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This hit the spot for the situation. I know she expects me to not have a plan, I actually didn't other then just "what happens,happens". After a couple of the comments here, I'm going to step up for my son aswell. She always uses him in a sense to target me, I should cut the grass before it grows out of control. I'll work on a plan for my son and I for when she leaves.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:50 PM
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Nah man, I've been really cautious to how I respond and act. I've never laid a hand on her. Nor have I said anything that could be portrayed as abusive. The only thing that she thinks is abusive is how I'm acting, and even then she can't tell me what specifically. This is why I say this is coming from left field.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:45 PM
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Thanks man, this is another example of how OI works. I'm beginning to also see and learn that life shouldn't stop just because her roller coaster is going crazy. It's helped a lot but like you said, I don't think this will be the last "main event". She's willing to do what ever it takes to take power back, I just need to call the bluffs and proceed with my life. Even if she decides to go through with it, she's not taking my son and she can go make that decision for herself. Its interesting to se…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:39 PM
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Yeah I'm going to have to read up on more "main events". I've noticed the more OI I am the harder it is for her to leave(she specifically said how she hates that it seems I'm okay with her leaving). Either way I'm sure there's only up from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:28 PM
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Have a son, but she's SAHM.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:24 PM
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Well she said. "What's worse is that your smiling all the time, and your SMV is going up. Meanwhile mine is going down."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:22 PM
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This is my biggest thing, whether my son stays or not. Like you said above he should stay with me whether she go's or stay's. In a sense I never saw this(or the importance) as his family home until you put it that way, usually I would let her take him. I think I'll play it this way, especially since her parents live a five hour drive away.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:19 PM
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That's the thing man, i know she's going to leave and then eventually come running back. In a sense it's just a dramatic waste of time, and now her parents are involved. I know I should leave her a path for retreat but I'll see how I take this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 01:06 PM
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Also I can see where you guys can think I went too over board, but this only spontaneously occurred when she read this article and now she randomly has her eye opened to all this abusiveness. "Crazy how much abusive I never notice." And I'm like.i don't understand tell me. She's like "I can't word it well but it's all in the article."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 09:02 AM
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If you need more help from her then just communicate it to her. Just be sure to keep frame while speaking so you don't come off wrong. Don't demand thanks, don't mention all you've been doing. Just think about what you need from her and sit down and communicate to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 01:32 PM
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Dude there's not enough information for anyone to gain insight, or to offer any advice other then general guessing(which in turn means your asking for shitty advice). I don't go to my doctor and demand to know what's wrong with me and how to fix it without having him gather some information first. In retrospect that's what your doing here. EDIT: Also if you sit down with her and tell her how it would be helpful if she told you "thanks" for doing everything. That's a recipe for disaster. Your fra…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 01:17 PM
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The more I keep frame the more she acts like I want her too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 11:34 PM
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Didn't even see it that way. So busy trying to improve myself that when I get something out of it, I don't even catch it most of the time. Thanks for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 11:33 PM
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Man I get this a lot from her. She probably doesn't even know she wants me to initiate(when she says she's bored), so I'll give it a go and see where it takes us. Has that worked for you though? I think doing something like that has a high chance to garner a shit test and not much more. I find that when she says she's bored what she really means is. "I wanted to go X today but we're still here." Or "So you wanna know what I want?" Might be one of those things though. Still I'll just shut up and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 11:29 PM
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I'll offer her my tablet so she can read it, whenever she brings it up again. Her reaction will be priceless. She usually doesn't know how to respond to curveballs. I think it'll help her brain calm down though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 04:40 PM
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I think your right in thinking that it might be a comfort test. Maybe by doing my own thing after her refusal I fail her comfort test. I'll definitely try to be more considerate and offer her some icecream lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 04:29 PM
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Usually I just Lead her, and i get a no. Sometimes she'll say I'm not asking her for one(and that, that's the issue) I'm just expecting it from her, or it feels like I'm forcing her too. Which again is weird because she doesn't say the same for sex. It's not like I have to ask for sex. So when I approach BJs in a non assertive way she's more okay with it, but when I do it in a more Assertive/OI way she's just like "stop being that way, because of a Blow job" or "All you care about is BJs". It's …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 04:25 PM
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