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This only works if the other person lets you leave the room. In the first few years of my marriage, my wife would stand in the doorway and make it impossibke for me to leave without me physically moving her. Despite my anger in these situtations I always did so in a controlled fashion... She went to my mother of all people to complain about me doing this, who promptly asked her what the fuck she was doing getting in my way when I was trying to de escalate the situation by leaving. She didnt get …
/r/MensRights04/07/23 08:16 PM
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False allegations murdered a family friend this year. Yes, I will call it exactly what it was - murder. His ex-wife and her teenage daughter conspired to spread rumours he had sexually assaulted the daughter. They did so with malicious intent to do harm. He felt utterly trapped by the lie, and to quote the letter he left behind; "It doesn't matter that I didn't do it, it doesn't matter if I say I didn't do it, I will never escape the lie because someone somewhere will believe it anyway." It fuck…
/r/MensRights12/08/22 07:02 PM
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All you have to do in these situations is tell them that your position hasn't changed. If they pressure you further, say that you have no uterus and therefore have no opinion.
/r/MensRights27/06/22 01:03 PM
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The police were actually building a case to prosecute them but it will be a while before anything happens. If it weren't for the evidence in their phone records showing malicious intent, then I doubt the police would be interested at all.
/r/MensRights23/06/22 07:13 AM
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Same thing happened to a family friend a few months ago. His ex-wife encouraged her daughter to spread lies about him sexually assault her, utterly malicious with the sole purpose of hurting him. He hung himself in the local woods and left a letter saying that he has no way to escape the situation, it doesn't matter how much he says he didn't do it and even if it was proven that he didn't do it that his name would never be clean. Its all be proven now, the police went through his ex-wife's phone…
/r/MensRights22/06/22 10:37 PM
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Many disabilities are caused by the environment, even those which are genetically passed down. Take autism for example... I myself am autistic. If you place me in a toxic environment (for me) like say a room filled with loud noises, then my "disability" will be extremely apparent. If you put me in an environment of my choosing, you likely wouldn't even know I was autistic if I hadn't told you. Disabilities aren't black and white. In some cases they are even beneficial.
/r/MensRights19/06/22 01:15 AM
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It was really difficult here to get my Autism recognised as a reason for being unable to work. It was a 3 year long process and I think it was mainly down to having a brilliant case worker who sympathised with my situation. It really sucks that the US is so still so far behind in this area. I'd personally advocate for endometriosis to be recognised as a disability given the effect it has on so many women, and that it is so common too. I think that is the correct way to handle this situation, get…
/r/MensRights12/05/22 07:11 AM
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My Autism causes major problems with my executive functioning, to the point where I am unable to work. Here in the UK, my disability is recognised by the Government and I therefore claim disability benefit. It sounds like women who have endometriosis, to the extent in your comment, should do the same as me. They are unable to work, their condition sounds very much like a disability (and should be recognised as such, if its not then we should advocate for such) and they should claim disability be…
/r/MensRights12/05/22 06:45 AM
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I make no comment on your broader argument. However... Or post patrum depression where woman kill themselves and or their child? Fathers experience PND too, and unlike mothers they aren't screened or supported for it - even if we could absolutely do a better job for everyone here. Its not right to use PND in the way you did, since its experienced by both.
/r/MensRights11/05/22 07:10 AM
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"Remember the lavish 2016 ABC television program, Man Up, which spent three episodes claiming we need to teach suicidal men to show their feelings. Hours of television about men having to learn to cry, but not a word about what they were crying about." That is such a powerful message and resonates with my life experiences.
/r/MensRights05/05/22 02:39 PM
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It unironically is. You have people who were born male and have experienced life as a male with all its lovely double standards. And then you have people who were born female who now live their life as a male and are experiencing the double standards for themselves now. Checkout Norah Vincent's "Self-Made Man".
/r/MensRights22/12/21 10:46 PM
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Too many people getting their world view warped by shit like anime. In the real world, body size and weight matter a lot in a fight.
/r/MensRights05/04/21 02:39 PM
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They glaze over that line really quickly, their is a lot of societal pressure for men to be a provider. Something I have been doing when thinking about this sort of thing is re-framing the language a little bit. Although they are of course very similar, instead of using provider I use producer and consumer. When it comes to finances, for the majority of families (still), men produce it and women consume it - we can see this clearly in the gender differences surrounding domestic spending for exam…
/r/MensRights14/01/21 01:58 PM
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I won't put up with this any longer. Take care.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:24 PM
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Yes. That is what I have been trying to fucking tell you my man. My literal job is to refer children to services for diagnosis.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:22 PM
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You realise that the diagnostic process for children who attend school and for those who refer them is the same no matter what the resulting diagnosis is right? The OP was making a claim that 9/10 children fit the diagnostic criteria for ODD. Which they absolutely do not.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:20 PM
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Sure, okay. As both myself and someone else have already told you. ODD and Autism are comorbid. Here is a study about it, literally the first thing that comes up if you type ODD and ASD into google.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:14 PM
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And what would satiate you? Its not like I am the only one telling you the exact same things.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:12 PM
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That's not how this works. Are you being wilfully ignorant here? I am losing my patience.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 04:09 PM
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If I may. It was a big decision whether or not get my son officially diagnosed. Having a diagnosis doesn't change his behaviour, and it certainly doesn't change him as a person. The negative affects of having a label are well documented. Having spent most of my time working in a Primary School (for those outside of the UK, that is children aged 5-11 roughly) I have referred many children. Because of their age, we are often the first people to pick up on behaviours which lie outside the norm (som…
/r/MensRights16/07/20 03:33 PM
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Ah yes, when experience has an inverse affect on knowledge. That's obviously how this works! 15 years is longer than most careers these days, you know.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 03:07 PM
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If your only take away from what I've said is that my expertise comes from the fact that I am autistic then I can't really help you.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 03:02 PM
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You need help.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 03:00 PM
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Reading comprehension isn't your thing is it.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 02:58 PM
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Holy fucking shit. 20 years ago people like me still existed. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 29 years old. It's not that we didn't exist, or that our parents were actually parenting us. It's that research and public awareness had not caught up yet.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 02:54 PM
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It is to highlight that I am well versed and knowledgeable in the realms of neurodiversity. I am currently studying to become a Special Education Needs Co-ordinator. The behavioural traits which make up ODD are very similar to PDA, which in itself is an offshoot of Autism. ODD is also very similar to ADHD. ADHD and Autism are comorbid and are usually found together. As such, ODD is extremely similar to all three of these conditions and it wouldn't surprise me as the research matures that we find…
/r/MensRights16/07/20 02:47 PM
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I can wholeheartedly assure you that Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) is absolutely not as you described it here. It is not to be written off as psychologist speak and neither can it be applied to 9/10 kids walking the earth today. This is incredibly ignorant. I've spent the last 15 years working in schools with children with behavioural difficulties. I myself am diagnosed with Autism, as is my eldest child. My entire life consists of neurodiversity, both at home and in my professional life.…
/r/MensRights16/07/20 02:38 PM
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I think this is a great way of phrasing it; keep it neutral and to the point. What's there to argue about?
/r/MensRights03/03/20 08:49 AM
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I may be wrong so apologies if I am reading your intention wrongly, but the feeling I am getting from how you worded that is that women shouldn't be expecting this? I'm not sure that's the solution. I think the way to fix this imbalance is to offer fathers the same paternity rights that we afford mothers, in regards to things like paternity leave etc. I think its best for the family, which extends to society in a larger scale, when they are allowed paid time off with new born children. The model…
/r/MensRights26/02/20 03:55 PM
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I'm sure I'll get some hate for this; but I don't think this is an unreasonable position to have, other than the last couple sentences. We view the physical act as the be-all and end-all of the altercation, once it happens all further introspection is thrown out out of the window. I do think there is an argument to be made that this doesn't apply to both genders when it should, however.
/r/MensRights02/12/19 09:35 PM
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It's not the "dads" noping the fuck out on this one. If they did decide to not be on the birth certificate after finding out the child isn't biologically their's... It would just be them reacting a situation not of their making. The blame falls completely on the mother in this scenario, do not victim shame.
/r/MensRights15/11/19 03:24 PM
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I know what you are saying but please phrase it better...
/r/MensRights01/10/19 08:50 AM
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I found it sexist because the link she made was based on gender. In front of her was a man doing X, so she made a derogatory comment of another man doing X.
/r/MensRights23/08/19 04:27 PM
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I told her immediately that I am autistic and that its likely different than her husband, but she didn't even flinch let alone apologise. It's not hard to miss in person, I come across much more put together in text than IRL because I can write and edit before anyone sees it. In person I am extremely awkward, she must have noticed something was up with me and that I was being sincere...
/r/MensRights23/08/19 04:03 PM
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I see this in real time. I'm a male who works in early childhood, which usually makes me the only man at a setting - since this profession is 98% female. The amount of bitching and straight out cattery behaviour is astonishing, especially when you consider this is a caring profession, which usually attracts people of caring nature's. Something else which was fun; during my first year of my degree (early childhood studies) one of our modules was on multi professional teams and management. I wrote…
/r/MensRights06/08/19 11:28 PM
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It's anecdotal I know, but... I live in the UK where it is very difficult to get a gun. In 2013 I attempted suicide by hanging, unluckily for me my wife woke up randomly and found me. If I had access to a gun, that wouldn't have happened. If I had access to a gun during these 6 years which have passed since, despite being better than I was, I would still pull the trigger even now. If I had access to a gun tomorrow, I would pull the trigger. Having an effective and painless option for suicide is …
/r/MensRights31/07/19 04:45 PM
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That's a bit of a difficult one to answer. ASD as a general topic is in a state of flux right now. Especially where Asperger's is concerned. It was dropped from the DSM5 a couple years ago as a standalone specific diagnosis... Which is less than helpful and in my opinion doing a lot of damage. See, all of the research we have mentions Asperger's. It's a known term that is used widely. Many experts, including myself, are desperately trying to get the diagnosis back into the DSM5 in order to stop …
/r/MensRights16/07/19 11:59 PM
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The way we classify Autism Spectrum Disorders is fundamentally wrong. I say this as a professional working in this field. Please don't take this personally as if its directed solely at you, but this is a highly teachable moment. Awareness of autism is increasing amongst the general public, with terms such as high or low functioning, but its a diagnosis from the wrong perspective. High functioning autism, or Asperger's as its also commonly referred to (technically different, but laypeople mostly …
/r/MensRights16/07/19 08:04 PM
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Bloody hell its gotten so bad that this believable. My lecturers call this process problematising. Its infuriating trying to get through my social sciences degree right now.
/r/MensRights04/07/19 12:08 AM
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Theres empowerment in that sentence too. Not often you come across little snippets of brilliance.
/r/MensRights28/06/19 02:50 PM
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Yep, and this is why the issue is so difficult for some people to accept.
/r/MensRights23/06/19 02:38 PM
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Doesn't work that way, try and be aware of the nuance. There are places which won't partner up female police officers for example, they always buddy up male + male or male + female but never female + female. What this essentially means is that even more men will be dying, because across the board when it comes to strength requirements in fields which require it (police / firefighter / army etc etc) female requirements are lower, which means when shit hits the fan and physical strength is require…
/r/MensRights23/06/19 01:01 PM
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This is the best way I have ever seen this issue put into words, both for laymen reading trying to understand the issue and for those 'in the know.' Will be saving this one for sure.
/r/MensRights15/06/19 10:11 AM
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This particular post doesn't use gendered identity terms at all. As far as /r/feminism goes this one is s actually quite good as it's completely neutral. Stop looking to be outraged.
/r/MensRights09/06/19 10:13 PM
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No problem :)
/r/MensRights09/06/19 03:55 PM
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I don't feel like you sufficiently responded to my points.
/r/MensRights09/06/19 01:06 PM
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I didn't PM you.
/r/MensRights09/06/19 01:03 PM
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I'll play, I'm quite reasonable too. I'm aware that physiologically men and women are different, it takes an exceptional women to be physically equal or superior to an average man. I'm also aware that this field of work has some important physical requirements, important in the realms of literally being the difference between life or death. Finally, I am also aware that physical requirements are currently lower for women looking to enter this field of work than they are for men. What are your th…
/r/MensRights09/06/19 11:22 AM
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And vaccines cause autism right? Countless studies have been done on this issue now, please educate yourself.
/r/MensRights08/06/19 05:32 PM
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You don't go far enough when you say it calling the police could get her son arrested. She won't understand the reason because it's not compatible with her world view as a feminist. The reason your son will likely be arrested is because of feminist pushed legislation. Google the Duluth model /u/Andii0318
/r/MensRights02/06/19 02:45 PM
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This is perfect. If she doesn't get it after such a poignant analogy then I fear for her son.
/r/MensRights02/06/19 02:39 PM
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As I've said to another person, I wasn't talking about this specific example. I just explained the concept of working for and with in general terms. Where did I mention any of what you are talking about?
/r/MensRights23/04/19 11:31 AM
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Okay, I'm wondering if there is a culture difference at play. Reddit demographic is predominantly US, but coming from the UK myself things aren't always transferable although the two cultures are very similar of course. I was also not speaking strictly of business models, just in very general terms. Working with people (instead of for) is very important in my area, let me give you an example. I work with children and families, with a specialism in special educational needs. These families bring …
/r/MensRights23/04/19 09:36 AM
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What kind of expert advice justifies blatant sexism in public businesses? I'm pretty sure it's against the law in AU. The person I replied to wasn't speaking or asking about this specific example. I gave him an answer as to the difference between building something 'for' and 'with' since he seemed confused why it would occur. I simply explained that, anything you added is in your own mind. It's really valuable in it's own regard to give men terrible service and charge them more for the same food…
/r/MensRights22/04/19 10:15 PM
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Its a really good thing as part of a measured system. Did you not even bother to read my second paragraph? Its just one part of the process, and needs to be balanced with expert advice. It is really valuable in its own regard but not when pushed as the entire thing, which I assume is where your beef is. If you had bothered to read, you would see that's not what I was advocating for.
/r/MensRights22/04/19 03:46 PM
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Yeah its okay, I'll go back to not contributing, this sub has turned into a toxic dumpster fire now. I'm sure i'll just be dismissed with being a concern troll, despite my regular contributions over the past 3 years or whatever. Time to move on to better places.
/r/MensRights22/04/19 03:40 PM
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Its a big thing in sociology right now. Especially in the fields I study in. I'm having a bit of an off day, so might not explain it so well. But in basic terms, it means that they incorporate the opinions of those using the service rather than sitting in an authoritative position and dictating to them what they should need. Its actually a really good thing, but it can feel a little fluffy, and of course if you let people choose what they want all the time, that's bad too. Sometimes you need an …
/r/MensRights22/04/19 12:26 PM
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Most of the arguments I've ever experienced against centrism is that its just re-branded conservative politics. This is my experience here in the UK at least.
/r/MensRights11/04/19 02:18 PM
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This was trash when it was posted yesterday, and nothing has changed today. Please, this sub is better than this.
/r/MensRights10/03/19 07:46 PM
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This was difficult to watch. My second daughter was born last week, but it is without a doubt my son's future which I worry the most about. If shit happens to my daughters, at least society cares about it... It honestly feels that at times society almost wishes that kind of thing to happen to my son.
/r/MensRights03/03/19 08:18 PM
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It matters because its something we get upset and annoyed at too, to be attributed to something as men rather than some men.
/r/MensRights28/02/19 09:05 AM
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Some women.
/r/MensRights27/02/19 09:12 PM
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This isn't a men's sub, it's meant to be a place that anyone can talk about issues which men face. You are very much welcome here.
/r/MensRights23/02/19 01:40 PM
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This post is trash, you are rightfully offended.
/r/MensRights23/02/19 12:15 PM
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Okay thanks, this clears it up for me. My exposure to Feminism is limited to what I experience at university. I'm a man (the only one, in fact) on an Early Childhood Studies degree, and this kind of stuff comes up on a nearly daily basis. I would really love to see men's emancipation on the scale of which 2nd wave Feminism achieved for women. I think its absolutely vital as a reaction to what is currently happening to the institution of family. I guess this where I think highly of 2nd wave Femin…
/r/MensRights09/02/19 01:26 AM
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Could you elaborate? I'm struggling to ascribe intent due to my autism, the sentence is too ambiguous for me.
/r/MensRights08/02/19 10:17 AM
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Yeah I appreciate that, I agree with you I don't think frequent sex, or sex with a larger item than usual (such as a dildo or fist or whatever) will be enough to cause any permanent damage or loosening of the muscles. I think that side of things lives in the realms of subtle sexism / folklore and should be called out. We manage it ourselves, kind of. Just do other stuff other than typical sex. But it is without a doubt an act of intimacy that we both miss very much. We are expecting it to get ev…
