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That was what I was thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:23 PM
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You're right of course but I figured I'd put my comment on. I've answered from observation and applied the disclaimer of being demi. I think I misread 1), but it's still a no, because demi so edited.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:45 PM
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1) Not if they have shown those traits in front of me. I take rumours and gossip with a grain of salt. Many of these people are very good at hiding those traits. 2) Probably not. I'm demi, so that may have an effect. 3) No question 3. 4) They mask it for long enough that people develop feelings, or feel like they can change them, or feel like they are that way for a reason... Honestly they play on pity a lot of the time once they start showing up how bad they are. 5) Bad people who have success …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:27 PM
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That's because the blue pill doesn't exist as an ideology like the red pill does. The blue pill is just a name the red pill applies to mainstream thinking so it has a straw man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:12 PM
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This guy is one of the examples of what you're talking about. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/nov/19/julien-blanc-barred-entering-uk-pick-up-artist
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:15 PM
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Fairly high still from just oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:51 PM
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Just so you know, when you say submissive, that's what all of the women in the room hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:35 PM
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Honestly, even if you don't want to be a SAHM if you want to have kids with all of the medical trauma that can entail it would be irresponsible to not take into account that the parent who isn't birthing them might need to support the whole household for a time during a recovery period. Also, kids are expensive. Edited for spelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:20 PM
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I was going to say that the modern equivalent of "submissive wife" is unattractive to women but you nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 01:16 PM
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Maybe think of it like a "friend crush"? Where you want to spend time someone and get to know them? It's not sexual attraction at that point just really good chemistry that has the potential to turn into sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:53 PM
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Even then, it would more likely be use by people who want children but would be endangered by carrying them. Wanting to end a pregnancy is sometimes about more than not wanting to carry or raise a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:36 PM
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I honestly went looking for this, and I'll admit that when they talked about flushing the uterus I crossed my legs. (Anything going into the cervix counts as invasive.) I can't see anything about it being done in humans though. I'm basing the opinion on us not being able to remove and re position ectopic pregnancies (which implant outside the uterus) and those having to be aborted so they don't kill the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:52 PM
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I don't think so. Removing a foetus would be incredibly invasive and you'd probably have to wait to a certain point of development to do so which means that the person would have to be pregnant for a while. Also some people don't want their genetic children walking around even if they don't have to carry them (I'm thinking SA victims). That's leaving aside that abortion is a medical umbrella term for a lot of things, not just removing unwanted pregnancies but unviable pregnancies and removing de…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 09:33 AM
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A bit of concealer under the eyes and foundation above the beard line. Clear mascara can make your eyes pop as well. Also making sure you've got your optimal beard shape and its clean and healthy . Then getting your eyebrows cleaned up (you don't have to take away the whole thing or have weird Vulcan brows, but taking out the stray hairs and the unibrow) and a bit of eyebrow pencil to make them more defined. I may have thought about this for a minute to long.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:28 PM
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Really? A man who isn't friends with any of his exes is a red flag for me. It's a sign he might be an absolute arsehole.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:32 PM
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I live in the UK and I've been cat called, followed and once I accidentally made eye contact with a guy at a pedestrian crossing and he tried to get my number and when I politely declined he followed me up the street shouting at me that I'm a frigid lesbian. It happens everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:03 AM
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If someone puts their hands or anything else around my throat I would interpret it as a threat to my life and act accordingly. That is not vanilla. If you think it is vanilla, you've watched to much porn. Congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:54 PM
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Be honest about what you want and what you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:07 PM
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With no mental or emotional connection it's like a beautiful painting. You know it's pretty and someone worked hard on it. But it doesn't make you feel anything sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:40 AM
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Because humans are more than their tits and ass. Physical attraction is crucial for a sexual relationship, but it can only be the only thing you're looking at if you want a relationship which is only sexual, and even then the mental and emotional parts play a part in sexual attraction. If the relationship isn't just sex and is a ltr (married or not) you need more. Ticking boxes before I'll JUST talk to you, no. That's crazy, but it's also disingenuous and a straw man because that isn't what we'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:34 PM
