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DiscussionLaTableEstBasse/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:46 PM
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3

I'm afraid you're right again...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 06:58 AM
9

This is it. Now let's focus on what percentage of men women are attracted to and vice versa. That would be the differentiating factor imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:26 PM
3

Still
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:11 AM
49

They simply dont need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:09 AM
9

Chill. I never said anything about marrying anyone. Desire and commitment are two separate things. Porn stars and sex workers are obviously desired. That's the core principle of their jobs. And a lot of them get married and have children btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:32 PM
10

No no, just raw attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:26 PM
13

Exactly. I really dont get how anyone can't get this simple fact. Men desire women more.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:52 PM
1

Really good take.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 08:41 AM
2

Yeah that's what's worrying : This constant chase of the ego boost when they already get so much attention in a day to day life. I really don't think it helps anybody. It's a false sense of security and abundance for women, and an endless waste of time for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:39 AM
9

You don't even begin to imagine the number of options they have. Even in a very small group of friends or colleagues at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:07 AM
3

This take is so bad it's hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:53 PM
1

That's right. Everyone's so focused on their own struggles they can't see the point of view of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:58 PM
1

That's the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:05 PM
1

This is over exaggerated of course, but there's still some truth to this post. Too many men won't ever feel loved and desired the way most women will experience (often multiple times) in their lifetime. Even by their very partner. For women it's almost a given, and it seems they can't grasp the sexual validation and intimacy many men crave.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:22 AM
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This is it exactly. Sex for girls will never an issue. There'll always be some guy down for it. And I believe it will always remain that way. There is an obvious natural reason behind it and it's been amplified by society way to much. Women will always chase and share a minority of guys. And the rest of the guys will remain alone, or be settled for at some point. Many seemed fine with this. But I can't help but think they know they're not the first choice. Not even the second or third most of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:41 PM
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Yeah man, it's depressing but not really surprising. Idk if my ex found another person after me, and I don't really care. But another thing I found myself thinking about is the cheer amount of things guys are ready to put up with just for girls. Near the end of our relationship, I came to the realisation that my ex gf just wouldn't have found anyone if she were a guy. If the roles were reversed, never in the world would she have approached me the way I did to her. All these cognitive dissonances…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:28 PM
1

Yep. But that scarcity of options past 30 still isn't anywhere near what average guys experience all their life. Any average and above average girl in their 30s has way more options than your average Joe all his life. That being said, of course, they still want the status that a relationship provides. But most of the options that a girl wants have already been taken by other prettier or smarter girls in their 20s. I see more and more girls in their 30s chasing guys in their 20s. And they usually…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:29 AM
1

More and more girls are choosing to be alone though, which is perfectly fine. The odd thing is when they suddenly got standards after having chosen so poorly all their life. Almost always happens in their 30s. I always raise an eyebrow. Yes girls often find another partner more quickly than guys. But for me it's more because they just receive way more attention and propositions from guys rather than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:10 PM
1

This is basically it. Whoever has the least amount to lose controls the relationship in a way. The one that don't really care if it all ends, because they can find another person easily, is the one that is in position of "power". All relationships work that way. The more balanced ones tend to have both party needing the other for something they couldn't easily get by leaving the relationship and trying to find someone else. For men, It's very obviously access to sex and affection. For women, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 10:59 AM
5

Rhetorical question
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:00 PM
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Still don't get it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 08:05 AM
–

Water is wet
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:20 PM
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Thank you for including attack helicopters <3
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 08:09 AM
8

Thank you for saying this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:12 PM
6

Highlight of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:50 PM
2

Well I would say quite the opposite for me. If I'm in a relationship, I want to be close with that person. Otherwise I'm happy alone. Long distance relationships are pretty useless in my view. I hardly consider them relationships really.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:32 PM
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Exactly the same for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:11 PM
2

Water is wet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:55 PM
37

Same. You can be rational about it, acknowledge it, fight it and avoid it. But the core reaction still remains.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:43 PM
9

Just take more cold showers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:42 PM
1

Story of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 07:59 PM
3

Bismillah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:19 PM
0

It's 50/50 really if you want it to work properly. Yes looks can get you there quickly, but it's only a matter of time before things go south without a decent personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:57 AM
1

