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1

I have too many left feet, so can't dance. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:45 PM
2

When you lose the forced interaction of school (if your friend circles and whatnot were/are mixed gender) and you're not naturally very social, it gets tricky. Maybe they just have learned helplessness from that. As a a STEM-related guy, I can see the effects not naturally being near a lot of similar-aged women can have on perceived effort of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 05:08 PM
1

Lol! Imagine getting twenty of those in your inbox...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:47 PM
1

It's easy, but is it the truth? It's hard to argue, but when it comes to OLD, things raise a more spockian eyebrow to me for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:30 PM
2

Yeah the dating market probably lends itself to quite a lot of opportunism. Not to sound cynical, but "if it's too good to be true", well, you know the rest. Luckily, I have little relationship experience, so I suppose I avoided a lot of the scammers of the dating world de facto.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:52 PM
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It's not the most obvious thought in the world unless you're exposed to stats about gender ratios active on OLD already. It's not like the dating apps tell you up front that there's more guys than girls online, unless I'm missing something. If it's because men are perceived as the thirstier sex, I'm guessing there could be a bit of a statistical skew there, but the ratios reported range from 2:1 to 9:1 guys/girls active on OLD - is thirst really the main variable at play here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:43 PM
1

It's over 9000!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:25 PM
1

I think it's creepy depending on whom is approaching whom, and what boundaries each person has going into it. I don't think it's inherently creepy, but it could be seen as a yellow flag without knowing the details. I still think it's likely destined to fail in the mid/long term because of the life incompatibility factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:48 PM
1

I've gotten better at not getting crushes (helps that I don't socialize much anymore, lol). I don't think I ever actually told a crush I had a crush (as a guy); I just let the crush parade around my head, but never came to something actionable, except maybe in grade 3 when I wrote a girl a like letter (the less lame version of a love letter, lol). I wonder if not developing crushes, or not developing strong crushes is not a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:44 PM
7

HS grad vs. college grad. Yeah some kids try and can pull it off, but it's one of those boundary cases because one is going into more school, the other the work force in the mid/long term. In that case, it's not the age gap so much as shaky timing. It's not really a creepy situation, but does feel destined to failure and short-livedness because of that full-time school vs. full-time work scenario creeping up on the 18 and 22 year olds respectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:29 PM
1

Depends on the games being played. The line between nerddom and not is redrawn on a daily/weekly/monthly basis, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:17 PM
2

Some men at least, yes. It's hard to say if it's a widespread thing without considering demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:14 PM
3

It's a delicious concoction of concentrate, preservatives, and sugar. ...or is that sunny delight? Ah well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:47 PM
2

Is the first one the secret message of Goldmember?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:31 PM
3

Chonks McChonkerston is having a ball! Yay!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:39 PM
1

swallow the blue pill How'd it taste?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:29 PM
2

I don't know, crushes/infatuation and lust seem related, but still slightly different. Maybe I imagined a dividing line between the two, but crushes/infatuation seem more innocent (but still passionate), and lust more...carnal I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:31 PM
1

I guess so, since experience can have a jading effect. Do you think people who are neurotic experience more extreme levels of crush-dom or lack thereof?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:37 PM
1

Has anyone never had or lost the ability to have crushes/infatuation periods/etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:32 PM
2

Not even the gourmet stuff? Double cheese? Triples cheese?! :(
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 01:30 AM
5

As a guy, I've dealt with generalized anxiety (social anxiety, too) which has made it hard for me to be social irl, so I guess they wouldn't be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:37 AM
5

What about England?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:13 AM
17

Maybe not so much the sexual aspect for me (not that I'm succeeding in that way), but in any case: sometimes I think there's no point talking about it with people too much, because really, what can they do/say? It seems like a non-issue generally, when I think about it. Yeah, so I'm lacking in romantic experience -- it's not like that's anything new. It's been the norm basically my whole life. What exactly am I looking for from people? Maybe it's just to be heard, even if no one hears, lol. Airi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 12:50 AM
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Looks like the video is unavailable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 12:38 AM
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Personal growth? Maybe. Being inexperienced that way, I can't know for sure. I know I've grown in other ways, just not in terms of romantic relationships. I guess that if you find the right person, you'd grow together, but that sounds too cinematic for me sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 12:37 AM
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"Oh wow, yeah I think I've heard of it before. Sounds pretty Alpha, tell me more" "That's gold, Jerry! Gold!"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:50 PM
2

Is caring about wanting a girl with a compatible lack of experience slut-shaming?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:15 AM
1

What if you're a plain-looking (like 5/10) guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:07 PM
1

Do you mean that more in a general sense, like even with customer service people?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 04:48 PM
1

Do you think being assertive gets misunderstood as aggression? I guess the context would be someone asking for your email at a store, but saying you'd rather not give it, but not in a mean/aggressive way (or at least not intended to sound aggressive).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 03:51 PM
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I just found it weird that she kept insisting to use my phone, even though I said it was out of juice. Like she didn't believe me, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:27 PM
1

To be polite, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:15 PM
2

About ~6 years ago at a concert, a girl wanted to use my cell to find her friends -- apparently she couldn't find them. I said my phone's battery was completely out of juice (it actually was -- I overestimated how long it could go, lol). She didn't seem to believe me, and asked me a couple of more times, then asked "are you sure?" I said yeah, she said "okay", then she walked away. What should I have done?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 09:57 PM
1

Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 08:57 PM
2

I never thought to compliment a girl on her clothes, or looks, even if I found them cute/pretty. To be fair, I was too shy to compliment them on much really, unless they were friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:57 PM
2

I ate a skittles, then pooped a rainbow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 01:24 PM
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I've had girls who seemed to be signalling interest, but...I could've been wrong, lol. Which is why I didn't act on them. I'd only react if a girl basically took direct initiative, which was rare, and only really happened in hs/college.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:36 PM
3

I looked like a shoe. It's been uphill since then...that's what I tell myself anyways, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:30 PM
3

Stubblemaxxing!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:46 PM
1

Yeah I could see that. I guess a related question could be, are unattractive people who have friends treated 'lesser' than their friends' other friends? Or conversely, are these friendships more likely to be pity friendships?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:04 PM
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If the introvert isn't otherwise asocial or neurotic, they're probably okay. Life selects for being social, and below a certain line if you're not, you're probably going to struggle with dating/relationships and making friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:44 PM
2

Kinda weird question, but one I'd stumbled upon before in various places: do you think someone can be too unattractive to have friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:40 PM
2

I think the disorder part comes not in experiencing anxiety, anger, sadness, etc. occasionally, but when you start experiencing those emotions constantly, or rapidly switch between emotions (with or without known triggers), that the disorder presents itself. Situationally, those emotions aren't good either, but they're limited in time and potency. But with disorders, time and potency are maxed out over periods of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:48 PM
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Cool, cool. I've had more social software dev. jobs before, but I seemed to have taken to the less social one more, lol. As an aside, despite the stereotypes that programmer guys get (which I do have a cross-section of), I don't think I come across as too programmer-y in general. As I said, just young-ish looking with a quiet disposition. Because of all that, and being a less social and neurotic/anxious/awkward type of guy, I rarely meet women who aren't customer service.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 02:11 PM
2

I'm not a very social person, so a lot of the work of dealing with it is dealt with, lol. My job is pretty solitary (software developer), too. And, when the stars align perfectly -- not horrible-looking stubble, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:54 PM
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As a guy, I peaked early, and ended up 5'8. My emotional issues (neuroticism; anxiety, awkwardness, moodiness) were probably a bigger factor than my appearance, but I wasn't exactly a good looking kid either. I've also been mistaken for being college-age, even less, and I've been out of college for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:41 PM
3

What would give the kids the best likely living situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:31 PM
2

What if a guy notices behavior that seems different from a girl, that seems like a hint, but decides not to because he doesn't know for sure if it's a hint or not? Is this a soft rejection? A schrodinger's soft rejection? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:29 PM
1

Yeah. When I was in hs/college, a couple of the girls who seemed interested/crushed on me fit that mold, more easy-going (outgoing or quiet) yet relatively-proactive. Now that I'm quite a bit older than that, it's harder for someone like me to find women like that. I'm relatively hermetic nowadays, so it makes that much more complex, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:25 PM
1

I think the moodiness is tied to anxiety for some reason, so when anxiety is low, I'm moderately less moody, lol. But yeah, I've done some self-reflection and stuff, so I'm a bit better than I used to be. I used to be a lot more shy, flaky (with friendships), etc. I still like routine, and a lot of quiet time. A girl would have to likely be understanding on the introversion thing, which I know makes things more complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:22 PM
2

I don't think I'd make a good bf. I'm too emotionally unavailable in the sense of being preoccupied with mood problems, being quiet, doing things a certain way in a set routine, etc. Although I like the idea of a gf, and sometimes it hurts to think I'll likely never find a gf, I also think I'd just be too neurotic to make it last. I'd end up being standoffish, inconsistent, moody, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:09 PM
6

Virginity shouldn't matter much. It's just a lack of sex. I get the impression though that it matters much more in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:02 AM
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When did virginity become such a dirty little secret? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:09 AM
4

Just delicious, delicious gruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:43 PM
1

Yeah, I found her cute, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:13 PM
3

Years ago, back in college, I took a children's literature class as a gen. ed. elective. I had to write a short kid's book as the final assignment, then present it to the class. After class ended, this girl who I'd never seen before (I wasn't very social in this class, and frankly, don't remember her presenting) came up to me and started flipping through it. She said she liked my drawing, and then I complimented her's too. In my awkward manner, I didn't say much else and quickly left for lunch. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:52 PM
3

As someone who's both not too social and an anxious/awkward guy, I speak from experience lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:11 AM
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Anything that causes one to be less social or too unrelateable is going to present a big problem for dating/relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:52 AM
2

I pull a groucho marx, so the best ratio is the one where I'm left out, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:43 AM
1

Seems like an incompatibility, imv. As an inexperienced guy, a very experienced girl and I would likely be at odds in some way. Like we experienced life in too different ways to be able to bridge the gap. Could be wrong though. I'd imagine people have made it work. Is it something an inexperienced guy should look out for?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:01 PM
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Yeah, serial monogamy is probably just an effect, not a cause. Still don't think guys don't want monogamy, but perhaps it's a matter of demographics. More variable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:56 PM
1

OLD is online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:19 PM
3

Do you think taking too long to respond (1/2 a day to a day or two) to people on OLD makes them lose interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:04 PM
5

