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| 1 | [Documentary] Where Women Are Queens — Orango, Guinea BissauOnce upon a time, a fellow FDS told me of this island. Now I keep tabs and, when I found out Deutsche Welle had made a documentary, I knew I had to watch it! It's well made, so I thought I'd share it with my fellow queens here. Enjoy & discuss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:56 PM |
| 31 | mUh SpErM qUaLiTyWhat in the cringe. The bar is in hell and he keeps digging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:26 PM |
| 9 | Most men take way more than they give.Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:36 PM |
| 22 | Most men take way more than they give.I've never heard of this, I'd love a link! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Flirtationship Is a Losing Game with so Many Married Nice Guys Looking for a Side Pieceu/stephanietarran, when you requested how to word a message in Spanish to break things off with him, you said that you wanted to explain you were getting feelings for him. Não. Ele não necessita uma explicação de você. When you tell men like him, who don't respect women, that “you have feelings but you don't want to be hurt so you want to be left alone,” what they hear is that there's a chance they'll get laid. You don't owe an explanation to anyone. He deceived you. Your “No” should be enough. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Should we be worried?As another woman from a developing country, people from other countries in my region go to the US because it's the easiest option to make money to send back home. No one is thinking about quality of life, they aren't dumb. People of some means fuck off to Europe. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/21 02:55 PM |
| 9 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.I don't know how to woman properly. I don't know how to manage my relationships, I don't know how to negotiate a marriage, I don't know how to get my needs met. I relate a lot to this bit. My mother did—and does—much for me but she definitely didn't teach me any of that. She did try, but even as a child I could tell her advice wasn't any good. She also didn't teach me how to manage my emotions because she was too busy dumping all her emotional baggage on tween/teen me to listen to me, because he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:30 AM |
| 4 | How many here ended up with the man they met on tinder, bumble and other dating apps?I met my fiancé on an app. Lucked out, I've heard so many horror stories. He's definitely HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 19 | She's beautiful even at 56, where's the wall men constantly keep talking about?I'm in love with her eyes, so full of life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 7 | Interesting! "The Bored Sex: Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it."I honestly don't think we were hardwired for monogamy. For example, some South American tribes have an ancestral belief that a child can have many fathers which ensures many providers are invested in the mother and child. What I think is that human relationships are flexible. I think the majority of women are smart enough to realise that in most of the societies we've to endure, monogamy is most advantageous for us and—for those who want them—our children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Let's start off the new year well queensThe Gift of Fear is in the FDS recommended book list so I'm sure you'd have gotten around to it 😁 Sons of Cain is revolting and I don't think it'd ever be on the FDS book list (it's about serial killers) but I found it super illuminating about the darker nature of men. Particularly, how many serial killers are porn sick. Edit: wording | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?Excellent article which also discusses some book recs. I'll look out for those. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:54 PM |
| 54 | Let's start off the new year well queensAfter reading Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear and Perer Vronsky's Sons of Cain, I definitely need Lundy Bancroft's! Kudos to you for an amazing start of the year 🤩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:18 PM |
| 15 | Whew! Even sex dolls can't handle the scrotacity!Tangentially related, but I finished reading Peter Vronsky's Sons of Cain and it's eye-opening… Men are the overwhelming majority of serial killers and what those monsters inflict on victims—usually women and children—is not much different from what you just described. Especially the gleefulness of it all. That said,read at your own risk. That book is a whole trigger warning from beginning to end, for it's an unflinching look at the subject matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:51 PM |
| 3 | CraftswomanshipI love her channel! Have been following her for two years now, and she inspired me to look into the traditional skills of my country. I'm working on potted plants and just harvested a pineapple! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingJust downloaded the book, btw. Thanks for the rec. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:38 AM |
