Lancelot20055 Archive

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2	How to stop being feeling defeated after rejection etc? I think it’s important to think about it from the other persons perspective right? Or, like the perspective of someone working on us that we’re not interested in. When a girl chases you (assuming you don’t want her), it’s just that it’s not a good fit for whatever reason. Most women for instance won’t align with my philosophy of freedom over finances, adventure over comfort, and mind over better mentality. That’s cool with me, forcing a square into a round hole is only going to cause me and the …	/r/seduction	24/02/21 08:23 PM
1	Is it ok to not want casual sex as a guy? You wrote a fairly long explanation explaining your point here, so I don’t want to leave you hanging. I’m just not really interested in debates in regards to pickup or “lay counts” or businesses related to pickup.	/r/seduction	23/02/21 06:21 PM
1	Is it ok to not want casual sex as a guy? Isn’t pickup about making your life work for you?	/r/seduction	23/02/21 01:17 AM
0	I am not particularly used to be "tested", is this what is happening? I’m sure on an individual basis this happens. It seems to me a logical jump though. Being extroverted and introverted has more to do with how you “recharge” rather than how much you talk.	/r/seduction	17/02/21 05:42 PM
0	I am not particularly used to be "tested", is this what is happening? Bro, she’s just playing games....girls are not this dumb. She’s having fun with it, probably trying to make you squirm. Looks like she’s doing a good job. Get back into your masculine, don’t change yourself, set up fun dates. If you’re feeling it, then keep going (with caution, as she’s playing games), if you aren’t, then move on to someone who wants to vibe without playing mouse trap.	/r/seduction	17/02/21 05:33 AM
-1	I am not particularly used to be "tested", is this what is happening? Who hurt you?	/r/seduction	17/02/21 05:26 AM
3	I am not particularly used to be "tested", is this what is happening? 3 dates....woah there cowboy!	/r/seduction	17/02/21 05:24 AM
7	So being direct seems to work- some thoughts from my first month on the market Lmao. I use a combination of razor and tweezers. You’ve got a good look! More than most.	/r/seduction	12/02/21 09:03 PM
7	So being direct seems to work- some thoughts from my first month on the market Careful with that unabrow. I’d get that trimmed up. Hair and smile look good, I’d tone down the smile just a bit.	/r/seduction	12/02/21 08:55 PM
5	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. Depends on the woman though right? Let’s say she’s beautiful, interesting etc. would you really be turned off, or is it only somewhat meh attraction level girls where you have this impulse? Let’s say Gisselle was trying to chase after me, I’d find it a huge turn on.	/r/seduction	04/02/21 12:07 AM
2	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. Well, obviously I’ll never meet her. But, I’ve met plenty of shy girls who do this stuff as well. I believe it’s hard wired into the female brain. This is no character default. Would you want any guy just to be able to come up to her and sweep her off her her feet? No, it should be you. If it is you, you will rise to the occasion and to begin to understand female nature and seduce her properly.	/r/seduction	03/02/21 09:45 PM
4	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. Sounds like she’s being a tease if I’m honest. Or testing you. How I feel makes no difference.....I think she’s feeling it, but she’s teasing and testing you. Assume attraction, have fun hookup. Don’t overthink what she says. Women a lot of times will be silly, tease, test etc. they want something interesting, and they want the man to navigate the treacherous waters to their heart (cheesy as it may sound).	/r/seduction	03/02/21 09:36 PM
8	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. If you want my honest opinion. I believe you’re on the fence of being “friend-zoned.” Here’s how I would play it personally my friend. I’d try and stop anymore conversations about who likes who and friends blah blah. As a guy, you’re goal is to have fun, and hookup (doesn’t mean you have to have sex, but some sexual experience,making our etc). By acting boyfriendish, this will turn her off. It’s scientifically proven women are more turned on by men who’s feelings are unclear. So, just take it ea…	/r/seduction	03/02/21 09:24 PM
