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Man That’s wild. I’ve barely approached any woman outside of a bar or club. Am quite good looking and have decent success getting dates from approaches and random encounters. But it still scares the F out of me most of the time to try and talk to a random woman with no natural ice breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 08:11 PM
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I’ve always found getting with girls much easier in California than some other parts of the country. Esp Northern California.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:48 PM
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I have it and I can usually keep a relationship going for months/years. But also I rely on being emotionally unavailable in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:02 AM
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Eh I’m not buying that a 5 foot autistic guy with a nice face is at that count.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:58 AM
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Good comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:19 PM
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Nah did from a stressful job but fixed it to normal after leaving the job. I’m doing fine. Things just I feel got worse. But it could be other things at play. 2022 wasn’t bad even. But late 2022 and 2023 have been kinda the pits a lot. But lots of factors involved and it’s not like it was all dismal failure. But it’s been weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:16 PM
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Based comment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:14 PM
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Yeah, but people stopped really focusing on it around 2022 - What it did do was silo people much deeper into iconoclastic echo chambers. I suppose the seeds were already sewed but it had an effect for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:46 PM
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180lbs um I'll pass lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:40 PM
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Yeah, that's where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:39 PM
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I'm like you. Prolly a bit better, but...............things just feel like they went downhill around 2021-2022. I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:39 PM
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I'm basically chad lite and honestly it's pretty rough a lot. Like it can be done for sure. But the level of exhaustion and nonsense is intense. I have a very low social battery though. It really didn't get bad for me till around 2022ish though - before that things were fine if far from perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:38 PM
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For reference, let's say he's a 5'11 guy with a 7/10 face. He isn't too outgoing nor is he socially inept. I think it's become much harder to organically meet people though, so that makes it harder to fall into a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:35 PM
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I consider myself a mix. I actually DID work in sales and wasn’t one of the early cuts. But I hated it and could barely meet quota. I certainly talked a good game in the interviews though. I have my moments where my social skills are FANTASTIC but it’s really hit or miss And I think they’re deteriorating. That’s why when I move back to my city I’m making a vow to get a beer three times a week and read a book I know I’ll have a lot of conversations. But it takes the pressure off of thinking Damn:…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:48 AM
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Revenge porn is not cool. Not alright at all
/r/MensRights21/07/23 10:38 PM
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If you learn the social cues , notice them, react to them, and act accordingly you’re not missing the social cues
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:38 PM
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Interesting. What is the schizophrenic spectrum? I have a bipolar friend (OK with girls but I’m better and he’s way more girl crazy than me now) who has auditory hallucinations (great musician though) and sometimes he’s just off his face. Thought he might be sorta autistic but wasn’t sure. Pretty good looking guy too. I’m good looking and 132 IQ btw. It def helped me. But I have seen some absolute weirdos where it would do nothing for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:37 PM
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Exactly! Heard both of that crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:35 PM
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I remember my first redpill was before looking at any of this stuff Which was….. I bet a lot of girls just want to hook up and have casual sex. Well…. I was right. No more friendzoning Then next redpill was online dating advice after I slept with a girl and got deep in my feelings fast after she wanted to friend zone me because I wasn’t good enough in bed yet and wanted a relationship. Further tightened up my game Then final redpill was after a messy and protracted breakup with a girl I had know…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:35 PM
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I’m on the spectrum I’ve had numerous girlfriends and am rarely single and I am not single now. My body count is over 20 I have friends. The majority of which are women but it’s balanced. Only thing that’s lacking is a good job. I think redpill has pros and cons. And I’ve overall stepped away from it. But it has a lot of common sense logic in it and it got me to detach from my most toxic relationship and to stop deeply longing for it to continue. Also 1/3rd of men are not having sex with those r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 10:32 PM
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18 year olds are often not childlike lmao - especially these days - Nor do I really go around hunting for 18 year olds to fuck - I was not looking for a serious relationship and I'm not looking for a serious relationship in the near future. So, I'll swipe on apps and go to clubs and talk to girls I find attractive when I want to and when we get along and have some chemistry, I'll go where it leads. Mind you, I look around 24/25, some guess younger, and I had a crappy childhood full of religious …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:37 PM
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Why is it gross? I said I dated someone younger sometimes. And I said I didn’t want to date virgins or near virgins or the town bicycle. You’re gross. For being a judge mental non critical thinker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:17 PM
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Wtf are you taking about blue pilled homie. I just said I’d rather date someone with some experience but not too much experience. And I didn’t trust the marriage system. Yet somehow you get that kak out of it. I also talked about societies with different gender dynamics. I swear half the feminist leaning people got dropped on their head somewhere when they were real young. Yes women are people. People with different bodies hormones physical capabilities and brain chemistry as men. Respect the di…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:16 PM
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I think there’s multiple ways to look at the whole MRA deal and men expecting this and that There’s the whole sexual apartheid model society traditionally practiced and that some Islamic countries still practice. Some might be advocating for that. And on the inverse there’s the current equality/equity at all costs dynamic that’s currently being used in western oriented countries Which basically counts women as perennial victims who can do no wrong and men as constant advantaged predators. And fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:20 PM
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I’ve dated 18 and 19 year olds while in my late to mid 20s/early 30s I certainly don’t expect to date virgins though. I’m not really itching to have a serious relationship with a woman who’s has more than say ……..15 partners ideally less than 10/12 But I’m also not super interested in girls who are virgins or have had only like 2 3 partners even That’s a lot of expectation to live up to in regards to taking the relationship seriously imo - if someone has had that few partners you could really do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:13 PM
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I’m 32 but look 24/25 I’m currently dating someone older than me but before that generally dating younger or the same. Probably the only reason I haven’t dated more younger the same is I’m busy and got sucked into a relationship. I think if you’re young looking it’s fine. And yeah It’s instinctually gross I guess to see an older looking woman with a younger guy. Girl I’m dating generally looks younger than her age but sometimes something sorta slips in her makeup or whatever or fitness And I get…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:04 PM
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Factual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:44 PM
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💯 perfect explanation.
