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Sorry to say this, but shit like this makes me despise Tik Tok. Why does every little thing need to be analyzed and put on full display like this? Yes, LVM suck, but just be a lady and ditch the guy. No need to put every little thing on blast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:51 AM
8

Excellent! Don’t look back and DEFINITELY do not waste your time feeling guilty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:18 AM
197

Avoid these types of women like the plague. They’ll bring you down to their level and dim your light. This comes from a woman who had a BFF for 18 years like this...she was libfem to the tee, never cheered on my successes, and only talked about guys (even though she was married). Being friends with her completely lowered my standards for all of that time (we met when I was a young, impressionable 22 year old and I cut her off when I was 40). If I could go back and make ONE CHANGE in my life, I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:44 PM
24

This guido gots ta GO!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:12 PM
26

No social media for me except “anonymous forums” like Reddit. It’s very freeing and you’re not reminded of what jacknuts people you know actually are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:54 PM
33

I remember playing volleyball when I was younger in the nineties. We wore “buns,” which were basically thick, baggy underwear. It was so...inappropriate. And all the guys would just come to our games to “rate our asses”. Woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:48 AM
65

Awww, so sweet! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:32 AM
112

Important to raise your boys to respect women but you have to make them do chores!!!!! Laundry, grass cutting, clean bathrooms. Teach them how to cook, too. Too many moms out there spoiling their boys and turning them into lazy blobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:19 PM
171

I’m so sorry for your loss but am so happy you were able to experience what you did! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:26 PM
200

I’ve gone through some custody things involving sexual stuff. I’m going to DM you. PLEASE DON’T WORRY. JUST BREATHE AND RELAX.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:32 PM
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I love your point about a man being in love with “all of you”. That is what is most important to me. Looks eventually fade, so you need to make sure the man you’re with takes the time to get to know all of you and loves and respects “all the things”. While it’s easy to attract men when you’re conventionally attractive, it’s harder to attract “good men”. It’s important to be able to decipher a man’s intent—is he just fawning over you because you are his trophy, or does he also love your heart and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:17 PM
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Lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:47 PM
10

Lol. ANYTHING to stand out. On my 40th birthday (she destroyed it which was my final straw) she dressed like, according to my other friends, Elton John 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:36 PM
23

LVW never advocate for you. They want you down on their level. My ex BFF would never tell me I was being treated terribly, she’d never allow me any attention from men in her presence (even though she was married), and she went off the handle when I started hiring employees at my business. She showed up to my grand opening in a track suit and brought her obnoxious daughter with, who proceeded to jump around and destroy the appetizer table, all while mommy kept asking everyone to watch how cute sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:23 PM
79

Beautiful ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:31 AM
15

After listening to his spiel, here’s what I have to say—just because you sound like you know what you’re talking about doesn’t mean shit....it just means you’re a good salesman (manipulator).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:37 PM
10

This is true, but it becomes extremely terrifying when the guy who says it is a combat veteran 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:18 PM
183

Party Boy Syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:13 AM
17

Better to not have many friends and rebuild your social circle with the right ones than to have soul sucking vampires around. Good move, OP. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:16 PM
22

Is this real or satire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:30 AM
10

That’s right 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:13 PM
137

There’s a reason why famous people have as many breakdowns as they do. They all in some way or another were required to sell their soul to the system. Perhaps Britney was trying to break free when she shaved her head, and her handlers (including her father) devised this conservatorship to keep her compliant and QUIET. I feel nothing but empathy for Britney, and may she continue to have the strength to speak up against all the people who fucked her life up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:44 AM
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THIS. 💯 Alt-Right women that choose to put up with good ol’ boys who look at them like slaves puzzle me. These men discourage porn use, yet hate women more than any other subgroup of men. It’s a real hypocritical subculture whose members are completely blind to it. Fuck the Alt-Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:07 PM
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This was complete emotional abuse, OP. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. The triangulation alone is such a complete mindfuck. I experienced this for about six months last year. I was so shaken to my core and mad at myself because I had worked so hard on myself and my self esteem leading up to this. Just know that when you are being abused like this, it forms a trauma bond that is very difficult, as the abused, to get out of. Be so proud of yourself for getting away from this person. Your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:00 PM
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“That is all. Okbye” 🤣 I have zero interest in Tik Tok EXCEPT I wanna sign up to watch Pinky!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:13 PM
2

Gotta be a PR move for both of ‘em 😉 He’s been looking real shitty for the last few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:42 PM
2

Ben and his awful veneers and wig combo??? WTF is she thinking?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:26 PM
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I love her so much! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:07 AM
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“I’m thinking you also need to go in the box with that other douche canoe” 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:29 PM
15

I feel you. I learned how to start taking myself out on dates when I started traveling solo. It’s nice to have the ability to be able to do everything by yourself, especially having dinner or a drink. I think I’m just starting to understand that bars aren’t really places I want to be in that much anymore (even if I’m with friends). Just know that someone out there in Reddit-Land is empathizing with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:07 PM
71

Thank you. The fatalism gets really frustrating. This is, after all, a DATING STRATEGY sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:42 PM
38

Dumb Tik Toks like that (can’t say no for 24 hours) are exactly what happens when porn is pushed the way it is these days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:10 PM
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“Dick all gross looking” 🤣 Thank you for my morning laugh! But for real, much of this world is a mind fuck, a psyop if you will. Porn just contributes to the decline of civilization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:13 AM
73