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Be sure we're not just selecting for sex. Just selecting for sex and hotness seems de humanising to me. You're boiling someone down to if you want to f*ck them by looking at them and that's it? Ew. Unless it's a hookup we're selecting for a partner, and that should be someone who improves your life by being in it, and if that just boils down to sex for you, I'm sorry, but we're looking at the whole situation. Even if it is a hookup, a bad personality or not having your sh*t together absolutely i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:05 PM
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I'm slightly older and the availability of porn online does seems to be shaping what people are into. If you grew up with a couple of Playboy's its different to watching weird stuff on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:29 AM
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He doesn't consider other people in his decision making and he doesn't understand the concept when it comes up in conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 09:50 AM
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Yeah, I know someone this describes apart from the low income/unemployed bit. He's asexual, but it is really obvious that he's never had to consider anyone elses needs, deal with boundaries or negotiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:54 PM
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For most of history children were seen as the property of their father or their father's family because they had inheritance rights. There was a flip in the 20th century to mother's being granted custody more often, but that's been gradually changing as men have been asking for custody more and have been more willing to do caretaking activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 08:29 PM
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A lot of women would have significantly in lower counts than men think they do and men wouldn't believe it. I've noticed that a lot of men have a weird thing about thinking women lie about it. If I'd slept with all of the people I'm rumoured to have slept with then my count would be 3 times higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 11:10 AM
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No. It absolutely isn't. Really. Please don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 06:02 PM
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That's because the other subs for that kind of thing for shut down for being deeply problematic and they've all filtered into this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:00 AM
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Homicide is a leading cause of maternal mortality. Maternal mortality rates in the USA are already insanely high, and the rate of homicide as a cause of death goes up by 16% during pregnancy and just after pregnancy. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34619735/ Once imagines that without available abortions those numbers will climb. I'm not sure what the male homicide rate has to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:52 PM
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What he means is that those violent men who insist that the girl gets an abortion will either insist she gets an illegal and dangerous abortion (which might kill her), attempt to force a miscarriage through violence (which might kill her), or kill just her. Maternal mortality in the USA is very high. Homicide rates are higher for pregnant women than other groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 11:16 PM
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There is the thing which compounds everything you've mentioned, depending on where you live we all spent a long period of time in lockdown and in the case of the under 21s that's a lot of time when they should have been out, finding out who they are, meeting people and having those experiences when they were shut up inside losing their social skills. Those things rust if you don't use them. Even if you weren't locked down for that long, a lot of people weren't and aren't taking the risks they'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:14 PM
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I shouldn't be surprised at how little this person knows about history, yet I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:37 PM
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There's actually an app they use in Iceland to stop people from dating relatives because of their small population.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 11:37 AM
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It's the London bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 11:48 AM
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It's not about fairness of act and I reject the concept that anal makes MM and different to FF, of only because you can say not to anal and then it's absolutely no different. It's about asking someone else to perform in a way they aren't comfortable with/that doesn't come naturally to them for your pleasure and not being willing to do that same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:53 PM
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That's why the whole FMF thing is annoying, tbh. There are men who expect their partners to perform with other women when they aren't bi, when they won't perform with other men when they aren't bi either. I don't get why anyone would reject someone they otherwise get over being bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:59 PM
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Why do you assume the guest dude is having sex with the woman and not the other dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:35 PM
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Same. It has the added advantage that no one can claim you owe them anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 12:02 AM
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From observation (so maybe useless) less people are getting married who shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. It's expensive, and there's less social pressure to do so now than at any point in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 10:36 AM
