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This seems to assume everyone wants a forever relationship. I only want to date men or a man so long as I'm happy. It doesn't have to be exclusive and I don't expect forever. Also many of us women love dating apps. I only date men from social media or apps. I can shop for the men I like, eliminate dealbreakers, and not have to "go out and be social" because I don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:17 PM
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Why would I call it out if it has nothing to do with me and provides me with no benefit? If you want to pay me to call out misandry, then we can talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:44 PM
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Why would I change for men when right now I'm getting what I want? It's only men who get rejected who want women to change for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:43 PM
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I prefer a man who is active on and likes social media, but he doesn't have to have a following my size. I don't like the "anti-social media" men. They are annoying and negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 01:20 AM
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Social media is the modern "in real life" social circle. I meet men through mutuals and I have a decent-sized following (over 5000). It's fantastic because I can see pictures of the men to see if I'm attracted, see where they live, see what they do for a living (profession is key to me; I rule out certain vocations), see how he interacts and what kind of social calibration he has, etc. I don't want men approaching me at the grocery store. I want to gatekeep myself so I can select directly online…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:08 PM
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I meet the men I want to date on Facebook (I love social media for dating) or a dating app. I don't meet men randomly in "real life." I select the men I want online because I can screen them for compatibility. I don't want to waste time on a random that will be incompatible with me when I can just select online.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:32 PM
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I prefer ethically challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:07 AM
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I'm sure the 70% of women who are obese or overweight are your only options if at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:07 AM
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Cope. I'm 17-18% bidy fst year round, have long hair and wear srxy dresses. I'm in the top 10% of women just on BMI. You just dislike my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:06 AM
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Not to me, nope. Not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:40 PM
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You misunderstand me. I'm not extrapolating. I'm not responsible for the experiences of other women and I don't care. I answered why attractive women like myself aren't engaging with men we don't want. We simply don't HAVE to. Whether other women will decide to do that is up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:39 PM
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I don't care because I don't want marriage or kids. So there are no negative consequences for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:28 PM
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You brought up an irrelevant point to me. Women who aren't bitter about dating--attractive women--don't have to engage men we find unattractive. So I answered the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 11:28 PM
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I don't relate to those women at all. I don't experience any downsides or negatives in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:42 AM
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Because we don't HAVE to engage with men we aren't physically attracted to, ESPECIALLY if we are attractive women with options. I know you don't like it. I know you don't think it's fair. I know you think you know what you would do if you had our options and you are moralizing. But that's just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:51 PM
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Men are the most sexually necessitous so they need to make more compromises and accommodations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 04:42 PM
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Because marriage is a bad deal for smart high-earning women. Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 10:15 PM
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Who cares what the view is?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 10:58 AM
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No, my point is that he dates casually, has sex but doesn't get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 10:52 AM
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There is a difference between an inexperienced man (virgin, undesired) and a man who can get sex and dates but chooses to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 11:33 PM
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Facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:57 PM
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There are no "shoulds" in the sexual marketplace. Preferences are Preferences. I make over 6 figures and I'm grossed out by the notion of being the higher earner to a lower earner man. I'd just not commit at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:49 PM
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Absolutely! I believe all preferences are valid in the sexual marketplace. I prioritize finances and have made myself very successful. A secure lifestyle is key to my contentment. I honestly couldn't be sexually attracted to a man not on the same level.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:42 PM
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I'm absolutely not committing to a man who makes less than me. I have zero incentive to do so. I'm not playing the masculine role with a man and I don't need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 10:37 PM
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The seller doesn't tell the buyer what the buyer needs to do to get their product. The seller needs to offer the buyer value.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:00 PM
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Doesn't matter. None of the women I know in the corporate world are having issues with male colleagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:33 PM
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I'm in law.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:33 PM
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I have a male boss, male mentors, meet 1:1 and have gotten several promotions and 5 figure raises over the last decade. This supposed #MeToo fallout is mainly a myth spread by chronically online people without corporate jobs. It's not true of my firm or my industry whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:39 AM
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Why would I want to get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 04:45 AM
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I just go for what I want and put myself first. I have zero obligation to disclose all of my inner thoughts to any man I date. That said, I can't stand brokies and losers (bad boys) so my natural preference is the "sigma" type who is highly independent, avoidant, has his life together and won't cramp my style while we date. I have no use for "nice guys" except as social media orbiters liking my photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:17 PM
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How are you linking marriage to caring?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:10 AM
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I have no intention of marrying anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:00 AM
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Oh absolutely. I just find it hilarious that a lot of average 40s men with 20%+ bodyfat making $50k a year try to use Leo as an example for why THEY are attractive to younger women 😅🤣😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:10 PM
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Absolutely. I agree with you on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 11:41 PM
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We can have different ideals. I don't care about adults consensually dating other adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 11:33 PM
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Yes, with female alcoholics. Not a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:27 PM
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Maybe to YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:27 PM
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Oh for sure. But he only gets 20s women because he's rich and famous. It's not his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:55 PM
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Right. So I wouldn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:54 PM
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I've never seen this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:54 PM
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That wasn't the question, was it? Not to mention his weight doesn't matter. 20s women don't want 40s men unless they offer money, fame, status or some combination of these. And he's still an alcoholic who looks like shit due to all that poison.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:40 PM
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Leo DiCaprio. He's a fat, bloated alcoholic. He only is able to date 20s women because these women know they can get temporary access to his wealth as his temporary girlfriend. These women are SMART. They know they get traded in at 25 so during their "girlfriend contract phase" they extract as much jewelry, vacations, expensive dinners, and clothes as possible. They are willing to have sex with his bloated body knowing that the gifts and experiences they obtain are of far higher value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:17 PM
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What would you do in this situation? You've been dating a guy for 3 months. He's 30 years old. It's going great, he has his own place, great job (whatever that means to you creative or monetarily), looks good etc. etc. Up until this stage, he's your ideal partner. Sounds good. You find out that the girl he "dated" directly before you was 18 and she had just finished high school. He says it wasn't serious because she's too young. He wants to be serious with you because you're closer to his age an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:14 PM
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I don't care because if I'm not in a declared exclusive relationship we are both free agents in the sexual marketplace and can date/have sex with other people. I don't give it any thought honestly. What a man I'm not exclusive does when not with me is none of my business and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:19 PM
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I like Rian Stone and Paul Benjamin.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:15 AM
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I care more about financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:45 PM
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If I had sex with a male virgin unknowingly, what harm has been done? None. Similarly if a man I'm dating had no relationship experience but sat, told me he hasn't 2 prior year long LTRs (believable) and he's a great boyfriend to me in the present, I wouldn't be super upset if I found out. I care about STDs and kids since these are big deals. And you're welcome. A lot of men with no experience are rude on Herr but you've been very reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:32 PM
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Oh I get that. I'm speaking practically. It's up to you to lie. Frankly were I a male virgin over 25 I would lie. Once you get experience who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:09 PM
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It wouldn't really matter. Either you offer her what she wants and needs in the current relationship or you don't. Your prior relationships wouldn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:02 PM
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What do you mean by dishonest? There is lying on one hand which is dishonest, but omitting something about your past that isn't like a kid or STD if you were never asked is not dishonest. For example, I'm not obliged to disclose what sex acts I did with past partners if never asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:54 PM
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Dating was never promised to be "fair," it never CAN be "fair" without coercion and I don't care if men go to the "manosphere." There is a lot of good information in some parts of the manosphere unless they get stuck with people like Rollo Tomassi and Myron Gaines.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:26 AM
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No, that study wouldn't make me concerned about body count at all. Why would it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:22 AM
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We don't know enough about OP himself, the location he resides in and the efforts he's made to conclude that his issues constitute proof of a problem with modern dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:40 AM
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There are still people who want kids and are having them. The people who don't REALLY want kids and prioritize that in their 20s aren't having them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:38 AM
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Eliminate social security altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:56 AM
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I'm pretty close to 100% content with the life I built for myself. It makes it so a relationship is a value-add to my life, not a necessity, so I won't choose a man out of desperation. Loneliness is caused by people being afraid of solitude out of self-loathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:55 AM
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That doesn't mean there is a problem with modern dating. It means that women who in the past would have had to have married a man she didn't want now doesn't have to. That's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:53 AM
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What is your solution? Forcing people to marry and procreate?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:53 AM
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Unrealistic based on what metric?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:52 AM
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No one is guaranteed to get a relationship with someone they're attracted to. That's never been how life has worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:49 PM
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How does your answer invalidate mine? They don't like "modern dating" because the people THEY want don't want what THEY are offering.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:39 PM
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Marriage doesn't offer a ton of benefits separate from a long-term relationship and offers more liabilities, so no. People who want to have sex are having sex and teenage pregnancies are WAY down which is a good thing. As for dating, people are better off not dating if they are not whole in their own lives and content with their weight, finances, hobbies, careers, etc. Nothing is forced today and all romantic/sexual relationships are voluntary. That's not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:39 PM
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Social security is theft. Fully agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:22 PM
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There's no problem with modern dating. There are just people discontent that the people THEY want don't want what THEY are offering.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:14 PM
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They are full of bots and catfish but also introverted professional men who aren't into partying, which is what I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:07 PM
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Dating apps are not hard for me as a woman but experiences differ based on what the woman wants and her attractiveness. I love using dating apps and social media to date. I never ever date random cold approachers or people from social circle nor do I have to put myself in miserable social situations to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:39 AM
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What are you talking about? Some of the most successful and confident men are introverted because they don't want to spend time around drunk loud idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:36 PM
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Wholly depends on the woman. As an introvert, I like introverted men, assuming they meet my other priorities (financial success, are very confident, super independent, into fitness, etc.). I would date an extroverted man casually (as on rotation) but never exclusively. They are super needy and get on my nerves fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:58 PM
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Women aren't forced to date men they don't want. Seems free to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:48 PM
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I've had a great experience using OLD and social media to date. I hand-pick the men I like based on my preferences and I never have to entertain randos who cold approach and I never have to leave my couch to meet men "in real life." Love online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:47 PM
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Works great for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:03 AM
-1

That's fine. It's easy to date using Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:54 AM
-2

if all men started complaining then we could actually start shit since anything is better than getting nothing No, then you're just complaining. You still aren't DOING anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:47 PM
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What's regulated about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:34 PM
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That doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:37 AM
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How do you know Eva didn't like his personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:16 AM
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If I'm not getting a paycheck from someone their opinion is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:12 AM
0

Fewer and fewer couples are having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:05 PM
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I'm not obliged to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:04 PM
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Did I advocate this for people with children?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:22 PM
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That's fine. I don't think selfish is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:22 PM
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I disagree entirely. I like the individualistic view of relationships and the notion that relationships are transactional. It makes everything direct and clear. I am not looking for anyone who needs completing or reassurance or therapy. I'm only attracted to smart men who are confident, financially and professionally successful and fit and want a female partner who brings THE SAME. I like the power that comes from us mutually not needing each other but choosing to date because we WANT to. I abso…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:57 PM
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I make over 6 figures working 40 hours a week. I have a lot of discretionary funds to enjoy in addition to my savings. It's not grueling at all. I love having my own money, my flat abs and no kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:56 PM
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Right, but it's obviously something where a woman chooses that situation over not having the situation. We don't get to decide what someone else thinks is a value worth pursuing. No one stays in a situation altruistically. They do so out of self-interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:11 AM
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She's getting something from it or she wouldn't be there. So it's not one-sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:08 PM
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None of these are concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:31 PM
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Why would I care after I ghost without sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:05 AM
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So not surprised as per the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 07:12 PM
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Who said we're surprised?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 07:04 PM
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They can refuse all they want. I'll just ghost them with no sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 05:10 PM
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I love this! Only desperate people with scarcity mentality hate dating today.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 04:39 AM
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Men have to compromise for sex. Women don't, especially attractive thin women. So I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 02:52 AM
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I don't use them because I don't have to. The men I date will use a regular male condom or I won't have sex with them and replace them with another guy. So simply for me...I don't have to. Ever. And I don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:45 PM
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😆😅🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 10:43 PM
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I completely agree! I'm SO happy being a woman in 2024 and I am not forced financially or pressured socially to get married and have babies. Love having lots of my own money I don't have to share, my own place I don't have to share and my lean physique I don't need to get pregnant and stretched out. I can enjoy male company for dinners out or relaxing and not have them in my space. I don't need to take anyone but me into consideration. Paradise! Can't relate to anyone unhappy with today's sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:17 AM
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Who said sex was a privilege for women? It's a privilege for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:01 PM
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Unabashedly genuine and DGAF.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:43 PM
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Let's agree it is your looks. Are you now satisfied?
/r/ExRedPill04/08/24 03:19 PM
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Women want the exact same thing someone who could be a fuckboi but doesnt have a super high body count because it demonstrates an exclusive sacrifice. I don't care about a man's body count in number. I care about the quality of the women he attracts and retains. Women want greater than 0 experience in their partners but less then say 2 to 3 partners. Men want 0 experience or less than 2 to 3 past partners in their prospective partners. Says who? I don't agree as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:34 PM
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My thought is that if you are not a redpill woman, you're opinion is somewhere around: "yes the dating market is bad for many women, but your criticisms are not convincing me to change anything. i have at least some power in the marketplace and i'm not about to give that up because some guys can't get laid" No, but close. The dating market is awesome for women like ME. I agree with the rest of this. I don't mean to assume anyone's thoughts in here, so if this does not reflect you, don't be mad, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:43 PM
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It doesn't impact me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:48 AM
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Men have always been cut out though. In the past 17 women procreated for every 1 man, per some research conducted. Dating apps and social media have given tons of people opportunities they never would have had to meet, date, network, become friends, marry, etc. Men who are not successful on them are not unsuccessful because social media and dating apps exist. They are unsuccessful because women have the right to omit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:33 PM
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So because women don't want fat men (reasonable), online dating is bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:12 PM
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On the contrary, for many of us, social media and dating apps improved our lives. Social media improved my life because I enjoy posting photos and posts and interacting with the large following I have (on Facebook). Plus many of the people I met I enjoy more than those I would meet in "real life." In addition, social media is a great way for me to meet the men I *want* to date. I don't need a social circle or to be social or to deal with "day game" approaches in "real life" to meet men I like. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:11 PM
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To clarify your post, this doesn't apply to people like me who can partner (with partners we want) but enjoy the freedom of not having a relationship (at least at the present)?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:02 PM
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It would be very minimal. Men have little if any leverage in the dating market now that women are no longer economically dependent and we are no longer in a subsistence society.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:44 PM
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It would not make a difference to me at all, but it would to women who definitely want marriage and kids. That said, I think men are more likely to agree to a relationship over losing a woman they like so if a woman insists on marriage and kids most men except the top percentage would go along.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:48 PM
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And so what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:46 PM
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Not at all. Just because women don't want a particular man doesn't mean their standards are too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:45 PM
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Exactly. Declawed cats just angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:08 PM
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I didn't suggest anyone do anything. I simply listed the options.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:08 PM
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Where did I suggest that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:59 AM
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To you, but it is still okay in that it is legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:58 AM
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Right, so again: you can do nothing. Declawed cat. That is tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:57 AM
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What are you going to do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:56 AM
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Okay tough guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:55 AM
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There is a pic of me in my bio 😄. I'm under 18% bf so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:14 AM
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No, I mean who cares what women you don't want say about your preferences? Do you think I care what men I don't want say?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:13 AM
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You can't do anything about it. Porn and fast food pacify most of the 80% of men and they will do nothing. You are declawed cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:11 AM
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100% agree with you but a lot of women do not Who cares? and a lot of women label any male preference they dislike as problematic, misogynistic, insecure or whatever buzzword they want to use that day. Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:09 AM
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when you do self improve to a level of greatness, these same women who told you should self improve now call you shallow or misogynistic if you say you won’t settle for a fat chick Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:08 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:07 AM
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They aren't okay per YOU. You don't determine morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:07 AM
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Actually all of those are okay. That doesn't mean you have to like it. But they are all amoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:05 AM
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"I have spoken to women who were obese and didn't even bother to brush their hair complain about reducing their standards to match with me or that there are no good looking men at the mixer." Okay, so these women weren't interested in you. "While I am a Ukrainian-American I feel like "leave the country" is a bit extreme. Especially since then you get branded as a "passport bro" and called a predator." Sounds like an excuse. If you don't want to leave fine, but this is an option you are dismissin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 11:36 PM
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Blame and fairness have nothing to do with the sexual marketplace. It's simple. If you are not getting the women you want, you have to: Lower or change your standards in which women you want; or Move to another location where you might be more attractive to women you want; or Change yourself to be more attractive to what the women you want WANT. That's it. Self-improvement by itself might make you more attractive across the board but if you want certain types of women and you aren't what they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 11:08 PM
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I agree, and since only a fraction of the sex that is men gatekeep relationships, saying "men gatekeep relationships" is false. Whereas women actually DO gatekeep consensual sex and in the West, relationships for the majority. The reason for the latter is because most men only get sex in the confines of a relationship and therefore, if a woman demands commitment for ongoing sex, most men agree out if necessity. Women gatekeep BOTH.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 08:36 PM
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I never said anyone shouldn't get married. This side conversation started because I pointed out that men don't gatekeep marriage. Many red pillers like Rollo Tomassi say the sane thing. I'm not a feminist and I like men and masculinity. Men just don't gatekeep relationships today and haven't for the last half century. Men repeating that on here doesn't help women because women know it isn't true.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 06:49 PM
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Women use sex as a tool for many reasons. A relationship is only ONE reason for sex. Read David Buss' "Why Women Have Sex."
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 06:12 PM
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Absolutely. But that doesn't make them involuntarily celibate. They can pay for sex but choose not to take the risk.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 05:37 PM
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There are no incels if they can pay for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 04:34 PM
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But they don't want them. If you can't easily get what you want, you don't control access to it. That doesn't matter. It shows that most men don't gatekeep commitment. Further, there are always men women can settle with for marriage, so the men who want all men to use marriage as leverage to get women as a whole to "return to tradition" are shit out of luck. Women have MORE benefits from marriage now. No, less. When women were forcibly economically dependent, they benefited. Now women can make t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 04:30 PM
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That's not involuntary. That's voluntary.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 04:20 PM
2

Of course.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 02:35 PM
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While true, this assumes the woman is the one bringing up the relationship conversation which isn't always the case. So even if the man is desirable and the woman wants him, he may still bring up their exclusivity first.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 02:35 PM
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I agree, and women always can get boyfriends or husbands. Maybe not top percentage of men but there are no involuntarily single women.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 10:39 AM
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Thst just shows that men aren't gatekeepers. Women easily get marriages with "simps" or betas which are MOST men. Only 20% or less of men have commitment that women WANT TO WORK FOR and are therefore "gatekeeping." Even THEN many women are now passing on marriage since it offers women fewer benefits today unless the man is rich. Otherwise it's often more work for her to less benefit. She can get sex, money and kids without a husband (not advocating this).
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 10:37 AM
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But "men" don't gatekeep relationships. Only the very few men who actually have more than one woman actively working for their commitment gatekeep. A man who doesn't have women wanting his commitment gatekeeps nothing. So...we have what? 20% or less of men as a whole who POSSIBLY gatekeep, and even these ones lack leverage because women still have more options. Most of the red pillers such as Rollo Tomassi claim women gatekeep relationships today as well as sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 10:34 AM
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Women gatekeep sex and relationships today. Most men can't gatekeep their commitment because their commitment has low or no value on the sexual marketplace.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 11:13 PM
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Women gatekeep sex and relationships today. Most men can't gatekeep their commitment because their commitment has low or no value on the sexual marketplace.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 11:12 PM
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Daniel 100%. I want a man who is making great money and stoic. If he's jaded that just means he won't be needy and possessive. He sound great!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:02 PM
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"After getting over the anger phase..." Why would I be angry? "Do you kick him to the curb?" Not if he meets the priorities I have for a relationship. Not watching porn isn't one of them. "What if he's an absolute slayer in bed and you find out he got this way from watching and learning from lesbian porn?" All I care about is that he meets the expectations I have in terms of his disposition and financial success. If he wants to watch any kind of porn on his own time I don't care. I only care abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:59 PM
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Casual dating isn't immoral for either sex, especially since you say upfront what your intentions are. I am upfront with men about my intentions and what I won't compromise on. I have zero guilt whatsoever since I am not making any man date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:47 PM
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No, I mean it doesn't exist because it's not a culture. Most men can't get casual sex and most women don't want it. Hook up culture is entirely up to the minute amount of women choosing to have casual sex with a minute amount of men. That's it. It's not a culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:37 PM
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Hook up culture doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:38 PM
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Ah I got you. Yeah I agree. That said I believe all preferences are valid in the sexual marketplace. That doesn't mean you get what you prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:24 PM
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For me it has nothing to do with "stuff." I'm a minimalist. But I have SIGNIFICANT assets in savings and investments. Being financially secure is KEY to my happiness and quality of life. I am only interested in SIMILAR men. I will not date financially unstable and insecure men. And I don't need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:14 PM
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Compatibility ABSOLUTELY means having a man on my level financially who ALSO shares my value of financial security being a main driver of quality of life. I have zero interest in a man who is not financially successful WHICH I ALSO BRING (no hypocrisy). I don't ever HAVE to deal with financially unstable and erratic men. I have access to men who are financially compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:12 PM
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Rich men can ALWAYS get women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:21 PM
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I love my own space. I cohabitated once and I despised it. Never ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:54 PM
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I definitely have a hierarchy. I value financial success as tops, so a man without that is the lowest anc most negative to me. The one I care about the least is the outdated relationship dynamics because I am never cohabitation with or marrying him so I'm not doing his cooking or cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:11 PM
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If a man is rich and has status his penis size is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:10 PM
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I can still expect a man to pay on the first or all dates. I can choose to date men who don't. Whether it's the equivalent or not of women having sex on the first date is irrelevant to me. What matters to me is getting what I want from a man/men I date. This is voluntary and no one is coerced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:08 PM
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Where did you get that from.my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:02 PM
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Pornography has pacified men who women don't want to fuck, making them less of a threat. That's great in my opinion. If they remain low T and passive with porn but are still productive enough to work, they keep the economy going without having any drive to rebel. Women are safe and can keep having sex with the attractive men they like and the lights in civilization stay on. Social media is fun. It's nice to be able to show off your man on Facebook, Instagram, etc. and of course you don't want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:53 PM
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Interesting point. I actually found the opposite. I have 20 years in my specialty so I am quite advanced and competent but when I make the rare error and practice self-ownership, I have gotten a lot of respect and appreciation from my supervisors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:23 PM
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It doesn't matter though. Society coddling women doesn't make them get their preferences. Society not coddling men doesn't impact their ability to get what they prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:21 PM
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I agree with you! It's an interesting conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:20 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:37 AM
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No one is guaranteed to be able to attract people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:36 AM
3

