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I definitely understand why you're getting caught in the semantics here. I do as well, and walking around in my day-to-day life in my day-to-day interactions with my partner, do not think of us as having an overt C/FM dynamic - nor would I want to. In certain, subtle ways, we do, though, and it brings a nourishing energy to our interactions even when external circumstances are stressful. I'll try to elaborate: Growing up in conservative Christianity, I must've heard that bible verse where man is…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/16 04:16 PM
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I typically don't have the impulse, because none of my routines involve going to places where I'm exposed to tons of consumer goods, I.e. Target. Because I've been there, done that (for example, had the massive wardrobe of Target clearance items that were all "meh"), a piece of clothing is no longer tempting unless it's high quality and exemplifies my style especially well. If it is truly tempting, AND I have the money for it, it doesn't get to come into my life unless one other thing goes out. …
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 07:55 PM
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This is an incredibly well presented intro to decluttering!! Thanks for writing it. I'm a bit late to comment here, but I thought I'd out myself as an actual minimalist here. No shopping, one item in, one item out, tiny living space, the real deal. Ask me anything? I know my goals and standards are going to be different from the average Westerner's, but I'm more than happy to share my perspective on space, possessions, mental freedom, and so on.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 07:34 PM
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You can doooooo eeeet! I thought the books would be the one thing that I couldn't let go of, until I realized that 100% of my (frequent) reading material over the past year was from the library. Out of 500 books, I'm keeping...6? But then I'm moving into a 250 sq. ft. home soon, so it's rather necessary. I do feel free as a bird!! Almost physically lighter the more stuff goes ❤️
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 07:30 PM
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Haven't we all?! All her posts are such good reminders...they typically have different "problems" at the beginning but the solutions are fittingly the same.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 07:01 PM
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Since I don't know you, I can only tell you what I would do in the circumstances. The information I'm going off of is here: The 1br is more expensive, but clearly it's within your capabilities since you're posting it as an option. Your boyfriend will feel more at home relaxing at your apartment, if there is no roommate. He would likely not ask you to choose this option, but it does benefit him in some tangible way. You say you get lonely on Friday nights if no one is there, which means you are p…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 10:30 PM
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Thank you for the all-too-timely reminder! I've experienced before in trying circumstances that a creating-your-own-reality level of positivity makes the difference between "I can't do it" and "What, you mean this sounds difficult to you?". Off the top of my head, even without using positive thinking, I can say that this kind of using your body and eschewing modern comforts to some degree makes you feel far more alive, in a crucial way.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 03:34 PM
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I love your story! You sound like you've had some adventures yourself :) Our house is very small, so that's very fortunate when it comes to both labor and materials. 100% of labor is me and my man! If I'm honest, it's almost ALREADY camp-able. It has 100% of framing complete, plywood, and some siding. The goal by the time we move in is to have insulated and interior-finished walls, and doors. Some windows if we're lucky. the land that it's on belongs to this awesome old hippie dude, who for what…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 04:00 AM
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Honestly I'm just super emo because of tiredness XD perhaps there isn't any grand action plan I can launch; I really want to look back and say that I've done myself proud. Because I know I can. It's a turning point in our lives and I want to be an asset to my man, not an irritation. You are right. The payoff is worth it.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/16 08:28 PM
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Hello hello! Welcome back and thank you for sharing so vulnerably and honestly. It was a pleasure to read and I think I grew a bit just from reading it, lol You don't know me because I'm queen of the lurkers, but I've been 'round and reading everything for at least six months, and I always loved to read your posts. I do remember that you literally never once complained or bitched about your HB while you had him, even with some incompatibilities in place that made things quite emotionally difficu…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 02:23 AM
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Wait...it exhausts itself? That happens? Lol
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:25 PM
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Glad I could hopefully be helpful...the one thing that I feel therapy could be helpful with is as kind of an external "accountability partner." And damned if it isn't a process. I wanted to add one other thing; no matter how hard you yearn for total awareness and more control over your outbursts, rewiring yourself is very much a back and forth process where you slip frequently and attain many small victories. It's a noble thing to undertake, but remember that your man is worn out at this point a…
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:23 PM
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<3 thank you. For what it's worth I feel very mentally healthy and quite happy most of the time now. It gets better and better.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:16 PM
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Hey there - I think a lot of ladies here could tell you "horrible childhood" stories. I know I could. It involves a religious cult, rape, never sleeping more than 4 hours a night as a child because I was too scared...I mean shit went DOWN. And it's never okay. Horrible childhoods are horrible, straight up. The other ladies are right, though, in that at a certain point the behaviors and coping mechanisms you learned then become YOUR responsibility, as you enter adulthood. It seems that you are mo…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 03:39 PM
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Ooof. I've considered writing a book on this because it seems so improbable, but here's the short version: I was a 25-year-old virgin in a religious cult, depressed and crying pretty much every day, until a strong intuition told me to move to the neighboring state as soon as possible. I did so, went with two suitcases two weeks later against the wishes of the religious leadership, and was almost instantly doing 95% better. My third day at my new job, my man walked in after having not been to tha…
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 03:23 PM
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I think the 'wait a decade and elope' plan will be what happens with us too, so nice to see it represented here!
