LadyHelvetica Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
37	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha?	DATING ADVICE	LadyHelvetica	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/19 03:45 AM

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7	Is trauma offputting? Trauma is offputting to those who aren’t emotionally mature enough to navigate it. There are definitely men out there who, upon hearing a woman has been raped, will immediately assume it was her fault. In their eyes, yes, you are no longer wife material, but they were never husband material to begin with! On the other hand, it almost sounds like you’re telling them shortly before you get intimate? If so, you might be giving them whiplash. I mean they’re in a headspace where they’re all excited t…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/11/22 02:18 PM
2	How to be (femininely) charismatic Seconding this. Their videos have fantastic breakdowns of what makes a person charming to the viewer. I’ve adopted a few techniques that felt natural to me, and I’d say people seem to like me more now even though I’m just as shy as ever.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/08/22 04:24 PM
1	Telegram? I would be interested in joining, too!	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/22 01:01 PM
16	Has following Laura Doyle's advice actually worked for you? I’d say the book, and especially the “I want” phrase were a major turning point for me. Before reading the book, when I would want a man I was dating to do something, I would prepare a rational argument about why he should do it. It never worked because these men didn’t care about what I wanted or making me happy, but I didn’t know that. I thought my attempts failed because I was a bad communicator or bad at logic. Learning the phrase “I want” was a game changer because it enabled me to filter o…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/22 12:51 AM
5	Do I (24F) be blunt with him (28M), let it go or wait it out? This may be a more forward take than most women will advise here, but I would tell him what you want. If you want to see him more often, say that outright. If you want a relationship with him, tell him that’s a direction you want to explore. Tell him what you want (preferably in person and not over text), and let him decide what he wants to do. He clearly likes you and wants to spend time with you, but is that as a booty call? A friend with benefits? A potential girlfriend? You have no idea. He’…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/03/22 06:59 PM
3	Confession Times at RPW? Or I would even consider splitting it into two different features. One where people currently struggling could anonymously submit current struggles for analysis and comments. And one where people who are now in a good place could submit stories of their darkest hour(s) and explain how they got out and found the happiness they have now. I think so much of the success of us RPW women hinges on internal growth and changes, and it can be hard for new users who have implemented all these outward chan…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/09/21 04:47 PM
8	Confession Times at RPW? I would definitely consider participating in something like this. I don’t necessarily hold onto any shame from my past mistakes, but I also still don’t want to invite attention from strangers on the internet to criticize my worst mistakes, you know? And I think anonymity is a good workaround for that while also showing other women who still might be in that dark place that it’s not the end of the world and that you can still find your happily ever after even if you’ve made terrible mistakes.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/09/21 02:34 PM
17	I really like Laura Doyle's Empowered Wife book. Here are my favourite tips. What are yours? Not OP, but Surrendered Single gives advice for a woman looking to find and attract the right partner. Surrendered Wife gives advice for a woman already in a committed, long-term relationship. Both are great and obviously have the same philosophy, but the advice is tailored to the different target audiences.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/04/21 02:57 AM
2	Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21F I’ll echo this. I lived in the suburbs of Indianapolis, Kansas City and Omaha in my early-to-mid 20s. Conservative, marriage-minded men are extremely easy to find at churches in the affluent suburbs. A lot of men from those areas will move back to the city when they graduate from college but continue going to the church they grew up in. Find a Saturday or Sunday night service (which is significantly preferred by young men to morning services), and you should find a few prospects in no time. As a…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/21 12:13 AM
5	What mbti types attract you most? INTP. I am barely introverted and perceiving, so I actually prefer extroverts and judgers for their ability to tip the balance towards being social and organized. Intuitive is the most important one for me personally. I’m friends with plenty of sensors but would be uncomfortable in a romantic relationship with them and also would feel dissatisfied with our communication. Thinking vs Feeling is pretty whatever to me. I’m emotionally intelligent enough that I get along with both. So I pretty exclu…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/21 02:43 PM
8	How to be a better wife It sounds like he believes you’re covering everything he expects of you, so if you want to go the extras mile- maybe ask him about his goals? What sort of goals does he have short and long term, both for himself and for your family as a whole. From there, you can brainstorm some ways to support those goals. Another approach, think of some of his guilty pleasures that maybe you could sneak in on the day to day. Is he a steak man? Learn how to cook steak. Does he love shoes? Learn how to maintain …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/21 12:06 AM
