional duties.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 06:11 PM
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My husband, if he’s hungry, will ask me what I want for dinner and then when I make dinner he won’t eat it and will then tell me “Well I wasn’t in the mood for meatloaf tonight.” Okay…so why not tell me that? Why not tell me what you want instead of asking me what I want? If he does cook, he leaves the kitchen a mess. He assumes I will clean it up. If I don’t clean it up, it will stay a mess until we literally can’t cook in the kitchen any longer. My husband also ignored a $3,000 medical bill un…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 06:09 PM
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Just tell him straight up what you want. Men aren’t women. They don’t need cute little strategies or walking on eggshells to protect their feelings. Tell him you love him and you’re attracted to him but you would feel more attracted to him and more turned on if he dressed well instead of shabby. And it absolutely is possible to dress well on a budget.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 11:27 PM
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My husband. He did not take care of himself at all physically back when we met. But he was super charismatic. Dated him when he was 5’ 6” and nearly 200 lbs. He’s still 5’ 6” obviously but now takes care of himself physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 08:55 PM
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Porn doesn’t involve interaction, though. It’s a solitary activity. When I’m watching porn I don’t feel as though I’m with another person or having any sort of interaction with another person. That would be delusional. I assumed from the question that OP was referring to women getting real life attention from other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:41 PM
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You are correct. When I worked at the hospital, almost all of the doctors there were married to other doctors or surgeons. The idea that highly successful men are out looking for housewives and uneducated women is false. It’s the biggest lie the redpill tells to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:10 PM
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Hm. I’d say that focusing too much on his lack of confidence will only drive him further into a hole. Because when you tell someone “you should be more confident!” you’re still telling them “hey, you have this other character flaw in addition to all the other ones you were already worried about.” Telling someone they aren’t confident enough is a criticism even if you mean it as a compliment. The way you describe him…he seems well-adjusted. No obvious mental illness, right? If that’s the case, I …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 11:41 PM
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Or it might be the little voice in their head saying “she has the ability to lie about your kids being yours.” One of the wonderful things about being a woman is having 100% certainty your kids are yours and knowing you’ll never have to deal with the trauma of discovering that your partner (a) cheated and (b) the kids you’ve been raising aren’t biologically yours. I think we underestimate how devastating a discovery that is for men. And every man who found out his kids weren’t his thought he cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:04 PM
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I genuinely wouldn’t care. I’m married and I’m building my career and teaching myself how to improve my cooking and trying to write a novel. I feel like that statement would’ve offended me when I was 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 09:59 PM
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“Bad boys” are unlikely to have status. They more often end up in prison, addicted to drugs, or dead. If you want status, you have to successfully participate in some sort of hierarchy. “Bad boys” with rebellious attitudes are unlikely to cooperate with the rules and regulations of any hierarchy. Even mobsters have a hierarchy and show respect to their boss.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:08 PM
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Okay, but it’s extremely extremely unattractive when you’re on a date with a man and you can tell he’s putting on an act to try and impress you. I don’t want that. I want honest genuine conversation. Not some act where I’m forced to play the role of starry-eyed woman who blushes and acts shy every time the man compliments her. I hate social interactions that involve an underlying script. And I hate feeling like I have to validate a man’s persona that he put on specifically for the date. That’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:52 PM
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I dislike rating systems in general, but I understand that your goal is to find out if you’re too kind and the rating system gives us an “objective” way to measure that. So, here we go: I’d say your rating system is pretty fair. I don’t think you’re giving “easy As.” However, based on what I’ve seen from men on the “rate me” subreddits, I’m convinced men have far higher physical standards than what they claim when they’re bemoaning their lot in life. I’m a woman. I generally tend to rate both me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 01:48 AM
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I think a lot of women submit naturally when they are extremely attracted to a man. I am generally stoic, unemotional, and don’t like being cuddly/cute. But when I’m ovulating or otherwise super horny toward my husband, all the sudden I’m clinging to him and emotional and needy. It’s a nice feeling honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:03 AM
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I do expect old men to tell the difference between “gold diggers who want into your wallet and will do sexual favors in return” and “women just simply minding their own business online.” The same way women should know the difference between a man who wants a serious relationship and a man who’s just enjoying the FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:47 PM
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A better question would simply be the exact opposite scenario: Men, if you could get pregnant, and your wife (or girlfriend) wanted a maternity test, would you accept that without hostility? I guarantee most men would. I have found (in my own experiences with friends/acquaintances and their relationships) that men are often far less offended by accusations of infidelity than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:42 PM
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There are players and there are captains. A player is a guy who knows how to spin plates. He can achieve casual sex. He can put on a persona and knows all the little tactics and tricks to play the game. He will be whoever he needs to be to impress his target woman. A captain is a man who has improved himself for himself. He knows what he wants. He knows his values. And he seeks out a woman who matches those values. He doesn’t put on a persona - what you see is what you get. He doesn’t play games…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:45 PM
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If the man specifically wants a paternity test, it’s still personal even if universal paternity testing exists. It just saves him the conversation of “hey, I want a paternity test” because now it’s an automatic process. He no longer has to ask for it. But that doesn’t remove the motivation that pisses women off so much. Seems like an incredibly expensive solution when women could just…stop being offended and start having empathy for men. We get 100% certainty. If both sexes could get pregnant, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:39 PM
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Everyone who found out their kid wasn’t theirs also thought their partner would never cheat. Men aren’t mind readers. You want them to be as confident in your fidelity as you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:35 PM
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I have one ex and I doubt he would marry me because I don’t enjoy being slapped around. Note: he never once laid a hand on me. But he was unfaithful and I saw the warning signs that he was abusive and broke up with him. He later became physically abusive with all of his following partners. He was also very pushy sexually and I rejected him. My next serious relationship was my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:19 PM
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You think stay at home mothers don’t make a financial contribution to the relationship? How about all the money you save on childcare costs? Daycare is expensive. A nanny can be even more expensive than that. Stay at home parents are incredibly important. Kids do better when they aren’t shoved into daycare five days a week while mommy and daddy are at work. I hope none of the people shitting on stay at home parents plan on having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:17 PM
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I feel like sex work has a negative impact on men the same way our current culture has had a negative impact on women: Men will grow accustomed to receiving mind-blowing sex from women far out of their league in exchange for money. …The same way a lot of women are having mind-blowing sex with men far out of their league simply because men like to fuck. This doesn’t solve the problem. Just makes things even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:37 PM
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I disagree. When I’m venting my emotions, I want engagement. For example, if I’m telling my husband about my boss getting pissed at me at work, I want him to be able to say, “Well, her reaction was over-the-top, but you did give someone the wrong dose of insulin…that’s a big deal.” (Note: I have never done this. It’s a hypothetical). I never never never want a conversation where someone is just “following the rules.” And giving advice is just another form of following the rules. I want someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:49 PM
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As a woman, I think hypergamy can be boiled down to “women want a man they can respect.” He has to be really good (better than me) at something but not necessarily everything. My husband was broke when I started dating him. He was overweight. Living in his brother’s basement. High-school dropout. But he had two traits that I respected: he was extremely charismatic (I wasn’t), and he was an extremely hard worker (12 hour shifts 5 days a week type of hard work). I was hypergamous not when it came …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 10:03 PM
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Until I feel he’s committed to me and in love with me. My husband waited like 3-4 months. He was my first and only partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:14 PM
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Stop using a persona. A lot of people think “I want to be the class clown” or “I want to be really charismatic” or “I want to be that guy who just doesn’t give a fuck” So they write a little script in their head of who they want to be and then they try to force everyone around them to participate in the act. Talking to someone like this is exhausting because the conversation revolves around validating their persona. For example, someone who’s trying to be the “class clown” will keep forcing thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:11 PM
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“Confidence” doesn’t mean thinking you deserve a model. It means you’re going to be yourself. Without shame. You’re confident, so when you go on a date you aren’t going to put on this “suave debonair” persona and try to impress the woman. You’re not going to play games (like negging, pretending to be something you’re not, etc.). Too many guys follow a script on dates. Too many guys act how they think a ladies man would act and then say “oh that doesn’t work.” Of course it doesn’t work. People se…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:05 PM
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It honestly just means you’re human. Killing isn’t masculine. It’s an extremely violent act that humans have had to perform in the past to defend and feed ourselves. We live in more peaceful times now but in the past violence was pretty normal. Life used to be actual brutal, and that’s why we enjoy watching shows with violence and brutality - it’s a lot more intense than working 8 hours at the office and then coming home, cooking spaghetti, and playing video games for a few hours. Humans (some m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:10 AM
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C I have always had guys interested in me, but they’ve always been guys that are friends/acquaintances. I don’t usually go to places where approaching someone is considered normal (I don’t go to bars, clubbing). I did have a stranger ask me out at the drive-thru once. I would personally rate myself a 5 or a 6 but I’ve seen pretty women here rated a 3 or a 4 so I guess it’s a toss-up. My husband has rated me a 10. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 10:42 PM
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If a man refers to himself as a feminist, that would be an automatic dealbreaker for me (if I was single). So many of them do the dumb “well if you view women as equal you’re a feminist” argument. The No True Scotsman fallacy. Which completely undermines the actual complexity of feminist theory. Feminism is so much more nowadays than a belief in equality, or being against sex trafficking. It encompasses so many more beliefs than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:24 PM
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I wonder how many men are capable of finishing from prostate stimulation alone. I would suggest that number (even if high) is skewed because there are many, many men who have never - and will never - try prostate stimulation in a sexual setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:09 PM
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I care less about the number of women he’s slept with and more about the quality of women he slept with. I have a guy who was interested in me (I’m married and would’ve denied him no matter what) and I realized that even if I was single I would’ve rejected him instantly. He’s objectively attractive and fun…but I was friends with him on social media and saw the types of women he dated. Immature meth-addicted strippers with multiple baby daddies. Women who get into “baby daddy drama” arguments on …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:26 PM
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I feel like this is equivalent to saying: Women are jealous of men because men are treated like kings for having sex (whereas women are treated as sluts). I guarantee most women would take issue with “jealousy” as a concept in these arguments. Let’s be real: if a man wants a paternity test he is demonized by women. There are women who would divorce their husbands for getting a paternity test. So let’s not act as though that’s a viable option for most men who want a stable household. If a man can…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:21 PM
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He was stupidly (and by stupidly I mean “very”) charismatic. He also teased me in a playful shit-talking way and that makes my heart melt. I love men who aren’t intimidated by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:47 PM
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My husband may or may not DNA test our kids. I don’t really care either way. I see it the same as a pre-nup. Do I think we’ll get divorced? Nah. Would I have wanted a pre-nup (if I had assets before we got married)? Absolutely. Same with DNA testing. Does he think I cheated? No, not really. Does he still want 100% undeniable proof? Sure. I’d do the same thing if I was a man. If magically men could get pregnant and my husband had a bun in the oven, you’d better be damn sure I would be getting a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:53 PM
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I agree. A lot of women will have a casual/FWB relationship and then cry foul when the man doesn’t want anything serious. “So I’m good enough for sex but not a relationship?!” is something I’ve heard so many women whine about even though they knew it was only casual sex. Meanwhile, I’ve never seen a man complain about a woman “sex zoning” him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:50 PM
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My husband refused the COVID vaccine. I didn’t. Don’t mind - we know two people who had poor reactions to it, one of whom had a serious enough reaction to warrant a trip to the hospital. However, we have a friend who is 100% against all vaccines and has already said he will not allow his future kids to have any vaccines and that sort of thinking would be a no-go for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:46 PM
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You can be a virgin woman and still end up being a kinky degenerate freak in bed. My husband should know. He’s gotten hour-long blowjobs when he was trying to finish for the third time in a row. And we’re each other’s only sexual partners. Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets. It’s possible. The same way a man can be a safe provider and also be a monster in bed. People want to act like it’s impossible to be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:41 PM
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That’s dependent entirely on several factors. Is the cheater remorseful? Are they willing to put in genuine hard work to repair themselves and become someone trustworthy? Is the betrayed partner able to work toward forgiving and trusting their partner again in the future? Are they able to recover from the betrayal trauma (even if it takes a long time)? Are kids involved? What type of cheating was it (one night stand or long-term affair?) So on and so forth. I could forgive my husband for a one n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:20 PM
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Would future significant others be comfortable knowing you are friends with someone you would be with had they not rejected you?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 04:07 PM
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I agree. Also, to note: no woman wants to settle down with the guy who would “take what he can get.” Every woman wants to feel like she met some standard that the man has. If the standard is “be alive and female,” then there’s no room for her to feel any attraction to you. I could never feel good about myself if I was with a man who tried with every woman he met and I just happened to be the one who worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:45 PM
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I would argue that kinky sex is natural. Aggression is 100% natural. Almost all animals exhibit forms of aggression. When cats and dogs play they bite and nip and scratch at each other. Humans are the same when we rough-house. MMA, football…forms of playing that involve aggression. Sex is a form of playing. It’s both fun and loving. So arguing that rough aggressive kinky sex isn’t natural is just…wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:53 PM
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I will absolutely agree that there is a subset of women, active on social media (and especially Reddit) who hold men to ridiculous standards. However…if your selling point as a man is that you’ll help with the dishes and you have a decent job, then yes, the bar is quite low. The same way a woman saying “I know how to cook Kraft mac and cheese and I will clean the house once a week” means the bar is quite low. We can refer to those traits as “virtues” and use purple prose to describe these people…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:50 AM
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Can you talk to him? “Boyfriend, I really appreciate all the compliments on my body. I work hard to keep a nice shape. But sometimes it feels like my body is the only thing you appreciate about me. Could you sometimes focus on my personality traits as well? Things you appreciate that aren’t just physical?” You will get older and saggier. Obviously we do everything we can to maintain our youth and our health, but aging is inevitable. It’s nice to know that your man appreciates you as a human. Als…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 09:01 PM
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Okay but women in general aren’t going to pay for a man’s OnlyFans even if they find him attractive. Can we admit that your perception is probably skewed based on the fact that women are far less likely, in general, to purchase porn when compared to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:14 PM
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We can argue semantics all day. The lingerie videos are softcore porn.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 05:53 PM
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It’s soft-core porn and it serves the exact same purpose as regular porn. Come on. Men aren’t stupid so let’s not insult them by pretending they are.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 05:52 PM
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High value men do not lie or misrepresent themselves. If he said he won’t watch porn, he shouldn’t be watching porn. If he wanted to continue watching lingerie videos, he should’ve been honest and said, “OP, I know you don’t like porn but I will continue to watch lingerie videos on YouTube.” That is what a high value man would do. He would be honest. It doesn’t matter whether or not porn is harmful. That’s a debate for another time. The problem here is he made a false promise to you and that’s n…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 02:08 PM
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She sounds awful. Where do y’all find these women? Why are men consistently choosing to date these women? You know how you feel when women choose obvious abusers and you sit there wondering where she found that guy? Women feel that same frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:12 AM
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No, you aren’t an asshole. It’s immature to break up with a man and expect him to “fight” for you. It’s very hard and scary to communicate your needs in a relationship. It’s easy to slam a door (or whatever the long-distance version of door-slamming is) and break up and say “never talk to me again!” when you’re hurt. What she wanted is for you to be vulnerable and beg for her back so that she didn’t have to open up and admit that she felt insecure because you hadn’t moved in together yet. But th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 09:00 PM
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We can debate all day about what preferences are morally acceptable and which ones aren’t. But none of it matters because people will have their preferences whether we declare them morally right or wrong in this comment thread. The practical advice was stated in the parent comment: a leader will clearly state his preferences and leave if you don’t match those preferences. The responsibility of the follower is to listen to the leader’s preferences and decide if they want to follow that leader. If…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 08:54 PM
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The word “intrusive” means “to intrude.” If someone is not demanding that you change, then they are not intruding on your life. If someone has preferences that disqualify you from being their girlfriend, they will find that out pretty quickly and the relationship can end before any serious feelings develop. The entire point of dating is to find out if someone is right for marriage. If he decides you aren’t right for marriage, or you decide he isn’t right for marriage, you break up. No harm, no f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 08:41 PM
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I would not be okay with this. I would sit my daughter down and tell her my feelings about it: I think it’s a mistake, I think she’s too young, I don’t think it’s healthy, etc. But I would also tell her that I still love her and support her and I would plan to be there for her when shit hits the fan. If shit doesn’t hit the fan, and she has a long healthy loving relationship, great. If shit does hit the fan, she can come home to a good meal and a warm bed and we’d try to help her with the divorc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:31 PM
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I don’t enjoy being chased by a man, and I can’t imagine respecting a man who enjoys the chase. I prefer interactions in which there is mutual desire. To me there are only two types of men who enjoy chasing women, and both are predatory: the “ladies man” who likes to spin plates, and the self-proclaimed “male feminist” who worships women. I look down on both types of men. Chasing women is demeaning to a man’s character in my opinion. It shows that he puts women on a pedestal and I don’t think wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:27 PM
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If you’ve asked thousands of women on a date, that means you’re basically asking any and every female you encounter on a date. That’s not how you get a date. You build a rapport with a woman and then ask her out. You don’t just reach out blindly in the dark flailing your arms around in hopes that you catch something. That’s like throwing an empty hook into a lake and hoping a fish is dumb enough to bite it and hold onto it. My guess is you’re viewing dating as a task to be completed and women as…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:18 PM
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A real leader can have whatever preferences he wants. If he wants a partner who never wears the color red, he’s free to pursue a partner who never wears the color red. Anyone can have any preferences they want as long as they don’t force potential partners to fit those preferences.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 06:13 PM
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As I said, a leader would not “make” you do anything. He would tell you what kind of woman he wants to date and if you aren’t that woman he would leave. It doesn’t matter who’s right or who’s wrong. Everyone has preferences and they’re entitled to pursue a partner who fits those preferences (or deny a partner who doesn’t fit those preferences). There’s nothing intrusive about preferring a woman who doesn’t post those pictures. There is something intrusive about forcing a woman not to post those …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 06:12 PM
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I am a woman. I can go on Facebook right now and type “I hate men” and get hearts and love reacts. What do you think would happen if a man went on Facebook and said “I hate women”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:29 PM
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If a leader doesn’t like how you’re behaving, he will tell you what his preferences are and then wait to see what you do with that information. If you choose to continue acting in a way that goes against his preferences, he will (peacefully) break up with you and move on. He won’t waste his time trying to force you to change because he will recognize that as an unhealthy dynamic for both of you. A leader knows that there is zero point in forcing someone to obey you. If you force someone to obey …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 02:43 PM
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I’m confused about what argument is being made here for it to be a “change my mind.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:21 PM
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Have you talked to him about this? I’m a big proponent of being brutally honest in relationships. My husband knows about my true feelings every step of our relationship. And I know his true feelings. I know some people don’t agree with me and have the “some things are better left unsaid” mentality, which is fine, but personally I’d hate to be in a relationship where something is gnawing at me and I can’t discuss it with my husband. It sounds like you’re trying to guess how he felt and how he fee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 01:13 PM
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I think it’s actually insane people are rating her below average. If she’s below average then I’d say the majority of people I run into are below average. I’d rate her a 6 or 7. Genuinely. I thought men were supposed to be the ones with lower standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 12:04 PM
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It’s a similar mentality. Men want a wife who’s a good mother and housemaker. Then they go find a sex worker who’s a beast in bed. Men absolutely have their own version of the “alpha bucks, beta bucks.” It’s the Madonna-Whore complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:11 PM
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A loving husband. I started dating my husband when he was making minimum wage. I lived in a moldy, fly-infested basement with him and we slept on the floor together and when he apologized for the living conditions I told him it was okay as long as I was with him. And I meant it. We’re doing much better now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:51 PM
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Ooh I disagree. I don’t want a man who does the wrong things because another woman enjoyed it so he thinks I will too. I like my husband because he’s an expert on my body and I’m an expert on his and neither of us brought any misconceptions to the table. He was 100% willing to learn with me and I was 100% willing to learn with him. I was a virgin with my husband. He’s my only sexual partner. I know how to finish from masturbation. I know my own body from masturbation. I didn’t need another man t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:42 AM
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The only reason you should allow your man to sleep with other women is if you specifically want an open relationship or you have a sexual interest in doing so. Non-monogamy should never be a “I have to accept this because my husband is a HVM and I can force myself to be okay with it” The only time non-monogamy works is if it’s a matter of “we will both enjoy it” and even then a lot of people overestimate how much they really will enjoy it. I’d say the number of people who can make non-monogamy w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 01:48 AM
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r/asoneafterinfidelity proves that, yes, people can recover from cheating. But boy is it fucking hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:58 PM
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My mom could’ve been a model. She was severely mentally ill. I suspect borderline personality disorder. Sexual abuse as a child. All she had was her looks. She was a single mother when she met my dad. She married my dad and cheated on him and destroyed him mentally. Her drug use eventually caught up to her. Now she has a beer belly and she has lung cancer and she looks far older than she is. But she still has that “pick me” way of interacting with men. She will always be a pick me. She will alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:30 PM
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The first bit of advice is so infantilizing. The woman who asks men to buy everyone a shot…what’s that going to do? The man might buy her friend a shot, and that might make the “ugly duckling” feel better, but it won’t change anything: the man won’t want her in the end and she’ll still go home alone and feel bad. This is a perfect example of how women hurt each other more than we help each other. Her friends will tell her she’s gorgeous the way she is and demand that men include her in the group…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:29 PM
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Don’t attempt to seriously date promiscuous women with poor boundaries (the ones who have “in between” relationships). She won’t ever take you seriously. She will use you for validation (this is when it feels like she’s into you and flirting with you) and then forget about you the moment a new hot guy comes along (this is when it feels like she’s flaky). This is exactly what I mean when I say men pursue shallow women and then become bitter toward all women when they get their hearts broken. Men …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:20 PM
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Eating healthy is actually easy and cheap. The problem is people’s tastebuds have grown accustomed to hyper-palatable fast food and now broccoli and chicken and rice tastes like shit. Nothing can compare to McDonald’s ketchup that’s loaded with salt and sugar. So these people go to the store and buy the super expensive “healthy” food that still tastes close to fast food and then say they can’t afford it. The truth is, a bag of broccoli, rice, and chicken is pretty cheap. Just won’t ever taste li…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:16 PM
5

