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| 3 | How old were you when you first noticed men looking at you sexually?8. It became a 'trend' when I was 12. Luckily it was surprisingly rare with guys my own age, just random gross adults. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/20 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Would you LTR a rich ugly man who was also frugal and anti-materialistic?Do I like this guy enough that I'd date him irregardless of his financial status? Does he care how I spend my money, so long as I'm not barreling headfirst into needless debt? Is he frugal or is he stingy? That is to say: would he say no to buying a very expensive car? That's fine. Would he say no to calling for an ambulance after we got rear ended by a bus because he doesn't believe in spending money on medical bills? That's not fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/20 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Has real or perceived male preference for low n-count ever impacted you or another woman you know?Personally, no. Some women I know, yes. Virgins were often sought after (there were some interesting discussions that came from that); I knew a couple of guys who often were interested in the other direction (seeking more 'experienced' women) as well. I have met men who had distaste for women who had higher body counts, but 'high' is relative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/20 10:38 PM |
| 8 | Women of PPD, would you prefer to marry a Bachelor or a Divorcé?I don't have a preference; I'd be more concerned with whether he has kids and what role would a prospective partner be expected to play with them. I used to work weddings though, enough that I have zero desire to ever have a 'big day', so I suspect that plays into that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/20 05:47 PM |
| 1 | At what age would you say there’s something wrong with a person if they couldn’t get into a relationship?Then steps should be taken to see a) what the issue is and b) how to rectify them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/20 05:06 PM |
| 2 | At what age would you say there’s something wrong with a person if they couldn’t get into a relationship?At that juncture, they should have enough wordly knowledge to understand at least the basics of how relationships work and how to enter one. There are obvious exceptions, such as extreme cases of atypical neurology (real cases, not internet armchair self-diagnosis), extreme background issues or physical impairment that make dating harder, but assuming we're talking about the everyday Westerner, I don't think it's unreasonable that the average person would understand how dating works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/20 03:26 PM |
| 1 | At what age would you say there’s something wrong with a person if they couldn’t get into a relationship?As in couldn't get any relationship, ever? If someone legitimately wanted one and hadn't been able to date at least once by their, say, mid-twenties (to give room for legitimate late bloomers), I'd worry for them. This is assuming a person lives outside of a hyper-conservative lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Are you attracted to what you’re attracted to because it’s what you like, or because you’ve been conditioned?I believe it's both, and to what degree one influences a person is going to vary from person to person. Personally, I think the type of media we consume as youngsters (and how much we do intake) plays a disproportionate part in what we find attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/20 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Singles of PPD, would you enter into a relationship with a genderbent version of yourself? (and vice versa) Why or why not?Heavens no. I'm bad at relationships and that would just be twice the terrible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | What's your opinion on a man's body when it's in good shape?Completely anecdotal, but IME (both personal and from talking to my fellow ladies), we tend to focus more on individual body parts or regions for most guys. It's not that men's bodies are ugly or bad, or that there's a lack of appreciation, it just tends to be... kinda specific. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/20 11:02 PM |
| 23 | Female PredatorsYes, and I stay away from them, same I stay away from male homewreckers. Once or twice I've tried to talk those who are less actively malicious, and more mentally unstable, out of that sort of behaviour, but I'm not a shrink. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you honestly get annoyed when people say “looks don’t matter, personality matters more in men”?I think the concept of looks don't matter is a pretty irrational statement, although I think /u/SaBahRub is correct (personally speaking) that looks aren't everything is probably a more accurate statement. I do think a better way to word it is 'presentation matters', and to be honest about the fact that some people have a leg up in that matter. It's no different from any other aspect of life; some people have advantages due to class, economics, gender, looks, etc. However, presentation (grooming… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 04:37 PM |
| 8 | Why do you think young men gravitate to the redpill?I think concepts like TRP (amoung others) are very enticing because it offers a formula, which can be comforting when things don't work the way you were taught. Any sort of group ostensibly offers fellowship, which can also shore up bruised emotions or fulfill a desire for belonging. This isn't unique to TRP; I rather thing that FDS works along the same lines. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Why don’t women like video games or board games generally?The one upside to kids trying to make that sort of joke is definitely the chance to put them down, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/20 01:45 AM |
| 11 | Why don’t women like video games or board games generally?Incoming wall of text: I have a lot of feelings about this lol. IME, as a woman who's been gaming for 30+ years now- we're out there, but while I'm not going to say it's 'hard' to be a woman gamer (it used to be a lot worse tbh), it can be really annoying to deal with 18 year old tryhards making stupid sandwich jokes. They're still making them and it wasn't funny when they started, lol. I used to do a lot of multiplayer matching on XBOX Live years ago, but dealing with kids gets old, fast. I kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Why women have such a deceptive communication pattern?I think that as a general rule, women are taught to be subtle and to coded (and we communicate with each other in that manner) and men are taught to be forthright and blunt sounding, even when they're not being honest (think a guy in pain who just says he feels fine). That's basically down to parenting. My parents tend to be more blunt (dad as respectfully as possible, mom is basically a bull in a china shop). When I started school there was a fairly heavy emphasis by some teachers to be 'nicer'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/20 05:20 PM |
| 21 | Has your sex and romantic life improved as you've gotten older?No, but I believe the majority of that is just down to the fact that I don't really try for it either. I'm a woman staring 40 in the face. I don't think relationships/sex are bad, they can be quite wonderful, they're just not something I care about enough to put energy into. Most of my single/divorced friends are the same, with the exception (for whatever reason), the gay/bi friends I have. They're both romantics who want LTR/marriage. I'm open to the idea of meeting someone, I'm just not active… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/20 02:18 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Why isn't Jo Jorgensen the perfect candidate for American President?I doubt anyone is the perfect candidate, gender nonwithstanding. As for Jorgensen herself, as a libertarian she espouses both the very attractive (for both sides), and the very repulsive (again for both sides). For people on the left end of the spectrum, she has appeal as she supports decriminalization of drug laws, demilitarization of the police, and opposes qualified immunity. But she also believes in deregulating the market- which folks on the left would not want. On the right, she's supporti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Do some of you actually not care if a guy has hobbiesIt's always good to meet your people, I am just... definitely not that person lmao. I have the attention span of a dying tomato and am just not artsy in that fashion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Do some of you actually not care if a guy has hobbiesHmm, I don't see anything about something related to colour anywhere in my listing, or anything that remotely correlates to it. It could be that there's a reason behind these decisions, that only applies to one person in particular, largely revolving around past experiences that you're definitely not interested in hearing about, but make more sense within context. Strange, innit! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Do some of you actually not care if a guy has hobbiesWell, yeah. It's not the evil wimminz manifesto, meant to be stamped across all humans. It's the list of things that one particular individual has decided works (or rather, in this case doesn't) for them. That's why there's that whole 'for me personally' part at the start of the sentence. Crazy indeed! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Do some of you actually not care if a guy has hobbiesIt's entirely a personal thing. I don't mind movie enthusiasts who just love watching movies, but when it turns into an hour long lecture about how I just don't appreciate the power and the glory of Little-Known Director Of Your Choice, imma check out. I don't watch a lot of movies, at home or in theatres (I've gone over a decade without stepping foot in a theatre), and when I do, I tend to enjoy Marvel movies and/or films with a lot of gratuitous explosions. Which makes me a cultural philistine… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 04:45 PM |
| 4 | Do some of you actually not care if a guy has hobbiesI'm sure there are women who want a guy who's devoted to them 24/7. I'm not one of them, and it would drive me up the wall, but there's all sorts of people. Having a hobby means several things. they're able to invest in things (emotionally in most cases) they're able to keep themselves entertained they can keep themselves occupied they are interested in things that expand their knowledge- even if it's not necessarily knowledge that 'rewards' them somehow For me personally, there's a couple of ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Do you feel under much pressure from society to get married and have children?Barely; I did when I was younger, but my parents decided to only speak English in our household so I 'lost' it as I got older. I'm not first generational myself, as my dad's family has been American for a while now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/20 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Do you feel under much pressure from society to get married and have children?No, I live in the US now and have for a long time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/20 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Do you feel under much pressure from society to get married and have children?She's Korean, specifically rural Korea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/20 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Do you feel under much pressure from society to get married and have children?I don't 'feel it' because I'm pretty firm about being childfree, but I do have people trying to apply it a lot, yes. It's largely my mother and aunt, but I'll get it from strangers and acquaintances too. For my mom/aunt, they basically view marrying and having children as the last rite of passage into adulthood. I think they view my objection to having kids as a stubborn rejection of getting older. It doesn't help that I'm into nerd stuff like comics and video games, which is a kid thing to them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | How do you define a slut?A slut is just someone who has a lot of non-committed sexual partners whether in back to back short-term relationships or outside of relationships. I don't view it personally as a pejorative, but I know a lot of other people do. That's pretty much it. It's such a meaningless word these days as anyways. It gets lobbed so often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/20 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: What in your opinion/belief is the purpose of marriage?Which is why context is such an important part of every day life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/20 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: What in your opinion/belief is the purpose of marriage?It's a multi-dimensional thing. (for clarity, single + unmarried woman in no hurry to change that) For the state, it's proof that this is My Person and I trust him to make certain decisions on my behalf, to care for me if I'm incapacitated, and someone I make joint financial decisions with. With the hypothetical guy, it's a declaration that I will have no others and that we are partners in this ongoing shitshow called life. It means that I trust who they are implicitly, and will be the person th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/20 11:09 PM |