6	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. She thought you were trying to have sex though. Haha I’d say, this likely means she’s interested. Just not in that specific moment. Maybe not ready, maybe on her period, who knows.... Continue to try the 2 steps forward, 1 step back method. This is how seduction goes right? You want them to crave you, not just concede and give in. Assume that she’s attracted unless you know for sure otherwise. I doubt she would have done all that if she wasn’t turned on or wasn’t interested. Allow her to make a …	/r/seduction	03/02/21 09:09 PM
2	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. Agreed.	/r/seduction	03/02/21 08:46 PM
6	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. I don’t think you’re asking me. But, I’ll give it a shot. The phrase, “going for sex?” With women I’ve never “gone for sex.” I allow it to happen naturally if it gets to that point. Think 2 steps forward, one step back. If you’re in the act of kissing, you can tell by her body language whether sex is a natural part of it. Meaning. The girl will act turned on. If she is, then escalate (slowly, allow her to reject you if it’s not wanted). Once you sleep with a girl, generally, this means you’re in…	/r/seduction	03/02/21 08:45 PM
3	The most surefire way to botch a new relationship is by becoming too overly invested in it prior to the other person matching your investment. I think these ideas were taken from Corey Wayne. His stuff is solid.	/r/seduction	03/02/21 08:38 PM
2	Was on a date, it went very well, lots of typical IOIs etc. During the date she twice made remarks about how she gets interest from guys - what does this mean? Agreed. Corey Wayne is my favorite	/r/seduction	19/01/21 11:26 PM
1	Was on a date, it went very well, lots of typical IOIs etc. During the date she twice made remarks about how she gets interest from guys - what does this mean? Indicator of interest	/r/seduction	19/01/21 11:25 PM
2	Was on a date, it went very well, lots of typical IOIs etc. During the date she twice made remarks about how she gets interest from guys - what does this mean? Brought tears to my eyes....haha you took the words right out of my mouth	/r/seduction	19/01/21 11:24 PM
1	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment Thanks! I don’t typically get much love on Reddit cause I say things I feel are honest but unpopular. All the better when people actually like it :)	/r/seduction	18/01/21 10:42 PM
1	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment I’ve seen this a lot personally. Except in situations where the girl perceived herself as much lower value than me.	/r/seduction	18/01/21 06:45 PM
1	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment Fair enough :)	/r/seduction	18/01/21 05:31 PM
9	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment Most girls will do this almost subconsciously. If they are cute, they are used to men throwing themselves at them. They have to have a way to filter.	/r/seduction	18/01/21 04:13 PM
33	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment It’s where a girl is interested, but she needs to test your masculinity and confidence to ensure she hasn’t been fooled into thinking you’re a strong man.	/r/seduction	18/01/21 05:59 AM
55	Went from a girl telling me I look like her little brother’s friend to hooking up with her in her apartment She was shit testing you and you passed. Guys all to often fall for the shit tests. If they are shit testing you, this already means they are attracted. It just means they want to be sure. If Brad Pitt was gonna hit than prolly nah. But, a fairly average handsome guy is gonna get the shit test.	/r/seduction	18/01/21 04:47 AM
2	Do not underestimate the value of having friends, especially female friends. Expand your social circle and you will thank yourself later. I think so. Society tells us we can only love one person at a time, I think it’s bull shit. True, maybe you should have to decide. Doesn’t mean you don’t actually love both though.	/r/seduction	10/12/20 12:24 AM
2	Do not underestimate the value of having friends, especially female friends. Expand your social circle and you will thank yourself later. Dude, some guys just don’t get it. I agree with you. I tried upvoting all your comments to reverse the silly down votes. Being friend zoned then continuing to be friend with said female is pathetic. Having friends who are girls is really good for game, but they should actually be friends, not a girl who decided random Joe blow is better than you. Hot girls know how to play the game, and pathetic dudes are all too okay with being their gay best friend just to spend time with them.	/r/seduction	09/12/20 04:40 PM
11	Expectations versus Reality If people are missing the hoop everytime, you gotta sit down and ask yourself, or a close friend, what am I missing? For instance, I know my weaknesses, so it’s not surprise to me I don’t excel at certain things. So, I focus on my weaknesses. Everyday is a struggle to deal with those. I’m terms of my strengths, I try and lean in on those. I think a lot of times, people have not done the proper work with introspection. If they have, the weaknesses are made out to be simple answers, or excuses. Tr…	/r/seduction	08/10/20 07:04 PM
