| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 228 | The Consequences of The Male Birth Control PillGive them the hormones… we experience side effects smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:10 AM |
| 49 | Positive for chlamydia- the audacityThis happened to me too lmao 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:07 AM |
| 47 | Why community-dick-men is a red flag telling you that they are a non-monogameous.Ohhhhhh this is exactly what I needed to read! I’m soooo “nexting” this guy who’s checked a lot of these that you listed! Yikessssss, thanks for the wake up call, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 03:46 PM |
| 22 | "I appreciate modesty in a woman" - says the man who watches porn.My ex! He wanted a strong, independent woman and then started saying I was too assertive and feisty … he married a woman with a YT channel where she talks about how feminism is dangerous and women should obey and follow their husbands because they are leaders lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:32 PM |
| 3 | Question about property after breakupYou’re right- it was never about the coffee table either because I saw it sitting outside the moms house/landlord for an entire two weeks without him taking it and he was there multiple times in those two weeks. I know because I can see the moms/landlords house from where I live. Thank you for your input 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:26 AM |
| 7 | Question about property after breakupTook a screenshot of all the tips!! You’re awesome! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 7 | Question about property after breakupThank you so much. I regret telling that lady- she seemed genuinely happy for me & was giving me advice on how to fix certain things around the new house so I was so disappointed when she told him and his mom. I will never share my things with anyone again- I hate that I’ve put all these walls up because of him but you’re right, I have a new life and I just have to be smarter. I’m glad you thought quick in your case too!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:30 PM |
| 13 | Question about property after breakupI don’t think he remember the exact house, but he knows the neighborhood I’m moving to, unfortunately. Which is why I think he’s so angry all of a sudden- in the city where we live things are ridiculously expensive and I’m moving right by the ocean so I’m sure he’s very jealous of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:07 PM |
| 8 | Question about property after breakupOne hundred percent agree! I feel sorry for his wife. Thank you so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 15 | Question about property after breakupThank you so much. This is extremely good advice. I don’t have money for a lawyer but I found free cease and desist templates online that I’ll use. My next house is all mine- no landlords :) I’m definitely installing cameras because I don’t see his harassment ending with me moving. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 09:20 PM |
| 16 | Question about property after breakupThank you so much! This helps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:04 PM |
| 24 | Question about property after breakupThank you so much. I am totally ignoring him- it’s what he hates the most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:04 PM |
| 63 | Question about property after breakupI have him blocked on everything so he sent me a cash request on cashapp. I declined and blocked. Ugh, yes unfortunately I shared in a moment of excitement where I was moving to with the lady who is paid to do maintenance work on the property and she told the family. Aggravating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.This! I’ve been described as “lean muscle” & I’m fit! My ex and I met through fitness, based our relationship around our fitness hobbies & careers & he love bombed the shit out of me … until, 6 months later he wanted to be “fully transparent” and told me he’s not attracted to a lean figure like mine. After sleeping with me for months. And even though he used to call me “impecable” & “the most beautiful woman he’s laid eyes on”. Skinny shaming is so real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:29 AM |
| 4 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayTypical | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 40 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.My ex did this and he turned out to be a very scary, covert narcissist with a porn addiction. I deleted all my files from his laptop (he had folders for each girl) and after we broke up, he sent me videos he took of us being intimate in an email- no subject, no message just the video. I confronted him and told his mom (he’s a grown man but IDGAF). I called him out on his pervert shit and told her all about the files, the hidden camera he tried installing in our bedroom without telling me, the se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:42 AM |
| 3 | Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.Do it! It’s been so transformational for me-spiritually, mentally and physically. It’s like I shed a layer and revealed a part of me that I’ve only dreamt of, like I see more clearly. And I’m very quiet and introverted by nature but since teaching I’ve become more confident, more open minded and more accepting. And hearing how other people feel after taking my yoga classes brings me so much happiness- like I never thought I could connect with others in such a profound way and that my words could… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.I’m 34 and my life has never been better! I had a lot of childhood trauma, an eating disorder that started at 10, became a single teen mom at 17, post-partum depression, had to give up college to raise my daughter etc. And now I feel free! Single, have a great job, a yoga career, excellent health, positive mindset, I do, say and look how I want, and I literally have the most fun I’ve ever had! I’m soooo loookinf forward to my older years honestly, bc the older I care the less fucks I give about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 04:12 PM |