| 3 | Would you date man who "cheated" his way to good looks?I don't think I'd care too much; I wear makeup and have a pretty rigorous skincare routine. I'm half-Korean though, and plenty of dudes there get plastic surgery so that might colour my outlook on things. I'd certainly wonder why the hell he'd be dating me, but eh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/20 11:13 PM |
| 2 | [Q4All] What are your thoughts on couples who sleep in separate beds?I think a couple should do what's best for them. In some relationships, I don't doubt it spells doom, in other relationships it probably enhances the marriage. I did have a relationship like this; I slept in my then bf's room more often than not, but I get really bad restless leg syndrome and I already move a lot in my sleep, so if I felt it coming on I'd go to my room so I didn't kick the shit out of him in my sleep. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Would you women be offended if your boyfriend took you to Macdonald’s when he took past hook ups to Morganfield’s?Eh if you knew the rest of my opinions you'd probably change your mind lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Would you women be offended if your boyfriend took you to Macdonald’s when he took past hook ups to Morganfield’s?Too many? Not enough? Why worry about what someone posts on social media? Everyone's got their thing. I don't care about fine dining because I want to eat in peace and I think getting dressed up for the occasion is annoying, and for a first date it looks peacock-y, which isn't something I find attractive. There's plenty of people out there who're like that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Would you women be offended if your boyfriend took you to Macdonald’s when he took past hook ups to Morganfield’s?Eh I doubt it; there are nice places I'd appreciate going to, they're just not food related lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Would you women be offended if your boyfriend took you to Macdonald’s when he took past hook ups to Morganfield’s?? Not sure if this is supposed to be an insult or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 01:56 AM |
| 10 | Being widowed in one's 20s increases suicide risk by ~17x for men, but only ~4x for womenIIRC (and this is off the top of my head, so I could be wrong) but women tend to worry more about traumatizing the people who find their body, so they tend to use less violent methods. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 01:27 AM |
| 7 | Would you women be offended if your boyfriend took you to Macdonald’s when he took past hook ups to Morganfield’s?No. Partially because showboating isn't attractive (to me) and partially because fine dining in general isn't something I care about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Question regarding preference of sexual access to top tier men over likelihood to receive commitmentThe whole thing looks oversimplified tbh, and presupposes far too much. I'm closer to type a in terms of overall sexual history, but not because I'm all afeared of the evil menz (/s if necessary) or frigid, and I support a safe, sane, and informed consensual sex life between adults in whatever form it takes. I'm generally sexually invisible to men who can attract a revolving conga line of women- that doesn't mean the women who can ride them are my enemy or somehow pitted against me. You can't ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/20 01:49 AM |
| 2 | [Q4All]Have you ever met anyone you consider to be a “lost cause” and why?Yes. One women, one man. Oddly enough, the guy has managed to get gfs before but decided to fixate on a woman who was not interested (and never showed interest). It didn't end well for him. He was/is a super skinny nerd with less than stellar hygiene, but outside of that one woman he was actually a really pleasant dude, decent social awareness and not creepy, just... well, nerdy. For women, one just... lived in her own world, where every man wanted her and she got some sort of high off if it. Ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Do men even get praised anymore for having high n counts?It's not generational so much as it's the social climate of that particular group. I've never had a friend group of prudes, and there was usually a mix of low and high body count folks (of all genders). Generally as long as there was no cheating involved (cheating got you shunned), you might get a high five and a request for a war story, but it wouldn't really be clout and no one would look up to you for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/20 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Women, what honestly, truly attracts you to a man (besides looks)I find I'm attracted to men who have intellectual strengths in areas I don't and are eager to share their knowledge (and interested in what I excel at). I'm talking engineers, some hard sciences, etc. Unfortunately that population seems to have an overgrowth of either 'has no filters or unwarranted self-importance. (I know this sounds like a continuation of all women want assholes, but I don't find this extends to athletes or chefs or other areas.) On a purely physical level, I find a lot contra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/20 09:39 PM |
| -1 | As a woman. What's your opinion on hypergamy?Does it exist? Yes. Is it gender specific? No. Does it run rampant in the female community? Not in my experience. Does it run rampant in the male community? Not in my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/20 09:39 PM |
| 1 | What's your definition of the bluepill?Pretty much the same as my definition of redpill; a group for those who find dating/relationships/life easier if they have a list on How Things Should Work and the ability to go on rails. A social viewpoint via Powerpoint slides, basically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/20 04:33 PM |
| 2 | What is the correct split of duties in a traditional household with a SAHM and a working Father?This is really hard to measure because there's actually a lot more that goes into it besides just who does what household chores. Living in a townhouse with a yard the size of a postage stamp is vastly different from living in a single family home with a really large yard in terms of time management (as someone whose family moved from a tiny cement apartment steadily upward to eventually a house with a huge yard). You have to factor in things like the amount of kids (which then spills over into … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/20 11:09 PM |
| 1 | So I've been reading this sub for a while and it gives the impression that men and women just hate each other. As a straight man/woman, do you resent the fact that you're straight?do you sometimes resent the fact that you're straight I mean.... no. Although I tend to view my sexuality as being 'technically straight but largely apathetic'. Not that I'm asexual or dislike sex, just that it's not really important to my general well-being. Do you wish you could turn off your sexual attraction to the opposite sex so you wouldn't have to deal with them? I have to deal with many anyways, and generally I enjoy my friendships with men (or family ties in the case of my dad and brot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/20 01:27 AM |
| 1 | How many types of peopleMost simplistic personality quizzes or presumptions are going to fail because while most people are probably not complicated, that doesn't mean they can't be somewhat complex. People aren't numbers, boxes, statistics, etc when you take the whole person into account. A person can fail miserably in one arena, and soar to great heights in others. I've taken the Myers-Briggs (for a lark) multiple times for well over a decade, and I've always gotten the same result. My dad's done the same and he gets… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/20 11:33 PM |
| 4 | How are women able to cut off people from their lives with such ease?It's not a gender specific trait. Men can cut people off- it can be for selfish reasons, but it can also be for damn good reasons too. My best friend cut his father off after a lifetime of lies, failed promises, emotional abuse, and more. I've ghosted a couple of exes, but only once was it right after a breakup, and it was because he kept lying. About everything. Lying about shit I didn't even ask about. He'd tell me all the things he'd do that day and then get tripped up in a lie over some inno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/20 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Why women want to make guys they like wait for sex?I can't speak for anyone else, nor do I believe in some three month rule, but just because I'm interested in a guy doesn't mean I'm 100% comfortable with having sex right off the bat. I need some time to make sure that it's something I want, with that particular man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 11:25 PM |
| 3 | How do cheaters get exposed?It really depends on the situation. I've snitched on cheaters. My last boyfriend cheated on me, and it came out when he broke up with me. With my brother, his ex had spilled her guts out of guilt. Some people are truly terrible at hiding things and it gets real obvious, real fast. Some people just aren't as smart as they'd like to think they are and they get sloppy. And in some cases, it's sheer dumb luck that they get exposed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/20 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Is there a gender difference when it comes to male and women and how they feel about compliments on appearance?Fair point, but it seems like they're more likely to make a positive comment on the item and not the person. Like the difference would be 'nice shirt' versus 'that shirt looks great on you!', if that makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Is there a gender difference when it comes to male and women and how they feel about compliments on appearance?I think because most men don't or won't compliment other men on their appearences, it happens so infrequently compared to women that it can be a bit of a shock and can make a guy unsure of how to respond. Which is a shame, really. Women are much more comfortable with verbally boosting one another in terms of appearence. I'm extremely plain but my friends have always added compliments about my appearence, ranging from 'Your eyes/hair/whatever is so pretty' to straight up 'if I were into women I'd… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Community Chat Megathread (06 September 2020)Probably not, I developed my own special blend of introversion well before puberty lol. As it is, my job has very little face to face contact until last week so I was lucky that my looks meant just about nothing to begin with. Good looking people do have it easier with a lot of social stuff, but growing up with a knockout for a mom and a brother made me see a lot of the ugliness that comes with it, so no thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Should men care about a woman's financial status?Yes, but I think it's even more critical to look at a person's financial outlook. If you make 90k a year, and this woman wants to live a high roller life (think one that someone at 125k could comfortably sustain while still being able to maintain savings), then she should be prepared to get a job that is, at minimum, 50k a year before taxes? Since you'll need to save for two? On the other hand, if you're both inclined to a more traditional lifestyle with a SAHM, but the woman is very crafty/DIY,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Do women goof around less than men, especially after their teens? Do they want to be seen as more serious?I goof off with my dad, brothers and sister all the time, as well as a couple of close family friends. Not quite to the level you describe (my brother and dad's gas is, as far as I'm concerned, in violation of the Geneva convention) but we horse around, make dumb jokes, or watch terrible movies just to pick them apart. That being said, I'm close with my siblings and my dad and those specific friends, and I'd need to have absolute trust in them to do so. FWIW, I'm several years older than you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Do men dislike being approached by women romantically or is that just a myth?I think this is largely a myth. Ive never straight up asked a guy out or propositioned them (not for any gender related reasons, im just awkward and easily embarrassed), but when I've scraped up the courage to let a guy know I'm interested, even if they weren't interested back they at least pretended to be flattered by the interest. I imagine for most people it's less about others being interested in them and more about how the interest is shown. Edited because I can't spell for shit today | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/20 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Q4all: Have you ever been in a committed relationship where some aspect of your partner's sexual history made you uncomfortable? What was it, and why?The only thing that has ever made me uncomfortable is when a boyfriend's former partner enjoyed x activity that I had little interest in and they tried to hammer me into submission with it. I don't really have an opinion on former sexual partners providing a) it was all safe, sane and informed consent and b) they're willing to do an STD test, but I really don't like being pressured to do something I'm not interested. My history is pretty boring so to the best of my knowledge, no I've never made … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/20 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Do women like it, when told you are mine, basically treated like you are ownedMost people I know like a little mutual possiveness. The problems tend to arise when it turns into actually treating the person like property. There's this giant space between saying 'That's my lady/That's my man' and 'You are here for my personal disposal and entertainment'. I mean if it's someone's kink, go nuts, just don't go overboard with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/20 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Why did the standards of beauty change historically when it came to weight in women?Fair point, but I did mean chubby, not fat. Although 'slightly rounded' or a little curvy might be a better, if nebulous, term. Very skinny/scrawny might not bode well for breeding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/20 03:18 PM |