She better get out now before she has a kid with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:06 PM
64

Yep. And her LIPSTICK!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:58 PM
109

“You can’t fuck, Sir!” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:45 PM
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Pardon my French, but what a fucking piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:19 PM
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Omg, yes! Was called a nerd several times and eye rolls accompanied by, “you only get these things because you’re pretty,” and “ohhhhh, the terrible life of a beautiful woman” if I was stressed out, by a NVM. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:20 AM
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THIS!!!!! Love her!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:26 PM
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This post not only made me infectiously smile, but gives me hope! You deserve all the goodness you’re receiving. Bask in this glory and just ENJOY the rest of your life...best wishes to you! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:02 PM
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So true! Excellent point! I’m always going to stand by my opinion that an older woman/younger man is a GREAT dynamic! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:12 AM
23

Dude just wants attention, even if it’s negative attention. Woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:57 PM
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Yikes @ Johnny Depp! 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:02 PM
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I’m so sorry. Emotional abuse is absolutely horrendous. It’s almost like you don’t understand the depths of exactly HOW bad it is until you’re completely removed from it. Now I can laugh about it, but at the time I was in pure hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:15 AM
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Lol, thanks! 🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:58 AM
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Great move! Air high five to you! 🖐🏼 I can’t believe I kept a straight face when I did it, but I think I was so fed up with him that I couldn’t laugh or smile around him anymore. These miserable fucks—emotionally abusing women at their leisure...they deserve to feel “condescended to”. I’m glad you laughed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:05 AM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:57 AM
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Wow. The last abusive asshole I dated did stuff like this. The last time he tried it, I said, “ok, so let me get this straight; the only way I can bring up issues I have with you is if I talk like a robot?” and then I started talking like a robot...🤣 I wasn’t falling for his bullshit anymore. I dodged the biggest bullet ever when I blocked and deleted that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:56 AM
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Thank you so much! It was an easy choice. There was no way I was going to pick a man over my child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:48 AM
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Thank you! I concur with your sentiments—we look younger and still have a lot of vibrancy, unlike men our age lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:44 PM
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Yep. I had a real shady feeling about Ring and although my parents got it for me for a Christmas gift, never set it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:22 PM
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Omg ME TOO!!! That rotten bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:54 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:18 PM
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It’s the way they look for sure, but also in way they act—like crotchety old men all set in their ways. Woof. No thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:15 PM
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Ohhhhh yes. I dated a scrote when my son was only 3 and this asshole was so jealous that I had to mother my child lol. One day he said, “I am just done with him” and I said, “cool, well then I’m done with you 😏”. Immediately: “BAAAAAAAAABE! NOOOOOO!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:49 PM
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Thank you 💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:46 PM
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😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:38 PM
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Ugh, I’m in my early forties and men over 45 STILL repulse me lol. 2-5 years younger is my preference. Older dudes SUUUUUCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:33 PM
48

True. But karma is a bitch. 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:45 PM
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This BEAST deserves every amount of guilt and shame he feels. May he continue to feel this way about himself for the REST OF HIS LIFE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:41 PM
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Sending you hugs! Thank you for sharing your story. 🤗 I lost my business, too. Building yourself up from square one, although painful, is a million times better than having a man dangle money in front of you like a carrot. I remembered ex telling me as I was about to leave, “the only reason why you’ve EVER had nice things in your life was because of me”. That’s when I understood exactly what was going on. I struggled for years but eventually did really well. That’s the thing, too; once you’ve bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:36 PM
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Yep. Mine attempted a hoovering move last week by emailing me to ask me why his phone is blocked, followed by telling me he was in a coma for two days and in the hospital for five days from a car accident with a picture of his hospital bracelet. The last time I gave in and came to his aid I got severely emotionally abused...so you know what I did? I blocked both of his email addresses from both of my email addresses. Buh Bye. Not playing your game anymore, bro. Feels amazing, not gonna lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:58 PM
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EVERY guy I’ve met from OLD (I’m from one of those aforementioned cities) was a HV imposter. One was in advertising, another an engineer, another, a wealthy business owner/artist. Looked great on paper but were honestly the most scummy, sleazy, disrespectful men I’ve ever been involved with. Played the “looking for exclusivity” game. TOTAL fuckboy central. Quite predatory, actually. RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:16 PM
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I NEVER tire of seeing the word ‘sir’ used in this way. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:11 AM
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That’s a great book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:29 PM
8

