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Might not be anything relevant, could be a tick or simply symptoms of overwork in those muscles.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/24 07:44 PM
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Yes, but the resulting ideologies should not be called "Red Pill" anymore, it will just be a bastardization and strawman of the concept. Because there will be infinite proposed solutions under a giant umbrella, which will just make it that much easier for the other side to attack it. For example, the very example with the manosphere shows why Red Pill should be separate from people's ideologies. Because then the establishment uses what some of these manosphere influencers are saying to attack an…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 08:40 PM
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"Taking the Red Pill" is a metaphor to seeing the truth of the world beyond the plugged in machines (from the movie). It's not an ideology because the truth of the reality and nature doesn't change with our ideas, it should be evident descriptive reality of how human dynamics work (ex: men and women are ontologically different). And that truth doesn't automatically come with proposed solutions. After we accept certain things as true, then we ourselves spread these proposed solutions to the probl…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 08:20 PM
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I can speak a bit on this since I have seen several of the variations of those out there. The Red Pill itself, just like this sub, is not an ideology (like for example feminism). It's supposed to be a description of the truth of the reality (like in the movie The Matrix), and then you can take that information and do what you want with it. But telling you the unflattering truth is the essence. The manosphere is not a monolith, some of them have very different opinions than others. I do like that…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 05:35 PM
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Height is not a measure of lack of femininity. Easy counter-example: runway models which are predominantly tall. However if you are overall big like having wider shoulders then it might be a factor. What you can do to offset it: longer hair, feminine clothes (like dresses) and definitely avoid stuff that masculanizes your appearance, like tatoos or piercings.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 02:23 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 05:46 PM
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He said he just doesn’t think he can be a good boyfriend right now and does not want to disappoint or hurt me. Yeah, that seems pretty clear it's the case, he doesn't think he is good enough right now. I think this is an opportunity for you to show that you are supportive. Men rarely forget favors like that. But of course take what I say with a grain of salt, there is always the possibility I misinterpreted his actions.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 05:36 PM
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If he says that "he can’t meet the demands of a relationship right now" then perhaps you can make it so that there is no such demand on him right now. And make that clear to him that you think so, as men inherently feel the pressure to offer things in a relationship. I find it hard to believe that he would refuse someone's support if there are no demands on him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 03:11 PM
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You need to make sure that the guy has the same specific long term interest as you do. There is no "I am not sure if I am ready" or "let's wait and see", those are usually lies to draw things before inevitably end them. At 30 is already harder than at 24 though.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 08:12 AM
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Yeah, it sounds like that turned him off from the idea of marriage. But it doesn't necessarily mean that he wouldn't want the good version of it. It's good that you are on board with a prenup, since all that does is remove the state from the split of assets. You can add clauses to it like having various financial insurance in various cases. And yes, marriage without religion is kind of empty. Just a contract with the state, nothing more beyond. Marriage originated with Christianity because it's …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 06:17 AM
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Well, depending on which country you are in there is a case to be made against marriage for men, because divorce is rampant (like 50% rate) and men really lose a lot in it. Like half of what they have. In some countries is worse than others. To make it much easier for him to agree, either a religious marriage without the state involved or maybe offering to have a prenup if you want the state, I am sure will make it WAY easier for him to be convinced about marriage. If that's his actual worry of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 06:03 AM
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I see. It doesn't sound convincing on his part. I don't want to put negative ideas in your head, but you need to make sure he is not stringing you along. Imo he should make it abundantly clear, anything less than that is simply a falsehood. Men pretty much always know what they really want, especially if they are older. But that doesn't mean that they will be truthful about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 05:32 AM
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I watched the whole debacle of mass hysteria on feminist heavy subs like r/TwoXChromosomes and r/women. A lot of them definitely admitted to being sluts (saying that they loved it), having multiple BFs, using dating apps etc. Nothing of worth was lost, the world will even thank them if it lasts more than 2 weeks and it's employed by more than 1% of their population.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:16 AM
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You still haven't addressed what they replied. Trump literally will do nothing about abortion, it will be exactly how it was until now, at state level
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:05 AM
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Very simple. The ones jumping on the 4B train are exclusively feminists that were having casual sex before. Which already removes them from serious relationships, at least until they do some serious growth. So, win-win I guess?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:03 AM
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Medical necessity abortion was always and will always be allowed, it's codified in the law. Also miscarriages are not abortion, I saw those being conflated on feminist sites too. For this mass hysteria I blame Kamala and leftoid media, they kept saying that Trump was going to ban it, lies as usual. In reality, he said literally it will be the same as until now.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:02 AM
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Yes but what you are missing is that the women that ever employ this are the ones that were having casual sex before. Which from the start made them way leass desirable for relationships and definitely not for marriage. Nothing was lost here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:00 AM
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I heard MGTOW was banned on Reddit 🤣 But I am not surprised, the mods tried really hard to make Reddit a leftist echo chamber before electiosn.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 11:58 PM
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I know 4B is supposed not just about sleeping around, but it originated from sex itself, since that is the connection with abortion. So it's still a rejection of sexual relations, which is really hilarious for us since we were always against degens 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 11:57 PM
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Evidently, most of those that currently call themselves Chrisitians are in fact not practicing the faith at all, in all areas.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 11:55 PM
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I would say it's a good idea when you want to be serious with someone and it would act like the probation period before marriage. If you don't want that at this point, then I would say it's probably not a good idea to move in with him at your age.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 11:07 PM
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You know the old adage "past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior"? He had an one sided open relationship with his ex in the past, which doesn't reflect well at all. I would say chances are substantial he will revert to that in the future. But still, people can change but the very difficult thing about sexual past is that early on you never have clear evidence that a behavior is pretense and temporarily true or permanently true. It's always a long gamble. Some pretty darn clear signs …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 09:06 AM
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It's actually really easy and pleasant as far as diets go, it's the kind of thing you can easily do for the rest of your life. Provided you get over the harder first few weeks where your metabolism adapts to the lower glicemic spikes (which are a good thing). You can do it slowly by transitioning to getting calories from good fats, like olive oil or avocado. If you successfully manage to get used to it, for a while you will feel a rush of energy and clarity that comes from consistent blood sugar…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 04:58 AM
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It's not really a new thing now, but pretty much everyone agrees that lower carb + intermitent fasting changed their lives. When you get accustomed to that you can even switch to keto. The easiest way to lose weight without much pain (after a period of getting used to it) and reduce most kinds of inflammation.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 02:49 AM
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There might be a few that are serious, but in your age range those are almost never the ones that most girls pin over. The more attention they get, the less they want something stable. Honestly, I would tell you that there is no rush. No decent guy will find it offputting, I guarantee that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 02:44 AM
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Yes, patterns are a warning sign for a reason, and it seems like she proves exactly why the trend is relevant. Her anger issues very likely come from her past with men, and all of it was probably in a short window since she is 19.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 02:27 PM
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It's probably because you butt heads with them constantly, which is masculine energy. Men respond to such things in the same way they do with other men: conflict escalation until one side loses. So it just ramps up. And regarding the "chivalry" part, almost no one will give you that if you have a bad reputation. It's the kind of thing that is determined more by your character and demeanor and much less by your looks.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 03:29 AM
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I don't want to call premature shots, but I have never ever heard a regular guy say that he likes wearing mini-skirts. Only the overt wierder ones do that. If I am to guess I would say that he is easily confused and influenced by the cultural trend that wants to move everyone towards "non-biary", whatever that looks like. I call it a campaign of purposeful confusion.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 12:22 AM
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Yes, but I also think that they tend to live in really expensive places. When most money is spent on rent and the car, then issues are guantateed.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:20 PM
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You would be surprised by how many men envision this as their ideal, how much they say that they want to have someone to love and protect like that. It's a natural imperative. But the great irony here is that those are rarely the men that a lot of women chase these days. Which is why you hear so many negative stories now. I think he wanted to say that to you since before, but men these days are also getting persuaded by the narrative. And so he probably thought that it was something you really w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:18 PM
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Men marry when they like a woman enough to be with her and they determine that the woman will be loyal to them for the rest of their life. That's your whole formula. Men really aren't complicated like that. They might lie to keep a woman around temporary though. If there are not enough signs of loyality or stability by the virue of who the woman is and how she acts, then they will never marry her. Especially today when marriage carries higher financial risk for men.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 02:07 AM
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To quit porn he needs higher purpose to work towards, to spend his energy and focus. And you can't really decide it for him, he needs to arrive at it himself, so quite tricky. But perhaps you can nudge him towards a purpose and observe how receptive he is to the idea. And watching porn is indication that he has a void somewhere that needs to be filled. Often times men do it simply because they have no sources of intimacy, it's the most common and simple reason.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 01:23 AM
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Yep, and what's worse some even now try to convince themselves how "liberating" it is. Either I was raised well or that was always my nature, but just this idea brought a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach. I always rejected it. So I am not sure how people were even tricked into it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 06:39 PM
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Good, if this would ever stop working on women, then these type of guys would dissapear overnight. They only do the things that bring results after all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 01:23 PM
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It really did. It wasn't that long ago when people married virgins and never even tought that they somehow missed anything at all (until the media and wannabe influences started telling them that they did).
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 12:03 PM
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"Missed out on experiences"....ooof, so many people shoot themselves in the foot by listening to narratives. Just 50y ago it was perfectly normal and acceptable to marry a virgin and only have each other for the rest of the life and the kicker is that they wouldn't feel like there was anything to miss. But now you have the media telling you what "wonders" are out there....
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 12:02 PM
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How to be a man in today society: be a man like it always was before today's society. We already know how that looks like, but these we don't want to do it because it's a lot of work.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/24 11:59 AM
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No, but under the caveat that it's with them and ONLY with them. Which is a pretty big caveat and usually doesn't work like that when you see it in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 11:56 AM
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Taking breaks never works. If it's long distance for now you basically have all the space that you would ever need while in a relationship. I have a hard time seeing what a "break" would add to this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 04:52 PM
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He may or may not be a narcissist, but does it matter? It's the same conclusion. People do bad stuff even without special mental conditions.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 01:24 AM
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That would depend on how visible they are and the theme of the tatoo. If they have them all over the body then that I would be definite yes.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/24 09:56 PM
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When it comes to specific very telling ones, there is also the tramp stamp that you see a lot of pornstars with.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/24 09:55 PM
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We refer as "alpha" to those that have a disproportionate success with women. Meaning that it's not men that choose the meaning, it's women by their selection process.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/24 04:16 PM
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hoe_math explained it perfectly, and it made perfect sense considering what I knew. Without hair you will lose a subsection of women that would be attracted to you, and you gain back a smaller subsection that find bald guys attractive. Overall less women though.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/24 04:13 PM
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Indicator of some emotional issues. Probably they want to emphasize or de-emphasize stuff about their bodies. Patterns are a powerful thing and I have yet to see a single one with significant tatoos that didn't conform to the pattern of initially thinking "Will she have issues too?" and later on when I confirmed it I was like "Yep, makes perfect sense now". The pattern is so strong that it's basically undefeatable now. One or two unlikely exceptions would do nothing to change it.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/24 04:11 PM
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Maybe but other explanations require much more specific conditions, so no reason to go with that under limited information. The simple and common reason is usually the right one.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/24 05:04 PM