Of course, they take whatever they can take. Scarcity is never a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:39 PM
1

Calm down
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:20 PM
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"Poor people are jealous of rich people because they have more money than them. "
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:48 PM
13

Too much attention often leads to overinflated egos... Just look at people that got sudden celebrity status. How many managed to stay humble, level-headed and not became full and themselves ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:57 PM
2

This is it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:04 AM
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This is the core principle of being a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:21 AM
4

The one and only real solution...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 12:25 PM
1

Yes we all are lazy essentially. I'm sure men would do exactly the same if nature would give them the power of attraction women have. Still it leads to the entitlement and the pickiness that others should do the dirty job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:58 AM
1

Nah I don't think so. Women today enjoy the power handed to them by nature (ia power of attraction) while also succeeding in positions of leadership. It's basically laziness and inflated ego but still, they can absolutely enjoy both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:53 AM
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Some people seem happy with sexless relationships. I know I'm not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 06:45 PM
1

Water's wet
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 06:41 PM
2

It's simple really : Women will actively pursue something if it benefits them (equal pay for example) but everything else should be done by men essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 06:39 PM
1

It's the dead eyes of the guy that always gets me. It's like every bit of joy had been sucked out of him. They seem completely faded out, not even able to pay attention to their screaming kids. Meanwhile the wife is almost always talking loudly about meaningless stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:05 AM
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Not a wise thing to do imo...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 05:41 AM
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This is it. But the question remains. Will he give these suddenly wise women a chance ? I know I won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:26 PM
6

Spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:19 PM
1

"You need to chase me" Ego and false pretention Main character syndrome
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:46 PM
1

"I have a vagina so i'll always be the victim"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 08:38 PM
7

Same for men and sex. We want someone who WANTS sex with us. Not someone who bargains intimacy for something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:25 AM
1

Respecting wamen
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:16 PM
3

It's the worst thing that could happen to an individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:25 AM
1

"I don't like your generalisations because it doesn't suit my narrative."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:48 PM
2

All depends on the baggage...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:20 AM
1

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:53 AM
1

Some people need validation from others. Women more so than men I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:05 PM
1

You just have to witness how they talk behind their backs. It's frightening...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:03 PM
1

Yeah there will obviously be demand still, but girls experience a bigger drop of their desirability over time. Men will experience a little increase at most if they get everything right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 12:18 PM
7

No one has more power than a girl in her 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 11:09 AM
8

I don't think celibacy is the same for men and women. Many women still have access to sex while being single. Most men don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 11:07 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 07:50 PM
0

Yes. It becomes sad and awkward when they pretend stupid shit because they think it makes them look like a good person...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:32 AM
1

Options
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 08:15 PM
1

Do you think there's no power imbalance in a relationship ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:19 PM
2

Not sure about yours either. If someone is feeling like he's being exploited or abused, nothing prevents this person of leaving the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:19 AM
1

If someone is feeling like he's being exploited or abused, nothing prevents this person of leaving the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 08:19 PM
2

Why would it be exploitation ? She's free to leave at any time ...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 11:05 AM
8

This is exactly it. Once you realize the expectations and entitlement, you start to see things differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:10 PM
5

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 09:56 AM
3

This is devastating to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:20 AM
2

The real issue is average people expecting top people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:15 PM
3

"I need an older man because guys my age aren't on my intellectual level"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:48 AM
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You are 100% right. The more you wait to commit to someone, the more baggage you will have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:45 AM
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Most people associate age with baggage. It's logical people want a partner with as little baggage as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:10 PM
1

Ok thanks a lot :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 02:12 PM
1

interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:25 AM
1

ok so it's not possible for you either... Damn...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:20 AM
1

So you think it would be possible, but never experienced it yourself ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:19 AM
1

I get your point completely. Of course it would work in a non sexual relationship I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:17 AM
1

k thank you for your answer :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:14 AM
1

But do you think it is possible to literally have no looks barrier ? Like absolutely no threshold at all ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:31 PM
1

I ask people if they think it's possible. I don't think it is. That's why I want to hear people's opinion about it, that's the first person I know that pretended this. I mainly want to be proven wrong if anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:29 PM
1

You need a big personality that's all ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:26 PM
1

