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Hi Solo, did you get a chance to check your Reddit chat? Just following up!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:51 PM
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Kya?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:16 PM
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Yea, rent isn't romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:36 PM
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You were about as fun as a person being cannibalized
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:31 PM
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Sorry I'm immune to shit stirring
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:35 PM
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How did she insult Legolas? LotR never showed Legolas as a husband so it's open-ended whether he's be a good husband or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:26 PM
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Legolas all day
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:14 PM
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The women on the extremes are pretty, the one in the blue is decent looking, the fourth girl is.... homely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:12 PM
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Yea him! Do you know if he's ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:45 PM
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Oh no... I really hope he's okay and that he knows there's enough of us here who care about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:39 PM
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Hahaha saved & subscribed to your YouTube channel, "Fake Happily Ever Afters!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:30 PM
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Hey what happened to the really young guy who was pretty active on this sub and who didn't have much luck with the ladies? His handle was Snow something or Bunny or something like that, I think. Is he okay? I'm a bit worried about him. Used to live someplace rural, was trying to catch a raccoon a couple months back cos it was bothering him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:23 PM
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Harsh economic realities which gut certain communities, paired with a gradual erosion of family and community bonds, are mostly the cause for male hopelessness. Sharing feelings isn't the big bad of this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:05 PM
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Cool thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:03 PM
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Good point, entirely possible if not likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:02 PM
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Haha that's fair. But I genuinely do want to know who, if they are your peer, you would consider your equal match.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:47 PM
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I definitely have no clue and won't pretend to know anything about them. I'm just going off of what the OP said. He made it seem like the Haitian and Ghanaian ladies are more innocent and genuine, whereas the American "hoes" as he loving calls them have been around the block to always be on the lookout for players.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:46 PM
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Sorry I don't know what "swarm off people" means.... or did you mean "swearing off people?" Is so sounds like for someone to be an MGTOW one needs to consciously decide to rule out dating at all, right? Not playing gotcha or anything, I just don't know what MGTOW really means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:44 PM
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I am familiar with this user, he's openly stated he's a player, which was the only reason I mentioned players. Also, read his very last sentence - there's no way you can read "not going to stop gaming these American hoes" and not think he's a player.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:43 PM
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Players definitely have their place in society
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:37 PM
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I'd say about ~30% of each gender is Good. An additional ~15%-30% is Good-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:35 PM
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So who, if she were to be your peer, would be an even match for you? Or is no peer an even match at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:33 PM
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No thoughts on your wall of word salad. But who exactly qualifies as a MGTOW? Would a guy who's going through his life not really on dating apps but also not dismissing the possibility of a romantic relationship if it were to happen an MGTOW? Or does a guy need to have consciously and deliberately sworn off all such relationships for him to be MGTOW?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:32 PM
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American girls are used to players like you, so they're callous. Now whether the player came first or the American girls' callousness came first is the perennial chicken-egg question.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:30 PM
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Ohhh you're 47. And you think going on a date with a fairly attractive 48 year old is beneath you...?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:28 PM
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How old are you and why on earth are you going on dates with 48 year old women?? Also, if you knew that you're only on this date for practice with the *real* dates, why be disappointed in yourself that you should be better than this - you already say you're only on this date as practice, this isn't your true caliber...?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:10 PM
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This is good advice just across the board for any person, and I’ll agree especially for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:40 AM
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Wow that's just so sad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:23 PM
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You know, I feel there may be 2 things at play when you hear that statement. One is that it's just socially established that the "lady" must always be complimented, so the guy will always be openly told he's lucky to be with her. The second is that guys still largely value looks (over status and money) so the STEM guy's guy friends will talk about how he was lucky to bag an attractive one. But trust me when I say the girls will be telling the pretty one just how SHE lucked out by being with this…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:58 PM
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I actually disagree people think ONLY the guy is dating up in this scenario. In my experience, unless the girl is equally as smart and successful AND pretty (where he's below average looking and/or socially awkward), people think they're evenly matched. So a dumb but pretty girl with a smart successful STEM guy is deemed an even match.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:47 PM
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The smart successful BUT socially awkward [insert any field, not just STEM] guy is considered to have "dated up" if with a pretty girl only because that pretty girl validates how crazy smart and successful he is. Because she's with him *despite* his awkward social skills, which emphasizes how successful he must be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:32 PM
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I'm pretty sure this is a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:06 PM
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Already said the 2 concepts can overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:05 PM
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... and your husband is 50?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:20 PM
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We'll just have to agree to disagree on this one :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:43 PM
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They can overlap but often don't I think. Like, I can be contemptuous of a person's career choice (if I wanted to be a dick) but not resentful of it. I can be resentful of my partner's insistence to have a child, but not contemptuous of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:17 PM
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Resentment might give contempt a good run for its money I reckon.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:14 PM
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Fair point, it’s dipshits like that OP that make me comment
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:58 PM
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The one about how single moms give birth to violent criminals, topped the sun today I yhink
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:25 AM
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Hey there buddy! Yea was busy exploring the WWW for a while and meandered over here to see how everyone's doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:42 AM
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Reading that single mom thread today... yowza. So it's either violent criminal degenerate men who get laid or it's the super boring but morally always good nerd? Say goodbye to Gray everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:11 AM
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LOL. Did the guy who was thirsting after her, MattSec or something like that, also come back? Just catching up on my PPD folks/drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:51 PM
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Yo when did u/figuringMylife come back?!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:41 PM
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Agree with all of your statements. Japan needs a societal overhaul. It's already starting to do so by welcoming more immigrants compared to past decades but their salaryman culture combined with treatment/attitudes towards women and gender expectations (on both sides) need to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:27 PM
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Super sensible comment and breakdown. Yea the stats as presented are distorted but that's also why I said (in another comment) that the headline is incendiary.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:47 PM
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Ha you're so reliable Bandit, I love that about you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:34 PM
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Bravo on that so edgy comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:34 PM
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Wrong kinda Asian
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:33 PM
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Yea that's true. I'm just surprised there's no discussion about this topic on this sub, given the article's incendiary headline and topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:25 PM
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Howdy folks! I saw this and immediately thought you lovely PPD people would be all over it. How come there's no heated discussion over this yet? (Or did I miss it?)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:09 PM
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Appreciate your detailed reply. I’ll respond properly tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:53 AM
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Haven't answered my question whether Raymond is BB
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:37 AM
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Charismatic physical look as long as your personality doesn't let you down. Your skin, hair, eyes, and lips are unimpeachable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:33 AM
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Q4OldPPD: Do you think Debra pulled the old AF/BB On Raymond on Everybody Loves Raymond? I'm trying to figure out the limits of BB the way it's used here, even though I'm using an old example. EDIT: calling it a night, will reply to all replies tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:29 AM
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Depends on whether you're drunk posting outta desperation or for the fuck of it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:59 AM
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Shit I dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:10 AM
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You should have taken her up on her offer to meet and made her come to you. Come on man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:07 AM
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Eh? I didn't get anything from you though?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:06 AM
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Yea u/luliloo spill all!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:56 AM
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Thanks to the guys here who've really stepped up and sent me nasty DMs. I'm a more well-rounded person for having that experience under my belt now. PPD men can be sweet and thoughtful too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:55 AM
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CFinCanada has been MIA for a while! did she quit too?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:40 AM
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Lol that was well done
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:38 AM
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I said in another comment that was always so extra but the guys here loved her and her energy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:16 AM
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Not a single one in all my years on Reddit and this past year of being on PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:12 AM
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u/luliloo just said there's already an alt claiming it's livs
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:12 AM
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Is this all for real? Sounds more juvenile than middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:11 AM
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Nah, she had livs4drpepper as her handle
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:55 PM
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Lol best comment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:47 PM
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Livs was very extra and she quit in the most drama way possible
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:46 PM
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It wasn't resistance at all, it was just a pleasant convo each time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:34 PM
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That wink emoji at the end makes me think she's being sarcastic, no...?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:26 PM
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Living my dream! Safe travels.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:30 PM
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Cool thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:28 PM
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Why do you support such a strict ban?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:14 PM
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50% of my own female friends Says a lot about the company you keep and that flocks to you. I don't know women like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:05 PM
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I think you just like the word ban lol Are you religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:02 PM
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I don't know why that OP didn't say a word about her two friends allowing that stranger to clear out her stuff and seat. I wouldn't care so much about a stranger being rude as much as my own friends allowing it to happen without a word. She sucks too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:35 PM
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What. Why would Russian bots regularly post on PPD of all places? EDIT: Thanks to all who responded educating me on the ways of the bot. Pretty insidious and yea I can see it working gradually.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:30 PM
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wait she supported Putin when the war started?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:01 PM
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I'm worried about NarniaFox. Hope she's ok. While Putin is a dick ordinary Russian people don't deserve to suffer the crashing economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:54 PM
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Btw, Ralph's in Seattle was a small grocery store, which was why I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:56 PM
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Fellini film after 8:30 PM. Ded. I can see why you're a journo, you really have a way with words!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:55 PM
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That guy could be bi
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:54 PM
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I was likewise relevant 20 years ago :P
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:53 PM
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Never thought you were obnoxious. I find your positive energy infectious, never lose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:50 PM
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I live for summer blockbusters. Independence Day? Armageddon? The Island? So good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:50 PM
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What is Ralph's, a specialty grocery store...?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:47 PM
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u/unkill_009 - Why do you delete your comments???? Twice in a row I've typed out a reply to your reply to me, only to be told you deleted your reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:46 PM
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Lol you're cute
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:40 PM
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I didn't realize they could ban you for the civility thing. I've got quite a few "Be civil" comments but all that happened was the mods just removed my "uncivil" comments, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:36 PM
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You get my free award just for being the rare person to dislike this shiteous movie
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:34 PM
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What'd you get banned for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:32 PM
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I truly don't get the hype and love for this movie. It's fucking dumb and boring. EDIT: Who here also dislikes the movie so much to give me the award?!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:30 PM
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No, there are 2 camps. Girls from one camp love Aragorn and find Legolas unappealing; girls from the other camp (of which I am one) love Legolas and find Aragorn too feral.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:01 PM
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ROFL that isn't an addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:58 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:55 PM
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Gotcha. I'm in Seattle, so close to Vancouver and know there are lots of Chinese and Filippinos over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:37 PM
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Oh yea that was bound to happen. It's happening up in WA where it's gentrification on steroids. I just learned the median single family home price in Bellevue is $2M. Like...wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:20 PM
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Are you in OZ or US? Are Asian women fetishized in OZ too?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:17 PM
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I somehow thought your govt work was DC-based govt work. I've never been to Sacramento, only SF/LA/San Diego. CA seems cool in general though I've heard there are some deep red areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:12 PM
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You're in CA?? I thought you were in DC. So many PPD users in CA, especially women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:07 PM
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Happy birthday! Never knew you were Chinese. Ni hao.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:04 PM
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Nah, I stand corrected.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:55 PM
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Another user corrected my stance that Christianity preaches sex only for procreation. I was going by what I've seen in America where back in the day married couples on TV were considered scandalous if they slept in the same bed unless they were trying for a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:54 PM
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Oh how informative, TIL! I always thought, because of how the American media and public showed couples sleeping in separate beds unless they were trying to have a baby, meant Christianity preaches sex only for procreation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:26 PM
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Very religious people believe sex is only for creating life. So once they decided to stop trying for more kids, it makes sense for a really religious woman to turn off the sex tap. Sounds to me like it’s your friend who was liking the idea of being very religious while the wife really WAS religious. This is another reason why men going after religious women can come with a nasty plot twist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:01 PM
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What does the rest of Reddit think women want? PPD, I'd love your thoughts!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:14 AM
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Anthony is like my dream guy, don't care what his skin color is. But tbf so is Simon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:06 AM
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Did we stop having topic-specific weekly threads? If we haven't, maybe we can have a Bridgerton (TV show only please!!) thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:04 AM
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#ThatsWhatSheSaid
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:00 AM
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Cos you're made of wood?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:57 AM
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NO BOOK SPOILERS PLEASE; THIS IS TV SHOW ONLY!!!! IMO Anthony was way hotter than Kate, BUT their chemistry was off the charts. Simon was hotter than Daphne though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:57 AM
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If you know the answer, why even ask? And if it's so easy to find a girlfriend within 24 hours by going to bars/clubs, why're you already doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:54 AM
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you don’t want friends but a girlfriend Just go to the girlfriend store then We can only give you human advice, not feed your delusions. Like someone asks how to lose weight and getting upset at being told they need to eat less and exercise more. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:28 AM
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If you've moved to a new city, I assume you have moved either for school or job. So start there by inviting coworkers/students to happy hour and make friends and acquaintances. That way you get invited to their events which will have their friends and acquaintances. Find someone in those secondary groups to date. Pretty simple, just need to be social and take initiative and out in effort. like with everything in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:20 PM
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I think there's something about writing things down vs. conversation which brings out the formal tone in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:25 PM
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I don't doubt that those cases and situations exist. But largely they're not actually assholes and the women aren't attracted to asshole men. This sub loves to mischaracterize cocky guys as abusive assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:59 PM
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I'm a mix. I wouldn't share some of the opinions I voice here IRL, but I'm actually a lot more measured in many of my responses here than I would be if I were speaking with my close friends/husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:53 PM
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I suspect there's a bit of hyperbole and humor going on when girlfriends call their SOs "asshole" or some such. When I sometimes say my husband is "a total douche" to a friend of mine, I don't actually mean that he is and I trust my friend to know that I don't mean it. It's usually like, "Argh friend, my husband is such a dick *haha is implied*"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:41 PM
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To a spineless doormat pushover, a guy who can stand up for himself, is assertive without being rude, and is confident without being arrogant is an asshole. Sort of the like the flipped version of "To those in privilege, equality is oppression" but in the dating context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:12 PM
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I don't need to hamster. My friend in college who missed ~ 70% of classes and has lost track of time due to doing E and pot went on to graduate with decent grades and land a table job at a Fortune 500 company right out of school. He's then gone on to become senior management at a few Fortune 100/50 companies. He's not an outlier either. I used to routinely skip classes in college but did well enough to land at a Top 50 law school, where I would not uncommonly :wake and bake." Still graduated qui…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:08 PM
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No mention of I could change him. Don't go putting words into my mouth. I just said people change throughout life for a whole host of reasons. I was not the same person I was at age 18 that I was at 22 or 30 or 40. Are you telling me people stay exactly how responsible they are at 20 as at 35? Your college drug dealer is nowhere the same as the drug dealers you see on The Wire or Breaking Bad. You're the one who should win the award for mental gymnastics if you think they are on the same level.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:47 PM
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Why's that college guy a loser? He got into the same college that the nerdy guy also got into. Plus, college is where many people explore, fuck up, do a whole bunch of dumb shit but eventually straighten out. They go on to get their life on track and become the stable guy with a stable job and a stable relationship. I don't see why the insistence that a 20 year old college pothead has to remain that way for the rest of his life. Here's a radical idea: People change.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:08 PM
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Your dorm drug dealer was still in college and presumably dealt weed? How's that comparable to the guy in the video?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:50 PM
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If you navigate to her Netflix entry, you know the automatic "trailer" they play? That's the bit Netflix plays as her "trailer."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:24 AM
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Her latest special in on Netflix
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:21 AM
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So Gottfried was a black piller. I didn't think of it before but now that I do, it makes sense. He's like the Patton Oswalt in the comedy world even though Oswalt is pretty blue pilled. Which makes sense because I can't think of a single sexually/romantically attractive thing about Gottfried but Oswalt is still marginally more masculine than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:19 AM
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Story time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:43 PM
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Before I heard about BB my friends and I would regularly call that same guy a "mealticket." It was widely known to all of us in my generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:16 PM
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Yea it's the way they're interpreting investment that's wild to me. Investment typically means the person putting money into something is the investor and the thing is the investment. So to hear women say a man putting money into them (investor) means THEY are investing in the guy is just whacky. Also: ​ Making him feel wanted, showing that you are interested in him, illustrating that you want to be in a relationship with him/are welcoming to the idea if its early. Letting him know you desire hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:26 PM
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But why do you think them not finding you objectively attractive enough is the reason why they rejected you?? There are a trillion reasons for why someone rejects another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:17 PM
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Isn't that beta bux though?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:10 PM
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They most certainly don't
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:26 PM
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Woman logic. I'm a woman too and my logic is just fine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:23 PM
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I thought RP use HVM to mean 6666 and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:23 PM
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You are very thoughtful to even call out that I shouldn't take it personally :) You make a fair point, I've not dated since 2009 and definitely have no idea how Tinder and other apps work and have affected the dating attitudes for young folk. That said, I literally don't understand how someone can think a person paying is also the person being invested in. Like what...?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:00 PM
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It's annoying AF. Even more annoying is when people are talking past each other about this because one camp is using HVM the way RP use it and the other is using it the way FDS women use it. Completely different definitions (albeit with some overlap) yet each side will somehow refuse to clarify their definition and usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:57 PM
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letting a man pay for you on dates was the same thing as investing in him/relationship I can't even begin to wrap my head around this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:48 PM
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You're saying confidence is unattractive or only neutral to women? Also, stop downvoting my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:49 PM
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In what world is being confident any pill?? It's just common sense and commonly given advice everywhere in the western world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:29 PM
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I'm also worried about us 'matching' out in public. For his sake I hope she stops seeing him. What a dumbass. But by day two I realized that he was treating me like a child. And actually worse than a child because it's inhumane to ignore a child for days at a time. I just can't even.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:30 PM
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The power imbalance grosses me out. The lack of commonality grosses me out. The superficiality of valuing looks/money grosses me out. Mind you, all these are not a guarantee, which is why I said at the very outset that exceptions exist. Interracial relationships, if based on valuing looks/money, without anything else, would gross me out too. But fortunately that's not the case. Age =/= race ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:13 AM
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Every case is different. Yea I already said: There will always be exceptions. ​ When I was 41 I got into a relationship with a 28yr old. Already addressed when I said: I am repulsed by anyone dating someone with a double digit age gap if one of them is under 28-30. Given your lack of reading comprehension and lack of logic, yours would be an easy exception even if you were 41 dating an 15 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:08 AM
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I'd start taking more edibles
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 10:37 PM
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Fair criticism. Let me rephrase: I believe the power imbalance objectively exists in a significant number of those kinds of relationships. Hence my issue with it. I won't deny your lived experience and what you've seen, so sure, your opinion makes sense from your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:32 PM
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I don't wish to argue with you but I will say a double digit age gap relationship with someone under 28-30 comes with too much power imbalance which has a significant risk of going against the younger partner. I believe this objectively. So I'll advise anyone I am invested in against those relationships and I'll share this advise if actively solicited by someone I don't have that investment in. Beyond that, people will continue to do what they want to and I'll live my life the way I want to... a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:23 PM
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Currently monogamous doesn't address what I said in my original comment. I already said you don't need to be attacked and that your opinions/advice about non-relationship issues should be considered on their own merits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:06 PM
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There will always be exceptions. But by and large, I am repulsed by anyone dating someone with a double digit age gap if one of them is under 28-30. Don't care if the younger one is a guy or gal. It's just gross to me. I'll still side-eye any relationship with a larger than 10 year gap, even over the age of 30, but it wouldn't bother me the way the above would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:04 PM
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I don't actually know, is it infamous? I have a couple of friends who were stationed in the SK airforce base, but they were a married couple and probably didn't experience anything untoward. Are the army and airforce bases the same or different out in SK?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:48 PM
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I'll be honest I've never heard of her nor am I familiar with any feminist rhetoric, except that my understanding of feminism as a movement is to have men and women treated as equals and have equal rights (voting, serving on the jury, working professionally and taken seriously by their peers, etc). So my response to your quote was purely based on only the words you cited. I was just offering an interpretation of those words and those words alone. I don't wish to be treated as superior to men, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:46 PM