| 6 | Redefining sexinessSaving this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Asreya, non-stealing, the third Yama of yoga🙏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 03:33 AM |
| 14 | I don't give a shit about what men think or what men care for in a womanThis is my mantra 😌 a positive mindset, personal goals, looking and feeling sexy for ourselves and not giving a damn about what they have to say about shit is the secret. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:45 PM |
| 29 | One of the few times you know for sure a man is being 100% honest with you.Ive thought about that a few times and its very well possible. I do think he saw me as a "good girl", naive & introverted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:56 PM |
| 119 | One of the few times you know for sure a man is being 100% honest with you.I was just going to comment this. An older lady told me this years ago and its “saved” me from entering into a few, whatever relationship/situationships and leaving some too… believe them when they say this stuff! My recent ex told me (on the night we were trying to decide to keep working on it or break it off) that he “ALWAYS thinks the grass is greener on the other side” as he’s “crying” and pretending that it hurts him to think of us not being together anymore 🙄I replied, “i AM the green gras… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:12 AM |
| 2 | I’d wife me 💍Give yourself time ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 3 | I’d wife me 💍FACTS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 4 | I’d wife me 💍I asked my ex if he loved himself one time and his response was “sometimes” … that was so sad to me and eventually I realized that he sometimes loved ME too … so lesson is if he doesn’t have self love, he can’t give you love either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:33 PM |
| 200 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?My dad is the most HVM I’ve ever met & the reason I’m not settling for anyone! If men like him exist then I’m holding off. He has always been so supportive and loving of all my quirky decisions and ideas. He has taught me to be independent, assertive, confident and take no shit. He texts me daily just to ask how my day is going, he stops by and brings me bread or flowers lol or when he travels overseas always picks up something for me. He has stepped up to help me raise my daughter when her own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:54 PM |
| 1 | I’d wife me 💍Same here or someone I can learn from (not someone “better”). And that’s so hard for scrotes to understand- YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE, THINK OF YOURSELF AS THE BIGGEST PRIZE & TREAT YOURSELF LIKE YOU WANT SOMEONE TO TREAT YOU. That’s not “toxic” or “gay” like these losers have been messaging me privately to say lmao 😂 I’ll never date anyone who treats me any less than how’d I treat myself. Good for you too, queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:39 PM |
| 35 | It feels like a huge amount of people operate this way, men and women, and I despise it so much, extremely LV behavior imoIf he cheats with you, he’ll cheat on you. It’s so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 1 | The audacity- calling to talk about other women he meetsHe was so annoying, the way he described “meeting” these women- “yeaaaa, I met this hot blonde at the bar but I was like mehhhh, I wasn’t that interested. She was cute though but like IDK, I guess I’m changing” 🤢I don’t even want to know how he was before. Doesn’t matter, I’m not interested, he is exactly what FDS has trained me about lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:05 PM |
| 14 | The audacity- calling to talk about other women he meetsI knowwwww, it’s not even worth it, I realize that. Thanks sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 31 | The audacity- calling to talk about other women he meetsI was so annoyed… are you that stupid?! Are you trying to get with me or not? Don’t matter anymore, I’ve lost the bit of interest I had | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:21 PM |
| 26 | The audacity- calling to talk about other women he meetsToo bad for him, I just came out of two shitty relationships, I have no more left for him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:20 PM |
| 4 | The audacity of a zero value manLMAO!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaEwwwww. I’m so happy you stayed far far away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:59 PM |
| 8 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)I’m just shocked… how much nastier can these losers be?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:14 AM |
| 32 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?I just had my own “AHA!” moment reading your comment, thank you for the insight girl! And same!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:46 AM |
| 42 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"Eewwwwwwww!!! What a rat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:59 AM |
| 31 | Link Between Widespread Attraction to Minors and Eating Disorders?Love this! I stopped playing the “man pleasing game” a long time ago ♥️I could give a damn about what they want anymore. Do i even want YOU?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.Oh God, what a creep. Yeah, you’d hope a yoga teacher would be different - more spiritual, not so much in his ego, used to seeing beautiful women etc … happened to me; for some reason I was convinced that he would not focus on sex and the body and I was fresh out of a relationship with a porn addict so it sounded so refreshing! He was very much into his ego specially when surrounded by women, and his excuse for being so “friendly” (flirting!) was that he was a yoga teacher and he was “cultivatin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 12:25 AM |