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That is no valid reason for a "break" as in "I am not in a relationship with you right now". If she really had anything else to do then she could do it while in the relationship. I don't see what the problem would have been, not like they were together 24/7. But being "temporarily" single helps her guilty conscience in a very specific situation.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/24 01:52 PM
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There is no valid reason for wanting a "break". If she had something to do, then she could do it without a relationship break, it's not like it would hold her back. It's just an excuse to see other guys. But at least it seems she had a guilty conscience, since some do it while in the relationship without seeing an issues.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/24 01:48 PM
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Think about it like this, if I said that it is indeed shallow and you should try harder to change it would anything change? I don't think arguments and talking about it can change this. Some people are able to see beyond looks and give more weight to character far easter than others, either because of how they grew up and developed or bad experiences with good looking people, since those are more likely to be shallow themselves. Your first BF probably set your standards in a place where the 2nd …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 10:14 PM
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Men are a monolith for the most part. Some feminized younger ones pretend that they don't care to virtue signal and get laid, but deep down they still do. I have seen it many times, the older they get they only look for one type of women for relationships. It's apparent by their pattern of getting and staying into actual relationships, those are at an all time low. How arrogant of women to one-sidedly decide what "should" be the norm for the preferences of both. It becomes clear to me that women…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/24 02:50 AM
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That's just your baseless assumption speaking, because women are often turned off by inexperienced men. I don't expect them to be highly sexual, I don't expect them to show any kinds of "cool tricks", it's a turn off for the most part. All that she needs to do is to be interested and turned on by me, that's all. Her amount of interest and attraction is the highest compliment a man can get. I don't mind at all even if she just stays there and does nothing, as long as she enjoys it. Then I will fo…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/24 02:31 AM
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On the 2nd date you can start asking leading questions, perhaps not outright just yet. And see how much they think about the future vs just living in the present, that's usually very telling. Those that don't want marriage and kids usually only care about the present.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 02:14 AM
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Yes but there are always signs. You ask some other questions, you notice her answers, you notice her behavior. Even if they try to hide it, it doesn't work for long. And these types of women always behave in very telling ways. If they didn't, then the studies won't show correlation.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/24 02:06 AM
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True. But the fallacy here is that women don't care at all or care far less. But then these same women expect that men shouldn't care either, which is not how it works.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/24 02:05 AM
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I am sure they are, deep inside. But they are to feminine to fight back against it. They are pretending for now, but it won't last long. The older they are, the more they will come to regret it.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/24 02:04 AM
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Our male instincts, evolved for 100k years to filter out such women, already warn us about this through what I call the "disgust factor". That's likely because in the past the men that weren't disgusted by such women ended up raising children than weren't theirs, so their genes got gradually got removed from the gene pool because they didn't end up procreating. But the modern programming is strong, these days there are many young men that fall for lies that "it doesn't matter". They "reason" the…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/24 04:27 PM
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It doesn't have to be all or nothing. We aren't just talking about virginity exclusively here. But the difference between 2 and 20 in insurmountable. The disgust factor is very powerful here. And these studies also clearly indicate that the more they slept around the worse it is.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/24 04:24 PM
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It's not nearly as important of a factor for getting laid than for settling down, but it's still a factor. Even for something casual, I would always choose the less promiscuous woman if I had the choice. The disgust factor is very relevant. And also logical, like the possibility of STDs.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/24 04:22 PM
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There was never a time when I believed that, not even when I wasn't red pilled. That's just natural instincts coming from the base of our male brain, warning us that such women are trouble. Not sure how some guys in the modern world still fall for it. It seems to me that their masculine instincts are weak.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/24 04:21 PM
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Yeah it doesn't sound like you are attracted to him, and it's the reason why he was just a friend for 8 years. You are probably at the stage where you want to rush towards what is comfortable and "safe", but it feels very unfair towards him to go in like that. And it's likely not going to last.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 11:02 AM
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The result of natural selection and the way we reproduced over the last 100k+ years. The men that weren't as jealous and defensive about their woman didn't end up passing on their genes as often as the ones that were jealous, for obvious reasons, and they had no way to tell if the kids weren't theirs (or never even knew to question it). From my point of view that mate guarding tendency feels very natural, and it feels like women are often way too relaxed about it (but it seems because they can a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:48 PM
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The bad 50/50 is when there are "rules" involved about it, which inevitably leads to arguments and pain. If it happens to be 50/50 because both do stuff because they want to do them, then that's great and you shouldn't keep thinking about it. In this case it will be fine even when things get imbalanced in the future. But the more you think about it, the more chances you have of inadvertently giving it a concrete shape, which is not what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 02:04 PM
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The things that are gone most often don't come back. In this case he probably lost feelings for you after the past mishaps and now you are just convenient for him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 12:08 PM
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You probably can't, at least I never found a good way of conveying that without the obligatory backlash. The part with "expects people to just accept this part of her" rings extremely true. I knew one or two like that. Especially as I know that the same person wasn't willing to accept other people as they are and was really picky. Where does this notion come from, too much parroting of "you are perfect just as you are"? Funny thing, I don't think men are ever told that. Instead very often I see …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 05:04 PM
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Yeah, that absolutely happens. It's another deep instinct, like being attracted to beauty in general, it doesn't go away completely no matter how one tries. Actually, it was surprise to me when I found out that it wasn't a self evident fact to women as well, which shows how different we can think about things.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:07 PM
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Yeah. And men on some level, conscious or subconscious, always understand which one is better and more desirable long term. But it's not really socially acceptable to declare the things exactly as we think them. Society shoots itself in the foot with punishing that level of honesty, sometimes I feel I can't even say these things to my closer female acquaintances.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:37 PM
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Well yeah, it's full of scantly clad women on the internet and social media, all hungry for attention. Men pick on that energy subconsciously and so those aren't the women they would take seriously, even though a lot of simps might lust over them in the short term. So then what turns to be the most attractive is an outfit that would make him want to say "this is my woman". Something is called "classy" because it's timeless, it never goes out of style, much like men in suits.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:03 PM
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Okay, I will provide you with a shortcut out of your problems. Firstly, you would be surprised about how understanding and chill a lot of guys can be about your occupation, since it doesn't involve you sexualizing yourself, which is the one that most guys avoid. Don't worry that much about it, just say you draw adult erotica without speicifc details. The main important part that is left and which will win you a lot of points is to lose weight and get a good enough body shape. There are several w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 07:07 PM
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I didn't give up anything, I just learned how to make better decisions and avoid problems. If a good opportunity arises I still won't miss it.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/24 09:08 PM
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For a guy it can be a situation of "damned if you do, damned if you don't". If men knew something would work in their favor, then they would do it all the time. But a lot of women will admit they don't want those comments especially early on. But even later on it's not like guys will automatically figure out when it's right to say it, so they might find it less of a hassle to not touch on it entirely.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 03:36 AM
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No way to know that's the actual reason. Since I know how the world works, there is nothing stopping them from banning it for their obvious reasons and then give any pretext they want like this.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 12:34 AM
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If you want him to be able to lead, then you need to be willing to be led. What is he supposed to do otherwise, force you to submit with his "alpha masculinity"? If you want a good relationship where you don't butt heads, then you need to figure out if you really trust him to make most of the decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 07:45 PM
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Yeah, the balance with "waiting until marriage" is that you can't really follow the timeline common these days of like waiting for 3-5 years before getting married, it will never go anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 02:00 PM
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You just described what's called a "situationship". Even if you don't call it that, from the outside that's exactly how it looks.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 03:19 AM
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Something that is self-evident to me, but it's not socially acceptable to state: there are no actually feminist men. Only men that use that as a strategy to get laid, or that they find it convenient because they don't have to do as much or accept as much responsibility. If they would perceive a different political view point as more advantageous, they would just adopt that instead. And you going after those it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy, since you will always find there is something funda…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 11:55 AM
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The silver lining here is that you did solo content and never showed your face. Imo it's quite a big difference from "fucking on camera" as he puts it which was the stated deal breaker. Chances are he still won't be able to accept it, but it's not quite at the same level.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 04:26 PM
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Divorce rates down? From 50%? I must have missed it. Is it because the marriage rates are down even more than before? I have big doubts that those are getting better, as nothing is fixed in the society yet.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 02:37 AM
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They are meeting, but what is the rate they are staying together at? Not great, since most of them have this perception that they can meet someone else just as easily.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 02:16 AM
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But, if maintaining attraction is harder than it was, wouldn't it be a point in favor of relationships that are built on compatibility and commons goals instead of attraction? If you had to pick one or the other, I guess. No because humans aren't that logical or pragmatic, especially at an age when it's best to meet your significant other for life (in their 20s). Don't tell me you haven't noticed it, these days what's instantly attractive is far far more sought after that what stable and comfort…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:31 PM
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It's a spectrum, there are many levels in between. And these days on the internet everyone is dogmatic, they talk in absolute terms. In reality a good starting point with a few small compromises "who does what" on top is all that should be required. That being said, it's not like I will automatically lose attraction to a woman that is "too submissive", in the same way women probably don't think that a guy that's "too confident" is unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:23 PM
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I think that even the people that didn't marry for attraction eventually develop attraction, if they stay together for long. It would be a function of living together and supporting each other. Everything was very unlike today, you would have contact with like 20-30 people at most. But these days the prevalent subconscious subroutine in big cities is "I have limitless options" which basically ensures that attraction to a single person for long is far more brittle. In conclusion I don't think it'…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:09 PM
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No need to see it in extremes, that's viewing it in bad faith which ensures you will never actually understand it. We all know that women have a preferences for men that take the lead. Then, what do those men should naturally have a preference to, for maximum compatibility? Answer: to someone that is willing to be led. It's not a concept that's that hard to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:05 PM
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Yeah, I guess that's the point of why things feel so incredibly skewed right now. In a sense most men will always be average too, and I can see that by the way they think and that they probably gave up trying to compensate for lack of natural attractiveness. It's very interesting to me to see how things got so skewed between men and women just from the advent of the first iPhone and social media in general. Maybe the whole thing will implode this decade with a bang or with a whimper 😅
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 02:09 AM
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And many other societal structure issues on top that contribute to the problem. I have no idea how the future will look like, the current statistics projections aren't good at all, so all the safety guardrails are completely off. Maybe marriage and family will be obsolete in the west at this rate. Honestly I feel bad for the truly average guy, looks and income, most will never be anyone's first choice. The best Red Pill advice I ever heard was "never be just average".
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 11:56 PM
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There is a side here you aren't seeing at all. "Egalitarian" doesn't mean anything good for most men at all, because in the case where women don't need security anymore they just pool towards the highest attractiveness men. Apparently when one factor for attractiveness goes out the window, it gets much more skewed on the psychical looks part. A very big chunk of the men aren't on the other side of that women's desire, I see them all the time. For example zero success on stuff like dating apps, l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 11:34 PM
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Beauty and and more specifically youth, especially when the relationship starts, are definitely factors and will always be. Can't wait to see how the current world turns out in 10 more years as the current arrangements push marriages later and later in life. Btw that was sarcasm, the numbers already look terrible.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 06:51 PM
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Then they shouldn't. Who's fault is it that they take on far more work than they need to and become frustrated as a result? But all of this sounds to me like making up plausible sounding reasons for their dissatisfaction in a far more basic sense. Women that are comfortable taking care of men while men do the housework are very rare indeed, it can only work for very short periods of time. I have personally never seen it work for long. However men have no problem with the reverse arrangement as l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 06:38 PM
3