/r/MensRights07/02/19 02:44 PM
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Those exercises are called Kegels, she has tried them for a long time but it didn't really help. Muscles can return to shape, which is what is often what is said in these types of discussions, but not always. Its like elastic bands, if you stretch them a bit they bounce back just fine, but if you stretch them too far they lose their elasticity (or just break) which is exactly what happens in childbirth. I think we do couples a disservice by saying that its only temporary and that the muscles wil…
/r/MensRights07/02/19 02:35 PM
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I don't understand where this notion of a 4th wave of Feminism is coming from? Nothing has changed lately? Are they trying to distance themselves, from themselves and the negativity, by trying to fake a new wave of Feminism? 3rd wave Feminism is cancer so I don't blame them for trying, and I certainly wouldn't put it past them trying to manipulate the situation to look better. Edit: please enlighten me if I am wrong, I like to sit in the middle of both movements and am very happy with how 2nd wa…
/r/MensRights07/02/19 02:23 PM
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One of the things they really should teach couples more about is how pregnancy and childbirth affects sex. Obviously there is going to be a difference with what is essentially a catastrophic injury going on with the lady bits, but the professionals really don't prepare you enough. After our first child, for almost a year it was like making love to a jar filled with jam / jelly. My wife was hardly able to feel a thing either, and I'm a bang on average in terms of size. It never really improved, d…
/r/MensRights07/02/19 02:19 PM
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Paranoid was perhaps the wrong word since its loaded with emotional baggage. Concerned is probably the better word as it has neutral connotations.
/r/MensRights13/01/19 05:45 PM
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And I know they don't have a record of a DNA test for me, because I've never had a DNA test before. That's kinda the line I'm going down, if you are this paranoid that they won't uphold their agreement to destroy DNA results, then how do you know just because you haven't explicitly had a DNA test, that they don't already have your DNA on record anyway from a means you aren't aware of. I'm sure you have been to the doctors / dentist at some point in your life. Most of us have had a blood test don…
/r/MensRights13/01/19 04:31 PM
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I trust a one night stand saying the baby is yours more than I trust any organise in the UK saying it will dispose of DNA results. If you are paranoid enough to believe this, whats to stop you believing they don't already take / have your DNA on record somewhere anyway.
/r/MensRights13/01/19 03:38 PM
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What a coincidence! This came up on my degree a couple months ago too! Lecture was on gender roles / division of labour in the family and my lecturer strongly suggested (in fact it was straight up on the powerpoint) that fathers have both powerful careers AND get quality access to their children / family time. I very quickly reminded her, as a mature student who happens to be a father with 2 children at home, that... I wake up and leave the house before my children wake up to travel 3 hours to u…
/r/MensRights01/01/19 10:19 PM
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Haha fun fact about this closing women's prison nonsense going down here in the UK; Its heavily based on the notion that women are the primary caregivers within families and so by mothers going to prison it impacts children. This was discussed on my degree... They truly want to have their cake and eat it too, because at every possible moment they will very quickly bring up how women (mothers) are oppressed by the assumption they are primary caregivers. Like come on ladies, you can't have it both…
/r/MensRights01/01/19 06:41 PM
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To add to your second paragraph... This month here in the UK, our National Health Service reacted to a piece of significant research which pointed that father's also suffer substantially from Post Natal Depression. This is a condition which is screened and supported against for mother's at every stage of pregnancy, both professionally and socially, but for which father's received absolutely no help for. The condition is known to inhibit attachment between parent and child, among other things. Wh…
/r/MensRights01/01/19 08:08 AM
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I only watched the first 10 or 15 minutes... And I'm prepared to get shot down for this... But I kinda agreed with both people on most of what they said. Sure the whole 50-60-70-80% of women having been raped was hard to agree with (since that includes some pretty obscure categories of "rape")... But the other stuff she said I found fine.
/r/MensRights12/12/18 01:45 AM
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This is the first time I've come across this line of thinking. That's quite a fun tongue and cheek analogy, I like it.
/r/MensRights25/11/18 12:47 PM
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I think there are contexts where that is good advice. I know that's not going to be a popular opinion, but I can see where it could be applicable. That said, I certainly don't think this should be the default stance. I just don't know enough of the background to which that advise was given in order to condemn it outright.
/r/MensRights24/11/18 05:02 PM
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I agree most of the content on the sub isn't radical, but a growing amount of it is. That's what the pushback is for and why it would seem more and more people are calling it out.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:32 PM
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As one of the moderates who does tend to call people out on their more radical or extremist views, I would agree with your last sentence. I am segregated from this particular problem because I am a moderate, precisely. It makes sense that I don't experience or see these things happening because I am not going around spouting radical statements in order to attract these types of responses.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:21 PM
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Thanks for the resource, that's probably more depth than I am willing to use when posting around here but it's interesting none the less.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:01 PM
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Thanks I appreciate the additional information. I tend to occupy the space between both movements and have absolutely faced discrimination based on where I have previously posted, instead of what I was saying saying at the time. Thankfully that hasn't happened here and only when I post on twoX or the like.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 08:00 PM
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I don't understand the last paragraph, could you explain the last sentence (especially)?
/r/MensRights11/11/18 07:41 PM
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The reason you are seeing it more often is because older members of this sub have gotten fed up with the new intake into the movement and are trying to detox. Being able to self regulate and call people out on their bullshit is how movements grow in a positive direction without being tainted by radicals. A significant proportion of the content posted in this sub recently has been shit. That's why we had that big thread which got traction the other day, the moderates around here are fed up.
/r/MensRights11/11/18 07:31 PM
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And for men with families; who do you think benefits more from that increased income? I would say with confidence that the family benefits more than the man himself does, of course he benefits from the family being in a better position too... But I highly doubt family men on average are hoarding the money made from well paying jobs to pursue selfish interests. This benevolent side of family men is often under appreciated.
/r/MensRights07/11/18 05:52 PM
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That's on top of already working 9 hours more per week on average (in the UK).
/r/MensRights07/11/18 05:47 PM
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A younger me would've said the same thing. Not to make it into an age thing, because maturity doesn't always mean age. I've met plenty of emotionally mature teenagers for example. More likely to make lasting change if you can empathise with the position of others, understand why they might be coming from where they are, and find some common ground before trying to contest differences. That goes out the window if you generalise and hate someone / something. Its not super helpful. It might be marg…
/r/MensRights05/11/18 12:29 AM
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I'm fully aware that this comes off as smug and arrogant... But you will grow out of that way of thinking. It comes with maturity, I can personally see it in myself over the past decade or so. I thought much like you. It's not as helpful as you think right now.
/r/MensRights04/11/18 04:51 PM
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Only time I seem to post here lately is to either agree with someone like yourself, or to contest the sexist posts which do crop up every now and then - with increasing regulatory. Hopefully if this switch to a different platform happens we can ditch some of toxic intake we seem to have gained from the closure of certain other subreddits. As someone firmly in the middle there is less and less reason for me to come here.
/r/MensRights01/11/18 08:18 PM
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Oh fuck, this is local to me. I live in Cornwall. Additional context to consider surrounding living conditions of those on the street in Cornwall; Cornwall is the poorest area in the UK, it is the second poorest area in the entire of Northern Europe. 30% of children living in Cornwall are doing so in poverty. Some parts of Cornwall that number rises to just over 50% of children living in poverty. Food bank usage is through the roof, one Food Bank in particular gives out over 10,000 meals per mon…
/r/MensRights01/11/18 12:03 AM
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Biological sex is a thing. Certain personality traits are more present in each biological sex. Gender is a spectrum and much like how intersectionality is bullshit - in so much as everyone can be boiled down to an individual if you follow where they diverge from each 'group identity' - it is pointless trying to define genders where one diverges from another. Another way to think of it... I am diagnosed with Asperger's, which is an Autism Spectrum Disorder. Despite other people also having a diag…
/r/MensRights29/10/18 10:07 PM
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The image of family you have provided is toxic in the same sense that the traditional 1950's western housewife was toxic. That is of course if women didn't actively choose to be a housewife, which during this time period was often forced on women (choice being the key difference between freedom and oppression). I can assure you, anyone with a balanced perspective on the family is actively working to dismantle that toxic version of the family too. Neither is okay, and its about time we gave an eq…
/r/MensRights26/10/18 10:56 PM
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Hey, thanks for the discussion. My wife and I really are lucky, and we are absolutely not the standard. For a start, we are both each others first partners. I was 17 and she was 19 when we first starting seeing each other, and we have been together for almost 14 years and married for 11. We have 2 kids and one on the way (all planned). So I totally understand that my experience will not be typical. I'm also studying for a degree in Early Childhood, having worked my entire life in schools, which …
/r/MensRights26/10/18 10:36 PM
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I don't think we will agree here.
/r/MensRights26/10/18 11:44 AM
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I appreciate that, but I do in fact live in a very messy family. Our son is autistic and leaves stuff everywhere, and its not the easiest to deal with. Its not clean mess, like toys which can just be put away. He loves animals and makes little habitats for them, so we often find shoeboxes with snails / woodlice / ants in them randomly around the house. All I do is go out to work / study. I don't do any of the housework, I don't handle or pay any of the bills - which is a big deal for us since we…
/r/MensRights26/10/18 11:44 AM
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So is she meant to share the clean bedding, or the food she cooks, the clean plates I eat off? I mean the list in endless. If anything I think I have the better deal.
/r/MensRights26/10/18 11:12 AM
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I gladly provide for my family. I bring the money in, my wife does the housework. We both put effort into the family, we don't share each responsibility 50/50... But then isn't that a common critique of what feminists want from 'equality' to have everything split 50/50? I think it depends on circumstance, perspective and whether both parties choose their roles freely.
/r/MensRights26/10/18 10:21 AM
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Sorry, this is 2k18 balanced opinions don't belong here. Please choose one or the other.
/r/MensRights26/10/18 10:12 AM
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As someone in the middle, the only reason I visit this sub (and not /r/feminism) is because this place is still somewhat capable and calls shit out like you did. Thank you.
/r/MensRights26/10/18 10:07 AM
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Self awareness is an important difference.
/r/MensRights14/10/18 04:54 PM
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Don't you fucking dare! Benefits for everyone whilst still maintaining a semblance of feminist ideals?!? I think this is what annoys me the most, I tend to agree with a lot of what they are saying - its just the way they say it and the perspective they have which puts a huge downer on the whole thing.
/r/MensRights11/10/18 10:36 AM
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Perhaps they should say what they are saying then.
/r/MensRights23/09/18 04:26 PM
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Your definition of work is part of the problem. These things absolutely are work, are they perhaps as demanding as other forms of work? Well, that's a legitimate question and there is a conversation to be had on it for sure. But to strike it off as not being work undermines a very significant and necessary part of family structure which has historically been undervalued. Being egalitarian means recognising the issues on both sides.
/r/MensRights23/09/18 02:15 PM
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Feel free to dig through my post history OP. I'm currently studying pretty hard so don't have the time to type it all out again, but yes I study in the social sciences and am a male. I've been fucked over pretty hard, in front of entire lecture halls. Enjoy the rabbit hole.
/r/MensRights30/08/18 01:07 AM
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Well, I was correct in what I said. You said you weren't in a good place and that the relationship was suffering - both of those are / were unhealthy as I was pointing out. I know you have said you don't care what my opinion is, and this is admittedly unsolicited advice - but I swear it comes from the right place if nothing else. Try and work on strengthening the trust between you, you shouldn't have to worry about being extorted or knowing that your partner now understands what the result would…
/r/MensRights29/08/18 10:01 PM
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I don't believe you. That's not something healthy people say in healthy relationships, and if your's isn't a healthy relationship - to say such a thing would be emotional blackmail.
/r/MensRights29/08/18 07:22 PM
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I pointed that out because of the argument I had with them over the wage gap. My opinion, and the one I gave to them, is somewhat in the middle between the wage gap exists, and the wage gap doesnt exist. I wanted to highlight that even when someone want to meet them in the middle somewhere, they still aren't happy or willing to listen.
/r/MensRights10/08/18 06:48 PM
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I take my kids to the park on my own regularly, and I take a pretty hands off approach to their self regulation and play. If they invite me to play I will of course join in and love every second of it, but I won't place myself into their play. Likewise - I let them take responsibility of their safety (obviously this has limits) so I tend to watch them rather than step in every 2 minutes when they do anything remotely dangerous. I've been approached multiple times now by, typically, women showing…
/r/MensRights10/08/18 02:40 PM
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Can you believe it? Within the first months of starting the degree I was asked if I could look over their advertising and manifestos with the purpose of attracting more men. At that point in time I thought this was a genuine attempt, but when I started questioning certain aspects of it - it became pretty clear why they were struggling to attract men. My last assignment I wrote before summer was on equality in childcare, I already had a first for the year and didn't need the grades so despite bei…
/r/MensRights10/08/18 02:33 PM
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THIS IS MY FUCKING LIFE. I've said this a few times on this sub, but I'll say it again: I am a second year Early Childhood Studies student, a mature one at that - I am 30 with 2 kids of my own and have worked in childcare since I was 17. I am the only male on the entire degree. The amount of arguments I have had with other students and my lecturers is honestly driving me insane. This degree is supposed to focus solely on children and families, so you would think they would be down with all this.…
/r/MensRights10/08/18 02:02 PM
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I'm not dutch but have been friends with people from the dutchlands for many years. This sentence is exceptionally mild compared to the things I've seen and heard!
/r/MensRights08/08/18 09:39 AM
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For those wondering, I was convicted in civil court of not dropping off my oldest son Parker, when he refused to get out of my truck at drop off. I was sentenced to 60 days in jail on about March 28, 2014. I bonded out after 4 days and appealed to the TX supreme court. They refused to hear my case, so I turned myself in and finished my sentence. Thanks so much for the support. -caleb The whole situation intrigued me so I looked into it a little further, I had bad vibes about the dad. I don't kno…
/r/MensRights02/08/18 12:22 PM
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See, this is why I enjoy being part of this movement. We actively discriminate and disassociate ourselves against the extremists in our group. Bullshit like this gets downvoted and rightly so. Perhaps if other movements gave a shit about housekeeping they, and by extension we, wouldn't be in such a fucking mess.
/r/MensRights27/07/18 04:11 PM
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Hey, I'm from the UK - this is legit. Here is the source, straight from the government website. /u/crooklar for you too.
/r/MensRights16/07/18 09:13 AM
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Before "rape culture" was appropriated by feminism, I believe it referred specifically to men being raped in prisons. Like how society seems to consider men being raped in prison as part of the punitive cycle. Imagine if someone said "my wife did something really bad so I raped her as punishment" since that is essentially what that is.
/r/MensRights29/06/18 10:45 PM
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That was a lovely read, thank you Karen.
/r/MensRights27/06/18 05:50 PM
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The stay at home person is absolutely contributing and important. In my opinion, this is the most heinously overlooked aspect of the entire discussion. I've had arguments with my feminist lecturers on multiple occasions when they made comments along the lines of "well obviously she doesn't want to just be a housewife". My wife is a housewife, completely elected on her own free will, and she has a damn hard job and I am absolutely thankful for her contribution to our marriage. Whats more; I won't…
/r/MensRights10/06/18 05:49 PM
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My wife and I just finished watching it 2 nights ago... I was fine with the storyline in the first season, but the second season was quite heavily biased and you could totally see the slant. SPOILERS! What annoyed me most was they could have shown male rape from a balanced perspective. Instead they decided that rape is something men to do women (main storyline) and that men do to men (last couple episodes in season 2). I would've preferred they explored women raping men as a point of balance rat…
/r/MensRights05/06/18 09:27 PM
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Yeah tell me about it. I have to get extremely vocal in lectures to even get fathers a sideways mention. Luckily, I have never faced discrimination in the work place (I worked in primary schools for 10 years prior to starting my degree).
/r/MensRights20/05/18 03:34 PM
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Early Childhood Studies.
/r/MensRights20/05/18 12:29 PM
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This is my life right now at uni on a degree with less than 1% male enrolment.
/r/MensRights20/05/18 10:56 AM
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Turning into SJW Hate...
/r/MensRights30/04/18 04:54 PM
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Fuck off with that shit. To any neutral or feminist leaning onlookers; this idiot does not represent our movement at all.
/r/MensRights16/04/18 12:41 PM
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a) I lack the social skills to be a narcissist who manipulates you into situations you don’t want to be in. You will not be tricked by me... EVER. I lack the ability to lie or deceive. I lack that social ‘toolkit’. I have an interesting perspective on this, because my son also has an Asperger's diagnosis. Its only recently that he has tried to lie about some stuff, usually when he and his sister fall out and fight... But he absolutely lacks the ability to do so, he gives these outlandish reasons…
/r/MensRights13/04/18 10:19 AM
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Its a fun time to have Asperger's... On one hand, Autism acceptance is becoming MUCH more widespread in society and there is a lot of traction to try and normalise it. However... I was born the wrong race and gender and the amount of hate and denigration I experience because of that is growing all the time, especially since I live within the social science strata. Its a strange feeling when a core part of my identity (Asperger's) is becoming more accepted whilst others (White Male) is becoming m…
/r/MensRights12/04/18 08:19 PM
