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Lady_Beatnik/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 07:07 PM
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Even better. Find some snow and contract hypothermia post haste.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/23 12:21 AM
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I think the important thing here is that you're taking accountability and trying to change. That alone makes you eons ahead of other redpillers and former redpillers, and is a good sign for your future relationships. :)
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 07:55 PM
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I hope you don't mind me asking, but have you ever been tested for ADHD? It kind of sounds like you're having fixation or "jumping around" problems.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 04:14 PM
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She's a grifter who doesn't believe what she says, she's just making money off of the attention and will drop off the face of the Earth once she believes she has enough. Maybe if we're unlucky enough, she'll show up again a decade later as the subject of some patronizing little think piece about how really we're all the bad guys for judging a woman who was just "doing what she had to do to survive in a world that hates women."
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 02:34 PM
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I read that one too, pretty good, but really scary.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 03:53 PM
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Having an opinion isn't the same thing as "bias" actually.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/23 05:14 PM
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What about them? They're annoying and can definitely be destructive on an individual level, but so far there hasn't been a rash of femcel mass murders.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/23 05:14 PM
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Try writing down as many memories of all the bad times you can remember and keep them on a handy list that you can look back over whenever you get the urge. The sucky thing is that there's not many ways to fight this while "feeling good," just like with addiction you've got to accept the pain of withdrawing from the source of addiction and the wake up calls of what it really does to you. If it feels good, don't do it. Try to really sit there and unpack the urge when it comes too, instead of givi…
/r/ExRedPill24/09/23 09:34 PM
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Trauma bonds are like addictions. Not even in just a metaphorical sense, they literally have the same physical, chemical effect on the brain as substance addiction does, only instead of drugs it's his attention and approval. You need to find alternative sources of attention and approval and cut him off entirely. Over time, you will acclimate to the new sources and he still stop seeing so special by comparison, but every time you have contact with him it's like a new hit that's going to send you …
/r/ExRedPill24/09/23 06:34 PM
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People don't need to procreate.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/23 03:17 PM
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People don't need to procreate. Men and women can want each other for various reasons, and that's cool. But they don't need each other. The idea that they do has historically just been the excuse for subjecting them (mostly women).
/r/ExRedPill12/09/23 01:58 PM
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Definitely. I think there is a sharp difference between what women consider an attractive man to be, and what men (even straight men) consider an attractive man to be. And because of the desire to control women and their thoughts and feelings, a lot of men think that their idea of masculine beauty should take precedence. There's actually been similar observations and studies in the past. Like how Playboy tried to make a spin-off called Playgirl that showed off buff, naked men, but found out that…
/r/ExRedPill07/09/23 03:56 AM
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It's called Madonna-Whore complex.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/23 03:03 PM
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I think a lot of guys aren't interested in what real women actually want, they're interested in their idea of what women should want. It's why you'll often find them mocking the sort of popular male figures that women gravitate toward, like Justin Bieber or K-POP stars, for being "wimpy" or whatever, instead of emulating them.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/23 03:02 PM
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The organized, centralized aspect might be over, but the beliefs themselves are very much still alive and rampant.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/23 04:49 PM
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Nobody in the history of the world has become less misogynistic after getting into a relationship. As for therapy, it really depends on the person. Why they act that way, if they're willing to listen and change, etc.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/23 03:46 PM
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I agree that they're intertwined, but no, I have met a sizable amount of people who like to claim that capitalism is directly responsible for patriarchy and rewrite history to claim that pre-capitalist times were basically complementarian (separate but equal) societies with maybe a few minor unfair issues here and there. They are often unaware of or outright deny how brutal the past really was for women. Granted, these people tend to be more authoritarian-left-leaning first (people who are alrea…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/23 12:49 PM
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This is a really complex question that has many competing theories. Traditionally, it's been thought that it is because in the ancient past, physical strength was needed to accomplish all the most important tasks, which logically placed a large degree of importance on men. However, feminists themselves have often disputed this theory: Women were often responsible for many other, equally crucial survival tasks in ancient times (and still are in many tribal cultures), so it's not obvious why ancie…
/r/ExRedPill02/07/23 03:58 PM
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When you feel a lack of place in the world, it's easy to fall back on the "default roles" you feel society has given you, since it feels like the easy way out. For men, that default role is a misogynistic one due to our cultural history.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:52 PM
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There's a degree of truth to it, but not in the way redpillers want you to think. RP wants you to believe in like biological determinism and see us as animals sniffing out genes and resources. Women have a hard time dating because a lot of men out there are dangerous and unreliable. Any time we go out with a stranger, we're taking a risk. So if a particular guy has a lot of women willing to go out with him, it's easy to see it as him having been "vetted" by other women. Of course, this isn't nec…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 05:36 PM
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Being a hateful person is not the same thing as having dark triad traits though. This is a common mistake people make when learning about anti-social behavior. Everyone is capable of anti-social behavior under certain circumstances, but whether or not it actually becomes a personality dysfunction requires an all-encompassing pervasiveness over a long period of time that can't otherwise be explained by other factors such as culture or radicalization. When you just credit "dark triad" and cluster …
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 12:38 PM
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It's because their idea of "dark triad" is entirely informed by sexy sociopath characters from drama TV shows and novels.
