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Hi, love. I have no advice. I can relate to you. I’m 27f. Typically my work ethic will attract a man, but usually the wrong type. Either a) they’re also ambitious and they like an aggressive woman, which I’m not, or b) they have no drive and admire that I’m polished. At my core, I am very feminine and submissive, and I don’t like to drone on about topics like politics or work. Despite that, I’ve failed to inspire commitment in any of the men who excite me. I will make it a few dates in, without …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 12:14 AM
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I need to shut up too. I always want to let them know I can see behind the curtain 😂 I think oftentimes men really do mean what they’re saying in the moment, but their judgement is clouded bc they want sex. Once they’re alone they’re able to think more clearly it’s easier to evaluate interest. I need to become better about observing too! I always want them to guarantee that they won’t hurt me and play me, but I just think it’s impossible to tell. It’s always hard when they do so well in the begi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 07:51 PM
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Be advised I still haven’t found a good man who will commit to me, so while I’ve done a lot of OLD, I’m not a relationship guru. I’ve just played a lot of games with people from apps. I’m also on a dating break right now. In my definition of HVM, it’s a man who is successful, traveled, attractive, educated, and who is looking to commit to someone. It’s tough out there, admittedly. I am picky and therefore single. My advice for OLD is as follows: In the beginning, 99% of what the other person doe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:48 PM
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I worry about this too. I’m 27. Here’s what I tell myself: Focus on looking good for yourself, at any age. Plenty of people are divorced with kids and need to re-enter the dating market past their prime and with baggage. You’re far from that situation. Also, I’ve dated a lot. I could probably host a seminar about OLD. A lot of the men I choose, and I am picky about HVM, have no qualms about dating women in their thirties. Guys I really liked settled down with women older than me. Age isn’t every…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 07:20 PM
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Vasiliy, I really enjoyed your original comment. It was insightful, funny, and entertaining to read. For now, I’m choosing to believe that I am both finessing the situation wrong AND withholding sex for too long. In my past, I’ve been dazzled by the c-suites of large pubcos and wondered what they were doing with me. I know I can’t bag those men, and even if I could, I’ve dated enough to know they’re riddled with issues and it would be all about them. Now if someone is very successful and too goo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 11:37 PM
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Thank you! Fml. Ugh, I’ve even read that Men Chase Women Choose book too. It explains that vasopressin is the hormone which bonds a man to a woman, and that if you withhold sex and spend time with them, the amount increases, which makes them fall in love with you. I am going to STUDY your link tomorrow before I go out. That is the date I am most looking forward to. Thank you guys for even caring about my situation. I really appreciate the thought and effort in troubleshooting. I throw a lot of t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 11:06 PM
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I’ve been thinking about all of this, too. I didn’t mean I don’t have room for improvement and I’m perfect now, but if my rmv is so low such that I don’t even qualify for a relationship, then I need to stop investing my time in all of this and find a new purpose. I’ve maximized my smv and rmv to the extent that I reasonably can with what I’ve been given. I’m not so picky about venue or type of date. Typically it’s a drink, dinner, boat, or a walk along the lake. This weekend I have a street fest…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 10:15 PM
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Thank you. You’re SO right. I shouldn’t break the fourth wall and tell them my approach up front. Or anything about dating strategy. Moving forward I think I may sleep with them sooner than explicit commitment, but it’s going to take some time until I feel comfortable to do so. I am terrified of being used again. I started this approach because when I was 25 I strung along bad for about 9 months (including “I love you” and a bunch of promises about being together and how I’m perfect), and at the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 04:55 PM
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Typically we’re making out and they’re trying to feel me up to progress the situation, and I’ll pull their hand away. My birthday was a few weeks ago, and a different guy took me out that week then kept hounding me for birthday sex, at which point I told him the deal. I guess this is why the author of “men love bitches” suggests meeting in public places for as long as possible. To avoid getting to this point and showing them what’s behind the curtain. Where else would you suggest finding a HVM, …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:38 AM
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I appreciate you believing in me, I do. My view is of course warped, but I sometimes feel I have the opposite problem. I feel my rmv is higher than my smv. I feel I have a lot to offer. I have put a lot of thought into this over the last few years. I am not new to red pill ideology. I feel I often lose out to a girl who is hotter and not as suitable for marriage. I don’t know what my approach will be moving forward, but it would be a disservice to say I haven’t made significant investments to im…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:01 AM