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There really aren't less of those. The number of men who appear to be looking for a mother is mildly frightening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:46 PM
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That does cover this sub quite well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:13 PM
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Jesus that's biphobic. He isn't straight. He isn't gay. He's bi, so she isn't forcing him to do anything, especially not behave straight. He likes women, she's a woman. Bi does not mean promiscuous, or non monogamous, or interested in group sex, or into threesomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 11:19 PM
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Ah! This is very good. https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tFP1zc0SspNS6osrjRg9FIsTq1QSMxLUSgozcsszshNzStRSC3KTFZISi3Kzi_PLKkCAJ_REak&q=sex+and+punishment+eric+berkowitz&oq=sex+and+punish&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j46i512j0i512j0i22i30.3041j0j4&client=ms-android-motorola-rvo3&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8 This is also good. https://www.google.com/search?client=ms-android-motorola-rvo3&sxsrf=ALeKk02QnyIS15IHBVv1ry991j2OWd77Sw:1627558551322&q=A+Curious+History+of+Sex&stick=H4sIAAAAAAAAAONgFuLRT9c3…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:37 AM
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https://www.studd.co.uk/sexuality.php Here's a link, but mostly I'm working from books rather than studies so finding postable citations is hard. Perils of being a historian. Sex and Punishment by Eric Berkowitz is a really good treatment of historical views on sexuality generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:33 AM
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They have a bunch of massaged statistics about how they think women behave because it fits into their transactional world view. They don't even consider believing women when they speak. I started looking at this sub because I was genuinely curious about trp, but honestly it's given me the answers I was after. There's a massive problem with men historically saying "women be like this" and calling it science and then being butthurt when we're not like that. (The angel in the house etc.). I think i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:59 AM
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Because whenever I see it, it doesn't. I see women with support networks of family and friends who they talk to about their lives their jobs and everything else (things that I've seen referred to on this sub as boring small talk by some fellows) and I see men who don't have anyone to talk to but their female partner and it's a lot and probably too much for one person to be doing for another. It's why men kill themselves more than women. On a other thread about why men assume women are interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:12 AM
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Don't forget having how we feel about things explained to us. That's brilliant. They haven't included emotional intelligence, or ability to look after themselves, or personality. Eesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 09:33 AM
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https://www.mind.org.uk/news-campaigns/news/men-twice-as-likely-as-women-to-have-no-one-to-rely-on-for-emotional-support/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:59 AM
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No. Because men don't talk about their feelings to their friends (isn't toxic masculinity lovely?) Some men treat their partner like their entire support network. One person shouldn't have to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:59 AM
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Before the 1800s female sexuality was considered to be the more predatory, active and dangerous. The switch over to considering women to be passive is a cultural cliche which is not based in actuality. Women being like that at celebrities has nothing to do with them being more attractive, or up to a level of attractiveness, but more because women's sexuality tends to be more cerebral, rather than based purely on physical appearance. To put it bluntly, they can imagine the celebrity to be the thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 11:41 PM
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Why do you guys keep insisting that looks is the only thing that makes someone sexually desirable, and it's the only metric that matters? Personality doesn't make for looks and can make someone more sexually desirable. It's entirely subjective, but it's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 11:15 PM
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Maybe a gif?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 03:52 PM
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I'm not sure what that sentence actually means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:28 PM
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The number of guys on here saying guys aren't nice to or compliment each other... Have you tried being nice to each other? Women do it all the time. It's not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:26 PM
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In the UK the age of consent is 16. How about a 16 year old and your theoretical 25 year old? It's legal, but it's a massive power imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:43 PM
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Hey, the thread asked when we stopped trusting men. I've been being approached by men since I was a literal child. It's genuinely creepy having someone old enough to be your father hitting on you. I don't view all men negatively. But the hard fact is that if you meet 50 people and one is an asshole, the other 49 people stick in you're mind less than the asshole. I just think people should date their own age until they are about 25 and are less likely to be manipulated. That covers men as well as…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:05 AM
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Beyond 25-26 it stops mattering, but before that their brains are still growing and it makes me uncomfortable. 1-2 years age difference when one of the partners is younger than about 25 is fine, more than that is a bit creepy. I'll extend it to both sexes because while I've never had a guy tell me about it, I'll assume it swings both ways. It just seems a bit R.Kelly beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:34 PM