Yeah, one week no response is definitely on purpose, unless something happened to him. The thing is that when someone is into you they MAKE time to speak with you. If they happen to be busy that that time then they will make time a few hours later, probably sometimes that day. If not, it indicates low priority. So you declining and postponing several times can definitely be taken as a generic lack of interest and just "hungry for attention" situation. If he happens to respond and you still want …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 03:16 PM
5

Honestly, if I knew for a fact that she wouldn't care for the difference in our incomes, then I wouldn't care either, as it's not a factor for attractiveness for me. But pretty much all of them care in one way or another, so men can't afford to be relaxed about it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 01:49 PM
12

Yep, when men talk about it they very rarely mention the woman's income, it's like a very low priority factor. When women talk about men, it's much higher up.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 05:04 AM
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These questions are always framed in the way that men would somehow find the situation dissatisfactory. The more relevant question is how would the woman react in this situation, and it's why the reason why men would care about it in the first place. Last time I checked it was statistically still one of the main catalysts for her initiating the divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 05:01 AM
4

It's just beating a dead horse at this point. It's only really useful for the new guys that don't have a good grasp on the concepts.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/24 04:22 PM
1

Wow, some people are just utterly confused in life, they don't know left from right. Or he might simply be lying in his motives.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:56 PM
4

Karma aside, I have seen a pattern that seem to be repeating over and over again. When someone "steals" you from someone else, they don't want you for long. Not sure if it's either because they liked the "chase" and the feeling of superiority when you chose them, or that they start having second thoughts about you doing the same thing to them eventually. That's why I will always be wary about those that are interested in me while I am in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 01:11 PM
3

The point is not to fix her. The point is to not to just stand there and pretend to nod when crap is coming from her mouth, I could never just pretend nothing is wrong. If she doesn't handle it well then so be it, there would be no significant loss.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/24 12:26 PM
2

That's plain to see.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 08:36 PM
0

Yes, we are on the Red Pill subreddit, not on the "I have a carrot so deep up my ass" one. People have different approaches to life, do you really think that everyone that is Red Pill does exactly the same things as the others?
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 08:35 PM
2

Pffft, your point is irrelevant, because it was never my style to ghost people, I always make sure to let them know exactly where they screw up. What are you going to do about it if I say that I really enjoy educating people, even if they might not learn anything in the end anyway?
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 08:32 PM
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Hmm, no. I don't watch sports and it's absolutely irrelevant to talk to her about weather. But regardless of all of that, if she spews monumental crap like that then there is no way I wouldn't check her on it. Especially since she would be just a plate, therefore I don't really care about her feelings or reaction.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 08:25 PM
2

All jokes aside, there is a non-zero possibility he has erectile dysfunction, because otherwise it doesn't make any sense why he would refuse sexual activity without very clear reasons. And the adult websites might be his attempts to see if his thing is finally working or not.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 08:23 PM
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Because you sometimes talk to them about things other than sex and "see you later".
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 08:20 PM
1

Wow, it sounds like it's getting bad. In that case I would recommend guarding your own mind and morals by avoiding delving in the subject entirely with most other people. But observe closely for the small percentage of people that think like you, for sure there will be some left among the smartest, most objective ones.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 10:01 PM
1

Yeah, it's like the nature's way to make sure guys want to stay around and protect their investment forever. But it works best in more controlled environments, as in people that willingly impose moral restrictions on themselves to become better people instead of those that go around governed by their lizard brain.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 09:21 PM
1

Always learn from the bad examples, as in identify exactly which things led to it. In your case figure out which character traits of your father or mother led to this result, there is always an explanation in those. I managed to avoid a LOT of problems and mistakes since I had an endless sample size of mistakes from others in relationships on the internet ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 06:06 PM
2

Something called "wife goggles" comes into play here, and it's true. Basically a guy will always see a part of his wife younger self in her, and the affection he had for her. However it becomes less and less true when two people meet each other when they are old, instead of when they are younger. The attractiveness and those types of feelings become more blunted.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 05:56 PM
1

You can start by thinking for yourself instead of looking at your female friends for guidance. Make the choices that actually lead to what you want, instead of leading to be the "same" as them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 01:34 AM
1

Not sure that they do, at least not specifically. It's entirely possible you are looking at the men that like to be taken care or the ones that want to split costs. There are many very different types of men these days.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 07:13 PM
3

I do understand how you feel, it's a more common experience than you think. And then you will wonder if they could go back and do better, would they still choose you? There is no satisfactory answer here I am afraid and imagine if you think that when you are 30 instead of 24....
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 06:08 PM
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I imagine that he already decided that he won't be serious about you, considering his lack of effort and non-committal attitude. It might be related to you and stuff like you saying you talk to other guys (for sure it bothered him), or it may be related to him really not wanting this kind of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 10:01 AM
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That's one hell of a way to find out that his ex had a train ran on her, by the feel of her pussy 😅💀. Imagine if there was nothing that would indicate it.... Can't even imagine the permanent scars he was left with after that. Not saying that he is in the right when he takes it too far, but it's still understandable.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 04:28 PM
1

Yeah, that's why I prefaced it with "if it's really once a year" like she claims. If she gives up incomplete information then we can't give her an accurate diagnostic. But it's just as you say, it does appear like there is more there.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 11:50 AM
1

Maybe it's time we accepted men and women weren't made for each other and everyone should just turn gay so we can all be happy That's not possible even as a joke, there are men that just give up completely instead, that's how you get stuff lime MGTOW.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 09:43 PM
1

You talk as if getting sexual attention is something good. It's not. Not if you get used and tossed away or treated horribly in the process which is what mostly happens like 99% of the time. I know very well how women think, because they really do get that sexual attention that from sources that they don't want. But you don't seem to quite understand that guys don't think like that. I know very well how the men that don't get any of that feel as well, at some point they would be happy with just …
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 09:26 PM
1

My only bad was that I thought someone might actually be into me for myself. Believe it or not, there are still quite a few guys that you be into you completely for just yourself. The problem is that those guys are never the attractive ones, they usually have no options or confidence and aren't really great at talking to women. I have observed a lot of men like that. Also, no one has ever been automatically into me either, idk why you would assume otherwise from what I've said so far. Men would …
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:43 PM
1

jaded enough by design Oh yes, some of us are like that by design. It was really easy to not make mistakes when no woman was automatically into me, every opportunity I had to struggle for a while to create and a lot of time to contemplate my moves, an experience a large population of guys have. I didn't made many mistakes in my relationships because before that I was able to see a LOT of mistakes and bad relationships from others. And then you have the internet and if you look in the "right" pla…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:14 PM
3

If it's really once a year like you say then it's nothing out of the ordinary, even the most minor aquaninances can pop in your head that often. For true alpha widow scenarios some serious thoughts and maybe obsession would need to be involved.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:06 PM
1

this sounds good in theory but in practice I have yet to meet a guy who does this I am not surprised at all by this, as I said that's the only purpose of a staggering amount of guys in the dating pool. And your encounters are textbook examples of this kind of approach, and it sounds like you kinda knew and walked in willingly. And their actions are much more important than their words, as they can simply lie. It got like this because of several reasons, but general promiscuity is one of them, th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 07:41 PM
3

Firstly don't have sex with them right away to get their attention, that's not how it works. For a staggering proportion of all the current guys in the dating pool, having sex with a woman is their only goal. Do that only once a relationship is established. Secondly, watch their behavior towards you, if their amount of interest is similar to the amount of interest you showed in the past to other guys, then it's a good start. Don't go for those that are cold, curt or standoffish, they should at t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:48 AM
1

I don't think I ever heard anyone saying that a woman is "hideous" if she happens to not be in the same attractiveness "league" as a specific guy. But it's true that these types of guys have way too many options and might not settle under any circumstances, but especially if they perceive the woman as "not that attractive". If you don't want that, it's important to learn how to filter them and to see when they show fake interest in you, as this guy most definitely did.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:36 AM
3

Because they are under the illusion that there are infinite choices out there, because they know they can reach a lot of them with their phones. Which incidentally is also the reason why relationships don't last these days.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 10:13 AM
2

Yeah, comparing exactly how much each does is a road that leads to nowhere fast. This is another reason why exact 50-50 like we keep hearing these days will never lead to lasting results, each one has to give to the other because they want to give, not because they need to meet some quota.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 08:30 AM
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It's not complicated, just give back to him as much as you receive. Which most often is not monetary stuff, but affection and things that just make his life easier. You are probably underestimating in your mind how much things change for a guy when he is clearly appreciated and needed.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 10:24 AM
3

Pfft, yeah, off topic but every time a celebrity recommends something I have an immediate urge to do the opposite. Because I know they don't have good results in their personal lives. And your average people will do exactly what celebrities say. And if you want better than average results you can't really do the average 😂
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 06:06 PM
2

Yeah, that kind of environment can only either make you give up and behave like everyone else in a very casual way towards dating, or know better and reject it all but having to swim upstream, permanently. The only way it can work (and it can work), is for both of you to learn from the mistakes everyone else is making and work together to completely avoid them. That's how I learned everything without having to make every single mistake there is.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 12:09 PM
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You are young and he is young as well, I wouldn't expect him to know everything that needs to be done, or you how to react to them. He is probably very concerned about everything, because the current dating market makes it seem that a vast majority of relationships are doomed to fail, especially the first ones, and trying too hard to make it work is bound to lead to such mistakes. What I would suggest: talk to him directly about it instead of passive-aggressive behavior, like "I know what your w…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 05:30 AM
4

You know the answer, the point of you confronting him is to give him a chance to fix things. Make sure he first understands how important this is for you, because his first instinct might be to say "it's not that big of a deal", in his mind those might be "just" some videos.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 04:48 PM
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Confront him about it, see if his answer is satisfactory in any way, like admitting to his mistake without dodging the issue or pretending nothing is going on. It sounds pretty bad but maybe there is a small chance things can work out depending on his actions.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 12:48 PM
4

You seem to base everything around physical attractiveness. If she was a better woman that you in every aspect then maybe the feeling of inferiority would have been warranted, but how she looks is not everything. Baggage is absolutely a factor in desirability, as you said she has quite a bit of drama in her life and various issues that will never go away, and your fiance is very aware of those.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:34 PM
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Someone not able to attract sex partners is also tricky because you risk not being attracted to them yourself - and, it's very hard to gauge discipline when someone lacks opportunity. Not sure why but this only seem to apply just from the point of view of women, and preselection is not relevant for men. I have absolutely no inclination to select a women in such ways. If she is decent looking and has a nice character then that's a great starting point. In a way there are bonus points if she is sh…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 02:43 AM
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Let me tell you a secret, that I thought it was actually obvious: very few red pill men are actual promiscuous. Most of them have absolutely no success with women. If they had that kind of dating success then they would have never found the Red Pill, as they wouldn't have much need for the information. It's mostly those creators that are obviously promiscuous and are trying to push an idea that doesn't really work with most men. I am sure what most Red Pilled men want is just a happy and stable …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 02:36 AM
2