1	Cute guy approached me but I got nervous Haha	/r/seduction	22/09/20 10:11 PM
5	5-Phase Basic Structure of an Interaction I’d say this is basically it yes. But, it’s formulaic. The one thing I’d add is to move from one stage to the next stage seamlessly as possible. If you don’t, take a step back. Think 2 steps forward one step back, detached from outcome. Seduction is like a dance, it’s not a math problem. Just knowing the moves is not enough to be a great dancer. For most people, including women....asking questions, smiling and engaging is enough to be like-able. Ask good questions though, open ended. Specific to…	/r/seduction	18/09/20 10:38 PM
3	How do you fix your self esteem? I did this with sailing. Interestingly enough, I never felt like I had a “tribe.” But, the sailing community is really tight that I’m apart of, I message and talk with a lot of people now in the group, and we have shared interests.	/r/seduction	17/09/20 07:49 PM
1	How do you fix your self esteem? You can’t think your way into confidence. This is what most people do. I’d suggest working out, doing sports or outdoor activities, don’t always go for the hottest girls, get some validation from girls that you may not be that interested in. As a return for their effort, help build their confidence.	/r/seduction	17/09/20 07:48 PM
1	I just texted this girl like 10 minutes ago I feel ya man. I showed my girlfriend, she disagreed and said don’t push to soon to meet. About a week.	/r/seduction	16/09/20 11:19 PM
1	I just texted this girl like 10 minutes ago There’s vomit on his sweater already, moms spaghetti	/r/seduction	16/09/20 08:04 PM
2	I just texted this girl like 10 minutes ago Personally, I’d stop with all the “cutsie” texting. More likely to turn women off doing this. Tell her she’s cute, try and set a date. Women don’t need more people messaging them, especially if they are cute. They want guys who will take charge and make plans. By doing this, it will put you in the minority. You “Woah, you’re really cute.” Her: Blah blah blah You: I’ve got to take you out. What does your schedule look like next week? Let’s grab some coffee on Saturday.	/r/seduction	16/09/20 08:02 PM
1	You can't make someone love you. Well of course, I never mentioned you should have bad hygiene....that’s gross. I’m not sure who your circle of friend is, but I don’t know many guys like this from my personal group. Some acquaintances sure... Most of us take our style very personally, that’s not to say, I look like I just walked out of the mall. There is a line between having style and not looking like a gay friend who maxes out their credit card.	/r/seduction	16/09/20 12:27 AM
1	You can't make someone love you. I don’t get it. If I use your method, or if I try hard enough to believe you???? Most of the people who make women go crazy for them aren’t really trying at all.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 09:21 PM
1	Social anxiety and relationships Sooo, I’m in my 30’s now. What you’re saying is true in a sense. One of the differences though you might notice once you get older is girls tend to be much more interested in actual relationships as they get older (the power dynamics in my opinion switch late 20’s, due to biology). Most girls in college feel they have a lot of time to mess around. They are less interested in guys who are still developing. But as they mature, they don’t need necessarily require the 10’s and the family money etc. …	/r/seduction	15/09/20 08:21 PM
2	Social anxiety and relationships I would agree. The body and mind tend to work hand in hand metaphorically and litterally speaking. I use to come home from work every night and watch tv, then on the weekends, I’d do very little that actually made me look and feel better. Mostly watching tv, jerking off and documentaries (only mind exercises, if I may). To break myself from this, I got a job in the evenings that forced me to be active, on weekends I started sailing, swimming, paddle boarding etc and my confidence went through th…	/r/seduction	15/09/20 07:44 PM
1	Social anxiety and relationships I’m glad to hear it bud! Yes, I’d agree confidence and low self esteem is at the core. From my perspective, you can’t think your way into confidence, but you can act your way into confidence. If that makes sense? What is it you don’t like about yourself? What hypothetically would need to happen to change this? May be a painful question, but if you can acknowledge this, you can either work to change it or learn to become okay with it.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 07:21 PM
