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KountChalkula/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:12 AM
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Absolutely agree. I’m almost a year and a half out of an emotionally abusive 3-year relationship (that ended with the revelation of his cheating, which I had long suspected and he’d long DARVO-ed me about). Am starting to feel real joy and peace again. And the realization is that that relationship wasn’t “love.” What I have now is love. I was so miserable when I was “in love,” crying on a daily basis and basing all of my worth on trying to please a person who shared none of my morals or values. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:00 AM
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I am a Buddhist and agree with this. I think in my case, I wasn’t actually upset that he cheated on me as much as I point blank asked him about it and felt uncomfortable about it for over a year and he told me that I was insane, jealous, and paranoid while he lied to me. I believed him because I loved him. I didn’t find out I was right until after we broke up and he admitted he “was just trying to hide a mistake” and knew I would leave if I found out the truth. I think it was this absolute destr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:31 AM
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I think this is true within reason. I’ve definitely had this flipped around where someone is being abusive and then says that your reaction to their abuse is all your own fault because they can’t “make you” feel any way. “I didn’t force you to get upset when I cheated on you. You’re responsible for how that made you feel.” I absolutely accept that I can be responsible for how someone feels if I did something hurtful to them. I wouldn’t say, “I punched you in the face and you cried? Well that sou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:11 PM
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Same, girl. Exactly the same. And I had no idea how to respond at the time. I really thought, "maybe I'm the bad guy here and he's right?!" Thank God those days are behind me now. He also spent literally every waking moment on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:55 PM
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I feel like people are always saying "you attract people who are like you" to women. "Stop attracting shitty men," as if it's your fault they're attracted to you. The truth is that those people are attracted to you because you're lovely in some way (or because they do this to every woman, or some other reason that really doesn't matter). The problem is NOT you. That would be like blaming children for the behavior of pedophiles. "If only you were less child-like, he wouldn't be as attracted to yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:48 PM
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This killed me. He does it so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:01 PM
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We're with you, honey. You got this. Also, all of the applause for your incredible discipline with the gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:45 PM
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Please tell me he's an ex-husband now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:22 PM
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"sexual market value" *commences violent barfing*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:53 PM
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I wonder if we'll ever be able to completely get rid of the concept of something being "emasculating." There's not even an equivalent of it for women. No activities/preferences/whatever are "efeminating." Women don't feel "efeminated" when a man is better at cooking than she is. Why then do men feel "emasculated" when a woman is better at baseball or something else equally trivial and stupid? "This is emasculating" = "I identify so strongly with stereotypes of macho manhood that it deeply embarr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:12 PM
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Unfortunately, I've known plenty of narcissistic/misogynistic dudes who have done/still regularly take psychedelics. Wish it were a solution though. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:17 AM
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Wow, that's absolutely terrifying. On both counts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:26 PM
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Wait, just clarifying. Is that 1 out of 2200 women is a pedophile or 1 out of 22000 pedophiles is a woman? Because that first one seems a little too high?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:20 PM
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You are a hero for linking that pdf. Thank you so much. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:41 PM
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That's reassuring to hear, and I get it. We definitely need to protect ourselves and protect our hearts out there. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:50 PM
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This is the thing that kind of depresses me. Like, I know people will say "dating is a game," etc. But I'm just 100% not a person who sees things as a game. What is the point of manipulating someone into chasing me and never allowing myself to become emotionally invested? I don't want to do that to someone, and I don't want to do it to myself either. Then you just wind up with a person who is attracted to unavailability and will get bored if you start to care about them. I want a person who is h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:37 PM
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I love that the first commenter’s username is “thatsoundslikealie” Also, the “out of 10” rating scale is just so awful. Why are people still okay with using it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:27 AM
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Learn to be happy on your own, and never prioritize being in a relationship over your own happiness. Get to a point where you could walk away from any relationship and be okay on your own (because you genuinely never know what another person will do, and even if you’ve been with someone for years, there’s zero guarantee they won’t cheat, treat you badly, or leave you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:10 AM
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Hahahahahahahaha oh my god, that is so bad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:58 AM
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Has anyone attempted a rescue mission for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:00 PM
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My last relationship started when I was 25 and he was 36. He was really shady/tight-lipped about his past as well, but over the course of the 3-ish years we spent together, I slowly pieced together that he had: had an 8-year off-and-on relationship with a married woman (where "sometimes her husband knew and sometimes he didn't"); dated strippers; dated cam girls (not saying there is anything wrong with these girls, but he said his two "types" were "trashy girls" and "wholesome hippie types" like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:33 PM
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"Doesn't think it's right to talk about the past" and "dated some girls here and there"-- ooof, this all screams red flag to me. Sounds like he's got something to hide. Normal people wouldn't dodge basic questions or give as little info as possible about their pasts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:33 PM
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Oh my God, I'm so sorry they did those things to you. What horrifically awful human beings...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:34 PM
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You are so kind. Thank you. I wish the same for you! I'm so glad you've realized what you're worth, and hope you never forget! Sending all the good internet vibes your way, girl. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:55 AM
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Thanks for your kind words! Life is definitely much more peaceful without him, and I'm grateful for that. Still not fully healed from that whole experience though. Wish I would have paid attention to red flags and gotten out before I wound up broken. But trying to take it one day at a time and learn to trust people who earn that trust, instead of naively thinking everyone has good intentions. It's a hard lesson to take on board!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:25 PM
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I agree that volunteer/non-profit work is likely a good sign, but will say that my narcissistic ex (who cheated on me with a married woman) told me he used to volunteer at a soup kitchen in his hometown as a way to "meet women." So, just be wary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:45 PM
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15 people upvoted this. 15 different people. I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:42 PM
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Thank you for sharing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:25 PM
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This is the most upsetting thing I've seen in a good while...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:15 PM
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It also includes respecting women you ARE attracted to. So many men can't even do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:47 PM
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YES to this! I feel like this person is me, and I honestly just want a partner who is similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:35 PM
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Oh look! It's me in my last relationship! Oh man ...Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:09 PM
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I think it is one. Looks like this is the headline from an Onion article or something similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:08 PM
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JUST AMEN TO THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:58 PM
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You are absolutely right on all counts! Very good post. My ex demonstrated 0/3, and I desperately wish I had paid attention. Oof. Would have saved me a lot of heartache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:26 PM
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You are hitting him with quality conversation and humor and he is giving you goose eggs. (Your side of the convo is legit hilarious)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:08 PM
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This shift in mindset has been SO. HARD. I definitely have spent most of my life believing that unconditional love was the ultimate good and ultimate goal. But then I got very badly burned by a partner who took advantage of it and didn't return it (or even just give the most basic respect). Learning that this philosophy that ran most of my life DOES NOT apply in romantic relationships has been...upsetting, honestly. I'm very interested in Buddhist philosophy and its teachings on forgiveness, com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:31 AM
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Ew, my ex used to make this joke and thought it was hilarious. His version was, “You want a job planting tulips?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:53 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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