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LeonidasMRP/r/askMRP11/08/19 05:24 PM
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LeonidasMRP/r/askMRP24/04/25 12:49 PM
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Perfect. I'm just wondering if you've defined what "awesome" is for you or if it's still abstract. No need to provide details here, as long as you know it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/26 04:50 PM
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Starting the OYS transformation process while simultaneously launching cohabitation with fiance with no established date for marriage? This is like building a prison for yourself that also has an escape tunnel. I'm not saying you should abandon the pursuit, but realize how you starting this process as a dancing monkey. Your focused on improving a certain outcome, not yourself. my libido is quite high and so I want to bring back more sexual activity. I know essentially it boils down to being a mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/26 04:40 PM
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Fair enough. I'm curious then, what are you still trying to achieve with OYS? Because it seems like you are functioning well, except for the frequency of sex, but you indicate that issue will be solved once the kids start sleeping through the night... So if this is just a temporary busy season and you're happy with the overall trajectory, what keeps bringing you back to OYS? What's the gap between where you are and where you want to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/26 01:13 PM
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I have been seeing gains. Multiple people have commented on it, Just like last week, this week has been overall good, but mostly because she's in her follicular phase. It was actually an oddly good feeling to have her mirroring me again. Recognize, these phrases that betray how much you are living in the frame of others. I know that you know your frame is weak. What's it going to take for you to stop referencing other people to measure success? How do you break this loop? This last time, I put h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/26 06:11 PM
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Mission: Beauty, wealth, people. I was being dad, drove them to wherever they needed to be, talked to the friends' parents etc. It was a lot of going through the motions tired but that was okay. The kids enjoyed it. This stands out to me. On paper, you did something that is clearly in line with your stated mission (people), however you describe it like an obligation you are enduring, rather than something you are energized by. Maybe you are just simply exhausted by the season of life you are in …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/26 05:39 PM
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If you shame and scold your husband the same way you’re attempting to do here, you’re not as submissive as you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 05:11 PM
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It could be a value, sure. But its one of those values that can either be healthy or a source or toxic guilt, depending on why you are working hard. Its healthy when your working hard for your own personal goals you've conciously chosen and your own standard of excellence. It's toxic when you're working hard because you're afraid of being seen as lazy, because your self-worth depends on the outcome, or because you don't feel allowed to enjoy life until you've "earned it." Let me ask you this: if…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/26 09:27 PM
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Reading: N/A Does this mean youve read everything on the sidebar? Have you made a MAP?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 12:12 PM
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I think he is convert from cm to feet and getting 6.07'. So actually just under 6'1"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 12:03 PM
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For fitness, what finally helped me break the noob barrier and make it a habit was one of those fitness apps that does all the programming and tracks progress. You don't have to do SS, especially if it doesn't work for you, it didn't for me. For productivity, it sounds like your caught in the same loop I was in, endless thinking and planning, little execution, leads to shame, guilt and thinking the only solution here is more discipline and white knuckling on tasks. I tried lots of productivity t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 11:58 AM
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That’s not what the debate is about… it’s about how women choose violent men over weak and shy. I’m pointing out that female behavior suggest they will look over any red flag as long as the guy is hot. Men do it too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:15 PM
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We have to keep saying it because women like you keep arguing against it…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:58 PM
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Well if you want to get technical, this argument is about violent psychopaths, and Manson never actually committed violence so your example isn’t relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:55 PM
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Manson had rizz
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:24 PM
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Who is acting like it’s brand new information? That’s essentially OPs point, which you seem to agree with
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:06 PM
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Right but you can’t attribute that solely to mental health because there’s ugly serial killers that don’t get love letters and fan mail from women. The point is, if you are hot and have rizz, than any red flag will be overlooked even life threatening red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:21 PM
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Yeah but even when Bundy was convicted and everyone knew he was a psychopath, he sired a child and was receiving love letters and fan mail from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:50 AM
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I think it’s because you include lots of unnecessary details. Your second FR could be summed up in 1 sentence “a girl I met at the bar made a comment about my body language and I had a mental meltdown.” It’s probably worth pondering why you include so many details.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/26 04:55 PM
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Copy that. I know it’s possible, I just assume dudes with those measurements are seasoned or enhanced lifters. Hard for me to imagine being 190 lean… I need to add another 20lbs of muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 03:11 AM
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Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 03:07 AM
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ok if you say so, it just sounds off to me from my own experience. I'm same height as you and hit 15% at 166, 12% at 158. about same lifts as you. also gaining 10lb of LBM in a year would be amazing progress,
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 06:40 PM
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Having a strong frame isn't about preventing the feelings of lonliness and isolation but accepting the fact that those feelings are a possible outcome and having the courage to risk feeling that way. You can and should utilize strategies to mitigate those feelings though. Imagine you invest 100k into the stock market. If you invest it all into 1 stock and then that stock tanks you are probably going to feel sadness and anxiety. if you have a diversified portfolio and 1 of those stocks tank you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 06:12 PM
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Weight is hovering around 215 +/- 2 lbs. I still have at least 12-15 lbs to lose to get to my goal of 15% bf. This sentence is crazy. How are you measuring this? 15%bf at lifts and height is ~170. You have a long way to go to get there. Are you in a defecit? what are your macros?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 05:18 PM
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I don't want her to think I'm bigger yet Regardless of how strong my frame looks to her I tried to share how I felt and she (obviously) didn't take it well. That was a mistake, though I'm not entirely clear on it still..... now I'm very consciously trying to deal with it on my own and not let it bleed into my interactions with her. You doing the definition of nice guy dancing monkey behavior. You are trying to manage her emotions and her perception of you. Question if tomorrow she woke up smilin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 04:56 PM
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Most of your metrics of success are dependent on the behavior and perception from other people. If nobody knew anything about your physique, your business, your wife, your money, your social life, would you still believe you are winning? Mission: Abundance: Wealth, pleasure, women, whatever. Your mission says "women,", your philosophy is polygyny and “If I want it, I will get it” ... but your behavior says "wife." Those aren't the same thing. Either change the mission to reflect reality, or admi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 09:57 PM
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For sure, if you don’t rely on your wife for validation, if your confident in yourself and the value you create, if you’re a man that fucks and has options, then it’s much less likely you’d feel threatened by some innocent messages.
/r/askMRP19/06/26 11:26 AM
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Sure nothing wrong with what you’re saying, it’s reasonable and pragmatic. You’ll more willing to provide value to your wife if she is providing value to you. I’m saying that if your solid in you identity, know what you like and need, developed your values, mission, goals, you just act from that, you’re not evaluating the ROI anymore
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/26 10:45 AM
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Wouldn’t care about what? Wife inappropriately messaging another man? No, that would bother any man. Care about how others react when you share your feelings? an RP man wouldn’t give a fuck.
