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| 3 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”Sounds like women’s sacred knowledge in action! I’ve seen it too. For example, I’ve met couples and thought “it’s not going to work” and lo and behold a few months later they break up. I thought everyone had that intuition, but when I mentioned I can predict breakups in front of a group of close friends they looked at me like I have two heads... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:49 PM |
| 20 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”A lot of the abuse, possessiveness, and domestic violence among indigenous populations in canada were taught to them either through generational trauma or religious indoctrination. Either way, the settler influence has led to the rates of missing and murdered indigenous women where I come from. Try living in the middle of nowhere and having a colonial government make it illegal to fish or hunt, kidnap your children and send them to residential school, and make it illegal to leave the reserve wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:44 AM |
| 36 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”I don’t know, however you can try and glean something from the original poster https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMe2neoNT/ It’s tragic that such an incredible culture was decimated by colonial settlers. I pray for the indigenous cultures to find new footing and the respect it deserves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:40 PM |
| 70 | I'm relapsing into pickmedom.It’s not that you’re inherently not worthy of respect, that’s never the case. It’s more so that HVW will cast people out at the first sign of disrespect. Showing people the door is your job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 01:35 PM |
| 3 | “I do that with all my friends”LVM: you don’t? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:18 PM |
| 7 | “I do that with all my friends”Another way I talked myself out of denial is asking myself “would I have done this to someone else?” It helped me realize the kindness I was extending to others was actually doormat behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:07 PM |
| 23 | “I do that with all my friends”Worst part is it’s not even an exaggeration. RIP my love life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:05 AM |
| 48 | “I do that with all my friends”It may be because she’s turning her anger inwardly, likely thinking “He dumped me because I’m not pretty/skinny/sexy enough.” And justifying his mistreatment and lies that way. Just speculation from my personal past thought process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 21 | “I do that with all my friends”You’re right! Fixed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:34 AM |
| 12 | A thought about sex work: your clients don't think you are working, they think you are performing what every woman should do for free.LMAOOO You ladies never cease to amaze me!!! Thank you for putting him in his place | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 04:31 PM |
| 20 | When you did everything in the wrong order...It’s because many women are so deep in our brainwashing of pandering to men that we’re convincing ourselves that we want what men want. It’s an extreme version of the “cool girl” persona: Becoming nothing but man-pleasing machines. And they have stopped seeing their own personal gratification (emotional attachment, respect, quality time, status of GF/wife) as worthy of pursuit. Instead they gladly accept the crumbs they give us and convince themselves that they are satisfied with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 08:57 PM |
| 7 | If you can’t afford the lifestyle that I’m providing for myself, then you can’t have me!I don’t get it... do they take their buddies to their favourite park bench? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:54 PM |
| 13 | If you can’t afford the lifestyle that I’m providing for myself, then you can’t have me!I do spoil myself :) my family and friends spoil me too. It’s so nice to have a life full of happy ladylike energy. This year I received so many kind birthday wishes and gifts with no strings attached. I feel like I’m living on a cloud. We are so self sufficient, we grow our own bouquets! In the summer we cut roses from my mothers rosebush and enjoy the freshly cut flowers all season long. This is such a stark contrast from my last relationship that was nothing but gaslighting, flirting with oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:00 AM |
| 26 | The importance of learning to think "not my problem" when a man tries to make you responsible for any of his issues or mess or dickI’m so using this!! I’m not joining the circus today, or ever 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:47 AM |
| 14 | If you can’t afford the lifestyle that I’m providing for myself, then you can’t have me!Omg thisssss this is why I’d rather treat myself than receive from any man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 03:24 AM |
| 7 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseHey nothing wrong with being godly if that’s your choice. But I do hate when guys start dating a girl thinking that they’re going to “convert her” just for show. Like it’s just to appease their parents and larger community. So basically a lie. I know two guys who converted to Islam in order to marry Muslim women. Now they pray regularly and are much more spiritual than before they met their wives. Their wives both want to raise their kids Muslim and also happen to dress modest. It’s quite common… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:03 AM |
| 39 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseOh and their family’s in on it too!! They’re fully on board with him wasting your time too!!! I’m not talking about MENA guys only. Muslims in general... it’s an epidemic in our culture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:30 AM |
| 15 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks loosethis was so well put!!!!!!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:38 AM |
| 69 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseohhhh ya if a muslim dude is approaching you, just know he aint never gonna marry you cuz they always get married via the proper channels. Don't let him make empty promises for you about the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:34 AM |
| 17 | Why is it so hard to find Andrea Dworkin books?I also find it interesting that on her Wikipedia page, this book isn't listed in the "selected works" section despite (1) the book being over 300 pages, and (2) pornography being her area of expertise. I wonder if we can work on completing that section of her wiki to ensure others know this text exists. | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:44 AM |
| 25 | Why is it so hard to find Andrea Dworkin books?Semi-relevant to the posting: When i was younger I always thought banned books and censorship of speech only existed in dictatorships. Through systemic erasure of certain types of literature, we have effective censure. Also, I flipped to a random page of the text. I really hope her work is taught in sociology courses. | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 04:37 AM |
| 4 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!Re-dating someone is like Groundhog Day lol but wow that warms my heart. That’s the problem when you don’t commit 🤷🏽♀️ girl goes “byeeeeee” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 3 | This is why I purposely request female masseuses, trainers, spray tanners, gynecologists, etc. Be safe, request women in environments where you are vulnerable.Omg what the the actual hell!! You’re already a vulnerable person going to therapy to seek help and then they cultivate internalized racism omgg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:12 PM |
| 209 | This is why I purposely request female masseuses, trainers, spray tanners, gynecologists, etc. Be safe, request women in environments where you are vulnerable.agreed, why would i pay a man to gaslight me on behalf of other men? Same goes for white therapists who don't understand my unique struggle as a WOC. My last one asked me "aren't you currious what its like to date a white man?" WTF???? How and why?? EDIT: the therapist in question was a woman. Still gross regardless though. She seemed to think white men were somehow better than men of colour?? All men are equally ick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:22 PM |