| 3 | You are allowed to eat.My last two exes have tried to skinny shame me and it makes me so angry because they were both aware of how I struggled with an eating disorder and acceptance and now that I’m finally free of that self criticism and LOVE and accept myself fully, these bitches want to bring me down because they can’t get over how out of shape they look next to me. My one ex wanted me to fatten up to look more like the cam girls he was addicted to (get the fuck out of here pervert!) and the last ex was a former ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:03 PM |
| 9 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.I was going to say just this … at yoga studios too. And if your yoga instructor hits on you, be wary … lots of fake woke predators out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 2 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …It’s always the women’s terrible insecurities that ruin the relationship not their cheating asses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 12:35 PM |
| 5 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I found mine had a nasty chaturbate too. That is the most disgusting shit … that’s cheating. He’s masturbating her from long distance, and he got so defensive when I confronted him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:37 AM |
| 6 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …What a loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:35 AM |
| 9 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you so much for saying that. For the longest I felt guilty for having those feelings and it took me so long to heal from the shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:33 AM |
| 3 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Hahahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:25 AM |
| 6 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I think he had a learning disability, so me being the idiot that I was thought he just needed help with certain things and looked past it. I have a daughter from a previous relationship so I guess it was the mom in me that kind felt like he needed to be understood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:25 AM |
| 9 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Lmao! And where they can be rated from ZERO VALUE TO DATEABLE lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:03 PM |
| 15 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Ohhh scary! It always gets worst | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:02 PM |
| 7 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …THANK YOU! Haha And I actually do own what I got, but it that doesn’t mean it can’t hurt when men pay to watch a stranger masturbate instead of connecting with your live gf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:00 PM |
| 12 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …They all say the same shit … “I’m coming to terms with how shitty I am”… then bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 08:59 PM |
| 14 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …True. She does try to help him, she knows he’s insane | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:43 PM |
| 47 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …That’s what I said. I got plenty of self love, that’s not the point. Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:42 PM |
| 6 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Hahaha thank you!! I love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:41 PM |
| 6 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …YESSSSS!! Intuition is your friend ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 4 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Never saying one again lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:16 PM |
| 11 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I can’t say, I’m sure some of them had to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:16 PM |
| 6 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …He was the king of subtle negs and gaslighting, and I’m embarrassed to say I saw the signs but stayed longer than I should have. I had my reasons but damn, I wish I would’ve left sooner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:15 PM |
| 3 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:13 PM |
| 7 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you!!!! Well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:13 PM |
| 40 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …She was really upset, she was the only one that held him accountable. So she reached out to him and told him to leave me alone etc and has through the past year when he’s harassed me but she hasn’t told the fiancée so that upsets me too. Like, what are the consequences for his actions? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 23 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Yup. Just like he would be so much more attracted to me if I was from the opposite political party I was. He was so manipulative, he always did that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:09 PM |
| 8 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Exactly. I didn’t feel a thing when I found out he was engaged four months after dating me with no rea commitment for two years. I felt sorry for her because she was just being a replacement but, whatever. I’m done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:07 PM |
| 25 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I took screenshots in case, but no. I didn’t tell her, I honestly don’t even know who she is because I removed myself from him and his family. I just want nothing to do with him and thought if I tell her then it’s just involving myself in something I want to be fully done with. I told his mom that he was texting me and she tried intervening but it wasn’t until I suggested the girl would find out that he stopped. I said: Me- I don’t think your fiancée would like knowing you’re texting your ex gir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:04 PM |
| 121 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Not every woman he slept with I’m sure. And I can’t say that they didn’t know. I knew about some of the times, and willingly participated sometimes. But there were videos I later saw that I didn’t know about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:57 PM |