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Printing this out, putting it on my mirror, and pledging to it daily. I do say that, and it’s usually when they’re trying to figure out what it’ll take to have sex. Somewhere around date 2-3.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:48 AM
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I really appreciate the reply. To your point, a few men have said they’re bummed that they weren’t attractive enough to make me change my mind. When that wasn’t the case. For example, I was VERY attracted to this last one. I am starting to rethink my approach. Though, the risk of sleeping with men without commitment may cause me to get hurt and sour my view on men for good, which will make me insufferable and repel them away from me forever, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. So, I don’t know …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:21 AM
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Thank you so much! ♥️ Your posts have been so helpful and informative. It’s true there really is no correct answer or clear path forward here, but I do feel more equipped to navigate these situations in the future after reading your posts. I also feel kind of relieved that there’s an option that’s less rigid than no sex without commitment, but I have to prepare myself for the risk that goes with it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:05 AM
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I now see the value in doing “firsts” (marriage or kids) whereas before I liked the experienced older man. Yes, please let me know how you think one can improve rmv. I know you aren’t limiting rmv to cooking and cleaning skills. I’ve really tried to take inventory in this category and improve myself over the last few years. I pick men with similar values who I deem smarter than me, so it is easy to give back in abstract ways like appreciating his acumen and worldview, thus allowing me to submit …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:52 PM
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Thank you. This was helpful. I may have to revise my policy such that I may sleep with men before commitment, but I will be more covert about the vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:28 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. My problem is from 24-26 I was going much older. It’s only recently I’ve honed in on men in their thirties who are ready to settle down. The older ones (40s) were experts at saying the right things to string me along for sex, which is how I arrived at my somewhat strict approach of no sex outside of a committed relationship. Your earlier link explaining category 3 and category 4 men was very helpful. Genuinely, I feel I’ve raised my rmv to the highest extent …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:26 PM
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THIS IS AMAZING, thank you ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:04 PM
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Dating apps such as Bumble or Hinge
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 10:59 PM
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Thank you for creating this excellent reference. Saved.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 08:57 PM
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I concede that I messed up, but I think you’re conflating two things: I was chill about him cancelling, and even explained that I was considering cancelling also because my day wasn’t going well—my grandpa died that week, dog was still coughing from being intubated, both of which upset me and I was in an emotional state. I was relieved he cancelled. I was decidedly not chill when I asked if he’s seeing other people. I never should’ve broached the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 07:24 PM
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Can you expound on this? I’m genuinely interested.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 07:13 PM
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I’m also curious what his definition is. When he asked me about sex during the second date, I told him it would require exclusivity and consistency, with the mutual understanding that we want a LTR. (I read this in a book—I’ve been burned before by getting “exclusivity” and it lasts two weeks.) I think it’s possible he wasn’t used to dating and options when he first committed to someone, since that has always been his MO. Unfortunately I think he may be enjoying his first sexual awakening now as…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 06:34 PM
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Thanks for your reply. He said after the divorce he gave himself a year off to heal, so he’s been on the market for a short period of time. In that time, he committed to two other women but broke up with them shortly after. They were in their thirties and he didn’t want to waste their time once he knew they weren’t compatible long term. We’ve talked a lot about our timeline and future. He had a religious upbringing, so saved himself for marriage and started having kids early at 23. He said he co…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 02:56 PM
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Ah, I get that. I guess I’m just surprised that he wants to use what little time he has left for dating to explore other people and not commit to me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 04:44 AM
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I have, but it never progressed to merging our lives together. I am interested in what you mean by falling victim?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 04:41 AM
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