/r/askMRP19/06/26 03:59 AM
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Congrats on the baby bro. So I’m assuming that your wife is being nonchalant about the messages and you are just observing them naturally. If she is hiding them from you then my take is different… Honestly, from the way you describe the messages it seems like innocent and ordinary interactions between 2 coworkers. I wouldn’t worry about it personally. That being said, if you can’t tell your wife something bothers you because you’re afraid to appear insecure, you are operating from fear. Being ou…
/r/askMRP19/06/26 03:24 AM
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Not sure why you cut this out of the sentence. I was addressing the concept of emotional openness in exchange for sex as a whole, not just in OPs situation, although I did use him as an example ("at OP's current stage....") I don't think that's being an emotional tampon. You brought up the term "emotional tampon". How would you define it? You cant be one as long as she is touching your dick? I think you can
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/26 03:19 PM
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there's no need to be an emotional tampon for a woman who's not fucking me. At OP's current stage, I agree. The transactional concept is useful at the early stages of your MRP journey to disrupt the unconcious/unproductive habits. But I think you should grow out of that mindset as you discover and create your own identity. Because you also shouldn't be an emotional tampon for a woman that is fucking you. Unless of course you find that you like having emotions dumped on you, that's for you to dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/26 01:43 PM
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It’s actually biological. You’re attempting to reorganize neutral pathways in your brain that have been strengthened for 30 years. Keep disrupting the pattern and replace it with a pattern of your own choosing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/26 01:25 AM
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Yeah, lots of options to get out of a conversation you don’t want, but do it in a way that’s congruent with your mission and values. Why do it in a way that’s unnecessarily hostile? I don’t see the benefit of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/26 06:18 PM
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The question is, why do you keep getting pulled back into the drama? I can relate here. For me, I realized that I was interpreting my wife's negative emotions as a emergency that must be resolved immediately. If she was upset I felt compelled to re-engage until everything was okay again. Notice you're spending a lot of energy into analyzing her behavior, and strategizing what you should have done better, but there's hardly any reflection on your emotional reaction. If your wife's emotions are tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/26 01:07 PM
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Last week I held firm to a boundary I had set about not continuing a discussion any further that night during a shitty comfort test.... This reads like she shared her feelings too intensely for you and you shut her down. If so, then you communicated to her that her feelings make you uncomfortable and its not safe for her to share emotions with you. It's no wonder she would withdraw and refuse to open up after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 05:53 PM
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I was afraid to open in the group of young guys.... The fact is, I felt this dammit shame again about being me. My kid was absorbing those stories from other guys and he was referencing them in next days. I missed a great opportunity to show myself, who I was before I met his mother. Good recognition here, you really did miss a great opportunity to connect with your son as well as all the other guys on the trip. There is a fear of vulnerability going on here, same with the MBA presentations. Fea…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/26 02:36 PM
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Good on the praise. Expressing your wants and desires and fantasies to her with courage and without shame fosters emotional connection. That is an aspect of E from the DEVI method. It is also aspect leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/26 08:31 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but aren't you at the same weight you were at OYS#1? You should be down 10lbs by now... I have noticed in the last two weeks that i have an almost increased awareness of what I am going to do or say next and I am not lashing out or just reacting any more. I would describe it as a new thought process- what is really being said, is this really my fault or is it nice guy conditioning to think so, is this something I need to fix, is this only feelz, etc. I am calmer and happi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 06:54 PM
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Actually close to 70 by normal standards. But no matter what the exact number is, the fact is that you are clinically obese and at a high risk for heart disease. Now obviously you are strong and into martial arts, nice. Maybe you like the large figure you impose and the extra bodymass helps with the lifting and the wrestling. If that's the case then be honest and say that, but don't deny reality and try to convince us you're not actually that fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 06:17 PM
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I enjoyed it thoroughly. Then it was gone about as quickly as it came on. In the past I would have tried to talk about this with her, but I haven't and have gone about business as usual. I'm wondering, do you at least tell her what it is you want and do you praise her when she does those things?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 02:13 PM
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There's a lot that could be said about the obvious CC's, dancing monkey and ego shielding going on here. You say you've read the sidebar but it seems you didn't absorb any of it. You should reread NMMNG, carefully. Look at page 6. You are still embodying all the charicteristics of a nice guy. I need to learn how to be confident Struggling with stating what are my desires and wants. I'm not yet confident myself in my decisions. The root cause of this is that you are still deeply repressing all yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 12:53 PM
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Was in the middle of cleaning the dining room after breakfast. Her: Clean the table with the sponge, thanks. Me: STFU and continuing cleaning the dining room and eventually the table with the sponge. How I handled this situation felt wrong, but I still don’t know what I should have done differently. In this situation, your wife is an example of what your supposed to be learning here in MRP: expressing your genuine desires even if it pisses someone off. I bet you are terrified to talk to your wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 06:02 PM
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The book Daring Greatly by Brene Brown is really good at learning to stop suppressing your insecurities, acknowledge them and face them. Being vulnerable is a requirement for connection.
/r/seduction31/05/26 05:36 PM
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I think you already know the answers. You know the theory, you have even offered advice to others on this sub, but you have poor follow through. You haven't posted a single OYS, you posted this question in the wrong sub, and you haven't provided any stats for us to gauge your skill level. Start doing the fucking work and the answer to this question will become obvious. A man of value feels satisfied, not anxious when his wife's hamster is getting an emotional workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/26 02:49 PM
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I could take an entirely different time off and make sure I’m/we’re doing something I’ve chosen. As I start walking through this, she digs in bitching about regular life commitments... You created the conflict by over-talking instead of leading.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 04:13 PM
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You should be skeptical because everything you just wrote is an ego shield. If you had actually changed, your outcomes would be changed as well, but it seems like your outcomes are still the same as when you started your MRP journey. You wrote about your values. Do you actually have those clearly defined? I ask, because usually people that have clearly defined values have behavior aligned with the values. >I kept reading and working on myself. Then why haven't you read past WISNIFG? Again, this …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 07:04 PM
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You say you’re not angry, but your OYS reads like contained resentment. For example: “I was in the anger phase, and wanted that bitch to pay.” Anger doesn't exist in a vaccum. There is an underlying negative emotion that is the cause of anger. Look up "the anger iceberg". You didn't explain how your anger was resolved, you just say it went away. Unresolved anger turns into contempt. “Here it is 6 weeks later and I’m ready to nuke it.” Even if you mean “willing,” as explained in the post you link…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 06:14 PM
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I assume he wrote that because your OYS shows your caught in a loop of: Initiate. Get rejected (because you're unnatractive) Express anger and frustration at wife. Wife soothes you with her pussy. And thats 90% of what you wrote about.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 01:25 PM
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Bullshit. There’s guys with disabilities posting in OYS and get great suggestions from guys with years of fitness experience. You are trying to make the exception the rule. The amount you can lift and your bf% directly correlates to muscle size and attractiveness. As strength goes up and bf% goes down it also provides real metric to how much effort is being exerted and how disciplined you are. Discipline and effort gets rewarded with better advice. How else would you determine a man’s level of f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/26 11:19 PM
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Yes. Some would even say “life changing”.
