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Treating me in a subhuman way and trying to remove any sense of agency I have over myself. Insisting that I look more like their fantasy, act more like their fantasy, or feed into their fantasy in a way that I'm uncomfortable with. The biggest indicator is when they want me to change how I dress, and act, or ask me to treat them in a way that conforms to a stereotype. Or try to neg me into changing by trying to make me feel bad for not being leaning into stereotypes. Someone with a preference wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:23 PM
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Fuck no. Any time I get the impression that someone is solely interested in my race, I'm out. It's dehumanizing as fuck, I have no interest in being someone's fantasy in that way. You can prefer or like certain characteristics like dark skin, deep voice, the hair etc but there's a broad line between admiration and dehumanizion and it's not that hard to stay on the former side of it but people still choose to cross it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:15 AM
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Man, you really need to take a break from the internet, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:21 AM
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When I say signs, I dont mean passive aggressive codewords. I mean the girlfriend/wife complains about the same thing over and over again, she gets ignored, and then the guy panicks when she has enough and decides to find a better guy that listens I'm going to say this again, it's entirely up to the person in the relationship to tell the partner what's important to them. My ex used to constantly complain to me that I was always showed up to her place without letting her know beforehand. Thing he…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 11:33 AM
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Complained about being lonely while he was away for months on a trip. Girlfriend says "I'm not going to visit you if busy with other stuff". His response? "Fair enough". This sounds like a pretty standard conversation with a minor complaint. This is the context I had. If my partner said this to me once, I wouldn't think twice about it. If she said it to me multiple times, I would wonder if she feels strongly about it and ask her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:22 PM
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I dont know why you guys keep assuming women dont attempt to communicate when we do. All I had was the context you gave me. You shouldn't glean a relationship-ending issue from every single minor complaint that your partner tells you about. Some things truly don't matter that much, it's up to the people in the relationship to be clear about what is important and what isn't. From the context you gave in the post, it didn't sound that important. With your additional context, it does. I don't under…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:05 PM
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She has said this before. He promised to do better and didnt. This obviously changes it. If this is the case than she had every right to leave if she felt like her feelings were being ignored. Homeboy probably didn't give a fuck. Not everyone cares and you can't convince someone to care about you. Because its mainly men claiming ‘they didnt see the signs’ and the replies to my OP proves that alot of guys are fine ignoring their relationship problems until there is no relationship. Women aren't g…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:50 PM
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I only don't understand why this is gendered. I've met and seen plenty of women who completely ignore their partner's signs that they're in trouble. This is more of an unbalanced relationship issue where one partner gives, the other takes and never looks back. I agree that breakups usually don't just come out of "nowhere" but I don't think this is nearly as gendered of an issue. This is just poor communication skills on the end of the displeased partner or general apathy from the pleased partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:36 PM
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Tbh all I see are bluepillers grouping anyone claiming to be "baby trapped" as deadbeats, including rape victims. No one said men can't be deadbeats nor does anyone believe every single sob story a deadbeat father's tells. But it doesn't deny the existence of actual victims. I've had a woman attempt to "babytrap" me in the past after coercing me into sex with a threat of blackmail. I only got ahead of her allegation because I had text message and audio recording proof of her threatening me. I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:28 PM
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This is easily the most brain dead take I've ever seen on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 09:10 PM
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So, you're arguing that RPs and conservatives have a gender bias the same way "blue-haired feminists" do. Yes, different groups of people with shared views and experiences have similar biases. Who is going to disagree? This feels more like a rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 12:00 PM
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Gotta be a troll account
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:56 PM
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Women can and always have expressed their desires and men haven’t batted an eye lid. 6 figures, 6 feet, 6 pack etc. have always been women’s mantra. There's an army of content creators, podcasts, and influencers with entire careers built on demonizing women's standards. Women are allowed to express their desires among other women. Men are allowed to express their desires among other men. But crossing those two will inevitably piss someone off. Feeling excluded or judged from people's standards i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:30 PM
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Life is not Skyrim where you can talk to random strange while a bar is improving your skills until you get more hability. It kind of is. It's not linear but that's what practice is. You'll never get better at talking to people until you actually do it. I have never met somebody who was confident despite the fact nobody loved 'em. They are confident BECAUSE people love 'em! This is a great point ngl but, unfortunately, no one is coming to save you. Especially if you're a man. You need to find tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:20 AM
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Yeah, there's a lot of symmetry in how men/women struggle with their self worth and identity. Thank you for not taking my comment as suggesting that only men struggle in that way. I feel like half of the gendered posts here apply broadly even if it doesn't exist in the exact same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 07:25 PM
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I just don't recall any time in my life when I thought about boys or men in such a reductive way. I'm not going to toe for these dudes but a lot of men were socialized this way. I was told constantly growing up that if you aren't tall, rich, and attractive, you don't get girls and you don't deserve love. Men are raised and taught that their value is in what they can offer, not in who they are. It's a big reason that stuff like Redpill and Manosphere stuff work on young and impressionable men. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:44 PM
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NGL this is a garbage take. Wife-beaters were still slick and manipulative enough at one point to get married. The mask slipped when they started beating their partner. Incels outwardly proclaim their hatred and angst for women. They straight-up blame women for not dating them. A physically abusive man isn't complaining on the internet about women won't choose him, he's getting women instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:33 PM
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I've received this response more than once. I'm not particularly attractive, I'm average at best. Yeah, I'm charismatic but charisma isn't innate. It took time to grow that charm. But, maybe you guys have a point. This is all words through the internet and we don't know what we look like so maybe dudes here have it much harder than I realize. Some dudes here talk about their 90,000 tinder matches so I didn't think I was punching down with this post sorry if it came off that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:05 PM
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I guess but why does the rejections matter? You can't be everyone's taste. Even if you are, not everyone is looking for a taste. I get that rejection doesn't feel great but I don't understand being demoralized by it. If I get rejected, that's their loss, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:10 PM
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I'm not a Jehovah's Witness but I used to do door-to-door sales for renewable energy firm in college. A completely shit job with shit hourly pay but one of the greatest lessons I've ever learned is that if you're kind enough, witty enough, and ask enough people, you'd be surprised how many people will say yes. At some point, you start tuning out the rejections because getting that one sale could net you a commission of up to several thousand dollars. If I pay my rent from getting that one yes, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 09:58 PM
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Posts like this are exactly why I refuse to date preppy people from private schools ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 06:11 PM
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Damn, I guess I'll read the room then. I get why people kinda jump to the conclusion of dudes doing everything and anything sex so quickly here if that's the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:00 PM
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I was in college so there was a youth factor at play there but I get what you mean. Idk I think I'm average looking at best but im not posting my face here so we're just going off of written words. I say dozens because I don't do this that often. I'm way more focused on my career and education so I haven't spent nearly as much time dating and mingling as it seems like others do. Relative to the amount of times I've tried, my "catch" rate probably isn't that high. Id like an example of how women …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:32 PM
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Maybe i wasn't clear enough. I'm not talking about pick up artistry, the goal here isn't just sex. If it is then, no, you shouldn't be cold approaching anyone. You're probably going to come on too strong and come off as a creep. This has nothing to do with validation, it's just another avenue of meeting people that isn't through a web browser.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:44 PM
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Fr I don't think they thought that through lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:08 PM
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Honestly it's just personal experience. It's worked for me. I've seen it work for plenty of men and women in my life. I can't be an objective reality if I did it last week and got a date out of it. Even if it doesn't materialize into something romantic, you still greatly improve your social skills through trial, error, and practice. You might even make a friend, have an enjoyable conversation, or even just a brief flirtatious encounter. Imo, there's only net positives to cold approaching if your…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:19 PM
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That's fair my first response was pretty bad. I'm not really defending cold approaching as an effective way to meet people. It's effectiveness is dubious and based entirely on chance and factors well out of your control. It can go poorly every single time you try it even if you're doing everything right. I was wrong to suggest that if its going wrong, you're just doing it wrong. I'm defending it from the growing sentiment that it's that it's completely ineffective or even morally wrong to do. Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:42 PM
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A woman that I'm not entirely attracted to could talk me into a date. It's happened before. And I've done vise versa too. At least, she claimed it did. I don't buy it tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:38 PM
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Women don't want male strangers to approach them, full stop. You gotta get off the internet sometimes bro. This just isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:30 PM
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Where are you from? If you don't mind me asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:27 PM