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 12:34 PM
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No, as in this is a woman who is being sexist against other women, and thinks that redpill men are in the right.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 07:29 AM
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Where is she getting these ideas from? In my experience it's likely the internet. She's probably reading lots of stories about "feminist freak-outs" and apologia about men and women being "different but equal." The best way to try to deprogram someone is to ask them questions about their beliefs. Not in a confrontational way, but in a way that forces them to actually think through what they're saying. Ask her, for example, how many of these incidents she refers to are things she's seen in real l…
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 07:28 AM
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1) I don't like people to tell lies about me, especially when they use those lies as an excuse to treat me badly. 2) I'm worried about and sad for you that you think that. Everyone deserves to feel like they are worthy of being loved just the way you are.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/22 03:05 PM
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Red Pillers are always hanging around here because they want validation. They hope that if they can see people's painful situations here then it will justify their mentalities.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 07:42 PM
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It's sad to say, but even the best men out there still live in a world that encourages and rewards misogyny, and tells them that they're special just for being men. It's easy to see how someone can get a taste of those tempting ideas and run wild with it.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 07:39 PM
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You've done the right thing by admitting to it and choosing to be better. You've done a lot of damage, but I do believe your good true self is still there underneath it all. You're still so young and have a long life ahead of you, this isn't the end, you have plenty of time to not only rebuild but live your life as the person you were meant to be.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 07:24 PM
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It's okay to occasionally feel sorry for yourself and wallow a bit. Sometimes it's good to just allow ourselves to feel our pain and soothe ourselves, no matter the situation. Sometimes being positive just makes people feel worse and they instead need reassurance that it's okay to be sad, angry, etc. The caveat is that this wallowing needs to be temporary and it can't be all-consuming. You can't get so caught up in feeling sorry for yourself that you begin to think that the world owes you someth…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 03:33 PM
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I'm really proud of you, good job. And hey, I know that you had to be in a hard, lonely place in order to subscribe to those channels at all in the first place... just know that it's okay and that are worthy of being cared about and loved.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 02:41 AM
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Because they stereotype non-Western women as still being submissive, obedient, and traditional.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/22 10:32 PM
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"I'm sick of you asking to finish your long, boring answers!" DAMN LOL
/r/ExRedPill30/04/22 07:13 PM
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Your relationship has turned abusive. Don't focus on saving him, focus on protecting yourself, please call a hotline before this gets worse.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 03:31 PM
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If your entire mindset revolves around viewing women as essentially an opponent that you're in a constant struggle against, then you will inevitably wind up abusing them. Because only abusers think about relationships that way, as a constant power struggle to be the one on top and in control rather than a partnership between two equal, respectable, trustworthy people.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 03:53 PM
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I've heard that some people are, on some level, actually afraid of becoming healthier mentally (not just redpill, but anyone with issues) so they wind up unconsciously self-sabotaging anything that would improve their lives. They do so because their misery is comfortable and familiar, whilst improvement means change, and change is unfamiliar and scary. For a redpiller in particular, giving a girl a chance and having a good date would not only mean that they have to give up complaining about thei…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 03:35 AM
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I already told you ways you can handle things like being "ugly" or sticking up for yourself. If you want, I can take the time to Google suggestions like I'm about to do here: As for autism: Plenty of autistic people lead full, fulfilling lives full of friendships and love, even people with severe autism. You can start taking responsibility for that by getting in touch with autistic communities, mental health services, and online resources for ways to cope with the disorder (Warning: Stay away fr…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 02:56 AM