/r/askMRP10/01/26 06:12 PM
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the way people talk here is cringe I like that though. Theres not a lot of non-pc places left online. Here you can be blunt without the pressure to self censor. Sometimes though it can be performative and cringe, but I always thought there's a purpose to that, which is intentionally attempting to trigger the adressee and test/strengthen their frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 06:34 PM
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Sure overall traffic is down but there’s still men that stumble across this place and if they start reading the material, putting in the work and have the balls to post in the OYS threads they see that there are still very intelligent, perceptive men lurking here, helping (kicking) those of us along still trying to make it. They will provide you with valuable insight and advice you won’t get anywhere. Surprisingly, the vets still lurking provide this value all for free.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 12:44 PM
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I need to get back to the sidebar. Yes, dive into the sidebar. Have you even read the SSS MRP guide? Start there. For anger learn about it. Then you can use it as a diagnostic tool. For help on STFU, I was going to link some posts but theres just too many good ones out there. Just search "STFU" in this subreddit and read the top 20 posts on STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 03:23 AM
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Makes sense. I will try this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:14 AM
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No, no hanging out 1:1. He came over on NYE with his kids, noticeably less IOIs. I could say a whole lot more about both of their behavior, and we could try to interpret the meaning but I can see how pathetic that shit is and I don’t give a fuck. Im trying to apply the advice I was given, live my own life stop with the analysis paralysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:10 AM
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This is very similar to what I wrote about in an OYS a month ago when my wife told me about another female thats attracted to me. I fumbled it. In the comments it was discussed how I don't view myself as a stud. I still dont. I get validated as one and think I achieved something, and completely fail to sieze whats been offered on a silver platter. I will begin mentally framing myself as a stud so I can begin acting as one and continue to starve out my validation addiction. Also, its uncanny how …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 09:50 PM
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I looked her in the eye and said “she would be right about that.” Considered bringing the topic back up during sex that night but chickened out.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 09:05 PM
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Now I actually double down on holidays. I give it an athlete’s playoffs focus. This is gold advice thanks. Next go around I will keep this in mind and prepare well in advance. This is crucial for me. I am prone to falling off the wagon during these holiday/vacation weeks. Happened to me in June last year after family vacation. You’re always better off complimenting a particularly overlooked feature. I tend to go for teeth, eye lashes, or posture. I will experiment with this next time. Also, your…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 04:21 PM
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OYS #23- 1/6/2026 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11. 2 Kids (5yo boy, 2yo girl) Height: 5’11” Weight: 176.0lb BF: ~17% (navy) Squat: 265x3 (+10) Deadlift: 325x3 (+10) Bench: 195x3 (+5) OHP: 120x3 READINGS Sidebar, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP, TRM Since last OYS Completed 25% Book of Pook, Listened to 50% Mystery Method on audio, read top MRP posts on frame. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by my own personal standard and has no need f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 10:25 AM
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The advice you were getting wasn't go back to spinning plates. Spinning plates is prescribed to all RPers, regardless of relationship status. The main advice you got was: living with LTR, with no plans to marry, is not in your best interest. Look up Iron Rule of Tomassi #4 for a complete explanation. The secondary advice is that you need time and experience to broaden your perspective and find out what you like, understand what's possible. This portion of the SSS MRP guide really drives home for…
/r/askMRP05/01/26 05:22 AM
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Something that was commented on one of my OYS 3 months ago and I think about a lot is “99% of guys have no idea what women will do for a HV man” just think about that next time you’re getting shit tested for putting too much attention into your personal goals instead of her. link
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 01:13 PM
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First off, you should read TRM immediately. Young unmarried men in your situation benefit the most from following the guidance in that book. Second, maybe it will help you to create a list of pros/cons for living with LTR. Right now I am only seeing cons. Your'e doing the cleaning for 2 people, sex is down, concentration on your goals is down, and the shit tests you deal with seem high in difficulty and quantity. The only possible pro I see is shower BJs? You can get a similar effect with a pock…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 11:59 AM
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I can do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 11:34 AM
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Pretend women are playthings to toy with I like that
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 11:31 AM
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All good stuff here, thanks. However the PE license is something I think I can do right now. All I need to do is redirect the mental energy I waste on hamstering.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 11:30 AM
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if your on a webrowser its in the sidebar on the right. if your in the mobile app click the 3 dots on the top of the subreddit page and then click on subreddit info.
/r/RPChristians27/12/25 11:24 AM
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Sexual market value. Read the material on the sidebar. Learn what high value men want in a partner.
/r/RPChristians25/12/25 05:14 PM
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Oh I had assumed you were a man. It sounds like your goal is to get married, presumably to the highest value man you can attract. Work on increasing your SMV. Make it clear you’re looking for marriage.
/r/RPChristians25/12/25 05:20 AM
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Would you consider it a win to marry a woman who only made it to 3rd base? If I had the same perspective I have now when I got married I would be asking questions like “will this woman contribute to my goals?” I used to be highly concerned about a woman’s sexual past, because as a man, especially men without many sexual options, you get a majority of validation from whether or not a woman will have sex with you. And if that same woman that is willing to have sex with you, then goes and has sex w…
/r/RPChristians25/12/25 03:24 AM
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Thanks. The actionable advice is really appreciated. Next OYS I will cut out all the bs and pointless detail. Only the action and the result is what matters. Forcing my brain to write this way will help me to mentally operate this way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 10:46 PM
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I hear what you are saying, I just feel that I will get the most benefit right now from retraining my brain, becoming action oriented and outcome independent instead of dancing monkey validation seeking. I felt that gaming women would be validation seeking so I didn’t pursue that much, instead I did what I wanted to do and explored, saw things I was interested in and ate food I had wanted to try. When I did talk to women it was good, especially at the holiday party, where everyone was drinking e…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 10:39 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate you pointing all this out to me. I will go back and re-read that portion of NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 10:05 PM
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OYS #22- 12/23/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11. 2 Kids (5yo boy, 2yo girl) Height: 5’11” Weight: 176.0lb (-2.2) BF: ~17% (navy) Squat: 255x3 Deadlift: 315x3 Bench: 195x3 OHP: 120x3 READINGS Sidebar, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP Completed Sidebar deep dive and TRM on audio. Beginning on the topic of game with Book of Pook. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by my own personal standard and has no need for external validation. PHYSIC…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 12:05 PM
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I disagree that I said anything unchristian and it’s cute you are white knighting for OP. his post should be deleted for rule 2 violation. Second, OP is being intellectually dishonest with narrative shifting and lying by omission. Why do people craft narratives and omit details? Because there is fear and an ego to be protected. OP asked for advice to an incredibly general question, so I provided the most general basic RP advice possible, lift, read, get attractive. If that’s an attack and a rule…
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 10:10 PM
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I am aware this is a Christian sub but was also under the impression this was an RP sub. Is there anything I said that's incompatible with Christianity? And what did I say that was salty and angry? Can we not speak bluntly to each other like men or is this just another place you come to be coddled?
