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Divided custody puts distance between parent and child. So half the time we're not in control and that is hard to deal with because our worries amplify. And of the child is a girl the worry is more intense, as we all know what high school and college boys are capable of I was in college in the early 1980s and things happened then, scandalous but almost routine things that led to no charges or complaints but that today would result in arrests and convictions. So, in that sense, there is a greater…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 05:28 AM
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If he's skipping the country, I do t think he'll ever file again
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 01:07 AM
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You need to find out if the US and your country of destination have signed a treaty that treats non payment as an extraditable offense. There will be a record of your exit from the USA. So you should not travel directly to your new home country. If your going tonParaguay for example. I'd fly to Caracas. Take a bus to Belize then fly or boat onto Paraguay. Then the trail would end at Caracas.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 07:52 PM
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You might feel worse making those payments while still talking to her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:55 PM
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No. My Alimony payments can't. It's already tiered. There is a point at which she gets nothing of my marginal income. It's 30% first x dollars. 25% of the amount x to y, 15% of the amount y to z, and nothing above z. I didn't just outright agree to lifetime alimony. It s the law in my state.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:47 PM
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I am not blaming the victim at all here. I am saying he is far more substantial than how you describe in your assessment, which is insulting and demeaning to him personally. That type of victim glorification plays well to the the younger English folk. L
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 06:38 PM
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Slow down a minute. OP wasn't a potted plant in all this. He stated that they were dating he loved her and she assured him the child was his. Which means he knew they were not monogamous at that time, and perhaps the timeline didn't quite add up. If she said she had not slept with anyone else, she lied. But he doesn't say that she said that, only that she assured him the child was his. That was her lie, as she could not give assurances . She might have believed he was the likely father. He chose…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 11:12 AM
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Your youngest. The family it's born into It's one thing to stray, another to conceive. I can imagine your sense of outrage at her choices, regardless of your feelings for thee child. It happens a lot and in some areas of England, nearly 10% of children are fathered by someone other than the husband.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 03:14 AM
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That would give you custody I should think.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 12:43 AM
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She had the child and has been the mother. That she lied to you isn't going to prejudice her maternal standing in the eyes of the court. But there's another way to view this. You love your kid. It's your child now that she bore. An odd way to get a great gift.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 10:53 PM
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She has treated you with utter disregard, completely self focused. Now, after publicly defaming you, running around, indulging in her early mid life crisis and half abandoning the family, she wants back in. But what remains of your marriage that she did not scorch and how can you heal and grow? You gave her two weeks to decide what she wants to do. But you have every right to decide what you want to do. Her act is done and now the stage belongs to you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 10:19 PM
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Well, it ceases if she remarries or cohabitates, but that ain't gonna happen. In a few years I can ask the court to take a second look and request the terms of alimony be revised in my favor, but I'm making more money now than when I divorced so I am not optimistic. I was married 22 years and earned 95% of the family income, she was a stay at home mom. She has little earnings capacity, so in these circumstances, it's either support or living on $25,000 a year. From a public policy viewpoint, sup…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 02:01 PM
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Mine walked off with 550k plus lifetime alimony. I kept my business assets in exchange for agreeing to cover the kids college expenses (which I would have done anyway) But I would have kept them anyway because I needed them to earn.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 04:18 AM
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You need to divorce and get custody of your daughter. I'm not sure how your wife manages to do nothing everyday AND presents a potential formidable divorce foe. In her condition, I can't imagine a judge entrusting her with a special needs child. I don't know. You should find a good divorce attorney, preferably a female attorney, and discuss what the likely scenarios are.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 11:18 PM
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When did you open this account? If it predates the marriage, it's yours 100%
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 02:22 AM
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Leverage isn't the right word. What you have is standing as a dependent spouse and full time stay at home parent.. You are not unemployed, you are the children's caretaker. The retirement funds will be split 50/50 and she will have to pay alimony and child support. You will remain domcilied in your house and may be awarded it. You are in a pretty well established position.Get a lawyer now
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 08:12 AM
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Separation Agreement gets executed typically on the day it goes before the judge, who can accept it and grant dissolution or send it back to the parties for revision.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 09:12 AM
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50/50 imposes the least disruption in the lives of the children. They keep close to both parents who still share an active parenting partnership (assuming they don't go to war) and thier sense of family can remain intact.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 09:14 PM
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Don't fight over the domicile now. Sleep in separate bedrooms. There's going to be two homes between you two as you'll probably split custody. But for now, you're separate under one roof. Hire a very good lawyer and seek to dissolve as fairly and amicably as possible, if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 04:20 AM
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It will be seen as a transparent attempt to lower your income and be ignored or worse, a judge will distrust you. Your income should be assessed as the average of the last few years.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 08:45 PM
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Get a lawyer to advise you as you negotiate the mediation. The state has well established formulas for ss and cs given your respective incomes and the length of the marriage. You MUST have a legal advisor in this process.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 02:22 AM
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In my state of divorce cohabitation will disqualify my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 04:38 AM
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When people emerge from a divorce and start dating. They often deliberately avoid anyone like their prior spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 04:22 AM
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You didn't post cause it's weird. it is uncommon but your weirded out by the idea your ex is with someone you don't identify with at all.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 03:12 AM
