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I appreciate your words of advice. After the argument that took place in response to my OYS6 shit, it did re-calibrate my perception of our relationship. I'm not ready to end it but she knows (clearly) at this point that it is a possible outcome if shit goes south. I can handle storms and I can honestly say that I have never felt this centered in my own frame before. I know I would not have reached this point without MRP and the challenges that she has presented over the years (and most in the l…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 09:59 PM
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You sure you're for real? One thing about narcissists: they don't like to admit they are narcissists (it's unbecoming). When we had the conversation she told me that she was a narcissist and what I posted above is the summarized version of what she revealed to me. She is a professional therapist and regularly attends training and group therapy sessions with the purpose of self discovery and self growth. ​ I've done some more reading on the subject and I do not believe she is a clinical case (Nar…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 09:29 PM
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I am a narcissist Didn't sleep much that night as I was pissed with her behavior and the fact that I was getting pissed meant that my frame was weakening. Attempted to reset in the morning and decided to go for a long walk. I invited her along as this is a common exercise for us. Walked about 5 minutes without saying a word until she then said "I'm sorry. I'm sorry that I have been a real bitch to you and that I was making things hard and difficult." I acknowledged her with a weak smile and kept…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 02:08 PM
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OYS #11 March 19, 2019 Shit-test, another shit-test, I am a narcissist, put me in my place. Big week. My longest post to date. Stats Age: 44 | Height: 5'6" | Weight: 161.0lb (-0.5) | BF: 15.5% Married: 20 years (together 22) | Wife: 48 | Children: 10F, 15M, 17F Found MRP: Oct. 2016 | First OYS (Oct. 2018) | Previous OYS Diet/Fitness Program: 5/3/1 | Workouts: 2x lifts / 3x body weights this week due to travel OHP: 120lb (+5) | SQ: 295lb (+0) | BP: 205lb (+0) | DL: 205lb (+0) Diet: Low Carb, CICO…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 02:07 PM
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Perfect. Mind sharing the details on your stack as far as dosages? Also, regarding your comment of a EC stack, any recommendations? I was a bit concerned about the potential risks but I don't see 8 weeks being asb issue. I'm researching both but would like do leverage your experience if possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 10:48 PM
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This is great. LMAO. So that I'm clear though, you aren't doing spreadsheets but you are measuring your loads in a graduated cylinder? I'm going to look into this stack and try it out. Love a good experiment.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 09:13 PM
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You guys are not alone on this. I also struggle with it that feeling that I killed all the contracts only to find a new one hiding deeper below. I also believe my ego attempts to hide or protect them. In regards to the sex, I don't know how best to describe the shift in me other than I stopped looking at it as a metric. There was an example in the How to Win People and Influence Friends in the Digital Age book that I recently read which resonated with me where the guy had attempted 3 businesses …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 04:38 PM
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OYS #9 First OYS post. Previous OYS. ​ Needs vs Wants. Communicated mission. ​ Stats: 44 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 161.5lbs, 15.5% bf (target 12%) ​ Fitness & Diet: Lifted 4 times last week (5/3/1 program).BP: 205lb SQ: 295lb OHP: 115lb DL:205lb. Incorporating HIIT runs after workout.Pull-ups, dips, and other accessory exercises are getting stronger post injury. Diet on track and starting to see my numbers move in the right directions again.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 11:31 AM
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the importance of getting your woman to lift, get fresh sunlight, air, lots of water, diet, etc.etc. That stuff's needed. I agree. She is physically healthy, works out regularly, watches her diet but love to cheat with peanut butter and sweets when she thinks no one is watching. Weather affects her and it had been raining for several days (including the entire weekend) and planning to start again tomorrow for 5 more days. What will work out in the long run is her getting out of her head. Ha. She…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:24 PM
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I think your FO is wanting more direction, but in a more grandiose way. I agree. I posted my mission in my response to /u/FoxShitNasty83 in this thread. The problem I'm recognizing is that my mission doesn't really include her in a grandiose way at this point. She likes my mission and supports it but through her therapy training and work she has a mission of her own that is mostly around becoming more feminine, becoming more spiritual, better therapist, and embracing her "inner goddess." I suppo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:06 PM
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Your first mate sounds depressed, doctors? This happens with her occasionally but this time I believe it was due to the increased dread of feeling the loss of my needs. I get they are unattractive but at the same time, after so many years, I believe we both had a dependency/connection through them. Gay, I know. She is also a therapist and is frequently working on new shit with her (both present and childhood) which stirs shit up as well. ​ do you have a mission and /or a vision on where you are …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:40 PM
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OYS #8 First OYS post. Previous OYS. ​ Stats: 44 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 163.0lbs (+1lb), 15.8% bf (target 12%) ​ Fitness & Diet: Lifted 4 times last week (5/3/1 program). Left shoulder still not healed and causing some frustration but I'm continuing to take it slow, stretch, and gradually increase weight. Being honest, I have a constant nagging voice to push harder, ignore the pain, and make more "progress" but I know that will lead to mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 09:43 AM
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OYS #7 First OYS post. Previous OYS. Stats: 43 years old for another 24 hours, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 162.0lbs (no change), 15.4% bf (target 12%) ​ Fitness & Diet: Lifting 3+ times a week (5/3/1 program). Shoulder getting stronger but progress is slow. BP: 205lb SQ: 295lb OHP: 115lb -- restarting dead lifts this week to see how my left shoulder and my right hand will handle the stress. Planning to start light and work up slowly. Incorporating HIIT r…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 05:22 PM