| 3 | When ugly old men remove themselves from the dating pool >>>Just say you can’t locate the clitoris and go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:52 AM |
| 1 | A friend told me about this yesterday. You buy a sq ft of land in Scotland, get an official title, and it helps plant trees.How is this relevant to FDS? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:34 AM |
| 9 | I broke up with him! Please laugh at his clownery with me.Ok this is all straight facts. One time I joked about his thinning hairline and he acted like I committed a war crime. Ughhh get me off this planet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 06:26 PM |
| 52 | I broke up with him! Please laugh at his clownery with me.Agreed. Is OP me?? I dated an aerospace engineer like this! Granted, I don’t think it’s engineering, it’s just men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 06:21 AM |
| 5 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"Agreed. I think men need us to hold them accountable. If we don't communicate our high expectations, how will he know I have them? Sure if he backpedals when I ask "when"? Then I know its a great time to walk away. But, if he steps up to the plate, then its a bright green flag. A very healthy "test" if you ask me, since he's the one who started it with his future-talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 11 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!This is brilliant I’m putting this into my toolkit. Thanks sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:25 AM |
| 3 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!This broke my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:15 AM |
| 38 | Being gaslit and manipulated so much that your SO talking about murdering you doesn’t look like a 🚩What in the flying fadoodle is going on with the straights | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:32 AM |
| 18 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!Thank you for doing that. I lost the post, or maybe she deleted it, so I’m glad you got to her in time. I hope she sees the light. Women deserve so much better than being strung along for 5 whole years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 10 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!5 years. If she was Heidi klum he would have proposed by now. There’s no excuse in the world. He still thinks he can do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 12:37 AM |
| 15 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!When guys future fake to me I always respond with a variation of “I’ll believe it when I see it”. E.g. “Married? I hope you’re singing the same tune after you meet my father! (Laugh)” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 12:32 AM |
| 14 | It feels impossible to find a genuine sisterhood in a world filled with pickmeishasIt's only classist because she's black. FDS is all about woman power, but only if the speaker is a white woman. Ladies on this sub have to start accepting and applauding BIPOC's success and their valuable insight. u/tallwomenneedlovetoo's points were solid. She even took the time to acknowledge her privlege in that her finances and education have helped her see her worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 123 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!I don't get it, why would someone invest in a house without a foundation? This cohabitating thing is honestly getting to me. I think at one time it was spicy and liberating, but now I feel like its a new form of patriarchal power over women. Even conservative guys want to "date and get to know me" without involving our families, when in our tradition thats a big no-no. Why would I invest my time and energy in you, just for you to disapear? All men seem to want their cake and eat it too, even the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 115 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!Damn I didn't go deeper into the comments. Reddit is absoloutely heartless. Is this an FDS resuce mission? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:17 PM |
| 136 | I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!!"We're perfect where we are rn" LMAO And she had to clean up the decor too... circus | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Mom has the best FDS strategy for financesBeing a POC its better to live in big cities anyway because they're more accepting of POC in skilled work. Small towns are always sooooo hit and miss for brown folk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | I want more female only spaces in 'real life'You know what... I've always wondered why I LOVE going to the mosque so much. the sisters section is always such a sanctuary!!!!!!!!!!! No male gaze. Just me and God???? SO peaceful. I always thought it was because the mosque is a holy place, but maybe also the women's-only space plays a part too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 02:52 AM |
| 26 | This touched my soul. I'm hoping you ladies love it, too: "Ask Polly: Why Don’t the Men I Date Ever Truly Love Me?"This is just what I needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:25 PM |
| 87 | “Even Beyoncé got cheated on”Women “getting cheated on” should be rephrased to say: “men cheat”. Women aren’t doing anything to make it happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | 🤪 Come check out our sub for posting all of the trolls and dragging them! 😂Merci! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:24 PM |
| 2 | 🤪 Come check out our sub for posting all of the trolls and dragging them! 😂I would like to get approval please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 08:29 AM |
| 5 | This girl needs FDS. Why do people think "I love you" is a magic sentence? He wants to work it out and go on vacations with this girl-friends. Just no.done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 1 | So nice to see positive examples of fatherhood!!These RP/incel/misogynistic men are also broken in some type of way. Whether its through pornography, their patriarchal mindset, or family troubles (daddy/mommy issues). So they are incapable of placing themselves in a healthy relationship or even desiring one. Porn: Their madonna/whore complex stunts them from finding wholesome fulfillment from women, and so they only see women as objects. Broken families: They saw their fathers abuse their mothers (or perhaps were abused themselves). They blam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 80 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄Funny thing is if it was the wife doing the cheating then Reddit would tell him to throw her to the curb | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 13 | anyone else get annoyed when guys ask you questions based on THEIR interests?Guys who will not shut up about basketball fall in this category 🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:19 AM |
| 40 | PUAs were welcomed into the mainstream with reality TV shows and late night show guest appearances. FDS is labelled a hate group and our mods get rape and death threats. The stark difference in how our culture responds to male vs. female dating strategies is pure cultural misogyny.pick UP? FDS is more like a drop OFF. FDS has been teaching me how to repel men LOL who on this page wants wants to actually *pick up* a man lol. FDS is literally the opposite of PUA and that's why men hate itttttt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:18 AM |
| 42 | Why do these questions rub me the wrong way?Sometimes I answer the question I want to hear. (Learned that from good old politicians lmao) so when they ask what I do for fun, I say “my hobbies are X, Y and Z... how about you? What are your hobbies?” Bam tables turned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Underwear......why?I used to swear by aerie. I switch to Calvin Klein and had slightly better luck with comfort but it is on the pricey side. Just buy one and see how it goes. Also it may be your laundry detergent, try using less of it or using a gentler brand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:37 PM |