1	I’m really heavy and need to figure out how to lose weight as quickly as possible. Tips? Please do. This is coming from a woman who went through a similar journey. Back in 2018, I gained 60 lbs in 6 months and then spent two years trying every possible diet to lose it only to yo-yo and gain the weight back each time. I finally got advice from a doctor that cared and didn’t just tell me to eat less, and that’s what got me down the path of intuitive eating. The weight just falls off. No effort. No work. I don’t even have to exercise. I just have to be kind to myself and not shame or b…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/02/21 02:54 PM
1	I’m really heavy and need to figure out how to lose weight as quickly as possible. Tips? It sounds like you have a damaged metabolism. Trying to lose weight quickly right now is going to further slow your metabolism and make you even FATTER. Here’s a short video of a nutritionist covering an example of a damaged metabolism. Please watch it to understand why dieting at this point will make you fatter in the long term. https://youtu.be/6nB1ADJnFvk I would highly recommend researching intuitive eating (buy the book if you can), reverse dieting and damaged metabolism. Intuitive Eating b…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/21 09:28 PM
100	My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomen Wow. That’s really overstepping. I understand if you broke their rules on the subreddit they moderate, but just because you’ve interacted with another subreddit they don’t approve of? And even then, outright labeling RPW as a hate group? Talk about intolerance.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/21 03:47 PM
2	Unpopular opinion: saying that we do makeup for ourselves and not for others is false I think when most women say they wear makeup for themselves, they mean they wear it to make themselves look presentable as opposed to gain sexual attention from men. Do I wear makeup to look pretty for my SO? Absolutely. But I definitely did put any on this morning hoping to gain the attention or affection of those particular men that have the “well why would you wear makeup unless you’re trying to impress ME?” attitude. I will always tell those kinds of people that I’m wearing make up for mysel…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/21 01:36 AM
18	Would I be overdressed if I wore this on a date at a bar? See if you can look up the bar as a location on Instagram. You’ll be able to any posts tagged there from other people’s public profiles. That can give you an idea of how people dress to go there. Take those outfits as inspiration then dial it up just one little notch, and you’ll look nice without looking out of place.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/21 02:42 PM
6	How has this subreddit changed your life? I discovered this sub in college after I had gotten out of my first serious relationship. So many friends were pressuring me to go through a promiscuous phase saying that was the best way to recover from a breakup. I hated that advice, and finding this sub was such a relief since it validated my concerns around hook up culture and really made me feel like I wasn’t screwing up my early 20s by being chaste. Beyond that, I also grew up in a broken family, so while I knew what a toxic relationship l…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/21 09:13 PM
31	How to make him feel special? My SO’s love language is quality time. My go to is steak dinner with bourbon. My man only eats red meat on special occasions, and he’s a bourbon connoisseur, so he really enjoys it. Other activities I’ve organized based on his interests include going to TopGolf, riding a train loop through the mountains and swimming with penguins.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/20 07:53 PM
5	Are my standards too high? Sexual marketplace value and relationship marketplace value, respectively. So basically, your sexual marketplace value is how “valuable” you are in the context of the “sexual marketplace,” meaning how attractive do men find you compared to other women. A high value woman keeps herself healthy and well-groomed. Same idea for RMV, but it’s comparing the value of what you bring to a relationship. A low value woman would bring drama and stress. A high value woman adds value to her partner’s life. Sh…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/20 04:03 AM
13	Are my standards too high? Three possible reasons. No man that meets your standards exists in your area. Maybe you live in a small town and have a very small dating pool, or maybe everyone is short where you live. Whatever the case, you either have to lower your standards or move. Men who meet your standards live in your area, but they don’t want to date you. This is an SMV issue. You do sound like you’re working on it, so just continue to improve your SMV. Men who meet your standards live in your area and will flirt with…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/20 04:57 PM
8	Feminine rituals & getting into your feminine energy It sounds like you might be stressed out when you have to communicate your ideas and opinions at work? Like maybe you think if you don’t come in hard and fast enough, that you won’t be heard or taken seriously? That’s conjecture based on what you’ve written, so please tell me straight if I’ve got it wrong. However if that is how you’re feeling, then I’d say the best thing you can do is slow down and speak a little quieter. Think Miranda Priestly (Meryl Streep) in the Devil Wears Prada. She comma…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/10/20 12:37 AM