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 03:19 PM
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I have flowers on the back of my phone. Pink flowers. (I actually do) This so depends on the man...I can initiate teasing and flirting over text but it will very likely to go unanswered or receive a generic answer. We're more of a "kiss a passionate goodbye in the morning and leave it be until evening" couple, which works because we're busy and introverts. We both hate talking on the phone and keep phone calls to mandatory information in short form. Yeah the only way "quality women" text is to p…
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 03:09 PM
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Coming back at him in kind feels better to me, and doesn't devolve the interaction into something that warrants more heaviness than was intended.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 08:26 PM
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The way you've explained it here I totally get; when I read the chapter in FW I was like, "You've gotta be joking! Acting so so cutesy and like a pissed-off toddler would NOT get me anywhere with my man." But then I realize I do things like this all the time, but in our vernacular. One of his favorite movies is "Meet the Fockers," and in a moment where his brutal honesty, teasing, and pinching went too far, I looked at him solemnly like the baby little Jack and said. "Asss ....oooole." Point tak…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 08:25 PM
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Filed away in my mind to use as soon as possible. ;)
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 08:22 PM
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It's like how multi-tasking actually doesn't exist...we're just switching very rapidly between one task and the other, but we're only thinking about one at a time. So maybe he's a confidant at one moment, a business partner at another, and your delicious sexy lover at a third. I can certainly see this being true for my relationship!
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 11:46 PM
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I don't have any tips at this point, but I'm begging for help! I have very thick, straight golden-colored hair, which I regularly get complimented on (straight as in almost 1A straight - Native blood), but have been having the hardest time keeping it healthy enough to go long in the very dry climate I moved to 5 years ago. This was never an issue in my teen years in a moist climate...just used Herbal Essences, blow-dried, and it looked amazing with no split ends every day. Now? A couple inches p…
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 05:42 PM
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I...I think we did. I feel so validated now, lol! And don't get me wrong either; I can and will cook whenever practical or needed, when my partner worked 100 hours/week for a five-month stint, I did it multiple times a day. Sometimes even without griping to myself. There were a couple times where I found the zen in it, but boy am I grateful that's over. Those "recipes" threads almost baffle me, and there was a "cooker vs cleaner" post a while back that equated love of cooking to warmth and love …
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 07:35 PM
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All right, yay! Not too often we're invited to break the code of "don't ruffle anyone's feathers" and I'm quite excited to do so. I'm an extreme liberal who wants to throw up in her mouth a little at the HAES, anti-fat-shaming, "triggering" movement in general. Baby boomers are the reason this country is going to shit. Entitlement is the name of the game, and boy they ain't gonna stop playing. Millennials are actually a harder-working, more creative generation as a whole. I hate all holidays. So…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 03:36 PM
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Probably quite a lot! Humans can consciously stop mate-seeking behavior but we never stop being curious. Curiosity does not equal betrayal, or infidelity, or anything else, though. I agree with some of the others that a very secure, nonchalant, throw-it-into-casual-conversation question is the best way to go. I have asked these questions and been asked them and it never turns negative; it's either a platform to share a funny story or share more about where your mind is.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 02:38 PM
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looking at different profiles, usually really awful ones, on dating sites to talk about them. I love stuff like this! Now to get sucked into the link...