It's so freeing!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:34 AM
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I did above, but for example: I like to chat a lot. I can often interrupt a lot. My ex called me on interrupting him frequently and I immediately said he was right (no DEERing). I told him I would slow down and listen more, and said to please call me on any interruptions because I may not realize I'm doing it but it is still not acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:56 AM
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As I said, you can HAVE any preferences you want. That doesn't guarantee you get them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:52 AM
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I practice radical self-ownership so when I am wrong I immediately take responsibility and as the concept suggests, own it. In past relationships I was quick to acknowledge if I was wrong, such as interrupting, making assumptions, being short, etc. I practice radical self-ownership in ALL areas of my life and it's been freeing as well as productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:51 AM
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I don't see how this disagrees with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:38 AM
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Marriage is a bad deal for everyone except the lowest classes of men and women (who can save money being married) and the highest classes of men and women (who concentrate wealth and preserve their family lines). For most women making a decent income a husband is just additional work with no increase in status over having an LTR and for most men, having a wife isn't a benefit over a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:10 PM
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This goes for both sexes. All preferences are valid in the sexual marketplace. But you should be prepared to accept the consequences if your preferences are hard for you to obtain based on the value you offer in the marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:05 PM
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I'm a super individualist so I applaud men pursuing their best interests like I do. It doesn't impact me or any of the women I know personally but I take your word for it that passport broing is increasing. I'm 100% in favor of it. Kudos for individual self-interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:14 PM
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Passport bros aren't making an impact on women in the West. They don't care about those men hence why they had to leave. Many are getting killed and assaulted abroad not to mention widely mocked and taken advantage of. Men should be free to leave the US for dating of course. But you know that the men women desire don't have to leave. Women don't care about the men they don't want to fuck leaving. That's delusional to think they do. At least not the thin white and Asian women men see as top of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:52 PM
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Chads don't have to do anything. The sexless low T men who don't even lift aren't forming any army. There will be occasional violent incels but most will be passive. Reversing Roe just returned abortion to the states. It's easy for women to get abortion pills online too. Men have no leverage to stop women from being pregnant if they don't want to. If no fault gets banned in one state people will marry in another state. Bannimg no fault doesn't help men anyway. It makes it harder for them to leav…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:49 PM
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Not going to happen. Chads aren't going to unite with loser sexless men in a cabal. So women will keep having sex with attractive men and those men will enjoy their abundance. The men with zero leverage can be content with AI, porn and junk food.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:40 PM
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Absolutely men want leverage. But you can't always get what you want. We live in a free, individualistic society, at least in America specifically. Women have equality socially, legally and economically. So for those men...tough shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:36 PM
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Which is why they aren't the prize right? The prize gets what it wants more easily than the non-prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:46 PM
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That's the thing. Men just aren't the prize unless they are rich and famous. Women always have more options and men are thirstier for sex and any kind of emotional support. Women don't need to settle unless they want to and even then they can get a sperm fonor and get an FWB. Men's rings and paychecks aren't leverage today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:44 PM
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Then I don't go out with him anymore? What did I lose? We wouldn't be exclusive after a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:55 AM
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You can minimize being rejected by being the most attractive physically and financially as you can and minimizing matching with those who have incompatible values and lifestyles with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:44 PM
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I don't see what's not to like. It's reasonable for a woman to care about a man's finances. It's highly important.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:37 PM
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Sure, of course. I myself make great money and don't date paycheck to paycheck men. I don't have any use for them. Finances matter to a good life and women don't want to waste their time with men who are struggling. I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:30 PM
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For me it's simply that I like dining out and want to date a man who enjoys that as well. If a man doesn't like dining out then I would be wasting my time dating him instead of other men who enjoy dining out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:20 PM
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They are high time preference. They prioritize instant gratification over long term success. Since women end the majority of relationships, single moms are most likely single due to their ending the relationship or picking an unstable man or both. So of course they will prioritize pleasure in the short-term over investing in long term stability,
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:13 PM
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Begging the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:16 PM
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Correct. And it's fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:16 PM
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So circular logic. You have a view, and your evidence for your view is repeating your view. This is called begging the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:15 PM
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Dicaprio is a fat alcoholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:39 PM
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Marriage only elevates the status of poor women. Otherwise it's something women do for "love" but it's socially enforced. Men WISH it was connected to a woman's value because in the past men's ability to bring a paycheck made marrying him leverage. Now men lack that leverage. Marriage isn't even a status symbol for women anymore. I know more and more couples just living together and never marrying. Many don't cohabitate or combine finances. Men have lost the leverage they had when women needed m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:17 AM
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Men and women need each other on a societal level. That has nothing to do with marriage. Again, you haven't made the case for me that marriage gives me any benefit over just dating men I like without legal ties and liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:14 AM
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"Obviously, a woman who charges for sex is also a low value woman, but so is a woman who is NOT striving for marriage." This isn't obvious to me. Marriage doesn't offer women many benefits today (now that women don't need it for survival.). I think it's high value for a woman to not NEED marriage. Needing something is desperation. "My question to you women is what is the difference between having sex with a woman who isn't looking for marriage and a woman who charges for sex?" They aren't relate…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:39 PM
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No, I would pass over a man without a solid career and stay single while I look for men meeting my requirements. Why the hell would I get into a mediocre relationship? Thst makes ZERO sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:26 PM
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Why would I date a man without a solid career when I have one and finances are super important to life quality?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:17 PM
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Yes, I like men who have good jobs. Crazy huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:02 PM
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Yes. I date men locally who meet my fitness and professional requirements. It's not like I'm going for a rockstar.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:50 PM
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We don't "need" to though. I have never outright competed for a man and I have never had an issue getting a monogamous relationship IF I wanted one (for me a monogamous relationship is NOT required).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:02 PM
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The discussions are often interesting. But come on now. You guys are the ones who constantly say that women prefer Chads and men being neuro-atypical are bad with women, etc. Would it REALLY surprise you that the men I date in the real world are ignorant of all the things we discuss here like "hypergamy" and "Chads" and "80/20," etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:49 PM
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I enjoy these types of discussions. I'm only saying that things we discuss HERS have NEVER and I mean NEVER come up in the real world of my dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:46 PM
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None of this has impacted my dating life. I date normal men who aren't obsessed with or even aware of the pills we discuss on this forum. I have never dated a man who was into any of the stuff we discuss on here. They are socially calibrated men with solid careers into fitness who like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:03 AM
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Capitalism is awesome. It's the reason I'm free and not trapped in a marriage or impoverished. So glad to be living in 2024 as a woman in capitalism. It rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:59 AM
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I make over $100k and I would date a man who makes $80k just fine (assuming he still pays for dates). I'm just never cohabitating with him and splitting bills. Why would I? I get what I want without the burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:58 AM
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No way would I ever support a man. It's so much better to date non-exclusively and have men pay for my dinners and other activities. I still like their company, but I am not accountable to them and my time is my own. It's the best. Why would I give this up to support a man I could never be attracted to, to carry the burden, etc.? Dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:57 AM
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Hard disagree. Men's main value is their financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:54 AM
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All relationships in history, in the present and in the future have been, are and will be transactional. Otherwise you are suggesting people are in relationships for altruistic reasons with no expectation of receiving any value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:31 AM
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No, I mean transactional in that all relationships rely on an exchange of value. No one is there altruistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:30 AM
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I make way more than the highest earner here. I'd rather masturbate than date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:05 AM
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And? All relationships are transactional. All.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:04 AM
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A man paying for my dates doesn't make me dependent. I still have my own place, my own job, my own income, etc. I simply like the man to pay if we go out for dinner or an event. That's not dependency. That's my preference and the men I date are aware of it and choose to treat me because I offer them the value they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:14 PM
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None of these guys make enough for me to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:41 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:39 PM
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I don't expect exclusivity. There has to be a concrete discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:39 PM
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Honestly almost every girl I've been with is just like that. So the common denominator is...YOU!
/r/seduction10/07/24 11:13 PM
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"You'll just have to wait until you see me again to resolve the ending of this cliffhanger 😌" What cliffhanger? How your day went? Who cares? Stop trying to be mysterious or aloof and just set up a date.
/r/seduction10/07/24 11:12 PM
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I know semi drivers at work who have graduate degrees but work here because of the pay and benefits and they like the job. DFW has one of the best economies in the U.S. Yeah many are racist and sexist assholes Everyone is a little racist and sexist. We evolved in tribes. It's normal. What sucks about Dallas though is how expensive its gotten here. I remember when I paid 400 a month for a 1 bdr apt in a decent area. Now my car payment is way higher than that. It's one of the safest largest cities…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:49 PM
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Oh I never took your comment personally! No worries. Yeah, that's horrific. The trades are SO vital to our society and economy. Those women are bitches. It's fine to have a preference but no need to attack a man. I don't like kids at all so single dads are out for me but I wouldn't just call a single dad a piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:12 PM
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Yeah, I get that. I personally only want to date white collar men but I don't at all look down on blue collar. My dad, before he retired, was an auto mechanic. I have a lot of respect for the trades. My preference for white collar is that these men tend to be the most compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:50 PM
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cities may have more competition for those men. There is more supply in cities, but also more demand. I don't experience competition. I date men I like (I'm not exclusive without a talk). If he's dating other women that's not a concern of mine. I am not competing for him. His company is either enjoyable to me or not. My main concern about cities is the obfuscation and opacity of background information of some people. I get that is a concern for you. Obviously for me this is a plus. Precisely wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:37 PM
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Two different situations. A woman leaving a relationship isn't placing an obligation on anyone else. A man NEEDING a relationship needs another person to PROVODE the relationship. So in one case, the woman leaves an unhappy or situation she's dissatisfied with, placing NO obligation on another to provide her anything. The other man, if there is one, is wanting her. Men "needing" a partner are placing an obligation on another.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:27 PM
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I don't care at all about sex with strangers. If I sleeping with him, he isn't a stranger. I like dining out (it's the one thing I will spend money on) and the convenience of everything from grocery stores to parks nearby. The men who live in cities make more money which I care about (I make a lot too) and are professional. I don't want ANYONE in my business so the anonymity of city life is a huge plus
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:24 PM
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I love living in Dallas and all your cons of city life are green flags for me. I hate the suburbs and country. I would loathe dating those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:54 PM
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Absolutely nothing wrong with that preference. Just like there's nothing wrong with a woman who wants a man but doesn't need one and doesn't want to be submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:32 PM
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If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:43 AM
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As you wish it would be to feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:18 AM
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Exactly. I swipe left if I don't see a job listed.
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:39 PM
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That's a revenge fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:18 PM
2

What's your plan?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:03 AM
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I don't care about porn and don't watch it. I don't care if a man I'm seeing watches it. It's none of my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:03 PM
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Great!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:47 PM
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Social proof is great, but a lot of guys think just having chicks around is preselection. It's not. A woman has to see the other women as on her level to be attracted. If I see a man with trashy ghetto women, fat women, women who don't lift and are skinny fat, women with low class jobs, etc. I am turned off. If I see a man with a classy fit woman who has her life on track then I find him attractive. Likes attract likes. Men surrounded by low class unfit chaotic women are gross to me.
/r/seduction07/07/24 06:47 PM
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It's fine for anyone to have preferences, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:29 PM
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What men prefer is irrelevant. Only what they can get matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:25 PM
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No guy posting on this subreddit has social proof so that is irrelevant.
/r/seduction07/07/24 04:25 PM
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Just to take pics of themselves for social media 😄. It's to extract value.
/r/seduction07/07/24 02:36 PM
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Absolutely. It's one of the few books the "manosphere" recommends that isn't full of made up bullshit.
/r/seduction07/07/24 02:09 AM
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Compliment accepted!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 02:04 AM
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She's desperate and probably overweight. Attractive women don't have to pay for dates unless they want to treat.
/r/seduction07/07/24 12:52 AM
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Because it was never healthy for women to have to think of sex as not something they enjoy, but as giving away their value. Now women know that the meaning of sex depends on what they assign to it. Sex can be a show of love or it can just be for fun and enjoyment. Having sex doesn't lower their value or make them have to "chase" or "lock down" a man nor does having sex give men the power in the relationship. This is great for women and for men who are great with women and like women. It's bad fo…
/r/seduction07/07/24 12:51 AM
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Pretty sure that's "Practical Female Psychology."
/r/seduction07/07/24 12:47 AM
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Do you even lift?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 09:05 PM
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That's no excuse to not lift and pay attention to diet. That's no excuse to not pursue a lean physique.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 08:45 PM
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Nah, every man can improve his body lifting. I say this as a woman who lifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:04 PM
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I can agree on this, but that means women DO like muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:49 PM
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Thank you 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:48 PM
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I know right? 😁😁 It's not like I lift and also date men who lift or anything like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:41 PM
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Right, so it's IRRELEVANT to whether women like muscles on men if they can or can't name bodybuilders.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:35 PM
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Tell me you can't build muscle without telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:27 PM
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Women liking muscles doesn't mean they like pro-bodybuilder physiques.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:26 PM
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But those women are sharing men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 04:57 PM
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I didn't participate in this bear vs men thing because 1. I don't care 2. I actually love men, but most of the female side of this conversation was driven by leftist women and feminist women who of course distrust and/or dislike men. So these women will want to provoke and troll men. Tons of women like myself either like men or didn't care at all and didn't participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:33 AM
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Depends on how rich he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:51 PM
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Women said they would choose the bear because they knew it would get a lot of men butthurt and riled up online and they wouldn't stop talking about it. That's the reason. Women trolled men massively on this and you all fell for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:42 PM
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How many children do you have?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:30 PM
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How do you know it was close to 0? Don't we already know that most men in history never procreated? So in the past they likely would not have had sex either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:29 PM
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Again it's not poly because THOSE WOMEN ARE ALSO MULTI-DATING. They aren't loyal to this top man as you seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:20 PM
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It's not polygamous if the women are ALSO seeing other men. It's only poly if there is ONE man with MULTIPLE women and the women are LOYAL to him. That arrangement is absolutely less than 1% of all relationship in the West today.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:19 PM
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Women engage in serial monogamy too and women end the majority of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:18 PM
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The reason it shows more women are in relationships than men is because women are dating men slightly older than them. So it shows more younger men as single. It's not because multiple women are in "relationships" with one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:17 PM
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I lean right as a libertarian. I'm not voting for a patriarchy. It's just not going to happen. Men who can't get women in today's sexual marketplace need to just accept they have been bred out. Revenge fantasies are a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:49 PM
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What army is bringing the patriarchy?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:20 PM
1

Haha! I'm not on Twitter anymore! But glad you remembered me!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:18 PM
8

A bunch of low test overweight soy-drinking anime watchers are no threat to women. We outlift you and outearn you all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:46 PM
16

"Promoting and enabling ideologies with such an EXTREME focus on individuality is weird." It's more weird to be so intimately involved in other people's sex lives. Granted, people's decisions in the sexual marketplace with regards to sex, relationships, getting married and having kids (or not getting married and having kids) impacts the society. But America is an individualistic society and that's what the majority of us wants. That sets us apart from the rest of the "West" like Western Europe, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:45 PM
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So what? If she wants to not fuck around, why does it matter? Most guys in here complain women are too promiscuous. I actually agree that good men are abundant. I never have an issue dating men who are physically and financially attractive. But if other women want to drop out of the dating pool and get themselves off, I don't care. Men don't get how our libidos are so different. Most women are responsive desire. We aren't driven to fuck and can be sexual camels.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:01 PM
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Yes, if the man is rich. Who wants to be cheated on by a brokie? If a man is rich and giving me a lifestyle in exchange for his being able to fuck around, I prefer he take his dick around more so I can use his credit card for dinners and vacations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:17 AM
1

Nothing masculine about living your life on your own terms. You are equating "feminine" with "what women were FORCED to do out of NECESSITY in the past." Not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:44 PM
1

Only super masculine women will do that, which isn't going to be a prize for a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:15 PM
-2

I will never provide for a grown man. I'm fine sharing a rich one though!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:33 PM
1

So they didn't want to keep you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:31 PM
2

They could be broke. That's unattractive in all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:58 AM
4

No it wouldn't. Because the good-looking women men complaining about the sexual marketplace want don't NEED to make the first move. So they'll get approached by women they don't want and may grudgingly settle for, which makes no one happy. Plus good-looking women if they want to make the first move aren't doing that with the types of men who aren't getting any matches online or approaches in real life. Not to mention you can't just make women find it attractive to make the first move, erasing mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:32 PM
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You're referring to a specific demographic of women complaining about "toxic masculinity" which is a tiny minority of women who are vocal on TikTok or YouTube and are rage bait content for men. Most women don't think this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:34 PM
12

Nope. I can feel attraction but it's always manageable and I can super easily not act on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:18 PM
6

You're entertaining her when she's bored. You don't owe her a last message. She knows how to find you. If she's interested enough, she'll reach out. If not, you know for sure she doesn't care to meet you.
/r/seduction29/06/24 07:38 PM
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She's not interested.
/r/seduction29/06/24 07:22 PM
1

"They" are just selection bias. You attract women who have covert contracts. I'm very, explicitly upfront that I do not want cohabitation, marriage or kids. A monogamous relationship is something I have had twice and am open to so long as all my conditions are met. I don't require long-term monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:36 AM
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Continue to put my interests (my physique, making money, enjoying my city and friends) first. Stick to non-cohabitation, no marriage, no kids. Have a man or men in my life who I enjoy the company of on terms that suit my lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:08 AM
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"I think the dating scene would improve tremendously if both men and women did their part. I think it's gone bad because both sides have many red flags 🚩🚩😑." On the contrary, the sexual marketplace now in the West particularly America is the BEST it has ever been in history. Women aren't restricted by religion, social mores and finances anymore. Men similarly are freed of the necessity to get a wife to help with household labor and to be a "good citizen." People can have whatever relationship ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:39 PM
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The sexes are not equal when it comes to the sexual marketplace. Women care about height. Men don't. Men care more about a woman's youth. Women don't. So they sexes also don't need to DO the same things to get a partner. Trying to make it tit for tat isn't going to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 07:34 PM
1

I admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:51 PM
2

You can want that but you still can't make a woman give you that experience. So now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:00 AM
3