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That's why you don't go straight in asking for a date. You just talk to them and feel it out first. If you're not feeling a vibe or feeling any reciprocal interest, keep it friendly or just disengage. I've only ever came in flirting straight away if they were already giving me very clear signs that they're into me. Otherwise, that kind of shit is creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:27 PM
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If you're nervous to chat with women, it might be useful to practice it in platonic ways imo. Like at work or in places like parks, the grocery store, or just walking around town. Try to practice small talk even if it's just a few sentences. That first interaction is the most important part of every interaction. If you want, you can go to places like bars and clubs but don't try to pick up girls. Just use it as an opportunity to meet people. Bring a wingman/woman if you can who can help you ease…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:16 AM
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I'm confused. You rarely get rejected but you have such a bleak attitude towards attraction. You're attractive so I don't understand the pessimism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:05 AM
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what is a person supposed to say to someone they don;t know Use your environment. Your situation. Make a comment on something they're doing or interacting with. Tell a light hearted joke about the weather or the price of something. How they respond can tell you a lot about them and you can build it up from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:00 AM
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Bro, there are 8 billion people out there. If you're average-looking and genuinely don't believe you can be attractive to someone then you never tried. You're just afraid of rejection at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:23 AM
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This is a fair criticism ngl. I do belive those who are introverted should practice social skills and talking to women, but would ultimately fare better warm approaching or just straight up meeting someone online. Tbh, I agree. I think some introverted dudes function better using OLD since it gives a solid buffer and doesn't demand you engage fully in a conversation with someone until you're ready to do it. I'm a bit introverted too so I do rely on OLD sometimes when I'm not feeling as social as…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:14 AM
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The dude in your first pic isn't even ugly. He just looks like he puts zero effort into his looks. (wild-ass example to use btw) 2nd guy is average but he clearly puts effort into his looks (also a wild-ass example to use). Both dudes can come off as creeps if they approach wrong. Granted, the first dude might not have as much success as the 2nd dude. But, he has (had) every opportunity to look more like the 2nd dude. I'm convinced that the population of truly "ugly" people is super low and ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:03 AM
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Physical attraction is obviously part of it but the vast majority of people are average-looking at worst. Its attraction, the women will tell you when its the wrong place wrong time but in actuality its usually more so wrong face, then it's a crime. No. There are wrong places and wrong times to approach someone. How and when you approach someone can greatly impact their perception of you and ruin your chances. And, attraction isn't that definitive. If you're putting effort into your looks, SOMEO…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:54 AM
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Don't you find this position to be extremely bad faith since you can dismiss any contrary preposition as "it was not done correctly?" I'm speaking broadly. We're not evaluating anyone's specific experience approaching a specific person. Also, Like I said, if it doesn't work out for you, it's probably not meant for you. I wouldn't dismiss anyone's experience if it didn't work for them. "I don't see why you would have any significant trouble with cold approaching" very telling. I would judge your …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:49 AM
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Yes but even when you get those signs, you still need to act on them. Not to mention that you only get signs from women willing to give them to you. There are plenty of women that won't give you those signs even if they're attracted to you. Being attractive is an advantage but you still need to do some legwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:19 AM
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This is what I meant by "good sport." I've made some pretty good friends by cold approaching a woman I was attracted to. Even if it didn't materialize into something romantic, I still made a dope friend or had a very engaging conversation with someone even if I never saw them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:10 AM
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Attractiveness isn't absolute so I don't understand how this applies. As long as you put a modicum of effort into your looks and hygiene, you're probably attractive to someone. They really mean “Where can I meet women attracted to me??” You'll never know until you try. That's the whole point of a cold approach, you're shooting your shot. Just being attractive, at least as a man, doesn't do much other than get you some glances and the seldom approach from a woman. Otherwise, you're better off tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:06 AM
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If you're approaching someone in a non-social setting like a grocery store, there's a bit of skill involved if you're not a social savant. Otherwise, I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:55 PM
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Because it's true. I'm not exactly bi but I've had some bi-curious feelings/experiences in my life. Not enough to claim to be bisexual though. But I'm pretty open about my experiences and I'm not ashamed of it or anything. I've had women outright tell me that they wouldn't be with me if I was bisexual and that they would never date a bisexual man. Hell, I've had bisexual women tell me they'll never date bisexual man. It's not a narrative, it's 100% true. It might not be homophobia but it's defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:46 PM
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I was with you until you started to suggest that bullies and dark triads are the ones getting the sex but nice dudes aren't. You can be a kind and functional person and still have an avoidant attachment style. OLD and casual dating/sex is basically a playground for avoidants. A bunch of options with no need to commit since they can ride the "i don't owe anyone anything" train and weave in and out of relationships at will. IMO your first point still stands but individualism definitely plays a big…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:12 PM
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Damn this is basically a necro. That 12 hour shift is how he pays child support and his own obligations. It's not necessarily about the work being more important but the overall imperative. There's no choosing one over the other, he needs to work AND find his kid. He's not choosing his job over his kid and it's a bit ridiculous to suggest that. I understand that men can effectively "choose" when to be a parent. I know there's plenty of deadbeat dads, I don't disagree with you there. But, I'm jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 12:52 PM
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Bro your scenario makes zero sense. If a woman divorces her husband just because he's no longer making money, she was there for the money and it should have been very obvious. A more common and realistic scenario would be that the husband loses his job and spirals into depression, self-destructive behavior, and refuses to get better. If the husband is the breadwinner and they relied on his income, why would the woman stay while the husband lets their lives implode? ESPECIALLY if there's no kids …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 01:38 PM
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I never said that the kissless virgin should just be happy. Ultimately people don't live to work, and the happiness people feel mostly comes from connections, love, and family which is something this lonely genius doesn't have. My point behind that example is that there are other avenues of life where success and self-actualization can be had aside from any romantic or sexual pursuits. Evaluating your self worth based on how many women want to sleep with you is a horrible existence. You can't li…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:10 PM
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But that's what a goal is. Your goal is to get promoted. You put in the work for a promotion and you feel entitled to one because of your efforts. You insist to your firm that you deserve a promotion because you put in the work for it. You're right to feel entitled to something you worked hard for. You have no right to feel entitled to someone else's romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:02 PM
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It can be aspiration, it's just an awful one. You can want to be with a woman, I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't want a relationship. But, feeling entitled to a relationship because you did something with yourself isn't right and will lead you down a path of destruction. There's a stark difference between "I want to be successful so that I can find a decent partner" and "I want to be successful and I also want a partner once I'm comfortable in my life." Two completely different aspirations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:12 PM
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Yeah because they don't want to be shamed for sleeping with someone just because they felt like it. They'll frame their sexuality as transactional because women aren't allowed to just say "I wanted to fuck this dude just because" without getting labeled as easy or fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:27 PM
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Women CELEBRATE amazing people and the connections they have with them through sex. That's what sex is for women, largely speaking. It's a vehicle of nurturing and celebrating good things. There's a lot to unpack about this part of your rant and honestly how you see women to begin with through this post. The crux of this issue is the objectification of women. Women aren't goals in life, they aren't prizes that men earn for doing well in life, taking care of themselves, and treating others with r…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:42 PM
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Telling any internet stranger to "take accountability" for the actions of other people is a braindead take no matter who's using it or how it's being used. However, sometimes people will come to the internet to defend their own toxicity and refuse to take accountability for the harm their inflicting upon others or refuse to condemn harmful behavior from other people within a group that they belong to. What I haven’t seen is anyone who says this explaining what, exactly, they mean. What they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:31 PM
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My point was that if I was younger and incapable of just going to see my father myself, I would have never seen him. My mother used me as a bargaining tool against him and actively lied to me about his motivations to keep me from him. My father wanted to see me. My mother did everything she could to stop that from happening. Could my father have done more? Maybe. But he had my mother actively working against him. Any effort he put in was squandered until he contacted me directly, which he very o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:16 AM
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That AI overview isn't evidence. I'm confused how the AI overview supports anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:47 AM
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Bro are you actually citing the AI overview.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:26 AM
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I'm not telling you my local area lmao. But, he didn't need to because I was old enough to just go see him myself. In your example, shouldn't we be shaming both parents then? I'm on board for shaming shit absentee parents. I'm just arguing that absenteeism usually has some sort of nuance involved with it. I've met plenty of people who's mothers literally hid them from their fathers. Even through lengthy court battles which men often lose. One of my coworkers BM literally moved across the country…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:25 AM