May I please recommend, ‘Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life’ by Dr. Susan Forward? It made me finally see everything in my family’s dynamic for what it truly was and was the genuine start of my healing process of childhood trauma—even after years of therapy! It’s not your fault. Good on you for recognizing everything you have and wanting to work on it. You can take control of how you want your life to be moving forward and don’t have to hold onto that heavy w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:24 PM
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I find many ultra liberal males to have complete double standards. I think ultra liberal males can be just as obnoxious as conservatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:44 AM
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I must say, as a single mom myself, that I’ve never felt more supported and not judged as I have on this sub. I sincerely appreciate every without child woman here who has our backs and understands that we can be great friends and advocates for you, too! Being a single mom definitely has its challenges in regards to judgments from others, but I’ve always felt nothing but respect here. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:39 AM
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Right, probably because she was just being polite and ran away THE SECOND she could. He built up this huge fantasy in his mind, that they had this insane connection and decided to publicly stalk her instead. How fucking embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:11 PM
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Thank you so much for this advice! I’m gonna try it because something needs to be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:29 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going though this. I know the feeling all too well. I just wish I could SAY SOMETHING because it’s affecting the way I live, ya know? I don’t know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:02 AM
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Ugh. I have this creepy older neighbor (late 50’s maybe?) who lives right behind me. There’s a tall fence between our yards, but he’s always outside listening for me and my dog to be outside playing fetch. He will legit stand up on a step ladder and start taking to me and will not fucking stop. He’s offered to “help” me with shit in my yard (it’s large and has a ton of perennials) and he creeps me out. He has a wife and daughter he lives with, but he makes me so uncomfortable I just want to tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:35 AM
54

I fucking DETEST when men walk in front of you. To me, it is the most passive/aggressive wannabe alpha move of all time. Dating a guy who refuses to walk at the same pace as you??? WALK AWAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:39 PM
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Hahaha, me too 😂 I’m post-wall AND a single mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:48 PM
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Some of my best memories were created because I traveled overseas alone. Bravo and congratulations to you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:51 PM
12

Yep. Just gotta be a good sheep and believe everything the news and big tech tells you or else people will think you’re crazy. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:47 PM
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Thank you for sharing! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:57 PM
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“Conspiracy Theorist” was a term made up by the CIA to refer to anyone who actually thinks for themselves and doesn’t wish to buy the narrative that is being pushed by mockingbird media; kinda like how we don’t buy the libfem narrative and get shit on for it 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:43 AM
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💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:21 PM
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I feel this so much! I happened to have a pickme BFF that lived out libfem to the maximum. I always internally judged her, but felt like I had to sUpPorT HeR because I was being a “prude”. Ugh, I wish I would’ve had the courage to just be myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:02 PM
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Nicole LaPerla is the BEST!!! She goes by @theholisticpsychologist and is a tremendous wealth of information about dysfunctional families and childhood trauma and the relationship between the two to your adult behaviors and how to heal yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:55 PM
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What a douche!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:27 PM
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That’s kind of the intent, though. They want you to think it’s real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:06 PM
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Yep. And Bradley Cooper too. He’s totally gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:37 PM
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Yes! And the media just LOVES it. They are grooming us ALL to think it’s normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:44 PM
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Right? Dude literally molests and marries his adopted daughter bUt He’S a ReNowNed FIlmMaKeR mmmkay? Fuck Hollywood. People are starting to understand, thankfully. Stop worshiping these people, for real; even if Reddit encourages you to 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:56 PM
8

This sounds like some Carrie Bradshaw shite. Woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:08 PM
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....also, notice how many age gaps there are in Hollywood and the dumb media who fawn over it? Like how about Scott Disick and Amelia Hamlin??? Like, just because you’re in Hollywood, you get a pass for being an obvious pedophile? What the actual fuck 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:00 PM
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It’s better to throw yourself into the proverbial fire than to stay. You just have to jump. You will find resilience and determination in ways you never have before. You will survive and succeed. I never regret what I did. It made me a better person. I could’ve been complacent but I just couldn’t be someone’s servant, no matter how much he made or how wealthy his family was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:05 PM
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What a wonderful man and a tremendous loss 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:21 PM
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I’m feeling for you! I had to let go of a 17 year friendship a couple years ago because of very similar circumstances. She was absolutely miserable in her marriage for YEARS and never stopped complaining about it, while at the same time never doing anything about it except creating crushes and “alternate universe boyfriends” to fill the emptiness inside herself. It was beyond frustrating when she began using my single status to go out to flirt with other guys behind her husband’s back. After CON…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:15 PM
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I resonated SO MUCH with this. I’m at the “sanity returns” point and am very, very thankful to have cut this human off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:43 PM
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That made me lol! Amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:26 PM
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I personally feel as though most people are actually pretty reasonable and moderate, but anyone who is this extreme, on either side, is nothing but a negative force who, unless you’re a SJW or a Qtard, should probably be avoided. Politics, in general, I’m beginning to look at as theatrics. The matrix is more like a documentary, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:38 PM
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I like you. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:17 PM
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Yes, I’m with you on this. I never liked my last name (very hard to pronounce/was butchered when my grandfather immigrated) and don’t really respect my dysfunctional family members that have it (other than my parents and grandfather) I couldn’t WAIT to get rid of it when I got married. I almost kept my new last name after the divorce, too, only because it was a cooler last name lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:59 PM
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Thank you for stating this! Reddit has a way of glossing over facts like this and perpetuating a “worship the rich and famous” culture. Bravo for speaking the truth 💖 Dude is a scumbag who knows no end to his desire for controlling the masses. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:52 PM
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LVM would NEVER travel solo on holiday; needs too much outside validation for his existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:03 AM
11