3	Social anxiety and relationships I bet if I could work with you in person, we could get you laid in 6 months or less. But, I can’t, so here is what I’d suggest. 1st, Breaking social anxiety thing is a must, like the others have talked about. Talk to everyone, gas station attendant, grocery line person etc... 2nd, Get used to just bantering with people. You’ll notice, there is a flow to it. 3rd, dude you’re the man!!! You’re going to be an engineer making some serious money! Get proud, you have a special brain, and the market is…	/r/seduction	15/09/20 06:48 PM
6	Just be a man I think there is a difference in “just be yourself” and being a man. Most guys I know don’t really act like “men.” Playing video games all the time, not taking risks business and personal, they are stagnant. As humans, we have a natural propensity to be lazy or to become obsessed with one thing. Many times, being a man is about mastery of many things imo.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 06:26 PM
11	Kissing advice There is a trick to it my friend. First off, has the date gone well? Eye contact, jokes, some light touching etc? If so, the girl is ready to be kissed. Here’s what you do. Wait until the end of the date, as you are talking about and looking into one another’s eyes, look at her lips then back to her eyes. Do this 2 times in a sexy playful way. Once you notice her start to realize you want to kiss her, move in for the kiss. Now when you do kiss her, a peck is a no go, but making out and tongue is…	/r/seduction	15/09/20 06:12 PM
2	I've spent enough time trying to find women through the internet, Tinder, sliding into DMS, all that virtual bullshit for a life time. It takes basically no real courage, and I feel, for me, it has a low success rate. I know it's COVID era, but I want to know more about meeting women irl these days Get involved in activities that involve men and women and are social in nature. For instance, I do small catamaran sailing. While, most of the sailors are men, they have daughters and friends. This allows you to broaden your social circle with both men and women. This is universally attractive. Some additional ideas are kick boxing classes, rock climbing, kick ball teams etc. Once your social circle is big enough, you no longer need to order online, you have a buffet of cool people right in fron…	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:56 PM
1	Why being yourself and playing a numbers game just makes the most sense if your actually looking for a meaningful relationship The guy asking about BDSM wasn’t looking for a romantic relationship. He was looking for a partner to explore his sexuality with. He was filtering her. She wasn’t interested, both move on. That’s the way to do it imo.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:38 PM
1	You can't make someone love you. That’s a dangerous game to play my friend and extremely pompous at that. “You can make anyone love you....” I think this is the wrong way to think about it. You really can’t make anyone do anything unless you have tyrannical power over them. What you should be doing is setting a stage for love to happen. Just a slight nuance in what you were saying, but I think it’s important.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:34 PM
2	You can't make someone love you. I don’t believe this...	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:30 PM
2	You can't make someone love you. I think you’re misinterpreting what OP is saying. What he is saying is, if they don’t like you, chasing them/trying to impress them isn’t going to work. You can do all the voodoo magic bull shit, but some girls won’t like you. That’s cool, move on to someone who does. I’ve noticed this dynamic in my own dating life and that of my friends over and over again. There is no magic to attraction, sure you should be putting your best foot forward in all facets of your life, but your “super alpha, myste…	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:29 PM
1	You can't make someone love you. I don’t find any of this to be true. I’ve dated a lot of women, and I’ve never heard one mention anything about the current state of “men’s looks.” I’ve actually had many women like the fact I don’t dress “metro” and have my own personal style. I think style is maybe the part that you rant may be missing. Looking like a super dressed up, well groomed pretty boy is not gonna get you that far imo.	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:24 PM
1	You can't make someone love you. This right here my friend is legit!	/r/seduction	15/09/20 05:20 PM