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I guess I'm confused as to the what the problem is. Is the problem: You don't like his behavior and wish you could change it? You are unsure why he is looking at his friends page and you need to know? But also don't think you should ask? Something else? Clear problems have clear solutions.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 08:26 PM
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Perhaps more people need to get a little scared about parenting. Then maybe they would respect their role as a parent and try their best to be prepared. Abuse and its effects on children is no joke. Two parents from abusive backgrounds can produce some very real challenges for a LTR let alone kids. Right now she says she is a fence sitter. I say its better to look before you leap!... heck if you got time read a book or two while you are fence sitting:) I only discourage having/adopting kids if t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 10:27 PM
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If you and your guy do not think you can overcome the abusive childhood you came from to be better parents, I would advise against having children or adopting. Both are very big responsibilies. Stopping a cycle of abuse is more important than satisfying an instinctual urge.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 04:09 PM
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It seems that your conflict may stem from having a dysfunctional upbringing (family). I say this with the very best intent.... Just because your parents failed you, does not mean that you will fail your children (biological or not). Though, It is very responsible to consider how your childhood experience with influence your parenting style. Children raised in abusive conditions are not easy children to raise. Being a handful when you were little was not your fault. Raising Biological children or…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 04:03 PM
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There are some major contradictions in your post lady. I know myself well enough to say I am a very submissive and devoted person. Friends refer to me as a "strict ass judge judy ass bitch the reason why we broke up was that I was like a robot, completely unemotional I think you are onto something here... I think of the ego like the unconscious defense mechanisms we build. Sounds like you recognise that these defense mechanisms are not functioning properly. You are not a person with two sides th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 03:33 PM
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The choice to have or not have children is an expression of values. Choice, Don't have children= value self over family Choice, Have children= value family over self It is common and fairly normal when you are young to be self centered. You are learning a lot about you right now. Societal conditioning is prolonging this phase in many women these days. More and more women are missing their window to create family, because they figure out what family means to them, too late. Society has devalued f…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 02:56 PM
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Been with my guy 5 years. Dom/sub relationship. Our relationship is strong and I trust him completely. He is the most self controlled and honorable man I have ever known. Like another poster mentioned, his dominance shines when we have another sub type lady. We only engage with other women together and we are very selective about who we let into our lives. We had a girlfriend for a year or so. She was lovely, but we ended our relationship on good terms when she decided she had some extreme sexua…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 02:26 PM
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Sorry. I missed these comments completely. Without these for context, the comments I did read looked a very different way. I agree that his relationship with his mother is his own, and though it is not my style, I know many people that the "smile and nod" approach has worked very well. Usually when an authentic, honest relationship is impossible or unwanted. Sometumes that's just the best thing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:51 PM
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Thank you. Speaking from experience. I can relate to the OP. Figured I'd give the hard advice, that in Hindsight, I had wished I had recieved.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 03:44 PM
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Guaranteed, lack of enthusiasm is not the underlying issue... lack of enthusiasm is a symptom of the real issue. Agreed that not fixing it or not being patient enough to find a solution can ruin a marraige.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 01:33 AM
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Thank you:)
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 03:17 AM
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Its hard to maintain interest and excitement (butterflies) about a 16 year old even when you are 15. He wont start resembling the man that he will become till he is at least 20. He cannot be a solid RPM (red pill male) at his age. Be patient with yourself. It would be unrealistic to try to find your forever love at your age. Do not be hard on yourself if this one doesn't work out. Focus on being the best lady you can be. You can start healthy habits now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 02:51 AM
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Asking this question is very girly and youthful. You are doing it without even trying! We don't all do it the same, but in hindsight you will say, "gosh I was so young then!" You sound very intelligent and possibly prone to perfectionism? Don't forget to enjoy your milestones tasks you complete and the lessons you learn. You have an analytical brain and that will make you feel older than your peers. Being a woman or a girl does not require you to be something that you are not. At this age, you w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 02:42 AM
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This seems like a cry for attention and validation. Pointing out a pizza box is ... communication... acting irritable in response is childish. You are grasping at straws to create conflict and you are placing the blame where it doesnt belong. I have a feeling this is not the first time you have heard this here, but you need to stop blaming others for your childish behavior. No one makes you feel this or that way you are using your emotions to blackmail this guy into silence. You mention you havi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 12:43 AM
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Ah I see. Lack of communication, lack of values, betrayal and disgust are probably more accurate reasons. But I am aware that money and sex is what "they" say.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 12:17 AM
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And yes, if I made a promise to stick with someone if they get ill/disabled/etc of no fault of their own I would of course stick with that promise... but I also think most such promises are stupid to make as you never know what your life can bring... Which is it? If you think such promises are stupid, then you are not a candidate for marraige, and frankly your opinion here is oddly placed. If you found out that your partner was a rapist/child molester/white collar criminal/cheater/drug addict/(i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 11:29 PM