| 16 | Why did the standards of beauty change historically when it came to weight in women?Being chubby meant that you had access to resources. Like meat- you hear about the stacks of pure mammalian carnage that dukes and kings had on spread during banquets. Poor folks did not have nearly as much access. Beauty standards, in general, tend to be pretty varied and oftentimes irrational. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/20 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe porn negatively affected modern dating?I think it definitely can, but it's not necessarily a given. So long as it's understood to be exactly what is it- a cheap thrill and a fantasy- I don't find the concept inherently bad or distasteful. Obviously I don't think the kidlets should be watching and there are some forms of porn I think are way too disturbing, but as long as all parties gave safe, sane and informed consent and the person watching isn't an idiot or emotionally unwell, I don't see the issue. Sex is a thing that intrigues p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/20 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Do you lose friends when they get into serious relationships?I think initially in the beginning it's kind of normal. It's exciting and new, which makes it interesting. Once the newness levels out, I find friend groups diminish in size but tend to have a core intact, assuming the relationship is healthy. When it's not, it shrinks a lot more or one partner subsumes the other's friends group or limits it severely and badly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/20 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Why is circumcision not considered genital mutilation?it's tradition, aka peer pressure from dead people. Personally, I feel like no one should be slinging blades around someone's genitalia (or really, any part of them) without fully informed consent, but people will fight like hell about it. As far as I can tell, for men it was 'I want my son to look like me and for women, it was because they weren't familiar with what a uncut dick looks like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/20 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t women realize them being chronically single is a huge red flag?How is being serially monogamous any better? Do you really think that every single woman out there is single only because they have over inflated expectations? Is there literally no other reason you can come up with why someone (of any gender) may have dry spells in their dating history? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/20 03:38 PM |
| 38 | What are some dealbreakers you’ve acquired with life experience?The serious ones: Mama's boys (not to be mixed up with guys who have emotionally healthy relationships with their mothers) People with flagrant disregard for other people's time People whose sense of humour primarily consists of tearing other people down constantly One uppers People who need to be propped up 24/7 People who can't give or receive constructive criticism People who declare that they want to run together like, a week into a relationship (they're usually running away from something e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/20 02:59 PM |
| 2 | The amount of risk and investment a woman puts into the dating process is the same she will into a relationship.if a woman won’t put effort and equal amounts of time and money into the dating process she is won’t do any different into the relationship. If you'd stopped at effort, or traded time and money for resources, I would agree. I also think this holds true for a lot of people. Different relationships (and different people) require different things, but those things can be broken down, I think, into resources (something finite that you can contribute into a relationship). In every adult relationship … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/20 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Onlyfans and modern relationshipsI think the purpose of only fans is basically just a semi-curated camgirl site. It basically adds a veneer of legitimacy. To the best of my knowledge, there's no trading for actual physical contact (at least not above board) due to normal prostitution laws. I don't have an onlyfans account though, so this is just conjecture. I'm pretty ambivalent about a potential bf using porn for the most part; it really comes down to how often and if he's a) death gripping himself out of an IRL sex life and b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Onlyfans and modern relationshipsfor the women reading this thread, what are your thoughts on having a relationship with a partner on OnlyFans. Just for clarification, do you mean having a relationship with someone who pays someone on Onlyfans, or someone who actually sells on Onlyfans? In my case the answer to both is a pretty firm no, but the context behind the reasoning might be a little different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Do you want to be loved for your abilities, accomplishments, and achievements by someone you're dating?I would like for it to be part of the package? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Would you consider marrying a "trad" man with conventionally attractive qualities even if you yourself aren't trad?No. We would not be happy in the long term and that's not fair to either of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 4 | Is the marriage/birth rate declining because women don't want it? Or is it because men are of increasingly low quality.It's a lot of different things. I'm childfree simply because I gave up a good chunk of my childhood to raising my siblings, and I'm not interested in doing that again; I'm not anti-child ND adore being around kids, I just don't want to parent them. I'm not anti-marriage, its just never been a priority or 'must have aspect of my life. For some women, it's a career thing. For some women, they just don't like children. For some women, they're commitment-phobes. For some women, they're averse to men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Be honest: Males and females with no kids do you automatically disqualify someone if you find out they have a kid?Am a woman, it's not an automatic disqualifier but there are limits. I don't personally want to be a mother and all the baggage it entails, but I'm comfortable being a step mother provided that the children are old enough to wipe their own asses and speak. I am over changing diapers. I would let the guy know that I understand that his children are his primary concern and that's okay, but if my feelings can't be taken into account and he doesn't try to raise emotionally healthy, well-adjusted kid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on Bella Thorne making $1 million USD on onlyfansFandom's a good place to make money. I can't really judge the folks who choose to participate; the amount of comic book memorabilia I own would probably be considered embarrassing by some folks, but we all have their thing. They're willing to pay extra for a 'closer relationship to their idol. After hearing about some of the nightmarish shit that surrounds kpop fans, paying for a tittie pic or w/e is nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/20 08:25 PM |
| 4 | Whats the psychology behind "mean girls" aka popular girls particular in high school being total narcissistic sadists?I imagine it's not all too different from asshole boys shoving nerds into lockers or pushing people down the stairs. Some people are shitheads, and then they get gripped tight by a hurricane of hormones and they go full douchebag, and they're enabled by their 'friends'. Girls tends to be a lot cattier and more verbal, no doubt, but I recall some seriously fucked up shit being done by both sexes in high school. Worst one I heard about (my brother saw it happen) was a bunch of steaming piles of go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/20 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Physically, what is your type and how easily have you been able to get into STR/LTR with those men?My type is within a couple inches of me (either direction, so we're talking 5'5"/6" to 5'10"/11"), not too muscley, not too skinny (both body types are uncomfortable to lay on when I'm wallowing in my pity-me pool lol). I guess just average? I'm assuming about the muscled dudes because I've never dated one, it's just a lingering observation from when I used to go to metal shows and occasionally ended up bouncing off of a ripped dude in the pit. Alternative style dudes are more likely to do it fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 09:47 PM |
| 2 | General dating advice from ANYONE is rubbishTBH, I do agree. There's a lot of scenarios where it would be a bad idea to go beyond generalities, and there's a lot of scenarios where going into specifics would be a bad idea. Not just for dating, but for life in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Women should demand men get paternity testI covered this under cons: The cons: first, this requires either both parents to be available for testing (which gets tricky in the case of sperm/egg donors or if the biological father is MIA for whatever reason), which isn't always the case, for a multitude of reasons, or for a widespread genetic database, which poses a lot of privacy issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/20 01:32 PM |
| 12 | Women should demand men get paternity testI mentioned this in a different thread, but there's a smarter way to go about this (rather than 'lol these hoes ain't loyal', because crowing about it in that manner is a surefire way to piss enough people off that it doesn't happen): you frame it as genetic testing. The pros: whatever happens, the baby benefits. Full stop. You're testing for hereditary issues and parenthood is secondary. This allows for insight into issues the child may have in the future. This prevents men from caring for ille… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/20 11:55 AM |
| 9 | For those who believe that age or power gap relationships are predatory, is it regardless of whether the man or the woman is the older/more powerful partner?Lots of sex does not necessarily equate to more relationship experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/20 10:43 AM |
| 20 | For those who believe that age or power gap relationships are predatory, is it regardless of whether the man or the woman is the older/more powerful partner?I think anyone can be predatory, and I think there's three different things that have to be looked at if you're trying to see if a relationship is predatory: the age of both parties involved the age difference of both parties involved the power and/or maturity difference of both involved In the case of Spiegel and Kerr, there's a seven year difference, but they were both well into adulthood and they're both independently wealthy. Because they're not in the same industry and one isn't an authorit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 0 | Are age gap relationships like mine really that gross?It's not terrible. If I were friends with you, I'd tell you to be cautious and take your time because 22 year olds aren't really known for their maturity (not saying they're all gibbering buffoons at all, but a lot have fairly limited real world experience) and if I were friends with your girlfriend, I'd tell her to be cautious and take her time because she still most likely has a few years of personal growth to go through and you're very likely in a different stage of life. That being said, I w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 22 | Have you ever been cheated on?Yes I've been cheated on, and I'm a woman. I would imagine that there will always be less people who are cheaters than there will be less people who have been cheated on, and that's due to some (maybe a lot, within that specific population) people simply being serial cheaters. For me, the only difference with how I 'view' men is that I'm no longer comfortable with people who are serial flirts or who are showboats constantly trying to get attention from everyone. I'm not going to fly into a jealo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Is “I need to be alone” code for “I need some space”? And if so, is it alpha to double down or back down?There's so much context missing here that any answer would be useless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/20 01:08 AM |
