LeafErickson Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Ask if he's ok with me being taller in heels? 100% on this. Men will not realize the implication. We are direct communicators. If you ask indirectly, the issue won’t even come up on his radar	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/23 03:40 AM
3	Advice on moving from “going on dates” to committed relationship? Agreed. You don’t have to ask him out explicitly if you don’t want to. But you need to bring up the conversation in general and get on the same page about where it’s going.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/23 02:23 PM
39	What are your views on grooming and how do you deal with facing sudden fears about your relationship after watching RP content? Look at the language you are using: “all I’ve wanted is a faithful boyfriend.” “I just feel so used and lost.” You already know how you feel and what to do. Please listen to everyone here and have the strength to follow through on those feelings. You can and will do better. You are 18. You have time. You don’t have to accept a cheating man more than twice your age.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/22 11:52 PM
40	Boyfriends timeline is different than mine Agree. This is not nagging, it’s literally the most important issue you can have in a relationship. Guys are usually pretty logic oriented, so OP I’d say it’s worth bring it up just as you did in your explanation. Reiterate how you both want 3 kids, then lay out his plan all the way out and see if he has any problems with it. Lay out every step. Moving in at 32. Engaged at 33. Married at 34. Pregnant at 35. Second baby at what, 37? Third at 39? Tell him that 35 is a geriatric pregnancy. If he ca…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/22 09:24 PM
6	I don’t know how to handle this man’s weird slow fade Everyone and everyone has time if they want to make time. Period. Elon Musk has time to date, so this random guy does to. Dating is clearly not a priority for him. If he can’t fit any woman into his life for 6-7 weeks at a time (or even 2 weeks really), then he isn’t ready for a relationship. That’s really all you need to know. You can tell him if he ever has time for a woman in his life, text you back. Until then you are moving on.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/22 04:27 PM
5	What careers/jobs should women have before hopefully being SAHW/SAHM? You don’t have to have the career, but make an effort to go to places where you meet HVM. Why do HVM marry career women (even if the woman just becomes a SAHM)? Because the career woman is the most readily available woman. It’s who he comes into contact with the most. His workplace, his gym, the restaurants he frequents, the social circle he has, all of these things will be filled with people who are also high value and who make money. The women in these groups likely have the same demographic m…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/22 10:37 AM
3	Should I try to salvage the friendship after a hookup? Everything about how you are writing this says that you have a giant thing for him. You need to decide to pursue it or to cut it off. I assume your long term goal is a good marriage with a great man, yes? When you have that marriage, will it help or hurt your marriage to keep around this guy who you so clearly have feelings for? Keeping him around as a friend will only hurt your future marriage. Whether you’ll admit it openly or not, your heart will still yearn for this man. He is your one who g…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/22 01:57 AM
7	Abstinence till marriage (Advice/Discussion) He is just trying to help you, man. Getting into an argument is not the point and not helpful to anyone here. We are all here to improve ourselves. And specifically you came here asking for advice. All of us who are new do. To actually improve yourself first requires you to look at yourself and admit where you are weak, and where you need to improve. He was just trying to point out those areas and to offer advice. Perhaps you didn’t like how blunt it was, but he wasn’t insulting you as a person …	/r/RPChristians	24/02/22 01:58 AM
4	Starting to become afraid of having kids, because I'll be an older mom (30F) How many kids do you want? If you only want two, you have plenty of time to have them at or before age 35 still, especially if things work out with your current man.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/22 05:18 AM
2	Why exactly does pornography bother you? There is a difference between making porn and consuming porn. I am fine if my gf watches porn. I don’t want her making it. Similarly my gf is fine with me watching porn. But if I made a porno that would be a problem. I don’t see what’s wrong with that position. The difference is definitely in the privacy and in the relationship forming. Making porn is inherently public. You are explicitly advertising yourself and putting yourself and your body out to other people outside the relationship. So tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/22 12:46 AM
9	Need advice! He's a great guy but he's giving me the ick because of financial issues. This is the top voted comment for a reason. I know there are a couple posts on here saying that he isn’t on your level or you can do better, but it sounds to me like you believe he is a good man. You have complimented his character many times, and that is the most important thing in any partner. The money issue is a red flag, but by talking through it and setting boundaries in place I believe you can work through that. Ultimately, are you comfortable with his work ethic and how he handles money …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/22 03:51 PM
1	CMV. The Bar for men is not set low for relationships or sex, despite what women tell you. To be honest personally it takes me like an hour. It depends a lot on the nature of the event though. Like if it was a college frat party back in the day, I took 10-15 minutes. These days as an adult though the standard is a bit higher lol. I’d agree with what other people have pointed out that most of the preparation comes even before the actual evening though. It’s definitely in the working out, figuring out a hairstyle that works for you, getting a good clothing style going for yourself, etc.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/21 11:13 AM
1	What kind of man would you want your daughters to date? Lol. I love how if your point is so good you could just, you know, say it. But instead you have to pretend like everyone can just read your entire mind over the internet based on you saying literally one word. That’s a whole lot of words to go off of hahaha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/21 11:01 AM
35	CMV. The Bar for men is not set low for relationships or sex, despite what women tell you. If I had an award I would give it to you. This is it 100%. Women perceive that they have low standards bc once they are in a relationship, guys can and do get away with a lot. But they never think about how hard it is to actually get to that first step, bc the average women still has a ton of options for men. Men are hyper aware of how hard it is to get to that relationship stage, and thus they see the standard as high, which it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/21 12:22 AM