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Hun, I'm 38. I know you're not all bad. But when a guy starts talking about preferring younger less jaded women, that's the alarm bell that rings. A lot of women have at one point of another had someone try to groom them, or know someone who has had someone try to groom them and that's at least partially why a lot of women react badly to this kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:26 PM
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Because you're talking like the kind of older men who hit on us in our early 20s, were gross, and made us jaded? To us, it sounds like you want someone inexperienced who will let you get away with being an awful human being while telling her it's normal and she'll believe you for a while because she doesn't know any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:00 PM
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People still separated, but he always got the children because they were legally his. Everything she earned was also legally his. He could still LEGALLY turn up, rape her, beat her, and take everything from her. Personally I think we need to redefine marriage and gender roles within it because the old set only really worked for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:40 PM
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Historian here. Legally speaking wives were their husbands legal property to do with as they wished until relatively recently. Of she left, the children couldn't go with her, because they were his property too. Divorce was almost impossible. All of her property now belonged to her husband she she owned nothing so if she left him, she left with nothing, no matter what she brought into the marriage or earned while she was there. It was allowable for him to beat her, and to rape her and take whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:36 PM
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I know a couple of asexuals who are doing fine. But I dated a guy who was in his 30s and I was (and still am) his only ever girlfriend. I don't think he's permanently damaged, but I do think that if you don't have the experience of being in a relationship you don't pick up the skills of making concessions and, negotiating, considering someone else and kindness that come with it. They're soft skills, and the asexuals don't tend to pick them up either. As for the lack of experience I other areas, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 09:31 AM
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A 1 in personality doesn't mean they're a bad person. They can be boring, unintelligent, uninformed, have no hobbies or interests, no passion for anything, be a narcissist, be unwilling to listen to anyone elses opinions, be completely lacking in empathy, literally only care about things which relate to themselves, be controlling etc. It's not just for being crazy or for being bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:28 PM
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Have you never met a person who's looks are a 9 but their personality is a solid 1?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:03 PM
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Physical attraction which is what you're measuring and finding someone sexually attractive are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:01 PM
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Very heavy vetting. When I was single I didn't use OLD, but I never went out with anyone who asked me, and I only went out with people I asked who I already knew socially and had something in common with. If a hot girl turns you down, it might just be on reflex and she might be sick and tired of all of "no thank yous" she's handed out today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:09 PM
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Here we learn, never date and American, male or female. It will work differently to what you're used to and it will be screwed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 11:49 AM
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Yeah, and the whole "having different standards" thing is utter BS. If a man and a woman live together and the house is a mess the woman will be judged and the man won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:46 PM
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That's a US study. I specified UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:46 PM
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The woman both working full time and taking on most of the domestic tasks is also the most common domestic arrangement I see too. (UK, late 30s)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:26 PM
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Like a cow. Or a sheep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 09:46 PM
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Not even in international women's day? But seriously. The normalisation of things which degrade women is a problem. Especially if you're somewhere like the US which has such appalling sex ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:19 PM
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Do you not have any hobbies that allow you to meet people? If not, get some.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:28 AM
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And I wouldn't have dated a man with a kitchen like that. I know a lot of women for whom that if a definite reason to leave and never come back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:14 AM
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Myself and my partner are the same, and have been for the last eight years. It works. We've added the point that no one has to do a thing if they hate it most. I don't have to vaccuum the stairs, he doesn't have to clean the kitchen sink. We both avoid the ironing pile.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:01 AM
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I can, but he'll tell you doing stuff without the right safety equipment will invalidate your insurance when someone gets hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:46 AM
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My partner is an engineer, I told him about this and he laughed. "Find me a pair of uk size 4 steel toe caps suitable for a job site. Find me a set of overalls that will go over hips and tits. Actually, don't bother, you won't."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:38 AM