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Where is this statistic coming from? I can't kind any evidence to support it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:13 AM
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You greatly underestimate how spiteful and toxic these situations are. I've met lots of people whose mothers actively shelter and ward their fathers away from their children. Hell, my mother did it to me and kept my father from me, and they divorced when I was like 16. These situations aren't always so Black and White, often both parties share a pretty even amount of fault. Serial impregnators that go around having children and leaving to buy milk are not nearly as common as people like to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:25 PM
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Fair enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:47 PM
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Woah did you misread this post? Why the fuck do you think “men will fuck anyone” is a positive thing? Because that’s what you’re saying. No, I'm not. I'm insisting that women have access to an army of desperate dudes that will bang anyone. I'm saying this as if it's a good thing. TBH I don't understand why anyone would sleep with some of the men that I'm referring to but it doesn't change the fact that women still have unbridled access to male sexual interest. Some men struggle to find ANY sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:57 PM
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My argumentative stance is that I don't think it's worth arguing about since it can't be done from a place of good faith. If you're arguing that women have it easier than men on this one particular situation, you're completely undermining the broad disadvantages that women face in our society. My question should have been, "can you make this argument in good faith?" I don't think it can be made in good faith. A few people here have already offered me some perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:31 PM
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IMO, women have access to desperate men. Not necessarily easy access sex broadly, but specifically touch-starved men that will do anything for a touch. Maybe "access to sex" was the wrong way of phrasing it since it insinuates that they have access to sex with whom they want to which isn't always true.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:28 PM
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Women in the modern age have statistically more education and better job opportunities than the majority of men Women in western countries and this is only partially true. Younger women are becoming more educated than their male counterparts but women they're still paid less than their male counterparts. patriarchy being the top 1% being mostly men This is not how patriarchy works. I'm not just talking about third world countries, women still struggle getting access to equal opportunities in wes…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 08:09 PM
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Fair point, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:58 PM
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Some people here disagree with me lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:57 PM
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Do you think that women would practice more sexual agency in a safer non-patriarchal society?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:43 PM
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Certain societies are much closer to gender equality than others. But, the world largely remains in favor of men in terms of access to rights and opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:29 PM
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Are you insinuating that women just don't sexual urges? I thought sex was a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:25 PM
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I don't think there is, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:23 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:52 PM
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Well this is fair. What kind of pushback do you get for this point?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:48 PM
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I guess debating that there is a point in arguing about it, and something to be gained from the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:46 PM
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So, my question for people that defend this assertion and die on this hill; what's the point? I would have made this a discussion, but you can't include any argumentative language on the body of the text, nor can you argue with the participants. People make this point and die on this hill very often in this sub and on reddit at large. I thought someone would tell me why it's worth having this discussion in the first place. But I can't express why I think it's pointless so I made it a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:30 PM
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I delineated the difference between accessing sex and dating it pretty well throughout my post. Women have lots of access to sex but not so much access to meaningful connections. Finding meaningful connections is hard for everyone. It's not much easier for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:26 PM
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Dudes will complain that women are shallow and only attracted to the hottest possible men, but feel so disgusted by women they aren't attracted to that they hardly even qualify them as women. Not to mention that "fat" to most dudes is literally just a muffin top.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:30 AM
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This question is impossible to answer because we all interact with the internet differently and are fed different types of content. I get non-stop hateful anti-male content pushed to me daily. But some of women in this thread are already mentioning that they get IG posts with literal rape jokes. I've NEVER received such content but I don't doubt it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:19 AM
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This is true. I was definitely one of those avoidant men OLD and fumbled a few really good women doing that so you got me there lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:28 AM
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I get that but the manosphere is full of chronically online idiots that might mimick the grievances of most men but take a much more extreme approach to those issues. They're hardly representative of the average dude you'd meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:02 PM
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I only disagree that women are more attractive bit. Women aren't more attractive, men just have far fewer standards for sleeping with someone. It doesn't necessarily make women more attractive as a whole. Aside from that, I'm on your boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:15 PM
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They do, maybe you shall debate this topic once you know these things Even if someone frames their low libido as "changing their minds" it's rarely ever the case. All of those stories about someone's marriage suddenly going up in flames are rarely ever sudden. There are always signs of someone's waning interest even if the person telling the story didn't notice. It's no one's duty to remain faithful as well then. Bro that's what a commitment is. Sex is the result of a functional relationship, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:13 AM
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OLD is a sausage fest. Of course you think it isn't that bad. Lots of very functional men use OLD and women probably have decent choices even among the sea of gooners. Even as a man who hasn't struggled with OLD, or dating in general, the woman you meet online are rarely worth the effort ngl. Odds are that any woman you meet online is outrageously dysfunctional, extremely manipulative, married, or poly. Pick your poison. Any functional woman who can get dates IRL doesn't even bother using OLD or…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:55 AM
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You're looking at sex as if it's the same as eating or breathing. Sex is important but it's a two-way street, bedrooms never die because someone just changed their mind. There's always some underlying issue that's causing it that needs to be addressed. Couples (should) learn if they're sexually compatible well before marriage. But life happens and people change. It's no one's "duty" to sexually satisfy their partner especially they're going through shit in their lives. If you can't handle lackin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:46 AM
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Maybe? Idk, I'm Black and with almost an Idris Elba complexion. My White friends get more matches but mostly from White women so I'm not really missing out there lmao. Not certain if I appear high-status, most of my pictures are me in very casual wear like sweatpants lmao. I do have pictures of me in different countries, at work events, and such so it probably helps. I try my best not to appear rich but it might be fucking it up for all I know. I have one pic from my college graduation with me i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:17 PM
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I do but I don't put my job on my dating profile lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:01 PM
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I honestly don't believe dudes when they say they only get 0-2 matches a month. You just aren't using the app correctly at that point. I'm decent-looking but not amazing and I was getting 20-30 matches per month. Eventually, it slows down as everyone sees your profile for the first time but I got almost 300 matches the first month I made my dating profile. Most of my average ass friends were getting just as many matches. But, we were using the app correctly and we were all near NYC which might h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:59 PM
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is due to something like confidence or excitement, which obviously are traits that you don’t have to be a piece of shit to have lol. An insecure asshole is more likely to mimic confident behavior than a shy insecure dude. If it comes down to two different insecure dudes, the insecure asshole is still going to get more attention because he's still mimicking hypermasculine behavior whereas the shy dude isn't. Not to mention that the insecure asshole is way more likely to approach a woman than the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:28 PM
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I think my opinions are a mix of radical and Marxist. Most Contentious Take: All men benefit from and uphold patriarchy, even unconsciously. Most Contentious Take: True gender equality is impossible under capitalism. I wholeheartedly agree with both of these points. If anything, it really pisses me off when people try to fence-sit feminism by arguing that only wealthy and powerful men benefit from patriarchy. No, women and girls are taught to be submissive to men from the minute they're fucking …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:19 PM
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It's goofy as in childish and immature. It sounds like how a grade-school-age kid would interact with their crush and not a grown-ass man. Goofy doesn't necessarily mean bad but it definitely isn't a turn-on for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:59 PM
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I'll shoot. Smirking and nodding enthusiastically at a woman you don’t know and making strong eye contact while doing it Man what the fuck is this. Trying to interact or high five a woman every single time she passes by you and being unable to ignore her when she’s walking by no matter what you’re doing This isn't weird but its goofy as hell. Excitedly asking to add a woman as a friend on Pokémon go that you’ve never talked to before because you “heard” from someone else she plays it and you wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:55 PM
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I misread your comment. Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:01 PM
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She downvoted me for this too now I gotta go through her post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:53 PM
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This is honestly one of your most unhinged posts ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:28 PM