/r/RedPillWives28/06/16 07:17 PM
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Hmmm....my partner and I have looked at dating sites and profiles together several times in our relationship as a form of "people-watching" and critiquing, and as a way to find out more about each other's perception of the opposite sex. All in good faith. I have also done the same a couple times on my own, knowing he doesn't mind. The feeling I came away with is, "Whew! Glad I don't have to sort through all THAT." To be clear, I never interacted with anyone on these sites or had a single photo o…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/16 07:16 PM
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Then better he not know. ;) Whatever gets us better marriages! He can reap the benefits without having to wade through the ideology.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 04:27 PM
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Hahaha, no, this hasn't happened to me but I am in the habit of slamming the laptop shut frequently when I hear his car pull up. Another go-to is having a tab of something else open so you can just switch to that one when he walks in view of your computer. My guy isn't in tune with tech enough to scan my tabs or go through anything. Just curious, did he say specifically why he was shocked, or was it all the pink? ;) My man did happen upon one of The Feminine Woman's posts that I left up, a lot o…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 04:11 PM
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Pretty much no one will ever USE this skill unless they're Neil Caffrey from White Collar, but it's damn fun regardless :) It's kind of something I picked up naturally starting from age 8 or so...this has always been my nerd jam. But if you wish to walk around proclaiming things in thousand-year-old English and confusing everyone, might I suggest this?
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 04:01 PM
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The renaissance faire booth would be fun!!! I love the idea of an Etsy store but I worked out what I'd be able to charge versus time it would take to produce each piece, and I would net a whopping $2.25 an hour! XD
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 03:22 PM
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Btw I suck at mobile formatting, sorry that link is just dangling there!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 04:10 PM
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I've always been into calligraphy off and on...here is what I've been working on most recently! I copied out a thousand-year-old English manuscript, translating a lot of it as I went (at least my degree was good for something) https://imgur.com/a/b15Mz
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 04:09 PM
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way too many almonds! Is there such a thing? :)
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 11:57 PM
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Because every time we override the hamster/survival instincts and choose to communicate or act in a way that doesn't come naturally, we are overcoming the largest and oldest portion of our brains with the more recently developed cerebral cortex, which guides higher thought and gives us the ability not to act on instinct. I mean, not that hamstering is always an instinctual function, but I feel that hamstering happens so often biologically because we evolved both to treat every abnormality as a t…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 06:15 PM
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Thank you! :) What have you done to combat your lurking tendencies? I always start off with intentions to post/comment frequently, and then find it overwhelming and fall into lurkerhood. This mirrors my real life, lol
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 05:35 PM
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This is actually the first stand-up I've laughed at in...like...ever FLAAAAHBREAD And the Pinterest = Call of Duty DYING
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 12:42 AM
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She does have Asperger's; that could account for the "off" tone. I'm not familiar enough with Aspies to know how they're different linguistically. To OP: As a former high school Geek Princess (TM), and the only girl in the chess club and math team, I got tons of beta orbiters in the vein described, as well. I was both too socially inept and too dependent on the worshipful attention to give 'em the boot. College was spent getting mentally healthier. RPW advocates meeting and marrying young, which…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 12:34 AM
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Thank you for all the clarification; both of you! This: LLL sounds like the man is low or even equal in dominance to her. But this isn't true, it just means the man is low in dominance on an alpha-beta trait scale. and this: naturally LL women would grow to see themselves as LH after changing behaviors and allowing the man to display more dominance in function of the relationship were the most helpful in clarifying. The last point does need its own post! :) I believe that some confusion may be a…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/16 03:44 AM
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Ah, makes perfect sense. Thanks for clarifying! along with never having to make the argument that "we aren't slaves/brainless" etc. That stuff is maddening; it's not even a proper debate. It's worse than what it's arguing against.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 03:03 PM
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Thanks for sharing. :) And I'll check that other comment out. Not to verge into TMI on my own belief system (or lack thereof), once religion was out the door and the anger phase was over, I began obsessively reading anything and everything on any paranormal phenomenon/metaphysics and seeing what empirical evidence was out there for each. Results inconclusive but very intriguing. :) I think it's because women take their value from connection and don't necessarily identify as closely even with ide…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 03:01 PM
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I think the connection between evolutionary biology and RPW is clear at least on a surface level...explanations for certain selfish tendencies and self-preservation techniques as seen through the lens of millions of years of natural selection. :) It is actually pretty RP, at its core. I agree that the prevailing public atheism is inflammatory, and honestly, tiring. after looking into the matter more closely, I now believe there's not only zero evidence for it, but there's tremendous evidence aga…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 02:51 PM