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pedo hysteria I wonder if this is cultural, I am going to assume you are from the US? I am from the UK, am a male and have been working in childcare ever since I was 17 (I am 30 now). The first couple years I spent working in a playgroup / holiday club providing wrap-around care (breakfast + afterschool care for school aged children) and then the rest I spent working in a primary school (children aged 5-11). So in different roles and environments. On the job I have not once been discriminated ag…
/r/MensRights11/04/18 04:26 PM
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You are correct, I should have worded that better. I meant sex and not gender, leaving it up because I should have been more aware and don't want to invalidate your response. Thanks.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 02:16 PM
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At the start of my degree I was approached by the faculty to go over their advertising / online stuff to try and make it more male friendly, since as I've said, I am the only one on it. I told them it would be a waste of time and to contact me again once the dominant narrative decides to start working for absolute equality, not just female centred equality. Low female enrolment in the STEM fields? Extra support, extra grants, extra visibility, extra encouragement. Low male enrolment in Childcare…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:42 PM
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Without a doubt. Even the literature is heavily gendered, laden with gendered terms like mother, motherly and motherhood. Fathers hardly get a mention. Wouldn't surprise me if a lot of men feel disassociated because of that. Would love to see this area of study be more gender neutral, since it kind of takes both genders to make a child.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:33 PM
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Mentioning the assignment and how I should be careful how I conduct myself / how I write it was definitely a threat. I wasn't even saying anything controversial, simply bringing to light that for balance it might be nice to approach a fathers group to get their perspective on gendered discrimination in the childcare sector.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:27 PM
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Not all of my peers agree with the content. This same lecturer said, in an extremely condescending tone: "obviously this women doesn't just want to be a housewife" in response to a video she had us watch. Although I was the first to confront her, I heard others mumbling around me agreeing with what I was saying... Which was that I didn't appreciate how condescending she was of such an important aspect of society and family life, and that considering what degree we were on, it shouldn't be seen a…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:23 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I will make sure to record all future meetings with this lecturer.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:15 PM
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Its the last module of the year and I already have 4 firsts, which means I technically only need passes anyway since I can submit my 4 firsts as the years grades. I am just infuriated how she can say that type of thing, especially given the circumstances. Imagine telling the only female on the degree that her opinion didn't matter, her perspective didn't matter, that she didn't (or more accurately, CANT) feel discrimination. How can someone have such low self-awareness.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:13 PM
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I've never faced shit like this before. I am 30, I started working in primary schools when I was 19, so I have over 10 years of experience in that setting. I've seen first hand how hard that environment is for children - in different ways for BOTH genders. I am not doing this degree to become a teacher, I want to influence the system from the foundation up by changing the policies and beliefs which cause such a negative environment to form in the first place.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 01:01 PM
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I would have hoped they would be more self aware. It wasn't very long ago that women were the 1% trying to get their voices heard and being told that their experiences don't fucking matter. They seem pretty proud (as they should be) that that isn't the case anymore but why is it okay to then become the tyrant because of "historically it was the opposite". I am literally the 1% in this discussion, and they wonder why hardly any males want to work in this area! The discrimination I / we face can b…
/r/MensRights19/03/18 12:51 PM
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I am in the UK, I don't think we have that over here.
/r/MensRights19/03/18 12:40 PM
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Important correction.
/r/MensRights17/03/18 05:02 PM
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Pretty sure what you responded to was sarcasm mate.
/r/MensRights16/03/18 09:27 AM
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You can help make the Garbage Disposal / Management industry a more equal place for women. Pledge to put out or give bin bags to woman only employees this March.
/r/MensRights14/03/18 06:59 PM
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That's because (typically) female personality traits, and learning styles, are the default position in schools. They are more conducive to that environment, and its simply getting worse as class sizes continue to grow; pushing even more emphasis on conformity due to educators being stretched so thin inside the classroom. As I've said, I am a mature student. The reason I decided to return to studying at 30 is because for over a decade prior to this, I worked in primary schools. I've experienced t…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 07:14 PM
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Oh it most certainly is a thing; you identifying yourself as a male nurse, because the default understanding is nurses are female, as a show of differentiation is quite telling of that fact, too. We absolutely need more men in caring professions!
/r/MensRights10/03/18 05:23 PM
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Hi, male (mature, 30 years old) student on an Early Childhood Studies degree here. I'm the only bloke on the entire degree, looking to enter a sector represented by 99% women. Every day I am reading literature which either; completely ignores that some parents are men, uses feminine gendered terms in isolation (motherhood, not parenthood f.ex), states that fathers involvement has minimal outcomes, etc etc. The situation is absolutely dire.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:53 PM
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I enjoy the content you bring to this sub, I don't post often but check it daily. A substantial minority of content here is too extreme for my tastes but the stuff you post and comment on is normally much more grounded and well rounded. Just wanted to say thanks.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:44 PM
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Just to add to this, if you do go the buckle route, make sure to buy one which supports your babies hips correctly in the "M" position. I think things are getting better lately since there was a ton of criticism thrown at that style of carrier in recent years, but do make sure you consider this! Hip Dysplasia is not fun for baby!
/r/MensRights28/02/18 11:34 AM
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I wouldn't go quite that far, but I agree with most of what you said. I can understand how someone could come to the conclusion that women are responsible for absentee fathers, when they are the majority of partners who file for divorce. I think that's a simplistic take on the situation, but I can see why someone might feel that way, especially if they are a divorced father who is being denied access to their child. But yes, I agree that the rest is "misogynist wank-off material" as you put it.
/r/MensRights25/02/18 12:35 AM
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I'd like to see this information portrayed in a less aggressive manner.
/r/MensRights24/02/18 11:59 PM
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I read it as a joke about pro-choice arguments.
/r/MensRights18/02/18 01:36 PM
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Don't have much advice for the life stuff, unfortunately. However, it sounds like you had a Pilonidal Abcess. I had one too, and they hurt like a motherfucker. Chances of them returning after they have been lanced is increased substantially if they aren't packed. What this means is, when they cut open the cyst, it leaves a pretty substantial hole. In order to heal correctly, this hole needs to heal from the inside out. Which requires daily "packing" where you, or a nurse, stuffs sterile dressing…
/r/MensRights04/02/18 11:30 AM
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Yeah I think that's where they generally get mixed up. Like someone else who replied; they are explaining individual personalities. I agree with both of you. That is the cleanest way to go about this without pushing a narrative, but we all know that's exactly why they frame it as a gender discussion.
/r/MensRights16/01/18 04:42 PM
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I kinda agree with them on some level. If everyone is uniquely individual, then my version of masculinity, or gender and how I experience it, is different to everyone elses... I can understand how they end up concluding there are infinite genders. I still think that there are biological frameworks you place traits into though. Like which traits are more likely to be found in each sex for the sake of reproduction etc. Hence the seperation of masculine / feminine which leads to having two genders.…
/r/MensRights16/01/18 01:01 PM
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I'd be careful lumping all liberals together. I'm very liberal in my views; though this might be a different version of liberalism since I am from the UK and not part of the typical liberal vs conservative political debate in the US. I absolutely do not push any gender at the cost of the other, I want freedom for all. I hate what liberalism has become more known for in recent years :/
/r/MensRights08/01/18 06:26 PM
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You know they will just re-frame it as male bosses looking to prey on vulnerable women who might go above and beyond for a potential job, hence giving more women interviews over men. There is no way they will take data at face value.
/r/MensRights08/01/18 05:45 PM
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No. I don't want want women on the the panel because you think they have some amazing ability to understand a subject different from a man. I want whichever demographic is underrepresented to be able to share their perspective. In many, many, many areas that would be men, too. Why are you so hyper-focused on women?
/r/MensRights06/01/18 01:32 PM
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Be careful here, I am not saying we should enforce an equal 50/50 gender split. Again, I am not advocating for a forced 50/50 split here. Did you read even read it?
/r/MensRights05/01/18 08:58 PM
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You can think sexist thoughts all you want, thought crime doesn't exist. If you act out those sexist thoughts in ways that affect others, that's when it becomes a problem. So yeah, sexism needs to be enforced for it to be considered sexism. And I agree, I have this sort of weird relationship with feminism. It's kinda like church and religion for me I guess... I like some of their values but I don't like the movement.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 03:04 PM
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True, and different experiences still doesn't mean women and non whites is bette ...are you simple? I believe that on any given subject, if there is a gender disparity of voices speaking out, we should do more to encourage the other side to gain traction and have their side listened to as well. For me that goes both ways. If there aren't enough people on the other side to speak with enough authority on a subject, then more should be done to educate them so that they can eventually have their sid…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 03:00 PM
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Only if you enforce it, which I clearly stated multiple times that I am against.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 09:07 AM
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You cant separate the fact he was a man away from his message. As a man, he would have experienced things different than another demographic. That would have had influence over his thoughts and opinions. It might not change the end result very much, but it is a factor which goes into formulating them. Different experiences lead to different opinions. I just want all opinions to be reflected.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 08:54 AM
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I said multiple times that I don't want it to be equal. Try reading the post instead of seeing the downvotes and assuming what my arguement is, thanks.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 08:51 AM
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Ugh, you assume I am something that I am not :/ Slow down the zealotry and read what I'm saying - I am agreeing that In Scandinavian countries where opportunity is absolutely maximised there is a bigger disparity of male engineers and female nurses. This proves different genders make different choices when there are zero impediments. Is true, its right here it is fairly well grounded that different genders have different preferences for the type of work etc. I recognise that as fact I am all for…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 08:48 AM
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I think you are using that statistic wrong and trying to force it into contexts it doesn't belong. This is dangerous and its something the other side does very often. I think the better way to apply that, which isn't wrong in and of itself, is that we should be encouraging whichever gender is in a deficit in a specific area / field so that there aren't so few of them. When reaching an amicable solution it is really important to have as many perspectives as possible be included in the decision ma…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 12:36 AM
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Lots of questions there, I will try to give my personal take on how to answer them. Is it important to the discussion at hand? I responded mostly to this statement: "The gender of the speaker should not matter at all". The point I raised was that the gender of the speaker shouldn't matter to the point where it is enforced, but there is an element (which can't simply be ignored or said to "not matter at all") whereby men and women might have different perspectives on something. Therefore, I think…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 12:29 AM
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Whilst I agree that diversity should not be forced, I think the gender of the speaker can, and does, matter quite a lot. Men and women experience things differently, have different perspectives and often different solutions. Having a balanced panel of speakers should be something we strive for naturally. But I agree it should not be forced, more like it should be sought after by default.
/r/MensRights04/01/18 09:24 PM
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While he pursues a doctorate degree in an esoteric field An esoteric field? What? The study of children and how best to enable their growth? You are absolutely delusional. Children are fundamental to every society ever built, or do you also deny biology? Where do you think you came from, were you also not a child at some point? I could go into great length at how people, such as yourself, massively undervalue this area of work but the fact remains; society would simply cease to function if its c…
/r/MensRights27/12/17 11:26 AM
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I think your trying really hard to shoot holes in something, that is pretty solid. I was mostly just playing devils advocate. Just trying to highlight an issue with it, I did mention that it would be unlikely but I think people by that point weren't reading the nuances. Yeah, I don't really like the whole gender stereotype thing, but stereotypes exist for a reason and its why I said it does of course have its place, again I think people skipped over that part but no worries. I agree, all you've …
/r/MensRights27/12/17 11:10 AM
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When we decided to have children we were financially secure enough to do so. In fact, I actually made my wife postpone our first child for 2 more years to make sure of this. Circumstances outside of our control happened in at the end of 2013 and changed our situation entirely. That's the whole point; you have replied numerous times calling me a leech etc... But we were secure when we made that decision. We didn't choose to have children we were unable to support.
/r/MensRights27/12/17 05:05 AM
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Thanks. Currently working on it, hardly get to see my kids because of it. It really sucks that all people see is that I am a scrounger because I receive benefits. Life dealt me a shit hand and I'm doing my fucking best, okay. I leave the house before my kids wake up and I get home just as they are about to go to sleep. I hardly get to see them, that's how much I am sacrificing to get out of this. Sorry for offloading on you.
/r/MensRights27/12/17 02:55 AM
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Ok, since you are a genius in this area... What happens to a family who owns a local business and owns their house. They decide they can afford children, have said children... Support them for a few years. Whoops, the father has a freak stroke in his early 40's. Whoops, the family has to sell their business and their house. Whoops, the mother can no longer work full time because she needs to care for the father who is now also unable to work. What now? Please bestow your wisdom.
/r/MensRights27/12/17 02:48 AM
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Life isn't predictable, sometimes shit happens to a person or a group of people. I'll give you an example from someone who I respect a great deal - my father in law. When he was in his 30's he owned his own scaffold company. Together with a bunch of other local tradesmen they bought a modest patch of land and sectioned it off. They then proceeded to build houses for each other by working their trade on each others house; a group project of sorts. But it meant that at the end of it they all had f…
/r/MensRights27/12/17 02:29 AM
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Because the universe takes note of your financial and social position the moment a child is born and nothing ever changes from that point on wards, right?
/r/MensRights27/12/17 12:19 AM
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Interestingly; I find that guy telling me to end my life, then linking me how to tie a noose, much less offensive than his position towards poor people and his ignorance of the structures that keep us poor. If that makes me a snowflake, I choose to embrace it.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 11:34 PM
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Quite pathetic really.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 10:41 PM
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Its not the question, its the standing point from which the question is asked. His question implied something about my family by being asked in a certain way. If you're so low on income that it's such a big problem then why doesn't she help out by getting a job? The so here is used in a sarcastic fashion, it turns a sincere question into an insincere one where he already assumed the answer would be insignificant. that its such a big problem then also reinforces the sarcastic use of so in the lin…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 10:20 PM
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How would she work whilst they are asleep? I leave the house at 6:30am to walk to the train station for 7:00am, to catch the train which gets me into the city my university is at for 8:15am which allows me to walk to the campus ready for lectures to begin at 9:00am. This continues until I leave at 5:00pm to catch the train at 5:30pm which then gets me back into my town at 6:45 and I finally get back home at around 7:15pm. I am away from the house the entire day, for hours which vastly exceed tho…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 09:08 PM
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I attend university. Since there is not a single university in my entire county, due to how extremely impoverished it is (literally one of the lowest in the EU) I have to travel for 3-4 hours per day just to get to the university. I have 2 children which demand attention, of course I don't begrudge them of this but it is something which consumes time also.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 08:58 PM
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I don't like your tone at all, especially when you are so incredibly ignorant. I'm on an Early Childhood Studies degree, I will spare you the psychology which unilaterally states that children develop far better in the care of parents than institutions... ...But that is only a small part of the picture. Even if you ignore that fact, it is not economically viable for my wife to work. The money she would earn would be entirely devoured by the cost of the childcare which would be required whilst sh…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 08:37 PM
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We are an extremely low income household, we have to rob Peter to pay Paul. Our finances are honestly like a game of chess. None of our benefit timings properly coincide with their actual need... Everything comes in on different dates every month, and they very rarely match what they are meant for - for example housing benefit usually gets eaten up by other bills and we then have to allocate other funds to paying rent... Simply because its so damn staggered on where our income comes from, its no…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 08:17 PM
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That's just being intellectually dishonest. I'd like to think we are better than that.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 07:54 PM
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Maybe the lady buys cheaper clothes than the man, which offsets the disparity between the two? I know the above is unlikely of course, but it does highlight potential problems with that line of reasoning as I am sure there are cases where it is true. Especially if the man happens to wear a lot of expensive suits, for example. I'd rather not fly too close to the sun on this one, I don't like to include gender stereotypes because that tends to be a weak argument, although it does of course have it…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 07:42 PM
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I agree this is important and a facet of why I thought it was shortsighted. The discussion changes significantly if we knew how they came to this conclusion. For example; there is a massive difference between who spends what % of the total income, against who spends what % of expendable income. If it turned out that women were, on average, spending 90% more of a households expendable income... I would be willing to chip in and denounce that, absolutely.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 05:46 PM
2