Most men probably prefer it, especially ones that come from conservative-ish backgrounds. Lifelong monogamy or serial monogamy would be the more interesting distinction, imv.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:58 PM
4

Most guys being relationship-less. That's clearly some sort of manospheric hyperbole, or a miscommunication, because lots of guys have an so. Plenty don't, but most guys aren't lacking in that way. Strangely though, I worked at a place years back where most of the guys (including me) were not in relationships. That was an exceptional situation, however, due to the nature of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:34 PM
1

I'd rather self-reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 08:57 PM
1

Captain Morgan taught me that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 12:49 AM
4

a penguin. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 12:38 AM
2

Matey.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 12:30 AM
2

I thought I saw beetlejuice, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:26 PM
3

Because rejection stings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:31 AM
2

Seems accurate about that time. As a guy who came of age in the 2000s, even as an awkward anxious mess, I still had a handful of girls interested in me ( through friend groups in school and a couple of lucky coindences). But proximity doesn't save everyone unfortunately, and I still ended up alone because of being an awkward anxious mess, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:50 PM
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Guys can wear makeup, but it's not socially approved, unless you're on tv or a literal clown (lol). Maybe beard? Don't know about stubble, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:36 PM
1

Not fictional, just not the only trend happening. It's likely the more popular trend than the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:54 PM
2

I believe charisma was an old wooden ship... But seriously, not even charisma, just some sort of relateability.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 03:29 AM
2

Why incel and not just a regular guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 03:28 AM
1

:(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:02 AM
3

Isn't a pickme man equiv. to a 'simp' or something like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 10:19 PM
2

Seems like forums would be more difficult to find relationships on more than OLD or irl. I'm biased though, I suck at dating in general, lol. I've also never tried to date/find a relationship through a forum, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:58 PM
1

I'd rather be a magnet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:12 PM
2

Do you think guys with certain appearances/demeanors give off an approachable but doormat-ish vibe?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:09 PM
1

Sort of the converse: I'm a little-experienced guy, but I never put women on a pedestal so much as I was just generally neurotic with everyone really, which made me standoff-ish -- a different problem altogether than pedestalizing. Still, I think women were bolder with me because I come off as approachable, and I now suspect that might mean I was giving off doormat-ish vibes. I think it was much more prevalent when I was in high school and college, though. This is both in a general context than …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:00 PM
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Maybe. Perhaps he became completely contented with his singledom, whereas before, he was more on the fence?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:39 PM
2

In some ways, I wouldn't be surprised if I was, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:06 PM
3

Polygons.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:39 PM
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Maybe it's a demographic thing. But clearly these guys either forget they were exposed to or were never exposed to girls who were not so wonderful. On the other hand, ime as a guy, women have been kinder/sweeter than guys on average, so...I don't know, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:21 AM
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Maybe they couldn't find the quirky kids. Or, what I suspect, they weren't the right kinds of quirky. But yeah the internet makes it easier to silo yourself from the messy outside world (and the internet is pretty messy as it is!). Awkward asocialites (somewhat like myself, to be fair) are now visible, and are another spectacle among interwebs spectacles sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:08 AM
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I...I should STEMmaxx!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:18 PM
2

In reality, most guys just find women to date through their social/friend groups. Maybe less of that is happening now because of a plethora of factors, but 'woman-as-reward' seems more trope-ic than generally realistic. Some people internalized that message, sure, and thought that's how women are to be approached: as some distant, unattainable holy grail you must undergo the hero's journey for. I don't think it's a widespread problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:01 PM
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How many guys actually think of women as a 'reward' for their tempestuous past? It sounds more like a movie cliche/trope.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:38 PM
1

I might add, I don't think hypergamy is common in the way it's portrayed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 09:46 PM
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Maybe not, but no one wants to be a stepping stone for the purposes of hypergamy maximization.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 09:41 PM
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An emotional bond, or the more extreme version, a mutual crush. There's little awkwardness, and things "flow". I've rarely experienced this, but being prone to neuroticism, it probably makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 08:41 PM
1

Being cheesy is not being creepy. Being creepy is creating a sense of unease, usually tied with the way someone's acting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:35 PM
1

As a millennial guy, I think I put in effort, but misdirected and weak effort. Like, my effort seemed to make me just end up being a penpal/talkmate on OLD. The few dates I got were not enjoyable, for me nor the girl. I never asked a girl out irl because of anxiety and awkwardness, so no effort was really put there but in dealing with social anxiety, lol. I "gave up" dating four years ago and just live in relative hermitude. I don't advise other guys do what I did, but I feel it's better this wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:05 PM
3

You may have just summoned a hoard of misc lads...it might get spoopy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:39 PM
1

Liked the cheers intro/theme song, but barely watched the show, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:38 PM
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It's how they steal all them pic-i-nic baskets.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:47 PM
1

I can't bare it...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:46 PM
2

I think what I was getting at is that a guy's weight loss may still be vetoed by being perceived in a certain personality-unattractive light if the personality didn't change. There are probably exceptions, of course. Some social groups will pardon awkwardness/timidity, too. But acting in certain awkward ways in general irl might be less endearing and color one's perception, despite physical changes. This is coming from someone who's struggled with awkwardness, and only realized that in hindsight…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:58 PM
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People just treat attractive people better. Women give more chances to guys who are more attractive. Maybe. Question is, how much attractiveness will big weight loss grant in isolation? Each person is different. I'm not saying they won't gain any attractiveness points or not, but more it might be a bit more complicated than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:32 PM
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I'm guessing he didn't change anything else about himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:31 PM
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Imagine a guy who lost a lot of weight but still walks around with slumped shoulders, stares at his feet, acted generally awkward, etc. Do you think this guy would get a noticeably better reception attractiveness-wise irl then where he was pre-weight loss?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:02 PM
3