| 5 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenSemi off topic: Ever since I switched to an old fashioned safety razor I've saved so much more than DSC. I spent $40 on 1 razor (I got a fancy one, some are cheaper) and 10 blades in summer 2019 and am still using them (I have enough extra blades left to last me to summer 2021!!). And better for the environment too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:11 AM |
| 50 | "I meet all of my own needs. I fulfill myself."I'd prefer dying alone over dying next to someone who doesn't treat me right. I don't know why men threaten me with a good time by saying "you'll die alone". I'd rather die alone than die next to YOU! Now shoo peasant!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:33 AM |
| 23 | “Just lower your standards!!” 🤡🤡Top comment on this video is “This kid has a better chance of having a girl like him for his looks than for his personality XD” Ahahahaha the ultimate roast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Caitlin Reilly - First Sleepover with the Guy You Dated in CollegeI literally started to hate her and the I have to keep telling myself “that’s not actually HER” lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:36 AM |
| 40 | Don’t be a pick me and always be strong 😌Do you sometimes see a tik tok and think “the girls are going to love this” and go straight to fds? Haha you guys are my fave ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:33 AM |
| 108 | Why are all the stories of women buying houses with their boyfriends nightmare fuel?Yeah. He’s an incestuious monster. Times like these, I’m glad hell exists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:27 AM |
| 19 | Minority Men Using Shared Race/ Culture/ Religion to Act Like They Own YouLMAO what is this?? Affirmative action??? My body ain’t a charity!!! Brown (south Asian) men do the same thing ugh 🤢 they get SOO mad when a brown woman marries outside of her race and call her a “hoe”. She’s only a hoe if she isn’t yours!! Also I think brown men are starting to realize brown women aren’t putting up with their misogyny and mommy issues (and cheapness) and they don’t want to level themselves up. Instead they want to blame brown women for betraying the culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:56 PM |
| 23 | Imagine you man inviting you out to dinner on you ANNIVERSARY only to demand you pay half. And she cooks dinner for him 🤦🏼♀️I don’t get it. Feminism literally is just asking for equal rights. Like... stop raping us, oppressing us, preventing us from driving, opening bank accounts, and getting educations. That’s it. When I take my girl(friend) out for her birthday I still pay because that’s friendship/love. I won’t go “equality NOW” and demand she pay when I invited her out. If I don’t pay for my friend then it’s just a glamorous hangout. Not a (platonic) date, or a celebration anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:29 AM |
| 6 | A lot of TV completely unwatchable after FDSI was about to rant about virgin river in the original post!!!! Jack has a baby mama untreated mental health issues and is an alcoholic!! Why do these two women not know their worth??? Jack led charmane on for HOW long? Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 02:05 AM |
| 9 | A lot of TV completely unwatchable after FDSI wonder if that’s why NVM with serious issues (financial instability, emotional problems etc) think that having a gf will solve their problems. I’m sure you’ve seen guys who should really be focusing on themselves and are on dating apps. Like men know that being with a woman will ease all these burdens for him (and increase the burden for her). But what does HE bring to the table??? Hmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | 46, but not ready for commitment LOLAbsolutely baffling. Is it cognitive dissonance or terrible parenting ideals? Either way I’m shuddering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:15 AM |
| 22 | Older men need entitlement to young women knocked right out of them.Honestly! What’s up with these tech support guys trying to chase ladies with masters degrees? I have no problem with people working in customer service, but these tech support guys lie and say to girls that they work in sales, engineering, startups, you name it. Anything BUT their actual role. And they have the audacity to do this to girls who are wayyyy outside their pay grade. Why are men such delusional buffoons? Stay in your lane (and your league)! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:13 AM |
| 66 | When bill arrives👏🏽 if he hesitates I just say “thank you for inviting me to lunch/dinner.” And keep going on with the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:53 PM |
| 2 | another profile of a unfunny & self entitled man - you better laugh or swipe left (translation in comments)Neil Armstrong went to the moon and he’s a man, just like MEEEE. So I’m basically an astronaut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:14 AM |
| 3 | Do you get stressed out when guys are too eager?If a man is too eager he’s either: - pornsick/creepy - has very few options (and so he over-invests early on without seeing if he actually likes you first. Part of vetting is seeing if HE is vetting YOU) - is unstable Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:48 AM |
| 3 | In a fb group, someone told a story about being ghosted on the way to meet up for a date. The comments were full of women telling similar stories. These women give so much time and so many second chances, for what? Disappointment.I love you!!! They all come crawling back don’t they | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:40 AM |
| 7 | Guess what most commenters said?Cuz apparently sex is a human (male) right!! Withholding it is as evil as withholding water or oxygen!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:35 AM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on this ladies, would you divorce him?Translation: women who respect themselves make men afraid to cross their boundaries. Well... good!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:26 AM |
| 3 | "Ultimatum" and a Culture of Boundary-ShamingEw gross! I’m happy to hear he’s your ex now. Using the world Ultimatum to describe an normal conversation is just a scare-tactic at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:52 AM |
| 5 | "Ultimatum" and a Culture of Boundary-ShamingBreaking up with someone for a reason that you explicitly told them = blackmail I swear men really are from mars. What is going on inside their heads?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:48 AM |
| 4 | I just found this sub yesterday and it's already been so healing. It's heartbreaking to realize that spending years on a narcissist is so common among women, but the feeling of solidarity is unlike any other! I thought I would contribute this comic I made a few months about my own experience.Holy shit I FELT THAT comic. Like... wow. That’s it. That’s the narcissism. That was me in 2018. omg. I love you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:18 AM |
| 24 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityKeep up with what exactly? Not showering and playing Xbox live in the same room all weekend? Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 37 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityYou forgot “spontaneous” and “I love adventures”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:14 PM |
| 3 | When men call women “females”I’ve been saying that all year! I want to go to mars!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:26 AM |
| 2 | When men call women “females”I read that in his voice :') RIP Steve | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:14 AM |