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Thanks for the elaboration! I love these posts. I'm with /u/littleteafox in that my relationship occasionally teeters between LLL/HLH. There are harmonious times where he's feeling open and kind and I need nothing more than that, quite a lot of those times, and then I would definitely say it's LLL. Then there are other times, in the past (I'm almost totally cured!! lol), when I've pushed him to beta up and get me flowers/marry me/whatever else, and man does the asshole alpha come out at those ti…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 02:36 PM
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Hey ladies! Since I'm a classic lurker and likely will be for life (INFJ represent!), this is more of a token "hello" than anything, but: 1) Ermm....crap. I read and digest so many things that make perfect sense to me that it's really hard to distill it down to one piece of advice. So...don't overthink? Feel into the sensations of your body and distract that crazy brain from running its monologue. 2) Sunny Illinois...oh gosh, I'm picturing a revealing gingham shirt and blonde pigtails here. ;) 3…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 08:51 PM
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I loved The Greatest Show on Earth! It was fairly academic in places for even a determined lay-reader, which is about what you've described The Selfish Gene to be as well. I'll have to check it out; looking forward to that. :) Also read God Is Not Great; absolutely loved Hitchens's fire and verve. I agreed with every word he said and likely still do, but since I'm well out of my post-religion anger phase, I no longer seek out as much humanist reading as I used to.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 08:44 PM
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Love me some Dawkins! I actually haven't read The Selfish Gene, although I've read The Greatest Show on Earth, The God Delusion, and a couple shorter ones. I think that for people who are not staunch atheists or in general people who totally agree with Dawkins, his older work is significantly more palatable. Less polemic. ;) Despite being an atheist, I've actually stopped following his new books/films because I absolutely hate his and other secular leaders' closed-off and strictly materialist wo…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 07:56 PM
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I totally agree with all of that! :) The part that irritates me about video porn is that the women are endlessly available for whatever and endlessly orgasmic...i.e. they seem to have no clitoris and can come by penetration only in a matter of...however long is convenient for the man. With an unaware or very young male partner, I think this could distort their perception of female sexuality, to the detriment of their women. In fact, there are a growing number of websites dedicated to the fact th…
/r/RedPillWives18/05/16 02:21 PM
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My partner and I both have no issue with porn! I would sure as heck have an issue if I sensed that the endlessly willing and available porn ladies were replacing me or affecting his passion for me, but it's quite the opposite. Like many ladies I don't have the same visual cortex/sexuality connection that men do. If I view videos or photos, it's like, oooooh, that guy's hot but that's about it. Erotic literature is much more my style. However, because my man's sex drive is somewhat higher than mi…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 08:56 PM
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Oh gosh, first of all HUGS. Almost all of this post could have been written by me, as my partner and I are going through a similar crazy-stressful time. He has been at 100 hours/week (and that's not my hamster; we sat down and figured out that it is literally 100 hours) for four-and-a-half months now, with a tentative ending sometime in two weeks but a lot of the outcome (financially speaking) still up in the air. I get this kind of hamstering; really, I do. It's hard to dismiss all of your feel…
/r/RedPillWives08/05/16 06:26 PM
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Do something crafty and soothing: calligraphy or jewelry-making - for an hour Shower with partner Take supplements and drink water - I love L-Theanine and Magnesium. I have borderline thyroid issues so keeping serotonin high and adrenals healthy is a must for me! Get into PJs and watch nature documentaries while rubbing each other's feet/shoulders Because we both have insane work schedules right now, one or both of us passes out in front of TV When episode ends or we jolt awake, get up Brush tee…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 08:59 PM
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Nope! Not at all. ;) I got this too, but throw in a solid dash of millennial ennui and you have someone who tends to plug their ears and go "la la la" and run off to read some old books every time politics is mentioned.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 08:51 PM
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I usually just lurk, but just popping in to say that this is SO common! It's a reflex; it was never intended as disrespect and I never backseat-drive in other ways but it always pisses him off so much. I have a subcompact car and it's nothing short of nauseating being in the passenger seat with an aggressive driver. Grabbing the "oh-shit" handle has the same effect (irritating him), so now I just press my feet tightly against the floor and take a deeeeeeep breath. Edit: for gasp illustration ;)
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 12:07 AM
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"That thing on your face, I hope it flies away to be with its people" May not have gotten results, but this is funny as hell
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 03:02 AM
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This is a great response. Thanks. Everything is as you say. I do have faith in his ability, so there's that. Not plying him with sympathy/offering massages every day/spending too much time standing around in case he needs me is actually what will keep ME sane, and make the entire partnership stronger as a result. Say you were in his situation - obviously you need to own your emotions, but would it be a bolstering force to have your partner enjoying life, fully engaging in her activities, thrivin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:58 AM
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incredulous that people wanted to pay their bill with a large bag of wild-collected magic mushrooms HA! That's great. Haven't experienced this, but develop their own scrip economy during the off-season have experienced this :) Neither one of us has the temperament to live in a large and fast-paced city, and I know that as a result it will take longer and require more ingenuity to make things work for us financially. He knows that too and will voice it...he just has this image of his wealthy pare…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:54 AM