Sorry, I know this reply is off-topic but I couldn't help myself. Lately I've been reading up about The Precariat by a person called Guy Standing who loves to use the term Faustian Bargain. If you find class an interesting subject I would wholeheartedly recommend listening to a few of his hour long lectures on it. The topic also links in extremely well with the boy crisis we are currently experiencing and provides a way to project where this could be leading society too.
/r/MensRights26/12/17 04:10 PM
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Because I have more earning power than my wife. My wife has a biological disadvantage, in the context of prolonged and gainful employment, in that she would inevitably have to take breaks to have children. I am fully aware of how traditional gender roles aren't just oppressive to women and affect men too - which I think is the point you were aiming for? I doubt I would be in this sub if I was blind to it. But for us, it works. I accept the drawbacks, but I also recognise the benefits. Such as my…
/r/MensRights26/12/17 04:02 PM
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I feel like this is shortsighted. I have always been the one to bring money into our household, my wife stays at home and looks after our children. Without derailing too much, this isn't a gender decision - I would be more than happy to stay at home and raise our children, as would my wife be more than willing to bring in the money for the household... It just isn't economically viable for us to both work... Not to mention it is significantly better to our children's development to be raised by …
/r/MensRights26/12/17 02:15 PM
17

I don't think female police officers are allowed to be paired up with another female police officer, at least here in the UK... I don't know for absolute certain, but I think I have read that female police offers MUST be accompanied by a make police officer. I think this issue was raised during an old discussion around whether it was fair (and safe) that male officers had to have partners which were physically inferior (of course we are talking generally here, there are exceptions without a doub…
/r/MensRights10/12/17 06:38 PM
6