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 09:25 PM
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Please correct me if I got anything wrong.
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 09:19 PM
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I love your courage and boldness you displayed in this post but I would highly recommend you get you but in the gym and lose the weight and grow those muscles. Not only will you be more attractive but you’ll also be more confident, have more self respect and feel better overall.
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 08:58 PM
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So now, biblical values are the only thing you want in a woman? What makes you think she would be attracted to you anyway bro? So you would date a crusty old 2/10 as long as she has biblical values? I doubt it. Biblical values are the gold standard, it’s what we strive for, but can’t live up to because we are human. The truth is, you have this high standard for women, one you can’t even live up to yourself, so you can disqualify them on that pretext, because your scared to be vulnerable and risk…
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 08:53 PM
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Ah, so you are looking for a traditional woman? I thought you said you wanted a D/s relationship? Seems like you’re hunting unicorns. Not that a woman can’t be both, but they aren’t found in the wild, they are created by a high value man. You’d be better served reading RP 101 material and studying up on female hypergamy and becoming a HV man.
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 08:25 PM
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Why can’t she be married and have a career? All my female colleagues are married.
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 07:58 PM
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What are your stats? (Height, weight, max lifts, financial, kids) Obvious answer is, get a girlfriend or wife, depending on your opinion on premarital sex. But it seems like you are wanting advice more catered to your specific situation and if that’s the case we would need more details, such as why did you get divorced? Seems like your sexual relationship was healthy which would indicate your ex was attracted to you and you had most things in your life under control. But if that’s true, why are …
/r/RPChristians20/12/25 07:57 PM
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OP is using his wife’s behavior as a measuring stick of his success.
/r/askMRP15/12/25 12:07 AM
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This 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/25 01:11 AM
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Yeah some weeks I don’t think about the subject but last week had an event that triggered a journey into a mental rabbit hole. Yeah I need to cut the shit out and clearly I’m still seeking validation but I think I’m making progress at least in emotional detachment because it’s not triggering anxiety and fear anymore. Also, I Don’t need to go through my wife to communicate with the woman that finds me attractive, that that would be reaction seeking/dancing monkey anyway. I can just follow and DM …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 02:01 PM
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Exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 01:49 PM
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Yeah good point. I realize I’m trying to mimic MRP insight posts with my OYS instead of using the OYS for what it’s meant. I’m going keep ploughing through the material though.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 12:42 PM
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10-4. Appreciate the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 09:27 PM
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For sure. I was doing >2000cal/day and not tracking protein but I didn't have enough energy in the gym for my workouts so I increased cals to 2250/day w/180g protein. Energy is way better now. Estimating to be at 170 by March which would be 15%bf. From there I plan to increase cals to 2450/day and focus on strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 09:18 PM
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Turn your brain off. Roger that I was at 195 when I got back at it, 12 weeks ago. I havent measured bf% and I'm just estimating it. I will provide an accurrate measurement next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 08:56 PM
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word
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 07:46 PM
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yep
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 07:45 PM
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Compare “well so-and-so obviously has good taste.” To “yeah, I’m a stud.” Damn. Good comparison, shows difference between internal and external origin. Thanks. Stop pining after Kevin and tracking your wife’s orgasms. Figure out how you want to be awesome and do that. Ok ok got it. Definitely agree this OYS was light on action and heavy on hamstering. To me, there was a lot of things that finally clicked, like seeing the lines of code in the matrix, but obviously not as profound as I had imagine…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 05:13 PM
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Thanks for pressing me on this. I was aware of these implications while writing the OYS. I don't claim to have eliminated validation seeking in sex,, just that I am aware of it and its been reduced. Majority of my mental energy goes into me, evaluating what I want and how to get there. My measuring stick of success is increasing my value, and I know what the looks like for me. My logic is if she turned on by fucking me, then its indicative of an increase of value. >One of us lying to ourselves. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 01:36 PM
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Why is it more complicated than that? Because when the problem first came up I did research into the issue, suggested a variety of solutions, wanted her to come because it was validating to me. Now I give less fucks about her coming, and use her body for my pleasure and she start coming again.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 01:10 PM
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OYS #21- 12/9/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, (together for 11). 2 Kids (5yo boy, 2yo girl) Height: 5’11” Weight: 178.2lb (-0.6) BF: ~20% Squat: 235x5(+5) Deadlift: 270x6 Bench: 175x5 (+5) OHP: 95x8 READINGS NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP Reading through a couple Jacktenofhearts posts a day. Listening to Rational male on audio. Completing my sidebar deepdive soon and start studying game next. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by my own personal st…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 12:30 PM
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>I think he was saying that you’re trying to shortcut the process by negotiating who you are instead of being him. You're right. Thanks for making me aware of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/25 03:22 PM
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How about you write an OYS so we can see if your opinon on anything is actually worth a shit? You're actively emoting and nagging like a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/25 03:08 PM
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Rule 13
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/25 02:37 PM
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Thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 09:44 PM
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I get what your saying, and 90% of my interactions are now flirting, vibing, complimenting, teasing, AA, AM asking good questions, jokes, being direct when needed, and expressing desire. I've choked out a lot of the validation seeking, decision mulling and general unnatractive emotional dialogue. Just consider the conversation within context, we were on a 4 hour car ride having a wide ranging conversation. I think the majority of RP rules around dialogue is within the context of brief interactio…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 09:44 PM
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Right. That is what I am doing. The old me got emotional and butthurt, hence why my wife feels the need to tread lightly. I just didnt like the weird vibe shift. Perhaps a tease or AM would have served me better but in that moment I chose directness
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 09:28 PM
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OYS #20- 12/2/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11 Kids: 5yo boy, 2yo girl Height: 5’11” Weight: 178.8lb (-1.2) BF: ~21% Squat: 230x5 (+5) Deadlift: 270x6 Bench: 170x6 (+5) OHP: 95x8 READINGS NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, MAP Currently doing sidebar deep dive, working through Jacktenofhearts quicklinks. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by my own personal standard and has no need for external validation. PHYSICAL New diet plan and lifting …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 02:08 PM
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Also, thanks for the other points you brought up. Good advice overall, and it all has a theme, foundation of which is being authentic and vulnerable, which is a result of being confident, which is a result of creating a plan, executing, adjusting, repeating. I am currently in the execution phase and I do feel more genuine confidence and the awakening of authenticity but its all in the early stages.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/25 05:00 PM