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does it operate as a sort of apprentice system? Not necessarily. Regardless, he is very skilled...in fact, he's one of the three guys in town people hire if they need stellar work that most people couldn't do properly. There is no one in our area making more than he is in this field. That's part of the depression. He knows he's hit the glass ceiling and is now trying to find something that works with his personality that he can change careers to at 38.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:17 AM
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He's chronically self-employed! Man is allergic to traditional employment. He has mentioned that he knows he's not charging enough, but the local market has rejected the prices he needs to make a good living. A while back he toyed with his rates and project bids, seeing at which point he began losing many of them. He should read the book "How I Raised Myself From Failure To Success Through Selling" by Frank Bettger. This book will automatically help him generate ideas of how to make $80K with no…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:15 AM
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Agreed! I would likely have done this two years ago and pissed him off.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:04 AM
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I do this on a limited basis, but without the explicit goal to MAKE him be positive, dammit! He seems to have no issue making isolated positive statements and agreeing with my own (being grateful for getting to soak in the hot tub, getting delicious food, having each other at least, whatever), but it's an overall hopelessness related to his life trajectory that's hard to be around. Yesterday I went into the garage for about an hour, and since he's in a part of the project with no power tools, ju…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 02:03 AM
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"You're very smart and I Know you'll find a way to reach your goals however/wherever that might be. I will follow you to the ends of the earth so long as you love me." I love this and it's actually right down my alley to make such statements. We've both expressed our desire many times to find an area that isn't a big city (which we hate) or bland and Midwestern (which we also hate - picky, I know) but also more economically vibrant than our current area, which is quite vibrant for its massive si…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 01:59 AM
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Thank you for sharing this! She's an inspiration indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 08:24 PM
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This probably isn't a proper RP answer, but I definitely think this is possible. I have acquired a masculine man who totally trusts and loves me, and who would never say about me "AWALT." Obviously things aren't perfect in my relationship, as they aren't in any, but I think there exist women around whom you could let down your guard utterly over a period of time. I know my own heart, and if there exist hypergamous instincts, they've been severely dampened my entire life. Not once have they ever …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 05:51 PM
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I don't have any specific advice for you, but just to offer myself up as a similar example. I was a virgin until almost-26, when I met my current partner. Neither of us is religious. Nonetheless, he had only had sex with his ex-wife and gotten to third base with one other woman, and I had rounded the corner of 2nd base with only two guys (neither casual). He was slightly surprised to find out I was a virgin, but he esteemed me very highly as a result. That is part of the reason that I have his t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 08:46 PM
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I grew up in a culture where a lady never tells her age or weight, but I am shy about neither. Perhaps because I did some modeling in my earlier 20s, and it was only a matter of business then! My mother still jokes that she's turning 29 every birthday, but her credibility is wearing thin since even I won't be 29 much longer ;) Personally, I have actually been telling people I'm older than I am when they ask, but not as an intentional deception. My life hasn't been a lot of fun overall, but the i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 08:32 PM
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As much as it ever can...at any rate, it's all we can do. :) Obviously he may not morph into your totally ideal man, but it's up to you to create your own happiness even then. Good luck!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/16 01:07 AM
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/u/always-be-closing's advice is great from a male perspective. Ass-slapping does indeed get results ;) Now, not to be facetious...I thought I'd direct you towards Evan Marc Katz's e-book "Why He Disappeared." It will answer the title question for relationships of varying lengths, but it will also go into detail from a confident man's perspective on what he wants, what makes him feel good, etc. The gist is that men love and adore women for how women make them feel, and the fine print is how to a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 09:24 PM
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I second EMK...his e-book "Why He Disappeared" (there is a section dedicated specially to LTRs) is the reason I'm still with my man today. Most of what he writes revolves around the "don't be a bitch; learn to defer; set healthy boundaries; be kind" tenets but is couched in far more palatable terms than almost all of TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 09:06 PM
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I just wanna empathize. I haven't figured it out, either. I'm an introverted loner (not surly loner, just someone who really thrives on tons of alone time in nature) and have won a ton of good acquaintances by being friendly, open, kind, etc. My appearance is pretty great and so is my manner, and complimenting people, forging a superficial connection, etc. has never been a problem. But almost none of these have turned into friends, much less close friends. One has, but she's also a loner. When w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 02:03 AM
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Thanks! :D Taking care of our special needs can be a pain, but the good health reaped from it is so worth it...