Unpopular opinion, I know, but this show was so toxic for women’s souls AND WALLETS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:08 PM
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Lol! I have contacts that are called “Don’t Do it. Just don’t,” “Handle of Vodka,” and “Separated”. I renamed them before I blocked them before I learned how to block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:05 PM
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News flash—she’s controlled by handlers, just like the rest of these pop stars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:51 PM
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Ok, I’m obviously not hip to this...what is mansplaining?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:25 PM
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She is so pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:54 PM
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Imagine how many other women he was doing this with on Hinge! Your messages were so relatable. I’m so glad the sub came to me, honestly. I’m so very thankful. Thanks for sharing your experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:29 PM
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But she’s just so CoOl, guys. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:46 PM
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This hit hard. Thank you. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:40 PM
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Tattoo artists can be elitist assholes. This absolutely DOES NOT surprise me, but good on you for finding a female tattoo artist who obviously wants the work! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:49 PM
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This made my morning 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:00 PM
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THIS. I was going to say the same thing! No matter how much “success” I’ve independently achieved had throughout my life, somehow, I managed to perpetuate LVM relationships. After working through things with therapy, I realized that both my successes and failures stemmed from having a family that raised me without giving attention to my personal needs and feelings. It made me a perfectionist in regards to hustling and creating a living for myself and my son, but a total f’n mess whenever it came…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:57 PM
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LOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:44 PM
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I’m sorry, but I’m laughing my ass off right now. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:44 PM
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Yep. Fantasies usually revolve around something that happened when you were younger. I grew up around a bunch of super alpha Harley dudes. I always fantasized about the toughest dude (either a Harley, Punk or Metal dude) in the world turning into a teddy bear and falling head over heels in love with me. And I manifested the life for a while where I was exposed to those types regularly. That’s where I started understanding that people like that have major fucking issues and it came full circle, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:14 PM
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Just wanted to clap for this excellent reply 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:04 PM
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Excellent!!!! Well done 👍🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:36 AM
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Well, given his laziness shown through lack of proper English grammar I think you’re making the correct choice. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:11 AM
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OMG. THIS.....ALL. OF. THIS. 🤣 Over 40/No kids/never married=Poon Hound who knows the game all too well. Don’t trust them! And yes, a Bush Pilot is EXACTLY what you think it is lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:01 AM
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No! It means they’re a PLAYER. Beware of Bush Pilots lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:24 PM
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Omg. YES!!!!! I dated someone younger than me for 3 years. He was an amazing father figure to my son. It’s a lovely dynamic that I actually prefer, even if it’s by a couple years. Older guys are THE WORST LOL. Don’t write them off is what I’m advising. Good luck!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:28 PM
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You got it! Don’t ever worry about dating someone a little younger than you, either. Just make sure they have their shit together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:51 PM
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Yes. Or younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:01 PM
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I’m just going to say this. I’m 40+. I personally think that many men who have never been married/have kids who are OVER 40 and still want kids have been TOTAL Bush Pilots and now realize their time is running out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:54 PM
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This. Self validation comes in many ways. I personally quit IG and FB. It helps A LOT! You deprogram from receiving attention from anyone. Best thing I’ve ever done for myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:48 PM
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THANK. YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:30 PM
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OMG. THIS. I wish I could give you a hug for this keen observation!!! It’s SO TRUE. All my married mom “friends” never have time for anything that isn’t fitting their “I’m happily married and am a perfect helicopter mom” narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:47 PM
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Lol! Yes, this sounds like some small town, neckbeard bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:44 PM
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So true! I’m so sorry you had to miss the meteor shower, too! I’m pissed FOR YOU. Reading this gave me flashbacks to my pickme friendship days. I cut all toxic friends out two years ago and am now kinda “no more chances” since and I love it. Since that, one friend of mine told me her husband “has a thing for me” (I am not a flirt in the slightest) and another one blamed me for suggesting she call her ex husband rather than asking me for advice when her son was convulsing in her car due to alcoho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:03 PM
11

Yes to this! Please don’t write off single moms because of this. I’ve always been super accommodating to my single, without child friends! We need our time to recharge without our kids too. I’ve never had a problem getting a sitter or just making plans on days I didn’t have my son. He’s older now so it’s not as relevant anymore, but when he was little, I ABSOLUTELY got a sitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:51 PM
13

I was just talking about my ex friend last night. We went to Vegas once and she spent the entire weekend picking up guys (insisting we go to this guy’s HOUSE, leaving me by myself to go on a “date”) while I sat on the sidelines like a third wheel because I didn’t want her to end up dead. What an energy vampire. In hindsight, she was always such a selfish goon and I’m so glad I left that “friendship” behind two years ago (we were friends for 16 years, too). It’s a huge relief. It’s unbelievable h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:43 PM
26

Yep. A guy shouldn’t ever entertain the idea of dating unless he has enough money to pay for dates. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:01 PM
13

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:01 PM
16

Girl needs to change the batteries in the smoke detector.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:19 PM
11

Diva Cup is pretty good 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:30 PM
11

Yep. Know this all too well—had a huge angry outburst at me for no reason whatsoever then has the audacity to say “yOu dOn’T ComMuNIcaTe WeLL”. It’s like dude, WHY on earth would I even attempt to communicate anything to you when you have a hair-trigger temper?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:24 PM
34

Hollywood has a huge hand in much of the relationship/love brainwashing throughout our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:38 PM
8

LOL 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:07 PM
60

But don’t forget.....”he’s WeLL tRavEleD” 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:51 PM
119

