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| 13 | I love my wife with my whole heart, but she wants a divorce.I’m four years on. It gets better. You learn to live with the fact that some people just want out even when everything is going well and our problems are solvable. No one really prepares us for this fact. Find a good routine and stick to it. You’re gonna feel numb, then you’re ginna feel everything all at once. Thats fine. Let it happen. Pour your love into your boys. Get a good lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/26 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Spinning the blockThat’s what I’m sayin’! I’m glad I’m not alone in this | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/26 02:49 PM |
| 9 | Spinning the blockIt makes no sense. It’s so bad now. Like so many of them have no financial discipline. You inherit their poor decisions and they refuse to own them. My ex gf (post divorce) bought a 12 year old car at MSRP. Zero research. She’s in crazy debt and she’s going to PR this month. Her brakes have been out for like half a year now and I just walked out when her toilet flooded and she told me “it’s does that sometimes, I thought it stopped…”like dude be an adult. They’re obsessed with travel during a re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Just a MomentA good friend of mine once told me “You never actually completely get over the marriage if the love was real. You just try to live a good life with the memories.” Nothing wrong with remembering the good times. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Ex Wanting IntimacyHow do you know she wants your meat? How did she tell you? Terminate that means of communication. Absolutely nothing good will come from pulling that thread. You gotta move on brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:47 AM |
| 1 | How do I Become ok with Myself?You have no business dating anyone else but yourself. Seriously, go to therapy, get into some hobbies, get yourself something nice, take strides to conquer your depression but PLEASE just don’t let some woman tell you what you’re worth. You will ALWAYS end up miserable as hell if you do this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:44 AM |
| 1 | I found peace and happinessOoookay Mr “crummy behavior” 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:38 AM |
| 1 | I found peace and happinessThanks ChatGPT | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:35 AM |
| 1 | My wife (29f) asked me (33m) to divorce. I want to make it right- i love her but we are fundlamentally different. Can we make it work?No. Move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Why It Still Hurts Even After 5 YearsMassive amount of men automatically blame themselves for their divorces. Myself included | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Why It Still Hurts Even After 5 YearsYou don’t have to be friends with the person who caused you a universe of pain. I couldn’t imagine being friends with the woman I was meant to spend my whole life with knowing she gets her guts rearranged occasionally by the dude she left me for. That’s insane. Keep communications to childcare only. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Nobody told me that 'no closure' also applied to the rebuilding of a lifeYeah man… one of the hardest lessons for me to learn was the end of the marriage IS closure. She chose herself over family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:22 AM |
| 14 | Spinning the blockBeen dating around recently and i can handle like 2 dates a month… they’re all nuts. They ask for the world and offer nothing in return but they’ll waste your time anyway. Best to stay single, hook up sometimes, and focus on yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/26 05:17 AM |
| 2 | My wife has made 3 major life decisions over 10 years that have financially devastated our family. I love her, but I no longer trust her judgment.Exactly. He’s Canadian and doesn’t have access to French language learning programs? Aren’t Canadians taught French in schools? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 10:08 PM |
| 7 | My wife has made 3 major life decisions over 10 years that have financially devastated our family. I love her, but I no longer trust her judgment.I’m so sorry and I hate to judge, I really do, but as a man who also married a Frenchwoman, why on earth did you stay after crisis 1? You need to figure out how to stop loving her and leave because she is and has been actively destroying your future. Sacrifice is integral to a healthy relationship. You keep doing it for her and I don’t see her doing it for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 10:05 PM |
| 5 | May I ask what led to your divorce?Jeeeesus. That’s insane. Glad you’re out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 02:36 PM |
| 8 | May I ask what led to your divorce?Life got hard and she had an emergency exit. She took it and never looked back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Men should unite - they can’t keep killing us!It’s difficult in the US because modern American men immediately make it weird. Look at this thread, for example: you can’t talk about a male only space without the same exact tired gay jokes or some dude talking about how having closed door meetings is girly. Meanwhile, men’s groups elsewhere become international organizations. We are the wardens of our own prisons | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/26 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Was the divorce your fault?I spent 4 years telling myself I was at fault. I realized it was both our faults. I poorly managed my stress post pandemic and while I was stressed beyond my means and expected room to figure it all out, I didn’t take care of the home as much as she did. In the end, she had the opportunity to restart her life outside of the US where I live so she took it and shed all her commitment weight. One year later, she brags about how great her life is now with a new job and a doctorate and I responded by… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/26 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Question for divorced men who hookup how do you find so many women to have sex with?I don’t. I focus on life and if a random social encounter leads to sex then so be it. When I was in my 20’s though, I just used the apps to meet women in the nearest city to where I lived. We went on dates and it was kinda understood if the vibes and the person is right and the desire to see where things go existed that we were probably gonna fuck, at least on the second date. If not, eh whatever. Try with the next woman. I guess nowadays, you have to be mindful of like chronically online women … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/26 03:06 PM |