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Here's one about construction workers. https://www.constructionequipment.com/construction-its-time-start-designing-women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:35 AM
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Just a quick Google gives me this. The trucking industry seems to have spotted it's an issue that the truck is designed for a bigger frame to use, and that they have been making changes to their trucks to make it so women can use them. I'm fairly sure you'll have the same issues with other equipment. I'll go look. https://www.trucker.com/equipment/trucks/article/21744724/ryder-rolls-out-truck-spec-designed-for-women-drivers
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:32 AM
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Everything from crash test dummies to body armour. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/feb/23/truth-world-built-for-men-car-crashes Also this https://www.google.com/amp/s/taskandpurpose.com/analysis/women-combat-gear-problem/%3famp
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:20 AM
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Cooking on an open fire for survivalism isn't the same as feeding a household from what seasonally available, but that's pretty much my only point. Making butter and cheese which increase available calories, preserving and storing foods like salting meat and pickling etc... It's actually a lot of you start going through old cook books and manuals and looking at what women where expected to know. But yeah, I think we're pretty much on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:19 AM
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Yeah, I've done festival set up (putting up marquees etc) and take down and realised its not for me. There is still and issue with men in those industries making it hard for women by either not hiring them or not accepting they are not the same. A lot of safety equipment isn't designed with women in mind. It's not malice, its just it was designed by men who didn't consider what would happen if someone who isn't a man tried to use it. We're getting there. It's just taking a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:11 AM
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I've seen what on the link before. I'm a historian. I added the "takes longer than you think it does" comment because someone who doesn't cook now would have no conception of cooking on an open fire. It's good to see other people also know! There's a book called "The Golden Thread" which is about fibre craft, and is quite informative. Theoretically we're moving towards un-gendered work which is a good thing. It's just taking us some time and there's going to be some complaining as we get there. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 11:04 AM
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Humans individually are a random enigma. Gender irrelevant. Also a lot of guys on here try to tell women what they're attracted to, and refuse to acknowledge that there are aspects of sexual attraction which are not physical sexual attraction. They ignore variables. While women may on average perfect tall to short, it doesn't mean that if the tall guy has an awful personality? Then he isn't getting anywhere. While you can change the odds a little to make yourself more generally attractive, that …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 10:49 AM
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Even if women only did what we now consider to be women's work, it's still work, and they work being done supported the work men. All of the work of making sure that there are clothes in your back (which was significantly more than you living in this century think) to protect you from the weather, correct nutrition, caregiving of children,the sick and the elderly and making sure the house is clean and higiene are all things which are equally as important as whatever the men are doing. If those t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 10:42 AM
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But a lot of men who say this have no intention of doing it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 10:33 AM
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Also are they funny, or do they take themselves to seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 10:24 AM
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Nice to see this had degenerated to play ground level...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 10:21 AM
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It's really simple. Different women are attracted to different things. It's never just one series of boxes you can check. There is no formula. You can't game theory this. Women are subjective living beings just like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 09:59 AM
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You could put many of these dudes atop Everest, and not only would they not gain empathy and perspective, they would argue the view and the mountain was a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:10 PM
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You could put many of these dudes atop Everest, and not only would they not gain empathy and perspective, they would argue the view and the mountain was a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:10 PM
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You could put many of these dudes atop Everest, and not only would they not gain empathy and perspective, they would argue the view and the mountain was a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:09 PM
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You could put many of these dudes atop Everest, and not only would they not gain empathy and perspective, they would argue the view and the mountain was a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:09 PM
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Because if 10-15% of men are creeps and they abuse or creep out 10 women, then we all have a bad story.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:04 PM
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Because of that low percentage of creeps each creeps out a couple of women a year, eventually we all have a bad experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:02 PM
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Also, the study self selects for people who use dating sites.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:36 AM