A penguin!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:41 PM
1

The more the meme-ier!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:36 PM
1

Women are generally kind and altruistic except for when it comes to people who are less than fortunate when it comes to sexual and relationship success. As a guy, I think it's not the people who are lacking in success who aren't treated nicely so much as women get angry at those who are unsuccessful and dealing with it in nonconstructive/angry/bitter ways, and seem stuck in these ways. I think this is almost completely an online thing, because I doubt many guys talk about their lack of success i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 01:59 PM
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Right. Do you think the average man dating/in a relationship carries all of these qualities like being social, witty, compotent-at-job, decisive, etc.? If not, does this mean a lot of guys are not the ideal partners of women, in terms of these qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:36 PM
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I don't think being a jerk is a good strategy. I just don't know how women gauge self-possession, self-assurance, etc. Compotence might be obvious, but that sometimes might not be the case either. What does self-possession and self-assurance look like in the ideal woman's partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:17 PM
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What is this subreddit about anyway? Relationship dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:17 PM
1

Stats/evidence/studies can be misleading or misused, especially in heated debates where everyone's trying to prove a point. Stats based on surveys are subject to a lot of confounding variables and probably aren't always the most reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:55 PM
3

In dogs days/years, close.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:47 PM
2

Do people generally see comfortable relationships as boring? Are comfort and boredom actually interchangeable when it comes to these relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:19 PM
2

idontbelieveyou.gif
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:14 PM
5

Because firefighters use a hose to put out fires.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:11 PM
1

Oh... sad trombone
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:08 PM
3

Where's the chip 'n dip post-purge party?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:36 PM
2

It's like the digital grand pooba of fecal matter had a giant diarrhea-ridden bowel movement. Now the scent permeates the nostrils forever. Okay, maybe until tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:26 PM
2

You might be right. I'll admit, the edginess got a little too edgy beyond the obvious offenders, especially yesterday. I found the more meta threads funnier than the edgy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:52 PM
2

Believe whats in your heart. points to chest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:07 PM
2

I learned a new word -- cap. Still don't know what it means, but I'll just blame it on being a millennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:07 PM
1

I think a lot of it is shitposting (edge is gonna edge), but some do seem to be really bitter and on a warpath.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:07 PM
1

Do you feel a sense of hollowness deep within your chest after what has transpired? The memes just couldn't fill the void...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:03 PM
2

Mirrors shatter when I look into them. I know the answer... Seriously though, I'm not attractive. Who knows how unattractive, but unattractive nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:31 PM
2

:(
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:09 PM
8

The Tick is hard to beat, though...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:53 PM
1

Arm wrestling, but for fish, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:13 PM
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I think it's more interpersonal awkwardness, lack of exposure to girls, etc. They might be in uni programs that have less girls in them, like cs or math, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:45 PM
2

Don't know, the seals were otherwise located for some reason. Also, I fin-wrestled a polar bear. I won because I called him an incel and he cried in bear language.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:08 PM
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They look like regular college kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:54 PM
6

My antarctic brethren and I belly slid through the plains today. Much fun was had by all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:08 PM
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That's just, like, your opinion man!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:35 PM
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Some of them look so sad... :(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 12:55 PM
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No, the Fonz. The Fonz is the bad boy all the girls be pinin' for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:22 AM
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the drive in movie theater buddy If the Fonz can do it, I can too!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:45 PM
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Be like Smithers and get a malibu stacy collection. Stacies galore!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:40 PM
1

