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Well said. I'm puzzled by this announcement. I hope it's an attempt to keep Reddit off their tail given their anti-female history, but even then I now feel unwelcome here. Not because I'm this type of feminist or that type of feminist, simply because I'm now married and so "going out and dating" is a not gonna be a thing for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:52 PM
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Do not focus on dating and definitely do not get married too young. If you do date, don't date older men. They tell you you're "so mature" for your age because they're immature for theirs. Watch what people do, not what they say they'll do, and disregard everything else. Don't let your social conditioning get the better of you when it comes to other women. If they criticize men, in general or a specific one, listen and reflect. You'll gain some amazing female friendships you'd have missed out on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:27 AM
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Couldn't have said it better myself. I'm relieved you seem wise enough to not heed this really, really bad advice, and my first thought was also "What if impressionable young women are reading this and being made to feel bad for having self-respect?" This is borderline victim-blaming/shaming if not there already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:34 PM
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I’m just cautioning that your mother is half of you and to hate her is to hate yourself. This is so presumptuous and tone-deaf it took a second to be able to type. Stunned to see this sort of talk on this sub of all places. If someone, mother or not, is abusing you or has abused you for years you are well within your rights to terminate contact and find them a disgusting and deplorable human. If we wouldn't let men treat us this way why should we let our mothers do it just because by some cosmic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:56 PM
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I feel over all they’re just not compatible friends. This was my main takeaway. Sometimes people are just not compatible as friends same as with dating. I recently parted ways with my best friend of 10 years over this. We'd have situations like OPs that depending on who was reading it, they'd deem one of us the "correct" person. My other friends pretty much always said me. Her friends always insisted she was in the right. I came to realize it's because our other, non-mutual friends, were people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:05 PM
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Don't worry about it. A lot of us know better than this. For me personally it's almost absurd how many older women, seemingly at random, have offered me advice like "don't get married" or "don't let a man" do this or that coming from a place where they didn't know better / weren't permitted those options and now they're looking out for the rest of us. HVW aren't limited to <30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:41 PM
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You are so cool and brave. Wow. I would buy a book if you wrote one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:59 PM
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I hear this. It's tough out there right now when we can't gather in most places, and even if we could, women are increasingly spooked to gather in women's only groups for good reason. I try to join women's hobby groups for my interests, like books or certain video games, but they all get overrun by men. FDS is literally the only place I'm part of that hasn't become "what about meeeeen!" focused. I don't know what the answer is, but I know what it isn't and that's putting basing our self-worth on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:36 PM
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A lot of these men can't remember to shower daily or where the trash can is to dispose of their piss bottles but will immediately think the worst of a woman who forgot to take a pill once out of hundreds of days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:25 PM
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"Women are so dramatic! They can never get along with anyone or be friends for real!" Totally. That's why women start literal wars. Oh, wait, that's men. That's why women constantly angst they can't emotionally express themselves with their female friends. Oh, wait, that's also men. That's why women's only forums makes women promote keeping men as sexual slaves and go on shooting sprees. Oh, wait, that's men too. Weird!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:12 PM
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Me too! I'll make time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:46 PM
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So agreed. Don't fall for the same nonsense we had to endure, Gen Z gals! Life can be better for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:44 PM
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For me, it's more, what excuses am I no longer making for men? I haven't done a single thing differently except actually holding them accountable, individually, for what they say and do to me and to other women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:59 PM
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Thank you. I'm sorry for went you've been through too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:47 PM
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I've lurked there but haven't said anything. I don't usually have much to contribute someone else doesn't say better and it doesn't bother me to be a fly on the wall. Like I said in another post about my friends: One of them was there for me when I was sexually assaulted and no one else could make time. One of them stood up for me when I got picked up for standing up for my gay little brother in school. It's not like we have no history or they haven't been good people in the past. I have been sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:33 PM
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It's not that easy for me to leave my entire friend circle especially when I've known most of them my entire life almost, since preschool (small town). I have gotten much better at "no" with men pursuing me romantically but I very much value my friends and some of us have been through some tough times together. One of them was there for me when I was sexually assaulted and no one else could make time. One of them stood up for me when I got picked up for standing up for my gay little brother in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:28 PM