Thanks for your answer. So why would someone pretend to be able to completely discard any physical attribute and be able to only focus on personality ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:25 PM
1

Do you think a certain threshold would still had to be met ? Or absolutely any physical attribute wouldn't matter ? Like 100% focused on the personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:24 PM
1

Would you say that a certain physical threshold you have to be met when you did see each other for the first time ? Or it wouldn't have mattered a bit since you were only focused on the "brain and decision making process of this person" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:20 PM
1

Is the focus on attraction diminishing with time something you expect from every relationship, or just something you would do in yours ? What if your partner would still want a partner that takes care of himself and wants the intimacy to remain the same ? Like it was till the beginning of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:18 PM
2

Ego check aside, would you completely discard any physical attribute and only focus on the talent/personality, or does a minimal threshold has to be met ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:13 PM
1

But that's my point. Sorry for insisting, but you oppose a decent looking well running car to beautiful unreliable car. You imply that a certain looks threshold would have to be met for you to drive a reliable car. Sure it's not a stunning car, but you described it as "decent" still. I'm talking about physical attributes that would be a hard no for a majority of people. If I adjust my question to your exemple it would be like : "Do you want a car you would normally find repulsive just because yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:10 PM
1

I think so too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:02 PM
1

That's 100% my feelings on this. ​ What could bring a person to lie to such an absurd extent ? I'm pretty sure she 100 % believed what she was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:58 PM
1

You mean don't focus on aesthetics to the point of completely ignoring it somehow ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:20 PM
6

Maybe I understand it badly but I think he meant : girls will pretend to be attracted to a man's personality in the first place in order to not appear shallow. He don't think he meant "girls will claim their boyfriend is ugly but they're still here for the personality" ​ That's what i understood. I could be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:18 PM
1

Were you physically attracted to each other when you met ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:46 PM
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You think it's more socially acceptable to say : -My partner is amazingly attractive but extremely dumb or - My partner is ugly af but has an amazing personality ​ I don't think any answer would be accepted imo. Both are pretty shitty to say in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:45 PM
1

Yes I see. I'm asking about people that physically met another person and made entire & complete abstraction of their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:39 PM
1

Do you think these people "tolerate" these unpleasant or repulsive physical traits ? Like they're still not attracted by their partners but still are together for other reason (material, kids etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:37 PM
1

Did you ever see each others faces ? or preferred to remain "blind"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:35 PM
1

That one is interesting. Sorry if i'm mistaking, but you imply that personality can change your tastes in a man ? Do you mean that : - It compensates for the attributes you would normal find unattractive (Bolding, abnormally short, missing teeths, facial dysmorphia...) but you're still unattracted by them - You just can't notice them anymore - You're even suddenly attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:34 PM
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yeah that's exactly what I thought. You could have disabilities but an amazingly attractive face that any abled person wishes to have. Or any other attractive attributes. I don't see how being disabled erases all your other physical attributes. ​ I don't think she was lying about that relationship, but that comparison stuck with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:25 PM
1

I agree that personality can affect looks and vice versa. So I really don't see how someone can pretend they can ignore one to only focus on the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:14 PM
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I think so too. To me it's like these people claiming the earth is flat. You don't want to argue with them on such a basic claim. So you awkwardly wait till they finish their rant...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:12 PM
1

Yeah interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:10 PM
3

It's what I think as well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:10 PM
1

Yup men you deem desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:55 PM
1

be careful what you wish for, it might just come true
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:11 PM
2

It should just be mandatory. Therefore everybody's getting the same treatment. No one's feelings is getting hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:25 AM
5

Because it is. As cheap as air in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:49 AM
3

You think you're being sarcastic, but you're 100% right.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:03 AM
2

Yup, you just can't take consent back.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:00 AM
2

The thing women should understand is that you can't take consent back. Once sex happened it happened. You cannot take it back no matter how hard you try. Actions have consequences. You need to think before agreeing to let someone have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:51 AM
1

This is a major red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 09:35 AM
2

This is it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:12 PM
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You need both
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:58 AM
2

You 100% nailed it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:37 PM
4

Never expect something you can't provide yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:42 PM
2

Sex shouldn't be one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:12 PM
6

Aren't we all ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:28 PM
3

Last paragraph is spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 11:02 AM
1