1	What kind of man would you want your daughters to date? In a completely ideal world I would have both by daughter and my son in law be 100% devout Christians who never had sex until marriage, are completely loyal to God, each other, their families, their country, and their community. He would ideally be the next Elon Musk who invents teleportation, wormhole travel, and he advances health spans to basically immortality levels. All the while he would be going to every kids soccer game and always there for her. By the way he is 8’0”, buff like Zeus, pla…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/21 11:20 PM
4	What kind of man would you want your daughters to date? Some people don’t spend all their lives here and may have joined or started paying attention recently. You do have to explain your convenient comment as I also don’t know what you mean.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/21 10:46 PM
1	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? ^ Legitimately wondering if there is a study from the US showing I am wrong. If there is feel free to cite; I’ll assume the Denmark study holds though until I see other evidence	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/21 10:19 PM
3	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? It’s not about being owed something; not sure where you got that. Not sure how not wanting people to unnecessarily end up old and alone is such a crime. Literally my only point is that if attraction is unequal between the sexes and the average woman finds the man unattractive, then then I think it’s worth having a conversation to try and see if there are ways to help solve / alleviate this problem. For example in my experience both men and women alike can be attracted to people in different ways…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 11:03 PM
4	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? How can it not be relevant? If every male in the world only found one female attractive, are you saying the rest of the 3.5 billion women should just suck it up for their lives? Or would it be reasonable to infer that men’s standards are too high in that case? I’ve tried very hard to engage with you in discussion, but it seems like you aren’t exactly trying to have a discussion / debate. If it isn’t relevant, please provide some reasons as to why it isn’t relevant. Your only stated reason as to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 10:20 PM
2	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? So while I get your point that it is frustrating to hear men be vocal about not dating a woman they don’t find attractive, while simultaneously demanding that women date someone they are unattracted to, part of the issue that must be acknowledged is that women have a much higher standard (to the point that the average 50th percentile woman wants a 20th percentile man) for “attractive.” Thus women and men aren’t really talking about the same thing when they say they won’t date someone who they fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 09:15 PM
5	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? I cited that study because it was what came up on google. I see lots of studies about related topics from America here, such as “what is the profile of a single mother”, but not specifically on the reasons for divorce. If you want to cite one I missed I am all ears. Using your own numbers, 25% of men are cheaters. 40% of cheaters are divorced. That would be 10% of men are divorced cheaters. If the divorce rate of first marriage is about 40%, then cheating explains 1/4 of divorces, which could st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 09:06 PM
3	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? That doesn’t really prove anything. If cheaters are only 1% of the population, even if 100% of them are divorced, they are a still a small percentage of overall divorces. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2019.1641871?journalCode=usmt20 https://www.prevention.com/sex/relationships/a31085838/reasons-for-divorce/ Here is a study analyzing the reasons for divorce in Denmark and an article summarizing it. HALF of all divorces were initiated due to “a lack of love and intimacy.” Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 08:53 PM
2	Would you rather raise the child of a hot alpha man as a single mother, or raise the child of an average looking beta man as a 2-parent household? Study after study has shown that the average man finds 80% plus of women attractive. The average woman in contrast finds about 20% of men attractive. So while I get your point that in an ideal world each should be attracted to the other, part of the issue that must be acknowledged is that women have a much higher standard (to the point that the average 50th percentile woman wants a 20th percentile man) for “attractive.” It follows that if women don’t make any compromises on physical attraction a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/21 08:32 PM
1	Not Only Conservatives, Feminists Too Want to Police and Control Sexuality My comment was about why some men view making sex work more accessible as a good thing that evens the playing field, and why I am sympathetic to the notion. I didn’t comment on how women actually behave in practice, I just analyzed how much access to sex men and women have. The vast majority of women have the option to have sex whenever they want. The vast majority of men do not have this option. Sex work is the potential equalizer in this regard that would even both sexes access to sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/21 10:33 PM
10	Not Only Conservatives, Feminists Too Want to Police and Control Sexuality Only the top 20% or so of men can get the amount of sex that a below average woman can get. It is very hard for an average man to get his desires met without involving sex work. I think some men view it as evening the playing field. I’ve heard it said before that being promiscuous for a woman is the equivalent of hiring sex workers for men. I don’t know that I necessarily agree with this saying, but I get what is meant by it. Women can get sex basically whenever they want, so by definition they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/21 09:01 PM
3	All things being equal, do you believe a woman being a virgin in her mid 20s a red flag or turn off? The answer is the same for both genders. If the reason is religious / to maintain celibacy / truly a choice of lifestyle, then that is one of the most attractive qualities you can have. It is living proof of your ability to maintain a strong commitment overtime to something that is hard to do, which should in theory translate over to being committed to your marriage, your kids, and your partner. If it is not by choice, then it’s clearly a giant red flag as this basically just means you’ve been d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/21 03:14 PM