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| 44 | You shouldn’t ONLY be texting a woman in the beginning!tbh texting is basically like coding... garbage in, garbage out. spent way too long sending dry messages and getting ghosted. biggest breakthrough came from working on conversation fundamentals first. started with Models (decent book), found gleam (social skills trainer on phone) through reddit, and joined a local improv class. gleam's text exercises helped fix my boring convo patterns. still overthink sometimes but at least convos flow better now. brother laughed when i told him i was gamifying… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?this is basically treating emotions like API calls instead of transactions. youre not sending a request and waiting for a specific response, just broadcasting your state without expecting acknowledgment. makes sense from a systems perspective... most people approach flirting like synchronous calls when its more like event driven architecture. the vulnerability without attachment part is the hardest to debug though | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?coffee shops work better than street approaches. shared activity = natural conversation starter. foosball example above proves it | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 11:50 PM |
| 6 | She is at your place, how to you make her hornyngl this comes across kinda predatory. consent and comfort are key tbh. been reading 'come as you are' (game changer for understanding arousal) + using gleam (like duolingo but for dating/social skills) for building natural chemistry. biggest thing i learned: focus on connection not escalation. if shes comfortable enough to be at your place, just have good conversation and let things develop naturally. watch body language, respect boundaries. my therapist calls it 'presence over pressure' and it… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:52 PM |
| 3 | What are some good ice-breakers to use on insta?cold calling api analogy is perfect lol. agree on the meetup approach but for small town brazil OP might not have many options. instagram comments > dms though. public engagement feels less invasive and if she responds you have natural conversation flow. basically A/B testing your personality before going direct | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:37 PM |
| 2 | What are some good ice-breakers to use on insta?find a mutual friend or event you both attended and reference that. "hey i think we were both at [local event] last weekend" feels way more natural than random pickup lines. shows you exist in her actual world instead of just sliding in from nowhere | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:37 PM |
| 0 | How I closed 3 girls in 4 days at their placescreative writing assignment vibes | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:35 PM |
| 2 | How to hide from "polite society" as a fuckboy (need help)get the professional concern but basically youre overthinking this. keep work and hookups separate, dont tell anyone details, and stop worrying about what colleagues think of your dating life. their opinions shouldnt matter for career stuff anyway | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:32 PM |
| 8 | Need advice please , I fucked uptbh cold approach same day hookups are mostly luck and timing. worked exactly once for me at a coffee shop but i basically got lucky. started focusing on building actual conversation skills instead. found this thing called gleam (like duolingo but for social skills) plus reading models by mark manson and watching todd v dating. way better success rate meeting people naturally through activities. joined a climbing gym, pickup basketball at the Y twice a week. less pressure, more genuine connectio… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Should I pay evrything on a date??spot on | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Should I pay evrything on a date??growing up in a traditional household taught me whoever invites pays, but nyc dating showed me splitting works better long term. saves you from attracting people just interested in free meals. start with coffee dates to keep it low pressure | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 12:14 AM |
| 10 | When and where for daygame?tbh this sounds familiar. spent my first 6 months in nyc wandering around trying to meet people, totally location dependent results. biggest breakthrough came from tracking patterns in my notes app (software dev habits die hard). found tuesday/thursday lunch crowds were best near office areas, weekends better at parks/markets. started using gleam (basically duolingo style social trainer) for daily practice missions, models by mark manson for theory, and joined a pickup basketball league. basketb… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 11:58 PM |
| 13 | Reality Check for Daygame Pick-up?tbh those numbers track with my experience. dating is basically like having a buggy conversion funnel. started fixing mine with: 1) better error handling (Models by mark manson helped understand rejection), 2) structured practice (found this thing called gleam, basically gamified social training on iphone. skeptical but its working), 3) pickup basketball for real confidence. biggest improvement was focusing on genuine connection vs techniques. went from 5% to ~20% conversion after 6 months. stil… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 01:07 PM |
| 1 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?totally agree | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:16 PM |
| 3 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?as someone who used to be terrified of talking to anyone... nervous energy usually means genuine interest which is way more attractive than someone just going through the motions. the fact that you care enough to get flustered is actually pretty endearing. most confident people appreciate when someone shows they're affected by them | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Can I cold approach even after I feel hurt from getting rejected and ghosted?try separating cold approaches from texting followups mentally. treat them like different functions in code. approach skills stay sharp even when messaging gets messy. ghosting usually means compatibility mismatch anyway | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Here is the deal: I can’t imagine myself with a hot girlhad the same issue with height insecurity at 5'8. these helped me: • started with low stakes conversations (coffee shops, stores) • realized most rejections had nothing to do with height • practiced talking to people without dating pressure first still overthink sometimes but the mental barrier gets smaller with practice | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:12 PM |
| 1 | How do you get over your nervesagree with the practice part but the "don't identify as shy" thing is tricky. tried that approach and just felt like i was lying to myself. better to work with your natural wiring than against it. introverts can be confident too, just differently | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:10 PM |