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 08:24 PM
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Okay, I'll try this: The Good: *Have come out the other side on an intense dietary cleanse I'm doing (have Celiac disease, thyroid issues, fun stuff!!). The goal is to feel like a glowingly healthy 30-year-old woman, not an exhausted ill mess with low vitality. Still two more weeks to go on the low-starch, no-sugar cleanse, but am beginning to feel very clear, steady, and wonderful. Have lost 10 lbs. I didn't need to as an added bonus. *As a result of aforementioned cleanse, mood is now quite hi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 08:41 PM
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Yes, that's correct. Although I hesitated to offer it as advice unless OP is 100% sure she has no moral objections to termination.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 05:20 AM
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Like you, I'm really anti-pharmaceuticals, and my partner and I use the pull-out method. if you take your basal body temperature religiously, AND are stricter than what they tell you (we ONLY use days that I am actively bleeding as "safe" days for him to ejaculate inside me...I know this grosses out a lot of people, but works for us) to be...AND you vet your man pretty strictly on whether he can actually pull out in time, whether he can tell if he's going to have pre-cum... THEN I would say that…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 11:02 PM
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Yeah, exactly the same here! I'm not bad at domestic matters at all, but the whole "cook more, clean more, wear a frilly apron!" advice often makes me break out in hives because of a super religious upbringing that certainly did not aid in natural feminine radiance!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 06:33 PM
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<3<3<3 I'll keep it short, if only for the reason that I could go on...and on...and on. 1) Absolute personal integrity 2) Intense passion and tenderness 3) The most intelligent person I've ever met. Sees so much and flouts it so much less than most. 4) We like to think outside the box an equal amount...I always thought I'd be alone until I met him, because of this. 5) Physically, think Harrison Ford meets John Krasinski...I'M NOT KIDDING. I almost walked into a wall and turned beet red when I fi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 01:05 AM
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The Feminine Woman is an Australian woman who probably hasn't heard of RPW, but her ideas all float around understanding masculine men and dealing with your emotions/increasing natural radiance as a feminine woman. The writing isn't always eloquent, but she writes straight from the heart and this is why I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 12:52 AM
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Hmmm...let me check.... Nope, 95% increase in "I love yous," and general joy. Dammit!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 12:31 AM
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Ah, I'll look into the concept of prebiotics more. :) This may help with staving off the digestive issues with me, and maybe keep me from having to do more intense detoxes to get back on the health wagon. Your family probably jokes about you having a butter tooth instead of a sweet tooth...if a GF brownie and a pile of buttery brussels were side by side I'd pick the sprouts every time!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 04:12 PM
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I dunno, with what you've written this guy is kind of irritating me. As someone who suffers similarly if she eats the diet described, it's like, what value do you put on your health? You crave what you eat. He won't eat veggies, so he doesn't let himself crave them and how they make him feel. He has to get outside his comfort zone long enough to feel a difference, and then he'll be hooked. If he goes on a 10-day detox where he eats meat, vegetables, fats, some grains like sprouted brown rice or …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 03:56 PM
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Yes, yes, yes!! I suffer from autoimmune conditions (Celiac disease, and linked leaky gut & hypothyroidism), and a really good bottle of probiotics (think of the "Arrive Alive" $45 bottle) and an organic meat + veggies low-starch diet for a month makes me feel amazing!! The veggies can totally have tons of organic butter + sea salt with them. Roasted brussels sprouts with the above almost taste like french fries, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 03:49 PM
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And seriously, inbox me if you need to hamster your face off. Don't do it to him. I speak fluent hamsterese.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 09:26 PM
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Have had this; upkeep was indeed atrocious and turned into dishwater pink in no time. Took several years to undo the damage!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 09:01 PM
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<3 Just a woman who knows what it feels like.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 08:56 PM
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You just helped me figure this out, too :) Do it like your job depends on it, lol
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 12:57 AM
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Oh, honey. (Don't read that in a condescending Southern drawl; just in the voice of someone who wants to give you a hug.) I deeply empathize with you, especially since the flavor of your self-destruction seems almost totally identical to my own. I'm a bit further down the road, but damned if I don't have to check my own habits so frequently, still. If we've also chosen almost identical men (not likely but...possible?), and if you and your man have shared a very strong connection that you've mana…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 12:52 AM
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I second this :) As someone whose natural sleep cycle is 12AM - 8AM, if I get up any earlier my functionality, mental clarity, mood, sex drive...EVERYTHING is impacted. My partner would rather have a high-functioning partner that didn't necessarily get up with him than a pissy partner who did. Also remember that SELF-CARE is a big part of the Surrendered Wife! If self-care to you is letting yourself get the sleep you need and taking care of your man in other ways, DO IT. That being said, here's …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 12:26 AM