Women don't care about just getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:58 AM
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No, only the hypersexual 10%. Most women are responsive desire so without a stimulus to respond to, we can easily be sexual camels. There is so much to have fun with as a single woman attractive with money like going out with friends, dining out, working out, sight-seeing, vacations, etc. Seeking out casual sex with the likelihood of no orgasm isn't normal for women. That's gay male behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:14 AM
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Women never lack relationship options. There are no involuntarily single women. Fat women, ugly women, deformed women, mentally ill women, single moms, etc. can all get a man. Every single one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:59 PM
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I'm being honest. Isn't that what you guys want?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:58 PM
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It's not even sex. It's just that we make our own money and have our own places. A relationship is like taking on a burden and having to factor someone into our decisions. Staying single and getting delicious validation from men (dates, social media attention) without being exclusive gives the best of both words. Why give that up?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:39 PM
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I agree with 99% of what you're saying except the "choosing to be alone" part. A woman can have a lot of attractive options but just not want to be in a relationship. Or maybe she does, but doesn't want to be in one then or to get married, etc. Also this isn't limited to 20s. A fit/thin woman of any age who has a decent face and dresses up well will NEVER EVER lack attractive options. I say this as a 43 year old woman who is single (but ended a 4 year relationship last summer). I am not even act…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:22 PM
1

Friendzoning doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:12 PM
2

I understand what you're saying. I'm saying their calling that fuckzoning is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:12 PM
2

I wouldn't care. I guess I can see women being annoyed but being upset at a drop in an ocean is absurd to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:11 PM
3

Exactly the same for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:03 PM
3

That's not fuckzoning and women who call it that are wrong. First fuckzoning doesn't exist but the more common use of the term is when a woman is fucking a man she has long-term intentions for and he sees her only as a fuck buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:02 PM
1

Well they didn't actually lose friendships because the men weren't friends right? They were cowards who were afraid to polarize sexually from day one. Nothing valuable lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:00 PM
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Okay, so they end the friendship. You weren't fuckzoned because nothing happened. So you move on because who cares about a guy you aren't fucking or getting a paycheck from? Male friends aren't scarce. Just replace that one with 2 more. That's not fuckzoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:54 PM
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If you thought someone just wanted to be friends, how can you be in the fuck zone? Why are you fucking someone you saw as a friend? This doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:49 PM
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No, I can't be put in the fuck zone unless I choose to just fuck a guy. So it's my decision. Not all women want a relationship with every guy they fuck. I have never intentionally been friends with a guy I wanted something sexual or romantic with. That's just stupid. I have friends or I have men I'm fucking. If I see a man as a friend I don't see him sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:41 PM
1

How is agreeing with you defensive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:19 AM
0

Of course not. It's dual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:05 PM
1

Why do women have such a hard time with this concept? Because for the most part men on here describe "Chad" as a certain type of guy: the extroverted super fit "fuck boy" with a huge dick who all women can't help slaving over. If that's not what you mean, and you call "Chad" any man a particular woman is interested in, that's fine, but that pretty much makes the Chad archetype useless. So, not a competition for them, just a competition for their attention. Not really. I like having pretty pictur…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:05 PM
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I don't care about any of that. I only care about getting what I want, which I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:39 AM
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I don't care about "Chad." That's your sexual fantasy. I simply date men I like who fit my criteria. I never said I don't want to look good TO men. I said I don't wear makeup and dress up as a competition for them. It is not hard for me to meet the type of men I like. And I love getting likes on social media from anyone. I don't post to get sex from Chads. "I don't love men." You said that. I never said I didn't love men. I wouldn't date men if I didn't enjoy masculine presence. I simply said I …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:38 AM
4

It's great validation for me. I like looking hot. I'm not looking for sex. Just likes and compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:15 AM
2

Nope, likes are likes. I look at the number. I don't care if ugly men or tons of women like it. 300+ likes is 300+ likes. I want maximum likes. All Chad us worth is one like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:14 AM
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I wear makeup at home and I live alone. I don't dress up and wear makeup for intrasexual competition. Men are easy to get. I love male attention but that's because I love likes on my hot selfies. It's not to please them but to validate my wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:05 AM
1

Agree with all this!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:27 AM
1

Thank you! Rollo has a whole article on "Girls Nights Out" and these guys regularly talk about how women fuck at bachelorette parties. It's a complete exaggeration based on the hypersexual 10% of women, but they claim this constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:34 PM
2

I disagree. RP are fine with promiscuous women. It's the "trad con" part of the manosphere who are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:23 PM
1

I'm thinking of PUAs, who are often a subset of and crossover with the RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:21 PM
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Not as common as red pillers and black pillers claim. Ever wedding I've been at I went to socialize, enjoy food and then go home.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:13 PM
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If they are both drinking I dismiss any claims of rape. Drinking when going out alone is stupid as hell for women. It's incredibly dumb. It's going to be impossible to prove rape here without any evidence of violence or any video camera so I'd not take any claim seriously. If you don't want to end up in a stupid situation don't drink period at all or don't drink alone at least. Alcohol is stupid and I'm glad I never had any.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:27 PM
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I love dating apps. I am so glad they exist. I never have to waste time being social. I like selecting men online on Facebook or apps to date and completely avoiding any random approaches. I can select and control 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:15 AM
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Sure, it is in the government's interest. But they also have different demographics. And in America with our individual freedoms seen as sovereign, most of us don't want yo pay for the lifestyle CHOICES of other people. It's also not an employer's obligation to ensure people who want kids can have them at no cost in finances or time. Having kids is a choice. People should PLAN for them. If you don't have the funds to support a family without "free" government handouts, don't have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:17 AM
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Having kids is a choice, not an obligation. It's up to those who want kids to plan for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:11 AM
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This sounds like scarcity mentality projecting. I'm not having issues like this in dating. Funding men who are relatively fit and make a decent income is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:47 AM
5

Are you asking gay men or straight women?
/r/seduction29/05/24 08:55 PM
1

I'd ask you since you responded. Why was my opinion worth your commenting? You will never get that time back.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:53 PM
1

So? Men with money are better than brokies at ANY age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:48 AM
5

I'll take rich and lean but ugly. That sounds fine! Just look at the body and wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:54 PM
5

Your analogy isn't apt. A woman not strictly NEEDING a man for survival or to be "complete" but wanting him because he's an awesome man and having him in her life makes it better is not equivalent to a guy saying his woman is beautiful but not the prettiest in the world. It's far better to be wanted than needed. If a man is NEEDED that means she didn't have a choice. She is in need or desperate. He fills a need and she wouldn't be there otherwise. If she doesn't actually NEED him but wants him b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:52 PM
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Has it occurred to you that your algorithms are showing you the content you are seeking out and you think what you are seeing is ubiquitous? This is classic selection bias. Try deleting TikTok.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:35 PM
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It doesn't make dating worse for me though. It means that I pursue my individual interests and fit in a man or men that suit my lifestyle. I don't have to get married and have kids and live a life I'd find miserable like If I lived 60+ years ago. As a hyper individualist, don't you get that my individual self-interest is my main priority? As for society, any society that depends on people having to be in relationships they don't want to be in (some kind of "socially enforced" monogamy or marriag…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:30 PM
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As a hyper individualist, I agree this is the case, but I am so glad this is the case. It's my preference and it's glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:12 PM
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It's not disrespectful if you and your partner both enjoy flirting and that is acceptable to you both. You don't make the rules for other people's relationships. I've always been woth men who enjoy flirting. I never get jealous and think flirting woth no intent is harmless fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 03:22 PM
4

That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 10:37 AM
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Edited, though the first line was accurate.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 01:28 AM
5

Why shouldn't she go out with other men? You're not her boyfriend and she is single and can spin plates. You are needy.
/r/seduction16/05/24 12:08 AM
20

Yeah, you are wasting your time. Find a man with solid finances who takes personal responsibility in life and is on the same page as you with regarding to future goals.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 11:54 PM
2

No. My best friend is a single virgin woman and she is loved at work (we work at the same company). No one cares in 2024 if a woman is in a relationship or not. It's no longer a necessity like it was in say 1950 and marriage has been so denigrated no one considers just being married a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:27 PM
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Exactly. The guys who say this want it to be that women's options go down over 25 and theirs go up with time because that is "fair." The notion that women have nearly unlimited advantage in the sexual marketplace at all ages and it never favors all men over women infuriates them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:23 PM
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Women over 40 can have better options (men who aremore attractive and more financially successful) available to them for RELATIONSHIPS not just sex vs the men they had access to at 23 depending on how fit and attractive they are vs their past self AND what THRY want in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:00 PM
3

I love today's sexual marketplace. It's vastly better than at any other period in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:06 AM
18

I've had two 4+ year long relationships start with 2nd date sex.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 10:44 PM
1

I personally have no issue with that. I'm not jealous or paranoid. If I'm in a relationship I give 100% trust and expect it back unless there is a reason I should not. I date an adult male who has agency. You can't prevent cheating by being controlling anyway. A man who wants to cheat will.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 10:08 PM
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If he's rich I'll date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:09 AM
4

I think prostitution should be wholly legalized so I have no problem with it. It won't impact the dating pool because women who aren't prostitutes aren't competing for prostitutes for the men they want to commit to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:19 AM
2

Your terms are acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:49 PM
1

Yes, absolutely repulsive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:59 PM
2

Nope. I'm fine going a year absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 02:21 AM
0

That has nothing to do with my view. I'm not responsible for HOW men's standards were viewed in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 11:29 PM
5

Why do you care? Did people with standards and preferences that you don't like screen you out?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:58 AM
5

They don't NEED to be justified. That's the point. Each individual in the sexual marketplace can have WHATEVER standards and preferences they want with ZERO impact on you. They will succeed or fail. But who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:11 AM
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There's no such thing as "superficial" or "high" standards in the sexual marketplace. All individual preferences are valid. All that matters for an individual is whether they can GET what they prefer or a person who meets their standards OR they can't. It's not up to consensus.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:18 PM
1

I have no incentive to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:28 AM
1

Only with normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:28 AM
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Tell him it's fine, and that you're also going out with a few acquaintances you met on dating apps. Tell him you'll trade notes the next day. See what happens. Seriously, this is immature, like male "shit testing." He's either trying to make you jealous or he's completely oblivious. Either way, definitely not something you need to deal with unless you want to lead an immature man in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 02:33 AM
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As a female INTJ I'm primarily into male INTJs or similar. I like SUPER confident and secure men that are stoic. I don't like emotional men. I don't want men being "vulnerable" with me at all. I like men who think they are awesome. I want them to not feel any insecurity with me or our relationship. I like a guy who laughs a lot and is also VERY driven and ambitious. He must be very independent and love solitude. I also like positive energy. He should have a mindset of radical self-ownership and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:11 AM
2

Whether monogamy is natural or not is completely irrelevant. Each individual in the sexual marketplace can pursue his or her own sexual marketplace strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:02 AM
1

Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:37 AM
1

Women never need to pay for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:32 AM
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As a woman I'd absolutely recommend male virgins do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:27 AM
1

How are you 24 and acting like an old man whose wife took half and left with his dog too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:02 AM
1

Massive coping on your end. Hopefully you will age like wine but doubtful if you're bitter at only 24. The women really don't like you huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 12:52 AM
2

Oh they are mad 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:12 PM
3

You sound broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:57 AM
2

Tell me you're a brokie without telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:57 AM
2

Massive coping here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:56 AM
2

Exactly. Plus only the brokies think it's unreasonable that women don't want men making $45k.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:56 AM
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Anything not STEM/business/law/medicine for me. I AM EXTREMELY logic-based and make a high predictable income in a solid career. I despise "creative" types who are less organized, disciplined and logic-based. I have zero interest in law enforcement types or military. Not out of politics but because I dislike their lifestyle. My absolute NO's are: No military of any type. No "artists" which means nothing in music, drawing, etc. No free-lancers or gig workers. No law enforcement. No non-profession…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:16 PM
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So? Men aren't mad about this out of concern for women, i.e., "I want to protect women from thinking simps want more than sex." They are mad that women have lower needs for sex than men, so they can enjoy the MEAT (money, energy, attention and time) from simps and not bother going on to have sex with a date "average" guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:12 PM
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No. I'd be embarrassed if I were with a man less successful than me. Men are success objects, not sex objects. I should be the hotter in the relationship and he should be the more successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 02:03 AM
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I understand that. They both sleep with other people but don't watch each other fuck. So how is he a cuck? From Wikipedia: " A cuckold is the husband of an adulterous wife; the wife of an adulterous husband is a cuckquean. In biology, a cuckold is a male who unwittingly invests parental effort in juveniles who are not genetically his offspring.[1] A husband who is aware of and tolerates his wife's infidelity is sometimes called a wittol or wittold.[2] " This doesn't describe Destiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 01:34 AM
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How is he a cuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:19 PM
8

That individual women don't want or need men as much as the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:03 PM
1

Yup, EASILY. Especially if I could get validation from posting my pics (dress, bikini) online which is my favorite thing anyway. I love money and I love being able to spend it as I wish and not have to deal with anyone else's opinion on my life. Sex to me is a "nice to have" but not a necessity but if I had to choose between sex and online validation I take the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:13 AM
1

Are you making good money? Then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:33 AM
1

A 45 year old man never married with no kids is a PLUS. Kids are baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:33 PM
1

Fertility rates are at all time lows. If women really wanted babies that wouldn't be the case. More men today want babies than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:11 AM
1

What is the evidence for this claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 02:57 AM
18

This is easy. Neither of those two women respect you. If they did, they would be discreet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:19 AM
1

No, never.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:03 PM
7

Prefer $75k as a low end. I don't require 6 figures but since I make 6 figures that would be my ideal. I don't like to be the higher earner. I look up to a man more if he out-earns me. But if he makes slightly less but makes up for it in other masculine areas that would be fine. I'm not going to pretend I don't care about a man's professional success and income because I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:00 PM
1

There's nothing ridiculous about women not committing to brokies.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:08 PM
1

No, I've been in a relationship for 4 years thus far.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:08 PM
2

Are you not smart enough to understand your claim is unfalsifiable?
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/23 05:51 PM
1

That's my point. Women LOVE attention online. Messaging a Chad profile and getting responses is attention. But meeting up is completely different. I guarantee most of the women would flake.
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/23 01:46 PM
0

How many women met up with the Chad on a date?
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/23 01:55 AM
1

You have a right to your preferences for sure! The majority of women are not into bisexual men but all that matters is your preferences for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:21 PM
2

If you're a man 30+ and broke, you need to be put down.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:19 PM
2

100% unattractive rich man. Men are success objects and women are beauty objects. The opposite is an inversion of polarity. I can't stand brokies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:24 AM
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I'm an 100% straight heterosexual woman. I'd choose to remain 100% straight and heterosexual. I like men and I never have trouble getting the men I want for the types of relationships I want, so I'm not experiencing any discontent with my sexual orientation or the sexual marketplace. I'd recommend men unhappy with the sexual marketplace turn 100% gay (bisexual men are not attractive to women). Gay men are extremely promiscuous. I'd recommend women unhappy with the sexual marketplace turn bisexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:05 AM
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I like having someone buy me steak dinners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:09 PM
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I'm childfree so I don't give a damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:29 PM
2

I never claimed they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:50 AM
5

90% of men are not needed at all. We can reproduce the species with just 10% of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:06 AM
1

I am yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:53 PM
3

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:18 AM
1

I'm not reading all that but congratulations or I'm sorry that happened to you.
/r/AllPillDebate16/07/23 09:07 PM
13

It has no benefit to me personally hence why I'm marriage-free.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:06 PM
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I get money and don't have to deal with the guy most of the time. It's a clear win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:38 AM
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I would accept it under these circumstances: I have unlimited access to his wealth. If he breaks up with me, he pays me a settlement fee. We use condoms when we have sex always. We aren't in a relationship on social media and I don't have to post pics of him. We see each other no more than 2x a week, and texting (no calls) is our form of communication outside meetings. If he wants to see me he sends a car to get me or picks me up. He has no control over or access to my social media. I don't have…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:58 PM
1

That's not racism. That's preferences and attraction.
/r/AllPillDebate11/07/23 12:00 AM
-1

Maybe you should date them.
/r/AllPillDebate10/07/23 02:53 AM
0

Are those women interested in dating you anyway?
/r/AllPillDebate09/07/23 06:55 PM
1

Why is it "shallow" for a woman to want to be attracted to her partner?
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 03:19 AM
1

Excellent. That's all that matters.
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 03:18 AM
-2

Is it useful to you to believe ugly men are just fucked and it's hopeless?
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 03:05 AM
-5

Is that useful to you?
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 03:00 AM
-7

No one is saying that ugly men being in relationships mean looks don't matter which is the title.
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 02:48 AM
1

Your wife is very good at keeping her side boyfriends to herself. I always thought women were better at cheating than men.
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 02:23 AM
-6

Who is saying looks DON'T matter at ALL? Many of us are saying that unlike what blackpillers claim, looks are not the ONLY thing that matters for attraction.
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 02:20 AM
1

What is considered acting like men? Having a job? Not being a virgin at marriage?
/r/AllPillDebate06/07/23 02:19 AM
-2

Absolutely not. I'm not interested in supporting a brokie for ANY reason. He has to make as much as me or more (yes, because men are success objects and women are beauty objects) or I don't even want to date. I could never be romantically or sexually attracted to a man who isn't ambitious and whom I have to support. In fact, any man who would even suggest this arrangement to me or let me do this would be a huge red flag that he lacks masculinity and testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:01 AM
2

I don't consider the scenario you describe as playing games. And you don't owe anyone you are just dating every thought in your head. I certainly have every right to keep my cards close to my chest in initial dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:37 PM
0

Who cares if feminists don't like those relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:16 PM
3

I don't see how that's playing games. That's just a man not being needy, overeager and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:15 PM
0

What is an example of the "hate" you are seeing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:14 PM
1

No.
/r/AllPillDebate22/06/23 09:58 PM
2

Women are allowed to have their own preferences for attraction. Get over it.
/r/AllPillDebate22/06/23 02:08 AM
2

There is no such thing as "hookup culture." It's just women hooking up with men they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:14 PM
1

Plenty of women are truly childfree and know so from a young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 02:16 AM
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I would date a widower who didn't have kids. Kids is the dealbreaker for me, not a man being widowed or divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 02:16 AM
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Depends on what you mean by flaws but yes. I value highly financial success in men far more than looks or height or muscles so I would more likely overlook minor things in exchange for a wealthy man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 11:40 PM
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You confirm my points. You're one of the guys who got curved by "attractive quality women" and it brings you some satisfaction to think of them en masse being infatuated and "alpha widowed" by sociopathic thugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 02:00 AM
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Oh you know "tons" of these situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:40 AM
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You're going to find what you look for. Men who want to treat women like shit can find that. But so what? You can also find dwarves. I didn't make value judgments. I simply pointed out assortative mating. Please show me these wide-scale examples of attractive, thin, secure, high self-esteem women making great salaries who are in love with losers. I simply don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:39 AM
3

I can't think of any, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:37 AM
41

I don't feel disrespected at all by society. I'm attractive, fit, and command a 6 figure salary. I am wanted for being an attractive woman and respected for being accomplished in my field. Respect is earned and if a woman doesn't feel respected chances are she hasn't earned respect from those she thinks owe it to her. I simply don't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:17 AM
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I never used "deserve." I pointed to assortative mating which is backed up by studies. Some men on here love to get off to this notion that the attractive secure women who curved them are going to be obsessed with sociopathic assholes who treat them terribly but we just don't see this. When you examine the "women who like being treated like shit" you find loads of issues from alcoholism to drug abuse to mental illness to past sexual abuse to broken family dynamics to suicidal ideation, etc. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:14 AM
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Likes attract like. Mentally ill women with low self-esteem, often borderline, match with mentally ill men who have anti-social personality disorder. What's the mystery here? You don't find high self-esteem secure attachment women tolerating being "treated like shit." It's always always always women with tons of life "trauma," mental illness, brokies who can't pass a drug test at Walmart, etc. You absolutely don't know high self-esteem, secure attachment, attractive, fit/thin professional women …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:54 PM
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You are perceived as weak because men who are strong are not desperate enough for one pussy that they need to be cagey. Strong men have abundance mentality and are indifferent about losing women by being overt. You make your necessity a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:32 AM
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You need covert boundaries when you are too weak and lack value sufficient to be overt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:03 AM
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There is no "one" at all and she isn't stepping out if there is no exclusivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 02:08 AM
10

Just date non-exclusively. It's not a big deal. You just can't get butthurt when the women you are dating non-exclusively are seeing other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 02:03 AM
1