No, modern feminine personalities are annoying to deal with. The California girl accent, the fake nails, the constant gossiping, the “boss bitch” sassy attitude, the shallow conversations that basically boil down to shit-talking people…that’s modern femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:14 PM
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My husband is the same way. He’s more traditional. He’s fine with me working part-time but once we have kids he wants me at home. Which is what I want as well. Neither of us will send our kids to daycare. Too many stories of abuse, kids being neglected, etc. And I’ll be damned if my kids are going to be raised by a nanny after I spent hours in labor giving birth to them. I’m of the controversial opinion that if you can afford to have one parent stay home, and you still choose to send your kids t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:09 PM
1

This is correct (in my case). When I was in high school, “cute nerdy boys” were the big thing. I had a guy who was into me (I’m pretty sure his failed pursuit of me turned him onto redpill ideology) and his way of flirting with me was by being “cute.” He was always making cutesy references to nerd shows, always poking me in a “haha I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you!” type of way, always trying to tell me how beautiful I was. He got it into his head that I was insecure (because I’m shy) …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 08:18 PM
13

If you’re in a genuinely loving relationship and you’re satisfied with your partner, you aren’t a beta bucks. A beta bucks is a man who settles down with a broken woman (i.e., she made horrible life choices and wants another person to rescue her from herself, a damsel in distress) who doesn’t satisfy him in the relationship, but he’s too afraid to stand up for himself because he views women as delicate little flowers who need protecting. There are a lot of men who fall for the damsel in distress…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:06 PM
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My husband is a dorky/geeky stoner. It’s nice when I’m just trying to relax and have fun. But he doesn’t know when to be serious. It definitely killed my attraction to him for a long time and we actually ended up in a dead bedroom. When life got serious, he was still cracking jokes and acting like the stereotypical dumb stoner. For a while I wondered if he even had emotions. One time, after a long dry spell, he finally blew up and went on a long emotional rant about all the shit that’s been both…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 12:21 AM
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Women from 3rd world countries aren’t stupid. They can tell when a man is an outcast in his own culture. The reason she’d settle for such a man isn’t because she’s too ignorant to know better. It’s because it would be her only opportunity for pursuing a better life financially. Men write comments like this and then wonder why women don’t like them. Come on. This is pathological.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:53 PM
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Women are extremely group-oriented. That’s why we’re the primary victims of social contagions (cutting, eating disorders, eraser burns, etc.) and why women rule social media movements (body positivity, metoo, etc.) Right now female empowerment is the “big thing.” Women see sassy, beautiful (see: edited), finger-snapping boss babes on social media telling them not to settle and it lights a fire inside of them. It’s an emotional thing. The commander of an army might give a big powerful speech abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:27 PM
9

It depends on a lot of factors… Is he the guy at the gym who harasses other people, records himself, and demands that other people hurry so he can hog the bench press? Or is he the guy that waits patiently, respects other people’s privacy, and helps others when needed? The former is a low-value man. The latter is a high-value man. Also: is he able to skip a day at the gym if needed? Or is he the sort of person who will have a mental breakdown if he misses a few days? This is important to know if…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 08:14 PM
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Hook-up = doesn’t exist, randoms don’t get the privilege of having sex with me (a vibrator can do the same job as any rando) Boyfriend = regular sex, occasional cooking, hanging out, minor emotional support Husband = ride or die, keep the house clean, cook regularly, regular sex, I’ll have his back in all situations (medical emergencies, financial emergencies, etc.), and he can be the father of my children, I’ll take care of him when he’s sick, take care of the kids, so on and so forth A lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 07:28 PM
2

Most women don’t even know what 6’ looks like on a man. 6’ is actually quite tall. Most women would probably guess that a 6’ man is closer to 6’ 2” or 6’ 3” The average is 5’ 9” and my husband is 5’ 6” It’s sort of like men with women’s weight. A man will say he wants a woman who weighs 120 lbs. and then drool over a woman who’s 140 lbs. (and if asked he would guess that she weighs 115-120lbs.) Women are also terrible at guessing what 6 inches looks like. In short: if someone has a “number” requ…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:30 PM
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I think if a woman has this mentality, it’s because she has an internalized Madonna-Whore complex. The Madonna-Whore complex is typically applied to men who can’t feel sexual attraction to women they love and/or respect. So they genuinely love their wives, but they will cheat with sex workers because they can’t “defile” their wives but they will “defile” a sex worker. Men with this mentality view sex as inherently negative (in that it defiles women). I think women are lying to themselves when th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:36 PM
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OP is correct. One of my instructors in college was 5’ 4” with an average face and almost every woman in my class talked about how they wished they could date him. Only two women pointed out he was too short (and both of them were 5’ 6”+) Everyone had a crush on him except for me (married) and the two taller girls. He was confident. He dressed well. He smelled good. He had good hygiene and grooming. He didn’t have that brash/over-the-top personality that some people develop to compensate for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:44 AM
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I genuinely find most men attractive in one way or another. I have a definite “type” (big, broad shoulders, masculine face) but I have also been attracted to effeminate men, short men, very thin men, obese men, etc. My husband is 5’ 6” and was obese when we started dating. I think he’s very handsome but other women have called him ugly (which I obviously find mean-spirited but whatever, they were high school bitches anyway). But I still won’t have sex easily. My husband is the only man I’ve been…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:30 AM
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I appreciate and respect directness in a man. My husband asked me “Would you like to go on a date with me?” and that was perfect in my opinion. It takes a lot of bravery to ask someone out like that and I will always respect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:33 PM
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Baby boomers are retiring and we simply don’t have enough people to replace them. Also, teachers now more than ever are being treated like trash. They can’t even send their kids to detention because they know mommy and daddy will come to defend their kid. We went from “hitting your kid for spilling milk is abuse” to “detention is inhumane and my child can do no wrong.” You can find plenty of former teachers online posting videos about this exact issue. And I could write a novel about the shitsho…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:55 PM
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But what man wants to date a prude? Note: I define a prude as someone who is uncomfortable/awkward/unenthusiastic in bed with no desire to change. Someone who is unwilling to experiment, generally not passionate about sex but does it because it’s expected of them. Or they’re one of those people who think lovemaking automatically = missionary for five minutes and only casual sex can be kinky. You can be a virgin without being a prude. There are plenty of virgins who are passionate, enthusiastic, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:20 PM
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I think casual sex is inherently degrading (for both men and women) in the sense that you’re treating another human like a living sex toy. And you’re being treated like a living sex toy. With that being said, I don’t think less of people who have casual sex. I enjoy degrading sex with my husband so I’m not one to talk down on anyone else (unless they start to bitch and moan about being degraded, at which point I want to know what else they expected?) If I was single and going on a date with a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:36 PM
2

There are many people in this world who would be a great husband to me. Probably some who would be a better husband than the one I have. There are many people in this world who would be a great wife to my husband. Probably some who would be a better wife than the one my husband has. But circumstances played out so that we chose each other, and we continue to choose each other, and neither of us is actively seeking out or fantasizing about anyone else (except maybe the occasional crush on a ficti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 04:09 PM
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The most mentally-unstable, unfaithful, false-accusation type women I know in real life are the ones who always have men waiting in line to date them. I know meth-addicted strippers with multiple baby daddies who post thirst traps on Facebook and get men like it’s nothing. They’re never single. My city is filled with women like this (we have a meth crisis right now). Men complain about women saying they hate jerks but still date them…well, men say they hate women like this and still date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:52 PM
3

More like women are attracted to dominant men and don’t enjoy a dynamic in which they are taking the dominant role. You still have agency when a man asks you on a date. You can still say “no” if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:47 PM
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If sex is something your partner wants, and they have to wait for it even though your past partners didn’t, and then you try to say “well it’s because I care about you” doesn’t that seem like a mindfuck? Having sex with someone you actually care about isn’t going to ruin the fact that you care about them. I’ve never understood that argument. “We have to take things slow because sex might ruin things if we have it too quick.” Makes no sense. If you really like someone and sex is something that ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:38 PM
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In order for a man to be physically strong (or at least stronger than the average woman), all he has to do is work out. Some basic cardio and heavy lifting will make you stronger than most women. Women should also be working out in order to stay fit. So this doesn’t really count as a double standard. A man with the same workout routine as a woman will end up being stronger than she is. Women should also be strong mentally. No one endures childbirth and caregiving without being strong mentally. W…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 11:27 PM
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What you described as “above and beyond” just sounds like what you’re supposed to do in a relationship. If my husband had a sick parent that he actually cared about (he is no contact with both parents who are in and out of prison), I would expect to take care of them. That wouldn’t be “above and beyond” for me. Also, seeing my husband in my free time and talking to him every day when we were dating never felt like going “above and beyond.” It felt like what I was supposed to do. I have never met…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:34 PM
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How exactly is reproducing a “privilege”? Let’s say a woman goes to a sperm bank and impregnates herself and now she’s raising a child entirely on her own. I’d like you to find a single parent (someone who is actually raising their child 100% alone) and ask them how privileged they feel. There’s a reason single motherhood destroys kids psychologically. It’s bad for everyone involved. Men might have a harder time reproducing, but women are the ones shouldered with actually raising the child most …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:31 PM
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OP’s argument is that RP men assume all 20-year-olds are sleeping around. You failed to comprehend what they wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:01 AM
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Compliments are not a substitute for actual conversation. If you treat a woman like a machine, where you feed her constant compliments and open doors and expect her to fall in love with you, you’re being silly. You can’t even have a real conversation with a man like this. All they do is find a way to drag the conversation back to how beautiful and amazing you are. Sorry you have to be able to carry an intelligent conversation that doesn’t just boil down to worshipping her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 08:22 PM
6

I don’t believe you’re female. You’ve made some comments that display a massive lack of knowledge regarding female anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:35 AM
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I’m gonna be honest. A lot of men who think they’re suave, confident, and good at conversation are actually just cringey. You know that kid (there’s always one) in school who tries really, really hard to be the class clown but he ends up making everyone uncomfortable? If you consistently get rejected by every woman despite being “talkative” and “good at conversation” that’s probably you. When women get abused by men they specifically chose to date, you’ll hear them say “I didn’t know he was abus…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:33 AM
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I think there’s a fine line between “being confident” and “acting the way you think a confident person would act” and that’s why a lot of people struggle when dating. Especially men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:41 AM
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Maybe not half, but she does deserve something. If stay-at-home-parents are fucked after divorce, then there’s no reason any sane person would stay home with their kids. But having at least one stay at home parent is ideal for the children. It seems absurd to send your kids to daycare and risk them getting abused when you have the financial ability to stay home with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:35 AM
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I can only talk about my own experience with my husband. I’m genuinely willing to consider teachings from all ideologies (especially redpill) and apply it to myself to see if it’s true. But the idea that women are turned off by men crying has been so ridiculously false in my case. My relationship has gone through periods where our sex life goes to shit. I’m someone who likes to organize and highlight and make bullet lists, so I bought a journal and started keeping track of my libido, my menstrua…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:59 PM
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If it’s an ultimate form of intimacy, and therefore sacred, shouldn’t men have zero problems waiting for a woman to engage in that ultimate form of intimacy? Can you really call it the “ultimate form of intimacy” on the third date with someone you hardly know?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:01 AM
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But dominant women do exist. Some of them are bound to be tall and/or muscular. Either way, OP can find an equally “flawed” woman who complements him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:19 PM
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It’s almost as if women care about a deeper connection beyond just “she’s hot,” and when they realize that’s all you care about they lose attraction because they see how shallow that mindset is. There’s nothing more unattractive to a woman than a man who will take whatever hot body he can get. It makes us feel like a slab of meat. Aren’t you the guy who was talking about celebrity men dating “mediocre” women (based solely on the women’s looks)? No wonder these women ghosted you. We’re quite perc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:08 PM
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Making sacrifices for your husband is always rewarding if he actually takes notice, acknowledges your work, and shows his appreciation. Which your husband did. I think that’s the golden difference: some women do these things for men who are unappreciative. Those women then feel like making such sacrifices is useless (in general).
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 07:42 PM
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Cruel or snotty behavior is unattractive in general. I refuse to engage in mate-protecting behavior. If I was dating a man and he showed (inappropriate) attention to a woman who was more beautiful or more promiscuous or dressed in a more revealing outfit, I would be hurt and I would discuss it with him but I would not start any drama with her. Even if it was clear she was flirting with him on purpose. It’s just not a good look. The more vulnerable you are, the more people want to protect you. As…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 04:55 PM
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Okay, do I have the wiring in my brain all screwed up? Redpill tells me that I’m more likely to be attracted to men who are loved by other women. It also tells me that if other women are repulsed by a man, I will also be repulsed by him. But I’m the opposite. If a man is respected by other men, that’s what I find attractive. I actually find a man less attractive the more female orbiters he has. I also am more likely to find a man attractive if other women don’t notice him or call him an asshole.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:20 PM
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Why? I don’t feel sad when I see a good looking woman with an average or ugly man. I assume she’s smart enough to make her own decisions and maybe he’s a great guy. Why do men have so little respect for the judgment and decision-making of other men? The only time I judge other women is when they date known abusers/cheaters and then act surprised when he’s an abusive cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:08 PM
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I’m in my mid-twenties and I would never in a million years have any sexual contact with any of my bosses. She wasn’t a child. She knew she was doing something wrong and unbelievably stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:06 PM
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Doesn’t seem like the woman the OOP wants in that thread is playing any sort of game. She’s not screwing anyone or dating anyone besides the OOP. Why should she accept him playing the game if she isn’t playing it? If you want a good girl you have to treat her like a good girl. Don’t treat a good woman like a side piece and expect her to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:55 PM
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I’m certainly not attracted to men who are dating multiple women. If I was dating a guy a knew he was with other women, I’d drop him. I’m actually more interested in men who have the respect/admiration of other men (as opposed to other women). I don’t actually care if other women find a man hot or flock to him. The man I want is the one who has authority over and the respect of other men. Strong male friendships. Strong male mentorships. I can’t stand a “only has female friends” type of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:51 PM
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I think men automatically become more attractive the less desperate they are for a woman. The guy spending hundreds on e-girls is automatically unattractive no matter how good he looks simply because he’s spending money on women who would never want him. Men who have higher standards are attractive. The problem is a lot of women right now are so obsessed with the empowerment mantra that they’ve learned to shame any man who does have standards…even if they secretly find him more attractive for ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:49 PM
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Being good to a man in a relationship isn’t being a pickme. If she was a lesbian cooking for her a female OP, calling every day to check up on her, etc. you would say it’s cute and wholesome. If she does all that for a man you call her a pickme. That’s disgusting. Stop victim-blaming. She’s wearing her heart on her sleeve and OP is taking advantage. Instead of calling him out you instead insult her for…what? For being nice to a guy she likes? Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:45 PM
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I’m someone with a darker aesthetic. I was an “emo kid” in high school and even today I still dress dark. I specifically avoid men who are into “goth girls” because the vast majority of them are obsessed with e-girls and generally make bad partners. The way he wants you to dress sounds tacky, to be honest. And if any man genuinely used the word “intimidating” to describe any aspect of me, I would lose attraction to him. I can’t be attracted to a man who’s intimidated by me. I would consider this…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 12:36 PM
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People can be brutal when they find out you’re a virgin. I’ve had friends tell me no man would ever want me because I “won’t know what to do.” This was said to me by a friend who would quit a blowjob after 10 minutes because her jaw hurt. My husband is my first and only partner but I can sure as hell go longer than 10 minutes. The idea that all virgins are automatically bad at sex will get you destroyed in hookup culture if you admit to being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:00 PM
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I disagree with the dirty jokes bit. Some people are into that kind of humor, but if we’re having a regular conversation and a guy injects a random out-of-place dirty joke, I’m going to be turned off even if he is attractive. Knowing how to read the room is important. If you make a dirty joke and then look around to see if everyone’s laughing, I’m already going to think, “Great, this guy’s testing the waters.” If people can immediately discern the ulterior motives behind your social interactions…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:58 AM
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The problem is that he probably would smash if he got the chance. Male celebrities will fuck women solely because they are sexy. They don’t care if those women are smart, accomplished, wealthy, etc. Men have created this problem by sleeping with anything they find sexually appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:48 PM
10

You must have a nasty house if you only take 3 hours to clean every week. That’s how I know you aren’t cleaning your refrigerators out or your microwaves or dusting thoroughly. Your house might look clean but what am I going to see if I open the oven? Nastiness. Men will wipe the counters and do the dishes and call the room “clean.” Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:17 PM
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How could you be sexually attracted to a man who’s both (a) stupid and (b) a beta? I guess this is why I could never have a FWB. If I’m not attracted enough to someone to date them, I’m sure as hell not going to be attracted enough to have sex with them. Anything that turns me off from a relationship also turns me off from sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:51 AM
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A lot of men cannot comprehend the concept of emotional needs. They think a woman should be happy with a home and money to go buy shoes or other dumb shit. Men will pursue shallow women and then convince themselves all women are shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:32 PM
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The point is to date a man before he becomes wealthy. If you’re there to support him and cheer him on while he works his way up to the top, it allows you two to develop a strong bond. Ideally by the time dumb gold diggers start paying attention to him, he’s too in love with you to care about the dumb gold diggers. If you can’t be with a man when he’s working his way up to the top, you want him only once he’s already there, of course he’s not going to care about being monogamous. Why should he? H…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:30 PM
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You need to grow up and stop fighting personal arguments on Reddit. This guy is pushing your buttons and you immediately screenshot his response and post it on another subreddit? One where it doesn’t even fit the subreddit? This is high-school-girl validation seeking. Come on. Be better than that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 05:22 PM
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Opposites attract when the opposing traits complement each other. For example, my husband is calm and I’m anxious. He’s able to help me stay rational when I’m freaking out about something stupid but I’ve also caught a lot of bad situations early that he would’ve missed because he’s so laid-back. However, if he wanted kids and I didn’t…that doesn’t allow us to complement one another. Now we’re butting heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:17 PM
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You never stop being a mother even if your kids are independent. It’s not like they’re completely out of your life at that point. You still need to be a guide and a mentor and a soft place to land when they struggle. If you did a good job as a parent they will still come to you when they inevitably face tough situations in life. You really shouldn’t be a parent if you think you’re done with your kids once they move out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:14 PM
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I genuinely don’t think it’s that hard for men to walk the line between “virile man with healthy sexuality” and “creep who freaks women out.” The same way it’s genuinely not that hard for women to walk the line between “woman who enjoys sex” and “woman who sleeps with three different men every week” We all complain about “oh I can’t be these two things at once” but come on. You have to learn to stop taking shallow women seriously when they insult you or call you creepy for a perfectly normal adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:16 PM
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In the same way women are terrible at vetting, so are men. Men will choose the most obvious manipulative nasty women to date and then turn around and claim women are evil when the manipulative nasty woman turns out to be evil. I have seen guys head over heels in love with women and if you say to them “hey I used to be friends with her I’m telling you she’s not a good person she will wreck your shit” you get responses white knighting her and making excuses for her shit behavior. I know one redpil…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:19 PM
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Okay then OP is obviously talking about the fact that it’s real life behavior, the women are self-aware, and yet they choose to joke about it versus correcting the poor behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:19 PM
1

Social media allows women to be immature and childish without major consequences because they can all gather together and go “yaaas queen!” “Girl you are so right! Lmao!” They don’t have to sit and wonder if the shit they’re posting makes them sound dumb or childish. And being dumb and childish in hookup culture is highly celebrated. Of course some of them will claim it’s “ironic” as a form of female humor but we all know a lot of these “self-deprecating” jokes are rooted in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:19 PM
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I’m personally into it. But I’m a degenerate. A monogamous degenerate with only one sexual partner in my entire life, but a degenerate with that one person. Oh, and porn is not the reason pegging exists. People have been freaky forever. I’m one of those rare “actual virgins” who turned out to be an absolute freak in bed with my husband. And he was a male virgin who turned out to be really good and kinky in bed as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:11 PM
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On one hand I want to agree, but on the other hand I’m starting to think there’s an age where everything starts to even out. Some of my best friends at work are in their late 50s and 60s and when we’re hanging out on break it doesn’t feel like there’s much of a gap even though they’re twice my age. Obviously you can say it’s different for romantic relationships versus friendships, but I don’t know. It’s weird when you start working and befriend some coworker twice your age and it’s like talking …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:06 PM
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I’m a woman and I absolutely despise this concept. I think it’s gotten especially bad with a lot of young women having mental health issues/abusive relationships and expecting their dream guy to be the one who “rescues” her from her shitty mental health and past relationships. And somehow she’s still a catch despite bringing all this baggage to the table because women are immersed in “you’re a boss babe no matter what, you’re a queen no matter how dysfunctional you are” culture. The worst thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:16 PM
1