The fact that more women are in college than men (and yet those women will insist on marrying someone at their education level or higher), is a concerning trend as well. YES, and it seems you get the problem pretty accurately. Not sure how much of it is by design, but it certainly looks that way considering how many things are in place to make men stumble ever since they are kids, instead of helping them actually develop. To that I will add that I have seen the things that these girls do while i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 01:02 PM
0

Porn is a much larger issue today, but it correlates with that disturbing statistic that like ~28% of the men below 30 in US are virgins (and I bet in the west in general). I think porn is both a cause and symptom at the same time. And if a guy is not stupid he realizes very well how dumb it looks to pleasure oneself by watching two strangers having sex, or other variations. And sure enough, there is always a feeling of some regret in what we call post-nut clarity, so you can see how it's not so…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:49 PM
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In that case, welcome. People don't find the Red Pill when they don't really need it, so it sounds like you will be served well by the knowledge. That being said, any positive changes you make will be noticed and appreciated as they would probably feel like water in the desert, not sure what else is needed here.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:33 PM
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This is hard. Such significant changes can only come if the person themselves realizes something is wrong and are trying really hard to change themselves. And even then it takes a long time. Perhaps you could recommend him some Red Pill channels you like, maybe it's just a case of him lacking the knowledge of how unattractive his behavior is.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:42 AM
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I will give you some examples why I think men get into it as a necessity, but they sometimes don't even realize it. I had some guy friends that were quite popular with girls and they barely ever watched porn, it was something that didn't even occur to them, as opposed of calling some FWB they had. Even for myself, I had this problem predominantly when I was very single and no prospects. After that changed it was like I barely even remembered porn even existed, like a switch.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:09 AM
1

Also, I don’t think a true embracing of nun mode can lead you into “cat lady” or “don’t need no man” territory. This. The "cat lady" thing usually happens when a woman does things the things you imagine that are the opposite of "nun mode" so much that every man that comes into contact with her can "smell" her behavior and who she really is, even the less bright ones. And in my experience, no woman that is willing to go as far as nun mode does it without a specific goal in mind that she wants to …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 02:44 AM
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Yes, it is hard to quit, but that applies when the initial conditions that caused it to happen are still there. Guys get into porn as a symptom of something that is fundamentally lacking for them and are looking for a filler. Sometimes it can even be affection, but usually it's physical stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 02:33 AM
1

Well it sounds like you already have the answer. You find yourself still thinking like that sometimes because you need to unlearn too many years of being blue pilled and having bought the lies of a lazy society that quite obviously doesn't have a track record of good relationships. And marriages. If it makes you feel any better, most people these days aren't red pilled by default, it takes a few years to unlearn a long time of bad programming.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 02:34 PM
0

The only reason I stopped being friends with men was it got too messy, they always secretly wanted more and it would leave both of us upset. Aha, well at least you figured out the obvious parts relatively early. A lot of women will fight back against that idea, and I can't tell for sure if they are genuinely clueless about how things are or they just pretend that they don't know in order to have plausible deniability and get free attention.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 02:25 PM
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It's not about STFU and no man that respects you will view it in that way. It's about you respecting him back enough to not have this overwhelming urge to nitpick absolutely everything. And wanting to do things for him for the simple reason of making his life easier instead of more complicated. I see it often in longer marriages where the wife doesn't like or respect the husband much anymore, which might be the cause here as well.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 02:22 PM
1

By the sounds of it it's just a connection she made as in red pill = Andrew Tate type, which can be quite far from the reality of things. As it is, the red pill is far too vast to associate it with a single guy or even several of the more well known ones. Depending on who is looking, even a conservative guy can appear as very red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 10:57 AM
2

Statistics do work like that. Read carefully what I said, I said "likely", not guaranteed. And I am not above "likely", no matter which circle I belong to. Like that school where there were 2 teachers that were on OF by "chance". And of course school boys have an inclination of looking up those things.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 02:29 PM
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I will give you the reality for what it is: when a guy knows from the start that he won't take a certain woman seriously, meaning he just wants her for sex, then he doesn't care about details like body count. Because there are no headaches, problems, paternity frauds or baggage that he needs to deal with, maybe other than STDs. I don't even do things like this and I still know instinctively that I wouldn't care about it in that specific case.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:04 PM
10

That's exactly right. I don't ever sleep around, but I still know that if I don't want anything serious with her from the start then I care far less about that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:01 PM
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They just talk in absolutist terms and it's kind of a a symptom of things getting really bad in recent times, as none of that was that needed 10-15y ago. A lot of filtering is required. You should listen to some of the more grounded things and perhaps pick the info that sounds right to you, and in that case it will have a high likelihood of actually being correct and give results.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/24 01:12 AM
2

Then you are smarter than most young (or older) women that I see, and often times even the smart ones crumble under the pressure of their far less smart peers. That always looks backwards to me. And since you started the right way, all that is left is to know to evaluate which are best kinds of men. There are several things here, but keep in mind something that I know always happens: the types of men that get a lot of attention from women most often end up abusing that attention until they see w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 04:40 PM
2

That's because you are 18, the picture you have of what relationships should look like is probably completely different at this point. At that age I was rushing to grow up and now I wish I had a time machine. Also, it's clearly different if you are a woman, we tend to look in opposite ways towards the age of partners. And as a guy we also have that aversion to the idea of a larger number of previous sexual partners. And if I could advise you something is what I would advise myself back then: don…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 04:48 PM
2

Well you see, content is made out of people, and people will have various opinions. A good filter and working brain is required to parse that content, I certainly do not agree with everything that I see in the space, and at this time there are a lot of bitter guys that feel that they've missed on live opportunities since everyone told them things about attraction that just don't work. Red Pill is not necessarily that, like it the movie The Matrix where it came from as a term, it synonymous to tr…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:46 AM
1

For more context the idea behind the Red Pill is for the confused people that get mixed signals from society about what the other sex wants and is looking for. In my experience I was confused for like 28y of my life, heard 1001 conflicting stories of what women look for in men. Red Pill clarified a lot of that, and brought immediate results. It's the same for the women on this forum, they got some clarity about what men want from them, and the point of all of it is having relationships as harmon…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:21 AM
3

This post sounds more like a rant, you only got small crumbs and pieces of what the Red Pill in general is all about. If you don't want to spend time to understand it then don't, if you think your life is good right now without the extra information then the RP is not for you. Usually people find it only when they realize stuff doesn't make sense at all in their relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 05:49 AM
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But they aren't saying that. What they are saying is what close to ideal would look like, but we all know that ideals are rare in the real world. But of course, the closer the better.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 05:46 AM
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I think the explanation is very straightforward as it related to human nature. The more things we have and experience, the less satisfied/happy we are with what we had before. It always happens like that, like when you get a salary raise, or a new apartment or a new car. The more of those you get the less happy they make you. That also related to the paradox of choice, and the more choices we think we have then it becomes almost impossible to be happy with what we choose. Like it's easy to choos…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 02:07 AM
1

You're welcome. If it was in their honeymoon makes me think that she never took him seriously and always planned to do such things. Like she had absolutely no concept of how she should behave in a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 02:03 AM
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Cheating is the quintessential breaking of vows, if there is a time where divorce is completely justified, it's then. These people that cheapen the institution of marriage piss me off, they treat it like it's a casual relationship. And it was really early on after just 1 year, there was 0 chance it was ever going to work. Since it was so short think of it like a bad GF he was unable to select properly.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 07:07 PM
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I didn't mention it but there are these statistics where the highest chances of a happy successful marriage is when both of them are virgins, at around 80% likelihood. After several prior sexual partners that the self-reported relationship satisfaction drops sharply and at high counts is gets very low. That's basically "promiscuity leads to dissatisfaction" put in numbers.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 12:52 PM
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It's just what I noticed, but people get tired of each other really easily these days, they don't want to work through issues and are really quick to jump on other "options". The illusion of choice with all of those "options" due to social media pretty much incentivizes them to always seek "better" and never be happy with what they have. Which repeats again and again. This is a direct effect of promiscuity and continuation of a pattern where a single person is not enough anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 02:07 AM
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Maybe but I think this didn't go for long enough for us to see the full repercussions just yet. The west is the first and only promiscuous culture in recent history, and they try to push it really damn hard. And as of right now are the results better in any way, other than the low marriage rates and very high divorce rates?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 01:59 AM
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He might be a homebody, and is going on trips only to be with you because you want to travel. I am as well, but it's a thing that's easier to develop if he allows himself to enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 12:02 AM
3

It's okay if it was just one time. I know some women that made a pattern out of it, and they are completely unable to be discerning about which guys have serious intentions. Or they pretend to not know to have plausible deniability, but after a certain count the men that would take them seriously don't care about the circumstances.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:41 PM
1

The issue here is that you have those with very large amounts of luggage because they don't really care about morals and so they won't care to choose someone with specifically big luggage as well. They don't play by any rules. It's a situation only where the good ones care to make the responsible choice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:18 PM
4

Actually for men it's quite easy to stay virgins, if they never make an effort approach someone and be presentable while they do it then they will remain at 0 all of their life. Often times even when they put it some effort 😂. Women never approach, unless you are hot and I definitely wasn't.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:14 PM
1

3 is not high, but it also depends on factors like whether you were in serious relationships or it was hookups.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:12 PM
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It's not high by compared to the average of today and you get points for realising it might be bad, as a lot of women don't even consider it might be bad and just do it over and over again. But the lack of sexual discipline of the average man and woman today is probably the main reason for the low rate of marriages and high rate of divorces, no one is satisfied anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:08 PM
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People who ask are actually very secure. Because they don't care about a potential negative reaction and want to get it out of the way. The insecure ones are those that invariably care but are afraid to ask. I knew a lot of those. And of course they always get upset later on because of it, there is no way they can hold it in for years.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:05 PM
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So past choices don't define you? Then what does define you, who you say you are in the present with words? But I would have no way to know if any of it is true, people lie very often. But actions never lie, they show intent and priorities and behavioral patterns.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:03 PM
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Peer pressure from other girls is common, because they are afraid that if someone is better then they would be judged. Which means they know full well it's bad.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:00 PM
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It's hypocrisy indeed, but only virtuous people care to choose based on that. If given the option they will still choose the virgin, you can't really expect those that sleep around to care that they are being hypocritical. But this also tells you a lot about how men in general view it, irrespective of which types they are.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 09:59 PM
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Yeah there will always be an upper limit after which most men will be like "no way, the risk involved is not worth it". But at the same time it will always be true that the lower the better. For example in a culture where 10+ becomes the norm, a girl with like 3 will be quite desirable.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 09:55 PM
12