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You do have standards though, and I'm guessing you don't date outside of them. The point I'm trying to make is that a large part of the redpill belief system is that you should be mistrustful and scornful towards women because supposedly all they care about is looks, money, support, etc. in men. Most guys fall into the redpill because they think of themselves as "nice guys" whom nobody will "give a chance," and they convert this feeling into this whole conspiracy theory about how the world works…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 02:17 AM
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I didn't ask whether or not you would reject a "lower quality" woman outright. I asked if you would really choose her over a supermodel, assuming you had many perfectly cool, smart, nice supermodel women willing to be with you.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 07:42 PM
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Because you're using your pain as an excuse to hurt and be cruel towards other people, and that's never okay. Women are not privileged objects with an easy life, they have just as many struggles with self-esteems, careers, jobs, safety, etc., as you, if not moreso. They have feelings and fears and needs, they don't just exist to either pleasure you or hurt you and it's wrong of you to think of them that way. No other human being (man, woman, or other) owes you their time, feelings, or body in or…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 02:20 PM
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It's probably just a stupid fantasy, but I'd talk to a human trafficking group just in case. Better safe than sorry.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/21 03:22 AM
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I hope you understand that you don't have to "obey" anyone regardless if you're single or not.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/21 02:06 AM
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No, it's mostly a book about his experience as a counselor and the psychology of abusive men. It is worth a read though, as I believe that the book serves a purpose beyond domestic abuse and actually lays out the mentality behind most abuse and oppression in general, whether small scale or large scale.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/21 07:26 PM
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True, though the family isn't necessarily supposed to represent a literal family (though it can). It's more a general representation of a person's early influences on their values and views of the world. It is true though that to overcome such a mentality, you have to go through a difficult process of unlearning everything you grew up believing.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/21 07:24 PM
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I always put it as, "If everywhere you go smells like shit, check your own shoes."
/r/ExRedPill30/06/20 02:00 PM
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The reason why I feel the need to date as you put it it's because I have met way more people including women who say inexperienced is a bad thing and I am betting to believe that is true That's an understandable concern. I think the issue, though, is you're not really in a good place to rectify it at the moment. If you try to get more experience with this mentality, you will likely wind up falling into bad relationships and thus become even worse with the way you view and experience them. If thi…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/20 09:52 PM
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I want to be able to experience the joy of dating again This is expecting her to fix you. You're expecting to suddenly be happy again as soon as you get a date, and that's not how it works. Getting back into dating is not going to get rid of these bad feelings you have, at most they'll be temporarily stopped but then come flying right back as soon as you hit a rough patch. It's okay to want a date, everyone wants romance or feels unloved every once in a while. But if you feel like you need a dat…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/20 09:24 PM
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I'm tired of that I have been in states of happiness and still left single The fact that you think this is a problem, is the problem. If your happiness can be undone by remembering that you are single, then you are not truly happy. You are, once again, making finding a relationship the goal of your happiness pursuit — the same self-sabotaging behavior I've warned you about. So no, you haven't really "tried that already." Until you stop regarding "But I'm still left single!" as something that del…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/20 04:17 AM
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I was really scared this was going to be feces-related.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 05:59 AM
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My dude, self-improvement is never going to work until you stop making romance the ultimate goal of it. It sounds like that while you understand what's wrong with a red pill mentality, you're still struggling with fundamental misconception of it: that being that you need to be romantically involved with a woman to be worth something, that your behavior and worldview should always work towards obtaining a relationship. It seems like everything that you're doing, you're still doing it while thinki…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 03:33 AM
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Eh, you do you. As long as you're not trying to dictate your preferences as the "natural order," you can have any relationship goals you want.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/20 02:30 AM
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