33	Feminine rituals & getting into your feminine energy In my experience, the best way to get into my feminine energy is to stay in it as much as I can all day long. I work in a STEM field with lots of gruff men who like to swear and make everything about facts and figures. I went through a phase where I acted more like them but found it had negative effects in my personal life (mostly in terms of swearing) but also had negative affects on my career, too. My stress levels were higher, I was less compassionate with people and my temper was quicker and…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/10/20 12:23 AM
6	Stop bringing up negative past with your partner. You really just have to let it go. Let all of the pain go. As long as you hold onto it, it will keep hurting you. This is genuinely a situation that calls for therapy. That’s not a bad thing. You’ve been to hell and back, but no one ever taught you how to deal with all that trauma. If you got a cut, you would clean it, right? And if it didn’t heal but instead festered and grew more painful, you’d try to see a doctor, right? Same with emotional wounds. See a therapist. You deserve to heal from th…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/20 05:01 AM
1	Does anyone here use powder foundation? I have oily, acne prone skin and use haven’t used liquid foundation in 10 years. For light coverage, I mix a couple Nyx total control drops into my sunscreen. It helps even out my skin tone without being as heavy as liquid foundation. For fuller coverage, tarte’s claystick foundation doesn’t seem to bother my skin. I only apply it to areas where I need pigment correction- my undereyes and around my nostrils. I do want to note that I don’t naturally break out in these areas, though, so I don’t kn…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/20 05:35 PM
5	Is anyone else here "unconventional-looking"? If so, how do you cope with it? Some of my favorite people have the ugliest, most lopsided faces you’d ever see, and it doesn’t matter to them one bit. They couldn’t care less that they’re hideous. It’s like they looked in the mirror one day and said, “Welp, guess I better develop a personality.” And boy oh boy did they. They are sweet and kind and loving and fun. They make every person they speak to feel special and precious and loved. They tell wonderful stories and make sure you smile every time they see you. Most middle cl…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/20 03:49 PM
32	How to Recognize Low Quality Men when You Cannot Rely on Celibacy There are many values a man can admire in a woman other than celibacy. I grew up in a similarly conservative culture and found the women who men admired most were feminine, graceful, patient, kind, tender-hearted, warm, affectionate (as appropriate) and joyful. I’d recommend identifying women in your community who have married well and are widely respected. Ask one or two for advice and/or to mentor you. Additionally, you can work on developing charisma and charm. While these attributes won’t ho…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/20 11:26 PM
–	Gratitude: What are you thankful for? I have been so cranky today; I needed a reminder to be grateful. Thank you. I am grateful I finished paying off all my credit card debt today. I am grateful that I’m starting to make friends in my new city. I am grateful that my neighborhood pool is reopening so I can swim. I am grateful that I have a good job and enjoy the work I do. I am grateful I have loving partner who supports and encourages me. And I am also very grateful for the pizza in the oven that I’m about to eat.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/20 09:26 PM
15	When he’s ‘perfect’ but there’s no intimacy—can intimacy be built? I thought that as we reached various commitment milestones I’d feel more loved and deeply wanted This sounds like the whole problem is based around an expectation of yours that’s not being met. The question that really needs to be asked: Does this expectation come from insecurity? You can have a perfectly reasonable expectation of someone, but if it comes from a place inside yourself where you feel insecure and lacking, then the outcome will always be unhealthy. Even if the someone could perfect…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/20 01:18 PM
10	Irritated by BP friends. Any advice? Wow this sounds like a page out of my diary. I’m in my late 20s now, but I remember college culture being hard as a woman who is more traditional. Between the popularity of radically liberal ideas and everyone experiencing the freedom of adulthood for the first time without having wised up yet, it can be hard to find people who respect your conservative boundaries. If I could go back in time and talk to my younger self, I would tell her not succumb to peer pressure regarding my boundaries. I wan…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/20 04:01 PM
2	Self help books on femininity Really?? You might try Fascinating Womanhood for the Timeless Woman. It’s the version updated by the original author’s daughter. Being a newer version, it may be more widely available digitally.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/20 02:42 PM
23	Self help books on femininity Fascinating Womanhood is my personal favorite. I’ve read it multiple times, and it still puts me in the most wonderfully sweet and feminine mindset every time I pick it up.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/20 01:57 AM