There’s a little charm to him challenging you about the pasta. It doesn’t cross into complete asshole territory because it’s true…he really makes pasta from scratch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:12 AM
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I’m into “abusive” sex. I always have been as long as I can remember. I think it’s been said in the past that the neural pathways linked to aggression are also linked to sex. I can’t say for certain but I’ve heard people make that argument. Here is a study showing that rape fantasies also correlate with higher self-esteem: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22544306/ So the argument that all women who are into “abusive” sex must be brainwashed by the patriarchy or internalized misogyny just doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:09 PM
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I seem to get the ick when it comes to excessive compliments. Men who do the “you’re so gorgeous, you’re so beautiful, I love this about you, I love that.” It makes the conversation feel like a worship session rather than a genuine conversation. I absolutely despise it when men try to play the “romantic debonair” role. I feel like I can hear the gears turning in his head as he tries to artificially conjure charisma and charm. It makes the conversation feel fake and also like he’s trying to pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:03 PM
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Why do men put up with abusive relationships? Have you ever seen a man with a female friend who constantly uses him as a shoulder to cry on, a ride whenever she makes a terrible decision and ends up stranded, a spot of cash when she needs it…and if he ever fails to show up, she guilts the fuck out of him? I’ve seen men lose entire girlfriends because they were catering to an emotionally abusive female friend. Not to mention the amount of men who pursue the “big titty goth girl” who has emotional…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:53 PM
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If he casually brought that up, that’s a massive concern. Asking your partner for a hall pass is a big deal. It’s not a subject you take lightly even in polyamorous relationships. This appears to be a matter of disregard for your feelings versus a genuine desire to practice ethical (keyword: ethical) nonmonogamy. Definitely take a pause and ask him to go into depth with this. Don’t let him treat it lighthearted. He should know he’s treading thin ice here and he should be treating this discussion…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 02:34 AM
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If a guy said that to me I would be turned off. Makes it seem like he’s still flirting despite the fact that he knows I’m taken. I can tell when a man is trying to sound smooth and it always sets off “cringe” alarms. It would catch me off guard but not in a good way. I would watch him walk away and think “wow he really thinks he’s smooth huh”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:00 PM
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Saying you’re using 7s as a “warm up” makes you seem shallow. Women are very group-oriented. If a woman knows you’re mistreating another woman, she will either drop you (if she’s mentally healthy) or she will pursue you harder (if she’s a nutcase, in which case get ready for divorce rape later in life). Don’t mislead women and use them for “practice.” That makes you seem like a player, childish, and shallow. Don’t let a woman think she’s going to be your wife one day when you have the intention …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:57 PM
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Fetishes should not be celebrated or encouraged. If you have a fetish, keep it behind closed doors. Practice it only with consenting adults. If you turn it into a “community” where you actively encourage people to get involved, then you’re promoting it. No one should promote being a degenerate. I’m into rough sex. I don’t talk about it or encourage it and I’m certainly not proud of it. I don’t want my future daughters to grow up thinking it’s normal for a man to choke you during sex or that they…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 06:22 PM
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I can imagine you typing this to yourself and thinking you project this image of the suave, foul-mouthed but too-smart-for-his-age rogue that likes to troll people and then walk away laughing. In reality you’re just another young kid who dropped acid and now thinks he knows something. Projecting an image…whatever happened to ego death? Either way, the women here aren’t looking for fuckboys so I don’t know what the point was in you posting this. You’re a child.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 04:17 PM
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Think of it this way: If you were a warrior one thousand years ago, it wouldn’t matter how baby-faced you were. A woman could watch you slaughter a man who was threatening to pillage her home and she would be all over you like white on rice. The fact of the matter here is that men are already becoming more feminized in general. The man who sits at a computer all day programming doesn’t have much of an opportunity to show off his masculine energy. I watch videos on Youtube and the way men stand, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:31 PM
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So your argument is that the majority of the women in that particular study come from religious households and were “forced” to marry? Because if that’s the case those same women would also be extremely unlikely to divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 01:43 PM
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Women want men who are “above” them in some way, shape, or form. It doesn’t have to be financially. Or intellectually, or even in physical appearance. The guys who are broke with no ambition often have a charismatic personality that women admire. As a shy woman I’ve always admired men who are sociable and charismatic (these are traits that I lack). Guess who I married? A guy with those exact traits. For men the primary driver of sexual attraction is physical appearance. For women I’d say respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:40 PM
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Women cannot just act as we wish. I am a woman. I have been friends with women. Trust me: if you lose your marbles and cry all the time about dumb shit, your female friends will drop you. When we do talk about our emotions it’s typically calm and rational discussions. As in, “I’ve been having a tough time with school lately. I’m so stressed.” “Oh do you want to have a girls’ day so we can relax a little? It might be fun!” That’s the type of shit women expect from men. “Hey I’m stressed” instead …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:27 PM
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I’m silent when I masturbate but that doesn’t mean the noises I make during sex are fake. Sex with a man is more than just physical pleasure. There’s a pleasure that comes from the situation itself. Women read erotic fiction because there’s something sexy about the scenario itself. The emotion. The dynamic. The vibe. You know, the shit that a lot of men claim they just don’t understand (maybe there’s some secret plane of existence only women can sense, eh?) More so than the physical sensation, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:22 PM
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First you say most women can’t get off on PIV. Then you say any woman who claims to get off on PIV is a faker. So is it most women who can’t get off on PIV, or all women who can’t get off on PIV? Also, you realize that masturbation can include clitoral stimulation, right? Your name is femm-fatale but there’s no way you’re a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:13 PM
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And yet so many people who preach “know your worth” end up with shitty people. It’s almost like “know your worth” is a meaningless feel-good phrase that does nothing to actually help people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:39 PM
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Did OP ask to bang her? All I see in the parent thread is that he asked to continue the conversation some time. In my mind I would assume he was asking me on a legitimate date and I would ask him to confirm that before accusing him of being forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:47 PM
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Women have an issue where we sometimes fantasize and romanticize the type of man we want. This is why we’re the primary consumers of romantic fiction. I remember being 14 and writing a list of all the romantic poetic traits I wanted in my future husband. I think a 14-year-old boy would write “I want her to have big tits and be nice to me.” The internet has made it so that women have far more access to idealizations of men we want. Also, the media. I’m watching The Sopranos now and I can already …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:44 PM
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I disagree. I understand the logic but I think a lot of women genuinely have a Madonna/Whore complex when it comes to men. They separate men into two categories: hot guys who aren’t husband material and safe guys who are husband material. We already know this dynamic exists for a lot of men. They see their wives as good mothers and chaste women…which is why they feel little sexual attraction to them. Some men completely lose attraction to their wives after they become mothers for this reason. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:03 PM
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I’m generally into muscular men with a little fat and the 1920s body builder (typed those exact words into Google images) is my ideal body type in a man. I have always used the word “burly.” The modern body-builder is too cut and dehydrated-looking and I think most women would agree with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:52 PM
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I think she might have just been making a cheeky joke. A lot of women feel insecure/powerless in society, so they make subtle jabs at men to “even the score.” If a man said the same thing to a woman we’d call him a misogynist or an incel because it’s viewed as “punching down” versus “punching up.” Not saying I agree. Just explaining how it is. Pouring a drink for someone can be seen as a submissive act, a form of service. Some women avoid serving men no matter how small/meaningless the gesture.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:31 PM
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The whole “I sleep casually with guys on the first date but I made you wait because you’re special” attitude implies that a woman has the female version of the Madonna/Whore complex. If she does that to you, you should leave. She’s treating you as less sexual because she actually likes you. That’s a massive red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:37 PM
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If your kids are going to daycare they’re going to end up dumb as fuck anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:25 PM
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Stay-at-home mothers are not do-nothing bitches. If you’re child-free, yeah. I get it. But the lack of SAHM is why we have such a shitty younger generation. Kids being raised by daycares and Tik Tok.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:24 PM
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Something I’ve struggled with is identifying the line between “I’m being an unappreciative nagging wife” and “actually, I have a point here.” I have seen posts on this subreddit and other subreddits where women are putting up with blatantly unacceptable behavior. For example, a woman who works full-time (because her income is necessary) and is still expected to do 100% of the housework. I tried this method with my husband and it didn’t work. I think that’s what proved to me that the issue was de…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/22 03:21 PM
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You have to ask what you want: Do you want to fuck a different hot woman every night, or do you want a partner that you can talk to, enjoy their company, cry on their shoulder when you’re upset? Stupidly hot famous people tend to have shitty personalities. I think a lot of older actors realize this and start pursuing people who aren’t high on coke and partying 24/7. So yeah, I guess if you’re thinking in terms of hookup culture and scoring the hottest fuck for the night, these men are dating inf…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:11 PM
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There is no amount of strength training you can do that will make you stronger than a man who is doing an equal amount of strength training. Actually, even with strength training there are probably 50-year-old male sedentary accountants who could still beat you in an arm wrestling match. If he thinks you’re threatening because you’re doing strength training, that’s a sign of weakness in my opinion. Strength training is the only way to give yourself the butt and shapely figure that most men desir…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 06:54 PM
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There are a couple of scenes in The Sopranos where men beat the everloving shit out of women and those men are well-beloved characters. Furio, Sil, Tony, Chris…all of them have scenes where they beat a woman and they’re still fan favorite characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:25 PM
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So a man is forced to become (at the very least financially) a father as long as the mother decides to keep it. Whereas the mother can get an abortion if she doesn’t want the financial responsibility of being a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:24 PM
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Imagine if a man said “men have more to offer than our wallets and hard labor!” and a woman responded “please do enlighten us.” You would be disgusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:01 PM
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If women don’t want to be used for sex, then what’s the point of the wooing? I think the goal should be for both people to woo each other. It sucks going on a first date and realizing halfway through that the guy would fuck your brains out no matter how trashy you act. Meanwhile he’s sitting there trying to impress you and the conversation feels acted-out and awkward because there’s an underlying “please like me sweet female!” dynamic there. It actually disgusts me when I can tell that a man is …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:59 PM
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Okay, separate your feelings. You are personally upset because you prefer your hair long, but medical issues have forced you to cut it. Anytime a medical issue forces you to do something you wouldn’t otherwise want to do, that’s very stressful and sometimes even traumatic. So you’re going to feel upset and violated and horrible. Recognize that feeling for what it is and contain it. Put a marker around its borders and separate it from the other issue, which is: You’re afraid your boyfriend won’t …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 07:57 PM
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I think being a mother is about showing emotional intelligence toward your children. I would not want my childhood broadcast to the entire world. I see mothers sharing stories about their children that are frankly an invasion of the kid’s privacy and I think it contributes to the unhealthy obsession with social media that a lot of younger kids have these days. Influencer culture in general is crap. I’d say it’s far healthier to develop actual relationships with other mothers who can have a more …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 04:53 PM
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Women wanted more freedom to let out their most obnoxious, rude, boisterous internal thoughts (that we all have). The cultural shift happened where poise and self-control and filtering yourself is now viewed as oppression. Therefore, women who “say whatever is on their mind” are valued even if what they say is disgusting, rude, or abrasive. Also, the men in power in the entertainment industry are the types who like to pump and dump. And women like Nicki Minaj, Iggy Azalea, and many others act li…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 02:41 PM
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Hm. I won’t claim to be an expert in Chinese philosophy, but I’ve always enjoyed the ancient concept of masculine and feminine energy. Masculine energy is dominant and represented by the sun. It is ambitious, always striving for excellence, bright and bold. Feminine energy is dark and represented by the moon. It is more laid back, going with the flow, mysterious. I think both are needed for a proper balance. I would argue that it’s actually a good thing for a highly-ambitious, hard-working man t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 05:25 PM
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I would say that you should look to men you admire and take their advice on how to be a high-value man. A woman can only tell you how to be a high-value man insofar as it serves her needs and desires. With that being said, I will give you some of the less obvious advice: I prefer a man with consistent moral character and integrity. I know a young man who was dating a married woman. He knows it’s wrong to date a married woman but he does it because he’s lonely and he wants a woman to love him. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 04:02 PM
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A lot of women throughout history have accepted their husbands sleeping with other women. Concubines, mistresses, gomars (if you’re in the mafia). As with monogamous relationships, there are upsides and downsides. The rules, as mentioned once by Kevin Samuels, are: (a) he doesn’t bring these women to your home once you live together, (b) he doesn’t get any of them pregnant, and (c) he doesn’t fall in love with them or prioritize them over you. A good idea would be to figure out if you agree with…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 11:53 AM
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I feel as though being assertive is necessary when you’re a mother. There will be times when you need to advocate for your children’s needs the same way you advocate for a client’s needs. It is entirely possible to be assertive in a feminine way.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 11:01 PM
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I have been a caregiver for 6 years, currently a nursing student, and I couldn’t be happier with my career choice. Don’t get me wrong - it sucks. We are horrifically short-staffed. I’m 100% going to have a bad back and weak knees/hips by the time I’m 50 (probably sooner to be honest). I have witnessed neglect solely based on our lack of staffing. But it has taught me that I am a really good caregiver. Caring for the elderly has taught me to recognize non-verbal cues of discomfort. It has taught …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 03:45 PM
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OP, do you have any experience with a legitimate long-term relationship? I ask because the way you’re describing these men, and the way you describe romance in general, makes it sound like you’ve been reading too many sappy romance novels. It also sounds like you have this idealized man in your head who is based on your idealized version of some boy you had a crush on when you were younger. I think you’re in a sort of “fog” (redpill men will call it the female hamster brain) where you are overly…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 04:50 AM
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He always offers me the last bite of his food. No matter what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 09:30 PM
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You didn’t respect the sanctity of your marriage or his marriage. You may not have cheated, but you allowed yourself to fall in love with him when you were both married. You will never be happy in a relationship until you can learn to set boundaries and take responsibility for your emotions. You didn’t magically fall in love with him - you allowed it to happen. Also, a man who’s messing around with every woman in town is not going to make a good husband. Point blank. Doesn’t matter how nice he i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 09:08 AM
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In the past, our mothers and grandmothers would prepare us to be SAHMs. We would be 17 or 18 and already know how to cook a meal from scratch, how to care for a sick child, how to clean a house in the quickest and most efficient way possible, how to meal plan, and how to still find time to look pretty. Now, by the time we’re 17 and 18, the only thing we know how to do is take a standardized test and write a bullshit essay about a topic we don’t even care about just to impress some college in the…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 02:08 PM
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Ooh. This is something a lot of people misunderstand and it’s why we get a bad rep over here at r/redpillwomen. I think you’re mistaken if you’ve identified the ideal woman as being “airheaded” or “ditzy.” Yes, men have protective instincts and we absolutely want to elicit those instincts, but purposefully acting too stupid to survive on your own will only annoy and frustrate a man. Men want a woman who is capable of seeing the light in the darkness. I hate the word “childlike” and I wish we wou…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 07:25 PM
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“I’m finished answering your questions. If you’d like to talk about something else we can, but I’m finished discussing my choice to stay at home.” If they try to continue, you can give them the literal silent treatment. As in, “I’m going to pretend you’re not even here” silent treatment. This forces them to either (a) walk away or (b) continue harassing you at which point they risk destroying their own reputation. Especially if it’s a man who’s doing the harassing. Alternatively, you can do the …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 07:15 PM
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If he’s paying for them, that’s low-value (in my opinion). High-value men are careful with their money. Paying a woman for sexual content implies that you can’t get some on your own for free, which lowers your value as a man. That may seem unfair to men, but women have our own unfair things to deal with. That’s life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 06:00 PM
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I disagree that it isn’t hard. Working is wonderful because you get social interaction without your children there. You get to hang out with other adults and be an adult. When you’re at home, you’re with your kids almost 24/7. That’s draining. And a lot of SAHPs get depressed because they are missing out on that vital time away from their kids. It’s similar to cabin fever. I know plenty of SAHPs who were begging to go back to work. I don’t even have kids and after two weeks of time off at home I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 07:25 PM
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The way you’re speaking right now is in direct contrast to your manner of speaking in other comments on your profile. If you’re going to troll so blatantly, please use a throwaway so people can’t easily sniff you out. This subreddit has a large variety of different beliefs and women here come from all walks of life…which you would know if you bothered to spend any time here. This subreddit does have a focus on traditional gender roles, but we absolutely do not shame women who choose to work. Ins…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 07:17 PM
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I’m a caregiver. For a while I worked as a home health aide. Stick with me, I promise this is relevant. For a while I worked with an elderly man called Bob (not his real name). He lived alone. He was in his 90s. He was mostly independent but he needed some assistance after a motor vehicle accident. I would go to his home and help him with his basic needs (showering, dressing) and house chores. Bob was an old-school high value man. He was a widower. His wife stayed at home when she was still aliv…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 07:04 PM
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I’m guessing this is another troll post from the feminists on the fundie snark subreddits. OP, I’d suggest you try a little harder to blend in when you’re trolling us. Wishing illness on a coworker is the least feminine thing you can do and it’s also a little too on-the-nose (I promise we aren’t wicked evil witches who wish death upon liberal women). “I thanked God when she got COVID.” What a horrific thing to say about someone. Is that what you think about us here at r/redpillwomen? That we wis…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 06:24 PM
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You’d have to be naive to assume he will stay faithful on this trip when he’s literally talking about pursuing these women. On this subreddit we constantly caution women to avoid men who are obvious cheaters and scumbags. So I’m gonna tell you to tread carefully. Men who cheat in this way are the sorts of men who create single mothers, and that’s not a life you want to live. Unfortunately you already have a kid with him…time to start figuring this out quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:28 AM
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I think you need to offer a (genuine) ultimatum. No open relationship. He can either go to therapy and figure out what’s wrong with his libido, or he can lose you. Those are his two options. Don’t let him fiddle around with one or another. Don’t let him do the whole “well maybe I’ll start therapy” blah blah blah. He either goes to therapy or it’s a divorce. And while he goes to therapy I would still get your ducks in a row. Divorce is bad but being in a dead bedroom is even worse. And it was wro…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 06:55 PM
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I think in this case you’re talking about a difference in the way you would define the word “interested.” I think you probably agree on the premise, but this is simply a phrasing issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/22 08:14 PM
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A lot of modern men want a traditional woman but they don’t match up to the ideals of a traditional man. Which, ironically, is what they complain about in regards to women (that we want traditional men but don’t want to be traditional women). It is immensely difficult to be a good follower when your leader is incompetent. I work with the elderly population and I can 100% tell you that even modern redpill men simply don’t stack up to their grandfathers and great-grandfathers. It’s not their fault…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 05:14 PM
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I think it would be a good idea to ask him what he wants. It sounds like he isn’t thinking much about the future. Sit him down and ask him where he’d like to be in ten years. Does he want kids? Does he want you both to work? So on and so forth. Let him ponder it. It doesn’t sound like you know what he actually wants or what’s going on in his head. You know what you want, but you don’t seem to know him and his preferences very well. My husband was also very unambitious when we got together. He si…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 10:42 PM
23