I hope so
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:13 PM
2

Sadly too few men hold themselves to this pretty basic standard. I've been there myself, doing pretty much everything and getting nothing in return. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 06:03 PM
2

Although I understand what you mean and I think you're right , you phrased this poorly. Forced relationships just aren't a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:22 PM
1

Hell yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 07:12 AM
1

It's rather that they don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:28 PM
3

She can do whatever she wants. Hell, I encourage her to do so ! I don't want to be someone that lied about who they really are. But actions have consequences and people should be held accountable for them. I don't want someone that needs dozens of different partners to make up her mind. That screams emotional instability to me. I also don't want someone that can only be satisfied by constant novelty in the bedroom. I just don't see how long long term commitment with these people can happen. So t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:50 AM
1

True but it's the exact opposite once they start earning money
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:27 AM
1

It's crazy how the beard stuff has become as important as the height requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:28 PM
6

This is exactly it. And the more you stay by yourself, the more interactions with others can't help but feel inconvenient and cumbersome.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:25 PM
6

This is exactly what I'm going through.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:22 PM
0

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:36 PM
3

I feel exactly the same way
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:41 AM
1

That's one of the reasons I left my previous relationship. I felt loved, but not desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 10:25 PM
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I've had my girlfriend squirt on me while doing oral, does that make me a pornstar ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:35 PM
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It's hard to love someone you find disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:33 PM
1

Always had always will
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:58 PM
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A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:13 PM
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I don't care about virginity. I care about baggage and STDs. I don't want to deal with someone's emotional baggage. I don't want to be another number on a list. I don't want to be with someone who's more likely to cheat, ignore and abandon others. I don't want to be with someone that don't take accountability for the consequences of their actions. I want a partner who values relationships and physical intimacy the same way I do. It's not about a precise number that once passed makes you become a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:38 AM
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That's why guys should stop as soon as the girl isn't reciprocating. A relationship cannot work based on someone just being pretty and the other doing absolutely everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 07:10 AM
1

Women don't care about the commitment of guys they're not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 10:42 AM
1

Only if they're not attracted to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:17 AM
1

If you get the feeling you're doing 100% of the approach, just leave. She's just not really interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:40 PM
2

That's what I wanted to say. If you have no problem with that, then I don't see any problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:07 PM
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No it's the right thing to do. Sex isn't something you can "compromise" with. I don't want my partner to have sex with me based on a compromise. I don't think anyone do. If you're ok with your partner's sunden drop in libido, then good for you. But otherwise, one of the two partners has to lost out. You shouldn't force someone into having sex with you. So either leave or put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:46 PM
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It is not predatory, it's hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:03 AM
1

Never expect something that you can't provide yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:01 AM
2

You're so right about movies ! Either I'm so into the film that I forgot I'm with someone. Or I'm so into the person that I don't get to enjoy the film.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 06:47 AM
1

Restaurant dates are boring af. First dates should be fun activities only. Not only is it cheaper, it's also way more entertaining than starring at each other across a table.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 06:43 AM
1

I believe it is. Read again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:34 PM
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A man's trash is another man's treasure I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:45 PM
1

Only the relationship part. I did have opportunities for the casual stuff, but I just can't force myself to do it. That's just not how I value people, and not how I value myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:31 PM
-1

Yes you're right. But it implies women giving up on their privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:00 PM
1

So a girl just cannot observe and filter, and straight up throw herself at any guy passing by ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:57 PM
3

Same. If you don't come across as someone I'd date long term, then I don't want to engage sexually with you. I can admit you're hot, but I'd never stick it in you...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:38 PM
3

Thank you for saying this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:36 PM
7

Plowing through girls is something men should aspire to. I want to have lots of sex of course, but with someone I love. Not with dozens of different girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:32 PM
6

Exactly, this "mind reader" mentality is still very strongly present unfortunately. It's especially obvious when you try to break down problems and try to solve them. Most girls are really open to discuss about them, but rarely willing to take meaningful actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:18 AM
10

Yup, they tend to talk more, but it rarely makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:41 AM
1

Yup, so much so in fact that I don't even need months to develop it ! Incredible isn't it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:30 AM
1

Absolutely no problem at all
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:50 AM
4