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Service of papers is a simple but necessary formality. Anyone who would claim advance knowledge of it is spouting an absurdity : 1) Unless your wife is blowing the court file clerk, she won't know. 2: You want her to get the papers.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 03:53 PM
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She's delusional. If she didn't have any specific substantive threats but just apocalyptic threats she is completely full of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/22 12:35 AM
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I think you guys are giving him questionable advicce. I don't think CPS would find the marital status of a vistor to the house to be material and would regard the claim as frivolous and label him a crank. Then, in the future he really needs to call CPS, they might be slow to act. How does dating a married man in and of itself render the mother unfit and be good cause to challenge custody arrangements?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 04:59 PM
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My ex caused so much stress and anger in me, I fully understood why some men and women murder their spouses. I was mulling over getting a handgun for the house and I raised the subject with her. She told me not to get it because I would end up shooting her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 02:57 AM
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That's why they call it a splitting headache
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 11:24 PM
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Judge doesn't have to accept the valuation made by your best friend and uncle. It might piss him off.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 11:36 AM
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You better get advice from your attorney. Your role here may be custodial You might have the obligation to safekeep them (and bill her for expenses) or her failure to collect them constitutes abandonment and you can do what you want. If you toss them as a custodian, she'll take you to court with grossly inflated losses and the judge won't look kindly upon you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 11:22 AM
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Get rid of her. She has been completely useless to you. She did nothing to address or help heal, or change these personality traits of yours you have described. This is a boon for you. You can take time to work on yourself and in a better time find a better partners. You are self aware and highly articulate. You have to maintain a keen self awareness to identify the maladaptive behaviors taught to you as a child. This your journey now without a woman who blames you. She says you didn't connect t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 04:49 AM
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Alimony is gender blind. Don't give up a shitload of money because you won't recognize that fact. And don't listen to the shamers. They don't know anything about you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 12:59 PM
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You can't get laid and no one want a to marry you. Of course, thats reason enough to impose a theocratic regime on 330 million people. Government is secular. It neither opposes nor endorses religion. Your problems belong to you, not to us.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 08:26 AM
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No but a judge can see that she is not working, that she is simply pursuing a hobby, and order her to either enter the job market or he will refashion the terms of the separation agreement
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 05:07 AM
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The longer you wait, the larger the alimony payment will be. And the duration will be longer. Because dormancy will progressively diminish her earnings capacity. and be able to earn a decent living.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 05:00 AM
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This is domestic violence and you should memorialize every instance, record it, and call the police. Most certainly you should consult an attorney
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 04:54 AM
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But the converse is rarely true.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 12:04 PM
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Yes, a happy life long marriage is possible is possible if you marry at age 30. And die at age 29
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 08:19 AM
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She has to present a statement to the court to back up her financial distress claim. If you find some solid evidence,,Let her deceive the court and then attack her mendacious claim, which will piss the judge off big time. That house might be in someone else's name, a sibling, mom or dad?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 09:33 AM
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Iiits impossible to see it coming because abandonment trauma informs every response when we're thinking about actual abandonment, we scratch our heads and wonder why is she upset our daughter wants to eat at her friends house instead of home, or why she would never accept my anger at my mother. In her mind, the daughter is rejecting her. And if I could keep my mother away, then I might do it to her. . I use to tell her "you are always against me". And she would deny it. It wasn't until she came …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 12:38 AM
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I think most states have codified much of what you said but its up to the courts to deal with the details. For example, there's a 50/50 split for assets, but the parties may not agree on what assets are in or outside the marital estate. The judge will then decide. Alimony is designed to give a spouse economic independence and the amount I think has a statutory ceiling in terms of % of the payor's income. In my state that is 30%. But the length is not determined by just the length of the marriage…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 04:11 AM
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What's the sense in having liability for a note against a home in which you have no equity?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 01:41 PM
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The only real way to be sure - or pretty sure - that you are marrying the right one is to get to know your prospective partner as well as possible. And that takes at least 6-7 years and more likely 10. Couples divorce over many reasons but a common lament is he or she changed and he or she was like a different person. Everyone changes over time but it isn't so much change as it is little known and not understood aspects of one's partner that are revealed prior to or during a general breakdown of…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 12:56 PM
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Very different backgrounds, failure to develop co interests and activities. Communication failures. Due to past trauma, she gauged every action on what effect it would have on her or what she imagined it would, even when it had nothing to do with her. THe result was she could not appreciate others perspectives. sex life dwindled and by the end , there was practically no touching whatsoever. I was impatient and disappointed and could have been a far more nurturing partner to her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 09:02 AM
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You don't have to continue to deposit your earnings into the joint account. You can put them into an individual account in your name. But you will have to give her a reasonable allowance. If you peremptorily downsize her lifestyle with no change otherwise in your financial condition or your lifestyle, and you two file for divorce, the judge will take a very dismal view of you that will redound negatively through your divorce. The idea of a drawing up a memorandum of understanding is good, but yo…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 08:36 AM
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6 year marriage is relatively short. Your attorney will tell you about how your state handles alimony, if such is necessary, but she will get 50% of the wealth that was accumulated during the marriage. Anything you brought into the marriage remains outside the marital estate, unless it was commingled. IF you had a savings account 300,000 before getting married and it remained in your name its all yours. If you moved into a joint account, its commingled and 50/50. I divorced amicably after 22 yea…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 07:33 AM
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