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That's so scary, so so glad nothing happened to you except for a fabulous rest :) South Korea? Are you an army brat?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:40 PM
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Jesus so sorry, I hope my cheeky comment didn't hurt you! That's awful it happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:36 PM
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then judge heavily on what he chooses Especially if he chooses a roofie drink ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:27 PM
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The men who abandon their child are scum. But the women who have kids out of wedlock, without making sure they are financially comfortable in case of the father going AWOL, are lacking judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:26 PM
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Lady, you talked about how you're in a marriage where your husband has the option to have "concubines" while you will observe strict monogamy. You don't need to be attacked but knowing that about you certainly colors my opinion on what you have to say regarding relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:21 PM
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I can see why not giving women the choice at that time would make sense. It'd be like giving certain racial groups the "choice" to go to a segregated school or seek segregated housing etc. It's not a meaningful choice. Mandate it (with heavy supervision) so that women working out of the home is normalized, then course correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:18 PM
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Lol Mrs Drgree got banned for no reason at all. I joined the sub but it's weird right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:48 PM
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I think you under estimate the impact types have. No, I get the "type" hype, if you will. But there are some who I think are so conventionally attractive that I can objectively say they're attractive without being attracted to them. Chris Hemsworth is not my type but I can acknowledge he's objectively a good looking man and rate him accordingly. This guy is both my type and conventionally attractive as to be almost universally appealing. Which is why, even for someone with a different "type," I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:47 PM
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If this guy is 6/10, and we live in the OLD world, we should all just RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:39 AM
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Posted this on the previous Daily Chat but it was a bit too late to get the eyeball-hits. Asking again. Q4All: Rate this Capital One "Where next?" commercial guy. For me, he's 10/10 (purely physically speaking ofc).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:13 AM
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Q4All: Rate this Capital One "Where next?" commercial guy. For me, he's 10/10 (purely physically speaking ofc).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:44 AM
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What a cutie floofer! My cat does that same paw scoop thing as well. Weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:55 AM
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Fine, general knowledge then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:36 PM
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There was an entire episode based on Costanza getting good looking women by pretending he was engaged to a model (social proof/preselection); Elaine stating the male form is simian in nature whereas the feminine form is a work of art and therefore desirable; Costanza dates a stunning woman who usually would be out of his league (more than normal) purely by him pretending he's succeeded in NYC in a very short amount of time, thereby indicating status. These are just off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:35 PM
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Seinfeld is very very RP, the hell you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:40 PM
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You make a good point. I also wonder whether the various ways are relevant but to very different types of industries/positions. The salad thing may be a concern if they're interviewing for a wellness spa receptionist or something. Knowing VPs might be relevant if you're a political think tank or some such.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:02 PM
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The brief is it's about an early twenties single guy in Mumbai and his thoughts/actions around dating. It's oftentimes verbally explicit and through his experiences, we also see how girls in Mumbai approach dating and feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:48 PM
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Quayle isn't the past 5 VPs, unless you're disregarding Kamala Harris. But regardless, knowing about Quayle isn't a white thing, is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:46 PM
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Ngl I blanked on Mine Pence's name and just referred to him as that guy who only calls his wife "Mother."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:44 PM
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You're in India right? Have you seen the netflix show Eternally Confused and Eager for Love? Is it an accurate portrayal of dating in India in big cities?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:42 PM
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Yea the salad lunch thing was a bit judgey. Not like brainy people are all super in shape or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:39 PM
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Haha right?! Politeness and wanting a candidate to roughly know current affairs (VPs) isn't a white or a UMC thing. The unhealthy lunch is a bit weird and the Uber thing may not cut it outside of big cities though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:37 PM
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Us females are not raised to handle rejection very well. It's mostly the SAH type that doesn't handle rejection well. Other women, even if not taught at home, get taught rejection plenty well because we seek the "discomfort" of working outside the home and where the world is oftentimes not as cozy or as sheltered as one's home. u/Asatmaya
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:32 PM
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What is so wrong about these hiring techniques...?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:18 PM
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I think it's just very young people who're super idealistic and think they will change the world. Heart is in the right place but yea... life will teach them to temper their idealism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:40 PM
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You expect a parent to tell their 11 year old daughter to "stand up for herself" to a 20+ catcalling guy? That's just so idealistic its downright stupid. I'll never raise a daughter to be that dumb. I'll teach any son of mine to not catcall and to not surround himself with boys who partake in or encourage that kind of behavior. I'm not gonna teach him to walk up to a catcaller and get into a physical fight though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:59 PM
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Chad cat
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:41 PM
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No parent can protect their child from all harm. I'll teach them to shrug things off as early as possible. The discerning/discriminating part comes later and that'll be helpful to them in refining what they should shrug off/take in stride (like catcalling) and what to internalize and process (constructive criticism, for e.g.).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:35 PM
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What advice would you give to father's of daughters? Depends on what kind of father. If I were a parent, I'd raise my kids to generally have a thick skin and not to internalize everything that they experience. Teach them to be more discriminating and discerning across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:11 PM
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These two are legitimately 1/10, just grotesque
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 11:51 PM
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In that case, if I know the reason through some other means, then no. But if I don't know the reason, I'd assume it was exploitative. But generally, and maybe it's a generational think (I'm mid forties), I find ghosting truly abysmal and shows a lack of character in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:26 PM
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I'd say quite a few. But it's the equivalent of the bigoted-against-X person with a X friend who says, "My friend is different and not like the other those other X."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:33 PM
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Both are bad but the first one is worse because I'd feel exploited
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:26 PM
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I agree with you that the pro-choice camp painting any argument against abortion as a means to control women or hate on women is reductive and wrong. But it is equally disingenuous to state that pro-choice folks claim abortion is itself empowering. It's not like pro-choice folks are just jonesing to get abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:22 PM
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Women claim abortions are empowering? Or do they say the choice to control one’s own reproductive choices and body is empowering?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:55 PM
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I'm 5ft 4, weigh 48kg and have a 24 inch waist normal skin rolls on my stomach How on earth do YOU have stomach rolls??
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:05 AM
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Bummer. Thanks again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:25 PM
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Thanks for letting me know, what'd he say though? He's usually so sensible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:00 PM
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What! What'd he say? Is he perma banned or only for a week or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 05:54 PM
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Yea the same way if I frame altar-boy-raping-serial-pedophile-priest as every/most Christians, I'd be called fucking stupid. But then it's Lillith, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 11:04 PM
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I'll have to check out the other beer-famous Portland then. I live in Seattle and hit up all the breweries in Portland, OR all the time. Also, looks like the lighthouse in Portland, Maine is the one I was referring to. It's world famous!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:54 PM
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I don't know for the overall male population. But from what I've seen within my expansive social circle, almost no men will take a woman whom they don't inherently respect, which includes things like her interests, hobbies, education, career/job, etc. Based purely off of my personal experience, it sounds like the men who can't be arsed about women's personalities or interests are LVM with very limited dating pools themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:43 PM
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Oh wow really? TIL thanks! Is Portland, Maine the place with the famous lighthouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:34 PM
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Do you have your Portlands confused...? I thought Portland, Oregon is the beer place, not Portland, Maine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:09 PM
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What does women acting like RP men even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 05:56 PM
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The OP comes from a family where her mom constantly chased drama and dopamine and had crazy relationships. OP grew up around it. So she chased that same feeling but those other guys didn't commit to her. She couldn't be alone because she is not securely attached so always needs a guy around. In comes the "boring" husband. Thankfully OP grew up and is now putting in the work to be a good wife to her good husband. People from unstable households will repeat those patterns. It's nothing new.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:21 PM
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That may well be the case but I can't claim that because I haven't paid enough attention to know if it's true or not
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:58 PM
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Their problem, not mine :) I'm just saying the median guy isn't objectively undesirable the way you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:55 PM
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I'd say that's plenty desirable for the American woman who's also overweight, hasn't studied past HS, and makes around $50K.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:52 PM
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What does an internet stranger "considering" your personal issues actually do for you though? If I share something personal online, I am looking for 2 things: (1) Give me advice; or (2) just listen to me vent and/or maybe acknowledge/validate my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:50 PM
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So what response would you rather people give instead? Or are you advocating just listening to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:43 PM
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True childfree women will not make the mistake of even thinking of a fetus as a baby. Come on, rookie mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:08 PM
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Haha fair, but Chibs and I were referring to a different context (Clarifying just in case you weren't being tongue in cheek, cos I'm one of the non-prickly biddies on PPD)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:00 PM
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That's where you strike the balance and tell yourself that you're not only doing this to get women but for your own sake in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:59 PM
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There's a healthy balance to strike, as with everything. Let's say someone is fat and wants to get in shape. They can do so with the intention of fitting into a particular dress, or motivate themselves by picking a particular occasion by which they lose weight, or motivate themselves by seeking a relationship, etc. The danger with all these lies in the overweight person becoming complacent and falling back to their unhealthy habits when they have "got" that thing. But weight loss is a lifestyle …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:56 PM
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Full marks for attention to detail but you missed the spirit of my word choice. Fat/obese/overweight all count.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:45 PM
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there’s nothing wrong with trying to improve to get more dates and the such. Don't listen to those who argue against this. It's ideal to improve 100% for oneself but we're not ideal people nor do we need to be. If you're better tomorrow than you are today, that's still a good thing. You got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:42 PM
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just fat You've erroneously tagged me to do shots, yet failed to call me out for this legit one
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:39 PM
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I mainly get on PPD through my laptop (Apple). I see the square just fine, but it looks more pink with a small dark purple border. The pink looks more like the T-Mobile magenta; never associated those colors with purple, which now that I think of the context, was pretty dumb of me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:37 PM
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I honestly never knew what your flair meant lol. It looks more pink to me than purple honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:28 PM
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Yup, exactly one. He's extremely successful careerwise, has a devoted wife with stunning good looks, 2 kids, wonderful relationship with his parents and extended family. Huge extrovert. Pretty good looking. He's been cheating on his wife from Day 1, is known in his industry as a playboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:31 PM
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I think it'll depend on how much younger these men are comfortable dating and also whether they're specifically gunning for much younger women. I wouldn't call a guy gross if he's 45 and started dating a 30 year old coworker.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:28 PM
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As a childfree woman I wouldn't date anyone with a child, regardless of the living status of their ex
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:53 PM
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I think so as well
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:49 PM
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If a "sassy, sophisticated, solvent" woman is over 40, the vast majority of men she's attracted to will already be married Even in my early 20s I thought guys like that were gross as hell. You find guys who're married gross...?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:48 PM
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You have my sympathies. Might I be bold enough to offer this advice: If next time you're feeling like you're being "interviewed," just stop the woman and tell her, politely but firmly, that you're feeling like you're being interviewed and that it's making your date an unpleasant experience. Tell her you'd like to talk about more personal or abstract concepts to connect instead. If she's open to receiving what you're saying, you know you've got yourself a promising one. If she huffs and puffs, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:42 PM
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also cultural, and is contingent on who you date and their positionality. For example, women who are more vulnerable I was thinking about this after my earlier comment. I would only date within my educational and career bracket, so boring safe stable white collar men. My first dates were almost always at a very public restaurant or bar with plenty of people around and from where I could either walk or cab it back to my place in under 10 minutes. I've been on several first dates and not once did …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:28 PM
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Maybe it's a generational disconnect (I'm in my forties and dated pre-Tinder) but I have never been on a first date with a guy and rolled out the big issues for vetting purposes. It's always just been about scintillating conversation and forging a personal connection. Are you honestly going on enough first dates where the woman is asking you rapid-fire questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:19 PM
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No I get the adrenaline rush. I started out as a litigator (not criminal litigation). I liked the challenge enough but couldn't stand the hyper-competitiveness and adverse nature of the work. Transactional is definitely less angsty but I find it's equally mentally stimulating, just in different ways. I also still get to do a lot of people interaction because I negotiate contracts everyday, and a fair bit of the negotiation happens in real time, which gives me the thinking-on-your-feet flavor of …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:21 AM
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As a transactional lawyer, I will never understand how PDs and divorce attorneys do their job. You must be very emotionally resilient.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:05 AM
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No one partner, doesn't matter whether it's a guy or girl, should be the only one asking to meet the other or planning all the dates. The equality dynamic should be the only way forward after the first month. Four months is a very long time for you to have been pulling this relationships weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:57 AM
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It not only includes her taking the initiative to ask to see you but also actually planning out date nights
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:41 AM
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instant deal breaker from an appearance standpoint The appearance of a vagina. Also moobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:39 AM
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Yea don't always initiate. After the first 2-3 dates, it's got to be equal effort and initiating is a big part of the equal effort. This isn't the 1800s and you don't have to "woo" her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:13 AM
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Duh, and expecting a submissive woman. And I'm sure if I read the sidebar I'd find more things to agree and disagree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:53 PM
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Haha fair enough. I couldn't pass up the chance to bait you. I find parts of RP real enough (I've personally seen AF/BB play out to a certain extent) and self-improvement is a no-brainer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:39 PM
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How're you 100% anxious and still happily married?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:36 PM
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I tend to agree, it may work in extremely broad brush strokes but doesn't stand up to scrutiny. Much like the MBTI or Love Languages or Red Pill.....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:36 PM
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100% Secure, 38% Anxious, 0% Avoidant. I've heard people say the same person, depending on the relationship, can be any of those 3 types of attached. Sounds like it's contextualized. And that make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 11:27 PM
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If it makes you happy, I actually had 4 shots of bourbon last night
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:40 PM
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Haha at this point I think you're just trying to get me blackout drunk. I said I'll do a shot everytime YOU say "situationship," not everytime **anyone** says it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:15 PM
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That's better, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:23 PM
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Oi.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:20 PM
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There's plenty in RP that I agree with, the same as I agree with Christianity because I agree kindness is a good thing to have. We don't need RP or Christianity though. It's plain common sense and innate humane-ness. Doesn't need to be wrapped up in garbage at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 04:05 PM
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I'd say that just watching a show when there are books to be read about it as well is much closer to halfassing it. You'll get no argument from me there lol The reason I say it's objectively halfassing it to read spoilers when it't an agreed co-watch is because a significant part of doing a shared activity is getting to see and revel in each other's emotions. Reading spoilers takes away from a spontaneous emotive expression for one person, so it's no longer being on the same page. For me, that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 04:01 PM
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I mean your relationship is your relationship and no concern of mine. I was just answering your question. But it is 100% halfassing the shared experience; halfassers have reasons and explanations for their halfassery, doesn’t make it any less halfassing. Word of the Day: Halfass
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:03 PM
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Yes. Someone finally gets it!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:06 PM
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I’d be upset. This is a shared experience and I wouldn’t want SO to halfass it by knowing what’s going to happen ahead of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:02 PM
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You are the only one (feels like) who talks about his expression when he walks back to his seat. I watched that and immediately was like, THis is a terribly acted staged "incident" because he 100% looks like he can't hide his grin! I thought he was grinning because this was a scripted thing, not because he wanted Jada's approval, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:19 PM
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We didn't need to read all the way to socialite for the red flag parade to show up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 10:56 PM
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Ah gotcha, that part really confused the heck outta me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:41 PM
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I’m... socialite. We both like to stay home and do our hobbies and save money. How're you a socialite AND a homebody??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:37 PM
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Found Atlas’s alt!! I was wondering where you were lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:58 PM
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This is just as disingenuous, in-bad-faith, and dumb as any other post that attempts to recast the opposite gender's dating grievances. I don't think the bulk of people here are saying a member of the opposite sex must be open to dating a person who has every single subpar characteristic one can think of. That's just BS. What I've seen is short guys saying women will not be open to dating a short guy even if he has other well-above-average characteristics; a virgin saying women won't date other …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 06:59 PM
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Red Pillers are those men (mainly) who took their mothers'/grandmas' and specific Hollywood BS as the Truth, somehow missed alllll the contrary shit happening around them while growing up which the rest of us normies absorbed, and then got hit with Reality. Couldn't take it and went straight to the other extreme. Nice = spineless; Confident = asshole. The healthy middle doesn't exist for them because they're maladjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:49 PM
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..... yes, like I said, I don't notice any drop in quality lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:41 PM
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Disagree, I don't notice any drop in quality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:36 PM
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First time I saw your pic, I didn't know anything about you. I thought you were a tanned Turkish or Moroccan guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:35 PM
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Dude is latino (right u/Yukbghhjj ?)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:17 PM
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I can link you next time a PPD woman says something like that if you want Please do, I'm curious now. The married women I regularly see here haven't flexed about their husbands that way, as far as I know. u/Orange_Paisley u/SmurfESmurferson u/simeneta_two u/philomexa u/quabbicoo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:09 PM
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I’m surprised because I haven’t seen any married woman here claim her husband is an actual Chad. Whenever someone has, she’s used it ironically or subjectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:55 AM
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You think all the married women here are bragging that we all have Chad husbands?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:08 AM
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I don’t think I’ve seen a single married woman here call her husband a “Chad” except ironically to poke fun of how the men here use “Chad.” The married women just say they’re happy with their subjectively awesome husbands and tell bitter men that non-Chads can still find happiness, like their own husbands have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 12:56 AM
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you gon die Maybe I'll just do a Chibs Bingo instead
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 12:05 AM
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And also because the kind of women these loud obnoxious toxic guys attract a very different type of women. The quietly assertive guy targets another type. The latter type of guy will not be happy with the former type of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:04 PM
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I'm gonna take a shot everytime you say the following: "situationship" "MMA/UFC" "obese" "we fucked" :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:38 PM
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There will always be "some people" who take any issue to the extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:36 PM
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Every single thing is now toxic masculinity? Your male SO paying for your dates isn't toxic masculinity, but if he tells you you emasculated him if you ever paid for one of those dates, then that's toxic masculinity. I have no idea what "valuing femininity" means though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:21 PM
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How ever will you survive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:04 PM
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How can anyone in Seattle not have PTSD from Bertha's misadventures lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 07:09 PM
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U Hole: New business idea
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 07:03 PM
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Don't get forget slut/hoe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:54 PM
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Please post about your meetup! That'd be awesome and likely wholesome, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:13 PM
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Post pic of doggo please! I'm looking forward to a day of nothing, until a double date sushi dinner in the evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:10 PM
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I think Matt Sec left because he couldn't take you flirting with other guys in front of him anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:09 PM
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A very close friend of mine went out of their way, dropping $4K, on a French bulldog puppy. He's very cute but poor guy has had to be rushed into the vet and ER, and operated on his heart, almost monthly after his first birthday. This same couple is offended by the tagline "Adopt, don't shop." I really really love them, they're really lovely people, but this one... I just can't get behind. I just smile and play nice all the while I'm like, this poor dog...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 10:25 PM
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Default sentiment is I'm flattered. If it's in a close professional setting, discomfort about what this might mean going forward. If it's a disrespectful cold approach, blunted disgust and fatigue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 07:32 PM
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There are basically no female "chubby chasers" I'm from a different generation and when I was dating, a LOT of women actively sought out the "teddy bear" guy. Look up the American Idol Reuben Stoddard (or something like that), he was coined The Velvet Teddy Bear and women found him attractive. Generally speaking neither gender is attracted to fat people, but there sure are tons of women who're into chubby guys. They just don't call those guys "fat," instead saying things like they "like their me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:00 PM
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This makes perfect sense. It's also the same approach for women only looking to sleep with men; personality/compatibility/kindheartedness etc don't matter if the guy's good looking. But we expect more for LTRs and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:54 PM
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Yea this makes sense to me and tracks with my personal experience. Which is why it's surprising to hear so many men here say men don't care about a woman's personality, as long as she is attractive and young.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:52 PM
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I thought men don’t care about personality? Or is it just the RP & black pilled men who don’t care?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:30 PM
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Same, and real early too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:01 PM
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This is exactly why I don't understand why guys need(ed) TRP to learn that taller, conventionally better looking men, with higher status, got girls more. I mean, the dumb-but-hot jock getting the girl over the "kind" nerd has existed throughout every western boy's growing years. How did they miss that and instead just fall for their moms and grandmoms giving them platitudes about girls wanting ugly men? And then swinging to the other extreme, turning resentful bitter angry douchebags.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:56 PM
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That was just embarrassing . But I don't believe for a second that Cruz is that stupid, I think he's just playing up to his base.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:37 AM
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Oh that, lol I have no idea as well. Maybe that douche thought you were implicitly asking him for advice on how to be more of an asshole like him (your comment said you needed more than just casual sex). Dude decided he was gonna be a Sex Guru and dispense advice to all the youngins out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:38 AM
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Like... you know most people manage to do all of this while being kind? These people typically tend to be the ones who thought being kind was being a doormat. So when they were get taken advantage of frequently, they swing to the other extreme. These people have no concept of a healthy middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:01 AM
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It's the difference between being a healthy well-adjusted individual with empathy for others while asserting your own boundaries and... not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:45 PM
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In my experience, it's men. But I think only by a bit. But it's also been my experience that it's overwhelmingly the men who want more children and the women who do not. So equal amounts of men and women (maybe slightly more men) want their first kid. But overwhelmingly it's the women who refuse to go on to have the next while the men want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:26 PM