Most of them don't have any passion, absolutely nothing going on. But it doesn't matter since they still get attention for their looks. I find a big part of them even try to insert themselves in my passion, even if they're just not interested by it. Because it seems like they can't have their own, they have to live through my passion somehow. It's really weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:07 PM
1

Absolutely. Especially if they pretend to do it while they obviously do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:42 PM
0

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:37 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:00 PM
1

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:51 PM
3

This should be taught at school. These awkward games are a major ick for me. You either want to be with someone, or you don't. If you need months to make up your mind, you're just not interested, and I'm certainly not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:51 PM
1

You're so brave
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:43 PM
4

No
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:41 PM
0

Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:41 PM
1

There is way more diverse forms of beauty that men are attracted to than the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:57 AM
1

Biology
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:55 AM
–

Yes. Baggage and drama aren't my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:47 AM
0

It was required to keep him interested in the first place. Men crave sex, women understand this. Most men who suffer sexless marriage don't find someone else to do it with. Most can't attract a girl in the first place. Women understand this as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:45 AM
0

That pool usually consists of no more than 1-3 women...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:49 AM
1

You are right in a way. Many women use sex as a bargaining tool to obtain help / attention / care from their husbands. Sex therefore becomes a chore. It proves that men and women don't value sex in the same way. Many husbands would still engage in sexual intercourse with their spouse despite facing problems in their relationship. Women usually don't want to "give away" sex that easily, since they know how much their husbands value intimacy, and what they can extract from it. It also proves that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:37 PM
1

Yes of course, I never said otherwise. Read my comment again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:25 PM
1

The majority of men don't enjoy a big pool of women to chose from. They marry one of the very few that gave him the time of day, hoping sex will remain somewhat frequent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:23 PM
6

Men enter marriage thinking they'll get access to regular sex. Women enter marriage thinking sex isn't required anymore, since they secured the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:54 PM
11

Find a girl who's as attracted to me as I am to her. Someone kind, faithful, joyful, and above all without mental problems and who doesn't bring drama and headaches. Help, support and love each other through life, grow old together. Lots of sex of course. Travel together, but enjoy small things of life as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:07 PM
4

Being with someone you love > being alone > being with someone you don't (cannot) love
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:15 AM
1

It's the other way around: The more IQ a guy has, the more uninteresting girls become.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:08 PM
1

Don't we all ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:28 PM
1

It just isn't true. Yes they try to get the best dude around. But once they inevitably fail, they just stop there. They're just not attracted to the guys bellow the one they couldn't get. So they stop pursuing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:49 PM
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A guy can absolutely be friend with a girl he isn't attracted to. The opposite is obviously true as well. It's when people stay with the hope of something else that things can't go right.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:40 PM
1

Wasn't me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:18 PM
1

I won't
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:34 PM
1

5/10 6"3, muscular, nice jaw line, white teeth, dark eyes. Might be a 2/10 for women I guess. Only have been approached once.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:22 PM
-1

High n count Entitled Talks to loud Wears make-up Entitled Can't have rational discussions Only whines about her problems and don't do anything useful to solve them. Expects you to do everything Spends time on social media Entitled Can't be honest Entitled
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:50 AM
1

It just can't put my D in crazy, sorry...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:46 AM
0

It be fun to witness the crumbling minds of those for whom "it just doesn't matter bro"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:27 PM
1

This is exactly it. I'm sure it would be the case for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:21 PM
2

Many of normal guys are starting to do the clever thing : -Have children -Stay with the family -but NEVER marry
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:54 PM
2

You were 100% right until the body count part.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:51 PM
1

It's very simple : Women with high body count are only good for sex. Women with low body count are good for sex and relationships. I don't get the headache
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:46 PM
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First you need to be attractive to them. And then it continues with the personality. Some of them also believe that a good personality can compensate for bad genetics. Stay away from these ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:41 PM
8

Men want women. Women needed men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:56 AM
2

It's about f**** time yeah.....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:53 AM
13

And it's attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:24 AM
8

I'm not religious but I feel the exact same way. You cannot treat people as just "experiences". They are humans with feelings. Your number of partners really says a lot about how you value people and interactions with others. I don't get how people with dozens of sexual partners in their 20s could have a connection with any of them. If you cannot stay with someone more than a few months, that says a lot about you. If you need to sleep with people before you realise they're not good for you, that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:49 AM
2