No kidding. He didn’t do anything wrong and he’s flexing about how well-traveled he is on an anonymous site lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:48 PM
1

Me either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:32 AM
18

I LOL, too 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:55 PM
17

Ha! The SECOND my son started pulling that while knowing better, HE had to clean his own toilet. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:06 PM
12

Well played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:26 AM
8

I second this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:27 PM
52

OLD is a complete waste of time and energy. You’re better off dating yourself than some blozo who is banging or attempting to bang multiple women simultaneously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:20 PM
17

Accurate AF 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:16 PM
3

That just made me LOL—hard. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:23 AM
5

That’s the thing. I always have taken the high road about that for some reason. I can only imagine the pain he feels at night, knowing that it happened when he was watching my son. I really appreciate your empathy. I would never wish what we went through to my worst enemy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:13 AM
23

Yep. It drained my bank account because he fought all the way to a pre-trial like a little bitch but it was WORTH IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:01 AM
6

No way! HAHAHAHA. That is TOO FUNNY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:38 PM
52

Thank you 😊 Now they’re married with two very young kids (3 & 4). It makes me so happy seeing her get annoyed with her own kids and knowing that she’s just a trophy wife who has to serve my ex and be perfect while I’m sitting pretty with one kid that’s about to be in high school. Life is cool now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:02 PM
82

Ohhhhh, the HELL my ex put me through with my son is soooo despicable. One time he went on vacation for 5 days and left my son with his GIRLFRIEND. We have “Right of first refusal” in our agreement which basically means if you go out of town, you have to ask the other parent to watch him FIRST. My son was FaceTiming me over the weekend and said, “dad’s been out of town since the day I went to his house”. I was SO LIVID. I calmly went over to his house to pick up my son, and calmly told his c*nt …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:49 PM
13

Unfortunately, no. I was lucky because I had a career before I met my husband. I just had to get a good job and reestablish myself. But she just has to take the leap. Live with family, find a roommate. You have to have determination. I did it when my son was LITTLE, too, before he even knew what it was like having mom and dad living together. It was either then or waiting till he was 18, and I wasn’t having it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:29 PM
36

One hundred percent! I’m glad I decided to become a single parent. My husband wasn’t an abuser or alcoholic or anything like that; we just got married because I got pregnant (yes, he baby trapped me). I knew I couldn’t live 18 years of my life being fake and phony with someone who wanted me to serve him. I struggled with money at first. It was tough. But now I have a very well-balanced 14 year old with two separate parents (I’m still single, dad remarried and had two additional kids) who will bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:03 PM
29

Yep. I was always cool with the rotation thing. I always fuck myself up when I decide to “date” and try to commit. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m a mom of a teenager. Why on earth would I even try at this point? I’m almost an empty nester!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:36 AM
71

Lol. I was so out of it and not in pain after I gave birth that I told my anesthesiologist I wanted to hug him for his help. Giving birth was awesome with an epidural!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:19 AM
41

Wow. Isn’t that some shit? So sorry that happened to you! I swear, my circumstance made me understand that doctors shouldn’t be looked at like such “special people” as they want us to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:14 AM
39

Can you believe that? To be fair, I was hard laboring (contractions every 3 minutes) all night from 11-7 am and only dilated to a 3. They gave me the epidural and pit drip at the same time at 7 am. Slept like a baby and got woken up to push at 2:40 pm, when the doc showed up asking for the game to be put on. Baby was born at 3:19. Other than realizing that the doctor did this to watch the game (he actually said it out loud), it was pretty awesome, not gonna lie. I was passed out during the worst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:59 PM
183

Omg. I had a male doctor deliver my son and he gave me an pitocin drip at 7am to speed things up because our football team made the playoffs and had a game at 3pm 🤦🏻‍♀️ AND he asked if we could put the game on. He and my (at the time) husband were happy as clams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:54 PM
35

Glad someone else sees it. The Matrix was a documentary, for real. I understand— it’s very depressing when you realize it all. People are literally getting paid to make society immoral and dumb. Divide and conquer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:16 PM
38

I feel you so much, as I have a very similar background. My mother is the epitome of one of the “Women Who Love Too Much” (if you haven’t read it, PLEASE DO; it’s a game changer). Her obsession with changing my father, who has always put his friends, his social life and, sometimes me, before my mother, led her down a path of alcoholism, suicide threats, and general jealousy and anger towards me. Somehow, the men who showed me consistency and warmth, I continually shunned, preferring bad boys wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:30 PM
13

👆🏻 THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:26 PM
23

I’m Mediterranean, and yes, it’s very true. Especially in Europe. But I’ve dated a couple “First Gens” here in the states and it’s the same. It’s real old school shit. It’s a misogynistic culture, Mediterranean and Eastern European especially. My advice is to stay away from first gens and natives of these particular cultures if you’re looking for a HVM, because their parents simply don’t teach them FDS ways. It’s just not a thing. It is a cultural thing. It’s not a cut against these people, as m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:23 PM
61

Does anyone remember the SPECTACLE they made out of his marriage? Like he was fucking royalty or something. I’m just sick and tired of Hollywood—period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:04 PM
31

For sure. I had nothing but pickme friends. After a hardcore spiritual awakening I started letting them all go. I feel really lonely in real time, but it’s just leaving room for the right ones to enter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:44 AM
6