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People here successfully convinced me that I shouldn't dismiss a guy not paying on the first date and that splitting should be fine. So this sub has changed my mind on at least one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:31 PM
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Someone pointed out that CMV as used here isn't Change My View, it's Challenge My View.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:04 PM
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What's a view you'd like me to change my mind about?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:03 PM
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There is an ideal order to how life is supposed to play out. The relationship part of it is ideally established when the fringes of the ideal life structure There is a lot of reference to "the ideal" life. There's no such universal ideal. We all work out our own ideal lifestyle and then work towards achieving that. There is a metric ton of hubris when you assert there's "the" ideal. Ironically, you mention "feminine hubris" in another comment, I'm not sure what exactly feminine hubris is and how…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:53 PM
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I actually find these posts quite pathetic. Lol right? Especially when she says: The single people around you ... have packed their lives so full with career, social obligations, and kids that a new relationship is nice, but secondary to everything else they now have going on as an adult. Like career, having a social life and commitments, and children are all somehow bad things?! And the cherry on top: ... a relationship forged in the "finding yourself" stage of life and the most important indic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:54 PM
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What kind of a person doesn’t consider their spouse a family member? You know our entire society is set up to treat your spouse as your #1 family member? That’s why the entire probate and medical fields automatically look to one’s spouse for next steps. It’s just crazy, even for this sub, that this question is even being asked whether a spouse is considered a family member.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:15 PM
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Yea I mostly agree and that's why I included that last sentence. But this user is very traditional and conservative, and she represents the mentality of that side that a marriage without kids is not a "real family" or is less-than. Which is why I said what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:16 PM
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How do you "capitulate" if you leave? The secure type may provide a secure base for the anxious folks, but only for a short while, and then the secures will leave. After that whatever the anxious chooses to do is up to them. Both avoidant and anxious are unstable attachment styles and not something to aspire to either way. The secure is the healthiest option but it's also the most difficult because, as humans, we all have our struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:14 PM
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I'm not insecure, I'm feeling disrespected. You seem to suggest a marriage isn't a family without kids? So my husband is not my family member? People choosing to be scientists or business people is different expressions of Profession the same as a childfree couple is a different expression of being a Family. Lol I'm not fighting against the world by engaging with folks here on PPD. This is a debate/discussion sub, not a place I come to for advice on how to live my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:12 PM
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The secure will leave the anxious unless they change. That's why secure attachment is rare; it's the closest to "perfection" and so harder to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:50 PM
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Hahaa what? So my marriage with just me and my husband is less-than because we don't have kids? I don't get your analogy there. My only point up top was that I took umbrage at the user using family to only mean having kids. I don't need anyone telling me my family doesn't really count as a family or that it's less-than because we chose not to have kids. I don't have anything against parents (as you can see from my other comments in this very thread) but I expect the same respect returned to me a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:49 PM
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My husband and I are also a family, thanks very much
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:41 PM
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I mean I kinda agree with you that a childfree lifestyle comes with significant perks, but I also wouldn't put down the fulfilling and happy lives parents leads because of their children. To each their own, both are valid choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:29 PM
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It's honestly insulting that you think only kids = family. I'm childfree but have a husband, parents, siblings, grandparents, etc. All of that is family. I know you didn't mean to dismiss my situation though, so all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:50 PM
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Kids are a fundamental issue and my parent-friends find so much joy and fulfillment from their kids. But I've not come across people (men or women) who say they wouldn't know what to do with their lives without kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:28 PM
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That's how you know you got yourself a man with no imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:23 PM
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Those people who need religion to be good are sus. Like, why do you need to be dictated by an entity to not be a shit? You can't on your own be nice and kind to others? Fucking 'tards.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 05:07 PM
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Especially men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 02:37 PM
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Not religious at all and a guy being religious is an easy dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 01:31 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 10:02 PM
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What on earth is rice-cel??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:55 PM
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Better to catch him cheating on me with a man. Worse than not cheating at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:54 PM
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Men should be comforted, not only by women but also by other men. But regardless they should find emotional support and comfort. But these men should also not dismiss women wanting comfort over solutions. or if they do so, they shouldn't label the women who are solution-minded as unfeminine and bitch about them. women are disgusted to have to provide it. Not in the least. If that's been your experience, then something about you draws these awful women to you. Good men attract good women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:50 PM
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You're spot on that most men want women in their lives to offer them comfort over a problem instead of a solution. These same men will scoff at women not wanting to be offered a solution vs. just being acknowledged/validated when sharing a problem. But these men will also condemn a solution-oriented woman to be unfeminine and unattractive. Thankfully some men aren't like that and also times are a-changin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:00 PM
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No, just no. Don't give into defeatism. Just about everyone has value and appeal. You're far from a "game over" whatever shit that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 07:49 PM
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5 servings of fruit a day....
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 07:48 PM
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This is a fantastic idea. Estonia has been teaching coding in their schools for almost a decade now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:39 PM
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Costanza was the best part of that show. I'll fight anyone on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:37 PM
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Haha I literally just linked to this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:34 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/LVodTLKYhjJcKWVWA
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:33 PM
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Far from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:47 PM
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Oh ok, guess they're looking for "exciting" good looking men rather than stable but boring and normal looking guys. That seems to happen quite a bit with women who're still single at 35. It's rough out there for both genders beyond a certain age limit honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:05 PM
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They don't now wish they had had their kids 10 years ago though. And it's not like they didn't know at 25 that they could have kids then and have 10 extra years with them. My parent-friends had careers, travels, freedom of schedule, etc throughout their 20s, which they wouldn't have had with kids at 25. They're very happy with their choice of timeline for their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:53 PM
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As a childfree woman that doesn't sound too bad lol But yea, I see what you mean. Pretty much all of my parent-friends chose to have their kids only in their 30s though, the loss of 10 years with their kids doesn't bother them. They chose to use those 10 years on other things that they found more fulfilling. Just a different mindset even among those who chose to be parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:37 PM
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You're only 26, why're you in such a rush to have kids? Wait. But if I remember you, you have some major issues you need to work on before you'll be a good candidate for a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:25 PM
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Oh gosh you misunderstood me or rather I worded my comment poorly! I wasn't saying or implying AA men are unattractive. I was just saying they're usually not "pretty" in a ""pretty boy" metrosexual/slightly effeminate way. The reason I used "pretty" was because you said: I remember her saying something to the effect of women wanting men that are “pretty.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:21 PM
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Not black :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:11 PM
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Were these AA women only wanting hot and pretty AA men or were they open to others? I don't think there are too many "pretty" AA men but perhaps I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:53 PM
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These influencers are generally shifty as hell to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:28 AM
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That 6 year ongoing divorce thing is an instant dealbreaker not only for a relationship but even for a first date
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:27 AM
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Judgmental religious folks are *barf*
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:23 AM
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Why tf is the divorce in a western country especially, dragging on for 6 years? There's got to be some messy shit there. No man involved in that will be my ideal in every single way. Now if you said the parents decided to file for divorce after a year for a very good reason and we met and dated during that one year, and he then files for divorce, I'd still most likely not date him. Because as a childfree person, I dislike the idea of dating a parent more than I like the idea of dating this perfe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:20 AM
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Ah gotcha, thanks for the context regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:47 AM
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I find people use the word "dote" in a particular way that's not really about loving someone. "Dote" is used to convey an expectation of being pampered and coddled and the men who "dote" either seek out submissive women whom they'll pamper/coddle in unhealthy ways OR men who put the woman on a pedestal. If your understanding of the usage of "dote" is different, then what I said doesn't apply. The princess part is defo 100% cringey. Spoiling one's partner in a relationship isn't treating them lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:46 AM
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I didn't have an issue with the adore her part of the equation, it was the princess and "dote on her" parts that I found cringey
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:41 AM
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I love this insight into her, thanks for providing that! Were/Are you a journo or media professional?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:36 AM
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Trust me you don't want the kind of guy who'll "adore you like a princess." You'll lose respect for that guy in no time. It's also quite boring being treated like you're royalty or some such. A relationship where each one treats the other like an equal is so much better on pretty much every level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:22 AM
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Yea very possible, but I don't want to just assume. If this lady is so popular, shouldn't there be info out there about her clientele? Her target demographic, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:21 AM
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• great personality, like will dote on me LOL Can't tell if your list is just you doing your tongue in cheek usual stuff or genuine list
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:50 PM
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If they don't have any of my dealbreakers, 70% is quite workable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:44 PM
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What kinda guy you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:42 PM
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We're all making comments flying blind here. The missing critical information is who her clients are. Without that context, we have no way to find out what the issue was with the women's expectations and how that reflects on the women themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:41 PM
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BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder, not Bipolar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:37 PM
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The bankers I knew/know don't touch coke but they are the ones who didn't need to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:18 PM
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Haahahah this is hilarious!!! Literally no one thinks bankers are boring. Accountants and tax professionals, sure. And who tf thinks teaching is an exciting job?!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:57 PM
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Lol no it's not. Let's not pretend like there aren't shitty ass women out there, just like there are shitty men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:51 PM
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Turkish/middle eastern food is so good. Dammit you got me craving some right now but I'd have to wait till mid week at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:40 PM
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I don't get the ire either. It just makes sense to find compatibility elsewhere if one isn't finding it locally. A lot of East asian women are actively choosing not to date their own nationality men because they're tired of the gender expectations. They shouldn't be stigmatized for doing that. The issue largely is if western men actively pursue poor and/or submissive women and then exploit them. If they're not mistreating the women, it's a win-win for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:28 PM
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Lol not a bad way to assess one's pill category
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:24 PM
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I like your take. Why're you blue pilled?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:19 PM
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It applies to any guy over 5'6" for me; I'm barely 5'1" so pretty much every guy's height is just fine for me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:15 PM
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The skinny guy in your pic is still toned. I have a preference for the guy on the right, my ideal is a lean and fit guy (think a swimmer's physique) but I find the skinny guy on the left very very attractive as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:43 PM
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The one of the right is muscular/lean, not skinny. The one on the left (the one with glasses), if you leave out his arms, is skinny but not scrawny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:33 PM
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Does he have a wide upper body...? He looks fairly vertical to me, maybe a slight wideness up top. But yea, the ideal is still wider shoulder and a narrower torso. Btw, I'm not the person who said those guys are muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:51 PM
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so are obese men more attractive than skinny men? Not for me personally, that's why I find my skinny husband attractive, but for many women, they'd prefer a bigger guy than a skinny one. For them, a fit guy > chubby guy. skinny guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:44 PM
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A skinny American man is looked at as weak, soyboy, etc. A skinny American woman is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:42 PM
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Probably Adrien Brody
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:38 PM
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That’s exactly what I thought and said, but someone else said it’s probably not her. I’m not convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:59 AM
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In OP's case, that 10% is her husband being allowed to have "concubines." So I wouldn't go nuts for she has to say about western relationships (even though she has other western-compatible opinions).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:38 AM
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In a country where most people are overweight, and a good chunk (pun intended) are straight up obese, being skinny is not gonna do you any favors. This is especially so for men because in American, the women themselves are significantly overweight, and no woman wants to be bigger than her guy. That said, my husband is skinny as hell, but so am I.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:35 AM
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I remember you, you're cute :) Thanks again for your lovely words, have a wonderful week ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:15 AM
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I want to visit Vietnam someday. I live for pho on a rainy day and love your your cuisine in general (assuming you're Vietnamese).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:13 AM
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Ok then ask yourself what the common pattern is between all those men and women who have symmetrical relationships. What are the differences between you and those men? What are those women like?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:39 PM
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Date Polish or Eastern European women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:27 PM
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Where do you live? What's the culture in that area?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:21 PM
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Attract the type of woman who is more empathetic, less traditional, and is capable of listening to what the guy she's dating wants from her
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:11 PM
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It's never great to have a graphic visual of your SO with someone else, but aside from that awkwardness I wouldn't really feel anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:01 PM
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No need to get defensive, I clearly said that I dislike texting subjectively, not that objectively texting is bad. Secondly, you said texting throughout the day, which to me means texting at least 10-20 times a day. Not just a couple of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:14 PM
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I dislike texting except for planning logistics to meet in person. When I had boyfriends I'd be actively irritated if they texted throughout the day, like, do you not have anything going on?! But I also belong to a different generation so my view may be off kilter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:05 PM
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Wow thank you! I didn't think anyone here even knew who I am
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:17 PM
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Lucky! Are you like in Florida or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:03 PM
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I think Jim is someplace in Uk/EU but the German guy is a different user. He's great. "Guitar" or some such handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:24 PM
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Hahaha I'm flattered. But it's the Universal Truth that mapo tofu is The Bomb.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:22 PM
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Not once did I say I value a marriage in which the wife is in charge. The fact you think equality between sexes means the woman being in charge says a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:21 PM
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For those fork-in-road situations, sometimes woman chooses to have husband decide and sometimes husband yields to wife. That's what I said in my comment above. The key I think to a good partnership if for the women to focus on finding such a powerful, wonderful man, who is such a great and trusted leader that she willingly (and even gratefully) gives him the leadership position. And she trusts him with it as long as he is a good faithful and loyal leader. Barf No self respecting woman will agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 12:21 AM
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Go to the American South, women not "making a plate" for their man in small towns is judged harshly. Another one is women who choose to have careers while also being moms or women who don't really like kids. They're judged for not fulfilling their feminine imperative. Where I live, toxic masculinity is commonly understood as "boys don't cry" "men need to be the higher earner or he's emasculated" etc. That's also the origin of that phrase. I can't speak to how others around you use it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 12:00 AM
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Toxic femininity applies in traditionally female contexts, like motherhood, treatment of husband, housekeeping, remembering people's birthdays etc. So an example of toxic femininity is when a woman is judged harshly for not serving her husband/making a plate for him because she has failed in her femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:47 PM
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She's gorgeous, way beyond cute. I rated her and #6 8-8.5/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:45 PM
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Ohhh her face and body don't line up in my head! She's BUILT but her face seems like it would belong on a very slender/willowy body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:37 PM
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Was $5 nessae? Or was she #1??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:33 PM
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she is not weak or of lesser value she may actually be of greater skill and value than the CEO, this is really not uncommon Right but the tiebreaker is still the CEO. You can equivocate here but on one hand say she's not of lesser value but on the other say she doesn't call the shots. If I have to know that I'll be heard, I'll be acknowledged, I'll be valued but that if there ever is a disagreement, my opinion may be disregarded, is a tough one to live with. A better relationship dynamic is one …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 10:03 PM
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You mean the salesman has a wedding ring or that I do? Either way it makes no difference to me. I'll buy from whomever offers the best price for the product I want and is professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 09:27 PM
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Which arm of the military were you in? I had 2 groups of military folks that I hung out with pre-pandemic. One group was an ex-airforce academy student who got married to an active duty Marine (but he wasn't "in the field" .. if that makes sense?). That airforce academy girl dropped out and went to law school instead, which is how I met her. Her close friends were 2 air force officers, who were married to each other. My husband and I would triple date with all of them until they got stationed to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 09:00 PM
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Those people you know now...are they currently in the military or out? Because most of the time when pressed its 'active duty' military people that are off limits, specifically because of the constant travel and uprooting of lives every few years. A lot of women I've dated didn't know I was military until I said something because they were using stereotypes based upon the shitty stories of cheating and abuse. Split between active and civilian. I met all of them after I got married and they thems…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:51 PM
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I just don't get #3's appeal even though I know she has above average features. She looks like a very good looking cartoon cat cosplaying as a girl. But then again, I'm a straight woman so perhaps the hetero men have different standards in evaluating attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:44 PM
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#5 gives me major Betty (from Archie) vibes; she's gorgeous in a girl-next-door wholesome way. #6 is a bit more like Veronica, hot and sassy manner of gorgeous. #2 and #3 don't even look real to me although they're attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:42 PM
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I saw #1 and while I thought she was attractive, not close to being very pretty or the most attractive of all. Loved her dress though!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:40 PM
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Of all the women, 3 is the one that caught your eye? I'm a bit surprised by the ratings honestly. To me, women #5 & #6 are absolutely gorgeous. Without seeing their bodies I'd rate them both 8-9/10 honestly. #3 looks like a cartoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:20 PM
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I'd probably still take a 8/10 looks with 9/10 personality. But I agree with your sentiment of diminishing returns past a threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:17 PM
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you cant prove the opposite either That's correct, but that's why I'm not here making claims which I can't prove. If you're claiming women generally disguise their needs as wants you should back up that claim. The same way if I come in claiming women speak directly and plainly, I'd need to back up that claim. I can't do that and that's why I shut my mouth on this. I know what is acceptable to me and have made those my requirements. Of course and I don't mean to question that (although I'm about …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:10 PM
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So generally speaking women disguise their requirements as preferences? Is this your personal experience or scientifically studied phenomenon? It's been my experience that any person, man or woman, struggles to articulate their needs or wants in the abstract. And even when they do articulate it, when they meet a specific individual, there's a reassessment that's run which can recalibrate those criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 05:39 PM
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It's fair to say that when you encounter a woman who tells you or whom you corner into admitting this. But you came into this thread assuming that and started off accusing the women on this sub of doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 05:24 PM
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You don't need to justify any of your requirements or preferences, my point was only that what you're looking for isn't "the bare minimum." So telling women we have unrealistic requirements/preferences while you, as a man, are oh so noble and will be happy with "just the bare minimum" is a shit take. I've interacted with you many times and even chatted with you privately, you're better than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 05:16 PM
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By definition preferences aren't nonnegotiable. Nonnegotiables are called deadlbreakers. Preferences are just bonus things. One of your "bare minimums" is a huge issue; most people want kids. That one alone will considerably shrink your pool. And I'm not even gonna touch the obese thing given just how many people in the US are fat. But I'm not sure what your idea of obese is; a medically obese person looks like an overweight American because of how fat all of America is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:23 PM
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Ah ok
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:18 PM
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I don't think that's what toxic masculinity means. It means things like if you have a mental health issue like depression or whatever it is, don't let your masculinity stop you from seeing a therapist. If you're having issues in your marriage, don't let your masculinity stop you from seeing a marriage counselor. If you're overcome with grief, don't let your masculinity stop you from crying or sharing your emotions. If your wife makes more than you, don't feel "emasculated" by that. And so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:59 PM
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I’m like 99% sure that’s gimp’s alt trying out an iteration of gimp
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 02:16 PM
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Doing God's work, danke!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:10 AM
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Same, I really wanna see but not gonna get discord
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:53 AM
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I honestly don't wanna get on Discord. It's just one more thing to distract my ADHD brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:25 AM
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I don't mean submitting your pic, I meant I'm too old for downloading and/or getting into Discord
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:21 AM
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u/figuringMylife can you please post on this sub so grandmas like me can be included?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:15 AM
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Don't call yourself old man, I'm a decade older than you!! I'm not ready to embrace grandmahood yet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:41 AM
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ME love to go along with gender roles for white men tho Really?? That's not cool
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:37 AM
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Not too late to corrupt yourself though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:32 AM
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Look at that face!!!! That's a gorgeous squishy baby, not senior looking at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:08 AM
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That's not you though, you don't really follow strict gender rules
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 01:08 AM
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Gotcha, thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:47 AM
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It only benefits us if women cook, clean and do all that gender roles stuff I think I understand why ME women won't date other ME men and have to forcibly marry them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:43 AM
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Please post here, I'm not getting on discord
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:42 AM
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I don't see why the feminist guy is bad at all, and even if bad, equally as bad as RP men who think women are the oldest teenager in the household
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:35 AM
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Those men are just bitter about their dating experiences and will project this bitterness, or their one encounter with one bitchy woman, onto all because they're emotionally fragile and immature. You're not really going to change their minds, they aren't here to have their minds changed, and ultimately no one loses except those bitter idiots. Let them be and just much some popcorn and enjoy the PPD drama. That's what I'm here for.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:18 AM
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I don't think men are more shallow than women. Men and women are just shallow about different things or on the same things but to different degrees. (I swear I'm a feminist, don't revoke my card) The men in my life are also not like that. My husband, brother, dad, close guy friends, all respect and chose women who're high achievers academically and professionally. This is a given. But I know of a lot of other men for whom the yardstick is different, especially if they struggle with dating in one…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:52 PM
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What does an RP man mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:34 PM
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That was purely a tongue in cheek bitchy remark, I don't fully mean that. But I will say this. Men generally are okay marrying less-smart women as long as other traits line up; women are not. You'll only hear women say they want to marry their best friend; men don't think of spouses that way. If it happens, great, but they're not looking for their best friend or an intellectual companion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:32 PM
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Don't you find it hard to connect to Latinos on the intellectual and humor level Don't ask dumb questions. These men don't care about dating or marrying an intelligent women with whom they can have intellectual conversations and witty banter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:22 PM
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Danke
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 11:05 PM
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Brad Pitt to me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:51 PM
1