| 2 | What PERSONALITIES Would You Be Compatible With in LTRs?Outside of the common sense 'don't be abusive or an asshole' type stuff, I'd wager 'laid back, but responsibly so' would best fit the bill. Someone is reasonably independent and doesn't need to be attended to all the time (barring emotional and/or medical issues, ofc), someone who is done with the whole 'I need to see the world thing', and someone who has passions that exist outside of, well, partnership. Patience and general geniality would be amazing. In a perfect world, they're okay with my n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 05:09 PM |
| 2 | How can we make breakups less painful?You really can't, because breakups and people vary. It would require a massive social overhaul. In this case, you just need to rip the bandage off and get it over with. This guy sounds like two separate guys I dated in high school (please, teens, don't date just because your friends tell you that you should, learn from my mistakes!); they're really sad for like, a week, and then they find someone else to fawn over. They're in love with the idea of love. It's not a fault thing at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you think sleepovers are mandatory in relationships?For me they are, but I wouldn't marry anyone I hadn't lived with for at least a year. Home life compatibility is just as important to me as sexual compatibility (and that's important to me too) and I need to make sure we don't drive one another up the wall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/20 02:17 PM |
| 8 | Women have baby fever. Myth or reality?Oh, there's still social pressure lol. I'm 38, single, and have been openly childfree since I was 20. I still get a lot of comments about settling down/getting married/popping out babies. There's still time! There's some fundies on my dad's side and my mom thinks popping out a kid and getting married is what makes you an adult. 🙄 I ended up spoiling my niece and nephew and weaponizing my gift giving so they tell people off on the basis of 'but aunty says if she doesn't have kids, she can spoil u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/20 03:21 AM |
| 14 | Women have baby fever. Myth or reality?I think both women and men are capable of 'developing baby fever, but women are a) 'allowed' to be more verbal about it and b) have a limited fertility window. Purely anecdotally, I haven't noticed a gap between men and women in general over having kids. What I have noticed is that men tend to vocalize earlier that they want to have kids definitively, while women are more likely to be ambivalent or want to wait til they're a little older. That said, I'm one of the women who really don't want chi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/20 03:10 AM |
| 6 | Do women consider themselves to be "high value" even if they themselves aren't loyal?It's the relationship version of If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 28 | Do women consider themselves to be "high value" even if they themselves aren't loyal?Tomi Lahren is a self-absorbed, bottom feeding pickme of the political variety (the left has those too, this isn't a political statement). Tomi Lahren also does not think women are absolutely perfect and has gone on the records excoriating women before. Tomi Lahren thinks she is a real prize. This is what happens when you have the self-reflective capabilities of a collapsing black hole. She thinks she, and apparently by association her friends, are extra special and don't 'deserve'... I guess to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/20 09:28 PM |
| 1 | How has seeing a man cry affected your opinion of him?Crying at a movie - most of the time this confuses me, but only because it's at times I don't find emotionally stirring. I don't think it's wrong, just a little baffling. I teared up like a mofo during 1917 and Endgame (don't come at me, I've been waiting for this since I got into comic books lmao) so I've been there too. So it's less of a game changer and more of a 'I don't understand this'. Crying over death - I mean... totally normal? I'd be more concerned if they didn't cry. Crying from happ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/20 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Thoughts On Actual Dating Advice?Cologne predates metro sexual styles by a lot of centuries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Thoughts On Actual Dating Advice?Is there a particular reason why you feel that way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Thoughts On Actual Dating Advice?Specific to the cologne/perfume angle, choose something with low throw (essentially something that's best smelled up close) and go with something that works with your body chemistry. Dear lord, I have smelled some people who were wearing something that normally I liked but went to sour piss on them. I find a lot of people just throw on whatever is popular. Choose something with a skin musk if you can, and don't go for anything too wild. I love weird perfumes, and one of my signature scents smell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/20 01:20 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?I'm asking for clarification, I don't think low effort is necessarily bad in all situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 05:13 AM |
| 9 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?So I'm gonna be honest, it sounds less like demanding and more like you were wanting something really low effort? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 04:48 AM |
| 8 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?Eh, my dude, it sounds like you got hosed, but you're being really non-specific about what's being demanded. 'Demands at all' can range from the dumb and unrealistic ('I expect dinner at Chez OverPriced French Place every other week and a new Hermes bag bi-annually') to, well, normal adulting stuff. Without context, there ain't much to say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 04:15 AM |
| 13 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?less valuable Debatable. If you personally place more value on youth/youthfulness, that's your thing, but that's not Word of God for all people. the higher goes her demands. And? Like I said, as people mature, they expect more. The fact that a very young woman finds owning a car impressive means... what, exactly? They have low or different standards? 19 year old me was madly in love with a brooding drummer. 38 year old me still thinks drummers are cool, but finds fiscal responsibility (no, not g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 03:25 AM |
| 15 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?People are generally at least a little wiser and more mature- and yes, that comes with higher standards- when they get older. 'You own a car' (editorial you) is something teenagers are impressed by because they think it means you're an adult. 35 year olds are reasonably going to expect more from a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Q4All: What did your first love teach you about love?It's possible to have big differences in your personality and still be happy together That your mental state has an affect on people you love and you should keep that in mind (this was largely my fault- we dated during a very turbulent part of my life, most of which was out of my control, and I didn't realize that I'd hurt him as I was starting to spiral out of control with my depression) Sometimes things end even when you don't want them to, and you'll get through it That if the relationship wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?I feel that if someone wants to cut themselves off from a portion of the population for that, that's their loss and potentially my gain. Height has nothing to do personality, caring, dependability, kindness, etc. Also, from personal experience, men who are a little bit shorter have excellent leverage in bed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 02:16 AM |
| 24 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions?It's pretty simple: Open to dating younger (but I'm assuming legal) people is not the same as only looking to date younger people. One is 'this is not a dealbreaker' when it comes to age, the other is 'age is the main requirement and that age is often people who are still growing into adulthood'. There's also the fact that a big part of the ick factor isn't looks, but the idea that someone who is older, and more 'seasoned' in life, may very well be looking for someone younger and naive to date s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Do you think men are more likely to pine over ‘the one who got away’ than women?I think nostalgia is a hell of a drug. No gender is immune to it. I wouldn't say AMALT, but I think there's a strong 'sowing your wild oats' mentality amoung some subsections of guys, and when they're older and want to 'settle down', they realize that they may have met a girl who ticked off his marriage boxes, but not his partying (or whatever) boxes. (Women can do this too, regret is not a gender specific issue.) The sweet girl who loved baking and sundresses isn't necessarily who you want to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 4 | Will there be a shift towards male order brides?I'm glad it worked out for him! (Seriously, happy people make me happy.) I just don't think it's a very long term stable solution- price aside, because most come from out the country there's very limited time for chemistry or compatibility, which would be a huge concern. Totally anecdotal and I wouldn't put it as AMALT but you do see quite a lot of cases where men order mail order brides out of the mistaken belief that their wives will be docile, feminine and very submissive. I see the same thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 7 | Will there be a shift towards male order brides?I feel like for all the kvetching that happens here, most people still want to be with someone that actually wants them for them. Some people can successfully lie to themselves that their paid-for partner saw something in them- hell, that might even be true in some cases- but I doubt most can. I'd bet on a return to arranged marriages before mail order brides/grooms. If done correctly/ethically (i.e. no one is forced into it and they get to meet one another beforehand), it wouldn't be an issue f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: How Long Do You Think You Could Go Without Having Sex With Your SO And The Relationship Still Be Salvageable?Yes, I was. He suddenly found his sex drive when I left the house and he started calling me all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/20 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: How Long Do You Think You Could Go Without Having Sex With Your SO And The Relationship Still Be Salvageable?It kills me because I'm a gamer too, so I get the appeal. I'm still able to save a game or at least get somewhere safe for an online game to have some fun with a partner. You can do both! It's not difficult! >:| | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: How Long Do You Think You Could Go Without Having Sex With Your SO And The Relationship Still Be Salvageable?The longest I was able to tolerate it was 9 months before I cracked. He was too busy with video games to have sex, and it was frustrating as all hell. Relationship died pretty soon after. I'm not a romantic and don't really need much besides affirmation that I'm still attractive to them (on top of the normal 'don't be an asshole' aspect of a relationship, like cheating or abuse) so I was pretty steamed. It's pretty dependent and I hesitate at giving numbers because there's always gonna be some s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/20 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Does your morality affect your implementation of Dating Strategy?1: Your boyfriend has become mean and kind of abusive, yet you are dependent on them for resources currently. You find a hot guy who treats you right and is willing to have a discreet affair with you. Would you? Remember, your present financial situation means you don’t want to break up with your boyfriend, and since he is a jerk maybe he deserves to get cheated on. This one is a little tricky for me only because I have a) a very strong rule about not becoming financially dependent on a partner … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/20 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: How true is the idea that women give “bad” advice to their male Friends/family members?I think women are certainly capable of giving bad advice, but I don't think it's a uniquely female trait. I think in this arena, people often give advice that only relates to them; essentially, they give dating advice that's really only catered to what they, personally, find attractive or what's worked for them in the past. That often is not helpful since people vary wildly, even within homogeneous groups, and what one person finds attractive another might find repulsive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 5 | The orgasm gap, or......why should you get another serving of food, when you never properly finished the one on your plate?It can; while I definitely have a sex drive, being with men who didn't particularly care if I derived any pleasure from sex kind of killed my appetite for wanting a relationship of any kind. It wasn't the sole reason why, but it definitely contributed. I can't get off on PIV. That's no one's fault, it's just the state of things. But there are other ways of getting me off, and not showing interest in that just makes me think that the sex life won't be worth it, and I want to be in a relationship … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Do women wear what would be considered revealing clothing because of hot weather?Some do, some don't. I did into my early teen years because my body does not self-regulate my internal temperature well (I always felt like I was on fire) until I got some comments on my ass and legs. Now I just wear hoodies and jeans 24/7 lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/20 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Would you be bothered if you found out that your SO did not find you physically attractive at all, but just like you for your personality?Of course I would be. I've been the person who did not find the other person attractive (pro tip for teens, don't let your friends badger you into dating before you're ready) and it didn't feel good then either. I would never expect any man I dated to look at me like I'm some sort of goddess, but good lord I'd expect him to find me attractive enough to want to sleep with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/20 11:54 AM |