| 34 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I almost believed him, that it was totally me being insecure. But then a switch turned on, and I realized this is all I read on this sub- men blaming the women who’s only dedicated every energy of her being to him. So I was done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:54 PM |
| 19 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you! Funny you say that, after he left i started practicing a lot of yoga and self care and I’m so happy. I’ve never been better even though it’s been a trying year. I hope you’re having an amazing day, you made mine so much brighter! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:52 PM |
| 47 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …He used to tell me that when he was drunk. That his friends and all the guys at work would ask him how did get someone like me. He knew I was out of his league that’s why he would say mean things about me sometimes. I realized he was jealous of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:50 PM |
| 31 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you, I feel that way inside too. Like if I wouldn’t have found anything then I’d feel bad but I fucking saved myself from years of misery next to a cheater! Thanks for shaking me, girl, you’re right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:13 PM |
| 35 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you! He was a lesson learned for sure. Honestly the thought of dating again and vetting and opening up and etc etc etc sounds so exhausting. I won’t be doing that for a bit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:11 PM |
| 53 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Nope. I feel bad for his new fiancée | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:10 PM |
| 96 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …True. He got engaged four months after we broke up and still texted me every other month asking me “if I still loved him”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:10 PM |
| 82 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Right on, I’ll look into this. Thanks so much for the enlightenment 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:09 PM |
| 84 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you so much! I had no idea! Even if it happened a year ago? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:33 AM |
| 57 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Totally! haha As if that’s what mattered anyways, right?! So you watch porn just cus then … on your lunch break at work, just for fun … ugh, sicko. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:32 AM |
| 61 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …We lived together, so I checked when he was at work. I just had a negging feeling that day so I went with my gut … I knew his password because I saw him type it in one day (same with tablet), I just wrote them down because I knew one day I’d use them lol I know I sound creepy but hey, I was right in the end. Just don’t make it too obvious- leave things as you found them when you check, don’t send yourself anything unless you can delete that you’ve sent it to yourself. He had no idea, but I had c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:29 AM |
| 83 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …hahaha sometimes I hope for that too … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:15 AM |
| 227 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I thought about it but his brother is a local cop and honestly I’m scared of him … he is another LVM but this one has a badge and a secret hate for women so I just decided to leave things as they were and move on. It sucks, I know he’s done this to other girls too but I don’t want to risk more damage … it’s done. He’ll NEVER do it to me again though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:13 AM |
| 86 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Thank you! It’s actually when I joined FDS that I had a huge shift in my life … I remember lying in bed next to him reading all the posts on here and recognizing some of the same LVM behavior in him. This sub saved me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:10 AM |
| 159 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Yup! After the breakup he realized all of a sudden he has “a porn addiction” and thanked me for helping him realize how “sick that is” and that he needs to stop because it’s not good for his relationship with his future wife… he was thinking of a wife, clearly not in me but you know, thanks for putting up with my shit for years … ugh, I’m getting mad again thinking of this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:40 AM |
| 410 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Ohh he was gross … after the break up, he sent me a video he took of US having sex that I had never seen before by email … I didn’t even k ow he had my email! And when I confronted his mom about it (yes! I took it there cus the disrespect was not going to be ignored) he said “I was drunk and I miss our sex life”. Nothing about missing ME just my vagina. He did this for months … reach out in an aggressive, mean way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:38 AM |
| 361 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …LMAO 😂 I def don’t have self asteam, he was right hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:34 AM |
| 1391 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …After I discovered he had FOLDERS of the women he had filmed himself with having sex (lots of folders on his laptop!) and then finding his filthy tablet filled with more porn and a secret “chaturbate” account … he had been tipping girls to watch them but always denied having extra money to take me on dates, buy things for the apartment, or even buy himself fucking underwear! He always did this … I’m so happy I’ve been free from this “man” for a year now. I’ve felt like I’ve taken full breaths ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:24 AM |
