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–	Share my goals and wanted some advice from men who are at the “next level” of their lives My advice would be to not neglect friendships and an active social life in pursuit of financial goals. This isn’t to say that securing your financial position isn’t a solid idea but, especially as you get older, isolation becomes a real issue. Building wealth and professional success AND having a strong social group, ringfenced by sound and deliberate morals and ethics, will serve you well as you grow. I’ve worked with a ton of men who started like you and come to me in their 40s or 50s wishing …	/r/MenSupportMen	09/10/24 02:40 PM
1	Getting Called ‘Beta’ as a New Dad—How Do I Stay Confident for My Daughter? People who call other men these types of names are insecure and hurting. They have chosen to pull others down rather than raise others up. As difficult as it may be, do your best to ignore them and move past them. I'm curious: under what circumstances are they calling you this? The other thing to remember is that the opposite of a pushover, people pleaser, or nice guy (not to suggest you are, but many are) is not to be an asshole but rather to be strong and assertive. One can (and I believe shou…	/r/MenSupportMen	06/10/24 08:02 PM
1	I [ 26M] don't want to be the nice guy no more It’s important to note that the opposite of a ‘nice guy’ isn’t being an asshole. It’s being an assertive, confident man. This is what is attractive and builds confidence. Don’t sacrifice being kind and compassionate. My office is full of men who lived life as a ‘nice guy’ and it blew up in their faces. No one is happy when the men in their world just work to keep others ‘happy’ at their own expense.	/r/MenSupportMen	01/10/24 07:46 PM
2	I [ 26M] don't want to be the nice guy no more This course is HIGHLY recommended. https://www.manuncivilized.com/killtheniceguy	/r/MenSupportMen	01/10/24 07:44 PM
3	Any resources for my friend's husband? As a younger woman I feel like I don't know how to help Start with calling 988. It is a line designed specifically for these issues. They will be able to help and offer resources. You can call to get support or share the number with your friend.	/r/MenSupportMen	24/09/24 04:47 PM
7	How do you get more attention in bed There is a lot that can be happening here and be mindful of anyone who suggests a quick fix. I'm a therapist, so I deal with this stuff all the time. Sex in marriage, generally speaking, is a byproduct of the level of safety, security, intimacy, and connection the two people feel. Good engaged sex follows a strong relationship; it doesn't make the relationship itself great. My suggestion would be to speak with a couple's therapist or read books by Dr. Sue Johnson on how to communicate your emoti…	/r/MenSupportMen	24/09/24 09:30 AM
2	Read the comments on this post and tell me size doesn’t matter Find a group of men who will build you up, and surround yourself with the kind of people that actually want you to win! And yes, therapy from a masculinity-informed therapist will work too. There are also many other ways to build confidence that will help raise the overall water level of your self satisfaction. Check these guys out: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation Disclosure: I work with this group but that is not my affiliate link. Disclosure: I am a masculinity-centred therapist in On…	/r/MenSupportMen	03/08/24 01:31 PM

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