They will generally always want to know but sometimes won't ask since they lack the courage are afraid of the backlash and immediate reactions. But that still means they care quite a bit, and hiding that they care will only result in frustrations later on. Heard a few anecdotes from other guys where they get more and more bothered by it as the time goes on.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 09:53 PM
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It matters and I can give you some very basic analogies that makes it very obvious that it does. Let's imagine we have 3 very similar girls. One is a virgin, one has a body count of 10 and one has 50. Overwhelmingly men will choose the virgin girl over the other two, but if they don't have that option they will look towards the 2nd girl, while the 3rd one might not be an option even if there is no one else in the picture. Because there are a lot of risks involved with her. So basically it's a fa…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 09:50 PM
1

Within one month for sure, especially as she said they spend a lot of time together.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:54 PM
2

They don't always do, but that applies in cultures where talks about "exclusivity" aren't necessary, as people don't tend to be in such entanglements you often see like in places like US. In such difficult places and several other places in the west, protecting yourself by confirming things early is best. And yeah, seems like the guy thought of himself as "single" all of this time....
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:53 PM
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There is no problem here unless you subconsciously think it's unattractive for him to be significantly younger. Many women think like that, and they do it consciously even. For example the filters that they put on dating apps are proof enough of this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:49 PM
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Obviously they have issues, and now she is exacerbating them instead of fixing them. Security and trust don't come out of thin air, they need to be built up. But she is thinking of breaking up with him because she can't see where is the problem here. In many ways the BF is correct to have doubts.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:46 PM
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But don't call it "dating". It feels like you heard it somewhere online and people these days absolutely love to make new terms for blatantly common stuff. People go out with various businesses all the time, they don't call it dating. Look, his concerns regarding your recent actions are valid, if my girl started behaving like that all of a sudden I would straight up think she is looking for a "replacement". Regardless of the actual truth, that's how it looks like and you don't just ignore signs …
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:38 PM
1

Well, he wouldn't know your thoughts, he only sees your actions. So what are you doing to make him anxious? Perhaps you are looking like you are "searching" out there?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:37 PM
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Both traveling alone for months is complete whack. I can't ever see that being a good loving relationship, my first thought here is that they have an "arrangement".
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:35 PM
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You said it yourself, he is insecure because it seems like she is looking to replace him. Obviously. What is he supposed to do here, accept everything from her? If he doesn't like it then he is free to say it, and he did.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 05:33 PM
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Doesn't sound salvageable, you can only play the part of a good wife to someone that would appreciate it. Although I understand that there are other complications involved and it's not a straightforward decision.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 09:35 PM
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It can be done, although not that many men will agree to it, the expectation being that it's only something that a virgin girl saving herself for marriage would do. To increase your chances of success make sure to tell the next candidate guy that you aren't seeing anyone else and you haven't broken this rule for anyone. That's the main concern they would immediately have here. Even the men that are pragmatic and look only for marriage would hesitate, because they are afraid that they would be st…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 09:30 PM
1

As long as you aren't expecting him to "just get it". I have heard several times that it's a common expectation women have for a guy to be a complete natural at this, but if a guy doesn't have this knowledge or experience then he just wouldn't know to do it. So it may be genuinely beneficial for you to tell him that you want those things. Who knows, maybe he wants them too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 04:14 PM
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Thank you, I am glad people found my knowledge useful.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 04:10 PM
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At some point what you say to him in words wouldn't sound very convincing if he has such suspicions. The best way is to demonstrate it with actions and affection. The fact that you were together for 6 years might have made you too comfortable and with less outwards displays of affection like back in the day.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:00 PM
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I think the more important reason why they don't wait for sex is because most women these days aren't virgins and so the men don't want to be taken advantage of for attention and resources, when other guys might have never had to wait for sex or give anything in return. Which implies she is less attracted to him compared to the other guys. But of course, when we talk about an actual virgin what I said above doesn't apply at all.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 02:57 PM
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Tell him anyway, don't just think he assumes it. After that watch his reaction, right now he might have the wrong impression about you and might not be willing to wait until marriage. I am telling you to get these out of the way now so that you don't get blindsided later.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 02:54 PM
1

Okay so that's an yes and no. I was never a fan of extra sedation in the form of weed, but let's not be too harsh here. The main problem right now is that he seems to be having some issues. The symptoms he is displaying I have seen before for a whole bunch of causes: burn out, signs of depression, hidden issues that he can't talk to you about or even some infidelity going on. It's probably at least one of those 4, but you will probably have a hard time getting him to open up to confirm which one…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 01:48 PM
2

That's some shady behavior going on there. It's important to make a distinction, did it start recently or has he always been like that?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 10:47 PM
3

It makes sense to a degree. Because strength in this case also means strength of morals and beliefs, and those are always very valuable traits in women. I wouldn't usually look towards my girl for strength, but I would still want her to be helpful in difficult times.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 04:39 PM
1

Thank you, I appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 05:01 PM
9

Not surprising at all that there are such men, because I see all the time women that expect traditional treatment without being traditional themselves in any regard. So the opposite must also exist. I don't want to make excuses for this behavior, but it probably comes from a place of conflicting signals in society, like stating things like "men and women are equal and should behave like that", but then their instincts about what they should want and how they should act send them into a massive c…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 02:41 PM
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Be honest, you don't really like Guy A romantically, you just fear not having him around as a backup. It sucks to be someone's 2nd option, but at this point he is like what, your 3rd or 4th option? There is no way I can be optimistic about the odds of such a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:24 PM
1

Well, at the most basic level it's a business. It makes money, keeps people entertained etc. I try to not get too impressed with things that don't really concern or affect me, but that's not the average behavior or average people.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:21 PM
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Not necessarily religion but a strong foundation of morals and each partner putting restrictions of their behavior with morals for a better life. Problem is morals often come from religion, otherwise everything is ultimately reduced to self-interest. I am not very religious but I respect it and I respect those that are religious, as I see in real time what are the effects without it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:18 PM
1

It's what I have been trying to figure out myself, but it's pretty much never with cold approach or randomly. One thing that seems to work reasonably well is to have a bigger group of friends that have a decent character and be viewed as "marriage material" within that group. At some point you will be able to have contact with an acquaintance of them that is looking for marriage and doesn't want to date around.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/23 08:15 PM
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Maybe, I am not sure about that. Because I know there are basically infinite women these days that open OF accounts and promote it or reddit and stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 05:37 AM
1

That "progressives" and "acceptance" is very temporary, since they have heavy consequences on the family unit. It's entirely based on the men that are willing to pay for it. Just a social experiment of a few decades old, and we haven't proven that it has any positive effects, only negatives. It will end when almost no one will marry anymore and almost all mothers will be single mothers. Those numbers are rising.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:47 PM
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Considering the sheer amount registered of OF creators, statistically it's likely that you met someone that does it, if you live in the US. But of course she would likely hide it, or maybe gave up very early when she didn't make a significant amount.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:42 PM
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That's also true. But since most of them that are willing to do that aren't that smart in the first place, they tend to believe marketing and the old paradigm of a few years ago when every woman on OF made more than they do today, when it wasn't overly an saturated market.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:40 PM
2

Without watching the video I would say you are correct, that's the reason that makes sense in their mind, even though it's stupid. But that means that the independence they are chasing is fake in the first place because they use a terrible and temporary method to do it and it will result in more problems later on. Desiring to be independent is fine, but feminism forgot to tell them the part that it comes with needing to have absolute and utter accountability for oneself, which they are clearly n…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:38 PM
3

Absolutely, that's the assumption I went with. It seems to apply only if that woman was with the guy from when he was poor and she was loyal, as he will always tend to have respect for that loyalty. And also he didn't get used to wrong sexual patterns early. And of course that means that 30y+ women expecting to meet that kind of guy and have him be loyal to them might be too tall of an order, all because we did away with early marriage. Such relationships are not special anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:32 PM
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There are more categories of men that the ones you presented them. "If he could he would", that assumes growing up in a certain way and with a certain mindset to become like that. I know the dating marketplace these days it's severely de-regulated, but it wasn't that uncommon for attractive guys that started a successful business to just get married early on to the woman that supported them throughout that journey and not need to chase any more women. And then just focus on excellence. So I woul…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 12:27 PM
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Yeah no, that's not the finish line, not even by a long shot. The issue here if she can deal with the issues that are likely to appear in the relationship as a result of who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 05:05 AM
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Well, I do know that women care to a lesser degree about body count than men do due to biological differences, but at that very high count expect that patterns from his past will reappear at some point. There is like close to zero chance it won't come up at some point in his behavior....
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:44 AM
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Yeah, I would be skeptical about any change, especially when he sees absolutely nothing wrong the past deeds. Sometimes it's best to just take people for what they are, as to not be too shocked when they don't act changed all of a sudden like you would hope.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:41 AM
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You just said it yourself that who you are is shaped by the behavior and environment. And the part you are missing is that once people are shaped and beyond a certain age, they don't change very easily. Or at all. So it obviously matters and everyone is well within their right to not want to have to deal with that. It's not like once a relationship starts they flip a switch and are a completely new person.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:01 AM
1

In the west there would be some 5% of them left around, but they won't put themselves in clear view. In other more traditional cultures there are more of them.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/23 02:18 PM
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If it happened more than once then it's a pattern. I know that's the line guys usually give to the girl they were never going to take seriously, they just pretended for a while. Make sure you don't confuse a guys interest in for for long term relationship interest. How do you know? Based on how much time and emotion he puts into the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:32 PM
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I mean, assuming that what she says is true, her AP is a dbag in a few ways, but she is the author of her own problems. Not wrong. Hard to differentiate between the two of them. I am aware that there are women who specifically go after men in relationships, mainly married men. They find it hard to control their animalistic impulses.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:07 PM
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But from you post history, it’s doubtful you’re giving out HVW vibes if you’re an affair partner. Ouch, I have seen this pattern a few times. It underlines the fact that not everyone is who they pretend to be.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:02 PM
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If you are looking at early 20s then ofc they will be rare. Because to demonstrate high value, a longer time frame is required. However you can grab one that has the potential and markings early. He will be much more likely to be faithful to you as well, since you helped him when he didn't have everything yet.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:01 PM
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That's because it's just a random dude's story, it has nothing to do with RP.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/23 05:22 AM
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It's literally irrelevant if she's the first or 10th if she happens to be a good woman. Good women are rare and if you happen to meet a good one then it's a rare opportunity. Even today it still happens from time to time for people to marry their high school lovers. In many ways it might be worth to secure someone pure with 0 body count and uncorrupted, especially if you know to keep them and prevent social media to take hold of her.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/23 05:21 AM
1