Thank you. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:52 PM
24

I think I may have alienated a couple married (to scrote ‘good ol boys) friends two nights ago because they were talking about how their husbands can’t seem to get the grasp of simple chores and I talked about how empowering this sub is because it makes you understand that most married men get treated like kings and expect to do nothing while their wives do everything and have to contribute to 50% of the bills....WHOOPS 🤷🏻‍♀️ #sorrynotsorry My one friend was like, “Dude, I’d NEVER get married ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:56 AM
9

Thank you so much. This sub alone has helped me gain self confidence and feel completely full as a single mother. Men are not needed whatsoever. No more scrotes—FDS for life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:55 AM
15

Omg. I am SO SORRY. And I relate to you all too well, as I have a very similar circumstance. My ex drained me of all my money—I felt guilty for leaving him and I gave him EVERYTHING. He just took and took and took. Tried alienating me from my son...then something really bad happened. The worst thing you could ever imagine, to my son, on his watch. I read your story and I empathize with you so very much, as this could be me. I’m held hostage in the town I live in for three and a half more years u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:20 PM
10

Right on, so it’s more about gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:48 PM
8

Well, the guy was Muslim, so there goes the narrative on that one, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:56 PM
12

Yes, no mo OLD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:54 PM
55

Right. The key here is that this was OLD. OLD isn’t worth it. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:36 PM
61

I think a lot of us are here specifically because our last relationship was with an abuser or an addict. No more scrubs, ladies! 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:51 PM
19

Bless her southern heart....dumbass. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:18 AM
145

Ok, going in a different direction here, but that gentleman is extraordinarily handsome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:15 AM
59

What really happened—he met someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:21 PM
40

Based AS FUCK. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:13 AM
20

Perfect graduation gift to yourself! Kicked his ass right out. Now that you’re leveling up w/ your degree, you’re also leveling up in life. Well done!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:11 PM
8

You’re exactly right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:03 PM
16

That’s what I was thinking! Why the fuck is she in his car in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:51 PM
16

This just made me lol so hard. 🤣 Thank you for my huge laugh of the day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:50 PM
12

So glad you’re here! This is such a wonderful group of empowered women. Just shine on. You gave yourself the ultimate gift when you left his ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:38 PM
7

I believe it! I’m sorry to have traumatized y’all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:26 AM
10

I’m so glad there’s someone else who’s truly “awake” on this sub! Don’t you see HOW CLOSE many people are to being awake here? I know there’s different stages of understanding how the world truly works. A lot of FDS is getting kinda close, I can feel it. People have got to understand that the system is rigged against us, as a whole population, and that media/Hollywood/music/social media is perpetuating all this shit. The Matrix was a documentary, for real, and we’re living in it RIGHT NOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:34 PM
6

Thank you for acknowledging it. I actually feel quite sorry for these women. They sold their soul the SECOND they sign with a big label. All artists who sign with a big label do. They’re literal puppets—paid to make the masses more hateful, sexual, and confused. You want to know why all the problems we have today are so large???? Look right to major music/tv/movies. Even IG “influencers”. They’re all getting paid to say the shit they do. We’re just the sheep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:18 PM
9

Yes. This is all the label’s doing. Record label executives are the real devils, the real misogynists. They WANT people to be dazzled and corrupted by these women. Make no mistake. Check the executives—hate to say it, but they’re men, old Jewish men. The same old Jewish men that made gangsta rap fashionable back in the late 80’s/early 90’s. Ask yourself why these rappers with all the money in the world keep complaining about oppression, when they themselves are the ones who are pushing for degra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:02 PM
1

First off, that dude is WAY old. Secondly, how uncomfortable does this woman look? Third, THIS CAPTION???? What in the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:14 AM
11

I literally just bought it because of this post. Been crying for the last hour reading it. Thank you 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:12 PM
48

I have a son and I’m a single mom. I make my son do a ton of shit around the house. He makes his own breakfast and lunch, does his own laundry, and has so for years (he’s 14). He also controls all garbages, cuts the lawn, and has to carry in all the groceries whenever I go shopping. He also is in charge of cat litter. I don’t fuck around. I’m raising a functioning member of society, here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:33 AM
3

It’s ok. My proposal went like this..... Him:”I talked to HR today. They said the pregnancy would be covered under insurance if we get married” He said this after intentionally knocking me up, btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:06 PM
6

LOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:30 AM
4

That movie was EVERYTHING to me back in the day. The first time I went to Seattle three years ago I was like 🥰 And that soundtrack absolutely can’t be beat. I’ll be a former grunge girl forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:29 AM
7

This is truth, sister. How about ‘Singles’?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:25 AM
5

Too funny!!! I watched this movie a few months back because it was one of my favorites back in the ‘90’s and the very first thing I thought about was what an asshole Ethan Hawke’s character, Troy, was. Such a prick! Like when he stays up late to give Winona shit about sleeping with Michael??? Teaches that there’s double standards for men and that they’re allowed to be total assholes. Hindsight 20/20? Fuck that movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:24 AM
9

Beautiful 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:45 AM
53

Yep. Subversive brainwashing at its’ finest! “They” don’t want people to have families anymore. “They” don’t want wholesomeness. If you study history, the fall of Rome was perpetuated when the majority became immoral. This is all being done on purpose; more people just need to wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:01 PM
27