| 2 | When men call women “females”Could you please tell me more? I’m just curious what they’ve changed the meaning to! I’m assuming the worst but hoping for the best lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Great FDS Dating Advice to share with your non-FDS friendsNot at all my point but you do you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Great FDS Dating Advice to share with your non-FDS friendsLike I said this is for your pickme friends. We are beyond this stage. These girls gotta take baby steps fam | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Great FDS Dating Advice to share with your non-FDS friendsI think both of us are saying two sides of the same point. I’m saying that the deep dive shouldn’t be used to create emotional attachment, which many pickmes do. Yes vetting is important. You and I venture down a “private investigator” rabbit hole“ which is good. But other girls (non-fds) fall down a “price charming” rabbit hole which is bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Great FDS Dating Advice to share with your non-FDS friendsI don’t think you heard her correctly. She said that it’s important to vet online for the basics. The more nuanced point she was trying to make was to *not* to dig deep and fantasize about him, such as seeing a photo with him with a baby and conjecturing “he must looooove kids” and things like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:41 AM |
| 20 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???It’s a bit of a tiktok pickme saying 🤮 what corona? They’re the real plague | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 09:26 PM |
| 39 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???This is why when girls tell each other to “sUpPoRt yOuR MaN FrOm uNdEr tHe tAbLe” I have an aneurysm. I am so done with encouraging shitty hobbies that do nothing. I don’t see men trying to support their wives in THEIR hobbies. I’m too done to even finish my rant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 08:19 PM |
| 84 | That last one hits home. If it’s not love, then it’s manipulation. Steer clear!!I once had a “boyfriend” who was always flip flopping between “I love you and want to marry you” to “I’m not ready to be engaged”. By not putting an official label on things, it gave him the advantage that I was committed to him and poured love into the relationship (providing wifey benefits), without being able to question all the terrible things he did to me. This included forgetting my birthday (on purpose), making me cry regularly, ghosting me for weeks only to act like nothing happened, gas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 09:24 AM |
| 25 | Men can turn on you at any moment, even if you're famous.They share these stories because they wish they could get away with rape the way rich men do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:13 PM |
| 13 | Highly recommend this podcast about working on yourself, building confidence, and knowing your worthOpening line of dumb b*tch boot camp: “if he’s not chasing you it’s because he didn’t WANT TO!!” this is perfect thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:29 AM |
| 229 | When men act clueless it’s because they want you to chase HIMHere’s the thing. If he was actually interested in me, he’d have a lot to ask. I’m a spectacular woman. He knows I went to grad school have an an amazing job and live in an incredible city. There’s so much to discuss! If he has to ask, “what should we talk about” within 5 minutes of matching, it means he either (1) is a shit conversationalist or (2) wants me to court him. I’ve seen so many instances of guys taking their hands off the wheel and expecting me to drive. Expecting me to travel halfwa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 03:42 AM |
| 53 | Man negs me first, gets violent when i neg him back lolLmaooo they dish it out but can’t take it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:16 AM |
| 12 | So nice to see positive examples of fatherhood!!And not only that, but its also benificial for MEN to treat women and children with respect. This father now has the pleasure of dying while being surrounded by friends and family that love and care for him!! He's sick, but he's still a happy man who is loved and cherished. He built social capital, and had a great time doing it. This is the reward for living a high value life. It's his social retirement plan. Reading this story made me wonder, aren't fuckboys afraid to die alone? Do redpill tact… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:53 PM |
| 7 | "iT's JusT a jOkE"Translation: AITA for not letting him gaslight me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:30 AM |
| 5 | The transformation of a pickmeishaYayy!! Don’t worry the right guy will be excited to jump through the hoops. He’ll find it refreshing to meet someone who has standards and doesn’t want a field date. A high value guy wants a high value gal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:26 AM |
| 79 | So nice to see positive examples of fatherhood!!So did I. Its always beautiful to see someone lead a meaningful life. And its sad to see people waste their time on earth being a bunch of degenerates. It just goes to show that if a man is not high value in every aspect of his life, he doesn't value himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:34 AM |
| 2 | 👑"The best things in life are already mine, don't tell me that you gotta a good thing for me."👑I book myself tables At all the best restaurants, then eat alone 🎶 Best FDS opening line | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:37 AM |
| 102 | If any of this is real, she has more things to worry about than her meat dildo deadbedrooming her.“I don’t have a problem with porn” Well... you should | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:16 AM |
| 39 | Can We All Say Bravo To This QueenI’m cackling! Most guys who say this have no wife in the first place. I hope these smoothbrains enjoy lifelong virginity lmao. (That’s one of the best things I love about Islam: no marriage, no p*ssy!!!!!! Make them work for it hehehe) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 09:25 PM |
| 7 | Can We All Say Bravo To This QueenAlso you need you current wife’s consent before signing any Nikkah with another woman so I don’t get the hate... polygamy rarely happens where my parents are from and even when it does, society shuns you and people will slam doors in the cheating man’s face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 09:22 PM |
| 41 | Can We All Say Bravo To This QueenbUt iT’S ThE WaY Of tHe sAhAbA!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 386 | Can We All Say Bravo To This QueenAlso look at how quick he is to blame all of womankind “these sisters ain’t shit”. When in the Quran and their Nikkah certificate it literally states that he MUST provide for her. It is her right. And if she decides to contribute to the household (by her own choice), it’s considered charity, the same as giving to a beggar. And if she decides not to give charity, that’s her decision. And if he doesn’t provide then he is actually failing as a husband. Why blame sisters?? It’s God’s rules you’re ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:36 PM |
| 43 | This is what happens when a guy watches porn regularly. Their sex-life expectancy is 2 years or less.This comment!!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 13 | Annoyingly relatableAhah something like: "Wow she looks happy. Let me ruin her life." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:18 AM |
| 15 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?Behind every crazy woman is a man who made her that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:00 AM |
| 26 | Situationships 101Ya cuz apparently committing to a woman and her entire family, putting on a serious label (marriage), and giving her proper rights (taking responsiblity to feed, clothe, and shelter her) before having sex with her is opressive to Arab men... hmm... I wonder who created the marriage construct in the first place... I guess we'll never know. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:58 AM |
| 13 | Situationships 101made a racist comment about how women like me are the reason why men from my culture are so repressed Western logic: Respecting women = male opression | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:55 AM |
| 3 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢This. THIS is why “sexual liberation” just makes everything worse for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:02 PM |
| 13 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workThis is it. The cognitive dissonance. Their father’s contribution was zero but also that their mothers “nagging” of his low effort is considered the wrongdoing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 22 | Need I Say More?that’s medical in nature now I’ve been laughing at this line for 10 minutes straight. Thanks for the ab workout! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 05:21 AM |