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You're right. I should voice my concerns to GFM. I doubt it will do anything but that's no reason not to. I spoke up to my friends about the fundraiser at the time but they started flinging some pretty hurtful accusations at me about how I'm bigot, even one I once housed rent-free when he was going through a tough time. I had to sit and ask myself why I have gotten to where I won't let men tell me what my standards for dating should be but they are still allowed to tell me how to think on everyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:20 PM
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To be honest I don't know how much I'm allowed to say on the topic, so sorry mods if I step out of line, but I'm referring the Vancouver Rape Relief shelter that was targeted by a certain group for vandalism including nailing dead animals to the building. Another group on Reddit that my friends did not like existing raised 7k on a Gofundme for that shelter. The fundraiser was taken down and the money was not given to the shelter. My friends celebrated this and it brought up the topic of how the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:57 AM
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Didn't they also ban a lot of lesbian ones? I feel so bad for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:35 AM
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This is all so horrifying. FDS made me reconsider the way I was letting men treat me and has made me question my stance on sex work, but otherwise I've still proudly considered myself libfem. More and more I am starting to wonder when I see more and more things like this happen. My libfem friends recently celebrated defunding a rape shelter. Now this. I just don't know where I belong anymore, socially or politically. :/ What I do know is Reddit is not a place I will stay should anything happen t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:32 AM
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Been there. A lot of us have. One day, you'll look back and wonder why you gave this bad-at-sex cheater the time of day, let alone years of your life. It's very important you learn to love yourself first and foremost. Have you heard those "Until" takes on pet ownership? "I'm not an UNTIL you get a boyfriend cat...I'm not an UNTIL you get bored cat..."etc. and ending to the tune of "I'm a FOREVER cat." Women are so kind and nurturing. We need to give ourselves the same care we show toward our pet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:14 PM
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Signs of craziness in women may include, but are not limited to: - Excepting to be treated like a man, an actual human. - Refusal to submit to proper gender roles and do all the cooking and cleaning. - Refusal to modernize and work a full-time job while also being traditional because anything other than 50/50 is gold-digging and men have wised up to that BS. - Flinging insults in unreasonable situations, such as when you appreciate other women in front of her or watch porn, which is biology. - R…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:04 PM
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The porn star name thing and jokes about how dudes have no lives because of video games / ribbing a woman for "forcing" them to stop playing (who is likely hypothetical, because they prooobably don't actually have a girlfriend) have become immediate disengage / block factors for me. Fortunately that Venn diagram is a circle so that makes it easier to weed them out simultaneously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:41 PM
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Yep, yep, yep. One of my closest friends is a gay male and while it does afford us a dynamic it wouldn't if he were straight, he's still a guy and all of the above and a few other topics are ones I have told him flat out I am not interested in hearing his opinion on or listening to him "debate" or "play devil's advocate" on. Just yesterday we skirted into such a subject, branched off from another, in regards to a misguided pickme friend who works against her own / other women's interests. He shr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:34 PM
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I wonder if he really even is. I have a male relative who used a similar tactic on a woman once when in reality he had no plans of proposing to the other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:59 AM
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I'm going to keep you in my thoughts. Something really similar happened to me, except with a dog, and I ended up having to stay outside / be homeless for a bit because nowhere was available that would take my dog too. I am doing great now but it was a rough few months. I hope you'll update us on how things are going for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:31 PM
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That is so terrifying. A neighbor bombarded me earlier to angst about his "problems" including "joking" about how it was kind of a relief he couldn't go on dates right now because of the pandemic because so many women "used" him for dinners and other "expenses." I asked him to clarify what he meant by used and he sort of dodged the point. When I outright asked if he meant he didn't get any sex out of them despite buying food he made some babbling excuse that was basically a yes. I then pointed o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:45 AM
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This makes me happy to see, and gives me the courage to post myself. I have been lurking around here for a pretty long time now, on and off, but sometimes what I read hit me so hard it was difficult to look at, mostly because I knew it was true. I looked at my boyfriend, my male friends, even some of the women around me who told me their behavior was fine and was like... is this it? What I really want from life? How I really want people to treat me? I think a lot of us grew up with fathers and b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:22 PM
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