| -1 | Why do we allow women into our community?Women aren’t the enemy. Privacy isn’t a weapon. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Why do we allow women into our community?Oh wow… today I realized that locking my door to hang out with my friends and only my friends is “facism”. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Why do we allow women into our community?I’m going to logically leave my back door open because good people don’t rob others and I’m a good person. lol what? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Why do we allow women into our community?It IS a democracy. They just didn’t want you there. The intelligent thing to do would be to lock our doors too. Pride comes before a fall. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Why do we allow women into our community?ITS BECAUSE THEY ACTUALLY POLICE THEIR SPACES. Jesus… how are we this dense here? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:31 PM |
| -1 | Why do we allow women into our community?This sub is a trap. This is such a daft take. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:30 PM |
| 4 | Why do we allow women into our community?No. Entitlenent isn’t the issue. Male stupidity is. We can’t even agree on not letting women into a men’s group because we’re too proud and stupid to admit that Men Only clubs are extremely effective support groups. The tough guy schtick is exactly what women exploit. Also healing is realizing that women don’t owe you shit and you don’t owe them shit either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:29 PM |
| 10 | Why do we allow women into our community?No. He’s trying to talk to the guys. Imagine going to poker night with the boys but everyone’s spouses and partners are sitting in the back, chiming in and texting all our business to their friends. Buddy… that’s not a boys night. That’s Thursday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:22 PM |
| 9 | Why do we allow women into our community?Having our own spaces doesn’t equate to hatred. We need privacy. When I join a men’s space, I intend to converse with only men. I don’t want to speak on men’s issues under the watchful eye of women. That’s what my therapist is for lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:20 PM |
| 6 | Why do we allow women into our community?Yes, real men destroy their own support systems. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:18 PM |
| 8 | Why do we allow women into our community?*lurk and police male spaces. I assure you, as soon as a man says something they deem awful in this group either that man or the entire group gets cancelled and tanked. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:17 PM |
| 9 | Why do we allow women into our community?Men will do stuff like this, sabotage their own support groups, then wonder why women get better support in their own women-only groups. So the answer is that we are proud fools. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 06:16 PM |
| 1 | She brought him homeI hahah no. Absolutely not. What? Hahah | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistThey want your greener pastures without having to maintain any of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistIt’s so infuriating bro. To so many of them, the acquisition of money is a substitute to a stable and decent personality. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 03:30 PM |
| 6 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistI live in a HCOL city so I’m surrounded with opportunists and diggers of gold. My ex even left because she got a better opportunity outside of the US. It’s hard to fight against becoming a chauvinist but you’ve gotta face facts. We’re looking for a quieter subset of a minority of women and it’s simply untrue to assume they’re all the same. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 12:12 PM |
| 2 | Them leaving is the best thing to ever happen to you 🙌While I miss that romantic energy, I’ve gotta admit… life kicks ass now. I have more control over my life than I ever had with her. I’m more assertive in my new relationships. And hahaha my newfound intolerance of lies and bs, makes women want to stick around! 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 11:12 AM |
| 1 | She brought him homeThat person is using you at this point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 11:08 AM |
| 2 | She brought him homeThe fact that you’re tripping over this new guy’s looks so much that you told her kinda makes you seem insecure in her eyes. I’d stop sharing that kind of information with women as it gives them ammunition to use against you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 11:00 AM |
| 1 | She brought him homeThe last one got me. Like dude, how tf did you not cut her off financially as soon as she cried divorce? When she called me asking for the divorce, after my call, I cried, then called the banks and removed her access from all of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 10:54 AM |
| 2 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againNot all of them but a lot of them believe this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/26 02:47 AM |
| 5 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againThat’s the bizarre part. She’s taking accountability for being a POS while trying to normalize being a POS. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/26 02:46 AM |