You have to learn that being submissive isn’t always fun. If you’re only submissive when he does things you like, then you’re not submissive.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 09:20 PM
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“I have kissed countless” So you created this problem for yourself. You’re accustomed to the thrill of chasing new people 24/7 and when one gets boring you move on to the next. You destroyed your own ability to feel sexual attraction to a good man in a stable relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 12:00 PM
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OP, I see that you had a traumatic experience and that has led to you developing some pretty controversial beliefs. I’ve seen some of your posts and comments and many of them are genuinely misogynistic. And that’s not a word I throw around lightly. I’m going to be blunt. I know a lot of people (both men and women) who have had traumatic relationships and did not become as hateful as you are. I know women who have been beaten and raped who do not hate men. I know men who have been beaten and rape…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 06:25 PM
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Your problem isn’t the other woman. It’s your boyfriend. He’s a man. And if he’s a strong assertive man (which is what we want, right?) he should be perfectly capable of shutting down any woman who gives him attention he doesn’t want. Strong assertive men don’t allow women to bully or manipulate them. Strong assertive men can’t be “stolen” by other women because they aren’t afraid to set boundaries with other women. So one of two things is happening here: Your boyfriend is weak. He doesn’t know …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 03:58 PM
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What do men have to offer? Commitment. What do women have to offer? Sex. So you have two people sitting at a table ready to make a trade. Both people are at risk of losing out in the trade. Both people are taking a leap of faith when they make the trade. If a man gives me commitment and I turn out to be a terrible partner, he has lost out. If I give a man sex and he turns out to be a terrible partner, I lose out. Who has to take the bigger risk? The man or the woman? And why are you suggesting t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 10:37 PM
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You agreed to a FWB arrangement with someone. You chose to enter into a toxic arrangement with someone. FWB can only lead to negatives for a woman with a traditional mindset. Men can’t appreciate you as a RPW if you don’t act like a RPW. There’s a reason you attract toxic men.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 10:17 AM
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Because that’s our culture right now. At this point a lot of people have undefined and unlabeled relationships. They might get together, have sex, not speak for two weeks, date for a month, break up, not speak for two months, then start sleeping together again…yadda, yadda, yadda. This is what people are used to doing. Showing up in someone’s life, hanging out for a while, disappearing, etc. Younger people right now are so horrifically bad at setting boundaries it’s actually scary. The amount of…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:04 PM
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When your partner is being rude and mean, telling them that they’re being mean is usually the least successful way to solve the problem. Right now he’s living in a storm cloud. His emotions are a vicious cycle that feed into each other. He gets angry, being angry makes him angry, he takes it out on you, and then he gets angry at himself for being mean but he lashes out instead of apologizing because feeling guilty makes him even angrier. When you engage with him, you’re joining him in the storm …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 09:56 PM
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The only deviation I have from your advice is that it’s okay to date for potential if you’re young (and smart). When I was 19 I started dating my husband. At that time he obviously wasn’t very far in his career (in fact, he hadn’t even gotten started yet). But I saw in him a good work ethic and traditional values. He came from a dirt-poor abusive household and had to drop out of high school to pay his family’s bills. I dated him for potential and now he makes very good money for our age group an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 06:30 PM
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Pregnancy trapping is sexual assault. I am just as horrified by a woman pregnancy trapping a man as I am by a man beating his wife. It is wrong. It is immoral. It is evil. It doesn’t matter if he turned out to be okay with it. I would end the friendship because I would be too disgusted to be around her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 02:14 PM
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I practiced sex with my husband and got really good at it. He enjoyed me using him to practice. He’s my only partner I’ve ever had, but I’m an expert at pleasing him. I don’t need to be good at pleasing anyone else because my husband is my only sexual partner. I really don’t understand the idea that we have to practice to be really, really good at sex. If a guy loves you, he will love being the test dummy while you practice and get better. As long as you actually improve and communicate and pay …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:26 PM
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When you say he gets annoyed with your clumsiness or chaotic energy, what do you mean specifically? My husband has ADHD. His forgetfulness and “chaotic energy” led to him building up over $3,000 in debt. It destroyed his credit and also meant that I had to take over the finances 100% because his ADHD meant he couldn’t manage the finances. This led to me losing respect for him. Because I had to manage our entire household for many years - chores, finances, appointments. At one point I even had to…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 06:52 PM
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It’s iffy. Any time you date a former f*ckboy, you’re risking getting your heart broken (the same way men take a risk when they date a former party girl). Supposedly he has decided he’s ready to settle down and you might just have to sit back and watch and see how he handles this. Personally, I think it’s disrespectful for a man (especially an ex) to flirt with me when he knows I’m in a relationship and I’m very harsh with those people. I don’t do polite rejections. I give homewreckers the same …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 02:29 PM
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I think it’s a sign of poor mental health. I dress modestly. I have often been called a “prude” when I speak out against women posting thirst traps, women wearing shorts with their ass cheeks hanging out, etc. “Just because you hate your body doesn’t mean I can’t love mine!” It’s weird. I love my body. I love looking in the mirror. Sometimes I stare at myself naked and appreciate how I look (which sounds vain, but I put a lot of effort into working out and eating right). But I don’t show off my …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 03:15 PM
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You’re going to have to link those posts to me. On Reddit, when a male or female cheats, the vast majority of responses are telling the OP to break up with them. So I haven’t witnessed this phenomenon that you’re talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 01:58 PM
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I think it goes deeper than that. Most humans, I would argue, experience emotions during sex. You’ll find the occasional outlier who genuinely experiences zero emotional attachment during sex, but humans - especially women - experience emotions during sex. Bonding emotions. Lovey-dovey emotions. Some people bury them down and ignore them. Okay, I just had sex with John Doe, but he doesn’t want me. Okay, I’m kinda hurt. But I’m a strong independent woman. I’ll go out with the girls and have a dri…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 06:51 PM
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Just say, “I’d rather not get into the details of it, but I needed some time off.” Anyone who pries after that is in the wrong. If they do pry, reiterate your previous point. “I’d rather not get into the details of it.”
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 04:18 PM
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I have asked my husband to start ordering food for me because I always prefer whatever he orders when we go out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 11:17 PM
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It sounds like you chose a poor partner and are now projecting your choices onto OP. My husband has never once questioned a purchase I’ve made. If anything I’m the one asking him about his purchases because he has a history of impulsive decision-making (which is why he has entrusted me with managing 100% of our finances even though he makes 90% of the money). The fact that all of his debts have been paid off in a timely manner and he was able to purchase a truck when he desperately needed it pro…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:01 PM
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Modern women get modern consequences of modernity. That is, modern women get the consequences of hookup culture and men who don’t want to commit and single motherhood. If you want to be a modern woman who sleeps around and prioritizes your career and has kids out of wedlock…don’t expect a traditional breadwinner man. The same is true of modern men. If you want to be a modern man who won’t pay for dates and splits all the bills and insists your wife sign a prenup…don’t expect a traditional stay a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:49 PM
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Because OP likes to frequent religious fruitcake and fundie snark subreddits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:12 AM
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OP is absolutely trolling for bait to post to her fundie snark subreddits. Do you think she’ll change her mind based on the plethora of comments posted here in support of giving a child antibiotics? Doubt it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:09 AM
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Men who accept the reality of “Chad” aren’t necessarily insecure. You’re viewing this through the lens of a woman’s eyes, which explains why you’d see these men sharing memes of “Chad” and automatically think “oh they’re insecure!” That’s a woman-thought. Men are practical. Men are grounded in reality. A fat man will look in the mirror and say, “All right, women aren’t gonna want me if I’m fat. I gotta either accept being single or lose some weight.” And his friends will agree. They will say, “H…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 01:06 PM
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Cheating is abuse. Homewreckers are complicit in the abuse of the betrayed spouse. Your friend has low morals. Would you be friends with someone who verbally abuses their significant other? Would you be friends with someone who physically abuses their significant other? I’m not sure why cheating and homewrecking is given such a pass. Your friend has shitty morals. She knowingly chooses to hurt other people. I would sit her down and tell her, look, the nonsense has to stop. I value long-term rela…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 08:01 PM
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It’s entirely possible for you to recover from your trauma. But it’s scary. It’s scary trying to dig yourself out of a hole when there are people standing at the edge looking down at you hoping you’ll fail. It’s scary trying to recover when you have that, “I’m a failure, I’m a loser” voice in your head. It’s easier to stay broken because at least then you know what to expect. It’s a lot scarier to pursue recovery knowing you might fail. So I think recovery for you is actually quite accessible. I…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 09:02 PM
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Geez, OP. I agree with your premise but it’s your wording that really screws you up. Prioritizing your relationship and nurturing your bond is…well, a popular idea. Most people would agree that adults need alone time. The problem is that people struggle to put that into practice when real life swamps them and they start getting overwhelmed. Saying “my husband should be the center of my universe” could be used by a woman who allows her husband to physically abuse her children. You have to be care…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 07:35 PM
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You’re right. People don’t escape poverty by wallowing in their misery. They escape poverty by acting. The same way OP’s children acted to try and get more cake when they felt they didn’t have the same as everyone else. If the child just sat there and cried, that would be wallowing. Trying to get more cake is actively trying to solve the problem. Which is different than OP’s solution which is to just accept that you’ll get less cake than your sibling.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:52 AM
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On one hand, I agree that petty jealousy destroys relationships. On the other hand, I do think fairness is important and I don’t think that people are wrong for bringing up issues with their partner regarding fairness. This argument you’re making could easily be used to pressure someone into becoming a doormat and not standing up for themselves in situations where they absolutely ought to stand up for themselves. However, there are peaceful ways to solve it. For example, if me and my husband are…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:51 AM
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This isn’t how to raise a child. You do not raise an emotionally mature, healthy child by forcing them to bend to your will. Children experiment. They test boundaries. If you freak out and start trying to control them when they test boundaries, you create a hostile dynamic in which the child now feels compelled to oppose you. By taking away your daughter’s dark makeup, you created a power dynamic between the two of you. Now she sees you as an adversary rather than a trusted advisor. The traditio…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 06:53 PM
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Yes. I “dated” a boy for two months when I was 14 years old. I “dated” a guy for two weeks when I was 17…because he asked me out in front of a lot of people and I was too afraid to say “no. My husband was my first serious relationship. We have been together for 6 years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 10:24 PM
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I have loved my husband in all the ways you can love someone. I have loved the idealized version of him that we both crafted during the honeymoon phase. I have loved the flawed, shallow, psychologically damaged person who showed himself after the honeymoon phase ended. I have loved him selfishly - in the sense that he makes me feel secure and safe and happy. I have also loved him selflessly - in the sense that I want to stay with him even when he cannot make me feel secure and safe and happy. I …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 04:28 PM
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My husband used to do that until I sat him down and explained why it made me feel uncomfortable. Basically, if you’re always looking up at somebody, they have no choice but to look down on you. I want to be able to look up to my husband. I don’t want to be his mother figure or his boss or his superior in any way. I don’t want to feel like he’s lucky to have me because it takes away any motivation to please him and pleasing him is what makes me happy. You can’t please someone who’s pleased 24/7 w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 01:37 PM
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It takes a lot of energy. That’s why “manager” is a full job title.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 05:39 PM
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I disagree with the people who are thinking that his anger stems from you questioning his luggage choices. The fact that he focused on the phrase “once you go [thing] you never go [other thing]” implies to me that he’s insecure about your wording. He’s probably now wondering if you prefer a certain type of man over whatever man he is. Or he’s wondering if you’re crude and if you think in that manner. I know because I used to be paranoid like that. If my husband used a phrase like “sloppy seconds…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 05:30 PM
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Thank you for your kindness. Whatever happens, I think I will be okay. I still have hope that my husband wouldn’t do this to me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 10:42 PM
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“Genuine” is a laughable word coming from a woman willing to lie herself into a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 06:23 PM
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Do you think you’ll feel safe and happy in a relationship where one slip up could lead to everything falling apart. My husband has ADHD. Sorry to say this, but people with ADHD are horrible liars. You won’t be able to keep your facts straight. You’ll slip up. You’ll forget a detail. You’ll misremember something you said. My husband is medicated and he still can’t lie very well when I interrogate him. There are men who will date you even with a high body count. You don’t get to lie to avoid the c…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 06:21 PM
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You accept that (1) you aren’t suddenly damaged just because your body count increased from 0 to 1. I get it. I saved my virginity for a guy who was special to me and it was important to me that he be my only relationship. Right now I’m waiting on results for an STI test because I have the hallmark symptoms and if I test positive, it means my husband is cheating. I lost my virginity to him. He is my only sexual partner. I have had to face the potential reality that if my marriage falls apart, an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 03:28 PM
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I’m a woman and I don’t say it often. The person who loves me the most is my father and he almost never tells me he loves me. He shows it by making sure I’ve never had to struggle a day in my life. He has made great sacrifices to give my the opportunities I’ve had. My mom, on the other hand, always used to tell me she loved me. Even when she was drunk out of her mind and bringing unsafe people into the home. She put me in danger more times than I can count. But she would always shower me with hu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:43 AM
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My husband and I have a “no bullshit” policy. If he feels like I’m gaining weight, I expect him to tell me. And vice versa. My husband might be hurt by me telling him the brutal truth, and I might be hurt by him telling me the brutal truth, but problems cannot be solved if you don’t address them. If his response was, “I have criticisms of you as well!” My response would be: “If you have criticisms of me, I would rather you tell me in a healthy discussion rather than hiding them from me. And I wo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 08:02 PM
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If a woman is genuinely happy living a non-traditional life, more power to her. I want other people to be happy. However, I see a lot of “strong empowered” women who are miserable. And this isn’t me making assumptions. These women will openly admit to a laundry list of mental health issues. I know a girl from high school who now has three kids from two different men. She works as a stripper. She is trying to recover from a meth addiction. She has a myriad of mental health issues. She will probab…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 04:59 PM
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Here’s a good rule: If you frequently find that what you want and what your boyfriend wants are two completely different things, it might be a good idea to reevaluate the situation. A lot of young women focus on the good times and the good feelings. But are you compatible? Do you have the same values? It seems like he wants a traditional woman. Long hair, natural. That preference will probably grow stronger as he ages and becomes a HVM (if that’s the path he’s set for himself). It may seem simpl…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 11:30 AM
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Make a doctor’s appointment. Tell them you’re feeling like crap. Figure out if your hormones are in order and/or if you have any vitamin deficiencies. Even something as simple as a vitamin D deficiency can wreak havoc on your mind and body. Start eating clean. Lack of self care feeds into a low self-esteem, and a low self-esteem creates a further decline in self-care. This is a cycle that feeds into itself. Start clean eating not just to lose weight, but to feel better. Keep your added sugars be…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 06:34 PM
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Hookup culture bleeds into the world of monogamy. Why stay with your partner and work on your problems when there’s constant unfiltered access to different partners and no social stigma associated with hedonism? When you’re unhappy in your current relationship, that’s when you’re most susceptible to the honeymoon phase of someone new. You’re actively comparing them to an unhappy relationship which puts the new person in an inaccurate good light. You only find out the new person isn’t so great af…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 10:54 AM
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He tries to help when he sees me struggling. I’m in school right now because we will need my income for the next few years and once I get my degree I’ll make a lot more money. The goal is for me to be a housewife but that won’t be financially feasible for a while yet. Right now I’m in the hardest part of my schooling and he’s been offering to go grocery shopping, help with the dishes, etc. This is especially hard for him because he has ADHD and it’s so easy for him to zone out and not notice whe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 06:56 AM
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The encouragement of narcissism. I see so many women doing the “I’m gorgeous, I’m sexy, no one can tell me otherwise” dance and that’s touted as self-love. But then a man rejects them and they have a complete mental breakdown because they can’t consolidate “I’m super sexy, I’m a goddess, I’m so hot” self-love with the idea that a man might not be attracted to them. So then they start insulting the guy. He’s garbage, he doesn’t know what he’s missing, he’s a loser. True self love is when you can …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 08:04 PM
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You will never - never - find the perfect man. The next guy might follow the sidewalk rule and open doors for you, but he might not commit to you. The next guy might follow the sidewalk rule and open doors for you and commit to you, but he’s not as hard-working. Don’t let your hamster-brain screw you out of a loving relationship. This is how women destroy ourselves. If you really want to follow the sidewalk rule, just say, “Hey, can I move to the other side? I feel safer that way.” But other tha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 10:14 PM
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I have noticed something interesting about human behavior and I think it plays a role here. If a girl asks shyly online, “I have a flat butt, will guys care? I’m so embarrassed about it.” She gets hundreds of messages (from men) telling her she’s fine the way she is, she is beautiful, she will find someone who loves her, don’t worry about it, etc. On the other hand, if a girl with a flat butt posts a video of herself twerking talking about how she has a nice butt, men will flood into the comment…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 01:25 AM
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My husband is the one who makes all the money and I do the accounting. In our dynamic, he still feels like the masculine/dominant one because it’s his money and I’m the sexy secretary managing it for him (I know that’s cheesy but ya gotta keep the spark there, you know?) But you could also view it the opposite way: I’m the big brains managing the money and keeping everything in order, and he’s the one bringing the money to me on a silver platter. Thus he is the submissive one and I’m the dominan…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 07:30 PM
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This is so strange because I don’t have ADHD but I do have some obsessive-compulsive tendencies and I’m the same way. If I was trying to listen to music and noticed my playlists were disorganized, I would have to organize them. I would have to. I frequently find myself stopping what I’m doing to fix some small thing that would otherwise bother me. I enjoy writing but I have been working on the same novel for 10 years because my outlines must be perfect and if they aren’t I will rewrite an entire…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 02:38 PM
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Dang. Seems like you posted this reply at the same time I posted my comment. This info changes my advice. OP, if he has had trust issues in the past and he knows this behavior is hurtful, do you think it’s possible he’s doing it on purpose for “revenge”? If he thinks you’re out staring at other men and lusting after other men, he might be commenting on other women to protect his own ego and show you that he can get some, too. Which isn’t healthy at all. If I was in your situation I would sit him…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 06:03 PM
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If women are expected to curb our hypergamy for the men we love, then men should also be expected to curb their sexual non-exclusivity for the women they love. As a woman, I don’t tell my husband, “Ooh look at that guy over there, I bet he makes a lot of money. I bet he could buy me a nice pair of shoes if I was married to him!” My husband wouldn’t be hurt if I described another guy as attractive. Why? Because my husband doesn’t value himself based on his looks. Society doesn’t value him based o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 05:59 PM
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It will bother you when he gets someone pregnant and now your boyfriend/husband is either a deadbeat father or a father to another woman’s child. The idea that casual sex has zero consequences is a very modern idea. Birth control is not 100% effective, condoms are not 100% effective, and even vasectomies can fail. If you’re okay with him sleeping around, you need to decide if you’d be okay with him going to ultrasound appointments with another woman while still being with you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 01:27 PM
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I reject the idea that everyone must have a traditional marriage in order to be happy. Some people are genuinely happy in female-led marriages and that’s a truth we need to accept. Do I want that kind of marriage? No. But saying that those people are only “pretend happy” is silly. You have no way of knowing that. I’d say that showing harsh judgment toward other people and their lifestyles is a masculine trait and therefore not representative of traditional femininity. Even I struggle with that, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 01:23 PM
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Polyamory only benefits the top 10-15% of men. The rest are screwed. If women are willing to accept relationships where they must share their man, and men are willing to have multiple women, then the men in the middle and at the bottom will have almost zero access to women. This is because all women will flock to the most attractive man they can get, and most attractive men are willing to have average or even unattractive women in their rotation. What happens to a society when you have a large a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 12:45 PM
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You’re his sex object when he’s in Tennessee. She’s his sex object when he’s in Louisiana. When he’s ready to actually settle down in a serious relationship, he’ll choose a woman he respects. Which is neither of you. Stop wasting your time on him. He’s playing you and her. Men who are serious don’t bounce between two women.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/22 05:15 PM
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I’m gonna be honest. I have worn pretty dresses to parties/restaurants where all the other women were wearing jeans or t-shirts and I have never noticed any women or men staring at me. My husband has also never noticed anything like that. I’m friends with a wide variety of women (some redpill, some as staunchly feminist as they come) and I’ve never felt that any of them were jealous of me. I find it hard to believe that people are glaring at you everywhere you go just because you wear makeup and…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:24 PM
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The redpill exists to help both men and women return to a more traditional and healthy relationship dynamic that takes our natural instincts into account. Yeah, if you’re a woman who wants to date your average bluepill man, all you have to do is be attractive. If you want a redpilled and/or high value man, you have to do more than be attractive. You have to behave like a lady. You have to learn to cook and clean. You have to learn to communicate effectively. If all you are is attractive he will …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 12:58 PM
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Women are telling each other “go for it girl! Sex is casual fun! No big deal!” But then they cry and feel lonely when a man sleeps with them but doesn’t want to commit. I’ve seen video after video on TikTok of women whining: “why sleep with me if you’re just going to ghost me the next day?!” I thought sex was just casual fun. I thought it was no big deal. If that’s the case, why does it hurt you so bad when a man sleeps with you and then disappears?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 04:06 PM
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Can you please explain to us some specifics? You say your relationship is “much better” now. Why is that? Did your wife express wanting to adopt redpill ideology? Or are you trying to force it on her? Did she ever tell you why she feels contempt toward you (in her own words)?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 08:35 PM
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To me it sounds like he’s feeding his ego by dating you. You rejected him 20 years ago and now he’s popping in after your divorce to rescue you and admonish you for your choices and delight in the “I told you so” phase. Does he actually love you? I can’t say for sure. But you’re right that he’s showing red flags. To be brutally honest, you’re beyond your child-rearing years. You have a 13-year-old daughter. Your years of marriage, getting pregnant, having kids, etc. are over. It sounds like he’s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/22 02:55 AM
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Does he have high self-worth? He might need to get to the gym and start working on himself. Browsing Insta thots when you have a wife and children is…well, that’s what teenage boys do. Fully grown men with access to sex don’t need to demean themselves by browsing the pages of women who would never even look at them twice. Men in high positions, men who value themselves, go out and sleep with women or they have sex with their wives - they don’t sit and browse pictures of women they could never re…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 02:22 AM
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There’s really nothing more pleasurable than thanking a man when he does something gentlemanly, showing genuine gratitude, and watching his face light up because of it. Ironically, women dream of being treated like a princess but a lot of modern women don’t want to act like a princess. Rather than demanding men act a certain way and punishing men who don’t, we should validate, encourage, and love on men who do the right things. And a lot of men are doing the right things and being ignored, or th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 03:36 AM
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Her: “Wow what an easy life just cooking and cleaning and calling yourself a traditional housewife…” You: “Yes, I do have a wonderful life. I’m so lucky! My husband is an incredible man.” Her: “…while I have to work and actually help my parents and keep up with my inlaws.” You: “Oh that sounds so busy! I’m sorry you’re struggling. Do you need to talk about it? I’m all ears if you need to vent.” Her: “Oh well I have a job and I take care of my household!” You: “Yes, and you’re so amazing for gett…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 09:49 PM
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I’m glad you touched on this, actually. In the same way that a lot of redpill guys get frustrated watching women date “Chad and Tyrone” (as they say) while all the good guys are ignored…women experience the same frustration watching men. I’m happily married so this is no longer a concern for me, but it’s sad to watch from the sidelines. I see a lot of young men settling for women who would be unmarriageable 50 years ago. I know several attractive hard-working men dating women who are alcoholics,…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 03:58 PM
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I can’t imagine that a HVM would be comfortable knowing that you are still friends with a guy you hooked up with and have “always had tension” with. He might not want anything romantic but he would probably hook up with you again at the drop of a hat if the opportunity was presented to him. If I had a friend like that I would just drop him off the face of the Earth because I would view it as disrespectful to my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:07 PM
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Part of being in a relationship is that you can’t always give it your 100%. My husband isn’t always there for me the way I need him to be and I’m not always there for him the way he needs me to be. We both have times when our mental health isn’t great and we screw up but we’ve never used that as an excuse to abandon the relationship. We work through it together and move on. It sounds like this guy is going to be single forever if he keeps pursuing a relationship where everything is perfect and h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 05:47 PM
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I’m not an MD but I have met and worked with a lot of MDs (nursing student, currently working as an aide) and most of them have a very skewed work-life balance. The MD I worked with yesterday was upset because her toddler threw a tantrum when she had to leave her house at 7 in the morning. She would not be home until about 7pm that night (if she was lucky) and this is her regular schedule 5 days a week, plus weekends if one of her patients gives birth and she’s on-call. From a purely practical s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 02:23 PM
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My only issue is that this movement has led to a lot of men having lower standards. I see a lot of men who feed into this “yaaas queen you’re a boss babe” movement. Even my husband was terrified to tell me he’d be unhappy if I gained weight. Eventually he admitted that he prefers a thin partner and would lose attraction if I gained a ton of weight, but throughout high school and college he was doing the whole “I’d love a woman no matter how much weight she gained” song and dance because men are …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 07:20 PM
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There are some issues here that I would put in the category of “you’re being extra.” For example, him walking around with his hands in his pockets and not always holding the door open for women around him. As women we have fantasies in our head of Prince Charming always doing the exact right thing down to the smallest detail, and our hamster-brains tell us that we need to nag and correct these small things so we can hammer out the perfect gentleman. But…walking with his hands in his pockets? Wea…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 06:43 PM
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There’s no full potential if the guy has any real desire to become a househusband. Furthermore, asking her to pay half on gifts for children she doesn’t even know is an actual red flag. You’re acting like OP is just imagining things and none of this means anything. The whole “it’s a woman’s job to help a lazy man realize his potential” is anti-redpill. A woman cannot turn a man into successful breadwinner unless he has that desire within himself to begin with. From what it seems, there’s a possi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 12:08 PM
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It works like this: 1) people act on basic primal desires and it causes a lot of destruction 2) societies develop rigid social control (arranged marriage, stigmatization of promiscuity and hedonism) to prevent this destruction 3) enough time passes where people forget the true consequences of acting on your every whim (i.e., eat what you want when you want, sleep with who you want when you want, do whatever you want whenever you want) 4) people fight for the “freedom” to do whatever the hell the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 09:43 PM
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At this point I’ve just accepted the “label” TERF. If I’m going to be called a TERF for acknowledging biological sex and arguing that trans women aren’t the same as cis women…then so be it. Whatever. I never had a problem using “she/her” pronouns for trans women and having trans women use the bathroom. But I have seen enough people getting aggressive and demanding access to these spaces and insulting cis women and talk of “suck my girldick.” I’m sorry but your penis is still male. You don’t have…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 01:04 AM
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I feel as if this is a problem that I see commonly and it frustrates me. I want to grab my friends by the shoulders and shake them. I see so much heartbreak. I was an “emo kid” in high school, so my friend group included a lot of girls who had mental health issues. Cutting, eating disorders, a history of sexual assault and abuse. All a man has to do is tell them they’re pretty and they fall head over heels in love with him and it breaks my heart. But…it’s just the same thing over and over again …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 08:37 PM
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Is it possible he learned a lesson with her? When I was in high school and shortly after I graduated high school, a lot of my female peers got into these types of relationships. Dating for a few months, pregnant shortly afterwards…and now they’re single mothers with “baby daddy drama.” Don’t get me wrong: that “honeymoon” style of love is beautiful and romantic, but when it falls apart you need a genuine connection to hold the relationship together. He might be taking things slow because he has …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 05:00 PM
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At least from my perspective, redpill means that women are the primary caregivers of children and men are more concerned with breadwinning (hunting, going to war, securing resources, etc.) I subscribe to the idea that women should take the lead when it comes to childcare because that is our responsibility. It’s our primary function and therefore our domain in a traditional marriage. My husband wanted to spank our kids (when we have them). But he hasn’t been doing tons of research about childcare…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 11:41 PM
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If I were in your shoes I’d simply get married without inviting or even informing mom. It might be a good idea to sit down with your (future) in-laws and simply explain the situation. Mom and dad aren’t very stable mentally and emotionally, they might cause a scene at the wedding, and I’d like this to be a peaceful ceremony. The only unfortunate thing would be that your father is unable to attend (I don’t know what your relationship was with him prior to or after his developing dementia). My mom…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 09:14 PM
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If my husband finds other women more attractive, he certainly hasn’t allowed me to figure it out. I’ve never seen him stare at another woman. I’ve never seen him get googly eyes over a hot celebrity on the TV. I’ve never heard him say another woman is hot. He doesn’t really watch porn and he says he doesn’t like to masturbate because it’s a “waste” since he “prefers fucking.” I’m not sure how true that is. Maybe he’s lying to make me feel better. Maybe he’s really good at checking other women ou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 03:16 PM
2