| 11 | Question for non-Americans and Americans that have lived abroad for a longer period: Have you noticed a difference in dating cultures and gender dynamics?I grew up in South Korea- on a military base, but I'm half and thus spent a lot of time with family there, outside of the military bubble. My Korean experiences were both urban and rural. Koreans still have the lingering grasp of Confucianism in their culture- they stand with a foot in the old world, and a foot in the new. (Please bear in mind that I'm speaking from my experience in the 90's, and my continued interactions today.) Both overseas military folks and the Koreans I grew up around trea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Sex is the pinnacle of any relationship, and the ultimate expression of feeling between two peopleI don't think I said or implied that it was "meant to be." That's entering into the realm divinity and religion and that's not really where I'm trying to go with this post. Your thesis is a pretty declarative statement: CMV: Sex is the pinnacle of any relationship, and the ultimate expression of feeling between two people. (I do understand that you mean in a romantic relationship in this context.) In what way? This is only applied to people that are having sex or want to have sex. It doesn't app… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 11:25 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Sex is the pinnacle of any relationship, and the ultimate expression of feeling between two peopleI'd argue that sex can be, but I think that the idea that sex was meant to be an emotional act between joined partners is overstating it. I think your viewpoint is nice, and can be true, but isn't always true. One, that implies (on some level) that people approach, or in the past generally approached, sex as lovemaking by default, which I don't think is the always case. There are definitely people for whom lovemaking is the best way to show love- and that's not necessarily bad- but I'd stop at h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 02:03 AM |
| 6 | What are your biggest fears and anxieties about the opposite sex in LTR or Marriage?I see it a lot when people have kids; they stop viewing one another as romantic partners. In my case it wasn't kids since I'm child free, but ive been in relationships where it became expected of me to basically be domesticated and do all the cooking/cleaning/scheduling while I was also working full time. Sex dropped off and I felt like a single mother to the world's laziest teenager. I don't feel romantic towards an adult male who will not cook dinner/do laundry/help clean the house under any c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 7 | What are your biggest fears and anxieties about the opposite sex in LTR or Marriage?Being viewed as a mother figure instead of a partner. It's happened to me before and it drives me up the wall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/20 12:50 AM |
| 1 | What are your preferences that go against TRP theory?Height tends not to be a dealbreaker for me. I'm a little taller than average for a woman, and my height preference is 5'5"-6'2". (I'm 5'8".) And yes, I've dated several men shorter than me. Guys a little shorter than me have excellent leverage. I don't care about money so much as I care about fiscal responsibility. I've never been in an adult relationship where I did not outearn the guy at some point. Me making more money doesn't bother me, me having to support someone who spends all of their m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/20 05:29 PM |
| 1 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?I don't think any solution regarding dating specifically will make it fair. We'd be far better off with a social overhaul that changes how we view sex, relationships, and self-esteem. Dating is a symptom, not a cause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 10:01 PM |
| 2 | How much your parents have influenced your current views?Not too much, although my dad's a generally awesome person and someone I try to emulate in most ways (there's some stuff we're just ideologically opposed on, but I love my dad and he's the person I respect the most). My parents were both very conservative Christians when I was younger, and as the oldest/'starter' child I bore the brunt of a lot of it, so there's a lot I rejected from them- my mother is a very attractive psycho and so the idea of 'being a Good Christian Wife (whatever that means,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/20 05:01 PM |
| 1 | For women, is there a correlation between the size of your partner's dick and your sexual satisfaction plus happiness in a LTR?What a size queen, Jesus christ! I (like a lot of other women) don't get off from penetration alone- that's not anyone's fault. When it comes to sex, I'm more concerned over their attitude in bed and whether they're willing to use their hands/mouth. A sweet dude with a 2 inch dick and a clever tongue is going to go further than a dude swinging a firehose who jackhammers. Also, 6-7 inches girth sounds like a nightmare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/20 02:12 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about marrying your first partner?I don't have a moral opinion on it, and I have seen it work out, but usually it ends in disaster (from what I've personally seen). However, tbf most of the cases I've seen also involved getting married fairly early on. I'm way past the point of being able to marry my first partner, but I wouldn't be against it if my first partner hadn't been such a heel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/20 11:04 AM |
| 3 | Out of every 20 women, how many do you think take some form of medication to alleviate anxiety? Why do you think this is?I'd already tried to kill myself twice by then, so while anxiety and depression may be normal in teens, I wasn't struggling with worries about dating and such, it went a lot deeper than that. I'm really not sure what you mean by "Maybe those feelings are meant to get you to act a certain way, not to take pills.", can you elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/20 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Out of every 20 women, how many do you think take some form of medication to alleviate anxiety? Why do you think this is?I was diagnosed at sixteen with both depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, we (me + family) spent the next two years figuring out that I have abysmal reactions to a lot of different types of meds, and I didn't respond well to therapy, so i had to figure out what worked for me. I don't know the statistics of anxiety sufferers, and in the age of the internet and self-diagnosis I'd be hesitant to guess. I think modern society is more anxious in general. Medication- dispensed and used correctly- is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/20 02:14 AM |
| 10 | How common is it for men to genuinely care about battling for custody?Much like the rest of the world, some dudes do and some dudes don't. My brother went in ready to fight for sharing full custody. Luckily, while I don't care for his ex-wife, she actually wanted to split it too so there was no custody battle. Because they don't live in the same immediate area, she has them during the week during school and he has them weekends/summer and they split holidays. They share full legal custody. She has them more physically, but that's what happens when kids, y'know, go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/20 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Do you secretly like a tiny bit of objectification from your partner?I can't imagine anyone but the crotchiest of humans taking exception to that. I would expect any reasonable human to want to be considered attractive (and told as such) by their partners. As long as they're not treated as being as only a warm hole (or a walking cash cow in the case of dudes here), gentle teasing or compliments are fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/20 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Charisma on Command? Do you think he is/was red-pilled?Red pilled? No. I think he's just fairly conservative, and there's a decent amount of overlap between general conservatism and red pill ideology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Why are PUAS/Red Pillers always selling scam items?Most subsections of any demographic has a small grouping of hucksters looking to make a quick buck off the disenfranchised (or at least people who think they are). These dudes are selling their targeted demographic's version of detox tea, Younique 'cosmetics' and shitty political merch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 06:06 PM |
| 6 | It is within "Good Taste" for a man to order for his date.I guess there are some people into this, but to be honest the flat out ordering part has the chance to make a guy look either really controlling or weird. Assuming I'm reading this right and the guy makes the decision, not just merely relaying the woman's choice. Making a suggestion is great! It makes sense. Making an executive choice for a person you barely know is just... off. Maybe I'm not ladylike enough? Idk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/20 07:19 PM |
| 4 | What are your "learning experiences" with men?I'm gonna be real dude- most momma's boys I meet are absolutely miserable. A guy who loves his mom in a healthy, adult fashion is miles away from a momma's boy. Think of the difference between a grown woman who has a good relationship with her father and a daddy's girl with additionally daddy issues... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 11:48 PM |
| 4 | What are your "learning experiences" with men?A huge one! It's like pretty much any other relationship. A healthy, good relationship is awesome. I find momma's boy (and daddy's girls tbh) to be codependent and enmeshed. It's pretty much the difference between having a loving, respectful, but adult relationship with his mother and his mother basically running his life, make important decisions and essentially letting her adult for him. The guy who 'taught' me this had a mom that hated me for the sole crime of her son being attached to me. He… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 10:10 PM |
| 3 | What are your "learning experiences" with men?it was mostly a joke, but what /u/twiteena said. As an introvert who needs a lot of quiet time, an open concept house is hell on wheels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:23 PM |
| 2 | What are your "learning experiences" with men?Tbh I think it appeals to a) people who just love being around other people and b) control freaks 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 6 | What are your "learning experiences" with men?I learned that: Men who talk about running away together are usually just running away from something else (I'm sure this applies to women too, but I don't date women) That I probably need more alone time than the average person and should not date people who need to have attention on them the majority of the time. Tied into this, I should not date people who want to party a lot I am 100% anti open-concept housing lmao (two guys I dated brought it up, so I think it counts) To not date guys whose… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:19 PM |
| 1 | What's the bare minimum for you in a boyfriend?fiscally responsible (not rich, just is smart enough to save up for, say, a ps5 in advance and can comfortably buy one without emptying his bank account instead of impulse buying) actually attracted to me (and vice versa obvs) capable of entertaining himself does not expect me to be his mom understands that I will never do yardwork lol if not super into the same things I am, at least appreciates that I am into those things and is respectful about it has a sense of humor that isn't based around t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/20 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should be mandatory at birthThis discussion has come up before. Personally, in a perfect world where we don't have the worry about federal corruption and misuse of genetic data, we should have mandatory genetic tests at birth to catch potentially deadly or life-altering diseases early, and parents should have the option to (privately) request lineage as well. That being said, this also works both ways; if a dude's the dad and he decides to walk, he should still be held liable for child support payments and yes, pay them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/20 12:24 AM |