When it rains, it pours.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:32 PM
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Does no one think about us millennials?! cries
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:11 PM
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As a guy with little relationship experience (close to none), I don't complain about women. I'm well aware I've got issues with anxiety, and deal with them in a low-key manner, that makes it harder for me to try to talk with anyone, let alone women irl. I'm not a stud, I'm not super funny, chatty, etc. And I get that that means I'll likely be alone indefinitely, or for a long time. My viewpoint is not begrudging, it's more melancholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:00 PM
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I'm boring. Feels good. It's not that I don't have interests and hobbies, but they're pretty autonomous, and I rarely share anything about them. I don't really enjoy talking about my interests/hobbies either; I'd rather just do them. There were a couple of exceptions. A couple of girls approached me years ago (one with romantic intent, the other...can't say for sure) because of my drawings, and these girls used this an "in" to talk to me. But how interesting could some guy drawing stuff possibly…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:41 PM
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When it rains, it pours.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:46 AM
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Can't help, bro. I applied a facial cleanser, and it seems women are literally clinging to me like a magnet!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:38 AM
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A lot of it is just shitposting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:29 AM
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Needs more walrus.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 09:21 PM
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Sounds like The land before time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 09:19 PM
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I agree. I love working on my 5'' macbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:15 PM
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So this is where all my pocket spaghetti went...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 07:41 PM
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It's too spoopy now...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 07:19 PM
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Things got spoopy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 07:06 PM
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What defines physically harmful? Where do regular assault charges usually draw the line? That's a good starting point. I guess in the absence of that, physically harmful as I phrased it does sound a bit vague.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:23 PM
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I don't think it's automatically assault, but it's not good if they don't listen to you when you tell them not to. If the touching escalates to a physically harmful level, yes, I think that constitutes assault. In the grey area, I'm not sure. It does seem like it should be taken more seriously, anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:18 PM
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Doesn't it depend if the girl perceives you as tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:54 PM
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I...I could be that dork! Interesting, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:20 PM
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Ooops, I said the quiet part loud. Also, not American, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:11 PM
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They should make it more tangy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:56 PM
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It's not a right, no. I suspect there are societal implications if this trend is gaining steam though. And if this trend for men extends past age 30, this means there will be less reproduction, and less reproduction means lower birth rates and so on in the coming years. Look at Japan with their herbivore men and hikikomori situation. I don't know for certain if this trend will continue into a crisis level, but it raises a spockian eyebrow at the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:30 AM
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I'll have you know I commuted to college with style, elegance, grace, etc. ... I actually walked to college for a semester, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 02:52 AM
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The hermitage groweth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:03 AM
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I think the average woman isn't introspecting that deeply about hypothetical persons insecurities, or is even aware that there are guys who have these very particular concerns. Although there's bound to be women who's first choice IS the safe option, too, so it depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 05:51 PM
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I took brotein. My arm muscles don't defy gravity anymore!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:43 PM
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I bought ten years supply of watermelon bubble gum.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:55 PM
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I think she meant it as a joke/tease, now that I think about it, but who knows? I said she was short too afterwards, teasingly, lol. We were friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:55 AM
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Both girls were short, around 5'0. No boots.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:42 AM
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On a date a few years back, a girl said I was tall: I'm 5'8. Further back in time, another girl said I was short. Life's strange like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:34 AM
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I suspect it's a perfect storm of factors creating a declining birth rate, and hypergamy doesn't sway too much of that storm.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 10:14 PM
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Drunk penguins.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:38 PM
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Maybe not many, but enough to get people ticked off online anyways. If these men can't see they're at fault, they won't see that they should accept responsibility, and continue to blame women, or the bluepill, society, the world, etc. -- whatever the convenient scapegoat is for them. How do you convince angry, bitter men that they're the problem -- or at least, a problem -- in their failures in relationships? Million dollar question. There are guys though who just have a lot of bad luck, and "ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:57 PM
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As a guy with little relationship experience, it's hard to believe it does sometimes. Sometimes, you wonder if it's a mirage or an oasis.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 01:42 PM
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The history bot
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 02:23 PM
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Am guy, it would be my preference, mainly because we'd likely be more compatible but I wouldn't doubt if anxiety features in there somewhere. Neuroticism is a messy affair, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:32 PM
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People online see guys who have given up and project them to be all sorts of things. Some of it must be spillover from the incel craze, the nice guy/neckbeard memery, etc., but historically a lot of people don't like to see someone stating outright they're giving up. If the person stating it sounds bitter about their romancelessness, they'll get the storm. If a person doesn't sound bitter, they'll get advice or pity. The ones who filter out quietly are like trees falling in forest, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:11 PM
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Sort of? Maybe laundry list syndrome is an effect exacerbated in the OLD era.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:48 PM
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sad trombone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:47 PM
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Mostly fame. Just like boy bands. Also internet spreads obsession like wildfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:41 PM
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No, not wrong. For someone like me who has little experience, they'd be more compatible imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:05 PM
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Not much, lol. Don't care for my birthdays too much really.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:42 PM