You would like this The entire video is very well done, considering its a single take non scripted ramble. Well worth a watch. Its one of the videos I like to give to neutral-ish people because it is well rounded enough to get the point across without getting them defensive.
/r/MensRights24/11/17 02:06 AM
9

I agree with a lot of what is said, actually. I just don't think I would go as far as to say its sexist, I think the issues are far too multifaceted to be reduced down to that, and of course it effects both genders in different ways. Especially the last part about blaming it on the patriarchy.
/r/MensRights03/11/17 03:53 PM
28

All it takes is one small moment to slip up and do irreparable damage to your children. You risk letting that moment happen if you are overly emotional and unstable from the onset. Get some help with your rage.
/r/MensRights28/09/17 11:44 AM
1

So lets be better than them and not fall prey to using the same sort of tactics.
/r/MensRights29/08/17 06:54 AM
2

Oh, I am fully aware that I am the in the extreme minority; I've worked the job for pretty much a decade - I'm also the only male on my university course! But with blanket statements, people like me - although the minority, just don't exist and it leads to some broken logic.
/r/MensRights28/08/17 10:29 PM
3

Blanket statements suck. I've been a TA in primary school for the past 9 years. In 3 weeks I start my early childhood studies course at university. I'm a bloke.
/r/MensRights28/08/17 07:00 PM
3

If that mentality works for you and helps you claim some sort of solace, I am for all it. However, you do not have the authority to claim to others that suicide is a cowards way out. Nobody truly knows what happens when we die, its all blind speculation, and for someone to be in such a broken state to be willing to take that risk... It is far from cowardly. Also slight difference, I didn't think of attempting and then stopped. Somebody found me after the act but before I was fully successful and…
/r/MensRights23/07/17 05:07 PM
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When I attempted suicide, it felt like it was the only thing I had control over. People like to say that after such an event you change your perspective, but I certainly haven't. At that time suicide was the correct choice, its taken me years to forgive the person who found me and saved me. My life hasn't improved, my circumstances haven't improved and I don't feel any different than I did back then. I just continue to live for the sake of others.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 04:48 PM
1

I'm pretty much a unicorn... Formally diagnosed male with Asperger's who starts an early childhood studies course in September. I'm like the 1% of the 1% :D
/r/MensRights04/07/17 04:06 PM
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Thanks for this, I enjoyed watching it.
/r/MensRights04/07/17 01:27 PM
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That's not the comparison I am making you fucking idiot. Stop being so fucking hostile, I'm done with you. Hateful piece of shit.
/r/MensRights01/06/17 08:25 PM
0

When our daughter is dirty we change her. Genitals are reproductive organs. It's sexual. Pedophiles
/r/MensRights01/06/17 04:20 PM
1