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My assumption is the guy needs to have confidence in his appearance and ability to pull "hotter girls" before he feels comfortable publicly dating and loving a fat woman. Wild because this actually might be true. I've always been into bigger girls but, sorry for being vain, I've always been pretty damn hot. So, I always got attention from the "hot" popular women. I was never insecure about my ability to pull "hot" women so I never had any issue openly dating and loving a larger woman. However, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:56 PM
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OP can't fathom the thought of a fit man being attracted to a fat woman lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:39 PM
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I fall into this bucket tbh. I don't have a fetish but I'm open to dating larger women. A chubby woman with a cute face is my kryptonite ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:37 PM
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Big women still get rejected a lot. If anyone is unlikely to approach, it's a big woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:35 PM
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I'm a younger millennial. I'm 27. I get what you're saying but the vast majority of grass touching people my age and younger still fall well within pretty normative social groups and are ok accepting such labels. On social media, younger people follow that performative trend by pretending that the world would be a better place if we all lived in the sex positive gender agnostic utopia but they actively participate in and uphold those same gender norms the moment they start touching grass. It's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:49 PM
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These are the people who want transactional relationships. Mind if I ask who's "they?" Are you referring to Red Pillers?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:33 AM
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Fr it's the most frustrating thing about this sub. "I don't do it so no one does." I approach pretty often, it never goes sideways for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:38 PM
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We all have some irrational social behaviors. I'm not going to be moralistic and tell anyone how they ought to be. If someone is willing to write off everyone from one person's actions, what could I say to stop them? They're already gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:07 PM
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When I said "you need to practice" I wasn't being paternalistic. You don't have to be friends with anyone. My argument was more focused on people who struggle to get along with certain groups of people that they want to be surrounded by. For example, men who want the company of women. If you can't muster being friends with a woman, you're odds of dating are reduced by the amount of women you can hardly hold a conversation with. IMO, it's strange to want to date a certain group of people that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:59 PM
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I'm glad that you find it easy but lots of people struggle with this. Regardless none of this will help you in romantically attracting a woman, unless you're in high school or early in college. It would help someone who couldn't even be friends with someone they're attracted to if they tried. If you can treat someone you're attracted to like a human being, it greatly increases the odds of you being able to get along with them on a basic level. If you can't do that, your chances are miserable at …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:55 PM
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I didn't mention anything in this post about being able to have friends translating to being dateable. You can have friends and still be undatable, that's an entirely separate point. You're projecting a bit with this reply ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:50 PM
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Yes. Women can be just as awful to be around just in slightly different ways. Hell, sometimes they're awful in the same way. I see where you're coming from because Reddit would strongly disagree with that statement but I actually touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:44 PM
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I endorse those women because I understand their experience, dudes can tend to be sex pests and act different when women are around. I don't need to include a 'not all men in every sentence, it should be implied that I'm generalizing. You ignored me by the way so is it okay for a man to shun women if he meets one shitty women and then thinks all women are like that? I responded to your comment. I agreed. People can shun and refuse to engage with people for whatever reason they please even if it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:09 PM
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lmfao I'm a feminist sip who shits on men by shitting on men who act like sex pests?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:31 PM
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If a man is bound to misinterpret, whether consciously or otherwise, no amount of knowledge about men is going to change that. Sorry, I might edit that portion. I'm not trying to blame anyone for being harassed by a man (or a woman) who can't take no for an answer. That's unavoidable and it isn't their fault at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:26 PM
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Yeah, I've seen this firsthand. I think ND people who were sectioned off away from larger groups while growing up got used to functioning around other ND people. So, they never learned how to function around neurotypical people because they're only comfortable around other ND people or just by themselves. Joined a social group for ND people in college, worst time of my life ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:03 PM
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There's not. You've never given a friend a personable handmade gift? Never spent long hours on the phone or in person talking about all manner of things? Never took a friend on night out, dinner, movie, etc? Lots of romantic interactions are based on normal friendly interactions with another step of complexity added to them. That overlap is friendship, it's hard to date someone if you can hardly be friends with them. The line is to be draw before the first step, there's no interpretation to do. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:57 PM
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Women use their male friends as boyfriend light so the only thing you end up learning is how to be a simp. This is what I'm getting at. There's some overlap between how women treat each other and how men treat a woman they have feelings for. A man who understands this knows what he's getting himself into and how to interpret certain interactions or even where to draw the line on things he isn't comfortable with. A simp doesn't because he either has no self-esteem and lets himself get walked on o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:37 PM
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Yeah, that's the critical part. I think that's the part where people can be pretty close-minded not everyone had the opportunity to practice being friends with certain groups of people. I'm certain that's where the "male friendships are objectively worse" argument was born out of. A bunch of women who ironically have never had or seen a close/intimate friendship with a man lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:08 PM
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Of course not. Everyone has their preferences and what they're comfortable with. No one is obligated to give anyone the time of day. I can't exactly be friends with most women myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:00 PM
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Nah I definitely generalized male/female just to get my point across but I agree that there are additional levels and styles of friendship that transcend just gender. I'm on the spectrum as well and learning how to befriend and date other autistic people after a lifetime of getting used to getting along with neurotypical people was a huge pain in the ass. Several groups I was asked invasive questions about lesbian sex including “how do you know when sex is finished”. I feel sorry for his girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:36 PM
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This is some comprehensive ass data. Thanks for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:08 PM
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Damn only 40k? The bar is in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:28 PM
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We live in an age of 40%+ divorce rates. That is HORRENDOUS. I don't see what's horrendous about people actually being able to leave each other. Shit doesn't work out, people change and make mistakes, grow apart. Marriage and kids puts unbelievable stress on a relationship. Couples buckle under that pressure, it has nothing to do with the amount of time they spent together. It destroys your emotional and financial well-being, traumatizes your children forever and sets them up for failure in life…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:05 PM
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Yeah, I agree. I think dudes do engage with women they meet in public in pretty inappropriate ways. Women can be creepy too but at least they have a better sense of decorum and will keep their delusions to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:00 PM
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I mean, of course. People are looking at your situation without your worldview, your experiences, and the additional context that you have. All of that cannot be packaged up into a reddit post. I thought people come to reddit for an unbiased 2nd or 3rd opinion if they don't have anyone else to ask. I cut women off for reasons that most redditors would call me "fragile" for but I don't give a fuck because they're not me and they don't need to live with the consequences of the decision that I make…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:24 PM
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This was basically my point. Friends and people close you give you advice on how to improve yourself internally because they're close enough to offer that advice to you. But, a woman you just met can't see that far into you, they only see what you're showing on the surface and what little hints you might drop during your initial interactions. But the subtext is that their quality of work is not impressive enough, and waiting for a promo through patience is a fool's game. Even worse, it could be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 04:17 PM
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IMO it can validate existing unrealistic or fetish beliefs about the sex, gender, and a third topic that isn't allowed on this sub. I'll just say that I met lots of women who were clearly just trying to explore that third topic with me and pretty open about consuming way too much of that kind of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:28 PM
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Ngl, I don't get this. Can you explain the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:39 PM
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The only preference I care about is if I'm the preference. If I'm not, I really don't care. If it's a public setting and I just met in that moment that I don't really care why she rejects me. Whatever she says will likely be a lie or an exaggeration to try to hurt me and push me away. I just accept that I've been rejected and move on. Yeah. Not going to say it here but I definitely know which kind of women I have slightly better shot with and which women I clearly don't impress. I think some dud…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:37 PM
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Attention and ragebait. People only engage with shit that makes them upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:53 PM
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Man imagine thinking that everyone is only nice to you because they want to bang you. This is a really fucked mindset. Some people operate this way but are far and few in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:11 PM
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I highly doubt the average woman has 100+ partners bro. You're greatly overestimating how promiscuous normal people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:56 PM
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Bro just approach anyways. 99% of women complaining online about dudes approaching them IRL are just bitter for one reason or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:04 AM
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If you'll sleep with literally anyone, even if you arent attracted to them, you can rack up bodies super quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:01 AM