| 3 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingYikes. OTOH this is for you 👑 your intuitive understanding is top-notch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingMy pleasure! The good thing about the pandemic is that I finally got around to reading this 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 20 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingThe problem, as the book points out, is the culture. College is already too late. Anyway, the book also alerts us that letting down men kindly ironically increases the chances of being attacked. Look at this paragraph: Someone will also doubtless give her the conventional wisdom on stalking, which should be called conventional unwisdom. [Emphasis in the book] It will include (as if it is some creative plan): Change your phone number. In fact, our office does not recommend the strategy, because a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:41 PM |
| 11 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth Havingadults don't ask kids for help So… true. Yet, I'd never have thought of that despite the countless anecdotes of some predator asking a child for help with a lost possession. I'm definitely adding this book to my personal reading list. Much appreciated! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 7 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingSounds great! As someone who wants to become a mum, I'd love a rundown of what you found most useful. Book reviews sometimes focus too much on delivery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:35 PM |
| 7 | So sad :( the future is not brightShe was. Everyone unable to get a relationship. She crrated the community when she noticed many people who could relate. Most are men, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 11:31 AM |
| 2 | Long post. In deep, child involved, need serious help.I'll chime in, as I grew up in a similar situation to what your daughter is in. Now, my dad wasn't emotionally absent, unlike your soon-to-be-ex, but he wasn't a provider. Yet I love him and I have as good relationship as one can have with a LVM for dad. Look. The poster above is right. Your daughter will realise who's the real parent. You worry about your daughter loving him. I say, so what? What if she loves him? Things won't be easy. I used to scream at my mum that I hated her and I loved my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Wow I think this is what I neededWill he miss it? If not, quietly throw it away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 03:47 PM |
| 4 | Wow I think this is what I neededLet the queen energy wash over you. No need to stay with a low-value man (LVM). That said, it's normal to feel attachment; it's what society has groomed us women for—lower our expectations and dump us on any man. So, to help, I think you'll find this FDS Wiki article useful. There's some great people here with excellent strategies. Absorb. Implement. And, most importantly... Don't ever be afraid to dump the next LVM. Edit: typo, phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:54 AM |
| 5 | He’s just joking you guys ugh why can’t women take a joke? (Source: beam_me_up_softboi on insta)That sounds like incoming domestic violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:48 AM |
| 3 | I feel like this is supposed to scare us? Hmm nope if I have a kick ass group of girlfriends and no man when I die that's a-okay with me! 👌Taking a break on a nice afterboon in a charming porch while rocking some top-notch heels and fine jewellery plus sipping some fine wine? Is this supposed to make me hate singledom? Sign me up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.Yes, another fellow.strategist pointed me towards it. Still, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.I looked briefly at his posts and he seems like incel-turned-MGTOW. Doesn't surprise me that he twists everything women say, because it certainly couldn't be him. We are in the wring for rejecting such a catch /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.tbh I just blocked after sending the one and only message. Which is why the message has typos and is not the best rebuttal, but I wasn't going to invest time in a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.Sure thing! Mods, can we delete this post? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.Apparently some male fragile ego got sad over my well meaning comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f7o8cl/junior_hvm_asks_his_blind_girlfriend_to_the_prom/fid58wv?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:01 PM |
| 21 | Junior HVM asks his blind girlfriend to the prom in braille, using Hershey’s kisses. 💕And that's how I'll raise my son (should I have one,). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 09:11 AM |
| 3 | Overabundant dicks propose to 50+ woman. What wall? Ladies, make caring for your looks about YOU—forget pleasing the menz, another is always queueing up for you.No probs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:34 AM |