| 9 | "don't catch feelings for me, I'm a hoe"“Wait I didn’t get a chance to gaslight you yet. Come back...” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:50 AM |
| 13 | We are high maintenance because we maintenance ourselves not men“You’re too high maintenance” Translation: “you’re out of my league” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:52 AM |
| 47 | I'm speechlessThe only reason he’s still with this girl is because he can’t have the model that he actually wants. Girl runnnnnn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:38 PM |
| 20 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢This man was NOT on hard times. We worked the same job and met at the office. I had more money than I knew what to do with. Agreed. Every adults first priority is to find her own place before all other life upgrades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 08:39 PM |
| 125 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢This picture was a real throwback. I want to share that my ex lived like this: - 33 years old - basement apartment - 3 room mates - one of the bedrooms used to be a living room, so they had NO living room. Just a kitchen and a bathroom. So basically a slum. - one of the roomates had his carpet covered in soda bottles all over his bedroom floor. Like 50 bottles. He could barely open the door because of the landfill. - my ex had no bed, just a mattress on the ground - no pillowcases - bathroom was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Today I turned down a guy, and when he asked me "why?" I said its because he wasn't attractive to me. It's so freeing to finally be honest with men, especially since they're already so delusional about how hot they think they are. Ususally I lie to spare their feelings, but why feed their overinflated egos? Feeling good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:10 AM |
| 15 | He invited me on a 4 day trip. Thanks to you ladies I said no and held my ground. This is his response. How dare I assume!Translation: I know you are clearly a high value woman, and I can tell you can see through my BS and the BS of other men. I'm exactly like those other dudes. You reached a logical conclusion based on facts with the whole trip thing, and honestly I just wanted you to sleep with me and be my mommy, nothing more nothing less. With covid its hard to have casual sex with people and you seemed like you'd be easy to take advantage of. Sorry it didn't work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:12 AM |
| 3 | Had a laugh. Thank god my lululemon date days are over!!Me too! I get super dressed up to see the girls now. And I have a much better time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:23 PM |
| 34 | Painful to watch. A true HVM will pursue you with respect and the right intentions. You’ll never have to wonder where you stand with an HVM because he’ll always remind you and he’ll actually ask you at the right time to be his girlfriend.Is that how she asked him to be her fiancé too?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 04:30 PM |
| 5 | Human decency? Don’t know her.I dream of they day when all women are that “wrong set” of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:34 PM |
| 21 | Human decency? Don’t know her.They assume women will do anything for male validation no matter how sociopathic he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:02 AM |
| 44 | Human decency? Don’t know her.Can you believe??? Literally the definition of gaslighting. Dirty sewer scrote who has never been allowed to breathe the same oxygen as a woman: “Lemme just approach a woman on the street. If she doesn’t accept my advances, I’ll just ABUSE her!!” Nothing sociopathic about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:00 AM |
| 16 | I posted this in an another subreddit. Posting here to get FDS's opinion.Good question. I don’t have a solid answer to that. I was thinking more of Instagram or other private accounts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:50 AM |
| 60 | Human decency? Don’t know her.Men are delusional buffoons | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:33 AM |
| 62 | Being short, does anyone else feel it attracts men who are into “younger” females ?5’5”? Honey you are a giant compared to me! But yes if you have a lithe/Gamin frame then yes you will look childlike. I agree. I’m 5’0” I had a guy drool over how I’m “so young” (I was 23 at the time, and I have a babyface so I look much younger). It’s not that you attract those types, but rather that those types are attracted to you. There’s a difference: it is those creeps’ choice to fetishize you. Your body is not a fetish in itself. I think there are many reasons for men to love tiny women b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:23 AM |
| 83 | I posted this in an another subreddit. Posting here to get FDS's opinion.I’m of two minds about this: 1. If you trust your friends, then take their word for it. Plenty of guys are dangerous, and predatory. 2. If you don’t trust your friends, there is a chance they’re just trying to “keep him to herself”. Maybe these ladies feel threatened by you and the fact that boys are interested in you. However most HV people don’t go around adding people they never met. At least I don’t, unless they’re a local celebrity/public account. So from my perspective, I’m leaning towards… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Years later and it still bothers me.https://vm.tiktok.com/ZSVKEtgr/ I think you’d enjoy this piece | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:04 AM |
| 105 | Apex Redditor... 😂 #goldIf men are so visual how come they always look like trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:22 PM |
| 12 | Mysterious LVMOH YAH. One time I bumped into a dude that I had previously matched with on an app at a networking event (unplanned). When I asked him "So where do you work?"He flat out *refused* to tell me. **At a professional networking event.** When I didn't play along with his "man of mystery" game, he eventually told me he worked for a state authority. My response, "Wow. You made it sound like you worked for the CIA or something" and bounced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 05:52 AM |
| 11 | Imagine feeling this entitled to women's bodiesbut then how can they find ways to use and lead unknowing women on while still simultaneously going "their own way"... -shrug- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:53 PM |
| 17 | Beyond red flags: Don’t settle for the bare minimumYa and honestly his life skills are for himSELF how exactly does his ability to cook and clean for himSELF serve his woman? How does he bring true value into her life that she wouldn’t have if she were single? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:17 PM |
| 7 | Beyond red flags: Don’t settle for the bare minimumThe comment section of this tiktok is surprisingly enlightened: https://imgur.com/a/PhygxnP Original vid: https://www.tiktok.com/@_ansar_a/video/6872394551126953217?lang=en But I agree with your comment wholeheartedly about men hijacking women's messages. Pass the mic!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 17 | Guys Who Quote Divorce Statistics are the definition of “Glass Half Empty” thinkers. 45% of marriages ending in divorce means 55% of marriages don’t. And all divorces are not terrible.Even if you stay married it doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. A 0% divorce rate would just mean that a huge proportion of the population is stuck in a shit marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:18 PM |
| 30 | Beyond red flags: Don’t settle for the bare minimumThis is facts. Cuz let’s be fair: no Desi guy is actually going to listen to a woman “nag” on tiktok about men not hitting the bare minimum. We also need male allies to push the message so that other men actually listen. Too many Desi men think they are gods gift on earth for being a “bare minimum” man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:07 PM |
| 21 | Beyond red flags: Don’t settle for the bare minimumolgaunleashed, maliaschmalleger, canadasdatingcoach, are great imo. Not sure if they are fds approved but they teach great stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Ending my relationship because of what I have learned from this subHe thinks it’s his job to parent her 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 03:25 PM |