It is not sexual in nature. It is performed, with intent, to enact changes which are sexual in nature. But the act itself is not sexual.
/r/MensRights01/06/17 10:49 AM
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Totally agree with you. It is abuse and it must stop, calling it rape as a way of hyperbole won't aid us in that goal, however.
/r/MensRights31/05/17 11:16 PM
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Because we need to be as accurate as possible when talking about issues we want to be changed. We are already the black sheep, don't give them anything to drag your argument down with. Incorrect wording will weaken your message. As will your apparent overly aggressive tone, you want to fix that if you can - it doesn't bother me so much, but for someone already resistant to your side of the argument all you do is make them even more defensive.
/r/MensRights31/05/17 11:13 PM
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I don't agree that its rape. Rape is rape, and to preserve the severity attached to it, it needs to stay that way. Appropriating the word into situations outside of rape is something we condemn feminists for doing; "he looked at me for too long I was raped" sort of thing. Its gross medical misconduct and shouldn't be happening, but its not rape.
/r/MensRights31/05/17 08:49 PM
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is rape If everything is rape, nothing is.
/r/MensRights31/05/17 08:01 PM
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Notice how the poster doesn't include any support hotlines, just police. That's because they're all targeting women. This is a great point which was completely invisible to me until you pointed it out. Thanks.
/r/MensRights19/05/17 02:10 PM
1

Yep, its a valid criticism.
/r/MensRights14/05/17 09:33 AM
1

Here are employment statistics for the UK (Paid Work) Here are domestic statistics for the UK (Unpaid Work)
/r/MensRights14/05/17 12:58 AM
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We can, however, have the discussion on which work is more taxing. For example, men working more in actual paid employment is probably far more taxing than cleaning the house. In that sense, although women might work more hours, the work they do just isn't as hard on them as the work men do. Of course this is generalising pretty heavily. As I said to another guy, don't tunnel vision. Please read my post in its entirety because I actually agree with you that domestic duties aren't as taxing as pa…
/r/MensRights14/05/17 12:38 AM
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We can, however, have the discussion on which work is more taxing. For example, men working more in actual paid employment is probably far more taxing than cleaning the house. In that sense, although women might work more hours, the work they do just isn't as hard on them as the work men do. Of course this is generalising pretty heavily. That is what I said mate, right there. Don't tunnel vision, and read my post in its entirety please.
/r/MensRights14/05/17 12:33 AM
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Been to a collage? I am a collage! In all seriousness though, anecdotal is far weaker than checking the data.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:20 PM
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Interested enough to have an opinion, not interested enough to inform yourself... You asked for a source, so I provided the raw data which could have given you a much more refined look at the topic had you bothered.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 05:55 PM
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Careful now, lately there has been an awful echo in here. A faint smell of jizz too, as if there has been some sort of group activity going on. You are absolutely correct though, glad to see another person with a balanced perspective around here.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 05:21 PM
1

It depends how you define work. Here are employment statistics for the UK (Paid Work) Here are domestic statistics for the UK (Unpaid Work) Both are government statistics.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 05:16 PM
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Not here in the UK they don't.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 04:57 PM
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Men might work more paid employment, but women work more unpaid employment - such as housework. If you add the two together, women work longer than men do. We can, however, have the discussion on which work is more taxing. For example, men working more in actual paid employment is probably far more taxing than cleaning the house. In that sense, although women might work more hours, the work they do just isn't as hard on them as the work men do. Of course this is generalising pretty heavily. Sinc…
/r/MensRights13/05/17 04:32 PM
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I didn't actually. You did. ... The point was your outrage ... outrage ... Not worth my time to continue this dialogue with you, you can't even remember what you write. Look at my post history if you think I don't contribute to the sub, most notably the posts I made yesterday about male disposability. It's certainly not feminist rhetoric.
/r/MensRights12/05/17 02:39 PM
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Compare how you are talking to me, and how I am talking to you. You speak of outrage? Well, I'm sorry to tell you but the one who is outraged here is you, not me. Bring it down a notch. The MHRM to me has always been the rational one of the two, and what attracted me here in the first place was a perspective which was much more egalitarian than the one offered by feminism. Since this is the sub for MHRM and all, I believe I am in the right place to say what I did. I expect better from this sub, …
/r/MensRights12/05/17 02:04 PM
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What does that have to do with anything I said?
/r/MensRights12/05/17 01:14 PM
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Where did I say otherwise?
/r/MensRights12/05/17 01:13 PM
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That's why I added that I worry about my son as well as my daughter. Not sure why I got the replies I did though.
/r/MensRights12/05/17 01:13 PM
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Where did I say any of that?
/r/MensRights12/05/17 01:11 PM
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That is still way too bloody high, I can't see this as any sort of victory. The idea of rape is totally unfathomable to me, actually feel sick seeing those numbers. Even if they are less than feminists claim. Sorry guys, the bigger picture always matters more to me than winning an ideological war against feminism... And as someone with both a son and a daughter, those numbers scare the hell out of me. Edit: News just in: saying that any amount of rape is too much rape is now concern trolling.
/r/MensRights12/05/17 11:32 AM
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Yes and no, the powerpoint itself was very bare bones and in itself nothing impressive. I purposefully didn't write a script because I didn't want it to interrupt the flow of things. I also figured that speaking freely on the subject would add to my credibility and show a deeper knowledge around the subject. I have some feedback sheets if you would like to see some of the responses I got. One lady even commented in the 'what did you learn?' section that she "should be happy she is a woman!" So t…
/r/MensRights12/05/17 07:21 AM
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It wasn't recorded unfortunately.
/r/MensRights11/05/17 08:06 PM
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Thanks. I am a social science student and I got fed up of hearing everything from the feminist perspective in our classes, so when they said "you have free reign on the topic of your presentation" this instantly came to mind! I've been preparing it for a while, and was ready to make enemies over it... I was honestly very surprised how well it was received.
/r/MensRights11/05/17 05:50 PM
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It was for college, I am a mature student.
/r/MensRights11/05/17 04:25 PM
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Damn I gave a 30 minute presentation on Male Disposability yesterday... Would've loved to have used this example in there too. Offtopic but kinda relevant: my peers were very attentive to the issues I raised and all gave me great feedback afterwards. Perhaps not all is lost!
/r/MensRights11/05/17 02:12 PM
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Ironic isn't it? Whenever there is a discussion on FGM and somebody mentions that it happens to men too except its socially acceptable, they say something along the lines of "why can't we ever have a discussion on FGM without circumcision being brought up". Well, we can't never talk about circumcision without somebody saying that you can't compare it to FGM! I mean, its almost like the two issues are fundamentally linked by something, wonder what it could be... Basic Human Rights perhaps?
/r/MensRights04/05/17 05:21 PM
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This is powerful, thanks for sharing.
/r/MensRights31/03/17 05:58 PM
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Luckily I've got a fair few years on most of the people around me. I'm pretty sure I am the only male on my course, and if the open days are any indicator the vast majority of my peers are women fresh out of college (on my coarse at least). I'm too set in my ways by now to let a bunch a barely adult aged people change me! Gonna have to play things close to my chest for the first while though, I don't want people getting their backs up right from the start as it would make things fairly awkward.
/r/MensRights30/03/17 08:03 PM
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Yeah, its gonna be weird as hell for me. I'm Cornish born and bred, down here everyone is so nice and polite. Plymouth is only an hour on the train away from where I live but its gonna feel like another country to me. I don't really get out much and already just from my trips to open days I can feel a difference in how people are outside of my cosy little bubble of a town. I did have a positive experience a couple years ago though, at another early years venue they dedicated a whole section - it…
/r/MensRights30/03/17 07:56 PM
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Hmm, yeah that sounds very plausible. Think I agree with you. I certainly won't be able to change anything by myself, but I would at least add another voice. I'm really quite shocked at hearing about this though. I'm from a social science background, applied on those merits for an spot on Early Childhood Studies and got in on grounds of also being in that particular profession for 10 years... I spoke extensively with many people at that university and none of them gave off any of these vibes, bo…
/r/MensRights30/03/17 07:28 PM
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Hey, that's my university! I start in September. When I went to various open days and spoke with members of the student union I didn't get the impression they were quite like this. Perhaps because I am a mature student they acted differently around me. Once I get adjusted, I plan on helping what I can towards this situation...
/r/MensRights30/03/17 05:57 PM
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I feel betrayed. Thank you though!
/r/MensRights29/03/17 10:43 AM
2

Okay so the only time I've seen that word is in Terraria as an item, did some googlefu and now I know what those stupid plastic bits at the end of my shoelace are which always end up fraying and pissing me off. I know its off topic but its bugging the hell out of me, whats the sinister part of an Aglet? My best guess would be something like a shackle used in slavery perhaps? Honestly have no clue, but I would like to know and right now I am feeling pretty unsatisfied with my google answers :(
/r/MensRights29/03/17 09:42 AM
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Thanks. I'm wondering if location plays a part in this, as I'm from the UK and the types of feminism I've been exposed to in the real world are not nearly as extreme as those I see online, or from accounts of people in the US. Unfortunately though, as moderate as they may be they are still heavily based on the same theories and cause the same damage; just in a less aggressive in your face type of way. I guess it also helps that I am rural; my county of about 550k people has only one city in it, …
/r/MensRights21/03/17 03:43 PM
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My sociology lecturer is a staunch feminist. She actively asks for my input in class, knowing full well that I oppose a lot of the content that is regularly discussed and gives me a fair hearing. My presentations thus far have been mainly focused on using feminist rhetoric / theory and turning it on its head to shine light on male issues which inhabit the same space. She hasn't marked me down or tried to silence me. I am willing to concede that I may be in the minority on this, and as always its…
/r/MensRights21/03/17 02:51 AM
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I try not to imagine, I deal with what is put in front of me. It is much healthier and less stressful. I think you are at risk of becoming the thing you hate, lots of resentment in your post. Each of those issues are worth rebuttal, when a solid example of one comes along. But I get the feeling you are overexposed to this and are projecting all-the-things at the slightest hint. As an individual statement, the OP is fine.
/r/MensRights18/03/17 11:34 AM
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"Stop raping me" > "no" Now what? "Stop hitting me" > "no" Now what? "Send an ambulance there has been an accident" > "no" Now what? You gonna stand there and tell me with your line of reasoning that the "no" in any of those situations has to be acknowledged? Its all about context. The world isn't perfect. Sometimes; some people, regardless of demographic, face hurdles and its a perfectly fine statement to say they had to take no for an answer to get to where they want to be. That's the context …
/r/MensRights18/03/17 11:16 AM
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There is so much more to it than that. I feel like you are being intellectually dishonest, I have faith that you are better than this.
/r/MensRights18/03/17 10:58 AM
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[Insert concern trolling here] But seriously, its getting pretty bad in here.
/r/MensRights18/03/17 10:57 AM
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This pretty much sums up my wife's views. She has always been down with feminism, its lead to some interesting discussions over the years... That was until she became a mother, and enjoyed being a mother, so much so that she decided she wanted to do it full time. She then found herself under attack by other feminists saying she was a sell out, that being a full time stay at home parent was something she shouldn't want to be or do. Feminism was supposed to fight for women's right to choose, but m…
/r/MensRights14/02/17 03:41 PM
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Huge amount of respect? If that is the type of guy being held up as an example of the MHRM then count me out. Spewing vitriolic hate is not the way to go. He was straight up misogynistic. The Audi advert was terrible, I agree. It was pandering to a whole bunch of false information, I agree. So lets be civil, provide the correct information and maintain the moral high ground. I feel like it damages our credibility every time one of these "cuck" saying idiots makes one of these types of rebuttals.…
/r/MensRights03/02/17 10:09 AM
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You sound just like them. Don't stoop that low. I had to do a presentation for my sociology last friday, I choose domestic violence and how our current models of crime and deviance attempt to explain it. My whole presentation was about how our current theories do nothing to understand why male acts of DV have dropped and female acts of DV have stayed the same or grown. My lecturer is a staunch feminist, but agreed entirely with the content of my presentation and I got top marks in the class for …
/r/MensRights22/01/17 12:37 PM
1