1	Spin off of cock carousel thread; Number of sex partner's impact on marital stability vs divorce rates?? What are your thoughts as red pill women? I think it’s some of both. Purely anecdotal, but I see my friends falling into two groups. The first type has self esteem issues and is so desperate for affection that she will accept absolutely horrific behavior. I wouldn’t even describe the type of men she picks as alpha men. She looks at their appearance and paycheck thinks they’re alpha men, but I look at their character and self-discipline and see them as all show and no trousers. These men will woo her and flirt with her and make her feel …	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/20 02:04 PM
4	Spin off of cock carousel thread; Number of sex partner's impact on marital stability vs divorce rates?? What are your thoughts as red pill women? I think a high N count for both men and women is a red flag but not necessarily a dealbreaker. Many people, especially those in western societies, go through a phase where they hook up frequently and with a wide variety of people which may or may not include intercourse. There’s nothing inherently wrong with going through such a phase. This issue is when someone doesn’t grow out of the phase. I have girlfriends who put quite a few notches in their bedposts in college but settled down, found a go…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/20 08:59 PM
7	Self improvement resources for being a better/warmer conversationalist and for regulating emotions I used to struggle with this a lot when I was younger. In conversations, I was always in my own head. I focused on my own thoughts and impressions more than anything else. That approach is great for a lecture but terrible for a conversation. Think about someone you’ve met who you really enjoy interacting with, who makes you feel good. I’m not talking about someone who provides good mental stimulation or debates with you. I specifically want you to think about someone who makes you feel comfortab…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/20 03:28 PM
1	For those of you who dont/rarely deny your captain sex - do you have a routine for keeping things fresh down there on a budget? What. What??? Stick deodorant like just plain ole Secret or Dove? And you put it on the mound and the vulva? And it prevent ingrown hairs???	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/20 06:52 PM
4	Should Nun Mode be shorter at 30+? As someone nearing 30, I’ll chip in on the timeframe question. I basically was in nun mode from 20-25 because I wanted to be the best I could be before trying to meet someone. Because of this, I didn’t grow my social skills at all. Sure, I was attractive when I started dating again, but I was WAY too excited to date again and lacked the soft skills and self esteem to make a man want to claim me. 25 was a very bumpy year because I got so emotionally attached to men I wasn’t in a relationship with…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/20 06:41 PM
8	Covid-19 and RPWs Captain quit his job because we’re moving 500 miles cross country to be closer to my family. He had one lined up, but the company can no longer take him on in this economy. He’s looking to get a part time job in an amazon warehouse to help keep us afloat. My parents have bought us tons of food and toilet paper (lol) so we don’t have to worry about that. I know the CDC is looking at an 18 month timeline, but I’m praying that individuals across the country can set aside their own personal interest…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/03/20 11:56 PM
3	New to this Site! Thank you!	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/20 06:02 PM
5	New to this Site! Your compliments are so kind! Thank you. I agree- only my captain can call me “submissive.” If my family or a coworker did, it’d take all the self control in the world not to bite their head off. Lol. However I see submissiveness not as a constant personality trait but as a way you can choose treat someone in a relationship. Am I submissive to my friends or colleagues? Hell no. They haven’t earned it. But I’ve reached a point where I trust my captain with my finances, my future and, well, my lif…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/20 05:45 PM
2	New to this Site! You’re very welcome! I must confess I thought there was a list of books in the sidebar but now realize I was mistaken. Laura Doyle’s name has been dropped a few times, but I’d also add Fascinating Womanhood to that list. I’m reading it right now, and it’s wonderful! Those are the only two I’ve read myself, but if any other RPW veterans are reading this, please feel free to add more recommendations!	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/20 05:34 PM
24	New to this Site! Welcome! I am so glad you made your way here and are seeking positive changes. You sound a lot like me a few years back, so I can tell you from experience that going from dominating and controlling and stressed to relaxed and laid back and submissive is neither impossible nor even that difficult. I’d say the first thing you have to do is be kind to yourself. Every woman I’ve ever met- myself included- who struggled with being dominant and controlling did so because they were judgemental and crit…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/20 03:21 PM
36	At home attire? House dress! https://retrohousewifegoesgreen.com/vintage-inspired-house-dress/ I wore house dresses for years before I found out they were a “thing.” Most of mine are cotton blends that are breathable yet easy to move in. Old Navy has plenty of fit and flare dresses that I’ve picked up on clearance. Target, Walmart, good will! The point is it’s nothing fancy per se, $5-$15 max, however it adds a bit of femininity and gets you out of your pajamas. I am 100% more likely to put on a bit of mascara …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/20 11:50 PM
36	What do you respect the most about your man? His work ethic, especially how he readily he picks up the slack in a team without being asked. He’s praised on it constantly at work. In our friend group, he steps in to lead and make plans when others are too timid, and in our home he’s always doing an itty bitty touch up here or there that just helps our lives run so smoothly.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/20 03:32 PM