Still making excuses for her? Then educate her that it's disrespectful and you won't tolerate it. But I bet anything that she knows, it's just that admitting it is inconvenient for her and would mean restrictions on her behavior. Which she doesn't want. When a woman is into you, the possibility of offending you is a very real threat to her.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/23 02:58 PM
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Immediately at the first sign of serious disrespect. If she doesn't regret it immediately and backtrack, then you will know she was on her way out anyway.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/23 07:41 PM
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Engaging in pure hedonism for so long is the furthest thing from meaning in life. As long as you persist in that, no meaning will come.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/23 07:52 PM
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Yes to everything, but she should be the one realizing that all of those only bring problems in relationships. I understand that the current programming runs very deep, but still her attitude blows. Talking with a BF that cheated on her a lot? Holy hell, talk about alpha widowed. Even if she agrees with your terms to keep an eye on her reaction. You may wake up being called the standard "insecure" at the first sign of an argument, after which things can only go downhill until you really enforce …
/r/TheRedPill08/12/23 07:49 PM
2

Don't believe in the false version of reality that's being propagated that everything has to be 50-50. It was never going to work, two people are never the same. The more money a guy makes the less he cares about what his girl makes. However in that case he has more freedom to have standards when it comes to her attitude towards him and what that she doesn't actively make his life harder. When it's 50-50 some guys feel like they are forced to tolerate some character and behavior related things t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 05:31 PM
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Yeah, the programming of the current narrative is hard to break, especially as guys aren't raised to be as masculine these days, pretty much by design. I had well meaning parents but they had no idea how to instill masculine qualities into me, as they probably thought that being The Nice Guy™ was the best thing that I could be. Of course the media and the movies played a big part in that as well. Once upon a time I even agreed with feminism and that "men and women are the same" thing, so the pro…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 03:32 PM
5

Pretty much. The men that could walk that very thin line of dominance and temperance are very rare or non existent. It's always a trade off of how much in each direction is desirable, which would vary for sure from woman to woman.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 10:31 PM
2

Not only that, but a 6-7 with a great personality is preferable most of the time to an actual 8-9 that almost certainly has personality flaws and would always carry risks of engaging in certain behaviors. Hell, with social media these days most of them in that range behave like complete narcissists.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/23 03:57 AM
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After 5 dates, the expectation of at least that level of physical intimacy is very reasonable. I think it's important that you make that transition as smooth as possible. Definitely start with holding hands and perhaps kisses on the cheek before actual kissing. I think the guy is very patient, but no one would wait indefinitely without any progress. Make sure you don't hesitate forever, otherwise it might put the relationship at risk.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:54 AM
2

It's valid to not want him to do that in a serious relationship, the stuff that routinely happen in clubs is definitely for single people. Even if we talk about complete trust, we also have to recognize that there is no one that is completely immune to temptation, especially when alcohol and sexual attention from the opposite sex are involved. The best compromise here is to go together, otherwise communicate to him that it's making your uncomfortable and possibly find alternatives of having fun,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:46 AM
1

A common pattern these days to move things sexually pretty much right away. I personally don't agree with it, I think we should break that pattern. My recommendation for anyone that wants anything serious is that they wait to have sex until the committed relationship is established, and not just in the talking stage like you are right now. You can start by asking him for that, and look closely by how willing he will be in the moment, that will be a good indicator. A lot of guys will appear unwil…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:36 AM
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Okay, the problem here is that his basis of trust in you is shaky. Whether it's valid or not it's debatable, but the important part is that's it's valid to him. Those are the consequences. The only way to fix it is to show through actions over a longer period of time that you have no intention of repeating the past, no other way to fix it. But of course it's up to you if you want to do it, although whether in a relationship with him or not you will have to do that same work anyway for future rel…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:32 AM
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I don't think this is about virginity at all. By piecing together what I gathered here, he is upset that she had casual sex with "low value" men. Probably men that was obvious would have never committed to her, which indicates her doing it just for pleasure. And the problem going forward is that he can't trust she won't repeat that behavior at some point in the future, which indeed is a consequence of having that kind of past.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:25 AM
1

I don't think that's a good argument "he will be forced to accept it because everyone is making mistakes like that". Well for once I never did and if we assume he never did either then that's already two persons and therefore not everyone. Then why would I not want to keep looking for someone like that? It's not like it's insane demands, and I am not asking for things out of someone control like beauty and height here, I would think character and integrity are actually very reasonable demands. B…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 03:21 AM
1

Yeah, it's not only for sexlessness, that's just one instance I heard it used for. Some advocate for a low level of passive dread to keep things flowing smoothly, and it seems to have results like in your case. Btw, this is just another area where men and women view things almost in opposite ways, because if the woman I loved brought up another men, especially men from her past, then it would upset me and not in a good way at all. For most men (apparently), social proof is not required and so if…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 01:20 AM
1

I'm a guy and I was a virgin until 30. I heard that in present some ridiculous number of like 28% of all the men bellow 30 are virgins. Definitely more widespread among men.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 11:57 PM
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Why? Has the "success" gone to your head? Sex might not be hard to come by going forward, but good non-problematic relationships are RARE these days. Do not rush to end something good OR find problems where there might be none. And you will definitely have more sex in a relationship with someone that desires you, rather than a random ho from time to time.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/23 02:08 PM
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It's broadcasting "value" by using social proof, women tend to find more attractive the men that other women also find attractive, probably because it's a sign he has traits that are attractive. This is different from men who only use their own two eyes to determine pretty much everything and would kinda be off put by attention from other men. But the theory is deeper and it goes like this: most women receive varying amount of attention from men during their lives (guys asking them out), whereas…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 04:43 AM
2

It matters if he knew one thing going in but then found out a lot more years later. I heard a guy saying once that he accidentally found a video of his fiancee getting it in a threesome and he could not see ever her the same way again. It didn't lasted long afterwards. I agree with this, I would probably react the same, it feels like a lie when all he knows of her afterwards is her acting prim and proper...
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:36 AM
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He doesn't seem interested, that's not how a guy that likes you acts. Don't make the mistake to fall for it if he suddenly appears to change his mind. When a guy is into you, you will know.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:27 AM
1

He does sound addicted to porn, but Onlyfans stuff isn't necessarily just about porn. As I've understood from the manosphere videos, those guys crave the attention and parasocial interactions from those women and they would (apparently) converse with them on the platform. I am amazed that you remained dedicated to the marriage so far, so is there any reason why he might feel lonely like that?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:23 AM
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It's probably his attempt at dread game. Only that I usually see it applied when he would have reasons to think you are starting to lose interest. You can try to communicate to him overtly that it has the opposite effect.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:17 AM
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A potential blind spot here is that it's not always luck. A lot of men are looking, actively looking and when they aren't satisfied with a certain woman they will say that line of "I am not ready". But if the one they had in mind shows up the it's a sudden "I am ready". But why are they roundabout about it? Mostly because they have learned in time that any kind of criticisms towards women are met with shaming language. So the preferred tactic these days is to silently disqualify unfortunately. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 11:31 PM
5

I approve of this post, hilarious but it's at least partly true. Stuff like "kidnappers fear" is surprisingly accurate 😩
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 07:31 PM
1

Yeah, depending on how a guy is raised this might seem obvious or an incredible revelation. It's no surprise there is such a disparity in dating success between men.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 01:00 PM
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I see. If he is MGTOW then it means that he has been hurt or disillusioned by women in the past and doesn't want to engage with them romantically, or at least nothing long term. You often see it with men that get destroyed in a particularly bad divorce. You said he commented on your wife material qualities? Contextually it makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 09:16 PM
3

*Sigh* Because it reminds me of my past self, we call that being "blue pilled". I am quite angry at my past self, wasted my teens and 20s absolutely no relationship success because of ignorance. I can see my past mistakes in a lot of the things they say and the situations they are in. You have to understand that there would not be any need for the RP if there was not a very glaring issue that needs to be solved with it, and it wouldn't have spread like wildfire otherwise. There is no smoke witho…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 05:22 PM
2

Yes, but it was "once". And he said he would not be in a relationship with you, but men also have very often short term sexual interest in a woman they would never want a relationship with, which is how you get situationships. Just something to consider, because you might be blindsided.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 05:15 PM
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I'm european too, my female friend would totally think I am hitting on her if we talk about that and I would definitely take it the wrong way if she started it. Are you sure he is saying he isn't interested in you just because you made it clear first that you aren't interested? Or if he wasn't into you at some point, maybe he is now. Men can be fickle like that and it's not always with the intention of something long term....
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 01:19 AM
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She has other guys but is unsure whether they would work out or not, so she keeps you on the back burner. DO NOT take her back. And never cry or beg in front of her, ever. Her pussy probably dried down at that moment.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 12:37 AM
2

Yeah but breathing exercises while useful, are just about treating the immediate symptoms. Try it out next time, explain the possible causes and see if they tell you exactly what you should do to eliminate them, see if they are willing to do anything like that.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 05:04 PM
5

Unpopular opinion but popular in the red pill space, therapy is mostly a waste of time for guys. They just want you to talk about feelings, but I know that most guys want actual solutions to problems, which therapists never provide as a principle. Also, they are liberal as heck, and will view any issue through a female lens. Try it yourself, ask them for solutions, it drives me mad when they look at you like "what the hell is he saying? Let's talk more about feels".
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 04:41 PM
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Great. I do know from personal experience that having the knowledge of something and applying it are two whole different things, but the tricky part is that no one else can realistically help you with that. Meditate on the top of a mountain for 3 days or something if you need to, bring it out yourself.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 04:14 PM
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Actually not, the social circle is one of the best places to find something long term (not to smash), because they will know her history and you will be able to organically spend time to see who she is. In comparison, dating apps and cold approach yield extremely poor results for anything long term.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 04:05 PM
3

Good, then you know. So what else can we tell you that you don't already know, how to stop getting oneitis? I am afraid only getting more options is the cure for that.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 04:02 PM
3

Yeah, the guy that wants you for long term certainly appreciates that kind of attitude a lot, and it will put the basis for natural trust.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 03:49 PM
4

Okay, I can speak for what I would like personally. I personally deal with the same dilemma, where do I meet the kind of girls that I want? I came to several conclusions after a long time. Female game is putting yourself in a position to be approached by the guys you like. That means stuff like making eye contact and smiling. But you kind of need to "sniff out" the quality of guys, so friend groups or even workplaces where you spend time around them casually are ideal. In your case, it sounds li…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 02:51 PM
5

The answer to your question is we get used to it in order to finally achieve that relationship. As an example from the other side, the experience of a man that isn't naturally attractive or confident is that he will generally be very single in his teens and even 20s, and it's not necessarily a choice like in your case. And it may end when he finally builds himself up. Btw, why do you think it will take years until you find someone? You will absolutely have more and better options to choose from …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 02:33 PM
5

I can already predict that this has very low chances of ever working. Both because of your anti-relationship actions and his weird actions. Might as well do yourself and him a favor and tell him everything.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 05:33 PM
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This, because she knows she demands traditional treatment and wants to keep up appearances. But it's all meaningless if it's like that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 05:30 PM
2

It does sound like you did something to make him see you differently. Maybe you don't think so, but that doesn't mean he won't see it that way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 05:25 PM
1

Nah, that's entitlement still. Just because she kept some decorum to increase her chances of success, that doesn't mean that she full expected it to happen just because she exists, and her exaggerated reaction afterwards is dead giveaway that she doesn't really get rejected.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/23 08:41 PM
1