One Hundred Percent!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:34 PM
203

Vice, while trying to always seem “hip” and “cool”, is just part of the establishment. Fuck Vice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:54 PM
10

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:00 AM
11

Thank you for bringing attention to these creeps, honestly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:59 AM
89

Thank you so much. It was a huge embarrassment for me, as I was drunk at the time, and somehow felt responsible, as the patriarchy teaches us to feel. I’ve only told a couple people, and this post, on this forum, felt like the right place to share. Thank you, OP, for pointing these creeps out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:59 AM
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I so hate that I have to admit this on Reddit of all places, but it feels like a safe enough space to get it out....I was raped almost two years ago by a HARD CORE male feminist, who I later found out, had gender dysphoria and wanted to be a woman. He said to me before it happened, “you’re just so....perfect”. BEWARE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:32 AM
11

I was gonna say....Meghan seemed like the perfect opportunity for him to go running for the hills. Those people are mutants. Poor Diana :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:34 AM
5

“Serial Farters” LOL!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:38 PM
23

Yes, I’m getting to that point as well! My son is 14 and I don’t think I want anything to do with men until he’s almost out of the house. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:38 PM
28

One hundred percent this. I’d never date someone in my age range again (41) that’s never been married or doesn’t have a child. Obviously the scrote doesn’t know how to be selfless and is in this predicament for a reason by this time. My last guy just turned 45. No kids/never married. Biggest douche nozzle EVER. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:35 PM
10

This woman is my spirit animal. LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:30 AM
32

One hundred percent this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:18 PM
9

Thank you! I left with NOTHING, but it was better than being under his control. He didn’t give me a dime towards raising our son until our divorce became finalized about 2 1/2 years after I left him. My son and I shared a bedroom and lived in squalor. And he allowed and perpetuated it. He never understood how his butthurt actions affected my son. But it lit a fire under my ass. I eventually started my own business and was able to travel overseas solo while my son had extended visits with him ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:12 PM
62

As a person who literally got baby-trapped by a man, I can tell you this is how men are when they see you’re an independent, slaying woman. I was in the prime of my life. He just wanted a trophy wife. He totally knocked me up on purpose. Went on to marry me, keep me at home, and have me serve him. I left him when the baby was a year and a half old, because there was no way in hell I was waiting till my son was 18...I chose to become a single mom and went back to my career. He tried to ruin my li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:15 AM
24

One hundred percent! I went on a huge “cut off” kick a couple years ago after going through a major court case (my child was the victim of a violent crime). I just...SAW everyone for who they truly were, and, more importantly, MY role in it. I realized I couldn’t stand my best friend of 16 years. She was married and used my single status as an excuse to go out and flirt with other men while subsequently cock blocking me. She was also a terrible parent who never disciplined her awful child. I dec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:05 AM
20

This comment hit me hard. I decided to become a single mom when my son was 18 months old, and he’s 14 now. I was a complete Pickmeisha and had a couple long term relationships with LVM in which I became the mother of “two boys”. I worked my ass off, started my own business, and left the LVM to the side. 4 years of single life...and the pickings are slim lol. What I wouldn’t have given to have a house like this when I wasn’t doing well financially! It sounds like a great idea that is very, very n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:51 PM
7

When I got a divorce, I had to attend “parenting class” in the county I lived in. There were SO MANY women like this, who never worked, and didn’t have the skills to get themselves a decent job after divorce. Some had kids who were about to leave the house. I was never happier with the choice I made to not leave my career after I got pregnant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:51 PM
54

Perfect. ESPECIALLY the song! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:29 AM
36

I’ve heard from a very reliable source (my client’s BFF worked in a very large position for him around ‘Wedding Crashers’) that he’s gay and all the women he dates know and agree to it for a career boost. It happens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:46 PM
1

The music industry and pedophilia go hand and hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:50 PM
8

I love her!!!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:30 AM
3

Bravo 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:41 AM
9

Omg, I LOVE HER!!!! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:52 PM
3

Wow. That was my EXACT engagement ring! It’s beautiful. Enjoy! Emerald cut is so classic and never goes out of style. xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:18 PM
5

Best meme ever! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:19 PM
16

Best use of this meme I’ve seen yet! If I were drinking something while I saw this, it would’ve gone EVERYWHERE. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:00 AM
40

Every step counts! Stepping out of victimization and into accountability. I’m still very upset over the guy I left, as I absolutely adored him. I just knew I had to do it for myself or would be subjected to LV behavior that’d never change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:19 PM
356

This hit HARD. So very true. It’s daily work, relieving yourself of former trauma. It seeps into everything in your life. Boundaries need to be drawn EVERYWHERE. While I’ve mastered my boundary-setting in regards to work, friends, and school, I’m still working on it with men. The last one I left, I should’ve been “quicker on the draw”. But once you learn to observe your trauma responses and remove yourself from them, you learn to cognitively assess things better. Better Every Day is how I always…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:59 PM
20

Brilliant. 🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:27 PM
1

Yes, I am in dire need of strong, but sweet females in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:09 PM
5

See, now I could get down with some cool friends like this too! Where have you been my whole life, sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:33 AM
29