| 4 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Thank you so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:12 AM |
| 14 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Thank you! That actually makes sense now that I start to remember the rest of how that night went … you’re right! He started saying things that were “wrong about me/us” and it was so hypocritical bc most of the things that were wrong about us were things that were bothering him about himself: he wasn’t eating as healthy as he used to, he was hanging out more (watching movies at home with me) vs being active, he wasn’t as motivated as he was before, etc. All his issues that somehow were my fault … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:37 PM |
| 54 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡What about this one, it’s been bugging me for a month: dated a fellow yoga teacher for six months, he couldn’t find a pedestal high enough to put me on at first: literally said I was “impecable”, “the most beautiful woman he’s ever laid eyes on”… then one night, when we were starting to fall apart he mentions how “concerned “ he is about how I don’t eat as much as he does and that he being a former fat person, worries because food is so important to him (I’m in recovery from an ED, and although … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:48 PM |
| 16 | Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.You learned your lesson, we all do in our due time 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:50 PM |
| 13 | Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.Love this! Listen to what they’re saying, they mean it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Do not become friends with your LVM/situationship once it’s over!!I needed to read this 🙏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Update: Saw My Ex on OLD.You’re absolutely correct! And it’s the part where they specifically say “I’m looking for a wife” that is most cringey to me because a lot of women (including myself) want to hear that, but they don’t hear what he’s ACTUALLY saying … he wants you to take care of him and everything else and just feel lucky that he wants to be “married” to you. Fuckers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Update: Saw My Ex on OLD.I saw my ex of two years on a dating app two weeks after he left me for an older woman he met at work haha what I saw made my stomach turn! He described himself as a “fixer upper” pretty much, totally low effort even in his quest for sex. His profile picture was him holding his baby nephew who in real life, he couldn’t stand to be around lol He said he was “actively trying to quit smoking” which was so funny since there was always tension regarding his horrible smoking habit and the fact that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 04:57 PM |
| 5 | It makes me genuinely sad when I think about the crumbs I used to settle for.Hope you dropped his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 16 | "If he wanted to, he would." Stops hurting so much in time when you see it for what it is.“Another always comes and I’ll be damned if I chase or convince you to value me.” This is so true! You don’t even have to look- I literally was sitting on a rock meditating and telling myself I’m releasing what doesn’t serve me to make room for things that do and next thing you know, I met a guy. Too soon to tell, but it made realize that we don’t have to settle for shitty low effort and excuses because of fear of not meeting anyone “better”. *edited- he walked up to me as soon as I was done med… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 03:50 PM |
| 29 | A reminder to you beautiful ladies ❤️I’m low maintenance but have high standards. I notice I attract men that think that easy going means low effort required ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:41 PM |
| 6 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.Me too. I met my ex at a yoga studio where I was getting certified to teach and he was teaching already. I let myself be open and would regularly tell him how I admired him. At first he would return the compliment and admiration until I think it all got to his head & then he stopped being as into me as he was at the beginning and weirdly more into himself. Just keep it inside until it’s safe, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 12:43 PM |
| 7 | 👀Yup. And I WAS emotionally invested and didn’t realize every time he said he “was joking” he never was. Just gaslighting the shit out of me. That’s another tip- if he says it’s just a joke and you’re left feeling yucky, it’s not a joke and your gut is telling you to protect yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:07 AM |
| 24 | 👀This is my ex’s name on my phone lol I thought back on a conversation we had one night 1 year into dating- he “joked” that he had slept with 150+ women (he was 29, lost his virginity at 21) and my stomach turned 🤮I wished I had gotten to know him better before becoming exclusive; not to discuss number of partners necessarily- that’s private BUT 150 women is a big number and I wish I had known before becoming #151 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:03 AM |
| 11 | 👀You’re free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 01:09 AM |
| 15 | 👀WHAT AN EGO IN THIS GUY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:55 AM |
| 22 | 👀My ex would get mad because I wouldn’t get “wet enough”. TRY 👏🏽TURNING 👏🏽ME 👏🏽ON!EAT ME OUT OR AT LEAST PLAY WITH NY BOOBS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:54 AM |
| 30 | 👀LMFAO! It does smell though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:52 AM |
| 96 | 👀Omg ewwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalenceI am! I came here a lot so I’m grateful for FDS, I got through that break up in no time 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:22 AM |