/r/MensRights21/07/23 12:48 PM
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Not every flower blooms. Many just wither and die too. Let’s not cheat the term. Blooming means something to be proud of at minimum. Although it depends what we’re saying Are we talking about having sex or having a compelling life. Different metrics here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:45 PM
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You’re rambling about nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:42 PM
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At the end of the day attraction is attraction. I’d a younger woman chooses an older guy, she was attracted. You can encourage younger women not to date ‘late bloomers’ But what you’re saying is encouraging men to hide their struggles and be more closed off. Which was the exact opposite of what the feminist agenda was trying to encourage. (We want more emotionally open men) So there you go. The double bind strikes again. I don’t talk about personal struggles with people I’m dating really though.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:41 PM
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Conversely I would say some of these things can definitely be common with older guys. Life beats most everyone up over time. I wish I could take my higher degree of optimism and cockiness and weld it more so to my current experience. I’d say the difference is as guys we got to keep a lot bottled up inside. So if these negative feelings exist we don’t often see any sense in expressing them to most people especially people we’re dating or flirting with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:55 AM
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Yeah this is my experience too. I’m not saying all women who are older are like this. Some are pretty awesome most of the time. But, I’ve certainly noticed this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:53 AM
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Feminist love coming up with false dichotomies that no one ever said. Yeah the Madonna/whore complex is a thing. But not like that. Total dramatization of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:16 AM
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So if there’s a mutual attraction between two people and someone has worked to improve themself a bunch….. They should be punished forever even if someone is attracted to them and uh doesn’t want to punish them. Sounds fair. I think it’s very silly how judgmental a lot of women on here are Do I care if a woman dates a younger guy? No not at all. Do I think it will usually work out for? Usually not. But she can make her own decisions. That’s the problem with a lot of feminist ideology. It’s basic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:14 AM
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I mean if they ‘Can’ date them and the women are interested I don’t see the problem. I feel like a lot of this is putting an imaginary problem into a situation where there isn’t one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:10 AM
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Most guys are ‘not doing well’ on a lot of those metrics now. Arguably most are late bloomers or never bloomers these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:09 AM
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Correct advice. I was a semi late bloomer. (Lost V at 20 became actually sexually active at around 25) the truth just doesn’t really matter a lot a lot of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:08 AM
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I guess. We’ll see how it goes. Don’t really have anything else to add. We’ll see how it goes. Technology is def the wild card
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:52 PM
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Some will take offense. But people get offended all the time over this or that. Can’t win ‘em all
/r/MensRights19/07/23 06:19 PM
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I mean I’ve accomplished that vibe on a date many times. And I’m not NT. But I’m also good looking. Especially facially. Only like 5’10 height wise. I agree that an uglier guy maybe would have more trouble pulling that off. But there are more ways than one to cultivate an aura I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:05 PM
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Yeah I think that’s basically how a guy should be. Although bill splitting is sorta a contentious issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:04 PM
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Oh totally. But also a lot gatekeep you from other women cus they develop feelings. But yeah women friends can be great. Esp for going out dancing with a group and stuff. We good bro
/r/MensRights19/07/23 03:59 PM
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Scott Pilgrim vs the World Basically all of that dudes movies. Plenty of others that aren’t coming to mind right this second.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:28 PM
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Also to further add on ANGER IS NEVER JUSTIFIABLE. So in apartheid South Africa for example (the country Im from ) anger from blacks over apartheid wasn’t UNDERSTANDABLE because anger is NEVER understandable That makes zero sense. It’s good that Nelson Mandela chose reconciliation over war i suppose (although given the country’s current direction perhaps war and balkanization would have been better shrug) but the anger of the black majority at their own humiliation is totally understandable. Eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:20 PM
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Most labor movements and revolutions in history are spurred on by the society making it difficult for a ‘man’ to ‘man up’ and get/take care of a woman/family. Anger is an emotion. Saying anger is never understandable is similar to saying that anger from women at some things done in some Islamic societies isn’t ‘understandable’ You don’t have to agree with something to understand it - The anger is understandable if you choose to understand it. Men have to do more and more and more for less and le…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:16 PM
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Well I mean don’t be friends with a girl ‘to get with her’ playing that long game rarely works. Like if you enjoy her company go for it. Just warning that friendship is not a reliable way to get with a girl you’re interested in.
/r/MensRights19/07/23 03:10 PM
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INSANE
/r/MensRights19/07/23 01:42 PM
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It depends. Humans have a part of their brain dedicated to religion. It really all depends on how much force you’re willing to use to uphold social moors in a society or not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:20 PM
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I think it’s a bit of both. Porn and video games are things a man needs to learn to resist. Cus it’s making many guys way more socially inept. Lots of things matter in being desirable. But at the same time women have their own vices (common casual sex work, tinder, dating app, and social media addiction, being over weight, never developing social skills. Chad chasing) that in many ways mirror men’s issues. Yet their issues tend not to ruin their youth (at least in the short term) as much as mens…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:54 PM
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Honestly it’s even manifested in much rougher countries like Brazil and South Africa If a country is relatively western and relatively developed it’s happening. Only some Islamic countries are staving it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:45 PM
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Yes it’s a shame. But if you have stuff going for you - you will get a leg up (literally lmao) on a lot of these girls. And that’s because what men and women want are different Men want hot peak young girls. Girls definitely will get the ick of a guy seems super old or whatever - but overall if a guy sparks them emotionally, has solid sex with them, and makes them chase….. well she’s obsessed (a lot of the time anyways ) It doesn’t really work that way the other way if the guy sees younger hotte…
/r/MensRights19/07/23 05:53 AM
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Eh depends. I have a decent body count. Around 20 and I’ll date older/same age women but I don’t take them seriously and they can sense that. That attracts them pretty well. If you’re truly desperate though then yeah that won’t work either.
/r/MensRights19/07/23 05:03 AM
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Don’t first be friends with a girl that doesn’t work unless you have options.
/r/MensRights19/07/23 05:01 AM
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Honestly the best advice is treat all women (when you can get away with it) with VERY playful contempt or indifference and go for add AS SOON AS POSSIBLE then still don’t show any real affection. That’s the reality of it really and what works. I’m around an 8 but under 6ft around 5’10 but looking into lift shoes
/r/MensRights19/07/23 04:58 AM
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It’s a very hard threshold too. I went to an anime group today to make new friends. And while everyone else had a better job. I was definitely “the chad” there. People were a bit skeptical of me I could tell. But meanwhile in a trendy bar I’d be a little above average maybe? Maybe in the top 20% but I’d like the status to really punch through. There’s levels to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 11:14 PM
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Im a guy who leveled up significantly. Mainly social skills and game though. And it made me pretty cynical as well. That’s the tricky part about leveling up hard. Hard to let go of the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 11:12 PM
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I think it works fine if you’re a guy and you’re not befriending the girls really to be with them and have other things going on. Then you can circle back and be like she’s good LTR material, but otherwise doesn’t work. I will say you obviously never had burning desire for her if that’s how the relationship came about. But burning desire relationships rarely work out. Especially these days. Just being fairly attracted and liking someone as a person is fine. 7-8/10 LTR is nothing to be ashamed of…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:23 PM
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Great comment!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:04 PM
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Reddit mods are a cancer.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 05:03 PM
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Great post.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 04:52 PM
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100% I hate most woke people. I literally have gone to terrible parts of Chicago & Johannesburg that most women wouldn’t touch. Yet woke people obsess over these ideas while gasping at the idea of me going there.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 04:50 PM
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Immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:45 PM
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See she probably deliberately picked the guy that was less into her despite looks. This is something I’ve seen a lot. The idea of Chad is overrated. Indifferent guy is often the winner more so than “chad”. And women make a mistake by picking indifferent guy over someone who actually wants to build with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:19 PM
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Very smart! Keep up the good work. Women just don’t get that the only viable long term relationships usually are with someone who will ‘simp on you’ just a little bit. Not psychotic. But there’s investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:16 PM
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Very good post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:15 PM
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I sort of agree with this. The girl I’m dating needs WAYYYY more stimulation when we’re together than I do not to get snippety. And complains way more about different places. Compares everywhere to like Paris or Buenos Aires
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:10 PM
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Love that the purple pill is going here. Let’s cut to deeper issues beyond gender politics! Also urban planning dork
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 08:29 PM
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Thanks appreciate it, stranger! And same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:54 PM
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Good thoughtful comment! Yeah I think a big complaint from the dating market is things became more of a pain for ‘good looking’ but not giga Chad looking guys. Yeah we can get the girl. But we have few chances comparably speaking to meet girls organically. A lot of girls have ADHD at first towards us because just being ‘well above average looking’ isn’t good enough when giga Chad Can be summoned. So instead of being treated quite well like our looks match 8/10 girl or even 7/10 girl sometimes. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:48 PM
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Agree with the general concept of this. I would say the RP is right about a good chunk of women at present. But guess what…….you don’t want to be dating those women and there’s plenty of good ones also. So screw the NPC people and date cool girls!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:35 PM
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Yeah women sexually harassed me a bunch on the job. And said inappropriate things. But when reversed….