| 7 | The “Arrangement” 🤣Just a 24 hour human porn tab, nanny, personal chef, and nurse. Honestly a lot of guys are looking for the exact same thing. This doesn’t even phase me anymore. One of my friends have been here done that... and she called him their “husband”. Thank god she kicked him to the curb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 02:29 AM |
| 30 | OLD GUYS ARE JUST MAN CHILDRENRead the handbook. I don’t even know where to begin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Didn’t know a term. Googles it. Found some pick me and slut shaming 🤷♀️No the moment you match with someone on tinder you must be faithful to HIM and only HIM. Before you meet him prepare a marriage license and bring it to the date unless you’re a whore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Statistical proof I will be alone forever. (based on 4 requirements)It’s interesting you did the math. In my undergrad my professor did the same breakdown and tried to see how many men could potentially marry one of the students in the class (she volunteered). The number was frighteningly slim. However the moral of the exercise was to look at the importance of social networks. Chances are she knew dozens of men in her network who were exactly like her be that at the first, second, or third degree of separation. Yes when you look at random swaths of the populatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Didn’t know a term. Googles it. Found some pick me and slut shaming 🤷♀️Rotational dating is literally is what scrotes already do. All of a sudden it’s a problem now that we’re playing their game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!What was it called? Would defo consider | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 3 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!CZ and sterling silver. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 8 | TLC - No ScrubsThis is my Anthem!! Wheezer does a great cover of it btw :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Not sure if this is worth a post. How to spot the dread game: https://youtu.be/udKWKBXE1B0 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:50 PM |
| 35 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!if a man gave me one I’d yeet that ring lmao all that anticipation (a ring box), the ceremony/excitement, etc. Just for a $40 Pandora ring that I would typically buy myself as a pick-me-up after work??? The only situation I’d accept it in was if we walked into the store together and let me pick something out. Pandora is just Claire’s for adults... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:31 PM |
| 3 | For only $40 he can promise to never marry you!!LMAOOO dead yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:28 PM |
| 17 | A "feminist" website telling you that the "toxicity discourse" is holding you back from love. Embrace red flags, embrace love!I steer clear of all South Asian dating advice cuz no matter how much they try, the advice is ultimately to bend over backwards for the patriarchy. Lets be fair, India (and SA in general) is so intensely patriarchal that even this piece would be considered progressive. I couldnt even get past the "I talk about my ex more than my boyfriend". SA men *and* women refuse to put in work for personal development. They're emotionally hedonistic and always give in to their childish desires to talk/cry ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I’m on other accounts and very “female” on those too. I’m on really girly pages and even partake in some relationship advice conversations with a female perspective. This is the only account that’s being bombarded with invitations to “let’s have a big creamp*e” chats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Sorry completely misunderstood what you wrote. Yeah. You get used to it after a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I’m experiencing the same thing. Including messages from sleazy guys saying they want to treat me like a princes. I have multiple Reddit accounts and my FDS one is the only one that has this issue. You’re not alone. I suggest making an FDS only account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 04:07 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Is anyone else being constantly harassed by male lurkers on this sub?? Being added to filthy chat groups and the like? It’s actually sad to see how desperate these scrotes are that they’d go to this extent. None of my other Reddit accounts have this issue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 04:04 AM |
| 4 | Double StandardsYeah cuz their ex girlfriend’s were bella hadid and Jennifer aniston LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 04:14 AM |
| 3 | If you don’t meet him half way he really does go all the way.I agree with your comments wholeheartedly. But what is dumb foxing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Story of a liarYeah not sure why people are mocking fractionation and PUA that shit works any it can happen to anyone when combined with enough other tactics. I fell for it too! These players are extremely manipulative and aren’t as corny as the article makes it seem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:48 AM |
| 26 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsI think OP's software will have great "SAAS" potential!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:04 AM |
| 6 | Story of a liarAlso don’t be fooled, the example I gave was a juvenile one, but from a charming, extroverted and educated man these stories are a lot more sophisticated. They also require the victims to be empathic listeners, so basically the kinder and more loving you are the easier it’ll be to fall prey to this. Talk about sicko. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:25 PM |
| 9 | Story of a liarThe thing is they don’t only do this in conversation. It’s also part of their hot and cold tactics and is an overall characteristic of their interactions with you. This irregular reinforcement is what narcissist use on their victims too. It’s not quite the same as their tension/incident/reconciliation/calm cycle but has similar effects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:11 PM |
| 48 | Story of a liarIt sounds like he was fractionating you. “The way to use this technique is to take her on an emotional rollercoaster. This is about finding a way to make her feel extreme happiness and sadness in a short period of time. And when she experiences this, she will develop an emotional dependence on the person who is putting her through that emotional roller coaster.” An example of this is to say “I used to have an adorable golden retriever and I used to bring him to this park everyday, but then he go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:54 AM |
| 17 | Just like nature intendedThey love the chase! They don’t want a woman who will love them back. They want a gazelle that darts away with every step he takes. They want prey. (But they also want to be the only one in competition for it) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:27 AM |
| 3 | LVM: "If the world were ending, you'd come over right?" ME: Blocked him while he was typing.That was such pleasure to read. I think we’ve all had this fantasy for someone or another (just me? Okay), and your story rocked me to the core. Thanks for posting that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:26 AM |
| 28 | Just like nature intendedSo true. I never understood why some guys would start texting me 24/7 after one single date as if I’d become their girlfriend. Lesser value women can easily fall prey to the “instant relationship” tactic, and it’s usually from men who don’t have many options. (Or he’s love bombing multiple women) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:14 AM |
| 14 | Just like nature intendedIt was hilarious how unwilling (or perhaps unable) he was to compete with other men for my attention. Agreed. I always assume men are seeing multiple women, and I’m okay with that until I decide I want to be exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:35 PM |