This is absolutely correct. Men are right to keep in mind that women on Reddit and particularly in this subreddit are more introverted and more logic-based than the mean with regards to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 01:36 AM
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I think this is true for women who are extroverted and feelings-based, and these are the women you will see on Tiktok, YouTube and Twitter vs. on Reddit. On Reddit, particularly a subreddit like this, you'll find more introverted and logic-based women who are repulsed by the idea of acting this way. For example, I'm an INTJ and I am avoidant-attachment leaning. I crave a LARGE amount of independence and space and I go for men who are similar to me, in that they lean avoidant, are highly self-rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:53 AM
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I only care about what I like, not a comparison of what I like vs things I don't like. People learn from past relationships. If a guy I dated took his exes on lots of expensive dates and trips and he wasn't appreciated, he will be hesitant to do that again and I'd certainly find that understandable. It comes down to our compatibility. I don't like traveling, for example, so a man who took his exes on fancy trips means nothing to me as I don't covet those. I like dining out, however, so a man who…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 11:24 PM
3

Nah, I met my now boyfriend pretty quickly and got off the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 02:01 PM
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Absolutely. Men would love to have the absolute flood of matches and messages I received when I was on OLD and be in the position of abundance, picking and choosing who to respond to, who to prioritize and who to go on dates with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 11:53 AM
2

No one is forcing men to undergo these surgeries.
/r/AllPillDebate12/05/23 03:52 AM
1

No one is forcing men to undergo these surgeries.
/r/AllPillDebate12/05/23 02:46 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:01 AM
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There is no "hookup culture." It's women choosing to hook up with men, and then they may or may not regret it if they don't get commitment (which is often a covert contract) and complain about these men online.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:38 AM
1

By paying cash.
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 02:29 AM
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I heard about it through many of the Red Pill guys in the manosphere when they were mocking it. Then I watched many of Wheat Waffles' interviews and videos. I think looks absolutely do matter but male SMV, unlike women's, is NOT comprised primarily of looks. It's things like masculine competence, acquisition of resources, charisma, confidence, humor, ambition, etc. A lot of men convinced looks are the only thing that matters really aren't appealing to women in any other fashion and they are also…
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 02:26 AM
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By proactively not having any.
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 02:18 AM
1

So go MGTOW.
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 02:18 AM
3

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:05 PM
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Not a chance. I love being a woman and not having the male burden of performance. I have the best of both worlds as a fairly attractive woman who has never wanted kids (so no biological clock). I have a great job and make over 6 figures so I don't need provisioning but I enjoy being feminine, wearing pretty dresses, being fit and getting male attention. Dating isn't hard and I don't have to take the lead or pay. I'd never want to trade this privilege of getting money and attention and the advant…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:04 PM
2

Try it and report back to us.
/r/AllPillDebate08/05/23 12:03 AM
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You can't understand why people would like something in their personal lives yet not want it to be socially prescribed? Really? You can't put a little critical thinking into this?
/r/AllPillDebate08/05/23 12:03 AM
4

On social media and dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 12:51 AM
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I am childfree AND petfree. I agree with your post. I don't want children or pets because I don't want any needy creatures dependent on me, I don't want to clean up after them, I don't want to spend money on them, and I don't want the noise and disruption to my life. I don't care for kids or dogs. I think cats are cute but I can play with friends' cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:18 AM
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Not always. Sometimes it is and sometimes it's just a personal preference. That's up to the man. I obviously just don't date or commit to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:44 AM
2

Who is saying that spinning plates is IMmoral as opposed to Amoral?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:54 AM
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No, it's actively unattractive to me for a man to show any jealousy. It means he has a lack of confidence that he's offering me value. Ewww.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:18 AM
1

Nothing in my view which is precisely why I've opted not to have them. I like my lean physique, defined abs, fat paychecks all for me, free time and freedom.
/r/AllPillDebate28/04/23 02:06 AM
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The only women who give a shit about passport bros are fat single moms in the West. No woman with a BMI under 23 without kids cares.
/r/AllPillDebate28/04/23 02:02 AM
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That's going to be a no from me dawg.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:57 AM
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I'd rather have the one who doesn't care at all. I'm turned off by any jealousy or mate-guarding. I don't get jealous if women hit on my man because I don't worry about my standing. I want the same energy in return. I don't want any man who is going to be jealous or suspicious if I post dress or bikini selfies on social media or if I go on a road trip with my best friend. So yeah, give me the guy who KNOWS he's awesome and doesn't worry about HIS standing with me because I return that energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 12:54 AM
1

Not my problem to solve.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:30 AM
1

Don't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:18 AM
1

I'm in a relationship but thanks :).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:17 AM
1

100% endorse this. Mentally weak men are a liability and only desperate women will deal with them. Mentally weak men need to get therapy and get in the gym and self-improve. Get rid of any "trauma" before you seek to date because women aren't going to want to deal with your emotional instability. Physically weak men need to get their diet on track (start weighing your food and tracking your food and eating high protein) and getting their ass in the gym 3X a week minimum to lift heavy ass weights…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 01:49 AM
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Because men want SEX more than women do. Many men need to make their necessity a virtue so men who can't get thin women will claim to be into bigger girls. Women don't have male sex drive and thus aren't as necessitous for sex. So women don't NEED to fuck down in SMV that often.
/r/AllPillDebate20/04/23 01:41 AM
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There are women into lanky artists, women into buff bodybuilders, women who will only date certain races, women who are into stocky "bear physiques" women into dark-haired men, women who like beards, women who hate beards, women who like lean cyclist bodies, etc. Women aren't only into the men that men on here consider "Chads."
/r/AllPillDebate20/04/23 01:40 AM
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There are women into lanky artists, women into buff bodybuilders, women into stocky "bear" physiques, women into lean cyclist physiques, women into specific races, women who won't date men of certain races, etc. Women are not a hive mind.
/r/AllPillDebate20/04/23 01:38 AM
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It is number 2. Women often use less lethal means as a cry for help. The men actually want to die. Men are worse off than women in depression and loneliness.
/r/AllPillDebate19/04/23 03:33 AM
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For the most part, yes. Guys obsessed with "Chad" overlook how broad women's attraction triggers are.
/r/AllPillDebate19/04/23 01:54 AM
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It's the homoerotic fantasy of men who can't get sex with women.
/r/AllPillDebate19/04/23 01:41 AM
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"All a guy needs is some bare minimum of looks, social charisma and luck (being in the right place at the right time) and he can have a good time." Only a minority of men possess enough of these traits to get regular (not the rare occurrence) casual sex. Most men are only going to get regular sex in a monogamous relationship. They aren't the guys women who have casual sex will go to for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:10 AM
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Well if you think women are not intelligent enough to make a sufficient living for themselves, then you offer them no other option than to find a man to be dependent on. I obviously disagree this is the case. Yes women see men as success object and they are, and want men who have the ability to provide resources as that is attractive and smart for the long-term, but not all women are going for millionaires. If a man in the U.S. makes at least $60k, and better yet, $75k or $80K and doesn't live i…
/r/AllPillDebate14/04/23 02:28 AM
1

Okay, and who is benefitting from illegal Hispanics more? Feminists? Or business owners (who are likely not feminists)?
/r/AllPillDebate13/04/23 02:29 AM
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Have you considered that the women who don't want men to care about body count AND the women who care about a man's past might be DIFFERENT AND MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE GROUPS OF WOMEN?
/r/AllPillDebate13/04/23 02:22 AM
1

Correct. But let's talk about the USA. How do you challenge my point?
/r/AllPillDebate13/04/23 02:18 AM
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Because it was men who prevented women from being able to have that parity in the first place. And I say this as a woman who loves men and isn't a feminist. This is a dumb argument to make. Women don't owe men "stepping up" at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:03 AM
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Women weren't allowed the opportunities to match men. So yeah, of course men had to marry "down" because the laws they created made it impossible otherwise (unless they married an heiress). When women were finally permitted to compete in the workforce and now can make more than men, why should they marry down if they don't want to? Not saying they shouldn't at all, but it's not women's obligation to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:02 AM
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Show me where feminists passed the immigration laws in the West. In the U.S., the immigration laws in 1965 reset the balance that allowed in more non-Caucasian nationals, and feminism was barely a blip. So I challenge you to link changing demographics to feminism when it was nearly all men passing these laws.
/r/AllPillDebate13/04/23 01:59 AM
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Men want them more because relationships are their only emotional outlet. Women have stronger non-romantic social and support outlets.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:38 AM
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On the contrary. I love men AND masculinity. My relationship is over 4 years now (with a masculine stoic man). But that is separate from the stark TRUTHS of the modern sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:36 AM
1

Making your necessity a virtue.
/r/AllPillDebate07/04/23 03:35 AM
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I don't have to. That's the point. Go date a fattie that will go 50/50 with you.
/r/AllPillDebate07/04/23 03:17 AM
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No, women gatekeep sex AND relationships. Only a minute amount of men actually have commitment that one or more women WANT and are willing to work for. Women choose the men they fuck and then get a relationship from one of the men. If a man balks she can curve him for another. Men don't have the ABUNDANCE to gatekeep shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:16 AM
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If women aren't being held to standards because men are thirsty and want sex AND relationships more than women, how is this women's problem to solve?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 02:49 AM
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If a man wants a relationship more than a woman, then he does have to compromise and she doesn't. A woman doesn't have to do shit unless she wants a man's commitment and then she has to do what that man's commitment requires. 90% if men don't have commitment women are going to work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 02:46 AM
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I would never allow a man to drive me on a first date and I don't do dinner first dates. That said, I'll never go on a second date with a guy who doesn't pay for my coffee on the first date and I'll NEVER date a guy who wants to do some kind of 50/50 partnership and not pay for dinner. It's never been an issue though because I don't date soy men or brokies.
/r/AllPillDebate07/04/23 02:32 AM
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For me, definitely my income (so my job). I'd 100% rather be single (I'm not) making over 6 figures (I do) than in a relationship making $50k.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:06 AM
1

Being personally prejudiced is not a crime. A crime is aggressing against another individual.
/r/AllPillDebate05/04/23 12:05 AM
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Actually all of those items in the subject line are okay.
/r/AllPillDebate02/04/23 11:55 AM
1

I know OP will get a lot of backlash on this but it's 100% true for me. I like sex but I love attention and I'm fine with attention if no sex is involved. I love getting likes on social media and being desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 04:12 PM
11

"Women seem wicked when you're unwanted..."
/r/AllPillDebate23/03/23 02:27 AM
2

You know I'm right.
/r/AllPillDebate22/03/23 01:29 AM
5

I have no judgment on it. Every man and woman is responsible for their own sexual marketplace strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:43 PM
0

No shame in that if that's what you want! But they want you even less than a wife who would be with you for security, provisioning and companionship.
/r/AllPillDebate17/03/23 02:15 AM
2

There are no "Chads" being poor. A poor man is a failed man and therefore not a Chad. And being a male virgin isn't a value to offer a woman unless she is highly religious and then she doesn't want a man who fetishizes her virginity. She wants a genuinely religious man and not an awkward, bitter loser.
/r/AllPillDebate17/03/23 01:44 AM
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Men are success objects; women are sex objects. A man wanting to be wanted for his looks is feminized. Women who are attractive and have options don't want an attractive man making $45k a year when she can have a man making $80k plus. Beta buxxing if you actually HAVE the money, and getting an attractive woman, is a win. I'm not saying to marry unattractive women, but an attractive 30s woman is a win considering 70% of women are overweight or obese. You are unlikely to get an 18 year old virgin …
/r/AllPillDebate17/03/23 01:40 AM
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Male strippers are a novelty like a gag gift. Mostly a corny joke for Bachelorette parties or for older women to see as a group for a lark. 99% of women DGAF about male strippers and we aren't gay men. We qualify men on more than abs and dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:48 AM
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Nothing "ruined" dating for men. Women just don't have to deal with men they don't want anymore. They don't need betas, don't have to deal with brokies, don't need "average" men. They don't have to get married to have sex and kids are merely an option. So men can get all the sex, dating and relationships they want IF they attract women who see value in them. If not, tough shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:46 AM
1

No. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:41 AM
2

I see any man on TikTok as automatically being gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:01 AM
1

My boyfriend and I don't cohabitate, don't share resources, and don't plan to marry or have kids. So he should be saving his own money and investing it as he wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:58 AM
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This is the case across the board. People are rightfully self-interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:26 AM
1

We are just talking about the sexual marketplace here. It is absolutely fine for me to rule OUT entire races and rule IN other races.
/r/AllPillDebate10/03/23 03:24 AM
-1

Men are success objects; women are sex/beauty objects. Men are valued for their accomplishments and actions. Men are human DOINGS.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:13 AM
1

No, racial prejudices are fine as long as you aren't aggressing against someone.
/r/AllPillDebate10/03/23 12:12 AM
2

I don't care at all what anyone thinks of Race and whether it should factor into dating. I absolutely have racial preferences and dealbreakers that factor into who I will have sex with, date and get into a relationship with and I'm not going to change my mind or be shamed or guilted out of them.
/r/AllPillDebate09/03/23 03:47 AM
3

I would never marry without one in addition to continuing post-nups.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:16 AM
1

Because they both made great money, so she chose him for other reasons like his looks and status.
/r/AllPillDebate03/03/23 03:12 AM
1

Giselle's fortune she made as a model EXCEEDS his.
/r/AllPillDebate02/03/23 04:21 AM
1

I doubt it was. I bet that kind of career is hard on a marriage. But imagine her looking forward to his retiring and being with her and the kids. And he HAS to flip on this. For what? Another ring? They have more money than they could ever spend in one life. It was a selfish decision.
/r/AllPillDebate27/02/23 07:25 PM
1

Until exclusivity is decided on by both people, both are free agents in the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 07:21 PM
2

Maybe it would have helped if he didn't backtrack on a major promise to his spouse to retire? Let's not pretend she divorced him out of nowhere. He knew why.
/r/AllPillDebate27/02/23 07:16 PM
2

I like men with muscle, but muscle that comes with performance in lifting or a sport. Men that fixate on physique (trying to be the sex or beauty object) at the expense of finances and masculine competence (as men should do, be the success object) give off very unattractive feminine energy. Men can have good physiques but they shouldn't be preening and obsessed with their bodies. Men are qualified on performance, not looks. A brokie with a six pack, especially over 30, is a failed man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:13 AM
1

My ideal man would be in the lowest percentile in extroversion, neuroticism and agreeableness and in the middle percentile in openness and orderliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 02:45 AM
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I don't believe there are any "shallow" preferences in the sexual marketplace. All preferences with regards to consensual adult relationships are valid and it doesn't matter who doesn't like them, thinks they are discriminatory, shallow, some kind of "ist," etc. However that doesn't mean you GET your preferences. That depends on your value to those you are attracted to. But you can certainly have whatever preferences you want and you don't need to justify them to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:52 AM
1

No I don't really see that complaint from women. Women aren't dumb and know most men want sex. I think daygamers are lame. I never have to give them any time since I can meet any man I actually want online.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:15 PM
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I never had this innate desire. Maybe the majority do but it's telling that when women in industrialized societies can make their own money and choose who to date and marry, or even to marry, the rate of voluntarily childless women goes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:41 PM
2

Female here who loves online dating. I have zero complaints. Online apps and social media like Facebook are how I meet every man I date and get in a relationship with. So glad I don't have to deal with daygamers and cold approachers or be "social" to meet a man I'm attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:40 PM
2

Instantly. Give me the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 03:46 AM
-2

Absolutely false. Study after study by David Buss, the leading evolutionary psychologist, shows women across cultures prioritize acquisition of resources over physical looks in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:29 AM
-1

This. I'm childfree and don't at all want a "fatherly" type of man. I don't want an asshole Chad type either. I'm into what many derisively call the "sigma" male.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:29 AM
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I found his livestreams really boring and repetitive. If you've seen one, you've seen them ALL. Some of the clips of him going viral were funny but I didn't find anything he was saying really original. He appealed to a lot of men who enjoy watching a man "hold wahman accountable" on video so they can feel better about all the rejections they received. I will say there are some men and women who found his relationship advice helpful. I think you can find some good advice from a lot of sources. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:27 AM
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Dating in my 30s and 40s has been FAR FAR FAR better than my 20s. But I'm a woman who is fit and feminine so I can't speak for men or for overweight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:04 AM
1

Mine is extremely minute. I have one best friend and that's it. This is EXACTLY how I want it. I enjoy solitude and am low in emotion and empathy. I simply don't require much in the way of emotional support and socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:36 AM
3

Another marriage free, childfree and cohabitation free woman here!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:35 AM
1

Words can't hurt you. Nothing is a "slur." You give words that much power over you? That's fragility.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:34 PM
1

So you date women with personality or attachment disorders. That's your problem. I've been with my man 4 years. If he tried in any way to control me with jealousy, neediness, insecurity or possessiveness, I am out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:33 PM
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It's my prerogative to never date men who are needy, jealous, insecure or possessive and I don't apologize for this. I also bring NONE of these traits to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:40 PM
1

I agree with Lovearia7.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:08 AM
1

I would never agree to be financially dependent for any price.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:32 PM
1

Well I never plan on getting married. But I am not staying in an LTR with a man earning much less than me. And yes I'm frank about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:47 PM
3

Being unemployed and not making income commensurate to mine. Untreated depression. Jealousy, possessiveness, being controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:13 AM
4

I agree with her too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:56 AM
6

I see it as a superpower. I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:54 AM
2

It's not shallow for women to not want brokies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 10:05 PM
1

Online apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:54 AM
2

Broke and all he does is lift weights. He is good-looking but regular gets nexted because the women he wants who are fit women and attractive don't want a 40+ man who is unsuccessful. They would be embarrassed to bring him around family and friends. He can only get overweight and obese desperate women and even they ghost him after the novelty of sleeping with a fit guy is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:45 PM
1

I would never waste my time dating a good-looking brokie. Absolute waste of my energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:56 AM
1

No, I definitely care about a man's income. Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. A relationship should never be founded on "feels." I'm not getting into a relationship with a male teacher making $45k a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:53 AM
0

I've got news for you. If you're dating non-exclusively, she can have sex with other men and it's not your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:51 AM
9

Absolutely agree. Myself and every woman I know look first at face as a threshold of attraction. Height and body type matter after that, but if we aren't into the guy's face, height does not matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:48 AM
4

Well yes, my reply is from my perspective. I don't speak for all women. I'm explaining why for some women, a man's having a large social circle is not an attraction trigger, can be neutral at best, or a deficit.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 03:44 AM
4

As an INTJ woman I personally don't care about a man's social circle as long as he isn't lonely or needy, and he meets my other criteria. If he has one or two close friends and doesn't cultivate a social network, that's perfect. I have one best friend and don't at all care about having my own social circle (outside social media, where I'm very active) so not only is it not a turnoff if a man is not extroverted and super popular, it's a turnon.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 03:28 AM
3

No, incorrect. I am very deliberate in labeling myself "childfree." I'm not childless and wouldn't want a child under any circumstances. You will see those who use "childfree" are mostly of this type. We are not childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:29 AM
10

I am childfree and never had a desire for kids. It would be interesting if we evolved this trait in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:28 PM
5

Attractive women aren't going to pursue you. You have to put some effort in. Accept this or complain that life is unfair. Or stay alone in your apartment.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 02:59 AM
-2

Men are the pursuers. This isn't red pill ideology. This is just biology. If you want to be pursued then you should change your sexuality.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/23 02:41 AM
0

Nothing wrong with this really. The red pill advises men to do the same thing using the "agree and amplify" tactic. If a woman asks him his body count, he should say something like, "You mean today?" or "Does X count?" Or "Let me try counting...*pretends to count on his fingers." They advise not giving a straight answer on this. So there's nothing wrong at all with women using agree and amplify to answer this. This doesn't have to be a "feminist revenge" thing. Just use the same red pill advice …
/r/AllPillDebate03/01/23 02:30 AM
4

Hell no. My introversion and intense Type A serves me very well as a female but I would not be social or fun enough as a man to pull women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:01 PM
12

If Tate were broke he would not be getting 90% of the women he has. It's because he has money and the hoes he attracts want to get some of that money, either directly or indirectly (via experiences). He's tall and white but has an annoying voice, is loud and boisterous, and is bald. He would not be a huge slayer if not rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:31 AM
16

I'm in a LAT relationship. It's wonderful. I never want to cohabitate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:29 AM
3

I can't stand dogs. They are so hyper and extroverted. I would regularly swipe left on men with pics of dogs on dating apps when I was single. One of the huge pluses of my man was he had a cat and no dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 08:27 PM
3

Knowing my man I'd know right away he was trolling and baiting for responses. I'd be amused.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 08:25 PM
9

You believe in just world fallacy.
/r/MensRights17/12/22 06:04 PM
2

Yes. I don't care whatsoever if he paid for sex in the past IF he can get women WITHOUT paying. For some men paying is purely about the efficiency and the experience of it and it has nothing to do with their inability to get women without paying, nor does it say anything negative about their views of women. I've met normal, charming men who have paid for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:01 AM
1

Then you are completely divorced from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:02 AM
1

It's more likely since YOU are the odd one out that YOU have the warped sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:42 AM
1