/r/MensRights09/12/22 05:04 PM
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I feel like this is going to hit college educated men soon as well. I feel that way and I’m college educated. I’m not dropping out. But I’ll likely work for myself and in the interim work just enough to pay bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:52 AM
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The girl I’m dating made over 4 times what I did an hour. I left that job though. Uh we’re 50/50 at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:51 AM
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I think it sort of has the inverse effect. Because it leads to women having elevated standards because what they can get from sleeping around is better than what they can lock down But I’m really not sure. I feel I had more fun in a more whorish area 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:57 AM
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Thanks! That’s a really nice thing to say. Appreciate it. I don’t know it’s been really hard to move past it. I’ve improved myself in just about every way, but I haven’t felt so intensely about anything since. It definitely haunts me. I met her when I was really young and naive and she was older and I was in love with her for years. Really made things start to happen when she got divorced and then it fell apart. Got reeled back and discarded multiple times. I’m over it in any serious way now. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:55 AM
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Hmmm not sure. I am a good looking guy and I have about the same experience on apps. So I guess that does kinda debunk some of those guy’s dating app stories about picking pictures of giga Chad And getting pussy hurled totally at them by the metric ton. So you probably picked a photo of a more typically attractive guy and not the top 0.1% Cool that you did that anyway. I mean i think you have a point somewhat. I had sex a lot more easily in California than in Chicago And Chicago is definitely mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:52 AM
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I mean Theres colorism in Africa and India and the rest of South Asia. Ethiopia has a fair bit specifically. It seems to kinda be human nature more or less. It’s not fair and obviously there’s some very attractive people with dark skin, but I suspect it goes beyond mere white supremacy if it spans all those cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:47 AM
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Although it can go other ways with men as well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 01:54 AM
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There’s definitely some toxic ways to be friends with girls. But once you’re redpilled and have no major rage for random women, they tend to make solid friends. Usually better than guys it pains me to say. I chalk this up to myself having more value as a possible boyfriend than I do in other areas.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:59 PM
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I think smiling is fine if it comes from a place of confidence. But I mean there’s truth to this. But also no real need to be “nice” persay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:24 PM
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Eh lots of Latino(case by case whiteness) people and some black people and so forth do fine. That’s a bit of an exaggeration
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:45 PM
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Had a good post until it turned into sassy bragging
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:44 PM
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It would barely make a difference. Guys will definitely sleep with a girl with a high body count usually. Create an app as a guy. Convincingly impersonate a guy at a venue. Then you’ll get it more so
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:43 PM
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Uh Ridley. Plenty before her also.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 03:18 PM
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Yeah I don’t really get why his friends lining up to smash his sister ruins his friendships automatically
/r/MensRights08/12/22 02:17 AM
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As someone who was stupidly in love with a hot crazy girl. I concur on this. Valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:51 PM
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I’ve had public sex a few times. Can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:50 PM
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Toxic guy (I am him sometimes) is less afraid to take control. Be spontaneous. Take initiative. Be dominate. And has more experience. The fact he’s ambivalent can cap the quality of sex though after initial thrills for not going above his own needs on all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:48 PM
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Exactly. I did it myself. But I’m good looking. I always thought ‘god bless ugly or very average guys with Asperger’s”. I can easily pass for NT though and possess some traits that are seen in psychopaths that do well socially (I don’t vouch for much dark triad behavior though)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:42 PM
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True. But it’s complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:41 PM
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You hide it. There’s also girls you can talk to about it. But they expect you to be stronger than them generally and to figure out everything and be tough most of the time. Trust me maybe 10% of girls aren’t like that. But Gen Z is generally very rough on Guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:40 PM
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I think men are often hypergamous too. It’s just harder to them to get to that level of abundance. There’s a fair bit of overlap between male and female behaviors. I would argue men tend to be a little more consistent. And tend to stick with their words, if said in sincerity, a little more. But overall I’d say that it’s just society has shifted to women having a more unbalanced level of power in many circumstances when it used to be the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 01:55 PM
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My female friends mostly like me. If they don’t like me, I don’t bother being friends with them mostly. Sometimes they liked me and are in a relationship. Or geography is in the way. But they all like me. Or liked me. I don’t think most women are very good at respecting men they’re not interested in being with or have lost interest in. I feel respect and attraction tend to be connected more often than not. I would say non sexual relationships with women who aren’t super smart tend not to last fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 01:21 PM
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Wtf that’s insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:28 AM
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Yes if I could get away with it. Lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:42 PM
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I have done chicken thighs in the past. Should go back to that. I’ve done a lot of those but not the creole stuff. Will have to do that!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:41 PM
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I’m a pretty good looking guy. I went on the apps and got 70 matches in like two days using gold. Then it fell off a cliff after that. Then I went away and it started giving me good Matches again. It’s an insane abusive algorithm that only favors the VERY VERY best looking guys I would imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:15 PM
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I agree. Preach sister. Glad to you a woman in favor of abolishing dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:13 PM
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Yeah they say a lot of mean shit on average
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:58 PM
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Yeah lose weight dude. No reason not to. Or sucks but fight and fight to get to where you ideally would want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:55 PM
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Great comment from a lady. I will admit I spent much of my twenties chasing an equivalent to a BPD e girl party girl (She cosplayed sometimes.) We dated briefly after her marriage finally failed. The experience is actually what redpilled me. My basic understanding of the redpill on some level is. Society has normalized female narcissism. So more and more girls are displaying BPD & NPD traits. It’s a set of psychological tricks/programming to avoid those girls as a target of serious infatuation/a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:24 PM
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Another great comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:15 PM
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Excellent comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:12 PM
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Men in their forties and fifties (I’m much younger than that) who date younger women certainly don’t do it because women their own age reject them. If they’re getting the younger women they do it because they prefer them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:09 PM
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More like unrealistic expectations. My experience with dating older women is they compare you to the richest most successful guy who courted them in their twenties. While the younger girl doesn’t make a huge deal about those things and is just down to go on adventures. They expect you to succeed if it’s a serious relationship but it’s not this insane pressure cooker to measure up to every guy they’ve ever been involved with on this or that metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:08 PM
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Men learn to be stoic as they age. And showing our emotions isn’t a major part of our relationships. I’m far less emotional and reactive than I was when I was in my early to mid twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:04 PM
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We uh don’t care about “heaps of money” because it never goes to us. I’m dating a woman who makes three times as much as me and I’m lucky not to be shamed for going 50/50 Also I feel a lot of women who are “super together” put on a facade for their female friends. I’ve seen it a bunch of times. And outside of that are an absolute mess. Albeit a “bougie” mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:03 PM
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I agree. Dating an older Flight attendant right now. And one of the “interesting things for her dating me” is she’s never dated a broke guy before. I’ve done financially better as we’ve dated but overall comparisons are inevitable “This guy picked me up in a Ferrari and bought me this and that blah blah blah and you make me ride the train” But she’s still kind of into the different experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:01 PM
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Un a lot of us actually cause less “trauma” than our BP selves. Since I’ve been Redpilled I’ve never lashed out at a woman. I feel BPed I was more of a danger towards women because I was more emotional. I feel a lot of people who do crimes of passions and so forth have a blue pill mentality While RP we’re more like “oh well onto the next”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 02:59 PM
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I’ve found older women just as emotionally all over the place if not more. Including ones older than me. Maybe not some who are married but they’re uh married. So kinda off the table