My ex bff was an energy vampire Pickmeisha who used my single status as an excuse to go out and flirt with guys behind her husband’s back. She was a terrible mother who allowed her daughter to speak down to adults without correction. I was her best friend and doormat for 17 years. I let her go when she ruined my 40th birthday almost two years ago. She just couldn’t stand that I got more attention than her. As this safe space encourages—It is much better to be on your own than to let anyone steal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:42 PM
161

Stay strong! Don’t engage anymore. Mourn the loss. Go through it and let yourself feel shitty. Don’t use intoxicants. Keep on this site and journal your feelings out. You’re gonna feel so much better in a couple weeks. Well done! You chose you. Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:20 PM
92

41 here. Single mom who left her controlling husband 12 years ago. Had a career. Built a business. Haven’t had to depend on a man for anything since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:30 PM
48

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:53 PM
13

I’ve been reading a lot about narcissistic abuse. Many addicts are narcissists as well. If you were raised by narcissists, where only THEIR needs mattered, and you were only treated as an extension of your folks, you naturally become a people pleaser and ignore red flags. The love you were shown came with conditions and was never steady, so your brain looks at that exact dynamic as “love”. Consistently seems boring. Up and down looks like “love” to you. I just blocked and deleted an alcoholic. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:41 PM
37

💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:38 AM
46

41 here. They still act the same, even at this stage of the game. I’ve learned that if a man hits 40 and has never been married or doesn’t have kids....RUN LIKE HELL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:50 PM
22

He probably smells it. What a freak lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:45 PM
10

THIS—one hundred percent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:11 PM
20

What a dork lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:04 PM
31

GORGEOUS!! Now I want a stack!!! ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:36 PM
66

I’m with you one hundred percent. I have a little dog to give me unconditional love and companionship. Men are irrelevant to me right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:24 AM
4

Thanks for the video. It was awesome! I’m not gonna feel bad about cutting someone off anymore. You’re right, we’re just adjusting our crowns 👸🏻💖✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:16 PM
3

Omg, I don’t blame you for your sentiments WHATSOEVER!!! I’m so sorry that happened to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:45 PM
6

We have a lot in common 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:40 PM
2

Hi! Glad to know we exist and are in the RIGHT PLACE! Glad you’re on you’re healing journey, too! 💖💖💖💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:24 PM
32

Ohhhhhh, ABSOLUTELY! I’m an only child. Both of my parents were weekend warrior alcoholics and narcissistic. I never had any choices in my life. My needs were never considered. I was constantly bossed around and never allowed to disagree with them. I ended up a “pick me” one hundred percent because of that. When you are raised in a way where your needs were never considered, you definitely have a harder time expressing your needs in ANY relationships—even with friends. I surrounded myself with p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:07 PM
35

He gaslit me and went silent after I tried to have a discussion about how I felt like a complete inconsideration to him. When I called him out on ghosting, he texted, “I have nothing to say. Don’t fuck with me; I’m not in the mood today”. I left him with, “so you think silent treatment ISN’T an example of fucking with me? You’re very self-absorbed” and BLOCKED and DELETED immediately before he had a chance to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:55 PM
52

Agreed. Most just want to steer the conversation back to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:01 AM
3

Touchè!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:09 AM
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You give us hope! Well done! Hope your shoulder gets better too, that’s some gnarly pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:54 PM
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The most important thing to remember is that YOU CHOSE YOURSELF! I’m sorry you had to suffer the way you did, but in the end, when you choose yourself, you won’t loose yourself. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:38 PM
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This....💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:15 PM
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I’ve attempted OLD a few times. My son goes with his dad more in the summer, so I have the extra time to date. I’ve been single for almost 4 years. Out of the times I’ve attempted to date someone online, I’ve only met ONE GUY that was remotely HV...he lives 2000 miles away, though. We started visiting each other, and whenever I’d go see him in Seattle, he’d plan dates and activities in advance, cook for me, and not let me lift a finger since I traveled to him. It was very nice. We’re still frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:30 PM
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Congratulations! I’ve only been on this sub for two weeks and I’m happy to say I blocked and deleted the LVM/alcoholic that was manipulating me. I poured over the handbook and am ready to move on from my Pickmeisha ways. I am so glad this sub exists, and very thankful for the member who led me here from the r/alcoholism sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:13 PM
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Ehhhhh, it can come from all different things, but I think you’re getting somewhere with the whole “childhood” thing. I was raised by weekend warrior alcoholics. Love was conditional in my household, and as an only child, never had anyone else to talk to about it. I was severely verbally and emotionally abused by my mother and she never taught me how to respect myself. Not only that, she was a Pickmeisha to my dad. If that’s what you’re accustomed to during childhood, you will inadvertently pick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:35 AM
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Yep. LVM alert on men who don’t have relationships with any female family (or ANY family, for that matter). The guy I dated who inadvertently led me to this sub did not speak to ONE member of his family. Clearly, he was the problem—not ALL of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:42 PM
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I totally understand. I got impregnated by a guy who said he had a vasectomy very quickly after we started dating. I was so fucked up emotionally from realizing I was dating a sociopath that I didn’t tell him till the day I had it. I almost told him, but the day I could’ve, he was talking all about the girl he was talking to right before me, and said that he’d still consider “hate fucking her”. Imagine my surprise when he WIGGED out on me because I chose to have the abortion. First off, you’re c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:20 AM
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