| 32 | Just like nature intendedThey do. But they’re all field and coffee dates | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 46 | Just like nature intendedOh wow. Yeah the lose it if we’re seeing multiples because they’re scared of the competition. Better to say “it’s my girl friends birthday” or some other excuse that can’t point to a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:24 PM |
| 37 | Just like nature intendedI had a guy I matched with on OLD ask me if I was talking to multiple guys. When I said “yes” he got insanely offended and said he lost “interest in me” because apparently texting with multiple matches was a turn off. And I said “okay well it’s a good thing I’m talking to multiple guys then!” And promptly unmatched lmao 😂 this was all within 10 minutes of matching on the app! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Trust your initial gut feelingYeah. “So good” that they disarm you and make you throw all FDS logic out the window. Highly manipulative! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:09 PM |
| 34 | Trust your initial gut feelingThis is kind of like the “fake woke” abuser that Lundy describes in “Why does he do that?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:47 AM |
| 22 | Stop letting men down "nicely"Ugh so true... I need to start putting these guys in their place. Their egos are so overinflated (especially men from my culture). It'll be nice to bring them down a peg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Why did he ask these questions?I find it interesting that the “votes” on this comment have been buoying up and down all day. Male lurkers are alllll over this sub with the downvotes when we figure out what these manipulators are really up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:37 AM |
| 4 | Disgusting thing I saw on the front page of Reddit todayI saw that in r/trashy! Yeah he traumatized a whole family. Imagine thinking “my unhappiness isn’t enough, the whole extended family needs to suffer too” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:25 PM |
| 35 | Why did he ask these questions?Translation - how easily I call you emotionally unstable in order to disregard your needs? - Do you keep people in your life that are toxic? Will you accept MY future toxic behaviour? How easily will it be for me to unhinge you? - Liars and manipulators always start a relationship by saying things like “I never lie” or “I always say exactly what I mean” so that you accept everything they say as law. Later, he will gaslight you about things they say to confuse you and create a trauma bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:02 PM |
| 89 | “You jump to conclusions” - LVM. Have you guys heard this too?When a woman reaches a logical conclusion based on facts, men call it “assuming the worst” because we’ve unveiled their true intentions. Yes it is gaslighting. Edit for clarity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Men can't respect women and suddenly it's the woman's fault because of what she was wearing or what she said to turn him down. Projection much?That was quite traumatic to read... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Why don’t women like video games or board games generally?I have a few theories: Many video games aren't designed for women users in mind, so the themes/motifs/activities of the games just don't have the same appeal. Men on the games are rude to them. Women simply don't gravitate towards it due to biological differences (i.e. hunter/gatherer premise). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/20 08:35 PM |
| 7 | Oh of course, no problem. I believe what you’re looking for is a free whore? I hate it here. Marriage seems unattainable with what this internet has allowed me to see.Match with him, figure out his identity and address, then tell the wifey. (Is this a chick flick plot by any chance?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:23 AM |
| 47 | Subtle but still gotta get called outOne guy asked me “are you ready?” with a smile. That was HOT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:10 AM |
| 3 | Should men be lowering or upping their standards?inste of raising /lowering their standards for their future partners, start by raising your standards of yourself. Be ruthless in your grooming, gym routine, cooperativeness, self development, good manners, etiquette, lifestyle, etc. Do that, and you won’t have to be worrying about lowering your standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/20 03:09 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, yet another manipulation tactic we should be aware of! This one is more subtle and absolutely terrifying.It’s slightly different. Gaslighting is denying the truth as a form of abuse/crazymaking. The article is referring to a form of control via brainwashing (rewriting norms -> controlling behaviour is okay). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:31 AM |
| 66 | She did not hesitate to put his ass down lolYou sent me into orbit sis! So on point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Idk if this is a joke or not but regardless it’s disgusting.Alone? Much better to die alone than beside someone who doesn’t know your worth. At least you’ll die at peace, and with respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:31 PM |
| 18 | Scrote only has sex if it means his wife is pegging him while watching the kind of porn he likes. She does so begrudgingly. And he refuses to clean up the poop afterward.He’s treating her as a sex toy. Not a wife. This isn’t lovemaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:38 PM |
| 21 | Idk if this is a joke or not but regardless it’s disgusting.This is emotional pornography for men. Emotional humiliation of women. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 05:02 AM |
| 29 | Why do men 🤢The thing is, anger is the only acceptable emotional range a man can have. It’s sad really that patriarchy has both men and women in a chokehold. (I think I read that in a Bell Hooks book.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 04:29 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I love this. Start demanding the best from every aspect of your life, and you will recieve it. If not from the man in quesiton, then at least from the next one who now knows your threshold for bull****. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:35 AM |
| 142 | Why do men 🤢Gaming? They scream at the computer when they lose, and even the games involve hitting/killing other players... they seem to seek out ways to be violent. Watching soccer/bball/football? Scream at tv Although activities aren't gendered, we can agree that the way in which men approach these activities is gendered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:27 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020get a dildo. Sex with men sucks anyway. Case in point: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jgqv4x/dont_you_miss_sex/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:53 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, what do we consider to be the bare minimum from a guy?Unrealistic. you can get 2/3 MAYBE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 04:50 AM |
| 3 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propagandaGetting flashbacks from my ex... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 04:32 AM |
| 14 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”LMAOOO exactly!! The only good sex I’ve ever had was in my imagination | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:45 AM |
| 2 | The People Who Prioritize a Friendship Over RomanceThe thing is... I want both: high quality romance and high quality friendships. But it seems high quality romance is pretty much nonexistent. It’s just never happened for me, and I’m starting to think it never will. So instead I’m directing my energy to relationships that do bring me meaning. So if romance happens to come along, great, if not, that’s great too. I’m not waiting for “someday” anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:18 AM |
| 12 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Sex?? I think you mean giving a man an incredible blowjob, then having him finish himself off because he’s pornsick. Then having him poke around my nether regions like a fuckin idiot for 5 minutes, before I ask him to stop and we roll over to sleep. No I don’t miss that shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:11 AM |