| 20 | Overabundant dicks propose to 50+ woman. What wall? Ladies, make caring for your looks about YOU—forget pleasing the menz, another is always queueing up for you.I just thought it was funny. Some scrotes are that pathetic and desperate for our attention. The overarching point, to me, is how there's always options. I think a HVW takes care of herself but owes no obligation to perform beauty for anyone—as a woman, some male will be attracted to you regardless. Granted, the comment could've been cropped, or I didn't choose the best example to post. I just did my best to look at the comments through an FDS lens. With the world so willing to shit on women, I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Women Work Stoppage in Mexico because of violence crisis against women.Additional context: #NiUnaMenos ("Not one Woman Less") is a hashtag that arose in Argentina in 2015 and eventually has led to a massive movement that's spreading across Latin America like wildfire. It has, sadly, yet to reach my country. I think the most active Ni Una Menos offshoots are in Argentina, Mexico, and Peru. Go Mexico! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | How Did YOU discover FDS, and what convinced you to follow its principles?I was lurking on reddit months ago, lurking like always, when I found this post about how to never pay on a date. It spoke to me (for the wrong reasons, I've had an interesting life). That looks useful, great. I jotted down the sub's name to drop once in a while. Later on I found this FDS post about sticking to your standards. It validated my outlook towards dating like nothing else. Throughout most of my dating life, friends and family, whether male or female, have given me flack for being 'pic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 11:05 AM |
| 6 | Well, your advice turned out to be true, thanks.I definitely get that. But OLD dating in my country is a filter in and of itself, as few males want to get into it out of some macho notion that reeks of desperation, but one does find all sorts— I found current beau on Tinder, after all. So I'd take the chance if my gut says it might turn out to be alright rather than him trying to pump and dump me. I still had to sift through many, many LVM, but it's a drastically reduced dating pool and people aren't that, ah, technologically sophisticated he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:46 AM |
| 6 | Well, your advice turned out to be true, thanks.I wouldn't immediately block... It'd depend on what the convo we're having tells me about him. If I sense some quality potential, I'd make my standards know before blocking or moving on, and if he tries to talk me down, then I'd block him. Last successful relationship with a HVM I had (before current beau), he was a bit shy (we met in person and were acquaintances) so he suggested a "cozy date" (low effort by my standards). I let him know what I expected in a first date. He suggested something m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Survey: What do you think is the root cause of your Pickmieshaism?Culture, and LVM for father and stepdad. Just because they treat me well and I love them does not excuse how they treat my mother, and just because stepdad treats mum much better does not mean she should've settled for that. Of course, I suspect she thought she—a divorcee mum with two children—was never going to get a better deal, let alone from a man in our culture, so she looked abroad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 01:39 PM |
| 8 | Man Baby Incapable of Rinsing Lunch Containers Whinges about ConsequencesIt's bad form of me (as the OP here), but I didn't. I'm still shy around actually being able to comment in reddit—too much of a longtime lurker! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 04:22 AM |
| 4 | Adele (31) loses a staggering 100 pounds after dumping husband (45)How is this tearing women down? I just said that medicine was not modeled around us women, including the daily average. If you average the calorie range women self-reported in the old US FDA survey—imperfect though that may be—it comes out at 1,900 Cal; or 100 Cal less than the 2,000 daily average. And in modern society, most women are less active than that. So the calorie intake of an average woman should be less than 1,900 Cal, ideally. Then I just mentioned how much I probably ate on a day-to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 03:09 PM |
| 4 | Adele (31) loses a staggering 100 pounds after dumping husband (45)Not even from a combination of body types; most of the averages, doses, etc. in your life—including weight—comes from clinical trials. The average clinical trial participant is a 175-pound 5ft 6 healthy young male male (ish, I'm converting from metric system). Not including enough women in clinical trials is a huge problem in female health. I believe it was in the 80s when the US FDA surveyed food consumption, and women reported consuming 1,600 to 2,200 Cal. People were more active though; I onc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:23 PM |
| 30 | Scrote Is 3-Timing His Wife + Sex Drive ApologiaThe therapist was too soft on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 10:07 PM |
| 11 | Scrote Is 3-Timing His Wife + Sex Drive ApologiaComment can be found here: https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/f3vi8k/im_a_marriage_researcher_and_educator_whose/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 09:55 PM |
| 18 | The Verge’s Erin Taylor Doubles Down on the “Choosy Choice Feminism”, completely missing the point of FDSMy main gripe is with how badly researched the article is—and it feels intentional. Thus, it's a poor, mean spirited retort to FDS. She didn't even get through the whole handbook, and it shows. The point of no BDSM/porn in males is not to restrict a woman's desire but that, all too often, men interested in these behaviours are more interested in degrading women, rather than healthy exploration of one's sexuality. Enforcing a strict no BDSM/porn dating pool excludes swaths of LVM, and even then o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Every time I open FDS 💅🏻Best community service is telling your besties to drop the LV scrotes in their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 07:29 AM |
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