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>you need to get it in your head that you DNGAF about rejection anymore. I believe this is is one of the most impactuful skills for me to learn. I was thinking about this today actually. I am still at the noob level so the type of rejection I am vulnerable to is also noob level, But growing and strengthing inherently means the stakes will increase. The upside will be greater but the risk and potential rejection will also be greater. This perspective helps me to be much more confident being vulne…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/25 02:49 AM
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> How are you going to react when she doesn't initiate? Initiate if I feel like fucking and if rejected, cool, it's an opportunity to practice O/I. Visualize myself doing this, prepare the response situation. I can elswhere invest the time I would have spent fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/25 01:21 AM
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I see my boundaries being respected and indicators of attraction towards me so I didn't feel the need to bring up the topic. I'm not going to live in her head and wonder what level of attraction she feels/felt for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/25 01:13 AM
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OYS #19- 11/18/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11 Kids: 5yo boy, 2yo girl Height: 5’11” Weight: 180.0lb (-2.4) BF: ~21% Squat: 225x4 Deadlift: 270x6 Bench: 165x8 OHP: 95x8 READINGS 70% through with all sidebar links and top MRP posts in my tracker. Currently working through Jacktenofhearts quicklinks. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by my own personal standard and has no need for external validation. PHYSICAL I am pleased with m…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 01:20 AM
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OYS #18- 11/4/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11 Kids: 5yo boy, 2yo girl Height: 5’11” Weight: 181.2lb (-2.2) BF: ~23% Squat: 205x8 Deadlift: 285x6 Bench: 165x8 OHP: 95x8 READINGS Currently doing a thorough read through the ENTIRE sidebar. I made a tracker and catalogued each post, with a link and my notes about the post. There are 70+ links in SSS guide alone. I’m about 25% through my tracker. CURENT GOAL Building my own frame that I am in full control of, measured by…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 10:41 AM
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got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/25 04:16 PM
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I see. Thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 07:09 PM
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It’s been observed plenty of times that girls having affairs just get hornier. Kind of female version of the Coolidge Effect. Yes, this is how I interpreted her behavior, she's emotionally peaking because of the beta shit I did the week before and the validation and attention she's getting from Kevin. Even I am not deluded enough to buy into the idea that this sudden change in behavior is due to a renewal of attraction. I haven't yet done the work necessary to earn being attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 05:44 PM
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hahaha, wow that made me laugh. I was reffering to "in more ways than one." part
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 05:21 PM
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Thanks. The relaxing is getting easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 03:16 AM
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Noted. Admittedly this plan was a quick decision but it is true that I NEED to get out of the house more often. Did I do it for me, or to punish her? Something to ponder
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 03:36 AM
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If you are still thinking about this, you aren't un-fucked or even close to getting there. Now that you point that out its so obvious I'm too attached if its giving me anxiety. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 12:15 AM
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OYS #17- 10/28/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 7 years, together for 11. Kids: 5yo boy, 2yo girl Height: 5’11” Weight: 184.4lb (-4.6) BF: ~23% Squat: 225x6 Deadlift: 285x6 Bench: 165x8 OHP: 95x8 READINGS Starting over on square one to absorb through my new perspective, and include journalling and note taking, starting at square 1 with CURENT MISSION Building my own frame that is measured by my own personal standard and has no need of external validation. PHYSICAL Surprised myself with how m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/25 09:45 AM
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I know I suck right now. Whether she is, whether she isn't, doesn't change my plan or the work I have to do. Whether she is, whether she isn't, the entire experience has made a radical change in my perspective, and I dont know if I ever would have gotten here without it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 07:16 PM
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>You already know what I'm going to say about those quotes. fucking hell I'm stupid. yes I know what you would likely say something like "apologies are covert contracts, and you essentially saying 'if I humble myself will you validate me again?'" and that's the patten I need to break >you couldn't be more wrong Thank you, seriously, the help I've gotten from this OYS has been immeasurable. I should have thought more deeply before posting the comment. obviously the veterans like yourself care, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 02:59 PM
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This was upsetting to read Dude, I know, re-reading it in light of all the feedback I've gotten I can see how pathetic it is. I got so frustrated with the riddle/metaphor style feedback blarg provides and I want it to just be straightforward and practical. But the sidebar and MRP archives are as literal and practical as can be, and if I can't grasp the fundamental concept after reading all that practical and straightforward material, then obviously the straightforward and practical feedback to m…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 12:52 PM
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I don't have a response for this that doesn't come off as butthurt in light of my OYS, but honestly, lmao.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 01:24 PM
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Yeah... that was a defensive, emotional and unfair reframing of his critique. My bad. It's not a binary fulfilling her needs vs ignoring her needs. The point is that I need to be a man that sets and meets his own standards first, and not act out of fear of being cheated on or desperation for approval.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 12:10 AM
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.....because my question are from a fundamentally external validation seeking perspective. If I didn't give a fuck about external validation and practicied self validation, then I could stop wasting my time on this useless bullshit, purge myself of the pathetic emotional and mental torture I'm needlessly subjecting myself to and focus on shit I actually care about.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 07:32 PM
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Thanks for the long response its given me a lot to process. a few clarifications and questions though.... your pledge of allegiance on Sunday was utterly false, despite you basically dragging yourself through hell My interpretation is that I was taking responsibility for my behavior, owning up to my responsibility and being honest with her and with myself, all of those things being in line with my values. Framing that as a negative "pledge of allegiance" is weird and even if your right about it …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 05:24 PM
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OYS #16- 10/20/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 2yo girl Height: 5’11” Weight: 189lb BF: ~23% Squat: 250 1RM (tested 5/8) Goal: 302 1RM Deadlift: 300 1RM (tested 5/13) Goal: 342 1RM Bench: 165x8 (205 1RM tested 5/9) Goal: 229 1RM OHP: 95x8 (125 1RM tested 5/11) Goal: 150 1RM READINGS Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, MMSLP Finished Audio: Book of Pook, TWOTSM Current: The Rational Male MENTAL Last OYS was in May before we went on family vacation. That tri…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 12:10 PM
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New boundary ok enforcing is to only get speaker at with respect. anyone much less my wife speak to me without the proper respect and appreciation. This is only a boundary if you explicitly communicate it, otherwise it's a covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/25 02:58 PM
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Ok captain projection. If you didn't think it mattered then you wouldn't have brought up the topic. I don't think about my height at all. I know short guys and tall guys and 6'+ guys are typically more insecure about their height than short guys. Generally speaking, the tall guys like to bring up the topic of height and they like to accuse other men of having height envy. It's like they feel they deserve admiration and special treatment for being 6'+. If they notice a random guy that has a few i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 07:56 PM