| 3 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againLosing the girl is the easy part. Losing the family in the other hand… still messes me up | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/26 02:44 AM |
| 10 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againOffshore your savings and keep one leg out the door with these. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/26 02:41 AM |
| 2 | r/divorceBro all her exes are gonna be shit people in her eyes. My ex-wife said the same of her ex when we met, and I guarantee she's saying the same about me now, despite me trying everything to make her happy. This is just how it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 03:43 PM |
| 5 | r/divorceI agree. While it makes sense to feel jaded towards others with similar characteristics to one's ex or stbx, when it is primarily one-sided on a forum, it does far more damage than good for the minority. The annoying thing is that men's spaces need better moderation because between the weird racist content/takes and the obvious religious proselytization and the sock accounts belonging to women who try to sabotage and police the space, these spaces get really toxic, really fast. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever noticed that women tend to get hostile towards handsome men who are introverted?Yet, they have no problem doing it. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 02/10/25 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Fucking bitchThat’s what this group is for. We don’t all have people nearby irl | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/25 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Fucking bitchYeah, I hear you. The pain is still raw though and it has to get out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/25 10:38 PM |
| -1 | 2 women arrested for vandalizing Charlie Kirk's memorial.Sometimes being the voice of reason gets you downvoted to hell. Crazy how people openly support bigotry nowadays. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 25/09/25 01:20 AM |
| 13 | MAKING THE EX FEEL THE BURNThe final cherry on top will come from her noticing your progress without you noticing her at all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Be honest: how many of you were still attracted to your wife when you divorced?I married my ex wife because she was exactly the kind of woman I’m attracted to. Aside from getting some post divorce clarity (she’s not very pretty), she’s still the standard for the body type I’m attracted to. It’s hard to find someone who meets that standard today. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 07:57 PM |
| 23 | Life is cruelTwo crucial words: No contact. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Be careful of religion poachingA judge? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Be careful of religion poachingMarriage isn’t a religious concept what are you saying? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 05:32 AM |
| 2 | Be careful of religion poachingThis was the worst part of my grieving process. Constantly getting recruitment baited by the Christian fundies | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/25 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Feeling guilty spending money on yourselfIt's called trauma. It's the reason why I get massive anxiety on weekends. Because she would get so mad that I didn't plan fun activities and opt to destress by sleeping in and gaming. I still feel guilty for relaxing to this day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/23 11:06 PM |
| 1 | I Ruined My Marriage and I don’t want to live anymore.It's not the mistake that makes us, it's how we choose to handle it that does. She lied to you and cheated. She gave up on you but you never did. That's a her problem. You've make big strides in identifying your issues. So let's work to sort them out. I've been where you are, it is not the end. Don't make it so. You deserve someone who sticks by you no matter what. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/23 10:58 PM |
| 3 | The BEST parts about being divorcedThere's no one to make me feel bad for being stressed out with work. I never have to worry about whether she's hiding her true feelings (she was hiding the entire time). | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/23 10:53 PM |
| 2 | High Risk profession and relationshipsI wouldn't bother. I'd recommend focusing on your personal growth and building a network of friends. Don't waste energy on someone who will inevitably leave and damage your career and finances. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/23 07:46 PM |
| 2 | After my divorce, I don't know if I'm better at vetting women or if I am just broken.Today marks one year since she left. Two months ago, I tried dating. She and I got along quite well and that was the problem. My ex-wife and I got along really well until we didn't and she up and left. I immediately ended it before our second date. I can't remember the last time I broke up with someone without even trying to make it work. I can tell you for a fact that this is normal, but I can't tell you if it is healthy. I just never want to feel the pain of divorce ever again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/23 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Asshole husbands are better than decent family manI wish I knew this sooner. As soon as life got too hard for me to maintain the lifestyle I had when we met, I suddenly became someone not worth loving. Now I’m in a much better position but I’ll be damned if anyone takes advantage of my position in life for some fleeting sense of pride. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Asshole husbands are better than decent family manLol “the US”. My European ex wife and her entire family flaked me out in a heartbeat. Even after saying I was like a son to them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/22 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Emotional peaks and valleysWhile I don’t agree with much of the language in this thread, I will say one thing: it is damn near impossible to find a partner who will stick around when you hit rock-bottom nowadays. Especially when they aren’t in your situation. The “for worse” part of the vows mean jack shit nowadays, even though the tough times are usually just temporary. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/22 08:34 PM |