8	So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts? Try to go to multiple churches when possible. Maybe you have one you go to regularly, but then go to a social event at another and join a prayer group at another. This will give you a chance to connect with people outside your normal group which may lead to you meeting men you haven’t met before. Think of older men and women in your community who are happily married, devout, respected and well-connected. Get to know them and tell them how you are eager to be a good wife to the right man. Ask for…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/02/20 03:23 PM
110	So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts? When I was single and dating, I always let men tell me about their past relationships and sexual history before I got involved with them. Many times, men revealed behavior I found absolutely abhorrent, and that was the last date we had. I think a disdain for promiscuous behavior is perfectly reasonable as it can be an indicator that a man doesn’t see the value in monogamy, thinks intimate relationships with women are disposable, and may also be carrying some lovely infectious diseases down there…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/02/20 02:23 PM
6	Laura Doyle's advice vs my therapist's As someone raised by a therapist, I’ve found that “When you [], I feel [],” conversations are only effective when you acknowledge the other person isn’t “the villain.” And let me explain what I mean by that- When you told your boyfriend all of this, he reacted by getting defensive. Normal reaction. A lot of people associate doing bad things with being a bad person, and it’s why people struggle to take criticism. He’s even throwing out things you’ve done in the past that hurt him because he wants…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/20 12:23 AM
3	New Year Goal - Be attentive to small details! Check self in mirror before leaving house. Then check again. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten to where I’m going only to notice I’ve got a stringing hanging off my sweater or mascara flaking onto my cheek. All it takes is 20 seconds to slow down and analyze myself in the mirror. Do my whole routine! I have a history of being lazy when it comes to morning/night routines for teeth and skin. I need to shape up and exercise the self-discipline to put on some gosh darn moisturizer. Follow …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/20 03:48 PM
6	Is there hope for me? Nope, just a woman being vulnerable on the internet in hopes of making a stranger feel like she’s not alone in the world	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/19 07:04 PM
16	Is there hope for me? It’s not uncommon for teenage girls to have crushes on celebrities and fantasize about those celebrities returning their feelings. They fantasize about how the person will treat them and make them feel. Their fantasies may even include some hardships, but at the end of the day, all their fantasies will most likely have a romantic ending which involves the girl feeling safe and loved. Playing make believe as a girl is normal. It’s normal to daydream in your head what sort of life you might want o…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/19 01:45 PM
1	What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions? Wonderfully! I was actually a bit worried because I didn’t have a candy thermometer, but I’ve been making the same recipe for years, so I was able to eyeball it.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/19 04:18 AM
3	What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions? Christmas music, fudge making and wrapping presents! I bought the last bit of boxes and bows today, and my SO wrapped our gifts for his side of the family for when we fly out to visit tomorrow. He’s been wanting fudge, and I promised I’d make some when we got to his brother’s but I ended up making a “practice batch” today just to make him happy.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/12/19 10:43 PM
2	How to dress feminine when you have a masculine figure. Identify models and actresses with similar body types as you, and then look for scenarios where they played a feminine character or were dressed femininely for a photo shoot. The first woman who always comes to my mind for looking feminine while having a masculine build is Robin Wright. I’m in mobile, so I apologize in advance if this formatting is terrible, but check out the picture of her in a strappy turquoise dress in this article: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vogue.com.au/brides/news/ro…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/12/19 02:52 PM
2	Book Recommendations? Yes, I think it is because they have different focuses. Surrendered single is for dating and vetting and finding and attracting an LTR, and surrendered wife is how to maintain an LTR/marriage.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/19 03:30 AM
3	Book Recommendations? The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle, as well as the rest of her books! Very in line with Fascinating Womanhood	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/19 11:51 PM
2	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? Oh no! Please don’t think my father was terrible; I was using him as an example of the community’s beliefs as a whole. Probably shouldn’t have picked him specifically. But yes, it was a less than desirable world to grow up in. I am out now, though, and my SO is very aware of how I grew up as he has met my family and respectfully slept in a separate bedroom and avoided all physical contact with me in their presence. He’s never dated someone from my religion before me, especially not from such an …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 09:32 PM