| 19 | Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalenceSame! After my porn sick ex who constantly made comments like “I’m not worried about your little boobs, I know if you gain weight they’ll grow but I want you to work on you ass for me” or “we need to fatten you up” and catching him give me yucky looks when I would walk around naked I promised I’d never ever date a man who isn’t totally crazy about me in every way. I’m hot and I don’t care what any asshole says. Im sorry about your shitty ex and I hope you’re doing way better now, queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:36 PM |
| 15 | Women in college beware!WOWWWWWW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:02 AM |
| 6 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!God, I can’t even understand what he’s writing lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Female Dating Strategy subreddit doesn't offer any actual strategy to find and keep HMV (High Value Men)Exactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | She's beautiful even at 56, where's the wall men constantly keep talking about?THEY hit the wall and then gaslight us into thinking it’s over for us. Losers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:27 PM |
| 5 | Why do guys on first dates ask “can you cook?”At some point I thought maybe I was getting asked because IM Hispanic. They assume I like cooking and want to feed them haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:48 PM |
| 40 | Why do guys on first dates ask “can you cook?”I’ve been asked, “what are you going to cook for me?” in the beginning stages of texting by more than a handful of “men” ... WTF?! Why would you ask that? What makes you think I’d want to do ANYTHING for you? I’m here to see what you’re going to do for me, beeotch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 09:21 AM |
| 9 | Has anybody noticed that guys shower you with attention, compliments, constantly messaging you etc but once you reciprocate and they find it easy to talk to you, they stop completely (and possibly move on to a new person).I took a screenshot of your comment- well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:54 PM |
| 12 | 'He only bullies you because he fancies you'I’ve made sure to teach my daughter from s very young age that this is absolute bullshit and she should not tolerate any of it, ever. Her teacher in the third grade told her the same bs when she complained to her- “he just likes you” 🙄🙄 the teacher got an earful from me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:47 PM |
| 22 | Why I don't OLD (5 reasons)Exactly! This is a great list. I was OLD on and off for about three years and went back on recently after a break up only to find my ex (who left me for someone else), my ex’s brother (who cheated on his wife of 17 years with 5 women half the wives age), and 2 coworkers ex husbands who also left them for other women or beat them senselessly. Online, these men seem like amazing catches, have the best looking pictures, sound interesting , looks like they have their life together, say that want a s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:58 AM |
| 5 | And on today’s episode of men are oppressed...Gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever think back on a past relationship in disbelief at the things you went through?Ugh me too. I can’t stand him, I know I’d never go back with him but I can’t stop beating myself up for staying for so long and tolerating his shit and feeling like it was all my fault. I hope you start feeling better soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:31 AM |
| 1 | This scrote I matched with but quickly blocked after some seriously creepy messages ... blocked him on everything and he texts me from someone else’s number. I never sent him bikini pics- he saw them on my profile lmaoDoing that now! Thank you ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:49 PM |
| 3 | This scrote I matched with but quickly blocked after some seriously creepy messages ... blocked him on everything and he texts me from someone else’s number. I never sent him bikini pics- he saw them on my profile lmaoOne of the things he said that grossed me out enough to block him was that Hispanics are all he goes for now 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | This scrote I matched with but quickly blocked after some seriously creepy messages ... blocked him on everything and he texts me from someone else’s number. I never sent him bikini pics- he saw them on my profile lmaoFor real. He was giving seriously clingy, desperate vibes and reached out every way he could demanding I tell him why I’m not interested. He looks like ET and I was just giving him a chance because I thought maybe a short ugly guy would be different lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:27 PM |
| 9 | This scrote I matched with but quickly blocked after some seriously creepy messages ... blocked him on everything and he texts me from someone else’s number. I never sent him bikini pics- he saw them on my profile lmaoI just had the cops call him ... I told my daughter to NEVER take shit like this from losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:48 PM |
| 16 | This scrote I matched with but quickly blocked after some seriously creepy messages ... blocked him on everything and he texts me from someone else’s number. I never sent him bikini pics- he saw them on my profile lmaoI never told him I couldn’t afford to move out of my exes, I simply shared with him that I was looking for something in an expensive area of town and it’s been a challenge. I should’ve never told him about how I became a mom and fuck, my bad for wearing a tube top on my profile picture. What a piece of work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:23 PM |
| 2 | The vitamins. Professional, personal & sensory. When they are fulfilled a partner is not necessary but an addition.Love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:46 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend of 2 years checking out other women & lying about it.It’s like I was reading my own story with my now ex... dump him! He doesn’t respect you and his wandering eye might turn into something more one day - like emotional or physically cheating. This is who he is, he will NOT change for you, and you will be miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 02:17 AM |