I never said it was solely polarity. But since we are talking generalities, the OP has to look for masculine women into feminine men, or he has to take on a more masculine appearance and behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:41 AM
4

It's not warped to not find an under-muscled, baby-faced man unmasculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 07:37 PM
1

Heterosexual feminine women like masculine men. This is polarity. Why would women who are straight want to take seriously a man who is feminine (baby-faced, not muscular, not masculine, etc.)? This shouldn't be a surprise. It makes a lot of sense. Women who aren't lesbians and who aren't ultra masculine themselves don't want feminine men. If you don't want to change you need to find a masculine woman who wants a feminine doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:23 PM
5

You can't "demand" respect. You earn it. Short men who are muscular, strong, masculine, confident, financially successful, witty and fun do fine with women. These men have GAME and are not butthurt and insecure about their height. Short men who are insecure, self-conscious, broke, fat, and bitter won't do well with women, but their height is the least of their issues. Also I'm a short woman who has dated many short men who have been amazing so I think you are heavily projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:29 AM
1

I don't date men who have any jealousy because I lack it myself. I don't want to dare a man who is going to have any jealousy, insecurity or butthurt about my posting sexy dress or physique photos online, about male followers on social media, about if I find other men attractive, etc. I don't get jealous about other women, never keeping tabs, never want to snoop in electronics, etc. and I demand the same. I don't see jealousy as any proof that he's invested. I just find it annoying and won't tol…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:49 AM
2

Your shoulds are not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:04 PM
3

I referred to the dating marketplace, which is in your title. Not to individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:15 AM
4

I'm going to stop you at your title. Who told you that the dating market SHOULD be fair? Why do you think you have to prove it is unfair as if that should NOT be the default?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:26 AM
1

Your question has built in premises that aren't true for everyone. For example, many of us don't see having sex with a man we don't want to marry as immoral or wrong at all; therefore, it isn't "weakness" that has us do that but simply our desire to do so. And no, it doesn't take strength to turn down sex with a man we don't want to marry since we aren't linking sex and marriage. You are.
/r/AllPillDebate10/11/22 03:47 AM
1

Your comment was duplicated. Just to let you know.
/r/AllPillDebate09/11/22 03:05 AM
1

Some do. Some marry beta men and have families. They are far more successful at getting what they want than 90% of men.
/r/AllPillDebate09/11/22 03:04 AM
1

Did you read the part of my comment when I said it was likely not the case the majority of the time?
/r/AllPillDebate09/11/22 03:03 AM
1

I'm not arguing in favor of promiscuity at all.
/r/AllPillDebate09/11/22 03:02 AM
5

Your post indicated nothing of the sort. It just speculated about how women get high body counts.
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/22 03:18 AM
9

There is an assumption in the first paragraph that the woman is getting dumped, rather than just having sex and moving on when the "relationship" ends (either after a night, a few weeks, a few months). It could be that she sleeps with the man once, or they do a FBW situation and both fade out on each other. So while it may not always be the case, or even the case the majority of the time, a woman could garner a higher body count without being the one getting dumped because she simply didn't want…
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/22 03:02 AM
1

I can't tell if you're agreeing with me or...?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:57 AM
3

If I don't believe in your god, then I can't be held to your god's gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:49 PM
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"Meant" by who? Nature? God? Were we meant to order items from Amazon? Live in climate controlled houses? Drive cars? Not die of an infection at 30? I believe men and women are different myself, but "gender roles" are really up to each individual and each couple. You're using the classic naturalistic fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:29 AM
2

False. Cohabitation and sharing finances are options, not defaults. Just like not every relationship requires children or marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:44 AM
2

Same here!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:43 AM
2

My boyfriend and I do this (no plans to marry). We've been together 3.5 years and will never cohabitate. We both need our own space and have less than zero desire to see each other 24/7. We both have our own schedules, our own hobbies, our own specific diets, our own workout schedules, etc. I'm a minimalist and he is the opposite. I could not live with all of his stuff. Living Apart Together (LAT_ means that we don't NEED to ever compromise on our living situations. We don't have any joint bills…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:41 AM
1

Absolutely false. As a woman we definitely are not always turned on or always seeking sex like men are. Women can far more easily go for periods of celibacy than men. For men sex is the reward and for many women, sex is a means to an end. Anyone who claims men and women have no differences in sex drives is ignorant.
/r/AllPillDebate28/10/22 01:51 AM
1

Male-female polarity for LTR's. Online "game" for men to get women to agree to a first date. "Dread game" active and passive, and its role, if any, in an LTR. Men as success objects, women as sex objects. How the differences in sex drives between the genders affects the sexual marketplace.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/22 01:50 AM
1

It depends on what you mean by "average." Average in looks, money, game, and status? Very, very, very unlikely. But let's say just average (4-6) in looks, but makes really good money and is generous, funny and stable. He could absolutely get a hot woman who is looking for a man who will be a provider and treat her well, and she will be the hot one in the relationship (women like this). Average in money and status but not average in looks? Unlikely, because she already has the hot looks so he off…
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/22 01:48 AM
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No, because the number says nothing about the quality. The women could have been paid for, fat or ugly, or only fucked him for a specific reason unrelated to the man's game, status or attractiveness, such as to get revenge on an ex or current boyfriend. If he has a high notch count of quality women because he's charming, affable, fun to be around, looks good, etc., then I wouldn't say it is "impressive" but it would make me look favorably on him.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/22 01:45 AM
1

We are both introverts and like our alone time. This will vary depending on the personalities of the people in the relationship, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:41 AM
2

I agree with most of this except you can't say no one "deserves" to be alone because that implies that everyone "deserves" to be with someone and you cannot "deserve" what someone else has to provide.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/22 10:25 PM
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Has kids Jealous and/or possessive and/or controlling Wants open access to my electronics and social media Isn't stoic Needs a lot of together time Doesn't lift Is vegan or vegetarian Is politically liberal Spendthrift Not into financial success and saving Not ambitious Low confidence Lack of humor Isn't his own mental point of origin
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:57 AM
2

I'm confused. Did someone tell you every woman's goal is a 50 year marriage with kids? I like to be in LTR's for as long as we are both happy. My current one is 3.5 years and I'm still content. If it ends tomorrow, that's fine too. I don't want marriage or kids, ever. And I don't even want cohabitation (so my man and I do not live together). Sure, some women would love marriage and kids and are heartbroken that their LTR's keep ending but there are many of us who just want to be with someone com…
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/22 02:10 AM
1

Your anger is so funny 😄
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 10:38 PM
1

Why would something matter to me if I don't want it? That's like telling me that I can't have ice cream, when I don't like ice cream and I'd rather have sushi. I purpose sought out men who didn't want kids either at all or at the time, and were not seeking marriage. So it's not a shock to me that they didn't ask me to marry them KNOWING that's not what I wanted. That would be really stupid of a man to do; to ask a question when he already knows the answer. Only proposals matter in your worldview…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 02:07 AM
1

Well, the men I dated seriously wouldn't propose to me because I made it clear upfront that I don't want marriage and kids, so it wouldn't make sense. However I am in a long-term relationship now of over 3 years and was in a prior 4 year relationship, so I'm certainly capable of getting and maintaining commitment from men I desire. I wouldn't classify myself as "wife material" since that's not my aim, though I could be a wife for a certain type of man. I'm NOT "wife material" for a man who wants…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 01:53 AM
2

Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:24 PM
2

I am okay with non-exclusivity because I would only want to see a guy once, maybe twice a week and if he has a much higher drive for sex, it makes sense for him to see others. I would just never promise exclusivity on my end either and there would be no exception to the use of condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:23 PM
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Yeah, I love FWB arrangements. I like a lot of alone time and never want to cohabitate (tried that once and hated it). I don't want to get married or to have kids. I can date casually without needing a relationship. To me if I don't want a relationship a FWB is perfect for sex and dating because it is convenient for me and low stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:35 PM
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Quoting myself as above: " Obviously height is something many women care about, but there are a lot of women who DO like shorter men." I never said "most." I said, "there are a lot..."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:55 AM
1

Care to show me where I said "most" women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 12:07 AM
2

100% in agreement with this. My man is shorter than me and I also like short men who are confident and funny (in addition to being facially attractive and lifting). Obviously height is something many women care about, but there are a lot of women who DO like shorter men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:25 AM
3

Absolutely children are helpful. But your assumption that all childless women will be living in poverty is outright ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:15 AM
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You realize that the woman could male more than the husband, the husband could have health issues that depleted the savings, the woman could be into minimalism, etc. You are entirely guessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:14 PM
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Childless women make more money than women with kids. And women are more social. They don't need kids for a safety net or to use as a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:55 AM
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41F Dallas, TX
/r/AllPillDebate22/09/22 11:17 PM
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Why should she be punished? Her husband knows about her career. Everything she did was consenting. It's not my cup of tea but the notion of her getting punished is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:13 PM
1

Clock on my username, go to bio and open in browser.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:39 PM
0

That's why it works so well. Online shopping makes shopping for what you want convenient and efficient. Why shouldn't dating be similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:48 AM
2

My pic is in my bio. But it's telling your first response is an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:47 AM
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I can only speak for me as I only date from online dating, NOT social circle or random encounters out. I'm professional, very fit and introverted. I like the convenience of going for the types of men I know I like directly online from the comfort of my apartment. It works well and is extremely efficient. I'd never want a large social circle to use for dating as I love alone time nor do I want to waste my time going out to meet men when I can work and make money, lift weights, and read at home. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:15 AM
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I honestly have nothing bad to report. I love being a woman and would never trade for being a man. I have everything I want. I'm sure there are downsides to being an individual woman but on the whole I've no complaints.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:07 AM
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It's never a red flag for me. I think they are pretty smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:50 AM
1

Not after I lost attraction for him due to his weak, needy and jealous behavior. I checked out entirely. I only stayed in the relationship longer than I should have because I still cared about him as a person and he was dealing with mental illness and I didn't want him to self-harm. I eventually ended things and we went no contact. I met my now boyfriend 6 months after and it is the polar opposite. My now boyfriend and I both had past serious relationships and neither of us feel the need to make…
/r/AllPillDebate16/09/22 02:25 AM
1

Well my ex made me lose attraction for him by being needy and possessive, and my current boyfriend is the opposite, so he gets my support and attention, both emotional and sexual.
/r/AllPillDebate16/09/22 02:11 AM
1

No, I didn't do the same things because the mistake WAS the last person. Since my boyfriend is not him I didn't replicate that mistake. No, I don't treat them the same because my boyfriend is someone I want to be with. I show him he's not a mistake by not treating him like a mistake.
/r/AllPillDebate16/09/22 02:02 AM
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My last relationship was a mistake on my part and I learned lessons from it. However, the mistake I made was getting in that relationship. It has nothing to do with showing my man he is "more special" than my ex. That's IRRELEVANT to our relationship.
/r/AllPillDebate15/09/22 12:55 AM
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This is a really immature mindset to be honest. Neither I nor my boyfriend are comparing ourselves to past relationships. The relationship is on our terms and if either of us isn't content with something or has an unaddressed need or issue we can discuss it. Needing to be "more special" is some middle school mentality.
/r/AllPillDebate15/09/22 12:31 AM
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Absolutely not. I'm very unattracted to men who have zero experience with women. I'd eat them alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:32 AM
1

Yes! We do LAT. We see each other each Friday night plus sometimes one night during the week if we have a dinner date. We text and chat on the phone daily. We both absolutely thrive on this. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:37 AM
1

I had one 4 year cohabitating LTR and it convinced me I cannot ever do that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:36 AM
2

This is absolutely not true. For the short-term, sure, looks are primary, but for a woman with options wanting a relationship, compatibility and personality matter a GREAT deal.
/r/AllPillDebate06/09/22 10:22 PM
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"Maybe it's just me, but a life of healthy living, no children, having GOOD non obligatory sex with whoever I want and financially secure seems like an infinitely better option." It is for me. I never wanted marriage or kids (thought I do like having a non-cohabitating LTR). I like keeping my time and money to myself, doing what I please, and having a man I enjoy dating long-term (without seeing 24/7). I have zero regrets and I never look at people married with kids and see a life I'd rather hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:42 AM
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No. I think women oversexualize themselves since sex is one of our greatest agencies. I also don't believe in enforcing gender quotas or representation. The truth is men and women are attracted to different roles and most women do not want to put in the enormous hours that being a CEO or top producer require.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 08:38 PM
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Yes, politically, financially and legally. We just don't adhere to the modern feminist movement which we both see as female supremacy and man-bashing. Women already have equal rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 07:20 PM
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Neither I nor my boyfriend are feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:54 PM
3

Men aren't pissed that women are picky. They are pissed when they aren't picked.
/r/AllPillDebate26/08/22 02:29 AM
1

No need to respond. Everyone will immediately know it's cope if the woman is at least average looking. A man trying to act like he has the leverage with sex is going to get eye rolls unless the recipients of his bullshit have reason to pretend to be polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:41 AM
2

Not sure I entirely agree but it's an interesting comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 12:23 AM
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There is a difference between DOUBLE standards and DIFFERENT standards. Generally men and women want and expect different things in a partner. It's not a double standard for a woman to want a man to be taller, stronger and richer than her, since height, strength and resources are things women value in men but NOT vice versa. Similarly, women generally care less about purity in men. It's not a double standard for a man to want a woman who is less experienced with sex than he is, just like it's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 12:12 AM
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Men need to look around and see tons of women are with short men, men that aren't millionaires, men that don't have six packs, men that don't have "hunter eyes" or a square jaw, men that don't have 1 million Instagram followers, men that aren't sports stars or rappers, etc. And women are happy with these men and having sex with these men. In the real world. Women aren't only chasing one static "20% of men" and sharing him in large harems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 12:23 AM
1

Do you know how easy it is to get married and pregnant as a woman if you're at least average looking? Most men you date would be willing to get married and have kids with you. You have to actively avoid it if you don't want these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:48 AM
1

That's on purpose. I also don't have kids. Nice try at "negging" though 😏🤭.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:01 AM
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Not at all. I don't want the burden of performance, lower amount of abundance, and complete lack of care from society. I am so glad to be a woman in the sexual marketplace. I get everything I want as a woman. There are no downsides in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:24 PM
3

There isn't anything wrong with it except that being an older father might not be ideal for them, and women who are in their mid-20s don't necessarily want to marry a man that much older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:24 AM
1

Very reasonable view and I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:23 AM
3

I don't believe they do have to choose either, to be clear. But given that a woman can have fertility issues, and she may want to have time in her marriage with just her husband before kids, I don't think waiting until late 20s to get serious is the best path. But in the end, it is up to every woman. I always knew I never wanted kids so I never had to wrestle with this decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:22 AM
18

If a woman wants kids, I think she should prioritize marriage and kids before 30, ideally around 24-26. I never wanted marriage OR kids so I have lived without a "biological clock" altogether, which is freeing and enjoyable for me. But I'm in a minority of women who truly never had the urge for motherhood and finds fulfillment elsewhere. For most women, who do want kids, I would never advise they focus solely on career until their early 30s. As for men, I think early to mid 30s is the right time…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:20 PM
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I don't make men wait for sex so I'm not playing devil's advocate here, but how do you know she is purposely making you wait an arbitrary time period vs. just going on feel, i.e., she's not ready on date 2 but would be on date 4?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:40 AM
4

She was going out on dates and fucking other guys, not sitting home wondering all evening about what you were up to. If she's an attractive average or above average woman, she has tons of options and Mr. Mysterious who is too busy to text her gets moved down her contact list while she dates around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:07 AM
2

It's hilarious that men think attractive women are going to sit home twiddling their thumbs wondering what "Mr. Mysterious" is doing. These women have far, far more options than any guy. They are talking to the men who aren't playing fake alpha "aloof" game and going out with those men. While these guys pretend to be "super busy" and "soft next" her, she it talking to other men and setting up dates with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:05 AM
1

I'm not sure what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:59 PM
1

I won't be in a nursing home. I'm making good money and saving for my own retirement. I'm also keeping healthy. If my health ever declines and I can't be independent, I'll just move to a pro-euthanasia state or country.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:59 PM
19

Since I don't want kids and won't have a "legacy," I have the privilege of not needing to give a fuck what happens with gender relations in the future. My focus is me and my happiness until I pass on!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:33 AM
18

"It's harder for women to stay in shape / be lean / lose weight / be fit / have abs." This is just bullshit. These women just don't want to lift or stick to their calorie allotment. "Women are more insecure than men / have body insecurities." This is true if you aren't high self-esteem and into fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:31 AM
3

E. I never dreamed about marriage and kids. I never wanted either. It was never a childhood fantasy of mine. I knew since I was 6 or so that I never wanted kids. To this day I not once have experienced the so-called "baby rabies" that is supposed to hit women. I don't hate kids at all. I just don't ever think of them. They aren't interesting to me. I don't necessarily see marriage and kids as a "burden you are trying to avoid" because I don't have to TRY to avoid these. It's very easy to not acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:29 AM
2

I don't relate to those who are in creative vs logic professions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:37 AM
3

I have my own gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:36 AM
3

Loool 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:12 AM
7

I've been in a relationship for 3.5 years, so yes ;).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:51 AM
0

Has kids. Lack of financial success. Extroversion. Not in STEM position (i.e., is a bartender, artist, musician, etc.). Spendthrift. Impulsivity. Instability and unpredictability. Veganism. Doesn't lift weights. Neediness. Jealousy. Possessiveness. Insecurity. Lack of stoicism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:40 AM
3

It doesn't matter. The ONLY double standard that favors men is that men's promiscuity is looked upon more favorably than women's and it doesn't matter today because (1) women can still get LTR's and marriage with a higher notch count than in the past (2) a man will never know a woman's notch count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:46 AM
1

No offense taken at all. I'm actually a minimalist so I'm not into money for material goods. I save and invest a huge amount of my salary. Money is security to me. I enjoy experiences like dinners out on occasion but I buy and want very little. To me financial success represents security and masculine competence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:45 PM
1

I'm attracted to financial success. I'm successful so I'm not dating or committing to a bum, and I like dating a man who pays for dates. I'm in this type of relationship. That said I am attracted to ambition that leads to results. If a man's money was from winning the lottery or inheriting a trust fund, that would not be attractive to me because he does not have that masculine drive to acquire resources I find enticing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:23 PM
4

Why would I care about my genes? Also, I'm fine being seen as a failure by those who rank women by having children. I care about making money, having defined abs, enjoying sushi, dresses and sun, and spending time with my man and best friend. I literally don't care if I'm called a failure. I literally don't care about my DNA replicating. It's irrelevant to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:49 AM
2

The only "sticks" mentioned are getting women out of the workforce and banning abortion. Neither of these are going to work in the West.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:47 AM
42

There are no policies that are going to work. The carrot policies have been tried in several countries and only generated maybe a fraction in the uptick in the birth rate. As a happily childfree woman (no regrets!) I can absolutely see why the birth rate has cratered. It's not jut the financial cost. More and more people don't see the "need" for a legacy, don't feel like investing in childrearing over the joy of pursuing their own interests, and don't feel like they need to obey some "societal l…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:37 AM
2

It's just non-exclusive dating and that is fine for men AND women. I was happy to spin my own plates before I got into a relationship. Until I am exclusive with someone I am a free agent in the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:19 AM
3

What does FDS have to do with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:30 AM
1

I don't understand what you mean. Putting myself first makes me content.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:29 AM
3

Because I was not looking for a relationship. Being in a relationship is not everyone's goal. I like a LOT of alone time and it was only because my now boyfriend shares this view (we do not cohabitate) that made a relationship with him desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:29 AM
2

Who says they do? Like I said, I slept with my boyfriend on date 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:27 AM
3

I make a really good salary, have significant assets and don't want kids. I'd just date him and get nice dates out. Hardly gold-digging. But yeah, men are success objects. I don't want a scrub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:09 PM
6

But why would I marry him? I could just get nice dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:21 AM
6

You missed the part where I said I'm in a 3 year relationship. What would I *need* a beta for exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:36 AM
3

Sure, I agree with that. But even women who like being in relationships will have periods of time when they date without the intention of a relationship at all. That can include her having sex with a guy without putting a relationship on the table at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:36 AM
9

Again, wrong. I'm a lifelong non-drinker. I have absolutely had sex with a guy without a relationship being on the table. Now most men I slept with I intended to date and see what happened, but I ALWAYS knew there was a possibility I would have sex with him and it would go nowhere or he could just ghost me after.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:32 AM
0

Do men always want to marry in their 30s the same women they would just have fucked in their late teens and early 20s? No right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:30 AM
7