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Your advice is RPW down the line, but not universal in my experience. We're liberal atheists and my man is from SoCal, so he curses about as much as he breathes. He explicitly thinks it's sexy when I wield a good "fuck" like I mean it. Certainly doesn't apply to all RP men, but certainly doesn't apply to none.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 10:11 PM
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I feel like specific types of clinging are subconsciously designed to push men away. Think about this, and think of why it might be true for you. Source: one of my own bad habits
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 05:02 PM
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Awesome; this fills in a lot of gaps in my mind. As a woman in an HLH relationship who feels that she and her partner would like something more in the HHH ballpark (he's just a force of nature, not explicitly trying to dominate, and he'd like a bit more healthy push-back), a lot of advice to submit more, be sweeter, do more, etc. etc. etc. would (and has) actually make things worse for my relationship, since I didn't need any help being any of those things. Even a slight correction in the "L" di…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 12:03 AM
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Personally? I could never hold more than a three-sentence conversation with women who do this, much less befriend them. Unfortunately, it seems that women (especially moms) in large groups seem to default to this kind of nastiness in order to have something to talk about, and no one's moral compass is strong enough to speak up. It's admirable to want to be supportive of your best friend, but I feel that in this case being supportive would be to ask her about this behavior. Do they do this often,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 05:08 PM
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I feel like you and I could share some things. My childhood was legitimately, beyond any doubt horrible, and it wasn't my fault. To add to that, my main female role model (my mother) has never left her own victim mode. In my early adulthood, it seems like I had to pull healthy coping mechanisms and self-ownership out of nowhere, since I had never learned any of this. At some point in there, what I did with it all became my responsibility. I read enough self-help books to kill a horse, and they a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 08:38 PM
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Yeah! Then you can stop before you exhaust yourself (I tend to get into a mode where I Just. Can't. Stop. and have done everyone's laundry, paid all the bills, and written all the code, but then my adrenaline's going and I'm not in a good mental state).
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 08:28 PM
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I agree with this...and struggle with this, still, occasionally. I've found that a healthy amount of mental space and downtime is...well, healthy! So if you're genuinely tired and don't want to do the dishes, you can frame that in a way that does not victimize you. "I'm tired, and I am choosing to give myself some time and not do the dishes right now." Obviously if you do this every time something has to be done that you would rather not do, it turns into full-blown procrastination. :) But the l…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 08:26 PM
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I second this. We all like to think we're practical, but we can only be practical in a relationship effectively when there's this ineffable attraction. You can certainly take it one day at a time, take ownership of yourself and your goals in life, and see where it leads. Your practical command of your emotions will come in very handy when the honeymoon phase ends with the attractive SO.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 08:18 PM
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Haha, thanks! I agree. I think I was downvoted because I mentioned weed, but I'm not surprised about that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 11:48 PM
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learning to connect with my place in the universe" or something like that. That last one is already close to the edge though, because it sounds a bit "new agey". I dunno; I like it. Many people can't get farther than contemplating their place in their immediate communities...this increases the scale to grand effect.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 11:47 PM
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I've never had much disposable income (this should be changing in the next year!!), but when I do I would like to try this, since I'd rather be out hiking/coding/doing my thing than shopping. Ladies who've gotten boxes, can you choose a kind of ...erm...REI-chic look? Think feminine and sexy clothes in jewel and earth tones that can double as hiking clothes. For example, this is currently my very favorite dress.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 11:40 PM
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We're both so contrarian and anti-holiday-obligation that I cringed upon seeing this topic, lol. You ladies have some wonderful ideas, though!! We aren't doing the whole present thing, but since his son is with his mom for 48 whole hours, we'll be driving to a neighboring state where weed is legal, renting a cabin in the snow, and soaking in the hot tub and getting high as hell (this is not a normal occurrence!). We're both used to working so hard that this will be the perfect holiday!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 06:24 PM
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You're very welcome! I'm glad that the disjointed output of my fingers is occasionally helpful. :) Keep in mind that some of what I'm saying, from a strictly RP point of view, is not true. I'm roughly 80% RPW, 20% experiential elaborations/disagreements. simple worldviews are easier to reckon with emotionally weak, juvenile, and motivated by resentment, jealousy, and vengeance You are a smart lady. You're gonna be okay. And it's perfectly all right to be angry. For years, even. It's a natural pa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 11:27 PM