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 02:58 PM
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Yeah that’s my experience as well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 02:56 PM
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Ah you should probably get in shape if you want to find your ideal man. You’re lowering your odds of finding the one if someone can call you that I’m a guy who is generally in shape. And works hard on my career goals hobbies etc. You get what you give in large part.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:47 PM
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I have decent numbers (over twenty) I’m a guy. I think promiscuous sex is bad for society for both genders. It’s a more impressive accomplishment for a guy but it’s still bad for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:44 PM
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That’s terrible. Keep fighting the good fight to be who you are. That’s very disturbing to hear. I suspected it might be that bad but it’s confirmed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:39 PM
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Just steak by itself seasoned is great. Steak is expensive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 10:38 AM
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What are some seasoning Recs? I’m a decent cook with some great dishes under my belt. But my chicken skills are lacking. I mostly use peri peri or just salt and pepper. Any special ideas occasionally lime marinaded and stuff with cilantro or deglazing it with wine. Nothing really makes it taste that great imo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 10:34 AM
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Ah hmmmm. What do you think the reason for that is? I feel standard of living is definitely higher in Phoenix on a lot of metrics if you’re not rich. I’ve lived in Cape Town, Johannesburg , Bay Area, Sacramento, and Chicago. My class status and living situation is the best in Chicago all things considered. But the dating is the hardest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:05 PM
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I have a lot of friends who are women in their thirties and forties. I imagine they’re perceptive enough. But I wouldn’t want to date them because it would be a mess and feel pointless. I feel a lot of women try and insinuate there might be a problem rather than a preference. I would say older women on online dates are a huge pain. But when I organically meet them, it’s fine. But older women on dates tend to go into full job interview mode. And just well aren’t fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:03 PM
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En depends what you want. I’m 30 and I’m definitely way more chill and reactive than when I was 18-26 to even later. I think pretty much every girl I’ve ever met would rather date the current me Assuming I keep a few of my views to myself. Literally in one of my longest relationships right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:01 PM
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From my experience 30+ women are lethargic. Stuck in their ways. And have more random emotional breakdowns. They’re also worse looking usually and often more defiant while dating. And i Don’t mean “I’m using age to manipulate inexperienced women and these older women know what they want” I mean a lot of this stuff is for no reason and they have a lot of baggage. I on the other hand Al a lot more chill now that I’m a bit older and have less outbursts and so forth. Now this isn’t true for every wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:00 PM
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I’ve dated younger women and older women and women my own age. I find the older women usually have made the worst decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:02 PM
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Or younger women are just better than 30 something women…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:31 PM
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Ah - prolly Chicago or LA. Maybe Dallas or Houston or ATL who knows actually 😂 maybe Miami I think my height but goodlooking is prolly fine. I do wish I was that tall though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 02:38 PM
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Acting alpha imo is genuine indifference to the outcome in most things. I can’t say the fresh and fit crew come across that way. Yes you could break it down in more directions but that’s the essential aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:38 PM
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This is true. But old social dynamics cushioned things by limiting hypergamy. Hence why I think banning apps and limiting what people can post on social media could be good ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:09 PM
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Dudes are definitely hitting on less girls than they used to. More have approach anxiety and stuff. I don’t. But I’ve talked to people comparing the 90s and now. Big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:08 PM
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Live in one of the very major cities of Midwest US from South Africa. Lived in West Coast US. Not afraid to approach but bad dancer but will dance sometimes. Different cities and areas all have their own pros and cons - Took me awhile to get over the approach anxiety but it’s really wayyyyyyyyyy easier to do than cold approaching sober in a random place Lower risk but lower reward imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:04 PM
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I learned how. I’m fairly good looking but not tall (5’10) it’s not that difficult. Problem is the women esp ones you get tend to be pretty bottom of the barrel. Also if you don’t live right next to the club it’s a slog. Because you’re not going to get laid night of a lot of the time. At least without paying for expensive Ubers. If you live next to strong nightlife it’s another situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:01 PM
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I agree. I Don’t myself and I’m a BIG advocate of stop SIMPING a lot of men facilitate this current toxic dynamic. It will take a validation strike essentially to help curtail it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:52 PM
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I Don’t care too too much. But my boundaries are firm. But if I was married to a woman (never considered any of my post TRP girlfriends marriageable) I’d have different standards. I don’t think these rolls should be steadfast so much as many of them are not understandable. My parents are still married and they have those riles more Or less
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:02 AM
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I’ve dated multiple girls way younger than me (32) but I do feel my powers are waning. But I’m never really sure. Right now I’m dating a woman older than me. I think different locations and countries have different expectations on that. I do look younger but current job is definitely tearing me apart haha and downgrading my looks. That said I’ve dated multiple girls in the 18-27 range in my 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:05 PM
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I’ve never sent a dm on this board. I only DM people when I’m traveling for insider tips or for job opportunities. Overall, “emotional cheating”?isn’t something I care about too much That’s like in the same genre as “beta orbiter” but even more negligible. Overall I haven’t seen anything too crazy on this particular board either. Reddit is a forum. Maybe If a girl was into porn forums. But that would be some weird shit. Id just be using to pass time someone like that in my current iteration.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:20 PM
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Well it’s weird you use it so much for porn. Personally I feel most people don’t use Reddit for porn. But any girl who uses porn a lot would be a huge red flag from the get go and I wouldn’t date her seriously in most cases and just consider it Passing Time - I’ve never thought of Reddit remotely like that and I’m a guy. Also guys don’t care that that much about “emotional cheating” unless it leads to real cheating. I feel women care more about that. Again hardly care unless a woman is doing a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:18 PM
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I think you’re projecting what you look at. I’ve never looked at those pages or posted in them So I guess you’re admitting to being into some Pervy stuff but I barely ever even glanced at those pages. I’ll read sex stories every now and then but almost never involve myself in those pages myself or browse them regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:13 PM
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Hmmmm well I never used it like that. Maybe women are more inclined to use it like that idk? You prolly get a lot more DMs. But generally speaking it’s a forum. I don’t count it as social media. If some girl I’m dating ends up with a guy from fricken Reddit I must have messed up BAD 😂 so not exactly scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:11 PM
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I would agree with foreign people in general having better family values. Some exceptions. I think the point is don’t use it as a manipulation tactic. Just when someone’s in the wrong work things like that. And if they don’t come back, then big whoop they weren’t that invested in you That’s a lot of what TRP teaches. It is boundaries essentially and no one taught Joe Blow boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:10 PM
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It’s a forum. It’s anonymous and for the most part most people don’t want to be exposed here. Yeah you can use it as a social media but most people don’t. Also you don’t really use photos. People don’t know if you’re attractive or not and people are rarely forming close relationships over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:27 AM
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I mean it actually often does. People tend to find more attractive people more worthy of being friends with and making money often puts you around more people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:26 AM
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I Don’t think it will last. I think they’ll be more and more insurgeny elements and acts of domestic terrorism until there’s a reversal of sorts.
/r/MensRights28/11/22 12:36 AM
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No one counts Reddit as social media. Straw man argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:23 AM
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They tend to be useful when dating or having a fight in a relationship also. Generally speaking they tend to have the correct psychology. Got into a huge fight with my gf a couple months back. Didn’t respond to her texts until she apologized to me and voila fixed. If I had tried to talk to her when she was still sending dumb messages it would have likely ended very differently. Also dating too. I generally avoid dating white women in the US anywhere unless they’re Latin or European and tend to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:50 PM
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Take the redpill! There are decent women out there but women ranging from regular crappy to this are SUPER COMMON these days and they will try and destroy you ! Just like this girl. Take TRP and never let something like this happen again. I experienced a somewhat similar situation myself. It’s hell. Screw people like her. I hope karma is savage to them all eventually.