| 1 | the game has changed4 months is too soon chief. Keep your guard up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | What are some not so obvious red flags us younger men should look out for?If they run away from their exes, they will run away from you. If their Dad is perfectly reasonable (not abusive, kind, understanding, tries to help out) and they shit on him, they will someday shit on you too. If your life decisions directly influences their entire outlook (e.g. you're going through a rough time at work and you stop working out so they stop too) you need to run tf away. That's codependency and it will ruin you. All of this advice works for either sex so check yourself too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/22 12:00 AM |
| 1 | I just didn’t think it would happen to meYou know the fucked up part? She definitely knew it was coming AGES before you did and fooled you into thinking everything was fine until she was ready. Cold as ice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 11:35 PM |
| 2 | I just didn’t think it would happen to meYou're not alone OP. I stupidly thought and believed her when we agreed that it would be forever. I even worked towards it being forever. I wasted a ton of energy trying but I can't regret it. I learned what not to do the next time around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 11:33 PM |
| 3 | "Marriage", in any tradition/spiritual/historical/cooperative sense, is not on offer in western society.My stbxw literally went back to her home country and asked for a divorce by text a few days after. Like it was a simple breakup. Easy come, easy go. Marriage in 2022 is nothing more than an emotional relationship with extra steps to end it and massive financial and emotional consequences if you commit hard enough to make it work. I now fully understand why couples in Western nations wait YEARS to get married even after having kids. I'll be taking that example too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Marriage CounselingNever EVER doing marriage again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/22 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Marriage CounselingDuring lockdown my insurance sucked but now, I found a great service that helps with this even though I started literally 3 days before the ex skipped the US and cried divorce. I still talk to the counselor. Chill lady. Gives great advice for dealing with this shitty time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/22 10:13 PM |
| 2 | I need a hobby, but i don't want one. I need friends but i don't want any. I need a girl in my life but i know i can't put up with BS anymore. How to proceed ?Is that syndrome called Common Sense? Because im loving it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/22 12:13 AM |
| 1 | I need a hobby, but i don't want one. I need friends but i don't want any. I need a girl in my life but i know i can't put up with BS anymore. How to proceed ?Been playing video games even though I was doing the same when my wife was around. The only difference is that I actually don't feel guilty. As for the friends part, eh... Don't try to make them but put yourself in situations where you can. Just do stuff you want to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/22 12:12 AM |
| 3 | How to trust again?I realize that my ex cheating on me would've been way easier. Mine just left and went home to her home country and burned the marriage as well as her life in the USA. All the love and trust we had, she threw away. I worked so hard to be a better man for her and we still ended up split so, honestly? Forget trust. You can do everything right and still they will screw you over. Look out for yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/22 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Girls if you hit, slap, belittle, kick, punch, choke, throw things at, or control your boyfriends, you are the abuser.Being muscular doesn't stop pain from hurting. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/17 04:02 PM |
| 8 | Feminist woman photographs & mocks a disabled man on an airplane, and posts his photo on the Internet.*snickers* "she-bagging" | /r/PussyPassDenied | 17/10/16 09:06 PM |
| 8 | Feminist woman photographs & mocks a disabled man on an airplane, and posts his photo on the Internet.flight dick Triggered. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 17/10/16 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Feminist woman photographs & mocks a disabled man on an airplane, and posts his photo on the Internet.The one true pooch. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 17/10/16 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Welcome to MGTOW. Ready to change your life? This post is for you newbies browsing this sub.So true! Hahaha! | /r/MGTOW | 21/08/16 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Welcome to MGTOW. Ready to change your life? This post is for you newbies browsing this sub.I think part of what makes MGTOW great for me is hat I could date and even be in a relationship while actually going my own way. Doing things, with absolute confidence, that I would love to do without being with anyone is a trait I'm proud to adopt. My life is mine alone regardless of who tries to march in lockstep with me. | /r/MGTOW | 21/08/16 02:16 PM |
| 9 | I have decidedCut that shit out. Move out of your Mom's and GO YOUR OWN WAY. Take it from someone who has been manipulated by women almost all his life, you do t want to be the guy who leeches off of mommy dearest. | /r/MGTOW | 21/08/16 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Hey guys, Dont you feel like that Uber driver deserves some level of justice? Lets show the truth?Uber won't do shit. Worst part is that that car was probably leased. | /r/MensRights | 02/02/16 03:40 PM |
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