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Your mental bit is just straight hamstering I agree. I noticed this after I posted, considered editing it, but decided to just leave it up, because it's where I am right now and I'll fucking own it. It's my biggest flaw, to just sit and hamster instead of taking action, but I am working to change it, what I was trying to express was frustration at my slow progress. Reading through this OYS thread in particular I'm realizing that frame isn't just about social interaction, it's mindset that dictat…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 03:17 PM
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Yeah, it's not a lot of food, I tell myself the hunger pains are good because it means I am attaining my goal. They give me something to not whine and STFU about. I wouldn't exactly call it a cut, because I didn't do a prior bulk. I just decided to do calorie restriction and lower my bf%. I calculated I need ~2600/day to maintain weight, and ~2100/day to lose 1lb/week. Since I started counting on May 4th I've averaged ~2400/day so I'm still in the weight loss zone, but not where I was targeting.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 11:00 AM
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OYS #15- 5/27/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 1yo girl Height: 5’10.5” Weight: 179lb (-2) BF: 20.5% (-0.5%) Navy Method Squat: 250 1RM (tested 5/8) Goal: 302 1RM Deadlift: 300 1RM (tested 5/13) Goal: 342 1RM Bench: 165x8 (205 1RM tested 5/9) Goal: 229 1RM OHP: 95x8 (125 1RM tested 5/11) Goal: 150 1RM READINGS Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, MMSLP Finished Audio: Book of Pook, TWOTSM Current: The Rational Male PHYSICAL Hit 19 days of lifting so far this…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 01:49 PM
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OYS #14- 5/20/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 1yo girl Height: 5’10.5” Weight: 181lb (no change) BF: 21% (-2%) Navy Method Squat: 250 1RM (tested 5/8) Goal: 302 1RM Deadlift: 300 1RM (tested 5/13) Goal: 342 1RM Bench: 165x8 (205 1RM tested 5/9) Goal: 229 1RM OHP: 95x8 (125 1RM tested 5/11) Goal: 150 1RM READINGS Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP Finished Audio: Book of Pook, TWOTSM Current: MMSLP (50%) PHYSICAL I hit my goal of 5 lifting sessions last wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 01:00 PM
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6’1 205 15%bf You're either built like an UFC light heavyweight or measuring something wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/25 07:33 PM
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OYS #13- 5/13/2025 STATS Age: 36 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 1yo girl Height: 5’10.5” Weight: 181lb (-1) BF: 23% Navy Method Squat: 250 1RM (tested 5/8) Goal: 302 1RM Deadlift: 300 1RM (tested 5/13) Goal: 342 1RM Bench: 205 1RM (tested 5/9) Goal: 229 1RM OHP: 95x8 (120 1RM estimated) Goal: 150 1RM READINGS Finished: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP Finished Audio: Book of Pook, TWOTSM Current: MMSLP Mental I am back from a rule 9 ban. I was initially puzzled and butthurt because…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 01:44 PM
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Ah gotcha. Well all I can say about that is I trust the mods judgement. What you did was kinda like the equivalent of Dwight Schrute style walking into a Jiu-Jitsu class, loudly claiming your a black belt, challenging the instructor to a match and getting choked out in 5 sec. You'd get perma banned from that gym too.
/r/askMRP05/05/25 07:17 PM
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Can you not just do things for 30 days without making a post about it for internet strangers? Or do you need the validation that badly?
/r/askMRP05/05/25 07:05 PM
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How about no. I'm in favor of harsh and swift penalties. Your actions have consequences. I'd rather 10,000 people get unjustly banned than for RP, MRP and askMRP to lose an ounce of its masculine energy in order for your ego to remain protected.
/r/askMRP05/05/25 07:03 PM
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I'm currently on a 30 day ban because I made a similar shitty OYS 2 weeks ago. We are banned because it essentially reads as: "for 30 years I've been a bluepilled beta, but 3 weeks ago I started doing the most basic RP shit and my wife rewarded me with sex!!! Everyone please clap!" After years of moderating I imagine that tolerance for low effort OYS posts have greatly decreased and instead of giving your quality feedback (that has been typed out 1000x before and can all be found in the sidebar)…
/r/askMRP05/05/25 01:43 PM
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OYS #12- 4/22/2025 STATS Age: 35 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 1yo girl Height: 70.5” Weight: 182 Squat: ??? Deadlift: ??? Bench: ??? OHP: ??? READINGS Finished: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, NMMNG, WISNIFG Currently reading: Mindful Attraction Plan, listening to The Way Of The Superior Man FOREWARD I am still riding the high from my MRP reawakening. The fear I have is that the MRP motivation that has touched me will dry up and I will fall back into my old habits. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 12:02 PM
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OYS #11- 4/16/2025 STATS Age: 35 Wife: 34 Married: 6 years, together for 10 Kids: 5yo boy, 1yo girl Height: 70.5” Weight: 182 Squat: ??? Deadlift: ??? Bench: ??? OHP: ??? READINGS Finished: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, NMMNG, WISNIFG FOREWARD I am returning to this subreddit after being absent for 5 years. I was hanging around for a year but decided to quit in 2020 because I told myself this place was misogynistic and too narrowly focused. In truth, I just quit because it was too hard to hold…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 03:04 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 08:57 PM
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OYS #10- 7/14/2020 STATS After a “false start” in July 2019, I have been serious about MRP for 2 months now. Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 1 baby boy BF%: 18.8 (In-Body scan) Height: 70.5” Weight: 179 Squat: 215x5 Deadlift: 275x5 Bench: 170x5 OHP: 100x5 READINGS Finished: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, NMMNG Reading: WISNIFG FOREWARD My last OYS was an embarrassment. I thought I was revealing was how serious and deep I am approaching MRP on an intellectua…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 06:31 PM
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You are welcome. Glad I was able to help. I read your OYS 4 and was pleased to see more passion. Don't forget to post what books from the sidebar you have read on each OYS so that we know what material you have consumed. I have an OYS template saved in a word doc I use when starting each post. You need to be reading through the sidebar books, not just listening to youtube vids. Those books will help with establishing new behaviors and finding out what your long term goals are. Largely though, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 01:18 PM
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Why the fuck would you do that? How does that help anything? Honest question. My brother said I could tell her. As a part of the family she should know important information that is impacting family dynamics. Other immediate family members knew about it. If they did end up splitting I didn't want it revealed I had known and not said anything. I didn't see how it could hurt anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 05:38 PM
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RELATIONSHIP/MENTAL My oldest brother was in town last weekend. His personality is similar to mine with the same flaws but to a larger degree. He is fully invested into religion whereas I walked away from religion years ago. He married a pastor’s daughter and they ended up having 4 kids. It’s always energetic chaos with his family when he is in town because my brother and his wife are able to ignore the kids while they run wild (likely acting out for attention) and only intervene in critical sit…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 10:09 AM
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OYS #9- 6/16/2020 STATS After a “false start” in July 2019, I have been serious about MRP for 2 months now. Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 2 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 179 Squat: 215x5 Deadlift: 275x5 (up 10) Bench: 170x5 (up 5) OHP: 100x5 (up 5) READINGS Finished: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, NMMNG Reading: WISNIFG This weekend I spent a few hours reading through old OYS threads. I found HoA’s OYS 1 and OYSs from other vets. I read the criticis…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 10:06 AM
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I read that post and it was enlightening. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/20 03:53 PM
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Agreed. Taking a year to travel with no objective other than achieving an ambiguous platitude is the wrong thing to do.
/r/askMRP11/06/20 08:24 PM
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I already did what you advised OP to do. It was a waste of time.