Your funeral
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:48 PM
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Go away I'm seriously post wall
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:31 PM
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Toxic Woman (TM) hath arrived u/lulll Not pleased to meet you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:25 PM
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Thank you, I'm besotted and love to show him off any chance I create Would love to see your baby too
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:11 PM
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Samesies
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:57 PM
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Agree (although maybe not at the funeral of her relative or close friend; other funerals are fair game). What's the worst she's gonna say, you're creepy? So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:52 PM
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Yay cat poops! u/MrsDrgree can you create a PPD pet thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:50 PM
2

You make a good point. As usual, so much of dating and relationship issues stem from issues around class and SES.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:45 PM
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Sometimes the reactions here make me feel like the crazy one when saying what really seems like basic rational thought to me. That's because you actually have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:27 PM
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Entirely believable but then he should've written out a contract to ensure loan repayment terms, etc. Basically protect your investment one way or another. I don't see how, in a society where everyone knows a relationship may result in a break up and assets aren't protected in these relationships, people can put in disproportionate effort/investment of resources. I mean, there's being kind and supportive by picking up more household duties or gifting the girlfriend a more expensive birthday pres…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:21 PM
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I obviously hadn't :) In my mind, Canada = Toronto/Vancouver; NYC = Manhattan; CA = SFO/LA/OC; all with enough money to live it up and enjoy those places.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:17 PM
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A boyfriend. I don't respect people who don't have and maintain healthy boundaries. Taking out loans to help a girlfriend fulfill her dream is not healthy boundaries. I feel the same way about a girlfriend who goes over and cleans and cooks for her boyfriend. It's not gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:15 PM
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If my BF had even suggested taking out a loan for my benefit, I'd instantly lose respect for him and end the relationship. I wouldn't exploit the guy's resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:02 PM
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I'd love to have your geographic life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:00 PM
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Well, if you really want to know....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:48 PM
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I don't think there's a guarantee or even a likelihood that the beneficiary, regardless of gender, will leave. But one must treat it as if they might and accordingly maintain one's own boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:47 PM
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You're in Canada?? I always thought you were in CA
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:45 PM
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She's trash but that BF is a chump. How idiotic must you be to take out loans and put in extra shifts at work to support, not a wife or even fiancee, but a girlfriend?! This is the gender-flipped version of "Don't perform wifely duties for a bf."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:37 PM
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Yes. It's as bad as dating a dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:09 PM
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I don't think people, men and women, should be parents at 25. 27-28 should be the minimum threshold, and maximum should be 40 (and that is if the doc approves of that age). I will heartily support health initiatives especially so if we're targeting kids. Once obesity sets in at a young age it's significantly harder to overcome it and it leads to a host of other issues building on top of that. None of which is positive for the individual in question or the society at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:49 PM
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Jax was cool, his dog is so adorable. Haven't seen Jax in a while now that you mention him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:54 PM
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Yea, the folks I listed are not RP, which is why I prefaced by saying: "I get along most with the purple ones and the rare blues."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:48 PM
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Do you have any PPD male faves and why I like many of the guys here. A lot of men here aren't necessarily RP or Black Pill. I get along most with the purple ones and the rare blues. u/WestsideMoonWalker is awesome. I liked Razormachine a lot, Matt Sec is very cool, WilliamWyatt's ramblings are interesting, u/decoy88 injects much needed common sense, etc etc. Tons of PPD men are good and cool guys who I know I will like hanging with IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:32 PM
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He's legit. He's just from a very different part of the world so his tone and message are "too respectful" for the Westerners, who're used to a more casual and sometimes brash, manner of speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:28 PM
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Which other guy, the Godspeed guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:22 PM
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Approval always carries a connotation of a power differential. I seek approval from my boss or mentor in the professional context. I might seek the approval of a fellow hobbyist if they are way better than me at that hobby. I seek the approval of a native French person if I'm learning the French language. If you're seeing women want a guy's approval in the dating context, what you're seeing are women who are chasing guys they themselves think are "better" than them. That's why your mind automati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:20 PM
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Oh phew I thought you meant pedos because figuring mentioned pedos as well in her comment. Seeing virgins on this sub isn't too surprising given we have folks coming in from conservative parts of the world too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:16 PM
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Is WilliamWyat red pilled? He seems cool. There's another red piller who always signs off with "Godspeed and good luck" or some such, he's great too. Most RP men here fail to meet the "good faith" part.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:10 PM
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If by approval you mean reciprocal love, then sure. But that's not what approval actually means, and it most certainly doesn't mean that in the context of interpersonal relationships. You're not a narcissist but your autism is definitely showing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:07 PM
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You know 3 pedos on this sub??? WHO!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:01 PM
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I was with you until you said wanting a romantic relationship with a man (as a straight woman) is wanting male approval. It's not male approval I seek, it's romantic love, emotional intimacy, and lifelong companionship. Wanting to share my life with a guy is nowhere like wanting male approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:55 PM
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Sweet Jesus no
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:48 PM
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I'd pull back a little but be sure not to come off as sullen
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:46 PM
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That's crazy. A perfect temperature bubble bath, candles, a good book/tv/movie, and a bottle of vino is heaven. especially this time of year.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 05:11 AM
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It's 100% morally wrong, it's pathetic, and I've never once even been tempted to do it. But oddly enough, during my dating days (so like 15 years ago) 2 of my guy friends were pushing me to do this with other guys who were into me, although I said I wasn't into it. They thought I was being silly and "too moral" because they all knew girls who did this and accepted it as "the cost of doing business."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:56 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/AC2MWoEnnhhdjxJQ6
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:35 AM
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Jeez you've successfully nagged me on this! You gotta follow a couple of threads though and piece things together (it's what I did): https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/tej1u7/comment/i0te9fe/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/tej1u7/comment/i0x9rjw/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:30 AM
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Gotta put in the effort, on PPD or IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:53 AM
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Adorable AF. The first is a maine coon kitten I assume? My guy is a chonkier version of one of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:53 AM
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Post pics of your cats/kittens pls!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:43 AM
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Nope not gonna bait me Bandit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:42 AM
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Jesus I never thought of that, that really makes me so sad. I have a male cat, indoor only, and city folk where I live just spay/neuter as a matter of fact. So it wasn't even a question for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:35 AM
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You don't make a post about woe-is-me-I-give-up and answer snarkily or be obnoxious when asked about your own post which you chose to make
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:32 AM
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Make sure to get that punctuation in, otherwise BAN
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:23 AM
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What's wlw?? The place I'm in has quite a few lesbians and they're not awkward or wrecks IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:10 AM
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She really isn't that self-aware. When asked by a commenter what she brings to the table, she gets defensive and evades the question. Her post reads more like seeking validation that she's not the problem, she actually has bare minimum standards, and that it's the menfolk who're pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:09 AM
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More like socially awkward, anxiety-ridden, socially maladjusted, nervous wrecks
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:56 AM
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She did! This morning. u/GridReXX I'm defending your honor, please chime in
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:35 AM
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Maybe Grid will ban you because you challenged her about your, ahem, group.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:55 PM
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Mrs Drgree won't ban you because you're a Chad and we know how women break rules for Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:52 PM
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Nice, travel and romance. Win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:43 PM
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Seinfeld is very very "based." (I hope I'm using it right). So are a lot of sitcoms from the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:34 PM
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America is the land of Business, so literally everything has profit motive. This includes kids' health. It's fucked up but no one can do anything because you're trapped between corporations being granted personhood which gives them freedom of speech and because of the way elections are run, they fund the very legislators who should be holding the corporations accountable and protecting the people's interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:30 PM
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How was your Peru/Colombia/?? adventure? You flew over just to meet a specific person right? Did it work out?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:46 PM
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100% agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:45 PM
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This convo about HVM between you and u/houstongradengineer is the classic male-female divide over what HVM actually means. From what I've seen, guys here think only the 6666 are HVM and that's why they keep telling the women that HVM will cheat or treat women poorly because they have too many options. Women on the other hand think of HVM as a respectful guy, whom she personally finds attractive, sexually satisfies her, has a decent and stable job (6 figs not required), won't cheat on her/remains…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:40 PM
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What'd you get banned for, spill!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:32 PM
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What else do you expect in a country which actually debated whether pizza is a vegetable. Also why tf are school kids even being served pizza as lunch? Beyond a certain point, the combination of free speech, capitalism, and a lack of robust campaign finance reform, is bound to create a shitshow. But I swear assortative mating is still working as usual. Fat people are coupling up and fit people are coupling up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:09 PM
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find someone to help you litigate Nah lawyers are fuckers and I'll have nothing to do with them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:50 PM
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But you see, it's only women lawyers who are awful and impossible to have a relationship with. Male lawyers, like Alda himself is, are perfectly lovely people and relationship partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:05 PM
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I'm absolutely 100% offended you didn't think of list me as a nice lawyer. I just want you to know you have ruined the rest of my day because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:04 PM
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Before I answer, here's some relevant background. I'm in my forties and been married 10+ years. All my dating was pre-Tinder and in the very beginning stages of OLD (OKCupid, Match.com, etc). So I mostly dated people I was around in person. I'm also a lawyer, so between law school and private practice, rarely came into contact with anyone who wasn't a law student or a lawyer. My family and extended social circles are also all white collar professionals and/or academics. I simply never came into …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:19 PM
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Probably the former but it's hard to say. I've literally not once even gone out on a date with anyone not white collar (or in school to be a white collar professional).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:58 PM
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It's what I'm used to, it's what I myself am, and I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:45 PM
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I was just exploring your thought process around this issue, not trying to shame or persuade you to think differently :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:36 PM
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u/sarkington also never said anything about hatred. Just a list of professions they consider red flags or dealbreakers, same as your list listing the same things for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:34 PM
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I don't know how you got misandry when the premise is choosing men (or women, if you're a man) to date. Your list includes aesthetic industry, therapy industry, and hospitality industry. Each of them is largely considered a pink industry the same way blue collar and law enforcement are considered male-dominated industries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:20 PM
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I asked because there are a couple of things at play here. A law grad may lack ambition/drive to grind it out in private practice/inhouse or may not value that track instead valuing a societal contribution more. In either case, their talent/intelligence may not be in question. I know a few lawyers who went into nonprofits or chose to work with various bar associations instead of the more well-trodden private practice/inhouse route. Six figures won'e typically feature until at least their 5th-7th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:17 PM
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Any men with "jobs" vs. a career. It's got to be white collar.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:08 PM
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You have a pretty long list yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:07 PM
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You wouldn't date a professional graduate who chooses to work in a nonprofit (assuming that job doesn't pay 6 figures)?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:06 PM
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Hit it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:04 PM
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Hahaha no he's too much of a workaholic to have that kinda time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:41 PM
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If Stacey = Angelina Jolie in her prime or ScarJo or any top tier Hollywood actress in their prime, it's impossible. If Stacey = an attractive girl you can ordinarily meet out at bars or parties on a Friday night, it's quite attainable, especially if you're MC+.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:32 PM
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Really?? Hmm maybe I should appreciate hubby a bit more. He takes a couple of hours out every week and grooms himself without me even asking him. He shops twice a year after evaluating his wardrobe/shoes/socks each time. This is after being married 10+ years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:26 PM
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Reddit women mostly. But I have heard of other women mention not shaving their legs throughout winter because they only wear pants and their legs aren't exposed. But those were not girly girls and were pretty uncommon in my twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:15 PM
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If that were the case I'd say the same thing about him that I did about her. If the guy stopped grooming, let his hair get all messed up, wore stained clothing even on date nights, etc, he's a schlub and his wife has every justification to give him a talking to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:03 PM
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I’m on the guy’s side on this issue. Both spouses need to put in effort and not take the other, or the relationship, for granted. Also any abrupt unilateral changes in a relationship require discussion, acknowledgement, and validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:45 PM
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Lots of links, thanks for that! I couldn't dive into most (PPD isn't really my job despite how much time I spend here) but: - the first link said assortative mating is the norm. - Third link sets out the below observation, where the "abstainers" were the "good guys" Abstainers were originally defined as males with no more than one antisocial problem at any assessment age from 5 to 18 years, ac-cording to all reporters. As adults the *abstainer men had virtually no crime or diagnosable mental dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:59 AM
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I don't have a scientific basis to back up my opinion. Do you have one to prove most women want those types of men? I was just making an observation based on my personal experience. it's purely anecdotal which is why it's just a comment on the daily chat instead of a full blown post.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 12:11 AM
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People growing up in abusive households or having abusive relationships is representative...?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:23 PM
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I don't know the vast majority of hot women and I doubt you do either. If you can back up that the vast majority of hot women like dark triad men and toxicity in their relationships, then it's up to you to back up that claim. Talking about fringe people like sex workers or abused women isn't cutting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 10:14 PM
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My friends and I are normal women. Not once have we wanted cheap thrills in relationships and fake fighting sounds exhausting. None of us has ever even thought of dating felons or drug dealers or thugs. That simply wasn't on our radar. Which is why I say I don't get PPD men when they paint normal average women as though we want those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 10:04 PM
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I go with Rouse/Douse; R and D are more often used than M. Arise is another of my favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:50 PM
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They most certainly aren't "bad people" but they're also not representative of normal average women. Unless of course most PPD men here want to date and wife up sex workers and are disappointed that those women prefer drug dealers and felons etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:46 PM
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Just wanted to say you, Peaches, Westside, and some of the other men on this sub are such sane and healthy people. I appreciate all of your input that goes a lot way to offsetting the toxicity we see from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:40 PM
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Aren't you the guy who hangs around strippers and exotic dancers? Sure, I will believe they are absolutely gorgeous women who need the rollercoaster lifestyle/relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:33 PM
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Sure. In that post I linked, there's no indication whether she's trashy/low class; only that she has a history of abuse. So when you said that about trashy and low class women, I thought you were making that connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:52 PM
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I don't want to call abused women trashy or low class but I do think there's overlap there. But that also begs the question of if the guy only comes into contact with these women, maybe he's trashy and low class himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:46 PM
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You know all those times when men here say women only go for the bad guys and actively dislike the good ones? They're only talking about women like this one, who comes from a history of abuse and therefore has normalized it. More importantly, she is not representative of most women. If most women you know are like this and come from abusive relationships/households, then it's time for you to switch up your environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:33 PM
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Is 2 PPD women talking about you fame? if so, hell yea.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:10 PM
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someone who is ambitious and makes good money has the mindset of wanting success in all avenues in life. This includes relationships. Unfortunately, you're less likely to lower your standard of living to bring in a romantic partner. I'll confess I don't know too many women who make significantly more than the men around them. The one woman I do know is single mainly because she never comes into contact with any single men and refuses to put in effort to actively search for them. Maybe it's my ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:09 PM
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Hey! u/CatoftheBanals and I were just talking about you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:38 PM
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Yea this is a very tricky issue to navigate, which is why I chose that scenario to play with. I agree with your view points on this. People are dynamic and opinions can be very fluid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:13 PM
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If you find yourself having the wealth/income to support yourself and a hypothetical family of four, why would you accept whatever straggler comes your way? A man doesn't need to be either a high powered career guy who can single-handedly support a family of 4 and neither does he need to be an unattractive broke guy. There's a HUGE number of things he can be between those two extremes. A life partner is more than just about asset building and providing resources for a family. Emotional intimacy …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:11 PM
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I know, kids and being with someone you love are both such fundamental issues. I agree with your analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:07 PM
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Great point, I'll amend to Stacey-Haver.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:05 PM
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Pretty much every single man I've been attracted to has been actively into sports or physical activity like swimming/cycling/marathoning. Aside from that, I vibe very well with men who are foodies and culturally/geographically curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:47 PM
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You've now been Stacey widowed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:43 PM
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This also tracks, and good use of the Paradise Lost quote. I've edited my post to discuss a scenario and would love to know your thoughts on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:36 PM
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I like your phrasing here. So let's take a woman who does not want to have kids but has to have them to marry the guy she loves. If she marries him and has kids, she compromised? Or does this fall more in the settling bucket?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:32 PM
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So far your view is 100% consistent with mine and everyone (who's chosen to reply) else's
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:25 PM
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Good answer, I agree and seems like the others do as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:25 PM
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Yea this makes sense, and sounds like what others are chiming in with as well. It's very much a matter of mindset and individual contentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:23 PM
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Interesting, so this is more so a divide between content vs. discontent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:21 PM
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I agree, so it's all a question of mindset then?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:11 PM
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Q4All: What, in your opinion, is the difference between "compromising" and "settling?" How do you personally toe this line? Feel free to illustrate in any context - dating/professionally/life in general. Edit to add this scenario to focus the discussion more: Let's take a woman who does not want to have kids but has to have them to marry the guy she loves. If she marries him and has kids, she compromised? Or does this fall more in the settling bucket?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:01 PM
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OMG did you just use watermelon emoji for black mommy lol!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:31 PM
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One guy came forward and said he may have driven off CimZim with a comment, not sure if he really was the cause of her departure though. His comment didn't seem mean although it wasn't pleasant to hear. I don't think he meant it maliciously and I kinda could see the merit in what he said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:13 PM
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This guy has caught my eye anytime I've seen him on screen. Line of Duty and Midsomer Murders also have a smattering of SA actors who've caught my eye. I'm not massively into chiselled features on men or women so I find it difficult to relate. Yea that makes sense. It also makes your choice of hot women fall into place more now. I was baffled by your picks before when we discussed it some weeks ago but they absolutely make sense now given your preferences. For me, I associate softness and curves…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:54 PM
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Finding a great guy was one of the easiest things in my life, and I don’t have half of the qualities your sister has. Quite possible that sister doesn't think your guy is a "great guy" subjectively. Sounds like her expectations were basically castles in the air.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:43 PM
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There are plenty of better looking South Asian men. Of course there are plenty of way way better looking SA men, I was only comparing him to this very limited pool of 11 candidates. Kohli is attractive for sure although I can think of other SA men who in my opinion are better looking. But I also find chiseled features more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:20 PM
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Some PPD women are just as clueless as PPD men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:08 PM
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You're cute, great smile! 7/10 easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:57 AM
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Hahaha y'all are hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:02 AM
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Errrrr no, who tf does this??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 02:55 AM
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How is this even a question. Brando everytime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 02:53 AM
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I'd think quite poorly of him but not as pissed off as I'd be if he were messaging them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 01:17 AM
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Where I live I see a lot of East and South Asians. I see tons of them out on dates at restaurants and bars, typically with members of their same group but also with other groups. The ones who do suffer tend to have issues with social skills. But there's no getting around the fact that US pop culture, until maybe the last decade, heavily stereotyped these 2 groups of men. Things have changed though and I see more and better representations on social media and pop culture, so I think there's hope …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:28 PM
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Maybe he deleted his account because he got called up for the military service and knew he wouldn't be able to log in?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:26 PM
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Don’t know. Someone else said he got called up for military service.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:15 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:02 PM
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Oh wow, hope he comes out of this okay. I liked him, he was a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:02 PM
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Eh? Because of the Russia-Ukraine conflict Croats are getting called up for military service?!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:59 PM
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I suspect there might be some colorism (possible negative stereotyping) happening with the last one because he has good features. I find almost all of them 5 and below except 2, 3, and 11. 2 is probably closest to my type followed closely by 11 and 3 rounds out the top three.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:51 PM
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What happened to razormach or some such user? He was Croatian if I remember right. He used to post frequently and then seems to have vanished.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:45 PM
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Q4All: Emotional maturity
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:47 AM
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TIL clubbing properly = groping women against their will
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:19 PM
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pushed out some other guy’s bastard. PPD men are just so lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:08 PM
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BooB roasted
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:57 PM
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YES. I'll be awaiting the double date dinner invite; will DM you what to cook ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:59 PM
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Bosch then? End my misery and just tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:50 PM
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I’ll play although I have NO idea about induction cooktops whatsoever. You either have Cafe or LG.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:49 PM
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I like this idea, we could invite ourselves over to u/WestsideMoonWalker ‘s place for a triple date!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:41 PM
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I don't necessarily agree with the OP or the context in which that thought process is being deployed. That said, there are multiple instincts, so I don't see the conflict between someone wanting to instinctively provide but losing that instinct because a contrary instinct kicks in based on further information. but why would it make sense for it to be an “instinct” if you don’t want to do it just because someone else wants you to? I can't explain how or why but, if I want to do something and some…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:17 PM
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I don't necessarily agree with the OP or the context in which that thought process is being deployed. That said, I have this mindset which kicks in in quite a few situations and know many who do, as well. Nothing gets in the way of my enjoyment of doing something or willingness to do that thing as much as being told I have to or that I'm expected to.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:10 PM
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Yuegling
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:18 PM
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Pre-9/11 era
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 07:58 PM
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I've had my eye on Santa Fe for at least 2-3 years now and my husband has also been bitten by that particular bug this past year. I think Santa Fe will happen very soon lol. I'm so glad to have your ringing endorsement and advise re weather too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 07:21 PM
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Perfect thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 07:03 PM
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If I wanted weather of ~70 deg F, what time of year is best to visit do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:50 PM
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I don't know if I agree with the OP but I think what he may be getting at is the sentiment that one is more willing to do something if they're not expected to do it. It's similar to the sentiment that the best leaders are those who don't actually wish to lead. I earned better grades when my parents didn't expect or force me to. My liking for literature turned to dislike when I took a class in it and had to study and get graded on it. Once something is not voluntary, the enjoyment and the willing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:37 PM
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relationship subs or the asshole sub For whatever reason reading this made me hungry for a pastrami sub (no pun intended)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:17 PM
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I didn't go during Mardi Gras, and visited in my 30s. So keep that in mind. - I like jazz. - I love Creole cuisine. - I loved the weather, so sunny and bright and warm (I'm in dreary gray rainy Seattle). - The architecture and vibrant colors of the buildings were a visual treat. - Its distinct history/ethnography, which sets it apart from almost all the other US cities. - I loved the eerie voodoo shit, I went on a ghost walking tour for funsies and they had enough material to keep us occupied fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:07 PM
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Nothing has come in to replace that That got me thinking. Maybe workplaces? But yes, people are a lot more physically mobile these days, so that also makes it harder to rely on just one central place that nourishes all your needs over long stretches of time to build one's community. Also, great job on the Wordle today; I needed 4/6 and was a thinker
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:00 PM
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Santa Fe, Boston, whatever city in either Maine or Vermont that has a popular super picturesque lighthouse. New Orleans is freaking fantastic, I'd love to go back. I had high expectations going in and it still beat those expectations. Cheat Edit: Really want to visit Savannah, GA and Asheville (actualy all the coastal places in NC like Nag's Head, Outer Banks, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 05:48 PM
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I refuse to take that thing seriously enough to evaluate whether it’s a pickme
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:44 PM
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No one can accuse me of being inconsistent!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:27 AM
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It’s not a surprise that our culture is a breeding ground where much of this pill ideology is exhibited Is it exhibited in your culture? Why's that? Please enlighten me if you don't mind, I love learning about different cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:19 AM
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That's definitely a pickme thing, where you agree to doing things you'd rather not do or don't do things you'd otherwise like to do, just to "keep the peace." Especially if the other person doesn't "keep the peace" in the same way. Anyway, so long as you're happy and content with your choices in your relationship who cares what I have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:02 AM
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I'd love to lurk that sub!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:07 AM
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That's fair So you've just never had male friends? Or your SO is ok with you having male friends as long as you only communicated with him while your SO is also there or have no in person 1-1 contact? I think you said he wouldn't be ok with you meeting guy friends 1-1 for lunches or confiding in them right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 11:02 PM
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I don't think my husband would be happy with the reverse For this and also for the only-FMF threesomes he wants, despite you not really into gal-on-gal stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:49 PM
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She said that herself, that folks here consider her a pickme
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:29 PM
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I don't know why u/Slipthe is deemed the resident "pickme" when there's you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:10 PM
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You're too healthy and wholesome to be red pilled man
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:55 PM
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The used to be romantic part throws a spanner in the works. But if you remove that, I'm A-OK with my husband: - going out drinking and partying just the two of them, depending on a few things - if they also work together, going on a business trip overnight - getting lunch on regular basis - confiding in her about our relationship The vacation part would be very weird though because we have travel budgets and more critically, time constraints. But let's say he and she were dead set on going to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:53 PM
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What makes him a beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:49 PM
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I have a few close guy friends most of them formed over a couple of decades. I confide in them and they confide in me., so we're very close emotionally. I'm a big fan of mixed gender friendships. That said, I will share a bed with my female friend but not with my close guy friend. Not because I or he are attracted to each other but because one doesn't need to be tempting fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:59 PM
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But remember, this is all in the United States. I'm sure I'll get a drastically different response in their home countries Good point. It'd be interesting to see if there's a noticeable personality difference between those who choose to come to the US and those who stay in their home countries. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:45 PM
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Oh yea, UK/Germans/Scandinavians generally dislike visibly loudly extroverted folks, and particularly Americans with those traits. The Southern Europeans might like that vibe though (Italy/Greece/Spain/Portugal). I'm surprised you vibe well with Russians and EEs generally. I thought those are the super stoic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:05 PM
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The Brits and I absolutely do not vibe. If I had to choose which European ethnicity I don't get along with the most, it's definitely the British. Wow really? And is it specifically the women or both men and women Brits? What's the issue there?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:54 PM
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Thai, Viet, and Filipina women will be a good fit for you I'd think. If you want to max your exotic appeal, I'd suggest London or some such UK city. For some reason I feel like British women might be open to exotic men who are also culturally similar to them (so your US side will work well), and no language barrier too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:45 PM
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(half Filipino / half White American) Wouldn't Latin America/Southeast Asia be a better fit for you then?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:35 PM
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Yikes. Sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:33 PM
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An average millionaire is still presumably intelligent and can find a wife who's above average looking and with no kids, no? (and being still married). Wait, what do you mean she's still married? She's married to someone else and sleeping with millionaire...?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:11 PM
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Ngl that’s impressive. Is she super hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 04:50 PM
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Within 5 minutes I knew I had 0 interest in a romantic relationship. What's the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:47 AM
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How can you leave out Keegan Michael Key?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 01:05 AM
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Thinks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 01:01 AM
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That type of woman very likely believes those 4 inches wouldn't matter to her
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 08:06 PM
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That type of woman would say yes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:57 PM
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Oh jeez I figured it out, I dumb sometimes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:36 PM
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I thought that flower was red....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:28 PM
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I remember reading that women in African countries undergoing civil war/conflict instantly lose respect for their husbands if they are raped during the ongoing war. The women interviewed explained their stance as, "If my husband, who is supposed to protect and keep me safe as the man, can himself be raped, then he's a failure as a man."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:27 PM
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Azure flowered Who??
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:20 PM
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Haha the possibility of that happening is less than zero. He doesn't know even half the terminology or concepts we discuss here and couldn't be less interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 06:44 PM
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Yea I discuss stuff from PPD with my husband fairly regularly. He knows I'm a regular here. It's been a fun way to have different conversations that without PPD we'd not have had.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 06:30 PM
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Fair points. But I think you're not really representative of men offline either. I think it makes a big difference that you were never really into casual sex nor were you struggling to get and keep dates/relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:44 PM
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then get mad at women for not wanting to settle for them While also getting mad at women for settling for them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:38 PM
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Is she were Stacy (TM) train be creating stops