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Oh this is a real chart?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:15 PM
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Is this a joke lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:13 PM
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Exactly, it happens. Unfortunately, I was definitely one of those transient dudes who contorted my personality a bit because I was eager for validation. Not my proudest moment but I did it, you know? But, it's part of how we learn about ourselves and grow. Almost every dude I know has been through some sort of phase where he tries to sleep with as many women as possible, for some reason. Most of the gender-specific topics in this sub apply to everyone IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:04 PM
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Yes, both things can be true. So, why doubt someone if they told you their body count? Don't get me wrong, I would never ask either. But, if that information was volunteered to me, I wouldn't have any reason not to believe her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:55 PM
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You're underestimating what low self-esteem does to someone. I dated a woman who was a kiss-less virgin at 24. I doubt she was lying, she had no idea what she was doing in bed and she was a virgin and had no idea how to kiss.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:51 PM
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Bro, I probably had short-term relationships with somewhere within the realm of at least 20-30 women before I was 23. My latest ex gagged when I told her about my past. Most of my friends slept with at least 10+ women before they graduated college and that's just women they met in college. To the extent that they'll refer to women they're actively sleeping with as "friends" but have other women that they're actually seriously pursuing in their lives at the same time. Most of my friends are norma…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:19 PM
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Nah, bro. It is not that easy for women to date men out of their league. Hot dudes who put themselves out there are constantly surrounded by other hot women. They have no reason to waste their time on women not in their league when they have women out of their league hitting them up on IG. Hot dudes are also insanely harsh with their rejection. We don't just know how attractive we are, we have to learn that, and being rejected is part of that process. Women don't like being rejected either espec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:12 PM
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Fr. Dudes standards for looks and personality are high as fuck but they won't ever accept that lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:52 PM
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I mean, I guess yeah. But, I don't see what the issue is. Not that many women put themselves out there in that way and they get rejected a ton of times by those hot dudes. I've known those hot dudes and they'll talk down about average-looking women all the time. I've had super average women try to become friends with me to get closer to some of 9/10 my friends and they'll kill any ego they had left. I'm talking like "ew I would fuck her if she was the last woman on earth" level of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:49 PM
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It’s a strange concept that women are not going to respond very positively to highly attractive men or handsome guys with money and explore a highly desirable romantic option Woah I never said that they weren't chasing those men. The issue is that those men are usually out of their league and they know it. They're just fronting to show off to their friends who also probably can't get those kinds of dudes either. It's usually just a pissing contest. You prob don’t know 7+/10 women who advertise t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:34 PM
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Bro I was brokest dude in existence as late as like 23 and they were still giving me chances. I had no car and I was working an unpaid internship and I was getting dates with engineers and nurses. They talk shit but I promise you they don't mean it. If you check enough boxes in the right places, they'll excuse your shortcomings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:23 PM
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I don't know what your job is but you realize women also shit talk and flex, right? I knew so many women that would talk shit with their friends and say that their man gotta have this and that, etc but date an unemployed dude with no car.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:14 PM
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I literally grew up in NYC and went to college there. I no longer live there but I spent most of my adult life in the city. I've never heard a woman say something like that unironically. I've heard them say it sarcastically, but they don't mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:05 PM
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Where the fuck are you guys meeting women that talk like this? The only thing I've ever heard a woman ask for out of a man is for him to be taller than her and match her income level. That's it. If you're average height and have a decent job, you won't have any issues on that front.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 07:56 PM
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Black and Brown girls are my taste, bro. Any woman with melanin will have a chance at my undivided attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:37 PM
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This sub really struggles to understand good looks doesn't mean bad personality and bad/average looks does not mean good man. You identified it in your own paragraph, it's a form of projection. Those men don't want to believe that they have repulsive personalities so they just assign their failure in dating on their looks. They project it by assigning assuming that any man with an awful personality but also getting women must also be attractive. Otherwise, how could he be getting women in the fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:37 PM
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When men try to form men’s organizations, it’s women/feminism that tears them down as exclusionary. You hit the nail on the head with this one. When Obama created the My Brother's Keeper Initiative, a bunch of liberals attacked it for being gender exclusive to men and boys when it was created specifically to address and eliminate opportunity gaps for men and boys of color. It was created in part to address the lack of programs in existence for men and boys in disenfranchised communities since th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:18 PM
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It's happened to me, it's real. I had to change therapists a few times because they don't really know how to broach that subject without leaving themselves out of it. It's a tough subject and people feel strongly about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:03 PM
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Honestly, it's a good question. What do you do when you're mentally stuck at a certain age and your peers have outgrown you? It's not an enviable position but I also wouldn't suggest that they date 20-year-olds forever. Although, that might be an option that they would try to take anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:24 AM
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I just wanted to share how it feels for a person that is genuinely into younger people without being opportunistic and trying to exploit power imbalance. I should have explained this part a bit better. I'm arguing that only developmentally stunted people can comfortably date someone that young without feeling uncomfortable with it. And that developmentally stunted people can date younger adults because there's technically no power imbalance if they're both in the same place mentally. I'm not sug…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:55 PM
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Even worse than those. I saw a video a few weeks ago of a woman getting caught soliciting sex from one of those decoy accounts posing as a 13-year-old girl. She was chatting on and off with the decoy for months. She admitted that she tried to rope in her boyfriend who advised her against it and suggested that she get help. Didn't matter because she still tried to have the decoy meet up with a different man that she was cheating on her boyfriend with. The entire comment section tried to pull a "w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:14 PM
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Bro, look up videos of female sexual predators getting caught in YouTube. Women can get caught red-handed committing heinous sex crimes and boomer gooners and genXers will try to give her as many excuses as possible. Even if the woman is carrying out the entire act, they'll assume she's under duress or being trafficked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:29 PM
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Well, yeah. A community of hurt people can't help themselves, they only perpetuate their own pain. RP isn't for healing, it's for revenge. It's ultimately a power fantasy of "hurting them back."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:13 PM
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Damn. Thinking it's weird to fuck teenagers as a grown-ass man makes me blue-pull?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:25 PM
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I think RP sucks in dudes who have deep psychological wounds that are primarily dismissed by the more progressive narrative that society is following. It almost caught me in. I was raised by a narcissist for a mother and used by many more women throughout my upbringing. I was even groomed by older women as a teenager. But, progressive and conservative societal naritives still largely dismiss the idea of a man being a victim of a woman in any way. Even if he is, it's still treated like an excepti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:34 PM
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This rant is crazy because 23-27 is above the age range that I'm referring to. You have enough wherewithal to not date a high school senior, that makes you a functional adult. Some people in this thread are arguing that they're willing to go as low as 18 and it's okay if they do. That's the kind of dysfunction that I'm referring to. I don't think being 35 and dating a 25-year-old is even worth writing home about. Nothing about that relationship would be imbalanced, a 25 year old is in a very dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:28 PM
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This is probably the only place on the internet where I've be accused of pretending to be a man. How the fuck do I not write like a man? "Ooga booga, I only fuck 18 year olds." Is that what I'm supposed to say? In the history of all men, no man has EVER called a woman “failure to launch” because she’s “only” a teacher She was a STUDENT. I met in her in class, she was taking basic psych classes at 28 after having been in community college on and off for 6 years. When I met her she was unemployed …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:16 PM
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Man, she's beautiful but damn she's being dramatic. However, she has a point about the flowers. I understand that flowers, in particular, are supposed to be an intimate gift. So, signing up for a service to automatically give your partner flowers does take away from the intimacy and thoughtfulness of it. If it were something practical, I wouldn't care. A woman I'm dating rn got me YouTube Red for a year. It was a great gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:24 AM
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I'm not silent about it, but I'm a man though. I dated much older women when I was in my late teens/early 20s. Including a 28-year-old woman when I was 19. It was the hottest shit ever to me at the time (I have mommy issues). But, in hindsight, she had no business dating a fucking teenager like that. I also got lowkey groomed into a sexual relationship when I turned 18 and with a high school teacher who had been flirting with me since I was 15. They were both 100% opportunists and I was definite…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:13 AM
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I can respect that tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:54 AM