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Also being funny, kind and charming. I know a couple of guys who aren't much to look at but have charisma coming out of their ears.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:35 AM
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Guys are posting about a study that seems to show that women aren't physically attracted to the bottom 80%, just one problem with that. Female sexuality isn't like make sexuality and just using a study based on looks isn't going to cut it because men have been deciding that women work like men and getting upset when we don't for literal aeons. We know that women can be sexually attracted to people for more reasons than just looks. While I am not arguing with the study itself, I will argue that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:26 AM
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Actually, the way they're trying to game it and work out the rules for dealing with other humans who are entirely subjective beings makes me think they want to treat it like a computer game. There is a lot of game thinking on this sub. There are less rules they think and they are as subjective as the people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:10 AM
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I'm an older millenial and I agree hard. This doesn't apply to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:07 PM
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Actually it's far more hygienic than hundreds of micro cuts and ingrowing hairs. Hygiene is literally why we have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:28 PM
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The pair bonding thing is rubbish. Women's pair bonding doesn't decrease with dating experience. Generally what women gain with experience is an idea of what they want and what they are and are not willing to put up with. It means they establish healthy boundaries. Once you've worked out what you want it's fairly easy to work out when someone is wasting your time and can't be what you want. Sometimes you need to see exactly what you don't want to work out what you do want. What a lot of women ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 11:54 PM
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If you can't read non verbal ques you're likely to be bad, basically. With all if the best will in the world, you can tell someone what to do, but if they can't get a read, then it's going to suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:30 PM
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This. The vast majority of women I've known in my life don't want to be chased like that. If they're saying no and you keep trying it will come across as either pathetic not threatening. If they want to be chased like that and refuse to be honest about it then you're dodging a bullet by walking away.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 11:48 PM
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Actually, forks would be hilarious. Not tridents, salad forks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:41 PM
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This. It's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:27 PM
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Well, no. Because at that point you're only selecting for fighting to the death rather than anything else and that wouldn't build a stable society. You're also assuming that women would be willing to acquiesce to it, and I doubt that we would because we're not really interested in being told who we have to breed with. All of that being said however, hand to hand or swords?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:14 PM
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The thing is, you don't need to get married to cohabit, commit, and have a good LTR. Women want LTRs, it's just that doesn't automatically mean getting married. I was quite happy to be single and live on my own and not date for years before I met someone who I could have the LTR I want with. I think there is a move away from marriage being the only acceptable LTR commitment. Also weddings are expensive, and honestly it makes more financial sense to buy a house rather than a dress you only wear o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:52 PM
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It's selfies as well. Cameras on phones strip the planes out of your face. The fashion for contouring happened at the same time as selfies because you have to put the highlights and shadows back in. Selfies and literally shaping how we see ourselves and our beauty habits. I think a lot of it is driven by seeing ourselves in pictures in a frozen moment, which frequently isn't anything like now we looking in real life and moving, so we have to warp the beauty standards more to make ourselves look …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:35 PM
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Oh, I get that. I was making the point that the virginity/hymen thing is a construction for male egos and not a physical actuality. Obviously there are enough women who bleed (or in the past managed to make it look like they did) for them to think it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:18 PM
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There is no way of telling if a woman is a virgin or not. Some women don't have hymens. Some don't break, because it's just stretchy frill. Some break from exercise. Just a factual FYI rather than an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:09 PM
2

Honestly, there comes a point when you look at the legal benefits a spouse gets automatically in an emergency and its a whole lot simpler to just go down to the registry office since get the paperwork sorted. If you're doing it for the bit of paper it's not like you need to do anything other than sign some paperwork. (You can get married without the troublesome wedding section.) I was thinking about this a lot last year while I was worrying what would happen if my partner got Covid and was hospi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:07 AM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:13 AM
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They've been sold a dream of the happiest day of their lives and they believe in it. They've been sold it all of their lives with Disney princesses who get married and live happily ever after. Older relatives look at it as a hallmark of adulthood. In religious households it's sold as the only valid relationship. They are sold that they want to get married in the majority of media and they believed it. So, yes they might be mentally ill. But I think it's social programming.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 12:11 AM