| 1 | How many of you have a truly close platonic friend of the opposite sex?I have several. My bff is a guy. We're very close, share all our secrets. He's gay, but I've had/I have close friendships with some straight dudes, too. Historically my friend groups tend to skew slightly more male, particularly when I was younger and not as many women were playing video games, which is one of my main hobbies. Personally I think mixed-gender groups are usually great and, if not infected with people (of all genders) trying to alpha dog the group are great community support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else noticed that sometimes one partner is less attractive than the other?Different people want different things out of their mates. I'm not sure what's hard to track about this (not pinging you personally, OP, just a general observation). If you buy into the concepts of love maps, as defined by John Money, (I know not everyone does), it's pretty clear that the formation of an individual's map can vary wildly from person and it can be altered due to any number of events. Our environment and circumstances inform it, and it's basically impossible to confirm a person's m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/20 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Do we overthink relationships these days?I do think that, starting with the Boomer generation, Western society has started intensely navel-gazing. This isn't always a bad thing but I think it can lead to an uptick in anxiety in those already prone to it. I know it was an intense problem for me as a kid, although I've mostly overcome it. We overthink and overanalyze everything. This allows us to overcome some hurdles but also produces pitfalls, just like gliding through life in ignorant bliss (and everything in between) can cause issues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/20 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Have you every gone in a date with a man that you weren't into just to get free food, etc.Just a fan in general:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/20 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Have you every gone in a date with a man that you weren't into just to get free food, etc.No. I'm incredibly awkward when I'm with someone I'm actually into, I can't imagine the catastrophe it would be if I was indifferent to the guy. I'd probably melt through the floor. Plus it's kind of gross tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/20 08:18 PM |
| 1 | What separates men who get laid, from men who rarely get laid?Mazel tov? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/20 11:03 AM |
| 15 | What separates men who get laid, from men who rarely get laid?Charisma, social awareness, knowing their audience, dressing and grooming well (for the occasion and for the audience). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Do you have a romantic preference towards certain height ranges?I don't like extreme height differences. I'm 5'8", and from my dating life I've dated dudes from 5'5"-5'6"-ish to about 6'2". If I have to strain in either direction to get a kiss, I don't find it attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/20 10:19 PM |
| 0 | If short women were treated like short men, would it be seen as a more serious social issue?I mean yeah, no shit. Treating short dudes as less than is pretty reprehensible, and honestly pretty stupid to boot. No one likes to be treated like less than, especially in an age where height isn't nearly as important as it used to be. But, I do want to note that short women deal with a specific brand of shit too, it just doesn't directly deal with their love lives necessarily. They tend to be viewed as 'childish' and have issues asserting their authority (if they have legitimate authority) an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/20 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Is being overweight a dealbreaker?No. I've dated some dudes that were very heavy (like could not be the big spoon heavy), some who were count their ribs easily thin, and some in between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/20 09:26 PM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?That’s the logical conclusion from what you wrote. Really not dude, and I'm not sure why you're so hard pressed to prove this one thing to the point that you're trying to conflate 'You can be happy without a relationship' with 'You need to be single' when 'can' and 'need' are definitely not synonyms, but whatever floats your boat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/20 11:15 AM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?No, because you're trying to compare the ability to find happiness regardless of your relationship status to forcibly breaking up people because of... reasons? So, if the people who can’t get relationships can’t complain This was literally never said, lmao. C'mon dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/20 12:01 PM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?You wouldn’t feel that way if you could be happy without a relationship, you’d just be happy without one, the end. My dude... this isn't an either or situation, and there's no reason to turn it into one. It's not binary. You can be happy in a relationship, you can be happy without being in a relationship. I don't know what world you live in where being in a relationship is literally the only thing that can bring a person happiness, but plenty of people are able to live happy, functional lives wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/20 04:14 AM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Why bother getting into a relationship at all? Because you like them? Because you find them attractive? Because you like being around them and they give you warm fuzzies? Plenty of reasons why it's okay to be in a relationship. If some people should settle for non-relationship happiness, then everyone should, including people in relationships. Their relationships should be ended for them, for their own good. You can see how messed up it would be to tell your friend to divorce their spouse. That'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/20 02:51 AM |
| 3 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Maybe so, but- for a lot of people, it helps reinforce their own self-image. Not everyone in life is interested in being a flaming dbag (not pointing the finger at you, just saying in general). They wanted to know that they weren't terrible human beings and I was happy to help them know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 08:48 PM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Dude... eat a snickers lol. I don't put anything on the dude- it's not like my guy friends came, collapsing at my feet, begging for my help. They ask simple questions, and I give simple answers. 'I'd interested in dating, but I'm insecure about X, Y, Z' is about as complicated as it gets. Giving a generally intelligent human being a general idea and letting them take ownership of how they want to change usually yields good dividends for these guys. I don't know what sort of men you hang around w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 08:46 PM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?I'm... not quite following your logic train. I didn't say that you can't be happy in a relationship- only that it's not necessary to be in a relationship to be happy. Plenty of things can make you happy. I'm happy when I get a raise at work. I'm also happy to see my niece and nephew. They're utterly unconnected, but they're also things that bring me happiness. A person should be happy regardless of their marital or dating status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 08:40 PM |
| 1 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Yeah, it's not in the original comment because it depends from person to person. I can't give good advice to a hypothetical because it's impossible to say what the issue is. The advice I'd give to someone who dresses like crap isn't the same as the advice I'd give to a guy who's insecure about his height. Average and below average are useless terms for advice because any advice I'd give is tailored to the person. If they came back to me and ask for clarification, this isn't difficult. They don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 03:15 PM |
| 4 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Honestly most of the time it was just insecurity on their end. I addressed this in a separate comment, but no, it wasn't bluepilling. It was fallout from being told they weren't 'good' enough by shitty parents. It's pretty basic what I said: you have a good foundation, do some self-reflection and see what you think it needs to be improved, and improve on that, for yourself, because ultimately you (editorially) need to be happy with yourself, because a relationship won't save you. If you wanted t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 03:09 PM |
| -2 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?I literally wrote, in the same comment: If you think you're lacking, figure out what it is and try to repair it- for yourself. Happiness is multi-dimensional and first and foremost, I want them to love themselves. I'm not going to write a laundry list of what that might be; I'm assuming most people here are self-aware enough to understand that what they might be lacking varies greatly from person to person and I don't have the time or interest in writing out every individual case that I've talke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 02:45 PM |
| 12 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?A good person (in my definition) is someone who doesn't go out of their way to actively injure others, is generally polite, is more or less able (as an adult) to handle their own shit without making someone else responsible for all of their issues, is a team player (in every sense). In this case, a lot of my guy friends were worried that they were 'bad' and didn't 'deserve' (or weren't worth) a relationship. (Contextually, I grew up in an environment where a lot of guys did not have good relatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 02:42 PM |
| 12 | How would you deal with a son or close male family member who struggled with the opposite sex?Same thing I told my dude friends, who weren't assbags, just not great at the whole social thing: you're a good person, you have a lot to offer, and most importantly, you don't need to find someone to make yourself happy. A relationship should be the cherry on an awesome cake, not the whole cake in and of itself. If you think you're lacking, figure out what it is and try to repair it- for yourself. Happiness is multi-dimensional and first and foremost, I want them to love themselves. I also try … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Sex - Big Deal or not? How do you feel about it?From a general perspective (aka sex that does not personally involve me), my belief is that as long as it's safe, sane, and with informed consent, I don't care what other people do. I think different people view sex differently and it's a fool's errand to try to assume on anyone else's behalf. From a more personal perspective, I enjoy the idea of sex with a partner I care deeply about and that's what I want. My actual experiences have mostly been lukewarm, but I believe that it's possible to hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 01:05 PM |
| 4 | How common is Becky-Bucks? What is your experience with it?Yep. Have been that woman. It doesn't taint my view on guys (I'm a very much a case-by-case basis sort of person), but it did put me off dating. It wasn't the outearning or being the breadwinner that bothered me, it was that I made shitty decisions in dating lazy people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/20 05:12 PM |
| 2 | For feminist, blue pill, or pink pill women: How do the views that some of the men on this sub hold make you feel, and how does it affect your view of men?I just sense that some dudes lash out because it's the only way they can protect themselves. In some cases I feel bad from them, cos they obviously got hurt pretty badly, and in other cases I just don't take it very seriously. My thoughts on men haven't changed. People should be taken on a case by case basis, and understanding basic social standards doesn't mean the average person conforms to every aspect of those standards. Very few of us are paragons of virtue or avatars of 'evil' (not the wor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/20 11:05 AM |
| 1 | What roles do you expect your husband/future husband to play in your relationship?Basically that on certain decisions, either both agree (two yes) or it doesn't happen (one no). It's dangerous to apply to every single aspect of your relationship because it becomes micro management- you shouldn't need your spouse's permission to buy a random pair of shoes or a video game- but I think sex is important enough that no partner should be trying to browbeat the other into something they're not interested or comfortable with doing. I work in technical support- I'm not rich but I'm no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/20 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: If you could "switch off" your sexual attraction to men/women, would you do it? Would your life become better as a result?No, but being attracted to other people doesn't happen to me very often (not particularly picky, just don't meet a lot of people) and it doesn't keep me up at night when it does happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 2 | What roles do you expect your husband/future husband to play in your relationship?How (or whether) do you expect him to take responsibility for relationships? I expect both of us to put in 100% into the relationship when we can (there's always going to be times where one partner is going to have to pick up the load, but that should be shared responsibility and not assumed by only one partner). If you're comfortable with discussing it, what about sexual roles? I believe in the two yes one no rule for this sort of thing; I doubt there would be any 'roles', and both partners agr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/20 01:18 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: Could you view a man that is crying as a protector?I know quite a bit, actually; my dad trained before I was born and I started my training when I was three. Expert martial artists laugh, cry, mourn, etc. They can be rock solid stoics or soft hearted, because life is longer than a fist fight and you can having feelings and still know how to kick someone's ass. Warrior poets have existed throughout human history. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/20 11:24 PM |