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It reveals that some percentage of women have toxic preferences on OLD (tinder). Pickiness isn't necessarily a toxic thing on OLD in general, but their pickiness may or may not go rewarded. Do most people even meet someone at all on OLD or tinder?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:13 AM
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Tinder selects for a certain kind of person, and isn't representative of women as a whole. All it shows is that there are women who are picky on tinder. Sure, point out the hyprocrisy, but as I said it's not like pickiness doesn't come at it's own cost. These women can be picky, but may not be rewarded; that's the inherent chaos of OLD, especially apps like tinder where a swipe is make-or-break. Also, it's not like all these women are the same ones telling guys to lower their standards or tellin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:25 AM
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Yes, there are women who might be just trying to be nonobjectionable, but I'd see this more happening in like sales, public-facing jobs, etc. where keeping the peace is important. Maybe they gas up their girlfriends and guy friends for confidence boosts, but we don't know if it's just to keep up the appearance of sweetness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:57 PM
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Dehumanization isn't good, regardless. But incels (online, anyways) aren't doing themselves any favors by brandishing borderline-misogynistic memes and humor. I think a lot of these are just misguided young guys, but nonetheless. If they want more creedence, they've got to stop stoking the flames with their edginess. extreme pickiness and hypocrisy of LVW, the same women who chase extremely attractive men with a lot of money and of high status, is pretty common. How often do you see this pickine…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:55 PM
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I'll admit that's a jerk-ish thing to say. Was this online? I know people can really be jerks online, especially. But yeah, jerks exist outside irl, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:48 PM
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Sounds like some isolated bad experiences with women. How were they showing this disrespect?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:54 PM
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For what it's worth, ime women have been nicer/sweeter on average then guys -- not in terms of relationships, just in general. Overall, the ratio might be closer to even. I still wasn't shocked or disillusioned when a girl was mean though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:23 PM
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Weren't human tribes familial?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:53 PM
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When there’s two equally dominant people in a room, what happens? How prevalent is this scenario? It feels overblown, especially on the interwebs. The implication of 'All else being equal' seems to buck the nuances of reality for something very binary. I could be naive, but relationships seem a bit looser in reality and fluid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:05 PM
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I don't disagree with that. Moreover, it's not like we know all the baggage that's accumulated and accumulating in these "women rewarding bad guy" situations. So whatever "reward" is perceived is dwarfed by all the other stuff likely going in these "women rewarding bad guy" situations. So guys getting bent out of shape over this might not see the actual costs of this "reward". Still, I think a lot of these guys are just venting, and aren't actually feeling entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:07 AM
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Wouldn't say entitled for most guys, just ignorant. Most guys who say this (or less contentious variations of it) are venting, but it's not pretty. In reality, some women do reward bad guys, probably unintentionally. And some of the guys who say this are just nice guys (tm) with entitlement issues, which may or may not be concurrent with the women they're whining about rewarding bad guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:29 PM
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It's probably movies and tv. They make bad boys appear unflapping yet fun through the tumult of unlikely circumstances. I blame the Fonz for all this, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:14 PM
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Welcome to the relationship pharmacy: we got a pill for what ails ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:33 AM
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When I was on OLD, I did initially. But my own neuroticism presented itself as a much bigger issue than expectation vs. reality incongruence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:28 AM
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Men are far less likely to give someone another chance after they fuck up. I thought the prevailing opinion was the other way around. Maybe it depends on the severity?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 04:21 PM
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Depends if stuff like 'dread game' is considered toxic or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:25 AM
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B all that you can b? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:20 PM
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Places like this exist because some peeps fell through the cracks (I included, lol). Extrapolating to society at large is tempting, but it's too convenient. Therefore, having a lot more women then men wouldn't solve this, because it's not the actual problem. The problem is how do you help people who fell through the cracks?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:59 PM
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I'd say there's a problem if introversion, despite being the minority, makes up more of the single population than extroversion does. It can't just be less exposure. Then introversion is getting swapped with asocial/quiet, when that's not the full story. Introverted men aren't generally unattractive then, asocial/quiet (and to extend further, neurotic/anxious men) would be considered generally unattractive. On the other hand, introverted guys that are also asocial/quiet/anxious might display mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 02:31 PM
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Maybe introversion is more a practical problem rather than just pure incompatibility. If introversion is someone who is less social out of choice ('recharging'), it makes some practical sense that these guys would have more trouble with girls due to less exposure. I'm introverted (but also neurotic/anxious -- nice pairing), so I can understand needing more time to recoop from social things -- when I was social, that is. I think people also confuse introversion with being asocial, quiet, shy, anx…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:50 PM
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It's all about the power differential, creep factor and life experience incompatibility, like people are saying in this thread. Older man likely wields more (financial?/social) power than younger girl, and there seems to be an incongruence in appearances: why is this older man with a younger woman instead of a woman closer to his age? There's the life experience factor too, where the older man likely has more/different experiences than the younger girl, so what compatibility do they possibly hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:38 PM
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I guess guys are socialized to be less social and visible to women then vice versa. In my case, I'm just a neurotic (anxious and awkward) mess who's not particularly attractive (conventionally nor niche-wise) and is in hermit mode now. I was generally someone who stayed indoors anyways, so hermit mode isn't really a shock to me lol. A perfect storm. It's probably better this way, all things considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 05:59 PM
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But what about all those sapios? Did OLD lie to me?! It did, didn't it? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 01:47 PM
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I'm willing to bet these particular guys problems' isn't just loneliness and sexlessness. Something else is probably going on with these guys. It's not embarrassing, it's a bit concerning though. Or there're trolls in their ranks too, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 03:04 PM
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I'm probably being naive (am a guy, too), but I can't believe all these guys are just sniffing around for good times. Like I said, I don't know, but maybe a lot of these guys really are just hopeless romantics, and they experience romantic loneliness. Some probably are just hard up. Or both? Life's weird, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:45 PM