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Tbh, I didn't know a single girl in their 20s who was willing to date that much older than them. Most of the women I knew just dated dudes a few years older than them, that was it. Any woman who was openly dating someone 30+ was also pretty open about digging for gold. Maybe these dudes in this thread think that they're the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:53 AM
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Don't be obtuse, I'm speaking generally. 18-22 year olds are normally around the same point in their lives, at college or out of high school trying to get their lives together as young adults, starting their careers and figuring themselves out. Someone who's 23+ would likely already be done with their undergrad or have been working or building their career for at least 4-5 years if they went straight into the workforce. You can be a CPA by 23.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:04 AM
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Mate, I told you about my experience dating someone much younger than me. It felt like I was dating a teenager. I wasn't ok with that and a lot of men my age, in my social groups, wouldn't be ok dating someone that young either. It's not about effort or disagreements, there's an inherent impassible issue dating someone that young. If you can't understand how uncomfortable it would feel to date someone who feels like they're too young for you, I can't explain it to you. It has nothing to do with …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:51 PM
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I'm well aware of this. But it's easy to detect these kinds of failure-to-launch women as adults. There are plenty of single functional adult women to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:44 PM
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My peers wouldn't give anyone younger than 24-25 the time of day but I guess it's different for different social groups. Age gaps with people that young is taboo from where I'm from, I guess. The 35-year-old woman I mentioned in my post got side-eyed by everyone she knew and his family called her out for grooming him. She lost a lot of friends over that and faced some pretty steep social ramifications for it. Yeah, everyone's an adult but it's not always that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:40 PM
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I feel you dodged my question. Also, I'm Black too and yeah a lot of inner-city women already have kids by 25. I kinda just accepted that as part of my reality. I don't mind dating single moms though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:34 PM
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I amended my post. 18-22 is what I'm referring to by college age. I'm surprised that a 40-year-old is ok with it someone that much younger than them but 24 isn't exactly super young either. So, idk. That one is up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:32 PM
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I don't think we should be fucking everyone we're attracted to. That's a wild assertion tbh. You can get along with someone and not want to fuck them, right? Right? I'm saying that it realistically wouldn't be worth most functional adults time to deal with the added tension of dating someone that young. Yes, tension and disagreements exist in all relationships but the age gap is an impassible barrier that will always exist. My argument is that most normal dudes wouldn't see the age gap as someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:29 PM
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I’ll accept that I’m immature and fairly dysfunctional. Well, this is odd. Didn't expect to be agreed with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:21 PM
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So what if the guy is stunted? Good for him that he knows that he can only do casual. Good for him that he knows that in terms of life stages hima nd the college girl match. You're proving my point here. I never said that it was amoral. I just said that they're more likely to do it because there isn't much of a power imbalance. I would argue that someone being opportunistic is amoral, not the stunted person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:18 PM
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You yourself claim to be around the same age as the age group you are complaining about And you yourself say you can get along with the same women they can But you previously claimed no functioning adult above a certain age was capable of that So are you also the same as that group? Yet I’m pretty sure you won’t deny that those women are attractive? I never said that you couldn't get along with younger people. I said getting involved with them romantically is different. I can get along with 20 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:15 PM
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I mean, bro I shared an experience I had trying to date a younger woman and why didn't work for me. I just see a lot of dudes on this sub and other places on reddit insist that as soon as you're 18, you're fair game. I don't think any functional adult would give someone that young the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:07 PM
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How young are we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:05 PM
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When men complain about how they can't get Dates or GFs they are told it's THEIR fault because they are Unattractive or their Sexist Incels or have poor personality. Yet when Women complain about how terrible men are and how the men they date suck they are never told it's their fault for dating these shitty men and putting up with their nonsense and that they can CHOOSE to leave these men. Either way, no one is getting meaningful actionable advice. Just vapid pleasantries or mindless insults. Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:23 PM
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Feminists fight against joint custody laws; Again. 91% of custody disputes never even go to court. What would joint custody laws even change when the vast majority of custody disputes are already settled by the couples on their own? feminists fight against addressing the life expectancy gender gap. Can you cite a source for this? Also, what do women have anything to do with how soon men die?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:41 PM
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They do. Dudes who use the male loneliness epidemic to complain about women would have done that regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:06 PM
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So then how exactly are you blaming feminists? How are feminists perpetuating this issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:48 PM
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Your blaming mothers living in poverty without being properly supported by the father of their children on the women themselves. The vast majority of custody cases never even go to court. Over 90% of custody cases never even go to court. Your "default joint custody" wouldn't work because couples overwhelmingly decide for themselves or can't afford a lengthy custody battle. I don't see how feminism affects this at all. Let's not forget that women in the US have the option to abort unwanted pregna…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:25 PM
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I read people say people have sex on the 4th date which is whaaatt? to me, 4th date is way too soon. This number is different for everyone. I've had sex with someone before the first date even ended. At a different time, I dated someone for 2 years before we ever had sex. It all depends and you gotta feel it out for yourself. To answer your question: I think most men are comfortable with at least 3 - 5 weekend dates, maybe a few weeks/months of weekend dates before making something exclusive. Mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:06 PM
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Damn, ya just get on this sub blame literally anything on feminism. I see why the contributors to this sub are kinda toxic. I would get tired of this shit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:58 PM
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Imma keep it a buck with you. You're right but you might have picked the worst possible example. The woman in the video comes off as rambunctious and insecure. After some hesitation, they reveal that it's the fact that she's confident and smart, which makes her intimidating to males. That's the friendly way of saying "you're coming on too strong and it puts people off." The woman at the end of the video literally says take the pressure off, be a little less picky, stop anticipating you meet your…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:54 PM
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Yes. Getting a girlfriend is asking someone to commit. The bar for commitment is always much higher than the bar for just going on a few dates. Why do you think that getting a girlfriend is easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:21 PM
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Maybe it's a difference I understand the usage of the word "friendzone" IRL vs on this sub, I guess. From my experience, people only say that they're "friendzoned" or "have someone in the friendzone" as a deliberate act. Like, I've known women and men who have admitted to me that they like someone enough to let them fawn over them, but not enough to date them. So, they keep them at arm's length and reject their advances but don't outright cut them off. Post pictures about things that they're doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:15 PM
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You realize this makes no sense, right? If anything, it would be the other way around. Plenty of women (and men) play around with people that have no intention of dating or settling down with. Usually because they aren't attractive enough or don't meet certain standards that they have. Getting a GF is the harder option, not the easier one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:06 PM
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Fr I don't understand convincing others that you can't be attractive. It's a level of self-defeat that I'll never understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:04 PM
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It's not that hard to look well-kept. Any average-looking dude can get a haircut, shower frequently, find a style that fits them, and immediately turn a few more heads. The bar for handsomeness is not that high for women, I promise you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:42 PM
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That's the thing, it's not just physical attraction. That's why I said anyone that can make them smile and laugh. If you can hold a conversation and make a woman feel good about herself and stroke her ego, you'll have a lot more success in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:30 PM
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I respect your experience and I've been through it myself. I've had to deal with women who couldn't take no for an answer. It's hard and I would agree that women have it worse dealing with men since they need to worry about their safety as well. I'm not talking about a pursuer who can't take no for an answer. Saying "No" in itself is drawing the boundary that I'm referring to. I'm talking about a more passive form of manipulation that can happen through sheer inaction. Allowing someone to orbit …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:16 PM
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It is. But, like I've mentioned in other comments, the context changes once feelings are involved. You're not responsible for someone else's feelings, but (this is where my argument begins) It's good to set boundaries to avoid giving someone the wrong impression and potentially leading them on. I'm not saying that friends can't do these things, I'm saying that when feelings are involved, it can potentially change the context of these actions. You might see it as friendly but you could be potenti…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:41 PM
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If most average guys could date at around at will, they would show you their harem of average women they’ve been dating past couple months, I have rarely if ever seen that from an average man. For an above average man, that’s fairly common. Women don’t want to casually date average men. You've clearly never been to a big city. Some of the most average dudes in existence have a small harem of women they're seeing. It's literally all about charisma and being able to hold a conversation. Anyone wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:20 PM
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Where in his comment or my post did either of us mention sex? You're bringing sex into it I'm not even mentioning sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 03:15 AM