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Sometimes, yes, sometimes no. Without the bit of paper I'm not a designated family member. We already did something more significant than getting married, we bought a house. I don't care about dresses, or ceremonies, or a ring. I do care about being called if he's in an accident and in hospital, being allowed in, and being sure someone else isn't on charge of his care. That's pretty much it. I'm English and common law marriage doesn't exist here. On the upside you can register a civil partnershi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:00 PM
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A piece of paper that says if he get sick they have to let me in. Now think about that in the context of the last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 10:53 PM
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Exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 10:05 PM
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They're bigger than me? Tend to be more confident because they're bigger (I think that's a societal thing). Can get things from high shelves. Likely to have issues with their knees. It's one thing in a lot of things. Do they have a handsome face? How are they built? Are they funny? Are then mind numbingly boring? I've found tall guys attractive, but not purely because they're tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:42 PM
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It depends. I dated a guy who was 5'5 and he had kind of a bad case of little man syndrome about it. It might not have been the height, but the attitude problem and the gave the height as the reason. Of course you can only go on what they say, but sometimes the attitude problem is tied into the height.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:29 PM
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I'm 5 feet tall, so it's never made that much difference. Everyone is bigger than me. Being over 6 ft is overrated because it's one a number of factors that makes someone attractive or not attractive. Anyone who can list of something that they do or don't find attractive like that as a deal breaker if you don't have it has a kink. It might be a really common kink, but if it's a deal breaker for them if everything else is perfect...? It's like when guys say they want a perfect 10/10. I'm not sure…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:17 PM
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Because mother's caring for their children and being the primary care giver is assumed. Men doing so is seen as extra. Just look at the people who refer to a father parenting his own children as "babysitting".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 09:45 AM
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You can be sexually into someone for reasons that have nothing to do with physical attraction. I'm not physically into anyone the first time I see them. That's why I don't do casual encounters. I'm demisexual. It's not humiliating. It the way some people's brains are wired. Some people just don't work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:19 PM
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Please entertain the concept that attraction isn't purely limited to physical attraction, you can be attracted to a person because they are smart or funny or charming or kind, and you only find out about that when you've known someone for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 10:57 PM
2

Yeah. And then you have a conversation that goes "But the girls in porn like it..." "They're paid to like it..." Etc It's all kinds of demoralising and this is coming from a country with reasonable sex education (UK). In a country like the USA with limited and poor sex education it's going to be worse. But yeah, that's the reasonable explanation as to why girls might mind their dates watching porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 04:45 PM
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Depends. If they read erotica and they then expect their partner to act out scenes from it? Yes. If they just read erotica? No. I don't care if men watch porn. But I have known men who've pushed it too far, and it's that group that causes the issues. Porn and erotica are idealised. No one actually has sex like that. However there are men (and probably women) who think they do, and because a lot of porn is degrading to women, they degrade their partners, and they try and make like they're in porn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:42 PM
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Actually the reason that women dislike men using porn if it isn't low self esteem based (that is a thing) is because it gives men unrealistic ideas about what sex is and what ones partner might agree to based on becoming acclimated to porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:18 PM
1

I think this is it, really. Once everyone is over 25 or so the age gaps tend to evaporate. They are less important so long as you want to same things. Under 25 and there are older guys who are in the same place as you are because they haven't emotionally developed past it, and they can't get a woman their own age. Predators who want someone they can control and shape. They can't get women their own age either. Older guys who want to relive their glory days. It's not good. While there may be men …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:50 PM
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I think this is it, really. Once everyone is over 25 or so the age gaps tend to evaporate. They are less important so long as you want to same things. Under 25 and there are older guys who are in the same place as you are because they haven't emotionally developed past it, and they can't get a woman their own age. Predators who want someone they can control and shape. They can't get women their own age either. Older guys who want to relive their glory days. It's not good. While there may be men …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:49 PM
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Checks Thermostat Dude. It's just hot out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:48 PM
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