LatePhoenix323 Archive

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4	Why divorce grief messes with your mind I remember feeling like I'd never feel okay again, like the grief had no end. In searching online and in books for advice for coping I ran across a perspective that really helped me. The pain of grief in divorce is what it feels like to get emotionally healthy again, like debriding a necrotic and infected wound. There will be an end when the emotional wound is healed. So all the time spent feeling the pain of grief is worthwhile work you are doing to get better. That paradigm change helped me ac…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/11/22 06:39 PM
3	I gotta ask, does it ever get better? The hate for your ex wife? I started thinking of the pain and grief I was feeling as being what it feels like when your infected unhealthy emotional scars heal. Like it was work I had to do, knowing that when I was done life would be good. That gave me a very zen like approach to the pain. I found it helpful to journal everyday. Little by little, day by day I felt less pain and grief. One day I would notice I had 5 minutes where I forgot about the pain. Then an hour, and so on until one day I didn't feel any. It's funny, …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/22 12:21 AM