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But his experience is exactly the kind of experience that I'm describing. It's also the kind of experience that I've gone through myself. It's the crux of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:39 AM
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Damn maybe if I wrote the post using your words, more people would've understand me. You described the point that I was trying to make much better than I did tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:35 AM
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You completely missed the point of my post. Did you even read it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:29 AM
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I've seen this same response dozens of times. The context changes after someone admits that they have feelings for you. It's no longer the same, you need boundaries and time before you can resume that kind of friendship again. There's overlap between what friends and romantic partners do with each other. If someone is interested in you, you can't be certain that they're seeing those actions the same way. You might be leading them on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:27 AM
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You're reading too deeply into it. I'm not saying that being friendly with someone that has feelings for you is manipulation. I'm saying that knowingly using their feelings for you for your own personal gain is manipulation. Refusing to draw boundaries with them and allowing them to hover around you and attempt to show you affection is a form of manipulation because you're using someone's feelings for you against them. You're leading them on and potentially extracting gifts and favors out of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 08:33 PM
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That's fine. I fully understand women's need to stay safe from men, it's no issue from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:16 PM
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Whats the perception of romance? You either like someone or you don't. Playing hot/cold and toying with someone's emotions is manipulation. That's my whole point. It's not even a gendered issue because women get friend zoned constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:54 PM
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I do. Accusation is a strong word btw. I'm just arguing that it's just manipulative, not that it's a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:49 PM
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I never mentioned sex. You can have sex with your friends, everyone does it nowadays. This is more about romance and manipulation than just getting sex from someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:34 PM
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I never mentioned sex. This has nothing to do with sex. You can have sex and still be in the friendzone imo. This is more about romance than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:29 PM
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Isn’t it the person who already knows the other isn’t interested? The person who already knows their friend likes other people? Do they know this? How certain are they? If they're being manipulated, they believe they have a chance. The person who attempts to sabotage their other relationships? I don't know where this came from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:22 PM
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The deduction that someone was manipulating you (or attempting to) occurs in hindsight, right? Normally, once you deduce that someone is actively manipulating you, you stop talking to them. It doesn't undo their successful attempts to manipulate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:49 PM
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Like I said, At the end of the day, if you truly have no interest in being with someone, the healthy way is to draw a very strict boundary and enforce it. And, if needed, avoid that person entirely if they refuse to respect that boundary. Dudes shouldn't do this kind of shit, but women also have agency and can establish boundaries and refuse to be treated that way. It isn't women's fault that men can't accept rejection and act accordingly. No, but she's a shitty person if she takes advantage of …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:27 PM
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Bro people have feelings and those feelings will influence what they're willing to agree to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:12 PM
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Both parties aren’t doing something wrong. One is engaging in the consensual behaviors you both consented to - being friends. The other is trying to buy their way into their targets behavior. They are being manipulative and slimy. Not the friend who is trust the other person. Anyone with some sense will put some distance between someone they rejected and maybe slowly open back up to allowing these kinds of interactions after some time has passed and they've had time to move on. If you've rejecte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:11 PM
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So you didn't read the post? Answer this: Why is it the girl’s responsibility to deduce the guys intentions, especially when he could lie about them to save face like a little bitch (oh no! I wasn’t thinking of you that way, I just wanted to be your friend!) Never said it was anyone's responsibility to deduce someone's intentions. It's painfully obvious when someone is still making performative gestures especially after they've already told you that they have feelings for you. It is their respon…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:00 PM
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But what actions are you doing that show your interest is romantic? Talking to her? Friend stuff. Buying gifts? Friends do that stuff. Hanging out in groups? Friends do that stuff. Going out to dinner? Friends do that too, believe it or not. You're deliberately leaving out context here. If someone is doing these things AFTER admitting to having feelings for you, there's certainly a strong chance that there are ulterior motives to these actions. If someone hasn't admitted anything yet then no the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:45 PM
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hey can you come by with your truck and haul my refrigerator off to the dump...I'll buy you a slice of pizza" then simply say no. According to everyone else in this thread, friends do this. So, how could a man who confessed their feelings for someone know if this is manipulation or not? This is why I argued that after feelings are involved, these kinds of interactions need to stop until it's clear on both sides that there are no more feelings involved. Otherwise, you have no idea what you're get…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:37 PM
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The friend zone exists, but men can leave at any point in time. Just stop giving her stuff, stop paying for things, stop doing relationship things when you are not in a relationship. Man, I'm just going to go out on a limb and assume no one here knows what it's like to be manipulated. I've seen this point mentioned dozens of times. "How are you being manipulated? Just stop." Once men realize they're being manipulated, they obviously stop. It doesn't mean that they weren't manipulated and that wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:30 PM
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You're taking this much father than I suggested. If someone admits that they have feelings for you, you reject them but remain friends with them. They continue to make obvious performative gestures such as buying things for you, taking you out on dinner dates, and complementing you in ways that would indicate interest. They are crossing your boundary, you don't want to be with them. However, if you allow it to continue unchecked, you are engaging in a form of manipulation. You're enabling their …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:23 PM
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if you truly have no interest in being with someone, the healthy way is to draw a very strict boundary and enforce it. And, if needed, avoid that person entirely if they refuse to respect that boundary. In my post, I argued that you should cut someone off if they're not respecting your boundaries. I don't know what kind of arguments other people make in this sub but I'm not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:10 PM
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I don't doubt that this is probably a reality for plenty of women. But being idle and allowing it to continue is much worse than drawing a boundary and enforcing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:28 PM
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I never mentioned sex. No one owes anyone anything; that was never my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:31 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:20 PM
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Ngl, I didn't read the comment you responded to. I don't really agree with him so your comment actually wasn't that harsh in retrospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:55 PM
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This might be your absolute worst take. It's full victim blaming. Who the fuck is the victim here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:52 PM
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They shouldn't. That's self-inflicted. It's toxic to get those gifts as a means of "buying" affection. Never said that it wasn't. But, accepting those gifts and suspecting ulterior motives behind them is also toxic. If you think they're being toxic by buying you shit, why also take it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:49 PM
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Goddamn this is harsh as fuck. People have feelings, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:45 PM
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So you agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:44 PM
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Thanks, yeah I'm totally out of the loop there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:43 PM
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And women don't have enough agency to see what's happening and put an end to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:42 PM
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Bro, I never suggested that people shouldn't trust their friends. If you suspect someone is trying to manipulate you, why not address it head-on and reject those potentially manipulative actions? It's not cutting someone off, it's breaking any illusion that there's a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:41 PM
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It's funny how a lot of women play victim after considering they got enough emotional intelligence to figure out the guy's intent. Bro, they're doing it in this fucking thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:37 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:33 PM
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Yes, you're right. But both things can be true at once. If they're pushing boundaries, why allow them to do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:19 PM
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Because they don't. Like we wouldn't have a name for "the friend-zone" if everyone functioned the way that you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:16 PM
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I never said that wasn't also a form of manipulation. We all know that already. But knowingly accepting those gifts is also manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:15 PM
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That's why I said MOST. I know what it's like to be friends with someone I'm interested in. But, once feelings are involved, it changes shit. That stuff needs to be squashed before any semblance of a normal friendship can resume. Otherwise, it gets tricky and people can and likely will take advantage of your feelings for them and egg you on to do performative shit for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:14 PM
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That's why I mentioned more performative actions like paying for things because not everyone buys their friends dinner, gifts, movies, etc. Those behaviors are more closely associated with courting someone. It's toxic to allow someone to buy you stuff when you suspect that they're doing it with the intention of winning you over. Rejecting gifts or paid dinners is one great way to draw that boundary. Refusing to hang out one-on-one is another. Make it clear that you have no intention of being wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:09 PM