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:36 PM
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If you loved her you'd change for her
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:31 PM
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Haha wow, I on the other hand think he has a very kind friendly approachable face. He's got the typical mellow west coast face (he's from/in SFO). Maybe you Easties don't like that vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:27 PM
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You should give Matty a chance, but make him drive to you u/C_Sec_Matt
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:22 PM
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I didn't get the issue until I saw he's only 24. Dude looks 10 years older! His pretty fit physique is way less impressive now that I know he's only 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:15 PM
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Figuring lives in Austin too? Then I think she and the Matt guy are planning to hook up ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:13 PM
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I agree with you that's good looking, and if I were single and he lived next door, I'd be in and out my house hoping to run into him lol But I don't want to dilute the meaning of "Chad" which is considered God-tier men. A lot of discussions here are centered on women only going for Chads and if we start calling any regular good looking guy a Chad, those discussions end up being pointless (which they mostly are but still...)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 04:53 PM
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I can't really say it ever was much of an issue at all No fair, your experiences are far too positive for anyone to use you as representative of most guys in the dating pool. Married to a skinny (actually underweight) guy myself, I think skinny guys have it harder in US/Uk?OZ/NZ than chubby ones. I think it's because the women in these overweight countries find skinny men threatening ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 04:48 PM
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This is Chad now? He's a good looking guy next door. Chad is supposed to be reserved for the top echelon, not whomever looks good. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 04:44 PM
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My husband also agrees I've been slacking on caulk work
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:55 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Your husband is a good man. I'm really glad Annabelle found love and kindness with you both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 01:50 AM
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Every single "loud and boisterous" type of woman from my law school is happily married. They were also big time partiers. My female friends don't really complain about men being intimidated by them, probably because the guys they meet are like the men I described in my earlier comment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 01:44 AM
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Maybe I've associated a few things in my mind, based on my personal experiences and observations. "Friendly/sympathetic/cooperative" women tend to not challenge guys even in social fun settings. These are the patient and understanding accommodating girlfriends. I also think for someone to be an interesting conversationalist, they don't necessarily have to be witty or even too opinionated. My circle's guys want a challenging, intellectually stimulating, socially not timid/cooperative women as the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 01:07 AM
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The women I would want relationships with are those who are are mutually cooperative, capable adults who are able to compromise and all that good stuff. I’m not looking for strife, I’m lazy at heart and would like nothing more to share life’s labours for mutual comfort That sounds very healthy and I'd advise that for anyone looking for a life partner
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:56 AM
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if I am going to be in a relationship with someone that last thing I want is to get that shit when I come home. I don’t want to be challenged or held accountable or any other dramatic bullshit I read that as "only men want agreeable women for this reason." If you say this isn't a gendered thing, and that both men and women want and need agreeable spouses, I 100% agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:41 AM
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The rest? Extremely rare to hear a dude say. This may just be dependent on family and friend circles. I come from a very ambitious and goal-oriented family and my friends circle is similar. In our circles, education, career, income matter greatly. Socially speaking, if a woman can't go toe-to-toe with a guy or his circle of guy friends in conversation/wit/banter, that tends to not fly too well. So being "agreeable" in that context is also not regarded positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:37 AM
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So then why doesn't that apply equally to her? Why should she trust you but you wouldn't trust her? Both of you have to be "agreeable" and "cooperative" because, as you said, it's both of you against the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:31 AM
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Friendly, sympathetic/caring, cooperative. Those are all pieces of agreeableness. I'm sure something very similar to those terms have been used at some point in your circle...right? Not once, except maybe caring (but my female friends said this too). My social circle used/s some variation of this instead: "I want a smart woman who challenges me." or "Someone who broadens my world" "Interesting conversationalist" "Someone who I know can take care of herself if anything were to happen to me" It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:25 AM
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Nothing in here says women aren't looking for the same thing I have never in my life heard a woman say she's looking for an "agreeable" man. TBH I've not heard a man say this in my social circles either. But on PPD it's like every guy says he wants an "agreeable" woman, specifically using that term. Which is why I commented saying if "agreeable" is defined the way you did, it shouldn't be a gendered word. But yea, looks like we agree on what "agreeable" means and that it isn't restricted to just…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:00 AM
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Literally who, man or woman, wants to "come home to someone who wants to fight you on bullshit" though? This is the whole reason women also vet for compatibility, which is just a way to reduce friction in their lives. If my SO and I can't agree on what to have for dinner, where to go for our next vacation, whether my SO is happy to attend my friend's birthday party, and so on, that's miserable for me. Regardless of whether I'm a woman or a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 11:47 PM
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It seems real mean to label people as losers over something they have no control over. I know at least a few people who moved their sexual market abroad because of the cultural fit, but without buying the spouse. I don't see it as any different from adjusting the type of employer you want to target based on difficulty attracting the type of employer you thought you wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:57 PM
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I'll paste my reply to another commenter who holds views almost identical to yours: I think the culture fit I was referring to is sort of between the 2 categories you've mentioned. One category wants "feminine wiles" and would enter into a transactional "marriage" as a direct exchange of looks for money/first world status. The second category is organic where a western man who genuinely appreciates a different culture, happens to find a wife through that interest. I think there might be a third …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:59 PM
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Great name choices! Guess it makes sense for Karma and Pablo to play well together given their close ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:44 PM
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Wow I have just the one cat and I feel it's one more than I can handle most times, can't imagine 4 lol Is this the dog-cat pairing which play well together? Are they of similar ages? Remote alpaca farm sounds like a customized hell for me although alpacas are so so cute! I need to be around lots of people and crave the city life vibes. But different strokes and all that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:33 PM
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I think the culture fit I was referring to is sort of between the 2 categories you've mentioned. One category wants "feminine wiles" and would enter into a transactional "marriage" as a direct exchange of looks for money/first world status. The second category is organic where a western man who genuinely appreciates a different culture, happens to find a wife through that interest. I think there might be a third category where a western man is disadvantaged because of some traits in his home cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:25 PM
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You didn't address my latter point though :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:02 PM
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Anyone buying a spouse is 100% a loser, but they can do their purchase domestically too. Overseas or local, buying is buying and is a loser’s game. But I don’t think men finding their spouse overseas because of culture fit are losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:42 PM
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Danke. Also, mapo tofu is absolutely the best tofu
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:29 PM
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That’s a relief! Thanks for letting us know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:10 PM
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Your dog is stinking cute! Cat is just majestic af. You must have a full house with all 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:10 PM
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Asians.... want to chat... That's the clue you needed (/s duh)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:04 AM
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At some point you'll have to post pics of your dog and cats engaging in adorable shenanigans together. I can't take it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:02 AM
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Splunk beckons
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:00 AM
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I didn't say "not sexy at all," that was your endorsement when you quoted the original commenter: and he's not sexy at all. He is tall though. "Not sexy at all" and "tall" is a contradiction when you're talking about a man. A man is more attractive than he would've otherwise been if he's tall. But an ugly ass man will only be less ugly if he's tall; he doesn't magically become sexy just by being tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:11 AM
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I might agree with you if you said, "All sexy men need to be tall but tall doesn't necessarily mean sexy." But to say tall and sexy are interchangeable is just stupid and plain incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:42 AM
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In my experience... the more type A a woman seems to be... also the more she needs external validation... the more likely she is going to prefer dark triad traits in a man. Does all that make sense to you? You probably don't see it because you don't hang out with those type of people... or you just havn't really trained yourself to notice it. I'm a lawyer (I know, you said we're all nasty lol!) and so I was surrounded by plenty of type A folks back in law school and my colleagues/counterparts no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:11 AM
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Unless you come from a conservative place, I find it offputting if the person who asks out the other person on a date doesn't pick up the whole tab automatically. Otherwise it's just weird - she can subvert gender roles by asking you out but conveniently embrace gender roles when it comes to paying? Garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 01:50 AM
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Haven't you ever met a narcissitic sociopathic woman that men seem drawn to like a moth to flames? It's just how human attraction works. Narcissists tend to be shallow and spend a lot of time perfecting their look. Can't say I know anyone who seemed like a narc, I mean, how would we even know? I have seen awful men gravitate towards this one particular friend who suffers from some kinda mental health issues (her parents fucked her up) but she's also drop dead gorgeous AND bends over backwards hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 01:23 AM
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Why are you insulting all women as though we are all attracted to sociopaths, especially when there's a woman is wishing you well and telling you to watch your back :(
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:44 PM
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Just call it a cultural fit and we can discuss right now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:39 PM
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Just watch your back man, such people are snakes in the grass and so sneaky
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:32 PM
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So every tall man is sexy if you think "not sexy at all" and "tall" is contradictory?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:44 PM
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WTF are you still friends with him then??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:35 PM
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Curiously enough, abortion can be debated to hell and back but we can't touch race. Even though the latter has a far greater impact on dating/relationships than the former. Although I understand this isn't PPD mods' fault, it's a Reddit rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:40 PM
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Madonna-Whore strikes again
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:37 PM
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Haha thanks for the reciprocal award (totally unnecessary though)!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:51 PM
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Gave you my free award to keep the sentiment going!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:39 PM
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Cos RP men are mental health experts?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:14 PM
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Hell FDS women probably think a man daring to say hi to you on the streets in broad daylight is "kinky"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:56 PM
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I am surrounded by highly educated young women and only some of them are on social media, I don't know a single thot. Anyway, the whole point of this conversation was whether to bring back a traditional/religious way of life. That life discouraged women from seeking education, working outside the home, being financially independent, choosing their own partners, voting or participating in the political process in any way, etc. We don't need to go back to those times which held down women. If you …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:02 PM
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Easily. Toxic femininity is women who judge other women for not handling motherhood in a particular way. Career woman used to be routinely judged for not choosing to be SAHMs or women could be judged by other women for not breastfeeding their babies. Another example is when women judge other women for how they treat their husbands. I've heard women judge others who don't "make a plate" for their husbands, for example. Spoiling their husbands and making him feel like a "king" Which is fine if tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:50 PM
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I'm not at all special. Literally all of life is lived somewhere on the spectrum between 0-100 of every issue. Work-life balance; n-count; taxation; on and on and on. On every issue, we as a society determine, somehow, what's an acceptable balance between the 2 extremes. This balance keeps shifting depending on how each society shapes itself. That's just life and that's just humanity at work. So yea, a man who cries twice a week indefinitely is unattractive. But a man can easily openly share his…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:36 PM
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No, if that poster had his way, that religious society wouldn't allow for a woman to dump that man. So that's not an issue he'd need to be worried about. Religion will ensure the woman doesn't have a chance to be educated or financially provide for herself, AND there'll be religious laws to disallow divorce or enough overwhelming cultural/social stigma that divorce will be deeply unpalatable even if the laws allowed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:28 PM
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You were the one who said what you did about women who can make their own money now and want a man with more than just financials to the relationship. I didn't say a single word about social media or fuckboy or anything else. Both genders can have emotional maturity and wisdom and common sense without being religious. If you think you need religion to get married, I don't know what to tell you. Women can get educated and have careers and make their own money, and these women can still fall in lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:25 PM
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Sure, but I've been the woman who's dated and evaluated my attraction towards men who've shown these "weaknesses." As with everything, showing such vulnerability falls on a spectrum. If you're constantly moaning about your problems, it's very unattractive. But showing occasionally vulnerability to a woman you're interested in dating is just fine. Seeking medical help, in my opinion, is actually attractive because it shows me a man who is responsible and confident in problem-solving and his own m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:03 PM
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I don't know what kind of women you've had interactions with but this has not been my personal observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:39 PM
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this is done by mums and dads I agree with everything you said, and the above part also echoes what I said in my original comment about toxic masculinity being internalized AND in turn practiced by both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:37 PM
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I think the problem is with both genders thinking seeking medical help is a weakness. Healthy people make for attractive partners, which is a win-win for everyone. Women don't think a man seeking medical help is being a wuss; instead women think a man who doesn't seek medical attention, instead manifesting their medical problems, is unattractive. This isn't a gendered issue though, women who manifest their medical issues instead of seeking treatment are also unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:23 PM
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Oh of course, women are the ones to blame for every male problem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:11 PM
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I was replying to u/hdksndiisn and it was a direct response to something they brought up. In my opinion, toxic masculinity is worth a discourse because, as I pointed out, it hurts men as well, so if we want better outcomes for men, that's a topic of interest. Beyond that, I'm not particularly concerned whether you personally find anything to gain from that discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:55 PM
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can't find a woman because they all make their own money now or they get money from their parents So you'd prefer a woman to be with you out of necessity? You're like that antiquated industry whose product lacks market value so you need the government to shut down competition because only then will people be forced to buy your product. Well done, who needs self respect or dignity when you can just subjugate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:53 PM
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more families will shell out money for their daughters than their sons society makes it seem like women should be provided assistance while men should assist themselves. Yes, this is exactly what people mean when we refer to "toxic masculinity" which both men and women have internalized and which in turn influences their behavior. Ultimately this notion is harmful to men, as you've seen in your case where men's health outcomes are poorer than women's.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:44 PM
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Alpha Beta dichotomy is incredibly simplistic. Someone here posted a link to a site which broke men down into 5-7 categories (I recall Alpha, beta, Sigma, Omega, Delta), which makes a lot more sense because it accounts for the natural diversity which is bound to occur when you're talking about 4 billion men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:29 PM
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Congrats on your Masters thesis! I'm reading parts of it and many parts make sense. I wanted to specifically talk about one concept, that of modern men's sensitiveness and sharing emotional vulnerability vs. the traditional masculine role. Using your example of (I think) Emanuel on his date where the first half went poorly because he was tender and kind and caring etc. Then he deliberately switches up his approach and decides to be "harsh" and tells her, "Put away your phone or I'll walk." This …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 06:47 PM
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Hott
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:23 AM
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Sorry but c'mon, Joey and Phoebe are hott (Paris Hilton circa 2003 style)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:11 AM
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As a gen 2 immigrant this seems like taking a step backwards Why are people from the "home" country inferior so that being with them is "like taking a step backward?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:07 AM
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They weren't hooking up until Phoebe kissed Joey pretending to be Ursula. That unlocked all kinds of sexay energay between them two and they started doing it offscreen ever since until Phoebe got serious with Mike (aka Crap Bag). This is the version I'm sticking to. u/SmurfESmurferson
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 06:58 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:47 PM
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At what age? And is the income fixed at the time of answering this question or is there growth potential (e.g., at 27, a guy is getting paid $50K while doing his residency).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:31 AM
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Most people want to find romantic love and a stable relationship in their lives. If one truly wishes to be single, I don't have any doubts they'd be happy not pursuing relationships. But those people who claim they're happIER being single even though they'd prefer being in a happy relationship, they aren't truly content. Of course they'd be happier being single than if they were in an abusive relationship, but a truly bad relationship is different from a healthy and respectful relationship, even…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:05 AM
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Wow you guys have separate rooms when you travel?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 11:14 PM
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What do you do when you travel together and have to share the bathroom right in the room?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 11:11 PM
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When Rumer Willis grew up and started showing up on my tv screen and celeb mags, she caught a LOT of people (my age) by surprise. Given the combined hotness of Bruce Willis and Demi Moore, people were expecting more (pun unintended!).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 11:04 PM
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I come from a culture where people act on their dislike for you, so food poisoning is one of many stories I heard. You come from a culture where people straight up kill or sicken you if they don't like you? Where do you live??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 08:29 PM
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I guess my surprise stems from the fact that, if it's so freaking obviously a replica of the Cuban Missile Crisis, it's so on the nose that I'm surprised no one's calling it out on Reddit's front page and other mainstream outlets. I'd imagine political scientists/professors at Harvard and Yale and other institutions, should all be like, "Wait a minute, we've faced this situation before, except the shoe was on the other foot" at least to maintain credibility. Anyway I'll watch the video and do so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:41 PM
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I haven't watched it, saved it for deeper dive on the weekend. I'm just surprised that if this situation is identical to the Suban Missile Crisis, why's no one in the mainstream talking about it at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:31 PM
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just like the USA would do if Mexico let China put military bases on the southern border. I'm extremely ignorant about this, but isn't this basically what the Cuban Missile Crisis was all about? Then-Soviet Russia planting nukes on Cuba facing Florida? The US lost its shit right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:48 AM
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I'm not gonna play the men-aren't-lonely-only-women-are game. Loneliness affects both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:27 AM
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I've found men to be lonely too, they just channel it in other ways. But yea, this generation's early/mid twenties women who so brashly claim they'd rather be single than settle haven't faced loneliness and so can't determine how much that will hurt compared to having a less-than-perfect marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:14 AM
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I largely agree with this. Most women who end up single struggling with loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:48 AM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:12 AM
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A guy handled did situation smartly. We were seated next to each other on a flight but barely said a couple of words to each other. He came up to me at the baggage claim though and asked me out. I thought he was smart to avoid possible awkwardness by waiting to ask me out after we landed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:11 AM
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I consider myself a feminist but I don't think men are the enemy or that they're bad. I always think of feminism as fighting for gender parity, not women's superiority. Then again I'm Gen X, maybe feminism has taken on a different flavor in younger generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 12:06 AM
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Do you really believe all of us women hate men or have no sympathy/empathy for them....?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:55 PM
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Eh it's a bit overblown about women not being able to safely travel alone. I've traveled alone as have some of my female friends. Just be smart about picking the destinations and don't go down dark alleys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:53 PM
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I'm glad you're enjoying meeting people IRL, even if you don't find anyone through that, it's just all around better to interact in person and also be out of the house doing activities!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:09 PM
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Seattle women are like this generally. But it's quite different on the east coast and pretty much any place where people are more extroverted. Seattle men also struggle with introversion and social awkwardness/anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:31 PM
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Yes I really hope he's safe and okay. If he is actually covering this issue, I hope he wins a pulitzer! (And spills alllll the dirt on PPD)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:46 AM
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I think he's just hungover and on deadline For a week? I feel like I haven't seen him in that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:07 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:05 AM
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Can't be an AH without mens rea!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:44 AM
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Then she not an Ah, she duuuuuumb (unless the BF is a bigger dumbass than she is, she knows it, and she knows he'll capitulate if she kicks up a big enough fuss)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:40 AM
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According to one comment I read, she isn't ONLY paying the $150 but I didn't read much farther. If all she's paying is $150 then she's a total dumb-dumb for opposing this new deal lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:36 AM
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I sort of agree. She pays $150 now and will only have to pay $140 with the solar panels. But the BF gets "more" than currently because he's building up equity in the panels through her paying for that utility. Currently, she's not spending towards him building equity. I'd probably agree to spend less for electric but love (without the commitment) just complicates practical realities like finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:31 AM
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Splitting finances as a bf-gf can get real tricky real quick
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:22 AM
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Yo, what happened to PPD's reporter, Pass-e-part2 (or something like that)? Hope he's not reporting out of the danger zone, it seems like he vanished the same time this conflict happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:12 AM
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Just chiming in to say u/TheRedPillRipper is an awesome person and even when we have disagreed on opinions here, he's always respectful and civil. I always walk away feeling good about our interaction even if we've disagreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:33 AM
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Most religious guys think this way, that women are inferior to men and must be subservient to men. This is why it's usually a bad bet for women to marry religious men or traditional men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:58 PM
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Well at least she isn't currently married to someone who thinks she's stupid and a list of other awful things
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:41 PM
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That what he think of your mom too?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:27 PM
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Thank you! I scored 18/40, although there were a few questions where both options were terrible and I decided to lean into the narcissistic option lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:21 PM
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Can you share the test link? I'd love to confirm my narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:17 PM
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Do you also want a source for handshakes being the accepted body language at interviews and business meetings? Anyway, here you go. Just to be clear in case I wasn't, I didn't mean it's ok to hug colleagues unless you know them. And here's one for How to approach a woman in public, which phrasing presumes approaching a woman in public is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:12 PM
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You can ask just as I can not ask. It's honestly social mores and conventions. If I visit an Islamic country, I know that by default, I shouldn't hug the people there. If in France, the default is a goodbye hug and kiss on both cheeks. At a formal interview, a handshake is the default. In the US and most western places, being hugged and men cold approaching is still the default. If that default convention changes, sure, people like me can dislike it but can't really complain that we aren't being…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:04 PM
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As a woman, 100% this. And especially this --> "If they're rude to someone politely approaching that's on them for being a rude person."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:00 PM
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Happy to help :) I'm just waiting to be called a pickme now though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:58 PM
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What a strange question. Their personhood/humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:56 PM
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People can't preemptively give permission; permission can only happen after the act. So I can only be given/not given permission after I hug. What'll it look like before I hug them? They just randomly go around telling everyone "Don't hug me?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:54 PM
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This specific user apparently also has a problem with casual hugs. These are really not the people who should advice anyone on interpersonal communications. They live siloed and fortified lives. I will defend any respectful man trying to authentically connect with any woman and especially so if that's in public spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:52 PM
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My philosophy is to be warm and emotionally engaging with people. So I hug everyone unless they tell me they're uncomfortable with it. If things like hugging, a stranger saying hello to you while both of you are in public spaces, etc trigger you so much, maybe confine yourself to private spaces only. The world doesn't have to cater to your specific anti-social preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:49 PM
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I don't want to miss out on an opportunity to get to know a man whom I may not have the opportunity to get to know if he didn't cold approach me. So no, I disagree that if they don't know whether you like or dislike cold approaches, they shouldn't cold approach at all. I say do it and walk away the moment the other party actively rejects them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:45 PM
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Reddit women can be quite obnoxious and have a big problem with being cold approached. They think anyone deigning to talk to them is earth-shattering and traumatic and being left alone is their inalienable right. I'm happy to say this is not really representative of women outside of Reddit, which platform isn't the best known for normal and socially well-adjusted people anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:39 PM
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No man can read a random woman's mind and therefore her view on cold approaches. They have no way to know which camp you and the vast majority of women you know fall into on this issue. The same way that they won't know which camp I and the women I know who share my approval of cold approaches fall into. It's not inherently disrespectful to em and other women, and you and many women you know hold the opposite view. To u/ohheyhi99, we all look the same and nothing will indicate to him which camp …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:36 PM
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You're not representative of all or even most women. As another woman, I can tell u/ohheyhi99 that I personally would never have a problem being cold approached. I also know quite a few of my female friends don't have an issue with it either. It's downright arrogant to presume you can speak for all the ladies out there. Just say you don't like it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:22 PM
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He looks like the little old guy in Up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:41 AM
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Nope. I wouldn't get involved unless the person being cheated on is a very close friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:32 PM
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Kirkland seems like a good compromise between your city-husband and burbs-you. I like their waterfront area a lot, charming and quaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:38 PM
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Apologies with lumping you in with *those people* I assumed eastside most likely based on your race and the fact that you were born here. I haven't come across to many Indians who were born in Seattle; most seem to have grown up in the usual Redmond/Bellevue/Issaquah.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:32 PM
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Ah missed that distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:54 PM
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Ah, I thought you were in Bellevue/Kirkland for whatever reason. Co Ba is in LQA. Never had their pho but great food generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:49 PM
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You're in LA right? The best pho I ever had was there at Pho 87.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:47 PM
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I love Dan Dan Mien (the Chinese original dish from which the Japanese derived the tantanmen). But looks like tantanmen still has broth?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:44 PM
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And it’s been super grey past week. I high tailed it to Santa Monica for a spell and worked from there. Last week was gorgeous (albeit cold), so sunny! But yea it's been shitty since Saturday evening. So jelly you went to Santa Monica, I stayed there on a visit a couple years ago and had the best handroll at a restaurant in that hood.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:41 PM
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prefer broth-less ramen Heathen
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:39 PM
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Haha wouldn't surprise me. This one near Seattle is called Pho 99 because it's along Highway-99 (Aurora Ave).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:36 PM
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I agree with you about soup (although bread bowls are dope and fill me up). But pho has beef and noodles in it, super filling.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:35 PM
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The darker the broth the deeper the flavor! Haven't heard of Shizzle, will have to check that out. Pho doesn't fill you up?! I order one regular sized pho and that's 2-2.5 meals for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:30 PM
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There's a Co Ba on the eastside?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:28 PM
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People expecting to be miserable will be miserable. Being around such people is miserable for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:25 PM
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Completely agree. Still doesn't mean she didn't get the second date, she just didn't go on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:22 PM
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It's a shitty rainy fucking miserable gray week in Seattle. So obviously it's pho time. Since there are quite a few of us in the Seattle area: Q4PPDSeattleites: Which restaurant makes the best Pho in this area? I like Le's Pho Tai and Pho 99, with both being worth the drive/delivery if available. Pho Ha and Ba Bar are close runners up. Tagging u/WestsideMoonWalker cos he generally knows his Seattle area restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:21 PM
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he hasn't managed to get a second date. She got the second date, just chose not to go on it. The offer was there, the acceptance wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:08 PM
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Aww thanks for the return award!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:39 AM
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Agreed. Multiple types of Russian identities the same as with any other multi- cultural/ethnic/religious country. I just thought Narnia's ethnicities were East Asian and Slavic. I wasn't questioning whether those ethnic identities invalidate her Russianness (although gimp did).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:15 PM
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I hope things work out well for your family (and for everyone's families no matter whatever country).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:41 PM
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So conventionally good looking men will break your heart but a dorky/nerdy looking guy will "rescue" you and give you the happily-ever-after?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:11 PM
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Yup now that you said it, I also remember her saying she's half Asian. I assumed the other half was Russian Slav but I don't actually know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:10 PM
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Wait, you've edited your comment and added information about Narnia. She's not ethnically Russian?? I know she's said she looks East Asian; is she actually East Asian and happens to live in Russia?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:00 PM
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I've wanted to visit St Petersburg forever. I find the Romanovs fascinating. Ah, I thought you lived in Russia proper. Are you concerned about what's going on right now? What're your thoughts on the situation and how do you think it'll end?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:57 PM
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Hey Gimp, are you Russia and/or in Russia?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:52 PM
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I was like 100% sure gimp was in Russia. Someone recently asked Narnia and Gimp whether something in Russia is true, so that kinda cemented my opinion of them both being Russians in Russia. But I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:50 PM
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Phew. I got concerned for a sec there since I was one of the people you sent your pic to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:11 PM
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Oh no why?? Was anyone mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:08 PM
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Bot = Putin?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:01 PM
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Do you want to edit your handle to livs4peachbellini??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:47 PM
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Between you, u/Orange_Paisley, Smurf, and myself, we have a strong Bottomless Bellini Brunch waiting to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:42 PM
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You’re always good for a silly comment geyges
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:29 PM
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Why is Narnia’s account deleted/banned but not gimp’s? Is Narnia’s account in trouble over the Russia-Ukraine conflict or something entirely different?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:14 PM
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Oh this sub already discussed this specific post? Mind linking it? I don’t think I fully understood your comment. You’re saying you’re currently stuck choosing between a toxic woman to whom you are sexually attracted and a good woman about whom you’re not really passionate?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:02 PM
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Quite interesting how the first guy breaking her heart is drawn in a more Chad-like manner appearance wise. The second guy is drawn a bit more nerdy/dorky and less conventionally attractive. The cartoonist subconsciously showing their bias. Cool cartoon strip though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 05:58 PM
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To all the RP men claiming only women practice the dual mating strategy, behold!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 05:36 PM
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Maybe it was u/passe-part2 just to rile you up
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:01 AM
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Some women here are equally guilty of assuming, conveniently and with no evidence, that men here are autistic, incels, hate women, and/or basement dwelling neck beards. As long as each side insists on stereotyping the other in the worst way possible, without care for accuracy, nothing will change and neither side can claim any righteousness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:19 AM
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Finding any kind of facial products for me is a nightmare. Literally everything irritates my skin including CeraVe and EltaMD, both of which have cult-like following as being A+ for sensitive skin. So I'm real thankful this particular sunscreen has worked well for me. The one big issue I have with it is I generally try to shop for cruelty-free brands and this isn't one of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:24 PM
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I like this Neutrogena one. It's light and doesn't irritate my sensitive, combination, skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:20 PM
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Shit for real? Hopefully she's just pissed off with PPD BS instead of deleting her account because of current affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:54 AM
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Because women have n counts and PPD men don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:28 AM
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But isn’t it interesting that this is the one you took issue with. Come on, because Type 3 is so blatantly obviously clearly plainly a complete douchenozzle he didn't require commentary
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:44 PM
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That's honestly a disingenuous thing to present as a positive example; most people wouldn't want to be exploited.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:25 PM
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But your Type 2 guy is still getting taken to the cleaners by the foreign wives? How's that not negative?!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:22 PM
1