/r/askMRP11/06/20 06:15 PM
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I worked a landscape crew while completing my 2 year associates degree at the community college. Then I took a a couple of years to travel around the West and Mexico to reflect upon what I wanted. Then I realized I was wasting time that could be used more productively, got a job, and got an engineering degree. My view of the traveling was that it was causing me to stagnate. It was not a romantic Jack Kerouac "On The Road" type of an experience.
/r/askMRP11/06/20 05:38 PM
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Have to start giving more thought to these oys as well, rather than just thinking of things as i go along, introspection is high on my list as well as meditating. Yep. This OYS reads like a letter to Grandma. Where's your passion? Where's your energy? What are your long term goals in the career? Are you making enough money? If not, what are you doing to fix that? Are you getting enough sex? If not, what are you doing to fix that. Are you a good model of masculinity for your kids? If not, what ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 03:53 PM
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This is retarded "eat, pray, love" female centered bullshit advice. 1 year would be better spent in traditionally masculine environment like construction or ranching. That way you learn a skill, making some money, get physical activity, learn how to relate to and communicate with men without it being overshadowed by an HR department.
/r/askMRP11/06/20 01:14 PM
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Glad you like it, I personally haven't done keto. Calorie restriction works great for me
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 12:45 PM
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Do you have any long term plans for addressing the issue with your back? Have you seen a doctor and asked about going to physical therapy or surgical options? Have you looked into any home methods for spinal decompression and back strengthening? Losing weight will help this issue as well. Speaking of weight loss though, if you want want to speed this up you can drop your calorie intake even further. You're not going to die if you consume 1600 calories a day instead of 2100. The trick is to eat m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 01:21 PM
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In terms of sleep, how much caffeine do you consume? My sleep improved after limiting this. Another thing that seemed to help me was to start sleeping on a grounding sheet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 01:03 PM
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Welcome. Good job so far on taking some small steps in self improvement to see shrink, reading NMMNG and owning your shit. If you are going to continue participating in these threads and you want to get the most value out of them, you need to follow the format. That is posting stats of age, height, weight, relationship status, lifts. Post what books you've read from the sidebar, and also post some of your goals and things you are working towards. You say you need to own you shit, but you don't t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 12:50 PM
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OK, I've been mulling this over and here are my conclusions: I fucked up by initiating the topic. I was trigger happy to set boundaries after learning about them in NMMNG. I could have been way more tactful and gently led her away from the idea of babysitting, likely without any conflict. My behavior was motivated by a fear that my home would turn into a chaotic daycare. I was thinking about boundaries all wrong as if my wife was inside my boundary, and her desire to watch niece as something I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 12:55 AM
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Tell me, if your wife DID babysit, and it didn't interfere with your home or life, would you care? Hypothetically, no, I would not care. I don't see how this is a relevant point though because I know that it would be disruptive to my life. Tell me more, if she DID babysit, do you think it would be a great opportunity to lead her in the difference between doing what she wants (babysitting while they work) and being taken advantage of? I think this is something she likes the idea of doing but will…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 02:22 PM
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OYS #8- 6/9/2020 STATS Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 2 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 179 (down 2) Squat: 215x5 (up 10) Deadlift: 265x5 Bench: 165x5 (up 5) OHP: 95x5 READINGS Finished King, Warrior, Magician, Lover and NMMNG Currently reading WISNIFG HEALTH I took 2 rest days this week. On those rest days I dropped my calorie intake to >2000. Trying to focus on becoming more lean and dropping those ~10lbs. FINANCES/CAREER The new project I have been a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 12:31 PM
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Glad you are here, but overall tone of your post so far is defeat. Start taking ownership of everything in your life. Internalize that your current situation is the results of your actions. Put you needs first and don't apologize for it but most of all stick to the basics of STFU, lift, and read the fucking sidebar! Looking forward to your OYS post in tomorrows thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/20 03:46 PM
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You’ve told her to stop treating you like shit, but she still does it. You can not enforce boundaries. You also very much identify yourself as a victim of her behavior. Shedding that perspective is the first step in recovering. Take responsibility for your situation and take responsibility for the way you allow yourself to be treated. All of this is in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 04:05 PM
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Need to post BW, height bf% for us to determine if your a fatty. Also need to post what you've read in the sidebar. Studying kino/gaming are going to be useless to you if you don't know how to set boundaries and express your needs like a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/20 04:58 PM
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Have you tried saying: "stop treating me like shit."? Are you afraid to stand up for yourself?
/r/askMRP05/06/20 01:13 PM
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Then it’s meant to imply I have no power to modify her behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 06:12 PM
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Are you a magician? I would not describe myself as one a this point, no. Based on my MRP knowledge so far, I think your question is meant to imply that I have the power to improve her ability to communicate her needs. How? By having a strong dominant frame and being direct in my communication to her about my needs. She will step into my frame and reflect my communication style.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 05:59 PM
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I'm more concerned with my ability to drop the empty calories in the form of sugary drinks - that's where I'm focusing the bulk of my will power right now. A lot of will power goes into maintaining a 16:8 eating window as well. Be sure to set yourself up for success by setting attainable goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 05:46 PM
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Milk is good. Other good protein sources I like to include are: -fat free cottage cheese (80 cals, 0 fat, 14g protein) -5oz can of chicken (110 cals, 2.5g fat, 23g protein) -5oz Can of tuna in water (90 cals, 1g of fat, 20g protein) -tin of sardines (125 calories, 15g of protein) I eat 600 less calories and get the same amount protein as you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 05:31 PM
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Very helpful feedback, thank you. I knew I hadn't stuck the landing but I could not figure out what the correct action would have been.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 01:34 PM
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OYS #7- 6/2/2020 STATS Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 2 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 181 (no change) Squat: 205x5 Deadlift: 265x5 Bench: 160x5 OHP: 95x5 READINGS Finished King, Warrior, Magician, Lover Currently reading NMMNG FOREWARD I was mowing the lawn Friday evening and my mind started to wander as it does when performing leisurely tasks. Disparaging thoughts like “you still have so much work to do”, “you haven’t started task x you said you woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 10:03 PM
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Message received.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/20 01:30 AM
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Message received. I have been a chronic slacker my whole life. It's a reason I am here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/20 01:28 AM
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lmao. I didn't even notice that as a DEER. My beta programming runs deep. Thanks for pointing this out. I need to prioritize learning the MRP material I've been slacking on. It's starting to feel like I'm in a graduate course without learning the prerequisite material.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 05:05 PM
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OYS #6- 5/26/2020 STATS Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 2 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 181 (no change) Squat: 205x5 Deadlift: 255x5 Bench: 160x5 (up 5) OHP: 95x5 (up 5) READINGS Finished King, Warrior, Magician, Lover Currently reading NMMNG FOREWARD I am making my way through NMMNG and I can only relate to about 25% of the material, but I find it interesting and valuable. I don’t relate to the parts about trying to please other people. I also haven’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 02:23 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I re-read my post and saw all the DEERing. Is it possible to provide color/context in a non-DEERing way?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/20 03:46 AM