There are three main disagreements that destroy relationships: money, sex, and kids. If you disagree on any of those subjects, your relationship can easily fall apart even if everything else is perfect. If OP and her boyfriend disagree on finances, that isn’t “one small thing.” That’s huge. That could be the “one small thing” that ends their relationship in the future. If I was a parent giving my child money so she can invest, or pay for food (for herself), or save up for a car, I’d be pretty co…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/22 02:11 PM
6

I’m a healthcare worker currently in nursing school. I don’t know if my viewpoint will be as helpful since I’ve decided to put my career on the backburner. What I mean is this: I currently work ~24 hours/month (PRN) in addition to going to school. When I’m not in school I work part-time at most. This allows me to be a part-time housewife. Even after getting my LPN, I will most likely work part-time. I think my philosophy regarding the redpill differs from what is commonly seen. My goal is to do …
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 06:15 PM
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Try not to view him in terms of what he can or cannot do. Nor should you view him in terms of what he deserves or doesn’t deserve. That’s how we end up with statements like: “He’s capable of doing this himself, so why should I do it?” or “He doesn’t deserve to have me doing his chores for him.” Think this way instead: I love him, I want to make his life a little easier because I love him. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to become a doormat and act as his personal maid just because you love…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 08:01 PM
8

I’ve learned that for a lot of fights, there is no conclusion. You both get angry, you have a spat, nothing happens, and then that’s just it. It dissolves (as someone else said). I think women tend to be detail-oriented in an emotional sense. In the same way a man might meticulously organize his tools or go through his code with a fine-toothed comb, women want every argument to be settled in fine print with a very clear conclusion. I’ve noticed that’s not how men handle arguments. When my husban…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 12:50 PM
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My reply is late, but I refuse to allow my future children to live in a home without lights or heat in the middle of winter because I chose a man who would let us starve. I think there’s a healthy balance between nagging and being a complete doormat. I pray to God you would not allow your children to starve while you feed a man who refuses to provide. I allowed my husband to read your responses and he laughed and told me he would leave me if I was that much of a doormat. Maybe he’s not “redpille…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 03:33 AM
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This happens with women rejecting men, too. Oftentimes you will hear women complain about the relationship dynamic changing when they reject a male friend. In fact this is quite a common experience for women. Our entire dating strategies revolve around separating men who want to commit to us and men who view as solely as a sex object. It sounds like you’re having a normal experience that feels abnormal because women typically don’t make the first move and men typically don’t reject them when the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 11:57 AM
14

Here’s my question: How long does it genuinely take you to clean your entire house? Assuming you’re doing a “full” clean. I see some people on various subs talking about how it takes them two hours max to clean their entire house. I enjoy watching ThinkBeforeYouSleep sometimes on YouTube and he mentioned that folding a load of laundry takes five minutes if you do it properly. For me, folding an entire load of me and my husband’s clothes takes probably 15 minutes at least. Cleaning our entire hom…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 12:28 AM
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I’m not personally optimistic. Right now you’re in a wonderful little limbo where your relationship with these men is purely SD/SB. There’s no official relationship. There’s no official romance or exclusivity. So your romance can develop in this safe little bubble. But what happens when you actually start dating one of the guys? He might start feeling jealousy. He might start asking himself questions. “Did she like the other guy more? I remember one day when she couldn’t see me because she was w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 02:32 PM
5

Did you really just copy Jack Murphy’s cuck article and post it here? Jack Murphy openly admitted to pimping out his girlfriend. He is the lowest possible value man that a woman could have the misfortune of dating. He is a predator pretending to be a high value male. He is a perfect representation of “fake alpha” men.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 07:58 PM
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Have you examined why you’re thinking about other men? It sounds like you spent a good portion of your life chasing thrills. Having sex with a new guy? Thrilling. Going out and getting wasted with a bunch of party-people? Thrilling. It’s mindless pleasure. I think people who are addicted to casual sex and chasing thrills are very similar to people on My 600 Lb. Life who are addicted to mindlessly shoving food down their throat. You want the constant dopamine rush that comes from chasing new men.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 06:57 PM
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If the accident didn’t involve any other cars, then your boyfriend was the one who was at fault, correct? If that’s the case, it’s likely that he’s blaming himself. He went on a mission to rescue his girlfriend and ended up getting himself in a situation where he needed to be rescued (by a tow truck). Now, obviously car accidents happen. My father is one of the best drivers I know, great father, wonderful man, always there to rescue me when I was in a bad situation - but he has backed into a pol…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/22 06:17 PM
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Honestly I sometimes question if I am. I believe, genuinely, that the vast majority of women are happier in traditional gender roles. I believe the whole “I’m a queen I don’t need no man” mentality is destroying women’s mental health. I fundamentally believe that women need men (just as men need women). I think in general, humility is the road to happiness. This is the opposite of what modern women are being told. We’re told not to “give a fuck” what anyone thinks. We’re told we don’t need anyon…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 03:42 PM
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OP, this man is going to have a lot of medical debt and that debt is going to fall onto you if you marry him and he passes away. Run. Fast. You don’t want to screw yourself over for a man who has such low moral character.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 12:14 AM
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I agree with no investment = no sex. But I also know that if you’ve engaged in casual sex in the past, and now you’re forcing a good man to wait for sex until he commits…well, a lot of high-value men won’t stand for that. In your eyes you’ve grown and learned to value yourself differently, which is fair. But in his eyes, another man got sex from you when you were younger and hotter and had to put in zero work. This will lessen his desire to work hard for sex because…why? Are you really worth it?…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 02:37 PM
2

It depends on the redpill idea. I agree with a lot of redpill ideas. For example, men should be allowed to have standards. A man is not evil for being upset if his wife gains 100 lbs. and makes no attempts to drop the weight. A man is not evil if he gets upset that his wife wears sweatpants and t-shirts every day all day. So on and so forth. Some ideas I disagree with. I’ve visited r/redpillmarriage and noticed there were two ideological “groups” there. Some of the men advocate for cheating on y…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 03:39 PM
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As for the height thing, my husband is 5’ 6” and I am 5’ 4” I think height to women is similar to breast size to men. A lot of men say they want women with big breasts, and the stereotype is that men prefer women with big breasts, and men talk about big breasts a lot, but from what I’ve found…a lot of men are way more forgiving about breast size than we’ve been led to believe. Same with men’s height. Also, I had a male nursing instructor in college who was 5’ 5” and every woman in our group was …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/21 12:10 AM
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This might be the wrong answer, but I have discovered that my husband responds almost immediately if I start crying. I could start crying over literal spilled milk and my husband would be instantly prepared to throttle whoever spilled the milk. He would also be prepared to throttle himself if he happened to be the one who spilled the milk. I have learned that the same is true of children. My nephew used to hit me because he thought it was a game. When you got angry, he thought it was funny. I st…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 03:13 AM
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I know you’ve probably heard this before, and you’re probably tired of hearing it, but your problems are the result of your massive age difference. He is a 50-year-old man with an established career and a lot of life experience. You are 22 years old and still in school. By default, he is always going to be capable of helping you far more than you are capable of helping him. The reason he views you as needy/jealous is probably because he doesn’t see you as a serious partner. He’s not committed to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 10:34 PM
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I think you’re misinterpreting the phrase. Obviously you can love someone even if you don’t love yourself. But insecurity has a way of destroying relationships. Yes, you can love him. But will you accept his love? Or will you doubt his love because you cannot believe that a man could truly love you? Will you need constant reassurance to the point of exhausting him emotionally? Will you self-sabotage? Will you trust him to stay loyal, or will you doubt his faithfulness because “how could a man st…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 05:56 PM
2

It takes me a very long time to clean. I could clean my entire house from 7am to 5pm. Deep clean. Then again, I’m the sort of person who will take everything out of my pantry and wipe the shelves because I found one piece of dust on a shelf. I take the word “spotless” very seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 10:51 PM
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When you’re evaluating a man, you need to take yourself out of the equation. Ask yourself: “Does he want a long-term committed monogamous marriage?” Do not ask yourself: “Does he want a long-term committed monogamous marriage with me?” We all have this fantasy of taking the lifelong bachelor playboy and turning him into a fine husband. We imagine ourselves as so amazing and beautiful and wonderful that he just has to commit. We see this in a lot of romance. Sometimes it even happens in real life…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 06:05 PM
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It’s a common misconception that redpill women can’t or shouldn’t stand up for themselves when their men are doing something wrong. Looking at pictures of your friends and calling them sexy is out of line. Flip the scenario: a redpill man posts in a redpill subreddit about his girlfriend calling his male friends “hot” and “sexy.” The comments would be filled with guys telling him to send her to the streets where she belongs. You didn’t overreact. You underreacted. He continues to manipulate you …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 02:36 PM
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Let him come home and see you in the state you’re in. Don’t try to be strong. Let him see the tears, the exhaustion, the struggling. If he can witness all that and continue going out partying, he’s a bit heartless.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/21 12:23 AM
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Does your husband want you to attend these gatherings? If so, why is he allowing a woman to stomp all over his wants and needs? It would be one thing if his male friends didn’t want you there. But why is your husband submitting to a female? That’s…not high-value behavior to me. I would be more concerned about that than the idea of him cheating. Now, obviously if she’s arranging the event, she gets to decide who is or isn’t invited. But if she’s preventing you from coming to events that are group…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:25 PM
23

A high value man doesn’t place too much value in the trash-talking of your average drama-hound university girl in her “hoe phase.” The types of women who spread rumors and trash talk each other are the same types of women that high-value men avoid like the plague (or use as quick hookups). He won’t take what she says seriously because he’s probably tuning her out anyways. Keep your head held high. Don’t respond to any of it. Stay classy and beautiful and happy and the right man will notice the o…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:16 PM
23

I think what helps is the ability to look things from a third-person perspective. If a friend told you “my dad abandoned me when I was a kid, he said he didn’t want me” it would be easy for you to think “well that’s not your fault, that’s his fault, you are a wonderful person and you didn’t deserve that.” But it’s so much harder to think that way when it’s you in the friend’s position. The thing that helped me move on from the hurt caused by my mom was by looking at her the way a stranger would …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 12:11 AM
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I think the fact that he has been unfaithful in the past with his coworkers warrants a very serious discussion with him. And I don’t think he has much of a leg to stand on. I take infidelity pretty seriously, even as a “traditional” woman. I’ve never been in the “cheating is sort of okay if the man is doing it” camp of redpill ideology. I think infidelity, even if the man is the one doing it, has the chance to completely destabilize the family unit. He has already lost your trust and should be f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 03:16 AM
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How does he express interest? I think this is important. I think society as a whole has pushed this narrative that men need to impress women and make women feel adored. Meanwhile, women are supposed to sit passively and soak up all the adoration that they rightfully deserve just for existing. Perfect example: men pay for dates, and they get the pleasure of spending ~2 hours with a woman. If he expects sex, he’s greedy because just having the opportunity to talk to her and pay for her meal is som…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 05:37 PM
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Because he was virgin, and because his first time was with you, he’s probably having a very difficult time imagining how you could “get over” your first two boyfriends. In his mind, you’re his first sexual partner and therefore extremely significant and special to him. Therefore, in his mind, he’s thinking, “Well her first partner must be extremely significant and special to her.” Unfortunately, it might be hard for him to understand that you truly don’t think about your exes or care about them.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 04:02 PM
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At this point I would just refuse to hang out with the sister. It seems like she doesn’t enjoy your company, so why would your boyfriend continue planning events with the three of you together? I would sit him down and explain that you’ll see her when it’s inevitable (holidays, birthdays, etc.) but otherwise you’d prefer it if you not hang out with her, even in a group setting. If that means he needs to go spend time with her by himself, so be it. Stop demeaning yourself just to include this gir…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 05:22 PM
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If you haven’t already, begin therapy. Figure out why you felt the need to start an OnlyFans and break up your marriage over it. You say you’d rather die than date a “beta” male but you effectively demoted your husband to a “beta” male when you expected him to date an active sex worker. Was it for money? Personal gratification? Did you enjoy the idea that men were so turned on by your body that they wanted to pay for pictures/videos of it? At the end of the day, although some redpill men might e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 10:56 PM
20

If he’s the sort of man who doesn’t want to be taken care of, then he will react negatively if you imply that he needs to be taken care of. I imagine how a man would respond to this advice, and I think a lot of traditional redpill men would say “leave him alone and let him handle it on his own, men don’t go to women for emotional support” so on and so forth. But women have that wonderful emotional intuition that allows us to diplomatically skirt around issues like this. You want to dote and love…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/21 07:27 PM
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They sound like “cool girls.” As in, “oh I’m one of the cool girls who talks to my husband about hot women.” It’s another strategy women use to compete with one another. Who’s the coolest girl? At the end of the day, would your fiancé feel comfortable talking to you about all the guys you find hot? No? Then there’s no reason you need to do the same with him. Security = standing up for yourself and your boundaries. Insecurity = doing things that make you uncomfortable to gain validation from othe…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 09:18 PM
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A good leader is one who keeps his promises. A Captain cannot expect his followers to trust him if he makes promises he can’t keep. I would sit him down and say something like this: “[Boyfriend], I love you dearly and I am very happy to be with you, but it hurts me when you make promises that you don’t keep. I don’t expect you to buy me gifts, but I do expect you to keep your promises. So if you are thinking of offering to buy me a gift, can you please stop first and really think about whether o…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 12:43 PM
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If my relationship has reached the point where I have to remind my husband about my boundaries (i.e., “If you do this, I will leave”) then he has already put me in a situation where I feel as though I am not his first priority. For example, if I informed him, “The window to my car is stuck and I can’t roll it down,” and he promised to fix it and told me not to worry about it, how many months do I wait to get it fixed? Say I use multiple feminine strategies to gently remind him and it still doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 11:55 AM
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This may be considered bad advice here, but I will tell you what I personally would do in your situation: First, I would tell your current boyfriend about the explicit photos and videos that you sent. I wouldn’t want to live in constant fear of him finding out about them in the event that your ex does turn out to be a POS and I would also feel less intimate with my SO if I knew I was hiding a potential bombshell from him (assuming he cares about that stuff). As for what to say, I would politely …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 01:20 AM
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People often turn this into an issue of “I shouldn’t be forced to do something I want to do” and that’s the end of the discussion. But that’s not the problem. Obviously you shouldn’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to do. You know that. I know that. We all know that. But that isn’t the end of the discussion. The question to ask yourself is: why don’t I want to be intimate with my husband/significant other? Why don’t I have the desire? If a man isn’t getting sex out of his relationship, h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 06:35 PM
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He has admitted to being unfaithful himself. I think he’s a celebrity. And I genuinely believe that the majority of celebrities, professional athletes, rockstars, rappers, etc. are incapable of maintaining stable LTRs. I guarantee the vast majority of them have cheated on their spouses at least once. I would bet money on it. You spend so much time away from your spouse, constantly tempted by women, drugs, parties, always “high” on the excitement of being in a big city surrounded by other famous …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 10:48 AM
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Feel free to start your own redpill subreddit where you discuss those topics. “Make it make sense” is the most basic (and dare I say) bluepill phrase I can think of. No one on this planet is required to use a word or phrase that makes sense to you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 01:37 AM
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A man stays with his wife because she was there for him when he was still building his wealth. If you weren’t there for him from the beginning, don’t expect to jump in at the end and then still be treated like anything more than eye candy and a fun time. If he’s not worthy of you when he’s just starting out, you aren’t worthy of him once he’s successful.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 11:09 AM
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I don’t see what he did wrong? He drove two hours to see OP and then she ended up being at a shoot for 12 hours. So he drove four hours there and back and wasted all that gas money, and he didn’t even say anything disrespectful. He just asked her to be more respectful of his time in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 08:30 PM
23

If you’re minimally attracted to him you’ll eventually stray.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:31 PM
13

You say he was “no virgin” when he met you. Was he very promiscuous before you two got together? Did he have a lot of casual partners? If so he might have a Madonna-Whore complex. Have you sat him down and really, truly made it clear how much this is bothering you? I know you don’t want to leave him, but I would at least make it clear to him that this is a massive problem and not just something that he can keep shrugging off.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 08:18 PM
2

Your friend sounds like an outlier to me. Not feeling any desire for any man by adulthood, to me, would signify a deeper issue: maybe she’s a lesbian and doesn’t realize it, maybe she has a low libido, maybe she’s asexual. I will say that a lot of women (and a lot of people in general) have a very - excuse my language - fucked up view of how relationships should work throughout the lifespan. To me it’s similar to a Madonna-Whore complex. Basically, you sleep around as much as possible when you’r…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 08:09 PM
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Ooh. You’re working full time too? That changes things. Kinda not realistic or fair for you to handle his tasks for him when you’re working full-time and handling all the cooking and cleaning.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 10:30 AM
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My only question would be: where do you draw the line? For example, if a man promises to his wife that he will fix the toilet next week, and the toilet doesn’t get repaired for the next month…when is she allowed to ask questions? When is she allowed to start “pestering” him? And I can’t accept the response of “she should just fix the toilet herself” or “she should call a repairman” because that still undermines her husband in my opinion. If my husband promised to do something and I did it for hi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 01:38 AM
2

At 14 you’re very young. I know that’s a bummer to hear because you’re probably starting to embrace more responsibility as you get older and you’re feeling more mature and trying to figure out who you are, but try to put yourself in our shoes. Most of us are in our 20s at the very youngest, so it’s hard to look at someone who is literally a minor and give advice because we don’t know your situation, your goals in life, what your family is like, etc. And that’s okay. I think discussions about red…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 12:15 PM
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My husband was feminine when we first met but he didn’t want to be. He was raised in a household with a lot of demanding and dominant women, so he was kind of “beaten down” and emasculated a lot growing up. He actually appreciates that I’ve been helping him feel more masculine. I think OP should figure out if her husband wants to be feminine or if it’s the result of conditioning.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 01:27 PM
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Don’t respond to it. If I were you I would be cordial with her but would make no attempts to be friendly. A simple “how are you? That’s good to hear. Thanks, I’m fine as well” will do. Watch very closely to see how your boyfriend handles this situation. Obviously family is important, but if his family becomes antagonistic for no good reason and he doesn’t stand up for you, that’s a problem. She probably thinks you’re a weirdo because you’re being very kind to her and going out of your way to inc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 07:34 PM
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Common interests are good. I know some redpill men are very strict about separating “wife” from “friends,” but my husband and I like to play video games together and I’m integrated with his group of friends. Being a support for him is good. If he has a stressful day at work, ideally he’s thinking “well at least I get to go home and see my wife that will help me calm down.” Having a soothing, calm presence and knowing how to help him specifically is good.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 12:09 PM
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Is it possible he’s stressed? You said he’s especially busy. I know a lot of men (especially redpill men) think it’s annoying when women try to talk emotions, but I think a compromise needs to be made between men and women when it comes to this topic. Women should try to understand that men handle their emotions differently and sometimes men are stoic/detached. We should try not to harass them. On the other hand, men should understand that women are more emotional and sometimes we need honest an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 02:08 PM
13

I have to respectfully disagree. My husband often says he wishes I would cry more because he feels much more mushy-lovey-dovey when I cry versus when I shut down and isolate myself or simply use my words to explain how I feel. When I tell him “I’m sad” he usually just says “oh I’m sorry to hear that.” But if I cry he will wrap me in a big bear hug and hold me and he says it makes him feel good to be a provider in that sense. It makes him feel more like the “big strong man” taking care of the dam…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 09:31 PM
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I am so very happy that me and my husband are figuring things out now (in our mid-20s) versus our thirties. We have a house already. We both have cars. We’re both working on building up our careers. And I’m happy with my choices. I’m currently working on my LPN (licensed practical nurse). This will allow me to move up at the assisted living center where I currently work. The good thing about being an LPN is that it’s flexible. If my husband ever needs me to, I can work full-time and make decent …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 02:47 PM
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You say this issue with your SO is that he’s not romantic or communicative and he settles into routines too easily. Here’s my question: is this new guy, whom you just met, somehow more romantic or communicative? Or do you think you like him because he’s new and exciting and you enjoy the thrill of new things? My guess is even if you moved on to this next guy, you’d eventually get bored with him too because you don’t want a routine. You want the drama and excitement and thrill that comes with a n…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 06:11 PM
14

“You only live once” is single motherhood logic.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 08:39 PM
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She has cameltoe and everything at fucking Disney World. She’s dressed like she’s looking for a sugar daddy at the club.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/10/21 11:03 PM
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I mean, it’s okay to be disappointed if he didn’t follow through with his promise. When you put your faith in him, and he doesn’t do what he said he would do…it’s okay to be disappointed. From a man’s (my husband’s) perspective: if you have a boss at work who’s constantly promising bonuses and then not following through, you start to lose respect for him. Keeping your word when you make a promise is a traditional “male” trait. That’s why “a man of his word” is a common saying. If I was in your p…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 12:16 AM
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Obviously you can change your behavior. You could become a wonderful housewife. When a man says “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife,” he isn’t saying it’s impossible for people to change. He’s just saying he doesn’t want to take the risk and end up with a woman who’s settling for him. A lot of people who party/have wild “hoe phases” only settle because they’re forced to after that lifestyle becomes unsustainable or unfulfilling. I know women who still go on and on about how much they “miss th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 02:46 PM
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Did you read OP’s comment where she stated what he actually said? It’s…pretty bad. And definitely not a joke. I’m not even sure why he’s trying to frame it as a joke - probably because she didn’t react like he wanted her to so he had to say “it’s a joke don’t worry.” And now he’s avoiding her because he feels ashamed of what he said and is lashing out at her over it. If someone said that to me I would assume they were at least somewhat okay with certain people being abused.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 01:33 AM
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This makes more sense if you’re a stay-at-home wife. If your husband is working 40-50 hours a week to buy your food, keep a roof over your head, and provide you with everything else you need, then it’s fair for you to also contribute to the household by keeping it clean. Otherwise he has to come home and do even more work in addition to the work he’s already doing, which gives you a ton of free time and him almost no free time. Not fair. If you’re both working then it makes sense not to clean fo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 01:18 AM
2