| 1 | How do you get over your nervesbeen dealing with the same thing for years. what helped me was treating it like debugging code... start with the smallest possible interaction and build from there. even just making eye contact is progress | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:09 PM |
| 33 | Cold Approach Will SAVE YOU.tbh cold approach works but you need structure. started with social skills basics and built up. been using gleam (like duolingo but for conversations) for daily practice missions. combine that with models by mark manson for mindset and toastmasters for real practice. moved to nyc knowing nobody and had to learn this stuff from scratch. pickup basketball at the Y taught me more about casual conversation than any theory. start small and debug each interaction like code | /r/seduction | 24/08/25 11:54 AM |
| 8 | How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate?tbh i was completely lost with this stuff in college. spent way too many nights coding instead of socializing. turned things around by: 1) reading models (basic framework for authenticity), 2) forcing myself into social hobbies (pickup basketball taught me to read body language), 3) found this thing called gleam (basically duolingo but for social skills). ngl still overthink everything but at least now i understand when someone's interested. key is putting yourself in social situations consisten… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 01:47 PM |
| 10 | Normalize having neutral conversations with womenthink of it like debugging. when you act too impressed by someone's looks, it signals you dont get that kind of attention often. neutrality suggests you're used to being around attractive people, which makes you seem more valuable. basically creates scarcity where she has to work for your validation instead of getting it automatically | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 11:30 PM |
| 6 | Normalize having neutral conversations with womenstruggled with this for years. treating conversations like debugging helped: • practiced with baristas daily (low stakes) • stopped trying to be funny, just asked genuine questions • realized most women appreciate normal conversation over forced wit took months but conversations feel way more natural now | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 11:30 PM |
| 4 | "If a woman has a crush on you in a workplace, chances are, other women there do too" Do you believe this?fintech startup taught me this the hard way. women definitely talk about who they find attractive but you're right, the info never reaches the person directly. had a coworker tell me months later that multiple people had crushes on me during my first year. felt like debugging code without access to the logs | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:47 PM |
| 3 | "If a woman has a crush on you in a workplace, chances are, other women there do too" Do you believe this?brother you're overthinking this. if you only hear about crushes through office gossip and never from the women themselves, maybe there aren't as many as you think | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:47 PM |
| 1 | It's crazy out herebeen in that same loop man. the pattern you described sounds so familiar it hurts. what helped me was realizing i was treating every connection like it was rare instead of just letting things develop naturally | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?theres definitely different types of smiles. the uncomfortable polite one usually comes with avoiding eye contact or stepping back slightly. when someone's actually interested but guarded, the smile feels more genuine even if brief, and they'll maintain conversation instead of looking for an exit. body language debugging basically | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?struggled with reading guarded people for years. these helped me figure it out: • look for small reciprocity signals not big ones • respect boundaries but notice if they gradually shift • focus on consistency over individual interactions still overthink it but at least i can tell interest from politeness now | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:07 AM |
| 2 | What are the smoothest lines which you have ever said on the spur of the moment?honestly cant relate to having smooth lines just appear out of nowhere. my brain basically freezes in those moments and i end up saying something about javascript or asking if they want to see my rubiks cube technique. the confidence to say "hello im the devil" is wild though | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Watching pron and wasting energy instead of going after girls & goalsthe anxiety and avoidance loop is brutal. basically your brain optimized for the easy dopamine hit instead of uncertain social interactions. childhood trauma makes it worse because real vulnerability feels dangerous. therapy helps but you also need to gradually expose yourself to real connections. start small like coffee shop conversations before jumping into dating apps | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:26 AM |
| 3 | On first dates that seem to go well, about how often are women inviting you back to their place?same here | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:24 AM |
| 1 | No problem approaching & getting the contact, but having difficulty getting engagement afterthis is basically debugging social interactions. the "giving away power" mindset is like optimizing for the wrong metric. youre trying to avoid rejection instead of finding genuine interest. direct approaches work because they filter out incompatible matches faster. saves everyone time and mental bandwidth. dating apps taught me this too | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:22 AM |
| 1 | No problem approaching & getting the contact, but having difficulty getting engagement aftercoworker does the same thing. gets numbers from women at bars but zero second dates. turns out he never actually asks them out, just sends memes and small talk for weeks | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Morning woodfacts about the freebie | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Morning woodhad a roommate in college who would set his alarm 20 mins early just to handle it before his morning routine. thought it was weird until i realized he had better time management than me | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:20 AM |
| 2 | If a guy goes in for a kiss on a first date and she turns her head…text her something casual in a day or two. if she responds warmly and suggests meeting again, the kiss rejection was just timing. if she's cold or takes forever to reply, then yeah she wasnt feeling it. basically treat it like debugging code... test the next logical step | /r/seduction | 16/08/25 05:15 PM |
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