1	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? I thought it was this originally which is why I struggled so much because I very much believe he will always respect my boundaries. After sleeping on it, I realized my fear basically boils down a man other than him doing something to me (or one of our hypothetical future daughters) and him having no compassion, believing we were asking for it, etc. But he is absolutely not and would never be that person, and I do consciously know that. So, nothing to fear anymore! :) thank you so much for your i…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 09:27 PM
1	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? You were absolutely right. A good nigh’s sleep was exactly what I needed! And you were spot on with the rest of your comment, too. I was struggling to understand what assumptions I was making that were leading me in such a dark direction. I’m doing much better now but just wanted to thank you for your respectful and thoughtful comment!	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 04:34 PM
1	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? He was sitting at his desk, and I had brought him lunch and was standing in the doorway. No behavior on his part was threatening. For me, the major concern was his viewpoint. What believing some women will let a rich man do anything to them means for how he views women as a whole. I’d never partner myself with someone who had a derogatory perception of my entire sex. That’s just asking for a certain level of distrust and disrespect which it’s nearly impossible to build a healthy relationship wit…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 02:40 PM
2	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? Very true! And I don’t believe he’d ever say the latter; he’s not violent like that. My brain jumped from “some women will let a high value man do anything” to “if something happens to a woman, she was asking for it.” Again, not equal viewpoints.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 02:30 PM
2	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? I think “trait” was the wrong word there as this is less of a trait and more of a viewpoint. Now that I’ve gotten a good night’s sleep, I can see the mental gymnastics my brain decided to go through. Basically I took “women will let men of a high status do just about anything to them” to “if a man of high status did something to a woman, she wanted it, regardless of what she says now.” The latter viewpoint was very pervasive where I grew up. To this day my father swears that there’s so such thin…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/19 02:24 PM
1	Should i have kids first and then my career??? Do you have to work while going to nursing school? I have no idea how much in-person time nursing classes demand, but having children while going to school may be an option. Especially if you’re on base and can get childcare there.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/19 04:25 AM
19	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? We talked about it at length, and he pointed out I was very emotionally charged and taking it personally- which I was. He said he was just stating facts and that he wasn’t implying anything about my character and was sorry if he’d upset me. He handled the conversation perfectly; I’m overreacting to it, and I cannot for the life of me figure out how to stop.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/19 04:06 AM
2	Should i have kids first and then my career??? Anecdotal, but I once knew a fantastic mother who was also a nurse. She worked 3 12-hour shifts a week. It may not work for everyone, but she felt that it gave her lots of time to spend be with her kids and husband and keep up with the house. Nursing doesn’t have to be a 9-5 career, and if you work in a hospital, there may be a daycare onsite. You can even work part time for a few years while the kids are small if you like. I’d recommend educating yourself on all the options you could possibly h…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/19 04:03 AM
4	Keeping things light and happy when TTC I haven’t been exactly in your shoes before, but I have had to give a nudge here or there. Try being openly flirtatious and touchy. “Have you been working out lately? Your arms feels so strong. I’d love if you used them to pin me down.” “I love those pants on you, but I like them off you even more.” Just a little dirty talk- as light or as dark as you feel comfortable with. Say it with the right tone of voice and the right eye contact, and he will get the hint immediately. No need to spell it ou…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/19 03:56 AM
6	What do you think is up with men who speak about their wives as soon as you meet them but also flirt with you? I’m not the person you replied to, but I would say this is 100% over the line. Flirting in person a bit at a social gathering is just how some people socialize. But taking the time to intentionally text someone and then making those texts flirtatious? That goes beyond social niceties and really sounds like pursuit. That’s how I’d expect a single man to treat me after a first date, not a married man in any context. I’d be very uncomfortable, and while I wouldn’t accuse the man of anything, I woul…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/19 05:30 PM