They’re still seething about it over at r/girlgamers It’s like they’re all 5 years old, still getting offended over harmless fucking jokes
/r/PussyPassDenied23/07/21 07:11 PM
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I started turning against feminism and “woke” ideology when I was 14. Between the ages of 11-14 I was an atheist, hardcore liberal, watched videos of Michelle Bachmann and other Republicans getting “roasted” on YouTube, etc. I was sex positive, thought sex workers were goddesses, and fantasized about one day having my kid come out as gay or bisexual just so I could prove to the world how tolerant and cool I was for being okay with it (and most “woke” people do the same thing even if they won’t a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 08:57 PM
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The toilet would break and they’d have to start shitting outside lmao
/r/PussyPassDenied06/07/21 03:20 PM
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I see a lot of red flags here. She has slept with her best friend, which means she struggles to maintain boundaries between what is a “friend” and what is a “lover.” She is okay being “best friends” with a serial cheater. The people in her friend group clearly have loose boundaries in general when it comes to sex and hooking up. Oh, and your girlfriend felt totally fine telling you personal private information about her best friend (that he has BPD). Also a red flag. She can’t maintain boundarie…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 03:02 PM
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Two reasons: Some women expect men to pay for dates and be the breadwinner but those women don’t provide anything in return. My husband’s friend works full-time. His girlfriend works part-time. She still expects her husband to do half of all the household chores. She refuses to get a full-time job and still expects him to be the breadwinner. People tend to criticize women like that, as they should. Some people genuinely hate SAHP and think both partners should split work/house chores. And they w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 04:55 PM
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The fact that he lied is wrong and you have a right to be upset about that. You should definitely bring it up. The only time I’d have an issue with their friendship, however, would be if he was doing anything inappropriate. Ogling their thirst traps on Instagram, giving them sexual validation (like commenting “sexy ;)” on their selfies), constantly choosing to prioritize them over you (for example, canceling a date with you because one of them wants a ride somewhere), or anything of that nature.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 10:53 AM
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It looks like she’s planning on talking to her fiancé but would like some advice on how to approach the situation as well as some validation that she has the right to feel uncomfortable. She might need that validation if her fiancé decides to take the “you’re so insecure and controlling” route when she brings up her concerns.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 10:46 AM
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If you want to learn to cook, watch cooking shows/videos on YouTube. My biggest mistake is that I would write recipes down and try to copy them. But actually watching someone make the food helps so much because you can see what the food should look like each step of the way. I would start with simple recipes on YouTube and slowly work your way up. Learn about nutrition and meal planning. Warning: it’s a lot of information and it takes a while to absorb it all. Don’t beat yourself up if you aren’…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 08:53 PM
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I can only answer this by listing things I wish my mom would have taught me. My dad was the responsible parent, but he’s a man. He could only teach me so much. My mom was a mess. I wish my mom would have taught me about the menstrual cycle and how much it affects my mood, energy levels, and libido throughout the month. I wish she would’ve taught me that it’s normal to be very romantic and lovey-dovey one week and devoid of any libido the next. I didn’t realize until I downloaded a period tracker…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 08:31 PM
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Would your husband have accepted you becoming a SAHM? At the end of the day, if you’re both working 40-hour jobs, it really isn’t fair for him to still expect the “happy housewife” treatment in which you come home, cook, clean, take care of the kids (all by yourself) and then suck his dick while he relaxes on the couch. What’s fair is fair. If he wanted you to work, then it’s not fair for him to also expect you to play the housewife role. On the other hand, I can see where you might be partially…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 12:06 AM
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I think it’s more like…a lot of people don’t think about having a baby until they have a baby. A lot of people think “oh we’ll just have them go to daycare!” But once you actually hold your baby and see how fragile they are and how much you love them and realize how much you are responsible for their safety and care, that’s when a big red light goes off in your head and you think, “The only way I’m sending them to daycare is if I absolutely have to”
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 10:54 AM
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If you want to watch porn while masturbating, that’s fine. However, if you finish masturbating and then feel the need to follow that porn star or Instagram model on social media so you can keep tabs on her or scroll through her content while on the bus headed to work, there’s something about that that feels slimy. Like you’re addicted to these girls. I will admit that I also watch porn. But I don’t feel the need to follow porn stars or scroll through their content when I’m bored. If you’re follo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:02 PM
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I’m married to a man who is 5’ 6” on a good day. I was attracted to him because he acted like he was worthy of my attraction regardless of his height. He was also overweight when we started dating and I was still wildly attracted to him because, again, he acted like someone who thought he was worthy of a woman’s attraction. It was never a matter of “Gosh I hope she’s attracted to me.” It was more like, “I’m going to put in the normal amount of effort to be attractive, like showering and styling …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 09:57 PM
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If he’s the HVM you think he is, he won’t even consider returning to a woman who cheated on him. Cheating is something that instantly drops a woman’s value to zero in a man’s eyes unless he lacks self-respect. If she did manage to influence him in any way, then this would be your evidence that he is not a HVM due to the fact that he’s willing to sacrifice his self-respect for a low-value woman. That would make him an unworthy man for both marriage and fatherhood. You don’t need to fight her. Be …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 09:51 PM
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Is a housewife not working hard when she gets up at 1am and 4am while her husband sleeps to breastfeed her child, then again at 7am to start cooking breakfast and cleaning the house even though she’s exhausted and just wants to sleep? Or do we not consider that hard work because we’ve been taught that the only hard work that matters is when you’re out in the sun or in a factory building things? Is a woman not dedicated to her family when she sacrifices her body to have a child? When she goes thr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 07:43 PM
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From a biological standpoint, women (who want children) need the father of the child to protect and provide. It’s hard to hunt and protect yourself and your child when you’re pregnant and/or breastfeeding. Women have a biological imperative to make sure our children have strong fathers. Even today, single motherhood is terrible for kids. I’m not going to even cite sources because at this point it’s common knowledge that single motherhood is not good for kids. Nowadays people are obsessed with th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 06:17 PM
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Oh hello fellow dark fantasy fiction writer! I’m currently working on dark fantasy as we speak. Maybe one day we’ll see our names on some bookshelves :) In my opinion writing is an art, and art is something that requires creativity. So that’s a trait that will really allow you to enhance your femininity. So the fact that you spend time working on your stories is a wonderful thing! You’re doing a great job with starting to keep your room nice and tidy. This will give you practice with cleaning, o…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 07:17 PM
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I think part of the issue is that women were presented with this idea of entering the workforce and told that it would be sunshine and rainbows and we’d finally be independent and equal to men and it would be paradise. But what they didn’t tell them was that working is hard. Being responsible for household finances is hard. Bearing the burdens of being a breadwinner is hard. The workplace is often cutthroat and cruel and difficult to navigate. Men were never living in paradise and women trying t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 02:19 PM
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Most redpilled guys won’t care as long as you: stay in shape, eat healthy, are feminine and kind-hearted, and know how to take care of a household. I’m not sure where you are that most guys consider this a dealbreaker. Most men I know online and in real life are just happy to see breasts and aren’t super judgmental. Then again, there are a small subset of men who harshly judge women’s bodies because they’re tired of being told that they’re fatphobic assholes for not being attracted to 400 lbs. w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 08:58 PM
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Yeah, I do think the issue is the men around you. Have you tried looking at guys who are into trades? I’ve noticed if you go to college you can expect to find guys who get their eyebrows done and need someone to coddle them. Or, alternatively, you get the guys who party every night and are only in college because mom and dad will kick them out if they don’t go. Guys in trades, on the other hand, are usually pretty tough. I’m talking electricians, plumbers, autobody, etc. You won’t find them on a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 10:55 AM
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If someone wants to call themselves a birthing person, that’s fine. But I would be upset if anyone referred to me as a birthing person. I am a woman. I will be called a woman by anyone who wants to be included in my life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 12:13 AM
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Don’t forget the relationship subreddits.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 01:18 PM
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These kids are grown up now and one of them has a YouTube channel where she legitimately talks about how much she hates men. When your parents teach you that you’re a perpetual victim and everything bad that happens to you is someone else’s fault, you end up miserable.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/06/21 03:20 PM
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I believe with what just happened regarding Fauci and his leaked emails, too many Americans would be outraged by more lockdowns for them to enforce it again. I think most people would rather take the risk than undergo another lockdown, even most public officials. Unless a variant comes out that has an absurdly high death rate, and is as scary as ebola, the world will continue opening back up.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 10:46 AM
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So what you’re saying is that he’s the exact same toxic guy you left in the first place. I think it’s time to go to therapy and figure out why you have amazing chemistry with toxic guys. If you’re always going to feel like there’s “something missing” with guys who don’t force you to record porn of yourself or perform certain sexual acts to “prove your loyalty,” something is seriously wrong with your perception of love and sexual attraction. You need to go to the repair shop and recalibrate your …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 08:51 PM
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Because it’s fake. As soon as the guy started talking it became clear he’s an actor.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/06/21 07:36 PM
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Just do your own thing. If he wants to get an attitude with you for trying to communicate, then clearly he doesn’t want help. Ignore him and enjoy your newfound alone time. Take some time to indulge in your hobbies or go out with your girlfriends or, if you have kids, take them out to a movie or to the park. Have fun. Just don’t enable his bad mood. If he’s walking around the house with a stormcloud over his head and bringing down everyone else’s mood, stay away from him and do your best to keep…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 07:05 PM
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I think this person knows what they said and meant what they said. People are allowed to make observations about different behaviors they notice in women versus men.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 06:59 PM
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I’m similar to you. But my major issue is sensory overload. When I’m upset I get overwhelmed and need some peace and quiet to actually work through my thoughts and emotions so I can think rationally. The biggest issue me and my husband have is that he’s the sort of person who wants to solve problems right here right now. So when I’m upset he won’t leave me alone, but I need that space to just calm down and work through my emotions so I can think rationally. He thinks I’m stonewalling, but I will…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 06:55 PM
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Uh...he’s allowed to move on. Yes, what happened to OP is devastating. But it seems like he’s moving on from the relationship and has no ill-will toward OP. He didn’t insult her. He isn’t being rude to her. He seems to view this as an amicable breakup, so I’m not sure how he’s being a “whiny baby.” He doesn’t sound like he’s reacting with fear, either. The relationship ended and he moved on. I don’t see any evidence of him being toxic in any way. OP is the one who chose to ignore her own grief a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 06:43 PM
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You’ve got to really elevate him. Put in effort. Cook him food. Keep his house clean. Show him that you want to please him and make him happy. Make him a priority. Avoid situations where he will be made to feel like a second priority. Don’t go out and get yourself into situations similar to the ones that resulted in you having a high n-count. Openly and proudly reject men who flirt with you. Don’t go clubbing and bar-hopping because that’s where people go to find hookups. If you go out with frie…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 11:45 PM
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Personally I prefer to know a man’s past. For example, I don’t date former drug addicts or people who have been in prison for any major violent crime. A lot of people argue that sexual history doesn’t matter, but I don’t think I would invest further time and effort into a man who has done porn, or who has slept with hundreds of women. A lot of men have a Madonna-Whore complex and will inevitably view sex with their wives as “boring but it’s okay because I love her.” I know a lot of men who separ…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/21 01:17 PM
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Eh, I’ve always seen men and women as having different types of strength. I was reading a novel in which the main character is a girl living in China when footbinding was a thing. Obviously it’s an awful practice that led to a lot of suffering, but in the book the girl describes how there are different types of love and one of those “loves” is “mother love.” She describes how a mother must endure the pain of childbirth, watch as her children suffer through things like footbinding (which she hers…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 06:47 PM
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I’m not sure if “challenge” is necessarily the best word. From what I understand most redpill guys want a supporter and a cheerleader. Ideally your partner would be someone who challenges himself and you would be his source of comfort/support when he comes home from facing those challenges. Traditionally it’s men who challenge each other and women who offer a home with peace and calm so that he can rest and recover. However, things aren’t always ideal. My partner hasn’t always challenged himself…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 01:47 PM
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I was going to just say “paternity test” but then I got to the last comment. Holy shit
/r/PussyPassDenied23/05/21 06:27 PM
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Wanting people to fear you is a sign of weakness. Women who constantly puff their chests out and try to stand toe-to-toe with men are the ones who seem the weakest to me. Trying to avoid weakness and seem “tough” screams insecurity. Reading your post didn’t make me see you as a tough woman. It made me see you as someone who’s terrified and trying her best to prove that she’s a strong woman because she’s usually “the leader of the pack” and can “punch a grown man in the face.” My guess is most pe…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:39 AM
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It doesn’t sound like he’s red-pilled if he’s constantly apologizing, telling you he loves you hundreds of times a day, and being overly-clingy. It seems like he’s a good man but also needs to become his own man. I see a lot of redpill guys get angry when women aren’t into “nice guys,” yet they also advocate for men to be strong leaders with their own identities who don’t cling to women. If redpill guys can admit openly that they don’t want masculine women, then women should be able to admit tha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 01:49 AM
1

I mean, you really can’t “prove” anything about personality since it’s all subjective anyway. Psychology in general isn’t an exact science. Two clinicians with the same patient might come up with two different diagnoses. That’s why the term “neurodiversity” has shown up. Some people think that behaviors we call “mentally ill” are just normal variations in human personality. Of course I can’t pull out a calculator and prove the “alpha male nice guy” stuff. No one’s claiming you can. But if someon…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 05:36 PM
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I think this is an interesting video because it really ties into something I’ve been thinking about. Right now in my relationship we are in a transitional period. When we first started dating, my husband was living in a basement, working a minimum wage job, and had zero goals beyond “come home and play video games until I sleep.” He would always talk about wanting a house and a family, but he never took any concrete steps to achieve those things. He would come home, smoke weed, and play video ga…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 05:18 PM
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A woman taking responsibility for the kid she made and not relying on handouts and/or constantly bitching about the man she allowed to cum inside her? That’s funny. Never seen that before.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/05/21 10:01 AM
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I know what you’re going through. My mom has the emotional maturity and life skills of a 16-year-old. She has always been a promiscuous party girl. Pregnant with my oldest brother at 17. Cheated on my dad. Addicted to pills. Basically any man’s greatest nightmare. All my friends in high school loved her because she was the “cool mom.” She was the mom who was more of a friend than a mom. I hated her because I felt like I was more mature than her by the time I was 11 years old. I hated looking aft…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 12:56 AM
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It’s weird how they think it still counts as “saving yourself” when you already gave it away a long time ago. Once you lose your virginity, “saving yourself” for future men goes out the window. There’s nothing to save.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 02:48 PM
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Oh hey I’m in this. I’m the “yes, in general you are worth more than your body” comment. I was wondering if that post would end up here. I think it ended up making it to the front page.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/05/21 09:44 PM
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Can you ask him what he means when he says that the marriage is “out of his control”? Certainly it takes two to maintain a marriage. Why does he suddenly feel that his own marriage is not “within his control”?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 07:15 PM
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I think this is the heart of it for me as well. I don’t mind that my husband finds other women attractive. Obviously that’s a given. But I also think it’s tacky to openly thirst after people online, especially when you’re in a relationship. Even when I was single I felt too prideful to thirst after attractive men online because I guess I felt...better than that? When a woman posts a thirst trap, the goal is to get attention and validation. By liking that picture, he’s giving her the attention an…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 11:20 PM
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It sounds like he’s active on social media and follows a lot of e-girls and Instagram models and interacts with them frequently. Is this correct? If not the entire rest of my comment will be useless, haha. To me it sounds like you’re incompatible. I don’t think you’re insecure. I would be uncomfortable dating a man who had a large social media presence and who was constantly following/interacting with Instagram models. To me that’s a very “new age” thing. It’s now considered normal for men to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 09:34 PM
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That was so obviously a shitpost on his part and she just took the bait hook line and sinker.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/05/21 06:31 PM
3

I saw that post. OP added an edit stating that the daughter was financially abusive. If you read the post without the edit, it really does seem like her boyfriend is the one stirring the pot. It’s just a misunderstanding.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/05/21 06:29 PM
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Some of it I agree with, some of it I don’t. The entire “not monogamous by nature” thing doesn’t sit right with me. I know plenty of men who are firmly loyal to their wives and don’t flirt with other women.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 06:01 PM
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Interestingly, Joker was about a fictional society invented in someone’s head. Kind of like the society this woman is imagining in her head where she is somehow an oppressed victim.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/05/21 09:12 PM
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That was such a good video. I watched it yesterday I think. Whenever I call out hypersexualization of young women, I’m always called a “prude” and told that I hate sex. In reality I love sex, I actually have quite a few kinks, and I have a very healthy identity in regards to my sexuality. However, I think that a young woman discovering her sexuality is someone who is extremely vulnerable and that phase of her life should be kept private and personal. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with, sa…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 08:53 PM
6

Or he could have his motorbike and his wife and be happy with both.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 03:13 PM
10

I suppose I’m confused. When me and my husband were dating, he told me it was his dream to (A) have a job he loved and (B) become a husband and father. So far he has achieved 2/3 of those things. Once we have kids it will be 3/3. By marrying me he wasn’t giving up a dream, but rather fulfilling it. He still plays video games. He still goes fishing. He hasn’t lost anything. This post makes it seem as if there’s this separation where men must sacrifice their own selves in order to marry. Kiss good…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 03:10 PM
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The point is that when you settle down, it is your choice. You cannot blame your wife for the loss of your “childhood dreams.” You also cannot throw a pity-party for yourself every time you want to be selfish and can’t because you need to prioritize your family.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 11:11 AM
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I don’t think a woman would be a ball-busting shrew for being less-than-thrilled for her husband to be gone, no contact, while she has two 6-month-olds and a 3-year-old to care for. I asked my husband about this hypothetical and he said he would never leave me with three young kids unless he was able to call me any time or be called by me anytime because he would want to be able to come straight home if there was any sort of medical emergency (and we’ve had our fair share of those). Also, he wou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 11:05 AM
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I wouldn’t take any criticism seriously from a channel whose main shtick is that they criticize “fundamentalists” (i.e., women who dare to be SAHMs with traditional family structures). There’s nothing supremacist or misogynistic about showing people your routine as a SAHM. I’ve watched many of her videos and I haven’t seen anything more radical than her showing off how dirty her floor was when she mopped it. Maybe I’m not watching the right videos? People who criticize “fundies” just cannot poss…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 05:28 PM
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From what I’ve experienced with men (and especially red-pilled men), agreeableness is far more important than looks. I’ve found that men tend to be far less picky about women’s looks than we think they are. As long as you have good hygiene, take care of yourself (eating right, working out) and put some effort into learning what hairstyles and outfits look good on you, you should be fine. This means learning how to look good even in loungewear or pajamas, when you’re feeling lazy. As for the agre…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 01:59 PM
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I understand what you’re saying. The Audrey Hepburn style has been adopted by a lot of “hipster” folks who are anything but traditional when it comes to relationships. I see a lot of guys with suspenders, handlebar mustaches, and slicked back hair who are also more feminine, agreeable, and submissive. I think they’ve been labeled “nu males” by some internet groups. It’s hard because they dress like they’re traditional...but they aren’t. So it’s easy to get confused and assume you’re dating a cla…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 12:16 AM
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I know it’s not the same, but I have a ptosis (droopy eyelid). It’s my left eye. My eyelid sags very low and at least in my opinion it makes me look like I’m drunk 24/7 even though I don’t drink. Anyway, I always think it’s a billion times more noticeable than it is. Other people tell me they don’t even realize it’s there. My husband did notice it and he told me he thinks it’s cute, like a beauty mark. I was watching another video of a girl who had a ptosis and I thought, “It’s unique, it’s tech…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 05:55 PM
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It worked for me. I used to have very skinny thighs but I do a lot of leg workouts and eat a lot of protein and now my thighs are slightly wider than my hips. Makes it look like I have an hourglass shape when I really don’t (I have hip dips).
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 09:40 AM
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Well, I’m 24, so for me 10+ partners would be a significant number (whereas, if I was in my 30s and seeking men my age, I wouldn’t consider it a huge number). I have sort of a weird perspective on this and it’s hard to explain. I’ll do my best. The main issue I have with this is that I don’t want to be someone’s “second choice” after hooking up gets boring. You hear a lot of people say, “Yeah, my college days were some of the best days of my life...but eventually I had to settle down and I chose…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 03:39 PM
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I play video games with my husband and his friend group and the differences between how men and women communicate are really interesting. There have been a lot of moments where someone said something and I thought, “Oh wow, that was definitely a subtle jab. Do Tom and Josh not like each other? Because that was definitely a backhanded insult. I hope Tom isn’t angry at Josh.” And then the next day Tom and Josh are talking to each other normally like nothing happened. And I realize that it never wa…
/r/PussyPassDenied22/04/21 06:05 PM
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I used to really, really love it when a man is tall. My husband is around 5’ 6” and I’m 5’ 4” and I wouldn’t trade him for any tall man on Earth. At this point tall men don’t even turn my head anymore. The truth is you will never find anyone who ticks all your boxes. And if you do, it’s because you probably didn’t have very many boxes to tick in the first place. Even if I found a guy who was tall, he probably wouldn’t have the amazing hair that my husband has. Or he wouldn’t have the work ethic …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:31 PM
12

I haven’t seen you mention how your husband feels. What’s his opinion? What does he want? Have you told him your thoughts? If so what was his response?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 10:50 AM
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I believe a relationship needs both physical (i.e., sexual) and emotional attraction. Both components are necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 01:21 AM
5

I would break up with him. I’m not interested in living in the shadow of another woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 09:23 PM
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Good Lord you just described me. I got married today (only legally because of a certain virus, we’re planning the ceremony for later) and I froze while giving my vows because expressing myself in front of others feels...wrong? I’ve always wanted to dance but I can’t even dance while alone in my room because I imagine people watching me and it makes me not want to dance. I’m sorry I don’t have any advice. I wish I did. But you’re definitely not alone. Learning not to care what others think is so …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 08:04 PM
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After reading your post and the comments here, I’m starting to think that this man is not 100% straight and that he’s either having intercourse with his friends, not cleaning his penis properly (or both), or his cleaning habits are so bad that his bedsheets are a cesspool of bacteria and somehow that bacteria is getting into your vagina. Either way I wouldn’t sleep on his bed anymore, and maybe you can shower with him before sex to ensure that he is cleaning himself properly. I know that seems s…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 07:20 PM
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I think a lot of them are probably experimenting and will have bad experiences and return to monogamy. I think some of them legitimately function better in polyamorous arrangements. I’m not here to judge as long as they aren’t the “monogamy is only for insecure people” types.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 10:14 PM
1