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Oh the old correlation doesn't equal causation agument... lol. This argument makes sense against claims like "shark attacks are most common when ice cream sales are up". There is literally no evidence to support causation of ice cream sales causing shark attacks. In contrast, there is plenty of evidence of the effects of sex on brain chemicals, what the purpose of those chemicals are and how choices made can produce statistically predictable and easily explained outcomes. Additionally, the psych…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 10:57 PM
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Thats a shame. Sexual drives can change on a whole host of factors. Would you have also left her if she became injured or ill (longterm) and could not sexually perform for you? Remember, we are talking about marraige. The ol in sickness and in health, for better or for worse until death do us part. Having a low libido is nothing if she is a good choice in wife in other regards. Fyi Low libidos alone do not stop sex from happening in marriage. You can eat even if you do not have a raging appetite…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 10:20 PM
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I am always amazed at how beautifully women here take constructive criticism and self reflect. It is so very refreshing! Kudos to you! Maybe worship is a romanticized expression of what it feels like when man and woman are operating successfully as a team? Worship meaning intense appreciation and awe for one another? In my veiw, it is lovely and very beneficial to express genuine awe and gratitude for our partners. I definitely see the value in that. On the flip side, there are times when that g…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 09:13 PM
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"...he should be worshipping you..." "...he doesn't sound fit to be a husband right now..." These statements are troubling. No one is entitled to be "worshipped" (literally or figuratively) no matter how good they are or what they have done. I don't see how this belief could ever yeild a healthy result. Being fit to be a wife or husband is not something that fluctuates day to day. Being her husband (and her, his wife) means they chose each other "till death do us part". If he or she struggles, s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 08:04 PM
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Dating is for vetting. Catching feels should not be seen as an important indicator of the value of a man. Especially since your radar is not spot on. Feels are a biological/psychological response. It seems, for you, the psychological part may need some tweaking. There are several reasons that women go after the wrong kinds of guys. This is really worth looking at so that you can help yourself to make better choices. "Feels" are like an appetite stimulant. It prompts the desire to consume food an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 07:21 PM
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It is good that you recognize that you have not been taking good care of yourself. Now you can start. Drop those those extra lbs as quickly and as safely as possible. This will help you to not feel so insecure. Your body and mind are your responsibility. You must prioritize your body and mind so that you can be the best you can be for your husband and children. You wil struggle and fail more often to take care of them if you are not taking good care of yourself. Instead of focusing on boundaries…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 02:02 AM
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My hair type: straight thin fine long . needs detangling and volume. Get regular trims Wash every 2-3 days: Wash/massage scalp Totally rinse shampoo out of hair! Let conditioner sit a few minutes. Rise with cool water. Leave a tiny bit of conditioner in hair after rinsing. Pat excess moisture out of hair. I like aquis hair turbans. Dry at least 70% Aquage uplifting foam, spray hair treatment, hair oil, heat protectant /styling product. In that order! Head flipped down Blowdry roots dry first air…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 05:33 AM
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Learn to accept your imperfect nose. Only you know if you need to quit the makeup in order to do that. Trust me, You don't want any guy that gets hung up (negatively) on the imperfection of your nose (regardless of your makeup routine). How you feel about your nose and the role of makeup is the real issue here.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 05:01 AM
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Honesty= authentic relationship , Distance=(non‐relationship) playing "nice", superficial limited interactions or avoidance. The latter can be reasonable if it's necessary to keep the family together or give space to sort issues and keep future possibilities open. I personally favor honesty, almost always.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 03:11 AM
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Have you asked your boyfriend what he would like to do regarding his relationship with his mother? This is not your decision to make. He is a grown man that is responsible for managing his own mental state and his relationships with others. Taking on that responsiblity for him, may feel rewarding to start with. Afterall, you are just trying to help, right? Don't. Ultimately you will be undermining his ability to be strong and sort it out himself. Relationships with dysfunctional parents can be h…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 02:54 AM
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I agree. I am 32 years old and over the years I have become much more confident in establishing boundaries. It is my humble opinion that honesty and boundaries are required for establishing any genuine relationship between people. While I dont think the attempt at genuine relationships are always successful, I do think close family members should be given the opportunity to interact on a genuine level. Without th we opportunity, it will not happen after all. I found the comment about relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 02:11 AM
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Vellore992 Maybe try offering constructive criticism instead of naysaying or calling another persons approach "catty"? Maybe you can offer an example of more effective approach that would just as effectively establish boundaries? Or is it your opinion that establishing boundaries in situations like this is not a good goal?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 01:37 AM
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You got to the point so much faster than I did! I couldn't agree more!
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 01:18 AM
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My comment is gonna be burried here but oh whelp. Sure it exists, but Pretty girl privelage is as superficial as the reason she gets it. Any woman thinking that this privelage has any real value (whether she is a reciever or observer) needs to reevaluate what is truely happening here. Looks matter, but there are plenty of traits that matter more.... to the people that matter:) Niceness and free stuff given without merit is really only so valuable or flattering. Are these friends of yours also st…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 01:10 AM
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You say you love your husband, but what does that mean to you exactly? What you are doing is incredibly destructive and hurtful behavior. If you dont want to destroy this man and your relationship, you will stop. You can't make these choices and simultaneously paint yourself a loving and caring wife. Be honest with yourself. Why are you doing this? I see you using the hypergamy theory as an excuse for your choices. Sure it can help expain the urge, but it is not controlling your actions. You are…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 09:07 PM
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