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If there are guys that are hellbent on needing a women to not be lonely, it seems only a woman can make them feel not lonely, in whatever way they're perceiving loneliness: perception can be weird I guess. Maybe they just perceive themselves as lonely unless they have a partner, and friendships don't fill the void in a way they want. Like it's a separate loneliness from platonic loneliness. Is it always just a veiled excuse for wanting to fool around? I don't know, probably sometimes. Just food …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:14 PM
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Is it common? Have to prove beta-buxxing is happening en masse first. Sounds like an RP fever dream, though; beta-buxxing, that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:43 PM
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But what if I want to be "boring" and find a "boring" girl? I don't want to be "engaging".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:23 PM
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I never found romantic love, so don't know if it is or not. I don't think I have that kind of personality. Too neurotic, moody, emotionally unavailable, etc. I'll admit, it sounds really nice. But i know how life can be about nice things...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:11 AM
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I wonder if some people just haven't been exposed to negative emotions very much, whether it's in a consolatory role, or self-experience with said emotions. Maybe these girls just never saw much strong negative emotion, and don't know how to handle it in general. It might not even be a romantic thing, it might be deeper than that. Just a theory, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:17 PM
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What about return to monke?!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:56 PM
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“Women tend to prefer men taller than herself.” Apparently blackpillers and RPers think taller always means "tall [relative to the other guys around]", or hollywood tall, not just taller than the woman. If you want to get through to them, you have to address why they get so hung up with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 05:49 PM
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At my ugliest, a particular boy would make fun of my face monthly. After feeling sad about it, I’d try really hard to rationalize that he was really just flirting with me and so I never thought of myself as ugly then. Yeah. But sometimes kids are just jerks or weird. Or they call everyone ugly. It's a jungle out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:42 PM
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Some men struggle because they got caught in absurd crossroads of strange real life circumstances and vague-yet-strongly-asserted rhetoric from media/online/elsewhere on the search for an "in"; into a relationship where they are both. The romantic/platonic attraction might be more important than the other, because you spend most of your time in that manner, not the other. Maybe the thing all along was the most boring answer: proximity. Not OLD though, because OLD doesn't take in ALL the senses: …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:19 PM
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Both trends might existent independently, sometimes even concurrently. I don't know what that means overall, but to me, that might be an indicator of the type of women guys are going after.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 03:11 PM
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Depends on the person, I guess. Yeah I know about conventional attractiveness. But is it just that simple? Don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:59 PM
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It's simple: it's complicated, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:57 PM
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Not anymore, lol. Hermit mode fully activated!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:54 PM
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Memetic wildfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:33 PM
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Oooo, purple. Bubbles voice from Trailer Park Boys
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:19 AM
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I can acknowledge that being in mixed gender friend groups will improve odds of guys getting dates with girls, because I did experience it in high school/college/etc. If you're a neurotic mess like me, though, even that's still playing on hard mode. Because of anxiety and awkwardness, I couldn't even keep friends in the long term, so basically pushed everyone away and became a hermit. A bit off topic though, lol. Still, being in mixed gender friend groups (even outside of high school/college) wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:41 PM
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Maybe in the manosphere or fds. In reality, variation is a lot more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:27 PM
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This is probably the best way, but it's got it's own little issues. Better odds than cold approaching or OLD. Also, if you have no friends...well, that's a deeper thing, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:50 PM
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People are too varied for strategies to be the main antagonist, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:42 PM
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Maybe that makes sense after a large enough space of time when guy and girl are dating. But in the very early/beginning stages, how would girls even check for "backbone" in guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:08 PM
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I think hypergamy's fearsomeness isn't in the social mobility aspect, but the assumed stone-stepping. I think the fear some guys have is some women will use them as stepping stones; as in, they're not 'good enough', so the woman will use the guy to 'step up' the (social/economic/relationship) ladder. The guy isn't the mile stone, they're the stepping stone - this is the fear from what I can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:47 PM
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Some people act that way, not everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:24 PM
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Not to say drawing is feminine, but at least not in-your-face masculine , anyways. Maybe neutral?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:29 PM
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During high school/college/early years of work, I drew in some women based on me drawing, initially. Like, a couple of girls saw that I drew stuff and approached me based on that as the "in". Trouble was, I was awkward, and didn't know what to do after that. So even though they approached, and showed romantic interest, I didn't know what to do, or did know what to do, but did it in such a way I became a literal dumpster fire of anxiety and awkwardness. I still failed, and I never even dated thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:17 PM
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For me, I "gave up" four years ago. My problems are too deep for finding a partner. To be fair, my effort was weak -- well, weak in effect anyways, because I did battle some anxieties. But it was too much effort for me and I still ended up alone. I think I was also looking for the wrong things, especially on OLD. I don't bother now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:03 PM
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I guess if you're in friend groups that don't interact with the opposite gender much, and you don't use OLD, then your chances of dating decrease. It's a boring answer, but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 07:11 PM
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Ideally...star trek memes, lol. Amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 05:08 PM
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Probably not, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 04:43 PM
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Still don't think it's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:36 PM
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I thought he got the mansion...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:26 PM
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Who does Luigi get?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:58 PM
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I don't think it's that simple. What does equality even mean in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:54 PM
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That sounds like a personality type, not really a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:23 PM
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Good health may be the best quality of that bunch. Everything else on that list might follow from that, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:57 PM
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The process whereby organisms better adapted to their environment tend to survive and produce more offspring. What does 'better adapted to environment' mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:32 PM