Perhaps when he dated his previous girlfriend he had a low self-esteem, and with you he has a higher self-esteem. So he’s not rating you lower than her - he’s just rating himself higher than he did back then. Also, if his ex’s friend suggested that he was punching and he agreed to it, he probably did that just to avoid creating drama with her friends. We all know how some friends get really protective and start acting dramatic whenever a guy doesn’t worship the ground that her best friend walks …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 12:01 AM
7

Why hasn’t she applied for disability
/r/PussyPassDenied05/04/21 07:28 PM
7

It seems as though you have different values regarding sex. Unless he has an equally high n-count and is being a hypocrite (in which case his angst absolutely is ego-driven), he is someone who views sex as an act of love. Therefore, the more sex you have that is casual or purely for physical pleasure, the more you devalue sex in general as an act of love and it might be hard for him to see sex with you as lovemaking. It’s hard to explain. I’m similar to him in how I view sex and people who have …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 11:07 AM
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So, I am personally starting to resent the phrase “true feminism” because I feel like it falls under the realm of the No True Scotsman fallacy. I once had a self-proclaimed feminist tell me that I am “supporting my own oppression” because I said it’s fine if a man doesn’t want to date sex workers (mind you, I am not a sex worker). Now, you can argue all day every day and twice on Sunday that true feminism is simply supporting a woman’s right to choose her own lifestyle, but I feel as though that…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 05:54 PM
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I think when humans experience really negative emotions, and we don’t cope with those emotions properly, we end up fixating on those emotions and the experiences that caused them. It’s similar to the way that a lot of people obsess over pimples/scabs and can’t leave them alone and pick at them. I think you can see this pretty well with people who have trauma and keep reliving the experience or who cope by actually acting out the experience. It’s even possible with something as simple as scary mo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 07:12 PM
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Therapy won’t change the amount of stress he has but it would help him to develop coping mechanisms that don’t boil down to “snapping at my girlfriend whenever I’m triggered.” He needs to find a way to let off steam that is both healthy and functional. That way he will be taking his anger out on a punching bag or a treadmill instead of taking it out on you. But I also agree that you need to stop engaging with him so long as this continues. He needs to see that you won’t continue to just deal wit…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 12:31 PM
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That subreddit will ban you if the wind happens to be blowing in the wrong direction. Don’t fret too much over it. Getting angry about r/offmychest banning you would be like getting angry if a two-year-old called you a “big meanie.” They’re extremely woke and holier-than-thou but also harmless at the end of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 11:32 PM
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I feel like you’re projecting your negative experiences onto us. The men in my life have been my greatest supporters. Even when I was completely unlovable, my father was there for me. Same for my fiancé. Is it possible my fiancé is thinking of his ex? Sure. That’s always a possibility. But I’m not going to let that possibility stop me from experiencing the absolutely indescribable joy of loving someone with all of myself. I’m happier when I’m able to love freely without the constant fear and par…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 01:43 PM
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I really enjoy this because I think a male-led relationship can be had with any lifestyle. You can be a traditional Christian woman with 2.5 children and a white picket fence who is in a male-led relationship, or you can be a polyamorous child-free head-banging tattoo artist who is in a male-led relationship. The main issue I see with modern women is that they care 100% about what they want in a man and 0% about what a man might want in them. Or they assume that a man who doesn’t want them exact…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 04:09 PM
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Oh, I had the same issue with my fiancé. He lied to me a lot (never cheated, but lied about many different things) and I stayed with him despite all the resentment and hatred I had toward him. I can tell you honestly that he went through hell to stay with me. I carried a lot of resentment toward him for a very long time, and I would often think that I forgave him only to discover that the resentment didn’t disappear - it simply went dormant for a while. The first thing I’d say is that anger is a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 10:36 PM
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Weird question, feels invasive (and you’ve probably already thought about it): do you masturbate? It’s about to get TMI in this comment. I masturbated a lot as a teenager and from that route learned what feels good/makes me orgasm quickly. For me I need both penetration and clitoral stimulation for an orgasm, so if we’re having sex I’m also stimulating myself and it’s wonderful. Some men seem to feel inadequate when women do this but fortunately my fiancé finds it to be a turn-on when I touch my…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 07:43 PM
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I have an interesting thought about this: A lot of MGTOW guys will mention how women suddenly became irresistibly attracted to them as soon as they went MGTOW. Women never wanted these men, never gave them the time of day, and now that they’re MGTOW, suddenly all these women want them. So what happened? Well, first: what is is MGTOW anyway? The entire concept of MGTOW revolves around men bettering themselves for themselves and not for the sake of getting a girlfriend. Huh. What an interesting co…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 06:19 PM
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I generally avoid men who are self-proclaimed feminists or women’s rights activists. There’s something very “kiss-ass” about them and it makes me uncomfortable. In fact, any time a man seeks approval from women as a group makes me feel uncomfortable. For example, I recently saw a post where a man was lecturing other men about how brave and strong women are for having periods and handling them. And I just knew that the expectation of me (as a woman) was to get googly-eyed at this wonderful man ad…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 08:42 PM
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Next time, make sure exclusivity comes before sex, not after. Do not have sex with a man and then tell him you want exclusivity. And especially avoid having sex for the first time while being drunk because that just seems messy, and it most likely lowered his opinion of you. The harsh truth here is that he probably lost respect for you as a serious partner. If he is truly redpilled, he was probably thinking to himself, “Okay, how many times has she gotten blackout drunk, slept with some guy she …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 02:39 PM
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This is what would concern me. It’s not the fact that he’s liking all her pictures, but rather that he likes all of her pictures but not many of yours. We can argue all day everyday that it doesn’t matter because she lives in another state or he hasn’t met her in person, but frankly that doesn’t make things better. I would never want to be in a relationship where the only thing preventing my man from cheating on me is the fact that his potential AP lives in another state. I absolutely despise it…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:40 PM
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I used to have the mentality of “I don’t feel very feminine or beautiful today, so I’m not going to dress up.” I had it in my head that in order to dress feminine, you have to feel feminine first. Then I realized that dressing feminine is what made me feel feminine. So now putting on a dress is one of the easiest ways for me to pull myself out of a funk. It’s sort of the same as when you think “oh I feel too lazy to do the dishes,” but in reality it’s more like “I feel lazy because I haven’t don…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 09:57 PM
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I would say you’re in the right place. I’m not an expert, but I don’t believe this subreddit is particularly right-wing (or even political to begin with), nor is it particularly religious. This subreddit seems to be about women with a more traditional mindset learning how to better understand ourselves and therefore develop stronger relationships with the men in our lives (or just better ourselves in general). A lot of women’s ideas of “self-improvement” involves “yaas queen, everything you do i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 11:37 PM
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I use a clip most of the time for a messy updo, or I will clip just half of it back to free up the space around my ears and give me a little volume in the back while still having half of my hair down. I have very long thick hair and a small head compared to the rest of my body, so if I leave it all down it makes my head look funny. I have to at least pull the top layers back so my ears are visible and that makes me look more proportionate. I prefer my natural hair and don’t style it too much. My…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 05:49 PM
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You seem too immature to be in a relationship. He’s going to demote you to a FWB and move on. There’s a solid chance you were never his only girlfriend to begin with - you’re most likely a side chick.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 12:48 AM
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I can only say from my own personal experience. I’ve been with my fiancé for five years and sometimes the attraction is overwhelming and sometimes it’s underwhelming. I think that’s normal. Attraction is not always this massive burning fire that makes you want to write love poems. I think when men describe “monkey branching” it’s often happening when a woman (a) was never really attracted to him but saw him as a stable husband or (b) when the couple is experiencing a particularly bad bump in the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 11:32 PM
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Someone already gave a better answer than me but I’d like to add: there are pasta noodles that have added protein. For example, I buy red lentil spaghetti noodles and they have way more protein (13g for one serving) than your average spaghetti noodles. I’m always trying to find sneaky ways to get extra protein here and there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 10:05 PM
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My father was and still is a great dad. Reliable, strong role model, taught me boundaries and respect and how to be responsible. But he wasn’t strict or overbearing, either. Made sure I had everything I needed. My mom was a SAHM (he married her when she already had two kids from a previous relationship) and she cheated on him. They divorced. She tried to say he was abusive. He wasn’t. She somehow got custody of me despite being homeless and addicted to pain pills. I don’t think she ever matured …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 03:04 AM
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There are two possibilities: If he’s redpilled, he might be “testing” you. A lot of redpill guys will test women by seeing if you’re willing to pay for meals/drinks. If that’s the case I’d say he’s overdoing it since (1) you’re already his girlfriend, and those tests are usually pre-relationship and (2) you’ve already established that you’re willing to pay. The second possibility is that he’s truly pulling away but doesn’t know how to say it to your face so he’s dragging you along. That might al…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 10:36 PM
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I’d say this is a better question for r/relationships or r/relationship_advice. Most of us here don’t have an OnlyFans and aren’t really familiar with what it means/doesn’t mean when an ex follows your OnlyFans. To be honest, OnlyFans is really not a “redpill” thing. My guess is he just wants to masturbate to your naked body and doesn’t really care about getting back with you. But, again, most of us here have no experience with these types of situations. My only advice would be to stay broken up…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 08:51 PM
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Treating romantic relationships and sex as if they are just “for fun” is why we have so many unplanned pregnancies, single mothers, deadbeat fathers, and people who are just generally incapable of holding down a long-term romantic relationship and complaining bitterly about how they can’t find someone to settle down with. This stems from the same mentality of “relationships should be easy.” People will break up the second there’s a disagreement because they learned how to browse Tinder and hooku…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 10:48 AM
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You cannot help someone who is completely incapable of taking accountability for their own actions. I know a girl who decided to date and sleep with a man who had four previous baby mamas and several domestic abuse charges and she still acts as though she couldn’t possibly have known that he would become a deadbeat father. She had multiple people telling her he was not a good choice and each one of those people were told “don’t judge me.” We live in a “don’t judge me I’m a queen I can do no wron…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 05:07 PM
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Eh, if he had a video game addiction I get it. Me and my fiancé play a lot but my brother will play for 12-16 hours every day and chose video games over his own kid. He left his girlfriend because she asked him to start helping with the baby when he was in the middle of a game. Hasn’t had a job for more than a few weeks because, and I quote, “I don’t like working. I just want to play games.” I don’t know her situation so I’m not passing judgment.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/03/21 04:54 PM
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Thank God a lot of men are starting to grow a backbone and no longer catering to women like this.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/03/21 01:00 PM
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I agree, let it go He probably sees you as more of a hookup/booty call at this point rather than a serious girlfriend or wife.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 02:08 PM
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To be honest I don’t think I’ve ever met a dominant person who got along well with another dominant person in a romantic relationship. The only way I could see it working is if they agreed on literally everything or if one was willing to submit/compromise. If I met a dominant man who was actively seeking out a dominant woman then I would think to myself that he’s probably the type who’s submissive behind closed doors.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 11:30 AM
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This isn’t just a physical appearance problem. This is a medical issue. I’m an aide at an assisted living center and a bad back = a death sentence once you get older. Poor posture might not affect you too much as a young person but as you age it will begin to limit your mobility and make getting around much more of a chore. My fiancé also has posture issues (to the point where he developed a hump on the back of his neck) and has already developed chronic back pain at the age of 25. I sat him dow…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 08:34 PM
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I don’t have control over his interests or behaviors. I only have control over my own behaviors. Therefore, if my man was doing these things knowing how disrespectful it is, I’d simply leave. That’s why I instructed OP to let him know how much it hurts (rather than demanding he stop) and leave if he doesn’t stop (rather than demanding he stop). Here’s my question: do you honestly believe I should support a man’s interests no matter what those interests are, even if they involve doing something t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 05:30 PM
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Here’s my policy on this: It’s fine if my man finds other women attractive. Totally normal. However, there’s no reason he needs to inform these other women that he finds them attractive. Some people argue that a “like” means nothing. I disagree. I say this because I was friends with girls in high school and in college and many of them viewed a man liking their pictures as flirting. I don’t want another woman to get the impression that my man is flirting with her or interested in her sexually. I …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 12:42 AM
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It all depends. For example, you might end up with a very fussy baby who requires a lot of extra attention. You could end up with a baby who sleeps well and doesn’t cry often and who you can keep strapped to your back or in a high chair and they will be perfectly content to play with their toys while you get chores done. You might develop PPD and struggle to get as many chores done as a woman who doesn’t have PPD. Obviously if that happens it’s not your fault and not a failure of your character,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 07:06 PM
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No, you were downvoted for suggesting that 13 people at 25 isn’t a crazy number. It might not be outside the redpill community, but for people - particularly men - in the redpill community it will put them off especially since it seems to be due to mental health issues. No one is saying OP should hate herself but it’s also unhelpful to deny the reality of the situation. OP used sex to cope with mental health issues and that’s considered a red flag by men who are redpilled. The best advice to giv…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 01:34 PM
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I’ve never seen anyone in this subreddit label women as “econowives” and it makes perfect sense for a man to view his aunt as a nonsexual caretaker. I view my uncle as a nonsexual caretaker. Does that mean I’m objectifying him? Is a woman objectifying men when she views a guy who parties as a hookup but a man with a job and a house as husband material?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 03:21 AM
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This was a good idea because obese people are in one of the “vulnerable groups” who get the vaccine early. There’s a solid chance she’s that.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/03/21 12:15 PM
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I think a good leader is often willing to explain the logic and rationale behind their decisions because a good leader recognizes that good followers aren’t just mindless zombies and it’s perfectly human to have questions.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 09:38 PM
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I would argue that showing attention to a crying child is “nurturing” versus “protecting,” and we already know that women are nurturers. Now do a study where some sort of physical threat is presented to the child (obviously not a real threat, but a simulated one) and see how men and women’s brains react.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 11:49 AM
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I’m proud that I was able to understand some of that.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/03/21 10:20 PM
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I have a few thoughts about this. My sympathetic view toward MGTOW might be controversial but I’m biased since my dad went MGTOW (without even knowing about the movement) following a very traumatic divorce with my mother who cheated on and abused him. Firstly, I can completely understand why some men would resort to AWALT (all women are like that). Some men have been legitimately traumatized by women. I can say with 100% certainty that if I was a man who had to experience something like paternit…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 08:47 PM
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If you don’t want to ever have a threesome, then this absolutely will become a problem down the road. And unless he’s pursuing a very reliable career, like something in medicine for example, the plan to be in college for the next six years could be concerning. Especially if he isn’t very ambitious. It sounds like this is less of a plan he made for himself and more of a “going with the flow” sort of thing. But he is 19. Although it doesn’t seem like much, the difference between 19 and 22 is vast.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:58 PM
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r/offmychest will ban you if the wind happens to be blowing in the wrong direction.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:55 PM
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The problem is if women slept with every man they went on a first date with, they’d end up with a huge body count and most men wouldn’t want to marry them after that. Gay men generally don’t care if their partners have been super promiscuous.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/03/21 06:26 PM
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Personally I find “mate guarding” behaviors to be a bit shameful and embarrassing. If the goal of a woman is to be feminine, graceful, and submissive, then mate-guarding is just about the last thing you should be doing since it seems to be a very masculine action. Also, you risk looking insecure if you misjudge the intentions of other women. In my opinion it should be the responsibility of the man to establish proper boundaries with any woman who attempts to cross them. It makes me cringe when I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 04:36 PM
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I think a lot of mothers feel a sort of possessiveness over their sons. They believe that they are competing with his future love interests and want to continue being “the woman” in his life. A lot of them cannot grasp that the role of a mother and the role of a wife are two separate things entirely. I don’t think it’s general misogyny so much as it’s competitive and focused on women as they relate to her son specifically. Her baby boy is perfect and wonderful and amazing, so he deserves the bes…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 04:27 PM
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Wait, am I supposed to sympathize with a woman who told her SO she was fantasizing about her ex during sex? Because that’s an awfully rude thing to say.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 07:39 PM
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I’d let her back in the house but she would need to do some chores, work full time, and her paychecks would need to go toward paying back her father + interest. If she wanted any extra money after that she’d need to get a second job. After she pays back her father she moves out with whatever money she managed to save with her second job.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/02/21 02:00 PM
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The one thing that prevents me from being truly feminine and graceful is the absolute amount of time I would spend finding the perfectly petty, vindictive way to respond to his text. This guy is worthless.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 01:44 PM
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Technically, yes. If the question is whether or not an abuser can change, the answer is “yes.” Physical and verbal abusers can change. Does that mean it is wise to stay with someone in the hopes that they will change? No. Does that mean it is wise to stay with them and waste what remains of your life in the hopes that they will change? No.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 10:25 PM
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Honestly, I’m in the same spot and reading your post made me feel less alone. I’ve found that it’s a vicious cycle trying to encourage a man to be more masculine because implying that they aren’t masculine emasculates them, which you obviously don’t want because it hurts them, and if they submit to your request for them to be more masculine, then they’re being submissive. It’s a lose-lose situation. And oftentimes trying to be masculine is an impossible task because masculinity and femininity ar…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:36 PM
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Wow, he actually gave her something she clearly needs: a strong male role model.
/r/PussyPassDenied24/02/21 06:43 PM
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Many traditional women exist, but many of them might be put off by the fact that you will always wonder “what if” about the woman that got away. Personally I’d feel uncomfortable dating a man and devoting myself to him knowing that I’m not and never will be his first choice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 06:35 PM
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That’s not healthy. If you plan on having children in the future, then you need to work on these commitment issues because you can’t just abandon the father of your children or expect him to abandon you when things go wrong. Children need stability, not a mother who’s going to flee from any situation as soon as things get tough.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 11:52 AM
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What a champion. Here he’d be railed for “assaulting a woman” by the “violence is never okay” crowd.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/02/21 06:46 PM
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Be nice to everyone, no matter how much you personally dislike them. Only compliment people behind their backs - no gossiping or complaining unless you’re reporting an actual issue to a supervisor. Be as cooperative as you can without being a complete doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 06:41 PM
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I’m confused. Is this what a girl wrote to you? In reference to herself? If so it seems like an unhealthy attitude to me. It’s possible to love yourself and still take other people’s opinions into consideration, especially someone who might be spending the rest of their life with you. The harsh “I’m independent and no one can tell me anything” attitude often leads to misery. Humans have gotten where we are through cooperation. If my fiancé told me he liked a certain hairstyle or wanted me to coo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 08:44 PM
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No, because being heterosexual isn’t dysfunctional and doesn’t harm anyone. A mental illness is not defined by whether or not your behavior is your choice. Pedophilia is dysfunctional and it harms people, so it is by definition a mental illness: a pattern of behaviors that leads to dysfunction and harm in someone’s life and the lives of others. Heterosexuality and homosexuality are both excluded from that because two adults in a consensual relationship is not inherently harmful or dysfunctional.
/r/PussyPassDenied19/02/21 11:51 AM
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Oh I’m the exact opposite! I noticed whenever I eat fast food I want more and more and more. Even when I make an elaborate meal I eat so much. Lasagna is my kryptonite. But when I make something simple or force myself to eat plain vegetables and fruits, I notice myself stopping when I’m full and eating less. When I eat something tasty I get addicted to the flavor of it while I’m chewing and will keep eating even if my stomach is full. Even healthy foods (my favorite is buffalo cauliflower bites)…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 01:47 AM
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I don’t count calories. This might be a bad move, but I basically try to make sure I’m getting the recommended number of food servings from each food group. So I eat about 4 servings of fruit a day, about 4 servings of vegetables, etc. I’ve been doing that and so far it’s worked to help me maintain my weight. I don’t know if it would work for others.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 11:40 PM
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I think it’s entirely possible to be talkative and feminine at the same time. In fact, one of my guilty pleasure tropes in fiction is the talkative feminine girl paired with the stoic tough guy. I don’t think you need to be shy to be graceful and feminine. My advice would be to focus your energy on being bright, cheerful, and a “ray of sunshine” to make people feel better. If you’re confrontational and argumentative, or you frequently start debates, then I can see how someone would find you masc…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 10:16 PM
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I mean, I understand why he’s upset, but this doesn’t seem like anyone’s fault. He thought the playlist was private, it wasn’t, and you were following each other on Spotify so it’s not like you were snooping around without his permission. Unless I’m fundamentally misunderstanding how Spotify works, this seems like he’s mad at himself for not making the playlist private and he’s struggling to cope. I would give him some space and let him know that you appreciate the gesture and feel so happy, and…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 12:34 AM
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The pussypass here would be showing off your body and wanting sexual attention but not the kind of (honest) sexual attention that they find disrespectful. They want to be hot and sexy but also want men to treat them like girlfriends rather than fuck-buddies. This guy have them the fuck-buddy treatment anyway. Might be a stretch but I’m going for it.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/02/21 09:11 PM
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It sounds to me more like he was mentally ill and you romanticized his personality because he was “not like the other guys.” There’s a trope called the “manic pixie dream girl” that you see in a lot of teen indie movies where the shy, awkward guy falls for the girl with blue hair because she’s so quirky and eccentric...but that’s all she is, quirky and eccentric. Seems like you found the male version of the manic pixie dream girl and assumed he was special simply because he’s not a “normal” guy.…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 03:28 PM
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Absolutely. Respect is 100% necessary for attraction, especially for women. If he set a boundary and she crossed it and he stayed, she’d be as dry as the Sahara every time she looked at him. Took me a few years to figure out why I wasn’t attracted to the “do whatever you want baby it’s your body and it’s your world I’m just living in it:)” types. It’s simply because I do not respect them.
/r/PussyPassDenied16/02/21 02:49 PM
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Does he have any male friends/family members? Does he have any strong relationships with other men? This might be controversial, but I firmly believe that men need other men in their lives. I think men motivate each other to be better in ways that women cannot motivate men to be better. There’s the old saying “steel sharpens steel.” For example, my fiancé used to be overweight, depressed, and generally unmotivated. He was raised by mostly women and worked with mostly women. The only person he wa…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 08:19 PM
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I think the issue is that you have a half-relationship with him and this is leading to confusing feelings. He doesn’t want to commit to you in a romantic way, but you’re clinging to him in a romantic way. Even if you were to stop clinging to him, the fact remains that you have these intense feelings for him that he does not reciprocate. This is creating confusing and frustrating feelings for both of you because you are not on the same page and the compromise you’ve made (FWB arrangement) creates…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 11:57 AM
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Probably sent that to every guy on her friends list.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/02/21 04:43 PM
2