/r/MensRights27/11/22 12:44 AM
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I’m an 7-8 but I will say the circle jerk on here has gotten a little old. But, I do think there’s real societal issues that exist presently that DO effect men but also effect society as a whole in various ways In the US & the Uk Personally I’m fairly over the redpill circle jerk. It helped me a lot. But I’m just past caring much about it right now. There are a lot of men out there that are confused and suffering though at present.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:55 AM
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Eh I’ll add that the stats say that men after a certain Point (around 6’2 start being less attractive than 6ft 6’1) And the Sharp decline in attraction is around 5’8. I’m 5’10 and have a movie star face and skin. When I bother to go to a bar I often run circled around guys who are like 6’4. But I’m also a South African guy in the US so there’s that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:17 AM
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Well that’s where the black pill comes in. I think going to the gym, having money, and having an active life style can make a big difference. But if you’re not in the 6/10 7/10 8/10 range you’ll still probably hit a wall. I think the redpill is mostly for those guys who are wondering why they don’t have the relationship prospects a lot of the time that older generations did in their brackets. Also the occasional 9 or 10 has a really rough divorce or something as well which puts them on guard. Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:10 PM
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Well said. As someone who would not be black pill because my life is decent. I do think there’s some truth to the black pill. Hard for a 4/10 guy to do much when a 4/10 girl is banging 8s because they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:07 PM
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I think smart men stop watching those channels mostly after they’ve hit some mile stones. I only go to this forum because it’s an interesting debate. I’ll watch some of Matt Cross’s non dating videos because he’s a good motivational speaker also. But I don’t really touch his million videos about “post wall hotties getting their reckoning” It’s interesting the first few times some of these stories but after that…. A waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:02 PM
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Most RP creators say anger is beta and they need to stay chill and non reactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:59 PM
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I’d also say the reason it’s caught on to such a huge degree is because of a societal and economic shift. So we now have a society with a lot more “troubled individuals”. You can point fingers. But if a society is producing too many troubled individuals then a deeper rot is starting to infect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:59 PM
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Met up with a woman two days ago. Has a bf. Belittled her bf a little. Talks about how she shouldn’t have to be traditional and brags that she doesn’t know how to cook because she’s from a different culture than her family. Talks about her former friends with benefits and what jerks they are. Talks about how she’s 27 and is too young to get married. Messages friend on thanks giving and talk about how she’s hanging out with a guy who’s nice but boring. Frequent complaint. Meanwhile, girl I’m dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:50 PM
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“Creepy behavior” covers a HUGGGE swath of things as an example. If you’re between a 6 to an 8 it can be any random mistake. If you’re a 5 and below it can be for existing. Etc. In the white collar workplace, random women have way more control than random dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:45 PM
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I mean you prolly should avoid hitting on someone at your job unless it’s a non serious job and you’re moving onto bigger better things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:39 PM
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I see plenty for of women struggling from commitment complaining constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:42 PM
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Great post!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:35 PM
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Sorry that happened man. You’re still young. Reinvent yourself and push through!
/r/MenSupportMen24/11/22 07:58 PM
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Dead on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:54 PM
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As someone who has Asperger’s but his handsome and masks quite quite well and has a good enough dating life - I agree with basically everything you said. The last thing really connected as well. I don’t hate myself quite although I wish I knew more sooner so I could have self improved more - But the message still stands. I hold myself quite accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 11:07 PM
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Yeah def a 6 when not giving a shit haha good chatting mate
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:33 PM
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Very interesting post. Thanks for sharing. Do you think you learned a lot about women from transitioning? I think trans men are interesting. Most actually pass for men. Just not men with the optimal male genetic. Trans women rarely ever pass.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 11:42 PM
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yeah, but I wish I did more than fine 😂 and could break the 7 barrier. I’m like an 8 but I max out at 7 I feel. There’s been a few 8s 9s but I couldn’t keep them around at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:37 PM
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as someone who has lots of those traits and is not tall (5’9-5’10) and has a mediocre sales job. I can say the fact that you’re basically Chad kinda helps. I do fine with women and can keep them around and I had a small set of hoe phases but nothing as prolific as I’d like (factors interrupted the best ones. Having to move out somewhere where I couldn’t have guests. COVID barriers for having people over……damn what bad luck 😂) But you’re kinda seeing things through road colored glasses. I’m also …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:43 PM
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This is true to a good degree. But a meh looking guy with the right personality can finesse his way up (although it’s become harder for them) and like me, a good looking guy who’s too shy can come across as creepy opposed to closing the date if they haven’t discovered their confidence yet. The confidence makes a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:38 PM
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Yeah, I was raised to be weak and benign and “not want to make her uncomfortable” As soon as I shook off that social programming I slept with like ten girls in a year Slowed down since then, but the point remains. THIS along with the trauma from dating narcissistic women, (who are multiplying in number) who we loved a crap ton, is why the Red Pill exploded. We hated being lied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:30 PM
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To be fair incels are all races. But yes many men are having a rough time in general.
/r/MensRights17/11/22 05:05 AM
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You should get a girlfriend with better friends and Ditch her.
/r/MensRights17/11/22 05:04 AM
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I don’t date monogamous really. So I just date someone casually don’t get overly emotionally invested and see if I feel like dumping them. But I would say someone who makes me chase them after sex is no good. And i won’t chase them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:00 AM
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She’s cute but she’s older than me so there’s no future - and also I don’t like our sexual chemistry. Other than that plenty to like. I’m also wayyy smarter than her. But she’s clever in a way and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:45 PM
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Eh well I’ve been dating a girl for two years and it’s non monogamous and she goes out of her way to see my like gets on flights to see me. She’s cool. I enjoy her company. So I getcha. I have mixed feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:52 AM
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Hmmm idk. Just seems kinda weird to be seeing someone for 14 years and no one commits. But I mean if it works for you sure. I take it you wouldn’t want to be monogamous with him if he asked?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 03:30 AM
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You’ve been uh having a friend with benefits for 14 years? That doesn’t really seem ideal ……
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:20 PM
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I do think the BPD/party girl/club girl do offer a similar experience to the bad boy. But I’d also say they require more effort than than the bad boy so guys in large don’t bother as much with them. They usually end up dating the “badder boy” themselves 😂 I was never neurotypical. But I was blue pilled once. So I did get emotionally destroyed. Pushed to the brink once by one. It’s a scar I’ll struggle to ever fully shake. That colors my views on women (although other dealings with women solidifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:19 PM
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Yeah I’d imagine there’s some exceptions but I wouldn’t really want to bother sifting through them I’ve dated a handful of club girls. As someone where it takes a lot of energy to do things, it’s not worth it. But you’re an NOD black British pickup artist so naturally you’re going to meet a lot of borderlines. A lot of borderlines love clubs and venues and nightlife. I don’t tend to have the energy for that as much as casual sex with attractive women wearing tons of makeup and nice outfits is. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:37 PM
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I recommend you date guys who aren’t into the games but maybe have a different niche hobby. I mean it sucks. But I think their odds of being a dick are lower. Sorry but I think guys who seriously are into gaming are trash. And Im saying this as a guy who’s pretty Redpill. I’ve beaten dark souls and bloodbourne and so forth. But generally speaking I’ve met gamers (I’m not really one) and they’re either hopeless incels or detached dicks who are porn addicts or a bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:33 PM
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I view some as equal but few as superior in the dimension I exist because I don’t believe a woman generally achieves the same thing when they have success in a traditionally male field. It’s usually at great expense to herself. I also feel like men generally write better fiction and music and make art at a higher level. If a woman is an awesome mother or matriarch to her family then I see her as equal but existing in a different lane if you will But I rarely find a woman in the arts or the workp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:05 AM
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I don’t think the redpill ideology is true for every woman 100% but everything is true enough of the time in modern dating culture and society that it’s generally good to have your guard up and not over invest or expect the wrong things out of women/girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:01 AM