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Why is it HER job to say “oh no, you’re lying to me!” No, it's your prerogative to stop that behavior once you notice it. I've rejected women and they've come back around buying me shit, taking me to movies and dinners, and being all nice and complimenting me. All without me doing any of these things in return. I put a stop to it because it's very obvious that they still have feelings for me and they're trying to win me over. Why would I let them court me when I have no intention of being with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:06 PM
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Again, if she gets that from people NOT interested in her, why should she assume interest? Because they told her. She knows. Not everyone functions nominally and people usually need time and space to grieve after being rejected. Some people can't be friends with someone they were interested in at all. It would be naive to assume that there isn't interest. Especially if they're treating you in ways that they don't treat their other friends. Friends give gifts. I gave my crush gifts after being fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:03 PM
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Actions speak louder than words. You SAY you're friends with me, but you're also buying me stuff, taking me on dinners, and trying to treat me like a partner. If someone is doing that with you and you KNOW that they have feelings for you, you're enabling that behavior. Why allow them to express their feelings for you if you have none in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:57 PM
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I'm talking solely about a hypothetical situation where the crush is open about their interest. If someone admitted to you that they had feelings for you, you reject them, and they continue to buy you things, hang out with you one-on-one, and complement you, they're likely doing those things because they still have interest in you. Allowing them to treat you that was is a form of manipulation. You need to draw that boundary because you're enabling their attempt to manipulate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:54 PM
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There is no ulterior motive and they aren't trying to use or manipulate you. Then why keep someone around knowing that they're buying them gifts and performing favors for them because they're interested in them? If you know someone is into you and treating you nicely because they're into you, that's not a friend. That's an orbiter; a simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:51 PM
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Bruh, the friend zone is a self imposed sentence dudes do to themselves cause they don’t wanna admit the truth that she has no interest Yes. But, a woman who allows someone that she knows is interested in her to spend copious amounts of time with her, take her places, and buy her things is also enabling that behavior. That's also a form of manipulation, they're letting them believe that they have a chance when they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:48 PM
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But if the crush has friends like me, where I have one on one hangouts, I offer to buy stuff for her, and compliment her, why should she think you’re any different? Because hanging out 1-on-1, buying each other gifts, and giving each other compliments is also how people communicate their interest in one another especially after they've already been open about their interest in you. Someone that wants you is just trying to get you, they're not thinking that far ahead. Then the person shouldnt off…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:36 PM
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so we can't even argue that it's not how everyone is. But the point isn't "not everyone is like this." The point is that most "friend-zone" situations are manipulation and lopsided friendships where one person has feelings and the other person doesn't are toxic. You shouldn't be accepting favors from your "friend" who should shack up with you at any moment's notice, that's not a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:25 PM
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Only shitty men and women. You see, this is the crux of the issue. Awesome people can also be manipulators. Weeding manipulators out as "bad people" is hard because manipulators do everything they can to make their intentions appear genuine. When you're in that situation and you're being manipulated, how are you supposed to know that you're actually being manipulated vs someone trying to be your friend? What's the threshold between a manipulator and a friend? It's not clear and often we'll confu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:24 PM
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You’re not being manipulated if you werent upfront about your crush. You’re the one playing games, not your crush. This interaction can happen after being upfront. It's easy to say "No?" by saying "No" but keeping them as close as possible and giving them mixed signals. It happens. I too have one on one hangouts where I offer to buy stuff for friends and compliment them. And I did that without expecting a romantic relationship. That's great but everyone isn't you and lots of people do this hopin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:16 PM
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Sheesh, I'm already at a 25% upvote rate. I don't know why this topic hits people's nerves but it always does.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:07 PM
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and I got downvoted for it too even though I've seen this constantly happen IRL. Guess I touched a nerve.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:04 PM
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IMO, At least from my experience, a dude in "the friend zone" is a source of constant validation. If a woman is surrounded by dudes who would date her if given the opportunity but she keeps them at arm's length, it's deliberate. She's probably leading them on too. Setting them up with someone else is tantamount to giving them away. I've had a few girls set me up with a friend or someone they thought would be good for me at some point. But, they were actual friends. Usually, if they're even remot…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 01:59 AM
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I think a lot of people are reading the title and maybe the first paragraph and immediately responding. If you’re miserable single, you’re not built for a relationship—you’re built for dependency. And that’s not strength. Sort yourself out. Build a life you actually enjoy. Stop looking at women as a missing piece. You’re either happy with what you’ve got, or you’re chasing something that was never going to fix you in the first place. This is some solid advice. The most eye-opening experience I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:59 PM
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Fr, like approaching a woman and saying "Hey, I think you're gorgeous." That's cool if you're like 16. But, if you're old enough to drink, you gotta have game. If you don't know what to say you shouldn't approach at all. Even just striking up a conversation related to something you're both doing at the moment works. That's how women have approached me, from my experience. It also lets you feel out if they want to be spoken to or not without going full send. Dudes complain about women refusing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:29 PM
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Loneliness isn't something that just happens to you, it's not something you catch. Loneliness is a symptom of a greater issue. If someone struggles to go out and be more social, is it their loneliness that's the issue or something inhibiting their ability to go out more and be more social? When I say that I don't think it exists at all, I mean that there's something causing loneliness that's being ignored when we just write "loneliness epidemic" everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:02 PM
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True. I guess social media sucks for relaying that message to men. I felt the same way at one point but I quickly realized that letting random bitter women on the internet stop me from approaching that drop-dead gorgeous woman at the store is easily the most pathetic thing I could do in my life lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:52 PM
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Suddenly becoming emotionally distant is a pretty strong indicator that they might be cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:46 PM
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I've gone as far as cold-approaching women in public. Like grocery stores and shit. I've never been rejected in a mean or disrespectful way. They say no (or the occasional yes) and I move on with my life. Even women who don't want to be approached are still chill about rejecting you if you do it right. Usually, women who don't want to be approached make it very obvious that they don't want to be bothered. Most cold approaches don't work but I don't think there was ever a time where they worked m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:40 PM
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Personally, I don't think it exists at all. Even on the internet, it's not hard to find people to spend time with. I found plenty of men and women to play games with and find online communities with. I agree that it's harder IRL especially as an adult but it's not impossible. If your response to being lonely is to whine about it on the internet then you probably suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:33 PM
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Yeah, I also felt like the issue was being overblown. I get the concern but I don't think I've ever let #metoo or the threat of being labeled a creep stop me from interacting with a woman at work. However, I am a bit more careful with my words around women vs. men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:30 PM
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I'm confused, what's wrong with his position?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:18 PM
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I think it's a bit of a stretch to claim that anyone avoiding women at work is inherently sexist. I think there's certain situations which aren't sexist. Would you argue that it's sexist to avoid a woman that you're attracted to? I've seen a few men and women avoid working directly with people they have feelings for. I actually just turned down a job offer the other day because I was insanely attracted to the woman who would have become my boss. I felt like it would have created a weird work env…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:17 PM
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I guess? But that still doesn't negate the fact that we both had options. She cut off a few dudes too. To your point, she did it much sooner than I did. Everyone is spinning plates to some extent when they're dating around. I'm certain that most of the women I was messing with also had other guys in their lives too. It's all just part of the game. We all just farm options until we find someone who checks all of our boxes then cut everyone else off. Sharing a woman with other men is going to happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:11 PM
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It's not like they just magically showed up in my life because I'm smoking hot or something. I met most of them through dating apps and one through university. I asked out way more women and got ghosted and rejected a bunch of times. IMO I'm one of the least successful people I know in terms of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:05 PM
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Bro, she hated the fact that I was spinning so many plates. I had to reassure her that she was my priority. She didn't care much about the fact that I had so many other women in my life. It seemed like it put her off if anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:02 PM
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And most guys don't? When I met my ex-fiancee and realized I wanted to be exclusive with her, I cut off 5 different women, including my ex lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:44 PM
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Anything racial.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:23 PM
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I'd argue that they're the least tbh. Most women I met have their own shit and are pretty upfront when they don't and expect to be taken care of. My ex gave me $10k to help me finish university when I was in a tough spot and I paid her back plus interest. Maybe my perspective is skewed because I usually date career-oriented women but most of the women I'm surrounded by are super independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:10 PM
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