| 10 | We decline these kinds of datesNot a stretch at all, I just enjoy the ocean and don’t see anything wrong with beach dates in a relationship, but I see the point of not doing it early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 10:46 AM |
| 14 | We decline these kinds of datesI live by the beach, I’m at the beach 5-6 days a week and it’s a huge part of my life. No beach dates??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 09:58 AM |
| 3 | Throwaway because my boyfriend has my main account. How do I ask to be taken to a nice place for sex?He dumped you because he didn’t get what he wanted from you. So I’m sorry, But good! You didn’t lose anything to someone who clearly doesn’t value you. It was going to be your first time! Save it for someone who will give you time, understand you and damn it, take you somewhere nice!!!!!! He sounds incredibly immature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 09:46 AM |
| 3 | The look on his face was worth every pennyYessss girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:41 PM |
| 19 | Saw a quote, like "What a man has in his camera roll says a lot about who he is." I thought about my camera roll; it sounds silly but I have no one with whom I can share FDS/self empowerment memes. This sounds really edgy and lame, but it's lonely at the topSame, girl. Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 04:12 PM |
| 7 | Had a conversation with a male friend today that confirmed FDS strategiesThank you for sharing this. Can’t trust none of them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:44 PM |
| 12 | What’s Sex Like with a NarcissistSelfish. Demanding. Unsatisfying (to me). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 26 | Why are men so 🤮......stay safe ladiesI know, I just can’t believe he kept touching her after he repeatedly told him to stop AND moved his hand away! I felt scared for her ... it’s so effin sad that we have to put up with this crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:38 PM |
| 44 | Why are men so 🤮......stay safe ladiesI WOULDVE SCRATCHED THE SHIT OUT OF HIS PERVERT NASTY FACE! Use those nails girl!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 01:27 PM |
| 8 | Saw this on Twitter. This is wild!!! 🥴Eewww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 09:58 AM |
| 3 | “I’m blasian but you better not be black in any form”.Eeewwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 10:05 AM |
| 3 | How do I breakup with my boyfriend?Breakup. Sounds like he’s desperate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:57 AM |
| 16 | NEVER EVER EVER HANG OUT WITH SKETCHY PEOPLEWow, totally not your fault. You deserve better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 8 | Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit the standards we hold men to here.You deserve love, no matter who you are, were, what you look like, what your childhood was like, what people say to you, what you believe to be true about yourself, YOU DESERVE LOVE. I often feel like you do when you talked about leveling up, but don’t kick yourself over not being who you want to be right now- life comes in phases, and your phase to feel and be in an amazing place in your life will come soon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:48 PM |
| 3 | I think I am dating a NARCISSIST ... am I? Here are my red flagsYeaaaaa, he sounds a little “narc-ky” to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:43 PM |
| 4 | “I don’t have a child”Oh wow, he makes me want to vomit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 03:42 PM |
| 10 | He looked at a girl's butt on a dateThis is so true. The first fight I had with my ex was because I caught him doing a double take and ogling over a woman while walking next to me to buy me food. Two years later, his wandering eye was a major reason we broke up. Things like this shouldn’t be ignored | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:07 AM |
| 1 | OMG look who bought me flowers! It's me because I'm my favorite person and I love me so much.😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:10 PM |
| 3 | This made me cringe ... help me tell this dude off- what should I respond?!Just messaged him that and blocked lol THANK YOUUUUUUUU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:52 AM |
| 3 | This made me cringe ... help me tell this dude off- what should I respond?!Good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:37 AM |
| 3 | This made me cringe ... help me tell this dude off- what should I respond?!😂agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:34 AM |
| 8 | This made me cringe ... help me tell this dude off- what should I respond?!I plan on unfriending him (it’s Facebook) but I want to let him know how inappropriate and disgusting it is to send someone he barely knows something so ignorant. I usually do ignore these things but this made me really angry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:30 AM |
| 1 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolLmao! Doing it now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 08:00 PM |
| 5 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolThat’s what I was thinking too... he could’ve been dangerous! I’m so glad you dodged that bullet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:25 PM |
| 8 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolOh wow!! Why would he go on a second date? What a psycho!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 2 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolI was so thrown off by that lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:01 PM |
| 3 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolI kind of want to see how many times he’ll hit me with the lame lines though lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 35 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolAnytime they try to make my skin color or ethnicity “sexy” , it’s a huge turnoff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:12 PM |