So you suggest they go after guys they're not attracted to ? Seems a bit counter productive imo...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:05 PM
1

I think these guys resent women because they know deep down that they won't ever be attractive to them the way they are attracted to them. It's a lose/lose situation for the vaste majority of guys, since only a few will experience true attraction from women. Still, I prefer people around me to be entirely free of their actions : They can't hide behind false excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:28 PM
6

Society has eliminated the need of cooperation. So only remains attraction. And guess what, women don't find most men attractive. That's why some men wish to come back to patriarchal societies. They know it's the only way a women can look at them. Personally I don't wish a return to patriarchy. Men know deeply that they want to be desired, not needed. They want to ignite the same passion and attraction they get from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:02 AM
2

Yes it would better. But then again, beggers cannot be choosers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:56 PM
5

Crazy how people don't think of this early, but can arrange a multi thousand dollar ceremony with hundreds of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:22 PM
5

You can arrange this in many countries now I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:21 AM
5

Exactly my thoughts. I didn't see any point in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:19 AM
1

I'm dying
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:49 AM
0

Actions have consequences. You can't change the rules only when it suits you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:42 AM
2

Yes, being as forward and as communicative as possible is the key. I completely agree on sharing passions and goals together as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:07 AM
3

OP is right but I think it only boils down to attraction. Of course women standards are delusional for the most part, but still, she just cannot feel attraction towards guys at her level. That explain the "better single than with bad partner" response you always get. Remember, attraction cannot be bargained. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:06 PM
1

Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:18 PM
1

Thank you for trying
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:35 AM
2

But I thought we were all about equality and all ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:03 AM
2

Yes, everyone wants to be wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:16 AM
2

Did you manage to find her ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:13 AM
2

I'd categorise this as love, but it's awesome nonetheless. That's what every relationship should be from the start : reciprocated efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:05 AM
1

Yup, I feel like women are the consumers (for free of course) and guys the sellers (at their expense... of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:02 AM
2

Yup that's what I do. I do not participate. Even if the girl is very attractive to me. I know I just can't deal with that entitled behaviour in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:49 AM
1

Although I agree with that, I think it isn't the whole picture. Imo the confort of not having to put yourself out there is something girls won't let go anytime soon sadly. I'm really convinced that if you'd remove any kind of judgement, girls would still prefer the confort of choosing pursuers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:19 AM
3

Fashion is there for the "dick contest" between women. They don't only want to attract men they find attractive, but also need to insure they are more attractive than the girls around them. A guy could be the least attractive dude in the world and it just wouldn't matter as long as a gets approved by one girl he likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:14 AM
2

I'm sure if men suddenly got as much attention as women get, they'll start to only want the best as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:04 AM
2

They only want attention from guys they find attractive, not all the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:03 AM
1

Not if they approach with only LTR as a goal. Admitting you're attracted to someone doesn't mean you're suddenly agreeing to that person's every desire. If the two of them don't share the same goals (ie the girl wants LTR and the guy casual sex), then there is no reason to continue the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:30 PM
1

This is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:25 PM
12

Having to do everything as a guy is really tiresome. Even when a girl is attracted to you, I don't get why they just don't openly admit it. Instead of this "if he's not doing absolutely everything, he is not really interested" shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:44 PM
12

We are still waiting for equality in this domaine ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:41 AM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 02:30 PM
1

Helps having a realistic and objective view on interactions with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:16 PM
2

Dead bedrooms and deep loneliness are to be expected then. People just staying together isn't an indication of happiness in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:58 PM
6

I absolutely hate that, as a guy, I am expected to do absolutely everything. I despise this above all else. Any women that participate and initiate is worth instantly more than any hot entitled chick that expect everything without doing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:00 PM
5

Thinking it is possible to be happily married to someone who does not desire you is highly delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:26 AM
1

Exactly. Profoundly disgusts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 06:52 AM
1

Yup. Never require something you cannot provide yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:33 PM
5

Exactly. As disgusting for men as it is for women imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:31 PM
1

Can't relate more to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:40 AM
2

Yes vastly and primarily. But personality has to play an important role in a second phase. If you respect yourself and others of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:39 AM
14