Yep, it lead to quite an interesting discussion in class because our tutor was trying to push that women were being discriminated against by men (and only men - think "patriarchy" type stuff)... And here we had a women saying she also discriminated against women too. It highlighted that the issue isn't a gendered one, or at least not on the scale that our tutor was trying to push us to believe.
/r/MensRights01/01/17 07:27 PM
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Where on earth are you people getting the idea that I base my conclusions off one example. Do you seriously expect me to write a 100 page manifesto containing every possible scenario in order to raise a point. Holy shit get over yourself, it was one nice example from personal experience. Not one reply "challenged" anything I said since you all rode in on your high horses and strawmanned the living hell out of what I said, at no point did I say it was an 'epidemic' as one of you called it. Simply…
/r/MensRights01/01/17 06:24 PM
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Coincidentally I have Aspergers :) Ive worked alongside children with autism for the past 9 years in the school setting and Ive found that because I have lived experience with how they (or rather, we) understand and view the world it has led to some truely outstanding results. This is just me wanting to take that further.
/r/MensRights01/01/17 04:39 AM
2

Examples are difficult things to understand.
/r/MensRights01/01/17 04:21 AM
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Nothing personal to you but Im not even gonna bother, this sub is dead. Wont bother with it in future, it can turn into a redpill circlejerk (if it hasnt already based on the last year or so). Sorry.
/r/MensRights01/01/17 04:20 AM
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Oh I 100% agree with you. I never said that it was an epidemic: merely that it does happen despite being illegal. That scenario had our tutor over a barrel too, because as you mentioned it also highlighted the fact that male equivilency to maternity leave is piss poor (which sort of ruined her narritive she was pushing).
/r/MensRights01/01/17 04:11 AM
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But women are actively discriminated against when it comes to employment. It might be illegal (and up to our legal systems to chase up and stamp down on) but it still happens. One of my peers on the course I am on also runs a small business and she outright admitted to the class that she doesnt hire women; her business can not afford to pay maternity leave PLUS someone else to cover the workload during that time. I dont have an answer to fix that, I think we need to chalk it up to fundamental bi…
/r/MensRights01/01/17 03:39 AM
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Good, in what sense? My sociology is taking me on to a course in early childhood studies, which will land me with amazing career opportunities working with young children. The money is pretty decent for where I live, and I get to make a huge impact on the lives of my local community.
/r/MensRights01/01/17 03:02 AM
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Its why I stopped coming here on a regular basis.
/r/MensRights19/12/16 06:09 PM
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With you all the way here buddy. I tread the line between both movements, I like to expose myself to both sides as much as I can... And I quite often see both sides making statements about "well X is just biology, there isn't a way to make it fully 50/50 style equal where X is concerned". Same should apply here. Until babies are able to be grown by proxy, outside of a women's womb, 50/50 total equality isn't achievable on this. The best we can do is provide men with a means to drop their legal r…
/r/MensRights04/12/16 09:49 PM
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"Then you should not have had sex with her if you didn't want to have a child" This is a common line of reasoning that pro-lifers bring the table, in which feminists ignore in order to support abortion. Cherry picking at its finest.
/r/MensRights05/11/16 12:48 AM
1

I see these users: buzzcut123 musclephantasy Pariahdog119 If your name isn't one of those, you are shadowbanned.
/r/MensRights23/07/16 01:40 PM
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I'm actually on a diet right now, so thanks for the salad. What you said it just a wordier version of what I said, except you got hung up for multiple paragraphs over my usage of objectively. I believe the idea of common decency is pretty objective, when all parties are being reasonable.
/r/MensRights29/06/16 01:00 PM
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Objectively, that's not actually wrong. I think the real problem, and where the disconnect happens, is because the people who get affected by these things aren't being realistic about what should and shouldn't offend them. I'd like to think its common decency to not go around spreading hatred simply because you can, on the basis that its everyone else's choice to be offended. Boils down to being honest and realistic on both sides of the fence.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 09:30 PM
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Man castrated on screen. Nobody panics. Women raped, or murdered by Jeoffry. Everyone loses their minds. Becoming as hyper-sensitive as them is not the answer.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 05:22 PM
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That's a real world example. Game of Thrones is not. Try not to fight abuse with abuse, both genders suffer from genital mutilation and one being laughed at is not an excuse to laugh at the other. If we are going to win this fight we must maintain the high ground.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:24 PM
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The double standard annoys me too, but there are far better real world examples to draw upon which carry greater weight - especially to the people who need convincing that this is a problem. I think on this occasion you are overreaching that's all.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:17 PM
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To me, it's just another random daily little example If this is the case, then I think you are looking for things to be offended about. Try being triggered less, its what we say to people in other camps. I thought the scene fit in the world it was set in and had no relation to our real world problems.
/r/MensRights10/06/16 04:09 PM
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I'd wager its exactly because we were hitting the main stream that we attracted this sort of shit. It cheapens our message at best, and completely discredits it at worst.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 02:16 AM
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I used to visit the sub a couple times a day, it had thoughtful content which I could agree with. Now I come here maybe once a week if that, see posts like this and remember exactly why I stopped. Redpill is killing the MHRM the same way that 3rd wave feminism killed feminism.
/r/MensRights28/05/16 02:09 AM
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All attendee's were childcare professionals, although I am sure a lot of them had children of their own too. And no, she didn't quite take it that far. What she did do though, was drill into everyone's heads that when they are planning activities at their provision, that they need to be mindful of how boys learn differently and to make sure they allocate resources into that area as boys are and have been underachieving for a while and its just gone under the radar... For us lot, its most certain…
/r/MensRights03/03/16 05:34 PM
1

This is oppression olypmics just from a male perspective. And I won't even use a throwaway! Come at me >:D
/r/MensRights14/01/16 02:52 PM
1

Quality of the sub has been going downhill steadily at roughly the same rate as its grown in popularity.
/r/MensRights05/01/16 05:31 PM
2

You are right, it was more a rhetorical question. It saddens me greatly that people think that a 15 year relationship, one which spawned a child who in turn is 14... Isn't worth working on. And because of an accident no less! The guy has an accident, has fallen into depression because of how useless society views men who don't / cant work and people think she should just throw him away. Quite literally the textbook example of male disposability. I went through this with my wife back in 2008 when…
/r/MensRights27/12/15 03:17 PM
2

TwoX isn't quite that bad, not in general. I like glancing through there every now and then because for the most part the feminism represented their isn't as far fetched as from other sources and I personally enjoy both sides of the discussion. Ofcourse that doesn't stop threads like this from showing up, TwoX still harbours quite a few bitter women, just like this place harbours quite a few bitter men.
/r/MensRights27/12/15 03:05 PM
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I posted a couple times in that thread too. Most of the replies from other people are incredibly cold hearted. I wonder what their opinion would be of someone who had a stroke, or got early onset dementia / alzheimers. Would they suggest divorcing them then?
/r/MensRights27/12/15 02:59 PM
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Thats how I read it too. The person was saying that its not feminisms goal to automatically assume the man is the baddy. I know that in the real world, feminism has had the opposite effect from the sentiment shared here. I kinda like it actually, maybe if there were more people who view equality as real equality in the feminist camp, things would be heading in the right direction.
/r/MensRights18/11/15 12:29 AM
1