| 9 | What do you think of women that don't have sex for arbitrary reasons?Arbitrary to who, exactly? Just because they're not what you set as boundaries doesn't mean they're arbitrary. It just means it's that's person's boundaries, to keep or to break as they see fit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/20 07:34 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: Could you view a man that is crying as a protector?Assuming you mean physically, I don't see any connection between someone's emotional temperament and their ability to hold their own in a fist fight. So sure, a dude who cries could be physically protective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/20 07:31 PM |
| 4 | How many of you feel your views have changed or your understanding has expanded...Subtly or otherwise whilst posting here?I haven't really, but I don't post often enough here for someone to try and change it. A lot of the posters here tend to be absolutists in their views, and I'm not interested in busting my head against a wall for someone who is more invested in 'winning' than actually wanting a spirited debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/20 01:19 AM |
| 5 | Do you think it's fair to say most Relationships failed because the two shared no goal?Relationships can fail for any number of reasons. Some are really dramatic: abuse, infidelity, just one or both parties being total fuckwads. Not gender specific, asshole is a universal personality type. Some fail due to incompatibilities of certain, specific concrete aspects: wanting/not wanting kids, wanting to travel/not wanting to travel, different outlooks on retiring or life goals. And some just sputter out and die because of a mountain of relatively small (in a Bigger Picture sort of fash… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | What are the men that you know who are highly sexually successful like, personality wise?Generally speaking, the dudes in my life who have been highly successful getting numbers/dates/tail work with these parameters: To a T, all of them are socially aware. They tend to be very extroverted, and for those who weren't, were still good at casual conversation, they were just better at sizing up people who might show mutual interest in them. They're usually pretty charming, and they know how to engage with different sorts of people in different sorts of ways. None of them were phD candida… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/20 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Women of PPD, the marriage rate is the lowest ever on record. Do you view this as a good thing or bad thing?They are pretty awesome :D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 07:12 PM |
| 7 | Q to bluepill, why you are not redpill?There's not even a real consensus on what it means to be redpill. Some are just people who are more traditionalist than anything else; not my scene, but as long as they're not rude and treat the women in their life with respect, more power to them. Some people in redpill sound less like folks look to maximise their general dating strategy and more like folks desperately looking for some sort of structure to their life, and redpill appeals them. Not too different from people choosing different ph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 07:08 PM |
| 9 | Women of PPD, the marriage rate is the lowest ever on record. Do you view this as a good thing or bad thing?That's basically it; wealth is being generated but the circulation remains insanely top heavy. For people who actually want to do the traditional nuclear family, it's becoming increasingly expensive just for the day to day fundamentals (i.e. cutting out frills like huge weddings, annual family vacations, etc). This has all sorts of bad effects for people lower on the pole, as it were; decreased education, lowered living standards, etc. ETA to switch by to but | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 02:56 PM |
| 17 | Women of PPD, the marriage rate is the lowest ever on record. Do you view this as a good thing or bad thing?I view it as 'meh'. I'm personally happy that I'm able to get a job I enjoy and live a quiet life mostly alone. Whatever maternal feelings I may have ever possessed were burnt out of me before I hit 18 and marriage was never something I prioritised. I do feel bad for those who would like to go the traditional route but are getting priced out due to pay raises not keeping up with overall inflation, but that's a problem that can't be easily solved with a wish or a two sentence economic proposal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 02:07 PM |
| 8 | What kind of girls do young undesirable men deserve?No one is owed a partner, nor does anyone 'deserve' a mate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Q4all: could you forgive your cheating spouse?Nope. Did once. Bad mistake. I don't have to forgive or forget. Better to cut my losses and leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Do you think women have any incentive to self-improve and be decent human beings, in the same way men do?Sure. That incentive can come from a lot of places. I'm trying to get back into a healthy shape- I'll never have a supermodel figure but I want my knees to last at least I hit retirement. I've gotten back into writing (creative) and I finally got a job that I can see making a real career out of, so I've been going into overdrive there. Nothing to do with dudes, or people in general. It's not even really ambition since I don't have much of that- I just want a comfortable retirement and to live in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/20 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What have you thought of men who have stopped pursuing you in the past?I think you're presuming that in this scenario, I'm not already pretty familiar with the guy in question. I don't date people I'm not already at least somewhat familiar with, and I don't get to know guys because I'm interested in finding someone. I learned from personal experience that dating unknown quantities doesn't work for me. There are definitely women who act in the manner you mention- and men as well- but there's also people who just aren't into that sort of behaviour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/20 10:07 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: What have you thought of men who have stopped pursuing you in the past?Generally it's relief. If it's been someone I care about platonically, I hoped they'd understood where I was coming from and hoped we could still be friends. If it's someone I didn't care about, it was with hope that they'd leave me alone. That being said, I'm a wee bit emotionally blunted and I've never done the whole 'being just out of arm's reach' thing with men. If there's mutual interest, I'm down. If there isn't, I'm out, see you never hopefully. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/20 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Communication is the most important aspect of a successful relationship. Who do you think needs to hear this advice more - men or women?Which sex needs to understand this better? Everyone. Communication failures happen to all manner of relationships, not just romantic ones and it's not one specific gender's 'fault'. We (human society) absolutely suck at teaching one another to effectively communicate. Why would it make things better? Because it lays things out on the table instead of bottling it up/being too vague/lashing out/trying to people please whilst communicating (which usually ends in failure) Bonus: If you believe it’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/20 08:08 PM |
| 6 | Making shit matter - Penalties for abandonment during illness, no-fault divorce, and more!Who is going to quantify what is, and isn't, an acceptable reason for a judgement free divorce though? Physical infidelity and physical abuse are a little easier to quantify because they have real-time ways of figuring it out, but then there are issues like emotional or financial abuse, sex used as a weapon, emotional infidelity, etc. Someone would have to decide what constitutes the point of no return for things that don't necessarily have an immediate, obvious impact, which means cases drag on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/20 10:44 PM |
| 7 | If a man is involved in a nerdy/geeky hobby/community, is it a sexual death sentence?If the woman you're interested in dislikes them (not the same as being ambivalent about them), then probably. If you let them consume your life, then most likely. It works both ways; I've been gaming since the first grade and I've butted heads with boyfriends who thought video games were only for nerds. I'd prefer to date a guy who's into similarly nerdy stuff. Conversely, I don't think I'd ever date a film geek, because I'm not a huge fan of the hardcore film geeks I've met. No one here can ans… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/20 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4W Do women today feel pressured into having sex?Sure. People pressure each other over lots of stuff, its just that most stuff doesn't have the potential ramifications that sex does. I have my own outlook on how I view requests for sex from when I'm seeing someone, but I'm past the point now where I'll say yes when I'm not at all inclined for bedroom fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/20 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Society Does Not Want Men to Ascend to Their Alpha PotentialIf everyone is alpha, then no one can be alpha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Soulmates exist. Why or why not??Nah. I think there's definitely always going to be some folks we mesh with more than others, but at the end of the day, love still takes effort to maintain and no amount of star crossed horseshit is going to change that. If it comes down to shared similarities, outlooks on life, always having each other's backs, an intense relationship, etc etc, my soulmate is my best friend. Which sounds great and romantic, but I'm into dudes and so is he, but we still have an incredibly strong foundation of mu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 09:06 PM |
| 2 | WHO PLAYS DUNGEONS AND DRAGONSMe, although I've only played for the last year or so (yep, I'm one of those terrible 5th Edition players). So far I've mostly been useful for bargaining for other party members and the odd clutch crit where I blast the shit out of a baddie in one go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/20 02:07 AM |
| 70 | Would you ever accept a marriage whereby you got everything that comes with it: The proposal, the engagement, the wedding, the honey moon, the public declaration of love and commitment, etc. - but it’s not a marriage under the law and has no legal ramifications should you “divorce”?Nope. I give no shits about anything besides the legal stuff. The legal stuff actually has an effect on my life. Proposals don't have to cost anything (and can cost little), engagements are free, if I ever get married it'll be in a courthouse, honey moons are whatever, and the 'public declaration of love and commitment' can be done with or without a wedding. I'm perfectly fine signing a fair prenup as long as both sides have good representation, but if his family can kick me out of the hospital … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/20 12:33 AM |
| 3 | [Q4W] What would your dating life be like if you were born a man?okay, not that happy lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 09:54 PM |
| 4 | [Q4W] What would your dating life be like if you were born a man?Probably the same as I am as a woman- too lazy to put forth any effort, but okay with it because you can be happy with a pet cat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 07:40 PM |
| 1 | People who think " if you didnt want us at my worse, you don't dont deserve us at our best" should be avoided.Sometimes I feel its a more naive one lmao. I definitely got hit with it a time or two, and not just from boyfriends. I dislike how a statement that could be empowering turned into a childish outburst. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | People who think " if you didnt want us at my worse, you don't dont deserve us at our best" should be avoided.I hate that saying because I don't think it's used in the proper context. When I first heard it, what I got was 'If you can't be around me during a low point in my life (trauma/unemployment/illness), then I don't want you around me when I'm winning (recovery/etc)'. The idea that the low point was supposed to be temporary (hopefully) and that you'd only want a partner that would have your back, in whatever way, during that struggle. It wasn't until my 30's that I realized that some people use it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 04:24 PM |