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OYS #5- 5/19/2020 STATS Age: 31 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 2 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 181 (no change) Squat: 205x5 (up 10) Deadlift: 255x5 (up 20 thanks to chalk to help with grip) Bench: 155x5 (up 5) OHP: 90x5 (up 5) READINGS Finished King, Warrior, Magician, Lover Currently reading NMMNG FOREWARD I skipped OYS last week because I had started to backslide. I was feeling overwhelmed at how much work I have yet to do in every aspect of my life. I let …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:46 PM
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So many words and yet so little substance.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 03:53 PM
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Is it her communicating that you should feel guilt? No she just shrugs when I say I'm going to read Is it you thinking for her that she's probably assigning guilt to you? Yes, I think that's mostly it. Is it that you feel you that reading rather than spending time with a newborn is wrong? Yes, that's also a factor. Is it wrong to the man you want to be? Not really, I want to be a man that spends his time reading instead of watching tv. is it wrong to the man society wants you to be? This is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 02:54 PM
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OYS #4- 5/5/2020 STATS Age: 30 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 1 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 181 Squat: 195x5 Deadlift: 235x5 Bench: 150x5 OHP: 85x5 READINGS Half finished MAP. Currently reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. I now realize I need to stop fucking around with reading and start with the basic NMMNG. I honestly thought I didn’t need to read this because I never struggled with making decision…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:39 PM
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Do you really have to restrict yourself from entire genres of literature? Seems rambo. A lot of fantasy fiction is red pilled. The hero's are typically badasses going out and achieving their goals. Ancient mythology was the first form of fantasy fiction and the stories are still used today to teach moral truths.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:10 PM
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Get the fuck out of her frame. That was a weak statement, thanks for pointing it out. Newborns sleep 18+ hours a day. This hasn't been my experience. Also, last time I saw my wife's vagina it was being torn apart by my sons head so I'm not exactly trying to rush back in. How long did you wait after the birth of your children before you resumed fucking? How about you put down that mental masturbation theory book and get back to the actual sidebar material. How about you read the book before you m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 12:40 PM
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OYS #3- 4/28/2020 STATS Age: 30 Wife: 29 Married: 2 years, Living together for 4 years. Kids: 1 month old son Height: 70.5” Weight: 185 Squat: 215 Deadlift: 285 Bench: 175 OHP: 105 READINGS Half finished MAP. Currently reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine FOREWARD I’m back after 8 months. I discovered MRP almost a year ago and spent hours lurking in posts and absorbing info. It helped me. It motivated me to improve. I started working out ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 02:53 PM
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Kids naturally seek the approval of their parents. Have you communicated to them you are displeased when they leave out their toys? Usually that's the most punishment that's needed.
/r/askMRP23/04/20 08:02 PM
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Grappling has given me the confidence to know I can strangle or snap the limb of 99% of men in the world. That feeling is irreplaceable. You're in for a rude awakening when you find out that guns exist.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 04:54 PM
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Disciplining your son? Were you spanking, AKA beating? I'm assuming you were because you are admitting to a lot of aggression in the behavior and communication towards your wife. Stop it. This is weak minded, unintelligent, bully-style parenting. Your son won't forget it.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 07:50 PM
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Absolutely yes, increase weight on the BP.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 09:49 PM
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He is saying that the real reason you don't ask for numbers is because you fear rejection. The claim that you don't ask to avoid temptation to cheat is another lie you are telling yourself to protect your ego because you fear being rejected and prefer living in a fantasy world believing your coworkers want to fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 06:18 PM
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I remember a couple of years ago when I made threats and demands from my boss. It didn't go over well and I had to eat a lot of shit after that to get back on his good side. Imagine yourself as a business owner and one of your employees whined about his work load then called you out for being lazy. You own the business, you write the checks, you have power and also all the risk. This cocky, ungrateful employee wasn't around when you were taking on thousands in debt without even having secured a …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 02:01 PM
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Schedule an appointment with an actual doctor and figure out WTF is going on with that shoulder. You might need to go back and get that surgery or you could only need a couple months of PT. Your not gonna get strong with a busted wing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 09:07 PM
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OYS #2- Not As Hot As I Thought - 8/13/2019 STATS Age: 30 Wife: 28 Married: 1.5 years, Living together for 3.5 years. Kids: Wife is ~8 weeks along with our first. Height: 5’11” Weight: 170 Squat: 215 Deadlift: 285 Bench: 175 OHP: 105 READINGS I have not made any progress on The Mindful Attraction Plan, still 25% through that. Have been doing RP research on game, comfort tests, and frame. FOREWARD When I made my first OYS post 2 weeks ago I was under the impression that I was not in very bad shap…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 08:39 PM
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I think we are saying the same thing, I just had to break it down into smaller bites to digest.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 06:07 PM
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Took me a while to absorb your comment fully. I initially rejected your interpretation, but after considering your comment for a couple of days I realized that I was attempting to portray my current situation as unavoidable, as if I didn't have the ability to alter the course of my life. Yes, I am enervating. Thanks for calling me out on that. In the past I have recognized that I prefer to work in teams or groups people because I get energized by my teammates. I didn't know that there was a word…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/19 01:38 PM
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I have been thinking over weekend about the difference between covert contracts made by betas, and the covert tactics required for seduction. Yes, it is bad to make a covert contracts because it's completely made up in the mind and will never get fulfilled. This does not mean that we should just abandon all things covert. We need to become experts in covert speech and behavior for 2 reasons (that I can see, maybe there are more). 1: Women communicate covertly. They might be covertly expressing s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/19 02:28 PM
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Wow. Ok, this is very constructive. I couldn't think of how to engage with her fear hamster other than offering canned comfort responses like "don't worry babe it will all be ok..."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 06:02 PM
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Thanks this is good feedback. I am just getting started on MRP and I got my work cut out. My main struggle right now is how to deal with her during pregnancy. I will be more conscious about praise and how impactful it is for her.(she hasn't been drinking during the pregnancy btw)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 05:59 PM
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RELATIONSHIP When I graduated college I was expecting for us to immediately start trying to get pregnant. She didn’t feel the same way even though that’s what we had planned for years. A few weeks into MRP she had the idea that “we don’t need to try to get pregnant… but let’s not try to prevent it either.” 3 weeks later and she’s pregnant. I am happy. We told our parents and immediate families last week and they are happy. The only one that’s not happy is my pregnant wife. She is scared. Every t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:57 AM
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OYS #1 - 7/30/2019 STATS Age: 30 Wife: 28 Married: 1.5 years, Living together for 3.5 years. Kids: Wife is ~6 weeks along with our first. Height: 5’11” Weight: 170 Squat: 215 Deadlift: 285 Bench: 175 OHP: 105 READINGS Lots of sidebar and posts. Purchased The Mindful Attraction Plan and am about 25% through that. BACKGROUND I grew up in a large conservative Christian home in the Midwest. My parents homeschooled us and kept us fed but didn’t do a lot of real parenting. My dad is a very reliable gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:55 AM
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