I understand how men see it. I'm saying the AFBB phenomenon is widely overstated. Most women I know WANT sex with and relationships with the same men. They are not pursuing men who will only fuck them but have no relationship potential. Plus the women I know aren't desperate for marriage and provision, so getting with a man for "beta bucks" has no purpose. They can just stay single and date attractive men OR they can get commitment from their top choice of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:08 AM
2

💯💯💯
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:05 AM
9

You can get to know a guy, have sex and still not expect a guaranteed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:04 AM
8

That's not the case. I have never had sex expecting a relationship to be the guaranteed outcome. I don't need a man to promise future exclusivity or commitment for sex. I don't feel bad having sex without commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:03 AM
14

Your premise doesn't work. I can not want a relationship with every man I slept with--AND I HAVE NOT WANTED A RELATIONSHIP WITH EVERY MAN I SLEPT WITH--and still not be "fucking alphas and settling for betas." I didn't want a relationship when I first had sex with my now boyfriend yet here we are 3 years later. He definitely is not my beta bux; he pays none of my bills and I'm super attracted to him. Women can have non-committal sex without splitting all men into alphas or betas. And despite the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:47 PM
27

How are you defining "casual sex"? No, I was never manipulated. It was always 100% my choice to have sex with every man I slept with. Sex is never a guarantee that a relationship will follow and I never have sex with the expectation or demand of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:42 PM
0

I'd honestly pursue therapy as an alternative to trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. The more time you pursue finding a unicorn and then discovering that you can't flip male-female polarity like this and expect to last long term, the more time you are wasting instead of getting help connecting to your innate masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:29 AM
1

I absolutely agree. Men are much simpler. I don't happen to have what I consider unreasonable standards and I'm with my top choice man, but absolutely he has fewer requirements than I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 07:24 PM
7

I don't equate sex and love. I'm easily able to separate them. But I believe the two parties in the relationship set the rules. My boyfriend and I are monogamous but we are hands off and very independent. I would not stay if he cheated on me but if we set rules so that either he alone or both of us could see others, that is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 07:21 PM
9

I have an extremely strong frame. It hasn't at all hurt me because...I just date and commit to men with STRONGER frame because those are the men whom I'm attracted to and am compatible with. I don't ever have to reduce my frame to get a man I want. I just go for men who eclipse my frame. There are fewer of these men, yes, BUT they are higher quality and in my experience they like women like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 01:03 AM
2

I'm 41 and always liked to date younger men. My ex was 8 years younger and my current boyfriend is 2 years younger. I've never been attracted to men older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:50 AM
4

They aren't trash at all. I met every man I dated since 2007 when I started dating on apps, ranging from OkCupid to Tinder to Bumble. I'm in a 3+ year relationship with a man I met on Bumble. They work great for introverted professional women who know what kind of men they like and use them to meet men for simple coffee dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:41 AM
0

Yeah, putting yourself first is important. Point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:31 AM
2

I have no fear of being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 03:45 PM
7

You think I work to flex to other women? How is my working a flex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:26 AM
11

That's fine with me. I don't have any investment in the future of the sexual marketplace. I'm all for getting what *I* want and others can do the same. I'm in a 3+ year long relationship with a man I'm attracted to and compatible with that is 100% on terms that suit me. I don't care at all if men go MGTOW, are incels, go to a third word country to find a woman, spend all day watching "Fresh and Fit" for revenge fantasies, etc. and I don't care at all if women go feminist and boss grrrl, or go "t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:24 AM
25

Do it. No skin off my nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 12:00 AM
27

My motivation for my career is unabashedly selfish. I love making money for my own security and to spend on what sparks joy for me. Now, I do assist others via my career, but I'm not working to support a family. Selfish? Yes. Don't at all reject the label. In fact, I RELISH it. Give me MY 💰💰💰 which I DON'T need to share. It's GLORIOUS. DELICIOUS. SATISFYING.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 11:29 PM
2

Before. I always liked focusing on a career and making money. Of course it is even better making my current salary. Anyone who claims making money and having defined abs doesn't bring you happiness has neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 11:13 PM
5

I love making over 6 figures and I get validation from how good I am at what I do. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:23 PM
2

I vastly prefer younger men. My ex was 8 years my junior and my current boyfriend is 2 years younger. It's rare that I even date my age exactly and I seldom if ever have dated older men. Younger men are attracted to me because I'm very fit (more so than women their age), feminine and light-hearted, and especially because I don't want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:34 AM
3

I never had to date older men or be alone. My ex was 8 years my junior and my current boyfriend is 2 years younger. A fit, feminine, successful, pleasant woman in her 30s and 40s is going to have abundant choices. I certainly have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:14 AM
3

Not all women are highly emotional. I'm in a relationship but I'm low in emotion and neediness with regards to comfort. We don't cohabitate with no plans to. I need a LOT of personal space and don't need emotional support from my boyfriend. If I weren't in my Living Apart Together relationship, I'd prefer to be single and have a FWB type of deal. I'm not promiscuous because I don't care that much about sex but I also attach zero emotion to sex and never have worried about my "notch count" affect…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:55 PM
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I 100% agree that women have the upper hand in the sexual marketplace and on social media. I don't think men are incels for saying this. I only take issue when *some* men who are not getting what they want from the sexual marketplace or social media want to restrict women's options out of anger and revenge or some kind of "fairness" and when they direct their ire at women doing pretty innocuous things like posting pics of themselves in bikinis or sexy dresses or having requirements for who they …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:13 AM
3

Muay Thai, kettlebell training, cooking, philosophy, meditation, project management, business, entrepreneurship, shooting, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 09:31 PM
7

I met my man on Bumble (I love online dating)! My man is very charming, professionally successful, has a literal genius IQ, and has many interesting hobbies. He's masculine, dominant and ambitious. He can absolutely get other women without any issue. I don't consider him "better" than me at all. He's different. We have male-female polarity. I respect and admire him, but I am not his inferior or subordinant. I'm not at all the jealous or insecure type so I'm happy to see women hit on my man and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:03 AM
4

I don't think about it at all. My man has an objectively "high" number but he's with me and he's clean. I don't have any "retroactive jealousy" or any jealousy period, and don't fear his cheating on me. My man knows my exact number (yes, the TRUE number) and he decided to be with me, so the number was acceptable to him. He cares about how I treat him, not what an N of X should "mean."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 01:41 AM
1

Because they are not going on dates with you and if they do, they ghost you and don't fuck you. If they were attracted to you, they'd WANT to date and fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 02:00 PM
6

You're going for women outside your league in attractiveness and they don't want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 04:31 AM
16

They are already more desirable to us childfree women. I'm in a relationship but when I was single and on dating apps, a man who mentioned having a vasectomy automatically went up a full SMV point. To me nothing is sexier than sex without the possibility of getting pregnant. Just the thought of pregnancy kills my libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:49 AM
11

It's left out because it doesn't fit the convenient narrative that women only want "Chads" and are a hive mind with extremely fixed and narrow preferences. 40% of couples today meet online and all of the men in those relationships are likely not Chads. Of course, then they make the argument that the women are alpha-widowed and settling for betas, so you can never win.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 02:51 AM
20

Honestly it sounds like those women went after unavailable men or men out of their league who rejected them or only used them for sex, and then she saw those guys get into relationships with women she thinks aren't as high value as her, so she's claiming the bar is low for men. I don't think the bar is low for men at all. I think women have the upper hand in the sexual marketplace with sex AND relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 02:33 AM
1

No. I'm fine with dating non-exclusively, but in those situations I'm not investing my emotions or doing any "girlfriend game." If I'm in a relationship I'm going to invest time and emotions. I'm only going to do that for one man and only if that man is exclusive with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:53 AM
2

I train after 5pm and up to 8pm. Training in late afternoon to evening is ideal for me. I'm the most warmed up and I also like to eat my OMAD in the evening right after training.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:49 AM
2

Nothing sexual. My boyfriend has no interest in holding hands with female friends lol. My boyfriend and I are both introverts. We don't prioritize friendships over alone time to begin with Zero concern on my end.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 09:38 PM
7

I don't have any boundaries on my boyfriend being friends with women. Our boundaries are that neither one of us engages in anything sexual with another person. He has female friends he messages and occasionally has meals and meet ups with and it doesn't at all bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:45 AM
75

Absolutely. Girl game is dressing feminine, having a slim/fit body, having a light-hearted, positive, fun attitude, listening and asking questions to keep men engaged, being supportive and being a man's place of peace and relaxation, not stress and conflict.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 11:26 PM
19

Absolutely it can be, especially for women who are responsive desire to begin with. I can enjoy sex when I'm having it but I never just "need" it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:23 PM
2

I don't have any specific trust issues, but I also live my life and set up my relationships in such a way as I don't have to have trust in certain areas. For example, I do living apart together (LAT), so no cohabitation. I don't have to trust my partner on any aspect of my living space. I don't share finances at ALL, so no trust is needed on finances. The only trust is on fidelity, and I just never worry about getting cheated on. The way my relationship is set up, I really can't get very "hurt" …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 02:34 AM
22

I would NEVER date a man whose friend called me a bitch and he said nothing. Instant dealbreaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 01:25 AM
1

Thank you :).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 08:43 PM
13

Guess what? Humans evolved to judge. It's being discerning. You either live your life your way not caring, or you care and fume about it. I know very few women who care about men their age dating younger. It's usually just a boast for men. They can't shut up about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:57 PM
18

I agree 💯. It's one thing to have a defined open relationship or some type of agreement as to who can see others and in what context. It's another thing entirely for someone to DELIBERATELY break a contract of exclusivity, i.e., cheating. There is no man I need in my life to the extent I'd tolerate or accept this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:46 PM
33

If you can't stand people judging your relationship, you're weak. "Boo hoo some mean people don't like age gap relationships!!! 😭😭😭" Who cares? In my last relationship my ex-boyfriend was 8 years younger than me. A few raised eyebrows, but I never cared. I just don't get the "society so mean and judgmental" complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:43 PM
1

I'm firmly childfree. I would date a widower without kids but I won't date a man with kids period. I never have to 'stoop' to that level since men without kids who are available to me are abundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 03:13 AM
2

I have never been pumped and dumped. I've had short-term relationships where we see each other for 2-3 months and then one or both of us fade, but that's not a big deal. I had exactly ONE one night stand in my life and there was no expectation of a relationship from that. To get pumped and dumped a woman really has to convince herself the man wants something more than sex. Some men are very good at being deceptive but generally in my opinion these men are rare. It's far, FAR more likely to me th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 02:25 AM
9

None of this was on the original post. Regardless, this is a very unusual situation where you are in an exclusive relationship, supposedly, with someone you don't feel secure with and have inconsistent communication with.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:54 AM
9

It happens. People ghost. You just can't take it 100% personally and let it ruin your life. In the grand scheme of things, if you didn't get pregnant or an STD, having sex with a guy once and not seeing him again isn't the end of the world. However if you are going to get this emotionally invested this quickly, then you should probably not have sex so soon, and instead wait 3-6 months.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 01:29 AM
1

Sigma vs alpha refers to how a man feels about a hierarchy. It has nothing to do with how he approaches women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:22 AM
4

I like the concept of "being your own mental point of origin." I am unabashedly self-focused and refuse to feel guilt or shame over how I choose to live my life. I agree that women are sex objects and men are success objects. This isn't to say women shouldn't be successful (I have a six-figure career) but that women will maximize SMV being fit and feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:37 AM
2

I don't see Barney as creepy as fuck. I think he's hilarious, though he's not at all my "type" of man. But I also think Me Too is bullshit and I'm not easily offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:19 AM
1

The type of men I like are stoic, masculine "sigma" types of men and no I don't have to approach them. I do put myself within their eyesight figuratively to be approached, specifically with dating apps and social media. And that's how I got my boyfriend of 3 years. I let them pursue me once I spark their interest. I'd be wholly unattracted to any man who sat back and waited for me to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:17 AM
79

Anyone who marries primarily for love is delusional. Mutual values and compatibility are far more important. Love is nebulous.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:33 AM
1

I am not very emotional and I need a man with a strong frame who is unshakeable in order to feel attracted to and safe with him. I don't want a man who is going to give me any "emotional highs and lows" and "drama" like many in the red pill claim women want. I want a man who is super steady, an oak I can completely rely on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 01:53 AM
1

Martial arts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:21 PM
3

If you're high time preference and lazy, you're more likely to be poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:20 PM
9

✅️Stoicism ✅️Ambition ✅️Lack of neediness ✅️Knows how to fight and protect ✅️Assertiveness ✅️Confidence ✅️Muscularity and strength ✅️Dominance ✅️Desire to take charge and lead in situations ✅️Financially successful
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:06 PM
6

Most people are poor due to their own habits and personality, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:04 PM
0

It doesn't have to be fair. It just has to serve me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:34 PM
7

It wouldn't change a thing because a woman knowing a man is paying for sex isn't "dread" how you want it to be. In your scenario she goes out with men she's attracted to who she gets paid dinners with and hot sex with, and he pays for sex with a woman who sees him as a wallet. Why would that phase her? Men paying for pussy is never a threat to any woman with options, especially women who don't need financial provisioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:22 AM
9

Not in a million years. I'm childfree and refuse to ever date single dads. And I don't HAVE to. When I was single it was super easy to meet men without kids. I'd never have to settle for dealing with baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:16 PM
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Thank you :).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:44 AM
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Women are never going to need or want sex, and by extension men, the way men need and want sex, and by extension women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:43 AM
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If the "flaw" was that one sex had to be dependent for food and shelter on the other, then I'm very glad that "flaw" is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:43 AM
65

There is no solution. This is the sexual marketplace and it consists of individuals with individual motives, desires, preferences, etc. If any man or any woman isn't getting what he or she wants in the sexual marketplace, the options are: Upgrade yourself to have a higher quality pool of options; Lower your preferences to have a wider pool of options; Move locations to where your options may be more plentiful and/or of higher quality; Stop looking for a relationship or genuine desire and just pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:43 AM
3

Maybe those are just the women you see on the media you consume. Many of us don't care. Why do you care what women who aren't fucking you think about the issue?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 06:01 PM
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I'm pro-choice for women and men. Women shouldn't be forced to be mothers and men shouldn't be forced to be fathers. I think men should get a financial opt-out if he doesn't want to be a father and the woman proceeds with the pregnancy anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:35 AM
2

There is nothing wrong with introverts who are busy professionals with hobbies and interests preferring to meet people they date online. I don't WANT a social circle and I don't want to go out and meet anyone "organically." And this works out perfectly for me, so there is no reason to change it. It's how I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, on Bumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:13 AM
1

I'm enjoying the world immensely!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:10 AM
5

Imagine thinking meeting someone to date online, and qualifying them with your dealbreakers and priorities, is immoral. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:09 AM
2

I'm sure there's a line of heartbroken women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 04:19 AM
7

Women aren't begging for marriage and kids. That's "Stacy rejected me at 15 and I hope she gets her comeuppance" revenge fantasy bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:10 AM
5

It's not a negative comparison. I love Amazon and get all my favorite products on there. I'm not softening my language. We are all products on the sexual marketplace. If you don't like your brand, then no one else will.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:09 AM
5

Super easy. I choose the men I like on social media and dating apps. I love that I can completely ignore approaches in real life and I don't have to be social if I don't want to. I can qualify my type online like an Amazon product. I've been with my man 3 years and my prior relationships and dating experiences were from online. I never have to "give a chance" to weirdos in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:17 PM
25

Mine has and I don't care 🤷‍♀️. He's clean. An occasional hooker when a guy is single and in a dry spell seems like no big deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:43 AM
3

No one cares about men having to marry down.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 10:08 PM
6

But men still don't have the upperhand I commitment. Most women don't have to compete as a plate to get a man locked down. They don't have to beg or cajole for a relationship. Generally the woman might bring up exclusivity first but he's not gatekeeping his commitment. He's either ready OR she moves on. In today's sexual marketplace if a woman WANTS a monogamous relationship she doesn't have to focus on chasing one man's commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:47 PM
3

I will be 41 this March ☺️. Thank you! Lifting and diet are both KEY.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:45 PM
8

Most women here aren't dating celebrities so it doesn't matter. Men don't gatekeep relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:36 PM
7

Hard to have fear if you have defined abs in your 40s and make $100k a year. Maybe if you're flabby and financially dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:35 PM
23

I haven't seen any woman on here say she fears this. I've seen men write that women fear this but from what I see women have the upperhand in the sexual marketplace even after marriage and divorce and since this isn't 1850, I truly doubt this is a concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:55 AM
6

Lol, I meant "date" 😁. My phone keeps autocorrecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:44 PM
26

Neither are red flags to me. As a woman who only dates younger men, I couldn't care less if men my age date younger. People who care about other people's preferences are just butthurt they don't meet those preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:01 PM
12

It doesn't at all. I couldn't care less what porn my boyfriend watches. How we get off in private is OUR business. He doesn't give a damn about the literotica I read.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:00 PM
4

I'd make them hate blowjobs 😅.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:49 PM
1

You sound jealous!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:33 PM
1

And your point is?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 07:59 PM
1

I like a lot of confidence. If that's narcissism, then sure. Send it my way!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:03 PM
0

No, I can fathom it. I just don't care about those men. They don't exist to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:03 PM
1

He didn't have female friends. They had contempt for him and laughed at him. He THOUGHT they were friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:50 AM
-2

And they are not for ME. This post was about what women think of men without social media. I think the guy is boring, weird, bitter, paranoid and/or a dinosaur and it's a turn off for ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:47 AM
-5

I like confident men who like having fun and posting about their lives. I like men who live in 2022 and like to promote the brand of themselves. I don't like paranoid men who want to live off the grid. I post a lot and a man who hates social media would not be a match for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:46 AM
-2

No, I don't care about being in his posts. I just don't want to date a guy who is afraid to have social media because he's boring, or has a stick up his ass about it. Men who "hate" social media are bitter and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:43 AM
-1

You said you don't think most women care and I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:09 AM
-4

False. A man not having social media is getting screened out by those of us who care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:53 PM
4

💯💯💯💯. Fully endorse this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:51 PM
-1

Makes total sense to me and many other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:51 PM
1

I would absolutely not want a weird guy who daygames and has no social media presence. It's not 1995.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:50 PM
-1

I'm 40 and have no interest dating a man with no social media presence. I happen to LOVE posting selfies and statuses on Facebook and I have 4000 friends. I enjoy social media attention and interaction. My man and I have about 200 mutual friends on Facebook and he's fairly popular as he is a retired pro-fighter and current entrepreneur and has a lot of friends and followers in various fields. I like that he gets attention from men and women and we get lots of "likes" on our couple pics. If I wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:49 PM
5

Lol, definitely not :). I'm libertarian and pretty purple pill-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:43 AM
2

Yes that's me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:36 AM
4

Yeah, I enjoy it. Tastes delicious, like sushi ☺️. My man would say Michael needs a punch in the face and to stop being an uptight bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:58 PM
5

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:24 PM
3

Fair enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:24 PM
4

Every woman is responsible for her choices. I frankly don't care what other women do as they have NO affect on me in the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:23 PM
7

Not RP per se but I love "Michael's Story." Why? I enjoy how bitter it is for men like Michael to realize women can have their cake (enjoyable sex life) with sprinkles (ring and babies if they WANT). I enjoy the bitterness of men like Michael realizing there is no comeuppance, that there are no involuntary cat ladies, that "sluts" not only don't get punished, but they often marry high-value promiscuous men and live an amazing life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:01 PM
2

I'm 5'4".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:53 PM
2

I make 6 figures and haven't experienced any glass ceilings. I love dating 100% on my terms! Marriage and kids are not for me so I don't care about getting those.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:54 AM
2

No, I HATE anything true crime and avoid it with a passion. I have a weak stomach and can't take anything gory, and I don't enjoy anything fear-based. I don't watch horror movies or ready true crime books. I in fact go out of my way to only consume positive and happy media because if I'm spending my time on a book, TV show or film, I want it to make me HAPPY and for me to enjoy myself. I also don't live in fear of men or have fear of my safety in general. When I was single and doing online datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:32 AM
1

I'm 5'4". He's really slightly shorter than me at 2" and I don't see it as a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:04 AM
1

No, he pays for our dates but I make the more steady salary (he's an entrepreneur and I'm in law).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:03 AM
2

That's what a man has to do. Just like a fat chick has to be great in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:03 AM
1

It's not. I'm 5'4" so it isn't a big deal. Height is not one of my dealbreakers. I do have dealbreakers, for example, no single dads and no men who don't lift.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:02 AM
0

My man is 5'2". Super hot and handsome in my eyes, a literal genius, hilarious, stoic, masculine, lifts weights, owns his shit. We are super compatible and I'm happy as hell with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:36 AM
10

It depends on the ideas this red pill man has. If he believes "AWALT," and "women are children" and "men can cheat and women cant," then no. If he believes that men and women are biologically different, and polarity in relationships are good, and that one should have frame and boundaries, and that being fit and financially secure is important, then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:35 AM
0