If you're fine without sex, then I don't see any problem. Otherwise, prepare yourself for a dead bedroom. Attraction just can't be bargained. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:06 PM
1

Thanks a lot. That was very clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:07 PM
0

"Women don’t have empathy or solutions to these issues because they are simply not issues they face in day to day life." I think it's rather because they realise that all these men that they absolutely feel no attraction towards actually desire love as well. Problem is, you just can't magically create attraction. The reason even guys with perfectly healthy and normal friendships and family lives can't have access to a relationship is purely due to the lack of attraction from girls. That's just i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:36 PM
1

Can you list some ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:27 PM
4

After years of indifference, you start seeing things as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:22 PM
1

Just leave
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:50 PM
1

One word. Ego
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:42 AM
1

Even if it helps to get the foot in the door, it never truly compensates thoe. Attraction cannot be bargained. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 10:09 AM
2

1/5 chances of complication is enormous !! I'll never jump out of the plane if the odds of the parachute not opening are 20% high. It's crazy to consider a 20% chance of failure low... Like cmon...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:21 AM
6

I think it goes further than that. Women can't feel completely validated just because men find them attractive. They need to be better than the next girl. This strong competition between girls isn't remotely present with guys. A guy could be the least attractive dude on the planet and it still wouldn't matter, as long as he's validated by a girl he likes. Yes, validation from guys is important to girls, but it isn't the whole picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:26 PM
3

Men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:19 PM
5

Having realistic standards isn't settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:04 AM
3

Nothing more beautiful than genuine attraction. Makes any girl way more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:59 AM
1

There's someone for everyone Girls value personality over looks Just be yourself Attraction is a special feeling you can't objectively explain When the reality remains as it's been for millions of years : - Be attractive - Don't be unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:58 PM
1

"I'm not like other girls" are EXACTLY like other girls Every. Single. One.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:35 AM
1

Love is helping but also accepting help. If you can't grab the hand of the people who desperately try to help you, then you're not worthy of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 06:56 PM
1

Fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:48 PM
1

I never said you do
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 02:11 PM
2

Not so much for equality then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 01:27 PM
7

You can't bargain attraction. Women already don't ask out guys they're very attracted to, so I can't imagine them sharing a guy that disgust them...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:07 AM
1

Of course they can and want to love. It's more that they want to be pursued. It's the biggest ego boost there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 06:33 AM
10

Only if she's enthusiastically willing to do it. If she's not and it matters to you (it certainly does for me, and I know I'm not the only one), then just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:19 PM
1

This will reduce the chances of dudes in their native countries tho... They just can't compete with Western salaries and incomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:58 AM
1

It just indicates how you value others and yourself. Doesn't matter who you did it with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:21 AM
2

France Things don't look as bad here. Girls are overall genuine and interesting. But egos are through the roof. A girl will basically never ask a guy out. Even if she's extremely interested, she won't make the first move. Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:35 AM
1

It can compensate for a bit, yes. But remember : attraction cannot be negociated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:42 PM
3

Men don't care about these. It's like hardcore porn. People watch it when they already have watch all the other stuff. But they'll surely be incapable of loving it in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:41 PM
234

"I stopped doing nothing and things started happening to me." Congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:27 AM
12

Always had been
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:49 PM
1

I would never. It indicates we don't value relationships the same way. Same applies with high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:48 AM
6

"You should approach more, but every 5 attempt, you lose your job"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:48 AM
1

Modern society allows men to see women in the broad day light now. The average 50s women weren't better people or anything, they were just forced into a role. They weren't allowed to act freely. Men as well in another extent, but it's another story. Now everybody is free to do whatever they want or desire with their body/careers and life in general. Men can therefore judge women for their actions. I much prefer this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:49 PM
1

It's like being superman and not using the ability to fly. Many people would just use the superpower over and over just for thrill of it (and the benefits associated with it). But then again, being virgin is a choice for women...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:29 PM
1

It still isn't approaching...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:19 PM
1

TLDR simply is : Be attractive and everything will be fine. Whatever the method, as long as you're already considered attractive, rejection is very unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:42 PM
2

Being single despite having options can lead to happiness. Being single because you have no options isn't a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:39 AM
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