Good on your govt for accepting refugees. Let's hope things deescalate soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:49 PM
1

Hey aren't you in a country pretty close to Ukraine? Hope things are stable for you guys (or do I have you mixed up with someone else?)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:35 PM
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What you say is terrifying mainly because it's not implausible
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:13 PM
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Mad respect to you for working your butt off. I don't know how you do it. Here's wishing you a solid break sooner than later. (And your dream job).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:12 PM
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I'm so envious of you lol! When I was your age I was working 60-90 hour weeks and felt like I deserved a medal for running 30 mins 2-3/week. I was making good money but I can't imagine making good money AND maintaining a 6-pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:32 PM
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You’ve got a 6 pack? That’s seriously impressive on top of all the other 6’s. Can I ask how old you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:42 PM
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She looks GOOD. And she speaks truth when she recommends silk pillow cases. I started using those a couple of years ago and they make a noticeable difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:13 AM
1

Bok choy tossed in toasted sesame oil and sauteed with garlic is just *chef's kiss*
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:03 AM
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You described a trope that's applicable to women about men, yes. I'm just saying men also build up a composite of a man who can have inconsistent attributes based on gathering various different women's subjective preferences, the same way that this OP has done. Group A may prefer height but not want a college educated guy and instead preferring blue collar workers; Group B may want tertiary education but not want a 6 footer; etc. Men routinely ignore the "not want" parts though and build up one …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:09 PM
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As though tropes don't exist for men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:47 PM
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Men here do the exact same thing. They build up a composite of the Ideal Man based off of different women expressing their own preferences and attribute it to every woman. For e.g.; Group A of women might say they prefer 6' men; Group B say they prefer at least MS in men; Group C says they prefer a shredded gym bod. PPD men turn around and go, "Oh so women want a man who is 6' tall AND is shredded AND has at least a MS degree." This post is the female version of that garbage conflation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:11 PM
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No I understood your analogy, I just personally disagree with both concepts because I've never been the type to internalize the one relevant to my gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:17 PM
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I guess as a woman who's never thought any man could be a rapist or intend to sexually assault me, I don't get either concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:09 PM
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Most reddit subgroups are fucking stupid and infuriating and extreme. Victim-complexed and super-triggered batshit fragile folks abound.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:51 PM
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This post is hot garbage. Just as men's posts/comments are garbage, saying all/most women are sluts and ride the CC and can't think rationally and all the other BS that men spout here all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:25 PM
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How is this different from RP men going "AWALT" and treating all of womenkind like a monolith? But I agree that a mishmash of different groups of people's preferences is pointless. regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:18 PM
2

Ouch that's a pretty sobering statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:56 PM
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definitely need a man that’s at least on an equal mindset and that’s hard to find. How the hell is this hard to find?? Have the generations shifted that much overnight? In my generation most men focused on work and money. Rare to find a guy who didn't have that mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:41 PM
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This happened back in 2014 right? There was a plane shot down over Crimea or some such. I remember a lot of people making a big deal out of it. The Crimea issue got a lot of play in the press back then, too. It's just been 8 years since, so things have died down/memory has faded.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:39 PM
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I'm so sorry it didn't work out the way you thought it would. Maybe the appeal process might be successful, or at least give you some constructive feedback. The engineering market is vibrant in the US right now, if not this, I'm certain you'll line up something else just as good. Sending you all the positive vibes!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:25 PM
1