Childfree and not married here and LOOOOOOOVE it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:32 AM
3

I can tell you don't lift from this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 12:12 AM
2

You have no idea how corporations work if you think just being hot will garner a woman a 6 figure job. I am a late bloomer so no, I didn't date shitty men. I got better looking and more interesting and with my self-improvement, the men I dated improved in quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:20 PM
2

No, fertility peaks in 20s. Many women still have baby far or bad skin in their 20s. If a woman lifts weights and pays attention to diet and energy balance she will have a much better physique in her 30s than 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:18 PM
6

If a woman peaks in her 20s, she massively screwed up. I've gotten leaner, grew my hair longer, started dressing more feminine and I'm flooded with male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:49 AM
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Penis size does nothing to get me off so I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:39 AM
15

I've never had men inquire about my N count or what sex acts I did with exes. I never had my options decrease as I got older. The QUALITY of the men I dated after my 20s was much higher than in my 20s. And high value, professional men do care about a woman's education and job. Not specifically her income, but they are not dating a woman working at Arby's with a high school education. They would be embarrassed to bring her around friends. My man values my stability and that I have accomplished mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:36 AM
1

Are you asking me?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:37 PM
2

I would say I'm very disciplined, but honestly I don't have impossible preferences in men. When I met an awesome one, I wanted to be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:37 PM
2

I can move mentally past an ex without going on dates or sleeping with someone else. It's just reframing and that's not hard for women who are lower in emotion like myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:01 AM
5

No, I don't, but I never felt my preferences were unreasonable. I'm a relatively good-looking woman and I'm in elite physique condition, so when I was single I was flooded with messages from my matches on the apps plus social media. But I met my now boyfriend for a coffee date (he was the third man I went out with after becoming single again 3 years ago) and really wanted to continue seeing him. We decided to date exclusively and then went "official" for the relationship 3 months later. I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:45 AM
2

I'm not a football fan 😆. Sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:36 AM
3

I don't care at all if my boyfriend wants to donate sperm. It's his sperm and if he makes money from it, awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:04 PM
51

Most of the posters on r/dating and r/dating_advice are very young, very immature, or both. 90% of the posts are, "Why didn't she respond to my SnapChat?" "Does this guy like me or...?"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:25 PM
3

This needs to be stamped on all of "her" troll posts and comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:10 AM
2

I definitely don't. I derive joy from being fit, having money and spending my free time as I please, not on kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:08 AM
6

For myself. I like having slightly defined abs, low body fat and feminine muscles and curves. I love liking what I see in a skimpy bikini and tight dress. Sure, it is a plus in dating. I never lacked for dates when I was single and I get a lot of "likes" on my pictures from men. But my own boyfriend said I could gain 30 pounds and be attractive to him and he would never want to adhere to my diet and training routine. In sum, my physique is exactly the way I like it and it happens to be a plus in…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:05 AM
2

We are on the same page!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:19 AM
2

Woman here and I agree with you. No one "deserves" anything. You owe no one anything. All that matters is getting what YOU want in the sexual marketplace. I never wanted marriage and kids. I wanted a non-cohabitating LTR with a stoic, introverted, hilarious, non-needy, non-jealous, non-"trad" conservative/libertarian-leaning man I'm sexually attracted to who lifts, pays for dates and is otherwise hands off. I got exactly what I wanted. Why? Because I have abundance mentality, am fit and lean and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:58 AM
6

No regrets. I never wanted kids and have never changed my mind. I don't enjoy being around kids and I like all the money I save from not having any. As for marriage I don't see tye point for me since I don't want kids. I'm in a non-cohabitating LTR and I'm very, VERY happy with our arrangement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:15 PM
3

At least half, but it would depend on how you define it. Some women are just thinking of being swept away like a character in a romance novel and some women have actual rape fantasies that can be more graphic and less "consensual."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 03:32 AM
0

No, I love social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 03:09 AM
5

I wish there were censorship free versions of Reddit and Facebook that weren't just isolated to extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 03:09 AM
10

I am against any censorship. Adults need to take personal responsibility for the media they consume.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 01:44 AM
2

Huge lifehack! No regrets. I save money, I get silence, I can pursue my hobbies, no changes to my body...all upsides.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 12:49 AM
3

I've never had baby rabies. Many women never experience this and don't ever get the urge.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 03:35 AM
10

Never wanted to get married or have kids. I have felt this way since I was 5 or 6 and now I'm 40 and have not ever changed my mind. No urge at all. I make great money and have significant assets so what would marriage offer me in terms of provision? I don't want kids so I don't need marriage for that reason. I am in a happy 3 year relationship where we don't cohabitate and we both like it that way. If a woman makes good money, has no debt and doesn't want kids, she is far better off having an LT…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 03:31 AM
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Why would anyone care about personality if they aren't physically attracted?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 12:57 AM
3

I'm fairly successful (make 6 figures) and I haven't found less options as I made more money at all. In fact, the men I have dated after age 30 when I started making more money and became more successful in my career far exceed the value of men I met in my 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 03:36 AM
2

Literally, I don't care what you with your unemployed beta husband living off your mom think.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 02:02 AM
2

Sorry, that's my fault! I meant to write, "Money means a LOT to me." I edited 😁.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:51 AM
2

Money means a lot to me. I make 6 figures and I save and invest a LOT due to my minimalist framework. I definitely believe money contributes heavily to MY happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 12:34 AM
1

I like short muscular men 😁.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:34 PM
5

Dark-haired, beared, muscular Caucasian under 5'10".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:31 PM
1

I prefer ghosting too and I've gotten so much anger at saying this. If a guy isn't into me in the early stages I'm cool with him disappearing. I have abundance mentality so I won't be devastated, and why he isn't into me is actually none of my business. Likewise if it's on my end with non-interest and it's early stage, I don't feel obligated to send a message explaining I don't want to see him again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:34 AM
1

I don't want to be a wife. Being a girlfriend is much better!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:30 AM
2

I don't care what you think winning is. I have abs and feminine curves, a great job, a great salary, and a man I love. I have my own place I don't have to share, money I don't have to share and I don't have to deal with kids I never wanted. I WON. Get over it 😛👌.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:29 AM
2

Taxation is theft!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:26 AM
28

I love being a woman today. I specifically love that I can make 6 figures in a career I enjoy and keep all the money for myself. I love that I can date the man I love and not cohabitate (I don't want to), not get married (I don't want to) and not have kids (never wanted them). I love online dating. I love that I got to meet and qualify every man I went out with front my couch. I love that I don't have to join clubs and have a large social circle to meet men. I love that I don't have to have fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:19 AM
2

Yup, I've gotten told the same thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 02:58 AM
4

I want short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 03:16 AM
17

Why would we care about sex with hot men? Sex is to men what attention is to women. You guys would put up with dumb hoes if she's hot just for sex. We'd rather have a man who pays for dates and flatters us, and we aren't embarrassed to tell friends and family about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:24 AM
23

Men on here do not get that there is a difference between "objectively good-looking" and "attractive to ME." My man is highly sexually attractive to me no matter what men on here would think.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:23 AM
2

2 sounds fantastic. I love going out on dates and there is no way I'm paying. A stable gut who is complimentary and pays for dates and there is ZERO drama? This is perfect. I'd choose lifelong celibacy over option 1. I can get off with my hand, get a reliable orgasm, and not pay for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:21 AM
1

I never want to be cold approached. I meet the men I want to date on dating apps and social media. I see men who cold approach as weird, uncalibrated and unlikely to be my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:05 AM
0

Personally I don't. My man and I both know each other's notch counts because we are both direct and aren't embarrassed about our histories. His notch count is TWELVE times mine. We are both super secure, high confidence individuals so there is no jealousy or insecurity at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:45 PM
3

We get it. Your bitchy materialistic ex dumped you and you're sore over it. Stop projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 08:37 PM
1

Nope. I don't really like jewelry other than necklaces & I get them for $20 on Amazon Prime. I'm a minimalist. I don't WANT stuff. You seem butthurt that you aren't getting the revenge fantasy feels you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 08:37 PM
3

I'd be so glad that my man learned to stop spending money so carelessly and to stop trying to "buy" a woman's attraction with expensive trips and gifts. I'd also be super relieved he wasn't expecting me to cohabitate with him and since I have no loans at all and dislike poetry, even better that these won't be a factor in our relationship. What a relief!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:52 AM
2

I love online dating. I met every man I dated on a dating app or social media like Facebook. I am so glad online dating exists. I'd never wish to be back in the day when I would only have the options I might randomly meet when out, especially as a homebody. I have been in a relationship for 3 years with a man I met on Bumble. I swiped right on him from my couch in my apartment. It was ZERO effort and I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:43 AM
1

Very few men have game at all. I could tell on my first coffee date with my now boyfriend (of 3 years) that he had GAME and it is why I was interested in pursuing things further with him. What did his game consist of? - Great storytelling. He had a mix of funny, interesting and slightly "risque" stories to tell me on our first date. He was fascinating. - He was flirtatious and charming. He tried to make me laugh and asked me fun questions. - He took the lead from the beginning. After asking me h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:26 AM
2

How would I even know? I wouldn't have any idea about his existence after it was determined that he wasn't interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 02:20 AM
3

Men are equally as obese. If a man can't get a fit woman and doesn't want to get married, that's fine. I'm extremely into fitness and it is a priority to me. No one has influence over this, including my boyfriend who isn't as fit as me. For me, having a man with a six pack isn't a priority. But if a woman who lifts and tracks her macros is important, a man has to seek that out. Marriage is a bad deal for anyone who doesn't want kids, has money and investments and no debt, like myself, so I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 01:43 AM
1

I have never and would never because I never had to in order to obtain commitment from a man I value. Men I'm compatible with are abundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 09:25 PM
3

Younger men like me 😁. I just seem to match with younger men more because I don't search for men older than me when I'm single and doing online dating. I don't WANT a daddy figure. Every guy I dated in the last ~10 years was younger. My ex was 8 years younger and my current boyfriend is 2 years younger. I don't see it as a big deal and unlike the men on here bragging about dating younger, it's not a badge I wear. I just don't relate to men older than me (more than 5 years). Plus I don't want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:05 PM
2

Thanks! I knew I forgot part of the question 🤣. I like younger men. I can't remember the last time I dated a man older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:01 PM
5

3 years older, 5 years younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 03:37 AM
-1

No one can change their faces, but they can change their bodies with lifting and diet. As for awkwardness, that can be helped too. Many men overestimate how much women value looks and underestimate things like personality, charm, humor, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:03 AM
0

Imagine downvoting a person who has reasonable standards and found a happy relationship. I'm not a supermodel. I'm an above average woman who found dating to be pretty enjoyable. I met some interesting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:44 AM
0

What exactly is an average man? I think my man is amazing but he isn't tall, doesn't have a 6 pack and isn't rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:33 AM
-6

Dating doesn't suck for me. I enjoyed dating when I was single and I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man I met on Bumble. Mindset is key. If you think dating sucks, your experience will suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 07:46 PM
1

My boyfriend and I are BOTH INTJs. I am a fan of MBTI and when I date a male INTJ it is magic. I in fact refuse to date men who are E or F on the types. I cannot stand extroversion and men who are more sensitive and emotional than me turn me off. I know there will be some detractors of MBTI who call it "astrology" but it is accurate for me. Besides my current boyfriend I dated two other male INTJs and the experience is amazing. There is little to no conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 07:57 PM
6

I don't want a man who is willing to wait months for sex because that's lame to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 11:08 PM
1

Lol! Exactly what all the regretful parents say!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 07:50 PM
0

I have no issue with blue collar men who make great salaries. I like a man who can pay for dates even if I can. My man pays for 90% of our dates and that makes me feel valued. Men are success objects. I am successful professionally and financially but that's not what men seek from a woman. They want a fit body, long hair, feminine attitude (which I have too). A man who can't provide for his woman doesn't make a woman feel safe or valued. The relationship lacks polarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:36 AM
1

Yes it's unattractive. Men are success objects. If you failed at financial and business success, you're a failure object. I'm high earning and enjoy my career. I don't need a man to make more than me and I'm NOT intermingling finances, but I would never date a cashier. I like to know a man's profession before date 1. If I found out a man lied to me I would absolutely ghost him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:05 AM
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I'm 40 and have a very lean physique for myself because I take a lot of pride in my body (and I have an obsessive personality). Obviously it benefits me in the sexual marketplace. There are very few women of any age as lean as I am today, let alone at 40. I know it pleases my man that I look amazing naked and I dresses 😁. You have to be internally motivated though. Like I said, I do this for my own gratification. If my motivation were only dating or for a man's attraction I wouldn't be as passio…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 01:01 AM
1

My man and I are both INTJs and VERY independent. Our relationship is quite hands off. I agree we are atypical but I say we're pretty evenly invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:23 PM
3

How does he contribute more to maintaining the relationship? He was happy single before we met.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:22 AM
8

Well, first of all I don't want marriage at ALL (or kids) so I can't speak for that. Secondly, a relationship should never MAKE someone happy. The individuals coming together to form the relationship should BE happy. You think women are incapable of being happy because you get into relationships with women who aren't happy. I'm happy single or in a relationship. My relationship is like one dish on a buffet. It's a compliment to my life, not my entire life. Having my boyfriend in my life contribu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:53 AM
4

None of the men I dated in the "real world" obsessed about notch count. None of them thought "hypergamy" meant women are always looking for better. None of them thought women were happier when they couldn't work and keep their own money and had to get married or be a spinster. None thought women were incapable of love or only love opportunistically. None of them whined about dating apps (I met all of them online). None of them pressed for details about whether I had sex on the first date, had an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 02:06 AM
1

I'm 8 wing 7. Fairly certain he is too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:45 PM
1

We are in a monogamous LTR with no cohabitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:45 PM
1

Female, 40, purple-red. For physical I like dark-haired, short, muscular, bearded, stocky to fit. I like sarcastic humor, very masculine, dominant, right-leaning, assertive, cocky, very independent and hands-off. No kids and absolutely no jealousy or controlling tendencies. No cohabitation, no sharing passwords. We are two independent, already happy people choosing to spend time together. My man and I are both INTJs and it is fantastic. Zero drama, very calm, no neediness or suffocating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:28 PM
2

No, I never found him attractive. I don't get it to be honest. He looks like a dad you'd see at the supermarket.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:15 PM
8