| 3 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolI never thought of it like that, but you’re absolutely right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:00 PM |
| 77 | I mean, what do you even respond to this? LolYUP 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 12:03 PM |
| 3 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? Lmao😂 I hope it happens for you soon lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:16 PM |
| 11 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoThat’s why I’m so grateful I found this sub!!! Power up girls! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 08:00 PM |
| 15 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoThey can’t deal with hurt egos. Pathetic little boys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:58 PM |
| 17 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoHe’s just trying to hurt you ... hurt people, hurt people. Boy, Neeeexxxxttttttt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 29 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoIt’s all games ... it’s so pathetic that they think they’re hot shit and can just suck you back in whenever they feel like it. Eeewwww. No thanks. I can get dick anywhere. Bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:52 PM |
| 15 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoAin’t that the truth? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:06 PM |
| 32 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoIt’s funny that they break their own no contact lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:12 PM |
| 19 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoAlways! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:11 PM |
| 29 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoThat’s right. One chance and you’re out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:10 PM |
| 22 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoYes girl!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:13 PM |
| 35 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoYes! Thanks girl! I’m glad you got rid of yours too! And btw, that awful “c” word he called you is proof that he ain’t shit! Idk why men scoop so low! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:26 PM |
| 110 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoThat’s what my ex is doing to me ... he’s been sending me emails telling me how “crazy” I am and how I’m a “piece of work” ... yet he is the one with a concerning alcohol dependency and serious narcissistic issues. He didn’t think I’d move on and once he found out I’m dating again, he’s been flipping out, stalking me and saying how “sorry he feels for the next guy I sucker in” lol. Little does he know, the new guy is head over heels for me and loves all the things the ex says were my flaws. Neve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:14 PM |
| 5 | Mistress Revenge!Awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 01:12 AM |
| 7 | LVM alert!My ex did this all the time- his beard was ridiculously long and bushy and gross lol He would blame ME and say it was MY hair all over the counter, even though my hair is long as hell ... he NEVER cleaned it!!! I’m so glad he’s long gone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Another TINDER trashLMAO 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Another TINDER trashLol idk, some guys are actually this stupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:18 PM |
| 20 | Another TINDER trashTrue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 11:00 AM |
| 2 | Just found out my abusive ex, who once locked me out of my Airbnb in a foreign country (that had riots/unrest going on!), had to live through his worst nightmare. Justice.Love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 12:52 PM |
| 11 | How do you walk away strong?Omg, this!! Yes!! Everything you said is 100% spot on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:45 PM |
| 9 | How do you walk away strong?You love yourself. Over anything, you choose yourself. And don’t be afraid of sadness and loneliness because it WILL pass. It’s better to be sad on your own than sad with someone who is supposed to love and pick you over anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 01:38 PM |
| 2 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Just signed up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 07:35 PM |
| 10 | Struggle is realI dated one that was ALL OF THE ABOVE. It’s disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:41 AM |
| 1 | LVM flies pregnant girlfriend across the country just to tell her he cheated 3 timesPoor girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, how do you deal with returning a man’s belongings when you have no interest in talking to him ever again?I know, I’ve been through similar and felt that too before. But if he hasn’t asked for it yet, then you shouldn’t feel guilty about it maybe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 07:13 PM |
| 0 | Ladies, how do you deal with returning a man’s belongings when you have no interest in talking to him ever again?Throw it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 07:06 PM |
| 2 | NEVER have a NVM's children: NVM red piller impregnates wife three times and complains that she is now hideous and that he has been "cucked by mother nature"Ugh this made me sooo effin mad!! I bet he’s bald with saggy balls but thinks he’s god’s gift to the world. Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 06:43 PM |
| 17 | Better off single than with a LVM! (WGTOW - Women Going Their Own Way)Soooo true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 10:37 PM |
| 6 | Waiting for a proposal vs do you even want to marry him?Wow, I needed to read this. So true!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Imagine if she said this to him. Men are so insecure that most can’t even tolerate their partner talking to another man, but they get to do and say this and tell us it’s “normal”.Sound like my ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 12:39 AM |
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