Its scary how similar things are. I have had clinical depression since my early teens (now 27) and have discussed it with a couple counsellors along the way... My last counsellor had a feeling that my tendencies are what is holding me back, since I have gone through a real bad time with my depression and anxiety in the past 3-4 years. It sounds hella narcissistic I know, but I often times wish I could just drop 50 IQ and be done with it. A lot of the problems I have which have been identified by…
/r/MensRights05/11/15 01:00 AM
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I got 35. My wife and I have joked for years that I have undiagnosed autism. We are currently in the process of getting a diagnosis, which is very difficult for undiagnosed adults. Not like it would change anything about my life, but just knowing for sure would allow me some peace of mind and perhaps more awareness of how I interact with others. Funnily enough my son, who started school this year, is also being watched by the schools SENco for ASD - something my wife and myself have been picking…
/r/MensRights04/11/15 02:23 PM
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Totally agree mate.
/r/MensRights29/10/15 10:29 AM
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There was a question around the 13 minute mark which I agreed with but I think from a different perspective. It was about how mothers get assigned primary care givers of children and his point was that was because society has made it that way. I tend to agree, but not in a "well thats that" sense. Society needs let men be fathers and make that an admirable life goal for men to have. I couldn't tell you the amount of times my family and I have gone out for a meal, I've gone to change one of my ch…
/r/MensRights29/10/15 02:50 AM
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2 years ago I made an attempt on my life, I reached that point not because I refused to talk to anybody, but because I felt nobody wanted to listen. There were, and still are, sweet fuck all in the way of support for men, both emotionally and physically. Why do you think men are, by a large margin, the majority of both suicides and homeless? When I look around, no services are being enabled / funded / staffed in the name of feminism; for men. I judge people by what they do, not what they say wil…
/r/MensRights21/09/15 02:27 PM
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Oh tell me about it! Both my children had massive problems with reflux and the only option was to put them on special anti-reflux milk powder. £15 a box that costs, we get about 4-5 feeds from 1 box so that's on average £75 a week on powdered milk.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 03:42 PM
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Breastfeeding is better for both mother and child, especially the milk which comes in during the first 2-3 weeks. Over here in England, that fact is drummed in very aggressively by any sort of health practitioner you visit during pregnancy and post birth. Its on the posters, its in the leaflets, its on the surgery walls, its on the powdered milk boxes... Its incredibly forceful and aggressive. And they let you know directly that if you don't breast feed, its worse for the baby. The problem is th…
/r/MensRights11/09/15 01:26 PM
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I can't really argue against any of your points because they are all right, I just think they apply to a difference case than this video since there was only a single hostage and not a choice between saving either a male or female hostage. The best I can do is say we don't know for certain that it wouldn't have been done if it were a single male hostage. Like I get male disposability and all, but I think it lies in the context of choosing one gender over the other. I'm not sold that it goes beyo…
/r/MensRights07/09/15 04:51 PM
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Sorry, I don't believe that at all. Its very human to want to help someone in trouble, regardless of gender. I think if you want to apply the whole male disposability thing into the equation, the situation would have to be different. Do I think that had there been 2 hostages, one being male and one being female, that the female would be the one chosen to be protected? You bet! However that wasn't the situation in the video, I don't think male disposability can be used here. The rest of your post…
/r/MensRights07/09/15 04:43 PM
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Honestly, all I see here is an act of humanity. I don't think we should cheapen such a heroic act just because we want to put our slant on it. It could very well have been a male hostage.
/r/MensRights07/09/15 01:36 PM
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I don't know, I can't really speak for him too much. But it does add texture to the discusssion in what would otherwise be circumcision thread #1000 where everybody already knows its wrong and we all piss and moan about it. Its not like he was off topic entirely, just throwing another view point in the pot - that surely can't be seen a as a bad thing.
/r/MensRights24/08/15 07:20 PM
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Oh I get that. The post I replied to seemed to imply he also had a medical reason for it being done and for some strange reason he got downvoted. The dude (and me for that matter) weren't condoning for in a general sense, just pointing out its sometimes medically required. Heck it seems I even got downvoted, this place is going to shit.
/r/MensRights24/08/15 06:42 PM
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"Here" in Britain mate, its in my post. Never made a comment about you were from :)
/r/MensRights24/08/15 06:39 PM
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Don't know why you were downvoted, my father inlaw was cut (its far less common over the pond, here in Britain) because of a medical condition. Something about it being too small / restrictive, don't know full details.
/r/MensRights24/08/15 11:34 AM
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You aren't wrong, but those are also not the people I wish to reach out to. They have already made up their minds and as you said they are going to hate you for your ideology regardless of how pleasant or reasonable you are. Its the people who are neutral, or slightly leaning to feminist ideologies which are the key. Those people are going to be turned off if in their search for more perspectives / knowledge if they stumble accross RedPill stuff in the sub, because that will just show them that …
/r/MensRights17/08/15 06:03 PM
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I can appreciate your perspective on this, guilt by association is not something anyone should worry about. I think were I differ is that I worry about how our image looks to the outside world. Not because that bothers me personally, but because whenever the MHRM movement gets protrayed in popular media its put in a negative light, so anything we can be doing to help that situation, whether not beneficial to us personally and our feelz, would be for the greater good.
/r/MensRights17/08/15 05:46 PM
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If one persons takeaway is X, that is probably just them getting the wrong idea. If multiple peoples takeaway is X, as you noted, then that is likely down to not getting your point across accurately. Regardless, I as I said, I am not here to argue whether its correct or not. I simply wished to express that the conflation of RedPill into the general "feel" of this sub is pushing people away. Check some of the replies to this thread if you require further insight, its not just you mate and infact …
/r/MensRights17/08/15 04:19 PM
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This is the type of post which is pushing me away from this sub. Not gonna argue whether its correct or not, and it definitely seems to be gaining traction over here as of late; so obviously a lot of you wish to discuss it. However I first started coming here many moons ago for information on Mens Rights, not RedPill theory. Carry on by all means, but understand the mixing of the two is pushing people away. Edit: The fact that this comment received downvotes is a sign of the times. When I first …
/r/MensRights17/08/15 01:15 PM
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Fair enough then. I can agree that its people like that who fuck it for the rest.
/r/MensRights15/08/15 04:52 PM
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Then surely as a sufferer of this type of thinking you shouldn't be one to apply it to others. Even saying seemingly is unfair, you simply can not know at all, theres no seeming to that.
/r/MensRights15/08/15 04:50 PM
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Do you know what her husband's disability was? I've had multiple breakdowns so far, they are usually spaced out a good few years mind, but each and every time when I am attempting to get better and improve myself this situation happens; I can't leave the house, but when I start to leave the house and go shopping with my family for 20 minutes, if a colleague at work or someone who knows me see's me they make the case of "shouldn't you be inside if you are feeling so bad?" Absolutely not, I am out…
/r/MensRights15/08/15 04:46 PM
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Check his other comments. The guy clearly has something against it. "Dead child = depression = onto 'disability' benefits = kerching! (and they literally give you a brand new car for free if you want)" This was his comment just above the one I responded to. For one you don't get mobility for depression, but conflating the two was used to invoke an emotional response of disgust and unfairness, when it simply doesn't happen. His use of quotation marks in order to de-legitimise the "disability" in …
/r/MensRights15/08/15 04:37 PM
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If you were to look at my wife on a good day she looks perfectly normal. You absolutely can not judge whether someone has a disability by just chancing a glance at them for 30 seconds. Lots of life crippling disabilities are invisible, try not to be ignorant of that.
/r/MensRights15/08/15 04:29 PM
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You can fuck off mate. I've suffered from chronic depression since my late teens, not received a single penny in my life from this "disability" benefits you speak of. My wife suffers from Costochondritis and Fibromyalgia, about 3 days of the week she is bedridden and we have applied for disability twice and got turned down for even the basic. My Dad is ex-army, suffered a major injury in service and has a plethora of heart conditions ontop of asbestosis and has only this year been able to apply …
/r/MensRights15/08/15 02:02 AM
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Babywearing Dad here. More Dad's should do this sort of thing, it is an amazing way to bond with your children from an early age. My daughter is 6 months and I have been slinging her whilst out shopping etc since she was days old. Also; not a beta, not a feminist. Just secure in who am I like the vast majority of babywearing Dad's. You have to be - some of the looks I get some closed minded people can be hilarious. It does however make me cringe when I see that type of device, its been proven th…
/r/MensRights04/08/15 01:51 PM
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There was some nasty undertones of women bashing strung throughout the video though, and you can bet your money that this is exactly the content that feminists (who we should be condemning - not women in general) will point to in order to show the MHRM as a toxic movement, when the topic actually being discussed should be a positive thing. That is why I didn't like it.
/r/MensRights04/08/15 01:39 PM
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Got a hefty RedPill vibe from this video. I don't like it when a rather negative aspect of RedPill gets lumped in with what should be a positive cause of the MHRM... I guess some guys agree with this, but I didn't like the video.
/r/MensRights03/08/15 06:08 PM
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Very true, although I don't bother with twitter myself, I do know that Richard Dawkins shares that sort of view point. I agree with it myself tbh, I am not crazy schooled in the whole backgrounds of feminism but I try and take a more moderate stance to everything in life and I would be lying if I said there was never a point where feminism has had a positive impact. I just stand in the camp where feminism isn't required in western society anymore.
/r/MensRights26/07/15 05:54 PM
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I usually watch things on my PC with my headset because this is something I am interested in and don't wanna force it onto others, however my headset is broken and so I had to use my speakers. My wife isn't an MRA, she is a self proclaimed feminist (albeit an oldschool type, who agree's that feminism has no place in the western world but is still required in developing countries). I heard her shout down from upstairs that this women is full of shit, so yeah even your good old fashioned feminists…
/r/MensRights26/07/15 05:14 PM
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I couldn't make it past 30 seconds. This type of content is detrimental to the MHRM. We have a whole plethora of important things to say, lets keep it at that instead of name calling.
/r/MensRights12/04/15 09:05 AM
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I like what he has to say on a lot of points, but I really don't enjoy the sexist undertones. I think it is quite damaging to the MHRM to push this sort of content, however right it may be.
/r/MensRights23/11/14 08:28 PM
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They just sulked because I wouldn't force the boys to pass to them. Why should the boys pass to a member of their team who is lazy and doesn't contribute, regardless of gender. The irony is that I had 3 games being played at the same time and on the other end of the pitch I had a team where the girls in that team WERE trying to contribute and the boys still wouldn't pass to them... I had words with the boys and in that situation, I did infact force them to pass to the girls / had the girls take …
/r/MensRights15/10/14 06:30 PM
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On my 7th year of teaching upper KS2. For those not of our island, that's kids aged 10-11. You will train your self out of this eventually, just like you will eventually be able to not need a wee for 10 hours straight ;D If you are stood up and you feel one coming just grab a random price of paper. Make out its your planning and just position it intelligently, the kids will never know. If your sat down and your don't have a desk to hide behind cross your legs.
/r/MensRights03/10/14 11:36 AM
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Male teacher here. Fighting the good fight!
/r/MensRights02/10/14 09:12 PM
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This actually hurt to read. I'm pretty thick skinned, especially when it comes to the opinions of random text people on the internet, but this hit a bit close to home. I attempted suicide march of last year. At that point in time I had every intention for it to be successful. I had planned it within the means I had available to me and the reason it was unsuccessful was because my wife woke up. I still wake at nights with memories of trying to force the door shut so she couldn't enter which faile…
/r/MensRights30/09/14 09:59 PM
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Sure, if I had had more time to post last night I would've covered that. Its not that the guy doesn't have a point, its the language and attitude he uses to make that point. Spitting venom will cause anybody who is neutral to the MHRM who might be viewing this sort of topic on the off-chance to be immediately turned away. If we want the movement to grow in credibility with people outside the circle, we need to use approachable language.
/r/MensRights12/08/14 08:24 AM
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It is late for me and quite frankly I am not up for a convoluted in depth post. I will just leave it at this; the way you are acting is no better than the radfem's we condemn. All things in moderation, remember that.
/r/MensRights11/08/14 11:59 PM
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Right or wrong, the lady just lost her child. Pretty sure if I lost my son I would also say some pretty crazy things to the media.
/r/MensRights11/08/14 11:25 PM
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When I was at secondary school, one of our wood work projects was to make a picture frame. I was 13 at the time and I painted mine pink, because that was (and still is) my favourite colour. I got shit for it from my mates. I wear pink on a daily basis, my pupils (primary school) have quite a few jokes about Mr. B and his pink shirts / ties. My son wears pink. Its just a colour.
/r/MensRights26/07/14 09:32 AM
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Oh I agree, the amount of work and scale of responsibility we have should be rewarded better, but that isn't why people like us go through for 4-6 years of training (In the UK) to become a teacher. I make enough to support my family, which includes my disabled wife who doesn't work, and that is all I require.
/r/MensRights23/07/14 08:28 PM
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In that case I best stay inside too, there are a ton of dangers waiting for me outside the house.
/r/MensRights23/07/14 08:04 PM
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I am a male teacher. You don't do this job for the money. I get the best pay you could possibly ask for; the love and respect of children.
/r/MensRights23/07/14 05:00 PM
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Double whammy; referred to as "infant". Because we can't identify the victim as a boy. Wrong gender.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 01:52 PM
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What a ridiculous and dishonest notion. To suggest such a thing discredits the MHRM. We don't need to trick anybody. Even if all you are doing is highlighting the stupidity. Give it some time, the ball is already rolling in many areas. Really, its the extremes on both sides which give each movement a bad name.
/r/MensRights15/03/14 08:35 AM
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Thanks for the kind words. It is really hard to look at things objectively in this sort of situation. Although my short sightedness leaves quite a sting when I am supposed to be an advocate against this sort of thing.
/r/MensRights08/03/14 09:51 PM
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She suffers from Crohn's Disease. During this time of year (weather / temperature) it is so bad that she can't risk driving herself anywhere.
/r/MensRights08/03/14 09:49 PM
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