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That’s good I guess. I feel like a lot of girls have a distorted idea of average. - I’m not average. I’m not Chad. Just lacking the height I’d say gamer guys who are decent looking and don’t care very much about getting girls can be dicks sometimes. I like games but I think games are hurting men. But I mean it also depends on how you look too. If you’re like a 2/10 or a 4/10 you can’t expect guys to get excited for you. I think a guy who’s not attractive will get excited about a 4 or 5 here and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:44 PM
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Idk I don’t think people say that. 30% of men are having zero sex. A significant other amount are having next to no sex. And then another is having to settle for less desirable women (older or less attractive) or women who constantly try and make their lives hell Because Chad and or chaotic crazy guys (drug dealers, terminal partiers, etc) and rich guys are smashing so many girls and so many girls have been conditioned to make being a b$€£€ a primary personality trait while having no patience or…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:21 PM
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There’s simps. There’s plenty of them out there. You guys made it this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:17 PM
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Lmao this is great
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:13 PM
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They all have NPD and ASPD
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:11 PM
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You won the internet today in my eyes with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:10 PM
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Lmao ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:08 PM
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Same. Not anymore. It’s fun to see their lives get worse as mine gets better though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:08 PM
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Sounds like you’re into uninvested chads - I’ve literally never stood up a girl like that. I flake here and there, but as far as I can remember never did that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:07 PM
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I think lots of guys are insecure and have sex anyway. Lots to be insecure about. I’d prolly say at this point maybe 10% of guys at best are ‘secure’ 100% I’m sort of secure but not 100% there yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:05 PM
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I think the k pop explosion has helped. I’ve seen a lot of white girls dating asian guys I’m European descent. But I think it’s the K Pop + White girls valuing high earners a lot + white Anglo and Germanic girls realizing that Asian and Hispanic/Latin girls are pricing them out of the dating market because they age better and are often less high maintenance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:40 PM
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As a European white Male who realizes this is an advantage (but wishes he was 6ft haha) I totally see this play out. I even remember before dating apps girls gushing about me being hot fairly often It does happen but usually after I make a good impression or hold my own in a social interaction with a girl for awhile Point being is the apps have moved the goal post completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:38 PM
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I like a lot of foreign women including immigrants. There’s very little I like about the average US woman, but I would say women have a capability to be whimsical and off beat and joke about weirder things than most men are able to do. And it has a different vibe even when it’s similar. Also some women are still good at the nurturing vibe stuff. Although certainly a minority These days.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:35 AM
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That’s a cool and interesting take. I’d add though it’s pretty exhausting. I work in sales at present. So definitely not dying to talk to people after work. I think if you can find the right activity groups it can be great. But there’s no denying that just chilling alone can often be better than doing all that. But you are missing out on life in many ways and it’s easy to just fall into the habit of spending too much time alone. I’ve flaked to be alone numerous times recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:34 AM
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I think we call it trixie or Stacy or something. The female Chad. Well I mean I was pretty honest about comparing myself to that bad woman stereotype. I think my biggest complaint about modern dating is: A lot of the social fabric is torn. So if you’re not quite “Chad” I feel you often have to seduce a girl really fast to lock down her interest. I would argue being forward was always the way to be (hence the expression ‘someone to sweep my off my feet’) and If I knew sooner I could have avoided …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:29 AM
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This dude is so damn cynical. Like how dare who do activities he enjoys, talk to people , and let connections grow naturally! How awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:01 AM
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Dead on. Dude. How are people disagreeing with you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:59 AM
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I mean I think if you have options, men can be sort of hypergamous too although polyamorous would be more correct. Women can be polyamorous too. But I think men are more content to uh “spin plates” as they say. And women are more content to slash and burn on average It aligns with the genetic reproductive realities we face. I mean it’s not like the 7s I mentioned are crawling over bodies to date me a lot of the time. It’s more like they’ve said stuff like you’re hot or cool or I wish I could sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:50 AM
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Eh tossed you a follow. I’ve rarely seen a guy put in zero effort. Like maybe some European model looking giga Chad with a nice voice in a super drunk club. But usually most guys have to talk to a woman for awhile to open her up. Yeah there’s been times where I’ve smashed a girl like right when I met her. But that’s the exception not the rule. And those are usually not the hotter girls either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:37 AM
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Who said unattractive? I only put any effort into 7/10+ Talking to a girl you don’t know is an exhausting game. Talking to anyone I don’t know is an exhausting game. Talking to some people I do know is an exhausting game. Look if you’re an 8 a girl is gonna give you push back. That’s just how it is. If you can go out and get laid with a decent looking girl while going out solo period you’re pretty decent looking So many negative people on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:32 AM
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I have zero patience for games at this point in my life. I think most women play them here and there because women are more psychological creatures than men inherently. But I just don’t really play along and do my own thing. I will say that I don’t think I’d ever get married in the US because you lose walking away ability under those circumstances. But imo there’s women who will cause trouble every other time you communicate with them and there’s ones who will cause pointless trouble every few m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:05 AM
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Chicago has great economic opportunities. I always laugh at people who say Chicago is expensive. There’s a wealth of fairly good neighborhoods where you can get a BIG studio for under a 1000 sometimes under 900. California big cities are expensive. Miami is expensive. NYC and Boston are expensive. Denver is kind of expensive. Salt Lake City and Austin can be expensive. You get a lot in Chicago. But it really depends what you want. If you want to own a single family home there’s better places for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:58 PM
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Well I mean I’ve dated multiple 8s. So if I wasn’t their match I wouldn’t have been considered attractive by them. I’d say my personality has its flaws, but that’s everyone. I read a lot. I’m well traveled. I’m clever. If I’m not spending a week straight with a girl or she’s not trying to triangulate with other guys, make me jealous, act randomly act super bishy we’re not going to have these problems and tbf I know some 7s I’m good friends with with fantastic personalities that I’d consider dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:55 PM
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This is a good post and actually kind of inspirational. I do decent with girls when I put in the effort. Been good looking but had no game for a long time. Now that I have game I barely go out because I don’t want to play an exhausting game with average not very appealing women on my free time to “maybe have sex with them” while paying for overpriced drinks that are bad for me. But alas I have to respect this PÚA dude’s hustle because he was trying way harder than I usually try.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:49 PM
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Also a lot of time when there are enough feelings the timing , relationships , geography , etc just isn’t right. I’d say a large chunk of my female friends have expressed interests. And while none are my “dream girl” there were times where I thought it would be cool if it could happen. But the timing is just usually wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:48 PM
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Aside from taxes , the south isn’t really much cheaper than Chicago. Atlanta, Tampa, Dallas, etc all comparably expensive to Chicago or worse. And you cant forgo a car in any of those places. You can definitely get a decent condo in many parts of Chicago for a reasonable price with reasonable HOA
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:44 PM
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Don’t necesarilly agree with the communist ideas although unregulated capitalism with no anti trust enforcement is an issue But this is a damn good post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:40 PM
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Those are very old statistics that encompass a much older population. I know tons of girls with 30-100+ partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:32 PM
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Is lower middle class after finally getting a white collar job (always competing with women for it) Is well above average looking. Usually fit and well dressed and clean. And still finds modern dating awful. I’ve been dating a woman older than me for close to two years. She’s fairly attractive and chill but I know it has no future I think that’s what it comes down to. Men that aren’t incels even feel they’ve had the prospect of organically falling for a cool girl who’s their relative look and vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:31 PM
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Yeah this is good advice. But I’d also say being in the party crowd is. A: expensive generally. B: puts your around bad quality people in large part. C: Takes a lot of energy and isn’t for everyone. The average guy who doesn’t want to live that life style and just wants a quiet chilled relationship with his look-match is going to be in a more annoying situation than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:41 PM
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Screw then. Stay strong. And Don’t Vote Democrat.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 10:52 PM
1