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OYS #6 First OYS post. Previous OYS. Unfortunately, broke frame this week. Owning my shit below. Stats: 43 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 162.0lbs, 15.7% bf (target 12%) Fitness & Diet: No changes since last week. Lifting 3+ times a week. Shoulder getting stronger but still at 115lb for OHP. Hit new PR for squat today @ 295lb. On target for 205lb on BP next week. Pull-ups, dips, and other accessory exercises are getting stronger post injury. Plan…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 04:36 AM
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​ The more masculine I have become, the more feminine she has become. I'm not sure what book talks about that Way of the Superior Man discusses how increasing your masculinity and removing these masculine burdens from your wife will allow her to grow in her feminine. I have also experienced this over the years and more so in the last few months that I posted in my recent OYS. Essentially, my wife is exploring and embracing more of her feminine side which is something she hasn't done in the past.…
/r/askMRP11/02/19 05:08 PM
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OYS #5 My background in my first OYS post. Last post was Dec. 15th, 2018. Stats: 43 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 162.5lbs, 15.5% bf (target 12%) Fitness & Diet: The steroid injection in my hand did the trick for the most part. Most of the pain is gone and only under some heavy stress do I still feel the residual injury and remaining healing to be done. The good news is that I'm able to do nearly all my exercises except dead lifts as it still pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 12:39 PM
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Mantak Chia is the author of that book.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 07:17 PM
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I practice orgasm without ejaculation. It has taken a while for me to get the hang of it but it has had positive effects. First it creates a type of scarcity effect for my wife that she loves. She doesn't know if I'm going to cum or not and that thrills her. She usually begs me for it or tries harder to push me over the edge. Second, it creates a power over your base sexual function. This is a control that, for me, I enjoy trying to master. Third, when I choose not to cum I retain my energy afte…
/r/askMRP31/01/19 07:15 PM
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You left out some key information in your post. Besides leaving out your stats you didn't volunteer that your wife is pregnant and you have a 5 month old as well. You are not leading your family and appear to not be participating. You sound like a lazy fuck. Your wife isn't the problem, you are! Post some stats, read the sidebar, lift, and start participating in leadning your family so your wife doesn't have to. Start posting in Weekly OYS as well.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 02:38 PM
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OYS #4 My background in my first OYS post. Stats: 43 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,17) 5’6”, 163lbs, 16.5% bf (up ~1% bf since last post) Fitness & Diet: Still dealing with right hand injury (3 months now). Had a MRI taken last week and reviewed by a hand specialist. Good news is that there are no tears but the tendon and supports are sprained along with significant bone bruising in the knuckle. Got a steroid injection in the knuckle along with orders to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 04:52 PM
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Thank you Persaeus. The points you make are helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 03:11 PM
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Thank you Litz. I agree with the caution around setting up expectations for an assumed 'yes dear'.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 03:09 PM
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OYS #3 My background in my first OYS post. No post last week due to business travel. Stats: 43 years old, Wife 48, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,16) 5’6”, 161lbs, 15.5% bf (no significant change in the last 2 weeks) ​ Fitness & Diet: Right hand is still in a splint per doctor's orders. Body weight exercises continue and I found that using resistance bands with the ankle straps around my wrist allow me to pull without stressing my hand. Main goal here is to work any muscles t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 05:06 PM
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I prefer the phrasing "What do you want to do to change that feeling? " It sets the stage for her to take action instead of just talking or thinking about it. It also shifts the responsibility of that action to her instead of setting you up to solve her issue.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 05:18 PM
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OYS #2 My background in my last week’s OYS post. Stats: 43 years old, married 20 years (together 22), 3 children (10, 15,16) 5’6”, 161lbs, 15.5% bf (about same as last week) Fitness & Diet: Continuing my daily body weight exercises. Visit to orthopedics on Friday last week resulted in confirmation that my right hand is not healing well due to not resting it. It is now splinted with strict orders to rest it and a checkup in 3 weeks. If no improvements by then the next step is steroid injections. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 05:49 PM
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The challenge here is to expression emotion without vulnerability. Thank you for the insights. I agree with the challenge and continue to struggle with the successes in this department. My wife is great at digging for emotions and searching for the weaknesses. There are days I find this fun and there are others where I'm truly exhausted and avoid going there. These are generally the days she likes to dig deeper. Bringing it back to work, it's a question of communication. How do you lead a team b…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 06:17 PM
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OYS #1 This is my first OYS post as well as my first Reddit post. I generally don’t post at all on social media or forums however I have been finding great value in the RP & MRP forums over the last 2 years and fully realize that I have been taking and not participating. This is something that I have decided I want to change. Background: I have been married to my wife for 20 years (together for 22). I am 43 and she is 48. We have 3 children (10, 15, and 16). We got married when I was 24 and stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 02:01 PM
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