Cool, and same lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 06:56 PM
1

My inbox is open and all it’s contents will be kept confidential!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 06:53 PM
2

Nooooo. Let me savor PPD a little longer before I need to kick it into gear!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 06:51 PM
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I have lots of work to do but I'm blocked on almost all of them (need someone to respond on each matter before I can proceed). There are a couple other things I should be working on but I don't want to so I'm procrastinating. While feeling guilty, so not even enjoyable procrastination.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 06:06 PM
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No. 3 is rough, I feel for her
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:47 PM
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The chronically single men I know have mental health issues or insecure attachment styles or are below high functioning on the spectrum. The chronically single women I know are either obese or are chasing Disney fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:28 PM
1

Valid point, I'll allow it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:16 PM
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Btw, I find most of your comments award-worthy. I literally just got my free award right as I read your comment, so here you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:58 AM
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Then I'd meet someone who is out of that preference and suddenly I question whether that preference I had originally actually existed. Or whether it was just based on a couple previous positive experiences. I was talking to u/letsdelveintoit1 earlier and I was all like "I like women who are like X". I then ended up spending a bunch of time after that convo looking at other random women and realising the preference wasn't really a hard rule, I was just looking at a few data points and trying to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:57 AM
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A baseline level of empathy, competency, intelligence, finances, ability to articulate the reason why you want kids, why you think you'd make a good parent, and at least a bare bones vision of how your life with kids will look like (i.e., how you plan to raise them).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:11 AM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:09 AM
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If you can't even support yourself, no, you shouldn't be having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:43 PM
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If you can spend a minute to pull your head out of one's ass, you'll realize two fundamental errors in your "argument" White =/= Germany Nationality =/= Race/ethnicity/religion always The same ethnicity/race guy did better when he put down his nationality as the UK. So no conclusion was drawn about him based on his race/ethnicity obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:38 PM
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Oh yea it's awful and elitist to think only those people who will be competent parents should be parents. Instead of any halfwit who can put out semen or egg.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:29 PM
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I don't propose eugenics based on race, but I strongly think we should put in place a system that evaluates one's competency for being good parents. A parental license if you will!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:28 PM
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They should be, the father is just as responsible for the creation of the kid as the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:26 PM
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Why would a father only want what's the bare minimum needed for their own kid(s)? As a parent, wouldn't you want the best you can possibly afford for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:11 PM
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Not 95% but at least 40%-50% of the people who reproduce shouldn't be allowed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:09 PM
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Haha that's her best pic by far. And if you find Winslet too bony/skinny, I can assure you you'll find me pretty repugnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:36 PM
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Creasey looks awful or passable in her various pics, it's wild the difference! Her baby is legit adorable, I wanna squish it!!!! Mitchell is very attractive and consistently so in all her Google images. You seem to have a preference for voluptuous women, yes? Kate Winslet would be your type then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:06 PM
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I don't know how to even begin to explain the obvious reasons why someone might think a person's nationality might have a huge bearing on that person, and eventually, that person's compatibility with the other person. If a person from Georgia, US sees a guy from Texas, US, she might common sensibly infer that she's compatible with him because being from Texas, US carries certain cultural connotations. This might differ if it were a Georgia, US with an Alaska, US profile or London, UK profile, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:56 PM
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India-US culture compatibility isn't as strong as US-UK. Why're you trying to read more into that than there is?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:43 PM
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PPD men will always find a way to turn a compliment a woman pays a man, into an insult to women. For no fucking reason at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:33 PM
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I might rate you higher for instance. Haha as flattered as I am you have no idea what I look like and if I'll appeal to your subjective attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:26 PM
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Good points all. Especially the last one where seeing a person in motion breathes a whole new life into that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:09 PM
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I'm so far removed from dealing with any type of the govt so I'll take your word for it! The Splunk gig sounds super interesting though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:04 PM
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Man, the men here are brutal! You can't even see her body type though, how do you know you won't find it attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:41 PM
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Nice. I have a few Marines and Air Force friends and those are very much the places they've been posted to. A couple of them left though and are now fully civilians, not even military contractors.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:40 PM
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Your location history is so cool btw. Based off those particular locations I'm guessing you're military or ex-military?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:17 PM
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No stable guy will want the kind of girl who can't resist dark triad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:14 PM
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I eat almost anything but I naturally (not consciously) practice Intermittent Fasting. I don't stay away from any particular bad food group/ingredient (sugar, deep friend foods, etc) but I consciously make sure to have everything only in moderation. My portion sizes are very small but they fill me up just fine. American portions are incredibly unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:12 PM
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Did you just assume my race!? I wouldn't dare, I saw your comment saying you were white under that race/location thread :) Yikes, your experiences sound freaky sorry about that. Wishing you more stable and dark skinned ladies in the future!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:06 PM
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You're white but not really into white women? Story time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:42 PM
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Yup, globalization and cable tv (both of which meant vast exposure to Western social norms), and the internet a decade later, changed Indian youth overnight. Parents obviously couldn't keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:17 PM
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-11/10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:15 PM
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Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:13 PM
2

Everyone here knows Aurora/Hwy-99 is a different beast. But the Asian restaurants along Aurora are the Bomb.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:10 PM
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That's not how women operate, that's how everyone operates. This is why it's standard advice for even married couples to give each other space so that you can miss each other. That missing each other is integral to maintain the romance and keep from taking each other and the marriage for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:07 PM
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I was talking about dating too. I also mentioned generation gap being huge. I know in cities like Bangalore and Mumbai, dating is pretty normal. But the way the parents of a 22 year old girl will view dating is at least 2 generations different from the way that daughter views dating. Attitudes are very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:04 PM
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That user rated her a 5.5. And you think women rate women harshly. (I rate her a 7).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:03 PM
1

Oof high standards but thanks for playing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:02 PM
2

Entirely possible
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:02 PM
1

:( Why diss me dude
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:58 PM
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I don't think this can be further from the truth in the US or even in East/SE Asia. Indian generational gap over a woman dating is huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:56 PM
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I've seen your struggles with this issue :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:52 PM
1

How would you rate her?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:52 PM
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Men need to let go of the misconception that women who generally have sex on the first dates are sluts OR that being a slut makes them bad partners. What really impairs pair bonding is the reason for having all that sex - trauma, low self esteem, drugs, addiction of any other kind, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:48 PM
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Ok. "Can you please post..."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:37 PM
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It's frustrating that there doesn't seem to be separate Overweight and Obesity breakdowns for 20-29 and 30-39 ages. It's almost like no one wants to really face the picture. From your source, I found these components interesting: Those with some college education or less compared with college graduates, who have the lowest prevalence of obesity. Those with an annual household income less than $25,000 compared with those with higher levels of income; the prevalence of obesity increases with each …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:33 PM
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In all these discussions, I've yet to see someone offer this as a reason someone may not sleep with you on the first date: She's scared you may judge her as non-relationship material. She may be attracted to you and she may have slept with other guys on the first date in the past, but if she thinks (even if mistakenly) that you'd be turned off by a woman who sleeps on the first date, despite her wanting to sleep with you, she won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:14 PM
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Using celebs almost never works. To me Shailene Woodley is a 5-5.5/10 and that's taking into account her body. Her face is pretty ugly to me. but... she's a eleb who regularly plays lead roles and her movies aren't flops. Celebs shouldn't count for beauty ratings on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:11 PM
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Hahaha that's funny
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:07 PM
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Haha cool thanks. You have almost no 6s though; either 6.5 or a ton of 7s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:00 PM
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I get where you're coming from, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:59 PM
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Q4M: Post pics of girls/women you think are 6/10 & 7/10. Mention your age and location so we know the judging context. This comes from a post about average women and abundance, where a couple of posters said men and women don't really rate accurately. I'm curious what PPD men think are 6s and 7s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:41 PM
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Hang on, I'm not seeing a breakdown 20-29 and 30-39; just a single 20-39 category. Do you have a different source where you're seeing the two breakdowns?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:30 PM
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Oh how interesting! (And shocking). Thanks for letting me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:25 PM
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Might be an interesting and illuminating thread to ask PPD men to post pics of women they consider 6 & 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:01 PM
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This is Q4 women!! A few weeks ago I rated a woman a 5.5-6/10 and most men rated her sub-5. I don’t rate women harsher than men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:58 PM
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20-30 & 30-40 should be two separate time periods IMO. Those 2 decades are far too different for them to be conflated for studying weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:56 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:55 PM
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The average American woman is 5’4” and 170 lbs, sure. But at what age is this statistic calculated as the average woman? Is it 18-25, which is the age range most people look to date? Or are they 170 lbs around 30+ after they’ve dug into their careers, got married, popped out a kid or three?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:42 PM
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Yikes. In most major cities she would be a sub-5.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:39 PM
2

A mega chad said that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:16 PM
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Arguing with that user over that exact point and the number of ludicrous leaps of logic he's been making has been... hard to keep up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:15 PM
1

Ahhh I thought you were either in SFO or SV. SoCal is so much more affordable except for select places (BelAir, for eg). I remember looking up housing prices in Santa Monica and it was heaps more affordable than Seattle, which was shocking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:23 PM
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Unless you give me reasons for why this sub is representative of all of Reddit, or that this sub's married women don't come from higher education-higher income threshold background, it's just your opinion vs. mine. Which is really meaningless. I haven't seen the demographics of this sub broken down by how the married PPD women stack up education and income wise against the other groups. But it's a cliche on here that most of the women seem to be UMC and above.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:04 PM
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I don't get it. Read your own comment slowly, you'll get it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:39 PM
1

The context wasn't all of Reddit, the context was married women of PPD. Those women, it seems like, tend to come from higher educated and higher income thresholds (although I'm not sure what your definition of "higher income threshold" is).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:27 PM
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better educated, higher income thresholds The married women on here mostly do come from such backgrounds....
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 04:04 PM
1

How on earth are you paying just $2K rent in NorCal?! That's barely Seattle rent!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:56 PM
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That's funny, I just asked this user a very similar question. They didn't answer me directly, but now thanks to your discussion, turns out they're from the freaking Balkans. Light bulb moment about banning women from working.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:47 PM
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If someone sought advice for social upward mobility, then I agree burger flippers may not be the best people to give that advice. Maybe they can still as advice on what not to do lol. But if someone comes here seeking advice on achieving a happy and healthy romantic relationship, without knowing further particulars, any person in such happy and healthy relationship can give their advice. The advice-seeker can then evaluate how much weight to accord to the advice-giver's perspectives. Also, HVM s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:39 PM
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If enough people agree that it's okay we should have it. It's not actively harming people and therefore it's a valid view to have. Gotcha. I still think it actively harms people to stop someone from working at all. People find fulfillment from work and many root their identities in it. There are so many other fundamental factors that go into someone's wish to work. It's a great harm to ban half of society from working and just based on their gender, too. Are you from the West and/or an ethnic/re…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:36 PM
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honestly this post is just dramatic like i am Cool deal, I'm here for the drama anyway. Thanks for the free entertainment :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:32 PM
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Don't move goalposts. In your own words, you said a view is valid so long as enough people agree with it. I gave you examples of other views which enough people agreed with and asked you if you still think "enough people agree with it" is a good metric to evaluate the validity of an opinion. But fine, if you don't want to debate that threshold question, we'll discontinue this because there's no point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:31 PM
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No, these specific examples are fine and while judgey, do make some sense at least. But why would you judge all married women of PPD based off 3 examples?? Beyond that, if those women are truly happy with their choice of partners, as long as their advice isn't to just go after men who're clear outliers, their advice still holds merit for how to find a spouse that makes them individually/subjectively happy, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:28 PM
2

So your indecisiveness isn't a negative character trait but having face tattoos automatically means "crazy cookie in youth" (which still doesn't have to imply bad character)?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:23 PM
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Literally none of what you said addresses my two questions. But your opening comment was if you want advice, you'd ask the person who was successful in that department and not those who aren't. In the case of dating, shouldn't that be the married folks then? Why are married women of PPD the worst advice givers? And in what ways exactly is our advice so bad? Also, do address my second point about the beauty of the female PPD users and how that relates to our contributions here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:19 PM
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If, by your definition of what's a valid view, enough people support/hold certain views, then that view has merit right? I can think of at least 2 situations in history where enough people viewed the extermination of Jews and the enslavement of black people, as acceptable. So according to you, those views were valid and had merit just because "enough people agree that it's okay?" I don't see why forcing women from something is okay but not forcing them to do something else isn't okay. Seems high…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:17 PM
1

You think it doesn’t harm people to ban all women from the workplace? Is it also a valid view that all women must give birth?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:56 PM
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Valid in the context of it’s not violating this sub’s rules OR valid like that view has merit to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:50 PM
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I don’t get your stance on a couple of things. I’m one of the married women of PPD. Why do you think my perspectives or contributions on this sub are the worst? Also, you say a 4/10 line girl in comp sci makes out like she’s a stunner… but what does that really have to do with their advice or perspectives regarding dating? Are only beautiful people allowed to be listened to?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:49 PM
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I was asking whether you think prohibiting women from the workplace is okay, not whether women should be allowed to not participate in the labor force. You’re saying women shouldn’t be given the choice to work?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:49 PM
1

Wait, you really think not allowing women in the workplace is okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:36 PM
1

https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/20869454-c5af-455f-8101-65142a27789a/gif#QHGZlan-.copy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:01 AM
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Fulfillment, independence, discipline, among others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:40 PM
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Congrats on posting info from the same study at least. But you've still not pointed to the reason why the woman being the dominant earner is divorced. The reason could either be her hypergamy, or it could be that the man is now feeling emasculated by her being the dominant earner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:50 PM
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Chinese women aren't Swedish or American women. Vastly different cultures and mindsets. So no, unless you point to something in the same study that you cited about successful Swedish women getting divorced more, I'm not buying that it's solely hypergamy in the case of the Swedish women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:55 PM
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What is the reason women CEOs and women being promoted get divorced? Is it because the men they're with feel emasculated and leave/cheat/et al? Or is it because these women lose their attraction to their husbands when they get the promotions/job titles? Without an identified reason, we still don't know whether the blame is on women's hypergamy or men feeling emasculated by successful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:52 PM
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Your comments are always a breath of fresh air here, even if I may disagree with some of them :) I come from a still developing country/society multigenerational households that I’m used to Are you from South Asia/Southeast Asia by any chance? Yea, the modern West's societal structure is quite different from other parts of the world, so I do understand your thought process. Family is still very important here but it's not the be all end all, and fulfillment can take other shapes. I find my caree…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:54 PM
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You've been respectful so I'd like to extend that same courtesy to you. But I find it rather condescending that everyone is supposed to find "family" to be of the utmost importance. It may well be the case for most anyway, but I think there are other aspects of life which various people may prefer over family. At any rate, I'm very fulfilled between my career, pet, husband, immediate family, hobbies, social circle, and other interests that I pursue. I'm incredible appreciative of the fact that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:55 PM
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Even when I was...?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:52 PM
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Like 99% of the time, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:28 PM
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I genuinely don't understand what you're asking me....
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:18 PM
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Happened to me plenty. I used to get cold approached all the freaking time and I'd just smile, say I was flattered but I'm taken. Every single time the guy has said "Oh lucky guy, have a great day gorgeous" and we'd both smile and go our own merry way. No unpleasantness at all. Now if you're bitchy and scoff at the guy who's approached you, that guy may not take your rejection well. Of course, I don't doubt that there are assholes or creeps who don't know to walk away graciously, but those were …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:03 PM
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It isn't funny, it's tragic and I deeply feel for the men in this situation. Why tf are women acting like such delicate fragile children? Like, a woman can't just decline any approaches like an adult and go about their day?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 08:40 PM
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I was probably an 8 about 10-15 years ago and I got approached a lot. Contrary to what I read on Reddit though, I never minded the attention (bar the lewd & crass come on's). I'm glad to have the memory of being considered an attractive woman so that my now-faded looks don't bother me much :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 06:54 PM
2

The Witch King of Angmar *drooooool*
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 06:32 PM
2