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I really don't want this to come across as condescending, but I do want to break that negative feedback loop you have going on. 21 and still single SEEMS old when you're living it. It is not old. It is not. Perhaps my viewpoint isn't entirely RP, but the confidence and calm women gain between...say, 21 and 27 makes the 21-year-old version look like a strangely insecure and naive space alien. Maybe RP men think the space alien's SMV is higher, but if you work on yourself your inner world will imp…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 09:19 PM
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I have a couple thoughts for you, which might be jumbled since I am on mobile (when do we get thought-to-text?! Come on, I'm waiting!). 1) I wouldn't worry so much about your SMV re:age. When I peaked, technically, I was single with no man in sight. I met my man at 26. I am now 30 and he still tells me I'm the most gorgeous possible woman to him. On a non-personal note, while RP does teach that you must secure your man before you hit your SMV "wall" and get his "wife goggles" in place, I have se…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 08:59 PM
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I thought I'd add my voice to those ladies dissenting a bit about Laura's "man picks you up on the first date" idea. I feel like there are nuances that he should be considerate of, as in don't choose a place that is far more convenient for him than for you, but to me, even though I haven't been on too many dates in my life, it's more important that the sexual chemistry/masculine-feminine pull is there. Subsequent dates, when things are going well, I would feel more comfortable being picked up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 11:44 PM
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I think that its devotees find an almost meditative zone somewhere in there, but it eludes both of us :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 11:33 PM
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Your approach approximates mine, too! I hate gyms (treadmills = hamster wheels; can't get it out of my head), love the outdoors, and could certainly use more centered time. I eat as close as possible to a Paleo-style diet and make sure I do yoga a few times a week. I always do a simple hike on Sunday afternoon (2 miles or less, but I live at a very high elevation and the same exercise burns more calories up here). I do not count calories or ever deny myself something I'd really want, but perhaps…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 11:32 PM
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Very well, but I don't think his lack of previous marriage really impacts what I was trying to say - that a lot of maturity and gravitas that we gain throughout life can't be gotten through shortcuts...simply through living lots of years, and making the most of the years we're alive. And I'm certainly not trying to cast aspersions on your relationship. You could have no issues whatsoever! You asked for experiences, and we're giving 'em to you...and I know it might sound scary that you could have…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 06:42 PM
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Lol, I think the face is intended to mimic an eager stare, awaiting our stories. Or maybe bafflement that she cares enough to ask? The world may never know.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 02:07 AM
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I am a younger woman to an older man (8 years), and in most cases there has been no issue. He is sexy, settled, knows himself, etc. all of which I found appealing. The main problem lay with me. I was taught to always defer to my man (in a religious tradition that I now find unhealthy) , and the fact that I had never been on my own and had never seriously been with anyone else...and he had been married, been a farmer and a homesteader...the maturity difference in simply knowing what you want and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 01:52 AM
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Seconded! Feels so good when you make their day easier, and they find the food delicious (or edible in my case, let's be real here ;) ).
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 01:42 AM
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I agree! On the cooking. I now know HOW to cook because of my man's culinary prowess...when we got together I'd burn water with regularity. I find that when I get over that initial mental resistance and make myself cook, it's fairly enjoyable and my man is always effusive in his praise!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 01:36 AM
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I had just moved away from my parents to the large town I'm in now, and a few days into my new job as a restaurant hostess, in strode my man. Honestly, he was rebounding a bit from his ten-year marriage to a BPW, but if you ask him he'll say that he had known what he wanted for years and was just waiting to find it. He was having a beer with his brother, trying to get out of the house and stay active. It was ridiculous, the moment I saw him my heart started pounding. He was 8 years older than me…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 08:13 PM
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Let's see if the bot lets me comment now...i signed up a couple days ago to post in the RPW in tech careers thread (as I am one), and was told I was too new to comment. Just hadn't seen a reason to post on reddit before. This sub changed that! :) RPW exemplifies most of what I've been doing in my four-year relationship to the most gorgeous, tender masculine man (you can tell I'm a bit of a fan) anyway...I'm grateful to find a similarly-minded community of women! Lovely ladies who build each othe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 07:58 PM
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Passion for what you're doing is a feminine trait. I feel that good RP men want to see their lady engaged with things she enjoys, as long as her heart remains open to him and she respects him. I'm a female programmer who has been with a very sexy, non-technically-inclined RP man for 4 years. He supports my career - is thrilled that I've found something I love, in fact! - and there are no issues stemming from it. The overall climate of big tech does seem to favor very long weeks and a boot-camp-e…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/15 12:36 AM
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