| 8 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda5) “yes” and “no” are answers when I say it. When you say it, I’ll ignore you entirely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:24 AM |
| 24 | The People Who Prioritize a Friendship Over RomanceAfter discovering FDS, I've been thinking a lot about friendship, and how meaningful relationships have enhanced my life, while romantic relationships have brung me mostly misery. I think finding meaning in our high-quality friendships is one way to combat the slew of low quality male-female relationships that cost women their sanity, and force them to settle because the man they've found is "the best of the worst". As long as men continue to offer low-quality companionship, women will opt to le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Level up tiktokers?her ID is @ canadasdatingcoach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Level up tiktokers?chantal heide she's a dating coach that has a "no kissing for 3 months rule"! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 07:28 PM |
| 20 | Contrast from most “men” discussed in this sub.This nearly brought a tear to my eye! So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 10:40 PM |
| 95 | Contrast from most “men” discussed in this sub.I’ve been feeling kind of jaded lately, online dating hasn’t helped (so I’m quitting)! And I stumbled upon this story of an incredibly loving couple. I thought I’d share because it lifted my spirits a bit, and reminded me that: I’m not asking for too much, I’m just asking the wrong people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 10:29 PM |
| 33 | There's a lot of fish in the sea, but there are a lot of drowning people tooThis describes a recent toxic friendship of mine to a T! Good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:55 PM |
| 7 | “Isn’t a date all about communication” —> proceeds to take you to a field 🤡Classic muslim men. Muslim men are soooo busy looking for women to have non-commital fun with because they "dont know" what they want for all of their twenties. This includes negging muslim women for being "too halal" because they won’t comply to their sexual advances. Then when they're done with their fun, they ask their parents to be arranged to a girl with a "good reputation" (i.e. virgin). Preferably one that is too young to understand what a piece of shite he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:25 AM |
| 16 | Do not make excuses for menFACTS. Thanks for the reminder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 03:55 AM |
| 23 | Do not make excuses for menIdk, I had a friend who once told me "I used to do that sh*t and let the girls come to ME. Now I realize it was wrong and I am more gentlemanly". (He was referring to making girls come to his part of town for a date, rather than him go to meet her). So some men have transitioned from LVM to HVM and maybe want to impart some wisdom about their old tactics? Not sure the logic but I appreciate it nonetheless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:00 AM |
| 30 | Do not make excuses for menFork! All these women need FDS to unlearn this. I spent so much time decoding what men were “really saying” through their breadcrumbs. Once we stop taking their shit, they’ll stop handing it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 11:00 PM |
| 32 | Do not make excuses for menit gives me hope that HVM exist and I'm not chasing a ghost | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 09:58 PM |
| 24 | Do not make excuses for menI'm not sure how to edit the post without making it uber long. I added a few more though. I swear I'm a millenial lol just new to this platform | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 25 | Truth.*bananas | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Friendly reminderWhat men get out of wasting their own time I will never understand. Was he just going to buy you dinner every fortnight until the end of time?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Taking a lady out on a date used to be a privilege for men. When and why did it become a "nuisance"?Dates became a nuisance the moment pickmes started accepting laundromat dates as the gold standard and for sleeping with men without commitment/respect. Women have spoiled men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:25 AM |
| 2 | If you're shallow, and put a girl on a pedestal bc of her looks, you will be nervous and try too hard to impress her, then get rejected. If you're not shallow, but judge a girl for what is inside and not outside, your behavior and energy will be different, and your results will be much better.I agree, in the first stages of dating (as a woman) I am not monogamous. Its not about "a man's biological" nature, as the same thing happens when my girl friends only see 1 person in the first stages of dating. They build up the person to be their soulmate on the first date, when in reality, its a lukewarm connection. The reason women find it creepy is because a man can't love us after just meeting us. It starts to make us wonder how many other women you've fallen head over heels for. And norma… | /r/seduction | 03/10/20 03:47 PM |
| 3 | That's how LVM treat women for hookupsthis killed me I am deceased now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:25 AM |
| 2 | Women of all races on indian guys (research before I go out hunting)I'm 25 and brown, born and raised in Canada to immigrant parents. I hate brown accents/weak english skills, I just find it unsexy. That being said I don't even find the gold-standard french accent particularly endearing either. I feel like the man is not understanding me, and I'm defenitely having a hard time understanding him. So if you're ESL, learn how to communicate/socialize. Be smart. Brown guys are usually known for being career oriented (at least in my culture), so use that to your advan… | /r/seduction | 03/10/20 05:37 AM |
| 2 | This one girl looked sad so I went up to her and asked her whats wrong. She said nothing and asked why I thought that. Then she looked down and intentionally put her foot on top of mine. What does this mean?She probably wanted you to stick around, but change the topic of conversation. | /r/seduction | 03/10/20 05:15 AM |
| 9 | If you're shallow, and put a girl on a pedestal bc of her looks, you will be nervous and try too hard to impress her, then get rejected. If you're not shallow, but judge a girl for what is inside and not outside, your behavior and energy will be different, and your results will be much better.Oh my gosh yes! And some guys will ask me on a second date before the first date is even over, or start texting me nonstop after our date. They act as if they're my boyfriend already... When in reality all we had was 1 lukewarm date! I noticed a common trend with these types of guys is that they're always worried about whether or not I like them (and I know this because they tell me so). So they base their self worth on wheter or not a woman finds them appealing. It makes me wonder: What did you… | /r/seduction | 03/10/20 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in?I think we like to assume that everyone makes logical decisions based on facts. That simply isnt the case. People have issues. and I mean ISSUES. Some people only like to flirt, some people like to over-invest and then run away at the sign of commitment. etc. People are messed up. Stop trying to decipher why someone isnt interested. Who cares why? Focus on being your best self, (this is a LOT of work btw) and when the right person comes along she will be so enthralled by you that you won't be pl… | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 05:37 PM |
| 138 | If you're shallow, and put a girl on a pedestal bc of her looks, you will be nervous and try too hard to impress her, then get rejected. If you're not shallow, but judge a girl for what is inside and not outside, your behavior and energy will be different, and your results will be much better.Facts. I'm not a model or anything, but I'm cute. When guys fall head over heels for me on the first date and start acting crazy it makes me run the other way. You don't know me, so how can you say/act as if you're in love with me? | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 05:20 PM |
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