I dated a woman in HR and staffing. Dated for quite some time on and off before I got fully redpilled. A monster.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 09:27 PM
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Im Not Chad. Just attractive. And i still get laid on first dates pretty frequently. It still can be tense even if you’re attractive and not Chad. I imagine Chad has some nail biters with very attractive women too sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:25 PM
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Idk. I’m an adventurous guy. There’s not enough adventurous good looking stable guys for successful families to exist. And being adventurous generally leads to adventuring over to another woman at some point. The boring stable guy who worked hard held society together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:15 PM
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Uh what lol? Yeah it’s tricky to shake a chip off your shoulder even if it’s the wise thing to do so. I keep it undercover in most of my friendships and relationships. And my mask is stronger than ever. It’s probably weaker on social media than real life at this point a lot of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:21 PM
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Lmao there is some truth to this. They’ll think that…….. but there’s the pain of it never happening. And i know late forties women like this and early fifties n
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:18 PM
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Edit: Curious: why the downvotes? Is it because I sound arrogant and insinuate that some girls on the spectrum are trouble? I never have major problems with people I’ve slept with. I just pull away. Am emotionally distant. Focus on physical things. I’m a very facially good looking guy. If I was taller I’d be Chad. But I’m not. So it doesn’t really matter much once I’m dating a girl. They’re usually pretty amenable unless they’re totally gamey game lighting manipulative girls which I don’t have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:17 PM
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Hmmm tricky to answer. I’m not sure if my current LTR is neurotypical or not. She’s not born in the US so hard to parse. She’s definitely not brilliant or analytical or anything. But she’s chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:30 AM
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I really have to do it more - I do think if brad Pitt was awkward he could still get shot down a decent bit. I think if I really took some rejections in stride I’d get real good at it myself. I guess it’s just not my idea of fun on a day off getting owned by multiple random women when apps and bars work decently for me But I feel it would be a much better time investment. Easier to vet girls than apps and better quality than bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:29 AM
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Yeah it is boring. I’m not on the bench. When I put myself out there I do fine. But…..I think you’re way of looking at things is cynical. I think it was a good recipe for a relationship - mr decent looking golden retriever goodey two shoes dated his female equal. They have a family. Everyone’s mostly pretty satisfied. Remove that and you have an excitement arms race. You can win it with money and life style. You can win it with being an asshole. But just being a caring low key human being doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:26 AM
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I think that’s good and there’s truth to it but I also know a lot of women who just kept waiting and waiting. Chasing and chasing. Some I never had strong feelings for and some I didn’t but I saw their broken way of thinking and it never changed. And if you don’t change the patterns will repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:23 AM
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The key is they need to pick or needed to pick someone who was a really cool guy who had a lot going for them and a future but simped a little bit for them. Was a little too into them. That was the guy. And they passed him up. Yeah, I get it the guy who puts himself first is more attractive but your odds of getting him to stop putting himself first or even slowing him down so he stays aren’t great.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:21 AM
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Ive considered that. Haven’t really tried to go deep and see if it’s true or not. But autists have certainly contributed a lot. Tesla and Newton weren’t exactly knee deep in the P lmao but now people act like they’re “cool” Same for Einstein. I’m not really in the same genre as them nor have I done anything meaningful really. But you can’t deny what they did and you can’t did dent public ambivalence in their time especially for the first two 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:18 AM
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I like this line of thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:02 AM
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Approach every woman in a trendy bar and have some game and you’ll usually succeed at least once a night. That’s for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:01 AM
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I have both. ADHD did immense damage to my career prospects but both did damage. I’m finally starting to recover though and I think I’ll make it “sort of”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:53 AM
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On the spectrum. Can lie exceptionally well. There’s a few things I have moral hang ups with (selling a product that’s expensive to someone if I don’t believe the product is worth it) (Coercing someone to sleep with me if I don’t think I’m semi serious about dating them) But once I get tipsy those reservations go by the wayside. I feel for me there’s an overlap between the dark triad aspects and the spectrum stuff. Truth is though I mostly get nepotistic offers from women not men though. But yes…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:52 AM
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I started very low and got to well above average social skills in certain situations (still awkward in others. It’s an uneven distribution) got to stick with it and find a niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:45 AM
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8/10 and decent masker. It still sucks. Lots of energy to connect with people who you think suck for the most part. Wanting to somehow become full on Chad so you can stop spending energy on these people and just be thrown attention for doing as little as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:42 AM
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I partially disagree. But I think it depends on the Individual. I think a lot of girls have wacky senses of humor and once you’ve slept with them it’s easy to coast off that if you have good in jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:30 AM
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ADHD and Asperger’s myself. I can keep my relationships but i feel like no one is enough. I want to be Chad so I can easily be excited and escape no one really understanding me and me not really feeling aligned with them but it’s just too much work even though my game is decent. So I just see the people I see while wanting more. Both superficial and deeper
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:29 AM
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Hmmm I’m a guy and I get the feeling I’m better at masking than you. I find relationships easier than friendships though because you can distract with little touches and pet named and being dominant and crap - while you can’t do any of that with a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:27 AM
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Great post. As someone who also adapted, It’s hard to ever get the chip off your shoulder even if you date decently and do decently at work now. You just can’t help but sort of hate NTs and you also sort of hate the Autists that couldn’t adapt. It’s like there’s no place for you really.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:24 AM
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Edit: curious. Why the downvotes? Is it because I sounded like I was bragging and putting down certain women I’ve dated? This is a good post. But I’ll add I’m on the spectrum and have been dating a girl in a relationship that is open for me for over two years. She flies out to see me since I’ve moved. Buys me gifts and I have a body count of over twenty But……….I’m good looking (but only around 5’10) and I definitely get rejected a lot. But oddly enough probably more by men And plenty of girls ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:09 AM
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That blows man. I’m 5’9 and I’ve been with like 20 girls. I’d say a lot weren’t exactly hot but nothing hideous for the most part lol. But then those 2 inches matter and I’m white with a South African accent in the US. I definitely fantasize a fair bit about being 6ft+ and wonder if I could get away with lifts. I guess what really gets me is……while I can definitely pull girls………they’re almost all shallow and mercurial at first (post sex they became a lot less bad) it just never feels worth the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:01 AM
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I mean a butter face with a cool personality and a good body that’s good in bed. Pretty easy to end up dating her sometimes over a girl with a pretty face an annoying personality and no body.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:50 AM
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That’s not exactly the concept. It’s more that a lot of younger woman chase guys who aren’t into them or screw up relationships with guys who were great for them. And then as they get older both options start to fade. The youthful great match and the badass unavailable guy. Both have turned their attention elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:48 PM
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Ive hundred percent seen it. I date a lot of older women for fun. I’m not settling down with them. But they’re longing very hard for something they’ll likely never have.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:45 PM
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It has gotten easier though …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:36 PM
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Most could literally work in the service industry and have roommates. A lot of them do sex work because they want a more luxurious life style or are drug addicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 06:20 PM
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This is so true. I’ve been in an LTR I’ve kept open and it Can costs my hundreds of a month. It’s very hard to avoid it without being a dick. Especially because I moved and she’s visiting me now. So I want to be nice when she’s hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 08:10 PM
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Depends. In a bar not really. It’s very draining in a public space though. Warm approaches if you get into a habit of it are good. Trouble is you have to be on your A game grooming and health wise a lot to really have confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:50 PM
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What….. unless your face sucks you could easily get with 8/10 women. I’m not exactly the master of the game and I Can gets 7s and an occasional 8 and I’m like 5’9 and broke. And sometimes I eat like shit and don’t work out. (Although typically when I get new girls im in pretty good shape) I think you must be doing something else wrong. Not saying it isn’t hard out there and getting harder. But that’s my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:45 PM
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This added nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:47 PM