No, because that's a made up thing recently to make something they don't like sound bad, while "entitlement" is a very real thing. Not sure why you act like the word bothers you, what would you call then what I just described? 😅
/r/TheRedPill20/11/23 12:36 PM
2

The cause of her entitlement is that some women expect that most men are beneath them and they are getting free things just for existing. And it has everything to do with the overwhelming amount of simps, it's human nature when you are put on a pedestal by an entire subsection of the population.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/23 12:24 AM
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It has to do with entitlement, because she clearly felt like she had a RIGHT to get extremely upset upon rejection, like that is never supposed to happen 💀
/r/TheRedPill19/11/23 01:26 PM
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They are really toxic and the blue pilled men and/or players are enablers that are willing to do A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G to get in their pants. It's clear that these women are almost never rejected if she had a reaction like that. Dudes, female vagina is not that f*cking expensive so you shouldn't under any circumstances hyperinflate a random ho's price, especially if you just get to cum once and it's done.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/23 03:17 AM
11

All of this is true. This is just anecdotal subjective experience as a guy, but as I was looking for something serious I was getting really turned off by these girls that were spinning lots of "options" because of their views and attitudes. No one would think they were wife material by any means. On the other hand, my guy friends loved these girls since they never wanted something serious and were going for these girls because they were viewed as very "easy". So before being bummed out because o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 08:15 PM
4

No need to make it so confusing when it comes to valid boundaries. It's a very reasonable request to stop party trips and substance abuse, I would not tolerate such things from my wife because it leads to obvious problems.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 03:13 AM
17

Yes, but if it's a repeated thing of her saying she doesn't like the way he behaves and he keeps doing it then there is definitely something wrong there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 08:29 PM
4

I was also the skinniest guy in high school and I will behave like that sometimes, so it's probably a pattern with guys like us. I usually do it in spans of a few months, then I get tired of it and dial it down another few months. It will repeat itself. I don't think anyone can possibly convince me with words to stop doing it, but perhaps if there is something more important do to that will consume his energy then he will take a break from it. Otherwise just wait it out until it passes and he is…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 06:55 PM
2

I know for a fact that there will be a clear subset of men that will want to be your BF, since you have qualities other than looks. It's just that you also need to lower your standards in how beautiful a man should look, life doesn't care for "fairness" for those of us that are less genetically "gifted".
/r/TheRedPill14/11/23 03:47 PM
1

You will need to type the direct link or click on it from somewhere. Then favorite the sub so that it's always in your list.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/23 03:44 PM
3

Don't feel inferior to the guys that had everything handed to them. That's true but it's also true that nature doesn't care about correct and those guys have the better results right off the bat. We are not robots, it's impossible to not feel a certain way after seeing that. But ofc I am not saying that it should disrupt you from getting better, it's just that some feelings you can't control.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/23 03:43 PM
4

If he has the qualities that makes him deserving on that, then you win by felling secure under his frame and leadership, and he wins by having someone that looks up to him (for men that's BIG affection wise). If this situation lasts, then everyone will be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:29 PM
3

That's nice, I will pop a similar leading question to my GF, if she has a reaction similar with yours then it would be the best sign ever.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:27 PM
2

There is an eternity of the death thing afterwards, so might as well make the most out of the tiny blink my life is in the overall grand scheme of things. But I am low-key hoping that there will be more improvements in medicine and I get to be like 100 with a healthy body 😌
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:25 PM
3

Being unplugged doesn't mean to treat all women like they are one and the same. For example I knew a 28yo decently looking girl that was still virgin because she didn't want to do it outside of a committed relationship. Men aren't the same either, there is immense variation.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/23 10:08 PM
3

That's not hypergamy. In that case the dude wants her just because she is hot, not because she is better than him, stronger, taller, more confident, richer, higher status etc. Hypergamy it's all of those things, it's synonymous with "better" not just a specific trait like "hot", and it's also based on "upgrading" when there are better options available.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/23 10:05 PM
79

Yes, I can't explain it completely since it feels like a primal part of the brain, but sex is really pivotal for emotional connection for men. It's ofc not the only thing that matters, but it's very much the glue that holds it all together. It's probably because that's what makes a man subconsciously think "that's my woman and mine alone".
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:18 PM
1

It makes me happy to see comments like this on the internet, since it's so bloody rare. This has to be one of the best women spaces on the internet, I will definitely recommend this reddit to any future GF.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:13 PM
1

Everything that was said here. Plus, make sure to take a mental note of their overall specific personality traits and make sure to filter for that in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:08 PM
2

Absolutely, the saying that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with is very true. Also, I understood this much later but it's the reason why I felt uncomfortable to call some acquaintances "friends", because I didn't enjoy their presence. Regarding this, I will often see girls that appear good but have crazy friends. Which instantly makes me believe she hides her true nature...
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:06 PM
19

I don’t think there should he hate for it - women are told how strong they are and how they’re world beaters when they aren’t - they are extremely passive and submit to things, ideas and large groups of people and especially very strong men when he situation is overwhelming them. I am allowed to hate that. If I can't trust her to behave in presence of more physically attractive and aggressive guys, then there is no possible basis for a relationship. That's why low body count is of fundamental im…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/23 02:29 PM
5

He has ulterior motives. At least you understand that it's an inappropriate situation, but I am appalled that a lot of women don't see anything wrong with that kind of situation (or pretend that they don't).
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 02:22 PM
1

Sometimes, depends on the context.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 02:20 PM
7

Very good point about 3, it's extremely glaring and it has everything to do with how casualized sex has become. I think the narrative is propagated by those that benefit directly from it, aka those that have tons of private messages from the opposite sex. In my case I see no problem to having my phone "not private", because there is absolutely nothing there that I would want to hide, it's literally irrelevant. And the less I try to hide it, the less suspicion I invite upon me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 04:29 PM
3

"Incel" is a heavy one to ignore, and especially the fact that it's a slur mostly targeted towards males. Of course the opposite is also true, the "slut" words variety is targeted towards females. VERY clear differences of standards between sexes...
/r/TheRedPill10/11/23 03:03 AM
5

Studies older than 15 years might not accurately reflect the crazy situation of these days. And also I would take very recent studies with a grain of salt, they might try to be too politically correct. So in short not very trustworthy.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/23 03:00 AM
2

Sure but that's with an extra factor present, in this case a specific location that might be attracting them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 04:27 PM
1

Yes, I didn't say that it does. Classic bodybuilders do want strength, but it's not that important compared to muscle form.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 08:59 PM
2

Yeah, it sounds like it's far from "unreconcilable differences" and bonus points that you took proactive steps to prevent that scenario. How would he react I wonder if you showed him this thread? It might help him see the bigger picture in a way that you alone can't convey, and nothing particularly bad was spoken here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:53 PM
7

While that's true to a degree, solid economic advice also tells you that having zero savings is playing with fire. And I always invest a part in things that allow me to pull the money out from them quickly. Make sure he understands that as well, as he seems to have a fixed mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:47 PM
1

The thing about six packs that is very obscured by movies and social media is that usually they aren't that visible without voluntary contraction, even at low body fat of like 10%. In shots those guys tense up, dehydrate themselves, or even use oils to show that definition. At around 12% body fat I've always had a six pack, but I do need to tense my abs for them to look like in movies.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:40 PM
2

While that's not false, it's also a textbook example of manipulating perception through half-truths. If we assume that 30% of men have a six pack and 4% of those are gay, then that's indeed much more than the rest of the population. But that doesn't mean that a large proportion of them are gay 😅
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:36 PM
1

That's because power lifters usually don't keep themselves at lean enough levels to show definition, since they need to eat a lot to satisfy the requirements for what they need. It's a different category.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:33 PM
1

I personally think it's a guy's imperative to want to go to the gym since it has many great overall benefits, like testosterone increase, and especially if he start to gain weight. If someone else makes him do it then it won't last. Although I will say that working out only helps a little bit with weight loss. Diet is far more important, as it's far easier to not eat the last cookie than to run an extra 2 km (yup, it's the caloric equivalent).
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:30 PM
0

When people hear "ripped" they probably imagine those body builders on steroids that are at like 8% body fat for short periods of time to look good in pictures. That is because the social media perception starts to affect everything in our lives. My usual physique is at around 12% body fat and looks reasonably ripped, and I've had it ever since I started working out like 14 years ago. It wouldn't be a nice thing to hear anyone saying that my hard work and dedication is a sign that I am dumb, vai…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:21 PM
2

Nice post. It doesn't happen often to actually learn something new that I didn't figure out before on the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 06:25 PM
2

The way I see it, once he identified her as a past cheater then his trust in her plummeted. At that point it was her cue to act like the perfect GF and maybe the trust would have been completely repaired in a few years. But trust is hard to gain and easily lost and such an incident is the final straw.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 04:59 AM
2

He said she cheated on a past BF, that's plenty of background information.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:44 AM
3

Look, trust isn't given by default upfront. Trust is earned, sometimes it takes years depending on actions. And her past actions are that she cheated on a previous BF after she called him "abusive". I would not trust her unless she earns that trust after years of exemplary conduct. And how she acts shady and goes off grid? Hell nah.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:43 AM
1

Why should she want to act like she is single while in a relationship? There is absolutely no way to know if she bangs some random dude at a bar while drunk.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:39 AM
2

Good point, I always attributed randomly bringing up a history of cheating with ether being dumb or getting way too comfortable.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:36 AM
1

She might have known that there would be guys, how does a group of guys show up all of a sudden and her friends welcome them?
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:32 AM
2

"On-again-off-again relationship" and you are contemplating marriage with her? HOW? Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior. The future isn't looking rosy here. And she could have easily cheated then to piss you off and you can never know, someone that acts like her is capable of that. And long distance relationships never work.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/23 03:30 AM
2

Yes, of course she will. She also already started buying into the feminism thing if she called him "insecure" for putting restrictions that made sense on her. It would be good if you can secure her, but your analysis about her probable future is correct, often times those sheltered girls have no idea how the world works.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/23 02:51 PM
8

Her BF had a boundary on her going to clubs and you call him "insecure" blue pill? That's exactly what women and blue pilled men do, they call men insecure for their boundaries. It would have been actually insecure if he had that preference and still let her do what she wanted.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/23 11:55 AM
3

I happen to know someone like that, he always slithers around and gives you compliments that appear genuine, but has no problem doing anything behind your back.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/23 10:42 PM
3

Applies to all areas. But it's the worst when they try to make you take hoes seriously since these days it's "commonly accepted" for some reason that the past doesn't matter and people magically change when they get new relationships...
/r/TheRedPill29/10/23 10:20 AM
7

You may try to spin it like that, but f*ck those assholes that think they can steal whatever they want from you. And no one is immune to temptations, so you may wanna think twice before letting the next girl alone in the same room with a shameless guy like that.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/23 10:17 AM
6

That circle of friends makes me angry just when hearing about it. Not sure why you tolerated them around, it was clear they were acting very shady.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/23 10:15 AM
2

If she did it to several BFs before, there is nothing stopping her doing it again. I know her type, she always acts on pure emotion. Once the attraction dies down a bit a few months later, she will repeat the process again.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/23 09:58 PM
11