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Sounds like an evo-psych theory trying to shoe-horn natural selection into the eugenicist role. Question is, is this what natural selection is trying to do? Or is that a projection?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:11 PM
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When I was in high school and college, I was approached by a handful of girls, to varying degrees of awkwardness. Almost always I was the awkward one, lol. I either rejected them (because...I was a mess because of anxiety and awkwardness), or the relationship lasted barely a few weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 11:47 PM
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What do you think about AWALT, 'women are the oldest teenagers in the house', 'enjoy the decline', spinning plates, dread game, machiavellianism, appealing to evo-psych justifications, etc.? Isn't this RP?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 07:09 PM
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Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 12:50 AM
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You're not going to like the answer, it's pretty boring: it depends, lol. There's probably a nurture component somewhere in there. Also, I think girls going for 'bad boys' is a trend that's notable, but not like the only trend. More common in the states, less likely in Europe, or Brazil, because of tv and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 08:12 PM
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Some do, some don't. How many's in each bucket, that's the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 07:52 PM
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Well, I wouldn't say I'm a really romantic guy in that hollywood way. I think I'm too moody and introverted for that. I once wrote a letter to a girl when I was in grade 3, does that count as hollywood romantic? Lol. Love languages...yeah I've heard of them. Don't know if they fit me too well. With girls in the past, I'd usually be approached (not common, maybe once a year if I wasn't a hermit, lol), we'd talk a bit, then nothing happens, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:38 PM
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Maybe. When it comes to romantic stuff for me, it's always been awkward, so it's not too surprising I ended up alone in that way. Still is pretty lame though, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:23 PM
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Yeah. But I wouldn't call it moderation here; maybe 'the sweet spot'. Moderated, but not complete moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:13 PM
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I can appreciate gradations. But even on some spectrums, if you're too far to one side of it, you're paying a price you'd rather not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:03 PM
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I've never stage-five clung to anyone (maybe stage-three a couple of times, lol), nor do I accept horrible treatment to salve desperate loneliness. Still, I'm romantically alone, so if this is self-love, damn...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 01:38 PM
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Considering TRP concepts like 'spinning plates', AWALT, machiavellianism, etc. it's hard to see it as espousing morality of any kind, let alone the kind you mentioned. In fact, it's dark enlightenment shtick seems to basically amount to all bets are off, morality is ignored, and 'enjoy the decline', no matter who gets hurt in the process, all for self-gratification. If field reports of rp practitioners are real, then they're likely sewing some damage into relationships through this all-bets-are-…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:05 PM
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What's an "unfavourable" mutation?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 11:43 PM
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That seems more like extreme feminism, and it's leaked into other social spheres. Loud voices of extreme feminism have left their mark. It's not a good trend, but knowing it's source might help to put things in perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 02:40 AM
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It makes dating more difficult; for example, if you're socially anxious. If you have to wrestle EFFORT to be social because it hurts (the anxiety), how easy do you think having mental health problems would be for dating? It's obviously an impediment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:36 PM
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I mean, yeah, probably. Now what? Lol. Some people can't help feeling bad about it, rational or not. 'Appealing'? Isn't that subjective? I get a lot of mixed signals about that reading stuff online, or even irl. As for me, I vacillate. Most of the time, I don't care about it, I'm preoccupied with other stuff. Occasionally, I get a whiff of the 'what if'. There were times in my life it did bother me quite a bit. I'm not sure why. As for the occasional what ifs, that must be the romantic in me see…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 04:15 PM
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It plays a role, because kids are still growing, and they're surrounded by a bunch of other kids with various personalities. They imitate those around them (or whatever they saw on tv, or both?). It's like a feedback loop of influences creating this giant super mess that we call dating culture; then it evolves, even into adulthood. But I don't think it's the full picture. Like, subgroups of hs kids also had their particular dating culture, taboos, etc. Definitely seemed like that when I was in h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:57 PM
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Are the men that are protective of sisters and daughters usually the same men as the old guys guys sniffing around? It probably happens; can't say if it's a substantial amount or not. Even in small amounts, it's no bueno. I don't know if women are supportive of each other about that stuff or not. How far will that support go when the in-group taboos are breached?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 12:55 AM
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Apparently it works for some, if you believe the fields reports and anecdotes. Considering what I know about TRP, it'd be better if they weren't true. Stuff like spinning plates, 'enjoying the decline', etc. would foment pockets of chaos in social spheres. It's an 'all bets are off' strategy, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 11:30 PM
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Agreeing with a social concept might be part of the definition though. Depends on the social context, doesn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 08:27 PM
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If you're disagreeable for the sake of it, that's not doing much right - that's just contrarianism. TRP might be disagreeable for the sake of it; or I think it's, it's muddier waters, what with the dark enlightenment vibe and all. It's 'practitioners' (if the field reports are true) maybe be putting on some front, to salve wounds, or other reasons. I mean, you have to be somewhat agreeable if you're 'agreeing' to TRP's concepts in the first place. Any given guy attracted to TRP's Big Five readin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 08:07 PM
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The concern is older men might take advantage of and predate on naive young[er] women. A relative sense of power. Like the kind a teacher has over a student, but more dangerous. Much more can go wrong BECAUSE these older guys have the power to cause it, and the women wouldn't be able to do much about it. Less so nowadays with twitter, metoo, etc., but still a concern. Of course, there might be young women who can also take advantage of (maybe not so much predate on) older men, if he's gullible/n…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:51 PM
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TRP teaches you to actually change, but is it for the better? Self-improvement is nothing new, TRP isn't the first one to sell self-improvement tips. That they cluster it with all this other dark enlightenment stuff that makes it come off as more than just self-improvement. It throws on so much baggage of 'truth', 'red pills' and 'rabbits holes' that I can't help feel it's just a parody. But if the field reports/anecdotes of rp 'practioners' are true... Then it's trickery (or whatever machiavell…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:17 PM
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Depends what the average guy is looking for. So, what IS the average guy looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:07 PM
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Red pill (or is it what RPers say?) is basically getting hurt romantically (or seeing examples of romantic hurt), and trying to take revenge on who hurt you/them by taking it out on strangers. It's some dark enlightenment jive like the black pill, only it projects that 'dark enlightenment' outward instead of inward (blackpill). If RP can sweep all the club-going women and random wild-cards, under the 'all women' label, what sort of statistical failure is that? That doesn't sound like blue pill. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:29 PM
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