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That’s a good observation. Can definitely be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:44 PM
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Exactly. Being empathetic to men’s issues doesn’t serve women. The current social imperative women have isn’t compatible for the most part with everything women on average want. Yes you have some women who wish they could have more kids and stay at home. Many perhaps. But they too don’t really want to compromise. In short women don’t want to take men’s issues seriously because doing so would hamper their own privileges. And it also goes against their attraction and mating biological hardwiring. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:55 PM
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Empathetic. Kind. Takes care of appearance. Wants to build a future. Doesn’t constantly try to monkey branch. Doesn’t lie a bunch. Hasn’t slept with a boat load of people. Is well spoken and doesn’t curse like a sailor. No huge daddy issues. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:19 PM
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Not exactly. Jordan Peterson and so forth wouldn’t vouch for that. I feel redpill is choose your own adventure for men and states that experienced men are more attractive to women. Which is generally true. They don’t need to talk about. They shouldn’t. They just need to carry themselves and move about like someone who is. I’d imagine though a lot of women might have a fantasy themselves though of a handsome guy who’s a virgin but moves like he has tons of experience and they have great sex. Does…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:14 PM
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My mom’s pretty cool. Our relationship improved and she buys into large parts of the redpill herself after seeing enough evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:10 PM
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Unattractive men aren’t being benched, although many have lost out on getting a 3 out of 10 or 4 out of ten or 5 out of ten gf. 8/10 and 7/10 guys who are good natured are being benched by complete A holes and 9s and 10 out of ten guys who have no reason to commit to most girls. Even those guys when good natured frequently gets benched for ass holes and get their heart broken. But generally speaking the issue is that most guys even good looking ones have much more trouble finding their Equal tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:14 PM
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Id argue though that’s why it’s healthy when people date their look match. Which current dating dynamics have disrupted. I’m dating a cool cute girl who’s significantly older than me. But I date because she’s chill and fun. But I know it will have to end sooner or later. Which is depressing. This and other cases I’ve observed are some of the many examples of the market mostly being off balance. I would say the guys who are competent have more “game” and “emotion reading skills” than prior genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:09 PM
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I think the difference is most of get better at dating and get better options at a certain point and the opposite happens with women around the same period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:09 PM
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Guys generally aren’t turned on by a woman being “confident” tends to mean stuck in her ways a ball buster dramatic etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:07 PM
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I think men totally want to settle down with a girl they really like in their youth. More than women usually. They Just get their dream smashed and heart broke usually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:06 PM
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Hang tough man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:13 AM
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You need to talk to your family members. Redpill them and don’t let them flail about and lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:58 AM
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We appreciate it. Some of the RP guys go off the rails, but it’s so weird being literally gaslit by so many women when things are really obvious most of the time. We appreciate the acknowledgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:24 AM
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The hypocritical ness of your posts is alarming. Imagine if you tried being nice to basically almost EVERYONE including people you really wanted in your life and as a reward they pissed on your threw you into a ditch and left you for dead repeatedly after saying tons of nice things. And this happened repeatedly. Imagine you weren’t sexually aggressive because you wanted to be respectful like your mother and society taught you Then boom…..you fall into utter despair want to die wonder why no one …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:15 AM
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Redpill for the most part IS common sense. It just became very uncommon with all the brainwashing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:05 AM
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Down town Chicago is actually pretty safe on most nights. Yeah it’s possible to get mugged but the odds are really low. Lower than a good chunk of the neighborhoods. I’d argue downtown San Francisco is worse and downtown Oakland is much worse. Once you get into downtown Cape Town at night, then the mugging odds her high. I think the RPs reach is an interesting subject. I’d say I’ve had plenty of good experiences with women. But more bad ones. And definitely good experiences that ended badly. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:44 AM
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I’m a middle person and I hate it. All the hot girls for the most part are always out and about and while I have decent enough social skills (and very good social skills one on one) it’s exhausting to try and keep up with that life style. The amount of competition and narcissism in younger even decently attractive women is insane, as is the amount of attention they get via social media , apps, etc. If you want to have a serious relationship with a pretty smart girl who’s interesting and non narc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:20 AM
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I’d advise if you’re autistic to modify your thinking to be able to think similarly to a non autist. It’s not an excuse. It can definitely be done and will expand you as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 08:51 PM
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Very good post. Deserves more upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 03:12 AM
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I really agree. That’s my feeling about sex too. I keep wanting the sex that really drives me crazy. But hasn’t happened yet.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/22 06:55 PM
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The virginity rates say otherwise imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:36 PM
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I see a good bit of feminism in South Africa and Brazil. But those are strange countries that straddle the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:27 PM
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It takes a prerequisite level of game to pick up on it. It’s also worth noting that women are really really fickle. This can’t be understated at all. And I’ve dated plenty of women and had tons of relationships. The degree of fickleness in men and women can’t even really be compared. Women can go from love to hate to indifference to attraction very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:18 AM
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I’ve dated girls in that tier here and there. Most of them were awful to date. Facially I’m in the same league as a lot of them. But I’m average height so holds me back. My luck with women isn’t terrible. Just frustratingly inconsistent. I keep getting better. But I wish I could have had that definitive relationship or whatever that I never really had. You know the relatively stable one with someone I’m really into.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:13 AM
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I’d say most IG “models” are fairly normal women. They just take tons of pictures of themselves from angles and edit them and wear next to no clothes. They’re just random girls mostly and wouldn’t make it as “models”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:50 AM
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I would say male friends that you’re very right with who are doing decent in life tend to be a fair bit more consistent than female friends. But that’s hit or miss too if we’re being honest. I’ve had women do lots of favors for me some I barely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:57 PM
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Yeah introverted women are hard to find sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:54 PM
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I think porn is bad. But it’s by no means the solitary cause of the current gender problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 02:34 PM
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I think it does adversely effect you with women in many ways. But relationships still are much more difficult than they used to be for many of not most guys and getting off porn will still throw you into a jungle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 02:30 PM
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As someone who knows a lot of women like that most of them tend to make horrible relationships decisions. Sabotage a lot and end up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:50 PM
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When I was was younger and fresh out of university, women were constantly favored in the job market and workplace. And could get away with crazy things. It tools years of self work and learning subterfuge in the workplace + remote work while doing crap jobs to get my career on track.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:46 AM
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Id say beta buxxing is the act of spending money with emotions involved. With no emotions it’s just transactional. That would be something else. Although how much transaction is okay is debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:09 AM
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Brilliant breakdown
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:03 AM
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I was already quite a good first date and so forth before I looked at any of that stuff. I think it just gave me better insight into why certain relationships went south when I wanted to maintain them. It also made me bolder again and encouraged me not to look at porn and to eat better. I'd always been into fitness, but I wasn't doing it so much for myself as I was for other people. I started to realize how important the chemical interplay was. I DO NOT think a lot of aspects of the Red Pill are…
/r/ExRedPill26/02/21 04:53 PM
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I personally improved drastically with women from first pick up stuff and then redpill stuff, but the deal is I don't have any real hostility towards women. A lot of my best friends are women, probably most. But...as they say...I hold frame with them. I don't compromise myself and who I am much...if at all in the relationship. ​ Conversely, all my failed romantic relationships involve me losing myself to someone else, losing what initially made me attractive. ​ I think a lot of women can be fick…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/21 04:54 PM
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