32	What do you think is up with men who speak about their wives as soon as you meet them but also flirt with you? This exactly. I know some married men who are up front about having a wife and then flirt a bit just because it’s in their personality. They’re sweet and fun and playful but never inappropriate. We both flirt a bit. We both feel good. It never crosses any lines. No one gets hurt. I have nothing but a positive impression of men like this. On the other hand, there are some men who take it way too far and add a sexual overtone to their flirting. No. Nuh uh. Not okay if you have a wife at home at al…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/19 05:24 PM
4	Workaholic Boyfriend (27M) Wants to Get Married...I’m (23F)Having Second Thoughts Do you make sure to take your iron supplements with foods rich in vitamin C? I know it’s hardly the main focus of your post, but anytime I hear about a woman struggling with anemia around her period, I have to ask. I suffered from monthly anemia while taking supplements for 10 years before finding out in college that vitamin C helps with iron absorption. The difference in my hemoglobin is literally night and day when I take my iron supplement with a glass of OJ vs without. No doctor ever told me…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/10/19 02:38 AM
1	How do I enjoy my quiet alone time? My first answer is therapy. But that’s not always a reasonable choice for everyone, so I’d start digging into what happens when you’re alone. You mention having what sounds like intrusive thoughts during meditation. Are they meaningless? Like- oh, I wonder how Rubik’s cubes are made? Or are they relative to your life? Like- ugh, I remember that one time I did that one thing that was so embarrassing. Or- gosh I can’t stop thinking about this situation at work and how I’m going to get it all done!…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/19 05:09 PM
5	Picking out rings! Would love suggestions! Edit: Oh my goodness! Just reread your post and realized that you’re actually looking for a green sapphire, so she’s your perfect jeweler! My favorite Canadian jeweler is based out of Toronto. She’s a very small business, so doesn’t have a brick and mortar store, but she does have an Etsy shop! https://www.etsy.com/shop/EidelPrecious She specializes in delicate looks with uniquely colored sapphires, which is 100% my style. I don’t think I’ve ever seen diamond center stones in her store, but she …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/19 10:19 PM
3	Would it be silly to become more feminine when I look masculine? I came to recommend Aly Art’s Kibbe videos as well! Additionally, I would recommend finding an activity that’s makes you feel feminine. It should be something that gets you moving around, but it doesn’t have to be exercise. Maybe it’s cleaning the house or cooking. Maybe it’s dancing or playing an instrument. Find something that helps you feel physically connected to your femininity, and you’ll find yourself naturally carrying yourself in a more feminine way. And what’s important is that you’re …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/10/18 05:18 AM
14	Falling fast. Please some advice. Unpopular opinion: this guy is good for you. Based on what you’ve written, you have no standards and no identity. When you dated your first ex, you completely gave up all of your own wants and needs and dreams to be his everything. And when he called it off, you nearly killed yourself because you had nothing outside of your relationship. When you didn’t want sex, your ex used to guilt trip you. And it worked; you felt guilty because you felt like his needs or wants were more important than your …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/18 06:19 PM
1	I love wearing cute feminine clothes but can’t find the clothes I want. Where should I look? I second this! I’ve bought a several of their dresses secondhand from Poshmark and Ebay for good prices. Feminine and modest, there’s a variety of styles and colors out there!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/18 04:36 PM
7	Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men? Expression your emotions is not the same thing as being “emotionally available.” When people use that term, what they’re really talking about is vulnerability. When someone refuses to be vulnerable in a relationship, their soft, emotional side is unavailable to you. Now, it could be that you just keep finding men who struggle with vulnerability issues, or it could be that you personally struggle with vulnerability and subconsciously are sending messages to these men on dates that causes them to …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 12:01 AM
2	Waist Trainers I second Orchard Corsets! Fantastic selection at good prices for the quality.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/18 03:59 PM
3	I keep getting ghosted before first dates and am at my wit's end. Alright, first thing's first, you've got to work on your self esteem. I see how you're trying to be realistic about yourself in the post, and I can commend that, but it does sound like you're a little down about your appearance, especially given the hair situation. People can feel that in conversation. They can feel the lack of confidence. And nothing is sexier than confidence. I understand you may not be happy with your looks right now, but you gotta buck up, buttercup. Find something about you…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/17 06:25 AM
5	I'm emotionally challenged You're not crazy. It sounds like you're struggling with emotional vulnerability- which is quite normal. When negative emotions are repressed or denied, it's very common for ALL emotions to be repressed which is where you end up feeling apathetic. I would suggest watching some of Brene Brown's TedTalks, specifically starting with her one in KC where she talks about the effects of trying to be invulnerable- especially apathy. I've struggled for years to let people see my emotional state regardless…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/17 04:54 AM