| 3 | How do you define a man who isn't sensitive enough, or is "too unemotional"?Depends on- much like literally everything else in a relationship- your partner's needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 04:56 PM |
| 6 | How do you define a man who isn't sensitive enough, or is "too unemotional"?Sensitive to the people they care about, yes- which is important when it comes to children especially. People tend to conflate sensitivity with 'how often are they going to burst into tears/will they sing our love from the rooftops like a Broadway understudy's shining moment of glory' types of romantic gestures. That's not what it means. It means have enough emotional common sense to care about the other person, and what they think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 03:39 PM |
| 9 | How do you define a man who isn't sensitive enough, or is "too unemotional"?Someone who is too unemotional is someone who is unwilling to invest in their partner/ their partner's hopes/dreams/fears. That's it. It's not necessarily about huge ranging emotions all the time. There is a huuuuuuuuuuuge range between Weeping Willow <----> Made Out of Stone. I'm not a crier by nature/nurture and prefer to do it by myself, and I tend to not be sentimental about a lot of things (I don't place a lot of value in having pictures of people I love, for example), but I'm capable in in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Since this is a debate sub, what are some common fallacies or poor arguments you see people on here making?Both sides acting like genders are monoliths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/20 05:16 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: How Many of You Want To Marry and What Does Marriage Mean To You?I don't. I take the concept of marriage very seriously and if I were to get married, I'd want it to be a one and done deal. I don't see that happening, so I haven't bothered with marriage. (TBF I don't bother with dating either, looking forward to that cat lady life.) I'm not anti-divorce, it's just a personal thing. To me marriage is a promise. The world's a dark, shitty place- love means never having to go it alone. It's a promise for balance, support, most of the stuff you hear in most basic … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Do the majority of people still even want families and children?I think there's enough people who do want it that we're not in danger of dying out. We're just now living in a time where it's more acceptable to say 'thanks but no thanks'. It's not a bad thing to change your mind later on as long as you don't blame other people for it. Some of us, like myself, only got stronger in our desire to not have families as we got older. Others changed their mind once their life started settling down. Others have always wanted kids. Diversity in this arena is fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Let's try to create a working relationship where both partners equally give up thingsNah. Closer to 40. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Let's try to create a working relationship where both partners equally give up thingsI've only ever dated one clingy guy. Its more about being treated like a housekeeper. As an example: a guy I was dating wanted to talk about getting an apartment together. I suggested we get a 3bdrm because I knew he'd want to have friends over to party and occasionally crash at. I was fine with that, but I'm not a partier and wanted an extra room for my gaming/computer stuff, since he had a lot of sports parties and I wasn't interested. I was informed that I was responsible for these parties, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Let's try to create a working relationship where both partners equally give up thingsI would be more open to marriage/long-term relationships if I could be guaranteed to: not give up all of my free time have access to private space not be burdened with having to manage someone else's social calendar a reasonable split of household chores Basically I don't want to be anyone's mom, lol ETA: not be with someone who can't fathom that different people like different things, and that's okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you date a man who spent years chasing younger women and failed?It would depend entirely on whether I think he actually matured or not. God knows I've made some less than stellar dating choices before- nothing terrible, mostly just immature guys who were slightly edge-lordy when I was in my early adulthood- but I grew out of it as I moved further into adulthood and it stopped being appealing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 35 | If a man talks about his feelings, is he a weak little pussy?What exactly is being moderate? Can somebody elaborate? I think there's two separate points to be made here. First, very few people can tolerate utter stoics and sloppy emotions for extended periods of time, in my experience. What people usually want is someone who can open up to them and talk about their feelings. No one wants to marry a slab of stone, but a constant waterworks of emotion is really frustrating too. If you can't communicate well, including communicating your feelings, you either… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 09:50 PM |
| 13 | What impact would mandatory paternity testing at birth have on society and families?It would depend mostly on how it's presented. If you're smart, you sandwich it in as 'genetic testing' so that if the child has issues later, you'll already know if the parents are a good match. This also involves the mother being tested, and has a net benefit outside of potential paternity issues. It's a lot harder to argue with. If you present it as 'lol them hoes ain't loyal', you'll piss off a lot of people. While cheating can, and does, occur, not everyone cheats and assigning roughly half … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 05:51 PM |
| 16 | Almost half of married mothers in the US do not work full time.Not working or not earning to the same potential of their husbands? If a woman works 15-20 hours a week, but also shoulders a higher burden of child care and related duties (clean up, running kids to the doctor, things of that nature), then their workload may be more similar. It sounds like in your case your Ex wasn't holding up their end of the deal, so to speak, but housework/family duties seem to be difficult to quantify for some people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel validated through sexual attention?1) Do you feel validated through social media 'likes' or 'swipes'? Reddit's the closest thing I have to social media and I'm not sure if karma is a close enough metric to likes to qualify, especially since outside of this sub male/female questions are rarely a thing. 2) Do you have sex with new men or FWBs to feel validated? No and no. 3) Do you feel more validated through social media attention or casual sex attention? I have neither, so... neither? 4) Do you feel undesirable when you are not h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 09:26 PM |
| 0 | Do women ever get any enjoy from sexI'm certainly capable of it, and I have had a couple of good rounds, but for the most part I've just... not. But I think that's more having terrible taste in boyfriends when I was younger and not dating much as I got older. Once or twice it was just truly terrible, the others were mostly just to make the dude I was dating happy. It always was over fairly quickly so it didn't chew up my day or anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Men who can't stand the degeneracy of westernized women why don't you move to a more traditional country?Removing, overlooked the Q4M part, my bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?Honestly, I think we're just in the middle of a very uncomfortable social transition, and this is going to be solve itself out in a couple of generations. Social and economic norms have evolved at neckbreak (in terms of social evolution) speeds over the last 100 years. 60 years ago most women couldn't have a credit line without their husband's approval, and the idea of a man staying at home as the primary caregiver was extremely anathema. Getting a divorce was just starting become more acceptabl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 05:01 PM |
| 11 | Q4A: Would you date a person who would have ignored/rejected you in their late teens/early 20s?I guess it would depend. If they just weren't interested, but weren't rude about it, I'd at least consider it; people are allowed to change and it is possible to politely/gently rebuff an advance. If they were a turd then and are still a turd now, no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 2 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?No, honestly most people, regardless of gender, are reasonably decent and not crabbing little hobgoblins. I'd argue that in general (i.e. not including extreme cases of abusive partners or some other very niche circumstances), it's just a matter of different expectations. I also think it's important to note that we're coming from a time where adults might still reasonably have an expectation of a one-income but two parent/adult household, where one person makes the money and one person runs the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 04:20 PM |
| 5 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?When you met him, was he living with parents still? Were you both young? He was. I was too (I'd moved home after ending a very bad relationship + my parents needed help with some unrelated things, so it worked for us), but I'd lived on my own before and handled a lot of my own bills. We were in our early 20s. The bar is fairly low, shouldn't be too hard ;) lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 02:07 PM |
| 6 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?I don't think my ex was Satan incarnate, he just defaulted to lazy mode once there was someone to unload everything on. It's been a long time and last I heard he got married, so hopefully he cleaned up a bit. Vetting is really hard before moving in, IMHO (and why you should live with someone before doing anything legal). If someone is overly dependent on a parent or shows fiscal irresponsibility (this one should have been my clue) on a regular basis, that's a pretty bad sign. One other thing was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 11:50 AM |
| 7 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?Not at all. When one partner is expected to become the sole household manager, attraction can drop. This is not some super special woman thing; I've seen guys get incredibly fed up when their girlfriends suddenly become walking, talking learned helplessness. I highly doubt many dudes want to feel like their girlfriend's/wives/whatever dads. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 11:01 AM |
| 10 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?Basically any situation where one partner is picking up the lion's share of household management and chores. As a personal example, in my last serious relationship, my then boyfriend suddenly needed the entire night after work to decompress, which largely revolved around playing a video game online (usually Rock Band/Guitar Hero). Decompression is fine, but he was basically unable to: take the laundry downstairs, put laundry in washer/dryer, empty washer dryer, bring laundry upstairs and fold it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 10:57 AM |
| 20 | What makes some women lose attraction to their hubbies?From what I understand, in the majority (not vast, simple majority) cases, the woman started feeling like the mom in the relationship, and that will kill attraction faster than anything. I know it's personally true for me, which is why I don't really bother with dating anymore and have no interest in getting married. I don't mind sharing the emotional load, but I have 0% interest in being in a relationship where I feel like I'm a housekeeper who has sex with the dude who hired her. No thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: Are young men getting brainwashed into thinking that being nice will make them attractive?I think we have a strong social perception that engaging in behaviours that are supposed to be, or socially perceived as, nice will benefit men in pursuing women. I do think it's largely horseshit as attraction takes place on multiple levels and what constitutes nice to one person isn't going to seem nice to others. Women have our own version (be hot, but not too hot, be available, but not too available, etc) as well, and you see it a lot in the media. It's fairly ridiculous on both sides. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/20 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Do other womens' opinions of a man you are interested in matter?It depends on what opinion they're giving. 'He's really cute/he's not that cute' or anything looks based isn't going to have an effect. My tastes are my tastes, they're specific to me and I've never had a friend who shared my opinion. If it's 'this dude exhibits X behaviour I know you don't like, here's examples a, b, c,' I'll pay more attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/20 06:32 PM |
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