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| 2 | Considering divorce in CA17 years, two kids, and being the only one carrying the financial weight while also doing most of the household work. The exhaustion in your post is real and completely understandable. The $5k a month estimate you mentioned is worth pressure testing before it becomes the number in your head that drives every decision. California spousal support on a $390k income with a spouse earning $700 a month after a 17 year marriage is a significant figure, but the actual formula produces a specific number,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Married 25 years. On the verge of divorce. Lost [M50] married to [F49]25 years with a $60k income gap and assets this size is not a situation where you want to be guessing at numbers. The "just give her the house" instinct comes from a place of wanting to be fair but fair and accurate are two different things. A pension and a 401k are not directly comparable without knowing the pension's present value. Depending on her pension type and years of service it could be worth significantly more or less than your $550k. That calculation matters a lot before you agree to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/26 04:21 PM |
| 4 | What to Expect15 years, 3 kids, house in both names, all bills in your name. Mediation is the right call financially but go in knowing your numbers before you sit down. The bills being in your name don't affect ownership. What matters is the house equity split, child support based on both incomes, and whether spousal support applies given the income difference between you two. Mediation works best when both sides arrive understanding what the formulas actually produce for their situation. Without that you're … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/26 09:39 AM |
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