Correction: it's not a "hoe phase", her entire nature is being a hoe. Serial cheaters deserve absolutely no trust.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/23 06:10 PM
5

Admits to cheating on two past BFs (might be more) and she is somehow not a hoe? The guy that knows this and still wants her instead of someone else must have absolute zero options.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/23 06:08 PM
4

Keeping her around for a serious relationship is a waste of time. With a record like hers there is absolutely no basis for trust in that relationship, and I would rather no waste more time watching her every action.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/23 06:06 PM
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Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior. No one starts as a blank slate every time. One cheating instance is really bad, two cheating instances are a guaranteed disqualifier.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/23 06:03 PM
0

If she bangs some other dude before coming back like you say then it's over.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/23 11:47 AM
8

Because it's probably not too late for him, and everything that awaits him in the world after that will be just an inferior version of what he already had.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/23 11:45 AM
1

It's not just about straight up cheating, it's about her wanting to keep guy friends around. Women keep those orbiters around instinctively, not all of them have conscious thoughts of why they do it, but those are backups a lot of the time. I have heard anecdotes of after just an argument her banging one of those dudes to piss the BF off.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/23 01:28 AM
1

I am skeptical about such stuff, usually those women expect in turn for you to be okay with their guy friends, these days they always have the idea that "if you can do I, then I can do it too".
/r/TheRedPill18/10/23 03:31 PM
6

It's not like they "like" it, it's not a fully conscious thought. They are aroused by the social proof, even if they deny it.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/23 12:11 PM
2

That's exactly what I would expect her to do. But thing is the ones that refuse to drop weird behaviors that would jeopardize the relationship are high risk and are out instantly. Because later on it won't become better.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 03:58 PM
3

It's a powerful anecdote regardless, if any men still had doubts that women going to the clubs is really bad.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:15 AM
6

It will implode soon in that case, into a mass of hedonism and depression. And lack of actual families.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:13 AM
1

The way they dress and present themselves tells a lot. It's about attention seeking.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:12 AM
3

Because they don't want men talking about these issues, it's dangerous when men aren't blue pilled anymore. This was even one of the more tame and on point posts.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:11 AM
1

Yes, but you are missing the point. It's about risk mitigation. If I can choose between 10% risk or 80% then it's a no brainer.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:10 AM
1

In the RP sphere these things are like 1+1=2, anyone that has been in the space for long enough has heard anecdotes at length to why all of these and more are really bad.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/23 11:09 AM
-1

That's the equivalent of a woman saying I just want sex from her and I don't want anything else, because that's the commonly accepted gender dynamic around. Even if that it's true for a significant part of the male population, it doesn't actually apply to me. And so, these kinds of generalizations won't apply to a lot of women out there either
/r/TheRedPill09/10/23 07:40 PM
-2

Of course they were different. Birth control is only relatively recent and it didn't became widespread until much later, they couldn't just fuck anybody in 1-2 dates without risking to get pregnant. They didn't felt the need to either because they were well adjusted to evaluate a guy properly for longer, since their fathers instilled morals into them. Now it's just absolute fatherless behavior everywhere.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/23 09:17 AM
3

That's the "new think", because she has like 50 DMs on social media and hookup apps. Then the paradox of choice kicks in and makes her completely unable to decide on a single option. Before social media was a thing a normal girl wouldn't have had endless suitors to choose from. So you can't ask all of a sudden for men to be okay with such behavior, it's not ok.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/23 09:14 AM
1

I am saying that we should go back to that as a society and shame such behavior. Otherwise they start thinking it's ok to be sluts. This already happened though and our current situation is the result.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/23 07:16 PM
1

Ignore them only up to a point. The thing with feminists is that while we are "tolerant" and let them unchecked they proceed to corrupt all younger women to think that being a slut is empowering. And then we will have to pick the leftovers.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/23 05:53 PM
1

I know, it's disturbing. Men are like cattle to women these days, and it's partly because there are too many simps. But of course the women also get absolutely drunk in attention and start to treat men as disposable.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/23 05:51 PM
11

Hilarious 😂. And all of it is true 💀
/r/TheRedPill08/10/23 11:32 AM
6

That's only because they've set a pattern of letting Chad smash on the first date. So ofc a guy would think himself inferior in her eyes if she drags him around endlessly. But if a woman never does anything that in the first place then it's actually a good thing if she is actually selective and wants to see who she engages in relations with.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/23 06:38 PM
0

I am not exactly an idealist but I am not accepting them as they come either. I will ALWAYS hold them to a standard, if they don't rise up to that standard then I will never take them seriously for long term, it's that simple. Just because the quality is abysmal everywhere and there are no good options, that doesn't mean that I will forget my basic morals just to be with them.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/23 05:08 PM
6

I don’t think a better option came along as much as her interest just plummeted after the 4th date. At that point she’s left thinking “is this all we’re gonna do..kiss” But that's definitely because they are hyper sexualized these days and so accustomed to banging dudes right away. Just a few years ago it didn't used to be like that, women would actually evaluate guys a lot better before letting them smash. Now it doesn't even feel like a compliment when you get to do what many other guy got to …
/r/TheRedPill07/10/23 02:46 PM
102

Probably kept her options open and now has another one lined up. This is a sad sad reality, without that excessive attention on the social media it might have went somewhere.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/23 01:27 PM
-1

Not necessarily, there are some things where it's not a competition. But for the things that everyone wants and are the most important there is very much a competition. Because they aren't enough for everyone. Take a good woman for example, they are so rare these days that most men won't get one. Therefore you have to stand out if you want such an opportunity.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/23 06:09 PM
2

It's easy to say, but we are meant to be social. There is no way you can actually succeed in life without interacting with others, and in that case you need to be equipped and experienced in doing so. Relationships, friends, connections, business meetings, it's all a similar exchange. We take things from others and others want to take them from us. Therefore it's a competition.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/23 03:50 PM
3

You said it, media pushes most of it and then people propagate it. But when some of us see it as wrong and say that then we get criticized for not being "tolerant". And then they can have free reign to spread whatever they want. Resisting to it is the responsibility of those that know better.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 03:10 PM
4

I think the opposite advice is much more valuable these days exactly because everyone just does everything in "moderation" and they don't even try. For most intents and purposes, life is indeed a competition. Even if it's not in everything, it's in most important things you will ever have. Everyone want them exactly because they are important. Every woman that you want, many other men want or will want. Entering a relationship with her means you "stole" her from someone else in the future. Every…
/r/TheRedPill06/10/23 02:20 PM
6

I hear about peer pressure often, and it's quite sad to see young women fall for bad "advice" that might impact the rest of their life. In reality your friend knew it was wrong but wanted to feel the comfort of getting validated by those around her. The "tolerance culture" these days only serves to make good people withhold sound advice while not so good ones can give all the bad advice they want. There is no balance. That's why I think it's the responsibility of the society to clearly label som…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 02:02 PM
7

It does sound like a special connection, too bad it will almost never happen like that to most people these days. And I firmly believe that lack of genuine connection leads to such high divorce rates.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 01:55 PM
12

I have heard before of someone doing just that and it turns out he was on the autistic spectrum. After intense conditioning he managed to learn the behaviors required to make a killing with women, but the default behavior is indeed weird.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/23 04:33 PM
2

It's probably because they use sex to make demands, transactional even inside a marriage. So to them it must sound crazy to give it up for "free", but your reasoning is correct and you two are definitely closer like that than otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 05:37 PM
2

When the relationship gets serious, the talk will come up, 100%. They don't ask at first because there's no guarantee there will be a relationship and women get defensive about it. Which also means everyone knows men have a problem with that. And if the guy had the wrong idea about her then he will be very disillusioned and never see her in the same way again. I keep hearing guys relating stories like that, no matter what they do and how they try to convince themselves they can't see her in the …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 02:23 PM
3

The best indication of future behavior is past behavior. Words and promises are nearly worthless compared to actions. The first action that shows willingness to change is being honest about it and realizing why men have good reason to care. But of course also expect that many would not accept it anyway. And those that will accept it will probably put stricter boundaries than otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 11:47 PM
2

So basically to lie from fear of mistreatment and avoid all accountability? Then why say in the same breath that she didn't make a mistake? It's infinitely better to be honest about this upfront, because should the man happen to find out later that she lied it won't end well at all.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 11:44 PM
5

She doesn't owe the man her past but the obvious flip side to that is that the man doesn't owe her a future either. Consequences are always a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 11:42 PM
3

It's both instinctive aversion and logical aversion. Men have evolved to protect themselves against paternal uncertainty, so we have instinctive aversion to promiscuous women who have the highest chances of doing that. Also we don't like to be the ones to take seriously something that many other men had quick fun with and then left. Women that are okay with being treated like that and even seek it have a fundamental flaw that might reveal itself again and again. Ideally we want to be the only on…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 11:39 PM
2

That does sound like a big deal which a father would be worried about. You can forget the arranged marriage part, that's clearly the much bigger reason. Fortunately, unlike some single mothers that guy is probably not looking to extract resources from you, but I don't know any way you can possibly convince your father other than give it a lot of time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 11:13 PM
1

Arranged can also mean that if you found someone good enough then there is nothing to complain about.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 10:10 PM
1

Age works an indicator pre-relationship which may facilitate some developments, but if the relationship is already established and going well then it's a non factor. Example, I like significantly younger women than myself, but if I happen to meet the perfect woman and she is 2 years older than me, then I would still not miss the chance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:00 PM
1

I am a guy and I know it's a common topic in the RP, but I think it's one of the most normal things for a woman to want a good guy just for herself. Ofc that won't prevent the ultra popular guys from having multiple women, but in that case the women should know to not get involved with those and/or ask that question early.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:57 PM
1

If he is sensitive and intelligent, you can start by telling him what you wrote here: that you like most of his traits but you also appreciate generous people. If he cares about you he will take at least some steps into that direction. Don't expect a total shift, but some steps towards change is a good sign. I can also be a bit cheap sometimes but if the girl I like would say it in a way that doesn't sound greedy then I will give it a serious consideration.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:53 PM
1

I would also recommend into studying what traits you should look for in good men if such an opportunity would arise by itself, while learning to sniff out those that only look to smash and would trick you into it. Plenty of videos about that, you will know which advice is sound when you hear it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:51 PM
1

They were mostly virgins around 1960, when the pill was first invented. After that it just devolved and it might still get worse.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:49 PM
7

I think part of him feels like you have been hiding it from him if it's been 4 years, since a normal father would want to evaluate your BF first. And that ship has long sailed at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:45 PM
11

It sounds like he has some wrong ideas about what "traditional" means and is just projecting some of his own independent wants. And while high heels aren't terrible on their own, they have nothing to do with being traditional. If anything, it's more traditional for a woman to not broadcast sexappeal with her attire.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:41 PM
1

The only right answer that prevents most of the unsavory cases.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:36 PM
2

He will never refuse such earnest request if he likes you. What you have heard has some truth to it, but is not the case here. When women are aggressive in a crass way it's indeed a poor display of character, but if you convey you are interested in spending some time with him then it should work well.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 08:34 PM
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