Why do you “get the sentiment?” It’s ridiculous to think they’re not both equally intimate/foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:51 PM
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Self improvement will always work. Not pedestalizing a person is also a great thing to do. Having the self confidence that your world doesn’t have to revolve around one woman so that her rejection of you isn’t the life ending thing fragile men think it is, is also a good thing. So TRP works… but none of this is exclusive to TRP anyway. It’s all common sense that a lot of us, including myself, learned growing up as life lessons.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:49 PM
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What’s happening in Singapore? Does it also have “leftover women?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:40 PM
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I wonder to what extent this guy was so attentive/patient/romantic/invests in himself etc etc… to compensate for his condition and the inevitable rejection from any woman he dates. His strategy might be to be the bestest ever guy ever for 3 months to hook the woman so that it’s hard to walk away from him when he finally reveals his shortcoming snicker
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:35 PM
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Retirement home; staying close to my parents and brother/his family, and/or close friends; assisted suicide if push comes to shove.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:46 PM
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Oh that’s funny, I had another person in mind. But of course poppy is also a flower’s name!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 11:09 PM
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Still sounds bad even if less so. I 100% agree one shouldn't be just friends with someone they're attracted to. But deciding beforehand that you're never going to befriend another girl (aka, "pulling back from making female friends") is just the other extreme of that spectrum. One should always find a healthy balance instead of trying to live life on a 0-100 mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:14 PM
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Your entire comment is pretty much what I said in my own comment above thread lol. You've nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:04 PM
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The title asked about post-40 childless OR single women. I'm a post-40s childless woman, so I answered giving my perspective. I can't read into OP's mind when they wrote the words. If OP wants to know why their friend is unhappy, they should: (1) ask that question; and (2) not ask it because wtf would random redditors know about their friend anyway?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:00 PM
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Then her problem seems to be more that she's socially isolated and not the lack of kids. If I were lonely and most people around me all socialized through their kids, it might be easy for me to feel like I miss kids. But truly, what I'm missing is the socialization, which is happening around me through parents connecting/socializing with other parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:57 PM
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women of a certain religion Is that religion referenced in a certain mod's flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:46 PM
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I'm a married woman approaching mid forties. DINK and couldn't be happier about it. Kids bore me and don't fulfill me. That's not to say I don't like kids, though, and I'm actually pretty good with them and even enjoy their company, as long as I'm not responsible for them. A couple of my friends always liked kids (or at least, the idea of kids). Those women, for various reasons, didn't end up in a LTRs/marriage, and so are childless. But not by choice. Those women are sad or unfulfilled, but I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:43 PM
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Even if you find a girl unattractive and you think you won't like her as more than a friend, you still don't befriend them? Most desperate and/or maladjusted guys will find most girls attractive, if not at first, eventually. That said, it also takes a certain mindset to use one kinda-sorta "negative" experience, at the age of THIRTEEN, to say they'll never befriend any girl ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:21 PM
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Someone whose handle is similar to a flower's name blocked you based on that CA vs. TX convo? I always find it fascinating when minorities are hardcore Republican/conservative. The media paints such a binary picture that it's easy to miss the nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:17 PM
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all the major cities in Texas are blue, as major cities tend to be. This is so true. The divide really isn't as much state-state as it is between rural-urban. I really do wonder why that is. Is it exposure to varied cultures? Is it the population density that makes someone less likely to "other" someone from a different cultural/religious/ethnic background...? Some other reason or a combination of reasons? It's super interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:13 PM
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No no, I understand those images weren't part of the study. But the facial distinction struck me as an interesting factoid of how in general skinny guys are perceived vs. super muscular guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:00 PM
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I've always preferred lean and lanky to athletic/muscular. But what stuck out to me is the non-body difference in the too-muscular man vs. skinny man images. The too-muscular man is shown to have a masculine confident facial expression while the skinny guy is grinning like a clown and looks bashful. Those expressions alone would turn off women from wanting that skinny guy regardless of his physique. Clearly even men think skinny men are caricatures and not "real men."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:43 PM
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TIL bikers can’t be kind or honest
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:23 PM
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My now-husband was like the 15% when we met. After 10+ years of marriage, he’s now like the 20% guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:07 PM
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This is a gold star reply and breakdown of the typical AF/BB dynamic. The few of those relationships that I’ve personally seen have played out pretty much exactly as you described.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:53 PM
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Don’t equivocate, leading role = more important between two important roles. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:26 PM
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Are you saying the husband is the more important of the two?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:11 PM
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Do synonyms not exist in your world? A wife is a spouse who’s a life partner (same for husband). I don’t see the need for forcing differences between these terms. Agree on complementary strengths and a united front to finish weaknesses as a team/unit. Just because they’re not identical doesn’t mean they are t of equal importance. A business can have a tech co founder and a business co founder. They’re of vastly different skill sets but equals as partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:30 PM
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Isn’t a spouse (wife/husband) also called one’s life partner? I guess I don’t know what the differences are between being a wife/husband and a partner in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:16 PM
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If not a partner, then what do men want?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:46 AM
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Dual Income No Kids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:50 PM
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As a mid forties woman in a DINK marriage with another mid forties guy, with plenty of similarly aged DINK friends, I will offer a contrary view. Not all childfree people in their 40s and older regret that choice. My travels are still the best part of my life. I still savor the freedom of spontaneity in scheduling without worrying about kids’ schedules and commitments. I relish my spare time and I cherish being able to focus on my career (or hobbies, depending on what you prefer) without worryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:33 PM
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“One of us reaching out” Why’re you reaching out when he throws a hissy fit if you reject his advances? You like the drama/attention/??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:56 PM
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Anyone who casually calls women “bitches” is super sus
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:52 PM
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What an absolutely wonderful compliment, thank you! I know I’ve said it in the past but you’re a lovely wholesome person yourself :) Re dating/relationship struggles: I was fat growing up. Then became slim but struggled with relationship dynamics because I hadn’t built up my relationship skill set due to lack of experience. Another struggle was unlearning my short fuse; I grew up in a home where people were angry a lot and yelled at each other, so I thought it was normal and was like that in my …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:49 PM
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Why does marriage have to be boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:40 PM
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Plenty
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:17 PM
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This is exactly the kind of bag I was looking for, thank you!! Is it purely coincidental that it’s a Vera Bradley or did you go searching for something to match your name? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:57 PM
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Didn’t you say you have a GF?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:46 AM
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Don’t laugh at my old lady concerns :( Also I’m too lame to carry drugs while traveling!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:42 AM
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Yea I input some stats based on the patterns I see here from guys, and got 17% without taking into consideration the all important N count.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:07 AM
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Q4W>30: I need to upgrade/embiggen my travel toiletries bag. Can you share what you ladies use or recommend good quality toiletries bags which can fit a good amount of products?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:58 AM
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Nice . But you're missing virginity/N count, which is like of paramount importance to the men here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:54 AM
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I didn't get married easily. I experienced multiple heartbreaks, I only met my husband at 29 and got married at almost-32. After marriage, I still had (have) issues to work through to become the best version of myself. My husband and I still have certain conflicting views which we have to work very hard to overcome. Dating has been a struggle for me as well and trust me, I have encountered less-than-savory men. But enough men are genuine humans the same way that enough women are. The best thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:41 AM
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I don't know what to say to that, except, I hope you'll reconsider as you get older and hopefully have more positive interactions with women. Not to brag, but I'm a good person and love my husband and my dad and my bother and my male friends and acquaintances. I'm not an anomaly which means there are hundreds of thousands like me. Hope you find your happiness. But in the meantime, retiring in 10 years sounds freaking awesome!! Congrats on achieving something most people can only dream about. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:22 AM
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That tracks with my read of many comments here. I'm glad you're investing yourself with education/career/financials. These will stand you in very good stead throughout your life. If I may offer a completely unsolicited piece of advice: Don't let your bitterness and resentment of some women you've met color your opinion on all or most women. As you yourself have observed, there are different categories of women out there and the right category(ies) will treat you respectfully and with the love yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:29 AM
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That really sucks, I'm sorry to hear you've had such bad experiences. In light of that, your negative comments about women make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:11 PM
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Oh hang on, were you saying fat AND under 30 = automatic 3 point boost? Then I lose! I'll still give you the 3 extra points for being a good conversationalist. To have that, you must have aged gracefully. Ha thank you. I generally strive to get along with everyone, I firmly believe we all have more in common than less most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:10 PM
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I've always looked young for my age, so I looked 25 when I was in my early thirties. I'm close to mid-forties now and have hit the wall hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:46 PM
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I think I'm a solid 6-6.5/10. If I wear some level of makeup, I can move up to 7.5/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:44 PM
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Haha that's wild. It really is a different world for different economic classes. If you ask me, we should be fixing that as priority #1 instead of gender wars and other issues (which are still important).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:42 PM
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I like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:41 PM
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How many automatic points does one get for not being overweight over the age of 30?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:21 PM
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I heartily embrace schadenfreude
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:50 PM
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I'll take it at face value and assume he hasn't actually cheated on me yet. I'd appreciate the honesty and logically will also appreciate preserving his ethics and my feelings. But I'd still wish him all the STDs in the world lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:45 PM
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DM me too pls! I'm feeling more gossipy today lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:38 PM
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OP is a man haha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:35 PM
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Lol oh no what happened. I need the tea! Gimme the masala chai, Desi Boy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:29 PM
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WHO DAT
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:23 PM
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No character flaw whatsoever. I wouldn't even call you perpetually single because that phrase, to me, means you've never dated. You've got plenty of dating experience. The only things that might cause me concern if I were to evaluate your relationship potential if whether you have the time and bandwidth for an LTR in light of your frequent travels and video game consumption. If you can demonstrate that you're actually interested in exclusivity and make the time/effort for a relationship, you'd b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:16 PM
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If you aren't a woman that fits in the demographic context, that makes you an outlier. OP was calling those women who don't share outliers, meaning most women share, and therefore he didn't want outliers' inputs because any information they share is worthless. I challenged that because it's very relevant to the topic he wanted to discuss. We did go on to productively discuss the actual topic and not just the premise. Read fully next time before coming in here like a bull in a china shop, it's ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:11 PM
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Ah with that context, all cool I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:06 PM
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With women, you have serious details at time. Measurements. Orgasms. Techniques even. Dude wut. Not once have me and my many many female friends even come close to this level of sexual granularity lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:05 PM
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A good ho(e)ing produces great seed!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:00 PM
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Unironically, I think this is sexual harassment and shouldn't be tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:59 PM
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I was challenging his very premise of women not sharing being outliers. No irony. In any case OP and I went on to have a productive conversation, so you don't need to white knight for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:55 PM
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Oh interesting you're saying even when it comes to casual partners, men don't share as much as women might? That's really not been my experience, but then I've, by definition, not been a part of any all-male discussion about sex lol Meanwhile, a man is only going to be angry if his woman told her friends anything BAD about him. He is perfectly find being spankbank material to women haha Agreed! He's fine being spank bank material and/or he knows he wouldn't be that material (I can very rarely th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:54 PM
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That could well be a factor but I still think my first point is the primary reason why men don't share sexual details about their current LTR with their guy friends. If the homo thing was the primary reason, men wouldn't be so quick to share sexual details of their ONS and other casual encounters, which they most certainly do share.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:29 PM
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I'll paste what I replied to the OP in response to your question: ​ I'd pick two reasons why the difference between the genders on this issue: Women believe/know that men will picture the info shared. So if men share sexual details of their current lass with their male friends, those guys will picture the girl in question with her clothes off, performing those sexual acts, etc. Which is distasteful. Whereas, women have been told that women don't do this with their women friends' guys. Another re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:22 PM
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I'd agree with you that more women will share compared to men, even if the percentages of women sharing is still a minority. I'd pick two reasons why the difference between the genders on this issue: Women believe/know that men will picture the info shared. So if men share sexual details of their current lass with their male friends, those guys will picture the girl in question with her clothes off, performing those sexual acts, etc. Which is distasteful. Whereas, women have been told that women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:20 PM
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I'm not sure what my husband's exact height is, just the range. But if there's a discussion here where someone solicits that info, I'd pick a specific number from that range instead of giving the range itself. Just because it's easier to discuss using specific numbers. The last time we were talking about our men's salaries, we all gave a range. I'm sure there are women who discuss in detail but in my observation and personal experience, most don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:05 PM
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I can't speak for others but my friends are I barely shared any sexual details of whomever we were dating at that time. Exes were fair game as were ONS/FWBs, but not our BFs or husbands. At most we might say he's amazing in bed or that he has no problems with size or some some such generic statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:00 PM
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If your view "bUT I dOn'T sHaRe and I aM a WoMaN" or vice-versa, not interested in your inputs, save yourself time, you are an outlier, your opinion is irrelevant And there it is. You've already concluded the premise, closed your mind, and so anyone not willing to endorse your confirmation bias is immediately and conveniently dismissed as an "outlier." Why don't you also just conclude the reasons for why women share sexual details too? Save yourself some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:44 PM
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I don't think this particular OP lives in India. But yes, I have started to notice that a lot of male posters here seem to not be in the US or West, and a lot of things have clicked into place for me after that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:36 PM
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I'm plenty social and have been all my life. I've gone to plenty of bars and a few strip clubs back in the day, but these were the classy ones and not the nasty down n dirty ones with pimps strolling about. Again, socioeconomic backgrounds dictate a large part of what you come into contact with and what you gravitate towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:32 PM
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She could and she may also do that; not like she's exclusive with the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:11 PM
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THat's one group. The other group comes from a low socioeconomic background where it's common to find men who are drug dealers and pimps; so common that it's also common to find women who'd date these drug dealers and pimps. Meanwhile here I am racking my brains trying to figure how the hell I can even come across a single drug dealer or a pimp.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:08 PM
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When I was dating a particular ex, the sheer number of men who took me aside and told me to dump him because he was "beneath me" and I "could do way better", and scoffing at him and asking me "why in the name of hell" I'd want to be with him.... was pretty high. Women didn't do this at all. The men would blatantly ignore him and talk only to me when he was standing right next to me. So no, I disagree that women encourage each other's hypergamy, it's usually the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:04 PM
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Wait, you live in India too?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:47 PM
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She has brown skin and lives in India. He has white skin and lives in the US. That's plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:45 PM
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You’re most welcome, I am here to spread my wisdom after all ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:49 PM
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Congratulations! You have now encountered the Bechdel Test in real life. There are a couple of logical reasons for why this happens: Women do talk amongst each other about guys and especially so compared to men. Most of it is socialization and not innate biology. Men are taught that it's "gay" to talk about feelings, and so anything other than, "I banged her" is considered effeminate or "gay." But rest assured that men do very much talk about their feelings and romantic dynamics, just with their…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:10 AM
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I prefer him clean shaven (I like the pretty boy look), 7-7.5/10, maybe an 8/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:22 AM
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There's stuff a GF can and should initiate in a relationship (gestures of affection, planning a surprise birthday party even if the guy hasn't planned for her before, organizing and hosting Thanksgiving together as a couple, etc) but that's a whole different class from combining finances, buying a house with him, having kids with him, taking care of his sick family member, etc. The marriage class of things shouldn't be done while in GF/BF role (by either the guy or the girl).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:18 AM
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9/10
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:43 PM
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My extensive social circle is split 60-40 parenthood-childfree. The parent-couples are just as happy beyond being stressed the first couple of infant/toddler years. The key really is being intentional about kids and what having them would mean. My friends were very intentional about having/not having kids, and they all planned according to their respective choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:07 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:53 PM
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Married for 10+ years and in my forties. Both me and my husband changed after a few years into our marriage. We are both far more comfortable and vulnerable with each other. Our work takes up a lot more bandwidth. We're both highly social people and compared to before marriage, socialize together (instead of separately) almost 100% of the time. We have a pet who's demanding. Also, we're no longer in our late twenties/early thirties, which is when we met , dated, and got married. So with all thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:46 PM
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Aww am honored that my comment thread has spurred its own comment thread. PPD cottage industry!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:14 PM
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Yea I see your point. Welcome back btw, haven't seen you in a while!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:09 PM
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It was a tongue in cheek comment. This is a storm in a teacup.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:06 PM
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Hahaa not at all, I've never had an alt. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:02 PM
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women who have had casual sex are called whores and prostitutes every single day in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:44 PM
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Iran really isn't the same as Afghanistan though. SA comes freaking close but the royal family has its own unique weirdness to it. But generally, yes, it's unsurprising that the ruling elites anywhere are hypocrites and selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:42 PM
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It was a joke, maybe it was not well delivered, but the it was not distasteful at all. I stand by it. The joke stems from the very fact that comparing the freaking Taliban to RP guys is so ludicrous. And don't act so high and mighty, women who have had casual sex are called whores and prostitutes every single day in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:40 PM
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As a woman, I'd say that it's at once an accurate and inaccurate statement that women care less about looks. If we assessed looks exclusively, we are much more picky. BUT looks themselves matter less in what attracts us to guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:37 PM
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expect their daughters to be highly educated but still become good wives/mothers. Yup, that bolded part is key
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:34 PM
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That's a very common phenomenon but only insofar as those guys apply it to their sons. It's newsworthy here because they seem to be similarly (not identically though) applying to their daughters, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:27 PM
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Come on man, I was obviously (I thought) joking. I thought the exclamation at the end gave it away, clearly I was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:25 PM
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Fair enough, just was surprised westerners watch Bollywood movies lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:24 PM
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RP fathers of daughters!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:06 PM
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Why on earth are you consuming Bollywood movies?!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 04:57 PM
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Umm introversion (NOT socially awkward, mind you) and being over the age of 27 is low value? The fuq?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 04:47 AM
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Law & Order, what an iconic show
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 12:41 AM
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I don't bother with that one anymore. Tried giving her advice in earnest on at least 2 separate occasions, and finally was told this: Most of the time I’m posting in here I’m not looking for advice per say, just observations with my Dating life, my friend’s dating life, thoughts I have. If I really put the time and effort to finding a partner I’m sure I would. I’m an attractive lady, decent head on my shoulders. I just honestly don’t have the time. Between working in tech, working out, my hobbie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:35 PM
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Definitely not. But I have nothing but respect for people who genuinely fall in love with step kids, they are such big hearted people and I think we should laud them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:32 AM
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Is it because most of your immigrants are economic refugees? Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:35 AM
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If the RPW woman of that post agrees nothing will change, why's she asking for advice on how to talk to her husband about changing his lifestyle to be healthier and her trepidation about having a second child? Asking for advice isn't acceptance that nothing will change. But maybe you meant generally people in OP's shoes have become resigned to their fate and aren't expecting anything to change? Then can't they leave the marriage or find another way to cope with their situation instead of just po…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:27 AM
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SES is a very difficult thing to define/discuss, but a teacher is absolutely in the same bracket as a finance guy She clearly isn't talking about a financial or tax bracket. The context, which she clearly laid out, is the SES, which she also said is a difficult thing to define.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:15 AM
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There is no way to force a man to do things he doesn't want to do. Especially when it comes to childcare—you don't want to entrust a little life to an incompetent or lazy man You can't physically make another person do anything (legally, i.e.) but there are other ways to make them. If ultimately none of those ways makes the person in question do those things, then you don't procreate (more) with that dipshit and/or leave that dipshit. Women need to be solution-oriented instead of just sitting ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:04 AM
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Can you imagine what US women, the apparently oh-so-awful ones, would have to legitimately say about that South African male commenter? If all US women are deemed awful because of one Tinder beeyotch mouthing off, imagine what one can say about that male OP coming from a country that the Interpol has deemed "the rape capital of the world."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:45 AM
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The sheer stupidity it takes for a man from the rape capital of the world to complain about US woman....
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:06 AM
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I don't know if she chose wrong and especially not based on him refusing to contribute towards child care. Because she couldn't have spotted that before having a child. I just think she needs to put her foot down about his lack of household and childcare contribution; and she also needs to firmly tell him she won't be having that second kid till he demonstrates a sustained healthier lifestyle. But she won't do any of that because she's a RPW and therefore, a dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:01 AM
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She wasn't shocked about his obesity or his diabetes He eats unhealthy foods, smokes, and he has a lot of family history of diabetes, so I wasn't surprised, She's just wondering how to talk to him about not wanting the second baby. IMO, she's being a doormat by taking care of 90% of the household chores and the childcare for the existing child when she also makes a similar amount of income as him. To top it off, she believes him when he's "promised her" that he'll take care of the current child …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:54 AM
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That's frustrating to read. But I don't blame her for putting up with awful behavior because she's only 22. Hopefully she learns to not put up with men like him before she has a baby with this loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:02 PM
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If you don't go into a relationship thinking this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, what do you go into a relationship for? "I'll use you until I'm hotter/wealthier/in a better place mentally then I'll get rid of you?" I think that's more disturbing than anything. Black and white thinking strikes again. Dating in your teens and early twenties is not a zero-sum game of you use the person or you marry them. It's a question of going into that relationship because you genuinel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:43 PM
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Of course those do exist and that's fine. i was only pointing out to OP that a relationship not lasting doesn't need to taint your view of that period of life, nor does it invalidate your happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:37 PM
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but on ppd we get a weird vocal demographic of ... and 40+ married women As one of these, this sub really has made me question whether the dating landscape is now unrecognizable to me to the extent that my perspectives and "wisdom" as a successfully paired up older woman is worthless/irrelevant. I did OLD but it was pre-Tinder and instant/constant swiping didn't exist. Looks and catchphrases didn't almost-100% define someone's dating quotient.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:11 PM
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I agree with you to some extent, but expecting to have just one relationship the entirety of your life is utopian and is setting yourself up for failure. Are you saying a relationship you had at 20 is expected to last till you die and if that doesn't happen, you're gonna be sad forever? I have had some painful breakups at fairly significant events of my life and when I now look back, that pain doesn't take away from my enjoyment of those events. Our pain and failures don't define us and they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 08:21 PM
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If Belgian he’d have said “ketchup or mayo with your FRITES”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:24 PM
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Wordle 2.0?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:10 PM
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There’s freaking way this is real. Unless the guy is deeply autistic and was told that he should always be honest and that women only eat salads otherwise they get fat. Even then this story is just too crazy to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:08 PM
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... how is missing the Colosseum romantic?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 08:15 PM
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Depends on the fight but largely agree. Beer is almost always the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 08:07 PM
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Freshly washed linen
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 08:06 PM
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That's totally fair. I was only saying maybe she's already happy and was only asking for your subjective opinion on her situation out of curiosity.. not because she wanted to change her situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:59 PM
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Maybe she's very happy as she is in her current situation. If she's content with it, why not just let her be? It'd be like someone coming up to me, who's childfree, and saying I'd be happier stepping outside my comfort zone and becoming a parent. Like... why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:09 PM
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Mid forties married childfree woman chiming in. Not a single regret for me and husband about being childfree. Half of my social circle is childfree DINKs with no regrets too. Default might be kids but being un-regretfully childfree is not an insignificant percentage of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:23 PM
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I mean, if she asked and wanted your honest opinion on her situation, and you gave it to her politely, then it's not on you. Who knows, maybe she's taken the time off to reevaluate her situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:17 PM
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I'm surprised you were the one who said that, you're usually a really lovely and reasonable person on here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:07 PM
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I won't speak of Cim and Gimp in the same sentence. The moment I see Gimp I don't even bother reading her content
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:06 PM
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Gotcha, thanks for clarifying your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:05 PM
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Cim is a very nice person and she's super nice to everyone even during heated discussions on this sub. But she's a self-declared autist (please correct me if I'm wrong). To say she's the voice of normal women is.... interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:37 PM
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I'm usually as mentally capable as a slug after any kind of pasta dish, but especially lasagne. Mad props to you for studying post-lasagne!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:35 PM
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I'm old lady Gen X'er and yea, I probably never meaningfully interact with any Gen Z folks lol. If I were in your shoes, I'd have said hey the check's here and I'm paying for my share. If she has money or no money, not my problem, and I'd have left with my peace of mind intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:01 PM
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This experience sounds so cartoonishly bad it comes across as fake. Also, why would you pick up the whole tab just because she was on her phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:49 PM
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This podcast sounds dope but of course you're not gonna tell me what it's about etc to preserve your PPD anonymity, are you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 06:17 PM
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Oh yea while I love the snow from inside the house, the logistics of living with months of snowfall can get annoying fast. Hope you're staying safe with the nor'easter and such!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 06:15 PM
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We need details
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:14 PM
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