I never wanted to date more than 5 years older at any age. When I was mid-20s the idea of dating a man in his 40s was gross. I knew I could make my own money so that doesn't draw me and there are tons of good-looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:25 AM
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5'4".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:08 AM
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I wouldn't commit until I was sure we were compatible, but I would date a red pill man to see if we could work together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:04 AM
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I would consider it, yes, depending on the particulars of his beliefs. There are things I think are good about the red pill and things I think are ridiculous. We'd have to discuss things like AWALT, dread, gender roles, female agency, etc. for me to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:52 PM
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I has sex with my now boyfriend on date 2 😁. Why? That's not MY rule. I make the rules for me. I don't use sex to GET commitment. Commitment is also gatekeeped by me. I like being single or in a relationship and I'm never necessitous for a relationship when single. Having sex within 3 dates never stopped a man from committing to me. I've had two relationships in my life and for both, we had sex by date 3. I don't see sex as me "giving" something and me "losing" something. I don't see adding a "n…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 06:22 PM
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Boyfriend 😌. I don't intend to get married. He's either 5'2" or 5'3".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:24 PM
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My man is short, muscular, dark-haired, bearded, trains for performance not aesthetics so he doesn't have a 6 pack, ambitious, introverted, very stoic, knows how to fight...not sure what else you're looking for. Is that Chad? Because that's my man and he's hot to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:47 AM
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So any man a woman likes is Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:35 AM
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None have asked but I always volunteered because I find it fun and interesting to discuss past relationships. I have nothing whatsoever to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:03 PM
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Why should a man who can enforce his preferences care? Do you think I care if men get pissed I don't date single dads? I also date men my age or younger, not older. Do you think I care that older men get pissed I screen them out? I also don't dare men of certain races, religions and cultures. Again, so I care if they whine or say it's unfair? A man who doesn't want to date single moms or fat women can do that without caring about what any campaigns are saying. Grab his balls and have confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 08:28 PM
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I'm not sure what you're trying to say. There's nothing wrong with men not wanting to date single moms or fat women. I refuse to date single dads ever and I also refuse to date men in certain professions or from certain cultures. That's my preference and men can have their own individual preferences. People only get butthurt about others' preferences if they want those people and they are screened out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 05:58 PM
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Not Chads. Just men who are MY type.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:13 AM
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Rarely. I started dating in 2007 anf OKcupid and MATCH were already a thing. Met the first guy I dated on MySpace, dated 4 men from Facebook and met my current boyfriend on Bumble. I did date one guy I met at a Meetup.com event but that was a huge outlier for me and it was a singles group so not cold approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 04:12 AM
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Nothing can be improved from my perspective. Every man I WANTED to date I met on Facebook or a dating app like Bumble, Hinge, OKCupid, etc. I like seeing a profile and pictures and screening IN my priorities and preferences and screening OUT my dealbreakers. I'm simply not NEEDING to give my number to a man who approaches me. If single I'll be polite but just fo home and chat to and make coffee dates with men I'm interested in who I choose online.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:45 PM
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Nope. But I have dated men I met on Facebook (one was my ex). Social media is my favorite way to meet men. But I have to see a picture first.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:42 AM
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I got called a liar for saying I'm not attracted to older men! Yes some women get butthurt over older men liking younger women but I see tons of men butthurt when women say they like men their own age or younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:01 PM
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Some women are. I just don't ride busses in the ghetto. I'm not expecting random strangers to protect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:00 PM
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No, I like a man who isn't super social. I'm not at all shy and I'm very confident. I just prefer to not socialize unless I'm in the mood and definitely NOT spontaneously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:19 PM
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Boyfriend and I are both INTJs. It's amazing. Extroverted men annoy me. They are like dogs and needy in my view (I know this isn't universal). I only date introverted men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:18 PM
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Female and I didn't have to chase any of them 🤣. With the exception of one ONS I dated all of them from short term to two LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:36 PM
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So you haven't procreated? Interesting. I don't have a pension. I have money I made and saved and invested. I will use this money in the future for my care. Plenty of people want kids and if I hire someone's kid to perform a job in exchange for my money, that's a fair deal. I don't owe any other duty to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:14 PM
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You're the one who thinks people "owe" societal responsibility. How many kids do you support? Meanwhile I've been saving and investing since my early teens with my dad. I'm more than comfortable financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:28 AM
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Not for me. I only date men I meet on social media or apps. I would treat a cold approach as validation but dismiss. I am not into mystery guys. I can easily get better men compatible with me online. Leave me alone at Target 😅.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:54 PM
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All that matters is my happiness. Other people are responsible for theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:56 PM
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My happiness is my responsibility. I don't care about the happiness of strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:55 PM
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I pay for my future with the money I make. I have no social responsibility to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:52 PM
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Some of us women are consistent :). I want a free sexual marketplace and free capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:43 AM
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I 100% agree, as a woman who distinctly does NOT care about or want legacy. I'm thrilled to live in a time where I don't HAVE to get married and have kids and I can have the type of relationship I want (childfree non-cohabitating LTR). I have never felt used for sex and I enjoyed dating when single and I enjoy being in a relationship. I love my man and enjoy our being together. I'm not blackpilled at all about the sexual marketplace. ETA: now that women can make their own money, we're not forced…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:36 AM
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Your view is that a free global sexual marketplace disadvantages men and women, but it is the opposite. Individuals, more so than at any other time in human history, have the choice to live their lives on their terms, especially in the West. Not all women historically WANTED marriage and kids, or marriage and kids in their early 20s. They could be spinsters or married or go into a nunnery. Now, women who want the love, sex and companionship of an LTR without marriage and children can have that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:16 AM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 10:06 PM
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I would rather be desired than loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:27 PM
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I'm 40 and childfree and never had an abortion. It's super easy to NOT get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:26 PM
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I find life without kids immensely prosperous, fulfilling, meaningful and enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:24 PM
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I never said it doesn't. I'm just saying it hasn't at all impeded my dating life. I'm in a 2.5 year relationship with a man who knows my exact number and what acts I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:16 PM
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Because there were NO men I wanted a relationship w/ that I didn't get one w/ due to notch count. It wasn't an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 06:26 PM
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Nah, we move on quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 06:25 PM
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Why do you think women who have options care that men who they don't want would reject them? That's like me caring that a man who wants kids would reject me when I don't want kids. I don't want those men. I don't care. Women get relationships all the time and much easier than most men get sex or relationships. If one man doesn't want us two more do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:03 AM
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I never has a man I wanted a relationship with not have a relationship with me due to my notch count nor have I ever been explicitly interrogated about mine. I would immediately classify any man who outright asked me on a date as a sexless obsessed weirdo who never fucks and I'd ghost.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:00 AM
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Zero. I see a lot of men projecting their sexuality onto women. I have taken roadtrips and vacations with my best friend and neither of us have sex on trips. We don't care about dick! Women I know including myself who travel do so for fun, sight-seeing, dining out and relaxing. We don't seek out dick on trips. Dick isn't rare or valuable to women with abundance mentality. I've been in a relationship for two and a half years and I go on trips with my best friend maybe twice a year. My boyfriend h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 09:19 PM
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I love dresses. I get all mine on Amazon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:24 PM
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This! I like short men and yes, I've been called a liar or told I'm coping 😁😄.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:23 PM
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Not saying you should care but I also am not an exception. Once women stopped needing providers they started dating men equal in age. Women were never en masse wanting men 20 years older.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:58 PM
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I always date men younger. Ex was 8 years younger and boyfriend is 2 years younger. I don't find older men attractive or compatible with my personality (they tend to be more jaded and might have kids which is a dealbreaker). It's been super rare I even date my exact age. I attract younger men when I'm single and now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:07 PM
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In the end, women aren't monolith. We're attracted to and aroused by different things. My best friend is a Christian virgin waiting for marriage. She and I have completely different tastes in men and different values for an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:12 AM
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Did you lose? Did you choose a dumb fight? Was she your girlfriend or just a date? All factors that matter. My man is a retired PRO-FIGHTER. He literally fought for a living. Yeah, I'd be turned off if a guy had fake fighting skills and got into avoidable fights. My man doesn't fight unless violence is a necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:23 AM
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Those are all good things! I don't disagree with that aspect of the red pill. I disagree with the black pill nonsense that women only care about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:21 AM
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I didn't say they were nice. I said they were FAIR and that men who have abundance and love women DON'T treat women "like shit."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:19 AM
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You keep assuming alpha males treat women like shit. Alphas who are confident, have abundance mentality and love women like my man treat women well..my man is NOT nice but he is fair. He shows me he cares without ever not being dominant. Additionally, plenty of betas treat women like shit due to low confidence, insecurity and a history of rejection. Alphas who do well with quality women and aren't suffering from lack of sex don't mistreat women because they GENUINELY like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:45 AM
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I like men who lift because I'm very strict with my diet and training, and muscle mass is attractive. But I don't care about abs on a man or his having a super fit physique. As a woman in fitness I appreciate a fit man's body like art, since I see keeping my body fit as an art. But I'm not sexually AROUSED by abs on a man personally (though I appreciate the art as described). I'm far more aroused by a man who is very masculine and dominant, and I like sarcastic humor and the ability to PHYSICALL…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:32 PM
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I think Houston is too big and the weather isn't great. Dallas has a fantastic economy, lots of attractions, better weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:44 AM
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5'4".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:38 PM
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I'm 5'4" and my man is slightly shorter than me. He's VERY muscular and strong. He's a retired pro-fighter and still trains others on the side in addition to running his businesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:37 PM
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5'2" - 5'8". I like makeout height without neck strain and I prefer short jacked sarcastic bearded men who lift and can fight. Men over 6' feet make me feel like a kid and not at all sexy. I'd be single over be with any man I'm not attracted to and compatible with because I love being single just like I love being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 09:53 PM
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A LOT in my view. I'm in a Living Apart Together (LAT) relationship with no plans to cohabitate. I don't want to cohabitate ever again. My last relationship lasted TOO long because we lived together. He had mental illnesses and I worried what would happen to him if I broke up with him. It all worked out and I did end it, but I would have ended it FAR sooner had we not been cohabitating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:02 PM
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I'd tell him we can go back to dating non-excludively then and I'd consider myself a free agent in the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:59 PM
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Dallas here. It's way better than Houston or Austin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:58 PM
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I don't know! I'm a highly responsive desire introvert. I just don't crave sex even though I enjoy it when my man initiates and turns me on. I can go without it and value the other aspects of my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:13 AM
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Sex is not a reason for me to enter or exit a relationship within reason. It's not even in my top 5 priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:14 AM
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It's too much to impose YOUR desires and values on people who have different desires and values, yes. It's on YOU to be abstinent if that is what you want. It's not a woman's obligation. If you can't find a woman who wants to wait, then be celibate and don't date. And yes, the fact that you are a recovering "sex addict" is going to limit your pool of women. I'd find that a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:36 AM
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I'm not uncomfortable. I'm always amused when someone thinks who someone shares his/her body with is up to public debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:19 AM
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My response is only speaking for myself, not for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:16 AM
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Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:34 AM
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It's not true for me (female). Yes, I enjoy sex but no, it's not a factor that would make me cheat. I care about compatibility and common/shared goals far more than sex. Orgasms aren't even close to a reason I'd stay with a guy or leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:33 PM
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I haven't been harassed, no. But that's a separate subject. You can enjoy being found attractive and seen as a sexual object without condoning harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:32 PM
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I like being sexually objectified. Men don't sexually objectify women they don't find attractive so when I get compliments in real life or on a picture I post on social media, it's gratifying to me. I'd rather be objectified for being attractive than ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:00 PM
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My advice for those men is: break up with her and date a woman who is lower in emotion. Preferably, get a non-needy introvert who leaves you the hell alone 😅. My man and I don't bother each other unless we want to catch up or hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:19 PM
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I strongly prefer a man who doesn't open up emotionally 😅. I am not very emotional so my man has to be even more stoic for me to be attracted to him. Works great for me. I can't speak for women who want men to "open up" since I don't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:42 PM
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And I like shorter men and don't give a fuck about jawline. Women like different things. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:31 PM
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You're so upset! 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:44 PM
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No, you sound upset thar I don't want to have sex with bisexuality men and you're projecting your hurt and rage at me. I feel sad for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:03 PM
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It's his preference and I don't care. It doesn't bother me and doesn't affect me. Why do you care who someone chooses to have sex with? Stop trying to force people to have sex with people they don't want to have sex with. It's not my problem to find sex partners for bisexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:02 PM
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I don't have an issue with your questions. It's funny to see that the typical crowd is angry when you have preferences that screen out people. I'm supposed to force myself to have sex with men I'm not attracted to OR I get accused of "homophobia." Yeah, I'm fine with having agency over who I have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:01 PM
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It has nothing at all to do with fear of getting cheated on or jealousy. I don't ever fear getting cheated on in general (I'd just leave the relationship) and I don't get jealous. I'm only attracted to men and want to date a man only attracted to women. There is nothing sinister or wrong about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:40 AM
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Why is it homphobia instead of just a turnoff? No one is obliged or forced to find anything sexually attractive. Calling people homophobic for not being sexually attracted to men into other men is ridiculous. There is no fear involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:38 AM
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I answered it in my initial comment. I think it's less masculine if a guy is sexually attracted to Ken and I find that a turnoff. People are allowed to have preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:32 AM
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You sound bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:31 AM
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Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:31 AM
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I'm not afraid, so it isn't a phobia. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:30 AM
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I find it effeminate and I'm only into masculine men. Plus I don't want to be with a man who has been sexual with other men. It's unattractive to me. It has nothing to do with insecurity because my man has a high notch count and I'm not bothered by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 07:29 PM
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Woman here. I definitely think our drive for sex is far less than men. I enjoy sex but can easily go without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 02:17 PM
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Of course people lie. But no one is forcing women to have sex with men they can't get relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 09:36 PM
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Women don't get played. They are adults. If they choose to have sex with a man, it's on them. No man owes a woman a relationship because she gave him pussy. I hate victim mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:58 PM
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I'm an individualist and selfish. I tell men and women to live on their terms and not follow any societal lifescript thar doesn't suit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:18 PM
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I for one am DAMN glad I can provision for myself so I can be in a relationship on my terms. I'm so grateful I don't live in the past where my options were marriage and kids OR spinsterhood OR a nunnery. Today's sexual marketplace is a boon for women like me. I couldn't be happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:18 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:56 PM
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I never said I'd remain attracted if he gave up on life. I'm saying I'm happy with him and I'm not going to instantly dump him. If he changes from being the masculine man I fell in love with, that's another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:55 PM
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Absolutely not. Happiness is an inside job. I'm amazingly happy and it has nothing to do with my relationship status.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:07 AM
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Keep believing that. You haven't had a woman who really is attracted to you, respects and admires you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:27 AM
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I have plenty of those men already looking at me. It doesn't make a difference. I'm not thirsty. I'm happy with my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:48 AM
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I'm a woman who only used dating apps to date and my man (2.5 years) doesn't have a 6 pack, isn't rich and is actually shorter than me. He's hot and I'm super attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:29 PM
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I don't think of myself as less than my man. I still respect and admire him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:01 PM
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I wouldn't have sex with a man I didn't like. That's not the same thing as forming an attachment and I definitely am not stuck on a guy just because he made he have an orgasm. Investing and being attached is a choice and it doesn't just arrive because I had an orgasm. I can't make myself orgasm; that's not anywhere near enough for me to want to commit to a man and keep seeing him. I think men often overestimate the effect of sex on a woman. We can easily get sex. Meeting a man we want to invest …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:05 PM
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I can only speak for myself. Why would I be in a relationship if my preferences aren't being met? It's your fault if you commit to someone who is incompatible with you on something you deem essential. It can be a sex act or anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:55 AM
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I feel great. I don't care about that sex act (doesn't turn me on) and if I did, I certainly wouldn't resent, beg, pout at or bitch at him. I'd date someone who would do the sex act I deem important or get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:40 AM
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My boyfriend has an ex-fiancee. He was engaged to her 5 years. He tolerated a LOT from her that he would never tolerate today. All that did was teach him about his standards and boundaries. It doesn't bother me at all. You SHOULD learn from past relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:15 AM
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I've been in a monogamous relationship for 2.5 years without any suffering. The key is that the relationship is one that suits MY needs. We don't cohabitate, have no plans to marry and no plans to have kids (I'm childfree). We don't intermingle finances. We are together purely because we enjoy each other's company. I'm not suffering because I'm not obliged to do anything I don't want to do. I'm not bored because I'm not a boring person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:52 PM
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Again, maybe so, but to ME, other women are not a factor at all in dating. I've never failed to attract and dare my type of man. Other women can decide if they want to compete or not, but cabals aren't happening. I'm not on Team Woman and I am going for MY best interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:08 PM
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It doesn't matter to me. I NEVER considered other women my competition for men. I go for my "type" and I do well with them...one is my boyfriend of 2.5 years. I don't believe in a zero sum dating game and in my life I've never considered what other women want or are doing. It doesn't at all affect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:50 PM
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Exactly. And I already saw on Twitter many manosphere accounts sharing it as proof of their views on women being hypergamous, women not settling, how terrible online dating is, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:10 PM
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I saw that post. Absolutely a bait post. It's too perfectly written to get the manosphere type of responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:53 PM
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Hey, thanks so much! Say hi to me on Twitter so I know your account :).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:59 PM
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I agree with you. It's funny to see the vitriol from anon men because I dare to be a woman who is in shape, in a relationship, and online dating was successful for me. It's like they are mad I'm not a fat cat lady because that makes an easy target. I don't think being overweight is the worst thing in the world. Obviously it is better for health, confidence and aesthetics to be fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:59 PM
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You have a right to your own rating system. The men I'm into are probably not men you'd rate 8+ and you would probably rate a man a Chad that I'd find unattractive. In the end, all that matters is that those you want, also want you!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:53 AM
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Agree. Like I said, my man specifically wanted a stable woman who supports herself, not a woman serving fries with three roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:32 AM
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I have a man I'm attracted to and get plenty of positive attraction from men. Negativity always comes from below. You're upset I'm not a fat single mom with cats who can't find a man because that's who I see you talk about all the time. You don't like that many women have an upper hand in the marketplace and can get happy relationships. With 70% plus men and women overweight, I'm doing much better than the majority 😌.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:30 AM
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Why would I care what a man I'm not attracted to thinks? I doubt you're a male 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:34 AM
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I couldn't care less what you think. I'm in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:33 AM
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I don't care if you think they are essential. They boost my life and ensure I don't have to settle with a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:31 AM
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They are my favorite! I feel so relaxed on coffee dates and I love flirting in a low key environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:55 AM
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If I don't want to have sex by the third date, it's absolutely off. If I don't enthusiastically want a second date after the first, I don't bother. And I only agree to first date coffee dates at a coffee place I choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:09 PM
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Never experienced that ever in my life!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:42 AM
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Thank you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:41 AM
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The only people bitter about online dating are those who aren't good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:35 AM
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My man cares that I have a stable career and that I'm not a broke woman who will be trying to borrow rent money. That I'm a professional with a great job and no debt was a factor in his deciding to commit to me and not just see me casually like he would with a low income woman with no career.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:34 AM
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I'm about 18-20% body fat for a woman, which is athletic. Have abs and all :). As for my income it was a plus with my man, not because of the money itself (we don't co-mingle finances) but because of my stability and he would never commit to a Starbucks waitress or minimum wage worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:31 AM
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I'm childfree and my life is very happy. To me a married life with kids in the suburbs is hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:10 AM
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It means that more couples are now meeting online versus methods that used to be more popular in the past, such as meeting at work or through family and friends. OLD works for more than the top 20% men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:54 PM
5

I know exactly what types of men I like and I meet them easily online. I don't HAVE to take a risk on a random. I'm all about maximizing my time and being efficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:53 PM
3

I make great money and keep low body fat year round. These take effort. They are not easy. Most women make less than me and are not fit. I put in work to have the life I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:51 PM
6

40% of couples today meet online.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 10:02 PM
8

I'm prepared. I know life isn't a fairytale but I'm a positive person ✨.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:58 PM
6

False. Women like myself love online dating. My 2.5 year relationship is directly a result of meeting online. I never would have met him otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:57 PM
1

I completely agree with you. Online dating is one of the best things to happen to the sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:53 PM
4

False. I've had two long-term monogamous relationships from online dating. It's just as valid a way of meeting as any other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:53 PM
12

I'm an attractive woman (I'd rate myself a 6.5 face and 8.5 body) and I love online dating. I'm in a relationship now, but when single meeting men on apps like Bumble or dating from Facebook is my go-to. I don't want to be daygamed or meet men through friends or social activities. Online dating has been the best thing to happen to busy introverted women who know their dealbreakers. I'd say all women benefit by online dating and most men don't. That said, I met my man online so the notion that OL…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:51 PM
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The only reason I'm in this sub is I'm FASCINATED by sexual marketplace, gender dynamics, modern dating, etc. I am attractive and fit and never had issues getting the types of men I wanted when single and I've been in a relationship for 2.5 years. I like the current sexual marketplace because it's always treated me well. I'm here just for discussions. My life is perfect and I have no angst!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:00 PM
3

I disagree strongly with no coffee dates. I love coffee dates and ONLY did those when single. I also disagree with their calling men predators.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 12:38 AM
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I wouldn't consider my standards "high" at least per this sub and I am in an LTR. I do have firm dealbreakers though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 12:36 AM
12

I've never had casual sex with a male friend or acquaintance. It's not usual in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 11:09 PM
2

For me it's the same thing. If I'm sexually attracted I'm romantically attracted and vice versa. I have never split men into sexual or romantic only. And my spark is instant at the beginning or not at all. When I meet a guy for a coffee date from online, I can picture on that date whether I could ever have sex with him. Female.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 11:08 PM
2

Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:55 PM
0

Very much 😁.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:55 PM
2

My first coffee date with my man ended up 3.5 hours long. We were making out by my car for an hour of that 😅.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:14 PM
0

Not unless you pay for it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:13 PM
2

My view is no one deserves ANYTHING that another person has to provide. You can self-love, but you can never "deserve" love from another.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:43 PM
41

I'm attracted on the first date or it never happens. That's always been my experience. My attraction doesn't "grow." If I'm not excited about a second date I don't go.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:34 PM
1

Of course! But why wouldn't I be attracted to the beta man described by OP? He sounds attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:33 PM
5

Neither is a status symbol for me (marriage isn't a trophy for me) but I'll 100% take the Beta Bux over the Chad. A decent guy with money who is stable is worth far more than a guy with a dick who is hot. I spend enough time on my own physique (I maintain low body fat year round and train 5 days a week) so I'm content being the sex object in the relationship. I have absolutely no need for a man with no stability who just has a 6 pack. I'm fit and make good money, so a stable man who also makes g…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:11 AM
3

I speculate a bit of both, though if someone isn't innately motherly or fatherly, I think it would be very difficult to adapt to being a parent. I'm very feminine in many ways (love dresses, love having long hair, love being flirty with men, etc.) but I lack any motherly nurturing instinct. I never wanted kids since I was young, I never want to touch, look at or hold infants, I never have urges to have babies, I'm not naturally empathetic, etc. I think if by circumstance I became a mother I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 11:39 PM
9

Because they're hypocrites and don't actually believe the far acceptance bullshit they propagate. They don't want to put the effort into being lean and fit. They choose to be fat and badger people about accepting that. Of course, that doesn't change their biological attraction to fit, healthy bodies. So if they can date fit, healthy people, they will. And it you call them out on the hypocrisy, you're a "hater" and "bigot."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:04 PM
0

I don't understand your comment about red pill men. What do they have to do with bad boys? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 11:07 AM
1

Have no idea what you mean. I'm in a relationship. You must be confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 12:42 AM
3

Absolutely. Plus I dated several men I met on Facebook I would never have met offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:24 PM
6

Yeah, I've never done this. I don't care at all about matching people up. Plus I purposely don't have a big social circle. Men are far better off meeting women on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:12 PM
1

All requirements for sharing one's body are valid. Anyone who says otherwise is a sexual communist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:00 PM
2

My man is above average and I don't share him, so I didn't have to choose either of your scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:59 PM
1

No, we're monogamous. I'm not insecure, so I can't relate to people who think like that. I have no reason to think we aren't and I don't lose any sleep at night over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:36 AM
0

Know what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:47 AM
1

I have my perfect man. We are both very independent, not jealous and hands off. We don't live together, don't share finances, don't have open phone or electronics. We are very direct with regards to what we think and need and want. We don't communicate covertly. We both put ourselves first and in turn, that makes us more appealing to the other. Neither of us restricts the other in terms of friends, social media, etc. Our only rule is we are monogamous. We are suited for everyone but what we have…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:28 AM
2

Absolutely. Everyone thinks women are supposed to want cohabitation, marriage and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:43 PM
2

Hi crew!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:42 PM
1

I'm enjoying it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:42 PM
1

I'm American and my parents are in their 70s. They have paid for their own future care and that's not on me. I also live 2000 miles from my parents and see them maybe twice a year (though we chat weekly). They know I have my own life and I'm not a built in caretaker. I also don't fear a future life without a spouse and kids at all. My goal is to stay healthy and mobile.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 07:31 PM
5

Yeah I definitely did NOT enjoy the cohabitation experience. But I'm also very comfortable being alone. My man is exactly the same (we're both INTJs) so it works. I might not be the best one to advise on sushi since I love buffets like King Buffet and Asian Buffet. I eat sushi on my cheat days and I like a lot of it, and I don't like waiting for AYCE to be prepared, haha. That said, Sushi Shack is pretty good as a non-buffet restaurant. Enjoy Dallas!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:33 AM
7

It definitely does. I realize it is unusual to not want to cohabitate, especially as a female. But I lived with my ex for 4 years and I didn't like it. I like that I still "date" my man of 2.5 years when we see each other during the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:24 AM
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I don't see the point unless you want kids. I also have my own money and don't want to share it. I don't plan on cohabitating either because I like my own space. A non-cohabitating forever girlfriend is my goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 10:36 PM
3

I do. I love my career and don't want kids ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 10:02 PM
19

I plan on being a forever girlfriend. Much better than being a wife and mother to me (marriage offers me no benefit and I'm childfree). I'm proud, not embarrassed, to say "my man" or "my boyfriend." If a woman is unhappy with her relationship, the onus is on her to change it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:57 PM
5

It's only the weirdo "trad" obsessed guys who think a woman having sex with him makes her a slut 🤣. My man liked that I was into him and we both had a great time. He wasn't going to stop seeing me because we had sex within 3 dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 02:16 AM
7

No, because the same man I slept with without commitment on our second date is the same man that I got into a relationship with 3 months later and have been in a relationship with for 2.5 years. Sex before commitment is pretty normal these days and men who are able to get laid and don't have weird Madonna/whore hangups don't rule out a woman for commitment if she has sex with him. In fact, my man would never have committed to me (and vice versa) if we didn't have sex on our pre-commitment vettin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 01:22 AM
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