If that was true they’d be willing to get paternity tests to give their boyfriends and husbands the peace of mind if their SO wants a test. Instead they flip shit and get angry. They don’t truly hate women who do it, nor do they even begin to try empathizing with men who have to worry about it. They expect him to take such a massive risk just to feed her ego because “I want him to trust me!” It would be just as dumb as buying a house without inspecting it first. Paternity is not a feelings thing…
/r/PussyPassDenied13/02/21 07:20 PM
2

I’m surprised anyone needs to have this explained to them. Then again, I had to literally sit down and explain to my fiancé that his ex sending him “let’s meet up and talk sometime ;)” was blatant flirting.
/r/PussyPassDenied13/02/21 02:28 PM
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Paternity tests should be as normalized as prenups are starting to become.
/r/PussyPassDenied13/02/21 02:26 PM
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I started my relationship at 19. My fiancé wasn’t necessarily “high value” at the time. He had a pretty not-good start in life and wasn’t doing the greatest for himself. But I saw in him the desire to get better (with actual support, which he wasn’t getting from his physically and mentally abusive family) and a sense of honesty, integrity, and good work ethic. He wanted a family, he wanted to be a breadwinner with a SAHM, and he was willing to bust his butt to get there. But he needed help becau…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 12:26 PM
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I know you’re joking but that shit’s annoying in real life Your boyfriend should be shutting down girls who flirt with him. When you do it you just look trashy.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/02/21 11:06 PM
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It’s your body, and you can do what you want. But it’s also my personal rule that if I feel uncomfortable hiding something from my fiancé, I’d much rather tell him and deal with an uncomfortable conversation than hide it from him and deal with the internal guilt. I’d also rather have the conversation beforehand rather than fight about it later should he find out on his own. I mean, is it really worth it to be with someone if you feel like you have to hide something like this from him? To me that…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 09:32 PM
8

Imagine if your man went up to a hot girl and told her, “Hey, I think you’re hot, and I like what I see.” That would seem disrespectful, wouldn’t it? That’s precisely what he’s communicating to her when he likes her sexy pictures. People can say it means nothing, but a “like” on a sexy picture means, “I think you’re hot, you look good.” I don’t care if my fiancé finds other women sexy. But I don’t need him informing those women that he finds them sexy, nor do I find it classy for him to inform a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 07:27 PM
8

I’m pretty sure that guy was a pitcher in softball. I remember reading about him. And that jacket belonged to his deceased brother.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/02/21 01:24 PM
103

I’m a woman. I work in healthcare. I’ve never been assaulted or even harassed by a coworker. I’ve also never witnessed it happening to another coworker except when my female coworkers were flirting with one of my male coworkers and going too far. As a man, you really should stay in your lane and stop gatekeeping who is and isn’t a woman based on their comment. I hate men like you who assume you know a woman’s experience and what she thinks.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/21 09:25 PM
2

Even if you’re a 10/10, the second you start acting vain, people will rate you lower just to spite you.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/21 09:23 PM
41

It entirely depends on him. Some men genuinely enjoy being the person who introduces you to new things. That’s why some of them prefer women with less experience - they genuinely enjoy being in a “mentor” position. Some people assume that it’s malicious (he wants control over you, so he wants you to be inexperienced, for example), but I think there is always an opportunity for a very deep bonding experience whenever you introduce someone to something new that seems scary to them. I know if I was…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 07:34 PM
50

Whipping your titties out for attention isn’t egregious enough to be a crime. All that’s going to happen is some drunk idiots will hoot and holler at her and tell her how hot she is, she’ll sober up the next morning and then claim that men catcalled and sexually harassed her, whine that men only want to fuck her but won’t wife her up, and the world will keep spinning. Trash takes itself out. I only feel bad for the fatherless kids she probably has.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/21 04:31 PM
1

I didn’t have that problem. My standards when I was 19 are the same as they are now and because of that I’m not a single mother at 24. I chose a man who was kind, responsible, and who had the same values as me. My fiancé chose me because I was also responsible, wanted a family just like he does, and I’m a good caregiver. Not everyone is fucking stupid when they start dating. Some people really sit down and think about what they want in life, what they want out of a partner, and what to avoid. Tu…
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/21 11:53 AM
17

The problem is she just now decided she wants stability, peace, and maturity because she got burned going after looks. Imagine if an employer chose another applicant over you because that applicant looked better than you even though they’re terrible at the job. Then they came back to you and said, “Hey we made a mistake hiring that guy he sucked and now we’re really struggling and we need you to fix everything he fucked up.” You’d be pathetic if you took that job.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/02/21 04:56 PM
11

One thing I absolutely despise is the idea that my fiancé should find me sexy even if I’m wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt with food stains on it. Obviously I don’t want him to verbally abuse me, and I want him to be understanding when I’d like to have a lazy/sick day, but when a man finds me unbelievably sexy no matter how much effort I put into my appearance, where’s the incentive to look sexy? And where’s the thrill of getting sexy and dressed up? I actually enjoy the butterflies I get in my …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 07:51 PM
22

She can easily go to a women’s shelter for free. Instead she’s texting people to bum money off of them. She’s lying.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/02/21 01:29 PM
5

I see it two ways: If you want a man to be traditional and take care of you financially, fine. But then you also need to be traditional and make sure that he has a hot meal on the table when he gets home, a clean house, happy kids, and a loving wife. Men and women in traditional nuclear-family households were excellent teammates. The man made all the money, yeah, but he never had to worry about cooking, cleaning, or taking care of the kids (although he obviously needed to play with them/develop …
/r/PussyPassDenied01/02/21 08:08 PM
8

Don’t forget dogs
/r/PussyPassDenied31/01/21 09:18 PM
14

Telling women the truth means you hate them lmao
/r/PussyPassDenied31/01/21 02:00 PM
211

Men were given the right to vote because they also had the responsibility to fight in wars and financially support women and their children on a single income. If a man lost his job, then his failure to support his family fell on his shoulders and he was shamed for it. If anything women had it easy.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/01/21 01:47 PM
4

You got the skank collar, the female mullet with crusty hair, and braces as an adult? Yeah. K9 bestiality makes sense.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/01/21 01:45 PM
18

This might be silly, but you might best be compatible with someone who is even more flamboyant, outgoing, and argumentative (not in an abusive way) than you. For example, take a strong warrior queen who can kick any man’s butt in her kingdom. She would probably seem very dominant to those men. But if she traveled to another kingdom and met a man who could defeat her in battle, she would technically be “submissive” to him. That’s why there’s the legend of these ancient female warriors who refused…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 11:25 PM
2

I don’t care what McDonald’s wants. I don’t care if they want $4 for a Big Mac. It doesn’t matter what they want. They should give me a Big Mac whenever I want it. And if all I have is some pocket lint to give them in exchange for my Big Mac, they should be happy with it. Honestly, women who constantly ask “where are the true gentlemen?” can’t complain if they aren’t putting in any effort to attract a gentleman. There’s nothing that makes me feel sexier than actually putting in the effort to loo…
/r/PussyPassDenied29/01/21 12:48 PM
49

A woman will let a man grab her by the pussy if it means getting a $5000 handbag out of it. But if said man says something like “they let you grab them by the pussy” he’s degrading women. And years after that controversy women are still using their bodies to get access to a man’s wealth. But God forbid you take advantage of it as a man...then you’d be degrading women.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/01/21 03:38 PM
2

I’ve seen this post uncensored. The person who responded to her is a woman.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/01/21 12:16 PM
9

Guys as young as 18 are joining the movement because they see what’s happening to their fathers, their brothers, their uncles, and other older men. They also see how women their age are acting and don’t see any chance of it getting better. I don’t blame them. When a woman commits paternity fraud and the man leaves, what happens? “You jerk, that child views you as his father! You need to stay!” Barely any criticism goes toward the mother who put that child in that position in the first place by l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:01 PM
2

Your first paragraph is incredibly silly. If a man gets a prenup, does that mean it’s because he thinks all women are scammers who cheat on men and commit paternity fraud? No, of course not. Everyone should have a backup plan in a relationship. They just shouldn’t hide it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 11:59 AM
47

No, multiple responses said she fucked up by not being honest. It’s r/redpillwomen. They’re usually against disrespecting your husband or boyfriend. Most of the responses are telling her she fucked up by lying to him. And they would say the same thing if she made more than him.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/01/21 11:42 AM
3

Yes, they are focusing on how the false rape accusation harms actual rape victims as opposed to focusing on how it harms men. It’s like Hillary Clinton saying that women suffer more from war because their husbands and fathers are dying. As opposed to men suffering infinitely more by, you know, dying. The true victims of false rape accusations are men, not the rape victims whose claims are now not viewed as legitimate.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/01/21 11:38 AM
69

Isn’t it astounding how a man can be victimized by a false rape accusation and feminists still find a way to make it about women? “It delegitimizes actual rape victims’ stories!” Yeah, and, you know, it also destroys men’s lives but hey who cares about that right?
/r/PussyPassDenied25/01/21 10:43 PM
4

My fiancé’s ex wasn’t at all interested in catching up with him for the two years that he was single. However, as soon as he started dating me, she was suddenly messaging him asking how he was doing. She claimed to respect our relationship, but when he told her he wasn’t interested in catching up, she said, “Okay, just let me know if you ever want to talk” with a kissy-face emoji. Obviously it seems so silly to get worked up over an emoji, but the message was obviously flirtatious in nature. A l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 03:05 PM
34

“I would give anything for that” Except, you know, making good choices about the men you sleep with. But, yeah, other women just got lucky by happening to find a guy who’s a good father.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/01/21 02:29 PM
2

It’s a bit different when a trained professional is giving you a controlled dose versus you guessing on your own.
/r/PussyPassDenied25/01/21 10:47 AM
20

I’m going into nursing and there’s actually a bit of stigma around nurses who proudly display the fact that they are nurses. For example, the ones who have “I wanted to be a superhero when I grew up so I became a nurse” stickers on their car are usually mocked on the r/nursing subreddit because they define themselves based on one aspect of their lives, which is nursing. Personally, as someone who will become a housewife one day if everything works out, I don’t think housewives are so oppressed o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 09:44 PM
103

I can’t say anything about what body parts men prioritize over others, but one thing I have noticed as an adult is that men are far more generous and forgiving regarding a woman’s appearance than I ever would’ve expected as a teenager. A woman that I would expect to be rated as a 2/10 or a 3/10 by men is often rated much higher. Hell, even my fiancé thinks I’m far more attractive than I think I deserve credit for.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 01:26 PM
8

Traditional men, and many men who are redpilled, are generally looking for a woman who will make a good mother and housewife. A woman who has a career automatically loses a substantial amount of time that could be put toward housework and childcare. A housewife and mother is not a “fuckdoll” and if that’s what you believe then you’re probably not in the correct subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 11:25 PM
4

I love the idea of men focusing on bettering themselves, developing actual standards in regards to dating, and enjoying male-only company and male-only spaces. I think a lot of very healthy things that men need have been shamed by modern women. I think men being ambitious has been shamed. I’m glad that the red pill for men is allowing them to take that back and protect themselves. The only thing I don’t like is the strategy a lot of them have regarding cheating on their wives to improve their “g…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 09:53 PM
20

My former boss said that couples should always agree on three major things: kids, sex, and money. Otherwise you’re asking for a divorce. I also wanted to ensure that we agreed on boundaries regarding what we consider appropriate with the opposite sex. For example, some people are comfortable with their partners flirting or going to strip clubs or getting lap dances. I didn’t want to be in a situation where he wants to go to a strip club for his bachelor party and I don’t feel comfortable with it…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 03:05 PM
1

https://scholarworks.gvsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1087&context=colleagues https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1232297.pdf https://blog.oup.com/2019/04/why-girls-outperform-boys-reading-tests/ As I’ve said, this is basic common knowledge in academia. It’s like asking for sources that the sun exists.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/01/21 01:15 PM
37

Women are statistically far more likely to succeed in the current academic environment. Right now girls are doing better in school than boys and the only thing preventing women from going into certain fields are the choices that they make. Women do not need women-only scholarships. Women do just fine in an academic environment and are currently outperforming boys. I could give citations but at this point it’s such a well-known fact in academia I’d be surprised if you weren’t already aware of it.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/01/21 12:07 AM
0

You must be privileged to say killing is never right. Some people have to kill to avoid being killed. Obviously this wasn’t the case but go to any war-torn village and tell the people there they shouldn’t have killed the people who tried to murder and rape and pillage them.
/r/PussyPassDenied16/01/21 03:40 PM
24

ITT: A lot of English speakers who forgot that other languages exist.
/r/PussyPassDenied15/01/21 05:47 PM
2

I’ve never been one to blame men for wanting prenups or paternity tests, so I can’t blame women for wanting the same certainty.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 02:46 AM
37

They will withhold sex from a guy they consider “high value” until he “shows commitment” while simultaneously fucking random guys from Tinder all week and then wonder why they’re single. I get Reddit is sex positive or whatever but I would drop any man off the face of the planet if he waited to have sex with me until he figured out I was “wife material” while banging Tinder girls on the side. Yeah, you don’t owe anyone sex, but nobody owes you a relationship either.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/01/21 06:41 PM
3

I’m a woman. I’ve been friends with women my whole life and have family members who are mostly women. Get a prenup. Paternity test your kids.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/01/21 11:52 AM
42

Men: When you hook up with a girl, make sure you text her the next morning asking if she had a good time, even if you don’t plan on seeing her again. If she responds positively (as in, yes I had a great time) that will be solid evidence in court if she decides to falsely accuse you of rape. Get a prenup when you get married, and paternity test your kids. In fact, find out how she feels about paternity tests and prenups before marrying her. If she’s opposed to them, she’s either a cheater or she …
/r/PussyPassDenied13/01/21 07:56 PM
7

I would never take advice from a woman who is okay with being a man’s side-piece. Clearly her family did something wrong if she became someone’s mistress. I take advice from women who represent what I want to be.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 06:38 PM
4

I’ve always gone with my gut instinct when it comes to relationships. If there’s an undertone of discomfort that I experience when I’m with someone, then the relationship is inherently not that great even is that discomfort is misplaced. I suppose if you want to make it work, you could look at her current behavior versus judging her past, although I’m not opposed to judging someone’s past. I understand that for many people on Reddit, it’s totally fine to be friends with past sexual partners, but…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 07:18 PM
48

Toxic single mothers are worse because they’re frequently the ones who rely on their children for emotional validation and support. Their entire self-worth revolves around being a mother, so if their kid doesn’t give them unconditional love and support and admiration, they treat the kid with the same passive-aggressive bullshit they’d use against their baby daddy if he wasn’t making them feel pretty and loved. The “my kid is my world, I’m a young mama but I’m a good mama” types are almost invari…
/r/PussyPassDenied11/01/21 05:30 PM
24

I’ve seen plenty of red-pilled men who hate cheating and won’t condone it. I wouldn’t stay with him. I understand the rule is to give advice on how to fix it, but this is long-term infidelity. I genuinely don’t believe there is a fix.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 03:30 PM
17

I would probably cut off any friend who disrespected my fiancé like that. I won’t argue, though. I’ve been in plenty of arguments on Reddit regarding this topic and you will never convince certain people that keeping a “backup plan” around is morally wrong. Hedonism and “looking out for myself” attitudes are currently dominating the dating scene. Respecting your partner and giving a darn about their feelings seems to be going out of style.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/21 10:05 PM
1

They want all the privileges of being a housewife without the responsibilities. Yeah, he might give you money for food and clothes and pay the bills, but you better be cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids and handling their appointments/homework help, etc.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/01/21 05:37 PM
16

I suppose my question is this: if you’re dating a man who wants a SAHM situation, how does the career aspect factor in? I’m going into nursing, so I do plan on maintaining my job, but the good thing about nursing is you can work on-call and work 1-2 shifts a month. That would prevent me from having a gap in my resume if I ever need to work full-time again but still allows me to be a mostly SAHM. I plan on staying at my same workplace and they’ve already said I could go on-call any time. My fianc…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 02:00 PM
1

See, to you having kids with someone seems to be an inherently negative idea. You’re not describing children or a “normal” marriage as something you even want. To me having kids with my fiancé sounds like something I want. I know plenty of couples who still have a sex life after having children. It seems like you’re out to have fun and be independent and do whatever you want. Polygamy is suited to that. But monogamy is suited to family life with children.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 12:17 AM
16

If you were dating a man who was your Captain, your future husband, the future father of your children, would you ever dream of degrading him or making him look inferior to other men by talking this way? I won’t talk about other men even when my fiancé isn’t around because I don’t want anyone in my life to get the impression that there’s any man above my fiancé in my eyes. I don’t talk about how hot or sexy other men are because I want people to see me and think, “Damn, she really only has eyes …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 11:11 PM
3

Well when you hook up with some random person who’s only using you to get off, and you’re using them to get off, are you not treating your own body like an object? And are you not treating the other person’s body like an object? And aren’t sex workers just advertising their bodies like objects? Can’t really complain about objectification while simultaneously supporting sex work and hookup culture. Can’t have your cake and eat it, too. You can fuck hundreds of people, but you can’t demand people …
/r/PussyPassDenied29/12/20 02:36 PM
81

Well, it’s possible that something is happening in his marriage that you don’t know about that might have affected her decision. It’s possible that there’s more to this than just you. For example, they might have had issues like this in the past, or she might not trust him for some reason, or she might genuinely be controlling. It’s hard to know, but this might not be entirely within your control. I can say that the very long texts venting to each other can start to look like an emotional affair…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 11:37 AM
109

Ah, the old “I don’t cook or clean and I hate kids but I’m going to stay home anyway and maybe I’ll have sex with you once a month” type.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/12/20 07:18 PM
2

But a hot guy would potentially still risk getting accused of sexual harassment if he did it.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/12/20 11:51 AM
40

“Erasing women’s struggles” Give me a break.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/12/20 11:50 AM
12

I guarantee the emotional pain of cheating is far worse than the slight stinging pain of being slapped. She’ll be fine and hopefully she learned not to fuck with people.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/12/20 06:15 PM
43

I saw a post where a guy found his girlfriend sleeping with another guy in his bed in his apartment. He had just gotten done helping her pay off her student loans too. He slapped her once across the face and everyone said that him slapping her was worse than what she did. So as a woman you can use a guy for his money and bring another man into his apartment and have sex with that guy in his bed, but if the guy slaps you he’s automatically evil and you somehow become the victim. It’s fucking clow…
/r/PussyPassDenied22/12/20 06:14 PM
9

It’s a common fantasy. I’m a woman and most women I know enjoy rough sex and/or having a man take control in the bedroom. I think it’s a biological thing but I know that’s controversial to say. Obviously there are plenty of women who enjoy regular sex and hate the idea of roughness. I just think there’s a primal sort of enjoyment to having a man be very dominant during sex. At least for me. It’s kind of like how a pillow fight is really fun even though it’s violent. Having a man take control of …
/r/PussyPassDenied18/12/20 10:00 PM
9

And there’s actually a lot of wiggle room here. If you’re a career woman you can split the finances 50/50, so you pay your own bill at the restaurant. If you get into a serious relationship you split the finances and the chores 50/50 assuming you work similar hours and bring in a similar income. If you’re the more traditional “housewife” type, he can pay the bill but you can contribute by cooking him a meal on the second date or something like that. And if you get serious you can do the majority…
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/20 07:46 PM
155

Had a 300 lb. landwhale try to call my fiancé ugly once and it was then that I realized how delusional some women are when it comes to what league they’re in.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/12/20 09:24 PM
126

If a man even thinks about asking for a paternity test women throw a fit and call him abusive. This needs to change. Now.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/12/20 06:33 PM
6

How do we live in a literal patriarchy?
/r/PussyPassDenied08/12/20 06:31 PM
4

“Maximum female benefit” Basically keep five guys in your rotation of hookups and when you end up pregnant pick the one who makes the most money and say it’s his kid. Strong women, huh?
/r/PussyPassDenied06/12/20 02:39 PM
5

Unsolicited advertisements for your OnlyFans account makes you an asshole. If you’re dm’ing guys to advertise your OnlyFans, you should expect to get roasted. If men started private messaging women to advertise their dick pics we’d call it harassment. Stop white knighting.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/12/20 02:37 PM
50

I hope he sent that video to Brandon’s fiancée so she can get the hell out.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/11/20 01:26 PM
10

Man, I spend too much time in r/relationship_advice because all I can think of when I see this video is how, ten years from now, her future husband is gonna find this video of her running around in a park with her ass hanging out harassing the police and threaten to divorce her because he didn’t know she was a dumb skank when he married her. Then the comments will be “Ugh honey let him go if he’s gonna judge you for your past he’s an asshole anyways”
/r/PussyPassDenied26/11/20 02:46 PM
-1

So your man is strong enough to defend himself after some other man hits him with a chair. Knocks the other guy out and bitches him over. And you still have the nerve to cheat on a man like that.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/11/20 08:38 PM
0

I don’t know about you, but when I see a man defend himself after another man hits him with a chair, the last thing I think is “weak.”
/r/PussyPassDenied21/11/20 08:37 PM
3

Did you not watch the video? The other guy tried to hit him with a chair when he came down the stairs. Of course he beat his ass.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/11/20 08:36 PM
1

Lol, burning her shit is okay but shaving her hair isn’t it? Weird line to draw, there. She’s clearly not being forced into this. She probably told him she wanted to stay together and he told her she’d have to shave her head first. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I’m a woman too, our hair grows back. She should’ve thought about it before hopping on another man’s cock.
/r/PussyPassDenied31/10/20 05:38 PM
3

I mean, the guy is a rapper. If there’s anybody on this planet who doesn’t put up with bullshit from women, it’s rappers.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/08/20 08:11 PM
36

Sometimes you need to fight fire with nuclear bombs for people to learn a lesson. She’ll survive. She’s man enough to throw punches, she’s man enough to take a few back. Stop infantilizing women.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/08/20 10:55 AM
107

Why do feminists always try to find “empowerment” in the dumbest and most childish ways?
/r/PussyPassDenied18/08/20 03:44 PM
32

That’s dirty but you have to fight fire with nuclear bombs if you want people to learn.
/r/PussyPassDenied15/08/20 11:41 AM
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